In this episode, Sonia sits down with Richard Taite to talk about addiction, trauma, treatment, emotional sobriety, self-love, and what it really takes to build a life that feels worth staying present for. They explore Richard’s decades of experience as an addiction treatment entrepreneur, recovery advocate, founder of Cliffside Malibu and Carrera Treatment, and host of the mental health podcast We’re Out of Time. Richard also opens up about his own history with addiction, childhood trauma, homelessness, long-term recovery, and his controversial view that some people can transcend addiction after doing deep, sustained work. The conversation moves through some big questions: Is addiction always a lifelong identity? What does it mean to truly recover versus simply stop using? How does childhood trauma become the emotional engine behind substance use disorder? Sonia and Richard also discuss AA, therapy, treatment centers, the fentanyl crisis, emotional sobriety, reparenting, and why “getting sober” is only one part of the work. Richard challenges familiar recovery language while still crediting AA as a foundation in his own life, making space for a more nuanced conversation about addiction recovery, identity, and healing. Richard explains why therapy has been central to his recovery, how shame forms in childhood, and why so many people carry a “bad kid” narrative into adulthood. He shares his belief that self-care can become self-esteem, and self-esteem can become self-love—especially when recovery expands beyond abstinence into purpose, parenting, relationships, physical health, and joy. The episode also looks at what effective addiction treatment should include today, why therapeutic fit matters, and how families may need to think differently about drugs, alcohol, opioids, and fentanyl in the current recovery landscape. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.   Highlights [00:01:00] Richard corrects the record about his sobriety and explains why he no longer identifies as sober. [00:02:00] Richard describes what he means by “transcending addiction.” [00:03:00] He shares the Michelin-star wine-pairing moment that showed him his relationship with alcohol had changed. [00:04:00] Sonia asks whether his shift happened suddenly or slowly over time. [00:05:00] Richard explains why thriving matters after getting sober. [00:07:00] Sonia asks how his current relationship with alcohol differs from active addiction. [00:08:00] Richard opens up about becoming a father and losing the fantasy of eventually getting loaded again. [00:10:00] Sonia asks whether fatherhood pushed him into deeper emotional sobriety work. [00:11:00] Richard talks about being in therapy for much of his recovery. [00:12:00] Richard shares the therapy moment that helped him understand he was never “a bad kid.” [00:14:00] He explains how childhood shame can keep running the adult life. [00:16:00] Sonia and Richard discuss childhood trauma as a root driver of addiction. [00:18:00] Richard challenges the idea that one first drink automatically explains addiction. [00:19:00] He talks about AA as a foundation while also questioning rigid recovery identities. [00:21:00] Richard explains why he sees AA as support, not treatment. [00:23:00] He connects self-care, self-esteem, and self-love. [00:27:00] Richard explains why treatment should feel like care, not punishment. [00:32:00] Sonia asks how fentanyl changed the addiction treatment landscape. [00:34:00] Richard shares the overdose death that brought him back into treatment work. [00:40:00] Richard describes how he talks to his son about pills, powders, fentanyl, and peer pressure. [00:45:00] Sonia asks what families should look for in a recovery center today. [00:50:00] Richard closes with a message of hope for anyone afraid to ask for help.   Richard's Links https://www.instagram.com/richardtaiteofficial/ https://carraratreatment.com/author/richard/  SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

Creativity isn’t just a hobby—it can be a sobriety tool, a self-care practice, and a way back to the parts of ourselves we forgot. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore how play, journaling, memory keeping, and hands-on creativity can help women rebuild identity and joy after alcohol. Sonia is joined by Amy Tangerine, a designer, author, creative director, memory keeper, and founder of a colorful creative brand that has inspired hundreds of thousands of people to reconnect with imagination, craft, and permission to play. The conversation opens up the question of what happens when drinking used to be the “play hard” part of life—and what it means to redefine fun in sobriety. Sonia and Amy talk about childhood creativity, cozy hobbies, scrapbooking, junk journaling, reading, Legos, collecting, and why many adults dismiss the very activities that once made them feel alive. They also explore how high-achieving women can struggle to do something without measuring it, monetizing it, or turning it into another task. Amy shares how creative flow can become a grounding practice, especially for people who feel anxious, overworked, disconnected, or unsure of who they are without alcohol. The episode covers memory keeping, analog journaling, vision boards, tactile creativity, pen-to-paper reflection, creative self-care, inner child work, and the difference between creating for an outcome versus creating for the process. Amy also talks about “taking your rage out on the page,” using journaling to process emotions, and building small systems that make creativity possible in 10- to 15-minute pockets. In the personal story segment, Amy opens up about being raised by immigrant parents, her early love of stickers, crayons, journals, and magazines, her transition from fashion into scrapbooking, and the burnout that pushed her to rethink success. She also shares the deeply personal role vision boards played during her miscarriages, how creativity helped her imagine and accept a different version of family, and how manifesting, aligned action, and self-belief shaped her life. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources.   Highlights 00:00 Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety with Amy Tangerine 01:00 Amy’s earliest creative sparks: crayons, stickers, journals, and crafts 02:00 From fashion design to scrapbooking and memory keeping 03:00 The Hello Kitty journal that started Amy’s diary practice 04:00 Why Amy blended memoir and guidance in Craft a Life You Love 05:00 Why hobbies matter more than people think 06:00 Taking 15 minutes for creativity without explaining it to anyone 07:00 Amy’s immigrant parents and the freedom to follow what made her happy 09:00 Creativity as a way to design a more intentional life 10:00 Creative flow, harmony, and coming back to yourself 11:00 Collage as comfort during family stress and grief 13:00 Redefining play when drinking used to be the recreational hobby 14:00 Returning to the activities that brought joy in childhood 15:00 Sonia on rediscovering reading in sobriety 16:00 Legos, collecting, and childhood hobbies as adult comfort 18:00 Junk journaling and the return to analog creativity 20:00 What happens emotionally when people enter a playful state 21:00 Giving yourself permission to create in small pockets of time 23:00 Letting go of metrics, productivity, and the pressure of an end product 25:00 Pen-to-paper journaling versus digital memory keeping 27:00 Balancing AI tools, metrics, and the need for handwriting 30:00 What memory keeping really means 31:00 “Take your rage out on the page” as emotional release 34:00 Pickleball, anger, and accessing different parts of the self 35:00 Simple ways to incorporate photos, planners, and everyday memories 37:00 Why memory keeping does not have to be chronological 39:00 Vision boards, self-belief, and “what I desire is what I deserve” 42:00 Manifesting, higher power, and aligned action 47:00 Amy’s products, printables, stickers, and ways to get started creatively Amy's Links   http://www.amytangerine.com/ https://www.instagram.com/amytangerine/   SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

Sonia sits down with psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Hochman for a candid, nuanced conversation on addiction, recovery, and what actually works in the real world in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety. Daniel Hochman, is a board-certified psychiatrist and creator of Self Recovery, an online program helping people address substance and behavioral addictions through a science-based, psychologically informed approach that prioritizes privacy, agency, and emotional understanding. The conversation explores the limits of traditional recovery models, including where 12-step programs can feel outdated or incomplete, and why concepts like “powerlessness” may actually undermine long-term change. Sonia and Dr. Hochman dig into questions around agency vs. external control, whether addiction is a disease or learned behavior, and how approaches like urge surfing, emotional regulation, and behavioral strategies fit into recovery. They also examine the role of medication like Antabuse and naltrexone, the rise of alternative recovery models, and how high-achieving individuals experience addiction differently. Dr. Hochman reframes addiction as a response to “intolerable emotions,” highlighting how anxiety, dissatisfaction, and internal conflict can quietly drive addictive behaviors. He introduces a practical framework—moving from underlying distress to cravings to action—and explains how different “points of attack” can interrupt that cycle.  As the conversation unfolds, Sonia shares her own experience navigating sobriety outside of traditional systems, including her curiosity about the 12 steps and her journey into emotional sobriety. The episode shifts into a more personal exploration of identity—especially for high achievers whose self-worth is tied to performance—and what it looks like to rebuild a sense of self without alcohol. Through this lens, recovery becomes less about restriction and more about rediscovery, experimentation, and learning how to sit with discomfort rather than escape it. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights [00:00] Introduction to Dr. Daniel Hochman and Self Recovery [01:00] Why willpower isn’t enough in addiction recovery [02:00] What a psychiatrist actually does in addiction treatment [03:00] Early exposure to rehab systems and gaps in care [04:00] Problems within the addiction treatment industry [05:00] The role of untrained providers in recovery spaces [06:00] Sonia’s experience exploring the 12 steps [07:00] “Powerlessness” and the problem with vague frameworks [09:00] Locus of control and reclaiming agency in recovery [12:00] Why vague advice like “try harder” doesn’t work [14:00] What traditional recovery models get right—and wrong [16:00] Why addiction science hasn’t been fully integrated into AA [18:00] Addiction as a response to underlying emotional distress [20:00] Trauma, boredom, dissatisfaction, and hidden drivers [22:00] The “current” model: from pain to craving to action [24:00] Urge surfing and behavioral tools for early sobriety [26:00] Why deep emotional work shouldn’t come first [28:00] Limitations of CBT and surface-level therapy [30:00] Inside the Self Recovery program framework [33:00] Sobriety vs. moderation: choosing your own path [36:00] Medications in recovery: Antabuse vs. naltrexone [41:00] High achievers, identity, and addiction patterns [45:00] Rebuilding a sense of self beyond achievement [49:00] Rediscovering hobbies, curiosity, and joy in sobriety [51:00] One simple awareness practice to start changing behavior Dr. Hochman's Links Self Recovery's Website: https://www.selfrecovery.org/ Self Recovery's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selfrecoveryhealth/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

Sonia sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz to unpack addiction, dopamine, and the hidden patterns behind compulsive behaviors—from alcohol to everyday habits. They dive into the questions most people avoid: What actually drives compulsive behavior? Why does dopamine keep us chasing more instead of feeling satisfied? How do perfectionism, shame, and high achievement intersect with addiction? And what happens when we swap one coping mechanism for another—alcohol for work, porn, social media, or even productivity? They also explore how habits quietly escalate and how identity becomes entangled in addiction. Jeremy breaks down neuroplasticity and how repeated behaviors wire the brain, reinforcing cycles of craving and avoidance. He reframes dopamine as the chemical of wanting—not pleasure—and explains how this fuels the loop of desire. The conversation introduces tools like urge surfing, mindfulness, and creating space between stimulus and response, alongside a deeper look at emotional avoidance, shame, and the “hungry ghost” cycle of never feeling like enough. They also demystify meditation—what it actually is, and how to practice it without perfection. The episode also traces Jeremy’s personal turning point—from a high-achieving student battling insecurity and compulsive behaviors to discovering meditation and a new definition of fulfillment. As Sonia reflects on her own patterns in real time, the conversation becomes a powerful example of what it looks like to pause, notice, and choose differently. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. TIME-STAMPED HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Introduction to Jeremy Lipkowitz and his work in addiction recovery 01:30 – Jeremy’s early struggles with insecurity and addiction 03:45 – Realizing the path he was on wasn’t leading to happiness 06:15 – Why success didn’t translate into fulfillment 08:00 – Neuroplasticity and how habits shape the brain 10:30 – Dopamine explained: wanting vs. liking 12:45 – How addiction escalates over time 14:30 – Addiction as emotional avoidance 16:10 – Why we struggle with boredom and discomfort 17:45 – Identity and shame in addiction 20:00 – Rationalizing harmful behaviors 21:30 – Addiction as a universal pattern 23:00 – The “dry drunk” concept and root causes 24:30 – Healthier vs. harmful coping mechanisms 26:00 – Recognizing subtle compulsions 28:15 – What urge surfing is 31:00 – Creating space before reacting 34:00 – Building mindfulness as a skill 37:00 – Meditation myths and perfectionism 41:30 – Different types of meditation 45:00 – Mindfulness in everyday life 49:00 – Perfectionism as addiction 52:00 – The “hungry ghost” mindset 55:30 – Sonia’s real-time habit awareness 58:30 – Learning to sit with boredom 01:02:00 – Why abstinence can help moderation 01:06:00 – How subtle habits take hold 01:09:00 – Finding freedom from external validation Jeremy's Links Podcast: https://unhooked.buzzsprout.com/ Website: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/   SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

Inflammation is at the root of so many modern health struggles—but what if the way we approach it is completely backwards? In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Dr. Shivani Gupta—Ayurvedic practitioner, functional health expert, and author of The Inflammation Code—to explore a radically personalized approach to healing. Sonia guides listeners through how inflammation shows up in daily life, how stress and lifestyle habits quietly fuel it, and how Dr. Gupta’s “Elemental Design” framework helps decode each person’s unique health blueprint. The conversation dives into how different body types respond to stress, food, and alcohol, and why a one-size-fits-all wellness plan often fails. Questions unfold around how mental inflammation contributes to physical disease, how gut health connects to energy and mood, and why sleep, circadian rhythm, and daily rituals may matter more than the latest health trend. The episode also explores the real impact of alcohol on gut permeability and inflammation, and how habits like late-night eating, blue light exposure, and chronic stress quietly disrupt the body’s natural healing processes. Throughout the episode, Dr. Gupta introduces key concepts like chronic low-grade inflammation, bio-individuality, and the connection between the microbiome and overall health. She explains how ancient Ayurvedic principles align with modern science—from circadian rhythm optimization to the role of super spices like turmeric in reducing inflammation. The discussion weaves in practical insights on improving sleep hygiene, supporting the gut microbiome, managing cortisol, and using simple daily rituals—like tea, breathwork, or structured routines—to regulate the nervous system and reduce inflammation at its source. As the conversation unfolds, Dr. Gupta shares her deeply personal journey—from growing up between Western medicine and Ayurvedic traditions to a turning point that led her to reject overmedication and seek root-cause healing. That experience sparked decades of study and ultimately shaped her mission to bring ancient healing wisdom into modern life in a practical, accessible way. The episode closes with a powerful reminder that healing doesn’t require perfection—it starts with small, intentional shifts that bring the body back into balance. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Shivani Gupta and The Inflammation Code 02:00 Growing up between Western medicine and Ayurveda 03:00 The breaking point with overmedication and antibiotics 04:30 Discovering Ayurveda and root-cause healing 06:00 Turmeric and the science behind super spices 08:00 What “Elemental Design” means for your health 10:00 Understanding Vata, Pitta, and Kapha body types 12:00 How different constitutions experience inflammation 14:00 Autoimmune conditions and personalized health patterns 17:00 Circadian rhythm and its role in inflammation 18:30 How sleep impacts detoxification and healing 20:00 Building a realistic sleep routine 22:00 Ideal sleep environment and temperature 23:30 Common mistakes with turmeric and anti-inflammatory diets 25:00 Chronic inflammation and modern lifestyle stressors 27:00 Supplements vs. whole foods: what actually works 31:00 What is “mental inflammation”? 33:00 Stress, burnout, and disease connection 35:00 Gut health, microbiome, and daily habits 37:00 Alcohol’s impact on gut health and inflammation 40:00 How different body types respond to alcohol 43:00 Tools for relaxation without alcohol 47:00 The most important first step: prioritizing sleep   Dr. Shivani's Links www.shivanigupta.com IG: @dr.shivanigupta SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

Addiction, astrology, and emotional healing take center stage in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, as Sonia sits down with humanistic astrologer Jessica Lanyadoo. Together, they unpack how addiction isn’t just about substances—it’s about emotional patterns, coping mechanisms, and the ways we abandon ourselves. Jessica brings a grounded, no-nonsense approach to astrology, helping Sonia explore how tools like astrology, community, and self-awareness can support sobriety and long-term healing. What role does emotional regulation play in addiction? Can astrology reveal patterns behind compulsive behaviors or anxiety? How do dopamine-driven habits like scrolling or shopping mirror substance use? Sonia and Kathleen guide the conversation through big questions around fate vs. free will, the psychology of addiction, and whether spiritual tools—like astrology—can become coping mechanisms themselves. The discussion also explores the complexities of recovery spaces, including the benefits and challenges of 12-step programs, shame, and accountability. The conversation weaves together concepts like harm reduction, emotional processing, and the neuroscience of addiction. Jessica introduces the idea that addiction is often rooted in an inability to tolerate feelings, rather than a lack of willpower. She breaks down how different types of anxiety and coping behaviors can manifest, and how misdiagnosis—both psychologically and personally—can keep people stuck. The idea of “momentum” becomes a powerful framework: how addictive behaviors build quickly, while healing and self-connection require slower, intentional practice. Through personal reflections, Sonia shares moments from her own sobriety journey—navigating divorce, resisting the urge to drink, and recognizing how other behaviors can mimic addiction. The episode shifts into a deeper, more vulnerable space as they explore recovery tools like AA, the concept of “dry drunk” vs. true sobriety, and the emotional weight of making amends. Jessica offers a nuanced take on “living amends,” boundaries, and why healing doesn’t always require direct reconciliation—sometimes it requires protecting yourself while still taking accountability. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights 00:00 – Introduction to Jessica Lanyadoo and her humanistic approach 01:15 – What humanistic astrology actually means 03:00 – Addiction beyond substances: emotional and behavioral patterns 05:30 – Astrology’s perspective on different types of addiction 08:15 – Dopamine, escapism, and modern-day addictive behaviors 09:30 – Can astrology become a coping mechanism? 10:45 – Is addiction fate or free will? 12:30 – Physiological vs. emotional components of addiction 14:00 – Different types of anxiety and how they show up 16:30 – Misdiagnosis and why some treatments don’t work 17:45 – The concept of momentum in addiction vs. healing 19:00 – “Dry drunk” vs. true sobriety 20:00 – Why AA works (and why it doesn’t for everyone) 22:00 – Shame, community, and healing in recovery spaces 24:00 – The complexity of group dynamics in AA 26:30 – Boundaries, triggers, and navigating recovery communities 28:00 – The truth about making amends 29:30 – What are “living amends”? 31:30 – Trauma, safety, and when not to reconnect 34:00 – Self-abandonment and taking personal accountability   Jessica's Links Ghost of a Podcast  Access free horoscopes + other goodies and classes available for purchase at lovelanyadoo.com   SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram

Sonia sits down with Dr. Emma Kay, professor at the University of Alabama at Birmingham School of Nursing and a nationally recognized researcher focused on HIV care, substance use, harm reduction, and recovery. Together, they unpack the intersection of addiction, stigma, and healthcare systems, and explore how a more compassionate, whole-person approach can change outcomes. Sonia guides this conversation to help reframe how we think about recovery, disclosure, and what meaningful care actually looks like in practice. The discussion moves beyond surface-level conversations about addiction and into the realities people face navigating HIV, substance use, and medical systems that often prioritize one condition over another. Questions emerge around why patients don’t disclose substance use, how stigma subtly shows up in healthcare settings, whether abstinence-only models are limiting recovery options, and what happens when providers assume noncompliance. It also touches on the gap between medical innovation and lived patient experience, especially when it comes to trust, access, and education. The conversation highlights how recovery is often non-linear, why patient autonomy matters, and how small behavioral shifts can represent meaningful progress. It also sheds light on systemic barriers including cost, lack of education in medical training, and disparities tied to race, geography, and socioeconomic status. The contrast between rapid advancements in HIV treatment and the slower evolution of addiction care reveals where healthcare systems are still falling short. Sonia and Dr. Kay also talk about—what it actually looks like when patients feel seen, heard, and respected versus judged or dismissed. From early moments in an HIV clinic filled with unexpected vulnerability to broader reflections on stigma and resilience, the episode brings forward the emotional and relational side of care that often gets overlooked in clinical conversations. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Emma Kay and her work 01:00 Dr. Kay’s non-traditional path into social work and research 02:30 First experiences in an HIV clinic and shifting perspectives 04:00 Understanding HIV as a chronic condition vs stigma 05:30 The overlap between HIV and substance use 06:30 Risk factors and misconceptions about HIV transmission 07:30 Early experiences with patient vulnerability and resilience 09:00 Abstinence-based models vs harm reduction realities 10:30 Lack of harm reduction resources in certain regions 11:30 Why patients don’t disclose substance use 12:30 Gaps in education around harm reduction 13:30 What relational harm reduction actually means 15:00 Key principles: autonomy, humanism, pragmatism 16:30 Incremental progress and redefining success in recovery 17:30 Why recovery is rarely linear 19:00 Whole-person care and addressing underlying needs 21:00 Subtle stigma in healthcare settings 22:30 Misconceptions about adherence and drug use 24:00 Harm reduction vs abstinence models 25:30 Aging population with HIV and comorbidities 27:00 Treating HIV like any other chronic condition 28:30 Innovation in HIV care vs addiction care 30:00 Disparities in overdose rates and access to care 32:00 Trust gaps in marginalized communities 34:00 The role of community-led solutions 35:00 Cost barriers and access to life-saving resources Dr. Emma's Links https://scholars.uab.edu/5926-emma-kay https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmasophiakay/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Conflict avoidance and people-pleasing show up in so many women's stories around alcohol — yet they rarely get the airtime they deserve. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Anna Lecat, intimacy and conflict consultant, global speaker, and author of Loving Conflict: Creating Collaboration Where Others See Division. Anna has spent decades across cultures, continents, and boardrooms persuading people that learning to conflict well is one of the most loving things we can offer each other. What does it actually mean to fight kindly? Why do so many women reach for a drink before a hard conversation — or avoid it entirely? And what is it about anger that feels so unbearable to sit with? Anna unpacks the tango metaphor at the heart of her work — conflict as tension plus connection, not threat plus danger. She walks through a practical spectrum for building conflict confidence, starting with low-stakes settings like restaurants and working up to the relationships that flood us most. The conversation explores emotional responsibility, nervous system regulation, and how early experiences with anger shape us as adults — often leading us to read conflict as rejection when it's really someone else's old wound surfacing. Then things get personal. Sonia opens up about pouring a glass of wine before calling her mother — and how that glass became a bottle. Kathleen shares her own story of returning to her hairdresser with honest, gentle feedback and what that small act revealed about the difference between avoiding conflict and moving through it with care. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights [00:01:00] Anna reframes conflict as a doorway rather than a threat [00:02:00] Her mission: persuading people to fight kindly [00:03:00] People who are deeply loved don't need to wage war [00:05:00] Connection and uplift extend beyond romance to friends, parents, and coworkers [00:06:00] Why women are socialized to avoid conflict [00:07:00] Conflict as a tango — listening, suggesting, responding in turn [00:08:00] Using nonverbal tango exercises in corporate workshops [00:11:00] Men in Beijing end up in tears during a two-minute eye contact meditation [00:13:00] Why sending food back at a restaurant is the perfect place to start [00:14:00] "If you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your parents" [00:15:00] Kathleen's hairdresser story becomes a master class in kind conflict [00:18:00] Sonia's glass of wine before calling her mother — and how it became a bottle [00:20:00] Why anger is the most stigmatized emotion across every culture [00:21:00] Anger reveals a person's deepest fears and values — slow down and listen [00:22:00] How Anna navigates her own anger — consent first, then curiosity [00:27:00] It only takes one person to shift the dynamic of a relationship [00:29:00] People-pleasing as a conflict strategy — and how to tell it from self-protection [00:33:00] Practice conflict in low-stakes settings before the ones that flood you [00:37:00] Anna's nightly practice: revisiting hard moments and calming her nervous system [00:43:00] Start small, start outside, get good at it. It becomes a superpower. Links: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1966629974 https://annalecat.com/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Chef Whitney Aronoff, founder of Starseed Kitchen and creator of High Vibration Living, to explore the powerful connection between food, energy, and emotional wellbeing. Together, they unpack how supportive nutrition goes far beyond what’s on your plate—and how small, intentional shifts can help women feel more aligned, energized, and connected in sobriety and everyday life. The conversation weaves through questions many women quietly ask themselves: Why do cravings—especially for sugar or alcohol—feel so intense? How does what we eat impact our mood, clarity, and intuition? Is “clean eating” actually helping, or could it be contributing to digestive issues and burnout? Whitney introduces the concept of “high vibration” foods—fresh, seasonal, whole ingredients that support both physical health and energetic balance. She challenges common wellness myths (like relying on raw foods or pre-packaged “healthy” meals) and emphasizes simple, traditional cooking methods like roasting, steaming, and slow cooking. The episode also explores how alcohol impacts blood sugar and cravings, why intuitive eating requires removing distractions and calming the nervous system, and how quality over quantity applies to everything from pantry staples to indulgences like chocolate or ice cream. Whitney shares her personal journey of healing chronic digestive issues by becoming her own advocate—moving beyond conventional advice and learning to listen to her body. The discussion expands into emotional and energetic health, touching on how food choices can influence clarity, identity, and even spiritual awareness. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights 00:00 – Introduction to Chef Whitney Aronoff and High Vibration Living 01:30 – Early relationship with food and chronic digestive issues 03:00 – Becoming your own advocate in health and nutrition 04:30 – The role of whole foods vs processed foods 05:30 – Why simplicity in cooking supports digestion 07:00 – The “fireplace” analogy for digestion and cold foods 08:30 – Eating seasonally and adjusting food to climate 10:00 – Why one hot meal a day matters 11:00 – Food as a gateway to emotional and spiritual awareness 12:30 – How diet changes can shift identity and intuition 13:30 – Understanding cravings through energy and environment 15:00 – What “high vibration” food actually means 16:30 – Grocery store vs farmers market choices 18:30 – Navigating food access and making better choices 19:30 – Reconnecting with hunger cues and intuitive eating 21:00 – How environment and stress affect digestion 22:30 – Alcohol, sugar cravings, and blood sugar cycles 24:00 – Rethinking sugar as “treats” instead of restriction 26:00 – Quality over quantity when it comes to indulgences 29:00 – Physical vs emotional cravings explained 31:00 – Essential pantry staples for supportive nutrition 34:00 – Adapting food philosophy to different lifestyles and cultures 36:00 – Perfectionism, control, and emotional imbalance 38:00 – Making cooking easier with planning and batch meals 41:00 – Practical shortcuts: frozen foods, curry pastes, and bone broth 44:00 – Carbs, rice, and personalized nutrition approaches 47:00 – Building community through food and shared meals 48:30 – Prioritizing joy and intentional living Whitney's Links https://starseedkitchen.com/ https://www.instagram.com/whitneyaronoff/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health routines don’t have to be complicated to make a real difference. In this episode, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Cameron Rogers to talk about the small, realistic practices that help regulate anxiety, quiet racing thoughts, and support emotional wellbeing. Cameron Rogers is the founder and host of the Conversations with Cam podcast and uses her unfiltered voice and humor to create a safe space online for honest conversations about motherhood, mental health, and personal growth. As a mental health advocate, community curator, and mom, Cameron’s audience connects with her authentic approach to navigating life’s challenges. She is also the creator of Quiet Your Mind and Busy Your Hands, a product that blends journaling prompts, coloring affirmations, and reflection to help people reconnect with creativity and calm—an idea inspired by her recovery from a concussion that forced her to step away from screens and rediscover the power of simple, analog practices. In this conversation, Sonia, Kathleen, and Cameron explore the realities of caring for mental health in a busy world. They discuss anxiety, ADHD, productivity culture, and how motherhood can reshape the way we think about self-care. The episode touches on questions many women are asking: how journaling can interrupt spiraling thoughts, why hydration and movement affect mood, and how creating small rituals—like journaling spaces or “calm corners”—can help regulate the nervous system during stressful moments. The discussion also highlights practical tools Cameron uses regularly. Journaling becomes a central theme as a way to release thoughts onto paper and reduce anxiety. Cameron shares how simple prompts, gratitude practices, and even word-dump journaling can make the habit approachable. They also explore how environment affects emotional regulation through lighting, texture, and calming spaces, and how modern wellness culture can sometimes create unrealistic pressure to maintain the “perfect” routine. Later in the episode, the conversation shifts to substance use and mindfulness. Cameron explains why she stepped away from alcohol after noticing it worsened her anxiety, and mindful cannabis use, dopamine-seeking behaviors linked to ADHD, and Cameron’s experience with microdosing and a guided psychedelic journey that helped her process lingering stress and identity shifts after leaving her corporate career. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights 00:00 Introduction to Cameron Rogers and her work 01:40 The concussion that changed Cameron’s mental health practices 03:00 Growing up in a high-performance environment 05:00 When self-care becomes obsessive 07:10 How journaling became Cameron’s core practice 10:00 Using journaling to calm anxiety 12:15 Gratitude practices for shifting mindset 13:30 Creating “calm corners” for nervous system regulation 15:00 Sensory elements that create calm spaces 18:00 Hydration and mental clarity 22:30 Mindful cannabis use and creativity 24:00 Cameron’s decision to stop drinking alcohol 26:30 Addiction, dopamine, and ADHD 32:00 Cameron’s psychedelic therapy experience 39:30 Using affirmations to shift inner dialogue 43:00 Reframing exercise as mental health support 47:00 Letting go of the “perfect” wellness routine Cameron's Links Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers Substack: Fill Your Cup SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Licensed clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Sherrie Campbell joins us for a powerful conversation about toxic family dynamics, emotional abuse, and the complicated path toward family estrangement. In this episode, Sonia and Kathleen explore how unhealthy family relationships can shape self-worth, boundaries, and coping mechanisms—including substance use—and how women can begin to reclaim their lives. Dr. Campbell is a nationally recognized expert on family estrangement, author of Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, a TEDx speaker, and host of the top 1% podcast Sherapy Sessions: Cutting Toxic Family Ties. Together, they unpack the realities of emotionally abusive parenting, boundary setting, and the courage it takes to choose healing. The conversation explores difficult but deeply relatable questions: What actually qualifies as emotional abuse in a family system? Why do so many adult children struggle to recognize toxic dynamics while they’re living inside them? How do manipulation, triangulation, guilt, and silent treatment shape a child’s development—and how do those patterns follow people into adulthood? The episode also examines how family trauma can intersect with coping behaviors like alcohol use, why estrangement is often misunderstood, and how protective distance can become an act of self-respect rather than rejection. Dr. Campbell shares parts of her own story of growing up in a deeply dysfunctional family system and the decades-long process that ultimately led her to cut contact with her mother. She walks through the moment that finally broke the cycle, the years of boundary setting that preceded it, and the grief that often accompanies estrangement. The conversation closes with reflections on healing, journaling as a lifelong practice, and what it means to build a chosen life outside of family dysfunction. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights 00:00 – Introducing Dr. Sherrie Campbell and the topic of toxic family relationships 02:30 – Why family estrangement is often misunderstood 04:10 – The difference between single-incident conflict and chronic family dysfunction 05:40 – Why parents are responsible for repairing relationships with their children 07:20 – How boundaries are meant to preserve relationships, not destroy them 08:10 – The common behaviors of emotionally abusive parents 10:15 – Why emotional abuse can be difficult to recognize inside families 11:00 – A personal example of subtle emotional humiliation 12:30 – Emotional abuse vs. emotional neglect explained 14:00 – What “protective estrangement” really means 15:30 – The metaphor of the house, yard, and fence for setting boundaries 18:30 – Why estrangement usually follows decades of boundary violations 21:00 – How long many adult children try to repair relationships before cutting ties 24:00 – The intersection of childhood trauma and substance use 25:00 – Why people turn to alcohol or other coping behaviors 27:30 – Lessons learned from working with addiction recovery groups 29:30 – What changes internally when someone gets sober 31:00 – Why addiction recovery requires responsibility and self-respect 33:30 – The first steps toward healing from family trauma 36:30 – Rebuilding self-trust after toxic parenting 39:00 – Dr. Campbell’s personal healing practices and journaling ritual 41:00 – Breaking generational cycles through love and conscious parenting Dr. Sherrie's Links Link to TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc?si=vy7p-wD6MvgwCfR- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.sherrie/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Heather Francis, host of the Midlife Moves Podcast. Heather is an entrepreneur and mom of four who brings a lived-experience perspective to conversations around identity, self-trust, and personal growth. She speaks as a woman who has learned, often through trial and error, what it means to evolve, recalibrate, and choose herself more intentionally. Together, they explore what really happens in our forties and fifties: shifting identities, perimenopause, strength training, sleep disruption, protein intake, and the unexpected grief that can come when children grow up and roles change. Together, they unpack how to move through midlife with intention rather than fear—and how movement, community, and curiosity can help women feel strong, clear, and empowered in this next chapter. The conversation weaves through questions many women are quietly asking: Why does anxiety spike in perimenopause? Why does sleep suddenly fall apart at 1:00 AM? Why does cardio stop working the way it used to? How much protein do women actually need in midlife? What role do magnesium, creatine, and recovery days play in hormonal health? How do friendships, identity, and self-definition evolve when the “mom” role begins to shift? Heather shares practical insights around strength training versus excessive cardio, mobility work, rest days, over-exercising, wearable technology, alcohol’s impact on sleep, sugar spikes, and the importance of fueling the body with whole-food protein sources. The discussion touches on cognitive health in midlife, research around creatine for women, bloodwork-guided supplementation, anxiety management, and why connection is foundational for both brain health and emotional resilience. Rather than extreme reinvention, the theme becomes small, intentional adjustments that support longevity, muscle preservation, sleep quality, and overall wellness. Heather opens up about her identity crisis when her children began leaving home, the depression that followed, the isolation of rediscovering herself alone, and the courage it took to ask: Who am I beyond caretaker, wife, and mother? The conversation moves into friendship shifts, gym communities, saying yes to coffee dates, and redefining confidence outside of labels. In a powerful closing reflection, Heather offers a reframe for midlife: not as decline, but as possibility—a second act that doesn’t require blowing up your life, just choosing more intentionally within it. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights 00:00 – Introduction to Heather Francis and Midlife Moves 02:00 – Identity crisis when children grow up 04:00 – Realizing midlife is a second act, not an ending 05:00 – Perimenopause conversations we wish existed 06:00 – Hormones, anxiety, and 1:00 AM wakeups 07:00 – Why movement helped anxiety more than medication 08:00 – Cardio vs. strength training in midlife 09:00 – What strength training actually looks like 13:00 – Yoga, mobility, and emotional release 15:00 – Signs you may be over-exercising 17:00 – Magnesium, meditation, and sleep hygiene 19:00 – Alcohol’s impact on sleep quality 20:00 – Wearables, tracking, and number obsession 21:00 – Sugar’s effect on sleep and recovery 23:00 – Nutrition, fueling, and hormone support 27:00 – Protein myths and whole-food sources 34:00 – Creatine, cognitive health, and supplements 38:00 – Friendship shifts and loneliness in midlife 44:00 – Redefining identity beyond “mom” 46:00 – The message of midlife: possibility and intentional change Heather's Links https://www.instagram.com/themidlifemovespodcast/ midlifemoves.co SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sonia sits down with Sean Dadashi, co-founder of Rosebud, an AI-guided journaling app built to deepen self-reflection, emotional awareness, and intentional healing. Together, they explore how journaling can move beyond venting and become a powerful tool for insight — helping you recognize emotional patterns, understand triggers, and reshape the internal narratives that shape sobriety and personal growth. The conversation expands into the evolving role of AI in mental health and self-development. They discuss how guided prompts, voice journaling, emotional tagging, and pattern recognition can make reflection more accessible — especially for those intimidated by a blank page. At the same time, they examine the importance of keeping therapy, community, and real human connection at the center of healing, while using technology as a supportive tool rather than a replacement. Sonia and Sean also walk through specific journaling practices, including Rose-Bud-Thorn reflections, somatic journaling, gratitude work, boundary-setting exercises, and intention setting. They explore how Rosebud can support therapy preparation, unsent letters, difficult conversations, and voice-based emotional processing. Throughout the episode, they highlight how digital journaling can help expand emotional vocabulary, identify recurring behavioral patterns, and deepen therapeutic work between sessions. On a more personal note, Sonia shares her love of pen-to-paper journaling — the colored pens, the bedside rituals — and reflects on what it means to shift from analog habits to digital tools in a way that enhances, rather than replaces, the reflective experience. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights00:00 — Introduction to Sean Dadashi and the mission behind Rosebud 01:45 — Sean’s early relationship with journaling during family divorce 04:10 — Moving from handwritten journals to digital reflection 06:20 — Recognizing emotional and behavioral patterns over time 08:05 — The “blank page problem” and barriers to starting journaling 09:40 — How the “Go Deeper” function guides layered reflection 11:30 — AI summaries, emotional tagging, and weekly reports 13:05 — Metrics, character tracking, and narrative insights 14:10 — Naming emotions and therapist-informed AI design 15:20 — How Rosebud differs from generic chatbots 16:40 — AI memory and long-term pattern recognition 17:25 — Asking big-picture life questions through journal history 18:50 — Year-end reflection archetypes and narrative mapping 20:10 — AI personas: nurturing vs. direct reflection styles 21:05 — Preventing AI from replacing human connection 22:30 — Platform limits and ethical guardrails 24:00 — Crisis response and safety considerations 28:40 — Using journaling alongside therapy and coaching 31:10 — Preparing for therapy sessions through reflection insights 32:15 — Pen-and-paper vs. digital journaling debate 34:05 — Voice journaling and emotional expression 36:10 — Importing handwritten journals via photo transcription 38:15 — Rose-Bud-Thorn framework and evening reflections 40:20 — Somatic journaling and body-based awareness 41:10 — Letter writing, boundary setting, and hard conversations 43:00 — Facilitating real-life conversations using AI support 44:05 — Intention setting and future-self visualization 45:50 — Creating mantras and symbolic yearly totems 46:40 — Building sustainable daily reflection practices 47:30 — Closing thoughts and episode wrap-up Rosebud https://my.rosebud.app/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Sonia sits down with TV personality, recovery advocate, and author Marci Hopkins to unpack the layered journey from trauma and addiction to emotional sobriety and self-trust. As the host of the award-winning talk show Wake Up with Marci and author of Chaos to Clarity, Marci brings both lived experience and professional insight to the conversation. Together, they explore healing, resilience, and what it really takes to rebuild a life after alcohol. The discussion moves through the experiences that shaped Marci’s relationship with alcohol, from early childhood trauma and family addiction to high-functioning drinking in adulthood. Themes of generational cycles, emotional suppression, validation-seeking relationships, and the normalization of alcohol surface throughout the conversation. The episode also examines the slippery slope from social drinking to dependence, how denial shows up, and the internal bargaining that often delays change. Marci shares how practices like affirmations, forgiveness work, boundary setting, and cognitive “interrupters” can begin to rewire negative thought patterns. Marci walks through the defining moments that led to her final surrender — including the DUI that forced her to confront the reality of her drinking. She reflects on motherhood, marriage, career pressure, and the emotional reckoning that followed. The conversation closes on her path to advocacy, her commitment to breaking stigma, and how turning pain into purpose became central to her healing. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights 00:01:00 – Marci’s introduction and recovery advocacy work 00:03:00 – Childhood trauma and the first experiences of abuse 00:05:00 – Living with her grandparents and early instability 00:08:00 – Abuse and lack of maternal protection 00:10:00 – Perfectionism and controlling the external image 00:12:00 – Teen drinking, validation, and blackout weekends 00:14:00 – Escaping home life through relationships 00:16:00 – Party culture, drugs, and early adulthood 00:17:00 – DUIs and hitting early warning signs 00:20:00 – Using appearance and relationships for power 00:23:00 – Career rise in television and media 00:25:00 – Motherhood, ambition, and mounting pressure 00:26:00 – Alcohol as “liquid courage” for auditions 00:27:00 – Hiding drinking and increasing dependence 00:28:00 – The failed attempt to moderate 00:29:00 – The day of her final drink 00:31:00 – DUI arrest and confrontation with reality 00:33:00 – Surrender and return to AA 00:38:00 – Emotional sobriety and healing trauma 00:55:00 – Breaking stigma and normalizing recovery conversations Marci's Links Instagram YouTube SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia is joined by Amber Trejo, a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified clinical trauma professional who specializes in complex childhood trauma and the family system. Amber is also a wife and mom of three on her own healing journey, and today she helps Sonia unpack how childhood wounds quietly shape adult life — and what it looks like to move from survival mode into safety, self-regulation, and connection. Sonia and Amber explore the ways complex trauma can show up long after childhood — through hypervigilance, perfectionism, emotional shutdown, and repeating relationship patterns. They discuss why so many people struggle to even name what happened to them, especially when emotional neglect, invalidation, or silent treatment were normalized. Amber shares a nervous-system-centered approach to healing, weaving in polyvagal theory, cues of safety versus danger, parts work, somatic grounding, and EMDR. The conversation touches on how trauma lives in both the brain and the body, and why healing requires more than simply intellectualizing the past — it’s about building real capacity for regulation, curiosity, and connection in the present. In the personal story thread, Sonia opens up about having very few childhood memories, the fear of “making it up,” and the complicated ways trauma can surface later in adulthood, especially in relationships and family dynamics. Together, they connect trauma work to sobriety — exploring addiction as a form of nervous system coping, why white-knuckling often isn’t enough, and how early recovery sometimes means doing whatever it takes to get through the hardest moments with compassion. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. 00:00 — Amber Trejo joins Sonia to discuss trauma healing 01:00 — Amber shares her own childhood trauma and path to therapy 03:00 — Trauma resurfacing through marriage and motherhood 04:00 — Complex trauma vs single-event PTSD 05:00 — Emotional neglect as an overlooked trauma wound 07:00 — Why complex trauma shows up most in relationships 08:00 — Sonia’s “grimy breaker” metaphor for trauma patterns 10:00 — Minimizing pain: “but it could be worse” 12:00 — Shame, invalidation, and not trusting emotions 14:00 — Perfectionism as a survival strategy 15:00 — Parts work and inner child healing 17:00 — Intellectualizing vs healing in the body 18:00 — Sonia on missing childhood memories 20:00 — “What if I’m making it up?” as a trauma hallmark 22:00 — Safety and resourcing before deeper trauma work 25:00 — Cues of danger, passive aggression, and hypervigilance 31:00 — Ventral vagal state: curiosity as a sign of safety 33:00 — Addiction as nervous system regulation 38:00 — Alcohol as relief before it becomes the problem 45:00 — Early sobriety: small realistic coping tools 49:00 — Creativity, aliveness, and building daily regulation practices Amber's Links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/integrativetraumatherapist?igsh=MWpvdTI5emVyZzU4aA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr Course for parents with trauma: https://stan.store/Integrativetraumatherapist/p/-sjwt4r2x Website: https://www.theintegrativetraumatherapist.com/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sonia sits down with Dr. Maria Sophocles, an internationally respected gynecologist and leader in menopause and female sexual health, to explore what really happens to intimacy, desire, and connection in midlife. The conversation challenges the often-unspoken realities of perimenopause, menopause, and sexuality—offering women reassurance, clarity, and a sense of possibility in a season that is too often misunderstood. Sonia and Dr. Sophocles open up a wide-ranging discussion about the cultural pressure women carry around sex, the emotional weight of obligation, and how expectations in long-term relationships can quietly create distance over time. They explore themes like libido changes, communication, pleasure, dating after divorce, and the ways women can begin rewriting outdated scripts around intimacy as bodies and hormones evolve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Sophocles breaks down the physiology of menopause beyond hot flashes—touching on vaginal dryness, arousal shifts, clitoral health, and the role of estrogen deficiency in sexual function. She also clarifies common misconceptions around hormone therapy, explains why hormone testing often adds confusion, and shares evidence-based options including vaginal estrogen and newer treatments. Alongside the medical insight, Sonia also reflects on the personal side of this conversation—what it means to move from performance toward connection, from silence toward honesty, and from shame toward self-trust. Dr. Sophocles offers compassionate language for couples navigating change, and gentle encouragement for women stepping into this chapter with curiosity instead of fear. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. 00:01 — Introducing Dr. Maria Sophocles and her new book The Bedroom Gap 00:02 — Why menopause training is still missing in women’s healthcare 00:03 — The most overlooked symptom: sexual shame and silence 00:05 — What the “Bedroom Gap” really means in relationships 00:07 — How gender roles set couples up for disconnection 00:09 — Why sex education is still fear-based, not pleasure-based 00:11 — Dating after divorce in midlife: a whole new world 00:13 — Sonia opens up about “duty sex” and long-term marriage patterns 00:15 — Responsive desire: why arousal can come before libido 00:16 — The power of G-rated intimacy and skin-to-skin connection 00:18 — When a hug feels like pressure: navigating partner expectations 00:20 — How to communicate needs without triggering defensiveness 00:23 — Reframing lube, toys, and support as sex-positive tools 00:25 — Menopause changes in the brain, vulva, vagina, and clitoris 00:28 — Why vaginal estrogen is one of the most underused solutions 00:32 — Breast cancer survivors and the truth about local estrogen safety 00:33 — Other treatments: Intrarosa and Osphena 00:36 — Why hormone blood tests rarely give useful answers 00:41 — Fantasy, erotic content, and “bibliotherapy” for desire 00:45 — Dr. Sophocles’ hope: grace, permission, and rewriting the rules Dr. Sophocles LinkInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmd/ TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/maria_sophocles_what_happens_to_sex_in_midlife_a_look_at_the_bedroom_gap The Bedroom Gap: https://www.amazon.com/Bedroom-Gap-Rewrite-Rules-Roles/dp/0306837404 SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Melanie Gulde to explore what truly supportive, humane recovery can look like—especially for women. Melanie is the Co-Founder of the Divided Sky Foundation and Program Director of the Divided Sky Residential Recovery Program in Ludlow. With more than 25 years in the field, Melanie has dedicated her life to helping people rediscover their worth and build sustainable sobriety. Her work includes founding Divided Sky in partnership with Trey Anastasio — the co-founding guitarist and lead vocalist of the jam band Phish - and launching a Women’s Scholarship Fund to reduce barriers to treatment for women. You'll hear what actually helps people stay sober, how emotional sobriety supports long-term healing, and how joy, music, nature, and community can reshape the recovery experience. The episode also explores women-specific challenges like stigma, childcare, financial barriers, vulnerability in mixed-gender treatment settings, and why communal, women-centered environments can significantly improve outcomes. Melanie explains how concepts like emotional regulation, unmet expectations, family systems, accountability, and values-based recovery show up in real life, and how programs like Divided Sky integrate mindfulness, music therapy, spirituality, forest bathing, and peer support to support sustainable change. The episode also weaves in Melanie’s personal story—from getting sober in 1995 to her early work in outpatient counseling and drug court to the pivotal relationship with Trey, which led to the creation of Divided Sky. Sonia and Kathleen guide listeners through Melanie’s reflections on mentorship, mistakes, growth, and the “aha” moments that shaped her philosophy: that people don’t need punishment to heal—they need dignity, safety, and belief in their own potential. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Time-Stamped) 00:01 — Introducing Melanie Gould and the mission behind Divided Sky 00:02 — Growing up on Long Island and early influences on empathy and service 00:03 — Getting sober in 1995 and finding a calling in recovery work 00:04 — Early mentorship lessons and learning not to take relapse personally 00:06 — What drug court teaches that traditional clinical settings don’t 00:07 — Reframing “mandated treatment” and removing judgment from recovery 00:08 — Melanie’s first interactions with Trey Anastasio in drug court 00:09 — Fear, structure, and accountability in early recovery 00:11 — How a professional relationship evolved into collaboration and friendship 00:13 — Why Divided Sky was created to treat people as individuals 00:16 — What emotional sobriety really means and why it’s transformative 00:18 — Connecting emotional sobriety with the 12 Steps 00:21 — The role of music, joy, and creativity in recovery 00:24 — Joy-based recovery and the healing power of nature 00:26 — A day in the life at Divided Sky 00:28 — Community, volunteers, and connection as recovery tools 00:30 — Why the Women’s Scholarship Fund matters 00:33 — Why women recover differently and need women-centered spaces 00:35 — Changing family dynamics and their impact on recovery 00:38 — A message of hope for anyone afraid to ask for help Divided Sky Foundation SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with veteran broadcaster, journalist, and advocate Catt Sadler for a deeply honest conversation about identity, ambition, and choosing an alcohol-free life without hitting rock bottom. Best known for her more than decade-long career at E! Entertainment—Catt has long been a familiar face on red carpets and awards-season coverage. Today, she is the host and executive producer of her weekly podcast CATT SADLER Now and a leading voice in conversations about women, power, and authenticity. Throughout the conversation, Catt reflects on pivotal questions many women quietly ask themselves: What role has alcohol played in my stress, success, and social life? What happens when I stop numbing and start listening? Can I change my relationship with alcohol even if everything “looks fine” on the outside? Together, they unpack themes of high-functioning drinking, midlife reflection, identity shifts, nervous system regulation, and how wellness, meditation, and journaling can open the door to clarity and self-trust. You'll walk away with practical and educational insights around mindful sobriety, habit change, and emotional regulation. Catt shares how meditation, breathwork, journaling, and intentional morning routines supported her decision to stop drinking—and why removing alcohol created more energy, better sleep, deeper presence, and emotional resilience. The episode also explores the role of shame in keeping women stuck, how cravings and discomfort actually pass, and why modeling alcohol-free coping skills matters—especially for our children and communities. In a powerful personal segment, Catt opens up about the spiritual nudges that ultimately led her to quit drinking, the internal resistance she felt despite “not having a problem,” and the moment she realized that alcohol no longer aligned with the highest version of herself. She shares what it was like navigating social situations, holidays, college football weekends, and emotional lows without alcohol—and how staying with herself, rather than escaping, changed everything. Her story offers a compassionate roadmap for women who sense a quiet inner knowing that it might be time to turn the page. Episode Highlights 00:00 – Welcome and introduction to Catt Sadler 01:15 – Growing up around alcohol and early beliefs about drinking 03:45 – College, ambition, and “normal” social drinking 05:30 – Life at E!, pressure, motherhood, and survival mode 07:10 – When healing began before alcohol changed 08:40 – Reading Quit Like a Woman and early nudges 09:55 – Dating someone who could take alcohol or leave it 11:20 – Spiritual moments that clarified her decision 13:10 – Choosing to stop drinking at 51 14:45 – Alcohol not being “the problem,” but no longer fitting 16:10 – Meditation as a gateway to self-trust 18:05 – How to start meditating without overwhelm 20:40 – Early benefits of going alcohol-free 22:30 – Handling cravings, discomfort, and emotional waves 24:50 – Ice cream, Netflix, and self-compassion 26:10 – Morning routines and sacred mornings 28:20 – Gratitude journaling and manifestation 30:40 – Different journaling styles and creative play 33:15 – Letter writing, boundaries, and emotional processing 36:00 – Writing a memoir and revisiting the past 38:40 – Holidays, NA drinks, and social pressure 41:00 – Being sober around kids and modeling behavior 43:30 – Navigating parties, work events, and college campuses 46:10 – Sharing her sobriety publicly and community response 48:20 – Advice for women who haven’t hit “rock bottom” 50:00 – Closing reflections on staying with yourself Catt's Links Catt's IG and Substack SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Oona Metz, a therapist with 30 years of clinical experience and a leading expert in helping women navigate divorce. For the past 15 years, Oona has specialized in supporting women through the realities of divorce. She is the author of Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women. Dr. Metz frames divorce not as a failure, but as a profound life transition—one that often reshapes identity, relationships, and sobriety. They'll explore questions many women quietly carry: What actually happens emotionally during divorce? Why does it feel so disorienting—even when you’re the one who initiated it? How do grief, anger, relief, fear, and hope coexist at the same time? And why can divorce feel so lonely even when you’re surrounded by support? They talk about the deeper layers of healing, touching on community, shame, self-trust, boundaries, and the ways alcohol can quietly become a coping mechanism during this chapter. You'll will walk away with practical takeaways about the divorce process from a mental health perspective, including how divorce impacts the nervous system, why women often internalize blame, and how group support can accelerate healing. Dr. Metz explains the psychological stages of divorce, common emotional patterns women experience, and why validation, regulation, and connection are essential tools for recovery. The conversation also weaves in themes of sobriety, emotional regulation, self-worth, and rebuilding identity after major life upheaval. Sonia and Kathleen reflect on how divorce can surface old coping strategies, challenge existing support systems, and force radical honesty with oneself. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights 00:01 – Why divorce is more than a legal process—it’s an identity shift 03:12 – Oona’s 30-year clinical journey and why she focused on divorce work 06:45 – The emotional stages women experience during divorce 09:30 – Why divorce grief is often misunderstood and minimized 12:18 – How shame and self-blame show up for women 15:02 – The role of community and group support in healing 18:40 – Why divorce can trigger or intensify unhealthy coping behaviors 21:55 – Divorce, loneliness, and the myth of “strong women should handle it alone” 25:10 – How alcohol can quietly become emotional anesthesia during transitions 28:34 – Nervous system regulation during high-conflict or prolonged divorce 31:50 – What healing actually looks like in the first year post-divorce 35:15 – Letting go of the story you thought your life would follow 38:42 – Rebuilding self-trust after major relational loss 41:20 – Why validation matters more than advice in early healing 44:05 – Dating, boundaries, and identity after divorce 47:30 – How group work accelerates recovery and reduces isolation 50:18 – What Oona wishes every woman knew before starting divorce 53:00 – Turning divorce into a catalyst for clarity and growth 56:10 – Choosing sobriety as an act of self-protection and self-respect 59:00 – Final reflections on grief, freedom, and rebuilding a life on your terms Dr. Metz's Links https://www.instagram.com/oonametz/ https://www.oonametz.com/book-unhitched SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Manifestation doesn’t have to be woo-woo, unrealistic, or disconnected from real life. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Yvonne Tchrakian — corporate lawyer turned entrepreneur, manifestation teacher, founder of Pause.Penny, and host of The Manifest Movement podcast — to explore how manifestation can become a grounded, practical tool for women in recovery. Sonia helps listeners understand how manifestation can support self-trust, accountability, and healing without bypassing emotions or responsibility. Together, they unpack why manifestation can feel like it “isn’t working,” even when you’re doing all the right things. The conversation explores alignment versus hustle, fear-based desires versus intuitive ones, and how thoughts, beliefs, and actions must work together. Sonia and Yvonne touch on common blocks like scarcity thinking, misalignment, people-pleasing, and unrealistic timelines — and how those patterns quietly sabotage progress. You'll will gain clear, actionable insights into how manifestation intersects with neuroscience, habit formation, intuition, and sobriety. Yvonne explains why gratitude, affirmations, aligned action, and accountability matter more than vision boards alone, and how substances can disconnect intuition and erode self-trust. The episode also addresses spiritual bypassing, emotional processing, and why manifestation works best when paired with honesty and responsibility. In the personal story segment, Yvonne shares how grief, pregnancy loss, health challenges, and family addiction shaped her philosophy around manifestation and self-worth. Sonia reflects on sobriety, rebuilding intuition, and how letting go of old identities can unlock real change. The episode closes with a look inside Yvonne’s 21-Day Manifestation Challenge and why structure, community, and consistency help transformation stick. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. HIGHLIGHTS[00:01:00] Yvonne’s transition from law to manifestation [00:03:00] Grief as a turning point [00:05:30] Gratitude as a grounding practice [00:07:00] Belief vs. wishful thinking [00:09:30] Why alignment matters [00:12:00] Unrealistic manifestation goals [00:14:00] Actions vs. intentions [00:16:00] Scarcity thinking and money [00:18:00] Receiving support and abundance [00:20:30] Manifesting identity [00:22:00] Boundaries and self-worth [00:24:00] Family dynamics and triggers [00:27:00] Letting go of resentment [00:29:30] Fear-based desires [00:32:00] Sobriety and intuition [00:35:00] Self-trust and consistency [00:37:00] Accountability in recovery [00:39:00] Emotional processing vs. bypassing [00:42:00] Shame and forgiveness [00:47:00] Inside the 21-Day Manifestation Challenge SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The new year is upon us, and it’s the perfect time to check in with yourself and your habits. Whether you’re feeling the post-holiday burnout or just curious about how alcohol impacts your life, Dry January offers a chance to hit pause and reset. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are here to guide you through the highs, lows, and everything in between, offering tips and real talk to help you make the most of your Dry January journey—whether it's your first time or your fifth. Ever wonder why Dry January seems to be everywhere? Sonia and Kathleen dive into questions like: What makes it so popular? What physical and mental benefits can you really expect? What if you slip up mid-month? With honest reflections and practical advice, this episode will leave you feeling ready to take it one day at a time. You’ll come away with simple, effective ways to succeed—like setting realistic goals, building a support system, and swapping old habits for new ones that actually feel good. Sonia and Kathleen also dig into strategies for overcoming cravings, reframing challenges, and creating routines you’ll look forward to. Plus, ways to replace your go-to drink with something delicious, because it’s not just about taking something away—it’s about adding wellness, joy, and calm back into your life. Sonia shares how her tea bar (complete with hot chocolate mix!) became her nighttime favorite, while Kathleen talks about how even the strongest cravings can be a chance to show yourself some love. It’s a reminder that small wins—like finding joy in a cozy drink or celebrating with a letter to yourself—can make a big difference. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction to Dry January and its purpose [00:01:16] Sonia and Kathleen discuss the origins and rise in popularity [00:02:29] Research spotlight: the link between alcohol and health risks [00:03:34] Health Canada’s new guidelines on alcohol consumption [00:05:15] The role of the sober-curious movement and influencers [00:07:26] Benefits of Dry January: improved sleep, clear skin, mental clarity [00:10:29] How to set a personal “why” for motivation [00:12:10] The importance of planning for social triggers [00:13:36] Kathleen’s breakdown of SMART goals [00:16:25] Strategies for those feeling overwhelmed by a 31-day challenge [00:19:35] Managing cravings and identifying unexpected triggers [00:22:31] Mocktail recommendations and the joy of experimenting with alternative drinks [00:25:48] New evening rituals: small ways to relax and unwind [00:27:04] Celebrating progress without alcohol: creative reward ideas [00:29:59] Kathleen shares her “urge surfing” technique for dealing with cravings [00:32:25] Explanation of the RAIN mindfulness method [00:36:12] What to do if you slip up during Dry January [00:39:00] How to reflect on your Dry January experience [00:41:17] Deciding your next steps after January ends [00:43:40] Sonia’s insights on using Dry January as a springboard for personal growth [00:46:17] Final reflections and key takeaways from Sonia and Kathleen Links: Sisters In Sobriety Substack – find more tips, tricks, resources, and community 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode features Randy Hall on Buddhist-inspired recovery, mindfulness, and why healing addiction often starts with self-compassion—not judgment. Randy Hall, is a Program Coordinator with the Addiction Prevention Coalition in Birmingham, Alabama, a person in long-term recovery, a Certified Peer Support Specialist, a SMART Recovery Facilitator, and the former President of the Recovery Dharma Global community. Randy is deeply committed to building peer support spaces and advocating for multiple pathways to recovery that meet people where they are. Throughout the conversation, Sonia, Kathleen, and Randy explore what happens when someone wants recovery but doesn’t quite fit into a single prescribed model. They dig into questions around craving, identity, trauma, relapse, self-judgment, and why curiosity can be a powerful starting point for change. The episode touches on mindfulness, Buddhist-inspired recovery, peer-led support, and evidence-based tools — all through the lens of real life rather than theory. Randy breaks down Buddhist principles in an accessible, grounded way, explaining how ideas like impermanence, compassion, and mindful awareness can be used day-to-day in recovery. He shares how practices like meditation, naming emotions, and interrupting judgment helped him learn to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it. Listeners will also hear how SMART Recovery’s rational, skills-based approach complemented these practices — showing how recovery doesn’t have to be either/or, but can be built from multiple supports working together. At the heart of the episode is Randy’s story — one marked by achievement, addiction, and a dramatic turning point. He shares how years of high-functioning substance use eventually led to a life-altering diagnosis of Guillain-Barré Syndrome that left him temporarily paralyzed. What followed wasn’t a neat or linear recovery, but a painful, human process that included relapse, fear, and ultimately a deep internal shift. Randy reflects on how real change didn’t come from punishment or fear, but from learning self-compassion, finding community, and allowing himself to be honest about his suffering. His story underscores how transformation often comes not from avoiding pain, but from finally meeting it with care and support. Episode Highlights 00:01 — Randy shares how alcohol first felt like social “magic” — and how quickly it turned into something darker 00:03 — What high-functioning addiction really looks like behind the scenes 00:05 — Using substances to cope with professional pressure and internal conflict 00:06 — The shocking moment Randy’s body shut down during a kids’ soccer game 00:08 — Being paralyzed, hospitalized, and forced to confront mortality 00:10 — Why detox and physical recovery weren’t enough 00:12 — Returning home and relapsing despite everything he’d been through 00:15 — The quiet role of shame and self-loathing in addiction 00:17 — Hitting a point where change was no longer optional 00:18 — Feeling disconnected from recovery spaces that didn’t resonate 00:19 — Discovering Recovery Dharma and Buddhist-inspired recovery 00:21 — How mindfulness and rational tools can work together 00:23 — The Four Noble Truths explained in plain language 00:26 — Understanding craving as part of the human condition 00:28 — How mindfulness helps interrupt urges in real time 00:34 — The difference between awareness and judgment 00:38 — “Having tea with your demons” and learning to work with urges 00:44 — Riding urges like waves instead of fighting them 00:48 — Why community matters more than willpower 00:51 — Practical advice for anyone who feels stuck right now Randy's Links https://recoverydharma.org/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the science of cravings, anxiety, and habit change—and explore what really keeps us stuck. They’re joined by Judson Brewer, MD, PhD (“Dr. Jud”), New York Times best-selling author, neuroscientist, addiction psychiatrist, and one of the world’s leading experts on mindfulness-based behavior change. As the Director of Research and Innovation at Brown University’s Mindfulness Center, Dr. Jud has spent decades decoding how habits form in the brain and developing accessible tools that help people unwind anxiety, disrupt addictive loops, and build healthier patterns. Today, Sonia and Kathleen help listeners understand the mechanics of their own minds while Dr. Jud offers lived insight, science-backed strategies, and surprising clarity about why we repeat behaviors that don’t serve us—and how to finally change them. In the conversation, they unpack some of the biggest questions surrounding anxiety, cravings, and self-sabotage: Why does worry function like a habit? Why do some behaviors feel good in the moment but terrible later? How does the brain’s reward system trick us into repeating patterns we’ve outgrown? And what role does curiosity play in breaking addiction cycles—from alcohol to overeating to doom-scrolling? You'll hear how habit loops get encoded, why “willpower” is not the tool we've been taught to rely on, and how mindfulness becomes a practical—not mystical—interruption strategy. Dr. Jud also breaks down essential educational concepts, including reinforcement learning, negative and positive reward loops, the illusion of control in anxiety, the mechanics of disenchantment, and his three-step framework for unwinding addictive patterns. He explains how curiosity and kindness work neurologically to override craving cycles, why awareness alone can interrupt an unconscious behavior, and how updating the brain’s reward database makes change not only possible but inevitable. Along the way, listeners gain language, tools, and frameworks they can start applying immediately to their own sobriety and emotional regulation. Dr. Jud does a real-life demonstration of his method as Kathleen explores her own habit loop around stress- and boredom-eating. The conversation gets personal, relatable, and surprisingly funny as the trio walks through how discomfort, dopamine, self-soothing, and long-term values collide inside the brain. The episode closes with a reflective discussion on AI, mental health, and the future of behavior-change technology, highlighting what excites—and concerns—Dr. Jud in this rapidly shifting landscape. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights [00:01:00] Sonia and Kathleen introduce Dr. Jud and his work on anxiety, addiction, and the brain. [00:02:00] Dr. Jud shares how his own anxiety and panic attacks led him into neuroscience and meditation. [00:03:30] The early research connecting anxiety, addiction, and habit loops. [00:05:00] How a breakup and “Full Catastrophe Living” started his lifelong meditation practice. [00:07:00] Childhood curiosity, chemistry, and why humans get stuck in repetitive patterns. [00:08:30] How shame and self-blame reinforce habit loops. [00:09:00] Plain-language explanation of reinforcement learning and the habit loop. [00:11:30] Anxiety as a learned behavior: the illusion of control through worry. [00:12:30] Clinical trial results showing mindfulness reduces anxiety by 67 percent. [00:14:00] Awareness vs. identification: shifting from “I am anxious” to “I’m noticing anxiety.” [00:15:00] Why we return to habits that hurt us, even when we know better. [00:17:00] Disenchantment and updating the brain’s reward system. [00:19:30] Why willpower fails: the neuroscience behind “stop it” not working. [00:20:00] Smoking cessation examples—patients realizing cigarettes taste terrible. [00:22:00] How paying attention changes overeating behaviors within 10–15 repetitions. [00:24:00] A patient’s breakthrough using morning reflection to break alcohol dependency. [00:26:00] How the same loop applies across addictions: food, alcohol, sex, gambling, digital habits. [00:28:00] Introducing the “pleasure plateau” and learning when a reward stops rewarding. [00:31:00] How curiosity interrupts craving cycles and builds distress tolerance. [00:33:30] Dr. Jud’s three-step method for behavior change. [00:37:00] What to say when someone insists “mindfulness doesn’t work for me.” [00:38:00] Live demo: Kathleen and Dr. Jud map her stress-eating habit loop. [00:44:00] The intersection of AI, reinforcement learning, and mental health. [00:47:00] Expanding access with AI-supported learning assistants in Going Beyond Anxiety. [00:49:00] The risks of relying on AI for companionship and therapy advice. [00:52:00] Where listeners struggling with addiction can start with Mindshift Recovery. Dr. Jud Links www.goingbeyondanxiety.comwww.drjud.comJudbrewer.substack.comSIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore one of the most universal yet misunderstood parts of human life: grief. They’re joined by Melanie Wilson—grief advocate, creative ritual designer, event curator, and founder of Life and Soul—who brings a deeply grounded and accessible perspective on navigating loss, building community, and supporting others with compassion. Sonia and Kathleen chat with Melanie about topics that sit at the core of grief work: Why is it so hard to talk about death? How do we show up for grieving friends without saying the wrong thing? What does real, ongoing support look like beyond the first week of casseroles? Why do people feel so alone when loss is universal? And what does it mean to create rituals—personal or communal—that help us stay connected to the people we’ve lost? These themes draw directly from Melanie’s work supporting grievers through community, storytelling, creativity, and continued bonds. You'll understand key concepts such as grief as a continuing relationship, collective grieving, grief allyship, the limits of numbing through alcohol, and why authentic presence is more powerful than perfect words. Melanie offers practical takeaways about holding space, asking better questions, supporting ritual-building, understanding grief “waves,” and replacing isolating narratives with compassionate ones. She also shares insights about how grief affects cognition, emotions, and relationships—grounded in her professional grief-ally framework and her work as a celebrant and community organizer. This episode also dives deep into Melanie’s personal story: the three consecutive years of profound loss that shaped her calling; the awkward moments of being “the death of the party”; creating New York grief mixers and art-centered memorial experiences; her five-year commemoration project for her father; and why people cry at her events even when they “didn’t expect to.” Sonia and Kathleen also reflect candidly on their own grief missteps, the complexities of supporting partners who are grieving, and the vulnerability of learning how to be a better ally over time. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Time-Stamped)00:01 — Sonia and Kathleen introduce Melanie Wilson and her work at the intersection of grief, art, and community. 00:02 — Melanie shares her earliest encounters with loss and how three consecutive years of death reshaped her path. 00:04 — What it means to be a “griever creating community” and why people need connection outside their family. 00:05 — Challenging the belief that “everyone grieves differently” and reframing grief as a collective experience. 00:06 — How public, creative expressions of grief revealed new ways people can heal together. 00:07 — Joining The Dinner Party and realizing the role of in-person community in grief support. 00:09 — Launching her first New York City grief mixers and discovering that people want to talk about grief. 00:10 — The origin story of being “the death of the party” and embracing authenticity in social spaces. 00:11 — Reframing grief as a continued relationship rather than something to move on from. 00:13 — Kathleen shares her own grief experience and discusses the discomfort of others avoiding the topic. 00:15 — Why grievers feel burdened asking to talk about their person—and why invitations matter. 00:16 — Challenging the cultural pressure to “find closure” or “move on.” 00:17 — Overview of Death of the Party events and how art, performance, and community rituals support expression. 00:21 — Grief, numbing, and the role of alcohol—why people seek escape and what healthier alternatives can offer. 00:24 — Melanie’s reframing of rituals and the idea of creating new, personal traditions. 00:26 — Examples of personal rituals: candles, gardening, art, shawls, favorite meals, and remembrance objects. 00:29 — Balancing grief with joy, and how certain rituals bring comfort rather than sadness. 00:30 — Music as both a trigger and a tool for connection in grief. 00:33 — Why grief events become “brave spaces,” not “safe spaces,” and the value of emotional discomfort. 00:34 — Melanie’s five-year commemoration ceremony for her father and reconnecting with his community. 00:36 — What it means to be a grief ally and how to hold space without fixing. 00:38 — Common mistakes people make when trying to comfort someone grieving—and language to avoid. 00:40 — How storytelling helps grievers integrate loss and strengthen continued bonds. 00:42 — Melanie’s advice for those afraid to face their grief: start small, stay intentional, and find community. 00:44 — Closing reflections and gratitude for Melanie’s wisdom.   SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. 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In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we explore recovery and identity with Arlina Allen, who uses neuroscience principles to help people heal, regulate stress and rewrite their patterns. What happens when alcohol is no longer our coping strategy — and how do we rebuild our nervous system, our patterns, and our sense of self? With over 30 years of sobriety, Arlina has become a trusted voice in recovery, neuroscience, self-leadership, and sustainable change. She’s also the bestselling author of The 12-Step Guide for Skeptics and host of The One Day at a Time Recovery Podcast, ranked in the top 1% of all self-help shows. This episode explores questions many women face in recovery: What if 12-step programs didn’t feel like your path—can they still work for you? How does identity, trauma, or high-functioning behavior shape addiction? Can we pursue ambition and protect our emotional health? Sonia and Arlina unpack how language—sober curious, gray area drinking, substance use disorder—can both define us and limit us, and how neuroscience can help explain cravings, coping strategies, and our repeated patterns. You'll hear practical strategies grounded in neuroscience, mindfulness, emotional resilience, and stress regulation—core principles in Arlina’s coaching programs and workshops. She breaks down how the default mode network shapes identity, the difference between spirituality and religion in recovery, and how self-regulation tools, time audits, somatic practices, and boundaries help reduce burnout without losing ambition. Recovery isn’t about adding more to your life—it’s often about subtracting what drains you. Arlina also opens up about drinking at age 10, surviving trauma, navigating intimacy, marriage, envy, perfectionism, and burnout—and how the emotional work of sobriety continues even after 31 years. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights[00:02:10] Drinking at age 10 — “relief before I understood pain” [00:04:35] High-functioning but spiraling — identity vs. consequences [00:07:00] The 12 steps as tools, even for skeptics [00:09:30] Spirituality vs religious trauma — redefining a higher power [00:11:20] Why “alcoholic” doesn’t have to be a shame label [00:13:15] Sober curious, gray area drinkers & language [00:15:10] Can AA work if you’re not fully abstinent? [00:19:00] Neuroscience 101 — the default mode network explained [00:21:50] Cortisol, sleep, neuroplasticity & emotional regulation [00:24:30] Childhood wiring and belief systems [00:27:40] Perfectionism, intimacy, and emotional avoidance [00:29:30] Working the steps inside marriage [00:33:25] Character defects vs character assets—reframing [00:36:40] Burnout in recovery — sneaky signs [00:39:45] Resentment, envy & high-performing women [00:44:00] “If you spot it, you’ve got it” — mirror theory [00:47:00] Time audits, priorities & time drunkenness [00:50:10] The Kool-Aid metaphor — why morning practices matter [00:54:05] Cultivating joy & experimenting with hobbies [00:56:20] “Recovery is about recovering your whole self” Connect With Arlina 🌐 www.soberlifeschool.com 📸 Instagram: @arlinaallen | @odaatpodcast SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode dives into the hidden patterns that drive our behavior—the subconscious loops that keep us repeating choices we don’t even realize we’re making. Helping unpack it all is Bizzie Gold, tech founder, behavior futurist, and inventor of Brain Pattern Mapping, a groundbreaking system that predicts behavior and thought patterns with 98.3% accuracy. Through Break Method and her bestselling book Your Brain Is a Filthy Liar, Bizzie is redefining healing beyond coping—guiding people toward real personal agency.  