Dopey 534: Abbey Fickley Returns + Rest in Peace Ray the Clammer; Motherhood, Relapse, Internet Backlash… and 40 Years of Clamming, Cocaine, and Redemption
Dopey 534: Abbey Fickley Returns + Rest in Peace Ray the Clammer; Motherhood, Relapse, Internet Backlash… and 40 Years of Clamming, Cocaine, and Redemption  
Podcast: Dopey: On the Dark Comedy of Drug Addiction
Published On: Fri Jun 06 2025
Description: Episode Notes!DOPEYWOOD COMING!AWESOME EMAILS AND VOICEMAILS!ABBEY:Postpartum anxiety and getting prescribed benzosHer first time using heroin — in sober livingMoving back to Pittsburgh with her dad to get her life togetherBuilding a YouTube following with her daughter MylaDealing with fame, trolls, and the dark side of "sober influencer" cultureWhy she stopped posting her daughter onlineSetting boundaries in co-parentingThe emotional side of recovery, relapse, and internet backlashHer evolving relationship with recovery, privacy, and motherhood🦪 Part 2: Ray the Clammer – A TributeGrowing up on the South Shore, catching clams with his feetFirst time freebasing: “My heart exploded. I fell to my knees. It was great.”Ten years of coke dealing, freebasing, and losing everythingSmoking away all the product, burning bridges, losing his union jobHomeless in NYC, sleeping under Port Authority, working “security” for a pimp named OtisSuicidal thoughts in the subway tunnelsThe moment he didn't jump, and got back on the train to Long IslandBrought home by police as a missing personFinds NA, relapses, gets honest — and stays sober from 1993 until his deathDevoted to service: rides, hotlines, detox speaking, always showing upPassed away with 30 years clean — this recording was his goodbye gift to Dopey Nation  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.