Secondhand Therapy
Secondhand Therapy

Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions. Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing. It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.

Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Vasectomies, validation, casual dating, and emotional accountability — this week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou opens up about getting a vasectomy, the fears that came with it, and what the recovery was really like. Meanwhile, Michael unpacks a brutal therapy breakthrough about how his actions in dating don’t match his intentions.The guys get into fear of commitment, people-pleasing, casual relationships vs emotional intimacy, validation addiction, dating apps, self-worth, and why setting boundaries is harder than it sounds. They also explore the uncomfortable truth about using relationships for external validation and what it means to finally choose yourself.If you’ve struggled with attachment styles, dating anxiety, therapy breakthroughs, boundaries in relationships, or learning how to stop seeking validation from others, this episode is for you.Topics: vasectomy recovery, men’s mental health, dating advice, therapy, emotional maturity, people pleasing, casual sex, attachment wounds, self-love, relationships, fear, healing.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why is it so much easier to think about our feelings than actually feel them?This week, after some needed accountability from Papa Bear, we explore the tension between logic and emotion, the challenge of vulnerability, and what happens when the coping mechanisms that once protected us start getting in the way. We talk about therapy, emotional avoidance, grief, self-awareness, identity, personal growth, and the uncomfortable process of letting people see the parts of ourselves we'd rather keep hidden.Along the way, we discuss relationships, mental health, anxiety, healing, emotional regulation, and the ongoing struggle to balance what we know logically with what we feel emotionally.If you've ever found yourself overthinking instead of feeling, avoiding difficult emotions, or wondering why personal growth can feel so uncomfortable, this conversation is for you. Or not. We're not experts.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why are so many young men turning to Donald Trump, the manosphere, and influencers like Andrew Tate? Is it politics, masculinity, economic anxiety, or something deeper?This week on Second Hand Therapy, we sit down with Nevada gubernatorial candidate Alexis Hill for a wide-ranging conversation about mental health, the loneliness epidemic, modern masculinity, the rise of the manosphere, Trump voters, working-class struggles, housing affordability, childcare costs, homelessness, foster care, and why so many Americans feel left behind.We explore what young men are actually searching for, why traditional political parties are losing trust, and whether the American Dream is becoming impossible for an entire generation. Alexis also shares her plans for expanding mental health services, addressing Nevada's youth suicide crisis, tackling corporate tax loopholes, regulating AI data centers, and creating economic opportunities for working families.If you've ever wondered why politics feels so broken, why young men are increasingly drawn to strongman personalities, or what mental health and economic insecurity have to do with each other, this conversation is for you.Topics include: • Young men and Trump • Andrew Tate and the manosphere • Mental health and loneliness • Masculinity in modern America • The American Dream • Housing affordability and rent prices • Childcare costs and foster care • Homelessness and poverty • Democratic Party strategy • Corporate taxes and billionaires • AI data centers and water usage • Nevada politics and the governor's raceBUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source:Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University:Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored_____If you like funny but honest conversations about therapy, mental health, self improvement, relationships, attachment styles, trauma responses, emotional regulation, and modern adulthood — you'll like this one. Or hate it. Sometimes our convos can feel intense because you haven't worked on yourself yet. Who knows.Why do some people turn everything into a story? Why does complaining sometimes feel like connection? And what happens when conflict becomes part of your identity?This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack emotional chaos, overthinking relationships, loneliness, people pleasing, conflict addiction, and the fear of being misunderstood. One conversation about “it’s hot outside” spirals into a deeper discussion about negativity, emotional connection, vulnerability, and why some people create drama just to feel close to others.We also talk about:relationship anxietyemotional intelligencecommunication problemscouples therapy breakthroughsfear of abandonmentneeding constant stimulationintentional living vs chaosfeeling emotionally overwhelmedtoxic coping mechanismswhy being alone feels uncomfortablemisunderstanding in relationshipsvulnerability between friendsmental health and self awarenessPlus: one unexpectedly emotional moment about simply not wanting to be alone.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source:Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University:Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored_____Why do we run from love even when we want it? In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack relationship anxiety, fear of vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the ways childhood experiences shape how we show up in dating.After a surprising reading sparks a deep conversation, we dive into grief, attachment styles, self-sabotage, codependency, and why anxiety can become the perfect escape hatch from intimacy. We talk about long-distance relationships, fear of abandonment, feeling undeserving of love, and why receiving care can feel uncomfortable.This episode blends comedy with real conversations about mental health, relationships, trauma, and personal growth.Topics in this episode: • relationship anxiety • fear of intimacy • attachment styles and dating • grief and emotional avoidance • self-sabotage in relationships • codependency and vulnerability • learning how to receive loveIf you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel harder than they should, give us a listen. Or if you're into mental health with some humor. It's kinda our thing. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the battle between logic vs emotion, and how living in your “wise mind” could change your relationships forever.We talk about: • The therapy concept of logical mind, emotional mind, and wise mind • Why partners are often opposites in relationships • The hidden ways control, anxiety, and people-pleasing show up • The difference between situational shame vs character shame • How childhood roles shape adult relationships • Why saying “no” and being authentic feels terrifying • The moment you realize you might be getting in your own wayPlus: awkward book signings, therapy homework, identity shifts, and the small moment that felt huge—returning a wallet instead of pretending to want it.If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, authenticity, fear of rejection, or being the version of yourself others need, this episode may ruin your day, Or help. Who knows.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Are you sabotaging your relationships without realizing it? In this hilarious and honest episode, we dive into avoidant attachment, fear of rejection, dating apps burnout, and the uncomfortable role ego plays in heartbreak.We talk about why the “spark” can be misleading, how perfectionism keeps you single, and the psychology behind ending relationships before you get hurt. Inspired by therapy conversations and the Matthew Perry memoir, we unpack attachment styles, vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the fear of not being “enough.”If you’ve ever: • Deleted and re-downloaded dating apps • Compared new partners to your ex • Felt afraid of commitment or intimacy • Wondered if you self-sabotage relationships • Struggled with breakup anxiety or closureThis episode will hit hard — and make you laugh while it does.Expect comedy, brutal honesty, and relatable mental health conversations about dating, relationships, therapy, anxiety, and personal growth.Perfect for fans of therapy podcasts, self-improvement, and comedic mental health content.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____What happens when you realize you don’t actually know your parents as people?In this episode, we talk about the moment adulthood hits and you suddenly see your mom as a human instead of just “Mom.” We get into parent–child relationships, emotional maturity, grief, family dynamics, divorce, childhood memories, and why so many adults feel regret about not asking their parents deeper questions sooner.We share the emotional experience of trying to intentionally connect with a parent, what changes as parents age, how becoming a grandparent can shift emotional openness, and the complicated feelings that come with realizing your parents had full lives before you.We also talk about:Losing a parent and the regret of never truly knowing themHow childhood shapes your adult relationshipsTherapy concepts like reframing, empathy, and emotional growthHow grief and healing change family relationshipsThe psychology of seeing your parents differently as an adultIf you’ve ever wondered: Why don’t we really know our parents? Why does time with family feel more meaningful as we get older? Why do adult children start asking deeper questions later in life?This episode is for you. Maybe. What do we know? We're not experts.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why do we sabotage ourselves right when life is going well? In this deeply honest and funny episode, we talk about self-sabotage, burnout, body image, ADHD overwhelm, emotional contagion, perfectionism, and the fear of slowing down.One host opens up about gaining weight and the shame spiral that followed, while the other calls out the real culprit: feeling defeated before even trying. From driving to Costco and leaving with In-N-Out instead of groceries, to the exhausting pressure of productivity and the inability to truly rest, this episode dives into the psychology of why change feels impossible when you’re already overwhelmed.We also explore: • Why burnout kills motivation • The hidden link between shame and self-sabotage • The pressure to always be “productive” • Why we struggle to feel content or fulfilled • Emotional contagion and childhood emotional patterns • The fear of stopping, slowing down, or “not running” anymoreThis episode blends mental health, comedy, therapy insights, and real conversations about anxiety, depression, motivation, and personal growth.If you’ve ever felt stuck, exhausted, or like you’re getting in your own way — this one will hit hard (and make you laugh).BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____What happens when childhood trauma meets therapy, neuroscience, and personal growth?In this episode, we sit down with David Sussillo, a tech leader and author who grew up in foster care, group homes, and institutional living to explore how early adversity shapes the brain, emotional regulation, confidence, and adult success. Together, we unpack the psychology of trauma, resilience, and the long-term impact of feeling unsafe as a child.We talk about: • Growing up in foster care and surviving a turbulent childhood • How trauma affects curiosity, intelligence, and risk-taking • Emotional regulation, anger, anxiety, and relationship patterns • Therapy, meditation, and learning to “observe” your thoughts • Addiction, family history, and breaking generational cycles • Religion, meaning, and the fear of nothing after death • Neuroscience, AI, and what makes humans consciousThis conversation blends mental health, psychology, neuroscience, and real lived experience to answer a big question: Can trauma hold you back—or help you grow?If you’re interested in therapy, healing, self-awareness, personal growth, childhood trauma, anxiety, depression, resilience, and the science of the mind, this episode is for you.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why are some people afraid to be happy? In this episode, we unpack the fear of happiness, losing your identity, and why suffering can feel tied to purpose. We talk about loneliness, the “sad identity,” and the belief that being happy makes you less relatable or useful to others.We dive into emotional immaturity, childhood conditioning, emotionally immature parents, gaslighting vs lying, codependency, people-pleasing, and the urge to help or control others. We explore how trauma, family dynamics, and early experiences shape your self-concept, relationships, and sense of worth.If you struggle with feeling undeserving of happiness, fear being seen as “better than others,” or feel stuck in a helper role, this conversation will feel deeply relatable.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Why do we people-please? Why is having opinions so scary? And why do old memories and regrets stay with us for life?This episode dives deep into people pleasing, fear of abandonment, identity, childhood emotional development, and the pressure of expectations. We talk about why we struggle to disappoint others, why external validation feels safer than authenticity, and how regret and unresolved memories shape adulthood.We also unpack a short story about childhood friendship, curiosity, sexuality, nostalgia, and the emotional weight we carry from growing up.Topics include: • people pleasing & fawning response • fear of abandonment • identity & self-worth • regret & shame • childhood emotional development • nostalgia & memory • masculinity & emotional expression • therapy & personal growthIf you’ve ever struggled to say no, feared disappointing others, or wondered who you really are — this episode is for you.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we dive into dopamine detox, phone addiction, and what happens when you remove distractions from your life. One host quits his smartphone, switches to a Light Phone, ditches Bluetooth, and starts living with extreme intention—only to realize it’s way harder (and more uncomfortable) than expected.We talk about doomscrolling, online shopping addiction, constant comparison, and the feeling of always searching for something you can’t define. Is modern technology making us anxious, disconnected, and unhappy?We also get into family dynamics, political tension, overthinking, and the struggle with self-worth—especially when you assume people are judging you. Why do we spiral about what others think? And how do you stop?This episode is about slowing down, being present, and learning how to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it.Topics include:Dopamine detox & digital minimalismPhone addiction & social media habitsIntentional living & mindfulnessAnxiety, overthinking, and shameFamily conflict & emotional triggersSelf-worth and comparisonIf you’ve ever felt addicted to your phone, stuck in your thoughts, or unsure if you’re growing or just spiraling—this one’s for you.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____ADHD burnout, perfectionism, EMDR therapy, anxiety, and deciding when you're ready to share your story._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____We called a psychic medium to talk to our dead loved ones… and it got real._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Codependency, people-pleasing, and losing yourself in love — how to break the cycle and build real intimacy._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Exploring dry drunk behavior, earned love, and why misery can feel safer than happiness._____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______What would you do if the world was ending in 14 days?This week on Secondhand Therapy, we break down Seeking a Friend for the End of the World through a therapy lens — and it gets personal fast. We talk about attachment styles, fear of abandonment, self-sabotage, purpose, loneliness, and the urge to unblock your ex when mortality hits.Would you numb out with chaos… or search for connection? Would you end it with family, your partner, or alone? And why does control feel safer than vulnerability?This episode dives into:Anxious vs avoidant attachmentPreemptive abandonmentFear of being “too much”Existential anxiety & meaningWhy we sabotage love before it can hurt usIt’s funny. It’s uncomfortable. It’s deeply honest.If the clock were ticking — who would you choose?BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Why does happiness feel dangerous? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we break down fear, sadness, guilt, and the belief that joy invites punishment. Using the feelings wheel, therapy insights, and personal stories about grief, superstition, self-sabotage, and emotional isolation, we explore why letting your guard down can feel unsafe—and how protecting yourself might actually be keeping you stuck.This episode covers emotional programming, fear of success, pride vs. gratitude, inherited coping mechanisms, and why some of us feel more comfortable in misery than peace. Dark humor, honesty, and introspection—this is not therapy, but it is real.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Why do we avoid the things we know are good for us?In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack the frustrating loop of knowing the right choice—and still doing the opposite. From routines, gym habits, food decisions, and productivity, to deeper conversations about permission, self-worth, and why “doing the task” isn’t the same as experiencing it.We talk about:All-or-nothing thinking and overwhelmWhy productivity becomes identityPermission, avoidance, and self-sabotageTherapy insights on routine, ADHD, and motivationThe difference between function and joyWhy caring for yourself feels harder than it shouldThis is a raw, funny, and uncomfortable conversation about self-discipline, self-compassion, and why taking care of yourself isn’t as simple as “just doing it.”We’re not therapists. This is not professional advice.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______What does it mean when anxiety shows up with no trigger? In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we talk about living with anxiety in the body, learning to stop fighting it, and the frustration of being told to “just calm down.”We unpack vulnerability, validation, and why some people need their feelings acknowledged out loud—while others don’t. The conversation turns to body image, weight gain, food guilt, perfectionism, and why moderation feels impossible for some people.We also explore parts work, routines vs survival mode, and the pressure of the “higher self” mindset—when motivation turns into self-shame.This episode is an honest, funny, and uncomfortable look at anxiety, mental health, food, and learning how (and when) to show up for yourself.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Why is it so hard to say “I don’t know”? Why does being liked feel like survival?In this episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack people-pleasing, fear of failure, and the invisible ways our parents shape our inner critic. One host shares what therapy is revealing about his need to be “nice,” his terror of messing up, and how his relationship with his mother quietly programmed his fear of rejection.We talk about:People-pleasing as a trauma responseFear of failure and perfectionismWhy being “nice” blocks real connectionFeelings vs facts (and the stories we tell ourselves)Productivity as a substitute for self-worthLearning to say no without guiltWanting your parent to be more — and turning that disappointment inwardThis episode explores how abandonment fear, emotional control, and self-worth get tangled together — and what it looks like to start unlearning those patterns in real time.We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking honestly about what we’re learning.If you struggle with people-pleasing, approval-seeking, fear of being disliked, or feeling like you’re never enough, this episode will hit close to home.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______When someone yells at your mom: anger, boundaries, emotional control, and doing the right thing.What do you do when you hear someone raise their voice at your mom — and everything in your body wants to explode?Today, we unpack a tense holiday moment that forces a deeper conversation about anger, boundaries, family dynamics, and emotional regulation. Louie shares a confrontation with his mother’s partner, before reflecting on how rage, fear, and protection instincts show up — even after years of therapy.We also talk about:Navigating a complicated relationship with your motherWhy “doing the right thing” can still feel awfulAnger vs. self-control and what emotional maturity actually looks likeLoneliness during the holidays and the push-pull of wanting connectionLearning to validate yourself instead of tearing yourself apartWhat it means to be proud of yourself for the first timeThis episode is about breaking old patterns, choosing accountability over aggression, and learning how to sit with uncomfortable emotions instead of acting them out.We’re not therapists. We’re just two people in therapy, talking through what we’re learning in real time.If you’re struggling with family conflict, holiday depression, anger issues, or feeling behind in life, this one’s for you. Thanks for being here... Secondhand Therapy.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Lou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything and hates it and loves it. Lou and Michael talk about whether we are alone in life. Sidenote: you can hear the extreme winds that spread fire across Los Angeles, throughout the episode. We did our best with the audio.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
