Most People Aren’t Gaslighting You — They’re Lying to Themselves
Most People Aren’t Gaslighting You — They’re Lying to Themselves  
Podcast: Decoded | Unlock The Secrets of Human Behavior, Emotion and Motivation
Published On: Thu Jan 08 2026
Description: Gaslighting is one of the most misused psychological terms on social media — and most people don’t actually understand what it means.In this episode, we break down what gaslighting really is, why it’s often misidentified, and the uncomfortable reality most conversations avoid:Most gaslighting is not intentional manipulation. It’s self-deception and distorted perception.In this episode you’ll learn:The real definition of gaslighting vs how the term is used onlineThe difference between objective reality and subjective perceptionWhy projection is the most common cause of gaslightingHow brain patterns distort perception under stressThe difference between intentional gaslighting and unconscious behaviorEveryday examples of accidental gaslighting in relationships, families, and workHow childhood exposure to gaslighting affects adult behaviorWhy accusing someone of gaslighting often makes conflict worseWhat to say instead of “you’re gaslighting me”This episode explains how assumptions, emotional reactivity, and perception gaps create confusion and conflict — even between well-intentioned people. It also explains why labeling someone as a gaslighter rarely leads to resolution or accountability.If you’ve ever felt confused after a conversation, questioned your own memory, or wondered whether perception itself might be part of the problem — this episode will change how you see gaslighting.Brain Pattern Mapping identifies how your brain distorts reality under stress and helps you interrupt these patterns before they damage your relationships. Head to: www.predictivemind.ioOur Show SponsorsMy Trusted Peptide Supplier and products I'm taking: www.elliemd.com/bizziegoldMy favorite sauna - heats instantly, portable and low EMF use code: BGHEAL for $200 OFF: https://www.healingsauna.com/bizzie?rfsn=8731070.5183d1