The Myth of Normal and the Pressure to Fix Yourself, with Ashlyn Thompson
The Myth of Normal and the Pressure to Fix Yourself, with Ashlyn Thompson  
Podcast: Don't Cut Your Own Bangs
Published On: Mon Mar 09 2026
Description: What if the problem isn't that you're broken… but that you've been handed a measuring stick that was never made for you in the first place? In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend Ashlyn Thompson for a deeply honest conversation about the pressure to keep fixing yourself, the myth of "normal," and how easy it is to confuse self-growth with self-rejection. Ashlyn opens up about life as a medical mom with ADHD and the layered complexity of trying to function in a world that constantly suggests there's a better, more optimized, more "together" version of you just waiting on the other side of the right routine, system, planner, diagnosis, or breakthrough. Together, we explore what happens when the pursuit of becoming "better" starts to feel exhausting instead of supportive. We talk about the difference between self-renovation and self-reclamation, why "normal" is often a flawed and painful benchmark, and how to start listening for what actually fits you instead of forcing yourself into what looks right from the outside. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt like a project. Anyone who has ever thought, Why does this feel so hard for me? Anyone who is tired of chasing the version of themselves they think they're supposed to become. There's a lot of truth in this one. And also a lot of relief. In this episode, we talk about: The myth of normal and why "average" is not the same thing as healthy The pressure to constantly improve, optimize, and reinvent yourself How self-help can quietly become another form of self-criticism The difference between seeking growth from love versus from shame Why "within range" doesn't always mean well The emotional toll of feeling like you don't fit the world around you How to notice what actually feels good, safe, warm, and true for you Why creativity, play, and small moments of delight matter more than we think The difference between problem-solving and solution-seeking A gentler way to ask: What would make this feel a little easier? Resources Mentioned Ashlyn Thompson's podcast — Empowered by Hope https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/empowered-by-hope/id1658629344 Parent Empowerment Network https://parentempowermentnetwork.org/ Good follow-up listens from Don't Cut Your Own Bangs Bridge to Believed: A Mindful Rant and Release (https://youtu.be/uzXuD-xvyyc)  A solo episode on what to do when everything feels like too much, how to stop fighting your feelings, and how to come back to yourself in real time. Pain as a Professor (https://youtu.be/QrZg4lKwxSg)  A previous conversation with Ashlyn about pain, perspective, and how hard things can shape us without defining us.   Help the show grow If this episode resonated with you, it would mean the world if you: Follow or subscribe to Don't Cut Your Own Bangs Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Share this episode with a friend who might need this message today Word of mouth is how this community grows, and I'm so grateful you're here.