We welcome Jenny Zigrino to discuss loss, coping, addictive behaviors, and disordered eating—and what real recovery looks like when you stop avoiding the pain underneath it all.An honest conversation about grief, relapse, shame, emotional regulation, and learning healthier ways to cope when life feels overwhelming.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______In this episode, we have an honest, unfiltered conversation about grief, coping mechanisms, addiction, recovery, and eating disorders—and how deeply connected they often are. We explore how unresolved grief can fuel addictive behaviors, disordered eating, emotional avoidance, and unhealthy coping strategies, and what recovery actually looks like beyond surface-level fixes.We talk about substance addiction, behavioral addiction, food addiction, binge eating, restriction, relapse, emotional regulation, trauma responses, and shame, and how these patterns show up in everyday life and relationships. The conversation also touches on mental health recovery, therapy, self-awareness, harm reduction, relapse prevention, and building healthier coping tools when life feels overwhelming.This episode is for anyone navigating loss, grief, addiction recovery, eating disorder recovery, mental health struggles, or the long, nonlinear process of healing. It’s raw, compassionate, and focused on understanding—not judgment.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Louie’s therapist tells him his “direct communication” is actually defensiveness — and it sends him into an identity spiral. We talk about fear, softness, control, relationship triggers, autism traits, wanting to be chosen, and why saying “I’m scared and sad” feels like death.We dig into the messy reality of defensiveness, vulnerability, emotional expression, fear, control, and communication patterns inside relationships. Louie shares how his therapist told him that his “direct communication” is actually a defense mechanism, and the conversation spirals into emotional avoidance, softness, and why saying “I’m scared and sad” feels impossible.We break down:Why “direct communication” can actually be emotional defensivenessHow vulnerability gets blocked by masculinity, shame & fearAutism traits, miscommunication, and not hearing what isn’t saidWanting to be chosen, fear of losing connection, and relationship insecurityControl vs. fear: trying to protect connection vs. micromanaging outcomesHow delivery affects emotional safety (soft vs. blunt communication)Why asking for comfort feels like weaknessEmotional funks, depression cycles, ADHD patterns & medication fearsRelationship honesty, lying, guilt, and the messy ethics of confessionIt’s raw, chaotic, vulnerable, funny, and painfully relatable — the perfect mix for a mental health, relationships, therapy talk podcast.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael talks about shutting down over Thanksgiving, emotional numbness, and the messy reality of grief. Louie breaks down triggers, embarrassment, childhood patterns, and why certain moments feel like personal attacks.______-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______In this week’s episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the complicated mix of grief, emotional numbness, triggers, anger, and childhood conditioning that still shapes adult reactions. Michael opens up about spending Thanksgiving in bed, feeling emotionally shut down, and exploring why certain moments hit harder than others. Louie challenges him on avoidance, grief processing, and the stories we tell ourselves when intense emotions show up.We also dive into:Why holiday grief hits unexpectedlyEmotional numbness vs. dissociationOrganizing grief so it stops overwhelming everythingHow embarrassment and shame block emotional releaseAnger, frustration, and “pretending” to be healedNervous system triggers and why they feel like aggressionChildhood patterns around attention and how they show up in adulthoodCustomer service, disappointment, and why small moments can activate big woundsThis is a raw, honest conversation about grief, emotional regulation, inner child responses, triggers, vulnerability, self-awareness, and healing,.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______Louie shares a dream about his late partner that cracks open a huge conversation about grief, avoidance, triggers, and what it means to actually move forward. Michael challenges him, things get tense, and it turns into one of our most honest episodes yet.In this deeply personal episode of Second Hand Therapy, we unpack dreams, grief, unresolved emotions, and the complicated ways they show up in everyday life. Louie opens up about a dream involving his late partner and how it challenged his beliefs around meaning, symbolism, and emotional closure. Michael pushes back with questions about avoidance, grief processing, and what it means to “move forward” after loss.Together, we explore:How dreams connect to subconscious processingThe difference between honoring grief vs. being defined by itAvoidance, emotional triggers, and why they resurface years laterHow unresolved childhood and adult grief compoundsMoving forward without “leaving someone behind”What it looks like when grief unexpectedly “finds you”This episode is a vulnerable, honest look at grief, trauma, emotional regulation, subconscious processing, healing, and the messiness of being human—delivered with the same humor, tension, and real friendship you expect from this show.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Jeremy Lipkowitz breaks down porn addiction, how it affects your relationships, and why it’s more common than people think. He also talks about his time as a Buddhist monk and what that life taught him about discipline, desire, and mindfulness.Jeremy Lipkowitz joins us for a deep, honest conversation about porn addiction, how it develops, and the real ways it impacts mental health, relationships, intimacy, and self-worth. We explore what porn addiction actually is, how it shows up in everyday life, and why so many people struggle with shame and secrecy around it.Jeremy also shares his powerful story of becoming a Buddhist monk, how mindfulness reshaped his relationship with desire, and what monastic life taught him about emotional regulation, discipline, and self-compassion.If you're curious about addiction, mindfulness, or the psychology behind our habits, this episode hits all the big questions.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Louie gets a wild text from his dad and things spiral into talk about cynicism, giving (and taking) compliments, and why we chase what we’re “missing out on.”Louie gets a surprising text from his dad—and it sparks a conversation about how we process emotion, self-worth, and connection. In this episode, we unpack why giving and receiving compliments can feel so uncomfortable, how cynicism masks vulnerability, and what “missing out” really means when it comes to FOMO. Michael opens up about his ongoing struggle with accountability—and Louie calls him out on it.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Louie and Michael answer a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability—diving into shame, repression, and the fear of emotional connection.Louie and Michael respond to a listener email about why men struggle with vulnerability, emotional awareness, and connection. They dig into childhood conditioning, gender norms, and how shame and emotional repression keep men stuck in outdated ideas of strength. The conversation explores therapy, communication, emotional literacy, masculinity, and healing, asking what it would take for men to feel safe being seen. Equal parts funny and introspective, this episode is a breakdown of why men feel regressed in vulnerability—and how to change that.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com-BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/-The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% off-Light Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III_____Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet.Louie and Michael dive into fawning, trauma responses, people-pleasing, and emotional safety. Michael opens up about childhood conditioning, codependency, and realizing how much of his life has been guided by the need to feel safe. The two unpack how emotional immaturity in parents leads to adult people-pleasing, and how learning new therapeutic language can lead to awareness, growth, and healing. A vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about therapy, emotional regulation, recovery, and trauma.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______________Gina Martin joins to talk misogyny, feminism, and emotional healing—how patriarchy, trauma, and compassion shape identity, relationships, and recovery.Louie and Michael talk with author and activist Gina Martin about misogyny, feminism, gender roles, and emotional safety. Gina breaks down how patriarchy, trauma, and apathy shape men’s and women’s behavior, and what true compassion, forgiveness, and accountability look like in relationships. They explore how to raise boys, gendered social conditioning, and why understanding systems—not just individuals—matters for change. This episode dives deep into feminism, empathy, recovery, therapy, and identity, offering an unfiltered look at how culture shapes our emotional lives.Gina Martin she/her is a British gender equality activist, writer and facilitator known for her work fighting gender stereotypes, misogyny, sexual violence and the manosphere. Gina was responsible for making upskirting illegal in England and Wales (with 3 countries following suit), and changing discriminatory Instagram policy. She is also a writer, has published three books and has a best-selling Substack. Gina now works in schools across Australia running workshops for high schoolers on gender stereotypes.Gina's IG: https://www.instagram.com/ginamartin/?hl=enGina's Substack: https://ginamartin.substack.com/Gina's Latest Book: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/452339/no-offence-but-by-martin-gina/9781529177572BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III______________Lou and Michael unpack wabi sabi, the beauty of imperfection—talking therapy, accountability, control, and what it means to be seen before you’re “fixed.”This week on Secondhand Therapy, Lou and Michael dive into the Japanese philosophy of wabi sabi—the art of imperfection—and unpack what it means to be seen while you’re still in pieces. They talk accountability versus blame, how guilt and control intertwine, and why savoring small moments might be the real therapy. With stories from real life and a mix of humor, ego, and introspection, this episode explores the messy middle of growth, relationships, and being human.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy.If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/The Maca Team:Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it.http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapypromo code: bearcub for 10% offLight Phone:Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it.https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymnpromo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III___________________________Michael and Lou unpack how childhood trauma fuels anxiety, codependency, and fear of abandonment. A raw mix of therapy insights, humor, and hard truths on boundaries, recovery, and self-worth.In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Michael and Lou dive deep into the messy intersections of childhood trauma, codependency, and the fear of abandonment. What starts as a simple conversation about space in friendship unravels into a raw exploration of why small conflicts can feel catastrophic, how anxiety distorts reality, and why it’s so hard to separate present struggles from old patterns.They talk candidly about boundaries, people-pleasing, and how growing up under constant fear leaves a permanent mark on self-worth. With sharp humor and unfiltered honesty, they reflect on therapy sessions, personal breakthroughs, and the exhausting cycle of trying to protect every relationship at the cost of their own peace.This is an episode for anyone who has wrestled with low self-esteem, overthinking, or the nagging belief that every disagreement might mean the end. Through laughter, vulnerability, and plenty of hard truths, Michael and Lou remind us that recovery is less about erasing the past and more about learning to live with it without letting it define us.