Borrowed Wisdom #1: The One Thing Underneath Every Resentment, Every Lie, and Every Defect
Borrowed Wisdom #1: The One Thing Underneath Every Resentment, Every Lie, and Every Defect  
Podcast: Recovering Out Loud
Published On: Tue Jun 16 2026
Description: This is the first in a new series — Borrowed Wisdom — where I share the greatest recovery speaker tapes that saved my life. Every resentment I've ever had came from fear, and a speaker named Bob broke that wide open for me.In this solo episode I pull the highlights from a speaker tape that's saved my ass more times than I can count, and I reflect on what each line means in my own recovery. We get into why we lie out of fear instead of malice, why the voice in your head projects the worst-case every time (and is almost always wrong), the difference between faith and trust — the wheelbarrow on the tightrope — and why every character defect comes with a "cookie" attached. We close on the paradox that the longer I stay sober, the more help I actually need.If you've ever stayed stuck in a resentment, talked yourself out of something before you even tried, or wondered why "letting go" feels impossible — this one's for you.If no one's told you today: I love you. Recovery is simple, not easy.▶ Follow the show so you don't miss the next one. 📩 Want the full talks? DM me on Instagram @recoveringoutloudpod — I'll send them over.0:00 Why these talks saved my life2:08 Meet Bob: fear, faith, and "take what you like"3:13 Every resentment is really fear4:36 You're not a liar — you're afraid7:40 Your brain projects the worst (thank God it's wrong)9:21 Deathbed regret: the things you were afraid to try10:26 Successful people are willing to look stupid11:31 Everything you want is on the other side of fear12:28 Faith vs. trust: get in the wheelbarrow15:04 Why "not enough" is my greatest asset16:10 Every defect has a cookie attached18:08 Everything I let go of has claw marks on it18:32 Amends enhance you — they don't diminish you19:44 Turning my worst traits into assets22:28 25 years sober and needing more help than ever24:42 Run your best thinking past someone first26:55 Recovery is simple, not easy