What You THINK You Want In A Partner Is Ruining Your Love Life
What You THINK You Want In A Partner Is Ruining Your Love Life  
Podcast: The Liz Moody Podcast
Published On: Wed Aug 26 2026
Description: I chat with a top relationship researcher who shares shocking data on what actually leads to a compatible, successful relationship. If you want to know if you’ve found the one, or what you should actually be looking for while dating, this episode is for you. Dr. Paul Eastwick is a professor of psychology at UC Davis. He has led dozens of studies on the science of attraction, and he's the author of the best-selling book Bonded By Evolution. In this episode, he shares the real data around the relationship questions or thoughts we’ve all had. 🎧 What you’ll learn: • Why the traits we think matter most for compatibility (values, politics, looks) barely predict long-term relationship success • What men and women actually want in a partner vs. what they say they want • The two-part psychological framework that predicts whether your relationship will thrive long-term • Why physical attraction to your partner works completely differently than "objective" hotness • The real reason attraction fades and how couples can bring it back • The #1 warning sign that a relationship is heading toward a breakup • Why "love at first sight" happens to some people and not others • The truth about red flags, sparks, and soulmates • One simple daily habit to transform how you show up in relationships For more from Paul Eastwick: • Podcast, Love Factually: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-factually/id1766543146 • Book, Bonded by Evolution: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0593593987?tag=randohouseinc7986-20  • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pauleastwick/  Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now!  Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome.Buy our cute sweatshirts, conversation cards, and more at https://shop.lizmoody.com/. Use our discount codes from our  highly vetted and tested brand partners by visiting https://www.lizmoody.com/codes.  To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: • Puori: visit https://Puori.com/LizMoody and use code LIZMOODY at checkout for a discount and special offer. • LMNT: head to DrinkLMNT.com/Liz to get a FREE 8-count sample pack with any order. • Timeline: visit Timeline.com/Liz to save up to 39% off. • OneSkin: go to OneSkin.co/Liz and use code LIZ to get 15% OFF for a limited time. • IQBar: text LIZ to 64000 for 20% off.  The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 460. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices