300: The Pace of Childhood (And Why You’re Rushing It)
Podcast: Oh Crap with JamiePublished On: Tue Feb 24 2026
Description: Today we’re talking about something that’s been itching at me for years:We are not moving at the pace of childhood.We are expecting children to move at our pace — the adult pace, the productivity pace, the overstimulated world pace — and then wondering why behavior is exploding.In this episode, I unpack:Why childhood is inherently slowHow rushing creates behavioral problemsThe difference between micro pace (the hike) and macro pace (your life)Why “I don’t have time” is showing up everywhereVelcro shoes, sippy cups, and lost life skillsWhy simplifying your words changes everythingWhy repeating yourself 50 times takes longer than slowing down onceHow cooperation increases when you match their paceThe environment → behavior connectionWhy 80/20 is the real goalHow overscheduling is stealing childhoodIf your kid is:“Not listening”Melting down constantlyMoving painfully slowStruggling with life skillsOr fighting you every morningYou may not have a discipline problem.You may have a pace problem.Childhood is slow.It is curious.It is stop-and-look-at-the-ant slow.It is puddle-jumping slow.It is shoe-tying frustration slow.And when we try to override that with adult urgency, kids respond.Slow down doesn’t mean do nothing.It means simplify.It means speak less.It means meet them where they are.Try this weekend:Go on a walk.Let your child lead.Feel how uncomfortable it is.Then notice what shifts.As always — put your phone down.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
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