The Anti Self Esteem Club with Melissa Spaulding, CMHC
The Anti Self Esteem Club with Melissa Spaulding, CMHC  
Podcast: The Guilt Girl
Rating: Explicit Published On: Mon Oct 27 2025
Description: In today's episode, Grace Bithell and Melissa Spaulding delve into the complexities of self-esteem, exploring its definitions, societal influences, and the distinction between self-esteem and inherent worth. They discuss the emotional roller coaster that self-esteem can create, particularly for women, and how societal expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's inherent value and offers practical steps for relying on value over self esteem, including reframing negative thoughts and practicing affirmations. The episode concludes with a light-hearted discussion about guilty pleasures, highlighting the importance of self-acceptance and joy in everyday life. takeaways Self-esteem is our ability to esteem ourselves. Self-esteem can vary widely based on external factors. The concept of 'stuff esteem' can lead to feelings of inadequacy. Inherent worth is about recognizing value simply because we exist. Societal pressures can heavily influence women's self-esteem. Other esteem is the validation we seek from others. Wanting and desiring are powerful aspects of self-acceptance. Reframing negative thoughts can help improve self-esteem. Affirmations should start from where we are, not where we want to be. Guilty pleasures can be a source of joy and self-acceptance. keywords self-esteem, mental health, inherent worth, emotional well-being, self-acceptance, therapy, personal growth, self-worth, societal expectations, women empowerment Chapters 00:00Introduction to Self-Esteem and Personal Background 02:42Defining Self-Esteem: A Complex Concept 05:13The Roller Coaster of Self-Esteem 07:57The Roots of Self-Esteem: Childhood Experiences 10:29Inherent Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem 13:10Understanding Inherent Value 16:02The Impact of Relationships on Self-Worth 18:28Navigating Self-Esteem in Adulthood 21:15The Pursuit of Other Esteem 24:12Understanding Self-Worth and External Validation 27:02The Balance of Care and Importance 29:52The Moving Target of Self-Esteem 31:31Societal Pressures on Women 34:24Sustainable Change vs. Treat Culture 36:48Practical Steps for Change 41:15The Power of Wanting and Desiring 45:46Sunny Day Parade.mp3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices