Oh Crap with Jamie
A podcast for conscious parents who drop the f-bomb. A lot. We are the overthinkers, the dreamers, and the doers. We are parenting in a radically different way than those before us. But our divine vision gets blurry cause...OMG...kids can be such a pain in the ass. Let's work from the inside out, in a whole brain, whole body way to mitigate the crappy behavior. Not just with our kids but with ourselves. So you can be the parent you envision.
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In this tiny bite-sized episode, I’m sharing a moment that absolutely cracked me open: standing in my kitchen, impatiently waiting 40 seconds—FORTY SECONDS—for a mason jar to fill with water. I caught myself thinking, “Ugh, I wish I could go do something else while this fills.” And then I had to laugh because… where the hell was I going?This episode is a gentle (and slightly heartbreaking) reminder that so many of us are living in fast-forward, racing from one task to the next, missing the tiny moments that actually make up a life. I talk about overstimulation, multitasking, the endless to-do list, why kids (and dogs!) just want our presence, and why slowing down feels impossible—yet is desperately needed.If you’ve been rushing your days away, this one is for you. Slow down. Pet the babies—human and furry. This time won’t last.What's Covered:⏳ The 40-second moment that exposed how rushed we all are🧠 Why multitasking is “the death of motherhood”🐶 Lessons from Maverick: presence over productivity❤️ You will miss these years—why slowing down matters🔔 A gentle reminder: what are we rushing toward?👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m sharing the surprisingly profound parenting lessons I’ve learned from my dog, Maverick. From the early days of dealing with a reactive dog to becoming a more intentional leader, this episode covers why consistency matters, why your tone carries more weight than your words, and how kids—just like dogs—feel safer when you are the sturdy one in charge.I also talk about overstimulation (spoiler: it might be YOU, not the kids), why multitasking makes us lose our minds, and how something as small as your auditory environment can make or break your patience. If you’ve ever wondered why your child “doesn’t listen,” why commands fall flat, or why the chaos feels so loud, this episode will help you reset your approach… with a little humor, a lot of honesty, and plenty of Maverick stories.What's Covered:🐶 Why consistency matters more than volume (for dogs and kids)💬 The rule: “If you say it twice, you’ve lost the command”🧠 Overstimulated parent vs. overstimulating child — knowing the difference🔊 How auditory clutter pushes you into overwhelm💪 Kids relax when YOU are the sturdy, confident leader👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest sources of stress for modern families: kids’ sports and activities—especially in the 6–10 age range. Someone asked me on Instagram what I think about structured sports for this age bracket, and the truth is… I have a LOT of thoughts.We talk about what kids actually need developmentally, why free play is still crucial after age six, how overscheduling destroys family connection, and why year-round specialization is burning kids out before middle school. I also share real stories from my own life and the families I’ve worked with—including repetitive injuries, stressed-out kids, and parents losing themselves in the carpool hamster wheel.If you’re trying to choose activities for next year, feeling pressured by travel teams, or just exhausted from the sports treadmill, this episode will help you rethink what’s truly best for your kid and your family unit.What's Covered:⚽ Why structured sports under age 10 need a major rethink🧠 The hidden cost of overscheduling: stress, burnout, and disconnection🏃♂️ Repetitive injuries + early specialization → why kids quit by 12👨👩👧 How to choose activities that support your whole family🎭 What kids miss out on when sports dominate their lives👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this festive (and absolutely ridiculous) episode, I’m sharing the true story of how my son Pascal found out the truth about Santa—and why I’ve always said I should’ve saved for therapy instead of college. From psychedelic mushroom folklore to reindeer pee (yes, really), to the moment Pascal asked me point-blank, “Are you Santa?” in JULY… this episode is part comedy, part chaos, and part parenting reflection.We’ll talk about the right time to tell kids the truth, why some kids crumble and others shrug, how the “veil of childhood” lifts around age nine, and why the real sadness isn’t about Santa at all—it’s about growing up. Whether you’re a Santa family, a non-Santa family, or somewhere in between, this story will make you laugh, cringe, and rethink the “big reveal.”What's Covered:🎅 How kids actually figure out the truth about Santa😳 Jamie’s chaotic, hilarious “big reveal” story🧠 The developmental age when kids truly understand❤️ Why the sadness isn’t about Santa—it’s about growing up😂 Why Jamie says she should’ve saved for therapy, not collegeOrigins of Santa article: https://www.ffungi.org/blog/the-influence-of-hallucinogenic-mushrooms-on-christmas👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this very birthday edition episode (yes—it’s my birthday!), I’m talking about a feeling we parents try way too hard to rescue our kids from: guilt. Guilt is uncomfortable, but it’s also one of the most powerful emotional teachers we have. I share a personal story about the year my son Pascal completely forgot my birthday—despite me handing him the Amazon link for the gift I wanted. Instead of smoothing it over for him, I let myself sit in my hurt… and let him sit in his guilt. And guess what? It changed him.We dive into why guilt is a crucial part of developing empathy, accountability, and behavioral change, and why moms especially need to stop burying their own feelings just to keep everyone comfortable. This one is real, raw, and honestly kind of funny—because it’s my birthday, and I’m talking about boob sweat, wool bras, and why I refuse to pretend I don’t want to be celebrated.What's covered:🎂 Why letting kids feel healthy guilt leads to real behavior change❤️ The birthday story that taught Jamie a huge parenting lesson🚫 Why moms need to stop rescuing kids from uncomfortable feelings💬 How to sit in hurt without punishing or shaming🧠 Teaching emotional accountability through experience—not lectures👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m diving into one of the most common holiday parenting struggles—grandparent gifts. Every year, I see posts complaining about grandparents “going rogue,” buying the loudest toys, or ignoring wish lists altogether. But here’s the thing: grandparents want to see your kids happy. They’re after that moment of joy, not the perfect Amazon link.I’ll share practical ways to handle the gift chaos (without losing your mind), ideas for redirecting grandparents toward experiences or smaller keepsakes, and how to educate them gently about overstimulating toys. And most importantly—we’ll talk about gratitude, perspective, and remembering that more people loving your kid is always a good thing, even when it’s messy.What's covered: How to handle grandparents “going rogue” with gifts Why venting online fuels frustration (and dopamine) Understanding the generational “more is better” mindset Why more people loving your kids is always a good thing Simple ways to redirect gifts toward meaning and joy👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m tackling one of the biggest parenting traps—“banking behavior.” You know that thing we all do where we take our kids somewhere special, buy them a treat, and expect them to be good later? Yeah… it never works. I’ll break down why kids can’t “bank” good behavior, why gratitude doesn’t come naturally until much later, and how to manage your own expectations (especially around the holidays).I’ll also share a story about how real-life exposure—not lectures—teaches kids gratitude. From visiting soup kitchens to understanding homelessness and dementia, this one’s a heartwarming reminder that service, not guilt, builds true empathy.What to expect:🎁 What “banking behavior” is (and why it never works)🧠 Why kids can’t truly feel gratitude until later❤️ How service—not guilt—builds empathy🧩 The “magic age” when awareness begins (around 9)💬 Managing your expectations during the holidays👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
Today I'm sharing a podcast that I was lucky enough to be a guest on. The information was so good I'm sharing it here. Kat and April, both seasoned parenting experts with over 15 years of experience, bring unique perspectives to the field of parenting expertise and experience. Kat emphasizes that true parenting expertise stems from practical knowledge gained from working with numerous families, valuing hands-on experience and straightforward, humorous advice, much like that of Jamie Glowacki. April, with her background in social work, shares a similar appreciation for humor and practicality, advocating for a balance between guiding and nurturing children amidst modern parenting challenges. Together, they champion an approach that prioritizes everyday enjoyment and meaningful parent-child connections over rigid, structured methods, aligning with Glowacki's emphasis on emotional intelligence and unstructured play.Timestamps:(00:02:45) "Toddler Years Made Enjoyable: Practical Parenting Solutions"(00:13:23) Parenting with Emotional Intelligence for Healthy Relationships(00:17:02) Promoting Independence Through Child Conflict Resolution(00:22:10) Encouraging Full-Body Contact Play for Children(00:25:13) Repairing Relationships Through Respectful Parenting(00:25:20) "Code Word Communication for Kids' Play"(00:35:19) Promoting Emotional Awareness and Regulation in Children(00:35:44) Embracing Emotional Authenticity in Parenting(00:43:13) Prioritizing Basic Needs for Parenting Success(00:43:14) Understanding Developmental Tantrums in Toddlers(00:46:01) Nutritious Meals for Behavioral Improvement in Children(00:53:48) Toddler Sleep Boundaries for Healthy Behavior(01:06:28) Balancing Parental Control in Busy Schedules(01:10:27) Encouraging Child-Led Play for Social Development(01:10:28) Building Strong Attachments: Parenting in Modern Times👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m talking about resentment—the kind that sneaks in when we keep saying yes to things we don’t want to do. I share a story about my son Pascal, a pile of deer meat, and how one small “dirty yes” turned into a full-blown meltdown. (Spoiler: it wasn’t really about the meat.) We’ll talk about the difference between a clean yes and a dirty yes, why women struggle with boundaries, and how people-pleasing leads to quiet rage. Whether it’s your partner, your kids, or your family during the holidays, this episode will help you spot resentment before it boils over—and teach you how to protect your energy without guilt.Timestamps:(00:00:32) "Deer Meat Trimming and Resentment Reflection"(00:04:22) Calm Down and Walk Away to Reflect(00:07:05) Bangs Dilemma: A Haircare Reflection(00:10:05) Clear Communication for Healthy Relationship Boundaries(00:14:27) Boundary Setting for Parenting Success👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m diving deep into one of the biggest problems affecting us—and our kids—right now: dopamine overload. We’ve built a world that’s too comfortable, too fast, and too easy—and it’s wrecking our motivation, focus, and happiness. From snacks and screens to constant stimulation, our brains (and our kids’ brains) are stuck in overdrive. I’ll explain what dopamine actually is (it’s not the reward—it’s the motivation), why fast dopamine leads to burnout, and what we can do to slow things down. From going analog to doing hard things, this episode is your wake-up call to start craving real life again—the messy, meaningful, slow kind.Timestamps:00:00 — Welcome + Maverick’s barking + recording chaos 🐶03:00 — Why we’re in a “comfort crisis” as humans06:15 — Jamie’s first Tough Mudder + discovering the value of struggle10:00 — Dopamine 101: what it actually is and how it works13:45 — Pleasure vs. pain balance + why we always want more17:30 — Fast dopamine vs. slow dopamine explained20:00 — How hyper-palatable foods and screens hijack the brain24:15 — The danger of early brain wiring (ages 0–5)29:00 — What happens when kids get constant “fast” dopamine hits33:30 — Addiction, food noise, and why moderation doesn’t work for everyone38:15 — The role of analog living + slowing down reward pathways43:00 — Real-life solutions: go analog, delay gratification, do hard things47:30 — Jamie’s winter hike story: “We’re built for struggle”55:00 — Parenting takeaways: slow it down, let kids struggle, simplify life59:00 — The “idle brain” and why quiet is necessary1:03:00 — Final words: “Put your phone down and rock on.” 🤘👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m talking about something that’s taken over modern parenting—the obsession with validating everything our kids do. Somewhere along the way, we started thinking we had to be front-row cheerleaders for every kick, drawing, or math problem. But here’s the truth: that constant validation actually chips away at your child’s confidence. I share stories from my own time coaching baseball (yes, me!) and explain why kids are better without us hovering. We’ll talk about how overpraise leads to fragile self-esteem, how to shift from “good job” to meaningful feedback, and why letting your kids handle discomfort builds resilience that lasts a lifetimeTimestamps:00:00 — The “mom on her phone” parenting guilt trend02:15 — Why constant validation hurts kids’ confidence05:30 — Coaching baseball and what kids do better without parents watching07:00 — Why kids need freedom to deal with discomfort and conflict09:30 — Praise effort, not outcome — the “good job” trap11:00 — What to say instead of “I’m so proud of you”13:00 — How to help kids process accomplishments through storytelling15:30 — The danger of “you made me happy” parenting language17:00 — Teaching kids emotional boundaries — your feelings aren’t theirs18:00 — How to raise confident, grounded kids without overpraise19:00 — Final thoughts: you don’t have to validate everything they do👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I sit down with mom and content creator Tori Winstead to talk about the parenting culture we’ve built—and how something as simple as snacks reveals so much about it. We unpack the rise of “snack addiction,” instant gratification, and how we’ve turned food (and screens) into emotional pacifiers for both kids and parents. Tori shares her viral story of quitting snacks cold turkey—and what it taught her about her kids, her boundaries, and herself. We talk dopamine, distress tolerance, gentle parenting gone sideways, and why it’s okay for kids (and parents) to feel a little discomfort. This conversation connects the dots between food, tech, and the emotional overload of modern parenting—and offers a hopeful path back to simplicity, leadership, and resilience.Timestamps:00:00 — Introduction: Jamie welcomes guest mom Tori Winstead01:30 — Tori shares her story of motherhood and finding Jamie’s work04:00 — How food and parenting advice became overwhelming online06:00 — The snack culture spiral: when did parenting get so hard?08:00 — Tori’s “no-snack” experiment and her mom’s old-school wisdom10:30 — The beach story that changed Jamie’s view on food13:00 — Why modern “healthy” snacks aren’t helping our kids16:00 — Emotional eating, dopamine hits, and pacifying with food19:30 — Comparing snacks to pacifiers and iPads22:00 — The instant gratification generation of parents26:00 — What happens when kids only eat ultra-processed foods30:00 — The impact of tech and overstimulation on modern moms33:00 — The cost of gentle parenting without boundaries38:00 — Why kids need to hear “life’s not fair” again41:00 — Leadership vs. authoritarian parenting45:00 — Repairing relationships and breaking generational cycles52:00 — The power of letting kids feel hunger and discomfort54:00 — “Microdosing suffering” to build resilience in kids56:00 — Final reflections on raising kids who can deal58:00 — Jamie’s wrap-up: “Rock on, and put your phone down.”Connect with Tori on Instagram👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m calling out the biggest myth of the holiday season—that you can make magic or “craft core memories” for your kids. You can’t. What your child remembers isn’t the matching pajamas or perfect tree—it’s how they felt. I’ll share stories from my own childhood (poverty, oranges, and pancake dinners), and how those simple, cozy moments turned into the most meaningful memories of all. We’ll talk about letting go of consumer pressure, shopping secondhand, teaching gratitude the real way, and surviving family dinners without losing your mind. This episode is your permission slip to slow down, simplify, and remember that love—not stuff—is what your kids will carry forever.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m diving into why dinner has become so overcomplicated—and how you can stop worrying about it. Somewhere between Pinterest recipes, wellness trends, and the “eat the rainbow” movement, we’ve lost sight of what feeding a family actually means. I’ll walk you through my recent food experiment (yes, it involves potatoes, rice, and butter), what I learned about nutrition tracking, and why simple meals—like what we ate in the 70s—are often the healthiest. We’ll talk macros, metabolism, and why variety isn’t always your friend. If you’re tired of feeling guilty about dinner or burnt out from trying to make it “interesting,” this episode will remind you that food doesn’t have to be complicated to be good.Timestamps:00:00 — Jamie’s late-day recording + dog chaos 02:15 — Why dinner has become way too complicated05:00 — The myth of needing “new” meals every night07:30 — Jamie’s food experiment: meat, fat, and glucose balance10:45 — How overcomplicating food wrecks our sanity14:00 — Simple 1970s-style plates: protein, starch, veg17:15 — Why the government ruined dinner in the 1980s (hello, food pyramid)21:00 — Eat local and seasonal — not imported “superfoods”26:45 — Tracking macros, understanding fat and carbs for real life30:15 — The shocking truth about how simple meals hit your nutritional needs35:00 — Why ditching variety might be the key to better health39:00 — Final thoughts: food, family, and making life easier again41:00 — Jamie’s sign-off: “Put your phone down.” 👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this bite-sized Oh Crap with Jamie episode, I’m sharing my favorite new year mindset shift: the 26 Before 26 Challenge—a simple way to wrap up the year with intention, calm, and a sense of control. We’ll talk about why “being in control” isn’t the dirty word it’s made out to be, how to reclaim your power in parenting and life, and what it really means to lead your home with sturdiness, decisiveness, and grace.From redefining “control” to finishing the year with lightness instead of chaos, this one’s a mix of reflection, encouragement, and practical wisdom for every parent who’s ready to stop feeling like life’s just happening to them.Timestamps:00:00 — The “26 Before 26” Challenge explained02:45 — Picking your guiding words for the new year06:30 — Why feeling “in control” isn’t a bad thing09:15 — Redefining control: potency, leadership, and decisiveness13:00 — How this mindset shift impacts parenting15:45 — The power of finishing the year light and intentionalJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m talking about one of those behaviors that makes every parent’s blood boil—spitting—and what it really means when your kid does it. Whether it’s silly toddler raspberries or full-on disrespect, spitting (and other physical behaviors like hitting, biting, and jumping on furniture) are never random. I’ll walk you through how to identify what’s underneath the behavior—attention-seeking, anger, sensory needs, or boundary-testing—and what to actually do about it. From setting consistent limits to adding more physical play and heavy work, this one’s packed with practical, no-BS tools to get your sanity back and your kid regulated.Timestamps:00:00 — Welcome + Jamie’s tech fails & cashmere sweater story02:00 — Hair disasters & leaning into imperfection04:15 — What we’re really talking about today: spitting06:00 — The different types of spitting (silly, reactionary, disrespectful)08:45 — Why spitting feels so triggering to parents10:15 — Breaking down the reasons kids spit12:30 — Getting a reaction vs. attention-seeking vs. sensory needs17:00 — Disrespectful spitting and boundary breakdowns20:30 — How to identify patterns in behavior (time, place, people)25:45 — Understanding sensory needs and emotional release29:00 — The importance of physical outlets (heavy work, movement)33:30 — How to respond: overreacting vs. calm consistency37:15 — Setting limits & consequences without over-processing emotions42:00 — Addressing the need before the consequence44:15 — Why kids need more physical exertion than schools allow48:00 — Final thoughts + Jamie’s classic “put your phone down” sign-offJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this reflective Oh Crap with Jamie episode, Jamie shares a heartfelt reminder that this is all we get. From hiking challenges to motherhood moments to the stories that shape our lives, she explores why we make things harder than they need to be—and how to shift toward ease, presence, and joy.Jamie opens up about the lessons she learned from her mom’s passing, the power of simplicity, and the importance of finding meaning in everyday life. This is your permission to slow down, breathe, and make life just a little easier.Timestamps:00:00 — Welcome + Jamie’s hiking challenge01:00 — The power of “What if it were easy?”03:00 — Making life harder than it needs to be04:30 — Reflections on her mom’s passing06:45 — “This is all we get”: the fleeting nature of human experience08:30 — Choosing your “shit sandwiches” wisely10:30 — Are you living the life you actually want?13:45 — Finding meaning through presence and agingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I sit down with Ali Stalwood, known as Wildly Ginger on Instagram, to talk about something every parent craves but struggles to find — community. After moving back home to Pennsylvania, Ali realized that waiting for a “village” wasn’t working… so she built one. What started as a simple dinner rotation between families turned into a thriving support system built on shared meals, honesty, and a “work it out” mindset. We dive into how she and her friends created sustainable connection (without perfection), what it really takes to show up for each other, and how to get comfortable being seen — mess and all. If you’ve ever wished for more help, more laughter, or just a friend who’ll fold laundry with you, this episode will remind you that it’s not too late to build your own village.Timestamps:(00:05:38) Joyful Connections Through Weekly Shared Meals(00:12:31) Collaborative Cooking Schedule Promotes Community Bonding(00:18:20) Fostering Community Engagement Through Inclusive Parenting(00:21:20) Community-Centered Five-Dollar Backyard Celebrations(00:25:06) Bonding Through Shared Household Chores(00:31:45) Community Connection through Shared Religious Values(00:38:08) Embracing Imperfections for Stronger Community Bonds(00:40:37) Fostering Genuine Support Through Offering HelpConnect with Ali: https://www.instagram.com/wildly_ginger/Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m talking about something that’s been bugging me for a while—how we’ve forgotten that our kids and our homes are actually our jobs. Somewhere along the line, we started treating family life like an afterthought—whatever scraps of energy we have left after work, errands, and endless to-dos. But what if we reframed it? What if we treated home and family like the meaningful, skillful work it is? In this episode, I share the mindset shift that completely changed how I approach my own home, why exhaustion isn’t always inevitable, and how to apply your leadership and management skills to the family front. Whether you work outside the home, stay home full-time, or juggle both, this is your reminder that running a household takes intention, not perfection—and when you treat it like a job you love, everything gets lighter.Timestamps:(00:02:42) "Parenting: A Daily Marathon of Demands"(00:09:24) Applying Leadership Skills in Family Life(00:11:18) Parenting Challenges: Juggling Boundaries and ResponsibilitiesJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest modern parenting struggles—how to feed your family real food without cooking every single night. It’s not about meal plans or Pinterest-perfect prep days—it’s about creating systems that work in real life. I’m sharing how to think like our grandmothers did: stretch meals, simplify ingredients, and ditch the guilt around not being a “foodie.” You’ll learn how to make dinner easier through batch cooking basics, simple proteins, freezing tricks, and realistic expectations. We’ll also talk about picky eating, the generational gap in cooking skills, and why nourishing your family doesn’t mean you have to spend your entire weekend in the kitchen. This one’s part tough love, part practical guidance—and 100% permission to simplify.Timestamps:(00:06:51) Nourishing Meals: Moms' Impact on Family Health(00:11:33) Nutritious Choices: Reversing Health Decline Through Food(00:13:54) Efficient Meal Planning with Batch Cooking(00:17:30) Versatile Meal Planning with Roasted Chicken(00:18:39) Balanced Meal Prep with Basic Ingredients(00:21:30) Spicing Up Meals for Variety and Satisfaction(00:34:03) Nutrition-Based Boundaries for Picky Eating Prevention(00:39:34) Mealtime Strategies for Picky EatersEpisode 94Join my newsletter list!Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m tackling a big one—what I call tiny dictators. You know the type: the kid who decides who sits where, who can talk, or which parent is “allowed” in the bathroom. When I hear a parent say, “My child won’t let me…,” I know we’re already in trouble. Kids are hardwired to want control, but when we hand over the wheel, it makes them feel unsafe and chaotic. In this episode, I’ll walk you through why “keeping the peace” by giving in always backfires, how to reclaim your authority (without guilt), and why chores—not choices—are the secret to helping kids feel capable and connected. If you’ve got a little boss running your household, this is your permission slip to take back control—lovingly, firmly, and today.Timestamps:(00:00:00) Preventing Children from Becoming Tiny Dictators(00:00:47) Preventing Household Disruptions: Establishing Parental Authority(00:05:06) Empowering Children Through Setting BoundariesJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones
In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most misunderstood parts of parenting—the toddler tantrum. What’s developmentally normal? What’s not? And why do some kids melt down over a peeled banana while others roll with it? I’m walking you through the four big triggers that cause tantrums (hungry, tired, overstimulated, and loss of control) and which of those you can actually do something about. From the truth about “hangry” kids and snack culture, to overtired toddlers, overstimulation, and the importance of autonomy, I’ll help you build a strong foundation for the zero-to-six years. Because when you get these four things right, you don’t just prevent tantrums—you create a calmer, more connected home.Timestamps:(00:00:47) Identifying Triggers and Responses to Emotional Outbursts(00:11:56) Nourishing Snacks for Children's Well-Being(00:14:57) Early Bedtime Impacts Child's Cognitive Development(00:21:18) Preventing Overstimulation Through Calm Environments(00:26:25) Soul-Nourishing Activities for ParentsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m sharing some simple solutions for those middle-of-the-night kid struggles—growing pains, restless legs, and even the start of night terrors. We’ve all been there: your child is finally drifting off and suddenly their legs are twitching, cramping, or they’re up screaming in pain. I’ll walk you through what might be going on (from magnesium loss to plain old overtiredness), and the easy remedies that have worked wonders in my own home. From magnesium sprays and chamomile tinctures to Calms Forte and Rescue Remedy, these are gentle, safe supports that can help your child settle and finally get some rest. Because let’s be real—a good night’s sleep for them means a good night’s sleep for you, too.Timestamps:(00:01:40) Essential Magnesium Supplementation for Children(00:04:36) Magnesium Deficiency and Restless Legs in Kids(00:05:23) Calming Herbal Remedies for Children's RelaxationRollon Magnesium: https://a.co/d/daovH2FChamomille Tincture: https://a.co/d/iATjCEYRescue Remedy: https://a.co/d/2Gl4FAkJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
This week I’m diving into a hot-button October topic: Halloween candy, picky eating, and the myth that food is “neutral.” Everywhere I look, I see advice about making candy an everyday side dish so kids won’t care about it come Halloween. And you guys—I can’t even. Candy is supposed to be a big deal! It’s a treat, not dinner. In this episode, I unpack why serving candy at every meal backfires, how processed “snacky snacks” set kids up for picky eating, and why nourishing food matters way more than organic labels or Instagram trends. Plus, I’m giving you permission to bow out of Halloween (or any tradition) if it doesn’t bring you joy. This one’s part rant, part reality check, and hopefully a big exhale for parents who feel stuck in the food wars.Timestamps:(00:01:58) Navigating Halloween Candy Consumption with Picky Eaters(00:03:12) The Dangers of Making Food Neutral(00:07:38) Nutritional Value Beyond Organic Labeling(00:11:34) Empowering Children to Make Informed Food Choices(00:17:33) Whipped Cream Brand Fixation in Children(00:20:58) Parenting Challenges: Navigating Social Media PressuresJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m talking about one of the most sanity-sucking habits kids have: interrupting. You know the drill—you finally sit down for a conversation with another adult, and boom, your kid is right there, cutting in with something that definitely could have waited. I’ll share why letting kids constantly interrupt actually creates clingy behavior, how to set healthy boundaries without guilt, and the simple little trick I taught Pascal when he was three that he still remembers at nineteen. Spoiler: it’ll save your sanity, help you finish a sentence, and make people think you’re raising the politest kid on the block.Timestamps:(00:00:39) Respectfully Managing Child Interruptions in Conversations(00:00:39) Teaching Respectful Interruption Etiquette to Children(00:04:06) Respecting Turn-Taking: Child's Arm Signal MethodJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this episode, I’m unpacking something I’ve been seeing everywhere lately: the rush to slap a diagnosis on our kids when it might actually just be temperament. Don’t get me wrong—diagnoses can be life-changing and absolutely necessary. But not every shy kid is “on the spectrum,” not every focused moment is “ADHD hyperfocus,” and not every earworm means your brain is broken. I’m breaking down the four classic temperaments, what research says about temperament vs. personality, and how parenting mismatches (your temperament vs. your child’s) can make things look “off” when they’re really not. This one is part rant, part reality check, and 100% a call to give our kids room to be who they are—without rushing to pathologize them.Timestamps:(00:01:02) Temperament-based Understanding of Children's Behaviors(00:13:19) Innate Traits vs. Environmental Influence in Children(00:19:39) Understanding Children's Temperamental Traits for Parenting(00:20:49) Mood Mismatch Impacts on Parent-Child Interactions(00:21:18) Temperament Clash: Parent-Child Relationship Dynamics(00:27:21) Temperament Alignment for Parent-Child Harmony(00:40:29) Temperament Balancing for Social Harmony and ConnectionJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m tackling two parenting habits that need to go: asking your toddler why they did something, and thinking co-regulation “isn’t working.” Spoiler—your toddler doesn’t know why they hit their sibling or why they won’t poop on the potty, and expecting them to explain just sets you both up for frustration. And co-regulation? It’s not a trick to stop tantrums—it’s you staying calm in the middle of their chaos. That’s it. No scripts, no magic code, no perfect outcome. Just you modeling regulation while they borrow your vibe (or not). This is your reminder to drop the “why” questions, stop looking for the magic phrase, and keep showing up as the steady leader your kid needs.Timestamps:(00:00:44) Understanding Toddler Behavior Through Interpretation(00:01:28) Toddler Communication: Understanding Cognitive Limitations(00:03:20) Calm Parenting Approach for Co-RegulationJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
This week I sat down with Devon Kuntzman, founder of Transforming Toddlerhood and author of the brand-new book by the same name, to talk all things toddlers—the good, the messy, and the meltdown-y. We dug into why parents tie their worth to behavior, how “gentle parenting” often slips into permissiveness, and why connection isn’t a checklist, it’s a feeling. Devon shared her “recipe for effective discipline” (connection, limits, follow-through, teaching skills), plus we got real about decoding behavior, calling out the elephant in the room, and saying the obvious things our kids actually need to hear. This one’s a must-listen for anyone in the toddler trenches.Timstamps:(00:05:30) Understanding Toddler Communication through Behavior(00:06:05) Decoding Toddler Behavior for Parental Connection(00:06:42) Decoding Children's Actions for Emotional Understanding(00:20:10) Emotional Connection in Effective Parenting Strategies(00:20:50) Emphasizing Effective Discipline through Connection and Limits(00:23:10) Verbal Communication for Children's Emotional Expression(00:35:49) Flexible Potty Training Timelines Based on Child's Development(00:37:56) Decoding Children's Behavior in ParentingDevon's InstagramJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this episode, I’m diving deep into one of the most common—and misunderstood—potty training struggles: poop withholding. This isn’t your kid being stubborn or “doing it on purpose.” Withholding is a muscular reaction to anxiety, and right now, it’s the majority of the work I do with families. I’ll break down the signs to watch for (from smearing to requesting a diaper), why so many specialists and pediatricians get this wrong, and how withholding connects to constipation, pee accidents, and even nervous system overload. If your child is holding poop, asking for a diaper, or flat-out terrified of the potty, this episode is for you. Let’s get clear on what’s really happening—and how to fix it.Timestamps:(00:07:16) Behavioral Signs of Poop Withholding in Children(00:09:29) Anxiety-Driven Poop Withholding in Children(00:13:13) Significance of Poop Withholding Misunderstanding(00:15:49) Miralax Treatment for Pediatric Poop WithholdingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this episode, I’m tackling one of the biggest mistakes I see parents making right now: over-processing our kids’ emotions. Somewhere along the line, “validate their feelings” turned into full-on therapy sessions every time your toddler cried about the blue cup. And guys, that’s not helping them—it’s drowning everyone. I’ll break down the difference between validating and over-processing, why saying “you make me…” is so damaging, and how dumping our emotional baggage on our kids leads to anxious, people-pleasing teens. This one is a mix of tough love and practical advice so you can stop spiraling in the quicksand of feelings and get back to leading with clarity.Timestamps:(00:02:30) Empowering Children to Manage their Emotions(00:04:50) Balancing Toddler Emotions for Healthy Development(00:07:45) Emotional Resilience in Parenting Approach(00:12:34) Parental Model of Emotional Language in Children(00:17:58) Emotional Burden on Children: Impact and PreventionPrevious Episode Mentioned: EP 174: Tiny dictators Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m tackling one of the biggest potty training mistakes I see right now: “trying” to potty train. And by trying, I don’t mean giving it an honest go—I mean sampling it here and there, doing it only on weekends, or half-committing and hoping your kid magically figures it out. Spoiler: that just sends mixed messages and sets everyone up for frustration. Potty training, like learning to read, takes consistency and commitment. In this episode, I’m breaking down why “there is no try” (yep, straight out of Yoda’s playbook), what happens when you wait until you’re up against a deadline, and why you’re better off not starting at all than dabbling. If you’ve been dipping a toe into potty training instead of diving in, this one’s your loving reality check.Timestamps:(00:04:27) Immersive Approach to Potty Training Success(00:05:52) Consistent Support for Successful Potty Training(00:10:07) Committed and Consistent Potty Training ApproachJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
This week, I sat down with Andreina Diaz, mom of two, PhD student, and researcher behind Toddler TV Trap, to talk about one of the hottest (and most controversial) topics in parenting right now: screen time and autism. Andreina’s work looks at how highly stimulating shows like Cocomelon and Ms. Rachel may be impacting kids’ brains, what new research is showing about subtypes of autism, and why reducing or removing screens has led to jaw-dropping changes for some families. We dive into the difference between passive vs. active screen time, what counts as “healthy” screen use, and how to rethink the way we’re using devices in our homes. This one is equal parts eye-opening, challenging, and also full of hope. I promise, it’s a conversation worth listening to.Timestamps:(00:13:08) "Toddler TV Trap: Impact on Social Development"(00:18:41) Overstimulation Prevention through Alternative Activities for Children(00:19:11) Debate on Screen Time Impact on Autism(00:24:52) Link Between Screen Time and Autism Symptoms(00:29:36) Interactive vs. Passive Screen Time Effects(00:32:35) Active Creation for Holistic Child Development(00:42:12) Enhancing Child Development Through Active Screen Time(00:42:34) Optimizing Screen Time for Child Development(00:46:44) Interactive Alternatives to Reduce Screen TimeConnect with Andreina:https://www.instagram.com/toddlertvtrap/Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m giving you permission to stop overthinking food—especially when it comes to toddlers. If you’ve been stressing about cooking full dinners every night, fighting over veggies, or wondering if your kid is “eating enough,” this one’s for you. I’m breaking down why toddlers eat like snakes (yep, in bursts, not evenly), why small portions and variety work better than giant scoops, and why it’s less about complicated recipes and more about balancing fat, protein, and carbs. Snack plates, mini meals, kid charcuterie—call it what you want, but the point is: keep it simple, keep it nourishing, and stop making dinnertime a battle.Timestamps:(00:00:31) Idyllic Bungalow Colony Gathering in New York(00:05:24) Reviving Genuine Curiosity through Conversation(00:08:01) Authentic Engagement for Strong Community BondsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this episode, I’m taking a hard look at the way we’ve built our lives—and how so much of it just doesn’t leave room for kids to actually be kids. Between work schedules, overstuffed calendars, and the pressure to check off milestones like it’s a parenting to-do list, we’re burning out while expecting our little ones to perform like mini adults. I’m talking about why parenting is a long game (not a quick fix), why connection can’t be squeezed into 15 minutes on the checklist, and how to bring back the heart of the home—yes, even if that means starting a full-on “kitchen rebellion.” This one’s a mix of tough love, personal reflection, and a big reminder to slow the hell down and make room for what really matters.Timestamps:(00:01:35) Embracing Simplicity in Parenting(00:13:02) Parenting as a Lifelong Development Journey(00:16:41) Nurturing Genuine Connection Through Quality Time(00:21:17) Balancing Parenting and Work: Prioritizing Connection(00:29:43) Nurturing Environment and Connection in Parenting(00:30:42) Building Genuine Connection for Child's ThrivingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m sharing a story from a party I went to with Lenore Skenazy (yep, the Free-Range Kids legend herself) that left me buzzing for days—and not because of the drinks. It was the conversations. Real, curious, ask-me-anything kind of conversations with people who weren’t checking boxes or looking for labels, but actually listening and sharing stories. And it hit me: we’ve lost that art. Between social media, polarization, and just being too damn busy, we don’t sit down and really talk anymore. So this is my little nudge to bring it back—ask questions, be curious, and remember that everyone you meet has a story worth hearing.Timestamps:(00:00:31) Idyllic Bungalow Colony Gathering in New York(00:05:24) Reviving Genuine Curiosity through Conversation(00:08:01) Authentic Engagement for Strong Community BondsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
This week, I sat down with the one and only Lenore Skenazy — the “Free-Range Mom” who made headlines as “America’s Worst Mom” after letting her 9-year-old ride the NYC subway alone. We dove deep into the cultural shift that’s replaced neighborhood play with constant supervision, how fear-driven parenting is feeding the kids’ mental health crisis, and why the most powerful antidote to anxiety is actually giving kids more independence. Lenore shared hilarious stories, jaw-dropping stats (spoiler: the kidnapping fears don’t match reality), and actionable ways to bring back trust, freedom, and joy to childhood — starting in your own neighborhood. This conversation will make you rethink the rules, roll your eyes at the fear-mongering, and maybe even send your kid to the store for Skittles.Timestamps:(00:00:53) Childhood Independence Laws for Free Exploration(00:16:28) Promoting Childhood Autonomy for Mental Well-being(00:25:18) Empowering Children Through Independence and Resilience(00:25:19) Promoting Childhood Independence: Overprotection's Impact(00:30:23) Promoting Social Skills Through Independent Play(00:30:34) Empowering Children through Independent Play Movement(00:35:24) Shift from 'Benign Neglect' to Overprotection(00:44:58) Childhood Independence Laws and Let Grow Initiatives(00:44:58) Reasonable Childhood Independence Law for AdvocacyJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Back-to-school season can be rough, and if you’re already seeing those epic after-school meltdowns, you’re not alone. In this bite-sized nugget, I’m talking about after-school restraint collapse—why kids hold it together all day only to fall apart the second they get home—and what you can do to ease the chaos. I’ll walk you through three key strategies (spoiler: food, no questions, and big play), plus why shifting dinner to that 3–4pm window can totally change the game for your family. If dinner has become a nightly battle, this episode is for you.Timestamps:(00:00:39) Post-School Exhaustion Meltdowns: Unwinding Strategies(00:02:34) Energy-Expelling Play for Kids After School(00:08:12) Early Family Dinners Nurture Bonds and MannersJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this episode of Oh Crap with Jamie, I’m diving deep into one of the biggest pain points in parenting right now: consequences vs. punishment—and why so many of us get stuck in that messy middle where nothing’s working and everyone’s losing their cool. I break down why too many chances lead to dysregulation (for you and your kid), how to make consequences immediate, proportionate, and connected to the behavior, and why empty threats destroy trust. We’ll talk about natural, logical, and external consequences, the difference between separation and isolation, and how to handle those moments when sibling fights or big feelings push you over the edge. If you’ve ever wondered how to set firm, respectful boundaries without slipping into shame or control, this one’s for you.Timestamps:(00:02:04) Effective Discipline: Teaching Through Consequences(00:07:23) Fair Consequences: Nurturing Behavior over Control(00:10:16) Teaching Children Through Logical and Natural Outcomes(00:13:03) "Using Logical Consequences for Effective Parenting"(00:16:57) Timely Interventions for Child Behavior Guidance(00:21:16) Conflict Resolution: Nurturing Kids' Independence and SkillsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
If you’re in the middle of potty training and staring down the return to daycare—this one’s for you. I’m breaking down exactly why trying to “get it done” in 2–3 days before sending your kid back is a recipe for disaster, and what you actually need to ask your daycare before you start. From bathroom setups to accident policies to the myth of early self-initiation, I’m giving you the real-deal checklist to set your child up for success (and save you both a ton of stress). Because potty training isn’t a race, it’s a milestone—and the more prepared you are, the smoother the transition back to daycare will be.Timestamps:(00:02:28) Potty Training Preparation at Daycare(00:06:05) Potty Training Transition to Daycare Environment(00:10:39) Potty Training: Cultivating Self-Initiation HabitsDaycare Blueprint CourseJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Y’all, this episode is a full-on TED Talk (minus the PowerPoint). I’m unpacking all the trending parenting labels—gentle, respectful, intentional, sturdy, conscious, child-led—and calling out where we’ve gone off the rails. Are we actually parenting, or just trying not to do what our parents did? I’m digging into why we cling to these labels, how they’re often just code for what we don’t want to do, and why the real magic happens when we get clear on the do's—the actions that actually guide our kids. It’s not about the label; it’s about leading with calm, clarity, and consistency... even when your toddler is melting down in public. If you’ve ever wondered “am I doing this right?”—this one’s for you.Timestamps:(00:01:11) Balancing Firmness and Love in Parenting(00:08:07) Developmental Respect in Parenting(00:15:00) Mindful Decision-Making in Child Rearing(00:20:03) Nurturing Love Through Parenting Challenges(00:22:13) Navigating Parenting Challenges with Care and Respect(00:25:35) Parental Burnout's Impact on Child RearingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m calling out the way the 24-hour news cycle—and the never-ending opinions that come with it—is wrecking our nervous systems. We were never meant to carry the weight of the entire world, and yet here we are: flooded with information, outrage, and heartbreak we can’t do anything about. I’m sharing why it’s okay (and even necessary) to unplug, focus inward, and come back to your own home, your own kids, and your own healing. It’s not privileged—it’s powerful. If you’ve been spiraling from the headlines, this is your gentle, slightly spicy reminder to get grounded and start small. Let’s shift the energy where it actually matters.Timestamps:(00:01:08) Navigating Relationship Strain in Social Media(00:09:17) Combatting Media Bias Through Multi-Source Verification(00:11:42) Creating Positive Change Through Proactive StepsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
If you’ve ever been told to “just wait until they’re ready” when it comes to potty training, this episode is your reality check (and yeah, it might be the hill I die on). I’m breaking down where that phrase really came from (spoiler: diaper companies), why it’s not actually child-led, and how it’s failing our kids—big time. I’m talking poop withholding, pediatricians who mean well but don’t get it, and the difference between struggling and not being ready. If you’ve felt confused, shamed, or straight-up overwhelmed about potty training, this episode is packed with clarity, tough love, and the reassurance that you can absolutely do hard things. Let’s do this.Timestamps:(00:01:53) Supportive Guidance in Effective Parenting Approaches(00:06:22) Potty Training Readiness and Timelines(00:06:47) Proactive Potty Training Approach(00:07:59) Risks of Medicalizing Childhood Potty Training(00:14:03) Potty Training Challenges and Anxiety Management(00:15:11) Child Potty Training and Anxiety ResistanceJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this bite-sized nugget, I’m talking about something that’s creeping into parenting way too much lately: scripts. Everyone wants the perfect words to say, but the truth is—real parenting doesn’t follow a script. We’re raising little humans, not robots, and that means getting creative in the moment. I’m sharing why I believe the point of human existence is creation—and how that translates into your parenting. From ignoring expert noise to trusting that you’re divinely suited for your child, this is your reminder to ditch the step-by-step and parent like the badass creative you already are.Timestamps:(00:01:06) Creative Parenting: Nurturing Life's Masterpiece(00:01:06) Embracing Creative Parenting Approaches for Individuality(00:03:24) Parenting as a Creative Endeavor: Embracing FlexibilityJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
This one’s for the parents of boys. In this episode, I’m diving into a conversation we really need to be having—about our sons, teen boys, puberty, the rise of radical voices like Andrew Tate, and the pressures our boys are feeling in today’s culture. I’m not here to panic or point fingers, but to help us think critically about what’s really going on, how we’re showing up for our boys, and how to keep connection strong even as hormones hit and the Internet gets louder. From the truth about sex hormones and aggression to the problem with the phrase “toxic masculinity,” I’m sharing the big picture (and the hard convos) that can actually support our boys in becoming healthy, grounded men.Timestamps:(00:00:41) Navigating Boys' Online Influence in Parenting(00:02:32) Navigating Adolescent Hormonal Shifts and Aggression(00:11:15) Navigating Masculine Expectations During Puberty(00:22:54) Validation and Connection: Online Radicalization Among Youth(00:34:29) Promoting Open Communication with Children about Emotions(00:38:27) Fostering Early Conversations on Gender and Politics(00:38:27) Effective Teen Communication Building Trust and Respect(00:45:28) "Potty Training Support and Personalized Assistance"Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey friends! In this bite-sized nugget, I’m talking about something I see allll the time in modern parenting—catering everything to the youngest kid. From activities to movie choices, it’s easy to default to what the baby needs... but it’s time we shift that. I’m breaking down what I call “aging up”—prioritizing your oldest’s stage of development instead of dragging them back to toddler-level everything. This episode is part pep talk, part reality check, and 100% permission to not make things fair between siblings (because they never will be). So yeah, your baby might be eating hot Cheetos while watching Harry Potter—but your oldest deserves to grow forward, not backward. Let’s get into it.Timestamps:(00:00:42) Tailoring Family Activities for Developmental Harmony(00:01:02) "Fostering Emotional Growth Through Sibling Dynamics"(00:01:02) Tailoring Experiences to Oldest Child's LevelJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Let’s talk about listening—and why your kid not doing what you asked isn’t always about defiance. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to get your child to listen the first time (without yelling across the house or bribing with snacks). We’re covering everything from how screens impact your kid’s ability to hear you, to why consequences have to be immediate in order to work. I’m also diving into one of the biggest reasons your kid might be ignoring you: they simply don’t believe you’ll follow through. If you’ve slipped into permissive parenting or feel like your kid is running the show, this is your loving, no-nonsense reset. Let’s get back to being the trustworthy, firm, awesome leader your kid actually needs.Timestamps:(00:00:45) Effective Communication in Child Behavior Management(00:02:04) Building Trust Through Effective Child Communication(00:10:05) Building Trust and Boundaries Through Authoritative Parenting(00:17:05) Consistent Boundaries for Authoritative Parenting(00:20:06) Swinging the Pendulum: Restoring Parental AuthorityJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey hey! In this bite-sized nugget, I’m bringing you a half-baked but important thought that hit me hard: when did we lose our connection to food—and what did we fill that time with? I’m talking about the slow erosion of food culture, from the rise of shelf-stable convenience to the fact that so many adults don’t even know how to cook anymore. We’ve got all these time-saving devices, but somehow we’re more burnt out than ever—and we don’t even have time to get our food, let alone cook it. This one’s not a rant (okay, maybe a little)—just a gut-check on how “easy” might actually be making things harder. Let’s chew on it.Timestamps:(00:01:19) The Impact of Convenience on Cooking Skills(00:02:22) "The Disconnect Between Convenience and Burnout"Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this final part of the Village series, I’m going after something big: organized sports and structured activities for the under-six crowd. Look, I know it’s tempting to sign your kid up for everything from ballet to t-ball—but I’m breaking down why that might be doing more harm than good. We’re talking body awareness, emotional regulation, mental load (hello group chats!), and what your little one actually needs in this stage of development. Plus, I’m giving you better alternatives: from drop-in classes to truly free play, and how to build your own little community without losing your damn mind. Spoiler: your four-year-old is not missing out on a scholarship. Tune in.Timestamps:(00:00:41) Promoting Community and Social Skills Through Activities(00:02:51) Early Introduction to Organized Sports for Kids(00:06:22) Autonomous Play: Nurturing Child Development Safely(00:12:51) Teamwork Development Before Age Six(00:14:38) Collaborative Development Through Diverse Team Activities(00:19:41) Balanced Approach to Children's Activity ParticipationJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey friends! In this bite-sized nugget, I’m following up on our convo about phones and overstimulation—because this one really can’t be said enough. Today we’re talking about how your phone use (yes, even for “productive” stuff like emails and scheduling) is hijacking your nervous system and keeping you stuck in a hypervigilant, crouching-tiger state. I’m breaking down how your vision, your body, and your mental load all take a hit—and sharing a few simple, science-backed tricks to help calm your system on the spot. Spoiler: you don’t have to delete Instagram or throw your phone in a lake. But you do need to take your power back. Let’s go.Timestamps:(00:00:33) "The Physiological Effects of Phone Usage"(00:01:42) Phone-induced Sympathetic Nervous System Activation CounteractionJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this final part of the Village series, I’m diving into one of the biggest culprits behind burnout and overwhelm: our phones. Yep, we’re talking overstimulation, the scarcity loop hijacking your brain, and how digital life is quietly (or not-so-quietly) wrecking your presence with your kids. This episode is part rant, part loving intervention—and I’m breaking down why your phone use might be making everything feel harder than it is. From social media to group chats, emails to photos, we’re covering how to stop blaming your kids for your overstimulation when it’s actually your tech overload. No shame, no judgment—just a real look at what’s zapping your bandwidth and how to start taking it back.Timestamps:(00:01:20) Slot Machine Psychology: Parenting and Burnout(00:04:31) Tech Overstimulation Reducing Cognitive Abilities(00:10:30) Reward-driven Engagement in Slot Machines(00:14:08) "The Dopamine-driven Cycle of Social Media"(00:25:20) Analog Methods for Managing Phone Usage(00:30:13) "The Brick: Analog Solutions for Screen Time"(00:37:19) Mindful Phone Usage for Mental Well-beingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Overstimulation—it’s the #1 thing you guys told me is driving your burnout and overwhelm right now. So, in this bite-sized nugget, I’m breaking it down: what overstimulation really is, why it’s not your kids’ fault, and what you can do about it (spoiler: it starts with us).You can’t ask your kids not to be kids—but you can manage the extra inputs tipping you over the edge. I’m sharing tips on reducing mental clutter, rethinking phone use, why silence is magic, and how to stop trying to “get in the flow” when flow just isn’t possible in these early years.Timestamps:(00:00:00) Managing Overstimulation Through Parental Boundaries(00:05:17) Prioritizing Mental Well-Being Through Quiet Moments(00:08:05) Managing Parenting Overstimulation for High-Stress MomentsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Welcome to Part 3 of our Village series! In this episode, I’m getting super practical—because one of the biggest questions I keep hearing is “But HOW do I actually make friends?” We’re diving into what that really looks like (yes, even if you’re an introvert), how to find the people, why “jumping in” matters, and how to stop overthinking every interaction. Plus, I’m sharing tips for building connection in whatever stage of parenting you’re in—homeschooling, working outside the home, stay-at-home, or somewhere in between. This one is packed with real talk, actionable ideas, and a reminder that we all need this kind of connection to survive parenthood (and life). Tune in—you’ve got this!Timestamps:(00:01:37) Navigating Friendship Waves as Parents(00:17:09) Building Community Through Parental Social Engagement(00:20:12) Building Friendships with Genuine Interactions and Interest(00:22:51) Connecting with Parents for Support and Camaraderie(00:24:24) Structured Social Connections in Local Neighborhoods(00:29:41) Bonding through Gym Conversations: A Friendship Story(00:30:54) Empowering Social Growth Through Seeking AssistanceJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey friends! In this week’s bite-sized nugget, I’m answering a question that came in after the “It’s Not Just the Hormones” episodes: how much fat do I actually eat? We’re getting into macros—what they are (and what they aren’t), why calories aren’t the be-all, end-all, and why women (especially Gen X and Millennials) need to let go of the low-fat nonsense we were sold in the ‘80s and ‘90s. I’ll walk you through how I approach fat and protein in my own diet, why it matters so much for hormones (especially during perimenopause), and some big myths about nutrition that need to die already. Grab your coffee and tune in—this one’s short, sweet, and packed with practical info!Timestamps:(00:00:49) Optimal Diet Through Macronutrient Tracking Analysis(00:02:16) Optimal Caloric Intake for Hormonal Balance(00:04:05) Macronutrient Percentages in Various Ketogenic DietsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Welcome to Part Two of our village series, where I’m diving even deeper into what it really takes to find your people. This episode is all about busting the myth that you need a perfect group to fit into—because guess what? You’re not a jigsaw puzzle piece. We talk about why we’re so quick to judge, how our personal values (and parenting ideals) shape who we connect with, and how to balance being picky with being open. I also share a bit about my own friendships—the ones that have lasted, the ones that faded, and what I’ve learned along the way. If you’re navigating motherhood without a ride-or-die, or just trying to figure out how to make real friends in this messy season, this one’s for you.Timestamps:(00:02:28) Embracing Vulnerability for Building Adult Friendships(00:04:20) Navigating Social Awkwardness Without Alcohol(00:08:03) Embracing Vulnerability for Connection and BelongingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey friends! I’m back with another bite-sized nugget and today I’m answering your follow-up questions from the hormone episodes - because the DMs came flooding in. We’re talking red light therapy (yes, I explain the difference between that $300 panel and the chicken heat lamp vibe), what I eat before coffee (spoiler: it's not a croissant), and how to approach probiotics without throwing your gut totally out of whack. This one’s quick, personal, and packed with the nerdy stuff I love. Let’s keep it simple, keep it honest, and keep it rocking. You asked - I answered. Tune in!Timestamps:(00:02:11) Strategic Morning Nutrition for Cortisol Management(00:04:19) Balancing Cortisol Levels Through Nutrient-Dense Foods(00:05:22) Microbiome Health Through Fermented FoodsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherape
Welcome to Part One of “The Village” series, where I’m diving deep into one of the most common (and desperate) parenting cries I hear: Where the hell is the village?! Spoiler alert—it doesn’t just show up. In this episode, I’m unpacking how we got here, what’s changed from just a couple generations ago, and why parenting today feels so damn isolating (especially during those brutal 0–6 years). We’re talking about the crushing mental load, the rise of “toxic” label culture, the myth of fitting in, and how dopamine is messing with our ability to form real connection. But this isn’t a rant—it’s a gentle push to get out of our own way, embrace micro-connections, and start building the community we’re all craving. Let’s talk real village-building—no leprechaun glitter required.Timestamps:(00:03:48) "Moms' Frustration in Modern Parenting Roles"(00:06:23) Modern Parenting Challenges in Childhood Activities(00:18:01) Navigating Toxic and Dysfunctional Family Relationships(00:22:08) Healing Family Dynamics Through Addressing Trauma(00:25:47) Healing Through Compassionate Family Communication(00:28:04) "Influences of Teenage Years on Parenting"(00:37:15) Supportive Connections in Motherhood(00:43:05) Embracing Imperfections and Finding ConnectionJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Let’s talk about mental health-and not just ours, but our kids’. With everything moving at lightning speed these days, our littles are feeling the pressure too. And while structured environments like daycare and preschool might be necessary (and even great in moderation!), too much of it can start to wear on their nervous systems.In this episode, I’m getting into why unstructured, independent play isn’t just “nice”-it’s necessary. Kids need time to decompress, to get bored, to create from scratch using simple, open-ended materials. This is how their brains reset. This is how they process the world.With my background in child development and psychology, I’ve seen firsthand how giving kids more space and fewer adult-led activities can support their mental health in big ways. We don’t need to throw out structure completely-but we do need to balance it with freedom. Because kids deserve to just be, not constantly perform.Timestamps:(00:00:00) Promoting Mental Well-being Through Kids' Downtime(00:00:56) The Importance of Unstructured Play for KidsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
In this eye-opening episode of Oh Crap with Jamie, I’m joined by pediatric airway dentist Dr. Kassi Klein to talk about something that’s affecting way more kids than you might think: airway health. From mouth breathing and bedwetting to sleep struggles and ADHD-like behavior, Dr. Kassi helps us connect the dots between jaw development, oral habits, and the behavioral and developmental challenges we often chalk up to “just being a kid.”Whether your child snores, grinds their teeth, struggles to sleep, or seems to have constant meltdowns - you need to hear this. We’re diving into the overlooked signs of airway issues, the long-term impact of underdeveloped jaws, and what parents can actually do to help.Timestamps:(00:03:20) Early Recognition for Children's Sleep Breathing Problems(00:05:17) Signs of Pediatric Airway Obstruction in Children(00:13:54) Maxillary Width and Nasal Breathing Efficiency(00:15:24) Optimal Tongue Placement for Nasal Breathing(00:19:45) Improving Oral Health Through Myofunctional Therapy(00:20:39) Tongue Function Impact on Picky Eating(00:22:32) Optimizing Airway Function for Improved SleepIG: @Dr. Kassi Kleinhttps://www.airwayhealthsolutions.comhttps://vivos.comhttps://www.toothpillow.comJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey guys - welcome to the very first Mini Nugget! These shorter episodes are for the things that don’t need a full hour but definitely need to be said. And this week? We’re talking about the word trauma, and how casually tossing it around might actually be making parenting harder. I’m breaking down the difference between Big T and Little t trauma, sharing what isn’t traumatizing (spoiler: your kid being mad about the red cup isn’t trauma), and why we need to stop walking on eggshells trying to protect our kids from every uncomfortable feeling. If you’ve ever worried, “Am I traumatizing my child?” - this one’s for you. Tune in, take a breath, and let’s bring some perspective back into parenting. Rock on.Timestamps:(00:00:50) "People who are traumatizing their children don't care if they're traumatizing their children. So that's a really good litmus test." (00:05:32) "Trauma is usually not about the actual event, but it is about what isn't said or done after the event." (00:10:44) "We've become a trauma drenched society and it's just, it's too much." Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey friends! In this episode of Oh Crap with Jamie, I’m coming in hot with a real talk rant about the “sh*t sandwich” of modern parenthood—where you're constantly forced to choose between two crappy options and expected to smile through it.We’re talking about burnout, the myth of having it all, and why family dinner might not be the sacred ritual we’ve made it out to be.I’m sharing what finally helped me stop crashing into the end of the day, why routines matter (yes, even for grownups), and how small shifts like "landing" before dinner can change everything.This one’s part rant, part permission slip, and part call to make some bold, grown-up choices that actually support your life. Let’s throw out the noise, simplify where we can, and get real about what we need. Let’s go!Timestamps:(00:07:38) Transitioning Roles: The Family "Landing" Moment(00:09:33) Playground Meetups: Strengthening Family Bonds(00:14:58) Early Family Dinners Fostering Strong Connections(00:19:42) Child Sleep Schedules: Prioritizing Consistency and Needs(00:23:07) Supporting Work-Life Balance with Household Roles(00:28:55) Money Habits Shaped by Upbringing and Experiences(00:36:58) Financial Strain of Dual Incomes and Childcare(00:38:41) Reevaluating Vacation Choices for Personal AlignmentJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey friends! Buckle up—this week’s episode is a big one. I’m diving into time, burnout, the myth of “having it all,” and why so many moms (especially in the 0-6 parenting years) are hanging on by a thread. I lay it all out—from the mental load and scheduling madness to the pressure we put on ourselves to do everything, perfectly, all the time. We’re talking about “shit sandwiches,” modern parenting expectations, the elusive village (or lack thereof), and what really matters when your time, energy, and sanity are on the line. If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, I literally can’t do one more thing, this episode is your permission slip to slow down, scale back, and breathe. Let’s cut the noise, reclaim our time, and build a life that actually feels good.Timestamps:(00:08:37) Parenting Labor Disparities: Cognitive vs Performance-driven(00:17:20) Balancing Career and Motherhood: Avoiding Burnout(00:19:29) "Pets as Additional Parenting Responsibilities"(00:25:54) Emphasizing Love and Connection for Well-being(00:28:29) Fulfilling Basic Needs for Mental Well-being(00:29:07) Establishing Healthy Sleep Habits for Children(00:32:27) Parental Sleep Prioritization and Cognitive Decline(00:43:54) Efficient Household Management through Communication and Prioritization(00:55:52) Efficient Tools for Nutritious Meal Prep(00:57:45) Eliminating Over-Commitment for Quality Family Time(01:09:45) Parental Well-being: Community Support and Self-careJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
Hey friends! It’s a full-on potty training episode this week, and I’m diving into the common habits and “harmless” tactics that might actually be unraveling your potty training progress without you even realizing it. With summer right around the corner (aka potty training season), I’m laying out some key warnings and what not to do - from relying on “big kid” talk to post-accident potty sits to the weird trend of putting undies over diapers (please stop that!). We’re also talking about the bigger theme behind all of it: autonomy. Potty training isn’t just about getting your kid out of diapers - it’s one of the biggest milestones for helping them step into independence. Tune in for real talk, practical tips, and a pep talk on why giving your kid more responsibility now leads to more cooperation later. You got this. Let’s do it!Timestamps:(00:02:01) Early Start to Avoid Preschool Panic(00:08:37) Empowering Language Choices in Potty Training(00:12:42) Empowering Children Through Independent Life Skills(00:18:34) Muscle-Controlled Potty Training Dribbles Theory(00:25:08) Promoting Autonomy for Successful Potty Training(00:27:06) Child Pooping Challenges and Solutions MasteryJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapee
This week, I sat down with Crystal Popoff, founder of FuturePreneur, and wow—this conversation lit me up. We talked about why college isn’t the only path (especially if your kid has no clue what they want to do), how entrepreneurship can build grit, confidence, and real-world skills, and why starting that journey early—like lemonade-stand-turned-business-plan early—matters more than ever. Crystal’s kits help kids start mini businesses (like a dog walking service or pizza pop-up!) and I am so here for it. We also got real about dopamine, screens, and how to truly connect with your kids in meaningful ways. This one’s packed, inspiring, and honestly made me rethink a few things.Timestamps(00:05:31) Early Entrepreneurship: Nurturing Passionate Young Minds(00:06:19) Young Entrepreneurs' Hands-On Business Development Program(00:10:39) Fostering Young Entrepreneurs Through Creative Activities(00:13:56) Fostering Entrepreneurial Skills Through Project-Based Learning(00:21:36) Teaching Respect for Professions through Hands-On Learning(00:24:53) Empowering Kids to Pursue Entrepreneurial Passions(00:24:53) Hands-On Entrepreneurial Exploration for Kids(00:32:49) Detrimental Effects of Excessive Screen Time(00:41:22) Empowering Kids to Pursue Their DreamsFreebie for audienceKrystal's IGKrystal's FBKrystal's WebsiteJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey friends! In this episode of Oh Crap with Jamie, I’m sharing stories from the health conference I just attended (including a very teary, fangirl moment with my hero Mark Sisson 😅), along with some powerful reminders about slow living, summer planning, and the sacred art of parenting. I talk about why parenting isn’t a checklist - it’s a creative practice - and how we can all start building the village we’re desperately missing. I’ve got thoughts on summer guilt, why consistency beats intensity, and why community isn’t optional anymore-it’s survival. Plus, I’ll tell you the single best thing that changed how I fly. Let’s slow down, connect, and remember that we’re all doing something really important here. Tune in, and rock on.Timestamps(00:00:37) "Biohacking Techniques for Longevity and Wellness"(00:05:05) Life-Changing Encounter with Mark Sisson(00:08:41) Embracing Slow Productivity for Meaningful Outcomes(00:11:38) Parenting Empowerment: Prioritizing Love and Consistency(00:19:30) Transitioning Children After Vacation(00:24:20) Enhancing Emotional Wellness Through Social InteractionsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
This week on Oh Crap with Jamie, we’re getting into the nitty gritty of constipation, hydration, and all the poop-related things no one talks enough about. If your kiddo is struggling with dry, nuggety, or just plain weird poops, this one’s for you. I’m breaking down why fiber might actually be making things worse, why fat is your kid’s best friend (hello, butter!), and how overhydration is totally sabotaging potty training. We’re also talking fruit (spoiler: it’s not a free-for-all) and why snacking might be more about gut bacteria than actual hunger. As always, I’m here to help you connect the dots between what your kid eats, how they poop, and how they behave—because it’s all very connected. Tune in for real talk, no fluff, and plenty of practical advice to get your little one pooping like a champ!Timestamps(00:06:03) Optimizing Children's Health Through Animal Fats(00:07:50) Optimal Gut Health in Children: Fiber Considerations(00:17:56) The Impact of Marketing on Hydration(00:23:12) "Balancing Fruit Intake for Young Children"(00:25:02) Impact of Excessive Fruit Consumption on Gut Microbiome(00:28:47) "Nutrient-Dense Healing for Children's Gut Health"Jamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey guys! In this episode of Oh Crap with Jamie, we’re diving deep into the wild world of Minecraft, video games, and tech use in kids—and I’ve got a LOT to say. Spoiler: I’m actually pro-Minecraft. 🙃 But like everything else in parenting, it’s all about context. I’m breaking down the difference between obsession and addiction, how these games can actually teach real-world skills like coding and cooperation, and why we need to stop lumping all screen time into one bad category. Plus, I’ll talk about the social needs that games like Minecraft and Fortnite are filling, especially for kids who don’t have the freedom to just roam with their friends like we did growing up. And yes, we’re also covering the real tech villains—short-form video, overstimulating kids' shows, and why smartphones are a whole different beast. If you’ve ever felt unsure about your kid’s screen habits, this one’s for you. Let’s get into it!Timestamps:(00:09:05) "Encouraging Creative Play: Minecraft's Unique Benefits"(00:09:55) Empowering Children Through Tech Creation in Minecraft(00:10:38) Educational Benefits of Minecraft's Multiplayer Mode(00:11:51) Enhanced Skills Through Video Game Mastery(00:20:37) Video Games as a Social Platform(00:24:58) Balancing Technology and Real-Life Connections in Childhood(00:37:13) Parental Guidance in Children's Smartphone Usage(00:41:37) Technology Influence on Homeschooled Children's Socialization(00:48:53) Positive Impact of Low-Stimulation Children's ProgrammingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey everyone, Jamie here with another episode of "Oh Crap with Jamie," and this week, we're diving back into the topic of hormones—but it's not just about the hormones. After noticing some heated discussions about parenting teenagers versus younger kids, I've decided to expand on our understanding of different parenting stages. Remember the crucial shifts from governing to guiding as our kids grow? That's what we're unpacking today. We'll explore why the teenage years might seem daunting and how shifting our parenting approach can make a significant difference. I’m also delving into the broader issues facing women today, particularly around healthcare disparities and the often overwhelming pressure of managing perimenopause. Join me as we break down these complex topics with the aim to empower and inform. Don’t miss out on a blend of tough love, practical advice, and some heartfelt discussions on navigating these challenging yet transformative stages of life.(00:09:11) "Empowering Wellness through Personal Experimentation"(00:12:47) Advocacy for Women's Hormonal Health Rights(00:15:39) Hormonal Cycle Productivity Optimization in Workplaces(00:19:52) Generational Misalignment: Parenting Through Menopause(00:23:18) Navigating Midlife Through Perimenopause Transition(00:31:01) "Muscle Building for Insulin Regulation and Health"(00:34:34) "Embracing Physical Transformation during Menopause"(00:37:19) Gradual Weightlifting Progress for Menopausal Fitness(00:38:48) Gradually Increasing Weights for Muscle Growth(00:49:55) Sprint Intervals for Optimal Hormonal Health(00:57:41) Optimizing Hormonal Balance Through Nutrition Tracking(01:11:53) Adrenal Health Through Lifestyle AdjustmentsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey, everyone! It’s Jamie on this week’s episode of "Oh Crap with Jamie," where we're taking a deep dive into a hot topic—hormones! But guess what? It’s not all about the hormones. From the turbulent teen years and the onset of puberty to the twists and turns of perimenopause and menopause, I'm unpacking the myths and providing a fresh perspective. If you've ever thought that mood swings, sarcasm, and the infamous eye rolls from your preteens or teens were just hormonal, or if you’re approaching menopause and bracing for the worst, this episode is for you. I’ll share insights into the vast changes our bodies and minds undergo during these critical life stages, backed by the wisdom of experts like Daniel Siegel and through personal anecdotes. We're talking about the brain changes, social dynamics, and yes, a bit about those hormones too, but with a twist. Join me as we explore how these life phases are more than just biological shifts—they’re about growth, understanding, and sometimes, rediscovery of ourselves. Tune in to break down the barriers of hormone myths and discover how to navigate these changes with grace and knowledge!(00:00:01) Adolescent Development: Navigating Emotional Changes and Independence(00:04:25) Adapting Parenting Styles to Teenage Needs(00:12:16) Engaging Teens through Meaningful Conversations(00:18:11) Learning Healthy Relationships Through Real-Life Experiences(00:20:37) Navigating Adolescence: Shifting Parenting to Guide Mode(00:32:35) Evolutionary Perspective on Menopause's Biological Shifts(00:38:04) Dismissive Attitudes Towards Menopause Healthcare(00:46:35) Cortisol Management for Hormonal Balance(00:49:28) The Influence of Melatonin on Reproductive Health(00:51:51) Significance of Oxytocin in Female BondingJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey friends, Jamie here with another episode of "Oh Crap with Jamie" where parenting meets potty training in our new, merged podcast format! This week, I'm tackling a topic that you might be familiar with - peeing in the pants during potty training. Specifically, we're diving into the tricky transition from bottomless to pants on, and why your little one might be having accidents as they learn. I'll share some straightforward tips from my book (check page 133 in the yellow cover for the latest scoop!) on moving successfully from block one to block two, and how to set your kiddo up for dry days without the stress. Whether you're a first-timer or revisiting potty training with another child, this episode packs practical advice, plus a little personal oversharing on my end. Tune in, and let's navigate these parenting waters together!(00:07:01) Promoting Dry Pants Through Potty Training Success(00:09:07) Pants-On Potty Training Progression Strategy(00:09:50) Empowering Children in Potty Training SuccessJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey friends, Jamie here with another episode of "Oh Crap Parenting!" This week, as we edge into spring, I'm sharing a personal update about overcoming bronchitis and diving into some juicy topics that have been on my mind. First up, we're tackling independent play—why it's crucial for your kids and how to encourage it without micromanaging their every move. Then, I'm getting real with a rant that's been brewing about the unsolicited "just wait" advice that seems to follow parents at every stage. Whether it's about toddlers, teens, or perimenopause, let's chat about flipping the script to offer support instead of doom. So tune in, get inspired, and maybe even a little riled up, because parenting is all about the wild ride! As always, drop a 🎙️ in the comments if you want the direct link to this episode sent to your DMs. Let’s rock this parenting journey together!(00:06:21) External Validation's Impact on Children's Dopamine Levels(00:09:21) Encouraging Independent Play for Firstborn Children(00:12:18) Encouraging Autonomy Through Uninterrupted Play(00:20:35) Optimistic Parenting Perspectives Through Generations(00:22:34) Navigating Child-Rearing Through Adolescence(00:24:30) Fostering Autonomy Through Struggle and SupportJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
Hey there! It’s Jamie from "Oh Crap Parenting" and in this week’s episode, I'm super stoked to chat with Raquel Hopkins, a certified coach, therapist, and the founder of Success is Complicated. We’re diving into the concept of capacity in parenting, something I’ve touched on before, but Raquel brings a whole new depth to it. She shares her journey from a high-flying HR professional to a mental health advocate, stirring in some fresh insights from adult development theory and how it meshes with our everyday struggles and triumphs as parents. We talk about everything from the pressures of modern motherhood to finding your personal capacity for growth and change. Raquel’s stories about balancing work, life, and the messy, beautiful act of raising kids will resonate with anyone who’s ever felt overwhelmed or underprepared in the parenting trenches. So, tune in, lean back, and let's unravel these complicated threads together because parenting is tough, but oh so rewarding!(00:03:33) Promoting Continuous Growth Through Coping Strategies(00:07:13) Navigating Parenthood with Personal Growth Perspective(00:10:07) Navigating Parenting Challenges: Building Self-Trust(00:15:44) Embracing Growth Through Radical Responsibility Journey(00:25:09) Embracing Change and Building Support in Motherhood(00:31:12) Navigating the Pressure of Modern Parenthood(00:36:01) Embracing Change for Personal Optimization in Therapy(00:39:59) Thrive by Balancing Life Roles EffectivelyJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
In this week's episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I'm diving into the wild and sometimes overwhelming world of five-year-olds. Five can be such a tricky age — one minute they're fiercely independent, and the next they're melting down over who got the bigger slice of cake. I break down what’s really happening in their little brains (hint: it's called the Limbic Leap), why emotions feel so intense at this age, and how you can help your kiddo self-regulate without losing your own mind. We'll talk about building autonomy, teaching emotional language, and finding those moments of calm in the chaos.(00:02:39) Autonomy Support in Gen X Parenting Trends(00:05:36) Guiding Children Through Significant Life Milestones(00:08:52) Navigating the Limbic Leap: Parenting a Five-Year-Old(00:13:42) Limbic Growth Impact on Children's Emotions(00:16:34) Empowering Children Through Chores and Autonomy(00:23:18) Empowering Children to Self-Regulate Emotions(00:26:09) Promoting Emotional Regulation in Parenting PracticesJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
This week on Oh Crap Parenting, we're tackling a big one: when (and how) to talk to your kids about drugs and alcohol. This conversation is so much more than just "Don't do it!"—because let's be real, that approach doesn't work. I’m breaking down why affluent school districts tend to have more substance use, why we cannot assume "Not my kid," and how to have actual meaningful discussions that go beyond scare tactics. Plus, I'm sharing what I did with Pascal, including a radical (but necessary) approach that might just change how you think about this. We’re talking peer pressure, sneaky social media drug sales, the dangers of fentanyl, and why being your kid’s safe harbor matters more than ever. Let’s dive in. (00:04:42) Understanding Family Views on Substance Education(00:07:51) Encouraging Awareness: Substance Effects on Young Minds(00:10:27) Alcohol's Deceptive Influence and Risky Behaviors(00:16:44) Navigating Teen Impulsive Behaviors with Trust(00:22:42) "Fentanyl: A Hidden Danger Among Teenagers"(00:24:42) Starting Conversations: Teen Substance Use DiscussionsJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein Sticks
This week on Oh Crap Parenting, we’re diving into the concept of “the village” and what it truly means in today’s world. Let’s get real: the idyllic, supportive village we imagine doesn’t just show up ready-made. It’s messy, awkward, and sometimes not to our liking, but it’s essential for our sanity as parents. I’m sharing why we often reject the village, the impact of hyper-individualism on parenting, and how we can start building our own messy-but-beautiful community. Whether it’s folding laundry with a friend or letting others step in to help with your kids, I’m challenging you to step out of your bubble and rethink what support really looks like. Let’s bring back connection and ditch the overwhelm—together. (00:00:01) Embracing the Village: Parenting with Community (00:08:44) Embracing Community Support in Parenting Journey (00:12:17) Embracing Support for Enriching Family Dynamics (00:14:58) Community-Based Parenting Collaboration in Modern Families (00:19:22) Empowering Parents to Make Personal Decisions Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this week’s episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I’m diving into the theme of "starting too late" when it comes to parenting fundamentals. We’re tackling two big areas: chores and the all-important conversation about sex. I’m sharing why these milestones are best introduced early and how delaying can make things way more complicated (hello, resistant preteens!). From scaffolding life skills to managing tricky conversations about bodies, consent, and relationships, I break it all down into approachable, age-appropriate steps. Plus, I sprinkle in personal anecdotes and practical tips to help make these sometimes-awkward topics a lot less daunting. Tune in to start building strong foundations now—because it’s never too early, but it can be too late! (00:04:42) Ongoing Age-Appropriate Sex Education Conversations (00:07:28) Family Unity Through Early Household Responsibilities (00:09:55) Empowering Children Through Household Contributions (00:13:39) Early Conversations: Building a Foundation for Puberty (00:15:17) Developmentally-Gradual Introduction to Sex Education (00:30:39) Empowering Teens Through Open Sexual Health Talks Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
This week on Oh Crap Parenting, we're having some fun as we close out the year with lighthearted holiday stories and a few important reminders for next season. From navigating tricky Santa conversations to avoiding the trap of over-the-top traditions like Elf on the Shelf (trust me, I dug myself a deep hole with rhyming advent scavenger hunts!), I’m sharing my best tips and laughs to help you reflect on this holiday season. Plus, a gentle nudge to embrace the magic of giving and slow down as we enter the new year. Let’s wrap up December with some joy, humor, and hopefully a bit more ease. (00:03:14) Navigating the Truth About Santa Claus (00:08:42) Navigating Truth and Innocence: Santa Claus (00:09:34) Transitioning Children's Focus to Giving at Christmas (00:10:47) Embracing Generosity and Love During Christmas (00:17:22) Embracing Darkness: Active Nighttime Outdoor Adventures Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this week’s episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I dive into the Surgeon General's recent warning that parenting is hazardous to your health—especially your mental health. I unpack the two major crises we’re all grappling with: a time crisis and a self-care crisis. From the pressure of hyper-vigilant, intensive parenting to the guilt that keeps us trapped in over-scheduling and activities, I’m breaking it all down. I share tips on setting boundaries, simplifying your days, and carving out essential time for yourself—because self-care isn’t selfish, it’s life-giving. Let’s talk about how we can scale back, protect our energy, and nurture the parenting relationship without burning out. It’s time to take care of YOU so you can show up fully for your kids. Let’s do this! (00:01:17) Parenting Struggles: Balancing Time and Finances (00:03:38) Balancing Love and Support for Resilient Children (00:09:56) Balanced Approach to Childhood Education and Parenting (00:11:36) Essential Self-Care for Effective Parenting (00:17:51) Strength Training for Parental Self-Care (00:25:12) Enhancing Parenting Instincts Through Boundaries and Self-care Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this heartfelt and reflective episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I share how I stay grounded through the chaos of the holiday season while looking back on the fleeting early years of parenting. I talk candidly about the mix of joy and nostalgia that comes with watching my son Pascal grow up and offer a mix of practical advice and emotional insight to help parents balance their busy lives with the moments that truly matter. From tips on managing holiday activities to finding small ways to connect with your child amidst the frenzy, this episode is about doing less, loving more, and embracing the little things that make the season special. Let’s tackle the holidays with intention and gratitude together! (00:08:08) Balancing Self-care and Parenting Priorities (00:12:36) Creating lasting holiday memories with children (00:19:27) Sunrise Family Walks: Nature Bonding Benefits (00:22:04) Maintaining Balance Amid Holiday Social Pressure (00:24:43) Prioritizing Well-being During Festive Season (00:28:45) Meaningful Gestures: Holiday Joy Through Simplicity Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this week’s episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I’m sharing my top three tips for a peaceful holiday season with kids. From keeping your little ones well-fed before the big meal to avoiding power struggles over holiday food, I’ve got you covered. I talk about the magic of leaving gatherings on a high note (instead of waiting until they’re melting down), and the power of a quiet, whispered reprimand to prevent embarrassing your child in front of others. Holidays can be chaotic, but with a few thoughtful strategies, you can make them joyful and stress-free for the whole family. (00:00:44) Whispered Reprimands and Happy Holidays (00:05:01) Creating Positive Memories by Leaving Early (00:08:16) Discreet Communication for Parental Guidance at Events Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this episode of Oh Crap Parenting, I’m breaking down what’s really going wrong with “gentle parenting” and why so many parents feel like it doesn’t work. The idea behind gentle parenting was never about giving in or being permissive—it’s about being responsive without letting every big feeling run the show. I talk about co-regulation, validating emotions without making them rule the household, and why kids still need clear boundaries to grow. If you feel like “gentle parenting doesn’t work,” tune in to get clarity on what it actually means to be a responsive parent! (00:00:45) Emphasizing Responsive Parenting for Autonomy Development (00:06:40) Emotionally Validating Parenting for Healthy Development (00:11:14) Respecting Children's Autonomy through Gentle Parenting (00:17:16) Balancing Parenting Duties and Quality Time (00:24:08) Balancing Attention for Healthy Family Dynamics Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this episode, we tackle a phrase we all know too well: "Use your words!" But here’s the thing—our kids don’t always have the words, especially when they’re melting down. I talk about why expecting kids to verbalize their feelings during a tantrum can set us all up for frustration, and how we can better understand what’s really going on beneath their behavior. We’ll break down how unmet needs and connection gaps are often at the root, and why finding ways to stay calm and regulated is key. Join me as we explore better ways to support our little ones through their toughest moments! (00:02:02) Interpreting and Nurturing Toddler Emotions and Behavior (00:05:02) Fostering Strong Parent-Child Bonds through Connection (00:07:58) Creating Strong Family Connections through Shared Activities (00:14:19) Peak Tantrum Management Techniques (00:16:13) Calm Reflection for Effective Teaching Discussions Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this episode, I’m breaking down the key differences between boundaries and rules, showing how each plays a unique role in guiding your child's behavior and emotional growth. Rules provide clear instructions—like screen time limits or mealtime guidelines—while boundaries create the framework where kids can explore and understand limits with some autonomy. I’ll share how consistent boundary-setting helps kids navigate and test their environment, supporting their social-emotional development. We’ll also talk about how these concepts apply to adult relationships, focusing on how understanding and communicating boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy connections without trying to control others. This episode is all about finding that balance between structure and flexibility. (00:03:22) Flexible Boundaries Enhance Child Guidance (00:08:33) Boundary Exploration in Child Development (00:14:51) Empowering through Boundaries: Parenting Strategies (00:15:38) Setting Boundaries: Key to Healthy Relationships (00:20:42) Navigating personal limits for healthy relationships Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
In this episode, I dive into the incredibly important concept of giving our kids the gift of failure. Inspired by Jessica Lahey’s book, The Gift of Failure, I explore how allowing our kids to fail, take risks, and have unstructured time builds resilience and independence—something they desperately need in today’s overscheduled world. We talk about autonomy, supporting emotional growth by acknowledging their frustration without jumping in to fix things, and why stepping back and letting them figure it out on their own might just be the greatest gift you can give them. It’s all about fostering independence, problem-solving skills, and emotional strength. Tune in for some eye-opening parenting strategies! (00:00:35) Fostering Resilience and Independence in Children (00:10:00) Building Trust Through Validating Children's Emotions (00:12:37) Empowering Children Through Problem-Solving Skills (00:18:13) Encouraging Autonomy through Supportive Parenting Approach The Gift of Failure Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler Paleovalley Protein Sticks
I have more to say about the importance of family meals and how to make them work for your family, this week. It's all about aligning your values, finding a routine that fits your life, and most importantly, creating connection after a long day apart. Whether it's shifting dinner times, understanding your child's needs, or redefining what family meals mean to you, it's time to rethink how we approach this daily ritual. Tune in to explore how small changes can foster deeper connection and reduce dinnertime stress. (00:00:53) Enhancing Family Connections Through Mealtime Communication (00:05:07) Nurturing Family Bonds Through Shared Meals (00:09:50) Strategic Early Dinner for Family Bonding (00:14:13) Foundational Needs for a Harmonious Family Paleovalley Protein Sticks Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Digital Canner I’m breaking down how to simplify family mealtime without sacrificing nutrition or sanity. We’re talking about the importance of looking at your kids' nutrition over the span of several days rather than stressing about every single meal. I’m sharing my go-to tips for meal prepping, like using rotisserie chicken to whip up easy and healthy meals (because who has time for elaborate dinners every night?). We’ll also cover how to handle picky eaters without turning mealtime into a battle and ways to minimize mealtime stress while focusing on connection with your kids. Let’s make meal times easier, less chaotic, and more enjoyable for everyone. (00:00:38) Balanced Kids' Nutrition Approach for Parents (00:08:43) Rotisserie Chicken for Quick Family Meals (00:13:52) Creative Meal Approaches for Picky Eaters (00:19:31) Efficient Meal Preparation with Prepped Components (00:26:37) Identifying Children's Root Behavior Triggers in Parenting (00:28:01) Prioritizing Sleep and Connection for Parents Paleovalley Protein Sticks Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today, I tackle one of the biggest challenges we face: balancing work and home life, especially when working from home. I dive into the friction points that can trip up our daily routines—like those chaotic mornings or stressful mealtimes—and how to design a family life that works for you, not against you. By identifying these "hot spots" and making small adjustments (like prepping meals ahead of time or finding the right workspace), we can create smoother, less stressful days for everyone. Let’s make life more manageable for both parents and kids! (00:07:20) Identifying Daily Routine "Hot Spots" for Balance(00:08:57) Optimizing Daily Routines to Enhance Well-being(00:10:59) Morning Routines for Positive Starts(00:11:28) Proactive Meal Prep for Smooth Mornings(00:21:03) Minimize Family Stress Through Strategic Design Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
This week, I’m joined by Sarah Kleiner, a Quantum Health Coach and expert in circadian and quantum biology, to dive into how our bodies' natural rhythms affect everything from sleep to energy levels and overall health. We talk about optimizing circadian rhythms, balancing hormones through small lifestyle shifts, and why seasonal eating can make such a difference. Sarah breaks down the impact of blue light on sleep and offers practical tips for managing light exposure to support melatonin release and improve your well-being. This episode is packed with insights into how aligning with nature’s cycles can help you feel your best! Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahkleinerwellness?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Sarah's website: https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com (00:11:32) Quantum and Circadian Biology (00:16:22) Circadian Rhythms (00:16:29) Optimizing Health Through Circadian Rhythms Sync (00:21:48) Melatonin Production Through Light Management (00:27:32) Melatonin-Boosting Blue Light Blocking Strategies (00:32:45) Sunlight Exposure for Hormone Production and Health (00:39:25) Harmonizing Nutrition with Circadian Cycles (00:49:05) Nutrition and Light Integration (00:49:24) Empowerment Through Free Health and Wellness Guides Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today, I tackle a topic that’s been causing quite a stir in many households: After-School Restraint Collapse. You know, that moment when your little one comes home from school and just melts down after holding it all together all day? It’s a real thing, and it’s hitting kindergarteners, first graders, and second graders hard. In this episode, I share why it happens and how you can help your kids transition smoothly from the structured school environment to the calm of home. From allowing transition time to prioritizing outdoor play and early bedtimes, I cover strategies to make these after-school hours a little less chaotic and a lot more connected. Plus, I dive into the importance of playtime and how we can better balance homework with much-needed family time. Let’s navigate this together and ensure our kids get the support they need as they adapt to the demands of school life.(00:01:04) Emotional Meltdown: Kids Coping After School(00:08:03) Creating a Calm Homecoming for Schoolchildren(00:11:48) Recharging Through Outdoor Play: Kids' Vitality(00:17:40) "Bedtime Bonding: Nurturing After-School Connections"(00:21:55) The Impact of Excessive Homework on Elementary Students(00:27:24) Promoting Play for Child Development Success(00:29:59) Building Handwriting Skills Through Playful Activities(00:37:30) Supporting Children's Back-to-School Transition Mindfully Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In Episode 195 of the Oh Crap Parenting Podcast, I address what might be the most important topic we’ve covered to date: the impact of parental exhaustion and the crucial need for connection with our kids. Lately, I’ve been seeing more and more behavioral issues—meltdowns, out-of-control behavior, even potty training setbacks—and I believe it all boils down to a lack of connection and the frantic pace of our lives. In this episode, I talk about how slowing down, reducing outside activities, and focusing on being truly present with our children can make all the difference. This isn’t just another parenting tip—it’s about creating a calm, connected family life that helps our kids thrive.(00:02:50) Parental Exhaustion's Influence on Children's Behavior(00:05:16) The Power of Soft Connections with Children(00:12:02) Promoting Well-being through Slower Family Life(00:13:06) Empowering Children Through Autonomy in Parenting(00:25:04) Understanding Children's Panic Response Triggers(00:31:35) Balancing Technology and Parent-Child Bonding Through Activities(00:39:02) Empowering Children Through Holistic Parenting Approach(00:40:54) Individualized Parenting Approaches Based on Child's Needs Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In this episode, I dive deep into the ways our phones and constant digital distractions are leading us straight to burnout, affecting not just our own mental health but our parenting too. Inspired by a recent Mel Robbins podcast, I explore how excessive screen time floods our brains with dopamine, making it harder for us—and our kids—to tolerate boredom and truly connect. I share my own struggles with phone addiction, how I’ve set boundaries, and why it’s crucial to disconnect to reset our minds and hearts. Join me as we unpack how to reclaim our peace, be more present, and avoid the burnout trap.Mel Robbins podcast episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UmCZlyBjnjxw9lZsB1dSi (00:00:46) Dopamine Impact of Smartphone Addiction on Children (00:04:11) Impact of Excessive Screen Time on Mental Health (00:06:25) Resetting Dopamine Receptors to Reduce Phone Use (00:11:10) Parenting Mental Load and Burnout (00:20:12) The Dopamine-Driven Effects of Screen Time (00:26:32) Balancing Digital with In-Person Connections (00:33:20) Preventing Burnout Through Mindful Parenting Practice Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In today's episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with Chantel Zimmerman, founder of a forest school in New Jersey and a passionate advocate for nature-based learning. We delve into Chantel's philosophy of prioritizing the parenting process over the outcome, emphasizing the importance of being present and mindful throughout the journey. Chantel shares her insights on aligning family activities with core values, fostering meaningful connections, and the joy that comes from intentional, family-centered parenting. We also explore the challenges of parental burnout, the significance of self-care, and the power of authentic communication in building strong, emotionally healthy families. Join us for an episode filled with practical advice and thoughtful reflections on raising children with empathy and mindfulness. Follow Chantel on Instagram: @sensory_garden_and_play (00:03:41) Emphasizing the Learning Journey(00:06:08) Authentic Family Connections and Parenting Practices(00:08:33) Prioritizing Family Time Over Rat Race Stress(00:10:38) Emotional Focused Family Seasonal Organization(00:22:59) Authentic Parenting: Shaping Childhood with Self-Awareness(00:24:38) Parental Support Networks for Well-being in Parenthood(00:30:38) Building Authentic Connections Through Uncomfortable Dialogues(00:35:45) Nurturing Meaningful Connections to Prevent Burnout(00:39:32) Personalized Pathways to Inner Balance(00:49:03) Quality Family Time Through Dinner Conversations(00:51:54) Balancing Work and Family for Well-Being Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the recent passing of my mom and the profound journey of grief that follows. Losing a parent is a transformative experience, and I candidly share the layers of grief, the emotional rollercoaster, and the societal discomfort around death that I’ve encountered. Reflecting on my mom’s complex medical history and our moments together during her final days, I discuss the importance of preparing for the inevitable and finding peace in the process. Join me as I honor my mom's memory, explore the spiritual growth that comes with loss, and celebrate the beauty and complexity of life and death. (00:00:41) Grief and Spiritual Transformation After Loss(00:02:40) The Journey of Coping with Complex Health Issues(00:09:51) End-of-Life Support(00:22:29) Navigating Grief Through Personal Transformation(00:30:27) Navigating Loss and Spiritual Transformation(00:32:25) Embracing Mortality: A Daughter's Journey(00:41:26) Navigating Grief without Alcohol: A Personal Journey(00:42:18) Embracing Imperfections and Forgiveness for Healing Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
I’m diving into Inside Out 2 to unpack how the film mirrors the teenage experience. We’ll explore the role of sarcasm, the depiction of belief systems and anxiety, and how these elements resonate with real-life adolescent emotions. I’ll share insights on managing emotional volatility, the importance of building a strong connection with your teen before they hit their teenage years, and tips for handling communication breakdowns. Join me for a deep dive into what the film gets right and where it misses the mark! (00:06:15) Navigating Teenage Sarcasm with Patience (00:08:37) Anxiety's Intricate Influence on Belief Systems (00:13:15) Navigating Teens' Emotional Changes with Empathy (00:21:26) Parental reactivity impacting teen communication and support (00:23:51) Nurturing a Soulful Connection with Teenagers Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey you guys! Today, I sit down with the incredible Anna Sneed, known as "the period lady" for her expertise in menstrual cycle education. Anna is a dedicated empowerment and life coach who passionately believes in the importance of body literacy and understanding menstrual cycles as the "red thread" that connects us all. Together, we dive into the phases of the menstrual cycle, how they impact mood and daily activities, and the power of tracking these fluctuations to improve communication and support within relationships. Anna shares invaluable insights on normalizing conversations about menstrual health, advocating for women's well-being, and empowering our daughters through education and practical tools like period preparation kits. Join us for a fascinating discussion that will change how you view and navigate menstrual cycles in your family and beyond. (00:04:24) Seasonal Influence on Menstrual Phases(00:23:14) Enhancing Relationships Through Menstrual Health Education(00:25:29) Tracking Hormonal Phases(00:30:10) Menstrual Cycle Hormonal Impact on Emotions(00:30:10) Promoting Body Literacy for Women's Health(00:32:38) Period Tracking App with Education Emphasis(00:44:29) Period Starter Kits(00:44:33) Normalize Menstruation Education(00:44:33) Confident Menstrual Health for Daughters Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey friends! I'm seeing a lot of people online talk about "slow summers" and "creating summer memories" with their kids and I wanted to share my perspective on this topic. We're talking about the magic of creating memorable and restful summers for our kids, even when work commitments keep us busy. We'll explore the benefits of traditional camps and summer programs that build connections, improve behavior, and reduce stress for both parents and children. I'll share how simple activities like backyard camping, nature walks, and making ice cream can foster deep bonds and lasting memories. By slowing down and being present, we can create summers full of joy and rejuvenation. Let’s make this summer one that our kids will cherish forever, filled with impromptu fun and quality time together.(00:00:43) Creating Lasting Summer Memories for Kids(00:12:08) Joyful Summer Memories Through Ice Cream Adventures(00:15:09) Nurturing Bonds and Memories with Simple Activities(00:18:39) Prioritizing Quality Time to Connect with Kids(00:21:12) Potty Training Support and Parenting Resources Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In this episode, I sit down with Jeanne-Marie Paynel, founder of Your Parenting Mentor and host of the Art of Parenting podcast, to dive deep into what Montessori education truly entails. Jeanne-Marie, a master of education and an experienced Montessori consultant, explains the core principles of Montessori, focusing on child-driven learning, freedom of choice, and the importance of a prepared environment. We discuss how these elements foster independence and emotional development in children. We also touch on the significance of freedom of movement and practical life skills in Montessori settings, along with the benefits of mixed-age classrooms. Jeanne-Marie shares invaluable insights for parents looking to create supportive, engaging environments that promote their children's growth and autonomy. Join us to explore how Montessori can transform your parenting approach and support your child’s development in profound ways. (00:03:58) Child-Driven Learning Environments in Montessori Education(00:09:11) Montessori Approach Fosters Child-Led Education(00:22:57) Child-Driven Learning in Montessori Education(00:23:21) Child-Centered Learning in Montessori Classrooms(00:30:55) Enhancing Child Development Through Movement in Montessori(00:32:55) Child-Centered Environment for Effective Parenting(00:34:08) Independent Development Through Practical Tasks(00:48:08) Autonomy-Driven Montessori Nursery Setup(00:48:08) Autonomy Promotion Through Transition to Floor Bed Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey, hey! Today, I dive into the dynamics of relationships and how they form a "love umbrella" that shields the entire family. I talk about how power imbalances in marriages impact co-parenting and family unity. We explore the significance of addressing postpartum depression, the influence of parental behavior on children's emotional development, and the critical need for regular communication and alignment on parenting philosophies. I share insights on creating a secure and loving environment for your children by maintaining a strong emotional connection with your partner. I also emphasize recognizing signs of a toxic marriage and the importance of not staying together just for the kids. Prioritizing your relationship is essential for a stable and nurturing home. Join me as we uncover the foundations of a strong partnership that benefits the whole family. (00:03:03) Parenting Unity: Impact of Marriage Dynamics(00:06:26) The Impact of Postpartum Depression on Relationships(00:09:04) Parental Relationship Impact on Children's Emotional Development(00:12:21) Nurturing the Marital Relationship for Family Harmony(00:15:35) Strengthening Family Unity through Shared Principles(00:20:52) "Prioritizing Love and Affection in Marriage"(00:32:38) Unified Front in Parenting for Family Harmony Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today we're talking about the art of apologizing, especially with our kids. Apologies aren't just about saying "sorry" – they’re about making amends and truly repairing relationships. I'll talk about the key components of a genuine apology, like taking responsibility, expressing real remorse, and listening to the other person's perspective. We'll discuss why overpromising in apologies can be harmful and how to avoid defensive reactions. I’ll also share tips on effective communication and addressing past hurts without deflecting responsibility. Tune in to learn how to foster healthier, more honest relationships through sincere apologies.(00:02:34) Genuine Apologies Fostering Healthy Relationships with Kids(00:03:17) Sincere Efforts to Mend Relationships through Apologies(00:08:56) Authentic Apologies: Acknowledging Mistakes and Improving(00:12:13) Meaningful Apology Guidelines(00:18:06) The Art of Genuine Apologies(00:18:59) Prioritizing Clean Emotional Transactions in Relationships Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey you guys! Today, we're talking core memories, popularized by the Pixar movie Inside Out, and discuss how this idea, while engaging, is not based in science. I caution against the societal pressure parents may feel to create these "perfect" memories, emphasizing that true core memories are formed from the emotional connections behind everyday moments. Forget about orchestrating extravagant events; the best memories come from simple, meaningful interactions like cooking together or playing outside. Tune in to learn how staying present and creating loving, calm moments can help build lasting, positive memories for your children. (00:02:29) Core Memories Concept(00:08:44) Emotional Connections(00:13:03) Nostalgia and Childhood Memories(00:15:54) Emotional Impact on Lasting Memories(00:19:54) Memory Fallibility Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In this episode, I dive into the complex world of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), a subtype of autism spectrum disorder characterized by extreme avoidance of social demands and anxiety-driven meltdowns. We'll explore the nuances of PDA, how it manifests in children, and why it often goes unrecognized in traditional autism screenings. I’ll share effective strategies to manage PDA and similar behaviors, emphasizing the importance of tailored support and understanding. By implementing low-demand cues and fostering collaboration and autonomy, we can help our kids feel more in control and less anxious. Join me as we unravel the intricacies of PDA and learn practical ways to support our children's unique needs.(00:00:01) Overactive Threat Response in Pathological Demand Avoidance(00:08:34) Unique Strategies for Addressing Pathological Demand Avoidance(00:16:48) Navigating Anxiety in Children with PDA(00:29:34) Empowering Anxious Children through Collaborative Autonomy(00:31:01) Empowering Language for Children's Autonomy Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey, hey, you guys! I dive into the importance of seeing the world through our children's eyes. We start by discussing the magical perspective children have on nature walks, where every creek and puddle is an adventure. Then, I share a personal story about how my son's fascination with trains led us to hours of joy at the train station, highlighting the value of child-led exploration. We also touch on complex family dynamics, such as relationships with estranged grandparents, and how our kids' views can offer unexpected insights. Join me as we explore how embracing our children's unique perspectives can enrich our parenting journey and strengthen our family connections.(00:00:52) Discovering Nature's Wonders Through a Child's Eyes(00:04:20) Exploring Trains through a Child's Eyes(00:08:28) Embracing Children's Intrigues through Exploration(00:15:08) Evolution of Grandparent-Grandchild Relationships(00:19:57) Navigating Family Dynamics with Nuance Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today's a short one from the archives! We're diving into the tricky world of timed warnings for kids. Ever told your little one, "We're leaving in 30 minutes," only to be met with resistance or outright dismissal? You're not alone! In this episode, I break down why these warnings can backfire and how to use them effectively. We'll talk about setting realistic expectations, using timers, and giving kids concrete activities to mark the end of playtime. Tune in to learn how to keep your transitions smooth and tantrum-free! Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey, hey, you guys! This episode originally aired on Patreon March 4, 2021 but I wanted to reshare it her because I get questions on kiddos and speech all of the time.I’m so excited to have a special guest with us today who is going to address many of the questions you have been submitting about your kids and their speech development. Marci Melzer, M.Ed./SLP, is an intuitive speech-language pathologist with 30 years of experience helping people to develop the ability to use spoken language functionally. She is the founder of the online platform ‘Waves of Communication’, the author of If it isn't FUN it ISN'T fun: Teach Your Child to Talk Faster Than Speech Therapy, and the host of her own YoutTube channel. Through each of these initiatives, Marci helps families to facilitate language themselves faster, easier, and with a lot more fun than speech therapy, and she shares a wealth of information and advice with us all here today.She begins by explaining her role and work, and then we delve deeply into the world of kids and language. In essence, we look at the development of speech in children, the signs that your child may need help with that development, and some strategies to employ should the need arise. Along the way we also discuss such topics as learning multiple languages, the use of sign language, and how to implement strategies during times such as the current pandemic. What Marcia and I want to make crystal clear is that there is no guilt to be assigned here. There are certain aspects in life that can block the development of speech and stop its evolution, and today we explore some ways to help you address them. I can tell you, we could have gone on for hours talking about this subject, and if you want to learn even more, don’t forget to check out Marci’s 370 free step-by-step strategy videos on YouTube! Waves of Communication homepage Waves of Communication YouTube Channel If it isn't FUN, it ISN'T fun (00:04:43) Promoting Appreciation Over External Comparisons in Parenting (00:08:50) Evolution of Language Skills in Children (00:14:04) Factors affecting language development in children (00:28:26) Language Exposure Impact on Late Talkers (00:28:26) Effective Communication Strategies for Late-Talking Children (00:28:26) Enhancing Language Development Through Parental Engagement (00:36:46) The Role of Speech Models in Development (00:45:42) Speech Models for Effective Language Development (00:46:46) Split Vocabulary Development in Multilingual Children (00:51:03) Speech Development: Overcoming Challenges and Providing Support (00:55:12) Meaningful Daily Interaction to Strengthen Bonds Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In this episode, I'm joined by sleep expert Jessica Berk from @awesomelittlesleepers to dive deep into the world of toddler sleep. We're tackling everything from maintaining boundaries in parenting to handling transition periods and adjusting sleep training for older kids. With Jessica's expertise and my own experiences, we explore setting time limits for bedtime conversations and the importance of establishing a structured bedtime routine. Plus, we discuss the flexibility needed in sleep schedules while emphasizing the long-term benefits of instilling good sleep habits in our little ones. If you're struggling with your toddler's sleep, this episode is a must-listen!(00:05:15) Promoting Healthy Sleep Habits Through Consistent Boundaries(00:08:03) Transition Buffer Periods for Smooth Adjustments(00:10:03) Empowering Older Kids through Bedtime Choices(00:15:33) Bedtime Routine Optimization through Time Boundaries(00:23:40) Empowering Children Through Structured Bedtime Routines(00:26:19) Empowering Children Through Bedtime Preferences(00:29:47) Optimizing Children's Sleep Patterns for Well-being Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
I'm back with another truth bomb. Parents, we are messing it up. Today, I'm covering preparing young adults for financial independence and the negative impact of over-parenting. I emphasize the importance of allowing kids to navigate challenges independently, fostering resilience, and self-sufficiency. By striking a balance between old-school and modern parenting approaches, we can raise confident, capable individuals ready to tackle life's challenges. Tune in to learn more about promoting personal responsibility, teaching resilience, and creating a harmonious family dynamic.(00:06:19) Promoting Resilience Through Independent Financial Learning(00:08:12) Promoting Self-Reliance in Child Rearing(00:10:14) Fostering Resilience Through Independent Challenges(00:15:09) Promoting Independence and Responsibility in Parenting(00:17:34) Emphasizing Communication for Effective Parenting(00:20:22) Fostering Independence and Resilience in Children
Today, we are entering the world of magnesium with Dr. Barb Woegerer! Dr. Barb Woegerer, a naturopathic doctor based in Vaughan, Ontario, Canada, specializes in women's health, stress management, and inflammatory conditions, with a key emphasis on the role of magnesium in overall health and wellness, especially in treating constipation. Together, we explore the different types of magnesium and their unique benefits. From improving sleep to addressing digestive issues and boosting energy levels, Dr. Barb shares valuable insights into the role of magnesium in overall health and wellness. Discover how magnesium deficiency can impact various health issues, and learn how to choose the right form of magnesium for your specific needs.(00:01:42) Selecting the Right Magnesium Type for Health(00:11:02) Citrate Magnesium for Effective Constipation Relief(00:15:58) Comprehensive Assessment for Magnesium Deficiency Levels(00:18:53) Magnesium Depletion Due to Chronic Stress(00:31:26) Magnesium's Vital Role in Enzymatic Reactions(00:33:51) Optimizing Magnesium Absorption for Better Health(00:37:04) Optimizing Health with Specific Magnesium FormsDr. Barb's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbarbwoegerer/Dr. Barb's Website: https://www.barbwoegerer.com Dr Barb's Recommendations:Bisglycinate Powder: https://www.thorne.com/products/dp/magnesium-bisglycinateCitrate Powder: https://www.designsforhealth.com/products/magcitrate-powder/#MGL240Combo Powder: https://www.designsforhealth.com/products/trimag-supreme-night-powder#TRMGNTCanadian Brand, Cytomatrix, Magnesium Powder: https://cytomatrix.ca/products/magnesium-bis-glycinate-400mg-full-chelate/Types of Magnesium Chart: https://www.instagram.com/p/CvGYdXeOmgu/?igsh=OXU2dWR6bDltb2d4 Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey, hey, you guys! Today, I dive into the complexities of teaching personal accountability and navigating eye rolling behavior in children and teenagers. Sharing some anecdotes, I explore strategies for instilling accountability in kids through modeling behavior and addressing disrespectful actions like eye rolling. From understanding the challenges of parenting teenagers to managing emotional reactions to disrespectful behaviors, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for fostering accountability and healthy parent-child relationships. Tune in for a candid discussion on accountability, eye rolling, and effective parenting techniques!(00:00:52) Prioritizing Health for Survival and Well-being(00:03:35) Building Strength for Long-Term Well-Being(00:08:25) Modeling Personal Accountability for Children(00:10:48) Teaching Personal Accountability Through Parental Modeling(00:15:22) Navigating Teenage Emotions like Surfing Waves Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
We're diving into the intricate world of sibling dynamics. From observing the natural pecking order among siblings to navigating conflicts and fostering healthy relationships, I explore the complexities parents face in nurturing sibling bonds. Drawing parallels to the pecking order among chicks, I stress the inevitability of sibling hierarchies and the importance of acknowledging and accepting them. I advocate for a hands-off approach, allowing sibling relationships to develop organically while providing guidance and setting boundaries when necessary. Join me as we delve into effective strategies for handling sibling conflicts and promoting harmony within the family dynamic.(00:01:48) Understanding Sibling Dynamics in Family Relationships(00:04:08) Encouraging Natural Development in Sibling Relationships(00:09:57) Navigating Sibling Dynamics for Harmonious Relationships(00:12:23) Direct Parenting: Setting Firm Boundaries Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey! Today, we delve into the rhythm and routine of parenting, exploring how consistency and circadian biology play vital roles in creating stability for both parents and children. From establishing bedtime rituals to navigating the infamous "witching hour," I provide practical insights and strategies to help parents maintain sanity and structure amidst the chaos of daily life. Join me as we uncover the importance of prioritizing self-care, establishing calming routines, and aligning our daily rhythms with natural light cues for optimal well-being.(00:02:06) Relentless Parenting for Establishing Boundaries(00:04:36) "Afternoon Challenges: Navigating the Witching Hour"(00:13:16) Optimizing Sleep Quality with Circadian Rhythms(00:19:02) Calming Rituals for Better Sleep Routine(00:24:11) Energy-Boosting Activities for Overall Well-being Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today, we're talking "Tiny Dictators" and parental preferences, exploring how organization and setting boundaries play a crucial role in managing these challenges. From establishing designated spots for everyday items to navigating children's preferences for one parent over another, I offer practical insights and strategies to maintain authority while fostering a harmonious household environment. Join me as we tackle the complexities of parenting and empower ourselves to navigate these common yet often challenging dynamics with confidence and clarity.(00:00:48) Designated Spots for Everyday Items(00:05:37) Avoid Negotiating with Miniature Controllers(00:07:15) Managing Children's Parental Preferences with Consistency(00:11:16) Consistent Enforcement for Establishing Authority with Children(00:14:27) Visual Aids and Clear Communication for Children Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
We're revisiting tantrums today! From understanding the root causes to managing those intense emotions, we're covering it all. Learn how to navigate the tantrum arc, support your child through meltdowns, and distinguish between typical behavior and manipulative tactics. Plus, I talk about what's coming up in my new parenting community, Oh Crap! Cafe which is a great resource for any parent needing some community and support. Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler (00:05:16) Understanding and Managing Children's Tantrums Effectively (00:07:02) Preventing Tantrums through Mindful Environment for Kids (00:09:35) Navigating Tantrum Arcs in Young Children (00:16:17) Tantrum Management in Parenting (00:21:37) Emotional Outbursts: Understanding Children's Behavior Differences
Today, we're talking about the intricacies of managing emotional states of our kids with a focus on nurturing emotional intelligence and resilience in children. From acknowledging and validating their feelings to providing tools for emotional navigation, we explore how parents can create a supportive environment where kids feel understood and empowered to manage their emotions authentically. Additionally, we discuss the importance of fostering autonomy in children and guiding them through the impact of social media on their perceptions and self-esteem. Join me as we navigate the complexities of teenage heartbreak and the significance of emotional safety in parenting, empowering parents to raise emotionally resilient children equipped to handle life's challenges with grace and strength.(00:02:45) Supporting Kids' Emotional Intelligence and Resilience(00:05:42) Fostering Autonomy Through Decision-Making in Children(00:07:45) Social Media's Influence on Children's Perceptions(00:08:45) Supporting Teens Through Emotional Turmoil(00:09:45) Building Resilience Through Adversity in Parenting Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
You know the drill. Your kid can totally dress themselves and then suddenly they have a meltdown getting dressed because suddenly they can't. Today, we'll discuss this phenomenon through the lens of the typical morning rush. From helping children get dressed to managing their resistance to activities, it's all about finding the delicate balance between support and independence. Join me as we explore strategies for promoting cooperation, fostering autonomy, and understanding the mental load both moms and toddlers carry. Together, we'll tackle the morning madness and embrace the freedom of letting our children express themselves through their outfit choices. (00:00:01) Navigating Enabling Behavior on Snow Days(00:10:19) Clothing Choices Impact on Morning Routines(00:11:17) Fostering Emotional Connection Through Child Dressing(00:13:12) Promoting Independence Through Playful Parenting(00:19:47) Empowering Children's Autonomy in Activity Participation(00:28:56) Empowering Children Through Clothing Choices Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey! Today we're talking about the concept of internal and external locus of control and its profound implications for parenting and personal well-being. Together, we'll explore how reframing parenting responsibilities from "I have to" to "I get to" can bring a sense of gratitude and joy to our daily tasks, deepening our connection with the role of being a parent. We'll discuss the empowering nature of an internal locus and its impact on self-efficacy and motivation, and I'll share personal reflections on maintaining a flexible work schedule for greater happiness and control over my life. We'll also delve into the pitfalls of helicopter and snow plow parenting, emphasizing the importance of allowing our children to face challenges independently to nurture resilience and self-reliance. Discover how integrating children into household chores can instill a sense of responsibility and connection within the family unit, shaping them into responsible individuals with a strong work ethic. Dr. Peter's article: https://cdn2.psychologytoday.com/assets/attachments/1195/ajp-decline-play-published.pdf?_gl=1*1irxu86*_ga*MTA4MzA5NTg4Ny4xNzA3NDk2MzMy*_ga_5EMHF6S1M6*MTcwNzQ5NjMzMi4xLjAuMTcwNzQ5NjM0NC40OC4wLjA.)CBD Link: https://www.greencompassglobal.com Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Oh Crap! Cafe Parenting Community Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler (00:01:12) Shifting Mindset in Parenting Responsibilities(00:04:32) Empowerment through Internal Locus of Control(00:08:30) Flexibility in Work Schedule and Self-Efficacy(00:15:19) Fostering Independence and Self-Advocacy in Children(00:22:33) Obstacle-Embracing Parenting Approach(00:28:09) Fostering Responsibility Through Household Contributions(00:35:50) Bonding and Learning Through Household Chores
Discover why play is essential for your child's growth, from enhancing cognitive development to fostering social skills. Today, I'm joined by Dr. Peter Gray, a research professor at Boston College specializing in psychology and neuroscience, who has dedicated his career to understanding the value of play in children's lives. He is a founding member of the board of Let Grow and author of the acclaimed book "Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life." Dr. Gray shares insights into how play promotes creativity, problem-solving, and emotional well-being in young children, unraveling the transformative power of play-based learning in schools. Explore the therapeutic benefits of play therapy for children and learn how engaging in play activities can reduce stress, improve mood, and enhance overall well-being. Join the conversation on the role of play in promoting physical fitness, creativity, and the development of social skills. Tune in to understand why play is crucial during early childhood development and how it positively impacts brain development and adult mental health. Dr. Peter's Substack Free to learn book An Article from Dr. Peter Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler (00:01:12) The Significance of Unstructured Play in Child Development (00:08:01) Discovering Passions Through Self-Directed Play (00:11:10) The Role of Rules in Children's Play (00:20:04) The Power of Age-Mixed Play in Reducing Bullying (00:27:31) Unstructured Free Play Fostering School Friendships (00:40:25) Developing Street Smarts Through Age-Mixed Play (00:42:59) Decline of Neighborhood Play due to Organized Activities (00:56:50) The Impact of Academic Pressure on Student Mental Health (01:03:59) Creating a Nurturing Environment for Children (01:10:46) Fostering Independence Through Solo Adventures
We're diving into the importance of addressing sensory needs in children through specific physical activities. Understanding and meeting the sensory needs of our children is crucial for their overall well-being and development, regardless of whether they have specific sensory processing challenges. From sensory bins filled with rice or pompoms to climbing and hanging activities that provide essential proprioceptive and vestibular input, we explore practical strategies that benefit all children. Join me, as we discuss the significance of recognizing and honoring our children's sensory behaviors and creating safe environments for exploration. Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey guys! In today's fast-paced world, nurturing our children's self-esteem and emotional resilience is more important than ever. In this episode, I dive deep into the dangers of seeking constant external validation and the impact of academic pressure on children's mental health. It's essential for parents to recognize the signs of a nervous learner and provide a supportive environment. We also explore the importance of promoting self-validation skills and allowing children to navigate their emotions independently. From reflecting on daily highs and lows to engaging in challenging activities, there are many ways to foster self-esteem and resilience. Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Erica's Website: https://www.centerforconfidentparenting.org/ Hey! Today, we dove into the essential topic of establishing solid sleep routines for our little ones. Joined by the insightful Erica Desper, we talked all things consistency, understanding your child's unique temperament, figuring out the right bedtime, and how light and activity impact sleep schedules. You know how vital consistency is, especially with hectic schedules, and we shared tips on maintaining that routine. We discussed understanding your child's temperament, because, let's face it, every kiddo is different. Figuring out the ideal bedtime based on wake time? Yup, we've got you covered. And, of course, we delved into the impact of light and activity on those precious sleep hours. Join us as we navigate the world of healthy sleep routines for your little ones, because well-rested kids are happy kids! Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
In my latest podcast episode, I'm tackling self-berating behavior in our kiddos, especially around ages five to seven. I break it down with practical insights and strategies to help you navigate this challenging phase. One key tip is differentiating between attention-seeking behavior and more serious concerns. I reassure you that sudden self-deprecating thoughts aren't necessarily red flags for severe mental health issues. It's all about understanding and creating a safe space for open dialogue with your child. I dive into the power of storytelling as a parenting tool and share how it can normalize mistakes and help build resilience. Throughout, I stress the importance of being present, attentive, and fostering that meaningful connection with your little ones. Let's make your parenting journey a little smoother! Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey, hey, you guys. Today, I'm opening up about a real parenting moment - you know, the kind we all face! Join me as I share a personal story of a repair moment with my teenage son, Pascal. We're diving deep into the challenges of effective communication and adaptation in parenting. Parenting is a constant learning curve, and even experts like me make mistakes. But here's the scoop on repair, connection, vulnerability, and adapting to build those rock-solid parent-child relationships. Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
This week, we're diving into a topic close to my heart – managing capacity and setting boundaries for productivity. As we wade through the chaos of December and beyond, I share my personal journey of finding balance and offer tips to help you navigate busy times effectively. From breaking down projects into bite-sized tasks to reconsidering our relationship with social media, I spill the beans on what works for me. Setting boundaries is key, and I'm all about prioritizing self-care and personal limits to prevent burnout. Plus, forget traditional resolutions – let's talk about choosing a guiding word for the year! Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Hey, parents! In our latest episode of "Oh Crap Parenting," I had the pleasure of chatting with the incredible Kate Pope, aka the Wild Nutritionist. We dug deep into the world of regenerative nutrition and gut health, unraveling the impact of what we eat on our well-being. Kate's passion for nutrient-dense foods and a healthy gut microbiome is downright contagious! From the gut-brain connection to tackling picky eating and introducing solids for little ones, Kate dishes out practical advice that's a game-changer for families. We also tackled the hurdles of promoting regenerative nutrition in a world filled with processed goodies. Kate's wisdom is all about embracing our body's natural ability to thrive with the right nutrients. So, grab your headphones and join us on this journey of mindful eating, gut health, and empowering choices. Kate's Website Kate's Instagram Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today, we're talking with the incredible Dr. Sarah Oreck. Dr. Sarah is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and the visionary behind Mavida Health, an organization striving to revolutionize mental health care for individuals on their parenthood journey. Sarah's perspective on challenges and support in women's health and perinatal care is shaped by her keen observations of the substantial lack of understanding and support for women's mental health during this critical period. From the lack of research and understanding to the unique struggles brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic, we're shining a light on the issues that need our attention. Plus, we're breaking the silence on life transitions like postpartum and perimenopause and the crucial need for open discussions. Dr. Sarah's Website Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Join me and the incredible Erica Litzner, a parent, a long time listener, and patron on Patreon, in a deep dive into the rollercoaster world of parenting in our latest podcast episode. We're tackling the nitty-gritty of effective parenting, from the importance of self-care (yes, YOU matter) to understanding the profound impact of childhood trauma on both parents and kiddos. We're navigating the pandemic's parenting challenges, exploring attachment theory, and unveiling the secrets of maintaining mental well-being. Tune in for some real talk, laughs, and a whole lot of parenting wisdom.
