128: Critique Over Criticism: Emma Murray on Learning Faster Under Pressure
128: Critique Over Criticism: Emma Murray on Learning Faster Under Pressure  
Podcast: The Dwayne Kerrigan Podcast
Published On: Wed Feb 25 2026
Description: In Part 2 of this conversation, Emma Murray and Dwayne Kerrigan move from awareness into practical performance tools. Emma introduces one of the most powerful distinctions in high performance: critique versus criticism.She explains why self-criticism is a survival response that quietly destroys confidence, slows learning, and locks people into repeated mistakes. Through examples from elite sport, sales, leadership, parenting, and everyday life, Emma breaks down how to review performance by examining the entire process — thoughts, feelings, actions, and results — rather than attacking outcomes or identity.The conversation also dives into fear-based leadership, tunnel vision, stress responses, and why people perform worse when they feel watched, pressured, or unsafe. Emma shares actionable techniques to regain presence under pressure, including breath, body awareness, and “small focus” anchors that keep the mind out of fight-or-flight. This episode equips leaders, entrepreneurs, and performers with a repeatable framework for learning faster, leading better, and performing consistently — even when stakes are high.Episode Highlights:00:00 – Emma on self-kindness under pressure and stopping the internal threat response01:00 – Dwayne intro + framing Part 2: turning attention and mindset into action02:00 – Critique over criticism: how thoughts drive feelings, actions, and results03:30 – Outcome focus vs process focus and why pressure hijacks performance05:05 – How to critique the entire performance process (thinking, feeling, doing)06:40 – Turning failure into growth by extracting the right lessons08:00 – Why quarterly reviews fail and daily reflection matters09:45 – Coaching teams beyond checklists and task correction11:25 – A-game vs B-game language and building awareness in teams13:40 – Leaders, fear, control, and psychological safety15:30 – Running toward outcomes vs accessing creativity and big-picture thinking17:30 – The “flashlight of attention” metaphor for leaders and parents19:40 – Stress responses, presence, and anchoring attention (breath, feet, listening)22:00 – Training attention as a performance muscle25:45 – Stress cycles, recovery, and sustainable performance29:10 – Introduction to the Closed Eye Process and presence training32:00 – Deep dive: critiquing vs criticizing explained step-by-step36:30 – Survival wiring, subconscious files, and performance memory39:30 – The CHIMP brain, danger signals, and slipping into B-game42:30 – Small controllable focus as the pathway back to A-gameKey Takeaways:Critique examines process, not personal worthThoughts drive feelings, feelings drive actions, actions drive resultsGrowth comes from extracting learnings — not from failure aloneFear narrows focus and creates tunnel visionSmall, controllable focus prevents fight-or-flightConnection reduces fear and restores executionQuotes:“Failure does not give you growth if you are not actually eliciting the lessons from it.” - Emma Murray“Feet on floor, bum on chair … Bring your attention to your feet, your bum, your breath … those things are gonna anchor you back into the present moment” - Emma Murray“When all this fails, use your breath” - Emma Murray“The human mind cannot carry two thoughts simultaneously.” - Dwayne KerriganResources MentionedCritique Over Criticism FrameworkA-Game / B-Game Performance ModelCHIMP Paradox – Dr. Steve PetersClosed-Eye Process Emma is sought-after by ASX 100 corporations, executives, and the education sector for her unique High Performance Mindfulness practice that drives sustainable improvements in performance, by providing the skills and tools that enable participants to bring their 'A-Game' to high-pressure moments.Website: https://www.emmamurray.com.au/Instagram: www.instagram.com/highperformancemindfulnessFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/em.murray.mindcoach/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/high-performance-mindfulness/Connect with Dwayne KerriganFacebookInstagramLinked InWebsiteDisclaimer: The views, information, or opinions expressed by guests during The Dwayne Kerrigan Podcast are solely those of the individuals involved and do not necessarily represent those of Dwayne Kerrigan and his affiliates. Dwayne Kerrigan or The Dwayne Kerrigan Podcast is not responsible for and does not verify the accuracy of any of the information contained in the podcast series. The primary purpose of this podcast is to educate and inform. Listeners are advised to consult with a qualified professional or specialist before making any decisions based on the content of this podcast.