People-pleasing everyone but ourselves | Tips from an ADHD Coach
People-pleasing everyone but ourselves | Tips from an ADHD Coach  
Podcast: MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel
Published On: Tue Apr 15 2025
Description: Many people with ADHD, especially women, consider themselves people pleasers. It can become a habit to start putting others first without thinking, even when it goes against what we really want. This can lead to some resentment down the line. This week on Tips from an ADHD Coach, Jaye talks about how pleasing others all the time can turn from selfless into self-serving. Listen for tips on what to do if we’ve spent our whole lives trying to please others at a cost to ourselves. Related resourcesADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)Setting boundaries in relationships with ADHDCore values exerciseTimestamps(00:39) Laura’s quote(03:08) ADHD and people pleasing(07:49) When people pleasing changes from selfless to self-serving(10:37) What can we do?(13:25) Recap For a transcript and more resources, visit the Tips from an ADHD Coach show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdcoachtips@understood.org. ADHD Unstuck is a free, self-guided activity from Understood.org and Northwestern University designed to help women with ADHD boost their mood and take small, practical steps to get unstuck. In about 10 minutes, learn why mood spirals happen and get a personalized action plan of quick wins and science-backed strategies that work with your brain. Give it a try at Understood.org/GetUnstuck.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.