119. The Patterns Running Your Love Life (and Why You Keep Repeating Them) with Amy Chan
119. The Patterns Running Your Love Life (and Why You Keep Repeating Them) with Amy Chan  
Podcast: The Wellness Process
Published On: Tue Jun 09 2026
Description: In today's episode, Elizabeth sits down with Amy Chan, dating expert, founder of Breakup Boot Camp, and author of Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts. They get into why so many smart, successful women are struggling to find lasting love, and what is actually getting in the way.Amy breaks down the patterns most people repeat without realizing it, from chasing emotionally unavailable partners to mistaking anxiety for attraction. She explains how our earliest relationships wire us to seek what feels familiar, even when it hurts us, and how that plays out in who we swipe on, who we fall for, and who we keep ending up with. They also get into the science of love chemicals, why the 18-month mark breaks so many couples apart, what it really takes to keep a relationship alive after the dopamine fades, and how to tell the difference between a green flag and someone who is simply very good at dating.This conversation is not about finding the perfect partner. It is about understanding the patterns you are running on autopilot so you can finally stop repeating them.If you want to go DEEPER with me, my Substack is where I share even more behind-the-scenes, personal reflections, and wellness experiments, with new posts dropping every Thursday: https://substack.com/@thewellnessprocessFollow Amy Chan:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missamychanWebsite + book resources: https://www.missamychan.com/unsingleBook: Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That LastsFollow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewellnessprocesspodTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thewellnessprocessYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheWellnessProcessSponsors:Visit drinkspindrift.com and use code wellness at checkout for 15% off your sitewide purchase.Visit carawayhome.com/TWP10 or use code TWP10 at checkout to take an additional 10% off your next purchase Join CrowdHealth to get started today for $99 a month for your first three months using code WELLNESS at joincrowdhealth.comUse code TW for an extra 30% off at blissy.com/TWUse code WELLNESS at monarch.com for 50% off your first year. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.