Becoming a father doesn’t just change your life, research suggests it can actually change your brain. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with psychologist and researcher Dr. Darby Saxbe, author of Dad Brain: The New Science of Fatherhood and How It Shapes Men’s Lives, to explore the emerging science of what happens to men’s brains, hormones, relationships, and sense of identity when they become fathers.Dr. Saxbe explains why some of the brain changes associated with fatherhood may help dads become more attuned to their children, how testosterone levels can shift as men move into caregiving roles, and why becoming a parent can bring both psychological vulnerability and long-term neurological benefits. They also discuss paternal mental health, loneliness, and social connection among men, the pressures created by online messages about masculinity, and how being an engaged father can offer men a powerful source of connection and purpose.In this episode, they cover:• How men’s brains can change during the transition to fatherhood• Why some brain changes may help fathers become more responsive to their babies• What researchers are learning about paternal postpartum depression and anxiety• Why the popular idea that “higher testosterone is always better” misses what the research actually shows• How relationships and social connection contribute to men’s long-term health• How fatherhood can encourage healthier behaviors in menKey takeaways• Fathers’ brains change, too. Research suggests that becoming a father is associated with changes in brain structure and function, including areas involved in understanding and responding to other people’s thoughts and emotions.• Those changes can bring both opportunity and vulnerability. In Dr. Saxbe’s research, some of the brain changes associated with stronger bonding and greater caregiving involvement were also associated with more symptoms of anxiety, depression, psychological distress, and sleep problems.• Fathers’ mental health deserves attention. Becoming a parent is a major physical, emotional, and social transition for all parents, yet fathers are often overlooked in conversations about postpartum well-being.• Testosterone isn’t simply a “more is better” hormone. Testosterone can naturally change as men transition into caregiving roles, and Dr. Saxbe argues that flexibility — rather than maximizing testosterone — is a more useful way to understand these changes.• Fatherhood can encourage healthier habits. Research suggests fathers may be more likely to engage in protective health behaviors and less likely to engage in some risky behaviors once they become responsible for a child.• Great parents are made, not born. One of Dr. Saxbe’s central messages is that good parenting isn’t innate. Investment, motivation, practice, and experience help parents develop the skills they need.Further reading10 Tips to Help Dads and Daughters Stay Close – Child Mind Institutehttps://childmind.org/article/parenting-through-depression/Parenting Through Depression – Child Mind InstituteDad Brain: The New Science of Fatherhood and How It Shapes Men’s Lives by Dr. Darby Saxbe

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with Caroline Maguire about friendship, neurodivergence, masking, and building authentic relationships.Dr. Dave discusses how parents can help kids make friends without making them feel like they have to change who they are, how to understand the difference between practicing social skills and masking, and how to support kids who over-apologize, over-explain, or spiral after awkward social moments. He also offer advice on navigating social anxiety, loneliness, and friendship expectations — and talks about how adults can model healthier friendship habits for kids.This episode offers practical, compassionate guidance for helping children build meaningful connections, tolerate the ups and downs of friendship, and find relationships where they feel accepted for who they really are.  In this episode, Dr. Dave covers: How to help kids make friends without pressuring them to change who they areWhy one awkward moment does not mean a friendship is ruinedWhat to do when kids say they “don’t need friends”How to help kids who move too quickly from meeting someone to “best friend”How adults can model boundaries, repair, and healthier friendship habits Further ReadingHow to Help Kids Who Are LonelyHelping Young Children Who Are Socially AnxiousHow to Help Kids Who Are Too Hard on ThemselvesCaroline MaguireWhy Will No One Will Play With Me

From gentle parenting to strict rules about screen time, today’s parents are constantly bombarded with advice about the “right” way to raise their kids. But how much of that advice is actually supported by research?In this special Summer Hot Takes episode, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with developmental psychologist, bestselling author, and Raising Good Humans podcast host Dr. Aliza Pressman to explore some of parenting’s most talked-about topics. Together, they discuss why it’s important for any approach to be rooted in science, how authoritative parenting (not to be confused with the harder-to-define gentle parenting) balances warmth with boundaries, and how families can develop healthier relationships with technology.They also talk about the importance of letting kids experience disappointment, navigate failure, and learn from difficult emotions without treating every feeling like an emergency. Throughout the conversation, Dr. Dave and Dr. Pressman remind parents that thoughtful, flexible parenting is the goal, not perfection.In this episode, they cover:What people often mean when they talk about “gentle parenting” and common misunderstandings about the termWhat authoritative parenting is and why it remains one of the most evidence-supported parenting approachesPractical ways to create healthier screen habits for children and teensWhy boredom, waiting, and feeling lonely sometimes can help kids build resilience and independenceHow to help kids tolerate disappointment, failure, and rejectionKey takeawaysHealthy screen habits focus on balance, connection, and intentional use.Kids benefit from experiencing age-appropriate disappointment and failure.Parents don’t need to solve every emotion immediately to support emotional health.Parenting trends come and go, but warmth combined with clear boundaries remains the most effective approach.  Further reading from the Child Mind Institute·      Helping Kids With Flexible Thinking·      Three Common Parenting Traps·      How to Set Limits on Screen TimeMore from Dr. Aliza Pressman·      Raising Good Humans With Dr. Aliza (podcast)·      The 5 Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans

Back-to-school season can bring a lot of excitement, but it can also bring anxiety — stressful mornings, friendship worries, homework battles, and questions about how to help kids adjust after summer break.In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson tackles some of the biggest concerns families face as a new school year begins. From how to tell the difference between normal first-day jitters and more serious anxiety to how to reset kids’ sleep routines after summer, Dr. Dave offers compassionate guidance and practical strategies you can put into practice right away.In this episode, Dr. Dave covers: How to recognize the difference between typical back-to-school nerves and anxiety that may require extra supportPractical ways to reset sleep schedules, screen time, and morning routines after the summer breakHow to help children build friendships and navigate worries about fitting inWhy stomachaches and headaches can sometimes be signs of anxiety — and when to seek a medical evaluationStrategies for supporting students with ADHD, learning disorders, and executive functioning challengesHow to partner effectively with teachers at the beginning of the school year Key TakeawaysSmall, gradual routine changes make the back-to-school transition easier for children.Anxiety about going to school is common, but persistent school avoidance can benefit from early support.Strong parent-teacher partnerships help children succeed academically and emotionally.Sleep, consistent routines, and healthy technology habits create a stronger foundation for learning.Family schedules should prioritize wellness, not just productivity. Further ReadingBack-to-School HubThe Child Mind Institute’s comprehensive collection of expert advice for preparing children and families for the new school year.Help for School RefusalManaging Back-to-School Anxiety

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by Caroline Maguire, an ADHD and executive function coach and author of Friendship Skills for Neurodivergent Adults. They discuss friendship, social anxiety, and how neurodivergent kids and teens can build more authentic relationships without feeling pressured to hide or “mask” who they are.In this episode, they cover:• What masking is and how it can affect kids’ mental health• Why getting support for social skills doesn’t mean people need to abandon their authentic selves• How black-and-white thinking can make social situations feel more painful• How parents, clinicians, and coaches can help kids build confidence in relationshipsKey takeaways• Masking — hiding how you really feel — can help people get through social situations, but over time it may lead to anxiety, depression, people-pleasing, and disconnection from the self.• Neuro-affirming social support should help kids and adults connect with others while still honoring their own needs, values, and personalities.• Social mistakes are part of being human, and over-apologizing or repeatedly revisiting them can make anxiety worse.• Black-and-white thinking can turn a mostly positive interaction into something that feels like a failure.• Building authentic friendships often starts with understanding your own patterns, communicating your needs, and finding people who appreciate you as you are.Further readingKids Who Need a Little Help to Make FriendsHelping Girls With ADHD Make FriendsWhat Is Neurodiversity?

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with Dr. Lisa Damour about how to “future-proof” kids in an uncertain world.Dr. Dave breaks down the simple but powerful habits that help protect children’s mental health over time, including consistent sleep, family connection, face-to-face time with peers, satisfying hobbies, and emotional flexibility. He also discusses how parents can tell whether changes in a child’s mood, focus, or behavior might be related to sleep, how to handle bedtime resistance, and why family meals matter even when no one is having a deep conversation.This episode offers practical guidance for helping kids build resilience, confidence, and a perseverance.  In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:The basic habits that support kids’ long-term mental healthHow sleep affects mood, focus, behavior, and stressWhat to do when kids push back hard against bedtimeWhy “pointless” hobbies can still build pride, confidence, and identityHow to help kids practice flexible thinking when faced with a challenge Further ReadingHealthy Sleep Habits for KidsHow to Help Kids Learn to FailRaising Resilient Kids Who Are Prepared for the Future

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson welcomes back Dr. Lisa Damour for a conversation about how parents can help kids prepare for an uncertain future. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Dr. Damour explains why the most protective tools are often the simplest: sleep, safety, family connection, coping skills, and opportunities for kids to develop interests that truly belong to them.In this episode, they cover:• Why sleep is one of the most important foundations for kids’ mental health• How safety, structure, and clear limits help kids feel secure• Why family meals can matter even when the conversation is not perfect• How hobbies help kids build confidence, identity, and coping skills• Why parents should make room for interests that are not tied to achievement• What families can do now to help kids face an unpredictable futureKey takeaways• Sleep is one of the strongest protections for kids’ mental health, learning, attention, mood, and emotional regulation.• Parents do not need to control every part of a child’s future, but they can build routines and expectations that help kids feel grounded.• Safety is a reasonable area for parents to be firm about, including issues like seatbelts, helmets, substance use, and other non-negotiables.• Family meals are not valuable because they are always magical; they matter because they create warmth, structure, and regular connection.• Hobbies give kids a sense of ownership, pride, mastery, and healthy coping that may not come from school or achievement alone.Further readingWhy Are Teenagers So Sleep-Deprived?Media Guidelines for Kids of All AgesHelping Kids Who Struggle With Executive Functions10 Tips for Parenting Anxious KidsWhat to Do and Not Do When Children Are AnxiousPre-Order Lisa Damour's newest book: The Emotional Lives of Parents: Caring for Ourselves to Better Care for Our Children

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with NBC News anchor and correspondent Kate Snow about mental health, journalism, and how suicide loss has shaped her reporting.Dr. Dave discusses how parents can talk with kids about suicide and mental health honestly and in age-appropriate ways, what changes in a child’s mood or behavior may indicate that they need support, and why asking directly about suicidal thoughts does not make those thoughts worse. He also explains how families can determine what level of care a child may need, what to look for in a treatment or residential program, and how to build emotional skills and family connection before a crisis occurs.This episode offers compassionate, practical guidance for recognizing when a child may be struggling, keeping communication open, and helping families find the right support.  In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:How to talk with kids about suicide or a suicide loss honestly and appropriatelyWhat changes in mood, behavior, and personality parents should take seriouslyWhy parents should ask direct questions about sadness and suicidal thoughtsHow to understand the differences among therapy, psychiatry, school support, higher-level care, and emergency helpWhat to look for in a treatment, residential, or intensive-care programHow families and schools can build resilience and connection before a crisis  Further ReadingSigns a Child Might Be SuicidalReducing Suicide Risk With Safety PlansSupporting Children After the Suicide of a ClassmateComplete Guide to Emergency Hospitalization

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by NBC News anchor and Senior National Correspondent Kate Snow for a conversation about journalism, mental health, and the power of telling stories that can reduce stigma. Kate discusses how personal loss shaped her reporting on mental health, as well as suicide prevention, substance use, access to care, and the systems that families often have to navigate during moments of crisis.In this episode, they cover:• Why journalists can play an important role in reducing stigma• What Kate has learned from reporting on teen mental health, substance use, and access to care• Why transitions or experiencing a loss of purpose can be mental health risk factors• How young people are broadening conversations about mental healthKey takeaways• Sharing personal stories about mental health can help people feel less alone and make it easier for them to seek support.• Suicide loss can be traumatic for an entire family, and talking about it thoughtfully may help reduce shame and stigma.• Young people may be more open to conversations about mental health than previous generations, but they still need trusted adults and systems that can respond when they ask for help.Further reading (and viewing)NBC’s Kate Snow Shares Impact of Her Father-in-Law’s Suicide on Her Family, Today ShowThe Link Between Smartphones and Kids' Mental Health, NBC Nightly NewsOpioid Crisis: Historic Cape Cod Town Experiencing Staggering Toll, NBC Nightly NewsAllegations of Abuse at Home for At-Risk Kids, NBC NewsFurther reading from the Child Mind InstituteWhat to Do if You’re Worried About Suicide

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with actress and author Busy Philipps about parenting, mental health, technology, and staying actively involved in kids’ lives.Dr. Dave discusses how parents can stay connected to what kids are seeing on the internet, including how to help them think critically about influencers and what to do when they start wondering if they have ADHD, depression, or another diagnosis based on mental health content they see online. He also explores how ADHD can be missed in girls and high-achieving kids, how to talk with children about scary news and current events, and why building a parent “village” can help families better understand what’s happening socially, online, and at school.This episode offers practical guidance for staying curious, setting limits, building trust, and helping kids develop the critical thinking skills they need as they grow more independent.In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:• How to stay involved in kids’ online lives without becoming “Big Brother”• Why screen independence should grow through an “I do, we do, you do” model• How to help kids think critically about influencers and online algorithms• What to do when kids self-diagnose after seeing mental health content online• How AI and social media can be useful tools without replacing real support• Why ADHD is often missed in girls, women, and high-achieving kids• How to talk with kids about politics, school safety, traumatic upsetting news, and current eventsFurther ReadingSocial Media and Self-DoubtDoes Social Media Use Cause Depression?Not All Attention Problems Are ADHDBig TalksDon’t forget, you can now watch Thriving Kids on Apple Podcasts and our Thriving Kids YouTube channel!

Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with best-selling author, actor, and activist Busy Philipps to discuss the challenges of modern parenting. Busy talks about her adult ADHD diagnosis, helping kids navigate mental health TikTok, and how to broach tricky conversations about the “manosphere” and politics with honesty and love.  They also cover: • Active parenting in the digital age. Busy shares why watching YouTubers and learning Roblox alongside her kids was more effective than setting blanket screen-time rules.  • TikTok, self-diagnosis, and critical thinking. Mental health TikTok can empower kids to seek earlier diagnoses, but it can also lead impressionable teens to misidentify normal traits as disorders. Dr. Dave and Busy emphasize teaching kids to think critically about online health content and come to trusted adults with questions. • Talking to kids about politics. A recent survey found that kids want open civic discourse. Dismissing children's political views is psychologically harmful, while honest, values-driven conversations — grounded in love and critical thinking — help them thrive.  Further Reading Teen Self-Diagnosis and How to Respond, Child Mind InstituteWhen Parent and Child Both Have ADHD, Child Mind Institute

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with Dr. Candice Odgers about kids, social media, and what the research really says about screens and youth mental health.Dr. Dave discusses how parents can set healthy limits around phone use without reacting out of fear, why screens are often part of a much bigger picture, and how families can focus on the core drivers of kids’ well-being — including sleep, school, friendships, family connection, offline activities, and caregiver mental health. He also explains how to respond when kids see something upsetting online, how to manage parent anxiety around tech headlines, and how to model healthier screen habits at home.This episode offers practical guidance for helping kids use technology more intentionally, while keeping the focus on connection, communication, and the everyday habits that help children thrive.   In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:How to tell the difference between healthy phone limits and fear-based reactionsWhy screens should be considered in the context of a child’s whole lifeWhat to focus on first when you’re worried about a child’s mental healthHow to respond when kids see something upsetting onlineWhy parents should avoid passing tech anxiety on to kidsWhy caregiver mental health is a major driver of child well-beingHow to approach online risk when a child is already struggling offline Further ReadingHow to Set Limits on Screen TimeMedia Guidelines for Kids of All AgesHow Phones Ruin ConcentrationCommon Sense MediaAmerican Association of Pediatrics

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by Dr. Candice Odgers, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Irvine, whose research focuses on adolescent mental health and the role of smartphones and social media in kids’ daily lives. Together, they discuss what the evidence does — and does not — show about technology and youth mental health, and why the most popular explanations are not always the most accurate. In this episode, they cover: • What current research can tell us about the relationship between smartphones and social media and adolescent mental health — and why correlation does not necessarily prove causation • How adult anxiety about technology can shape the way we talk about kids • Why family conflict, school stress, and peer relationships are still central factors affecting youth mental health  Key takeaways • The research on social media and youth mental health is more complicated than many headlines suggest. • Many studies show associations between screen use and mental health symptoms, but that does not mean screens are the primary cause. • Family conflict, pressure to succeed at school, peer stress, and caregiver mental health are major factors that affect young people’s well-being. • Tech companies should be held accountable, but blaming social media alone can distract from other urgent supports kids and families need. • Parents can help kids more effectively by investing in relationships, routines, school support, and open conversations rather than focusing only on restrictions.  Further reading What We're Getting Wrong About Teens and TechScreen Time & Technology Does Social Media Use Cause Depression? How Using Social Media Affects Teenagers Media Guidelines for Kids of All Ages How Much Should You Monitor Your Teen’s Social Media?

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions inspired by last week’s conversation with Dr. Alfiee about youth mental health, community care, and what it really means to help young people thrive.Dr. Dave discusses how parents can talk with kids about mental health without making them feel like something is “wrong” with them, how to help children process stressful news and current events, and how families can think about social media in a balanced way. He also explores the mental health needs of marginalized kids, how to reduce stigma around therapy — especially for boys and young men — and why community support can make parenting feel less isolating. In this episode, Dr. Dave covers:What to do when kids are stressed by politics, current events, or frightening newsHow to balance concerns about social media with the belonging some kids find onlineWhat parents should understand about the mental health needs of marginalized kidsHow to reduce stigma around therapy, anxiety, depression, and asking for helpWhy boys and young men may need extra support talking about emotionsRealistic ways to build community around parenting and caregivingWhat parents can do while waiting for therapy or additional supportFurther ReadingHelping Children Cope After a Traumatic EventHelping Children Cope With Frightening NewsMental Health Challenges of LGBTQ+ KidsMental Health Support for Black FamiliesMeeting the Mental Health Needs of Black Adolescent BoysWhat to Do (and Not Do) When Children Are AnxiousVideo LibraryFamily Resource Center

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by Dr.  Alfiee Breland-Noble — better known as Dr. Alfiee — psychologist, founder of The AAKOMA Project, and author of Rise and Thrive: An intentional guide to caring for your mental health. Together, they discuss youth mental health, the importance of community-based care, and how parents, caregivers, and mental health professionals can better support young people as they navigate stress, stigma, social media, and the challenges of growing up today. In this episode, they cover:How political news, social media, and stigma affect young people’s emotional well-being  Why social media can be both risky and meaningful for marginalized kidsHow community-based organizations can help make mental health care more accessible  Why representation, empathy, and cultural understanding matter in mental health support  Key takeaways· Young people are managing a wide range of stressors, including anxiety, depression, political unrest, and the lingering effects of the pandemic.· Social media can pose real risks for kids and teens, but it can also provide connection, community, and support — especially for young people who may feel isolated offline.· Stigma remains a major barrier to mental health care, even as conversations about mental health become more common in popular culture.· Community-based organizations can play a powerful role in helping families access mental health support from people they already know and trust.· Representation matters, but so does what Dr. Alfiee calls an “empathy match” — the feeling that someone understands your experience and can meet you with compassion. Further readingDoes Social Media Use Cause Depression? – Child Mind InstituteQuick Guide to Anxiety in Children – Child Mind InstituteDr. Alfiee – Dr. Alfiee’s website with research, interviews, and moreRise and Thrive by Dr. AlfieeCouched in Color – A podcast with Dr. AlfieeThe AAKOMA Project

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers parents’ questions inspired by last week’s conversation with Dr. Brian Hoeflinger, a neurosurgeon who talked about how the death of his son led him to face his panic attacks over public speaking.In this episode, he covers:What parents can learn from doctors about staying calm in a crisisWhy anxiety can run in families — and what parents can do about itHow parents can help kids face their fearsHow to encourage to kids to take risks while still keeping them safeHow to talk to kids about grief and lossKey takeaways·      To try and figure out if your child’s anxiety is problematic, consider the frequency, intensity, duration, and level of impairment.·      Facing your fears is about being able to ride the discomfort. It doesn’t necessarily mean you feel comfortable.·      Encouraging your child to try something scary by taking a small step can help them push themselves to try hard things.·      If you're experiencing loss and you're sad, it’s important to label that and let your kid know it's okay for them to feel those emotions.  Further readingHealthy Minds, Thriving KidsWhy Childhood Anxiety Often Goes UndetectedTreating Anxiety in Kids by Working With ParentsPanic Attacks and How to Treat Them

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson talks with Dr. Brian Hoeflinger, a neurosurgeon whoseprofession and personal story gives him a rare perspective on mental health.Dr. Hoeflinger shares how his brother’s traumatic brain injury first inspired him to pursue neurosurgery, howchronic panic attacks shaped his adolescence and early professional life, and how the loss of his son changed the way he speaks publicly about grief, purpose, and prevention. They also discuss what parents should understand about panic, head injuries, and the everyday choices that support a healthier brain. This conversation is both practical and deeply human — a reminder that the brain is powerful, fragile, resilient, and still full of mystery.   In this episode, they cover:How childhood panic attacks affected Dr. Hoeflinger’s life and careerWhy anxiety can be treated more effectively when kids get support earlyWhat neurosurgery can teach us about staying calm during crisisWhy sleep, movement, and overall wellness matter for brain healthHow grief can reshape a person’s purpose, perspective, and voiceFurther information on these topics from the Child Mind Institute: Why Childhood Anxiety Often Goes UndetectedPanic Attacks and How to Treat ThemBehavioral Treatment for Kids With Anxiety

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers parents’ questions about the intense stress that can come with raising young children. Inspired by his recent conversation with pediatrician Dr. Lauren Hughes, this episode focuses on the early years of parenting: feeding decisions, sleepless nights, emotional overload, relationship strain, and the pressure many parents feel to do everything “right.”Dr. Dave also explains how parents can recognize when stress is affecting their mood, relationships, or ability to function — and why asking for extra support is not a failure.He covers:• Supporting moms and birthing parents around breastfeeding, formula, and feeding pressure• Creating emotional safety at home• Navigating sleepless nights and early infant care• Avoiding comparison around developmental milestones• Knowing when to seek early intervention or professional guidance• Staying connected as a family during the early years of parenting• Practical self-care habits for overwhelmed parentsKey takeaways• A parent’s mental health matters, especially during the early years when stress and sleep deprivation can be intense.• Supporting a partner often starts with asking what would actually help, not making them carry the burden of explaining everything.• Developmental milestones matter, but children grow at different rates, and variation is normal.• Self-care does not have to be expensive or time-consuming; small changes in sleep, hydration, movement, relationships, or screen use can help parents feel more grounded.Further reading• 8 Self-Care Tips for Parents• [Video] How can I take care of myself to be the best parent I can be?• Mindful Parenting

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson talks with Dr. Lauren Hughes, a board-certified pediatrician, mother of three, and trusted voice for realistic, evidence-based parenting guidance. Together, they explore the stress and pressure parents can face in the first years of raising a child, from navigating developmental milestones to feeding choices and methods for sleep training.  Dr. Hughes also offers practical tips on how to support your child’s well-being without neglecting your own. This conversation can help parents separate common worries from real concerns learn to prioritize connection over perfection.In this episode, they cover:Why “weird but normal” child behaviors are often part of healthy developmentWhen to seek an evaluation or early intervention if something feels offWhy feeding choices — breastfeeding, formula, or supplementation — should support both you and your childHow to approach sleep training without one-size-fits-all pressureAnd why repair, connection, and physical and emotional safety are key to raising thriving kidsFurther readingComplete Guide to Developmental MilestonesChoosing a Sleep Training Program That Works for Your FamilyThe Public Hughesletter

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers parent questions sparked by the Orlando Bloom conversation, focusing on dyslexia myths, practical at-home learning strategies, self-esteem, movement and focus, AI tools, and the emotional impact of learning differences. He explains what dyslexia actually is, why evaluation and targeted support matter, and how parents can help kids understand a learning disorder in a way that feels honest, empowering, and grounded in their full identity — not just their struggle.  Show Notes·       What dyslexia really is — and why letter reversals are not required for a diagnosis.  ·       How schools and neuropsychological testing can identify reading, writing, or math-related learning disorders.  ·       At-home strategies that may help kids learn, including writing things out by hand, trying creative workarounds, and measuring what actually improves retention or task completion.  ·       How to protect a child’s self-esteem when they feel “stupid” or defeated by school.  ·       Why movement breaks can help with focus, and how to talk with teachers about using them thoughtfully and effectively.  ·       Where the line is between AI as a helpful learning tool and AI as a crutch. ·       Whether learning differences can be linked to strengths like creativity, resilience, or big-picture thinking — and what the research can and can’t say yet. ·       Signs that a learning disability may be affecting a child’s anxiety, mood, identity, or school engagement beyond academics.  ·       How parents can talk about a learning disorder in a way that is truthful, supportive, and empowering.  Relevant Links from the Child Mind Institute·       Understanding Dyslexia: Signs of Dyslexia in Kids·       Inside an Evaluation for Learning Disorders·       How to Help Kids Talk About Learning Disabilities

This week on Thriving Kids, I’m joined by actor Orlando Bloom. He talks about growing up with dyslexia, including the challenges he faced paying attention and concentrating in school, and how he developed his own workarounds before many of today’s evidence-based supports existed. We also discuss how movement, mindfulness, good nutrition, and sleep can help kids (and adults) manage attention and learning challenges — and why every child should discover their area of excellence.In this episode, we cover:• Orlando Bloom’s experience growing up with dyslexia• How learning disabilities can affect confidence and school performance• Why diagnosis and support matter• Practical strategies for reading, memorization, and focus• The role of movement, mindfulness, and routine in mental health• How parents can help children build resilience and self-belief• Why neurodiversity includes both challenges and strengthsFurther reading from the Child Mind Institute: • Understanding Dyslexia - https://childmind.org/article/understanding-dyslexia/• ADHD and Exercise - https://childmind.org/article/adhd-and-exercise/• The Power of Mindfulness - https://childmind.org/article/the-power-of-mindfulness/

In this Thriving Kids Q&A, Dr. Dave Anderson explains how parents can recognize early signs of dyslexia, ADHD, and learning disabilities, advocate for school support, and protect their child’s self-esteem while they struggle academically. This episode offers practical guidance on evaluations, IEPs and 504 plans, reading intervention, ADHD treatment, and why early support can change a child’s trajectory.In this episode, we cover:·       Early signs of dyslexia and learning disabilities·       ADHD in kids and why it’s not just about trying harder·       When to ask for a school evaluation·       IEPs, 504 plans, and school accommodations·       The emotional impact of academic struggles·       How early intervention supports confidence and long-term success·       What parents can do when teachers say a child will “grow out of it”Podcast Links·       Understanding Dyslexia·       Getting Support From Your Child’s School·       Inside an Evaluation for Learning Disorders

What happens when systems built to support kids with learning disabilities change?  In this episode, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Jacqueline Rodriguez, CEO of the National Center for Learning Disabilities, to discuss the state of learning disability support across the country, from early screening and phonics-based reading instruction to IEP protections and the real concerns parents are raising right now about changes at the Department of Education.  Whether you're a parent, educator, or someone who cares about public education, this conversation is for you.Mentioned in this episode: National Center for Learning Disabilities (NCLD) — https://ncld.org/IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act) — https://ncld.org/join-the-movement/understand-the-issues/learn-the-law/Further reading:·      How Kids Learn to Read – Child Mind Institute·      Learning Disabilities and Self-Advocacy – Child Mind Institute·      Quick Guide to Specific Learning Disorder – Child Mind Institute

In this Q&A follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Rubén Parra-Cardona, Dr. Dave answers eight listener questions about building and maintaining warm, positive relationships with your children, from toddlerhood through the teen years.He covers questions, including:-       How do I stay present during child-led play when I'm bored out of my mind?-       Can I build a positive bond with a child whose personality clashes with mine?-       How do I stop my "inner drill sergeant" from taking over?-       How do I keep the relationship going when my teen won't talk to me?0Key takeaways    • Being together is the most important thing. You don't have to be endlessly delighted during child-led play — just showing up can fill their emotional cup.    • It's okay to talk about your differences. When personalities clash, explicitly telling your child "I'm devoted to building our unique relationship" goes further than you might think.    • You can be warm without losing structure. Ditching your “inner drill sergeant” doesn't mean abandoning your values — it's a "yes, and" approach: maintain expectations while opening space for connection.    • Instead of questions, try descriptions. With a silent teen, use behavior descriptions, reflections, and praise instead of peppering them with questions — it resets their expectations and opens the door for genuine conversation.• Positive Parenting Thriving Kids Curriculum• Family Resource Center

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with[MH1]  Dr. Rubén Parra-Cardona, a family therapist and the Roger and Carol Nooe Endowed Chair and Professor[MH2]  in the College of Social Work at the University of Tennessee. They discuss the ethical foundations of parenting and share key principles to guide parents in nurturing resilient children. They also cover:    • How reflecting on your own history and motivations as a caregiver can lead to more intentional and effective parenting.    • Ethical mandates — your responsibilities for raising another human being — and how they can guide you in making decisions that prioritize the well-being and development of your child.    • Applying the principle of “asymmetry” to parent-child relationships and how it creates a secure environment for children to thrive.Further reading:How to Build a Positive Parent-Child Relationship – Child Mind InstituteTips for Communicating With Your Teen – Child Mind InstituteTips on Helping Your Child Build Relationships – Zero to Three

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson follows up on last week’s conversation with Dr. Linda Charmaraman about how kids feel about social media. In this episode, we cover:Smartphone readiness is about preparation, not just age. Delaying access can help, but parents also need to take a realistic, flexible approach. Help build digital literacy and encourage kids to come to you for help when something goes wrong.Educational screen time can be useful, but entertainment is ok, too. Evidence-based apps can support learning, especially for younger children, but the goal is thoughtful boundaries, not treating all non-educational screen time as automatically bad.Privacy and independence should be earned gradually. Parents should stay curious about their child’s digital world. Use clear guideposts and increase freedom as kids demonstrate responsibility over time — much like learning to drive.Key takeaways: Children should know they can come to you when something goes wrong online. Let them know that honesty about a situation will lead to a much better outcome than hiding it.Setting strong boundaries around screen time to protect time for sleeping, playing, and interacting with family especially are among the most important digital rules you can set.Digital freedom should be earned gradually through coaching, building trust, and meeting milestones.

Parents and caregivers may have a lot of worries about their teens using social media, from encountering harmful content to cyberbullying. But what do teens themselves say about how social media affects them day to day?In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Linda Charmaraman a senior research scientist at the Wellesley Centers for Women and founder and director of the Youth, Media & Wellbeing Research Lab. Dr. Charmaraman's research follows kids from middle school into high school. She shares what teens say actually helps their well-being (social support, finding community, learning, exploring identity) and what tends to hurt (peer dynamics, exclusion, comparison, and hits to self-esteem).They also talk about what works at home:Keep screens out of bedrooms and protect sleepUse screen limits to support daily life, not as punishmentStay curious so your kid keeps talkingFocus on relationship quality and communication, not perfect controlThe key message for every kid: No matter what happens online — even if it’s embarrassing or scary — you can come to your parent, and they will help you through it.Further readingThe Family Media Plan – American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)When Are Kids Ready for Social Media? – Child Mind InstituteHow Phones Ruin Concentration – Child Mind Institute

Part 3 of 3: What actually helps students succeed in college?In this episode of Thriving Kids, our clinicians offer practical guidance for families preparing for the transition to college. From understanding accommodations to building routines that support mental health, this conversation focuses on actionable steps.Moderated by Dr. Morgan Eldridge with Dr. David Friedlander and Dr. Adam Zamora, this episode covers:• Academic supports and documentation• Counseling centers and mental health care• Self-advocacy in college• How parents can support teens' independenceCollege Readiness ToolkitOur toolkit has guidance for teens — along with a section for parents — on how to get a good start in college and navigate this important period of building independence.Download it here: https://childmind.org/topics/college/#toolkit

Part 2 of 3: College demands a new level of self-managementIn this episode of Thriving Kids, our clinicians unpack executive functioning and procrastination — and why struggling to start a task isn’t about laziness, but about skill development and brain maturation.In this moderated conversation led by Dr. Morgan Eldridge with Dr. David Friedlander and Dr. Adam Zamora, you’ll hear:• What executive functioning actually involves• Why procrastination can become a cycle• How brain development affects follow-through• Why building these skills matters in collegeCollege Readiness ToolkitOur toolkit has guidance for teens — along with a section for parents — on how to get a strong start in college and manage this transition.Download it here:  https://childmind.org/topics/college/#toolkit

Part 1 of 3: Why does college feel overwhelming — even for strong, capable students?In this episode of Thriving Kids, our clinicians explore why the transition from high school to college can be harder than expected. Students move from a structured, familiar environment to one that demands independence, self-management, and new social connections.You’ll hear a moderated conversation led by Dr. Morgan Eldridge with Dr. David Friedlander and Dr. Adam Zamora that covers:• Why anxiety and depression often emerge freshman year• The impact of losing structure• The emotional adjustment of leaving home• How belonging affects mental healthCollege Readiness ToolkitOur toolkit has guidance for teens — along with a section for parents — on how to get a good start in college and navigate this critical period of building independence.Download it here:  https://childmind.org/topics/college/#toolkit

