015 – We Wish We Could Have Grown Up Together
015 – We Wish We Could Have Grown Up Together  
Podcast: Who Am I Really?
Published On: Sat Jul 06 2019
Description: David tried to find his birth mother in the early 90’s in California. He received non-identifying information back then, but it wasn’t much to act on at the time. Later, in 2015, motivated by his wife and his “lifetime sister”, he embarked on an intense collaboration with his adoption search angel Priscilla. Together they discovered his mother’s name and her location. David found an incredible photograph of his mother in the public library’s archives and was hopeful he would meet her soon. Unfortunately, he was too late to meet her in person. But in the end, he gained a full blooded sister that he didn’t even know he had. They get along great, and wish that they had grown up together.The post 015 – We Wish We Could Have Grown Up Together appeared first on Who Am I...Really? Podcast.David (00:03):The very first link I clicked on the screen slowly, you know, was showing an image and it was my mother in her wedding dress. It was the picture from that article. There was a young couple next to me and I just looked over and I said, that's my mom,Voices (00:26):Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I? Who am I?Damon (00:33):This is Who Am I, Really? A podcast about adoptees that have located and connected with their biological family members. Hey, it's Damon. On the show today, I'm joined by David. He grew up in Southern California with one adopted sister whom he lovingly refers to as his lifetime sister. David remembers the day when his family went to pick up Jennifer when she was adopted and they both grew up knowing they were adoptees. He said he didn't really think about his biological family much until one day it just hit him. He didn't know anything about where he was from. His curiosity was peaked and fed by Jennifer's eventual discovery of her own biological father and urging from his wife to keep searching. In the end, David's collaborative teamwork with his adoption search angel, Priscilla, helped him learn more about his mother and father and connect to his biological sister. Here's David's journey.Damon (01:42):David grew up in Southern California and was perfectly comfortable with his adoption from an early age, but in his teen years there was a week where everybody was asking him if he was Irish. It turned out his adopted mother had a little bit of confirmation about his original identity.David (01:58):Grew up knowing my whole life that I was adopted. You know, I was told I, I don't know exactly at what age, but it was young enough that that's just what I knew and I didn't even know what it really meant quite frankly. I just kind of, I would tell people I'm adopted, you know, there was a period I was working, there was, it was shortly after I graduated high school and I was working at the grocery store as a box boy bagging groceries and stuff and the day shift. And so I'd have a lot of, you know, young mothers with their kids and stuff coming through. And in the period of like one or two weeks, I had three or four different people ask me if I was Irish. And I, I had never given it much thought I was raised Jewish. The family history of my adopted parents on both sides were a Russian immigrant who came to the U.S. Uh, my grandparents. So that was the only history I knew, which of course it wasn't my own personal biological heritage, you know, so I'd never given much thought about, you know, what nationality I was. And so I asked my mother, Hey, you know what, my nationality is? And sure enough, she said, yeah, you're mostly Irish and a little bit German.Damon (03:15):is that, right? People who are watching you on the street, we're spot on, huh?David (03:18):Yeah, yeah. You know, as a kid, when I thought Irish, I thought of like red-headed freckled and I'm not bad. Yeah, I guess it's Northern Irish. We have the dark hair and it's very common and stuff, but it's just something I really had never given a thought to. So that was kind of fascinating. And I asked my mother if she knew anything else. And again, I'm probably about 18 or 19 at this point. And she said she knew the last name on the birth certificate or whatever was Roby, but she, she said that, I don't think that was actually, you know, anybody related to you? I think it was my mother's first marriage, but she said she knew that I had two older half-brothers from her first marriage, a few years older than me. And I thought, Oh, that's interesting.Damon (04:05):How did she know that? Do you know?David (04:07):Well, yeah, I found out much later. She actually met my mother in the final signing off on the paperwork after I was born in court, you know, just kind of like formality and that was really all she knew. So that would have been like around 89 no, no. It'd been earlier than that, but yeah. And I couldn't do anything with that. Yeah, I think you had too much thought. Although I do remember one time I, uh, was with some friends and it was a beautiful day and I just kind of got really sad. I had like a whole thing about where the hell did I come from? I just suddenly felt alone in the universe. I felt like I have no idea where the heck I came from. I don't know why it hit me all at once. It was just kind of overwhelming.Damon (04:55):Several years later after David married his wife, Diane, she suggested he might want to try to locate his birth mother. I asked David why she made that suggestion and whether he thought she was seeing a need in him to search.David (05:08):I'm a musician. I didn't mention that, but I've had some lyrics that I've written, a whole song that wrote, Oh, gave me life, which is about that and some other songs where I've made reference to that. And so maybe that might've been one of the reasons.Damon (05:24):So you weren't overtly speaking about it, but your, your lyrics were showing some deep emotion and some thought...