Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about a gap in the recovery world that almost nobody wants to name: families are expected to learn everything about addiction, but addicts are rarely required to learn the same depth about the damage addiction causes on the other side.This episode breaks down what “support” actually looks like when trust has been destroyed by lying, gaslighting, hidden use, infidelity, or financial chaos. Matt explains why empathy is not a zero-sum game, why “leave the past in the past” doesn’t work in real life, and how betrayal trauma changes the brain and nervous system in ways most recovery programs don’t teach.If you’re a man in recovery who wants to rebuild a relationship, this is a roadmap. If you love someone in recovery and feel like the system keeps asking more of you, this episode will put language to what you’ve been carrying.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many partners expect relief when sobriety begins.Instead, they may feel confused, guilty, and angry when everything is finally going well.In this episode, Matt and Paige explore why anger often surfaces months or even years into recovery, not during the chaos itself. They break down how survival mode suppresses emotion, why the brain protects relationships through betrayal blindness, and how safety is often what allows buried feelings to finally emerge.They also talk about the guilt partners feel for being angry once their loved one is doing everything right, why being grateful and angry can coexist, and how avoiding the past in the name of moving forward often creates more damage long term.If you have ever asked yourself, “Why am I angry now?” this conversation will help you understand what is happening and what to do with it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Most partners think they’re “holding someone accountable,” but what they’re really doing is chasing accountability, forcing awareness, and slipping into shaming without realizing it. This episode cuts through all of that.Paige breaks down the difference between identity attacks and behavior statements, why shame can be a driver for change but shaming never works, and how to communicate in a way that aligns with your values even when the person you’re talking to doesn’t change.If you’ve ever wondered why your conversations escalate instead of resolve, or why “explaining it better” doesn’t help, this episode will give you the clarity you’ve been missing.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt gets real about why the holidays are a pressure cooker for people in recovery and for the families who love them. He shares hard personal memories from his last Christmas in active addiction and his first Christmas sober, and breaks down the three stages of relapse, emotional, mental, and physical, so you can catch a slip long before a drink ever hits your hand. You will hear simple rules for getting through parties, travel, and family drama without “testing” your recovery, plus how to talk with your spouse about support without falling into codependent patterns. Matt also walks spouses through his three tiers of holiday invitations for someone in active addiction, from full invite with hard boundaries to separate, safer meetups, so you can protect your kids and the sanctity of the day without losing your mind. If this is your first sober Christmas or your first one on your own, this episode will help you grieve what was, create new traditions, and remember there is still a fire inside you and a future worth building.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this first episode of our three part anger series, we talk about what anger really is when you are still with someone in active addiction or someone sober, but unhealed. Anger is not a flaw to fix or a sign that you are the problem. It is a mobilizing, revolutionary emotion that is trying to tell you that you are not safe, that your values are being violated, and that you cannot keep living like this.We break down the difference between anger and aggression, why stuffing anger down only prolongs the chaos, and how waiting for your partner to finally take accountability keeps you stuck. You will hear how we each processed anger differently, how to use anger as fuel instead of a weapon, and how to start shifting from destructive reactions to constructive action using our VEER framework. Even if your partner is in recovery or you are already out of the relationship, this episode lays the groundwork for parts 2 and 3, so do not skip it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt sits down with the questions men usually ask in private. These are the messages he gets from guys in crisis who are trying to get sober, repair their marriage, and figure out what it actually means to be a good man.We'll go rapid fire through questions like: • “Why do I have to be the one to change first?” • “If I am sober, why is she still angry?” • “How long is she supposed to stay mad after I apologized?” • “Why do I feel like the bad guy even when I am trying?” • “Do I get to have needs too, or is it all about her healing?” • “How much of her triggers are my responsibility?” • “What is the difference between her boundary and her controlling me?” • “Why does everything still get blamed on my addiction, even when I am sober?”   • “Why does she shut down about sex?”Matt shares the mindset shifts that helped him get and stay sober for nearly 13 years, rebuild his marriage, become a better father, and stop seeing himself as the victim of his own past. If you are a man who is trying to change, or a partner who wants to understand what might be going on in his head, this one will give you language, perspective, and a challenge to rise to.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Paige’s Perspective, I talk about something I see online all the time. There is a lot of content that normalizes staying stuck. People laugh about being overwhelmed or blame survival mode for how they treat others, and it removes the accountability that actually creates change.I share my own experience with anxiety, panic disorder, depression, OCD, and the season this summer when I slipped back into survival mode. I explain how I decided to treat those moments as a challenge instead of a permanent identity. You can understand your struggle and still choose to rise from it.This episode is a reminder that your symptoms are real, your pain is real, and your potential is real too. You are capable of more than you think, and you do not have to shrink to make other people comfortable. You can grow, you can heal, and you can stand back up.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode Matt breaks down why people struggling with addiction and people in relationships with addicts keep their standards low and stay stuck in the same cycles. He explains why so many men fear success more than failure, why sobriety feels terrifying even when you know you can do it, and how comfort becomes the enemy of long-term recovery.Matt shares his own story of keeping the bar on the floor for years and how Paige’s unrelenting standards for honesty, integrity, and showing up as a good man forced him to confront the life he was hiding in. He talks about burning the boats on the old life that was easy but destructive, raising the bar, and finally committing to the hard work that recovery requires.This episode also speaks directly to spouses and partners of addicts, explaining why they lower expectations, avoid enforcing boundaries, and silence themselves to avoid conflict, abandonment, or disappointment. Matt shows the parallel between men avoiding effort and spouses avoiding expectations, and how both create long-term pain and resentment.If you are trying to get sober, rebuilding trust, fighting for your marriage, or trying to find yourself again after years of addiction-related chaos, this episode will give you clarity, direction, and a push toward the higher standards that lead to real change.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We live in a world that is obsessed with asking, “Why am I like this?” and “Why are they like this?” Trauma, childhood wounds, addiction, nervous systems, attachment. All important pieces of the puzzle. But at some point, just understanding the why stops moving your life forward. It can quietly turn into a hall pass for staying stuck.In this episode, Matt and Paige talk about the missing piece in so many trauma and addiction conversations. The how. How do you start responding differently when your nervous system is wired for survival. How do you stop pouring your pain onto your kids and partner. How do you move from “this is why I am the way I am” to “this is what I am going to do about it.”Together they explore: • Why insight and validation alone do not rebuild a marriage or keep you sober • How too much compassion without boundaries can keep both spouses and addicts in victim mode • Practical ways to create a pause between reaction and response, especially with kids • What it really looks like to break generational patterns, even when it feels unfair and impossible • Why you do not have to fully understand your trauma before you start healing itIf you are tired of overanalyzing, tired of feeling broken, and ready to actually do something different, this conversation will challenge you and remind you that you are not powerless.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve been stuck in your head replaying old memories, planning out future disasters, or living on autopilot, this one’s for you. This week I sat down at my drum set and, for the first time in a while, felt my brain quiet down and my body wake up. It reminded me how powerful presence really is.In this short episode, we talk about getting out of your head, dropping into the moment, and why doing something that makes you feel alive can shift your entire day. This is your reminder to eff some ish up in the best way possible and come back to yourself.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Replay. Originally aired in July 2024. We’re bringing this back because the tools here (resilience, boundaries, timelines, and real talk about equal partnership) stay relevant.This is an episode designed more like a charcuterie board than a main course. We discuss Independently Strong because we don't think we've really ever done a great job at communicating what it's about and the value to someone in a relationship with a person struggling with addiction. We then get onto topics that are beneficial to you right here, right now. We discuss emotional resilience and ways to increase resilience through mental frameworks, as well as self-care activities. When you feel like you've given all you can in life, remember that you have survived 100% of your hardest days and you're actually MUCH stronger than you think.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Addictive traits aren't bugs, they're features.When I first got sober, I was terrified I’d become boring.No more adrenaline. No more chaos. Just… normal life.I thought I’d be the “square dad” mowing the lawn in tucked-in polos while everyone else was still out living. What I learned was the opposite. Addiction didn’t kill my personality, it just hijacked it. The same intensity, obsession, and risk-taking that once burned my life down are now the same traits that built it back up. In this episode, I’m proving that your edge doesn’t disappear in recovery, it actually sharpens.I talk about everything I’ve done since getting sober: parties, snowboarding, fitness, business, raising kids, pranks, coaching, music, even officiating weddings. My life was getting started when I thought it was over.The energy never left. It just changed shape.If you’ve ever wondered whether you can still be fun, wild, or interesting without substances, this one’s your answer.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Paige opens up about one of the most powerful questions she’s ever asked herself: “Why not me?”In this raw and empowering episode, she shares how that simple question pulled her out of self-doubt and helped her become the woman she never thought she could be. A leader. A podcaster. A motivator. Someone who keeps showing up even when it’s uncomfortable.This isn’t about perfection or pretending to have it all together. It’s about remembering that change doesn’t happen when life gets easy. It happens when you finally decide you’re done sitting on the sidelines.If you’ve ever looked at someone thriving and thought, “That could never be me,” this one’s for you. Paige is here to remind you that it absolutely can.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Matt and Paige take a deep dive into the difference between coping and healing. From self-care routines to emotional boundaries, they explore how coping can be both a bridge and a trap—necessary for survival but not meant to last forever. They share personal stories about burnout, triggers, and stress, discuss concepts like allostatic load and polyvagal theory, and offer real-world examples of when it’s time to stop managing chaos and start creating change. This conversation is a reminder that while coping helps us find peace, only change allows us to keep it. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Rehab is a reset, not a miracle. In this straight talk Q&A, Matt answers the questions we hear most from spouses, partners, and people heading to treatment. What actually happens day to day, how detox works, why some centers involve family and others do not, what to expect while they are inside, what to plan for after discharge, and the red flags that predict a quick return to old patterns. You will hear Matt’s 30 day inpatient experience, the lessons that stuck, why aftercare matters more than the stay, and how families can support without micromanaging or losing themselves. Clear expectations, simple next steps, and real hope tied to action.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige gets real about something she’s noticed in the healing and recovery space: the temptation to use growth language as a weapon. When we finally find words for our pain, it can feel powerful; but if we start using those words to shame, prove, or control others, we’ve missed the point. Paige unpacks what weaponizing content looks like, how it happens on both sides of addiction, and what healthy communication sounds like instead.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week we’re taking a short break from recording and revisiting a powerful episodes from mid 2024, Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction. How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance responsible for someone's behavior? Is it easier to forgive someone's bad behavior because they're addicted? Should compassion for a struggling addict or alcoholic overshadow your needs for an equal partner, or for honesty in a relationship? With all of the information on addiction that ranges from choice to disease, it's incredibly hard to know what you should have tolerance for and what you shouldn't. We propose something that worked for us - focus on the behaviors and how they affect you and cast aside the substance. It has been our experience that the substance only made existing behaviors more severe, but it was not the cause of all of them. Long after the substance was removed, many of the harmful behaviors within our relationship remained. We discuss the benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than the substance to bring clarity to a relationship or marriage where addiction is present. We also discuss some of the common ways alcoholics and addicts use the addiction as an excuse for their behaviors and how this keeps spouses "trapped." We touch on the dangers of long-term lying and emotional abuse from an addicted person and how these things affect a spouse, and why many of the harmful behaviors you identify hang around long after the substance is gone. Our goal for the episode was to highlight the fact that it's not the substance that causes harm, it's the behaviors that come along with addiction and how they affect you, your children, and your environment. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This one’s for both sides of the table - the person who’s sober but still hiding, and the partner who’s done begging for honesty.If you’re trying to rebuild, this is how we did it.If you’ve already walked away, this may remind you why you made that choice.I break down what it actually took to open up, how we both hold space for each other, and rebuilt trust from ashes - not illusion. In this episode I break down how I ventured into the great unknown of emotional intimacy and having emotional conversations...I discuss how Paige made that process easier, and I'll get into some real actionable ways even the most closed-off guy can start to connect with anyone.But if you're on the outside of a relationship, and you made that choice with clarity - please hear me clearly: don’t let this episode talk you back into chaos. If you made your decision on sound advice from professionals, friends, and your own heart - stay gone. You can’t want it enough for two people. They have to take the lead on repair. You cannot do the work for them. Sometimes the damage is too great. In this episode of Mindset Monday we're going to discuss the "how" if you still have patience left and you're like me and you're willing to do anything to repair what has been broken.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week’s Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about something most people don’t discuss enough: the pendulum swing in healing. It’s that moment when you go from being quiet and careful to suddenly not caring what anyone thinks. You’ve spent years shrinking yourself to stay safe, so when your voice finally returns, it might come out louder, sharper, or stronger than you intended. You may question if you are the one being harmful. That doesn’t make you toxic. It makes you human. Healing is messy. And sometimes, finding your balance means swinging too far before you find your middle. In this episode, I’ll walk through what the pendulum of healing looks like: Survival Mode, Protection Mode, and Empowerment Mode, and how to use intentions as your guide.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Burnout anyone? Whether it's recovery and healing burnout, work burnout, health and fitness burnout, or flat-out-burned out burnout Let's compare two honest approaches to stress and growth. One of us has lived by all gas, no brakes. The other knows when to pause and protect their nervous system. Both of us hit burnout in different ways, and we found a middle path that actually works. You will hear a simple “push or pause” decision test, real red flags for each side, and what strategic rest looks like without losing momentum. We talk values over vibes, action over rumination, and how to keep your why in view when the grind gets loud. This one is light, real, and useful. If you feel wired and frantic, you may need a timeout. If you feel heavy and stalled, you may need one small action today. Come decide which one you need right now.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have you hit a wall lately and wondered if it’s time to walk away? Whether it's your recovery, a relationship, a job, or something that one held deep meaning to you...we get tired. I just went through this...In this mindset Monday Matt talks about what burnout really is, why motivation fades, and how to keep moving when it doesn’t feel worth it. You’ll learn the difference between resting and stopping, how to anchor back to your why without the cliché, and the small actions that rebuild momentum fast. If you need a straight shot of grit, clarity, and a plan you can use today, press play. Keep going. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about what it really means to take a breather in your healing. Sometimes it feels like you’re doing everything “right,” from therapy and journaling to podcasts and growth work, and you still hit a wall. You’ll learn how to recognize when you’re overwhelmed, the difference between quitting and pausing, and why rest isn’t losing momentum. Healing isn’t about speed; it’s about sustainability.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’re taking a short break from recording and re-releasing a powerful episode — Betrayal Trauma. This conversation was originally recorded in 2024, and while our language and understanding have evolved since then, the message still holds true. If you’re new here, this is one of the episodes that helped so many people finally put words to what they were living through.Betrayal trauma refers to the deep psychological harm that occurs when someone experiences a significant betrayal within a primary relationship such as a romantic partnership and it impacts the victim's sense of trust, safety, and security. Codependency doesn't come close to touching on the trauma experienced by spouses and partners of alcoholics, addicts, or people that have been affected by infidelity, but betrayal trauma does. In this episode we discuss betrayal trauma and its roots, as well as examples and the reasons the effects from betrayal fallout aren't as simple as picking up and moving on. Betrayal trauma has psychological, behavioral, and emotional effects that last long after the events that caused betrayal have passed. You have been through significant trauma whether you realize it or not and your healing journey begins with understanding concepts such as this. We hope you glean some validation and assistance for what's next for you as you navigate your challenges. We're here for you every step of the way.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the difference between toxic positivity and the power of pivoting. We’ll talk about how social media, family, and even traditional recovery spaces sometimes weaponize positivity to silence your pain, and how serenity has been mistaken for emotional shutdown.Then we’ll reframe it. Pivoting is about being honest and grounded — holding two truths at once: “This is hard, and I can handle it.” You’ll hear real-life examples of what pivoting looks like in the moment, and I’ll give you a challenge to practice it this week.This one’s for anyone who’s tired of pretending they’re okay and ready to learn what real peace actually feels like.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“What if” feeds anxiety. “Even if” builds a plan. In this episode we unpack what “one day at a time” actually looks like for both spouses and people in recovery. We break down how to use it as a call to action instead of a reason to wait it out. You’ll learn how to swap future-tripping for present-focused steps, set values-based boundaries, and stack micro wins that add up to real change. We also get honest about the ways this phrase gets misused in relationships, how accountability fits in, and what “recovering separately, together” can look like when both people are doing their part. If you’ve ever wondered when “one day at a time” helps and when it keeps you stuck, this conversation brings clarity and practical next moves.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Shame can keep you stuck in self-judgment or help you grow, depending on what you do with it. In this Mindset Monday, Matt talks about what shame really is, where it comes from, and how to move through it without collapsing or running from it. You’ll learn how to handle the first wave of emotion when it hits, reframe the thoughts that follow, and turn that discomfort into accountability instead of avoidance. Matt also shares how shame shows up in relationships during recovery and repair, how to stay grounded when a partner spirals, and how to face your own shame for staying, tolerating, or being connected to addiction. This episode is a practical guide to turning pain into progress and rebuilding self-respect one honest moment at a time.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many spouses believe they’re catastrophizing — blowing things out of proportion, imagining the worst — when in reality, they’re minimizing. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we explore how minimization shows up as a survival strategy, how addicted partners manipulate us into shrinking the truth, and how society reinforces it with messages like “at least he’s not hitting you” or “forgive and forget.” I’ll share real-life examples of what minimizing looks like, why we’re so afraid of facing reality, and how recognizing the truth — even when it’s scary — can set us free.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You’ve probably heard the saying, “A drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts” But is that really true? In this episode, we break down drunken honesty and get real about what alcohol does (and doesn’t) change. From the science of lowered inhibitions to the deeper beliefs and resentments that surface when the filter drops, we explore why it’s not just about what was said in the moment but about the patterns that reveal who someone really is.Most importantly, we shift the focus away from dissecting intent and toward the impact these words and behaviors have on you. Whether they meant it or not, the harm is real and you don’t have to play detective to figure it out.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt tackles a listener’s question about “living amends” - why they’re often a cop-out in recovery and never enough to repair a relationship. He breaks down why true amends require naming the harm, validating the pain, and offering repair, and why skipping this step leaves partners carrying the past alone. From there, the episode shifts into a powerful conversation on acceptance and how it can serve as a spiritual foundation for many people lost on spiritual matters. Matt explores the difference between spirituality and religion, the research showing why people with some form of higher power tend to be happier and more resilient, and how to build your own spiritual framework starting with your values. The result is an unflinching but hopeful roadmap: real repair in relationships, acceptance as freedom, and spirituality as a compass for life.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about the power of change and choices. How many times have you thought, “I’ve messed up. I’ll never change. I’ll never be enough”? Maybe it was after snapping at your kids, numbing out with your phone, or slipping back into an old pattern.One bad moment doesn’t define you. It’s what you choose to do next that matters. Neuroscience shows us that every time we make a new choice, our brains rewire to make that path clearer and easier. Guilt and shame aren’t proof you’re broken; they’re signals that something needs to shift, and they can become fuel for growth if you let them.In this episode, I’ll share practical tools for shrinking your focus down to the next choice, labeling the old trails that keep you stuck, and celebrating the small wins that add up to big transformation.Because every new choice is a chance to write a different story. And the power to choose again is always in your hands.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When your child’s tone, excuses, or sneaky moments feel eerily familiar, it can trigger real fear - are we replaying my partner’s behaviors? In this episode, we unpack the difference between normal child development and harmful adult patterns. We dig into nature vs. nurture (genes load the gun; environment pulls the trigger), why kids’ emotional immaturity is expected while adult immaturity is damaging, and how to respond without projecting old wounds onto your child.You’ll learn simple, repeatable tools: name the trigger (“I’m reacting to my spouse, not my kid”), pause before correcting, teach emotional language, model repair and accountability, hold consistent boundaries, and spot the red flags that deserve closer attention. We’ll also share how one stable, nurturing parent can shift a child’s trajectory - and why your day-to-day modeling matters more than DNA.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’ve all heard it: “At least he’s a good dad.” It sounds comforting, but it’s often a cover for hard truths. In this Mindset Monday, we dig deep into what fatherhood really means - and why showing up at games, birthday parties, or posting highlight-reel moments doesn’t make the cut. You cannot be a bad husband and a good dad.We break down the myths that underlying ideas and biases that keep this narrative alive - visibility bias, selective memory, social reinforcement - and how they let men claim the title of “good dad” while leaving their families with the real weight of dysfunction. We challenge the idea that you can separate being a father from being a husband, making the case that the two are inseparable: you cannot mistreat your partner, live in dishonesty, or create chaos at home and still call yourself a good dad.Together, we raise the bar for what fatherhood should mean today: integrity, consistency, emotional safety, shared mental load, and modeling love through respect. We ask the hard questions: Would you want your daughter to marry a man like you? Do your kids feel safer when mom is around? Are you raising children who know what love looks like - or kids who will spend years recovering from the absence of it?This episode isn’t about crushing anyone’s spirit - it’s about lifting men higher, giving spouses language to see the full picture, and inviting all of us to stop settling for the bare minimum. When we raise the standard for dads, we change families, marriages, and future generations.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I break down the difference between eustress (productive stress that builds resilience) and unsafe stress (toxic, chronic stress that erodes your health and peace). We’ll explore why your body often confuses the two, how adrenaline and cortisol show up in both, and the key markers that help you recognize whether stress is shaping you or breaking you.You’ll learn:The dangers of unsafe stress and how it rewires your nervous system.The surprising benefits of eustress for your body, mind, and confidence.Practical ways to reduce unsafe stress and lean into stress that fuels growth.This isn’t about eliminating stress. It’s about learning which kind helps you grow and which kind you need to walk away from. Because when you know the difference, you can reclaim your strength, your energy, and your life.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“How do I support their recovery?” is probably the most common question families ask in addiction recovery, but the answers they get are often vague, contradictory, and unfair. In this episode, we unpack what treatment centers hand out to families, why so much of it is confusing, and what support really means. We talk about boundaries as a form of support, why encouragement and space matter, the role of positive reinforcement, and the hard truth that you cannot guarantee someone else’s recovery. You can support people in recovery, but you can’t recover for them. Besides some discussion on what functional and emotional support for someone in recovery could actually look like, we’re going to discuss what you can do - protect your dignity, your safety, and your future.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Emotional intelligence is not soft. It is how you stop letting feelings run the show and start letting values drive your choices. In this Mindset Monday I break down what emotional intelligence really is, why it decides the quality of your marriage, fatherhood, and career, and how to build it with simple daily reps. We walk through the five components of emotional intelligence , real-life ways they show up, and three drills you can use today: Name it, don’t numb it, the 90 second pause before you respond, and a one line empathy check in that reduces defensiveness and builds trust. If you have ever said “I’ll do better” and then reacted the same way next week, this is your playbook.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Paige’s Perspective, we get honest about triggers; the sounds, smells, and behaviors that send spouses of addicts into panic. Too often, these reactions are dismissed as character defects or controlling behavior. The truth? Triggers are trauma responses. They’re alarms your body sets off when safety is missing. We’ll look at common triggers, what they really represent underneath (betrayal, secrecy, abandonment), and why it’s not the alcohol itself but the behaviors surrounding it that do the deepest damage. This episode will help you reframe triggers not as flaws, but as signals pointing you toward what you deserve: honesty, trust, and safety in your relationships.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Spouses are told to learn the addict, but who teaches the addict what their choices did to the spouse’s brain, safety, and sense of self? In this conversation, Matt and Paige build on Paige’s recent mini episode to name the gap in traditional recovery. We break down why amends without education fall short, how betrayal trauma rewires responses, and why partners are mislabeled as codependent when many are reacting to real harm. We walk through a family-program handout to show what is missing, tackle the pros and cons of introducing this education early, and outline what mutual respect and real accountability look like at home. Expect validation, clarity, and practical next steps for couples who are genuinely rebuilding and for individuals choosing their own healing. Your experience matters. Your recovery matters too.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Our brains love comfort, routine, and the familiar - even when the familiar keeps us stuck. In this Mindset Monday, Matt breaks down pattern recognition: why we miss our own loops, how denial and rationalization create blind spots, and how simply naming the pattern turns “I’m stuck” into something you can actually solve.We get real about sobriety (why “the safe number is zero” for some of us), relationships (no-contact, hopium, and learning to trust actions over words), and everyday goals (sleep, screens, the gym, sugar, spending). You’ll leave with a clear 4-step playbook: identify your top three patterns, map where they always lead, own your role in keeping them alive, and install one boundary or environment change that breaks the loop.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dig into a powerful comment from one of our listeners: “As the spouse, I’m basically told to become an expert on their addiction, yet they don’t have to become an expert on my trauma.” This one line exposes the imbalance in the recovery world. Spouses are often told to go to Al-Anon, read the Big Book, and learn about addiction, but no one tells them to study their own trauma caused by their partner or expect their partner to understand the harm they’ve caused.I’ll share why this matters so deeply, how living in chaos rewires your brain and body, and why hyper-vigilance, self-doubt, panic, and physical symptoms are not “character defects”... they’re trauma responses. We’ll also explore different forms of betrayal trauma beyond lying and cheating, from financial secrecy to emotional neglect, broken promises, safety violations, and more.This episode is about reclaiming the focus: your trauma, your healing, and your right to be understood. Because recovery isn’t just about learning their dopamine pathways; it’s about acknowledging how their choices have impacted you and giving yourself permission to heal.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Matt and Paige pull the lid off a loaded topic: resentment. You’ve been told to “let it go,” to forgive, to be grateful - but what if your resentment isn’t a defect...what if it’s a warning? In this conversation, we separate toxic positivity from real safety, show how resentment protects you in unhealthy dynamics, and explain when it becomes dead weight in a healthy one. We talk early recovery (why 1–2 years of consistent change matter), why prepackaged resentment slogans only work in safe relationships, how to name patterns without gaslighting yourself, and what to ask instead of “How do I get rid of it?”- namely, “What is my resentment trying to tell me?” If you want clarity on when to hold the line and when to heal, this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We’ve all said it: “I can’t walk away, I’ve already put too much in.” That’s the sunk cost fallacy talking. In this episode, Matt breaks down why we stay in jobs, relationships, and habits that don’t serve us, and the five psychological traps that keep us stuck. More importantly, we'll share practical ways to start moving forward so you stop protecting your past and start building your future.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige talks about the difference between boundaries and expectations, how to shift your language so boundaries feel empowering instead of exhausting, and why they’re less about fairness and more about safety. Boundaries are the rules you live by — not rules for anyone else. If you’ve ever struggled with setting boundaries in relationships, family, or even daily life, this episode will help you see them as a tool for freedom, self-protection, and clarity.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“Should I stay or should I go?” It’s the question every spouse of an addict whispers in the dark, and the one that can paralyze you with fear, guilt, and hope. It's the question with no clear answer. It's not "leave" or "run" or any other number of invalidating things you've heard...it's also not "stay no matter that" or "In sickness and in health used to mean something". It's usually somewhere in between - unless there's abuse - and yes, addiction is a form of abuse. But we're going to discuss it with nuance.In this episode, Matt breaks down the truth behind that question so you can finally stop spinning in circles and start discerning what’s right for you.You’ll learn:The real reasons you tolerate so much (and why your biology fights against leaving).How to separate survival wiring from reality so you can see the relationship clearly.The gut-check questions that cut through denial, like: Would they have stuck around for you?Why expectations are setting you up for heartbreak.What to do if you can’t leave yet—and how to lower your expectations for survival without losing yourself.The non-negotiables that prove sobriety isn’t enough without growth and accountability.By the end of this episode, you won’t just be asking “Should I stay or should I go?” - you’ll have a better idea, and possibly even the answer on how to answer it for yourself.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Getting sober is one thing. Staying sober - living sober in a world where alcohol is everywhere - is another challenge entirely. In this episode of Mindset Monday, Matt dives into what it really looks like to be sober day-to-day, from battling boredom and navigating social situations to understanding the brain science behind why everything feels flat at first.Matt shares practical strategies, personal stories, and the mindset shifts that carried him through the hard moments: why cravings pass in 15 minutes, how to survive your “firsts” without alcohol, and how to make sobriety part of your identity rather than a punishment. You’ll hear about transitional addictions, why consistency matters more than perfection, and why the phrase “I don’t drink” is so much more powerful than “I can’t drink.”Whether you’re new to recovery or years in, this episode is about more than avoiding alcohol - it’s about building a life you don’t want to escape from.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m breaking down the truth about betrayal trauma — and why it’s so much more than cheating. From financial betrayal to chronic lies, gaslighting, broken promises, and crossed boundaries, betrayal in a relationship takes many forms and leaves deep wounds. Too often, betrayed partners get slapped with the “codependent” label, which shifts blame away from the person who caused the harm and piles shame on someone already hurting. I’ll share real-life examples, explain how betrayal trauma impacts your brain and body, and talk about how the recovery world needs to shift its focus from pathologizing survival instincts to supporting real healing.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Sobriety alone doesn’t prove someone has changed. Real recovery is measured in behavior - respect, honesty, accountability, and humility - not just the absence of a substance. In this episode, Matt breaks down Lundy Bancroft’s Checklist for Assessing Change and adapts it to the realities of addiction recovery. You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between situational conflict and abusive patterns, why addiction can’t be used as an excuse, and what real transformation looks like in practice. Whether you’re the one in recovery or the partner watching for signs of change, this episode will help you separate lip service from the kind of growth that actually rebuilds trust.Checklist: Lundy Bancroft Checklist for Assessing Changing Change in Men Who Abuse WomenFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Mindset Monday, Matt takes on one of the biggest traps we fall into—waiting for the “right time.” Whether it’s getting sober, leaving a toxic relationship, or simply taking the next step toward the life you want, we convince ourselves that better conditions will magically arrive to make change easier. The truth? Rock bottom isn’t some tragic event - it’s the moment you stop digging.Matt weaves in lessons from Marcus Aurelius, Viktor Frankl, George Mack’s concept of high agency, and his own recovery journey to show why imperfect action is always better than endless waiting and rumination. You’ll walk away with a challenge for the week: stop rehearsing the life you want in your head and take one concrete action toward it today.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I share why I don’t like talking about addiction — and why I believe it’s often just a convenient cover for behaviors that need to be addressed no matter what. Too often we focus on understanding addiction, thinking it will give us the answers we need to heal, when the truth is, those behaviors exist with or without the substance. I talk about my own experience of navigating my husband’s active addiction without knowing anything about the “rules” or the disease model, and how that actually saved me from excusing hurtful, manipulative, and unsafe actions. This episode is about shifting the focus back to you: your values, your boundaries, and your authentic self.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this follow-up to one of our most popular episodes, Matt dives deeper into the questions wives, girlfriends, and partners send in about men, addiction, recovery, and relationships. From understanding why logic rarely works with someone in active addiction, to how appreciation, boundaries, and emotional support really land with men, this episode covers it all - the raw truth, the uncomfortable parts, and the hard-earned lessons from both sides of the struggle. Matt answers honestly, without sugarcoating, while giving practical insight spouses can actually use. Whether you’re staying, leaving, or still figuring it out, this conversation will give you clarity, validation, and the perspective you need.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this Mindset Monday, Matt takes men beyond sobriety into the deeper work that actually rebuilds trust and creates lasting change. Drawing from his own journey of repairing his marriage after a decade of addiction, he unpacks the five components of emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, social skills, empathy, and motivation. He contrasts them with the destructive patterns of emotional immaturity, from weaponized incompetence and gaslighting to projection and scorekeeping. With step-by-step tools, relatable stories, and hard truths, this episode is a blueprint for becoming a steady, trustworthy, emotionally mature man your partner and family can depend on, whether you are early in recovery or years into the journey.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week’s episode of Paige’s Perspective, I unpack a quote from Ted Lasso that stopped me in my tracks: “This didn’t happen to me; it happened for me.” I talk about what it’s like to sit with anger, resentment, and grief (even after years of healing) and why it’s okay to not be grateful for the pain itself, but still be proud of the person it shaped.From learning to trust your gut, to setting boundaries that actually protect your peace, to finally letting go of the belief that love is enough to fix addiction; I’m sharing the lessons that hit hardest and helped me grow. If you’ve ever questioned whether healing is working, or felt like you're back at square one, this episode will remind you: healing is messy, non-linear, and incredibly brave.Whether you’re still in the thick of it or finding your way out, this is your reminder that it’s okay to feel it all and still rise. You’re not alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve ever wanted to understand what was actually going on in my head when I was lying, numbing, and pretending to change, this is the episode to save or reference back to. I'm not an authority on all of the questions you may have about your addicted loved one, but I've been through it myself and walked through it with countless people over the years and I hope it's insightful.I get asked these questions more than any others:Did you love Paige while you were still hurting her?What finally made it real for you?Should you wait on a man to change?What was going through your head when she was falling apart and you weren’t changing?What role did consequences play?What helped, and what would’ve made you pull further away?How can a woman tell if her partner is serious?Was it fear holding you back or pride?Would you have changed without losing anything?Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode is for the man standing at the crossroads, the one who knows the truth but hasn’t taken action yet. The one who’s tired of lying to everyone, especially himself.Matt gets brutally honest about what it really takes to change...not just to get sober, but to become the kind of man you can respect. The kind of man you promised you'd be.He dives into the comfort of dysfunction, the illusion of control, and the fear of living without the one thing you always counted on - whether it was alcohol, pills, or chaos itself. You'll hear how to recognize your patterns, how to stop cosigning your own bullshit, and why just “not drinking” isn't the finish line, it's the starting gate.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this powerful follow-up to our recent episode on family dynamics, we go deeper into what it’s like to grow up in a dysfunctional family system and what it takes to break free. We talk about emotionally immature parents, the painful dynamics of enmeshment, and the subtle but lasting damage of emotional neglect.If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive,” had to parent your parents, or felt like healing was treated as betrayal, this one’s for you. From a spouse's perspective, it feels like it's you against the world as you seem to be the only person that can see the dysfunction - and it's incredibly isolating. We share our own experiences navigating these systems, how it nearly tore our marriage apart, and what finally helped us see the truth. We also talk about the reality of going no-contact with a parent - not as a first step, but a last resort - and why it might be the only path to peace for some.This episode is for anyone who has ever been impacted by a dysfunctional family...for those that have felt unseen, unheard, or unimportant in their own family and who’s ready to choose something healthier.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply honest Mindset Monday episode, Matt speaks directly to the men who find themselves stuck in the messy middle of knowing they need to change but not knowing how. Whether it’s addiction, emotional immaturity, broken trust, or just being a shell of the man you hoped to be—saying “I don’t know” might be real, but it’s not where the journey ends.Matt shares the stages of change, calls out the lie that awareness equals action, and reminds you that invisible effort won’t earn you visible results. He explores what real growth looks like, how to move from talking about change to actually doing it, and why the version of you who just “means well” isn’t enough anymore. This one’s a roadmap for the guy who wants to feel proud of himself again—and for the spouse who's been waiting for more than words.Let this be the week you stop just thinking about it and start doing something.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We don’t talk enough about how hard the “normal” stuff can feel when you’re coming out of survival mode. In this episode, I’m diving into the power of micro-wins; why they matter, why we dismiss them, and how they help retrain your brain and rebuild your sense of safety. This one’s for anyone who feels stuck, unseen, or like they’re not doing enough. You are. Let me show you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode dives into one of the hardest issues couples face in recovery: toxic family dynamics. Is your spouse enabled by their family, are they kept under control or in the family system because of wealth? This one's for you.We’re talking about the emotional chaos that comes when one partner sees the dysfunction and the other doesn’t. We cover enmeshment, financial control, emotional immaturity, and how families can unknowingly (or intentionally) keep someone sick.We share real experiences navigating these situations in our own marriage and offer insight for spouses who feel unsupported, invalidated, or stuck in the middle. You’ll learn why boundaries matter, what to expect when you start setting them, and why some of the biggest fights in marriage have nothing to do with your partner, but everything to do with the family they came from.If you’ve ever felt like the only one who sees the problem, this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this audio newsletter (or maybe Mindset Mondays - still not sure here...working title), Matt tackles one of the most misunderstood and misused ideas in recovery: Step 9’s infamous “except when to do so would injure them or others” clause. Too often, this line becomes a get-out-of-accountability-free card used to avoid hard conversations, hide the truth, and protect ego instead of healing relationships. Matt breaks down what amends actually means, how to avoid performative apologies, and why transparency matters more than comfort. Whether you're in recovery or not, this is a masterclass in integrity, trust, and real ownership. Stop doing things you have to apologize for. Live well, not just sober.Let the truth set you (and your relationships) free.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this honest follow-up to Wheelie Rehab, Paige shares where she’s at in her nervous system reset—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. From slow mornings and ASMR background vibes to decluttering closets and skipping caffeine, she’s rebuilding structure to save herself from burnout. But this episode is about more than routines; it’s about reclaiming your life before it crumbles. Paige talks identity shifts, balancing gratitude with boundaries, and why self-care has to come before community care. This isn’t just a vent; it’s a reset. One built on action, honesty, and real momentum. If you’re in the messy middle, this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Sobriety changes everything. Not just for the person getting sober, but for the relationship too. In this episode, Matt and Paige talk about what really happens when the chaos ends, the roles shift, and the people in the relationship start to realize they're not who they used to be.Some relationships were built on survival, not stability. And once sobriety enters the picture, everything gets exposed. From mismatched growth to identity shifts to grief over the people you used to be, this episode dives into the messy in-between.They also break down the science behind it all, differentiation, family roles, polyvagal responses - and talk about why healing often brings up more questions than answers.If you're in a relationship that's navigating recovery, or you're the partner wondering why it suddenly feels off, this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This one’s for the guys who never ask, and for the partners who wish they would. I answered 12 of the most honest, uncomfortable, and important questions I get asked (usually in DMs) from men trying to figure out who the hell they are, how to change, and how to make things right.We’re talking shame, trust, accountability, marriage, relapse, what Paige actually did that helped, and whether love is enough to save a relationship. I get into the biggest lies I told myself, the moment I knew Paige might actually leave, and what it really looks like to become a better man...not just a sober one.If you've ever felt stuck, ashamed, or like no one gets it, I promise something in here will hit. This episode is honest, gritty, and full of the stuff most people are too afraid to say out loud.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week’s Paige’s Perspective isn’t polished; it’s personal. I’m in the middle of a full-blown nervous system reset because burnout caught up with me, and pushing through stopped working. I talk about overwhelm, guilt, hustle culture, and why I’ve traded productivity for consistency, structure, naps, and sun. If you’ve ever felt like your system is shot and you just want to hide under a rock, this one’s for you. It’s not lazy. It’s recovery.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we talk with a guest who opens up about the quiet, painful, and often invisible process of leaving a long-term relationship with someone struggling with addiction. This is not a story of one big moment. It’s about years of internal conflict, emotional detachment, financial planning, and facing the truth that love alone wasn't going to fix it.She shares what it felt like to carry the weight of the home, raise children in chaos, and slowly lose pieces of herself while hoping things would change. When nothing did, she stopped hoping and started preparing. This conversation is a powerful reminder that even when it looks fine on the outside, there can be a storm raging within.If you're stuck in the cycle of waiting, wondering, or trying to convince yourself it's not that bad, this one is for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re talking about something most healing journeys overlook—validation. You’ve probably heard things like “just trust yourself” or “you don’t need anyone else’s opinion.” But what if you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, blamed, and lied to by someone you loved? What if you spent years questioning your own reality?Here’s the truth: you do need external validation in the beginning. It’s part of the healing process. And today, I’m walking you through the three phases I see people go through in the Independently Strong program—from Borrowed Belief to Rebuilding Reality to Self-Validation.If you’ve ever felt like you should be further along, or wondered why you still need reassurance—this episode will help you breathe again. You’re not behind. You’re human. And you’re healing.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This might be one of our most important conversations yet.In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take a deeper look at how patriarchy still influences recovery, relationships, and the systems that claim to support healing. We break down how women are often expected to stay silent, show grace, and be endlessly patient, even in situations that cause deep emotional harm.We explore the outdated beliefs that shaped programs like AA and Al-Anon, the gender roles passed down through generations, and the subtle ways control and emotional labor continue to fall on women. This is not a political conversation, it’s a human one. It’s about accountability, equality, and what a real partnership looks like.Whether you’ve been told to let things go, suppress your anger, or wait for someone else to get it together, this episode will help you name what’s really going on.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Feeling like life keeps piling on? Like you’re stuck in survival mode? In this short and honest episode, Paige offers a gentle reset for your nervous system and your spirit. If you’re overwhelmed, overstimulated, or just done, this is your reminder: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. You’re in a season—and seasons change. No fixing. No fluff. Just truth, breath, and permission to feel it all. You’re going to be okay. And we’re right here with you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we're not giving advice from the other side of healing. We're talking to you from inside the mess.Lately, the stress has been loud. We're forgetful, irritable, snapping at people we love, crying for no reason, and second-guessing everything we've already worked so hard to overcome. We thought we had our anxiety under control. We thought we had systems. We thought we had tools. And then it all came crashing down.We talk openly about what it feels like when both people in a relationship are struggling at the same time. No one is holding the rope. No one is okay. And that’s exactly why this conversation matters.We break down how chronic stress affects your brain, your memory, your mood, and your behavior. You’ll learn why you can’t think straight, why you're forgetting everything, and why even small tasks feel impossible. It’s not weakness. It’s biology. And there’s a way through it.If you're walking around feeling broken, you're not. You're just overloaded. And you're not alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Most men don’t stay quiet because they have nothing to say, they stay quiet because they’ve been trained to believe it’s safer that way. In this episode, Matt breaks down the some of the reasons he and other men struggle to open up: fear of being judged, minimized pain, past betrayals, and the belief that emotions make you weak. He shares how to start speaking honestly, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar, and why vulnerability isn’t a loss of power, it’s the beginning of becoming whole.Whether you’ve been silent for years or you're just trying to put words to what you feel, this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!What happens when you find out the truth years later—when the person you trusted most finally admits they lied? This episode is about the invisible aftermath of long-term betrayal. Paige walks through how repeated lies, not just addiction, reshape your brain, destroy self-trust, and make you question your reality. She explores the delayed grief that hits when you’re just now entering the pain they’ve already moved through, and why learning to trust yourself again is the foundation for everything that comes next. This life does change you—but not in all the bad ways. It can also give you clarity, strength, and the tools to protect yourself without hardening your heart.If you’ve ever asked, “How did I not see it?”—this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve heard this from a partner or found yourself asking it, this episode breaks down exactly why rebuilding trust isn’t a single moment. It’s a layered process that takes time, consistency, and real change.In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige walk you through the four essential layers of trust that had to be rebuilt after addiction nearly destroyed their relationship:Sobriety Safety - the non-negotiable foundationFunctional Trust - parenting, money, and showing upEmotional Safety - being vulnerable without fearRelationship Safety - becoming true partners againThey share real-life examples, including a powerful listener story, and explain what it takes to rebuild trust with someone who’s harmed you without gaslighting, shortcuts, or toxic positivity.If you've ever wondered, "How do I know if it's safe to trust again?" this is the episode you need.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Trust gets asked about all the time. “How do I trust them again?”  But that question is usually hiding something deeper, like “How do I stop feeling anxious?” or “How do I get back to normal?” In this audio newsletter, Matt talks about why that question might be the wrong place to start.This episode touches on the neuroscience and evolutionary basis of trust - why your brain wants to reconnect with someone who hurt you, and why that craving can override logic. Matt also shares some of what Dr. Jake Porter teaches about rebuilding safety in relationships, and how his approach aligns with my our experience.This episode really hones it on what it actually took to rebuild trust in our marriage after years of betrayal and addiction - no shortcuts, no hacks, no performance. Just the hard, boring, daily stuff that makes people feel safe again.If you’re the one who’s been hurt, we hope this helps you listen to your body and trust what it’s telling you. And if you’re the one who broke the trust, this is the playbook. Not to be forgiven, but to become someone worth trusting again.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige gets real about something many of us are doing in the name of healing: self-monitoring everything—our sleep, food, steps, moods, routines. What starts as a tool for awareness can quickly turn into another form of anxiety and self-doubt, especially for those recovering from relational trauma.Paige shares her personal story of ditching her Apple Watch, the illusion of safety gadgets provide, and the deeper truth: real healing isn’t something you track—it’s something you feel.She explains why structure is helpful short-term, but ultimately, true empowerment means learning to trust yourself again—without needing a ring, app, or chart to tell you how you're doing.Plus: a powerful weekly challenge that invites you to tune back in to your body and instincts—and stop outsourcing your wisdom to tech.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Why don’t they just leave?In this raw and powerful episode, Matt and Paige break down the complex psychological tactics that manipulators use to keep their partners stuck—DARVO, gaslighting, love bombing, guilt-tripping, isolation, and more. Inspired by recent high-profile stories, they connect the dots between emotional abuse in the public eye and what many quietly endure behind closed doors every day.Whether you're in it, healing from it, or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you understand the devastating impact of manipulation—and why it’s not about weakness, but survival.Plus: why “just leave” is the wrong question, how trauma bonds form, and what you can do to start reclaiming your power.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Self-care isn’t always candles and calm. In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige breaks down what real self-care actually looks like—and calls out the way many people use self-care as a cover for avoidance. From the difference between self-care and self-indulgence to the six key categories (mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, environmental, and social), you’ll learn how to tell if your self-care is helping you heal… or keeping you stuck. If you’re tired of numbing out and ready to start showing up for yourself in real, uncomfortable, life-changing ways—this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter’s free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You’ve rewritten the message in your notes app a dozen times. You’ve softened your tone, used “I” statements, stayed calm, and begged them to meet you halfway—but nothing changes. In this episode, Paige breaks down the hard truth: most of you don’t have a communication problem. You have a respect problem. A values problem. A partner who’s not ready—or willing—to show up.We explore why so many people believe communication will fix everything, how that belief keeps them stuck, and how to tell when someone actually can meet you in a conversation. Paige doesn’t give you a list of steps—but she gives you something better: clarity. Validation. And permission to stop performing for someone who doesn’t want to listen.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige take on one of the most controversial topics in the recovery world - the disease model of addiction. Is it a disease? Yes. But is it an excuse? Absolutely not. They break down the origins of the disease model, where it helps, where it massively fails, and how it’s been weaponized to avoid accountability and silence those harmed by addiction.They explore the danger of comparing addiction to cancer, how the narrative erases the experiences of spouses and partners, and why real change requires personal choice - no matter what trauma, brain changes, or labels someone carries. You’ll also hear a passionate plea for more balanced, honest conversations that hold space for both compassion and boundaries.Whether you’ve been harmed by someone in active addiction or you’re in recovery yourself, this conversation might challenge what you’ve been told - but it just might set you free.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It’s May—aka Maycember—that time of year when school events, sports, recitals, end-of-year chaos, and mental overload all collide. If you're feeling stretched thin, resentful, or like you might snap over a missed sign-up genius… you're not alone.In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I’m talking about the emotional weight of this season, what you can give yourself grace on, and what should stay nonnegotiable—even when it feels like you’re drowning in to-dos.You’ll hear about: – Why the crockpot still sitting on my counter is not a crisis – What I had to let go of to show up for what matters – How to protect your self-care in the middle of the madness – And why this season is temporary—but your well-being isn’tThis episode is part validation, part pep talk, and part reminder that you don’t have to do it all—you just have to protect the parts of you that matter most.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The recovery world loves to talk about healing, but what about the people most impacted by the chaos? In this brutally honest episode, Matt and Paige pull back the curtain on what treatment centers, therapists, and traditional recovery programs often miss: the spouse’s experience.Why are partners immediately labeled codependent? Why is their anger pathologized while the addict’s pain is protected? Why are they expected to forgive before they’ve even been allowed to grieve?Matt and Paige dive into their own story, breaking down how betrayal trauma affects the brain, what real accountability looks like, and how programs often rush to protect the addicted person at the expense of their partner’s healing. Drawing from personal experience and insights from experts like Dr. Jake Porter, they explore:How trauma shows up in the body and brainWhy forgiveness without accountability is gaslightingThe myth of “you just need to understand addiction”Why codependency is not a diagnosis, and not always accurateWhat couples actually need to rebuild trust and safetyThe missing ingredient in most treatment programs: the spouse or partnerThis episode is for anyone who's ever been told they were "part of the problem" simply for being hurt. If you’re tired of the recovery narrative leaving you out, this one’s for you.Check out Dr. Porter's Lecture Here:Part 1Part 2If you’re ready to reclaim your story, check out our course Independently Strong—a powerful path forward for partners and spouses of addicts. Use code WHEELIES75 at checkout for 75% off.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You don’t need more clarity. You need permission to trust what you already know.This episode is about cutting through the noise, the over-explaining, and the endless justifications. Paige brings it back to the basics: it’s not about the substance — it’s about the behavior. Always has been.You’ll hear the truth about how we overcomplicate addiction by focusing on trauma, diagnoses, and potential while ignoring the very real, repeated harm that’s happening in front of us. This episode explores the toxic behaviors we’ve normalized in relationships — from gaslighting and manipulation to walking on eggshells and calling it love.If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of waiting, overanalyzing, or minimizing what you feel, this episode is a wake-up call. Paige speaks to the confusion many partners feel when recovery culture focuses entirely on the addict and leaves you questioning your own sanity, worth, and needs.You’ll be reminded that your gut is not lying, your needs are not too much, and your peace matters. Whether you’re in the relationship, out of it, or unsure, this conversation will help you reconnect with your own truth and stop making someone else’s healing your responsibility.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If life feels impossibly heavy right now, you’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. In this episode, we unpack why so many people are struggling with their mental health in 2025 and why blame - whether it’s directed at politics, finances, partners, or the system - often becomes a trap that keeps us stuck.We don’t sugarcoat the chaos, but we also won’t leave you without a roadmap. From high-agency thinking to radical acceptance, spiritual grounding to physical resilience, we offer practical tools, hard-earned wisdom, and gut-level honesty about how we’ve weathered personal storms in hopes some of these tools can work for you too.In this episode we'll also speak directly to those who feel trapped in relationships they can’t leave right now. There is still peace to be found, even when escape isn’t an option today. This is the episode for anyone who feels overwhelmed, powerless, or just sick of feeling stuck. You have more control than you think...and it starts within.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Mother’s Day can feel complicated, especially when life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Maybe you’re raising kids alone. Maybe your partner is deep in addiction. Maybe you have an unequal partner and just feel all the feels.In this episode, I talk directly to the women who feel unseen, forgotten, or unappreciated on a day that’s meant to celebrate them. We’ll walk through five gentle steps to get through Mother’s Day—without faking joy, waiting on others to show up, or pretending it doesn’t sting.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s not about getting the outcome you’re hoping for. It’s about you - how you respond when you're frustrated, dismissed, overwhelmed, or ignored. We’re talking tone, delivery, body language, and why 93% of communication has nothing to do with the words you use. Whether you’re arguing with a partner in active addiction, managing stress at work, or snapping at your kids at the end of a long day, your energy sets the tone. We’ll unpack what it means to stay in your integrity, why it’s not about being heard, and how to make peace with yourself when change isn’t coming from the other side. Plus, real-life examples, tips to stay grounded, and why choosing your response - rather than reacting - can transform everything.Want to be proud of how you show up? This one's for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this special audio edition of the newsletter, Matt shares a listener story that’s all too familiar: someone begins the work: therapy, sobriety, growth - but eventually hits a wall and stops. What do you do when your partner says things like “I’m tired of doing the work” or “What if this is the best I get?” How do you support someone without enabling them? How do you hold space without losing yourself?Matt unpacks the difference between healing fatigue and a fixed mindset, why growth can feel like betrayal when trauma has become your identity, and what it really takes to inspire someone into action without pushing them away. Whether you’re in recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode is a raw, relatable, and practical reminder that growth doesn’t have to be perfect, but it does have to be consistent.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re cutting through the noise and getting back to the basics — because somewhere along the way, we started overcomplicating what’s right in front of us.Addiction. Trauma. ADHD. Nervous system dysregulation. You name it — there’s a label for every behavior now, and we’ve been trained to see the story before we see the impact. But here’s the thing: Behavior tells the truth. Not the diagnosis. Not the excuse. Not the backstory.We’re talking about what it means to see clearly, stop excusing harmful behavior, and respond in ways that actually align with the kind of person you want to be — even when you’re overwhelmed or pushed to your limit.If you’ve ever wondered, "But why do they act like this?" — this episode will help you ask a better question.Because clarity isn’t found in their trauma. It’s found in your values. And healing isn’t just about calling out other people’s behavior — it’s about choosing the kind of person you want to be even when it’s hard.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this powerful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in recovery and relationships: natural consequences. We unpack the difference between allowing natural consequences versus trying to teach lessons or punish, and why intentions matter so much.We share real-life examples - from substance abuse, lying, and emotional unavailability to parenting challenges - to show how stepping back and allowing life to teach people naturally is both critical and gut-wrenching. We also explore why many compassionate, empathetic people struggle with this step and the emotional strength required to truly let go.Plus, we get candid about why telling spouses to "have more compassion" for someone who’s repeatedly harmed them can be not only invalidating but dangerous. This conversation is raw, validating, and packed with hard-earned wisdom for anyone trying to navigate recovery, rebuild their lives, or find peace after betrayal.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week on Paige’s Perspective, we’re digging into DARVO—the manipulative pattern people use to avoid accountability by flipping the script and making you question your reality. You’ll learn what DARVO looks like, why it happens, and how to spot it in both loud and subtle forms (even the sweet, guilt-soaked kind that sounds like love but isn’t). I’ll also share what healthy accountability sounds like and give you practical tools to protect your peace, stop overexplaining, and see DARVO for what it is—a mindf*ck, not a communication issue. If you’ve ever left a conversation feeling like you’re the problem for speaking up… this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Matt sits down for an unfiltered, no-holds-barred conversation about the moment everything changed - the exact point he knew he couldn’t lie one more time, couldn’t hide one more day, and had to choose either transformation or destruction. Paige asks the raw questions our listeners always want answered: What finally made you get sober? What was rock bottom really like? Do you ever miss that life? What does recovery actually look like years later—and how the hell do you rebuild a marriage after all of it?This is the episode we wish every struggling partner—and every person in active addiction - could hear. It's not sugarcoated. It's not polished. But it is proof that people can change, marriages can heal, and the life you want is possible—if you're willing to do the work.You’ll hear:What made Matt finally tell the truthThe surprising thing that hurt more than losing himselfWhat recovery looked like then vs. what it means nowHow they rebuilt trust, layer by layer, over a decadeWhat it really takes to be a safe, present fatherWhy Paige stuck around - and what she would never tolerate againWhether you’re deep in it or on the other side trying to make sense of the wreckage, this episode will meet you where you are.Send this one to the man who needs to hear it. And if that man is you...welcome. There’s hope. You’re not alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You’ve said it. Maybe weekly. “He’s just stressed.” “He only acts like this when he’s drinking.” “That's just how they were raised.”But here’s the truth: just because you’ve gotten used to it… doesn’t mean it’s healthy.In this episode, Paige breaks down the quiet ways we minimize emotional abuse and excuse hurtful behavior—especially in relationships shaped by addiction, trauma, or chaos. You’ll learn to recognize the red flags hiding in everyday phrases, understand why your nervous system is drawn to dysfunction, and hear why waiting for something “worse” to happen is one of the most heartbreaking traps of all.This is your wake-up call—delivered with love, truth, and zero shame.You’re not too sensitive. You’re not asking for too much. You’re just done pretending it’s fine.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We all screw up, but how you respond to a mistake says way more about you than the mistake itself. In this episode, we have a raw, honest conversation about emotional regulation, accountability, and how to bounce back after you’ve messed up. Whether it’s a bad tone with your kids or a history of bigger mistakes like addiction or abuse, this episode explores how to repair, rebuild, and move forward without drowning in shame. You’ll hear the differences in how Matt and Paige process regret, how to know if it’s a pattern or a one-off, and why learning the lesson sometimes takes time - and that’s okay. A must-listen for anyone stuck in self-blame or trying to make sense of what change really looks like.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do you ever feel afraid to love yourself? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode, Paige gets real about the fear, discomfort, and confusion that often comes with the concept of self-love. She unpacks why loving yourself can feel unsafe, selfish, or even threatening depending on your past, your programming, and your current relationships.From trauma bonds to people-pleasing, and from sabotaging growth to staying small to make others comfortable—this is a deep dive into why we fear loving ourselves and how we can start showing up differently.This one’s part pep talk, part truth serum, and packed with practical actions that help you go from performing self-love to living it.You’ll learn:The difference between self-love and arroganceWhy some people will fall away when you riseHow trauma makes shrinking feel safeWhat real responsibility looks like when you believe you’re worthy6 grounded ways to start loving yourself in action, not just wordsAnd of course, it ends with a challenge you won’t want to skip.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Revenge might feel good for a moment—but what does it really get you? In this raw and hilarious episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we unpack the difference between being petty and being powerful. From glitter bombs to passive-aggressive laundry comments to clapback culture on social media, they explore why pettiness is so seductive (especially after betrayal or injustice) and why it ultimately keeps you stuck in cycles of rumination, resentment, and regret.You’ll hear personal stories, some hard truths, and a powerful reframe: assertiveness and values-based living aren’t boring—they’re badass. They walk through how to set boundaries without punishment, how trauma tempts us to strike back, and why emotional maturity isn’t weakness—it’s the flex. Whether you’re tempted to slash tires, troll your ex on Instagram, or drop a snarky comment at work, this episode might just stop you—and help you choose power over pettiness.If you’ve ever asked, “Why do they get away with everything while I take the high road?”—this one’s for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige gets real about the toll social media can take on our nervous systems, identity, and sense of reality. Inspired by a quote—“Normal is 7 hours of screen time a day”—she opens up about why she’s taking a step back, how social media may create low-agency behavior, and what it really means to get back to the basics.This isn’t a lecture—it’s a wake-up call for anyone feeling overstimulated, stuck in the scroll, and slowly losing themselves in the noise.If you’ve ever thought, “I should be able to handle it,” but deep down know it’s messing with your mental health, this one’s for you.Because maybe, just maybe… it’s time to put the phone down.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In Part Two of our High Agency series, Matt and Paige dive even deeper into what it really means to live a high agency life—and what gets in the way.We unpack the traps that keep people stuck: the vague trap, the midwit trap, the rumination trap, and the overwhelm trap. You’ll hear how overthinking and searching for the perfect, risk-free solution leaves people paralyzed, stuck in fantasy instead of action. We talk about defining problems clearly, trusting your gut, experimenting with bold choices, and taking the smallest next step to break through analysis paralysis.You’ll also hear:The “Evil Twin” thought experiment: What would the most high-agency version of you do?How to stop chasing clarity and start earning it through actionWhy even painful or imperfect action is better than passive confusionThe truth about trade-offs: there is no perfect decision, only movementThe difference between controlling others and influencing outcomes with integrityValue Activation: the drill that helps you stop talking about your values and actually live themA framework for turning bullshit into reality—from journaling and wishing to doing and becomingWe also explore how to break down overwhelming problems into levels—just like video games do—and how taking action, even imperfectly, is what creates momentum, healing, and growth.This episode will help you shift from vibes to reality, from inspiration to execution, and from feeling stuck to living on purpose.You don’t need more clarity—you need more courage.Head over to highagency.com to read the work of George Mack that inspired this episode. It's truly a must-read!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!“What if they relapse?” “What if I mess up?” “What if everything falls apart?” If those questions live rent-free in your mind, this episode is for you. I’ll show you how one simple shift—from “What if” to “Even if”—can change the way you cope with stress, fear, and uncertainty. You’ll hear mindset exercises, honest stories, and practical ways to handle life when it doesn’t go according to plan. Because it rarely does.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this solo episode, Matt breaks down the core beliefs that define high agency—an empowering mindset rooted in action, clarity, and personal responsibility. Inspired by George Mack’s High Agency essay, Matt explores five foundational beliefs that high agency people carry and shares practical exercises you can start using today to apply them in your own life.You’ll learn: – Why leaving isn’t impossible – How to stop waiting for permission – What it means to design your own path – Why “normal” is overrated – And how to take action right now—even in the middle of the chaosThis episode is for anyone who feels stuck, hesitant, or overwhelmed by someone else’s addiction, emotional immaturity, or the fear of making the “wrong” move. High agency isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build.Paige will return for Part Two, where they’ll continue this conversation and expand it even further.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If silence makes you restless, anxious, or uneasy, you’re not alone. For many, silence isn’t peaceful. The second things get quiet, all the thoughts, emotions, and fears we’ve been avoiding start creeping in. And if you’ve been living in survival mode, silence doesn’t feel safe, it feels like the calm before the next storm.But what if silence isn’t something to fear? What if sitting in it is actually an important part of healing?In this episode, I break down why silence feels so hard, especially for those who’ve experienced betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress. I’ll share how I struggled with it, why your nervous system might resist stillness, and the small but powerful steps you can take to make silence a safe place again.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Has common sense officially left the building? In this unapologetically real episode, we dive into why people are more confused than ever despite having access to endless information. From the rise of pop psychology trends and over-pathologizing human behavior to the pitfalls of therapy culture and self-diagnosis spirals, we break down how modern society has made everything way more complicated than it needs to be. We’re cutting through the noise and getting back to basics—because, at the end of the day, action matters more than endless analysis. If you’re tired of overthinking, stuck in a loop of “understanding” instead of doing, this episode is for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If you’ve loved someone struggling with addiction—whether you’re still in the relationship or you’ve left—the fear of rejection can feel overwhelming. It’s not just about someone saying “no,” it feels personal. It feels like proof that you weren’t enough. But what if rejection isn’t what you think it is? In this episode, I break down how unhealthy relationships mess with your sense of self-worth, why rejection can feel paralyzing, and why avoiding connection isn’t actually protecting you—it’s keeping you stuck.I’m in this with you, and I needed this reminder just as much as you do. Together, let’s unpack why rejection isn’t always personal, how to reframe it, and why connection is worth the risk.Because the truth is? The right people won’t reject you. But you’ll never know that if you don’t take the chance.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We get it—healing feels like something you have to do alone. But what if that’s exactly what’s keeping you stuck? In this episode, we’re breaking down why community isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. We saw it firsthand this past weekend, and we’re here to tell you that if you’re not already part of a supportive group, you’re missing out.We’re talking about why connecting with others speeds up your healing, helps you break old patterns, and gives you the accountability and support you need. We also get into the real reasons so many of us resist community (trust issues, hyper-independence, fear of judgment—we’ve been there). But the truth is, you don’t have to do this alone. And you shouldn’t.If you’ve been lurking, sitting on the sidelines, or convincing yourself you don’t need this—consider this your sign. Find your people. Engage. Your future self will thank you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do you feel like you're constantly battling anxiety, even when there’s no real threat? In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re diving into irrational anxiety—when fear and worry take over your mind despite the lack of actual danger. I share my personal journey with anxiety, the bandaid solutions that didn’t work, and the hard truths that finally helped me break free.We’ll discuss how to recognize irrational anxiety, challenge intrusive thoughts, and shift your mindset from fear-based reactions to logical, confident responses. If you’re tired of feeling like anxiety runs your life, this episode will give you practical, no-BS strategies to take back control and start living with confidence. Let’s rewire our thoughts, build resilience, and move forward. You in?Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are your feelings keeping you stuck? Whether you’re a spouse of an addict waiting for them to change, someone considering divorce but trapped by fear, struggling with weight loss, or trying to build a better career or life—you might be making one crucial mistake: waiting for the right feeling to take action.In this episode, we challenge the dangerous myth that motivation is the key to success. It’s not. Your feelings come and go, but your actions build your future. We’ll unpack:Why emotions can trick you into tolerating toxic relationships, staying in unhealthy habits, or delaying decisions you already know you need to make.How hope can be a trap—keeping you stuck in cycles of addiction, bad marriages, or dead-end jobs.Why guilt convinces you to stay where you are, even when you know you should leave.The truth about motivation (it’s fleeting and unreliable) and why discipline is the real key to change.Practical strategies to override fear, take action, and finally start living by your values—not your emotions.If you’ve ever said, “I’ll do it when I feel ready,” this episode will show you why that day will never come—unless you make it happen. It’s time to stop waiting and start building the life you deserve, no matter what your emotions are telling you.Listen now and learn how to take back control.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are your emotions guiding you or controlling you? In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we break down the difference between feeling your emotions and being ruled by them.You’ve heard us say “Feel the Feels,” but also “Eff your feelings.” So which one is it? Both. Emotional regulation isn’t about ignoring feelings or letting them dictate your actions—it’s about finding the middle ground.We’ll talk about:✔ The difference between healthy reflection and rumination✔ Why pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice✔ How to shift your emotional state by cultivating the opposite feeling✔ Simple ways to break free from overthinking and emotional spiralsListener Journal Prompt (Share in the Community!):1️⃣ What emotion have you been sitting in lately? Is it serving you?2️⃣ If you could cultivate the opposite emotion, what would it be?3️⃣ What thoughts are keeping you stuck? Challenge them. Is it a fact or just a feeling?4️⃣ What is one action you can take today to shift your emotional state?Your emotions are real, but they don’t have to dictate your reality. Let’s learn how to feel them, process them, and move forward.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!What makes a great relationship? Is it knowing everything about your partner, or is it feeling truly known by them? In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dig deep into what it means to be seen, heard, and understood in our closest relationships.Drawing from personal experiences, text conversations, and research—including a study that confirms feeling known by your partner is a stronger predictor of relationship satisfaction than knowing them—we explore how genuine curiosity and active listening can transform the way we connect with our loved ones.Paige and Matt share their own journey of rebuilding connection after years of imbalance, discussing the challenges of feeling unseen, the hesitation in opening up again, and the intentional efforts that foster emotional safety. They also break down practical ways to create deeper bonds with your partner, kids, or anyone who matters in your life.If you’ve ever felt unheard in a relationship or struggled with getting your partner to open up, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how shifting from trying to be interesting to being truly interested can change everything.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige challenges the popular idea that “everyone’s journey is different.” While our circumstances might vary, the emotional struggles we face—grief, betrayal, fear, loneliness—are universal.Paige dives into how believing your pain is unique can actually keep you stuck, isolated, and resistant to healing. Whether you’re dealing with addiction, anxiety, depression, or loss of a loved one, the truth is: you’re not alone, and there are solutions that work.She also explores the shared struggles of spouses of addicts, whether you’re staying, leaving, or working on recovery together—and why healing is necessary no matter where you are in your journey.Key Takeaway: Your situation might feel unique, but healing follows a universal path—and you don’t have to walk it alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!As parents, we want to raise strong, resilient kids—but sometimes, without realizing it, we lean on them in ways that can be damaging. In this episode, we’re tackling the tough but crucial topic of parentification, enmeshment, and emotional incest—when kids are put in roles they were never meant to fill.We break down:How to recognize if you're unintentionally placing emotional burdens on your childWhat’s healthy honesty with kids vs. oversharing your adult problemsThe long-term impact of making kids responsible for adult emotionsHow to foster emotional security without making them your therapist or support systemWe discuss our own experience growing up in this dynamic, and we discuss practical ways to break the cycle—because once you see it, you can change it. This isn't about shame; it's about building awareness and making sure our kids get to be kids.If you’ve ever wondered, Am I putting too much on my child?—this episode is for you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re diving into why so many women struggle with people-pleasing, caretaking, and suppressing their needs—and the truth about where these behaviors actually come from. Spoiler alert: you weren’t born this way.For generations, women have been conditioned to put everyone else first. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers weren’t just “nice” or “selfless”—they were surviving in a world where they had no real choices. They were trained to keep the peace, endure mistreatment, and never ask for too much. And even though times have changed, the mindset? Still lingers.Women were taught that strength means tolerating pain, that endurance equals loyalty, and that setting boundaries makes you selfish. In this episode, we’re breaking down:🔹 The history of why women were conditioned to people-please (lack of rights, financial dependence, and societal expectations)🔹 The generational cycles we’ve inherited—and need to break🔹 Why endurance isn’t the same as resilience (and how to stop equating suffering with strength)🔹 How to unlearn the belief that love = sacrificeWe are one of the first generations of women who have the ability to leave, set boundaries, and prioritize ourselves. The hardest part? Actually believing we’re allowed to. Let’s talk about it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Breaking free from generational cycles isn't just about addiction—it’s about rewiring everything you were conditioned to believe: how you communicate, how you cope, how you parent, and how you love. In this episode, we dive deep into what it really means to break toxic patterns, why it’s so hard, and how to measure progress. We explore the grief that comes with leaving behind the family dynamics you once knew, the resistance you'll face, and why it's all worth it—not just for you, but for the generations that follow.Whether it's addiction, emotional repression, people-pleasing, unhealthy relationships, or limiting beliefs, breaking the cycle means taking radical responsibility for your life. It means refusing to pass down the same wounds to your children. It means becoming the person who changes everything.If you've ever felt like you're meant to do things differently but struggle with the weight of change, this episode is for you. Change starts now. The future starts with you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re breaking down the truth about judgment—why it’s not the problem, but ignoring your instincts is. Society tells you that being judgmental is wrong, that you should always give the benefit of the doubt, and that compassion should override discernment. But what happens when that mindset keeps you stuck, excusing harmful behaviors, and doubting yourself?We’ve been conditioned to believe that judging others makes us cruel—but judgment is a survival tool. It helps you recognize red flags, set boundaries, and protect yourself. And yet, some people and even society weaponize the fear of judgment against you: “You’re too harsh,” “You’re not perfect either,” “Everyone deserves a second chance.” But let’s be real—some behaviors should be judged.Not all judgment is toxic, but when does it cross the line? When does it stop being about self-preservation and start becoming a weapon? At what point does holding people accountable turn into a cycle of resentment and revenge? In this episode, we’re reclaiming judgment as a necessary tool while breaking down how to use it wisely.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Ever feel like no matter what you do, you're just spinning your wheels? There’s a reason for that. In this episode, we break down four sneaky mental traps that keep people stuck in bad relationships, dead-end jobs, toxic habits, and cycles of regret.We’re talking about:Why you’re measuring the wrong things in your life (and what actually matters)How you’re avoiding the hard choices without even realizing itWhy you give great advice to others but can’t take it yourselfThe hard truth about decision-making—there’s no perfect solution, only trade-offsIf you’re tired of feeling stuck and ready for real change, this episode will challenge everything you think is keeping you safe. No fluff, no sugarcoating—just the truth you need to hear.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we’re breaking down the excuses addicts use to justify staying the same—the guilt trips, the half-promises, and the ways they frame their struggles to keep you invested. You’ve heard it all: “In sickness and in health,” “Unconditional love means accepting me as I am,” “I’m trying! Recovery takes time!”—but what’s really happening beneath the surface? These aren’t necessarily intentional attempts to manipulate, but they are ways addicts avoid growth—and when those excuses keep you stuck in a cycle of harm, it becomes abusive.Nobody talks about how addicts’ behaviors are often abusive. And society? It lets them off the hook, telling you to be patient, to understand, to wait just a little longer.But here’s the truth: Addiction may be an explanation, but it’s not an excuse to keep hurting people. Abuse doesn’t have to be calculated to be real. At some point, effort needs to match impact, and words need to turn into action. In this episode, we’re exposing the stories addicts tell themselves and their partners to avoid real accountability—so you can stop getting lost in their excuses and start focusing on what you need.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When addiction, trauma, or abuse shape your life, how much of that story is yours to share? In this raw and thought-provoking episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we tackle the controversial question of whether speaking out about your experiences is an act of healing or betrayal.Too often, spouses of addicts are told to stay silent, to protect reputations, or to keep family struggles private. But at what cost? We discuss the impact of secrecy, how silence perpetuates stigma, and why sharing your truth is not just valid but necessary. From the backlash faced by public figures like Twitch’s widow Allison Holker and Annie Parker (I Did Not Kill My Husband), to our own experiences with addiction and recovery, we unpack the power dynamics, societal norms, and self-limiting beliefs that keep people from telling their stories.Does destigmatizing addiction mean shielding those who struggle from accountability? Are we overcorrecting to the point where we enable harmful behaviors? And most importantly, what happens when someone else’s addiction becomes your story, too?Tune in as we challenge the idea of silence as protection and explore how to reclaim your voice—without guilt, shame, or permission.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this reflection, Paige explores the true essence of being present and why it matters. She shares a childhood memory of quiet connection with nature, illustrating how presence can ground us, ease anxiety, and bring clarity. Paige discusses practical ways to cultivate this mindset, from grounding exercises and intentional focus to disconnecting from distractions like phones. She emphasizes the profound benefits of presence, including improved relationships, thoughtful responses, and a more intentional life. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or simply seeking calm, Paige offers relatable insights to help you embrace the power of the present moment.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we are joined by Amber Hollingsworth, the creator of the YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down and founder of Hope for Families Recovery Center. Together, we explore the misunderstood role of spouses in the recovery process, the power of influence over control, and why tough love often misses the mark. Amber shares insights on using accountability tools like SoberLink, balancing empathy with boundaries, and how to recognize genuine effort in recovery. Whether you're in the midst of addiction, supporting a loved one, or seeking clarity in chaos, this conversation is packed with honest, actionable advice. Don't miss this deep dive into what really works in recovery for individuals and families.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into the essential question: Are you living by your values? Drawing inspiration from a Freya India article on anxiety and values, she reflects on how self-love and self-respect aren’t given—they’re earned through action. Paige breaks down how values like honesty, health, and personal integrity serve as an inner compass, helping us make decisions and create a life we’re proud of. She emphasizes that living by values isn’t about perfection; it’s about small, intentional steps that lead to big changes. Whether it’s teaching kids the importance of values by example or questioning societal conditioning around health, Paige reminds us that we always have the power to realign.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected, this episode will inspire you to pause and ask: Am I living by my values?Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we sit down with Sheri and Matt Salis from the Untoxicated Podcast to explore the complexities of addiction, recovery, and the profound impact these experiences have on relationships. Sheri and Matt share their journey, starting from the early years of their marriage, through the decade of Matt's active addiction, and into the challenging process of rebuilding their lives and relationship.We dive deep into topics like natural detachment, resentment processing, and how addiction reshapes not just the addict but also their partner. Sheri opens up about the anger and resentment she carried while navigating life with an addicted partner and the turning point that led her to seek her own recovery. Matt reflects on the pain of early sobriety, the humbling process of earning back trust, and the realization that love wasn’t enough—respect and healing were just as crucial.Together, they discuss the often-overlooked trauma that partners endure, the importance of individual growth, and why validation, empathy, and independent recovery are at the heart of healing. Whether you're the partner of someone in addiction or someone striving for sobriety, this conversation offers hope, insight, and actionable wisdom for anyone walking this difficult path.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It’s a week into the new year, and while resolutions are fresh on our minds, some of you may already feel yourself slipping. This is the perfect time to confront a reality that can change everything: no one is coming to save you. If you’ve been waiting for someone to fix your life, make decisions for you, or pull you out of the tough situations you’re in, it’s time to stop. The truth might feel harsh, but it’s also freeing—because the power to change your life has been in your hands all along.In this episode, I’ll unpack why we often believe someone is supposed to save us, from cultural conditioning to the fear of independence. For some, this waiting game looks like hoping a partner will change—believing that if they just get it together, everything will fall into place. But that’s another way of handing over your power. When we pin our happiness on someone else’s actions, we give them control over our lives instead of taking responsibility for our own growth.I’ll also challenge the myth of rock bottom and the excuses we use to avoid responsibility, while exploring how to break free from the victim mindset and start building the skills to save yourself. Along the way, I’ll share examples, practical steps, and a message of hope: you don’t have to be perfect, but you do have to take action.Because here’s the hard truth: no one else can live your life or make your decisions for you. But that’s also the good news—you have everything you need to become your own hero. So let’s talk about how to do the damn work and reclaim your power.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive into the paradox of lukewarm lives and why sometimes, when things get worse, it can actually be the catalyst for positive change. We explore how challenging times teach us about relationships, resilience, and what truly makes a great partner.From navigating emotional rock bottoms to questioning what we tolerate in life, we discuss the "Region Beta Paradox" and why tolerable discomfort often leads to prolonged stagnation. With personal stories, thought-provoking insights, and a focus on challenging your comfort zone, this episode is a wake-up call to take charge of your happiness and embrace the discomfort of growth.We also touch on gratitude in relationships, the cost of inaction, and why some couples thrive through hardships while others falter. Whether you're in recovery, supporting a partner, or seeking clarity in your life, this episode offers valuable perspectives and encouragement to stop digging and start climbing toward something better.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the power of the questions we ask ourselves and how they shape our lives. Are your inner questions keeping you stuck, or are they guiding you toward growth? Learn how to identify disempowering questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” and reframe them into empowering ones like, “What can I learn from this?” Through real-life examples, journaling prompts, and practical strategies, you’ll discover how to challenge negative narratives, focus on your personal growth, and reclaim control over your mindset. Sometimes, all it takes is the right question to turn a struggle into a breakthrough. Tune in and start shifting your perspective today!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this two-part New Year’s special, we dive deep into the lessons, challenges, and victories of the past year. We reflect on our personal growth, professional milestones, and the hard truths that shaped our journey—and maybe yours too.Part one kicks off with a powerful year-end review exercise, designed to help you reflect on how far you’ve come—because, yes, you’ve accomplished more than you think. Plus, we share our own goals for 2025, lessons learned, and how we plan to keep showing up authentically in every aspect of our lives.In part two, an insightful acid test for spotting poor communication and the reality of incompatibility in relationships. Can dismissive avoidant behaviors and everything-is-an-argument mindsets be navigated? We break it down. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Empathy is a beautiful quality, but when it starts to overshadow your self-respect, it can become a trap. In this episode, Paige explores the fine line between caring for someone and enabling them, unpacking why letting people face the consequences of their actions is often the most loving—and respectful—choice you can make. Through relatable examples and practical advice, she dives into how unchecked empathy can erode your boundaries, delay someone else’s growth, and leave you feeling drained. Tune in to learn how to balance compassion with accountability and maintain healthy, respectful relationships.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we’re getting real about complaining—why we do it, when it’s healthy, and when it becomes a trap that keeps us stuck. Complaining isn’t the enemy; sometimes, you need to let off steam and call out the frustration. But here’s the truth: if all you’re doing is talking about the problem without taking action, you’re just spinning your wheels.We’ll dive into:The good side of complaining—how venting can clear your head and highlight what needs to change.The downside—how staying in a cycle of complaints keeps you powerless, drains your energy, and blinds you to solutions.The key question you need to ask yourself: “Am I releasing this, or am I living in it?”Because complaining feels productive in the moment, but progress only happens when you’re ready to stop rocking in that chair and take a step forward.“It’s okay to hate where you are. Just don’t plant roots there.”Let’s talk about getting out of the complaining trap and back into action.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The holidays can get messy when unspoken issues come to light. In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we dive into the complexities of accountability during the holiday season. When a spouse or partner’s actions have rippled out and hurt family or friends, how do you navigate the awkward tension?Matt shares actionable advice for those on the recovering side of addiction, urging them to take ownership and repair the damage they've caused—no matter how difficult it feels. Paige provides insight for partners who find themselves caught in the middle, carrying the burden of smoothing things over. Together, they explore what true accountability looks like, why it's essential, and how partners can protect themselves if accountability never comes.Plus, they discuss why shame can be a powerful driver for change and challenge the illusion of loyalty when enabling becomes mistaken for support. If you're facing difficult family dynamics this holiday season, this episode offers clarity, validation, and steps forward—whether together or alone.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige shares thoughts on Optimism Theatre—a concept Matt explored in a recent TWFO article. While he told the story from his perspective as someone in recovery, Paige focuses on why it’s so difficult for spouses and partners to set boundaries and be assertive in these relationships. I dive into how the addict’s performance of optimism—promising change, saying the right things, and creating false hope—can keep us stuck in cycles of waiting and second-guessing. Actions speak louder than words. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with the brilliant Celeste Yvonne, celebrated author of It’s Not About the Wine and a powerful voice in the conversation on sobriety, motherhood, and societal expectations. Celeste shares her deeply personal journey of quitting alcohol, navigating the mental load of motherhood, and confronting the harmful messaging of “mommy wine culture.”We explore how women often turn to alcohol to cope with the crushing responsibilities of parenting, the role of societal conditioning, and the deeper truths about emotional labor in traditional partnerships. Celeste candidly discusses her unconventional path to sobriety, the challenges of rediscovering herself without alcohol, and the importance of building supportive communities like the Sober Mom Squad.This episode is both validating and thought-provoking as we challenge gender norms, discuss the necessity for systemic change, and explore actionable ways partners can better support one another. Whether you’re a parent, in recovery, or simply someone seeking more balance and authenticity in life, this conversation is a must-listen.Links and Resources:Grab a copy of Celeste Yvonne's book It’s Not About the WineFollow Celeste on Instagram and TikTok: @theultimatemomchallengeJoin the Sober Mom Squad communityFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we’re breaking down what it really means to regulate your nervous system—and why practices like mindfulness and deep breathing won’t cut it if you’re still stuck in toxic situations. Paige explores how your environment and relationships shape your stress response, why temporary fixes can only take you so far, and the real changes you need to make to feel safe and stable. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re still on edge no matter how many yoga classes you’ve taken, this episode is your wake-up call to start creating the kind of life your nervous system can actually relax in.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this deeply insightful episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we sit down with Dr. Jake Porter, a leading expert in relational and betrayal trauma, sex addiction recovery, and emotional intimacy. Dr. Porter brings years of professional expertise and personal experience to unpack the complexities of sex and pornography addiction and their impact on relationships.Together, we explore:What sex addiction really is, how it differs from a high libido, and the role of pornography in relationships.The devastating effects of betrayal trauma on trust, memory, and self-perception.How empathy and accountability are essential for healing and rebuilding relationships after betrayal.Practical strategies for couples navigating recovery and reinventing intimacy after infidelity.The delicate balance between hope, choice, and personal empowerment in the healing process.Dr. Porter also dives into the neuroscience behind addiction and betrayal, offering a compassionate yet pragmatic roadmap for couples and individuals seeking lasting recovery and transformation. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict, recovering from betrayal trauma, or curious about the dynamics of healing, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.Resources Mentioned in the Episode:Dr. Porter’s free book: Breaking BarriersLearn about intensives and coaching with Dr. Porter at Daring VenturesOnline programs: ChooseConnectionAcademy.comJoin us for this impactful conversation about recovery, relationships, and finding hope after betrayal.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we shift the focus from what we haven’t done to the unseen victories we’ve achieved. Paige opens up about her year, one filled with challenges, growth, and stepping outside her comfort zone. From professional milestones to personal wins like reconnecting with old passions and finding balance in family life, Paige highlights the importance of reflecting on accomplishments big and small.This episode challenges listeners to take stock of their own year—not through the lens of setbacks, but by recognizing the resilience, boundaries, and growth hidden in life’s toughest moments. You might feel like you’ve just survived, but survival itself is an accomplishment. From setting boundaries to navigating difficult conversations, every step forward is worth celebrating. Tune in for inspiration to see your own growth and find gratitude in the grind.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige dive headfirst into the digital dumpster fire of text fighting—aka "fexting." They tackle why arguing via text rarely accomplishes anything productive, how it’s become the modern default for conflict, and why it’s often a sign of deeper communication issues.They explore why text fights are emotionally exhausting, miscommunication-prone, and give manipulators an easy playground. Plus, they ask the big questions: Is texting making relationships worse? Are you addicted to the back-and-forth drama? And why do we think texting someone into submission will actually work?Matt and Paige also share tips to break free from the cycle, challenge listeners to stop fexting for 24 hours, and drop some truth bombs on why face-to-face conversations build real intimacy. With humor, personal anecdotes, and a few controversial hot takes, this episode will have you rethinking your text habits—and maybe even putting down your phone.Also on the docket: Thanksgiving food debates, ambrosia salad, and why mashed potatoes don’t belong at the holiday table.Don’t miss this one—it’s time to text less and talk more.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the age-old question: Is happiness a choice? Inspired by a recent conversation with Dr. Taylor, we explore what it really means to choose happiness, especially when life feels overwhelming or relationships are challenging. Spoiler: happiness isn’t the goal—it’s about living authentically.I share my personal journey of waking up angry every day and how shifting my mindset through gratitude and intentional action helped me reclaim my life. But choosing happiness isn’t about ignoring your feelings or forcing positivity. It’s about making choices that align with your values and creating stability, even in tough circumstances.Whether you're navigating a toxic relationship, overwhelmed with life’s demands, or just trying to figure out what happiness means to you, this episode offers a fresh perspective. Choosing happiness starts with choosing yourself—your peace, your authenticity, and your freedom.Tune in to learn how you can take small steps toward a more content and meaningful life, one intentional choice at a time.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, Matt and Paige are joined by Dr. Christopher Taylor to explore the impact of labeling behaviors in relationships, from attachment styles to narcissism. They discuss how these labels can either empower or trap us, depending on how they're used, and examine the role of resilience, the pitfalls of toxic positivity, and the fine line between understanding and enabling. With insights on navigating relationships thoughtfully, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a balanced approach to self-growth and mental health in today’s label-heavy culture. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, I dive into the ups and downs of the holiday season and how to handle them with strength, self-care, and realistic expectations. The holidays can be tough—shorter days, overwhelming demands, and the stress of dealing with family dynamics can easily throw us off balance. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I’ll share practical tips to help you stay grounded, from setting healthy boundaries and managing expectations to connecting with others and finding gratitude in the small things. We’ll talk about shifting from a “poor me” mindset to embracing challenges, making self-care non-negotiable, and focusing on emotional regulation rather than chasing perfect happiness. This season, let’s put ourselves first, find peace amidst the chaos, and make the best of every moment—even the messy ones.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we share our personal journey through Matt's recent surgery and the challenges of managing pain with opioids - his past drug of choice. This was scary, new territory for us and it's a slippery slope given the history of addiction. We discuss the emotional complexities surrounding the surgery recovery, how we planned in advance and discussed the decision to treat the pain with a dangerous substance, the accountability built into the situation, the importance of open communication, and how we navigated the fears and realities of pain management together. Opiates in an emergency setting are tricky in recovery, and we believe this conversation will be helpful and insightful for couples and individuals that are navigating difficult emotions around pain treatment in sobriety as well as those that have faced a relapse. This candid conversation highlights the significance of trust, accountability, and the growth that can come from facing difficult situations as a couple. We navigated this one successfully and we're both incredibly proud of how we faced it and we think you'll gain quite a bit from this one too if you find yourself having to go down this road.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we're diving deep into the true power of self-care—not as a luxury, but as a crucial foundation for healing and growth. Self-care isn’t about spa days or quick fixes; it's about rebuilding from within and learning to prioritize ourselves so we can face life’s challenges with clarity and strength. We’ll explore how self-care helps us understand who we are, what we need, and what we stand for. Think of it as self-maintenance, like tuning up a car or maintaining a home—it’s ongoing, it’s essential, and yes, it takes effort. But by investing in physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual self-care, we empower ourselves to set boundaries, make healthier decisions, and break out of old cycles. This episode is here to remind you: self-care is the backbone of healing, and putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Let’s get excited about building the best version of ourselves. So, Wheelies, let’s get rolling!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we dive into the idea of hope that doesn’t rely on perfect conditions or external circumstances—a hope that’s rooted in resilience and meaning. We share a deeply personal story about a friend who found the strength to keep going after unimaginable loss. Together, we’ll talk about the concept of “reservations” in recovery—those mental escape hatches we keep in case things get tough—and how letting go of them opens the door to real growth and peace.Listen in as we explore practical ways to find purpose in pain, make choices that honor your values, and live with a hope that isn’t dependent on anyone else. Whether you’re working on a relationship or building a life of your own, this episode will inspire you to move forward with courage and clarity, embracing life’s challenges as opportunities for growth.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we explore why focusing on substance use keeps partners stuck in unhealthy dynamics and how shifting attention to behaviors leads to real growth and change. Paige breaks down the common societal trap of thinking sobriety will fix everything and highlights why manipulation, dishonesty, and emotional neglect must be addressed—whether or not the substance is involved.Through personal insights, practical exercises, and reflection prompts, Paige encourages listeners to reclaim their power by focusing on their values and setting boundaries that align with who they are. Sobriety isn’t the finish line—behavioral change, accountability, and emotional maturity are what really matter for a healthy relationship.Tune in to learn how shifting from helper to leader and detaching from outcomes empowers you to build a life based on your values, rather than waiting for someone else to change.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we sit down with Abby Eckel, a powerful content creator who highlights some of the most pressing issues women face today—unequal partnerships, the mental load of motherhood, how addiction and mental health disorders give context - not excuses - she gives her opinion on whether you can train someone to change, and discusses the complexities of navigating relationships in a patriarchal society.Together, we dive into what it means to have a truly equal partnership, why men often perceive equality as oppression, and how societal conditioning plays a role in perpetuating these dynamics. Abby shares her thoughts on weaponized incompetence, the undervaluing of women’s work, and the emotional toll placed on partners in relationships with addiction and mental health struggles.We also explore the challenges women face when trying to enact change in their relationships, how to balance compassion with accountability, and what minimum standards of care every partnership should strive for. Abby offers candid insights on where the ‘good guys’ are, whether partners can realistically change, and how to manage frustration with people who refuse to act on their issues.This is a thought-provoking conversation for anyone who has felt the weight of unequal expectations or struggled to communicate their needs in relationships. Join us for a deep dive into the realities of modern partnerships and what we can do to foster change.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into some of the most impactful books that have shaped my journey through life’s toughest moments. Instead of focusing solely on addiction or codependency, I recommend books that emphasize personal growth, shifting perspectives, and stepping out of comfort zones. I walk you through key takeaways from works by Lundy Bancroft, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, David Goggins, and many others. These books are designed to push boundaries, encourage self-awareness, and challenge limiting beliefs. They remind us that life isn’t about avoiding struggles but growing through them.Books Covered:Why Does He Do That? by Lundy BancroftThe Power of Now by Eckhart TolleChange Your Thoughts, Change Your Life by Dr. Wayne DyerCan’t Hurt Me by David GogginsStop Doing That Sht* and Unfuk Yourself* by Gary John BishopThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* and Everything is Fcked* by Mark MansonGood Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurstEnough is Enough by David E. ClarkeThe Comfort Crisis by Michael EasterWe explore essential lessons, like recognizing toxic patterns, taking ownership of your life, and understanding that action is the antidote to fear. I share how these books have helped me overcome challenges, reframe my mindset, and find strength. Listen in to learn practical strategies and discover why embracing discomfort is the key to transformation.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this special episode celebrating 250,000 downloads, I sit down with Paige for an honest, no-holds-barred Q&A. Together, we reflect on the journey through addiction, recovery, and what it took to rebuild our marriage from the ground up. Paige answers the questions people should be asking about recovery and what she has done to find success through a difficult journey —offering raw insights into the patience, struggles, and victories that come with loving someone through addiction.From moments of doubt to the habits that made us stronger, we dive deep into what it really takes to survive and thrive on the other side of addiction. Whether you're navigating recovery yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation is packed with valuable lessons, practical advice, and a glimpse into what’s kept us going through it all.Thank you for being part of this incredible journey—you are the sole reason we are here and we cannot thank you enough for listening along.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige explores the difference between anger and aggression, helping listeners understand how to express anger without letting it control them. She acknowledges that anger is a natural response to betrayal, harm, or crossed boundaries, but warns that reacting aggressively—yelling or lashing out—often shifts the focus away from the real issue and gives others an excuse to dismiss your needs.Paige discusses how aggression can leave us feeling disconnected from our authentic selves, trapping us in guilt and shame. Instead of trying to change others with anger, she emphasizes the importance of using anger constructively: setting boundaries, communicating assertively, and taking intentional action to protect yourself. Standing up for yourself isn’t about forcing others to see your point of view; it’s about honoring your own needs, values, and worth, even if others refuse to listen.She encourages listeners to pause before reacting, use “I” statements to stay in control of their emotions, and recognize that true power lies in how they respond—not in mirroring the chaos of addiction or manipulation. Paige reminds everyone that anger, when managed well, can become a powerful force for growth and change.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode tackles the real issue behind many struggling relationships—unequal partnership. It’s not just about addiction or bad behaviors, but the mental toll of a one-sided relationship. We explore the emotional impact of carrying the mental load—chronic stress, burnout, resentment—and highlight what true equal partnership looks like: shared responsibilities, open communication, mutual involvement in home life, and respect.We also challenge the myth that women “picked” unequal partners—society has normalized these imbalances. If you’re in an unequal partnership, it’s time to demand more. You deserve equality, respect, and a partner who shares the load.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode , Paige dives deep into the power of anger—how it can be both justifiable and destructive depending on how we manage it. Paige shares personal experiences of waking up angry, snapping at her kids, and the realization that controlling her reactions is key to healthier relationships and self-growth. She explains the difference between justifiable anger—when we’re betrayed, manipulated, or taken advantage of—and unjustified anger, which often stems from unmet expectations, insecurities, or misplaced frustration.Paige also discusses how emotional healing impacts our ability to regulate anger, especially during intense periods like PMS, and offers insights on how to pause, reflect, and choose better responses when anger arises. Whether you're in a relationship with an addict or struggling with unresolved feelings, this episode highlights the importance of understanding where you're anger is coming from.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Till the Wheels Fall Off, we explore the concept of “Gray Area Thinking”—a mindset that embraces nuance, complexity, and multiple truths in life. While we dive into the challenges of rigid, black-and-white thinking, we also recognize that in some instances, black-and-white thinking is necessary. We discuss when having clear, binary thinking can provide structure, safety, and clarity, particularly in situations involving boundaries, moral decisions, or safety concerns. However, we also highlight how adopting gray area thinking in other areas of life can improve decision-making, reduce anxiety, and lead to personal growth.We’ll share real-life examples, discuss the balance between black-and-white and gray area thinking, and provide actionable tips for shifting your mindset to embrace life’s complexities when needed. Tune in to learn how to let go of rigid judgments, find peace in the gray, and understand when clear lines can still serve you.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, Paige explores how to recognize personal growth, inspired by a community question. She shares ten key signs of growth, from handling once-overwhelming tasks like social anxiety, to responding to emotions with more patience, and developing healthier coping mechanisms. Paige reflects on her own journey, emphasizing how changes in communication, a reduced need for external validation, and even phases of cynicism can mark significant personal development. She encourages listeners to recognize that growth is a continuous process, often uncomfortable but necessary for self-improvement, and reminds them that the journey is worth it.This episode is perfect for anyone on a journey of self-improvement who’s wondering, Am I really growing? Spoiler: If you’re feeling uncomfortable but trying new approaches, you probably are!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we explore the fundamental differences between conflict in healthy relationships and marriages affected by addiction. Drawing on Dr. Gottman’s research, we unpack the “magic ratio” of 5:1 and how positive interactions can make love last, while also delving into the chaos and unpredictability that addiction brings into a partnership. We’ll discuss the key elements of healthy communication, how flaws differ in stable versus addictive relationships, and offer practical tips for fostering empathy, respect, and connection in any marriage. Whether you’re seeking to strengthen your relationship or understand the impact of addiction, this episode offers valuable insights. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige explores the power of viewing obstacles as challenges instead of letting them consume us. Inspired by Matt’s journey in addiction recovery, Paige shares how adopting a challenge mindset can transform difficult situations into opportunities for growth. From finding new routes on the way to school to cooking creatively with limited ingredients, she demonstrates how embracing challenges in everyday life leads to surprising solutions. The episode delves into how this mindset applies to bigger challenges like unequal partnerships, job loss, breakups, and health setbacks. Paige encourages listeners to reframe obstacles as opportunities and find empowerment in life’s most difficult moments.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we dive deep into the tangled web of "what if" scenarios that haunt spouses and partners of addicts. From "What if they change?" to "What if I leave and somebody else gets the version of them I always wanted? to "What if I lose myself completely by staying?" we’ll explore these questions using razor principles, cognitive biases, common sense and insights from personal experience to bring clarity and understanding to the fears and doubts that keep you tethered to uncertainty. We’ll address the most common anxieties surrounding addiction, including relapse, enabling behavior, boundary-setting, and the impact on children and family dynamics. This episode is all about facing the uncomfortable truths, challenging the cognitive distortions that hold us back, and offering a grounded, compassionate perspective for anyone struggling to navigate a relationship impacted by addiction. Whether you’re wrestling with the fear of leaving, the hope of change, or the guilt of enabling, this episode will help you cut through the chaos and find a path forward. Join us as we unravel the "what ifs" and empower you to make decisions rooted in logic, love, and self-respect.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, we dive into the concept of "rock bottom" and what it looks like for each of us. Paige brings some tough love, helping listeners recognize when they've hit their lowest point and offering practical advice on how to rise from it. She highlights the importance of clarity and commitment in these moments, challenging her audience to stop making excuses and start taking action.Paige shares her personal journey of hitting rock bottom and how she had to make hard sacrifices for the sake of her mental health. She emphasizes that staying in an unhealthy relationship or leaving one both require difficult choices and that self-preservation and mental health should be prioritized above all else. The episode touches on the need for resilience, adapting to changes, and finding the strength to rebuild, no matter the circumstances. Paige encourages listeners to stop waiting for someone else to fix things and take responsibility for their own lives, showing up for themselves and their loved ones. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode, we dive into the hard truths of what it’s really like to be with someone in recovery. Recovery isn’t a magical reset button; it's a long, painful process filled with challenges. You can’t just “start over” once someone gets sober—years of emotional immaturity, anger, and resentment come to the surface. It's not just about substance use, but about dealing with stunted growth and the unhealthy behaviors that persist or worsen even after sobriety.We'll tackle the complexities that partners face, from letting go of hypervigilance to managing the fear of relapse. We explore why setting boundaries is crucial, how building trust takes time, and the waves of resentment that often surface. You’ll hear about the difficulties of adjusting to an alcohol-free lifestyle, mourning the old life, and feeling isolated as your partner connects with a new sober community.This episode is packed with real-life questions from our community, addressing the fears, challenges, and emotional realities of being with someone in early recovery. Together, we’ll discuss what it means to truly heal and how to navigate these issues as a partner. Recovery is hard—emotionally, mentally, and relationally—but it’s possible to find a path forward, even if that means walking away to protect yourself.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into what it means to feel overwhelmed, especially when carrying the mental and emotional load of an unequal partnership or living with a partner struggling with addiction. Paige shares her personal experience with overwhelm, offering practical tips for finding clarity in the midst of chaos. From acknowledging your emotions to taking small steps, and clarifying your values, this episode gives listeners actionable advice for regaining control. Tune in to learn how to break through the fog of overwhelm and make empowered decisions for your well-being.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss the natural tendency to want to understand what is affecting your loved one if they struggle with addiction. Often times the journey of education is enlightening and fosters empathy and understanding, but it can also be a trap which keeps people stuck in a pattern of inaction. While understanding is important, it is not sufficient to "fix" anyone and runs the risk of keeping spouses and partners stuck in a loop of seeking to understand rather than taking action. We discuss benefits and possible dangers of over-intellectualizing addiction, we discuss separating the behaviors from the substance, and how you can take action to protect yourself and your family from an abusive situation that may cause you harm.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode highlights National Recovery Month, with Paige focusing on the recovery journey not only for addicts but also for their spouses and partners. She discusses the often-overlooked struggles of spouses, who experience emotional abuse, loss of their sense of self, and the need to rebuild their identity. She shares a letter from a spouse of an alcoholic, illustrating the emotional toll they endure. Paige also discusses the Independently Strong program, which guides spouses through their own recovery using the VEER method (Validate, Educate, Empower, Recover), offering an alternative to traditional programs like Al-Anon.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In the beginning, validation is KEY to the healing process, but at some point a decision has to be made. In this episode we discuss how to get from validation to making real changes in your life with the help of acceptance, impermanence, and the adoption of a growth mindset. So often our minds are geared toward guarantees and permanence so much so that we sacrifice the things we need for what is simply familiar. Come along with us as we discuss how we tackled growth within our marriage after addiction as well as in our personal lives and adopted a growth mindset.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode focuses on understanding the roles that optimism, realism, and pessimism play in handling life situations. Paige emphasizes that each perspective has its place and that balancing them is crucial for making informed and healthy decisions. She shares personal experiences, including being overly optimistic in the past and learning the importance of realism and even pessimism in certain situations. Paige encourages listeners to reflect on their own tendencies and to integrate aspects of all three perspectives to effectively navigate challenges. The episode underlines the importance of facing reality, acknowledging both positive and negative aspects of life, and using this balanced approach to empower oneself and make better decisions.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many people have experienced a situation where they are asked by someone struggling with addiction for "support." They will tug at heartstrings, elicit sympathy, ask for loyalty, and beg for support- but what are you supporting? If someone is asking for your support, but they are not making a recovery effort, is that really support? In this episode we talk about our own experience where asking for support was little more than leading someone on and asking for dismissal rather than asking for support for a genuine recovery effort. We dissect the various meanings of the phrase "I need your support" in our own past in hopes to validate many that are experiencing similar circumstances.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode from Paige's Perspective discusses the human tendency to care about what others think and the roots of people-pleasing behaviors. Paige reflects on how historically, humans lived in small, interconnected communities where fitting in was essential for survival. This instinct to please others was ingrained as a means to avoid ostracization. However, in the modern world, with access to diverse perspectives and communities, the need to conform to one’s immediate environment is less critical. Paige encourages embracing authenticity and going against the grain, even when it feels uncomfortable or when it goes against societal norms. She emphasizes the importance of finding a community that aligns with one’s true self, rather than trying to fit into a mold that doesn’t resonate personally. Paige also touches on how this mentality can be applied in daily life, such as making healthier lifestyle choices despite societal pressures and raising children to be authentic and independent thinkers. Ultimately, she advocates for letting go of the need to please others and living a life true to one’s values, even if it means standing out or facing criticism.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Transitional addiction or "switching addictions" refers to the phenomenon where an individual shifts from one addictive behavior to another during or after the process of recovery. This can occur when the underlying issues driving the addiction, such as emotional distress or unresolved trauma, are not fully addressed. Instead of confronting these root causes, a person might replace their original addiction (e.g., alcohol or drugs) with another form of compulsive behavior, such as excessive exercise, workaholism, pornography, collectables and shopping, or even an obsession with recovery itself. The key challenge is recognizing and managing these new behaviors to prevent them from becoming equally destructive. In this episode we discuss our experience with transitional addiction - the good, the bad, and the ugly.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we dive into the impact of negative self-talk and the importance of self-compassion. Paige shares her personal struggles with perfectionism, shame, and cognitive distortions, and discusses how these negative thought patterns can hold us back. She explores the difference between guilt and shame, offering practical strategies for challenging negative self-talk and embracing self-compassion. Join us as we learn to treat ourselves with the kindness we deserve, accept our imperfections, and grow through self-love and understanding.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Recovery is no doubt hard, but support is not required or deserved especially from the people substance abusers have hurt the most. In some situations, spouses and partners can feel like they're being held captive due to several factors: threats of self-harm if they leave a situation, phrases like "I cannot do this without you", being manipulated in various ways to keep you stuck in the cycle of dysfunction, financial control, isolation, guilt trips, and several other ways. Are you responsible for someone's recovery? No. You are not. You are no more responsible for their recovery than you are for their addiction and use. Is it helpful to have the support of loved ones in recovery? Yes. But it is not required and at some point we have to draw a line in the sand or create boundaries in order to keep ourselves safe from the dysfunction that is active addiction. In this episode we discuss signs that someone is effectively "holding you hostage" through manipulation and guilt, why this happens, and finally, what you can do about it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of "Paige's Perspective: Trusting Your Instincts," Paige explores the importance of reconnecting with our natural instincts in parenting, relationships, and life decisions. She reflects on how modern conveniences and societal pressures can sometimes dull our instinctual responses, leading us to second-guess our natural inclinations. Drawing from her experiences as a mother who resisted relying on gadgets, Paige emphasizes that trusting one's instincts is vital for both personal well-being and effective parenting. She discusses how allowing children to experience discomfort and challenges can build resilience and how, in relationships, instincts guide us toward setting boundaries, recognizing red flags, and seeking respect. Paige also offers practical tips for rebuilding trust in one's instincts through mindfulness, education, and balancing intuition with rational thinking. Ultimately, this episode is a call to return to basics, listen to our inner voice, and allow our instincts to guide us in making healthier, more authentic life choices.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!90 days is often cited as an appropriate time to commit to something in order to make it stick, but where does this come from? Can anything actually be changed in 90 days? Why 90 days rather than 21 or 300? In this episode we talk time in relation to change and discuss what types of change someone can make in addiction recovery, as well as what spouses and partners of a person with a substance abuse disorder can make in 90 days. You may think that there are haves and have-nots in the world and the changes you’d like to make simply aren’t in the cards for you, but we’re challenging you over the next 90 days to make meaningful change. YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS! ❤️Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode, we delve into the power of self-control. Inspired by an article on self-control by Steve Stewart-Williams, we explore its profound impact on our lives.Self-control isn't just self-care; it's the only thing we can truly control in life. From managing stress and improving physical health to enhancing relationships and professional success, self-control is crucial. We'll discuss its importance in delaying gratification, fostering perseverance, and achieving financial stability.Learn practical tips to boost self-control and discover mantras to reinforce your self-control and how leading by example can even benefit your children.Join me as we uncover the empowering truth that while we can't control others, we have the power to control ourselves and transform our lives. Remember, you are stronger than your impulses and excuses. Tune in and take the first step towards a more controlled and fulfilling life.Check out the article mentioned in the episode hereFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we're covering the concept of selfishness as it pertains to acts of self-care. In many ways working toward sobriety can be seen as "selfish" when it's actually an act of self-care that leads to the elimination of selfish behaviors over time. This is true for people in recovery as well as spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts. A person setting boundaries to protect their values is no more "selfish" than someone in recovery doing the same thing - but it's often not viewed that way. We break down what we believe to be actual selfish behaviors versus self-care, and then discuss how "codependency" is no more selfish than someone trying to preserve the things they hold most dear to them.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige discusses how she deals with a problem we all face - uncertainty. Whether you are in a relationship with an addict (which creates TONS of uncertainty) or someone that struggles with planning to the extreme, there are several helpful tools and tidbits buried in this episode that will help you reframe your perspective around planning. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are you REALLY asking for too much? Why do so many accept the bare minimum standard for involvement in a relationship? If you are left feeling unfulfilled in a relationship, what can be done about it? In this episode we touch on these questions and many more as we venture into relationship standards and why we believe that asking for an equal partner is not asking too much. Whether you are in a relationship with someone in active addiction, recovery, or a relationship unaffected by addiction, we believe the discussion will be enlightening. Our aim is to help you reclaim your sense of self love and self esteem with some actionable processes that will lead to empowerment so that you will be making decisions from a confident place rather than one of fear. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's Paige's perspective, Paige is covering anxiety and overwhelming emotions. Paige recounts her struggle with anxiety disorder and how she overcame debilitating anxiety, panic attacks, and overwhelming fears. She discusses the tools she uses to break free from anxious thoughts and how she rationalizes "what if" scenarios and shifts to being present and away from anxious thoughts. She goes on to further discuss her experience with being overwhelmed and how she works through immense feelings of dread and running out of time. Recovery from a relationship with addiction involved is MUCH more than simply recovering from things like "codependency" or self sacrificing. It requires a renewed mindset and tools such as different ways to frame anxiety and a pragmatic approach to being overwhelmed. We hope this episode is helpful for you as you grow stronger and empowered. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This is an episode designed more like a charcuterie board than a main course. We discuss Independently Strong because we don't think we've really ever done a great job at communicating what it's about and the value to someone in a relationship with a person struggling with addiction. We then get onto topics that are beneficial to you right here, right now. We discuss emotional resilience and ways to increase resilience through mental frameworks, as well as self-care activites. When you feel like you've given all you can in life, remember that you have survived 100% of your hardest days and you're actually MUCH stronger than you think.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Interdependence is important in our most intimate relationships. When one partner breaks down, we often find ourselves filling their cup and leaving ourselves empty. This is fine and well in relationships, but when addiction is involved the prolonged and persistent nature of the lack of support will leave you playing the role of both people...carrying an immense amount of weight. It's unsustainable. Rather than relying completely on someone to carry the traits you lack to "complete you" I like to think of a partner as a shining example of the traits I should develop as we work toward being two complimentary individuals, interdependent. Don't give up on your development such that you are left motionless and lost if anything happens to your relationship. In my opinion, this idea strengthens a marriage when both people are working toward this, not weaken. My goal has always been to be preferably with my partner, but fully capable without.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Please just hear me out. The person that sent this to you is not as crazy or out of touch or nagging as you think. I'm not going to try to convert you to anything, I've just been where you are and someone that loves you dearly wants you to know there's a way out. If you were sent this randomly by someone, please listen. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige discusses "fake it till you make it" and the importance of this annoying phrase and how there's actually something beautiful underneath it all. There are of course caveats, and all of them are discussed in this quick pick-me-up episode!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Betrayal trauma refers to the deep psychological harm that occurs when someone experiences a significant betrayal within a primary relationship such as a romantic partnership and it impacts the victim's sense of trust, safety, and security. Codependency doesn't come close to touching on the trauma experienced by spouses and partners of alcoholics, addicts, or people that have been affected by infidelity, but betrayal trauma does. In this episode we discuss betrayal trauma and its roots, as well as examples and the reasons the effects from betrayal fallout aren't as simple as picking up and moving on. Betrayal trauma has psychological, behavioral, and emotional effects that last long after the events that caused betrayal have passed.  You have been through significant trauma whether you realize it or not and your healing journey begins with understanding concepts such as this. We hope you glean some validation and assistance for what's next for you as you navigate your challenges. We're here for you every step of the way.Addiction Unlimited Podcast - This is the amazing episode on betrayal trauma referenced in the episode.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige dives deep into how she moved out of the cocoon phase and discusses timeframe, how she got started, and how fitness and self care really got the ball rolling. In working through the cocoon phase, you will discover that you can do hard things, push harder than you ever have before, and become the beautiful butterfly inside using tools learned within the cocoon phase. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss the cocoon phase of healing; a familiar place for many spouses and partners of alcoholics as they process the truth of their lives and relationships and begin to transition. The cocoon phase is important in the healing process or even through crisis as we reshape our identities, rediscover ourselves, grieve, regulate our emotions, learn, and establish boundaries. It feels scary and lonely, but there's massive benefit to this process for the resilience gained and the empowered person you will become on the other side.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, let's talk about how to budget the f**ks you give just like a bank account. For a spouse or partner affected by addiction, life is overwhelming and things that once garnered a lot of your attention need to be let go - and things you never thought twice about, MUST be given focus and attention. Everyone only has so much emotional bandwidth on any given day, so let's discuss how to best budget your attention and emotions so that you can care for yourself and the things that matter most.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Compassion is a beautiful characteristic and necessary to some degree in relationships, but there can be too much of a good thing.  While compassion is an important and valuable quality, excessive or misplaced compassion in such situations can lead to enabling harmful behaviors, compromising one's own well-being, and perpetuating the cycle of abuse or addiction. In this episode we discuss the importance of compassion, the ways in which it can be harmful to the spouse or partner of someone suffering from alcoholism or addiction, and how to balance compassion with boundaries and self-care.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Today marks the start of a new solo segment with Paige to supplement our regular weekly show to get you more help, more inspiration, and more lessons. It's called Paige's Perspective, and it's going to be a weekly message to our audience to provide more insight as to what a spouse's journey is like. This week Paige spends a moment to discuss something that many spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts struggle with - the perpetual thought that my feelings were broken, not the relationship. Why can I not tolerate drinking and marriage like everyone else? Why can't I just let things go? Why do I feel this way? You're not crazy, you never were. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Many times spouses and partners are lost in a maze of issues that leave confusion and trouble answering a simple question, "What am I recovering from? What defines my recovery?" A marriage or relationship with an alcoholic or addict or a narcissistic or abusive person leaves the victim with issues ranging from PTSD, depression, anxiety disorder, "codependency" as Alanon calls it, or a range damage and it's complex. Much like someone with addiction is simply not recovering from substance abuse, recovery requires a journey involving therapy, support communities, self-work, and plenty of realizations along the way. In this episode we spend time discussing Paige's recovery and specifically, moving from naive and innocent to angry and cynical, ultimately to wisdom and knowing when to trust the right people and when to exclude harmful people from your world. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance responsible for someone's behavior? Is it easier to forgive someone's bad behavior because they're addicted? Should compassion for a struggling addict or alcoholic overshadow your needs for an equal partner, or for honesty in a relationship? With all of the information on addiction that ranges from choice to disease, it's incredibly hard to know what you should have tolerance for and what you shouldn't. We propose something that worked for us - focus on the behaviors and how they affect you and cast aside the substance. It has been our experience that the substance only made existing behaviors more severe, but it was not the cause of all of them. Long after the substance was removed, many of the harmful behaviors within our relationship remained. We discuss the benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than the substance to bring clarity to a relationship or marriage where addiction is present. We also discuss some of the common ways alcoholics and addicts use the addiction as an excuse for their behaviors and how this keeps spouses "trapped." We touch on the dangers of long-term lying and emotional abuse from an addicted person and how these things affect a spouse, and why many of the harmful behaviors you identify hang around long after the substance is gone. Our goal for the episode was to highlight the fact that it's not the substance that causes harm, it's the behaviors that come along with addiction and how they affect you, your children, and your environment. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We continue to answer listener submitted questions in this episode and address the following: 1. How do you learn to trust yourself and your instincts again when an alcoholic spouse has crippled your sense of self.2. How involved should a spouse or partner be in the decisions around treatment (rehab), aftercare (IOP/PHP/sober living), and even maintenance programs.3. How soon is too soon to start discussing ways the addiction impacted you, the marriage, your children. A spouse or partner discussing their trauma is incredibly important, but for many also a trigger for relapse.4. How to handle friends and family distancing themselves from you once they become aware of how alcoholism and addiction have impacted you and the relationship.5. Can a problem drinker ever learn to moderate again?We rapid-fire through these questions submitted by our wonderful community and we hope the discussion is helpful!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We took listener questions for this episode and you can expect to find answers to questions such as: What should you expect when outside life events impact the recovery process, how to handle relapse, can trust be rebuilt after several relapses, is there a point at which trust is no longer on the table, how to handle the shame and guilt that comes from others when you stay in a relationship they don't approve of, how to get what you need out of a partner in early recovery, and much more! Thank you to everyone that submitted a question, and we hope to be able to do more of these in the near future! With so few resources for partners and spouses of alcoholics and addicts, we aim to be your voice and your primary source for content related to your life like nobody else can. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The recovery journey for a spouse or partner of an alcoholic or addict is not as organized as that of a substance abuser and it's far less controlled. Treatment centers, IOP and PHP programs all over the country offer solace to people struggling from addiction and a safe place for them to get away from their environment to focus on themselves for 30, 60, 90 days or more. The spouse has been clear minded the entire time through active addiction, they pick up extra slack in the relationship, and this continues onward whether someone is working towards sobriety or not. With so little time to focus on the damage caused from emotional and psychological abuse, the recovery journey for a spouse or partner is longer, harder, and far less clear than that of someone with an addiction treatment plan. In this episode we cover some of the reasons the journey of a spouse or partner may take longer than a substance abuser, and discuss some ways you can avoid some of the same pitfalls we encountered.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are they serious? Is this normal? How can you tell if someone is really invested in their recovery? In the world of addiction recovery, it's not exactly cut and dry. There are many paths to recovery, and we aren't concerned with how someone recovers, but as to whether real investment into sobriety and accountability are present.  In this episode we discuss the many words, attitudes and actions that will give you more clarity as to whether someone is serious about their recovery and rebuilding a relationship or if you have reason to be concerned. Whether it's your husband, wife, partner, or child this episode will no doubt shed some light on whether your suspicions are in fact warranted.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Exploring the harsh reality of abuse and its profound impact on spouses, families, and children is no easy feat. Often, we're tempted to deny its existence in our own lives, but that's a dangerous oversight. Our vision gets clouded; we shift blame to addiction or other factors, failing to see the deeper roots of the problem. True liberation demands that we confront uncomfortable truths head-on. It requires tough conversations and even tougher choices.In this episode, we delve into recognizing abuse and its insidious effects. We share our own journeys, revealing how it took us years to acknowledge the harsh reality. Truth can be painful, but it's the path to freedom. As we navigate these difficult discussions, remember, we're here for you every step of the way.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss anhedonia, or what's commonly referred to as the "blah" feelings of early recovery for both the person coming out of substance abuse, as well as the spouse or partner. We cover the science behind anhedonia as well as what you can do to lessen its effects on your life and get back to feeling better. Many people report feeling "foggy", restless and fatigued, anxious, trouble feeling joy or excitement, and generally numb in early recovery. For many people this leads to relapse, but luckily it's temporary in the vast majority of cases. Likewise, spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts go through a period of similar feelings as their loved one experiences these symptoms and they mourn the loss of a life they dreamed of as reality sets in. We've been there before and we've got your back through this.Treehouse Recovery: Emotional Flatlining - How to deal with anhedonia Addiction Explained, Rises & Falls in Dopamine: Dr. Andrew HubermanFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Simply removing the substance accomplishes very little. The term dry drunk refers to someone that has not done "the work." The work is the uncovering of root causes and discovering the "why" behind someone's inability to cope with feelings and emotions that caused them to turn to drinking in the first place. In this episode we discuss dry drunk as well as emotional sobriety and offer our experience that sheds light on what it takes to move past dry drunk and physical sobriety into emotional sobriety and true freedom from addiction. This episode features our answers to Wheelie submitted questions and it was a great conversation. Don't forget to leave a review and subscribe to the show!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Phrases such as "We just need to move forward," "The past is the past, get over it," "Stop bringing up the past" may have a time and place, but not in your relationship post-addiction or after betrayal of any kind. Emotions buried alive never die. While it may be difficult to discuss the past, it's important to discuss it for accountability and to set the stage for healing in the future. When you say "We're not bringing up the past" you're effectively saying that your feelings of guilt and shame are more important than your partner's feelings of betrayal and abandonment. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In general, we don't like to be angry. It's uncomfortable and then we're faced with the proposition of confronting someone that has upset us which brings about an entirely new challenge. When it comes to anger with someone in active addiction, it's often futile to address concerns in a constructive way. So then what can you do with the anger? We propose repurposing it into something useful. It you're going to be angry, you might as well do something with it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we discuss some of the lessons we've learned in 4,000 days of sobriety. We discuss pain management, and our partnership with Aleve in their new awareness campaign called "The Painful Truth." Our story is as much about healthy and safe pain management as it is addiction recovery and we discuss what pain management looks like today. We get personal and talk about the beauty of a recovered life and our family weekend where every aspect of the lessons we learned were on display. Patience, gratitude, mindfulness and presence, spirituality, reframing positivity and hope, and acceptance were all on display within a short time period and it's important to remember that things CAN get better if you're willing to work for it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Being labeled a "Villain" is hurtful when you're just trying to protect yourself and your family. In this episode we delve into the complexities of being labeled the "villain" in someone else's story. Paige candidly shares her journey of grappling with self-esteem issues while navigating the role of the villain and the necessity of setting boundaries to protect herself. We explore the challenges of embracing this role for personal growth.  We once again tackle the vital topic of setting boundaries and dealing with criticism, shedding light on the dynamics of toxic relationships and their detrimental effects on mental health. Through personal anecdotes and insights, we stress the importance of accountability, authenticity, and trusting one's instincts in navigating toxic dynamics and fostering personal growth. While being labeled a villain and hearing untruths is never easy, it does get easier over time and it's frankly better than the alternative.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we cover a particular type of grief common when loving an addicted person called ambiguous loss. Ambiguous loss is a profound sense of loss and sadness that does not stem from the death of a loved one. It may arise from a lack of emotional connection despite someone's physical presence, or conversely, the persistence of emotional ties in the absence of physical closeness. This type of loss leads individuals on a quest for answers, complicating and prolonging the grieving process, often leaving grief unresolved. The standard 5-step process of grief is not always applicable to partners and spouses of alcoholics and addicts and you've probably felt this before when reading about grief. You know you're grieving, but the literature isn't adding up. We take some time to talk about why. We take a deep dive into the work of Dr. Pauline Boss and her pioneering of ambiguous loss and how to develop resiliency to get through it. Articles and Study Referenced in Episode:Ambiguous Loss: A Complicated Type of Grief When Loved Ones Disappear (PDF)Resilience in Ambiguous Loss - American Journal of PsychotherapyThe Ambiguous Loss of Loving an Addict and Letting Them Go (Psychology Today)Craving love? Enduring Grief Activates Brain’s Reward Center (Study)Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Is the drinking really as bad as I feel it? Is this a serious problem or am I making something out of nothing? Did I sign up for this? Do I need to just suck it up? Am I overthinking or is my gut trying to tell me something?Addiction never feels like you think it would...chances are if you're asking yourself questions such as this, you're in it. We answer questions from our community in this episode and distill complex problems into clear, simple answers. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Overthinking can plague your mind with many scenarios, many of which are negative and lead to tumultuous thoughts and anxiety. It's more common today than it has ever been and it's not just unique to spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts. Paige has recovered from anxiety disorder and is a self-professed recovered overthinker. We discuss the traps of overthinking and suggest some ways to break the habit that will lead to a more positive and realistic outlook of your life and the situations you encounter.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The state of denial never feels like you think it would feel...Most people believe they can intuitively recognize when they're in a bad situation but that's rarely the case. Denial can be a comfortable place to be, but it will suffocate you over time. We discuss 10 truth bombs about denial and our hope is that from this episode you'll be able to distill the true from the false and gain clarity on the facts of your life and relationship.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Infidelity was not part of our story, but we get questions about it weekly. Does the cloud of substance abuse excuse infidelity? Was it really them making the decision to cheat? How do I know if them saying it's not their fault is true? How do you rebuild a relationship after infidelity? We answer these questions and more in our discussion on infidelity from listeners and we hope you glean some much needed answers from it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We took questions from the community and extracted the most commonly asked questions about emotional and physical intimacy. We've never openly talked about our sex life or thoughts on it, but we get open and discuss all things intimate in this episode. We talk about how to rebuild intimacy, why men view sex differently, why sex drive plummets for people in early recovery, and talk about how addiction affects this crucial aspect of relationships.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If it were as simple as saying "Just love yourself" then wouldn't everybody have a high self-esteem? The work that takes place within a spouse or partner to rebuild after addiction is something we've talked about for a while, but never like this. Paige opens up in a way she never has before with details on the journey of rebuilding her self-esteem, loving and trusting herself again, and the role validation played in her recovery. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Books like "Codependent No More" and programs like CODA or Alanon offer a lot of helpful insight on the topic of codependency. Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship pattern where one person's self-worth and identity become excessively reliant on the approval and needs of another person. Codependency does explain some of the behaviors that take place in an addicted relationship, but the story is a bit more complex than this. The "Lost" feelings that many spouses and partners have are sometimes the byproduct of abusive behaviors, gaslighting and the calculated altering of someone's reality in order to keep the addicted train rolling. That is, codependency doesn't tell the whole story and therefore focusing deeply on it as the solution will not fix the entire issue. Simply working on your codependent behaviors will not get you to your end goal of a happy and healthy relationship, nor will it address the trauma from years of abuse that is often present in addicted relationships. Just focusing on your codependency or your own issues and not acknowledging the why of these behaviors is a failure to examine the role that abuse plays in a romantic relationship. In this episode we discuss some of our own healing that was necessary due to the years of gaslighting, mistreatment, devaluing, and disregard of basic human needs in our relationship. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Being a parent is HARD. The emotional labor and mental weight of decisions rests  heavy on healthy couples in equitable relationships. Factor in addiction, and you often have all of the responsibilities of parenting amplified exponentially onto one parent...on top of the weight and uncertainty of being in a relationship with a substance abuser. We discuss the mental load of motherhood and Celeste Yvonne's book, "It's Not About the Wine" to gain an understanding of what "de facto single parents" are facing every day. We touch on the unique challenges that parents face when their partner is absent in addiction - the responsibilities of caring for children, keeping a home in order, working, paying bills, and wondering when you will ever find time for yourself. Even in circumstances when there is no help from the village in sight, the heaviest burdens sometimes come from within.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Self-care...oh my. We hear so much about self-care. There are industries devoted to it, so many opinions and options, and the reality is that very few of them apply to people in survival mode. Self-care IS necessary for your wellbeing and recovery, but many of the diets, exercise regimens, morning routines, etc are frankly too much for someone that is struggling to get out of bed. In this episode we discuss what GENTLE self-care looks like as we graduate to higher levels of ability in the recovery journey for spouses and partners. If you are struggling to get out of bed and someone tells you to change your entire diet, eat five clean meals a day, and spend 45min meditating each morning, it's likely going to fail and put you into a place where you feel even more hopeless. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!With a new year comes reflection of the past. We consider what worked, what didn't and what needs to change moving forward into the new year. This episode is designed to be worked with a worksheet that you can find on our website in the blog section, and we strongly encourage you to follow along with us. We review our lives in 2023 and discuss successes, failures, what we wanted to get done that never came to fruition, and what we aim to change in the next year of our lives. There is no better time than now to take an honest inventory of the past year and decide on what you are going to do different this year. This episode covers not only addiction recovery as the spouse or partner of an alcoholic or addict, but your entire life. Join us and feel free to hop in the community to share your insights and what you liked (or didn't like) about this episode.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!If I'm doing what's best for me, why do I feel guilty? Even when we do what we know is best for us and our families, we have feelings of intense guilt in leaving a toxic relationship or even setting boundaries in one. We discuss natural (healthy) guilt versus manufactured guilt (unhealthy) and why this happens. We discuss our own personal experiences in dealing with these emotions and provide some clarity to know when you should reconsider the guilt you feel. It's a seldom discussed topic in addicted relationship dynamics and we hope you gain some insight to your situation and yourself.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We take listener questions from our community and inbox from time to time and we're going to answer a great question today. Often times addicts and alcoholics will justify relapses or use because of difficult life events . E.g., loss of loved ones, loss of employment, relationship troubles, stress, family drama, you name it. We discuss today how we have coped through difficult seasons in life and remained sober and happy as a couple in this quick special edition episode.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We've covered detaching with love before, but the concept deserves further exploration. Detaching with love is paradoxical. We know how to be in love, and we know how to detach...but detaching with love? It's a grey area concept that is rather difficult. It's required as part of the healing process for spouses and partners and involves reframing our expectations of our addicted spouse or partner. We walk through the concept in this episode and discuss its challenges, tips for achieving it, and how to compassionately detach from a relationship. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!TWFO welcomes Dr. Christopher S. Taylor to the show to discuss a litany of topics such as healing, addiction, narcissism, abuse, boundaries, codependency, and much more. Dr. Taylor is the clinical architect behind Independently Strong's new course designed to help spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts on their own recovery journeys. A hope held by many is that there is a simple solution to a vastly complex problem such as how to navigate a relationship and boundaries with someone in active addiction and Dr. Taylor does a marvelous job in shedding light on the process of healing and making the complicated, seem less so. Be sure to stick around until the very end on this one and let us know what you think by leaving a review!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It's incredibly hard to communicate to friends and family what it's like being in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic, or even an abusive person...they ask the obvious "Why are you still with them?!" followed by suggestions and advice that often make people feel belittled, invalidated, and alone. This episode serves as a bridge between what your loved one wants to say, and what they may have trouble saying. We ask that you listen to this episode in its entirety with an open heart and mind so that you can gain an understanding of your loved one's situation and become a true ally in their journey of empowerment and recovery.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we go somewhere we've never gone before and have a discussion as parents, rather than a couple focusing on an addicted relationship. Talking to kids about addiction is extremely difficult to navigate, it's even more difficult when you're talking to them about their own mother or father. We touch on ways to address the subject in an age appropriate way, what not enough discussion and too much discussion looks like, boundaries around details, parentification and emotional incest, and much much more.Age Appropriate Books: https://www.shatterproof.org/blog/12-childrens-books-about-addiction-and-recoveryFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The final part in a series on communication covers what healthy communication looks like. We often disregard the need for healthy communication and "Stick with what we know" but there are tried and true methods to effectively communicate your needs and let others feel heard in the process. We discuss these methods and what has worked for us, we clear up the old "I shouldn't have to ask" argument, talk about what's fight worthy and what's not, whether men can and should be able to read minds, and much much more! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!All I want for Christmas is normalcy...Who can relate? The holidays with an addicted loved one bring an entirely new set of challenges to an already stressful season and it's difficult to navigate. The holidays can be a time of extreme anxiety for spouses and partners of addicts and alcoholics due to the need to put on our best face, and juggle the uncertainty of having a volatile and addicted loved one. In this episode we discuss expectations around the season, tips for boundaries regarding holiday gatherings, ways to support someone in early sobriety around the holidays, and the need for self care for spouses and partners.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We continue our communication in recovery series by touching on some of the intricacies of communicating with someone in early recovery. Early recovery presents a unique set of challenges for the recovering person as well as the spouse. Often times spouses and partners want to "Get back to normal" and begin to work on their trauma but we discuss why this isn't always the best plan. We touch on several tips for communication styles and tricks that we found helpful in early recovery and how to navigate some of the most common challenges.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The most common question we get is "How do I help them to get sober?" Unfortunately there is not magic solution, but any progress is going to include communication. This episode begins a series of episodes regarding communication at various stages in someone's recovery journey. This first episode in the series covers communicating with someone in active addiction. This is perhaps the most difficult period of communication as we battle the one-way street nature of a relationship with an active alcoholic or addict. We cover some  of the challenges, tips on how to best communicate with someone in active addiction, the importance of communication in all healthy relationships and much more. We summarize the conversation with a discussion on detaching with love, managing expectations, and how to achieve acceptance in turmoil. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Triggers. The word comes up often in addiction treatment but we're going to shift the discussion to triggers that exist for spouses and partners of people that suffer from a substance abuse disorder. Our conversation today is designed to help people that are with someone in early or established sobriety.  We touch on the origins of triggers and ways to mitigate their severity and ways to have discussions around triggers. Triggers that exist in a relationship where the addiction is active are discussed, but as you'll hear it's often futile as it's very difficult to heal in an environment where your wounds are still very much open.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The conclusion of our message to those in active addiction, or in sobriety discusses the spouse's perspective with the intent to create empathy. Addiction is HARD and nobody will ever question that for one moment, but it's still important to understand that within a relationship the world does not pause for the spouse like it does for the person in treatment or spending time on their recovery. While a time investment in sobriety is a requirement to create real change, we must learn how to balance our new routines, triggers, with our relationship and hold space for our spouse/partner's experience.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We continue with our message to people in early sobriety with a discussion about the disease concept of addiction, and whether the disease model excuses abusive behavior in a relationship. We dig into the real meat of our overarching theme and discuss accountability, validation of feelings, and offer a different (albeit controversial) perspective on the acknowledgment and validity of abusive behavior in active addiction. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Reactive abuse (defense) occurs when the victim of abuse responds to the mistreatment they're enduring. Often times feelings of guilt are present and the victim then feels like an abuser themself. It's important to recognize that reactive defense does not constitute abuse in itself and in many cases is an involuntary reaction to ongoing abuse. Abusers seize the opportunity of these reactions as evidence or "Proof" that they themselves are victims of abuse, shifting blame onto the victim. The volatile nature of relationships where addiction is present leads to many of these instances. This episode is designed to educate victims of abuse and soften the guilt they have around their reactions to abusive behavior.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We've been asked to create sharable content for your partners and spouses, so here it is. We hope it's helpful in some way. This is part one that focuses on the benefits of a sober life together.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The process of empowerment is a journey that takes up time many don't feel they have in the immediacy of a chaotic marriage or relationship. Paige takes a moment to discuss her journey of empowerment and healing while she reintroduces herself. We discuss the timeframe for healing, challenges along the way, and why it's so difficult to discuss being in a relationship with an alcoholic or addict. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Our discussion this week is split into two parts. The first half focuses on ways in which addiction affects the family unit. We dive in to the subtle and not-so-subtle ways living with an addict can have emotional and psychological affects on partners, spouses, and children. The second half of our discussion focuses on the current resources available for spouses, specifically Al-Anon. We discuss our thoughts on the program as a whole and what's wonderful about it, and then what we believe it lacks. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode is special in so many ways. It marks one year of Till The Wheels Fall Off, we have our first guests on, and we hear one of the greatest stories from two of the most amazing people we've ever known. Steve and Kristine were happily married when addiction derailed their relationship. Kristine spent 12 years in a relationship with an active addict when she decided she finally had enough. It was ultimately the decision to leave that woke Steve up and opened his eyes to what addiction had done to his life. Steve has one of the most powerful messages of recovery we've ever heard, and Kristine's strength and resilience is utterly amazing. Their journey is a testament to the power of taking care of yourself when addiction wrecks your marriage, and how leaving someone can save a life. Learn more about Steve and Kristine's sober living home here by visiting www.hopelivinghouse.comFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The line between challenging your partner to live up to their potential and controlling them is blurry...Often when we challenge people we're labeled as "Controlling" but that's not always the case. Today we discuss the difference between challenging someone or holding them accountable versus controlling them. Challenging someone and growing alongside each other is a mutual process and the byproduct of a healthy relationship. When it comes to addiction however...it's not always so clear.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your intentions are bullsh...well, not totally, but pretty much. Intentions can be extremely valuable in certain situations to provide context but intentions do not excuse behavior. Often times substance abusers or toxic people will ask that their intentions become the metric by which their behavior should be judged, but this is dangerous and damaging to partners and families. Empathetic and caring loved ones want to give the benefit of the doubt, often to their own detriment. While substance abusers may not mean to hurt the ones they love, they do in fact hurt the ones they love. We discuss weighing actions vs intentions and how to balance the two competing influences and when to consider each.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!An issue under the surface of what we often discuss is the role of the substance abuser or emotional abuser is that these people are often men. More so than the addiction that wrecks the marriages, families, and friendships of our listeners and clients is the underlying feeling that "Something is going on with men these days." We began to explore this in conversation, then in research, and our determination is that there may be something to this notion after all. We dig into the issues affecting men today, what's behind it, how addictions of all kinds play a role, and we want your feedback. Give us your thoughts on this episode by leaving a review, comment, or by sending an email or message. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!"Should I stay or should I go?" paraphrases a question we get maybe more than any other. This episode hopefully brings some clarity to what REAL change and progress in a relationship looks like, so you can gauge your partner's willingness and capacity to do the hard work. Alcoholism and addiction are just one area of recovery they must tackle...but emotional abuse, psychological abuse, and physical abuse are entirely different monsters to deal with in true recovery. Join us as we discuss and bring clarity to the thinking behind the question, "Should I stay or should I go?"Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Trauma bonding occurs when someone becomes overly loyal or attached to another individual who exhibits toxic behavior. This is highly prevalent in narcissistic relationships but it exhibits itself in many relationships where addiction is present. Today we discuss the reasons trauma bonding occurs and how to break free from a toxic situation.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!A slippery slope topic...What role should you play in your loved one's recovery and what is the best way to support someone in recovery? What are the do's and don'ts, what actions lead to success, what do I need to know? How does any of this work?! All thoughts that race through the mind of anyone that has a loved one battling addiction. We discuss our experience and things we found beneficial for someone in recovery in this episode.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It's okay to be mad. It's okay. Healing starts after the pain is acknowledged and your feelings are validated. Today we discuss the lack of coverage of the spouse/partner in an addicted or alcoholic relationship and how isolating it can feel. We explore theories on why the stories of the spouse are not discussed or shared, and offer hope to anyone suffering in the midst of an addicted relationship. Recovery is possible and it's not as easy as the world would like you to think.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The final episode in our boundaries series covers the review, installation, and experience of living with boundaries. We discuss in depth what "Healthy" boundaries look like and ways to review them before having the conversation around them.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In part two of our boundaries series we are picking up right where we left off and furthering the discussion around violations of our values. Once we have established our values, it's now important to look outward at the behaviors and actions that lead to uncomfortable feelings (aka violation of our values) so that the boundary and the need for it becomes more clear. We discuss a variety of behaviors that lead to uncomfortable feelings and we encourage you to expound upon our examples and give us some feedback!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We get asked about setting boundaries more than any single topic so we're creating a 3-part series to break down the process to help you master the technique. In part one we start with the foundation by asking the question, "What are your values?" Your values are the vessel from which every decision you make going forward will come from. Let's get to work!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!We took to our accounts to field questions from YOU and we think this episode is AMAZING! We really enjoyed making this one and we'd love to do more of them in the future so please ask away!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Forgiveness is an incredibly complex topic. Many times we feel that forgiving someone is the same as condoning their behavior and that we are "Letting them win" as we drop our guard and decide to give them another chance. That could not be farther from the truth. Forgiveness is a gift that we give ourselves, and sometimes other people. We discuss what forgiveness is, what it isn't, how to forgive, and how to forgive yourself for your past.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Gaslighting was the buzzterm of 2022 and as it turns out, many people misuse it. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where an individual's perception of reality is repeatedly undermined or questioned by another person. Gaslighting is common in addict and codependent relationships and it's something we have firsthand experience with. Join us today as we discuss gaslighting, how to identify the action within a relationship, and finally what to do about it when you're in it.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This is a listener requested topic that covers how two people working toward better versions of themselves also strengthen the relationship and not lose sight of the overarching thing that brought them together in the first place. We discuss some of the basic foundations of any strong relationship and dive into the caveats that are unique to two people working on bettering themselves in recovery.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Dysfunction is sneaky. One moment you're enjoying life and the next you're wondering how in the world you ended up in the situation you're in. Whether it's a relationship, job, family dynamic, or any number of situations we find ourselves in they all have something in common...US! Today we discuss the origins of dysfunctional or toxic situations and common examples, why we end up in these situations in the first place, and lastly how to get out of them. Although your situation may vary, these tools and ideas are a GREAT starting place to set you off on a path of fulfillment as you surround yourself with people, places, and things that enhance your life rather than control them. The formula for forming boundaries within an addict/alcoholic relationship is very similar to those around your career and this topic is applicable for nearly any predicament you find yourself in. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Break rules to find balance in your life! Rules are made to be broken. It's cliche but we believe it to be true when it comes to growth and personal development. Rules can have the effect of "Boxing us in" to an identity or a role and questioning them often leads to new perspectives and thoughts that are the foundation of positive change. Join us today on our discussion of how rules inhibit growth and stall personal development. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The word "Codependency" gets a really bad rap. The word conjures imagines of someone obsessed with a partner that cannot function without them. It's often used to describe "Needy" behavior but it's much much deeper. In this episode we explore codependency as it relates to not only addiction but relationships in general. We cover the traits of someone that is emotionally enmeshed or self-sacrificing for other people in their lives and some tools to work through the trait. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Acceptance isn't a black or white subject...but it's often perceived as exactly that. True, ruthless acceptance involves accepting our lives, people, places, and things as permanent and unchangeable and only by accepting them as they are can we find happiness. This sounds nice in theory but it often results in calamity, discontentedness and unhappiness as we allow toxic situations or people to steamroll us. Let's discuss what healthy acceptance looks like and how to find balance between what we can control and what we cannot control.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Whether you're in a relationship with an addict/alcoholic or in a relationship with a narcissist or perhaps an incredibly stubborn person, we feel an insistence to encourage them to behave in certain ways. The result is rarely change on the part of the other person and instead ends up in frustration and endless arguments for us. Join us on this episode as we discuss how to deal with someone that refuses to change or lacks the self awareness to change and more importantly how WE can change ourselves to create happiness and contentment with or without these people in our lives.Check out the Counseling For The Future Foundation and make a donation for the betterment of mental health.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!There is more written about excuses and why we shouldn't make them than anyone could possibly read...yet we all still make them. Why is that? What's behind our excuses and what are we actually doing when we place blame on an external factor or event rather than taking accountability? In this episode we talk about several examples of people that had every excuse in the world not to succeed, and did it in spite of their limitations...we'll also dive into the psychology of excuses and discover what purpose they actually serve that may shed light on how to avoid making them in the future.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your oldest friends are the easiest to get along with. Why is that? It's because the foundation of that relationship requires little to no maintenance to ensure love and understanding are always at the core of each interaction. People pleasing is a common distortion that many of us work through and it can be the cause of high maintenance relationships. Set expectations early and surround yourself with low maintenance people to ensure happiness and time for self-care.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!So often we spend hours tormenting ourselves trying to think ourselves out of a problem, emotion, or feeling. Sometimes thinking is helpful, but action is ALWAYS helpful. Journaling is an incredible exercise that creates action that leads to change. Join us as we discuss some personal struggles we have journaled and tips on improving your journaling skills. We've got a great tip for scathing work emails too!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This week we celebrate 10 years of recovery and positive change! The journey from addiction to recovery has been long and hard fought, but this lesson is applicable to ANYONE'S life. If you are wanting to make change in your life and better your mindset, accomplish new goals, change yourself for the better, or rid yourself of toxic thinking and/or habits you need to hear this one!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Today we discuss the importance of communication and reveal the secret behind getting what you need in a relationship. Husband won't help out around the house? Employees not doing what they're supposed to? Listen up and try this!Check out TWFO on Moving on AGAIN Podcast with the link below. Be sure to check out all their episodes and explore their AMAZING content:TWFO on Moving On AGAIN Podcast - AppleTWFO on Moving On AGAIN Podcast - SpotifyFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are you failing right now? Congratulations! When we learn to recognize failure as a building block of success it takes on a whole new light.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Boundaries in a relationship are often misunderstood, misused, and undefined. We discuss what boundaries are, what boundaries aren't, how to set them, and how to follow through so that you are protected. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Life is a lot like jazz, it's best when you improvise. It's impossible to get upset when you practice acceptance and improvise to make the most out of difficult situations. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Work Life Balance. It seems so simple, doesn't it? I work, then I fulfill my family duties and live out my passions personally. For some, (myself included) my work has come to define me and separating myself from it isn't always so easy. Let's explore what processing an emotion looks like as we look at work life balance. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Spirituality is a foundation of self development and happiness. This is a conversation we never wanted to have at one point in our lives, but it's one we cannot discount when looking at our lives today. Countless studies have been done and the correlation between happiness and spirituality is very clear. As former atheists/agnostics this journey was long but we found the realm of the spirit does not make too hard of terms with those that seek it. It is available to all. Books Discussed:Change Your Thoughts Change Your Life - Dr. Wayne Dyerhttps://a.co/d/2BmZ4xWRefuge Recovery: A Buddhist Path to Recovering from Addiction - Noah Levinehttps://a.co/d/2BmZ4xWRuthless Trust: The Ragamuffin's Path To God - Brennan Manninghttps://a.co/d/2FnjxyaThe Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment - Eckhart Tollehttps://a.co/d/7jr93rLCounterfeit Gods: The Empty Promises of Money, Sex, and Power, and the Only Hope that Matters - Timothy Kellerhttps://a.co/d/gqiLhSWThe Alchemist - Paulo Coelhohttps://a.co/d/b7tHX2FFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Triggers are open wounds inside our minds that lead to reactions disproportionate to the present event. The goal here is to learn how to cope with triggers differently, not avoid them completely. Triggers are also opportunities to identify pieces of us that need more work.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Couples will openly talk about their sex lives before they dare talk about their money. Why is this? We discuss why financial discussions are important to intimacy in relationship  and how they're likely the most important conversation you AREN'T having. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Accountability partners aren't going to save you from putting food in your mouth and sponsors won't slap the drink out of your hand. This week we discuss how to become the CEO of your own life and stop making your goals contingent on other people's actions.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Personality comes from the latin word "Persona" , which refers to a theatrical mask worn by performers to play roles or disguise their identities. In the ancient world, a persona was a mask worn by an actor. If masks can be removed, then can we change our personality? Yes! Let's discuss!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Detaching with love from an addict partner, child, friend, or family member is difficult. Whether they are in recovery or in the flames of it, taking care of yourself must be a priority. Join us as we discuss the journey from being codependent to emotionally independent and learning to love ourselves regardless of the addict's behavior. We receive more questions about this topic than any other and we believe there's hope in our message of recovery for the codependent.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In our first of two episodes about the addiction that nearly tore our family apart, Matt recounts his battle with opioid and alcohol addiction. An emotional recount of a story about how love persevered and hope for anyone in the midst of an addiction or in a relationship with someone. Stick around for Paige's side of the story next week!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Adversity is essential to growth and independence. When we conquer a challenge we grow and learn but it's becoming rare as parents helicopter ever closer and step in for their kids at every opportunity. There is balance between exposing kids to healthy adversity and being a comforting, supportive parent. Embrace the grey area between with us!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Resolutions fail because they lack depth and weight. In 2023, promise to challenge yourself. Let's take an inventory, explore solutions, and take action that will get you where you want to be. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Whether we feel the loss of the season and mourn or feel completely overwhelmed from the "Peopling" we have to do with each party there are tough emotions to manage as we exit the holiday season. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!It’s story time! This story has become lore in our family and friend circles. For story time this week we re-live an iconic breakdown over Queso…that’s right…cheese sauce. My wife threatened to take the kids and leave if I tossed out some terrible queso. It sounds as ridiculous as it was and it’s hilarious. You won’t want to miss this one!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!With Christmas fast approaching and everyone in survival mode, we decided to go light this week. Find out what drives us nuts about each other and let us know what weird pet peeves you have with your S/O on IG! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!"All or Nothing Thinking" or "Black and White Thinking" or "Polarized Thinking" are all terms given to a cognitive distortion wherein the individual has a skewed sense of reality. Things often appear much worse than they are in reality, causing depression and anxiety. If you tend to be an all or nothing type of person, we have solutions. This may be our worst produced episode yet, but there's a reason for it. Listen up and let's grow together!Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Special Episode! Settle in, make sure your kids aren’t close and grab a seat for this special “Story Time” episode. We recount the hilarious events of a recent night when a responsible mother of two decides to party like she’s 21 and then attempts to cover her tracks. Suspenseful, hilarious, and a little vulgar we hope you enjoy a personal recounting of “Paige’s Halloween Bash.”Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!You don’t want to skip this one! From difficult and hilarious family stereotypes, to the burden of gift giving, to overbooked schedules, the holidays can be STRESSFUL. Sit down with us as we tackle ways we’ve found to make the season truly enjoyable in this solution-packed episode. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Where does the time go? We discuss some tips and tricks we use to juggle a marriage, family, extra curriculars, business, podcast, social media, and more! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!This episode covers some key factors that have made our relationship successful over 20 years. Whether you are struggling in a relationship, wanting to strengthen an existing one, or preparing yourself for one to come, this discussion is a can't miss! As mentioned in the episode, be sure to check out Taylor Counseling Group. Paige and I have used TCG for quite some time now and the results are incredible. Don't wait for a problem before seeking therapy - think of it as preventative maintenance!  www.taylorcounselinggroup.comFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!The holidays are a time for fellowship, family, and tradition...but it can also be the source of immense stress and unhealthy coping with alcohol. With mental health at an all-time low and alcohol intake at an all-time high, we're playing with fire as we enter the holiday season. We discuss how to question our alcohol intake and take responsibility for what enters our bodies and why. If you've ever wondered if you have a drinking problem listen and join us as we explore the fringes of addiction and stress during the holidays.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do you hate your job? Do you feel like you're not fulfilling your purpose or your talents are being wasted? Many of us struggle with the feeling that we're wasting time in our choice of career and we don't know how to get out. Join us as we discuss how to capitalize on your quirks and monetize your unique ability. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Are you anxious? What are the sources of your anxiety and how to do you cope with it? We all have different ways of coping with anxiety and managing neurotic thoughts. We discuss how we went from letting anxiety drive our lives and actions to living without it. The first episode of many on how to conquer anxiety.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Your friendly neighborhood street sweepers checking in to share with you how we've found how keeping our side of the street clean makes life simpler and more manageable. When we focus on our responsibilities and not the responsibility of others, serenity and confidence follow. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Did you have a bad day, or did the day have a bad you? Did your tough morning snowball into the worst day ever and leave you feeling like a magnet for bad luck? We've been there and in this episode we explore the power of restarting your day. We'll give you instructions on how to hit the pause button on any day and restart it with a fresh perspective.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Do your favorite seasons or holidays pass you by and leave you wondering “What happened to the time?!” We discuss some easy ways to make the most of your favorite seasons while tampering expectations so you’re left feeling fulfilled. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Detaching with love can be hard to navigate, but it can be beneficial for all involved, even if it’s painful. We touch on why it’s important, who to detach from, and how to manage difficult relationships and situations. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!When we think about fitness, we often think of our physical fitness...But what does the state of your physical fitness say about the state of your mental and spiritual fitness? We examine the correlation between a healthy body and a healthy mind. We give reasons why we believe you cannot be at your absolute best without a fitness routine and we explore the single best way to achieve your best body and mind through E2M Fitness. We'll discuss what we've learned along the way about ourselves and each other.  Abs are really cool...but abs for your brain are even cooler.Find video clips from this episode on our Instagram!On the web with our blog:www.twfocouple.comFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Discipline could be the very thing holding you back from becoming the greatest possible version of yourself. We discuss the importance of discipline, the best ways to attain it, and what you're missing out on if you ignore it. Find video clips from this episode on our Instagram!On the web with our blog:www.twfocouple.comFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Fighting is inevitable in any relationship. We fight to be heard, to voice dissent, and sometimes we fight for no reason at all. Nearly everyone fights but do you know how to fight productively? How to fight fair? In this episode we examine the dynamics of a fight and offer solutions on how to fight fair. We’ll also share some of our toxic traits and share stories on what a typical argument looks in our home. Fights can be productive and lead to a stronger relationship and we’ll show you how. We all have bad habits when we fight that lead to further problems so we challenge you to listen and practice the techniques offered in this episode.Find video clips from this episode on our Instagram!On the web with our blog: www.twfocouple.comFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!Contentment is an emotional state of satisfaction brought on by being at ease with one's current situation, body, and mind. It's also more elusive than ever and a state we all seek unknowingly. Contentment and living at peace cannot be achieved through purchases, reaching a particular status, or through sheer will. True contentment comes through rearranging priorities, controlling expectations, and taking our hands off of the results of our efforts. We explore what true contentment means and ways to gauge the degree to which we are trying to control the world around us as well as ways to center our minds toward living in contentment. Find video clips from this episode on our Instagram!On the web with our blog: www.twfocouple.comFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode we introduce ourselves and explain what TWFO is and what we plan to accomplish with you!We're here to inspire others, bring you into our lives, and tell you a little bit about our journey. Over 20 years over experience through life's greatest hurdles, we've learned a few things! We will help you build a positive mindset, discuss obstacles and solutions, and work toward being the best version of YOU possible. We will touch on addiction recovery, mental health, fitness, navigating toxicity, strengthening relationships, strengthening your mindset, and much more!Find video clips from this episode on our Instagram!On the web with our blog: www.twfocouple.comFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFind video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comSupport the Show:Buy Us a Coffee!Online Program: www.independentlystrong.comSoberlink Device:www.soberlink.com/wheelsCheck out our blog:https://twfo.com/blogFollow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here