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Codependency, boundaries, consent, and low self-esteem. Louie and Michael explore addiction, abandonment, and what it means to feel worthy of repair in relationships.In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, Louie and Michael unpack codependency, boundaries, and emotional safety. Louie reflects on a moment with his partner that highlighted the importance of consent, nervous system responses, and accountability in relationships. Michael shares insights from Codependents Anonymous meetings, exploring how low self-esteem, people-pleasing, and fear of abandonment shape codependent patterns. Together they discuss family dynamics, addiction, conflict avoidance, and the struggle to feel worthy of repair after ruptures. This conversation dives deep into how childhood experiences with addiction and dysfunction inform adult relationships, self-worth, and emotional expression.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Brad Garrett joins Secondhand Therapy for a candid conversation on mental health, addiction, recovery, and relationships. Together we examine how codependency and family dynamics shape adulthood, and why masculinity often blocks men from showing vulnerability. Garrett reflects on the recovery process, the challenges of identity, and how performance and humor can function as coping strategies. The episode explores men’s mental health, the role of vulnerability in healing, and the importance of reframing connection and personal growth beyond old family patterns.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Michael faces breakup blues while Louie shares dating advice from therapy. They dive into grief, guilt, family dynamics, and how relational thinking shapes love and connection.Michael is in the middle of the breakup blues, and Louie brings fresh dating advice straight from his therapist.This week on Secondhand Therapy, Michael opens up about how grief impacts the brain in ways similar to addiction, while Louie reflects on the guilt he feels enjoying his partner’s family more than his own. They explore why talking politics with family rarely works, and what therapy teaches about boundaries, guilt, and connection.Michael also unpacks the difference between relational and non-relational thinking, and how those patterns affect the way we approach love, conflict, and family.It’s a vulnerable, funny, and deeply relatable conversation about breakups, grief, dating, family dynamics, and learning how to navigate relationships without losing yourself.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Abortion advocate Sophie Nir joins us to unpack stigma, misinformation, and advocacy — from “abortion positivity” to global rights, men’s roles, and why abortion must be seen as a social good.Abortion is one of the most stigmatized topics in society — and this conversation takes it head-on.In this episode, we sit down with abortion advocate Sophie Nir to explore the realities of abortion rights, stigma, and advocacy. Together, we unpack:How stigma and misinformation shape the abortion debateWhy shifting to “abortion positivity” changes the conversationThe role of partners and men in supporting reproductive rightsThe global landscape of abortion vs. the unique challenges in the U.S.How language, culture, and politics influence the way abortion is understoodWhy abortion should be recognized as a social good, not a source of shameWe also share personal perspectives on identity, political beliefs, and the intersections of global conflicts — including Israel–Palestine — with conversations around justice, autonomy, and control of women’s bodies.It’s a raw, informative, and deeply personal discussion about reproductive rights, stigma, advocacy, and the urgent need for a cultural shift in how we talk about abortion.https://www.abortionpositivity.com/http://instagram.com/abortionpositivityhttp://tiktok.com/@abortionpositivityBUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredMichael admits failure embarrasses him. Louie confesses to a codependent moment. Together they explore imperfection, relationships, and what growth really looks like.In this episode, he shares how failure feels embarrassing, why imperfection is so uncomfortable, and what it means to be okay with being seen as flawed. Louie and Michael debate the phrase “figure it out” — is it tough love or secretly insulting?Michael opens up about practicing reliance and verbal processing with the people in his life, while Louie reflects on a recent codependent moment that sparks tension between them.It’s a vulnerable and funny conversation about trying new things, embracing failure, communication in relationships, and the messy process of personal growth.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Louie reflects on radical acceptance, family wounds, and whether he truly desires a connection with his father.This week, Louie and Michael unpack the idea of fatherhood — from the hypothetical qualities they wish they’d had in a dad, to what it means to grow up without a father figure. Louie challenges Michael’s story of not having one, and shares his perspective on who carries the responsibility for repairing parent–child relationships.Michael opens up about how codependency and avoidance have shaped his romantic life, especially in a long-distance relationship. He shares the painful reality of emotional whiplash — the push–pull, yo-yo effect — and how it impacts intimacy, trust, and connection.It’s a vulnerable and raw conversation about fathers, family dynamics, codependency, and the difficult process of learning to accept people as they are while still protecting your own emotional health.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Louie has a bone to pick with the audience over last week’s episode — and his therapist has thoughts.This week, Louie unpacks why being “hard to argue with” might be hurting his relationships, and what it really means to meet people where they are without losing yourself. Michael shares a fresh example of Louie’s dismissive side and opens up about the possibility of having Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).Louie reflects on a recent conversation with his mom that stirred unexpected discomfort, while Michael shares lessons from his CODA (Codependents Anonymous) meetings about boundaries, connection, and self-awareness.It’s an honest, funny, and vulnerable conversation about communication, self-growth, family dynamics, and the messy process of trying to show up authentically in relationships.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Michael and Louie get real about boundaries, control, and what it takes to accept people — especially family — as they are.This week, Louie opens up about deciding to accept his mom for who she is, letting go of the hope for a deeper emotional connection, and navigating the grief that comes with a more shallow relationship. Michael shares how childhood neglect, acts of service, and the loss of key family support have shaped the way he gives and receives love. Together, they unpack emotional walls (“the bricks”), codependency, the need for validation, and how old wounds show up in adult relationships. And then we get into a fight over communication. Autism vs ADHD: the Showdown.It’s raw, unfiltered, and sometimes hilarious — a deep dive into family dynamics, attachment, emotional boundaries, and why some conversations feel like battles.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Louie’s new therapist introduced him to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) — and it’s already getting personal.In what early listeners have called our "most beautiful episode yet"... Louie brings EFT-style attachment questions to the pod, exploring what he and Michael learned from their families about vulnerability, emotional safety, and connection. They reflect on how their mothers shaped their ability (or inability) to express feelings, the emotional roles they were expected to play, and what it means to unlearn emotional avoidance as adults.If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why is vulnerability so hard for me?” — this one’s for you.topics: emotionally focused therapy, EFT, therapy podcast, attachment styles, emotional vulnerability, childhood trauma, family dynamics, inner child healing, men’s mental health, emotional avoidance, healing relationships, therapy questions, how to be vulnerable, funny therapy podcastBUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comBetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Michael has a new therapist — again — and session one gets heavy fast.In this episode, Michael opens up about his childhood introduction to pornography, the grief of losing his mom, and how he's been (literally) conjuring her in his mind. He shares his fears around trying new things, the weight of codependency, and the haunting voice of his inner critic… which sounds a lot like his mother. Louie joins in to reflect on shame, identity, and the early experiences that shaped them both.It’s an honest, funny, and deeply emotional conversation about therapy, loss, childhood trauma, and learning how to grow without the people who shaped us — for better or worse.Topics: mental health podcast, grief and loss, inner critic, codependency, childhood trauma, therapy session, pornography addiction, men’s mental health, self-discovery, healing journey, comedy and grief, emotional resilience, parent wound, unlicensed therapy podcastBUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie can’t stop wondering if his therapist is a Trump supporter. Louie talks about the early sessions of starting therapy, including opening up about his depression, anxiety, and trauma through intake surveys. He also shares why he’s on a mission to find a hobby — and how it could transform every relationship in his life. Michael has a theory about why Louie hates schedules, and opens up about his own identity struggles. Together, they ask a big, uncomfortable question: Who gets to decide what makes someone a good person?It’s a vulnerable, funny, and deeply honest conversation about starting therapy, navigating mental health, identity, and the awkwardness that comes with trying to grow.Topics: mental health podcast, starting therapy, depression and anxiety, trauma recovery, identity and self-worth, therapy for men, funny therapy podcast, personal growth, male friendship, comedy meets vulnerability.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie and Michael just had intake sessions with their new therapists—and the experiences couldn’t have been more different. Louie returns to working with a woman therapist and unpacks what it’s like doing virtual therapy from the intimacy of your own space. He opens up about childhood trauma, the emotional impact of therapy on Zoom, and why his new therapist has never used social media—and what that says about mental health today.Meanwhile, Michael is adjusting to a new relationship dynamic and facing fear in unexpected places—including a moment when his partner fell asleep and he felt too anxious to go for a walk. The two discuss how fear of abandonment, relational anxiety, and early trauma still show up—then dive into a classic role play that spirals in the most chaotic (and healing?) way.If you're into therapy, emotional processing, relationship dynamics, or navigating modern mental health—this episode is for you.Who doesn't love muffins, ya know.Topics:Virtual therapy vs in-person sessionsFear of abandonment & relationship anxietySocial media and mental healthFirst therapy sessions and trauma discoveryRole play therapy (with laughs and breakthroughs) BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions involving sexual assault. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/ponybearstudioshttp://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon for Exclusives MERCH - Shop Merch Follow us here:  http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comThis episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tension between processing emotions vs. taking action, explore their very different approaches to therapy, and debate what real growth actually looks like. The episode takes a deeper turn as they confront generational trauma, emotional triggers, and what it takes to break toxic family cycles. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael unpacks a vivid dream that stirred up old wounds, leading to a raw conversation about how he’s really processed his grief. He and Louie dive into what “showing emotion” actually means—especially for men—and why crying in front of people feels impossible. Louie opens up about a therapy exercise that triggered a full-blown panic attack, and the episode takes a deeper turn as they both reflect on their childhoods and how it shaped them. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:How can I talk to you better?" vs. "What can we do differently?" Selfless care vs. reputation management Guilt-driven repair vs. genuine accountabilityThey dissect what it means to feel dismissed, how panic can hijack your intention, and why changing how you speak to someone isn’t always love — sometimes it’s self-erasure. It’s funny, it’s chaotic, and Also featuring: – “You hit me with a baseball!” – Weaponized ‘I miss you’s – A fake breakup that feels a little too real – Love on the spectrum – And Michael finally realizing he’s never actually thought before speaking 🙃 BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comThis is probably our most uncomfortable conversation so far... This week, we dive into the messy beauty of personal growth, family trauma, and the illusion of progress. Michael spirals into thoughts about mortality and uncovers patterns passed down through his family—aka the “family curse.” He opens up about feeling stuck, avoiding discomfort, and calling it self-improvement. Louie isn’t having it. He calls out the loopholes, the fake growth, and the safety blanket of the comfort zone. There’s tension. There’s truth. There’s laughter in between the heavy stuff. If you’ve ever felt stuck, lied to yourself in the name of growth, or wondered if your trauma is inherited—this one’s for you. mental health, therapy, self-awareness, generational trauma, comfort zone, vulnerability, personal development, funny therapy podcast BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie opens up about how music can unexpectedly trigger waves of grief — and reflects on the strangely beautiful reality that the world keeps moving after someone dies. Michael shares how his own experience of loss has shifted over time, revealing how grief evolves and reshapes our sense of self. Together, they explore the many forms grief can take — from deep sorrow to unexpected moments of connection and hope — and how it intersects with our mental health. Whether you're grieving a loved one, a relationship, or a version of yourself, this conversation offers comfort, perspective, and a reminder that you're not alone. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comSocial media boundaries in therapy, ADHD shutdowns, and how productivity shame messes with your self-worth. Starting therapy with someone new can feel… awkward. Louie shares about his first session with a new therapist, and the surprising comment he received on Instagram that sparked a deeper conversation. Should therapists follow you on social media? Meanwhile, Michael opens up about his ongoing struggles with ADHD, productivity shame, and what it’s like to emotionally shut down when tasks pile up. In this episode, we unpack: Awkward first sessions with new therapistsShould your therapist follow your Instagram?Therapy intake forms: too much too soon?ADHD, executive dysfunction, and self-worthThe emotional weight of productivity cultureIf you've ever questioned your therapist, your brain, or your to-do list — this one's for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie opens up about a vulnerable conversation with his girlfriend that challenged their relationship — all through the lens of parts work therapy. He shares how sitting with discomfort, rather than avoiding it, is transforming the way he shows up in partnership. Michael reflects on his own experience with parts work, revealing emotional memories connected to his mother — and how facing discomfort in therapy is reshaping his sense of self. This episode explores: Why discomfort in therapy can be your biggest breakthroughReal-life relationship challenges during inner workHow childhood parts show up in adult dynamicsWhether you're in therapy or curious about how emotional healing affects love, this one goes deep. New episodes weekly — follow to stay on your healing journey. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie has bronchitis and found his therapists Instagram — and why that might be a red flag. Michael dives deep into his fear of commitment, the emotional tension around flirting in monogamous relationships, and why he struggles with being perceived as “in trouble” for noticing other women. Together, they explore the blurry line between attraction and objectification, and how abandonment issues can sabotage intimacy. A raw, honest look at modern masculinity, emotional growth, and the complexity of romantic relationships. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comThis is the recording of our first live show. It was recorded December 19, 2024 in Los Angeles, CA.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
*Some names and details have been changed to conceal the identities of those who wish to remain anonymous. When Brittani Ard matches with Kanon on Hingesparks fly. Their first date revealed an instantconnection and chemistry.Kanon is devastatingly handsome with a charm that disarmed even the mostguarded heart—plus he is surprisingly emotionally available for a man in his forties. It’s as if the universe has conspired to bring them together, two soulmates destined to find each other. The couple spends the next five months diving fast into a whirlwind romance. Their connection so intense and their bond so deep that it seems like Brittani’s fairytale has finally found its happy ending. Until one weekend that changed her life forever. Executive Producer Brittani Ard Follow Brittani@Brittani.Ard on all platformsThis episode contains mentions of suicide.If you are having thoughts of suicide, please reach out to the resources below. Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Call or Text 988Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon for Exclusives MERCH - Shop Merch Follow us here:  http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Louie grapples with the question: When is the right time to return to therapy? After making progress, Louie wonders whether he should open up about his podcast with his new therapist. Alongside Michael, they explore the balance between what to share and what to keep private in therapy. When does context matter in conversations about mental health? Michael faces the challenge of shedding his "sad guy" identity and navigating how this shift impacts his relationships. Support the pod: http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here:  http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448Support the pod: PATREON - Join Patreon for Exclusives MERCH - Shop Merch Follow us here:  http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod http://instagram.com/itsloubear http://instagram.com/malonecomedy Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie and Michael unpack a shocking voice note from a listener who discovered her husband's infidelity while she was 9 months pregnant. The guys dive into the complexities of relationship trust, cheating, and how they might handle betrayal in their own lives. Tune in for a candid conversation on how to cope with infidelity, rebuild trust, and navigate difficult situations in relationships. If you've ever questioned what you'd do when trust is broken, this episode is a must-listen. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael returns from his tour and opens up about his struggles with staying grounded in one place. Together with Louie, they unpack the complexities of anxiety, how to recognize it in the moment, and share personal experiences of navigating anxiety triggers. Michael’s hilarious moment of contemplating asking a bus driver for help (LOL) leads to an insightful conversation on how different people cope with similar situations. Louie also dives deep into his decision to seek a male therapist and his concerns about working with a Black therapist. Does race play a role in therapy? Louie and Michael explore this topic while also touching on the challenges of feeling “too cool” for a therapist and the difficulties of breaking old habits—even when you’re just performing for others. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating mental health, therapy concerns, or anxiety, offering real and raw conversations about growth, healing, and self-awareness. Whether you’re dealing with mental health struggles or seeking insights on finding the right therapist, tune in for an honest and empowering discussion. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comJenny explores the best dating apps for relationships, including Hinge, Bumble, and Feeld, and gives advice on which platform may be most effective for finding a serious connection. We dive into the psychology of attachment styles as Jenny opens up about her own disorganized attachment style and how it leads to anxious-avoidant behavior in relationships. Jenny also shares her insights on the dating pool dynamics between men and women, especially as they age. Later in the episode, we explore a controversial theory: Is unconditional love worth less to some people? Jenny challenges the traditional notion of unconditional love in relationships and how it impacts emotional connections. The conversation then shifts to the current American political climate, touching on fascism, the idea of leaving the country, and how political turmoil influences mental health. Tune in for an engaging, thought-provoking conversation on dating, attachment theory, and political discussions, all with a focus on mental health and personal growth. Don’t miss this insightful episode! BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLouie opens up about a recent fight he had with his girlfriend – no therapy, just real talk. It's a classic relationship argument, and we're diving deep into it. We discuss emotional responsibility, codependency, communication breakdowns, and much more that came up during the fight. Michael pushes Louie to reflect on his actions and how he approaches tough conversations. Plus, Michael shares his struggles with overwhelm from everyday tasks and his frustration with self-prioritization. Don't miss this raw, honest discussion – we want to hear your thoughts!  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael shares his personal experience with starting Adderall for ADHD, offering a deep dive into how medication has shaped his mental health journey. He reflects on his hometown and the complexities of reconnecting with old memories, before diving into an uncomfortable conversation he recently had with an old friend. Lou offers a fresh perspective, challenging Michael to see things differently. The two explore the classic tale of the monkey and the fish, using it as a lens to discuss how we often brush off and normalize our own trauma. Michael opens up about a powerful memory of watching his mother grieve, shedding light on the emotional challenges of loss and healing. This episode is packed with personal stories, valuable insights, and a candid conversation about growth, trauma, and mental health. Whether you’re navigating ADHD, trauma, or simply looking for relatable discussions on mental health, this episode is for you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael reflect on a powerful voicemail they received about the aftermath of breakups and the grief that follows. Lou opens up about a past relationship where an ultimatum changed everything for him. The conversation shifts to a meaningful DM asking how women can better support the men in their lives—something Lou and Michael feel strongly about, as they've always connected more with women than men. They also dive into their thoughts on marriage—should it be viewed as a legal contract or something deeper? Lou gets raw and vulnerable to close out this emotionally charged episode. Listen to this episode for insights on:Navigating breakup grief and healing How women can show support to men Thoughts on marriage and its true meaning Vulnerability and emotional honesty in relationshipBUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comComedian and all-around good human, Ken Garr, joins the pod today. Ken discusses his history of being a black-out drunk alcoholic, with some stories that will make you think; before sharing his journey to being 8 years sober. He reflects on his addiction to toxic relationships and what he's learned through his 12-step program dealing with codependency. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael dives deep into his denial about anxiety and the fear of missing something, only to realize he’s been missing more than he thought. He opens up about the emotional impact of losing his mother and how it’s left him without a safety net. Michael also reflects on his tendency to quit things out of frustration and his hesitation to ask for help. As he lets go of his dreams of fame, he’s left searching for a new dream. Meanwhile, Lou explores his own fantasies and questions their true meaning, all while navigating the complexities of multiple truths. #Anxiety #MentalHealth #SelfDiscovery #NewPurpose #LifeStruggles #FameDreams #PersonalGrowth #SelfReflection #EmotionalHealing #MultipleTruths #SpotifyPodcast BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comIn an impromptu recording and conversation, Lou and Michael get into relationships. Asking for permission or checking in? Is cheating forgivable? What is cheating? Let's talk hypotheticals. Anxious attachments and building trust... or re-building trust? BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou walked out of therapy because he just wasn't feeling it; Michael did EMDR. Lou and Michael recount an uncomfortable conversation they had off-air. Michael has been challenged to take a serious look at himself and his patterns and be honest with himself. Michael reflects on his need to explain his behaviors before getting into shame. Lou and Michael debate intent versus impact before getting into what outward behaviors are actually rooted in self preservation.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou still hates a mismatch as he struggles with his desire to be more vulnerable. Lou and Michael discuss what it means to ask for emotional support. Lou's therapist dropped a bombshell on where shame comes from, especially if you had emotionally immature parents or if your parents always fixed your mistakes for you. Lou takes care of everything and hates it and loves it. Lou and Michael talk about whether we are alone in life. Sidenote: you can hear the extreme winds that spread fire across Los Angeles, throughout the episode. We did our best with the audio. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comIn a different type of episode, Lou and Michael break down an emotional conversation they had just before sitting down to record the podcast. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comIt's a new year, and Lou made a shirt. Lou had some difficulty reflecting on 2024, and connects it to his big-picture thinking. Lou had a bit of an existential therapy session and got into how the luxuries of today's society have dulled existence. Lou and Michael discuss what life is supposed to be. Lou is trying to get connected with his body more and be more intentional with presence. Michael opens up about his desire to be more social. OUR PHONES ARE RUINING US EVERY MINUTE. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael discuss their dynamic, relationship, communication style and everything else. They discuss comments, engagement, and the idea that listeners know them intrinsically. All of this is sparked by a message received on Patreon... Shoutout to Nikki. We love you. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael hammer out a little misunderstanding. Lou is checking in with his parts in a new way with new intention. Michael is still addicted to validation. Lou is struggling to come to terms with the parts of his father that live within him. Michael opens up about his childhood and his disbelief that he deserves love. Michael looks back on his last relationship. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou doesn't hate to be needed after all which ties into his main focus of being. Lou feels like he has to catch everything before it happens. Michael's ADHD has his to-do list floating around in the ether. Michael still prioritizes his external appearance over his internal growth. Lou and Michael compare their views on their phones affecting their presence. Michael talks about his past situationship that hurt him real bad. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou can't believe what Michael is doing in therapy. Lou saw his dad for the first time in four years... unplanned. Lou recaps his relationship with his father. Michael is coming to terms with loving his family but not necessarily liking them. Lou and Michael debate grief before discussing cutting people out of your life and closing the door on relationships. We finally figure out why Michael won't close the door.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou had a very existential therapy session this week. Why are humans the ones, ya know? Lou reflects on his phone and online shopping and the dopamine hit of a new match before getting into his swan song in therapy. Michael is starting a new exercise tracking points and he is already up ten thousand. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe’re talking about the emotional side of the election and Donald Trump’s victory before we get into understanding your needs as a human. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael pull cards from the game “We’re Not Really Strangers” which lead to conversations about when they’ve surprised themselves, curiosity vs judgement, cause and effect, what parts of themselves they see in each other and much much more. And then Lou shares something that rocks Michael’s world. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comIt's a deep dive into the complexities of modern relationships. Louie opens up about his struggles with balancing healthy boundaries and offering genuine love, while reflecting on his partner's perceived lack of effort in their shared home life. He explores the challenges of conflict resolution, emotional growth, and the fear of embracing vulnerable love. Michael shares powerful insights into how his father's influence shaped his current relationships, and how emotional well-being and self-acceptance impact his approach to love. The conversation takes a thought-provoking turn as Louie and Michael debate: Does love need to be earned? BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe couldn’t avoid it any longer. We’re talking about grief this week. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comThis is a deeper, heavier episode. Lou opens with a quick pickleball story. Feeling a bit down lately, Michael explores the reasons behind his funk, with Lou suggesting it might be for obvious reasons. The conversation delves into Michael's childhood experiences and his relationship with his parents, offering insights into how our past shapes our present. Tune in for an honest and relatable dialogue about mental health, personal growth, and the pressures of perfectionism! BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou shares his dream with a surprising message for Michael, sparking a discussion about self-reflection and personal growth before cussing out his Grandma. Lou reveals his new habit of mouth-taping during sleep. Lou may have a hygiene problem. Meanwhile, Michael candidly reflects on his professional journey, expressing feelings of backstepping and the sacrifices he’s made for his career. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comStay tuned after the episode for a little surprise! A sample of our weekly "After the Pod" only on Patreon! Lou shares his candid thoughts on why he struggles with therapy, particularly due to the scheduling during the day (not really). He reveals exciting news about finally getting scheduled for his autism and ADHD testing, highlighting the importance of understanding these neurodivergent experiences. Meanwhile, Michael embarks on his first EMDR session with a new therapist, diving into the transformative process of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. As Michael explores Internal Family Systems (IFS), he uncovers new parts of himself and reflects on the deep emotions tied to self-reliance. Topics discussed: therapy, autism, ADHD, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, self-discovery, mental health, neurodivergence, emotional healing, talk therapy. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comIn this insightful episode, Michael opens up about the side effects he's experienced from his ADHD medication. Join him and Lou as they explore their differing views on strangers discussing medication and the impact of mental health on daily life. Lou shares a humorous story about sliding into a celebrity's DMs—only to face rejection. The conversation takes a deeper turn as they address behind-the-scenes challenges in their podcast collaboration, highlighting the dynamics of their working relationship. As Lou dives into his Internal Family Systems (IFS) work, he reveals new aspects of himself that emerge when witnessing loved ones engage in self-destructive behaviors. He also candidly discusses his struggle with dissociation during parts work, while Michael confronts his discomfort in these emotional discussions. Listen in for a raw and honest dialogue about ADHD, medication, personal growth, and the complexities of relationships. Don’t forget to follow us for more episodes on mental health and self-discovery! #ADHD #MentalHealth #Podcast #PersonalGrowth #IFS #Medication #SelfAwareness #Relationships #SelfDestructiveBehavior #MentalWellness BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael has noticed that he used to be hot but now he's just cute. Lou doesnt care. Michael talks about the Ask Matrix and how his time with his new therapist is starting out. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael clears up a few things (a lot of things) from Episode 051 with regards to public perception, Snapchat and other things. Lou made a joke in therapy that didn’t land. Lou painted his toenails. Lou feels weak and embarrassed for missing his partner and had an uncomfortable conversation with her about it.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe talk about a break-up… BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael explores the impact of ADHD on his life, highlighting how it enforces a strict schedule due to executive dysfunction. He shares his struggles with all-or-nothing thinking and his pursuit of the ideal. Meanwhile, Lou, who is not usually fond of activities, reflects on his recent EMDR therapy sessions related to his past relationship and former partner. He discusses overcoming anxiety and wonders if it's time to share his personal story. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou got a vasectomy and afterward played a joke on his girlfriend. Michael’s words are not matching his actions in areas of his life… specifically with women. Michael’s continued struggle with boundaries might have made him a f*ck boy. How old is too old to have Snapchat? Okay but is Michael a f*ck boy or no? Michael is still addicted to validation but he really doesn’t want to be.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael and Lou delve into a thought-provoking discussion about communication and emotional challenges. Michael recounts a transformative family trip to the woods, where he faced miscommunication, lack of empathy, and emotional misalignment. He reflects on how his past frustrations surfaced during this experience. Lou shares insights from his own experiences with "verbal one-night stands," offering valuable lessons learned about the impact of words. Together, Michael and Lou explore the power of words and how they can sometimes be unintentionally hurtful. Michael also opens up about feeling isolated and misunderstood, especially within his family dynamics.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou recaps a compelling text from the podcast hotline, leading to a candid discussion about relationship expectations, accountability, and the hope for partner change. Lou shares his struggle with naming his feelings and reflects on a challenging situation that left his girlfriend heartbroken and its impact on him. Lou revisits childhood memories from Little Louie to explore why vengeance has been a key motivation for him. Learn about the surprising source of comfort Lou sought as a child and its influence on his emotional journey. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou dives into the unique challenges of being the sole member of your family pursuing self-improvement through therapy. He shares his personal journey and experiences in couples therapy, shedding light on the emotional and psychological impacts of seeking help. Michael opens up about his struggles with self-frustration, particularly around not learning from past mistakes and the role of people-pleasing in his life, especially in his relationship with his roommate. He explores the deep-seated shame he feels when setting boundaries and saying “no” to others. Additionally, Michael discusses the importance of dreaming intentionally and offers insights on how to harness your dreams for personal growth and mental well-being.  Topics discussed: mental health podcast, therapy, couples therapy, self-improvement, people-pleasing, setting boundaries, personal growth, intentional dreaming, mental well-being, emotional health. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Warning: This episode contains a discussion about suicide, suicidal thoughts and suicidal ideation. Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael talks about finding a surprise at his friend's house in Texas and it sparks thoughts and behaviors in him that he hasn't felt in quite awhile. Lou talks about the benefits of evolving with the right partner but also how sometimes your old habits creeps back in even when you're doing the work to keep them at bay.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael makes the mistake of mixing ADHD medication with coffee. Michael talks about the new feeling of being detached from your own reality before talking about his efforts of accepting positive feedback. Michael shares everything with everyone and Lou doesn’t. Lou is getting close to accessing shame in therapy. Lou gets into his childhood and how his upbringing probably wasn’t conducive to emotional development; Lou talks about his mom and hates it. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe welcome comedian Gabby Lamb to the sleuth today! Michael explores therapist transitions and his new ADHD medication. Lou reflects on philanthropy in Los Angeles. Is starting your day with news or social media detrimental? They share personal stories about upbringing and parental dynamics. Gabby dives into managing comments and her unyielding resolve. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael explore the impact of sharing beliefs on social media and the accessibility of voices online, amidst global issues. Lou reflects on his vision of an ideal life and its practicality, while Michael shares his heartfelt journey navigating Mother’s Day without his mom and grappling with time management and future planning. They also delve into the emotional toll of living apart from family and feeling disconnected from their everyday reality. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe welcome guest host Omono Okojie to the sleuth to talk all things existential dread! BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe welcome our good friend and comedian Jenny Zigrino to the sleuth to talk all things grief, coping and eating disorders BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comJoin Lou and Michael as they delve into the complexities of emotional support and personal growth in this enlightening conversation. Lou grapples with the possibility of entering his hippie phase, sparking a spirited debate with Michael. A profound revelation emerges as Lou confronts the stark reality of never having experienced physical affection, igniting a poignant discussion on the importance of human connection. Then, they get into a candid exploration of the ideal methods of support in times of emotional vulnerability, including the poignant question of how to comfort a friend in need. Unravel the intricacies of communication styles within families, as Michael sheds light on the concept of unconditional love. Gain valuable insights as Michael shares his journey towards reframing expectations and embracing gratitude. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe had a bit of an unforeseen and unprecedented recording this week...
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comJoin Michael and Lou in a transformative episode where they dive deep into personal growth journeys. Michael shares his breakthrough experience with ADHD medication, unveiling profound life changes. Delving further, they explore the struggle of finding intrinsic value in accomplishments. Lou sheds light on his quest to cherish the process rather than fixate on outcomes, resonating with Michael's journey. Additionally, Lou confronts the impact of his pursuit of perfection on his relationships, offering valuable insights for listeners. Tune in for an enriching conversation on embracing change, valuing the journey, and overcoming perfectionism. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael opens up about a recent emotional setback and his journey back to a place he's avoided for some time. Delve into Michael's struggles with self-forgiveness contrasted with his ease in forgiving others. Lou and Michael engage in a candid discussion on accountability and the importance of seeking and granting apologies. In a poignant moment, Lou reflects on a significant breakthrough in therapy, particularly regarding communication challenges. Together, Lou and Michael also share heartfelt experiences and dreams involving their deceased loved ones, offering a glimpse into the complexities of grief and healing. Tune in to gain valuable insights into navigating the intricacies of mental health, fostering forgiveness, and embracing breakthroughs in therapy. Don't miss out on this raw and authentic conversation. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comJoin Lou and Michael for a deep dive into relationships, anxiety, and personal growth on this episode. From questioning the duration of people's roles in our lives to navigating anxiety and ADHD, they share their candid experiences. Tune in as they explore the challenges of therapy and the liberating journey of shedding self-identities. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou is sick but still talks about his frustration doing parts work in therapy. Lou still struggles feeling silly, especially in therapy. Michael feels left out, even when he isn’t left out. Michael has started to lean into life more while he is also learning to dodge energy that isn’t for him. Michael hates kids, except one. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou looks different in glasses. Lou had a nice day outside enjoying the trees. Michael likes posting about his daily activities online while Lou hates it. Michael talks about accepting himself and not liking kids before Lou reveals his RAADS-R results. The boys debate how the majority should affect your behaviors. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou fills Michael in on some secrets he’s been keeping. Lou wants to start wearing glasses so he looks less scary. Michael reflects on seeing himself in others while he was on the road before unpacking how he has made grief his identity. Michael saw a psychic and learned some things. Michael is struggling with how he looks these days… or rather, who he looks like. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael thinks Lou is autistic. The boys unpack the surprisingly controversial Episode 030. Disclaimer: We do not mean any offense to anyone on the spectrum. This is a real conversation not intended to be insulting in any way. We have had this conversation in private and in therapy and thought it was important to share as adult diagnoses of autism are becoming more common as people navigate their mental health. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou had a really rough therapy session this week unpacking how his last relationship is affecting his current relationship. Lou talks about how his nervous system is taking over before diving in to his approach to being the best partner he can be. Michael talks about his growing loneliness before coming clean with the bear cubs about his recent breakup and the toll it's taking on him.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comGuest host Madison Bellissimo sits in with Papa Bear as Michael is out of town to talk all things love and struggle. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou talks about his first EMDR session before Michael voices his concern for not having a good memory. Lou challenges Michael on his approach and desire for healing. Michael and Lou debate what “normal” means. Michael quickly begins to feel his back against the wall and confronts Lou about it. Michael is trying to re-program himself.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Michael starts off dissecting his newfound daddy issues and how validation and disappointment plays into his life before getting into his younger self. Lou and Michael get into their individual desires to express more gratitude. Lou explores the dichotomy of having a great life but not feeling great all the time before discussing EMDR. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Michael is still people pleasing and discusses getting “in trouble” as a grown man. Lou and Michael debate the difference between disrespect and not giving a fuck before getting into talking to their younger selves and comparing their different views on validation. Michael needs a Mom again… right? BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Papa Bear has a life update that he has been hiding from the Bear Cubs for a few weeks; he comes clean before opening up about some new struggles. Michael discusses his fear of not being enough for potential partners before getting into his realization that he needs a hobby. Michael has an epiphany about his anxiety. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____We welcome comedian Lara Beitz to the sleuth to talk all things mental health. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou still can’t cry and may be getting closer to knowing why before talking about getting closer with his therapist and how he feels defeated in therapy lately. Michael is still a people pleaser and talks about how outside opinions help him make progress. Michael and Lou discuss goal-setting in personal and professional aspects.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou is kinda grumpy; Michael has no interest in learning how to be alone. Michael talks about sacrificing all of his needs in order to please those around him before detailing how he gets into the hole of isolation.  Lou talks about being in touch with his body and how that affects one’s nervous system. The boys discuss their different approaches to swag. Lou wants to cry but still hasn’t. Yet. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael discuss their very different relationships with their fathers and their ideologies regarding families and forgiveness. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comTrigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault. We welcome Hanorah to the sleuth to discuss all things anxiety, PTSD, self-love and more! Hanorah is multidisciplinary artist based out of a small studio filled with cats, canvases, and glittered tape recorders in Montreal’s west end. With years of touring under her belt (including several television appearances and supporting the likes of Mavis Staples and Lee Fields), she recently took time to plunge back into song writing and forge a new musical direction. What emerged was a collection of songs highlighting the overlap between maturity and the enduring charm of playfulness. Music that journeys through emotions of the past and present, as she blurs the lines between the recurring cycles of time, choice, and circumstance. In short, her first full length album ‘Perennial’. A work packed with soulful ballads and RnB grooves as it digs deeper into Hanorah’s musical roots to explore the lush tones and textures of her voice. Influenced by the likes of Etta James and Joni Mitchell, the combination of Hanorah’s powerful voice and the vulnerability of her messaging naturally drew her to soul music. Following an early record deal, she released her debut EP ‘For The Good Guys And The Bad Guys’ in 2019. The record amassed over a million streams, won her several awards, and helped her tour extensively through Canada and the U.S. In 2022, Hanorah released her debut album Perennial through Ensoul records. In its initial month, the first singles amassed over 50,000 streams on Spotify and 60,000 views on YouTube. The release was met with wide anticipation. It was featured on over 20 radio stations across Canada and multiple spots on editorial playlists through Spotify. Exclaim! Magazine listed the album as a ‘staff pick’ for 2022 and she performed several tracks on the hit Quebec TV show Belle et Bum. The band is currently on tour supporting the album, with stops at Liverpool Sound City and Focus Wales in the UK, as well as Los Angeles, CA (Pop Montreal) and Austin, TX (SXSW). BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou and Michael discuss their different experiences from a recent party they attended before getting into their strong opinions regarding people asking you to remove your shoes at their house. Michael has a theory on Lou’s opposition to small talk. Michael reveals his surprise feelings of loneliness recently before getting into his struggle with codependency.  Lou and Michael discuss the idea of choosing happiness before Michael gets into his difficulties processing emotions. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comTrigger Warning: This episode contains discussions related to sexual assault, child abuse, pedophilia. suicide, suicide attempts. We welcome Siliva Saige to the sleuth to discuss her difficult journey from childhood to becoming a star in adult entertainment. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou is still talking about his newfound fear of relationships; his therapist gives him a crash course on attachment styles and boundaries before he explains how it can be all tied to a discomfort about identity. Lou and Michael talk about how misery can be comforting before Michael talks about his melancholy Thanksgiving where he fell into a dark hole of grief.  Michael talks about embracing the disgruntled employee that lives within all of us. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou reveals his strategy for dealing with breakups before Michael gives his thoughts on anger and retaliation that follows cheating. Lou talks about dealing with feelings of rejection in the dating world.  Michael talks about his recent business trip where he implemented some new self-love tactics before getting into his desire to unlock some childhood memories in therapy. Lou and Michael talk more about Lou’s recent rejection. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael talks about a dream he recently had that really messed with him before contemplating how he’s processed his grief.  Lou and Michael debate what showing emotion actually looks like while sharing their difficulties crying in front of people.  Lou talks about an exercise from his therapy session that sent him into a panic attack before he and Michael talk about their childhoods. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael talks about his new confidence since getting his teeth fixed and how his therapist tied it back to his struggle with self-love. Lou and Michael discuss self-awareness when it comes to showing up in relationships. Lou figures out why he can’t be late before his therapist gets into the weeds regarding his lifelong use of humor as a shield. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe welcome Behavioral Specialist Laurie Singer to the sleuth today to talk all things grief, anxiety, self-worth, ADHD and more. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou starts off discussing having prepared answers ready for vulnerable conversations before talking about calling his therapist out for using “therapy talk.” Lou and Michael discuss empathy; Lou finally figured out why he struggles with it. Michael and Lou discuss social media and how their opinions on it differ. Michael talks about a big takeaway from the book he’s currently reading. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael ponders his struggle with anxiety and control before unpacking how he protects his partners from his flaws in relationships. Lou and Michael discuss monogamy and the idea of legacies. Lou talks about his recent thoughts regarding having kids before taking you through an anxiety-filled exercise from his recent therapy session. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou recaps the final session with his current therapist before he moves on with a new therapist. Michael and Lou ponder what “normal” life looks like before contemplating the differences between men and women. Michael opens up about his experience with losing interest in past relationships. Lou and Michael debate what the majority or romantic relationships look like. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou didn’t have therapy this week and Lou really needed therapy this week.  Lou talks about how a small crush led him into his feelings of the past.  Lou and Michael discuss the stresses of moving and difficulties of finding a place to live in Los Angeles.  Michael talks about uncovering an old journal and the entries sending him into reflection about his past.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou is in a mood and we never really find out why.  Lou talks about his recent day at Disneyland.  Michael and Lou talk about the viral 75 Hard Challenge and Michael’s take on his own version before discussing the likelihood of implementing permanent change. Lou talks about his new revelation from therapy that there are no good or bad decisions. Finally, Michael has had enough and the boys fight. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comMichael and Lou discuss some negative feedback they received about the podcast before they get into Michael’s addiction to inner conflict. Lou hates being late and discusses his recent hypocrisy-filled rage situation. Lou discovered he needs to find a new therapist.  BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comWe couldn’t avoid it any longer. We’re talking about grief this week. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou is not hoeing. Michael has been throwing anger tantrums; Lou talks about mindfulness helping him overcome his past anger before they debate healing your inner child versus living in the past. Lou and Michael dip their toes into discussing grief. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comLou talks about never having had his “ho era” and his recent desire to start hoeing.  Lou details a recent experience he had in the ho world. Lou and Michael discuss societal norms and the ideas of monogamy and marriage. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com_____Lou and Michael discuss their respective issues with body image before getting into the effects of self-talk. Lou still doesn’t care if you like him. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com_____Lou expresses his desire to show more gratitude in life. Michael talks about his breakthrough in therapy and possibilities of why he doesn’t like himself. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.comFollow us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105Cover Art Design: Louie PaolettiTheme Music: Jamie Franks
Support the pod:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodMERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com_____Lou and Michael discuss their love languages and attachment styles before considering whether unconditional love is a real thing. Lou talks about his recent experience dating a 26 year-old. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@shtpod.comFollow us here:http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105Cover Art Design: Louie PaolettiTheme Music: Jamie Franks
Get acquainted with your hosts, Lou Paoletti and Michael Malone, as they give a rundown of what to expect on Secondhand Therapy. Support the pod:  http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod http://secondhandtherapypod.com