We've got a fantastic episode lined up with a special guest in the house – Eli Hardwood, AKA the Attachment Nerd. Eli's not just a therapist and mama; she's the guru when it comes to all things attachment theory. In this episode, we're getting real about attachment parenting. Eli breaks down the four attachment patterns, spills the beans on breaking those generational habits, and dives into finding that sweet spot between nurturing and letting your kiddos spread their wings. But wait, there's more! We're also tackling the teenage brain rollercoaster and giving you the lowdown on navigating those adolescent emotions. Tune in for a chill chat, some expert insights, and a whole lot of parenting wisdom. It's Eli, Jamie, and you – breaking attachment patterns and rocking the parenting game. Eli's Website! Order Her Book, Securely Attached! Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today, we're talking to Allie Ticktin, MA, OTD, OTR/L, about sensory and child development, sensory sensitivities, and sensory toys. Allie is a seasoned occupational therapist with a focus on the significance of sensory development and play in early childhood. Holding a master's degree and a clinical doctorate in occupational therapy, and having personally experienced sensory issues as a child, Allie brings a unique and informed perspective to the table. She firmly believes that sensory development and play are vital for early childhood development, arguing against early academics and emphasizing the role of play in building muscles and sensory skills that support academic tasks later on. Allie suggests that a lack of play and sensory experiences can lead to an increase in behavioral issues and developmental needs, and she underscores the role of toys and play experiences in shaping children's interests and passions. Join Jamie and Allie on this episode of The Oh Crap Parenting with Jamie Glowacki to delve deeper. Here’s a link to Allie's holiday gift guide!Jamie's WebsiteJamie's CoursesJamie's InstagramJamie's PatreonOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Today, Jill Wright is joining me to talk about rediscovering one's creative spark and trust one's intuition, despite the challenges that busy moms face. Jill is a business strategist for the super mom, who has devoted her career to assisting others in striking a balance between creativity, time management, and motherhood. As the host of the podcast, Grow like a Mother, and with a background in data and analytics, Jill has a unique perspective on the importance of creativity in personal growth and fulfillment. She shares her strategies and insights in her book, "Happy, Healthy, Wealthy, and Wise," to help mothers incorporate creativity into their lives and achieve balance. Join us in this episode of The Oh Crap Parenting as they delve deeper into this topic. Check out all things Jill! Jamie's Website Jamie's Courses Jamie's Instagram Jamie's Patreon Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler
Let’s discuss aging parents, toxic parents, narcissistic parents, and setting boundaries. Somewhere along the line, we start to parent our parents. They can seem demanding and childish…and that’s par for the course. Today we’ll talk about best practices in keeping your boundaries. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Let’s kick off by discussing the crazy amount of options that are drowning us as people and parents. Then, I’ll answer a question being asked by many families: what should I do if my preschooler doesn’t like school? This naturally leads us into intentional living with our kids…what that means and how we can get it. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I’m talking with Ilene Steinberg who founded and is the CEO of the Center for Lice Control. Ilene’s going to run us through some huge misconceptions about lice, what you can do to truly stave off an infestation, and the actual REALLY good reason that lice are so contagious. Website: Center for Lice Control Ilene’s IG: Ilene Lice Queen Steinberg Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m going to continue exploring “the village” and ways we can ask for help in hard parenting moments. This dovetails into when little ones need more stimulation because they’re bored and getting into trouble. And then we’ll talk about how fearful parenting can present. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Kids are wild, man. We can’t control their behavior but we can control our reactions. And that’s mostly the crux of parenting. Surfing the wave of difficult times without freaking out. We’ll loop in two awesome questions from patrons about psycho mom rearing her head and another about when your kid is clear about a need but asks in a crappy way. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, we’ll start with a few more autumnal things, especially cozy food like braising. We’ll also talk about what little things we can do to plug up our own energy drains. One way to do that is brutal self care. In these early childhood days…you are in the thick of it. Self care isn’t necessarily pretty at this stage but more about making your life evenly paced and easier. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, we’ll start with a small download about my epic Spartan Race that I did with Pascal. Then we’ll move into keeping your child well this fall…which directly leads into the sports question. Sports for kids under the age of six gets tricky and it’s important to know your “why”. Being intentional about it can really help. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Let’s talk about “the parenting village” and a few ways we’re making it super hard on our own selves. I’m also sharing a couple of Power Hour ideas for the end of the day as well as tips to calm your child before bed. And we’ll tackle an awesome question from a patron about her super shy child. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m doing a round up of: where I go…for inspiration, information, how to do things…some of my favorite products, books, clothes, and accounts. Youtube: The dad account: Dad, How Do I? Homeschool: Stop stealing dreams, by Seth Godin Punished by rewards, by Alfie Kohn John Holt And John Taylor Gatto was the guy I was confusing with John Holt Food inspo: Slow Down Farmstead How to make tallow (skincare) this is just one recipe; there are lots out there. My favorite leggings and bathing suit. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Yup… let’s talk about that after school restraint collapse and what you can do to mitigate it. And then we’ll super focus on how to fill your child’s Control Bucket. We all know they have an emotion bucket but they also need control, at all ages. We’ll talk a lot about not only their need for some control but why it’s so important to foster growth and independence. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we’ll talk about yelling and listening in addition to a bunch of reminders such as: getting better sleep, how to really instill confidence and self esteem (in you and your kids), dealing with the back-to-school clusterf**k, and the parenting PTSD that’s so real if your child was born in 2020/2021. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m speaking with Ruth Gordon Martin, a postpartum doula and the founder of Coddle.co (@coddledotco on IG). She is like the warm hug we all need after giving birth! The global baby industry is estimated to be 214.13 BILLION DOLLARS. And yet, hardly anything goes to supporting mamas after birth. No wonder we’re all wondering where the village is. Ruth’s company makes beautiful specific products for your mental and physical well being and healing. I just loved talking to her. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Today’s episode originally aired on Patreon on March 4, 2021 Marci empowers parents to help their kids with any speech problems and/or delays. She’s the author of: If It Isn’t FUN, It Isn’t Fun. She also has a super engaging YouTube channel called Waves of Communication Marci’s Homepage - https://wavesofcommunication.com/home Waves of Communication - https://www.youtube.com/@WavesofCommunication Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Okay…let’s talk about big transitions…particularly with back to school coming up. Make sure you ease into a new schedule and don’t forget about transitional objects to help! Also: due to some recent family events, I’m gonna bug you guys to attend to matters in the event that something should happen to you. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
OMG. I’m geeking out for this interview. I’ve followed Michelle for a long time and just adore her story. In a crazy world, where eating highly processed, hyperpalatable food is considered to be “moderation” and a sign of having no food issues...Michelle healed her own body, mind, spirit, and athletic performance by bucking the dietician standards. Ya’ll know, I love bucking the system. She’s the author of The Dietician’s Dilemma, an awesome book about how our current recommendations are probably not the best route for most people who need healing. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Michelle’s IG: @runeatmeatrepeat Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today is more for the older kids! How do we teach our kids to do chores? How can support our kids as they grow? And family relationships aren't natural; we have to work at them. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m responding to some questions from past episodes. One topic that’s come up is that not all visiting/vacations are great for kids. I want YOU to be rested and having a good time, so set yourself up for that! We’ll also go through behaviors your child might have that are worrying you… when should you get an evaluation? And also touch on the unending treadmill of sickness in kids and what you can do about it. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In honor of July 4th, I’m giving my personal recs for visiting DC. We just went last week, so everything is fresh on my mind. I’ll tell you this straight up: DC is not for the weak. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Personal update time! Why you won’t hear my rooster, what’s going on with my Mom and why I’m not gonna leave you alone about strength training, my very interesting CGM experiment, and a little more on picky eating. As mentioned in this podcast: Good Idea discount code: goodidea.us code: JAMIE Full body kettlebell workout. If you subscribe to her channel, she has lots of good workout! Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m thrilled to talking with Erin who is the fantastic force behind the Instagram page @Spinsandstomps. When she realized that her daughter didn’t seem to be hitting some developmental milestones, she became an unrelenting but graceful advocate. I say graceful because I’ve never met another person who is more so. I learned so much from her and how she approaches parenting her autistic daughter is just wonderful to see and hear. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
All right! I got to sit down and chat with Vani Hari, aka The Food Babe. We talk about how she accidentally became the influential food activist she is today. She takes on huge corporations, getting them to ditch their most toxic additives in food. You know I love all things food and this conversation was awesome. We also discuss the worst ingredients for kids. You can find Vani at: foodbabe.com IG: @thefoodbabe And her new cookbook: Food Babe Family is available for preorder (and comes with some extra bonuses too!) Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
As more and more parents are considering homeschooling, I’d like to answer many questions the people have. Today, I’ll go over when and why I decided to homeschool Pascal, what we’ve learned along the way about curriculum, various resources, lots of tips to keep you sane, and the never ending question of socialization. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I’m thrilled to be talking with Suzanne Warye, influencer-turned-sobriety influencer. She hosts The Sober Mom Life Podcast and she’s committed to sharing the truth about the alcohol industry. I’ve learned so much from her! We’ve been tricked and specifically targets by Big Alcohol to think we can’t handle motherhood without wine. I didn’t know alcohol is a class 1 carcinogen nor did I know that it’s associated with all kinds of cancer, particularly breast cancer. Suzanne is loving and kind and I think this is a really important conversation. Podcast: The Sober Mom Life IG: @mykindofsweet And: @thesobermomlife Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Ooooo….this one is a good one! Coming direct from questions from Instagram: Is your child’s dysregulation a form of self sabotage? How to parent, work from home, and limit screens during the summer? Multiple kids, multiple needs, and what’s up with the freaking snacking? Handling the school to camp transition for a super routine lover? And more questions… answered! Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This podcast was originally released June 6, 2022 and though I talk about “real life” after the pandemic, many of the lessons still apply. Coparenting can be a tough road but we must remember that children will thrive as long as both parents are loving and kind to one another. We’ll move onto sensory issues, which many kids now display; are they visual, auditory, or tactile? How can you help your child manage this? And lastly, how I personally use my knowledge of my attachment style to bring it to a relationship. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Postpartum is the most fragile and vulnerable stage of motherhood and we’re routinely not supported. Thinking you might hurt your baby is one of the biggest hallmarks. Let’s also talk about “going to your room” and what might be going wrong. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This mini podcast was first released on Patreon in May of 2020. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Your kid has just done or said something that super activates you. You can feel yourself starting to dysregulate. That moment, that split second… you need to PAUSE, so you can regulate yourself. If you continue to dysregulate, your child will match you. Today, we’ll dissect what goes into that pause and how to regulate yourself asap. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode is a replay because it’s so good as we head into summer! Lauren and I talk about summer bucket lists, how vital nature is for our kids, and ALL THINGS TICKS. Website: https://kidswhoexplore.com Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, let’s get back to those tweens! And talk about when/how to start allowing your child to stay home alone. Before that, I want to share about the conference I recently attended and a little bit more about good food on the go. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode originally aired on Patreon on May 26. 2020. Though I recorded this through the lens of the pandemic, this is an important topic: why “killing” bad guys and aggressive play is important for kids. Further reading on this topic: The Science Behind Play-Fighting and Why It’s Not All Bad - https://www.mother.ly/parenting/the-science-behind-play-fightingand-why-its-not-all-bad/ Boys: Understanding Rough and Tumble Play - https://www.firstfiveyears.org.au/child-development/boys-understanding-rough-and-tumble-play Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m taking on the big, big subject: picky eating. Let’s sift through a whole bunch of stuff cause a lot of what I’m seeing is getting crazy. There’s a lot to unpack here and I’m looking forward to dialogue. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode originally aired on Patreon on Oct 22, 2020 We all know that HOW we talk to our kids matters but let’s talk about how MUCH we talk to our kids and why too many words can be highly ineffective. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, let’s break down some finer points about abuse, then talk about what to do if you have a runner. Which will lead us into sensory feedback, what that means, raising independent kids, and how to help hitters. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode originally aired on Patreon on March 2, 2022 In Oh Crap I Have A Toddler, I discuss a concept I see in my work all the time. I call it: using your marriage love as a crash pad instead of an umbrella. The love you have with anyone co-parenting your child is what will hold the family together. It needs to be an umbrella to protect from the storms, not a crash pad at the end of the day (or ropes). I’ll also dive into fear and what that does to the brain and my personal lessons on riding the wave of teenage-hood. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Michelle and I met on IG and we’re just shooting the shit today about working out, feeling good in your body, and ya know… life as a mom. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode originally aired on Patreon on March 25, 2021 and references the pandemic; when we really needed to talk about resiliency. But the lessons still hold even though we’re not in lockdowns and the crazy pandemic parenting. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
my recent experience with legit: no expectations how to make emotional literacy part of your family culture this often means modeling the behavior you want to see Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode originally aired on Patreon on April 22, 2021 There’s a lot of confusion on the difference between these two things. Many people are opting for toxic positivity or false positivity and it’s not helpful. Like at all. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
When gentle parenting goes sideways. the term “gentle parenting” is getting greatly stretched into something it’s not meant to be. let’s talk about the term “behavior modification”. extreme parental preference to the point of a toddler dictating what parents do and when. a new parenting philosophy: Hard Parenting. That’s it. This shit is hard. End of story. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Positive Reinforcement and some Qs and As. connection before connection tantrums over losing it’s okay for a child to feel bad at times Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nikki is the owner of The Fem Method Pelvic Health, specializing in prenatal, postpartum pelvic health. This is an open and raw conversation about pooping, painful sex, period products, and the truth about kegels. If you’re not comfortable with discussion about bodily parts and corresponding fluids…g’head and skip this one. Meanwhile Nikki and I laughed our asses off. IG: @thefemmethod Web: thefemmethod.com Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode was originally released on Patreon on April 29, 2021. All things bullying today: the overuse of the term the secretive nature of bullying the oversimplification of situations being bullied, being the bully Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?
Thank you so much for all the incredible feedback on Ep 108 about mental load. I can honestly say, I’ve heard from both ends of the spectrum and everything in between. Today, we’ll dig in with even more nuanced conversation about it. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode was originally released on Patreon on Jan 20, 2022. Today we’ll be talking about lessons from Maverick, my cold plunging, and attachments style and a brief primer on what they mean. And how to apologize effectively (spoiler: a lot of folks do it wrong). Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Whoop! I’m so excited about this episode with Danielle! She’s a functional nutrition therapy practitioner and blood sugar specialist. With so much internet noise about food and nutrition and different ways of eating, it can be so overwhelming to know what’s right for YOUR body. But there’s a way to cut through all that noise and that’s learning about insulin and blood sugar and your particular body. This is particularly important while navigating highly palatable foods and our little ones. This may be my all time favorite interview. Web: Daniellehamilitonhealth.com IG: Danielle Hamilton Health Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today’s episode has two parts: Various versions of when a child hoards toys, even if they don’t want to actually play with them Our capacity. This word is so fitting and goes beyond our physical capacity…it embodies what we’re able to handle emotionally and in our souls/hearts at any given time. And why it’s important to honor our “carrying capacity”. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m opening the conversation about invisible labor in any given household. We’re in a cultural shift of Dads parenting in a way that overall, hasn’t happened before. Generally speaking, the language around this is “dads are helping now”... which sort of mucks things up. While there’s plenty on the internet about the mental load of moms, we also need to acknowledge the mental load of dads, which is often forgotten about. This is a messy-human conversation and there’s lots of nuance to it. So I ask that we proceed with grace. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today is a little mish mash of random thoughts: when someone comes to you with a problem letting go of toxic people stepping out of victimhood because your circumstances might be different candy and crap food in school bravery and lying Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This interview was so fun! Mikki is a Conscious Co-Parenting Coach. If you’re separating or divorcing, you need her warm, compassionate help. We’re going to talk about the do’s and don’ts of co-parenting and how to do it with ease and grace (as much as possible). Mikki is the host of the Co-Parenting with Ease podcast and you can find her at: IG: Mikki Gardner Web: Mikkigardner.com Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we’ll be running through a few topics: evidence-based parenting the myth of core memories; how memory actually works tough transitions from daycare/preschool to home find true connection with your child when your kids says, “Stop saying good job” shutting up and reflecting/connecting more Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I was so excited about the feedback from Episode 94: How and Why I Eat and Train the Way I Do: A Very Long Story. I got so many questions that it took another full episode to answer them all. I just love this topic and digging in.Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This is a big one. This originally aired in January of 2021 on Patreon and I received lots of feedback with different scenarios. A big one is toxic relationships. How do handle toxic family members that may have caused us trauma but still have to be in our lives? Hm. Let’s talk about that. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Most work centers around toddlers and that 0-5 age range. Today, let’s talk about the kids in the 6-12 range. When you do the hard work of boundaries early on, this age range is just magical. But also comes with new disrespect… eye rolling, sarcasm, sighs. So let’s talk about that, shall we? Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Let’s go through common therapies that can help you start unpacking unresolved trauma. Many people have hairpin triggers and they’re aware of that. But then they consider it part of their personality, instead of doing the hard work of healing. And it IS hard and it’s best done with help. So let’s talk about that. This is part 3 of a series originally recorded for Patreon in January of 2021. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“Balancing hormones” has become the new buzzword in “health”. So many supplement companies and “influencers” are all in on it (and they’re full of crap). But what does it mean? Which hormones? Let’s go through the big players besides our sexual/reproductive hormones and dig into this current soundbite. Also: I fixed my sleep and now I’m a nice person. Mostly. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? The full spectrum lamp Wim Hof Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Trauma can show up in parenting as: addictions, perfection parenting, extreme independence, poor boundaries, hairpin triggers and blind rage, getting stuck in victimhood. This is part one in a series, originally recorded for Patreon in Jan of 2021. Today, let’s go through some of the terminology used in trauma work. Including but limited to: gaslighting, codependency, narcissism, projection, deflection, flooding, and dissociation. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Okay… now that we’ve cleared the new year-new me bs, let’s dive into planners that work for YOU, setting goals, and most importantly… how to create lasting habits. I’ll be referencing James Clear’s best selling book, Atomic Habits. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Atomic Habits by James Clear - https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Trauma can show up in parenting as: addictions, perfection parenting, extreme independence, poor boundaries, hairpin triggers and blind rage, getting stuck in victimhood. This is part one in a series, originally recorded for Patreon in Jan of 2021. Let’s start with the basics of just recognizing and owning your trauma. “If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.” Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m going to give you the skinny on podcast releases as I get ready to release my trauma series from Patreon. We’ll also go over what you should do if your spouse hasn’t done trauma work but is parenting from a place of trauma response. We’ll also go through some parents' word of the year that they shared. And some more life lessons with me and Pascal. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m interviewing Sophie Ricard. She’s a child nutritionist specializing in both picky eating AND optimizing your child’s nutrition for focus + school performance. She has a wide lens on food and kids that I love and super helpful tips and tricks for toddlers to teens. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
After being asked over and over for a more in depth peek into my movement and eating, I’m laying it bare. From my first dissociative eating episode to cruising through menopause, welcome to the fun house. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’m joined by author, speaker, and life coach, Alicia Robertson. She owns and operates Lemonade Life, which is devoted to helping women deal with the intricacies of separation and divorce. We’ll be discussing: How to deal with not-so-amicable divorces Why staying for the kids is a bad idea Fear of the broken home Navigating scheduling, clashing styles, and inconsistency Introducing new partners Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Lemonade Life homepage: www.lemonadelife.ca And on IG: @lemonadelifecoach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I’m interviewing certified behavioral consultant Megg Thomspon Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Megg’s Homepage - https://meggthompson.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today we’ll be talking about: Teaching kids about money Practical experience with bills and expenses Peer pressure and the appeal of mischief Balancing being yourself and fitting in Peer orientation and maintaining parental closeness Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We’ll open with a few examples of repairing ruptured connections with your child And then I’ll catch you up on my mom, Pascal, and my end-of-year musings.
The power of creativity with Jeff Fajans Jeff is the creator of Beastie Boys for Babies. Today, we’ll discuss: Creating a different kind of kids’ music Staying creative as a parent Igniting creativity in your kid Getting over procrastination, perfectionism, and needing permission Jeff's website: Jefffajans.com Jeff's IG: @jefffajans/@mrboodaddy Jeff on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/43rFw4hHCMe7zM8xJw2Lcf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I’ll be giving 2 real life examples about how unresolved trauma work can show up in your life. And why I think it’s so important for you to do this work, especially as your kids get older and need a different way of parenting. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Emotional Nuance, Authenticity, and not talking sh*t Today we’ll be talking about: Toddlers not really getting emotional nuance Play fighting and good vs evil Authenticity, vulnerability, and community Minding your tongue and not talking sh*t Coaxing, cajoling, and begging Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Often, starting from birth, we have to pivot as parents. Pivot away from our vision, our ideals, our own values. This can be because of circumstances beyond our control, life changes, or simply the child in front of us. Because that child may be struggling or actually may be thriving in a way different than what we visioned or had hoped. This episode is dedicated to all those pivots, hard and easy…acknowledging them and honoring them. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Co-regulation is a current parenting buzz word. And yes, it’s amazing and we all should do it when our children are having big feelings. But I work in the real world and there are many times we can’t co-regulate because we ourselves are dysregulated. Let’s dive into what to do next. Also in this episode: let’s discuss slightly older kids and the “gardening” phase of parenting. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Everyone is feeling the crunch of inflation this holiday season. While it’s great to remember that our kids just really want connection, it can be hard to think of things in the moment. Especially when we’re stressed. So we made you a list! And we’re gonna talk about Santa. Cause you gotta talk about Santa. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I am highly recommending two books: Hunt Gather Parent and Radical Confidence Both these books contain valuable parenting lessons. Largely, expect kids to misbehave…it is going to happen so how do you be angry without losing your shit. But also distress tolerance and emotional sobriety. As parents, we can’t afford to get on the same emotional roller coaster as our little ones. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I interviewed Sara Rose Whaley of Joyfultodderparenting.com. Sara is MY JAM. We’re just gonna pull it apart today. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Joyful Toddler Parenting - https://joyfultoddlerparenting.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Please join me on literally the best night of my life. I have NEVER felt so connected to Pascal. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Dane Obleman’s Homepage www.SleepSense.net and Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Shonda is a psychotherapist and a licensed social worker. She helps women find balance in life with kids, work, and all the stressors that can wind us up. She’s the author of Breathe, Mama, Breathe and Just Breathe. Today we’re talking about mindfulness and how to PAUSE before losing our shit. Jamie’s Homepage Oh Crap! Potty Training Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler Jamie’s Patreon Page Jamie’s Instagram Page Shonda’s website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
we’re continuing our conversation from part 1 digging into advocating for your child and the education system Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I’ll list my 12 favorite ways to make the holiday season a little easier for you and the kids. Plus a few extra tips about how to handle family toxicity. Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today I’m interviewing Ana Maria Marcos, licensed marriage and family therapist. We’re discussing: growing up with ADHD but without a diagnosis women + ADHD special needs + the education system the importance of safe spaces loving your child even when you don’t always like them Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki
This originally aired on Patreon and has been updated In this episode: Winter and darkness are upon us! Things I do to take care of myself physically AND mentally Foods that boost immunity (and foods that don’t) There’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad gear How to look forward to winter and appreciate the slowing down Let’s run through all the gear I love and how to get it cheaper The brands I love (but feel free to share yours on IG!) Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Links: the light pad I use Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode: a major complaint I hear is kids not playing independently but we tend to do too much for our kids, making them reliant on us teaching independence varies according to age generally speaking, it’s never too early to start teaching independence let’s go through all the ways you can start letting your child be independent and look at how we get in our way doing so Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode: did you know we have 3 other senses? Proprioception, vestibular, + interoception we’ll go through what these mean and why they’re most important for kids what happens when these systems are underdeveloped things that are contributing to this underdevelopment in many kids today how to fix that without labeling kids big play and heavy work are whole body movements organized sports DO NOT COUNT as big play, neither does “running around” this is the most vital aspect of childhood that’s going by the way side how we can incorporate big play/heavy work into our lives regardless of our living situations for the love of all that is holy: GET OUTSIDE! Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode: our kids are overscheduling and not getting enough downtime a huge culprit is organized sports is your little one resisting organized sports? If no, rock on. If yes… my thoughts on organized sports for the under 5 crew let’s examine why organized sports are a relatively new “MUST”. we’ll pull apart YOUR why…why do you want your child in sports as a society…what’s changed that kids are so overscheduled in general a comprehensive list of how we got here things we can do to ease up on the overscheduling and the busy Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode we’re going to dig into: “what to do with all the candy” options…probably old hat for some of you but news to the newer parents. And we’ll dig into ways you can help make Halloween less meltdowny. Largely by front loading super big play, super good nutrition, and super good sleep. And psst…come closer, I wanna tell you a secret: If you child is under 3, you can actually skip Halloween if you want to. Buy Jamie’s book Jamie’s Instagram Jamie’s Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, we’re going to dive right into two topics that are both highly relevant these days. Lately, I’m hearing a lot from private clients, Instagram, and patrons alike about sleep routines for kids that are starting to give up their naps – and I’ll give you a heads-up, it’s actually more about the parents’ values. We’ll also look at de-escalating situations, which I’m sure you’ll all agree is a skill that is currently in great demand throughout our entire country. I’ll share with you the importance of sleep, particularly in children under 6, and how the decision about sleep routines is very much rooted in the values which each of the parents hold. In light of this fact, I also strongly encourage you all to read (or re-read) the ‘Values’ chapter in my Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler book for more in-depth information and exercises to follow. Moving onto our other topic, I provide the steps involved in de-escalating situations whether on-line, in person or otherwise, and which are valuable when dealing with adults, and can work with children as well. As mentioned, these seem to be growing into hot topics in parenting and relationships these days – today’s episode will assist you in navigating your way through them and lead to the development of the healthy, happy, well adjusted adults for which we all strive. The Finer Details of This Episode: · It is well documented that children need more sleep than they’re currently getting in our society · We all have internal value systems · One common value clash in parents is one valuing routine and boundaries and the other more valuing creativity and super adventure · When the child is under 6 boundaries and routines are best for kids · You’re actually doing your child a brain/intellectual disservice by not giving them plenty of sleep · If you’re in a situation where one parent stays home with the kids, that parent gets the final say on this issue, because they deal with the consequences the next day · Read the chapter on ‘Values’ in my book, Oh Crap? I Have a Toddler · As parents, it’s important to determine what your values are so you can come to an understanding · Walking away is always an option when a situation is escalating · No matter what the escalation, remember kindness first · If you activate a childhood wound, you are adding fuel to the fire · Bring your vocal quality down when de-escalating · In any given escalation, determine what the other person needs to hear and acknowledge that · You have to offer a bridge to the olive branch · Find out what you need in this emotional transaction – and it can’t be ‘to be right’ · If you don’t care about the relationship, just walk away Quotes: “When you put an already kind of psychotic three year old on less sleep, you are adding fuel to a massive fire!” “You have your child’s entire childhood to be the whimsical adventuresome parent, and…your ten year old is going to love you for this. But your three year old is just going to be a fucking mess tomorrow, plain and simple.” “You’re not raising a kid for your feelings. You’re raising a kid to be a healthy, happy, well adjusted adult.” “There’s tons of nuance and grey in every situation.” “You are never, ever going to de-escalate any sort of situation without kindness.” “Most often, all of us just want to be heard…we don’t even need to be right.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?
It’s time once again to answer some questions from my incredible patrons. I can’t tell you how much I love hearing from you all, and, at the moment it looks like we’ll be doing these episodes around once a month, so sit back and enjoy the September 2020 Edition! Today, we’ll look at an assortment of patron queries around such topics as introducing your dates to your kids, independent play and expressing ‘fear’, and toddler regression when a new sibling arrives. I’ll also offer advice about getting your kids to eat at mealtimes, dealing with ‘inconsequential behavior’, and managing contact with toxic family members both for yourself and your kids. Again, I absolutely love hearing from you all, and your questions are excellent ones for all parents to learn about, so please keep them coming! The Finer Details of This Episode: · Don’t introduce someone you’re dating to your child(ren) too soon · So many factors regarding your situation go into the decision of when to do this · Recognize that your child will either become very attached to this person or rebel against them · Introducing many new people creates an unstable feeling in the child · To introduce independent play, start by setting a timer · Many times children will use the word ‘scared’ when they don’t have the right word for how they’re feeling, so help them in that moment to broaden their vocabulary · If a child is truly scared, you are going to know it · If a child is just regressing in one area, but continuing to grow in others, indulge this one area and exaggerate it · We cannot underestimate the effect of the pandemic on our kids · If your child is not sitting and eating at mealtimes, stop snacks · There’s not a standard for inconsequential behavior · If repeated talk of killing/shooting is targeted, it needs to be dealt with · If you micromanage everything your child says, they will rebel, so pick and choose ‘which hill you want to die on’ according to your values · When it comes to toxic family members, you have every right to cut communication, and you don’t have to foster a bond between the children Quotes: “The only thing I think you shouldn’t do is, like, introduce somebody for, like, the second date…make sure the relationship’s got legs.” “Scared and hurt are two hot buttons for kids because they know that those two words are going to make you stop.” “The regression of wanting to be like a baby is so natural.” “He just needed to know that he was still my baby.” “There are words that can cause harm, too.” “As parents, we are the gateway to our children.” “The parents are the bridge at that age.” “I want to be around people who love me and who treat me kindly.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On today’s episode, I’m joined by Janae, who runs a website and Instagram account called Prepared Like a Mother, where she helps readers learn to prepare things like food storage for emergencies. You all know I’m a casual prepper, so I wanted to have Janae on to help us learn a little bit more about how to prepare for emergencies—not the zombie apocalypse kind, but real-life shit. First, Janae explains how she got into disaster preparedness via a childhood obsession with severe weather and a resulting determination not to be left scrambling in the event of a disaster. She then turns to food storage specifically and discusses the benefits of maintaining a store even outside of doomsday events, along with practical, sensible tips on creating a store without getting wacky about it. Plus, we talk about our efforts with homesteading and how it’s a return to a way of life that used to be normal, even if our views on canning differ somewhat! I then ask Janae to guide us through what she’d put in a bare-bones disaster preparedness kit. She emphasizes that basic prepping doesn’t have to consist of an extravagant, expensive list of stuff and that most people have a lot of what they need in their houses already. She also tackles the issue of affordability and food storage, acknowledging that even day-to-day groceries are expensive right now and advising building up your store slowly and steadily with small extra purchases. And finally, we return to the idea of normalizing preparedness and discuss how to avoid panic by making casual prep a part of your everyday life in a way that makes sense for you. The Finer Details of This Episode: The benefits of having a food store Storing food without going to the wacky side Janae’s bare-bones disaster preparedness guide Disaster preparedness and affordability Normalizing preparedness Quotes: “Even as a young child, I’ve always loved severe weather. And with that love, you see the catastrophic events, you see what it does, you see people hurting and dying and starving and in really bad ways. And then, in my brain, I was like, oh, I need to be prepared for that because I don’t want to be that person who can’t feed my family, and I don’t want to be that person who isn’t ready and scrambling.” “Food storage comes in handy for a job loss. Food storage comes in handy for just if you are in the middle of cooking dinner, and you’re like, crap, I don’t have, I don’t even know, barbecue sauce. So go in the food storage, go get your barbecue sauce. You don’t have to hurry and run to the store. So there’s so many more good reasons to have a food storage than a doomsday.” “If you’re using your seventy-two-hour kits or natural disaster, whatever happens, you’re basically just going on a miserable vacation. You know, you’re not going to have your house, you’re not going to have whatever. So you have to adapt. And most people have the ability to adapt in their own house, they can just throw it all in a bag.” “Do what’s going to make you most comfortable. You’re going to be the one that’s in charge of your own destiny if there’s an earthquake, or if there’s a hurricane, or if there’s a nor’easter, you’re in charge of yourself, so do what makes sense to you.” Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Janae’s Instagram Page: @preparedlikeamother Prepared Like A Mother Homepage: http://www.preparedlikeamother.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today’s episode is all about something that I see increasingly with Moms, and never really with Dads, but it sorely needs to be addressed, so Dads, feel free to listen in as well. Mom-shaming is definitely on the increase, especially through the internet and social media, and today we’ll look at some of its components and I’ll share my perspective on what to do if it’s happening to you. I begin by looking at the prevalence of ‘identity parenting’ in society today, the importance of ‘staying in your lane’ and just how difficult the internet and social media make this for everyone, particularly through the algorithms they employ. We’ll explore the notion that we, as humans, want to be part of a group, and that currently our groups are so often formed through common ideology where people are getting different takes on the news and care about different things from each other. I dive deep on the causes and concerns with judging others and the futility of debating others online. The current example of where we are all at with COVID-19 protocols perfectly exemplifies the notion that we are all using a goal-risk-reward system to make the best decisions for ourselves and our families, and I recommend that everyone revisit Episode 33 about ‘asking and guessing’. Throughout today’s episode, I stress that it’s okay for you to set a boundary without making another person wrong, that you need to stay in your lane, and that you can never know everything that another person is dealing with in their lives. In the end, this episode represents the latest installment in my overall goal of helping you stay sane, effective and calm, especially in these uncertain times. The Finer Details of This Episode: · Currently there is ‘Identity Parenting’ · It’s okay for you to set a boundary without making another person wrong · The internet and social media have made it so much harder to ‘stay in your lane’ · Our groups have moved beyond family-based to be ideologically-based · Our internet algorithms are based on confirmation bias · People are getting different takes on the news · Some parents don’t care about the same things as you · Except in cases of extreme abuse, we have to go with the idea that everybody wants the best for their kids · Stay in your lane to stay sane · You don’t know another person’s situation · Judging others is appealing because it makes us feel better about ourselves · Do not get into these debates on line with people · Navigating the differing protocols surrounding COVID-19 precautions is difficult these days · You want to figure out where you’re at with these protocols · All of us are using a goal-risk-reward system · Be very clear about what you need in any given moment · Be flexible · Again, it’s okay for you to set a boundary without making another person wrong · You also can’t be mad when the other person sets their boundary Quotes: “Everyone is on edge, and everyone is poised and ready for a fight.” “It feels like every choice we make needs to be defended.” “It just is astounding to me that people assume that we’re all seeing the same thing.” “The algorithm is set to increase, to escalate whatever it is you like.” “How about a private message? How about a gentle nudge?” “We can’t do it all, and that’s what’s killing us.” “She needed a hug more than she needed to stay 6 feet away.” “Is the reward worth the risk?” “You can’t be in people’s heads.” “My interest in helping you guys as parents is to help keep you sane and effective and calm.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week’s episode holds some parallels with last week’s show where I stressed the need to find the right effort behind the outcome when offering praise to your child. This time around, I’m looking at the need to ask the right question in order to find the right solution to problem behaviors your children may be exhibiting. Unfortunately, these days we’re finding an increasing number of parents who are looking for non-existent solutions due to their wrong questions, and I’m here to set the record straight today. I begin by reviewing just how critical it is to ask the right question, and acknowledging that crappy behavior always has a root cause. I then discuss the questions, especially the ‘Why?” questions which help us to dig down deep into these root causes, and offer a few examples - which you will probably recognize from your own life - and their solutions, to help you understand the required approach. The value of using “I’ statements and working with your partner to find a solution without blame or resentment is also emphasized. Rest assured, a solution can always be found, so join me as I walk you through the process here today - you and your family will definitely be glad you did. The Finer Details of This Episode: · Asking the right questions will help you get to the right solution · Crappy behavior is a symptom – there is always a root cause · Some parents are looking for non-existent solutions · Go back and listen to the ‘Psycho Mom’ episode · Part of what happens when we go ‘psycho mom’ is that we don’t show true feelings · We can get to the real solution by finding out how to help you · There’s always a solution when you land on the right problem · With only a very rare exception, toddlers should be going to bed around 7:00, maybe 7:30 – kids are getting to bed too late these days · Kids have a ‘food rhythm’ · Makes meals nutritious and easy · Family dinner becomes important when your kids start going to school, getting peer-oriented and start pulling away from you, not when they’re a toddler · Always question ‘Why?’ · Use ‘I’ statements and avoid blame and resentment when coming up with solutions with your partner Quotes: “We always want to be working on the root cause.” “Parents are presenting with a problem, and it’s the wrong problem.” “I have no magic wand to control your child’s pee muscles.” “Picking up their toys was not really the issue, yeah?” “No kid has listened the first time…stop wishing for this.” “When you give a mom, I don’t know, 20 minutes to vent, holy shit, can she talk!” “You went psycho because, probably, there is an unequal division of labor.” “You have to lean into each other and the sympathies.” “You’ve got to look at the right problem.” “The pattern of thinking is what’s important.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Psycho mom episode: https://jamieglowacki.libsyn.com/psycho-mom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome back to another episode where I get a chance to respond to some patron questions that I’m sure many of you out there are asking as well. The two we are looking at today deal with waiting and screen time, and with sparking graciousness in your child. As a full believer that, if you need to, use screens to help babysit your kids, I also look at the creative benefits of boredom, and the importance of kids being aware of their surroundings. Delayed gratification remains an issue with kids these days, and the arts of conversation and behaving with other people are suffering from their dependence on screens, so I also offer a number of strategies to use in restaurants, grocery stores and at appointments to help keep kids occupied while also improving these skills. Regarding graciousness, I outline when this actually becomes developmentally possible for kids, and I stress again the need to model the behaviors we wish to see in our children. I cannot tell you just how much I appreciate you and your questions – please keep them coming so that we can all benefit from the learning that results. The Finer Details of This Episode: · If you need to, allow screens and be clear and honest with yourself about why you’re doing it · We should keep up learning how to occupy ourselves in our own heads · The importance of being aware of your surroundings · Delayed gratification is an issue these days · Kids can be in low-level distress · It’s okay to not go to restaurants if your child is not going to handle it well · Keeping the art of conversation is key · We’re losing the art of how to behave with other people because of screens · Stop ordering for your child as soon as you can · Audiobooks, music, car games are great for the car · Card games, dice, drawing, small talk are great for restaurants · Grocery stores are filled with opportunities to keep children interested · Consider what is being learned or what is being missed when your child is on a screen · Around the age of 8-10, children start to recognize that the world is not just about them – until that point it’s hard for them to see beyond themselves · Kids come in and out of graciousness · Model, model, model – graciousness, taking responsibility, being grateful Quotes: “There’s no magical age where your kid’s all of a sudden going to be a patient waiter.” “Nobody died from boredom…boredom begets creativity.” “Our kids are just going to have different brains than we have…we’re constantly evolving.” “Life is great when you think it’s just about you!” “You can’t bank graciousness in your kids.” “I think so many of us are more bitter than we think, and so check in on yourself.” “Watch your mindset.” “What a beautiful time to be alive.” “I love the questions!” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On today’s episode, I want to share the details of the Spartan Beast obstacle course I ran at the start of September. It took place on Mount Killington in Vermont (a very steep ski mountain) and is considered the hardest of the Spartan races worldwide, resembling an outdoor Ninja Warrior course with hanging obstacles. This was my first time back running a Spartan race after I fell during one last year and blew out my knee, after which a doctor said I needed surgery, and I refused in favor of doing my own rehab. That same doctor told me I’d never run another Spartan race if I didn’t get the surgery, which I, of course, took as a challenge, so running this race was a validation of my choices. And I got that validation in the best way, managing to have fun, enjoy the community, and run a clean race (i.e. without missing an obstacle), something not many people manage! Speaking of challenging myself, this summer, I did the 75 Hard Challenge, a mental toughness program that involves hydration, working out, reading, and sticking to clean eating. This was a hard, monotonous program, but it taught me some really important lessons, including how to identify self-sabotaging behavior and stop letting yourself down. It also helped me to realize how often my choices aren’t aligned with my goals and that I can reach those goals more easily by choosing to do a little more instead of going easy on myself. That’s a lesson that can apply to parenting and other areas of life: showing up consistently and not paying attention to the internal urge to backslide will pay huge dividends. And for me, the goal is to maintain my health and strength, not by making my life longer but by making sure I can live in my body with joy and vitality for as long as possible. The Finer Details of This Episode: Running the Spartan Beast on Mount Killington Taking joy in what our bodies can do Running a clean race Deciding to stop disappointing ourselves Aging with joy and vibrancy Quotes: “He said, ‘Just so you know, you’ll never run another Spartan Race unless you get surgery.’ I think you guys know me well enough by now to know that that was like, hold my electrolyte water. Because I’ll be back with a medal.” “One of the best parts was, I bring magnesium spray for cramping. And guys cramp more often than women because they have thicker muscle mass. So every time I crested a ridge, there would be a group of guys feverishly rubbing their quads and their calves. And so I got to be, like, the magnesium-spray fairy.” “I saw so many people sort of immersed in the suckage of the race. It’s a brutal race. And I just kept looking around me, and I was like, I get to do this. My body is so amazing, I get to do this, this is crazy. You know, sometimes people at my age are couch-bound, on medicines, and I said, God, I was so, like, in love with my body.” “I had a chance to run a clean race, which means you don’t miss any of the obstacles, which is not that common. And I did, I ran a clean race, and I was so proud of myself. I was like, doing leprechaun leaps, and the rest of the race was effortless for me because I was like, wait a minute, I can run a clean race now.” “My brother said to me, ‘You know, we’re all gonna die someday,’ and I was like, I don’t care if I die tomorrow, I want to live in my body with joy and vitality and health as long as I can. I’m not trying to make my life longer, I want my life to be healthy.” Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today’s episode is all about trauma – ‘Big T Trauma’, and ‘little t trauma’. As you may have noticed, the word ‘traumatized’ is greatly overused in parenting these days, and I have more than a few thoughts that I want and need to share with you all about it. First off, I define what both ‘Big T Trauma’ and ‘little t trauma’ are, explain why we need to stop using the word ‘traumatizing’, and explore the notion of ‘childhood wounds’ and their basis in shame. I then share some of Brene Brown’s ideas surrounding the toxic nature of shame along with some of my own, and offer some strategies to help you avoid adding to it and to help your kids become more resilient with it. You’re going to want to be sure to stick around until the very end for my own moment of epiphany regarding the power that modeling holds in increasing or reducing shame. This is an intensely personal episode for me concerning a topic with which we all have experience, and about which we can and must make a positive impact in our own lives and the lives of our children. The Finer Details of This Episode: · ‘Big T Trauma’ includes all the things that affect your physical and mental wellbeing, such as physical and mental abuse and severe neglect · ‘Big T Trauma’ affects brain development, and is often generational · Things like timeouts, potty training, and sleep training are not traumatizing · Shame goes hand in hand with humiliation · We can’t really control these wounds from happening, but we can avoid adding to them, and we can help our kids be a little more resilient to them · Brene Brown is an excellent resource who defines shame as the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and, therefore, unworthy of love and belonging · People become involved in drugs and alcoholism because of shame · Stop trying to be perfect – it will result in you losing ‘your shit’ and that is where the damage comes in · You have to deal with your own wounds and emotions · When we rage at our kids, or, conversely, react with silence, we create fear in them and fear translates into shame later on in their lives · Be cautious to state that it’s the behavior that is undesirable, not the child · Be willing to listen to your child when they have a legitimate complaint about you – don’t get defensive – and be willing to change · If your child does something wrong, say it once and then let it go – don’t keep repeating it · Model the behavior you’re looking for · There’s no reason to feel shame, to feel disconnected – reconnect after the dust settles to avoid the wounds · Model to your kids that fuck-ups happen and that you can reconnect – if, instead, you rage and get defensive, you model that they should be ashamed of fuck-ups Quotes: “Your child is going to grow up and have some childhood wounds…it is going to happen no matter how wonderful a parent you are.” “I think this is so awful a feeling that we, as humans, will do anything to run from it.” “The pain of shame is so huge.” “We all have these moments of dysregulation…you have to be willing to confront your flaws.” “No one is ever ‘always’ something or ‘never’ something…once those words are out of our mouths you can’t take them back…the damage is done.” “He felt scared when I was so quiet, because I was not just being quiet…I was just sucking the oxygen out of the room.” “You just want to avoid that culture of fear.” “We’re showing them that fucking up gets you a huge reaction.” “We want to model how to handle criticism.” “This is blowing my mind!” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
As you all know I absolutely love hearing from you all, and so many good questions are coming my way these days that I figured now is the perfect time to offer my responses. While some of these questions are specific to the pandemic and all that it entails, the answers, as you’ll see, offer information and advice that are beneficial at any time. I’ll start by further exploring the ‘Govern, Garden, Guide’ concept which we have looked at in the past, and also share some strategies about ending the use of pacifiers and thumb sucking. Other questions I look at are regarding children who are still experiencing difficulty dealing with the restrictions that the pandemic has generated, addressing both typical and violent tantrums, teaching kids to be able to laugh things off, and instilling a good attitude in children. The topics may seem wide ranging, but woven through them all is the desire to provide our children with the strong foundation they need to enjoy strong and rewarding relationships throughout their lives. Let me tell you, there’s definitely something in today’s episode for everyone. The Finer Details of This Episode: · Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne is one of my favorite parenting books · It’s developmentally inappropriate to try to guide a toddler · You make your toddler feel safe by bonding, setting the rules and boundaries, and letting them know that you’ve ‘got them’ · If your child is having tantrums, you have to look at your governing and your boundaries for firmness and consistency · If a child feels unsafe, it yields poor behavior · It is very important to lay this foundation from 0-6 for future years · If you wait until teen years to discipline, you are fucked · Ending pacifier use can be a matter of just taking it away or slowly cutting a bit of a hole in it over the period of a couple weeks which reduces its ‘big suck’ appeal · Before employing techniques such as putting a nasty tasting lotion on the thumb or putting a mitt on a child’s hand to stop thumb sucking, check in with your dentist · For children who still don’t understand the restrictions imposed by the pandemic, check in on how you talk about the lockdown – ex. saying ‘I get to’ rather than ‘I have to’ · Kids forget and kids are resilient · We are over-socialized – the true extrovert is very rare · We need to transition our children back into social situations gradually from this ‘lockdown’ · The child who is very dysregulated in the house has to go to their room to learn to self-regulate – it’s respectful to let them have their big feelings in there · Revisit the ‘Go to Your Room Strategy’ podcast · Attitudes are caught – watch what you are modeling when showing your child how to laugh things off, help others out, handle angry moments, lose graciously, etc. Quotes: “You can’t guide a toddler, you have to govern.” “It’s pure brain development.” “Crappy behavior is often your child asking you to say, ‘No’.” “You’re laying the foundation for the beauty of the relationship later.” “Discipline is like teaching…and you can teach very simply by following through.” “If your child is still pining for everyday life that was in February, there’s a culture in your house that is producing that.” “Everything we do or say is teaching.” “If you have a shitty attitude and you don’t shake things off, you know that’s like you speaking French in the house and expecting your child to just learn English – they’re going to do what you do.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I know that we’re all struggling just to get to everything that needs to be completed each day, and given that I have a number of people wondering how I ‘get so much done’, today I will be sharing my work flow with you all. Believe me, no one knows better than me that no one can do it all, but hopefully some of the habits I have acquired and lessons I have learned over the years will resonate with you today. I’ll share with you how not overscheduling, figuring out areas of weakness and addressing them, and becoming aware of your monthly energy flow can all have positive impacts. We’ll also explore my monthly, weekly, and daily routines, and look at the importance of rest, wise time investments, and digital uncluttering. Like I said, I know I can’t do it all, and I don’t claim to be able to, but what I can do is share with you some of the steps I take to help ensure that all the most important aspects of my life and my work are addressed as fully and effectively as possible. The Finer Details of This Episode: · We don’t overschedule · Figure out your vulnerabilities and address them · My time of greatest creative energy is the two weeks following the start of menstruation each month · On Sundays I limit communications and totally rest · My day off starts at 5:31 p.m. each Saturday · On Mondays I am recharged and full of energy again · I get up at 3:30-4:30 a.m. for a run and to start work · I do the hard thing first each day in the dark · I take 15-20 minute power naps to recharge · Make wise time investments · Digital uncluttering is key – only touch everything once Quotes: “Life is a four burner stove. A couple of pots are simmering, there’s always a pot that’s boiling…cleaning, definitely for me, is a simmering pot.” “My workflow is based on my menstrual cycle.” “The best work is done in the dark.” “I am the Queen of the Power Nap.” “We can’t underestimate the value of rest and how it re-charges.” “Where can you make those better investments in time?” “If it’s not your skillset, try to find somebody for whom it is their skillset.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Buckle up, Alice, it’s time today for us to all go down the rabbit hole that opens up when we start to look at the wonderful world of sibling rivalry. Conversations with some of my consultant colleagues have raised this topic, which then led to a number of other related topics, so that’s where we’re headed together in this episode. We’ll start with good old sibling rivalry, look at some strategies to help you and your children through this situation, and explore the dangers in ‘infantalizing’ our children rather than raising the expectations and challenging their little brains. Further down the rabbit hole, we’ll cover the importance of autonomy in our children, and I’ll offer a number of ideas and suggestions that will help you instill this vital trait in your kids. While it is true that sibling rivalry is simply a fact of life that we all have to deal with, today’s episode offers some valuable information and practical strategies that you can start implementing today to help prevent the regressions and poor behavior so often associated with it. The Finer Details of This Episode: · There is almost nothing you can do about sibling rivalry - kids are going to fight and you need to go ‘old school’ when they do - separate them, bribe them for good behavior, consequences for poor behavior · Check in on individual and family connection, but realize that you are never going to meet everybody’s needs · Currently, ‘infantalizing’ our kids is becoming a problem · If you have more than one kid, employ ‘top down parenting’ - Focusing on the expectations of the oldest child raises the level of expectation for the younger children · A lot of the sibling rivalry, regressions, and poor behavior we see in our kids is due to a lack of autonomy · Children’s brains need challenges to grow, to keep busy figuring stuff out · Give children ‘pockets of elevation’ so they can have pride in themselves · Stop bemoaning the growth of your child · Replace saying things like, “You’re such a big kid”, with “I have always loved you, but I love you more each day with all the things you’re capable of doing” · Question every single thing you do for your kids, “Can they do this thing for themselves? Can I teach them to do this thing for themselves?” · Make sure you are leveling up their environment · Revisit the podcast episode about ‘Magical Childhood’ from the first season · Don’t keep them from doing ‘real life things’ to learn Quotes: “Cut the shit, or I’m not moving this car.” “Stop trying to make them love each other.” “You are literally raising the bar…children rise to the occasion.” “How do you expect your child to act like a big kid when you are not letting them be an actual big kid?” “Good job for fuckin’ breathing, man!” “Celebrate all that your kid can do.” “Nothing in life is fair.” “A kid who feels like they’re part of the household, who’s taking part in the household, feels pride in being part of the village.” “As a whole, we need to start raising our expectations of what they can do and what they’re capable of…you’re going to get better behavior.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Invent to Learn: https://inventtolearn.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I am always so excited to hear from you, my listeners and patrons, and today I’d like to respond to two topics that were sent in to me recently. The first surrounds the experience of raising an only child, and being a good friend to those who may be doing so not by choice. Our second topic is all about when and how to introduce social media and devices to your child. What I can tell you is that there are a lot of opinions out there on both topics, and today I offer you mine with some references along the way to my own experiences, both personally and professionally. In terms of the social media and device concerns, as in all aspects of raising a child, I cannot stress enough that you need to know your child – your understanding of them, the bond you have together, and the level of communication you maintain will all prove critical in navigating this successfully. The Finer Details of This Episode: I don’t think anybody begrudges hearing about your kids and their siblings, but I wouldn’t ‘gush’ – if it’s a close friend, you can ask if it bothers them You can point out the ‘cons’ of sibling rivalry as well You really have to check yourself to not make everything super precious (Princess Syndrome) Don’t try to be friends with a parent that you’re not really ‘vibing’ with The timing and manner of introducing social media and devices varies depending upon the child – you really need to know your kid Ages 0-6 is Govern, 6-12 is Garden, and 12-18 is Guide In the ‘tween’ years, girls seem to be more susceptible to societal pressure Having a phone may be a necessity for your child Snapchat, to me, is one of the nastier platforms I think our kids are suffering from being over monitored, and are entitled to some privacy You have to have huge conversations with your child about what it means to be behind a name on social media We have to create that culture where we communicate with other parents for everyone’s safety Use common sense without being crazy Temper your own anxiety Quotes: “I think when you have two parents and one kid there’s a ‘preciousness’ that comes about, right, just naturally.” “Nobody wants to talk about having babies on the first or second date.” “I enjoy raising an only child.” “It’s really hard in this day and age to not have a phone.” “We need to trust our kids until they’re not trustworthy, and then we pull in the reins. That is my personal belief.” “Don’t look for somebody to direct you on this. Connect with your kids and be honest – try to see your kid through a lens, try to see what they are drawn to.” “It’s really about your bond and your connection with your kid, and keeping these communication channels open.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
One topic which has been showing up frequently in the messages I’m getting from parents is a big one: sleep. In particular, I have about 5 clients who are asking about naps these days, so today we’re going to revisit this highly important subject, and provide information and advice that should answer a lot of your questions. We’ll begin by looking at the typical ages when children start giving up their naps, and the importance of maintaining a quiet time for all children. I’ll offer some valuable tips surrounding these quiet times, some advice about establishing sleep time habits, and a recommendation for finding help if you are suffering in this area. The main theme here today is that sleep is vital to both your children and yourself, and finding a system that works for you and your entire family needs to be a priority. This week’s episode is filled with the information and advice that will help you do this. The Finer Details of This Episode: From ages 2½ to 4 it can look like your child is giving up their nap, and at ages 4 to 4½ they are For all kids, keep the quiet time, and under certain circumstances, it can be a reasonable solution to lock your child in their room for this time For every child up until about the age of 13, the time from 3:00 pm to 6:00 pm is their ‘witching hour’ – make that their quiet time When your child is giving up their nap, you have to go to an earlier bedtime (even as early as 5:00 pm) Kids have lost some social skills during the quarantine, so start by planning very short meetups for them with other children Listening to stories (ex. Audible books) is a great idea for quiet time in their rooms Don’t establish nap time in the stroller or in the car Be very careful with establishing sleep time habits so that they work for every member of the family If you are suffering, find a sleep trainer who resonates with you Really, really, really attend to your own sleep Potty training may disrupt your child’s sleep Quotes: “My son napped right up until his first day of Kindergarten.” “You cannot make your child sleep, nor can you actually make your child stay in bed.” “Sleep is everything, you guys…we all need it so much.” “I know sleep training is super controversial.” “Sleep deprivation is used as torture in war.” “There’s nothing better you can do for yourself than sleep, so really set a good bedtime, and commit to being off screen.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?
