464. Why You Never “Deserve” or “Don't Deserve” Anything, Ever
464. Why You Never “Deserve” or “Don't Deserve” Anything, Ever  
Podcast: UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Published On: Thu Feb 05 2026
Description: There’s a word many of us use to feel validated or justified that actually keeps us stuck in self-doubt. Whether it sounds like “I deserve this” or “maybe I don’t deserve that,” this way of thinking quietly turns your life into a moral evaluation instead of a place where you get to make choices.In this episode, I explain why the idea of “deserving” is a mental trap and how it reinforces shame, second-guessing, and the belief that you need permission to want, enjoy, or change something. I share a different framework for relating to desire, hardship, and agency so you can stop debating your worth and start deciding what you want to experience instead.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/464Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:FREE GUIDE: The Top Three Things I Wish I Had Known Before Becoming A CoachThe world needs coaches. The world needs our work. The world needs your specific perspective, your experiences, your special sauce. Even if you don’t know that yet, I do. And I want to help you get there. Download this guide at https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threethingsClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach