Tantrums, Defiance, and Big Feelings
Tantrums, Defiance, and Big Feelings  
Podcast: When Millennials Become Moms
Published On: Tue Mar 17 2026
Description: This week we’re talking all about tantrums and what’s really going on beneath them. We start with a few life updates including making our own cream-top coffee at home (and the cups we love from Elk & Friends) and Emily’s latest obsession with Dubai chocolate. Then we dive into a real-life parenting moment when Natasha helped a friend navigate her four-year-old’s meltdown and what it revealed about how kids process big emotions. From there, we break down practical ways to prevent tantrums before they start including preparing the night before, recognizing that different kids need different approaches, and how to handle older kids who may show their frustration through defiance. We also talk about the surprising lessons these moments teach us about ourselves as parents, the importance of modeling how to calm our own bodies, and how the environment in a child’s bedroom can actually influence behavior and emotional regulation. Links: Dubai chocolates - https://amzn.to/4lzsQ8Q Irish soda bread  - https://www.wowbakesla.com/shop/8o9q3co15z1lo26fgizex9vyg0yurd 1:00- Making our own cream top coffee and elk and friends cups  1:30 - Emily enjoying dubai chocolates  3:00- 4 year old tantrum and how Natasha walked her friend thru her daughters tantrums  7:00 - Preparing the night before to prevent tantrums  13:00- Different kids - different approaches  16:00 - Helping older kids who are defiant  17:00- What we learned about ourselves in these teaching moments with our kids  18:00- Modeling ways to calm our bodies  22:00 - setting up the kids room to help prevent tantrums  23:00- How a kids bedroom impacts their behavior