Today’s episode is going to be a doozy as I talk to you once again about one of my absolute favorite topics – boundaries. This time, I’m adding in the component of effective communication as well and the impact it has on boundaries, so buckle up! I start by reviewing my well known love of boundaries, and then explain nonviolent communication and the impact that our caregivers’ responses to our needs as children have upon our ability to communicate needs and set boundaries later on in life. We’ll also explore family culture, codependency, and emotionally clean transactions through a fascinating analysis of ‘Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture’ which I have recently discovered. As you will hear, this topic is extremely important to me, not just professionally, but personally as well, and that is precisely why I am so very passionate about this episode. Join me today, and let’s learn together more about ourselves, and how we can enhance all of our relationships with effective communication. The Finer Details of This Episode: Having boundaries and knowing when to keep them strong and when to bend them is everything Nonviolent communication is a way to get your needs met through effective communication How our caregivers responded to our needs has everything to do with how we communicate our needs and how we set boundaries, and when our caregivers respond poorly to our emotional needs, we grow up with horrible boundaries Your family culture determines how good or bad you are at boundaries Making people guess at what you’re thinking or feeling is not a style of communication, it’s a dysfunction in your family culture Guessers think that somehow they’re responsible for your feelings Nobody is so clairvoyant that they can tell what a person is thinking or feeling at all times Healthy askers accept ‘No’ for an answer We re drawn to people that make us have to work through our shit In a emotionally clean transaction, you don’t have to explain yourself Codependency is defined by investing a lot of time and energy in making sure the other person is not hurt, upset, or disappointed If anybody ever tells you, ‘See what you made me do? You made me…’, that’s a dysfunction and needs to be addressed. Quotes: “I think boundaries are the secret sauce to life.” “Communication, communing, communion with other human beings in an effective way that gets both our needs met is the closest thing I know to holy – it’s amazing.” “If you’re a guesser, you’re expecting me to read your mind.” “My family would turn on me…I was kicked out of the tribe. That’s a really powerful motivator to not speak your truth.” “It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.” “Finding the need, I think, is the crux of all of this.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Nonviolent Communication audiobook: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TKMBJKE/ Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/MKEManKindProjectOpenMensGroup/posts/ask-culture-vs-guess-culture-were-you-able-to-ask-for-what-you-wanted-or-did-you/3105247169499428/ ‘The Invitation’ link: http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
With all the talk these days of reopening society, I want to take this opportunity to speak with you about not only the anxiety which our children are experiencing during the ‘lockdown’ – and, believe me, they are feeling anxious – but also the anxiety that will be generated through the reopening process itself. Rhythm, routines, and rituals all have a part to play in this process, and I’m here to help support you and your children through it all. In today’s episode we look at exactly what we mean by rhythm, routine, and rituals, and acknowledge that both during the pandemic and after, rhythms are going to change. We look at behaviors and how to evaluate and work with them, determine when anxiety becomes ‘not normal’, and face up to the reality of the generational trauma our children are experiencing these days. I will also offer you some suggestions for finding your new rhythms and helping ease your children through the transition of ‘reopening society’. While there is undoubtedly going to be a lot of ‘mental health cleanup’ in the wake of our current circumstances, today’s episode is all about what can be done now to help ensure our children know that they are safe and they are loved and that we are here to provide all the emotional and physical swaddling they need. The Finer Details of This Episode: We are all finding a new rhythm during this pandemic The change in rhythm is generating anxiety in our children You need to determine if a behavior is new or if it’s an ‘amped up’ version of an existing behavior Don’t be crushed by demonstrations of kids clinging to one parent and rejecting the other and don’t give in to it What’s good for our children is a firm, strong voice and actions that say, ‘You don’t have to worry about this’ Everything you choose now is going to be a habit When anxiety interrupts or affects your quality of life, it has slipped into ‘not normal’ and you should seek out help This pandemic is creating ‘generational trauma’ The first few outings during the ‘reopening of society’ transition is where you will want to note anxiety in your child, lean in, and help ease them through it The biggest thing will be finding a new rhythm once again Creating an emotional tether with your child will help during transitions Quotes: “Our little ones thrive on non-verbal communication…they 100% know that something’s going on…and so there’s anxiety.” “Any shitty behavior your kid had is going to be amped up.” “Huge right now is a ‘mommy clinginess’.” “If they’re given control, they’re going to run with it in the wrong direction.” “Your average 3-year-old is on par with your average dog brain-wise.” “Hey, do you need some love right now? Because it’s looking like you need some love.” “When anxiety hits, every kid just needs physical contact to know they are loved and safe. They need emotional swaddling, but they need physical swaddling too.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Knowing that our kids are influenced by our behavior and the examples we set can be a lot of pressure. Parents can feel like they have to be perfect all the time, especially with emotional issues like attachment and apologies, in case they negatively affect their child’s development. In today’s episode, I talk about how perfection isn’t the goal and offer some advice on how to stop worrying and learn to maintain your connection with your kids. The Finer Details of This Episode: A mother wrote to me about attachment styles, wondering if her child could have a different style to hers and her husband’s. Attachment styles are a concept used in psychology to describe how you relate to the people in your life, and relationships between people with different styles can go really wonky (I had a situation like this with a friend that I talked about in some podcast eps back in 2020). There are lots of different attachment styles, including: secure—you can trust fairly easily, are attuned to emotions, can communicate upsets directly, and lead with cooperative and flexible behavior; anxious—you struggle to communicate needs directly and act out when triggered; avoidant-dismissive—you downplay the importance of relationships and can become more vulnerable when triggered; and avoidant-fearful—you have low self-esteem and high anxiety and strongly fear rejection. We may all exhibit symptoms of all these styles, and most people need to work to get to a secure attachment style. What may go wrong in couples is when one person has done that work, and the other hasn’t, which means they still present with symptoms of the other styles. With kids, parents may overcompensate for their attachment issues in hopes of creating a child who feels secure in their attachments, often especially in parents who did their own work to get to a secure attachment style and want to make sure their kid has that from the start. The important thing when trying to cultivate a secure attachment for your toddler is to find a balance of freedom and support. This becomes tricky because we have a sincere desire to let our kids know that we’re there for them, but it can manifest as hovering and rescuing, creating dependence and entitlement instead of secure attachment. The biggest thing you can do to ensure that your child grows up with a secure attachment style is to do your work. If you don’t, you’ll either model one of the other styles or overcompensate, and then you’ll be trying to layer a secure attachment into an existing paradigm, which is just going to fuck up the kid. Even in secure relationships, fights will happen—connection ruptures happen all the time, so the idea isn’t to have a steady connection with your child that is never ruptured. Instead, what has to be second nature is how you repair the connection—which is easy because kids, in general, are so forgiving. Using the terms “connected” and “disconnected” is really valuable for families and all relationships. It’s a healthy way to express your needs and repair connection ruptures instead of slipping into passive-aggressiveness. I hear from a lot of clients whose kids just endlessly want to play with their parents because they’re not getting enough connection. It’s really important to hit those connection points with your kids when they know they’ve got your full attention at some point during the day (especially with COVID when we’re not getting a lot of physical contact with other people). Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
My guest on this week’s episode is Zoi Jones, an old client and now a friend, who’s here with some wonderful stories about how she handles being an entrepreneur, a businesswoman, and a mom all at the same time. I also wanted to have Zoi on because she’s a personal injury lawyer, and she’s going to give us some tips about what to do if you have an auto accident and need help. The Finer Details of This Episode: Zoi’s wanted to be an attorney since she was five years old, growing up with an attorney dad and her mom running the family law firm. When she was just about to start law school, people started telling her that she’d have to choose between being a lawyer and having a family—something that surprised her since both her parents were very hands-on despite being involved in the law business. Zoi still feels pulled in all different directions but knows that it’s impossible to do everything herself and has worked hard to maintain a balance and create non-negotiables for career and family time. It took a lot of trial and error for Zoi to figure out her non-negotiables, as well as coming to terms with asking for help when she needed it. Her moment of revelation came when her sister saw her struggling with her third pregnancy, two kids, and a heavy workload and suggested hiring a nanny. Zoi was uncomfortable with it at first, even working from home to keep an eye on what was happening, but eventually gave herself permission to accept that help. The best thing I ever did for my business was hiring a bookkeeper because it let me focus on doing the things I’m good at—podcasts and Instagram videos and working with clients—and avoid the things that are my idea of hell—spreadsheets and numbers. You can do this at home, too—hire someone to come in and do your laundry or play with your kids so you can get your tasks done. Zoi points out that home help can be really useful in helping you to transition from work mode to home mode—the twenty minutes she gets to herself when her nanny picks her kids up from school lets her take her lawyer hat off and put her mom hat on and really be excited for her kids to come home. Zoi also gets up about twenty minutes before her kids to get that little bit of me-time by doing some quick meditation. Sometimes her son gets up a little earlier and sits with her until she’s done, which works as modeling meditation for him. Mindfulness is such a buzzword right now, but it’s largely empty because parents don’t model it but instead run around like headless chickens. In order to model effectively, you have to be consistent and put in the work yourself. Zoi has made a goal for herself to educate families to have the proper insurance for themselves so they can feel more confident on the roads in case they’re ever involved in an accident. Zoi says that the top things to do if you’re in an auto accident are: call the police regardless of how bad the accident is, take photos (of the vehicles, the other driver’s license, and their insurance info), and go to the doctor even if you think you’re okay (to stop your insurance company from questioning your injuries if they flare up later). The other important thing is to hire an attorney to be in your corner and take care of you because insurance companies are in the business of making money, and they will take advantage instead of getting you the best result. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Gonzalez and Jones Attorneys at Law Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On last week’s episode, I brought up the topic of kids having access to the internet and porn. It might seem like a far-fetched idea for a podcast about toddlers, but these issues come up a lot sooner than you think. Today I’ll discuss how to introduce these concepts to your children slowly and gently, without overwhelming them with more information than they’re ready for. This episode is all about planting the seeds early for blossoming conversations. The internet, texting, and social media have ushered in a new era of parenting, but having an open dialogue with your kids from an early age will encourage them to come to you with their problems later on, and develop the valuable skills they’ll need to be able to tackle tricky situations by themselves as well. The Finer Details of This Episode: Phone use is a tough topic that will come up sooner than you think, and it will lead to other issues such as access to the internet You can start having miniature conversations now to help develop the skills they’ll need when they enter the tween years and their peers are using phones or internet The idea that someone would wait until their child is 11 or 12 to have “The Talk” with their kids is astounding to me - there is way too much information to cover all at once The mechanics of sex are the easiest part of this conversation Feelings, hormones, masturbation, and the pleasure aspect are much harder to discuss, but very important You don’t need to wait until they start asking you questions, but look out for signs that you’re giving more information than they need If you’re approaching this as one single conversation in your “teacher voice,” your kid will not listen to you - these conversations should happen on the fly, often in the car When you keep it casual, the information just becomes information - it’s not loaded Use anatomically correct body terms, but also teach them slang so that they understand what other people might call them Arming kids with the right information will help in matters of sexual consent later on Have a book with labels to refer to when you talk about sex and puberty How I introduced the idea of masturbation in my own parenting experience Your child will probably get their first phone around 10 or 11 Prepare your child and let them know what to expect during puberty Having an open dialogue will encourage your kids to come to you later when they experience a sticky situation Why you may need to track your child’s phone as they get older There’s a fine balance between giving your kids privacy and room to make mistakes, but also making sure they’re safe Kids need to be able to make their own mistakes - this helps them develop valuable skills and problem solving as young adults Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Elizabeth Harris is a scientist, author and spa owner, and today I have invited her to the podcast to share her discovery about PANDAS. I have noticed recently that some clients come to me and can’t find out why their child exhibits certain behaviors. Elizabeth noticed some signs on her sons and, after many visits to the doctors, she began her research looking for the root cause of her son’s behavior. She has authored two books, America’s Infected and What’s Wrong With My Child, and today, we sit down to discuss why it’s important to do your own research and to always trust your gut when something feels wrong. Elizabeth kicks off the show by describing the signs she saw in her son at an early stage - obsession and separation anxiety, amongst others. She talks about delving into the research when she noticed it was not about behavioral therapy but something deeper. Together, we also highlight how important it is to know that, while parenting is difficult, you shouldn’t be wearing yourself out. Your child’s behavior should not engulf your entire existence, and Elizabeth and I talk about this in depth. Elizabeth’s story is a fascinating and informative one, and believe me, you owe it to yourself to dive into today’s episode to find solutions for just what might be happening with your toddler as well. The Finer Details of This Episode: ● Elizabeth is an author, scientist and a spa owner ● Elizabeth noticed some symptoms like night terrors in her son before he was diagnosed with PANDAS (Pediatric Autoimmune Neuropsychiatric Disorders Associated with Streptococcal Infections.) ● What PANDAS means and the controversy around it ● A PANDAS episode can leave you wondering if you are doing things right as a parent ● It goes way back to birth ● Elizabeth delves into finding the root cause by going to medical school ● Is the Gulf War Syndrome responsible? ● Parenting is hard but you shouldn’t be dealing with a specific thing all day long ● Your child should not be crying all night ● When you feel something is not right, trust your guts ● Look out for obsessions and separation anxiety ● Your kid might always want to be the center of attraction ● What’s behind mycoplasma? ● Educate yourself about Group A Strep ● Do a deep research and present your findings to your doctors Quotes “PANS is where a child basically can flare for literally anything at all, any kind of an immune response.” “Nothing about this journey was easy.” “You know, as a parent, this is beyond what it should be.” “The scientist in me just couldn't let it go.” “It’s our responsibility to step up and try to help the others that don't know what's going on.” “It's hard, but it shouldn't be like wearing yourself out.” “This is more than just rebellion. This is like oppositional defiance next level.” “When you think something's wrong, you go to your pediatrician.” “If you feel like your entire existence is wrapped up in your child's behavior, something's off.” Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Elizabeth’s website https://www.whatswrongwellness.com/ Elizabeth’s Instagram https://instagram.com/elizabethharrisauthor?utm_medium=copy_link Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I have a treat for you guys—I’m interviewing Chantel Zimmerman, the founder and creator of Sensory Garden and Play, on her first podcast ever! Chantel lives, breathes, eats, and shits proprioception, vestibular movement, and big play, and I wanted to have her on the show to talk about her educational philosophy and the programs that she runs, including her forest school. Chantel starts the episode by telling us about her background as a public school teacher and how her post-pregnancy move into tutoring led to her setting up programs based on sensory learning and eventually opening her full-blown forest school. She then explains how important it is for parents to give serious thought to what they want from childcare before choosing a program and that we often get trapped in an outdated educational philosophy that prepares kids to work in industry rather than for the modern world they’ll be living in. In her school, Chantel uses a Scandinavian model that encourages kids to learn from life and experience the outdoors rather than prioritizing academics. She also talks about how the pandemic has resulted in many parents challenging the school system and explains how she attempts to bridge public schooling, homeschooling, and unschooling to combine the best of all three systems. The Finer Details of This Episode: The COVID pandemic has led to many parents challenging the school system (not the educators, it’s important to note) and realizing that there are serious flaws in it. Chantel herself has decided not to send her kids to kindergarten this year, instead letting them learn to play and figure out life on their own terms rather than on the standards. Chantel advocates for risk in play, which means stop telling your kids to be careful and start telling them to assess the situation. When hiking with her own kids, she tells them that if they go up, they have to come down on their own. That doesn’t mean she’s going to leave them up there crying, but they do have to think about whether they can handle the hike and if they need help. In Chantel’s opinion, there needs to be a beautiful blend between life skills and social and emotional well-being. Her kids’ homework every day is to ask someone in their home how their heart is and listen and report back the next day at school. She’s had parents text her and say they don’t know if they’ve ever known how their heart feels, and Chantel’s response is that they’d better find out because the kid will be asking every single day. Chantel is a huge fan of big loose play, which allows kids with high energy to do things like move logs around and build forts before ten o’clock, so they can funnel all their positive energy and then participate in the whole class. Whereas, if you put that same kid in a preschool or kindergarten setting, they wouldn’t be able to participate. Instead of using shame and humiliation to keep kids in line, Chantel encourages risk and play and has a set of standards for how to conduct oneself. She also points out that girls tend to be told to be quiet and don’t try to be leaders, an attitude she tries to counter by letting the kids she teaches (including her daughters) feel empowered in their learning and giving parents a track to focus on. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Sensory Garden and Play Homepage: https://www.sensorygardenandplay.com/ Chantel’s Instagram Page: @sensory garden_and_ play Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode, I want to cover something I’ve noticed becoming quite rampant in the work I do with both parenting and potty training—sustained cajoling as a parental technique. Rewards and compliments are great things to give our kids, but when you start cajoling or bribing to get them to do daily activities, you’re not empowering them, you’re disempowering yourself as a parent. Instead of putting yourself in a position of weakness, I discuss better ways to take control of your parenting, including developing your Mom Voice and using statements, choices, and challenges as your techniques for getting your kid to play ball. The Finer Details of This Episode: When you start cajoling or bribing for daily activities, like getting dressed or putting their shoes on, you run into trouble because you’re asking your child permission to parent them. And by doing so, you’re not empowering them, you’re losing your own power by putting yourself in a position of weakness. My number one rule when you’re potty training is don’t ask your child if they have to go. There are many other, more effective ways to prompt by using a statement, choice, or challenge. I’m a firm believer in the Mom Voice; I want you to cultivate a voice that means business. That doesn’t mean using a mean voice, it means being regulated and letting your kid know that you’re in control. Don’t blow smoke up your kid’s ass by using excessive flattery to get them to do things—children already think they’re the center of the universe, don’t encourage that self-centered perception. I got a question from a listener about dealing with her child’s father not wanting to be part of his life. We tend to see this happening with the biological father more than the mother; some women do abandon their child, but it tends to be coupled with factors that make it almost preferable for them not to have contact. As single moms, we can fall into the trap of thinking our kids are going to communicate as females, but sometimes they need male figures because men communicate very differently to women. As far as full-time homeschooling, I wouldn’t recommend setting up a classroom for kids at an early age, especially for only one child. Part of the reason to do homeschooling is that it gives a lot more freedom in how the kid learns, whereas setting up a classroom keeps you in the mindset of school. Homeschooling lets you break out of the formality of school—and all the crowd control that goes along with it—so you don’t have to stick rigidly to schedules, subjects, or locations. One of the best things you can do is read to your child and provide opportunities for learning words. When Pascal was in kindergarten and first grade, I would label everything from the windows to the tables to the chairs to help him learn sight words. If you’re planning on getting outside regularly as part of homeschooling (which is a great idea!), invest in some gear. The best thing you can do with your kid is get one of those one-piece shells (insulated or not!), and then you can layer all the clothes you need underneath. Go for brand names over generics if you can because they have better heat technology and let you have a slim profile, which makes being outside in the cold so much more pleasant. I tend not to recommend specific brands, but I personally like Hannah Anderson (which are really sturdy and last a long time), Columbia, and North Face. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki
Today, I’m thrilled to be joined by a very special guest, Sarah Smith, who’s a pelvic floor rehab specialist. Sarah and I share some pretty similar philosophies and practices—we’ve both done intermittent fasting, we both cold plunge, and we both mouth-tape—and I wanted to have her on the show because of her expertise and unorthodox views. We start things off with Sarah talking about her work and explaining the various kinds of pelvic floor issues women can experience, including prolapses. Sarah herself had a pelvic floor prolapse in 2015 and was prescribed kegels as part of her recovery, which she found not only didn’t help but actually made her feel worse. Instead, Sarah uses breathwork to strengthen the core, and she explains how this helps your body manage pressure and align itself as a support system, ensuring that no one part of the body, pelvic floor included, is doing all of the work. Next, Sarah shares some of the breath practices she utilizes in her work that help people get out of constant fight or flight mode (which is hugely important for parents trying to co-regulate with their kids). We also talk about our shared love of infrared sauna therapy, and Sarah shares the impact that using the sauna has had on her health, including dramatically improving her gut health. The Finer Details of This Episode: Oftentimes, the people who realize they need help are postpartum women (whether they’re new mothers or had their kids decades ago) struggling with pelvic floor issues as a result of the changes and sacrifices they’ve gone through after becoming mothers. Sarah says the best way to strengthen the core, including the pelvic floor, is through breathwork. Inhaling creates pressure in the body, which meets resistance from your muscles and creates stability in the body and causes your pelvic floor to relax; exhaling engages your deep core muscles and again creates stability. Sarah thinks kegels create problems for many reasons, number one being that a lot of people are already walking around with tension in their pelvic floors, and kegels make that worse—in fact, they can create inflammation and tension in the body. Signs that you may need some pelvic floor help include chronic low back pain, chronic constipation not caused by diet, tailbone pain, and discomfort in sex (see above!). It seems that we’ve all come to accept a level of sickness in our lives, from sinus problems to hypoglycemia to not sleeping at night. Sarah says that part of the reason for this is some people find themselves in the trap of finding their identity in an illness and locking themselves into that story. Sarah advocates unfollowing social media accounts that make you feel like you’re not doing enough. Seeing those accounts can stress you out and put you in fight or flight mode, so removing them, even just until you can handle seeing them better, is the healthy choice. We’re less connected than we used to be, which means moms are trying to figure out parenting all by themselves. Personally, I think the boomers fucked it up for us because they forced us to reject them as part of our community, but we’re starting to get back to our roots and ancestral wisdom. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Sarah’s Homepage: https://www.sarahsmithstrength.com/ Sarah’s Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/sarahsmithstrength/ Sarah’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/sarahsmithstrength/ Dirty Strength Radio podcast: https://sarahsmithstrength.com/podcast/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Tiffany Higgins is a CPA, mother of five, and owner of the “Stay-at-Home Bookkeeper Academy,” a program that walks you through the process of setting up and running your own bookkeeping business from home, even if you do not have any previous bookkeeping experience. If you’re a stay-at-home parent who’s ever contemplated starting your own business from home or having a flexible, lucrative career that also allows for plenty of valuable family time, today’s interview is a must-listen! Tiffany breaks down how you can “have your cake and eat it too,” and shares her own story of leaving the corporate world to start her business. She speaks about balancing family life and work life, and offers her advice to separate the two so that you can be fully present no matter what you’re doing. She also discusses the importance of hiring the right help at home so that you can maximize your work productivity and actually enjoy quality time with your kids once you’ve packed up for the day, rather than feeling bogged down in chores. This is especially true coming off of the pandemic. We wrap up by comparing our homeschooling experiences, and Tiffany invites listeners to check out her website or Facebook group to see if stay-at-home bookkeeping is the right fit for you! The Finer Details of This Episode: She walks you through how to set up and run your own bookkeeping business from home, even if you do not have any previous bookkeeping experience Keep work life and family life separate so that you can be fully present no matter what you’re doing It’s also important to make sure you have the right help at home, which might mean hiring a housecleaner or childcare provider With bookkeeping, you’re able to make about $40,000 per year and only work about 10 hours per week You do not need to have any previous bookkeeping experience, and in fact, it’s better to start Tiffany’s program from scratch She teaches how to make the mindset shift to becoming an entrepreneur, and embracing a “growth” mindset Mistakes help us learn and grow There is a common misconception that bookkeepers have to be good at math - you don’t Bookkeeping is also a great career for introverts because everything is done online Quotes “I started a bookkeeping business, and it literally just changed our entire family's lives in so many ways. So now we help and inspire other moms to do that.” “You want to build up walls around yourself when you're working versus when you're with your family. So that way, you can be present no matter what you're doing.” “It's actually more important to hire help at home than it even is for your business.” “We actually help people understand how to become an entrepreneur, and the mindset shift that's involved with that. How to understand being a business owner, and also how to learn every skill that you need around offering bookkeeping services.” “We teach everything from scratch. We actually prefer to have people that don't have any prior bookkeeping experience, and guide them through the whole process.” “A huge common myth, misconception, about being a successful bookkeeper is that you have to be good at math. You don't - I use the calculator for literally everything.” “It's a really great job for especially introverts because you don't necessarily have to get on the phone or see anybody in person.” “The value that bookkeepers provide to business owners is incredibly high. And it makes the sales process really easy.” Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Stay-at-Home Bookkeeper Academy Homepage: www.stayathomebookkeeper.com Have Your Cake and Eat It Too Facebook Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Last week’s episode was all about the hierarchy of misbehavior, and the two main components at play when you’re dealing with these issues - there’s the Band Aid solution that will stop the misbehavior in the moment, and then there’s the underlying cause. Today I revisit the idea of what’s underneath the behavior, and break down the many reasons why your child may be acting out in the first place. Of course, the first thing to look for is whether they’re hungry or tired. You also want to keep an eye on their blood sugar and make sure you always have plenty of snacks on hand. Next, we want to check to see if their buckets are full - emotional, attention, and power. I explain in great detail the signs that these buckets might be empty, and what you can do to keep them full. My mother used to say that sometimes parents just don't give their kids the chance to be their best selves, and today’s episode is all about giving your little ones the tools and support they need to do exactly that. Next I review the importance of Big Play and getting outside in the elements with your child as much as possible, and I detail my favorite strategies for helping your child regulate their own emotions, such as the throwing corner, “burrito” compression hug, and teaching them to name and identify where their feelings start in their bodies. We want to make sure our kids understand that no emotion is wrong. Finally, I urge parents to look at their child’s diet and be on the lookout for allergies, sensitivities, or overly processed foods as these can often be the culprit for problematic behavior. And I also share an interesting tidbit I recently learned about the difference between men and women’s brain circuitry that may shed some light on why men approach problem-solving differently than women. The Finer Details of This Episode: We want to put everything in our kids’ corner so they can be their best selves, and that means making sure they’re eating well and getting enough rest Next, ask yourself if their buckets are full (emotional, attention, and power) If they’re in the constant “Why?” phase, this could mean their attention bucket is empty and they’re craving conversation and connection with you If you can give them your focused attention for short spurts throughout the day (I call this the Bouillon Cube), it will go a long way in filling their attention buckets If your kid feels like this time is never enough, it could be an indicator that they aren’t getting enough attention Also keep in mind that your child may simply need you more as life opens up post-pandemic and we dive back into “real life” Toddlers are just so new - they’re small and vulnerable, and they’re hardwired to want power Make sure your toddler is getting lots of Big Play Getting outside in the elements with your child is also a good chance to have quality time together Some kids seem to have a propensity for deep anger and may say mean things, spit, yell Try not to judge your kid’s emotion or take it personally If you try to shut down those feelings, they’ll get backed up and cause bigger problems The best gift you can give your kid is emotional wisdom We want to make sure our kids know that no emotions are wrong - the expression of emotion can result in misbehavior, but the emotion itself is not bad Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
With so many new listeners joining the Patreon recently, today I'll be clarifying the hierarchy of misbehavior, and outlining in very clear steps, the timeline of exactly what to do when your child is misbehaving, using the example of hitting. It may seem cute and harmless when your kid is 16 months old, but if you don't nip it in the bud, hitting can become very problematic and painful if you allow it to continue, particularly when it's directed at another kid. First, you want to try the gentle method of simply grabbing their hand and saying, "No, we don't hit." If the behavior doesn't stop or even escalates from there, this is when the “Go To Your Room” strategy comes into play. The most important thing you can do is keep yourself regulated, and while co-regulation is ideal, this can be hard to do when someone is slapping you in the face or throwing Tonka Trucks at your head. If you need to take space separately to stabilize your own mental state, that’s absolutely okay. This way you can come back and lend your child your calm, instead of giving them your Psycho Mom chaos. Once again, thank you so much for your patronage, and for all of your wonderful questions and feedback as we unpack these important topics together. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below. The Finer Details of This Episode: Similar to my experience raising my puppy, Maverick, it’s not fair to expect your young child to make good decisions - it’s up to us as adults to help guide them If you are feeling like your routine isn’t working, it might be helpful to break down the components of your day and see where you can shift things around to maximize your time When behavior escalates, we’re working either Overground (stopping the behavior in the moment) or Underground (getting to the root cause behind it) If we give in when the child’s behavior escalates, we are moving the boundary and the child will keep testing it - moving the boundary can actually cause the behavior to escalate and give kids too much power When your child is escalating, check that you’re not moving the boundary or letting them dictate your actions If you allow your child to continue with aggressive or violent behavior, it will only cause you to become dysregulated as well The “Go To Your Room” strategy allows you to separate and calm your bodies before the situation gets out of hand I find the Gentle Parenting approach to label your child’s feeling in the middle of a tantrum very annoying and condescending - they already know they’re angry or frustrated When we get to the root cause, this is where we implement our conscious parenting strategies in non-hot moments (use a throwing corner, help build emotional vocabulary, role play) If you can regulate together with your child, great, but don’t be afraid to take that space alone - it is crucial that you stabilize your own mental state so you can come back and lend your child your calm, not give them your chaos Co-regulation is ideal, but it is not always possible - if that’s the case, it’s okay to separate Maintaining boundaries can be exhausting, and it’s often easier to give in to a meltdown Our kids don’t really care about us - they’re busy playing and learning, and it’s not their job to concern themselves with us Also, they’ll never love us the way we love them so we can’t expect equal love - it’s just the nature of the beast and we will always love them more Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On today’s episode, I’m delighted to welcome sleep expert Dana Obleman. Dana is the founder of the acclaimed Sleep Sense Program, and she lives for helping parents get their babies to sleep through the night. We begin with our own stories of sleepless nights with new babies, and how this struggle prompted Dana to find a solution that she then felt compelled to share with other exhausted parents. Her program offers a number of different options to help sleep train your baby, but Dana explains no matter which way you choose to get there, the heart of the issue is always going to be teaching your baby independent sleep skills. Dana breaks down how to help your child have a positive relationship with sleep, the importance of being consistent when your toddler pushes limits around bedtime, and how to build a simple, calm “sleep sanctuary” for your kid and yourself. She also talks about avoiding overstimulation, working with biological cues like light and temperature to encourage sleep, and dispels the myth of the night owl in children. We discuss the ideal number of nighttime sleep hours for your little ones, how circadian rhythms shift in the teen years, and bond over our shared belief that sleep is one of the best nutrients we can give ourselves and our children. The Finer Details of This Episode: The heart of the issue is that you have to teach baby independent sleep skills, but there are different ways to get there As human beings, we are very protective of and habitual with our sleep habits - this is why we don’t sleep as well at a hotel or at a friend’s house As we return to school or daycare following the pandemic, you need to slowly back up bedtime to get them ready for this, rather than waiting until the night before If you throw all rules and boundaries out the window, it can actually make your child feel insecure and you could see worse behavior show up as a result Boundaries and routines make your kid feel secure, especially when they’re really young If you let yourself become exhausted and sleep-deprived, you’re going to be stressed out and reactive toward your child Sleep is a nutrient - we have to sleep well ourselves A lot of behavioral issues are actually related to sleep deprivation Making sure your child gets the right nutrition is more important than the ritual of a family meal together Dana always stresses quality over quantity Teach your child to have a good relationship with sleep - it is not a punishment, it’s not the enemy If your kid figures out that something is a non-negotiable, they will be much less resistant to fighting it A common place for toddlers to push boundaries is bedtime If you shelter your child from feeling any “negative” emotions or getting upset, they will struggle with how to regulate themselves as adults Most kids are early birds, not night owls - bedtime should match with this biological clock If you let your child stay up past the point when they naturally feel tired, then cortisol kicks in to push them through and keep them awake, and they start getting hyper or cranky We wake more often through the night when we’re overtired, and we wake up earlier in the morning Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Dana Obleman’s Homepage www.SleepSense.net and Instagram
On today’s episode, I’m excited to welcome my good friend and colleague, Stephanie Sotelo, who also happens to be my backup parenting coach. Stephanie blows my mind over and over again as we talk about accessing our “Whys” as parents, and tapping into our values, which act as our compass on this journey and give us the courage to hold firm in our parenting choices when others may question them. We explain how knowing your “Why” can help you understand yourself better as a parent, as well as your partner and even other parents who may have the same “What,” but a different “Why.” We also discuss the ways your “Why” can change over time, and the importance of finding your own authentic voice in a world where so many other opinions are thrown at you. We talk about choosing connection with your child above all else, encouraging your child to advocate for themselves and find their own strong voice, and why authenticity, confidence, and consistency are your most important tools as a parent. Thank you for your listening, and I appreciate your patronage more than I can say. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below. You can also visit Stephanie Sotelo’s website at www.StephanieSotelo.com or on Instagram @consciousparentcoach. The Finer Details of This Episode: Your values are your compass as to how you’re going to parent (for example, with sports, commitment is very important or it may just be about being social) It’s a bit more difficult for dads to access those emotions and tap into their “Why” But knowing your “Why” and being strong in your values gives you courage Stephanie values respect and manners for her son, but also wants him to be able to advocate for himself and be able to tell other adults when he feels uncomfortable with something It’s not the “What” but the “Why” - Parents have different “Whys” and this is why we judge each other, even when we have the same “What” (for example, two different parents may agree that children need an allowance, but one implements this to help teach money management while another may be trying to teach their child about work ethic) Encouraging kids to advocate for themselves versus being disrespectful Parents can also practice finding their own voice, which can help you sort it out from all the other voices that can be overwhelming in the gentle parenting world Doing parallel chores can help you connect while actually getting a few things done Kids really enjoy playing with everyday items like tape or simply running water on the tap If you’re constantly looking at other people’s lives and not your own, this is where things get lost and you feel like you’re on shaky ground It’s important to honor your voice and adjust based on what works for you As a parenting coach, we cannot give an exact script that will work every time as it will always depend on your ‘Why’ Authenticity and confidence are huge - when you have that confidence and courage, kids are more likely to listen to the boundaries Pick your hill to die on, and if you’re going to cave, cave early and be authentic to what it is you really want to do It’s also important to keep your child’s age and developmental stage in mind, and shift your expectations for them accordingly We all feel like we want to be perfect, and we all see the “What” out there in the world on social media, but the “Why” is so much more important Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Stephanie Sotelo’s Homepage www.stephaniesotelo.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this episode of the podcast, I’m so excited to be joined by Dr. Stephanie Rimka to talk about the science behind sauna, red light, and cold therapy. Dr. Rimka is a holistic brain optimization specialist; she’s been in private practice for twenty years, focusing on using a variety of natural therapies, including bio-hacks, to treat mental health issues including autism, depression, strokes, and Alzheimer’s. Her practice uses technology-based devices focusing on electromagnetic and light frequencies to alter brain structure and function and return normal function to it. The Finer Details of This Episode: Dr. Rimka usually starts her patients with red light therapy before moving on to sauna therapy. Red light is highly stimulating to the vagus nerve, a cranial nerve that comes out of your brain and is the most soothing, calming part of the nervous system. The fight or flight response is designed to last twenty to thirty seconds optimally and two minutes maximum. Yet many families are in fight or flight all day long, and that input is destroying health and longevity because your body can’t fight threats when it’s constantly in life or death mode. Dysregulated parents will always struggle to co-regulate with their child, and often the parent will assume the lack of regulation is a problem with the child rather than examining their own issues. It’s critical for parents to accept that they need to take care of themselves in order to take care of their families, even if that means bringing someone in to help. Dr. Rimka suggests that we have unrealistic expectations of what motherhood is supposed to be because of the information overload and the distractions of the internet and social media. Sauna therapy is a huge tradition in the Nordic region, which has long had saunas as part of its culture. Research suggests that saunas can have a beneficial effect on longevity, heart attack risk, and prevention of neurological conditions like dementia. A sauna is like a cardiovascular workout, equivalent to a two-mile jog but with zero impact on your joints. Your mitochondrial line comes from women—the male mitochondria get destroyed the moment the sperm goes into the egg. Unlike human DNA, mitochondria pick up on their environment and adapt by mutating very quickly in response to their surroundings. A mismatch between your genetics and where you live can create health problems—if you move a naturally warm person to a cold climate, they’re unlikely to flourish, and their health may suffer as a result. You can help your system adapt to such changes by using therapeutic doses of light, heat, or cold. However, it’s important not to overdo things, remember that what matters is how the body responds after the treatment, and to prioritize sleep because that’s when all your healing is done. The biohacking world is very male and very aggressive, but women are great at combining strength and softness in a way that really nourishes and nurtures. Our temperature-controlled homes and lack of exposure to hot and cold are breaking our hormone systems and contributing to massive dysregulation in insulin, blood glucose, cortisol, and testosterone. It’s part of what’s making us fat, depressed, and slow. Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Brain and Body Solutions Dr. Rimka’s Store Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On today’s episode, I speak with yet another person I find truly fascinating, Jessica Sueiro. Jessica and her husband, Will, along with their two children, Avalon and Largo, are world traveling, homeschooling, bohemian vagabonds in the best possible way. They have an amazing YouTube channel called World Towning, where they document their full-time travel family adventures and share their passion for dreaming big. Jessica joins me from a boat in Majorca to discuss her family’s decision to leave their Boston 2013 in favor of trekking around the world together, how they have thrived throughout their traveling adventures, and the experience of managing homeschool in the process. For more information about the Sueiro family and their traveling lifestyle, visit WorldTowningVoyages.com or check out their YouTube Channel, which features new videos every Friday. Thank you for your listening! I appreciate your patronage more than I can say. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below. The Finer Details of This Episode: Most people have a fear of stepping out of the box - accepting that we will f-ck up our kids no matter where we are gives us the freedom to take that leap It took them seven years to finally decide to change their lives - they are planners and it was not an impulsive decision They have a travel-based business, which works for their lifestyle They have maintained a sense of rhythm and routine as travelers by reading at night, eating dinner together, and having consistency as a family Home is in the heart, not the house you’re living in They have an ‘open-door policy’ where you can always interrupt if you have a question or need emotional support They have always prioritized their children’s social components through the homeschooling experience, which has been challenging during the pandemic Her daughter started her own book club, to help meet social needs and connect with friends Listen to your kids’ interests, create what you need, and be open-minded about the way kids make friends today Jessica shares how their travels informed a minimalist lifestyle - she is a minimalist by nature For the first three years, they left with eight bags and eight carry-ons, and lived in different countries for nine to twelve months at a time They traveled from Costa Rica to Ecuador to France, then they moved to an RV Their policy was if something came in, something went out Focus is on experiences over stuff Grandparents traditionally show their love through gifts and toys, but Jessica and Will have really tried to transition grandparents to giving experiences instead Grandparents get joy out of watching kids open presents, but Jessica and Will try to bring the focus back to experiences that will give the child joy instead The importance of community and asking for help Traveling makes you a better person because it’s humbling and you become so appreciative If you’re looking to make a major transition or change in your life, remember that as a parent, you are tough The worst that can happen is you go back to where you started, but you will have learned and grown so much along the way Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Continuing on from my episode about Co-Regulation, today I’ll be sharing all of my insights, tips, and tricks on how to help your child effectively recognize when their emotions are building up, and cope with them before they escalate out of control. Our kids are very present in their bodies, which is why their feelings tend to come out in very physical ways. Having your child describe the physical sensation of their emotions, asking where they feel them (in the cheeks, fingers, chest, behind their eyes, etc.), using the “Hot and Cold” Method, and giving their feelings a specific name can help slow the process down and give your child time to identify what’s going on. Having a “Throwing Corner” in your home, checking in with your child throughout the day, engaging in Big Play, and getting outside can also help as an outlet for emotional tension. Thank you for your listening, and I appreciate your patronage more than I can say. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below. The Finer Details of This Episode: Developmental Biologist Bruce Lipton has noted that until age 7, kids don’t have consciousness or self-awareness just yet We want to allow emotions to flow, but also be teaching children the language and skills to properly cope with them Help kids recognize when they are experiencing a buildup of emotion, and intervene before it instantly escalates from 0-60 Our kids are very present in their bodies, which is why emotions come out in such physical ways Asking your child where they feel their emotions (cheeks, fingers, chest, behind the eyes) will help slow the process down Start the day by checking in with your child and using a “dial” to measure where their big feelings lie ‘Throwing Corner’ in your house can help kids vocalize their feelings and complete the circuit of emotion Big play, physical activity, outdoor time also help as an outlet for emotional tension Transitions continue to be very difficult as we return to life after the pandemic Young toddlers do not remember life before COVID, and all they know is your parenting through the pandemic Don’t wait until you get home to have fun and connect with your child - start as soon as you pick them up, walk to the car, or on your drive home We tend to rush to the next “big event,” but it’s important to find ways to slow down and enjoy the transitions together - these are the moments where you can truly connect With hitting, you can try the gentle approach first, but if that doesn’t resolve the behavior, you will need to step in and remove your child immediately Once a child knows they can disrespect you on that level without any consequences, you will have a nightmare on your hands The “Fuck-You Kid” comes out of the womb ready to fight and challenge you With these types of kids, you need to make sure you’re on top of hunger and sleep They also need strict boundaries (set bedtimes, mealtimes), but freedom within those limits (like messy play, tinkering and taking apart old electronics) Set these boundaries and don’t engage in power struggles - no negotiating They could also have ADHD, and their circadian rhythms are backwards They typically have impulse control issues Remember that we get the kid that is meant for us Focus on their good qualities and try not to get bogged down in the negative As with all toddlers, make sure they are getting enough sleep and nutritious food Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Anna Glasgow is an empowerment coach with a passion for personal growth. She has a Master’s Degree in Educational Leadership, and runs the amazing program, “Badass With Boundaries.” We connected over her toddler’s potty training journey on Instagram, and today she joins me as part of my ongoing series in which I simply talk to very cool people! Anna and I break down why boundaries are so important in helping yourself and your family feel safe and secure, the most common areas in which they tend to be crossed, why women tend to have weaker boundaries than men (and how this is exacerbated in parenthood), and how to create your own boundaries using your Love Language and Anna’s Hell Yes/Hell No Method. Anna shares how leaving an abusive relationship sparked her passion for this topic, and details her own experience hammering out boundaries after becoming a mother. Teaching consent, healing childhood wounds, and reparenting are also discussed. We chat about not having to justify our boundaries to anyone, trusting our intuition, and Anna reminds listeners that boundaries don’t make you a bitch - they make you a badass. To learn more about Anna’s program, visit www.AGlasgowCoach.com or email her at AGlasgowCoach@gmail.com. The Finer Details of This Episode: No one has absolutely everything figured out - everyone has a chink in their armor Women tend to have weaker boundaries, which only get exacerbated through parenting When boundaries and rules are constantly changing, it’s a cluster fuck and makes everyone feel anxious and insecure Men and women view chores differently, and it’s up to us to vocalize our expectations instead of leaving them unsaid and resenting partner or kids for not meeting them It’s hard to say what we need, because it opens us up to feeling vulnerable or being rejected Anna shares how leaving an abusive relationship sparked her passion for setting boundaries and teaching others to do the same Moms tend to have “grayer” boundaries than Dads - Dad will simply say “No” and move on Anna’s Hell Yes mentality - if she sits down and asks herself whether she wants to do something or attend a certain event, if it’s not a “Hell Yes,” then it’s a “Hell No” Knowing what you definitely want or don’t want in life helps your boundaries shape themselves Hell Yes/Fuck No Theory also applies to teaching consent - it’s either Hell Yes, or Fuck No and there is no gray area Your Love Language should factor in as you set your own boundaries You need to set boundaries not only with partners and loved ones, but also with yourself Not being able to hold boundaries for yourself (food, social media consumption) is often related to unhealed childhood wounds Hammering out her own boundaries with family after becoming a mother Stay neutral when people ask questions or pass judgment - you don’t have to assign meaning to it or take comments personally Parenthood has tested Anna’s boundaries and shown her which faults she needs to work on Reparenting and accepting that your child may not like the boundaries you’ve set You don’t have to justify your boundaries to anyone Too much information from the internet and social media has caused us to doubt our own intuition Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Jamie’s Instagram Page: @jamie.glowacki Anna Glasgow’s Website www.AGlasgowCoach.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today’s episode is the mother of all follow-ups. I’ll be revisiting my episodes on the ‘Go To Your Room’ strategy, tantrums, and negative associations, to clarify some confusion and answer all of your questions on these topics. One of the key ideas here is co-regulation, and whether you can lend your child your calm in moments of dysregulation. If you can be present with inaction, and simply be with your child without trying to fix the feeling or becoming dysregulated yourself, then you can hold space for them. But this is not always possible, as we could be dealing with stressors, trauma, or childhood wounds that sometimes make us lose our shit. And if that's the case, this is when you want to implement the harm reduction model and use the Go To Your Room strategy. It can be done in a way that doesn’t feel “abandoning”, and it prevents you from saying something psychologically damaging, and also allows your child to experience the full cycle of their feelings, and settle their bodies on their own. The Finer Details of This Episode: We are the first generation of parents to recognize that past parenting approaches were unhealthy and ineffective, so it can be confusing and overwhelming when everything is new territory - the internet also adds to this Go To Your Room strategy can often feel like you’re abandoning your child because it can be done is abandoning ways If you can tolerate your child’s meltdowns, you should probably hold space for your child in those moments - and that means presence with inaction If you can’t co-regulate without trying to stop the feeling, use the Go To Your Room strategy Ideally we would never leave a child in distress, but if you are about to lose your shit and say something catastrophic, this can do a lot of damage and you need to be implementing the harm reduction model in those moments There can be psychological damage when you try to stop the feeling and prevent it from running its full course, and also when you lose your shit on your child Regulation means bringing order, having a baseline of calm - you can be irritated by something, but it doesn’t throw you off If you feel yourself become immediately dysregulated when your child melts down, this is indicative of a childhood wound If it’s a slow burn and the feeling of being dysregulated gradually builds up, it’s the result of resentment and boundary issues Co-regulation is regulating in the presence of another person - dogs are an excellent example of this as they are present when you’re upset, but not doing anything to try to fix it I hate the traditional definition of co-regulation because it implies that you should actively do something to stop, to shift, to fade the feeling your child is having You do not need to do something when your child is upset, you need to be something In a meltdown situation, you have to lend them your calm, not calm your child down Letting your feelings and emotions run their course is incredibly powerful and healing If we over empathize with every single feeling, we’re doing a disservice to our child because we’re not teaching them how to weather disappointment Go To Your Room strategy allows your child to feel all their feelings, and settle their body on their own The key is for us parents to be regulated Gentle parenting misses the mark by encouraging us to sit with our children through all feelings, but it does not take into account our own stresses and feelings of dysregulation Links: Jamie’s Website - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page - www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Kimberly Ann Johnson Website www.kimberlyannjohnson.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Lauren Rodych-Eberle is one of the hosts of the Kids Who Explore podcast, which encourages families to connect with nature and explore the outdoors together. She is the owner of Miss Lauren’s Music Studio, where she teaches voice, piano, ukulele, and preschool music classes, and she is the author of several cookbooks. Lauren has a deep passion for food, hiking, adventure, and travel, and she is just an all-around cool person. We connected on Instagram over tips to handle ticks, and I am so excited to talk to her on the podcast today. We begin with Lauren’s hiking essentials, including a lint roller, TickWise organic tick spray, and a First Aid Kit. We address the pressure parents put on themselves to tackle huge summits, stay on track, and not let their kids stop and explore trails. Lauren offers her advice to keep hikes short, sweet, and fun so that your kids will want to go again, and we look at how hiking builds grit from a young age. Lauren shares her idea to make summer and winter bucket lists, and we trade hilarious parenting stories about dealing with teenagers versus toddlers. We chat about how the most relaxed days with our kids are often the most memorable, why little ones should skip sippy cups altogether, and the inspiration behind Kids Who Explore with founder Adrianna Skori. The Finer Details of This Episode: Lauren is one of the hosts of the Kids Who Explore podcast They want to help kids get outdoors She also owns a music studio, teaches music, writes cookbooks, and has a passion for adventure Lauren and I connected on Instagram over a post on ticks Tips to use a lint roller after being outdoors, wear white Her backpack essentials for hiking trips include all-natural TickWise organic spray, lint roller, First Aid Kit, water, snacks, bear spray, clothing layers, blanket, hat, and sunscreen Nature walks still qualify as hikes - whatever it takes to get your family outside Keep the pace short, sweet, and fun so that your kids will want to go hiking again Exploring outdoors helps build grit Make time in nature a priority by investing in gear and including time for it in your schedule Lauren’s summer and winter bucket lists, and encouraging your kids to help you come up with ideas The importance of getting outside in the winter to help stave off depression and Cabin Fever Start looking for winter gear in the off-season to help mitigate the cost Most relaxed days with our kids are often the most memorable, like my days eating ice cream with Pascal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner Parents can get obsessed with overhydrating their kids, which can complicate potty training and hinder building patience as a skill Quotes “We want nature to help raise our kids.” “We have to keep this short and sweet. Because my goal is that the kids have fun. And by the end, they want to do it again. But if it's like you're pushing them along and rushing them, then they're not going to say they want to do that again.” “I make [a bucket list] every summer and every winter just to kind of give us ideas of fun things to go through. And so like this summer I'm making one that is super toddler-friendly for my daughter to do with me. And also very COVID-friendly, I guess, too, because not as many things are open.” “I think getting outside is super vital in the winter.” Links: Jamie’s Homepage - www.jamieglowacki.com Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page - www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Lauren Robych-Eberle’s website - www.LaurenRodychEberle.com Kids Who Explore website - www.KidsWhoExplore.com TickWise Organic Insect Repellent The Mini Cup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
After my recent Instagram post on the arc of a tantrum received such an overwhelming response, I decided to devote an entire podcast to dissecting all things tantrums, meltdowns, and big feelings. Tantrums are the most intense and send your child into an altered state where you’ll actually wonder if you’ve encountered the devil, whereas meltdowns will make you feel more sad for your poor little one who’s just tired and overwhelmed. Big feelings are a momentary freakout that end just as quickly as they came on. All three can meld and morph into each other, and today I’ll look at what’s normal, what’s not, why tantrums happen, and what we can do about them. Tantrums typically begin developmentally around the 16-month to 3-year mark, and coincide with explosive brain growth that happens during that time. At this age, kids do not yet have the language skills needed to express their thoughts, and tantrums could be caused by something as simple as needing to poop. In today’s episode, I clarify that a few tantrums a week is developmentally appropriate, and explain what to watch out for to determine whether your child’s tantrums are cause for concern (whether they act aggressively, where they are tantruming and with whom, how long they last). I discuss my Go To Your Room strategy to help your child self-regulate while having big feelings, how to fix meltdowns by addressing the root of the problem, and the window of opportunity to distract your child at the beginning of a tantrum. I review the entire arc of a tantrum, what you can do to handle them at each stage, and the importance of letting a tantrum cycle run its course. Thank you for your patronage, and please visit the links below for more information on my potty training and parenting resources! The Finer Details of This Episode: The difference between tantrums, meltdowns, and big feelings Tantrums, meltdowns, and big feelings can meld and morph into each other What’s normal and what can we do about tantrums? Oftentimes, tantrums can be caused because of digestive issues or allergies, so please do not jump to conclusions that it is a behavioral issue Most behavioral therapists agree that tantrums are a demand for attention, a demand for something tangible, or an escape from a demand (putting on shoes, leaving the house) Tantrums start developmentally around the 16-month to 3-year mark and it coincides with explosive brain development Language skills are also underdeveloped at that time and they do not have the words to express their thoughts or needs Tantrums after 3.5 years are concerning - they should not be happening regularly beyond ages 4 or 5 Be cautious of brushing off behavior that’s out of the norm, as you child could really be suffering Another marker to look for is whether your child is only tantruming with you versus at daycare, in public, at the playground - across the board If they’re having tantrums only with you, that means they feel safe with you and you’re actually a very good parent Average tantrum should only last between 6 to 12 minutes Using the Go To Your Room strategy for big feelings and reactions so child can self-regulate on their own Be cautious of overstimulation and plan your outings accordingly Keep in mind that everyone is allowed to have a shitty day, even kids At the end, you want to hold your child tight and restore connection - do not process the tantrum If you are concerned about your kid’s tantrum behavior, consult a parenting expert like myself or your pediatrician Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? How To Measure Whether Your Child’s Tantrums Are Normal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome to July’s Q&A episode! Today I dive right in with some excellent questions about whether to allow “sexy” dolls like L.O.L Surprise Dolls in imaginary play, being aware of which franchises and marketing campaigns your children are exposed to, and how to encourage your child to play independently. I break down the relatively recent phenomenon of children expecting their parents to play with them and keep them entertained all day, and what you can do about it, even if you have an only child. Boredom is the basis for creativity, and it’s okay to establish boundaries for time together versus adult time for you. I share the two simple, but powerful words you can use to stop a rude or sassy attitude in its tracks, and what to do if your child is “acting out” in physical ways but not necessarily melting down. Finally, as we slowly return to our busy lives after the pandemic, remember that work, relationships, and parenting demands can drain our energy resources quickly. I offer my perspective on why it’s so important to rest, slow down, and pay attention to what activities feel restorative to you and your soul (reading, limiting social media, going for a walk in the woods) in this sometimes draining season of life. Thank you for your listening, and I appreciate your patronage more than I can say. For more information on my potty training and parenting resources, please visit the links below. The Finer Details of This Episode: Reminder to do strength training as it helps your body to heal itself Question about L.O.L Dolls, and whether to allow “sexy dolls” in imaginary play Make a conscious choice about which franchises and marketing campaigns your children are exposed to Watch your child’s play for any signs of inappropriate behavior, and keep in mind that most of the time, these types of toys or images are not sexualized for the child When you absolutely do not allow a certain toy or word, it may just make it all the more desirable Sitcom zingers and one-liner jokes may seem innocuous, but they can be hurtful or create huge attitudes in real life Kids are normally meant to play with other kids, and it isn’t our job to make sure they are entertained and occupied all day Make it very clear that there will be time when you play together, and time when they can do things by themselves Having “Reading Time” together is also a great way to not only encourage reading, but also for them to learn how to be with you without expecting to be entertained the entire time Boredom is the basis for creativity When your child is being rude or sassy, you do not need to point it out - simply ask them to try again When they are acting out, you don’t want to give in or engage in negotiation - instead, acknowledge how they’re feeling, give them the emotional vocabulary to explain why they’re upset, but maintain that they still do the thing you asked them to do and thank them for it They may be acting out because they don’t have the language to express how they feel, or they are afraid you may get mad at them if they do voice their feelings Work, relationships, and parenting can drain your energy resources quickly It’s very important to rest, slow down, and pay attention to what activities feel restorative to you and your soul in this sometimes draining season of life Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This month’s Q&A episode begins with a question about Redshirting (postponing entrance into kindergarten to allow extra time for social, emotional, intellectual, and physical growth). This is a controversial topic because parents can be accused of using it to give their kids an advantage, but I explain why it might actually be best to hold a child back, particularly if their birthday is close to the cutoff date. Sending kids too early can set them on a path of feeling like they’re always behind throughout their school career, not only academically, but emotionally and physically as well. I also tackle a question about healthy eating habits and the murky waters of using food as a reward. I break down why I am 100% against this practice as it creates unhealthy relationships with food, and I discuss why food should not be tied to emotions or power struggles with your kid. Finally, I look at using distractions during a tantrum - when it’s good, when it’s bad. There’s a window of opportunity when you can successfully distract your child with a change in scenery or deep breathing exercises, but if they’re past that point and you find yourself in “Juggling Fire and Spinning Plates” territory, it’s actually healthy to let kids experience their full range of emotions so that they can learn the boundaries of what’s acceptable. After all, kids need to be an asshole before they can learn how to not be an asshole. As always, I love hearing your questions and truly appreciate your patronage. Thank you for listening and keep your questions coming! The Finer Details of This Episode: Redshirting is the practice of postponing entrance into Kindergarten of age-eligible children, to allow extra time for social, emotional, intellectual or physical growth Redshirting is a controversial practice because some parents are accused of using it to give their kids an advantage Kindergarten has a much more challenging curriculum today, and is much more competitive Sending your child to Kindergarten early could set them up to always feel behind the other children as time goes on, not only academically, but physically and emotionally as well 100% against using food as a reward or punishment, as this will create a very unhealthy relationship with food moving forward Do not use dessert as currency to get your child to do expected behavior (eat a healthy dinner, use the potty) If you use food as a reward, it will often escalate to the child asking for more before they comply Try to view your child’s eating habits through a daily lens, not a meal lens - did they get a fair amount of protein, carbohydrates, and nutrients throughout the day versus in that one sitting? Make sure you’re providing age appropriate food and serving sizes so your child is not overwhelmed Create a family meal culture of not having seconds until your plate is clear, knowing you’ve given them an appropriate amount of protein and vegetables Treats should not be associated with any rewards - it’s okay to just have a treat Food should not be tied to emotions or power struggles as this can lead to picky eating or even body image issues later in life “Go To Your Room” strategy helps children learn what self-regulates them The arc of a typical toddler tantrum includes a window of opportunity where you can distract them by going outside, watching a movie, doing deep breathing Kids need to have tantrums and experience the full range of their emotions to learn boundaries of what’s acceptable and what’s not Trying to fix the feeling versus being the calm, centered parent to guide them back into their body Links: Jamie’s Homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today’s Q&A begins with a topic so many of you have asked about - positive reinforcement. Somehow along the way, parents confused positive reinforcement with offering bribes and rewards for everyday behaviors. But before you find yourself promising a trip to Disneyland for a single poop in the potty, I break down how you can recognize good behaviour without setting your kids up to feel entitled. In response to your questions about connection before correction, I’ll clarify how you can connect with your kid using short spurts of one-on-one time, and I’ll share some ideas on how to help a child who throws tantrums when they lose a game. Today’s episode also looks at screentime, and how to ease your child back to reality when it’s time to turn off Peppa Pig. Finally, I’ll discuss consequences versus punishment, the role of shame and guilt in shifting behavior, and how Gentle Parenting can actually lead to more aggression in some cases. As always, thank you for your patronage and your participation in this platform. I love your questions and getting to hear about all of your experiences on this parenting journey. I can’t wait to hear what questions you have for me next month! The Finer Details of This Episode: Effective methods to reinforce positive behaviour, like using a low pitch with your voice and offering a solid fist bump The importance of praising the effort, not the outcome Like adults, children want to be seen and validated for their effort and the work they put into something Connection before correction, and having a “bouillon cube” of one-on-one time with your child Coping with kids who throw tantrums when they lose a game - every kid goes through this phase Finding a balance with screentime boundaries, and using a bridge of attention to ease them back to reality without tantrums It is okay to sometimes allow your child to experience bad consequences or bad feelings when they do something wrong as this is how they know not to repeat the behavior Quotes: “If we don’t have boundaries, I see this sort of free fall in kids.” “They have nothing to hold them in, nothing to kick against, and therefore know that they’re safe.” “We do want to reinforce the positive, otherwise the child has no idea.” “And that leads us to positive reinforcement. Somehow along the way, I think parents got confused and this became bribery and/or rewards.” “Positive reinforcement is really just noticing the good.” “We don’t praise the outcome, we praise the effort.” “I hope you’re not stringing yourself out trying to be super connected all day long.” “Before every game, it’s wise to say, ‘Listen, people win and people lose, and that’s okay.’” “I definitely think it’s better to start making them lose early on so they get acclimated.” “Do not get trapped just because your kid throws a tantrum.” “Remember, when your kid is little, they are in the screen, so it’s really hard to just pull them away.” “It is okay for your child to feel bad about the bad thing they did.” “If they’re not responding and it’s not effective, change it.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s that time again to open up the digital mailbag, and respond to some of your questions, which I absolutely love, love, love. While some of today’s questions offer new twists on previous topics, all of them are, of course, excellent ones which I know so many are wondering about as well, so let’s dig in, shall we? Today, we’ll look at ways to handle the constant ‘I want’ requests from your kid, revisit the concept of changing the family dinner if it’s not working well currently, look at sleep and dealing with early risers, and handling the stage of combining ‘No’ with emotions. We’ll also delve into the dynamics of having an older and younger child, as well as the world of playdates especially at a friend’s house, and the importance of being an asker as opposed to a guesser. Again, I love receiving these questions so much because they reflect real life, and give me the opportunity to share real, practical advice rather than theoretical. Please keep them coming – I can’t wait for our next Q&A session! The Finer Details of This Episode: There’s no cure for sibling fighting; it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other Kids are going to be relentless in their asking Create a culture of answering your child’s requests with ‘Yes’, ‘No’, or ‘Maybe’ where ‘Maybe’ means “Probably, but it will turn to a ‘No’ if you keep asking” If you can get children talking about their ‘favorite’, you can derail just about any behavior that you’re not wanting; they’re often looking for engagement with you If your dinner time is miserable, it’s okay to fix it; you don’t need to have it the way others might Giving up a nap can help with children who wake up too early Don’t be tricked into thinking there are ‘kid night owls’ Circadian rhythms are often backwards in children with ADHD We don’t want to be ‘sportscasting’ with our kids Statements such as ‘No angry’, ‘No happy’, ‘No sad’ could actually be expressing ‘Don’t look at me/Don’t see me’ so don’t look at them in that moment; it’s a phase When you have an older and younger child, you need to cater to the older child’s needs; give them a safe space to play and create Leaving your child with another parent is based on your answer to ‘Do I feel comfortable with how the other parent disciplines and/or handles it when the shit hits the fan?’ Playdates are just a reality today; choose the people that you like and respect; clarify with the other parent about ‘trading time’ – be an asker, not a guesser; paying for child interactions happens all the time so it might be something worth considering Quotes: “What it is, is engagement.” “I’m a fan of, like, reverse engineering.” “Sleep gets conditioned by us and by the things we need to do, but toddlers don’t have that.” “Be very careful that you’re not limiting your older child because of the younger child.” “As your child gets older, you don’t have to be friends with your child’s friends’ parents, so that’s kind of a real relief.” “It’s so rare for somebody to come and grab your kid out of their yard.” “We do feel like we have to hover.” “We need parental time.” “It’s far better to be an asker, because there’s no ambiguity and there’s no mistakes.” “You need to fucking ask if there’s guns in the house. Like, that’s…a non-negotiable.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, we’re going to move on from our trauma series, but before we do, I want to thank you all for your fantastic feedback during it. I always love our dialogue, and especially during such an important topic, so once again, thank you. As we move on today, it’s time for another Q & A to look at all the questions that have been piling up over the past month, so let’s get started. The questions this time around range from children displaying shyness, to bringing co-sleeping with your child to an end, to sibling play, and then to driving children around to help them get to sleep. We’ll also look at the age-old concern about getting children to give up their pacifier, as well as what to do when your child is in that “refusing to take ‘no’ for an answer” stage. Once more, we have a full slate of excellent questions that I know so many are wondering about, and I want to encourage you to keep them coming so that, as always, we can work together to address them. The Finer Details of This Episode: There are many different preferences regarding children who appear shy in public I have very little patience for anyone ignoring someone who is greeting them I don’t care where you sleep as long as everybody sleeps and it works for everybody The minute you cave on something, you reinforce the behavior To break co-sleeping silently return your child to their bed, prepare for a few sleepless nights, and have someone to help you with backup The pandemic seems to have fostered an attitude with some parents to allow undesirable behaviors to continue Don’t allow your child to do something that makes you dislike or resent them Many times, children need to experience the consequences of their actions before they will change their behavior Sleep is everything – the best gift you can give your kids is good sleep habits I do not like the idea of driving kids around for sleep – find out why sleep is not happening Read the chapter about dinner times in Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler, if you haven’t already, about when to have dinner in relation to bed time Under the age of 5, everyone sitting down for family dinner at the same time is not nearly as important as getting nutrition and proper sleep If you have to make exceptions to sleep routines for some reason, set a date to attend to its end Slowly giving up a transitional object (pacifier, blanky, etc.) to which your child has become attached is incredibly stressful for them – doing it quickly is much better Cutting a hole in a pacifier so it loses its ‘suck’ appeal can help in giving it up There are phases that kids go through (won’t take no for an answer, asking why, etc.) and they usually don’t last too long Establishing a response tier such as “’No’ means ‘no’, ‘yes’ means ‘yes’, and ‘maybe’ means ‘probably’ but if you keep being up my ass, it’s going to turn into a ‘no’” can prove beneficial If you’re going to cave, cave early What you continue to do, fosters the habit – if it’s not working for you, change it Quotes: “You can be shy, but you have to say ‘Hello’.” “With kids…once you start something, it’s really hard to break it…it’s a slippery slope.” “If something’s not working, change it.” “If your child is not in the right circadian rhythm, they will have a hard time falling asleep.” “They get this, like, well connected, juicy time with their kid after work instead of fighting over one more fuckin’ bite.” “If you know that you have it in you to not cave, then ‘no’ means ‘no’.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m very excited to bring this episode to you today since it’s about one of my favorite topics – Seasonal Affective Disorder, the winter blues, and how to beat them. Winter was not always my favorite season, and if that’s true for you as well, today I’m going to share with you how I flipped it so it is now number one on my list. With everything that is still going on these days, this winter is bound to be a really hard one for many people, so let’s look at some of the strategies I employ that can help turn that around. We’ll begin by reviewing the fact that your attitude toward the season will show up in your kids, and then I offer some of my food and sleep suggestions that have really helped me in the past and continue to do so. Keeping expectations low or level for the holidays, and using lighting to help generate a positive mood are a couple other suggestions that we’ll explore, as well as the greatest strategy of all which is to embrace the outdoors and stay out with your kids as much as humanly possible. I have some tried and true clothing and activity recommendations that will help you achieve this, and I truly hope that you will be able to find the good things that winter has to offer and celebrate them with your kids. Naturally, if you are experiencing a massive depression due to the season, be sure to speak with your doctor, but if you are simply looking for a ‘mood boost’, today’s episode has a lot of great ideas for you. Don’t suffer – experience all the joy that this winter can bring! The Finer Details of This Episode: If you don’t like winter, you will see the same in your kids Going into the winter, I’m careful about food and sleep If you live in a place that experiences pretty harsh winters, you are going to be low in Vitamin D I keep up on Vitamin C, D and Zinc, bone broth, root vegetables Lowering the expectations around holidays can help I use a lot of twinkle lighting around the house Stay outside as much as possible Buy the right outdoor gear for you so you can stay outside with your kids Outlets are amazing for outdoor gear Smartwool is the best but it is expensive For kids: buy overalls for snow pants, Hannah Anderson stuff is great, mittens are warmer than gloves – buy lots in the same color, don’t buy cotton clothes, buy waterproof items, have extras if you can, OAKI rain gear is fabulous When the weather switches over to cold, change over your kid’s closet to winter clothes Get involved in winter sports like snowboarding, ice skating, snowshoeing, cross country skiing Try to look forward to all the things that are good about winter Full spectrum light bulbs can help Quotes: “I do think kids are affected by their parents’ mood and their parents’ winter blues.” “I don’t want that massive sugar crash after the holidays.” “I can feel, like, my body go into storage-mode.” “Us moms are the fuckin’ worst about winter self-care and clothing.” “If you are happy in the cold, your kid will be happy in the cold.” “I have fat ski pants and I have skinny ski pants.” “Eliminate all your kid’s bitching.” “Snowboarding changed my life…it’s like dancing on a surfboard.” “If I break my leg ice skating, I’d be so pissed.” “Try to like winter.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s that time of year again when we start thinking about gifts for the upcoming holiday season (if you haven’t already), so welcome to this year’s Gift Guide as curated by Jenn and myself. You know that I’m all about gifts that inspire learning and using the whole brain and the whole body, and that’s precisely the type of gifts you’ll find on our list here today. In addition to the list, I’ll also share some information about the perennial issue about gifts from relatives who want the credit that comes from your kid’s big reactions on the day, as well as some ideas about how to bring the intensity of the holiday down while increasing its overall enjoyment. Naturally, we’ll go through the Gift Guide, which you can find in the links section below, and I’ll offer my own commentary on the selections as we go along. Most important of all, I need you to remember that, particularly in this unprecedented year, you need to do ‘whatever the fuck you want to do this Christmas’, and to please never forget to reach out if you find you need help given the potential overwhelm of the season. With the pandemic continuing, this is going to be a long winter, so be sure to keep your mental and physical health a top priority throughout. I sincerely hope that today’s episode marks one step toward helping to achieve that. The Finer Details of This Episode: · Grandparents want the credit for gifts that their grandkids will absolutely love · Create ‘hygge’ · Our $5 Christmas was one of our best ever · You have permission to jack the holidays way up or bring them way down · Check out the Gift Guide in the links section below · You can make marble runs out of many things (ex. pool noodles, molding, etc) · Don’t overstretch yourself this year financially · Make sure you and your kids are geared up for playing outside no matter what the weather – Hanna Andersson snowsuits are phenomenal · Subscription gifts can be problematic when it comes to renewal issues · Check for scams or complaints about companies before ordering any of their products · Make mental and physical health a priority Quotes: “If you have too much stuff, you’re going to get butterfly play…you want less stuff because it opens up deeper play.” “If my house and my space are too cluttered, I get too cluttered.” “You guys are going to want to be outside as much as humanly possible.” “I’m really into functional fitness.” “Take care of yourself, take care of your kids, take care of your mental health as well as your physical health.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Today, I am so excited to have Quiara Smith, MOT OTR/L, join me on the podcast . As a pediatric pelvic health occupational therapist, Quiara specializes in treating pelvic floor dysfunction, toileting/elimination disorders, and bowel and bladder dysfunction in children between the ages of 4-18 years old both through her Aloha Integrative Therapy Clinic and telehealth services. She has a lot to share and clears up a few mysteries along the way, so prepare to have your mind blown! Quiara begins by sharing just what exactly the pelvic floor is, the many potential causes for dysfunction in this area, and what the symptoms of these dysfunctions show up as. She also describes the reasons why she would become involved in working with a child, the impact of the sensory system in children, and the holistic and non-invasive approach she employs in her work. We then discuss the role that core muscles, and the need to develop them in children, play in potty training, and explore some recommendations for building these muscles, some strategies for parents to implement, and the ways in which Quiara helps children and parents through her telehealth services. As you’ll discover, we could have talked on and on about these important topics which make such a huge difference in the life of the child and the parent, and you’ll certainly see why I want to have Quiara join us again to share even more wisdom and solve even more mysteries to help our kids. The Finer Details of This Episode: There are many potential causes for pelvic floor dysfunction and they should be addressed as early as possible Symptoms can present in a number of ways including, abdominal pain, picky eating, reflux, wetting the bed, fecal leaking, but mainly in toileting troubles You have to take a holistic approach to dealing with these issues Pediatric pelvic floor therapists use non-invasive evidence-based approaches to helping children Core muscle challenges will affect a child’s ability to coordinate their pelvic floor to void pee or poo A lack of variety in movement, especially in play, is impacting children’s development of gross motor skills and strength Some strategies that parents can implement immediately to help support pelvic health are having the child sit properly on the toilet, sit after a meal (for those who’ve had trouble for years), push to begin and then relax by breathing in Quotes: “Releasing poop is a really huge deal.” “If you can’t get enough water or enough, like, fibrous foods because you’re a picky eater, you’re going to be more prone to constipation.” “There’s a rich dialogue happening in your kid’s body.” “Your kid holds their tension in their butt.” “I found that this has strengthened the bond between the child and the caregiver because you’re doing therapeutic touch – that’s what I like to call it.” “I’m here to help you through this challenging moment, but it also could be very beautiful and very kind of sacred in a way.” “Continence is a huge thing that they have to deal with, and once that starts resolving, you see this transformation of not only the child but the parents and the caregivers. It’s phenomenal and that’s why I do what I do.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training – https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Aloha Integrative Therapy: Homepage: https://alohaintegrativetherapy.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alohaintegrativetherapy/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alohaintegrativetherapy/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jamie discusses options available to parents who are gearing up to send their children back to school Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The prospect of schools reopening is gradually dawning on us all, and with it comes the news of the potential restrictions which will be in place. As so many of the restrictions seem to greatly impact the level of socializing that children will be able to enjoy upon their return, I am currently fielding a large number of questions regarding homeschooling. In today’s episode, my aim is to address the questions that seem to be the most frequently asked. It’s important to note that laws and rules regarding homeschooling will vary by, and in some cases within, states, so the information I offer here today is fairly general and you really need to check with a local homeschooler or homeschooling group to understand the specifics for your area. What I can share with you is the remarkable difference between the schooling we’ve all been doing for the last few months and actual homeschooling, some ideas regarding learning styles and curriculum, and some of the basic facts about homeschooling and unschooling. I can also tell you that you have the right and the ability to educate your child at home – you have done it from the moment they were born. Sending your child back to a school filled with social restrictions may rightfully seem daunting to you at the moment, and if you are considering homeschooling, this episode will provide you with information and advice based upon a vast amount of experience and research that can help you begin your decision making process. The Finer Details of This Episode: Nobody was actually homeschooling these past few months – we were ‘crisis schooling’ The actual academics don’t take as long as a school day Every state has their own laws and rules about homeschooling, so go to a local homeschooler or group for advice A lot of people opt in to homeschooling because they want to opt out of standardized testing and ‘teaching to the test’ Beware of the tendency for school districts to offer their opinion on homeschooling rather than the policy The Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HLDA) is the only legal defense association in the country to help with homeschooling issues Nobody should ever go into your home to ‘check out your homeschooling environment’ You do not to be certified to teach If you are just trying homeschooling for a year, you’re tied to the school’s curriculum – that’s not my favorite way There is a large choice of other curricula out there, so you need to determine your child’s learning style You don’t need a curriculum for pre-school – read to them, love them, take them outside When unschooling, follow the ‘rabbit holes’ Quotes: “Homeschooling looks so much different than what we just did.” “It’s your constitutional right to direct the education of your child.” “I’m not anti-school, but I am anti-bad school.” “I am more and more of a facilitator.” “I would argue that we’re always all homeschooling.” “When you’re working with something you’re passionate about, and you love, you’re going to hit these spots where you have to work through a yucky part of it.” “I am unabashed in my love of homeschooling…it’s such a lifestyle choice.” “You know your kid - you are 100% the expert on your child - so lead with that.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jamie is back after a bit of a hiatus, and she hits the ground running by delving into the complexity of parenting during these uncertain times. There is so much going on out there these days, and Jamie is here to offer some strategies which can be implemented immediately to help parents and children alike, and to also remind everyone to be gentle with themselves. Comparing the response to this pandemic to the stages of grief, Jamie recognizes that a lot of people are in that anger/bargaining stage, and are at risk of becoming overwhelmed by trying to justify things as educational while also learning how to be together in these unique circumstances. In addition, she highlights just how important it is to ensure that children know they are safe, to talk with them about what’s going on in terms they’ll understand, and above all, to make sure that all of you take the time you need to look after your own mental health. The Finer Details of This Episode: Justifying things as educational can lead to excessive anxiety Loosening up your usual screen time allowance is okay these days You are not in charge of your child’s education Learn how to be together during this pandemic Children need to know that they are safe, and emotional swaddling is necessary now more than ever Ensure that all family members get some alone time and ‘combination times’ Children need to feel touch and to engage in ‘big play’, especially these days Take some time for yourself to tend to your own mental health Talk about this pandemic with your kids in terms they can understand The story behind Jamie’s hiatus and her new Patreon account Quotes: “If you have to work, and you have a child under the age of 5, you have to give them some screen time. It’s a non-solvable problem.” “You need to tell your child that they are safe, and they are loved, and you are taking care of them.” “Our kids need us to be taking care of our mental health.” “Please prioritize yourself.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Manuela Molina’s COVIBOOK: https://www.mindheart.co/descargables Jamie’s Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki?
