007 – I’m Great With My Family, They Love Me For Me
007 – I’m Great With My Family, They Love Me For Me  
Podcast: Who Am I Really?
Published On: Sat Aug 29 2020
Description: As a child Denise’s family blamed her for a tragedy that took the life of her younger brother. They mistreated Denise and her tyrannical stepfather ultimately saw the children as a means to his own financial gain. She took drastic steps to get herself kicked out of the house on a path to her own independence.Today, Denise has found love in a supportive husband. Now she knows what love feels like, and has the experiences that come from a supportive extended family. But her own son, who didn’t know his own father growing up, now has a similar nagging feeling that Denise had to connect with her own family. She has resolved to surround herself with positivity and love in order to move on in a positive direction with her life.The post 007 – I’m Great With My Family, They Love Me For Me appeared first on Who Am I...Really? Podcast.Denise:                        00:02               I've always searched for him. I've always wanted to know him. I mean, I, you know, I always have, especially my dad. I mean his parents used to be the king and Queen at the fair and um, I went there every year, just tried to get a glimpse of him. I had no idea what they looked like, but I still wanted to know them.Voices:                        00:26               Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I?Damon:                       00:37               This is, Who Am I Really, a podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. Hey, it's Damon and my guest today is Denise. I contacted Denise online after I read her post in an adoption support group on Facebook called I Am Adopted. I reached out to her to be supportive because I sensed some real pain and deep emotions from her online. It turns out she didn't have a conventional adoption. The way I typically think of them and her childhood wasn't a typical childhood at all. A tragedy in her childhood, left her extended family, blaming her for their sad loss, which turned into mistreatment and a hard childhood in the aftermath. She always wondered where her biological father was and why he never came to rescue her. Here's what Denise shared with me.Denise:                        01:26               Hello Damon!Damon:                       01:26               How are you?Denise:                        01:28               I am good.Damon:                       01:29               Excellent. It's really good to meet you.Denise:                        01:32               Yeah, online!Damon:                       01:33               I was so interested to see your posts in the I am adopted Facebook group. It sounds like you have just such an interesting story. So I mean you, it sounds really complex. So if you would just do me a favor and take me back to your childhood in the beginning in your family and tell me a little bit about what adoption was like in your family and in your community.Denise:                        01:58               Okay. Um, it's not a typical adaption. Um, I was, had a happy childhood for the first three years. My mother and I, well actually, yeah, three years. My mother and I lived with her parents and, um, my dad, as far as I knew was in the service over, I don't know, I was 1954 so I haven't know where he was at that time, but my dad was over there and then all of a sudden we moved from grandma and Grandpa's and there's a guy that's not my dad and he's now my mom's husband.Damon:                       02:31               Your stepdad.Denise:                        02:31               And so my Stepdad, right. So, um, things were okay until my little brother, um, died in the fire. I was four and he was three.Damon:                       <a...