Fearful Avoidants Want to Fix Things When THIS Happens
Fearful Avoidants Want to Fix Things When THIS Happens  
Podcast: The Thais Gibson Podcast
Published On: Mon Jan 12 2026
Description: Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-12-26&el=podcast When a fearful avoidant shuts down, it can feel final, like the door is completely closed. But there are specific moments when a fearful avoidant becomes open to repair, reconnection, and real change. And understanding what actually moves the needle can save you from chasing, over-functioning, or abandoning yourself in the process. 🎥 Episode Summary In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the key conditions that make a fearful avoidant want to fix things after a rupture or breakup and just as importantly, when it’s healthier to step back instead. You’ll learn how fearful avoidant deactivating strategies are driven by unmet needs, core wounds, fear of enmeshment, and emotional disconnection and how authentic communication, boundaries, and nervous system safety can reopen connection without manipulation. This episode is essential if you’re: Trying to repair a relationship with a fearful avoidant Unsure whether reconnection is possible or healthy Or working on your own fearful avoidant patterns ✨ Key Takeaways ✔ Why fearful avoidants often feel “done” — until specific needs are met ✔ The difference between authentic repair and manipulation ✔ Why defining boundaries and converting them into needs is critical ✔ How unmet needs (not the relationship itself) trigger deactivation ✔ The role novelty, trust, and emotional connection play in reconnection ✔ Why fearful avoidants respond deeply to validation, empathy, and clarity ✔ The importance of deadlines so you don’t abandon yourself ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – When Fearful Avoidants Want to Fix the Relationship 00:47 – Manipulation Tactics Won’t Make a Relationship Fulfilling 03:18 – 1. Define Your Boundaries and Convert Them Into Needs 04:58 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo  05:48 – 2. Get Clear About What Wasn’t Working With That Person  06:44 – Why Fearful Avoidants Leave Relationships  08:45 – Their Dealbreakers May Actually Be Solvable Problems 11:30 – 3. Identify Where the Fearful Avoidant Didn’t Feel Heard, Wanted, or Cared for 12:08 – 4. Communicate and Validate Unmet Wounds After 3-4 Weeks 14:05 – Make Sure You Have a Deadline Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/