How Parents Sabotage Habits in Kids (and What Actually Helps Them Stick) (Episode 195)
How Parents Sabotage Habits in Kids (and What Actually Helps Them Stick) (Episode 195)  
Podcast: The Art of Raising Humans
Published On: Mon Jan 19 2026
Description: Most parents want their children to be responsible, capable, and independent.But when it comes to building habits, morning routines, homework, chores, hygiene, emotional regulation, many well-intentioned parents accidentally sabotage the process without realizing it. In this episode of Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara break down the most common ways parents unintentionally derail habit building in kids, tweens, and teens, and what actually helps habits stick without nagging, shaming, or taking over. You’ll learn why becoming the reminder, lecturing, rescuing, using shame, or expecting adult-level consistency backfires and how habits grow instead through ownership, scaffolding, realistic expectations, and nervous-system safety. This episode covers:Why habits fail when parents carry the responsibilityHow shame, anger, and pressure shut down learningWhat to do instead of lecturing or remindingHow to use visual supports and external reminders effectivelyWhy consistency matters more than perfectionHow to scaffold habits without creating dependenceWhat repair looks like when things fall apart This conversation reframes habit building as a developmental skill, not a motivation problem and offers practical tools parents can use immediately to reduce power struggles and build lasting responsibility. If you’re tired of repeating yourself and wondering why habits won’t stick, this episode will help you stop unintentionally getting in the way and start supporting real growth. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-parents-sabotage-habits-in-kids-and-what-actually-helps-them-stick Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Resource Website: https://www.artofraisinghumans.com Video Courses: https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/artofraisinghumans Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artofraisinghumans Podcast Website: https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com Book List:https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/booklist  The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.