Jamie’s addressing one of the most frequently asked questions listeners and followers have for her: how does she balance everything and keep her life in order, especially as a single mom? Her answer is simple and two-fold: 1. it’s HARD, and 2. it’s a fool’s game to try to do everything at once. The parental balancing act is an art of setting a schedule and picking your battles. In this episode, Jamie explains how our phones can dominate our already busy schedules if we’re not careful, debunks the myth of multitasking, and compares keeping our life in balance to, of all things, four pots on a stove. The Finer Details of This Episode: What’s “uh-huh” parenting and why we absolutely need to avoid it. Establishing consistent phone time for yourself and being honest with your children about when you’ll need to do some scrolling. How airplane mode has become Jamie’s best friend. Why Jamie isn’t a fan of multitasking—and in fact has some pretty harsh things to say about it. What Jamie’s past experience as a circus performer—yes, you heard that right—taught her about maintaining balance. Jamie’s “four-burner stove” theory for keeping all of the major elements of your life in check. In the end, remember that even the people who look like they have all their shit together still struggle with balancing it all. Quotes: “Stop with the half-assed parenting. It’s not fair to our kids!” “You can’t do everything well if you’re trying to do it all together.” “Balance is a verb. It is not a noun, it is not a destination.” “You HAVE to show up as a whole person to be a good parent.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You’ve got to face the facts: try as hard as you might, your kid is going to swear at some point, and when they do drop a big fat expletive it will probably be in the worst time and place. It’s going to be embarrassing, but it’s also a valuable moment that will help your kid understand what is or isn’t acceptable among certain crowds, while allowing you both to acknowledge the emotion beneath the swearing. In this episode, Jamie discusses her approach to teaching Pascal about swearing and the impression it gives off and suggests how you can help your own children to understand the effect of bad—or rather, “strong”—words. The Finer Details of This Episode: How Jamie’s son Pascal and his preschool class were exposed to swearing en masse—and what it taught them about the power of words. There are some parents who don’t care about swearing but of course, you need to set boundaries on where and when that happens. Helping your little one understand that swearing can affect how others see them, and how Jamie has imparted this lesson to her son. Why swearing in inappropriate contexts can actually teach your kid a lot about hurt and shame. The reason Jamie refers to cursing as “strong words” rather than “bad words.” Quotes: “Swearing is just words we’ve given extraordinary power to.” “The more power you give the words the more it has and that’s just how it goes.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Changes: it’s not just a David Bowie song, but something your kid is going to go through a lot of throughout their early years. And Jamie isn’t merely talking about bodily or behavioral changes but changes in routine, changes in circumstances, and changes in family. Something as simple as leaving the house in the morning can be enough to set your little one on edge, so we need to both help them understand these necessary—and occasionally unfortunate—shifts as well as make these transitions a little easier for them. In this episode, Jamie discusses the significant changes your parenting style will go through as your little one becomes a slightly bigger one, explains how you can help your kid stay on top of these transitions, and suggests ways you can help your child get through the tougher life milestones. The Finer Details of This Episode: Why Jamie’s new book has “toddler” in the title even though it deals more with the preschool age. How your style of parenting needs to shift in a fundamental way as your little one goes from two to three. Looking at some of the transitions your child will go through, including moving, divorce, milestones, and even being part of a military family. If your child frequently gets upset, take a step back and figure out if these fits and tantrums are happening during moments or periods of transition. How a simple whiteboard can help you and your kids navigate these transitions. When in doubt, slow things down a little. Why the teddy bear or toy your little one wants to bring on a car ride might be just what they need to keep them at ease during transitions. Jamie’s tips for easing children through big, potentially life-changing transitions like moving and divorce. If you’re a parent whose partner is in the military and goes on deployment, consider seeking out other military parents for a supportive community. Quotes: “Your entire relationship is about bonding in this physical sense and creating this safety within the child’s life.” “Hang in there and survive and keep the kids alive.” “The longer the distance, the more transitional objects the kid’s gonna need.” “Err on the side of talking about it rather than ignoring it.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Alanna McGuinn is a sleep consultant, founder of the Good Night Sleep Site and a stress management coach. As a mother of three, she understands firsthand how vital sleep is for both children and parents during those first few years of raising kids, so she now focuses on how you can maximize not only how long you and your toddlers sleep but the quality of that sleep as well. She’s also hosts the podcast This Girl Loves Sleep, where she recently interviewed Jamie. In this episode, Alanna discusses that tricky transition from cradle to bed, explains why you should invest in a proper alarm clock, and looks at medical conditions that can impact how well your little ones sleep. Jamie also announces the winner of her book pre-launch party giveaway! The Finer Details of This Episode: Alanna reveals what prompted her to become a sleep specialist. Why it’s always worth trying to put your kid on an earlier bedtime, even if your schedule needs to change. Factors you should consider when debating if it’s too soon to move your little one from a crib to a bed. Techniques and technology you can use to get yourself in a better mood for deep, restful sleep. Why it can be beneficial to get up in the middle of the night and do an activity if you don’t feel tired enough. Is it possible to set when your little ones wake up as well as when they go to bed? The importance of establishing who’s in charge at bedtime (hint: it’s the parents). Navigating the turbulent waters of napping. How sleep apnea and adenoids can affect the quality of your child’s sleep. Quotes: “Work out all your sleep kinks first, then transition.” “If we’re waking up and seeing all this clutter it’s just gonna add more clutter to our minds.” “It’s really important to create a positive association between sleep and bed.” “We should be sleeping 85% of the time we’re in bed.” “You don’t negotiate with terrorists or toddlers.” Links: Good Night Sleep Site homepage - https://goodnightsleepsite.com/ This Girl Loves Sleep podcast - https://goodnightsleepsite.com/podcast/ Good Night Sleep Site Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/GoodNightSleepSite/ Good Night Sleep Site Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/GoodNightSleepSite/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738
This episode marks two very special occasions for Oh, Crap! One is that Jamie is happy to bring you all her first interview conducted over Instagram livestream! The second is that her guest of honor is Dr. Kendra Becker. Kendra is an “integrated physician” operating out of Jamie’s own home state of Connecticut and specializes in holistic treatment of young patients and their parents. One of Jamie’s friends had recommended Kendra to her to help with perimenopause and the two quickly realized how well they gelled over how they choose to treat their patients and clients. In this episode, Kendra explains how her style of treatment differs from—and has an edge over—mainstream Western medicine, breaks down how important biodiversity in our digestive tract is, and reveals what our poop can say about our health. The Finer Details of This Episode: The genetic reason each and every one of us has a medical history even at the moment we’re born. The divisions in the medical community that led to naturopathy being shunted to the side. Why Kendra thinks naturopathy and holistic medicine have an edge over western and pharmaceutical techniques. Discussing the human microbiome and the important equilibrium that allows it to thrive. The first myth Karen wants to dispel for all of her patients. Kendra’s reason for why probiotics are so important, even with their potential risks, and how she prefers to store and administer them. Getting down to the big topic: what does your poop say about you? Kendra gives us a preview of one of her upcoming “Keeping Healing in the Home” e-course. Quotes: “One week’s worth of antibiotics can completely change your microbiome.” “What we need from our microbiome is the perfect balance for our unique individual.” “We want to make sure that we keep our microbiome in the perfect balance for our body.” Links: Kendra’s homepage - http://drkendrabecker.com/ Family Wellness Center of Connecticut - https://www.fwcct.com/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Some of you may not know this, but Jamie homeschools! (and no! Jamie doesn’t think everyone should homeschool and she’s not trying to convince you that you should!) Her son Pascal has been learning at home since he was still fairly young, and both he and Jamie have found to be this alternative mode of education not only better suited for him but engaging in a way that mainstream schooling isn’t always. She also knows that several inaccurate, outdated and even harmful perceptions of homeschooling have sprung up over the years and feels they really should be addressed before people pass judgment. In this episode, Jamie explains what led her to teach Pascal at home, relates some of the fascinating things he’s learned and how she’s aided his education, and addresses some commonly held criticisms and concerns about teaching your kids at home. The Finer Details of This Episode: Jamie explains why she thinks conventional teaching in a traditional school environment is still important. Why Jamie doesn’t think homeschooling is for everyone. The incidents that persuaded Jamie to remove Pascal from the conventional school system. Jamie breaks down the different types of homeschooling available and how she decided on her preferred method. How the widespread compulsory schooling we’re used to is actually very new in the grand scheme of history. The ways Jamie was able to foster Pascal’s interest in paleontology and anatomy. The “grunt work” Jamie aims to avoid when educating Pascal and introducing him to new concepts. How you can go about homeschooling on your own and some important personal and impersonal resources you can rely on. Why some of the laws governing homeschooling may be threatened as we speak. Quotes: “We’re ALL homeschooling! It’s just some people are homeschooling part-time and some people are homeschooling full-time.” “Homeschooling really is a lifestyle choice.” “I don’t think of myself as a teacher; I think of myself as a facilitator.” “Do you want your child to learn or do you want them to complete the book?” “My choice in educating my child is a constitutional right.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The latest episode of Oh, Crap! is a follow-up to Jamie’s earlier installment on keeping kids safe (see episode 15!). Many listeners wanted to know how to most effectively speak to their children about sexual abuse and what precautions should be taken. Jamie doesn’t want to set off anybody’s anxiety, but these are important subjects we need to know inside and out so our kids can be safe out in the world. In this episode, Jamie discusses how to set boundaries with friends and family (and what reactions you should be on the alert for), explains which odd behaviors may be signs of sexual abuse, and wades through the turbulent waters of childhood slumber parties. The Finer Details of This Episode: Why it’s so vital you find a way to heal if you’re a parent who has survived sexual abuse in their past. The reason you should be forthright with your children (at a certain age) and not sugarcoat some of the world’s dangers. How to navigate the tricky space of dealing with an inappropriate—or even potentially inappropriate—family member. Why the very act of setting boundaries is key to figuring out who are the healthy and unhealthy relations in your life. Your kid shouldn’t have to go to sleepovers, especially if you feel uneasy about who will be there. Asking the difficult questions, such as “Will there be drinking?” and “Are there freaking guns here?” Take note that abusive individuals will seek out roles and employment that will allow them to exploit their power over others. Why your kids may be at greater risk if you’re a single parent. Don’t let your denial that the worst could possibly happen lead to your child ending up in a threatening situation. How to look for signs of abuse in your children or other children. Quotes: “We have to name the boogeyman. We have to look the boogeyman right in the eye to disarm him.” “You have to be willing to piss people off rather than jeopardize or compromise your child.” “Healthy people respect boundaries; unhealthy people push back on them.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jamie and her friend recently came up with a plan to send their kids on a trip to the city on their own via the bus. To some parents, the idea of their teenage kids hopping on public transportation and jetting from the suburbs to the thick of downtown can be frightening, but Jamie wants to make sure Pascal and his friends develop the curiosity necessary to explore and learn as they get older and become more independent. She was also inspired by paleontologist Scott Sampson’s TEDx talk on the importance of raising children who are fascinated by the natural world and free to explore it at their own pace. In this episode, Jamie leads you through Scott’s TEDx talk, reveals how well-intentioned parental instincts can get in the way of your child’s sense of discovery, and explains how you can more effectively foster your child’s wonder. The Finer Details of This Episode: Why we need to engineer scenarios that expose our kids to the world and allow them to find their own way. How adults, specifically parents, can actually harm our children’s sense of wonder for the natural world. Starting off your children’s adventures with a simple walk around the block. Why being a good teacher to your child can mean backing off a little and ditching the “teacher voice.” Don’t “quantify” your kid’s nature discoveries—just let them geek out for a bit and enjoy them for themselves! Resist the urge to say “no” and let your children get their hands dirty so they can actually engage with their environment. Parents: don’t let your completionist tendencies get in the way of what your kids find interesting about nature. Instead of falling into the “technology sucks” trap, let’s figure out ways to more constructively integrate tech into our kids’ explorations. Quotes: “There’s no magical age where a kid just knows how to do things.” “We can’t let our feelings get in the way of our kids’ growth.” “We need to collectively shut up a whole lot more than we do.” “Don’t kill the ‘whoa’!” “Let go of the idea that you need to fill your kid with information.” Links: Scott Sampson: “How to Raise a Wild Child” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mn4ve9fLsuA Steve Spangler Science - https://www.stevespanglerscience.com/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] -https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s possible for parental expectations to be too high AND too low. You’ll have some parents keen on getting their little ones to read and write before they’re even in kindergarten while insisting they’re not yet emotionally able to comprehend big changes like moving homes. Social media plays a big role in perpetrating unrealistic expectations, with sponsored ads on Facebook and other platforms skewing these expectations even further. In the end, what your toddler can or cannot do most often boils down to what they have the cognitive capacity for—again, their little brains are still developing! In this episode, Jamie lays out the difficult truth about tantrums, breaks down what your little one may or may not be capable of doing at their age, and gets real about the unfortunate aspect of parenting you’re just going to have to come to terms with. The Finer Details of This Episode: Are you expecting your kid to listen the first time you tell them to do something? That’s expecting way too much for their age. There’s no way to really talk your kid out of a tantrum once they’ve already built up enough steam; you’re going to have to accept it and ride it out. Your little one has only started to grasp basic concepts like “object permanence;” logic isn’t going to work on them. You can use “emotion charts” to help your child understand the complex emotions they’re beginning to feel, but understand they really don’t have the ability to control their emotions. Individuation: the important psychological development that explains why your toddler doesn’t care what you think about how they’re acting. Parenting can just suck at this age, and accepting that is essential for parenting well. It’s important to set boundaries, but even more important to understand that your little one will work their hardest to test those boundaries. Just as it’s possible to start kids on certain skills too early, it can be too late to get them potty-trained—or at least too late to get them potty-trained without massive resistance. What Jamie learned from witnessing a ritual dance by a local native tribe. A list of skills and techniques you can expect your toddler to have a handle on. Your kid is way more capable of handling serious discussion than you may think. Quotes: “There is no way to stop a tantrum mid-tantrum.” “Shame is huge and our children can’t handle it.” “Nobody has it all together, and if they do, I dunno, they’re living a very inauthentic life.” “Don’t have this expectation that the whole world is doing it well and you’re not. Everybody’s having a hard time.” “We hold [the boundary] so that the child can learn.” “We expect these kids to be so compliant and yet we also underestimate them at every single turn.” “If there’s a pink elephant in your house, I can assure you that your child has noticed it.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Just because your relationship with your child isn’t perfect doesn’t mean you’re messing up! Kids are lovely, but anyone with a two-year-old knows they can also be chaotic little imps when they see fit. They’re going to push your buttons both by accident or because they’ll know it’s going to push your buttons. For these moments, it’s handy to have consistent, proportional guidelines for helping your little ones understand that they can’t always get away with everything—guidelines that focus on connection before correction In this episode, Jamie lays out a series of steps you should try to follow when your kid is acting out, pointers that will help them understand consequences rather than fear punishment. The Finer Details of This Episode: Two unavoidable facts: your kids will always find ways to act out despite your good parenting, and you will always be emotionally affected by that acting out. It is not a parent’s role to create the perfect human; we are here to guide our children. When your child starts misbehaving, ask yourself if their “emotional gas tank” is full. Looking into the surprisingly recent creation of the “time-out.” Why “punishment” and “consequences” are much more different than we might think, and the reason Jamie prefers the latter. Jamie weighs in on why she thinks time-outs are ineffective at best and alienating at worst. Why neither explosive anger nor dead silence are the best way to respond to a child’s misbehavior. Own your emotions and don’t blame your child when you get angry. How whispering is basically verbal non-violence. Bring yourself down to your child’s physical level when you need to address their acting out so you don’t seem threatening. Consider a “time-in” rather than a “time-out.” How you can use your hands—and even a blanket—to physically regulate their child until they’ve achieved calm again. Make sure that everybody has cooled down before you start helping your child process their emotions. When in doubt, it’s okay to leave. Give your kid only one chance instead of three and don’t be afraid to follow through on a threat to leave. Having a good “mom voice” or “dad voice” can come in very handy for getting your point across. If you do need to issue consequences for poor behavior, ensure they’re immediate and proportionate to the misbehavior. Quotes: “There are parts to parenting that just get ugly. We are raising freaking humans—and guess what? We’re human too.” “[Children are] always acting crappy for a reason. Behavior is not random.” “Consequences are not punishment and we have to remember that.” “There is some natural shame but we don’t want to ever cover our kids in shame.” “The angrier you are about whatever action your child took, the more you need to take yourself out of the mix.” “Whisper before it escalates.” “All you have to do is follow through a few times and your child’s going to get it.” “We always want to lead with the idea that ‘discipline’ means ‘to teach’.” Links: Good Night Sleep Site - https://goodnightsleepsite.com/ Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The last few episodes of Oh Crap! haven’t been as upbeat as Jamie’s usual output, but it’s important to address the more serious side of introducing your children to the world and dealing with the not-as-fun aspects of parenthood. To conclude this series, Jamie is looking at how mental health affects our parenting, specifically focusing on anxiety. We all need to discuss mental health in a serious and proactive way, while still giving one another the love and encouragement we all deserve. In this episode, Jamie discusses the different forms of anxiety, explains how you can begin to treat each kind, and gives you permission to not go to that big event you’ve been dreading. The Finer Details of This Episode: Looking at how we frame mental health in casual discussion and why it can help to not speak as lightly about it. Why Jamie’s brand of self-care can come off as “brutal.” What are the different types of anxiety and how do they each manifest? The reason cutting out sugar intake can massively and positively improve your general level of calm. Magnesium: not just for electronics anymore! How a little bit of liver (and several B vitamins) can go a long way. Be a happy flower and absorb some sun! Vitamin D is essential to keeping you feeling fresh and energized. You don’t have to go to that big event! If you do, both you and your little ones will feel drained and on edge by the end. It’s okay to taper off hangouts with a friend you know is leaving you feeling worn down. Realize that social media and YouTube algorithms are designed to throw upsetting and misery-inducing content in your face; seek out some happier stories for a change! What Jamie does—and you yourself can do—to get through an anxious episode with your wits intact. Why you shouldn’t be afraid of medication, especially if you need it. Medication doesn’t have to be forever, but they can be a helpful guide for when they’re a necessity. Make your mental health one of the first things you address in your day. Quotes: “For me, self-care is about mental health.” “A lot of what we know is not set in stone, and this goes for nutritional research.” “If you don’t feel good all the time it’s worth doing your own research to figure out why.” “You are not showing up fully as a parent if you are suffering from anxiety, depression or other mental health issues.” “If your family’s toxic, you have every right to cut them off.” “Don’t throw yourself under the bus for someone else.” “Stop looking for the bad; look for the good.” “We have to confront what our anxieties are so we can keep our kids safe.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Last week, Jamie looked at the many ways we can explain the heavy stuff—body parts, birth, death—to our kids in language that’s simple yet mature. For this installment, we’re looking at an upsetting but still very important topic: the creepy people who can be of danger to your children. There’s no way to keep your children completely sheltered and safe without emotionally stunting them and preventing them from truly growing up. They’re going to have to step out of your line of sight at some point. The best we can do is to impart some hard yet necessary truths about the world to them so that if they do find themselves in a troubling situation, they know what to do. In this episode, Jamie discusses how we can minimize the risks faced by our children while also minimizing the perception of risk—that is to say, how parents with the best intentions can misread innocent people and situations as devious and dangerous. Jamie also impresses the importance of teaching your little ones when it’s okay to say ‘no.’ The Finer Details of This Episode: How malicious adults manipulate fear and shame to take advantage of children. Kidnapping is absolutely something to be concerned about, but we need to understand how unlikely it is. Human traffickers exist, and they’re awful, but your children are NOT their targets. Debunking some myths about stranger danger, and revealing how the actual dangers your child faces may be closer to home. Why teaching our kids to say ‘no’ in a mature and respectful way is so vital to their safety and growth. How Jamie was able to impart some wisdom about consent to her son Pascal. Quotes: “It is imperative that we talk shamelessly about this stuff.” “Knowing who the good people are is just as important as who the bad guys are.” “We want to create this culture of ‘It’s okay to dissent’.” “It’s really never too early or too late to talk to your kids about keeping them safe.” Links: Free Range Kids - http://www.freerangekids.com/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, Jamie would like you to step out of your comfort zone for a minute or two and really think about how you talk to your kids about Big Serious Things: private parts, reproduction, consent, and even death. Discussing these things openly in your household creates a culture without secrecy, weirdness or shame. This means that when your child stumbles across these topics in the big wide world without you—as scary a thought as that may be—they’ll be mature, prepared, and a role model for their peers. In this episode, Jamie impresses the importance of teaching your children the correct language for their bodies as well as the slang, suggests constructive ways you can discuss death with them, and gives her personal stories from in the trenches. The Finer Details of This Episode: Jamie discusses the surprisingly mature teenagers she met when helping a momma goat deliver her kids. Why it’s a bad idea to discuss sex and the human body through a lens of shame. Use the real term for each body part—private or otherwise—to make sure your child doesn’t feel alienated from them. When it’s okay and even preferred for your little one to use nicknames for body parts. Would you rather not have grown men be grossed out by women’s periods? Then start teaching your boys about them at a young age. How Jamie turned a funny remark by her son at the pool into a learning experience. Why “the talk” isn’t as effective or healthy as meting out reproductive education in bits and pieces over time. Don’t make the mistake of falling into the “My kid would NEVER” trap. Kids are going to approach the subject of death with curiosity rather than fear, so use death as an opportunity to educate rather than scare them. Quotes: “You’ve never met a better bunch of kids than 4H kids.” “I have a 13-year-old boy who knows more about reproductive organs than most grown men, and I have to say I think that kinda rocks.” “Anytime your child is gonna say a word that gets a reaction from other people they’re gonna latch on very quickly to the power of the word.” “Most women bleed. No, I’m not hurt. This is natural for women.” “The kids as they get older need help with the emotional landscape, not the mechanics.” “We want to create a culture of normalizing all of this stuff so that we don’t have a culture of secrecy and shame.” Links: Sesame Street: Mr. Hooper’s death - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T4CKuSRYrcQ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
One of the biggest questions on young parents’ minds has got to be just HOW do you get your kids to listen. You could be trying to get them to do the simplest task or impress just how important it is for you to get out the door in the morning but they just. Don’t. Get it. Turns out that a lot of things are at play in a toddler’s mind, chief among them the fact that their executive functioning isn’t really that developed yet. So what we think are clear and direct instructions might be passing between their ears in a completely jumbled order that doesn’t make sense to them. In this episode, Jamie explains why it’s so essential for us to slow the hell down when talking to our kids and gives you a clearer idea of just how children listen so you know which buttons NOT to press when trying to get their attention. The Finer Details of This Episode: The surprising length of time it can take children’s little brains to actually process the words you’re saying. Trying to teach your toddler too many words at once can actually overload them—and interrupting them doesn’t help either. How visualizing what you’re saying a physical flow reaching your child’s ears will allow you to better understand how they listen. Why slowing down your morning routine is so necessary to getting your toddler to follow instructions. Maintaining eye contact: key to getting your rowdy little kid to understand you. The trick to rousing your toddler from deep play without pissing them off. Practise slowing and breaking things down to make it easier to communicate with your kid. Quotes: “We’re not born with these skills, you guys; we develop them!” “You have to slow down.” “You have to control the things you can—being rushed in the morning is one of them.” “It’s not just that they’re slow, it’s that they’re gonna need your help along the way. “You’re gonna get a much better reaction if you make eye contact.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Toddler time is very slow—after all, we’re talking about little humans who’re still getting the hang of executive functions and motor skills. Consequently, parents need to slow down for their little ones so that we don’t end up transitioning from activity to activity too quickly and upset them in the process. This can be VERY difficult because as a parent, you feel compelled to move quickly and deal with a bunch of tasks ASAP. The solution? Optimize your time like an efficiency expert has taken over your life so you can handle each little task and chore at the best pace for your kid. In this episode, Jamie explains why toddlers can’t move as quickly as we expect them to, gives you a novel way to visualize your priorities, and argues for why airplane mode on your phone is your best friend. The Finer Details of This Episode: What is the Pareto principle, and why does optimizing a mere 20% of your time help you manage the remaining 80%? The priority debacle—namely not knowing how to manage our priorities, or not even being sure what they’re supposed to be! What it means to lose your “white space” as parents. Managing your priorities more effectively by visualizing them as big stones. The ways you interact with your child are going to change over the years, and how much of your time that will involve is going to wax and wane. Managing your social media use through a new method called “time chunking.” Quotes: “If you give 100% of yourself to your kids you have 0% left over!” “Guys, you can’t have 30 big stones when there’s only 24 hours in the day!” “I want you to own your priorities with pride.” Links: Digital Minimalism book - http://www.calnewport.com/books/digital-minimalism/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jamie’s personal parenting style straddles the line between new and old, and she often likes to look back and see how child-rearing strategies and expectations have changed over the decades. For example, nowadays it’s far more acceptable for a child not to be fully potty trained until 3 or even 4 years old when a long time ago even 2 years was unthinkable. We need to ensure that these often inaccurate expectations from our early years don’t prevent us from teaching our kids the wrong lessons and passing on even more unrealistic expectations. In this episode, Jamie debunks some of the myths that have been built up around your own childhood, argues for what you should take time to appreciate instead, and suggests ways you can help your little ones feel like they’re a useful part of the “village” that is family. The Finer Details of This Episode: Your childhood memories are never as magical as you recall them being; for example, you never remember having to pay the bills. The downside to these memories is that they give us completely unrealistic expectations for how early child-rearing years should go and prevent us from enjoying them for how they actually are. A surprising fact: the idea of a teenager is a relatively recent concept! Viewing family as part of a “village” your child belongs to and feels compelled to fit in with. How free, open play helps develop imagination in a way merchandised products simply don’t. The way a simple anthole provided Jamie’s son Pascal with a wealth of curiosity and focus. Thinking of ways we can engender adult behavior and fine motor skills (and teaching your little one to prepare their own food). Quotes: “We are being led by the nose by marketing that we have to make our children’s childhood magical.” “Childhood is training to be an adult.” “We’ve gotten away from the true goal, which is to raise healthy, happy, competent adults.” “You can say ‘good job!’ all you want but it doesn’t build self-esteem.” “You’re going to feel like a great parent because you’re nurturing this home life for your child.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Get my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week’s discussion centers on an issue Jamie feels very passionate about, and one which she believes makes our kids act out in crappy ways. That issue? Being so incredibly, uncompromisingly protective of our little ones for fear that they get so much as a scratch. Enforcing extreme caution on our kids at too early of an age means they might grow up too terrified to take ANY of the necessary risks in life, which will come back to bite them—and, indirectly, you—once they head off to college. So rather than bubble wrap our tots, we need to let them explore and discover their own physical limitations. In this episode, Jamie explains the senses at play when it comes to getting a handle on your body, advises you to buddy up with other parents who aren’t afraid to let their kids trip and fall, and helps you come to terms with the fact that your children will need to get a few scratches and scrapes for them to grow on their own terms. The Finer Details of This Episode: Try putting yourself in the socks or shoes of a little toddler who’s only recently mastered basic motor functions and is being constantly told to “be careful.” Letting our children explore their bodies and range of motion is an empowering experience, bruises and all. Proprioception: our sense of movement and position based on internal stimuli, aka knowing how all our limbs and movements fit together. Vestibular system: our sense of balance and spatial orientation, aka what keeps us from constantly falling over. Why your child’s 3rd birthday is when you need to back off a little and let them take a few risks. What you can do to encourage your little one to explore their range of movement and develop core motor skills. The benefit of letting our kids engage in old school “big play,” such as tag. Seek out friendships with other like minded parents who aren’t afraid to let their kids be a little more boisterous. Some fun ways you can challenge your own kid and foster rough-and-tumble risk taking. Tips for encouraging your child to explore an environment courtesy of Josée from Backwoods Mama. Why you shouldn’t lift your little one up to reach something. Accepting that your kid is going to get hurt at some point, and that it will probably help them in the long run. Quotes: “We have to let them explore the limits of their body!” “There is no magic age at which your child knows how to do something.” “We have to let kids make mistakes.” “We’re being too soft on our kids and we spend our time making their lives easier when really we should just be throwing some obstacles in their way.” “Self-esteem is built by doing things you thought you couldn’t do.” Links: Backwoods Mama - https://www.backwoodsmama.com/ The Land documentary - https://www.kanopy.com/product/land-adventure-play-documentary Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week’s Oh, Crap! is a little more freestyle and a little more livid. Jamie has a lot on her mind right now, from how Baby Boomer parents look down on how the younger generations raise their little ones, to the perilous journey of dealing with a picky eater. So now’s the time to collectively let off some steam. In this episode, Jamie lets out some of her pent-up feelings re: the Baby Boomer generation, makes a case for why we should ease back on helicopter parenting, and lists some of the dos and don’ts for dealing with picky eaters. The Finer Details of This Episode: Raising kids isn’t a 24/7 “precious” experience and we shouldn’t pretend that it is. Growing up under Boomer parenting: like Stranger Things but without the extra-dimensional aliens. Lenore Skenazy’s mission to debunk myths about childhood dangers and prevent parents from bubble-wrapping their kids. Baby Boomers: you don’t need to call the cops on anything that looks vaguely suspicious! Why the wealth of knowledge available to modern parents makes raising kids much more complicated than it was 30 years ago. When to accept picky eating and when you’ll want to seek out medical treatment for it. Keep a “backup meal” on hand for when your little one gets choosy. None of us want a hangry toddler, but letting them snack constantly isn’t going to help in the long run. Your kid doesn’t have to sit at the table for all of dinner, but they should eat only what you set out for them. Quotes: “The Baby Boomer bullshit is affecting all of us!” “Parenting has gotten harder because we know more!” “Take from the older generation what worked but then ditch what didn’t.” “If my neurotypical, non-sensory kid doesn’t want to eat chicken but wants to eat desert, he’s not hungry. That’s the reality.” Links: Let Grow - https://letgrow.org/ Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jamie doesn’t believe kids are capable of “bad” behavior in the traditional sense—most toddlers aren’t mentally developed enough to act truly maliciously. But when you mix complex feelings, a near-complete inability to verbally communicate those feelings, and few if any inhibitions, and your little one can turn into a little shit really quickly. The trick is figuring out what feelings motivate acting out and what tools we can use to help them express those feelings in a healthier (and quieter) way. In this episode, Jamie discusses the three major ways your little one can act up, as well as some helpful techniques you can use to expand your kid’s emotional vocabulary and keep them from going overboard. The Finer Details of This Episode: Don’t trust anyone who claims they can eradicate your kid’s unruly behavior. Acting out: when our kids put into action what they’re unable to communicate. Limit-testing: how our little ones figure out what they can get away with. Tantrum: the emotional explosion that happens when stimuli get to be too much. Why firmer boundaries will inhibit limit-testing. Nearly every tantrum can prevented if your little one is getting the sleep they need. Don’t go all out for an overly stimulating birthday party your toddler’s never gonna remember. Teaching your kids the basic language that will allow them to express their new and strange feelings. The “tetherball” approach to pushing back against limit-testing. Figuring out which tantrums are preventable and which ones you’ll just have to accept. The “Will I Cave?” method for determining the right times to say yes or no. Quotes: “Remember, they’re so new—2, 3 years old. They don’t have all the words!” “Children are allowed to have bad days, and I think we all forget that.” “The tricky thing about boundaries is that kids will keep moving them.” “If it’s gonna wack your kid out and result in tantrums and bad behavior, say no.” “Your job is to be a pole in cement, in the ground, that they can totally kick off of.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] - https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Any parent of a newborn knows why you swaddle them: it’s snug, it’s secure, and it keeps them from constantly swatting themselves in the damn face. Instilling boundaries in your toddlers is like kind of like emotional swaddling in that sense. You might recoil at the idea of enforcing too stringent boundaries—some of us came from controlling households, after all—but without any boundaries your child will grow up not feeling developmentally safe. In this episode, Jamie discusses the positive effects setting boundaries at an early age can have later on, explores how much leeway parents should be able to have with those boundaries, and suggests some tips to keep from going Bad Mom Viral. The Finer Details of This Episode: Accepting that the early years of your child’s life require stricter boundaries and restrictions—and why that’s not a bad thing! Figuring out the right times to enforce these boundaries and when to ease up a little. Setting up boundaries now is laying the groundwork for being firm with your child when they’re older. What it means to “be the fencepost” to your child. Why trying to get your toddler to understand logic is only going to be a dead end. Determining which boundaries you want to play fast and loose with (not bedtime, though!). Setting expectations with your child so they know exactly what’s going to happen if they do X — mom algebra! Quotes: “You cannot guide a 0 to 6-year-old. They will flail.” “If you don’t set your expectations and keep your boundaries firm in that age range, you get screwed later on.” “Your kid’s gonna eat you like a piranha and spit out the bones if you smell like fear.” “You need a lot less [discipline] than you think if you simply follow through with your action.” “If you say it more than once it’s an empty threat! And your child knows that.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler [Pre-order my new book] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Parental self-care is basically nonexistent for the first few years of raising your child. You’re so busy making sure your little one eats on time, has clean clothes to wear and doesn’t run out onto the road that it’s hard to schedule time for yourself to unwind and recharge. Instead, we often end up burning ourselves out to the point that the only self-care we can manage is overly indulgent, unhealthy and ultimately unfulfilling. Self-care shouldn’t be spur of the moment; it requires as much care, consideration and planning as a busy day. In this episode, Jamie impresses why you should plan for self-care rather than just indulging in it at your wit’s end and lays out a long list of permissions you can take advantage of when stressed. The Finer Details of This Episode: Why self-care is really just setting yourself up for success. Moving away from unhealthy, expensive “crash pad” self-care to more proactive self-care. The most basic yet radical form of self-care: a good night’s sleep. Drinking might seem like a good way to settle down after a stressful day, but it makes for bad vibes the following day. Don’t just burn yourself out chasing your kids—find the time to properly exercise! Why you need to get behind your own Eight Ball (and what that means). Jamie’s list of permissions you can allow yourself on a particularly stressful day. Quotes: “If we’re not taking care of ourselves then we cannot be the best people.” “Put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others.” “You don’t need to prove your parenting to anyone.” Links: Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You know how kids are like—if you give them an inch, they’ll take a yard. The same can be said for other parents who are your friends most of the time but can innocently expect too much—or something too specific—from you. Having your personal boundaries crossed time and time again can lead to stress and wear down your resolve. Remember that you’re the captain of this parenting ship. If you’re feeling too worn down or compromised that ship is going to run aground, which isn’t good for anyone. So let’s work on making those boundaries reasonable yet firm, eh? In this episode, Jamie breaks down how high expectations from other parents can lead to broken boundaries, discusses ways you can overcome your fear of necessary confrontation, and explains why it’s so important to make boundaries clear to all parties. The Finer Details of This Episode: Figuring out how too soft or too strict personal boundaries can carry over to your parenting boundaries. If you’re finding yourself spread too thin, that might be a sign you’ve ceded too much personal territory to your kids and others. It’s true: women find their parental boundaries strained more often than men. So what can we do to remedy that? Expectations for parenting (food, first aid, education) are so much higher than when our parents were raising us. But these raised expectations can eat into our boundaries. How unclear expectations lead to crossed boundaries, which in turn leads to resentment. It can feel rude to enforce boundaries at first, but healthy boundaries will lead to healthier, more honest relationships in the long term. An example of the boundaries Jamie has her son Pascal set with his cousin. Setting healthy boundaries might mean confrontation—which can be scary—but you don’t have to do it alone! Quotes: “People who have really good personal boundaries may have too stringent boundaries with their kids, and their kids are kicking against that.” “If you have weak personal boundaries you are going to have weak parenting boundaries.” “The pressures these days to be a perfect mom is just unbelievably off the charts.” “A normal, healthy person is going to respect your boundary and if they don’t? Another clue that you’re dealing with someone who’s not healthy.” “If you didn’t lay out your expectations, you can’t expect people to know it.” Links: Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
You can be the most patient and understanding parent six out of seven days the week, but there's always the risk of some straw breaking your proverbial camel's back and turning you into Psycho Mom. It sucks for everybody involved, but don't beat yourself up over it; you're human after all. So instead of fretting about that one time you shouted, let's focus on some ways you can keep from shouting in the first place. In this episode, Jamie discusses healthier ways to show frustration, helps you find the ideal middle ground, and reveals the one statement you need to stay away from. The Finer Details of This Episode: Remember: no matter how justified your anger is, Psycho Mom will always be scary to your little ones. Finding healthier ways to let off steam than your Psycho Mom mode. The three major factors that contribute to going over the edge. Finding ways to build up steam rather than letting it all out at once. Jamie’s story of a very conscientious mother who went full Psycho Mom despite her best intentions. Why parents are afraid of being firm even though it's a better middle ground. Testing limits: it's what kids do best. Handy tips for when you next need to apologize. Practice away! Quotes: “If Psycho Mom makes a semi-regular appearance in your house, it's because you aren't letting out your feelings.” “Dealing with real feelings and real apologies helps kids manage their own emotional landscape.” “You want to be consistent and safe in your emotional reactions.” “As long as you're in control, you get to be firm.” “Nobody can make you feel anything.” Links: Brené Brown - https://brenebrown.com Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Welcome to the first episode of Oh Crap!, a no-nonsense guide to parenting young children by Jamie Glowacki. Jamie is the author of Oh Crap! Potty Training and the soon-to-be-released Oh Crap! I Have a Toddler, having worked with children in the 2 to 5 age range for over two decades. She’s found that parents of toddlers expect far too much academically and developmentally from their children in this period whilst underestimating what they’re capable of, making it a turbulent time for parent and kid alike. Jamie aims to give you the tools to help get you through this period and make the most of it. In this first episode, Jamie discusses her credentials, the most optimal parenting style for reigning in and raising up toddlers, and how to best deal with your kid when they’re not being their best. The Finer Details of This Episode: Defining “threenager” and why toddlers are surprisingly similar to adolescents. Guiding vs. governing parenting and why the latter is more effective than the former for toddling. Parent the child in front of you rather than the one you wish you had. Making sure to chastise your child’s behavior, not them as a person. Mitigating your kid’s more assholish moments. Quotes: “This is a podcast for conscious parents who drop the ‘f’ bomb a lot.” “No one will ever know your child better than you.” “Behavior is always a symptom, you guys, it’s never the disease!” “You have to try on being an asshole to learn how to be not an asshole.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne - https://www.amazon.com/Simplicity-Parenting-Extraordinary-Calmer-Happier/dp/0345507983
Riding Marie Kondo’s coattails, Jamie has a thorough, multi-step strategy to help you whittle down all of your kid’s toys, books and clothes to something more manageable. Don’t feel selfish for wanting to declutter; a cluttered environment with two many options—even fun ones!—can overwhelm your little ones and lead to meltdowns and general dissatisfaction. The only thing worse than having to clean up a big mess is knowing your child didn’t even have fun making it. In this episode, Jamie outlines her own process for decluttering the home, explains why fewer toy options encourages more engaging play, and offers up a few tips for giving or throwing away stuff you no longer need. The Finer Details of This Episode: Jamie’s own experience with decluttering when she moved to San Francisco. How having too many choices can be as frustrating as having no choice at all. Fostering more satisfying “deep play” through fewer options. Redefining what toys are and what they can be to encourage open-ended, imaginative play. Why branded like Paw Patrol can work against healthy play. Taking a smarter approach to throwing and giving the unnecessary stuff away. Getting over that fear of empty space and taking advantage of the room that’s been freed up. Making sure that everything your kid owns has a home to make cleanup easier. Handy tips for paring down toys, clothes and books. Quotes: “I almost want your kid so focused that they’re not listening to you.” “I love handing off Pascal’s old stuff that I treasure knowing that another friend is going to treasure it just as much.” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
For her upcoming book, Jamie was asked by her editors to define “connection” and why it’s vital to keeping your little one cooperative, satisfied and engaged. A strong parent-child connection isn’t helicoptering around them and monitoring every little move they make, but is in fact a 2-way street with activities, healthy boundaries and, yes, precious solo time. In this episode, Jamie discusses how to keep your kid’s emotional gas tank on an even keel, why you don’t need to be there 100% to forge a strong connection with them, and developing a healthy flow of activity when you do bond. The Finer Details of This Episode: Defining what connection means and how forging connections is key to mitigating hassle in parent-child relationships. How to effectively deal with your child’s small “emotional gas tank.” Why being present 100% of the time is only going to lead to burnout and further disconnection. Avoiding the disconnection of “Uh-huh” parenting. Some activities you can use to forge a stronger connection with your child. Accepting that, yes, it’s going to get boring sometimes. It’s okay to check your phone; take advantage of little breaks. Quotes: “If I had to boil down all my work with families, it would come down to one word, and that is ‘connection’.” “Parenting is not perfection, it’s a practice.” “You can 100% love your kid, be engaged with your kid, and get bored by your kid!” Links: Jamie’s homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/ Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
A podcast for conscious parents who drop the f-bomb. A lot. We are the overthinkers, the dreamers, and the doers. We are parenting in a radically different way than those before us. But our divine vision gets blurry cause...OMG...kids can be such a pain in the ass. Let's work from the inside out, in a whole brain, whole body way to mitigate the crappy behavior. Not just with our kids but with ourselves. So you can be the parent you envision. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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