Talking to kids about racism and discrimination can feel intimidating. But in this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson and Dr. Isha Metzger discuss how to start the conversation early, keep it practical, and support kids in ways that match their age and situation.What you’ll learn:How to convey a clear definition of racism that goes beyond “one person being mean”How microaggressions show up in everyday life, even when someone “didn’t mean it”Why kids might show stress from experiencing racism through behavior (withdrawal, irritability) or physical symptoms (headaches, stomachaches)How to help your child respond if they experience discriminationHow to teach ally behavior: what to say, when to get help, and why speaking up in the moment mattersWhat to do if your child causes harm: Reflect → Repair → RelearnKey takeaways:Start the conversation early and keep it going. Don’t wait for a single “big talk.”Use direct, factual language. Kids do better with simple, clear wording.Practice a few “in the moment” phrases your kid can actually say, like: “That’s not okay.”If your child is targeted: validate first, then problem-solve.If your child is the one who said something harmful: stay calm, name the impact, and coach a better next step.From the episode: M&M exercise Use a small bag of M&Ms to talk about difference and unfair treatment:Observe differences (color, shape, cracked shells)Ask: “Are any better than the others?”Connect it to how people can get treated unfairly based on how they lookKeep it simple: same on the inside, differences add valueTips from the Thriving Kids tip sheet:Talk about it. Kids are likely to encounter racism and discrimination at a young age. Put aside any discomfort and talk about these topics with your kids early and often.Be direct and factual. When you’re explaining racism for the first time, it’s important to use clear, straightforward language.It’s ok to show emotion. When talking with your children about racism or specific events that have happened due to racism, it’s okay to express your own feelings of anger, hurt, or sadness. This helps normalize these reactions and validate what your child may already be feeling.Take a multimedia approach. Share books, movies, TV shows, YouTube channels or anything else with age-appropriate content related to the issues you are trying to tackle. These can provide additional information, context and characters for kids to relate to.Listen and validate. Even young children are perceptive and may be scared or confused by things they’ve seen or heard. Ask open-ended questions and give them plenty of space to answer. Little kids can also express themselves through drawings or acting things out with toys.Teach advocacy. Just as you may have encouraged your child to stand up for friends who are treated unkindly, teach them to speak out if they witness or experience discrimination firsthand – if it is safe to do so.Plan a course of action. There’s nothing worse than feeling helpless, so if your child comes to you with a troubling experience or concern, help them develop a response. Remind them that it’s not always on them to respond, and depending on the situation, there may be reason to make a report with the school or authorities.Further readingFree Guides and Resources – Dr. Isha MetzgerPositive Parenting, Thriving Kids – Child Mind Institute

In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson follows up on last week’s conversation with Dr. Joanna Kim about parental self-care and the invisible labor of raising kids. He answers listener questions about guilt, exhaustion, and how to make “filling your cup” realistic in a normal week.In this episode, we cover:“How do I help friends who feel guilty taking time away from their kids?” Reframe from quantity to quality time. Try a one-week experiment: take a little time back, then notice what changes (energy, patience, connection).“I’m a chronic yes-person. What do I say no to?” Sort non-negotiables, want-to-dos, and energy drains. Practice saying "no" for a short window (a few days), then decide what boundaries should stick.“I get homework from my child’s therapist and forget. I feel like I’m failing.” You’re not failing. Your therapist wants honesty. Build a simple system for tracking and prioritizing, then accept that some tasks won’t happen every week.“I have no time. Work, dinner, bedtime, repeat. What can I do?” Start by naming what actually calms you (food/drink, movement, sleep, connection, faith/spiritual practices, quiet). Then look for small pockets to repeat, not a perfect routine.“Any clever tricks to get a break without my kids interrupting?” Tricks can work in the short term, but the long-term goal is modeling normal boundaries: “I’m taking 20 minutes. I’ll be back at ___.” Key takeaways:“Self-care” doesn’t require money or big blocks of time.Start with minutes, then build.Your goal isn’t more time with your kids — it’s better time with your kids.Boundaries often matter as much as adding new habits.If you’re working with a therapist/coach, missed homework is useful info — it helps you set a plan that fits your real week.

Self-care for parents isn’t selfish — it’s fuel.In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson talks with Dr. Joanna Kim about what real self-care looks like for busy parents — especially those who feel guilty about taking a break.We cover: • Why self-care can feel like a privilege or unrealistic • How to “fill your cup” in 1 to 5 minutes (no spa day required) • The science of parent engagement and what gets in the way • How sleep, boundaries, and saying no protect your energy • Why modeling rest and balance matters for your kidsFrom tea with a daily quote to pocket Sudoku to sleeping in without guilt — this episode is about small, doable changes that help you show up as the parent you want to be.Follow Dr. Kim’s Engaging Families Lab:Instagram: @engagingfamilieslabWebsite: engagingfamilieslab.orgFurther readingThe Impact of Parental Burnout – American Psychological Association (APA) Mental Health Resources for Parents – Mental Health America (MHA) Why Self-Care Is Essential to Parenting – Child Mind Institute

In this Thriving Kids Q&A episode, Dr. Dave Anderson answers parent questions about child stress, anxiety, avoidance, burnout, and coping with big emotions.Building on a recent conversation with Dr. Dylan Gee, a professor of psychology at Yale University, this episode focuses on how kids learn to respond to stress — and how parent behavior can either ease anxiety or reinforce it over time.Dr. Anderson addresses common situations parents face, including school anxiety, physical symptoms of stress, over-scheduling, achievement pressure, and burnout. He explains why avoidance often makes anxiety worse and how parents can support kids without pushing too hard or being too accommodating to their anxiety.In this episode, you’ll learn:How kids pick up on parental stress — and how to change your own venting habitsWhy avoidance increases anxiety over timeWhy anxiety often shows up as stomachaches or headachesWhy reassurance can backfire — and what to do insteadHow accommodation can unintentionally reinforce anxietyHow to support over-scheduled teens under college pressureWhat teen burnout looks like after prolonged stressSimple tools to reset a child’s nervous system before tests, games, or performancesThis episode draws on evidence-based approaches from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), child development research, and clinical practice. It’s designed for parents of kids navigating anxiety, perfectionism, stress, and emotional overload.Further reading(Video) How do I help my child cope with stress? – Child Mind InstituteThe Art and Science of Mindfulness – Child Mind Institute  For more expert guidance and free family resources, visit:https://childmind.org/resources

Is your child struggling with stress — or is it something more?In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Dylan Gee, a professor of psychology at Yale University, to explore the vital difference between managing stress and simply trying to avoid it. While it’s natural to want to "pave the road" and remove obstacles for our children, learning to tolerate discomfort is one of the most important emotional skills a child can build.We discuss the "avoidance trap," where stepping in to solve every problem can actually make a child's stress worse over time. Dr. Gee explains how kids can learn to recover from hard moments and why your own emotional state as a caregiver is the most powerful tool for helping a stressed child feel safe and supported.In this episode, we discuss:The avoidance trap – Why helping kids avoid stress can undermine their ability to build long-term resilience.The power of parental regulation – How staying calm and regulated helps your child cope when things feel overwhelming.Validation and labeling – Why identifying big emotions like "frustrated" or "scared" is the first step toward managing them.Challenging extreme thinking – How to guide kids away from "all-or-nothing" thoughts and toward more balanced perspectives.Filling the coping toolbox – Practical strategies like deep breathing, mindfulness, and creative expression to help kids bounce back.

In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions following last week’s conversation with Jennifer Wallace on toxic achievement culture and helping kids feel like they matter.Parents asked practical, hard questions about failure, pressure, motivation, and emotional regulation. This episode focuses on striking a balance — between support and independence, structure and flexibility, and validation and limits.Questions cover:Natural consequences vs. stepping in – Did you rob your child of a lesson by rescuing a forgotten school project? How to decide based on context and stakes.Kids who cheat because they hate losing – What’s developmentally normal at younger ages, when rule-following matters for peer relationships, and how to address cheating without turning games into power struggles.Paying kids for good grades – Does it increase pressure? How to use rewards thoughtfully and fade them out over time.When your child says, “I suck at this” – How to respond to negative self-talk and  helping kids move from self-blame to problem-solving.The brutal car ride home after a loss – Why “I loved watching you play” can backfire and how to ask your teen what support they actually need.When schools make failure feel high-stakes – What to say when mistakes lead to remedial groups or lost electives and how parents can act as “counter-programming” to achievement culture.Key takeaways:There is rarely one “right” parenting move.Kids need both scaffolding and space to struggle.Pressure affects children differently.Validation doesn’t mean fixing feelings.Effort matters more than perfection.This episode is especially helpful if you’re parenting a child who is sensitive to failure, a perfectionist, or feeling overwhelmed by expectations at school or in sports.

In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson speaks with Jennifer Wallace, an award-winning journalist and author, about her books Never Enough and Mattering: The Secret to a Life of Deep Connection and Purpose. They discuss the culture of toxic achievement and how fostering a sense of mattering can serve as an antidote. Wallace shares research findings on mattering, practical strategies for parents, and emphasizes the importance of making others feel valued in everyday interactions. They also explore the impact of parental self-care on creating a healthy environment for children.Further Reading:How to Help Kids Learn to Fail – Child Mind InstituteRaising Resilient Kids Who Are Prepared for the Future – Child Mind InstituteHow to Model Healthy Coping Skills – Child Mind Institute

Parenting teens can feel confusing and exhausting — especially when connection starts to slip.In this Thriving Kids Q&A episode, Dr. Dave Anderson from the Child Mind Institute answers real questions from parents about staying connected to teenagers during adolescence.We cover:Why teens can be warm and talkative with other adults but distant at homeHow memes, TikToks, and inside jokes still count as real connectionHow to prepare teens for college and independence without constant conflictWhat to do when defiance and power struggles escalateHow to respond when teens self-diagnose ADHD or other mental health conditions onlineThis episode focuses on relationship-first parenting, clear boundaries, and helping teens feel understood — so they’re more likely to come to you when it really matters.Further reading Help! My Teen Stopped Talking to Me – Child Mind InstituteTips for Communicating With Your Teen – Child Mind InstituteParenting a Defiant Teen: Expert Tips – Child Mind Institute

Parenting a teen can feel like walking on eggshells. Conversations can turn into conflict. Teens may pull away, and parents may wonder how to navigate boundaries and stay connected.In this episode of the Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by pediatric psychologist Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart to talk about what actually helps build a stronger, healthier relationship with your teen — even during tough moments.They discuss: • Why teens push back and pull away during adolescence • What real connection with teens looks like (and what it doesn’t) • How to set limits without damaging trust • Common parenting mistakes that increase power struggles • How to stay grounded when emotions run high • Practical ways to rebuild connection after conflictThis conversation focuses on realistic, evidence-based strategies parents can use to improve communication, reduce tension, and strengthen trust — without trying to control or fix their teen.Further readingTips for Communicating With Your Teen – Child Mind InstituteHelp! My Teen Stopped Talking to Me – Child Mind Institute

How do you talk to kids about the hard stuff — without making their worries worse?In this Thriving Kids Q&A episode, Dr. Dave Anderson answers real questions from parents about how to talk with kids and teens about difficult, emotionally loaded topics in calm, developmentally appropriate ways.Drawing on clinical experience from his work at the Child Mind Institute, Dr. Anderson walks through what helps — and what often backfires — when kids ask about scary news, big life fears, or sensitive issues at home.Topics covered in this episode include:Talking to kids about anxiety, disasters, and frightening newsHelping children cope with worries about climate changeSupporting kids dealing with unkind friends or social rejectionHow to respond when kids fear losing a parentDiscussing financial stress without passing on adult worryHow to talk about suicide safely and openlyExplaining substance use and addiction in age-appropriate waysThroughout the episode, Dr. Anderson emphasizes validation, honesty, emotional regulation, and keeping conversations open — even when a parent feels they didn’t handle a moment perfectly the first time.Further readingHelping Children Cope With Frightening News – Child Mind InstituteKids and Climate Anxiety – Child Mind InstituteBig Talks: How to Have Important Conversations With Kids – Child Mind Institute

Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with science journalist and author Melinda Wenner Moyer to talk about what kids actually need to cope, connect, and grow up healthy today.They cover:Why letting kids experience big feelings builds resilienceHow listening (not lecturing) strengthens connectionWhat parents get wrong about screens and techWhy avoiding hard topics doesn’t protect kidsHow everyday conversations shape empathy and judgmentThis episode is about practical, research-backed parenting — not perfection.Further readingHow Can We Help Kids With Self-Regulation? - Child Mind InstituteHow to Raise Kids Who Aren’t A**holes - Melinda Wenner MoyerHello, Cruel World - Melinda Wenner Moyer

Join Dr. Dave Anderson for this special Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, where he addresses parenting questions ranging from managing a 6-year-old's meltdowns to navigating screen time battles to keeping the peace between siblings. Dr. Anderson offers advice on emotion regulation, developing coping skills, setting effective boundaries, and more.

Dr. Dave Anderson and special guest Dr. Marc Brackett, the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, discuss the importance of understanding and managing emotions. Dr. Brackett shares insights from his books, Permission to Feel and Dealing with Feeling, and highlights practical strategies. Whether you're a parent, educator, or caregiver, this conversation offers valuable guidance on raising emotionally healthy children and the vital role emotion regulation plays in a child's well-being.Further reading from the Child Mind InstituteHow Can We Help Kids With Self-Regulation?How to Help Children Calm DownAnd more from Dr. Marc BrackettDealing with Feeling

In this Q&A follow-up to last week’s Thanksgiving special, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions about emotional self-regulation, holiday expectations, and the stress that comes with getting everyone together under one roof.You’ll hear quick, practical guidance on:Managing holiday expectations so you don’t end up disappointedHow much to plan during winter breakLoosening screen limits without losing controlWhat to do about kids who refuse holiday mealsTeens who disappear the moment break startsHandling gift-giving reactions and gratitudeProtecting your own energy and avoiding resentmentResetting when the day goes off the railsIf you’re celebrating Thanksgiving, we hope your day feels manageable. If not, these answers apply to any big family gathering — December holidays, birthdays, or any festival that brings people together.

The holidays can feel like a marathon for parents — full of expectations, logistics, and emotions. In this episode, Dr. Dave Anderson talks with clinical psychologist (and new parent) Dr. Kimberly Alexander about what she calls “running the gauntlet” of the holiday season.They unpack how to manage your own expectations, keep kids regulated, and handle tricky family moments — without losing your sense of humor or sanity.You’ll learn:Why “know thy child” might be the best holiday mantraHow to balance structure and flexibility when school’s outWhat to do when your child’s behavior doesn’t match your “perfect family” visionHow to set boundaries with relatives who take it personallyTips for teaching gratitude and handling gift-giving meltdownsDr. Alexander also shares what she calls “the Kim package” — her practical approach to balancing family needs, setting limits with grace, and remembering that every year looks different.Related resources:Making the Holidays Kid-Friendly – Child Mind InstituteHow to Take the Stress Out of Family Gatherings – Child Mind Institute

Parents sent in smart, honest questions about how to keep conversations about sex, consent, and safety going at home. In this Q&A episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson from the Child Mind Institute, answers questions about when to start, what’s age-appropriate, and how to talk about everything from consent to porn — without losing your kid’s trust.You’ll learn how to:• Start early talking about body boundaries and use accurate language• Talk about consent in everyday life• Handle porn exposure and online curiosity• Balance privacy, safety, and your family’s values• Keep the door open even when teens roll their eyesKey takeaways:• What age to start talking about sex and consent• How to explain the biology of reproduction without euphemisms• Setting boundaries and modeling consent in daily life• Talking about porn and online exposure without shame• Balancing privacy and safety with teens in relationships• How to share family values without sounding preachy• What to do if your teen is already sexually active• Keeping awkward conversations open and honestResources mentioned:BooksWhat Makes a Baby, Sex Is a Funny Word, and You Know, Sex – Cory SilverbergBeing You and Yes! No! – Megan MadisonOrganizations & platforms• Peer Health Exchange• Selfsea – digital platform by Peer Health Exchange with stories and tools created with and for young people• Planned Parenthood – resources and education for sexual and reproductive healthFurther reading• How to Talk to Kids About Sex and Boundaries – Child Mind Institute• How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn – TIME, by Dr. Dave Anderson• Talk to Your Kids About Sex and Healthy Relationships – health.gov• The Best Sex Education Books for Kids of All Ages (And Their Parents!) – Parents / AAP

Talking to kids about sex, consent, and safety can feel intimidating — or like something you’d rather put off. But kids are already getting information from somewhere, and it’s not always accurate or safe. In this episode of Thriving Kids, clinical psychologist and host Dr. Dave Anderson talks with Dr. Angela Glymph, CEO of Peer Health Exchange, about how to have honest, age-appropriate conversations that protect kids, affirm who they are, and strengthen your relationship with them.They break down what “comprehensive sex education” really means, how to start early with body autonomy and consent, and how to keep the conversation going through elementary school, middle school, and the teen years — without needing to be a “perfect” expert.GuestDr. Angela Glymph is the CEO of Peer Health Exchange, a national youth nonprofit dedicated to helping young people stay safe, healthy, and affirmed — no matter who they are or where they live. Her work centers adolescent health equity, social-emotional learning, and youth-led, inclusive health education. She’s also a parent, navigating these conversations at home herself.In this episode, we discuss:What comprehensive sex education actually includes (it’s more than just “the talk”)Why medically accurate, truthful information keeps kids saferHow kids really learn about sex, consent, and relationships (school, peers, online, social media)The benefits of giving kids good information vs. leaving them to “figure it out”How to teach body autonomy and consent starting in early childhoodWhy using correct terms (like vulva, penis, sperm, egg) mattersHow to build on the conversation in elementary school, middle school, and beyondWhen and how to talk about contraception, STIs, and safetyWhy abstinence can be part of the conversation — but not the whole thingHow to respond if your teen is already sexually activeWhat to do if you feel too awkward or underqualified to have these talksThe myth that teens don’t want to talk to parents about sex (and why it’s wrong)Age-by-age: Laying the groundworkAges 3–5 (early childhood)Simple yes/no and body boundariesNaming body parts accurately (including genitals)Basic explanation of where babies come from using truthful, simple language (e.g., sperm and egg)Ages 6–8 (early elementary)Building on earlier explanations with more biologyTalking about different family structures and ways babies come into familiesNormalizing questions and curiosityAges 9–11 (upper elementary)Puberty: what’s happening in their changing bodiesFactual explanation of sexual intercourse and pregnancy in developmentally appropriate termsIntroducing contraception and safety basicsReinforcing body autonomy and boundariesAges 12+ (middle & high school)Relationships, identity, and decision-makingMore detailed conversations about contraception, STIs, and safer sexConsent in the context of romantic and sexual experiencesHow to think about risks, pressure, and personal valuesKey takeaways for parents:If kids don’t get information from you or other trusted adults, they will seek it elsewhere — online, from peers, or pornography.Comprehensive sex education is lifesaving: it helps prevent unintended pregnancy, STIs, and sexual violence, and it builds communication skills kids use far beyond this topic.Using medically accurate terms normalizes the conversation and gives kids language to advocate for themselves and report if something is wrong.Abstinence is a valid choice and part of comprehensive education — but it shouldn’t be the entire message.You don’t have to do this alone: your pediatrician, your child’s school, faith community, and trusted adults (like an aunt/uncle or family friend) can all help.Teens may act like they don’t want to talk to you, but many do want open, nonjudgmental conversations — they’re also trying to figure out how to approach you.Resources mentioned in the episode:Books for kids & familiesCory Silverberg – books about bodies, reproduction, and growing up (including What Makes a Baby and later titles for older kids and teens)Megan Madison – Being You and Yes! No! (early childhood books covering gender, consent, and body autonomy)Organizations & platformsPeer Health Exchange – comprehensive, inclusive, peer-led health educationSelfsea (selfsea.org) – Peer Health Exchange’s digital platform created with and for young people, including stories and resources on sex, consent, and talking to parentsPlanned Parenthood – education and resources for teens and parents on sexual and reproductive healthFurther readingTalk to Your Kids About Sex and Healthy Relationships – health.govhttps://odphp.health.gov/myhealthfinder/healthy-living/sexual-health/talk-your-kids-about-sex-and-healthy-relationshipsThe Best Sex Education Books for Kids of All Ages (And Their Parents!) – Healthy Children / AAPhttps://www.parents.com/kids/health/best-sex-education-books-for-kids-by-age/How to Talk to Kids About Sex and Boundaries – Child Mind Institutehttps://childmind.org/article/how-talk-kids-sex-consent-boundaries/How to Talk to Your Kids About Porn – TIMEhttps://time.com/4277188/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-porn/About Thriving KidsThriving Kids is a podcast from the Child Mind Institute that helps you raise emotionally healthy children with practical, expert-backed advice.

In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson takes on parents’ top questions about raising teenagers. Building on last week’s conversation with Dr. Lisa Damour, he shares research-backed guidance for navigating everything from therapy resistance and social media boundaries to privacy battles, motivation slumps, and shifting moods — all while maintaining connection and keeping communication strong.What you’ll learn: • How to approach therapy when your teen refuses to go• The best way to address vaping or substance use without pushing your teen away• What to do when school motivation swings from “I love it” to “I don’t care”• How to set limits around social media that actually stick• Ways to balance trust, privacy, and safety at home• How to support anxious teens without reinforcing avoidance• Signs that moodiness is typical vs. when it’s time to seek help• Why staying connected — even through protest — protects teen mental healthHave a question? Email podcast@childmind.org.

Adolescence can feel intense, confusing, and sometimes overwhelming for families. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson talks with Dr. Lisa Damour, psychologist and best-selling author, to share compassionate, practical guidance on what most powerfully supports teen mental health. Drawing on decades of experience, Dr. Damour explains why strong, caring relationships with adults are the single biggest factor in teens' well-being, and why social media is only one small part of a much bigger picture.Key topics:• The number one protective factor for teen mental health: consistent, caring relationships with adults• How to put social media in perspective and keep connection at the center• What healthy coping looks like for teens and four red flags to watch for: substances, avoidance, taking distress out on others, taking distress out on themselves• How to connect with teens through respect, transparency, and curiosity• What to do when your teen’s behavior pushes your buttons• The major developmental tasks of adolescence and how parents can support them• Practical ways to respond when emotions or situations get heated• How to keep showing up and maintain the bond that matters mostFurther readingTeen and Adolescent Resources – Child Mind Institute The Emotional Lives of Teenagers – Dr. Lisa DamourRosalie – Dr. Damour’s AI librarian for guidance on raising teens

In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson takes on parents’ top questions about kids and sleep. From breaking the habit of co-sleeping to tackling bedtime fears, setting routines that stick, and knowing when to drop naps, he offers practical strategies to make nights calmer for the whole family.What you’ll learn:• Step-by-step ways to help kids learn to fall asleep independently• How to create a bedroom environment that promotes restful sleep• When a soothing bedtime routine turns into stalling — and how to handle it• Signs that nighttime fears are typical vs. when they signal anxiety• Why removing screens at night matters (and how to offer alternatives)• Clues your child may be ready to shorten or give up daytime naps• Tips for managing siblings with different sleep needs and schedules• How to respond when kids keep getting out of bed after lights out• The truth about weekend late nights and sleep-insHave a question for Dr. Dave? Email podcast@childmind.org.

Building healthy sleep habits is one of the most important and sometimes most challenging parts of parenting. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Shelby Harris, a clinical psychologist and board-certified sleep specialist, to share compassionate, practical guidance for families looking to improve their child’s sleep. Drawing on years of experience helping kids and parents, Dr. Harris explains why sleep matters for mental health, learning, and behavior, and how small changes can make a big difference.Key topics include:• Why sleep is essential for children’s growth, mood, and focus• How to create a sleep-friendly environment (and why “quiet, dark, cool, and comfortable” works)• The most common sleep challenges at every age and what really helps• How screens, routines, and even grandparents can impact your child’s sleep• What to do when your child wakes up too early, can’t fall asleep, or keeps leaving their room• When to worry about issues like snoring, night terrors, or persistent sleepwalking• Tips for modeling healthy sleep habits as a family• How to know when it’s time to seek help from a specialistFurther readingSleep Resources for Parents – Child Mind Institute More from Dr. Shelby Harris

How do you support your child through grief when you’re grieving too?In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers your top questions about helping kids navigate death, loss, and big emotions. He covers how to support neurodivergent kids when grief shows up as anger or outbursts, how much to show your own emotions, when grief becomes something more serious, and even the surprising role imaginary friends can play in healing.What you’ll learn:• “All feelings are welcome, all behaviors are not” — how to validate emotions while holding boundaries• How grief can look different in kids with ADHD or ODD — and how to respond• The clearest language to use when telling a child someone has died• What not to say when trying to soften the news• How to talk to a 5-year-old about loss in three simple steps• Why grief comes in unpredictable waves — and how to help kids ride them• How to model healthy coping when your child sees you cry• Signs that suggest it may be time to seek additional support• How pretend play and imaginary friends can actually aid the healing processHave a question for Dr. Dave? Email podcast@childmind.org.

How do I talk to my child about death and grief — without making things worse or shutting down their feelings? In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Katie Peinovich, LCSW, to share compassionate, practical guidance for supporting kids through loss. Drawing on years of experience working with children in New York City schools who’ve faced trauma, Peinovich explains why it’s important to be direct, validate emotions, and model coping — even when you’re grieving too.Key topics include:• Why kids need clear, honest language (and why euphemisms don’t help)• What grief looks like in children — and why it often comes in waves• How to sit with a child’s feelings without trying to “fix” them• When to worry that grief may be interfering with daily life• Scripts for answering tough questions like “What is death?”• Whether children should attend funerals or memorial services and how to prepare them• Creative ways kids can remember loved ones, from memory boxes to rituals• Why it’s okay for kids to see parents grieve, as long as they feel safe and lovedFurther readingTalking to Kids About Death and Grief – Child Mind Institute

How do you help your child do well in school — without constant stress or conflict? In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers your top questions about supporting kids’ academic success. He covers how to support teens when they're unmotivated, what to do when school doesn’t fit your child’s learning style, balancing activities without burnout, keeping kids focused when they’re not interested, what to do when kids say they “hate school,” and how to talk about grades without piling on pressure.What you’ll learn:• How to use motivational interviewing to help teens set their own academic goals• How to collaborate with teachers on realistic supports for neurodivergent learners• Drop-off rituals and coping strategies for separation anxiety• A developmental checklist for balancing school, activities, and downtime• Practical focus hacks: participation checklists and active note-taking• Visual cues and positive reinforcement to build independence in organization• Shifting the conversation from grades and achievement to effort and processHave a question for Dr. Dave? Email podcast@childmind.org.

How can I help my child do better in school — without pushing too hard or taking over? In this episode, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Adam Zamora, a neuropsychologist at the Child Mind Institute, to talk about how to build the habits, mindset, and support systems that help kids thrive academically. From kindergarten through college, they cover everything from procrastination and motivation to homework battles, parent-teacher communication, and how to know when it’s time to get extra support.Key topics include:Building a growth mindset vs. a fixed mindsetSupporting effective homework routines (without micromanaging)When to push, when to scaffold, and when to step backHow to work with schools and teachers as part of your child’s “village”The value of neuropsych evaluations and what they actually tell usPrepping kids for college success — academically and emotionallyFurther readingCollege Readiness Toolkit – Child Mind InstituteStrategies to Make Homework Go More Smoothly – Child Mind Institute

Parenting teenagers can feel like a rollercoaster — mood swings, pushback, and “leave me alone”… until they need a ride. In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers parents’ real questions about staying connected when teens shut you out, handling blow-ups, setting boundaries that actually stick, spotting the signs of depression, and helping teens cope with rejection and social media comparison.Have a question for a future episode? Email podcast@childmind.org.

In this special episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with NYU social psychologist Dr. Jonathan Haidt for a live conversation on how smartphones and social media are transforming childhood — and what parents, schools, and policymakers can do in response.Recorded at Guild Hall in East Hampton, they discuss the questions raised in Dr. Haidt’s new book The Anxious Generation — including the points they see differently.They talk candidly about screen time, youth anxiety, social media “addiction,” digital literacy, tech regulation, and why we’re seeing such sharp mental health shifts in teens and tweens. Whether you’re alarmed by what you see on your kid’s phone or just looking for practical next steps, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and room for multiple perspectives.Topics include:The “post-play childhood” and decline in free timeWhen (and if) kids should be using social mediaWhy phones in schools are so hard to manageWhere tech harms hit boys and girls differentlyWhat parents can do now — even if the genie’s already out of the bottleFurther readingThe Anxious Generation – Jonathan HaidtScreen Time and Technology Resources – Child Mind InstituteSpecial thanks to Guild Hall and the Hamptons Institute for hosting this event and to journalist and filmmaker Perri Peltz for moderating with insight and care.

Raising a teenager isn’t easy — but it is possible to stay connected. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson sits down with Dr. Janine Domingues to explore how caregivers can support teens through adolescence — from emotional shutdowns to risky behavior to the weird world of YouTube.Together they unpack:• What’s really going on in the adolescent brain• How to connect with your teen even if they won’t talk to you• The power of shared rituals, from car rides to diner breakfasts• Why you should care about what they care about (yes, even Minecraft)• How to model communication — and stay regulated when they roll their eyes• Tips for keeping teens safe around drugs, alcohol, social media, and more• What to do when your teen shuts you outWhether your child is 13 or 18, this conversation offers practical insights for building trust, maintaining open communication, and guiding kids through one of the most intense developmental phases of their lives.Further readingCommunicating with Teens – Child Mind InstituteHow do I help my child through the challenges they face in the teen years? – Child Mind Institute

How do you help your child feel confident in who they are without putting pressure on them to be perfect or the best at everything?In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers questions from listeners about how to support self-esteem in kids and teens. Building healthy self-worth isn’t just about praise — it’s about helping young people feel capable, valued, and grounded even when life is hard or they fall short. Drawing from clinical insight and everyday parenting strategies, Dr. Anderson tackles common concerns around negative self-talk, comparison, perfectionism, and how to model healthy self-esteem as an adult.Topics include:How to build kids’ confidence without making them feel entitledWhat to do when your child says “I’m stupid” or “I hate myself”Helping kids avoid harmful social media comparisonsEncouraging risk-taking when kids are afraid to failSupporting kids when they hear something unkind from a peerKnowing the difference between low self-esteem and a rough patchWhat to do when a child’s self-esteem depends on one area (like sports)Moving beyond achievement as a source of prideHow to support perfectionists without reinforcing pressureWhy how you talk about yourself matters — and how to model healthy self-worth

In a world full of comparison — from the classroom to social media — it’s not always easy for kids to feel confident, capable, and valued just as they are. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson is joined by Dr. Jenny Louie, a psychologist in the Anxiety Disorders Center at the Child Mind Institute, to explore how parents can help children develop healthy self-esteem.You’ll hear about creating a safe, supportive home environment, encouraging healthy challenges, and finding the right balance between nurturing and pushing kids to grow. Dr. Louie shares practical, real-world examples (including some from her own life) that show how small shifts in what we say and do can make a big difference in how kids see themselves.You'll learn:Why unconditional love is the foundation of self-esteemWhy it's good to encourage kids to try new things — even when they’re nervousWhy effort matters more than achievementHow to help kids recover from mistakes and “beautiful oopses”How to support self-esteem in the teen yearsFurther reading12 Tips for Raising Confident Kids – Child Mind Institute(Video) How to Help Kids Build Healthy Self-Esteem – Child Mind Institute

What do you do when your child is struggling to make friends, or causing conflict with the friends they have? In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers real questions from parents and caregivers about how to help kids build and maintain healthy relationships, from early childhood through the teen years.We cover:How to explain that not everyone will like you — and that’s okayWhat to do if your child doesn’t seem to have “real” friendshipsHow to support your child’s social life if you’re a shy parentHow to help a tween handle peer rejectionWhat to do when your teen gossips or ghosts their friendsHow to respond to “bossy” behavior in younger kidsWhy teen friendships can sometimes feel toxic — especially among girlsWhat to do when an older sibling is being unkindHow to recognize emotional dependence in friendshipsTips for supporting a child with ADHD who struggles sociallyWhether your child is 6 or 16, this episode is packed with practical advice to help you guide them toward strong, supportive friendships — and build the social-emotional skills they’ll use for life. Further reading(Video) Being a Good Friend in Hedgehog Land – from the Child Mind Institute's Emmy and Webby-nominated series for young kids, featuring music by Lake Street DiveHow to Help Teens Through a Friendship Breakup – Child Mind InstituteHow to Help Kids Who Are Lonely – Child Mind Institute

Friendships are a major part of growing up — but they don’t always come easy. In this episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson talks with Dr. Mandi Silverman, a psychologist and member of the Child Mind Institute’s Clinical Advisory Council, about how to support your child’s social development at every age.From navigating playdates to managing screen-based relationships, they unpack what’s typical (and what’s not), how to encourage connection, and what to do when your child seems left out. Whether your child is struggling to make friends or just figuring out who they click with, this episode offers practical guidance and real-world perspectives.Further reading• Kids Who Need a Little Help to Make Friends – Child Mind Institute• How to Help Kids Who Are Lonely – Child Mind Institute

In this first Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers real parenting questions about kids’ behavior — what it is, how to shape it, and how to support children through challenges.We cover:How to handle lying, even when kids show no remorseTeaching respect, kindness, and standing up for othersWhether there’s such a thing as “good” or “bad” behaviorWhat to do when boys’ behavior becomes more destructive as they growHow to help kids recognize areas for growth without shameWhat to do when a high-energy child is sensitive to feedbackFurther readingCommon Causes of Behavior Problems in Kids – Child Mind Institute Why Do Kids Act Out? – Child Mind Institute Why Kids Lie and What Parents Can Do About It – Child Mind Institute

In this first episode of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson and Dr. Caroline Mendel, a psychologist, dive into one of the most common questions parents ask: How can I get my child to behave better?From toddlers to teens, they explore what really works when it comes to promoting positive behavior — and why quick fixes and harsh discipline aren’t the answer. Instead, they break down a proven, evidence-based approach that starts with the foundation of a strong parent-child relationship.You’ll learn:Why quality time matters more than you thinkHow to “catch them being good” — and why that phrase is more than a clichéWhat the behavior pyramid is (and how to use it)Why consistency beats intensity every timeWhat actually makes time-outs effectiveAnd how to handle common behavior challenges like sibling conflict and screen time battlesThis episode is packed with realistic strategies, expert insight, and personal stories that remind us: there’s no magic solution — but there is a better way.Further reading(Video) How Can Parents Promote Good Behavior? – Child Mind InstituteHow to Handle Tantrums and Meltdowns – Child Mind InstituteThe Power of Positive Attention – Child Mind Institute

What do I do when my child is anxious — or angry — or just shuts down?  Welcome to Thriving Kids, a new podcast from the Child Mind Institute. Hosted by clinical psychologist Dr. Dave Anderson, each episode shares practical tools and clear answers to tough parenting questions. Always evidence-based and judgment-free, you’ll hear advice from experts and real parents, all focused on helping you raise confident, connected kids.  Subscribe now!Learn more at childmind.org/podcast.