The discussion explores powerful questions: How do early experiences shape how we see the world? Why do we repeat cycles even when we know they’re hurting us? Is self-awareness enough—or is something deeper running the show? Bizzie breaks down perception, decision-making, emotional responses, trauma, addiction cycles, anxiety, and childhood conditioning. Sonia invites listeners to consider how distorted narratives, triggers, and brain patterns influence choices, relationships, substance use, and behavior—and how those patterns can actually be interrupted. You'll learn about subconscious programming, self-deception, childhood patterning, addictive cycles, and how the neurocognitive funnel predicts emotional and behavioral responses. Bizzie shares actionable insights on language architecture, pattern recognition, emotional regulation, brain mapping, and how neuroscience and data can create sustainable rewiring—not temporary fixes or codependent therapy patterns. It’s an eye-opening look at how behavior truly works—and how to start shifting out of survival mode. Later in the episode, Bizzie opens up about her own story—growing up as the young mediator in a chaotic home, living with panic attacks for a decade, and the spiritual moment at age 19 that changed her trajectory completely. Her journey moves from anxiety to agency, from curiosity to innovation—and from a napkin sketch to a powerful global behavior technology.  This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. ⏱️ Time-Stamped Highlights[00:01:00] Introducing Break Method and how it began [00:02:20] Childhood environment and hyper-awareness [00:03:15] Anxiety and insomnia shaping her worldview [00:05:00] Fight Club and the spark behind self-deception research [00:07:45] The moment panic attacks ended at age 19 [00:10:00] Controlled surrender vs. relying on willpower [00:12:30] Mapping faith and neuroscience together [00:14:00] The napkin moment: the birth of Break Method [00:17:20] Teaching thousands and tracking results [00:20:00] Efficacy rates and peer-reviewed research [00:21:45] Evolving Break into behavioral tech [00:22:10] What is a subconscious pattern? [00:23:00] Childhood cues and perception of safety [00:25:00] How reality becomes distorted [00:28:00] Addiction as downstream behavior [00:31:00] Seeing why someone uses—not just that they use [00:33:30] The prison experiment—transformation in two days [00:38:00] Uncovering abuse through behavior mapping [00:45:00] Language architecture and emotional loops [00:50:00] Why the brain prefers familiar pain [00:51:30] Where someone stuck in addiction should begin [00:54:00] Scaling the modality—training providers [00:55:00] The mission to bring this into schools   SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anxiety, emotional regulation, intrusive thoughts, sobriety, and nervous system regulation—this Sisters in Sobriety episode gives you tools to cope and heal. This week, Sonia and Kathleen guide listeners through a grounded, compassionate conversation designed to help them understand anxiety, regulate intense emotions, and shift long-standing mental loops. Their guest is Emma McAdam, licensed marriage and family therapist and creator of the hugely popular YouTube channel Therapy in a Nutshell. Together, they unpack how anxiety works—and offer practical steps toward emotional resilience. Throughout the episode, they explore what fuels the anxiety cycle, why avoidance strengthens fear, and what it means to approach discomfort instead of escape it. You'll hear discussions on alcohol as a coping mechanism, early sobriety triggers, hypervigilance, intrusive thoughts, parenting anxious kids, and learning to make choices based on values instead of fear. These conversations tease out big themes around behavior change, emotional processing, and building self-trust. You'll walk away with a deep understanding of the anxiety cycle, avoidance behaviors, somatic grounding, diffusion techniques, exposure hierarchies, polyvagal-based calming strategies, intrusive thought interruptions, and morning light therapy. Emma explains why the brain is built for survival—not happiness—and how simple, consistent regulation practices retrain the nervous system.  The episode also has personal storytelling—from Emma’s wilderness therapy beginnings and viral video journey to parenting anxious children and learning to separate identity from emotion. Sonia shares what it felt like to confront raw feelings after quitting alcohol, while Kathleen reflects on helping her daughter build emotional resilience. Together, they show how healing happens in real life: messy, imperfect, and full of slow, meaningful growth. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sobriety, midlife purpose, and finding your spark again. Sonia sits down with activist and author Shannon Watts. Shannon is the founder of Moms Demand Action, the nation’s largest grassroots group fighting gun violence. She led the organization to pass over 500 gun-safety laws and mobilize millions of supporters. She’s been named one of TIME’s 100 Most Influential People, a Forbes 50 Over 50 Changemaker, and a Glamour Woman of the Year. In 2025 she published her book Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. Together, they talk about what it really looks like to rebuild your life when the old one stops fitting. Shannon shares the story of her own “wake-up moment,” and Sonia brings her lived experience of starting over, making hard pivots, and learning to own her sobriety without apology. This episode is all about finding your spark again, even if you haven’t felt it in years. Sonia and Shannon dive into the big questions so many women wrestle with in midlife: How do you know when you’re meant for something more? What if you’ve spent decades doing what you were supposed to do instead of what you actually want? How do you handle people’s opinions when you finally step into your power? And what happens when drinking, dating, parenting, obligations, burnout, and old roles start to clash with the woman you’re becoming? Listeners will walk away with practical guidance and clarity around what lights them up. Shannon shares her simple framework for figuring out your next chapter, how to deal with criticism without shrinking, and why rest, boundaries, community, and honesty matter more than perfection. This episode also looks at signs you might be ready for a change, the myths about “purpose,” the pressure women carry in midlife, and the surprising freedom that comes with not caring what everyone else thinks. Sonia opens up about dating in sobriety, making herself small for years, and the moment she realized she didn’t need to apologize for the life she’s building. Shannon shares the realities of starting a national movement while raising five kids, navigating co-parenting, dealing with internet trolls, and knowing when it was finally time to step back. It’s heartfelt, real, and filled with the kind of “me too” moments that make women feel less alone. Episode Highlights  01:00 Shannon shares the moment she realized her life wasn’t aligned anymore 03:12 The emergency room visit that became her turning point 04:10 How journaling helped her map out a completely different future 06:02 Shannon explains her “values, abilities, desires” formula 07:15 Why so many women put obligations before what they actually want 09:20 The guilt and shame that show up when women start changing their lives 11:05 Sonia talks about the date that made her second-guess her sobriety identity 12:14 Shannon’s advice for handling criticism without shrinking 16:08 What launching Moms Demand Action looked like behind the scenes 18:02 The fear moms have about pursuing desires “at the expense of their kids” 20:40 How to know it’s time for a pivot even without a dramatic crisis 23:05 Discovering abilities you don’t realize you have 25:00 Sonia shares how nightly drinking revealed deeper misalignment 26:15 Shannon on her “controlled burn” approach to clearing space for change 28:20 The difference between true urgency and pressure we put on ourselves 30:12 Why Gen X women have more freedom in midlife than we realize 33:00 Shannon redefines success after years of burnout and martyrdom 35:18 How female friendships became the backbone of her second chapter 37:05 Sonia talks about intentionally rebuilding her community 40:22 The hardest “no” Shannon ever had to make in her career 46:04 The early “failure” that ended up shaping her entire movement 47:18 What Shannon hopes her next decade looks like SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Infidelity, emotional sobriety, and recovery collide in this raw and honest continuation of the Sisters in Sobriety infidelity chat. In today’s episode, Sonia and Kathleen explore what happens when betrayal shows up in a relationship — and how to navigate it without abandoning yourself or your sobriety. They dig into the emotional rollercoaster, the shame that can surface on both sides, and the surprising ways infidelity can mimic relapse patterns even without alcohol involved. We'll unpack: what does emotional sobriety look like when your heart just got shattered? Can cheating happen as a form of emotional escape? How do you stay grounded when your nervous system is on fire and every coping mechanism is calling your name? And why does early recovery sometimes make people more vulnerable to risky behavior and emotional impulsivity? You'll hear strategies for repairing trust, protecting your recovery, and reconnecting with your values — even when life feels like it’s exploded. Sonia also opens up about her own experience with infidelity in her marriage, the fight to stay sober through heartbreak, and the fierce determination to not let someone else's choices take away the life she worked so hard to build. Together, she and Kathleen explore what healing can look like — and what they wish they knew back then about boundaries, self-trust, and choosing yourself in the aftermath. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights00:00 – The story starts with cruise-chaos and questionable onboard sushi 01:55 – A pivot from food poisoning to infidelity and emotional sobriety 02:58 – Emotional sobriety explained — steadiness when life gets messy 04:03 – Cheating as misalignment with values, not a “good vs bad person” label 05:26 – Emotional relapse vs physical relapse, and where infidelity fits in 06:41 – Dishonesty, avoidance, and numbing behaviors as warning signs 07:34 – What staying sober through betrayal actually feels like 08:17 – Accountability as the foundation for emotional recovery 09:08 – How betrayal can trigger old coping urges and emotional spiraling 10:03 – The difference between staying sober and staying emotionally regulated 11:12 – “You won’t take my sobriety too” — sobriety as rebellion and self-protection 12:17 – The dopamine hit of infidelity and temptation in early recovery 13:12 – Pause, play the tape forward, ruin the fantasy (and save yourself) 14:19 – Stumbling doesn't end your recovery — denial does 15:37 – Hyper-vigilance vs healing — and why control isn’t safety 17:45 – Avoiding conflict vs actually repairing the relationship 19:40 – The messy reality of sexual communication after betrayal 20:53 – Sonia reflects on self-blame and impossible expectations 23:40 – Letting go of “if I do everything right, they won’t cheat” 26:22 – A grounding tool for the day after everything falls apart 28:10 – Closing gratitude + a reminder that healing is possible SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences in any relationship—and for many, it can also become a turning point. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen unpack what it really means to stay emotionally sober through betrayal, heartbreak, and healing. Drawing on their own lived experiences and Kathleen’s clinical expertise, they’ll help you understand not only why infidelity happens, but how to navigate the emotional fallout with clarity, self-compassion, and growth. Together, they explore questions many of us have struggled with in silence: What counts as cheating? Is emotional infidelity just as damaging as physical betrayal? Can a relationship ever truly recover from deceit? And how do alcohol, secrecy, and unmet needs complicate our choices—and our healing? From defining betrayal to understanding why it feels so personal, this conversation offers both insight and empathy for anyone who’s been on either side of infidelity. Listeners will learn how infidelity impacts emotional sobriety, the difference between emotional and physical affairs, and how alcohol can blur—but never justify—boundaries. Kathleen breaks down the psychology of betrayal, explaining the roles of trust, attachment, and validation, while Sonia opens up about her own experience of infidelity and what it taught her about resilience, self-worth, and the power of sitting with discomfort. You’ll walk away with practical insights about rebuilding trust, recognizing red flags, and understanding when it’s time to rebuild—or let go. Finally, Sonia shares a deeply personal story about the aftermath of her own betrayal—the shock, the anger, and the white-knuckled early days of staying sober through grief—while Kathleen reflects on what it takes to heal, whether together or apart. Their raw honesty and humor make space for reflection, laughter, and growth, even in the messy middle of heartbreak. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights 00:00 – Sonia and Kathleen kick off with humor and a “dating disaster” red flag story 01:30 – Introducing the topic: why infidelity brings even the strongest to their knees 03:00 – Defining what “infidelity” really means—beyond just sex 04:15 – Kathleen explains deception and secrecy as the real breach of trust 05:45 – Emotional cheating vs. friendship—where’s the line? 07:00 – The danger of fantasy and emotional displacement 08:00 – A lighthearted detour into Jason Momoa and fantasy boundaries 09:00 – Alcohol and infidelity—how lowered inhibitions aren’t the same as lost morals 10:30 – Sonia recalls the difference between blackouts and passing out 11:15 – Why betrayal feels like a personal rejection (and why it’s not about you) 12:00 – The “roommate syndrome” and what makes relationships vulnerable 13:30 – Kathleen explains how discomfort avoidance fuels betrayal 14:30 – Sobriety and infidelity—why staying sober makes you feel more, not less 16:00 – Can good relationships survive cheating? 17:00 – When infidelity isn’t about love, but about lost identity 18:30 – Rebuilding after betrayal—what it really takes 19:30 – The long road back to trust and why it’s often harder than people realize 20:30 – “Punishment mode” after infidelity and the death-by-a-thousand-cuts dynamic 22:00 – Is it ever just about sex? Desire discrepancy and longing for aliveness 23:15 – Esther Perel’s perspective on why people cheat 24:30 – Navigating the recovery process: disclosure, accountability, and trust rebuilding 25:45 – Setting communication boundaries when discussing betrayal 27:00 – Why triggers can reappear years later—and how to respond with empathy 28:00 – When it’s time to walk away with love and clarity 29:00 – The importance of remorse, accountability, and emotional safety 30:00 – Closing reflections and the promise of a follow-up episode on emotional sobriety SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bicultural identity, authenticity, boundaries, and belonging — this week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with award-winning therapist, author, and Washington Post columnist Sahaj Kaur Kohli, founder of Brown Girl Therapy (@browngirltherapy). Sahaj is the author of But What Will People Say: Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love, and Family Between Cultures and host of So We’ve Been Told. Together, Sonia and Sahaj explore how culture shapes our emotional lives and what it really means to honor your identity while protecting your mental health. This conversation unpacks what happens when cultural expectations collide with personal truth. Sonia and Sahaj discuss why “just be yourself” can be harmful advice for children of immigrants, how boundaries sound different across cultures, and why guilt and shame can linger even in healing. They dive into the nuances of bicultural identity, family dynamics, and how recovery and self-discovery intersect when you grow up between worlds. You’ll gain a deeper understanding of bicultural identity, intergenerational trauma, authenticity, and decolonizing mental health. Sahaj explains how Western therapy often misses cultural context and why redefining concepts like boundaries, self-care, and recovery through a collectivist lens can change everything. She shares practical frameworks for discernment, emotional safety, and reclaiming ancestral wisdom in modern mental-health practices. Sonia also shares her personal story of navigating no contact, cultural shame, and the grief that comes with estrangement. Together, she and Sahaj reflect on how to hold compassion for parents shaped by survival, while creating space for your own healing. It’s a candid and heartfelt conversation about identity, duty, and the freedom to choose what wholeness means to you. This is Sisters in Sobriety — the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Introduction to Sahaj Kaur Kohli and her work bridging mental health and culture [00:02:00] The origins of Brown Girl Therapy and how identity crises inspired it [00:04:00] Why “boundaries” can feel unnatural in collectivist families [00:05:30] Reframing boundaries as compromise, connection, and care [00:06:30] The myth of authenticity when you live between cultures [00:08:00] Adapting between cultural spaces without losing yourself [00:09:30] The difference between hiding and lying in family systems [00:12:00] When immigrant parents surprise you with growth and empathy [00:13:30] Narrative therapy and rewriting generational family stories [00:16:00] “What will people say?” and the survival logic behind shame [00:18:00] Intergenerational trauma and assimilation through an immigrant lens [00:20:00] Drinking culture, gender, and coping in Punjabi families [00:23:30] How recovery language often excludes cultural context [00:26:00] What culturally responsive recovery could look like [00:29:00] The role of shame across cultures and its impact on healing [00:31:00] What it means to decolonize mental-health practices [00:33:00] When duty is love — and when it becomes control [00:36:00] Setting boundaries and practicing discernment with family [00:39:00] Grieving family estrangement and re-parenting yourself [00:44:00] Redefining self-care as collective and cultural care [00:47:00] What’s next for Sahaj and Brown Girl Therapy SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Harvard’s Dr. John Kelly joins Sisters in Sobriety to unpack the science of recovery, language, and what really works long-term. Addiction recovery isn’t a mystery—it’s a science. Dr.Kelly, Professor of Psychiatry in Addiction Medicine and Founder of the Recovery Research Institute at Massachusetts General Hospital. Together, they explore what the data actually shows about recovery, relapse, language, and long-term healing—and how our understanding of addiction has evolved far beyond stigma and shame. Throughout this conversation, Sonia and Kathleen unpack big questions about recovery and remission: Is addiction really a chronic disease—or does that label sometimes hurt more than it helps? How does the language we use—terms like “abuser,” “addict,” or even “clean”—impact recovery outcomes? And what does the evidence say about the effectiveness of AA compared to other programs and modern approaches to long-term sobriety? They talk about key scientific and psychological concepts such as behavioral mechanisms of recovery, language-based stigma reduction, chronic disease framing, psychosocial support networks, and gender differences in relapse and recovery. Dr. Kelly explains why AA remains the most evidence-based recovery tool for alcohol use disorder, how social connection drives sustained remission, and why linking clinical care to community-based supports is critical to long-term success. In the personal story segment, Sonia shares how fear of stigma once kept her from seeking help while she was still a practicing dentist—and how Dr. Kelly’s research validates those fears and offers a new framework for compassionate understanding. Together, they discuss what’s changing in the recovery landscape—from virtual meetings to redefining “recovery” itself—and how science is helping rewrite the story of what healing can look like. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Time-Stamped)00:00 – Sonia and Kathleen introduce Dr. John Kelly, Harvard Professor and Founder of the Recovery Research Institute. 01:30 – Dr. Kelly shares how personal experience drew him to addiction medicine. 03:10 – Why short-term treatment isn’t enough—and the importance of long-term recovery support. 04:20 – Understanding the “chronic disease” model of addiction: when it helps and when it harms. 05:45 – The surprising statistic: 72% of people with substance use disorders achieve sustained remission. 06:50 – How language shapes stigma—why “abuser” versus “person with a substance use disorder” matters. 08:40 – Studies showing clinicians and the public are both biased by the words we use. 10:30 – How self-stigma can lead to treatment dropout and hinder recovery. 12:15 – The neuroscience of addiction: how chronic exposure changes the brain. 14:10 – Why clinicians need better training in screening, coding, and compassionate documentation. 17:00 – Sonia shares her personal fear of seeking help due to professional stigma. 18:20 – What “recovery” really means—and how to define it beyond remission. 21:40 – Dr. Kelly’s analogy of photosynthesis and “psychosynthesis” in human recovery. 24:00 – What decades of research show about AA’s effectiveness and why it works. 26:40 – The difference between process addictions and substance use disorders. 27:40 – AA’s abstinence roots—and how it evolved over time. 31:10 – Who benefits most from AA, and who might need alternative programs. 34:00 – Comparing AA to Smart Recovery, LifeRing, and Women for Sobriety. 39:00 – The science behind why AA works: social networks, coping skills, and self-efficacy. 43:30 – Gender differences in recovery: how AA supports women differently than men. 48:00 – Dr. Kelly’s current research on relapse after long-term remission. 51:00 – His vision for an integrated, wraparound system of recovery support. 54:00 – How to reach the 80% of people with untreated addiction. 56:00 – The future of virtual recovery meetings and what researchers are exploring next. 57:00 – Final reflections on redefining recovery and sustaining remission over a lifetime. Dr. Kelly's Links🔗 Recovery Research Institute 🔗 Cochrane Systematic Review: Alcoholics Anonymous and Other 12-Step Programs 🔗 Cochrane Author Interview with Dr. John Kelly SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to transforming your environment, the energy of a space can be just as powerful as its aesthetics. On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we explore how intentional design, Feng Shui, and spiritual alignment can support wellness, recovery, and renewal. Joining Sonia is Alejandra G. Brady—Founder & Visionary of Casa Shui Life, Feng Shui & Biophilic Designer, best-selling author, and energy alchemist. With over two decades in luxury interiors, Alejandra pivoted her career after a profound awakening at age 50, weaving ancient energetic practices into her design work to help clients create sanctuaries that heal, inspire, and uplift. In their conversation, they dive into what Feng Shui really is (beyond the myths), how our homes can impact health, relationships, and creativity, and the subtle yet powerful shifts that make a space magnetic. Together, they explore questions like: What does it mean to “sleep under knives”? Why is the bedroom the most important room for love and rest? How can unused or cluttered spaces block abundance? And how do color, light, and texture play into energy flow? Listeners will walk away with practical takeaways on how to shift their own spaces using intentional placement, the Bagua map, biophilic principles, and crystals. You’ll learn why small choices—like moving an heirloom, clearing out old love letters, or balancing elements with plants and lighting—can have ripple effects in your health, wealth, relationships, and emotional clarity.  Beyond the design tools, Alejandra shares deeply personal stories: her health struggles and surgeries leading up to her 50th birthday, the life-changing consultation with her mentor, and how she became her own first “Feng Shui client.” She recounts the dramatic changes in her own home, her spiritual awakening, and the unexpected calling to write her memoir I Just Can’t Make This Sh!t Up. They reflect with her on how space can heal grief, nurture sobriety, and anchor a new chapter of life with intention and beauty. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights00:00 – Welcoming Alejandra Brady and her journey from luxury interiors to Feng Shui 02:00 – The health crises at age 50 that became a turning point 04:30 – Her first Feng Shui consultation and the life-changing mentorship that followed 06:15 – Why certification in Feng Shui matters when working with energy 08:00 – How meditation led to writing her memoir and oracle deck 10:00 – The surprising role of silverware under the bed and the connection to surgeries 13:30 – How clearing a client’s old love letters invited in a new partner 16:00 – Bedroom Feng Shui: rest, romance, and relaxation as the foundation 18:00 – The “coffin position” and practical adjustments for better sleep 20:30 – Why single artwork or photos can unintentionally block love 22:00 – Using crystals like rose quartz for love and amethyst for sobriety support 24:00 – Avoiding clutter while integrating crystals intentionally into design 26:00 – Protecting energy as a practitioner with crystals in everyday life 27:00 – Where to source crystals and how to clear them 29:30 – Broken objects, wealth corners, and knowing when to release or repurpose 31:00 – The dramatic story of a client healing after moving a painting of water 34:00 – Literal connections between words (“burnt out”) and home energy 36:00 – Understanding the Bagua map and the nine areas of life it represents 40:00 – How interconnected areas (wealth, career, fame) affect one another 42:00 – Using Feng Shui for both large and micro spaces—even a mattress 44:00 – The importance of keeping unused rooms alive with intention 47:00 – Creating multifunctional rooms that support family and life transitions 50:00 – How colors, textures, and the five elements (fire, water, earth, wood, metal) balance a space 53:00 – Triple-duty design: objects that bring multiple elements into balance 55:00 – Live plants vs. fake plants—what really matters energetically 56:30 – Preserved flowers, sentimental items, and when joy overrides rules 57:00 – Alejandra’s current projects, travel plans, and future online courses Alejandra's Links📸 Alejandra G. Brady Instagram SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the power of storytelling, resilience, and rewriting our lives with special guest Marsha Vanwynsberghe. Marsha is the founder of OUTSPOKEN, a leadership platform designed to help female entrepreneurs rise as global thought leaders through coaching, writing, speaking, and publishing. As an NLP Trainer, six-time Best-Selling Author, and Boutique Publisher, she empowers her clients to rewire limiting beliefs and build confidence. Today, Sonia and Kathleen explore how her unique blend of personal story and professional expertise helps women transform pain into purpose. Together, they unpack what it really means to share your story, the difference between wounds and scars, how emotions live in the body, and why resilience doesn’t mean going it alone. They also talk about the role of subconscious patterns in shaping our behavior, the signals cravings send us, and how practices like NLP and reframing beliefs can shift everything from self-worth to success. Listeners will come away with practical tools for emotional processing, boundary setting, and storytelling. Key takeaways include understanding how emotions last only 90 seconds unless we attach a story, why humor and reframing are powerful tools to loosen old narratives, and how to interrupt negative thought loops with curiosity and new language. You’ll also learn how NLP helps reprogram the subconscious mind so that the conscious goals you set actually stick. On a more personal note, Marsha opens up about her journey through family addiction, living with endometriosis, and how early experiences with shame shaped her emotional landscape. She shares how storytelling became her healing tool, what it took to forgive herself, and how she moved from silence to speaking boldly. Sonia and Kathleen also bring their own stories to the conversation, making this a raw, relatable, and uplifting episode you won’t want to miss. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights00:01:00 – Marsha shares her transition from kinesiology to coaching and NLP 00:02:45 – Her experience with teen substance abuse and how it changed her family’s story 00:04:10 – The truth about resilience: why it doesn’t mean doing it alone 00:05:30 – How storytelling became a guidebook for others in similar struggles 00:07:15 – Recognizing the generational silence around addiction and shame 00:08:20 – Forgiving herself and reframing past failures 00:09:40 – Difference between telling your story “in it” vs. “on it” 00:11:10 – Wounds vs. scars: why healing requires more than time 00:13:30 – Writing a book while still in the story and how to cope 00:15:10 – Using humor to loosen the subconscious grip of painful stories 00:17:20 – How emotions live in the body and why they last only 90 seconds 00:20:10 – Identifying trigger emotions and patterns 00:23:15 – How unprocessed emotions manifest as physical illness 00:25:30 – Shame, trauma, and how blocked emotions limit joy 00:28:15 – The difference between feeding and feeling emotions 00:29:40 – What happens when people in sobriety stop numbing emotions 00:33:00 – Curiosity as a tool to manage cravings and triggers 00:36:20 – What NLP is and how it rewires subconscious beliefs 00:40:00 – The role of language in reinforcing or breaking down beliefs 00:57:00 – Visualization, manifestation, and acting “as if” Marsha’s Links 🔗 Marsha’s Website 📸 Marsha on Instagram SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex after 50 doesn’t have to mean slowing down — it can mean leveling up. On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Karen Bigman, a Certified Sex Educator and Sex & Dating Coach who hosts Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50. Karen isn’t afraid to talk about what really goes on in the bedroom. With humor and zero shame, she helps women in midlife ditch outdated scripts, embrace their desires, and create hotter, more connected relationships — no matter their age. They talk about all the things we wish someone had told us sooner: what changes during menopause, how to redefine intimacy, what dating looks like after divorce, and why pleasure and connection don’t come with an expiration date. Sonia asks Karen the tough (and often taboo) questions: How do you rebuild sexual confidence after a breakup? What role do hormones play in libido? How do you navigate kinks, red flags, and sober dating in midlife? They'll give real-world insights on topics like hormone replacement therapy, the role of testosterone in women’s sexual health, how to reset after a painful sexual experience, and the importance of communication when it comes to intimacy. Karen also shares practical advice on using lube, understanding your body, exploring non-sexual intimacy, and setting healthy expectations in relationships and dating. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights[00:01:00] Karen’s journey from divorce coach to launching Taboo to Truth [00:02:30] The book club moment that sparked her mission to break sexual taboos [00:03:20] Why an old flame’s comment about “women your age” lit a fire under her [00:04:00] Struggling with orgasm and the surprising role of testosterone [00:05:00] The doctor’s appointment — and the vibrator — that changed her life [00:06:00] Finding inclusivity and growth in the Sexual Health Alliance community [00:07:20] How a lingerie photo shoot helped her feel more comfortable in her body [00:08:30] The importance of rejecting the outdated “I’m done with sex” script [00:09:40] Hormone replacement therapy — benefits and misconceptions [00:11:00] Body acceptance, aging, and wearing bikinis anyway [00:12:30] Non-sexual intimacy and rebuilding after divorce [00:14:00] What menopause really does to your vulva and clitoris [00:15:30] The realities of dating in your 40s, 50s, and 60s [00:17:30] Red flags to watch for when reentering the dating scene [00:18:20] Dating sober vs. dating with “beer goggles” [00:20:00] How to talk about STIs, sobriety, and other “taboo” disclosures [00:23:00] Why communication about sex and money is non-negotiable [00:26:00] Decoding kink, fantasies, and consent in midlife dating [00:32:00] Resetting after painful or disappointing sexual experiences [00:36:00] How to stop falling into “duty sex” patterns [00:41:00] Why sexual incompatibility might mean relationship incompatibility [00:42:00] Karen’s next taboo to explore: sex parties Karen’s LinksInstagram: @taboototruth YouTube: @taboototruthpodcast Karen Bigman on LinkedIn SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Jessica Miller, clinical therapist and host of Mind Your Boundaries on YouTube. Jessica is a passionate boundary enthusiast who helps peacekeepers and people-pleasers set and maintain healthy boundaries with challenging family members. Together, they dive into the intersection of boundaries, emotional maturity, and sobriety—exploring how clear limits can protect recovery and build healthier relationships. Jessica, Sonia, and Kathleen explore questions like: How do you know when a relationship is draining and could threaten your sobriety? What’s the difference between a healthy boundary and punishment? When is guilt helpful, and when is it just old conditioning? They talk about estrangement, reconciliation, and why emotional maturity matters when setting boundaries with parents, partners, and friends. By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to: Spot when resentment is building and use boundaries to keep relationships strong Tell the difference between a request and a true boundary (and why that difference matters) Recognize emotional immaturity—both in others and in yourself Reframe guilt so it stops running the show Use kind but firm language to hold your boundaries without turning it into a fight Sonia and Kathleen share real-life examples of what it looks like to set boundaries with family during early sobriety, including tough moments around holidays and parenting decisions. Jessica opens up about her own two-year estrangement with her in-laws, how they reconciled, and the peace that comes from replacing resentment with clarity. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights[00:01:00] Why Jessica started Mind Your Boundaries and the gap she saw during the pandemic [00:03:00] Her personal journey from “too nice” peacekeeper to boundary-setting advocate [00:04:00] The painful estrangement with her in-laws that became a turning point [00:05:00] Reconciling after two years and doing it intentionally, step by step [00:07:00] Sonia and Kathleen share a family birthday story that triggered years of no-contact [00:09:00] Direct vs subtle boundaries—why sometimes you can just act instead of announce [00:10:00] Examples of modern parenting boundaries, like holding a baby to prevent unwanted kisses [00:12:00] Why someone else’s reaction to your boundary is about their maturity level [00:13:00] Healthy vs punitive boundaries and how they protect relationships [00:14:00] Sonia on how getting sober exposed just how few boundaries she had [00:15:00] Kathleen’s “24-hour rule” with her mom and how the body signals a limit [00:17:00] Early sobriety: why you can simply decline invitations without a big explanation [00:18:00] The difference between avoidance and capacity-based boundaries [00:19:00] Temporary breaks vs permanent cutoffs—and how to heal without an apology [00:22:00] Preparing mentally and emotionally before you set or enforce a boundary [00:24:00] Parenting examples: turning requests into real boundaries with action steps [00:26:00] The “sandwich” script formula: attachment → limit → benefit [00:27:00] Long-term benefit: resentment melts away and relationships feel lighter [00:28:00] Healthy guilt vs conditioned guilt—and why picking guilt prevents resentment [00:31:00] Hallmarks of emotional immaturity: deflection, lack of accountability, me-centered reactions [00:34:00] Self-check: spotting moments when we might be emotionally immature [00:38:00] Exercises for growing emotional maturity: journaling, voice notes, nervous system regulation [00:39:00] Jessica’s printable resource: 13 common sobriety boundary scenarios with scripts Jessica’s Links🎥 MYB YouTube 🧰 Boundary Breakthrough Toolkit SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with bestselling author, storyteller, and coach Kristen McGuiness. Kristen is the author of 51/50: The Magical Adventures of a Single Life, her memoir about 51 dates in 50 weeks as a sober thirty-something navigating heartbreak, healing, and reinvention in Los Angeles. Today, she’s the CEO of Rise Literary and writes for outlets like The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Marie Claire.  The conversation explores how Kristen created fun in early sobriety, what it took to spot red flags in dating, and how recovery can reshape your ideas of community, love, and marriage. She reflects on her wild twenties, the moment she decided enough was enough, and the role that therapy and 12-step programs played in helping her get sober for good. Kristen shares powerful insights about creating a social life without alcohol, redefining intimacy, and staying grounded through parenting, marriage, and running a seven-figure business. She opens up about what sobriety looks like for her today, how she maintains a spiritual practice, and why community remains at the heart of her recovery. Sonia and Kathleen also share their own dating stories and thoughts on marriage, space, and independence, making this a raw, real, and relatable episode for anyone rethinking what love and partnership look like in sobriety. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights[00:01:00] Kristen introduces herself and shares her messy twenties before getting sober [00:03:00] Stories of nightlife, risky behavior, and the moment she realized things had to change [00:06:00] How therapy and 12-step programs became her entry point into sobriety [00:09:00] Family intervention: the moment her uncles offered her a lifeline [00:10:00] Kristen reflects on her fear of losing fun when she first got sober [00:11:00] Building a foundation of fun in sobriety—clubbing sober and creating costumes [00:13:00] Community as the secret weapon for staying sober and rewiring habits [00:15:00] Loving life sober—how recovery became about joy, not just abstinence [00:16:00] The origin story of 51/50 and how dating became a creative project [00:18:00] Combining therapy, shamanic healing, and deep self-work while dating [00:20:00] Redefining what she wanted in relationships and how her uncles modeled healthy masculinity [00:23:00] Growing up emotionally in recovery and feeling “ten years behind” [00:25:00] Realization that being single was the real adventure—not just a bridge to marriage [00:28:00] Reinventing marriage rules: two homes, more freedom, and honest conversations [00:30:00] Kristen’s perspective on ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and independence [00:31:00] The role of sex in dating—when it’s meaningful and when it’s just fun [00:34:00] How intimacy has shifted in a long-term marriage and parenting partnership [00:38:00] Raising kids in sobriety and passing on values of service and generosity [00:43:00] Sobriety today—spiritual practices, community, and why meetings aren’t her mainstay [00:46:00] The importance of honesty, accountability, and spiritual tools in long-term recovery Kristen's Links Rise Literary website SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode of Sisters in Sobriety dives into sober sex, desire, and rebuilding intimacy without substances with guest Taylor McConnachie - Registered Psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and Certified Sexologist, founder of Embodied Sexual Wellness & Psychotherapy in Simcoe, Ontario. Taylor specializes in holistic sex therapy that blends science, somatics, and the sacred to help people heal shame, navigate desire discrepancies, and cultivate empowered sexuality. The answer questions that many sober (and sober-curious) listeners ask: What actually changes about desire and arousal in sobriety? How do somatic practices, mindful masturbation, and body scans help you get out of your head and into your body? What if there’s a desire discrepancy in a long-term relationship—or you’re dating for the first time sober and can’t tell whether you’re attracted? And how do we redefine intimacy when performance anxiety, shame, or old narratives show up? They'll talk about clear, trauma-informed steps to rebuild sexual wellbeing: using body scans to notice sensation without judgment; practicing mindful masturbation to shift from performance to presence; understanding spontaneous vs. responsive desire (and why sobriety often tilts toward responsive); approaching erectile concerns and arousal blocks through reconnection rather than quick fixes; and reframing “frequency goals” to reduce pressure and increase genuine sexual satisfaction. Expect grounded strategies that integrate attachment, somatics, and practical communication skills. Taylor also shares personal and clinical stories—from her own journey with pelvic pain and endometriosis in a rural community with few resources to real-world examples of couples rediscovering vulnerability as the engine of intimacy. Sonia opens up about her “sober sexual debut,” fumbling, and learning to feel desire without the shortcut of alcohol. They'll unpack the grief for what sex used to feel like and the hope of what it can become with curiosity and compassion. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. 00:00:43 — Why sex therapy needs to be its own specialty (and why many therapists aren’t trained to talk about sex) 00:03:10 — Taylor’s path: pelvic pain, endometriosis, and building the practice she needed but couldn’t find 00:05:02 — When a couples therapist refers to a sex therapist (scope, overlap, and teamwork) 00:07:12 — Certification matters: what AASECT tells you about training and safety 00:09:18 — Only ~14 AASECT-certified sex therapists in Canada—why that scarcity matters for care access 00:10:20 — From CBT to somatics: helping clients get out of their heads and into their bodies 00:12:05 — “Science meets the sacred”: honoring evidence while rejecting rigid pathologizing 00:14:52 — Movement as medicine: reconnecting with arousal and erection through embodied practice 00:16:48 — Pleasure after shame: the first time a client truly feels what their body can do 00:18:07 — Sober sex 101: noticing more (and why that can feel overwhelming and beautiful) 00:20:02 — Mindful masturbation as foundational homework for sober intimacy 00:22:31 — Presence over performance: rewiring dopamine loops without substances 00:23:14 — Performance anxiety myths: why sobriety can improve erectile function 00:26:12 — Spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and why sobriety often shifts the balance 00:29:05 — Grieving the old high: processing disappointment when sober sex feels different 00:31:22 — Normalize the fumble: reducing shame to unlock curiosity and desire 00:34:18 — Emotional intimacy as the gateway to sexual intimacy (and how to build it) 00:37:05 — Practicing vulnerability in bite-size reps to increase safety and trust 00:40:02 — Desire discrepancy is common: moving from urgency to understanding 00:45:02 — Taking sex off the pedestal: experiments that reveal what’s really holding a relationship together 00:46:18 — First step if you feel disconnected: body scans, zero judgment, gentle repetition Taylor's Links 📸 Instagram: @embodiedsexualwellness 🌐 Website: embodiedsexualwellness.com SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dig into what it really takes to move from white-knuckling it to building a life rooted in calm, purpose, and—yes—joy. They’re joined by Cheryl Pasieka, author of Climbing the Stairs: My Journey from Addiction to Pure Joy, who shares how rehab, mindfulness, and a fierce commitment to self-care helped her stop hiding behind alcohol and start living on her own terms. Cheryl brings hard-won wisdom and practical tools for women in recovery. Across the conversation, they explore the fears that surface in early sobriety (What if I fail? What will people think?), how to set boundaries with negative energy, and what it means to choose sustainable joy over short-term relief. They touch on midlife purpose, rebuilding self-esteem, creating accountability, and why sharing your story can become someone else’s survival guide. Expect talk of relapse risk, root causes, nervous-system regulation, and using community, routine, and self-inquiry as anchors. Listeners will learn about reflective journaling (and the game-changer of rereading old entries), building a sobriety plan you revisit every six months, using mindfulness, yoga, and meditation to regulate stress, and creating accountability check-ins with trusted friends. Cheryl explains how to identify triggers, let go of resentments, and replace people-pleasing with “put your own oxygen mask on first.” You’ll also hear a refreshing definition of joy—a daily practice of noticing, gratitude, and positive reframing—that helps prevent drift into rumination or “I’ll just have one” thinking. Cheryl opens up about losing her mother, the spiral that followed, and the decision to go to rehab on Vancouver Island—phone surrendered, excuses stripped away. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. 00:00 – Toronto roots, quick hellos, and Cheryl’s book intro, Climbing the Stairs 02:05 – “I wanted sustainable joy”—why grief and stress made moderation impossible 03:10 – Vancouver Island rehab: no phone, no running, just the work 04:12 – The first two years: fear of failure, meetings, yoga, and perseverance 05:06 – “What if I fail publicly?”—accountability and shame in early sobriety 06:02 – Why “just cut back” advice from some doctors misses the disease entirely 07:20 – Oxygen mask first: releasing people-pleasing and caring less what others think 08:05 – The quote that sparked the memoir and a surprising push from a psychic 09:18 – From private journaling to “maybe this can help one person” publishing mindset 10:45 – Telling family and friends—acceptance, boundaries, and letting some people drift 12:02 – Owning the past: divorces, resentments, and the freedom of self-acceptance 15:04 – Root causes: self-esteem, secrets, and climbing into the hole when alone 16:10 – Defining joy: reframing the day, gratitude, and the Tim Hortons “rain vs spring” story 18:02 – Calm as part of joy: taking things as they come instead of spiraling 19:06 – Protecting energy: stepping back from chronic negativity without guilt 21:02 – The morning stack: journal, meditation, movement, and a girlfriends’ daily check-in 22:40 – Weekly accountability now, occasional counseling as needed—right-sizing support 23:36 – “Planting my own garden”: self-care as not waiting for permission (or flowers) 24:12 – Midlife meaning: six-month reviews, giving back, quilting for folks in need 27:02 – The power of rereading journals: past you showing present you the way through Cheryl's Links www.journeytopurejoy.ca SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sonia and her guest, Dr. Jyothi Rao, are diving into the kind of whole-body wellness that actually sticks. Dr. Rao is the Medical Director of Shakthi Health and Wellness Center in Maryland, blending science and compassion to help people get to the root of what’s going on in their bodies. She has over 25 years of experience helping patients turn their health around—plus she’s the author of Body on Fire and Body on Fire Cookbook. They’re talking about the big picture: why your energy might still be low even after ditching alcohol, how stress and sleep are secretly running the show, and what small daily shifts can make the biggest difference. Expect an easy-to-follow chat about inflammation, gut health, circadian rhythm, and what’s really going on with midlife hormones. Dr. Rao breaks down what actually works when it comes to lowering inflammation, balancing blood sugar, and building the kind of energy you can count on. You’ll learn how light exposure affects your sleep, why protein timing matters, and how things like strength training, hydration, and even acupuncture can help your body feel like yours again. This isn’t about overhauling your whole life—it’s about finding simple, doable steps that build on each other. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights (time-stamped) 00:00 — Why integrative medicine matters in sobriety 02:18 — Dr. Rao’s journey from conventional to functional medicine 05:12 — What “root cause” care actually means 07:45 — The inflammation–fatigue connection after alcohol 10:03 — Balancing blood sugar without overcomplicating meals 12:26 — Mitochondria and how to get your energy back 14:58 — Light, timing, and your circadian rhythm 17:40 — How to set yourself up for better sleep 20:22 — The gut–brain link and how it impacts cravings 23:05 — Staying hydrated without overdoing water 25:41 — Navigating perimenopause symptoms with lifestyle tweaks 28:09 — How stress affects your body (and how to calm it) 30:52 — When acupuncture can help 33:17 — Why strength training is a game changer in midlife 36:01 — Functional lab tests: worth it or not? 38:34 — What “liver detox” really means 41:10 — A real-life patient success story 44:02 — Habit stacking to make changes stick 47:19 — Building your own healthcare dream team 50:11 — Using wellness habits to help prevent relapse 53:28 — Quick recap: small steps, big wins Dr. Rao Links https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/all-free-resources https://mycircadianapp.com/ SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve ever swallowed your anger to keep the peace, lost yourself in someone else’s needs, or swapped drinking for late-night snack binges, this episode is for you. On this week’s Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia is joined by Michelle Farris—psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management specialist—to talk about the deeper emotional work that comes with recovery. Michelle is known for her relatable approach and tools that help people stop people-pleasing, speak up for themselves, and finally build relationships that feel safe and real. What happens when we suppress anger in sobriety? How do we even recognize it if we were never taught what healthy anger looks like? Can we be codependent on someone who isn’t codependent on us? In this episode, Sonia and Michelle unpack what anger can teach us about ourselves, how codependency often hides behind “being nice,” and why food addiction recovery is often the next frontier in sobriety. Michelle shares practical strategies for identifying emotional triggers, creating healthy boundaries, and noticing the early signs of resentment before it explodes. You'll learn how to reframe your inner dialogue and develop self-talk that actually helps regulate intense emotions. Michelle also opens up about her own story—getting sober from food addiction at 20, what it was like dating someone in active addiction while working her own program, and the unexpected friendship breakup that made her realize she was still making other people her higher power, and how the desire to be loved can sometimes override our own sense of safety. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Timestamps) 00:00 – Meet Michelle Farris, psychotherapist and codependency expert 01:45 – Why she started teaching anger management (and how it cracked her open) 03:15 – What healthy anger actually looks like—and why it’s not yelling 04:40 – Stuffing your feelings vs. naming your hurt 06:00 – Why journaling is the safest place to let your rage out 07:30 – “Anger is rocket fuel”—how to recognize the heat before it explodes 08:45 – The connection between negative self-talk and emotional regulation 10:00 – What resentment really is (and why it’s sneaky) 11:20 – How suppressing anger can sabotage recovery 12:30 – Can you be angry and make amends? What recovery programs miss 14:15 – When anger turns inward—it often looks like guilt or shame 15:00 – Using mindfulness to stay present with your emotions 16:40 – Michelle’s story of getting sober through OA at age 20 18:00 – How food was her comfort and first addiction 19:30 – The sugar trap: what often happens in early sobriety 21:00 – Physical hunger vs. emotional hunger—how to tell the difference 22:15 – Why surrender, not control, is the key to food addiction recovery 23:30 – Trigger foods, writing a food history, and the power of structure 25:00 – Is it okay to wait before addressing food issues in recovery? 26:45 – Codependency 101: what it is, how it shows up, and why it’s a cycle 28:00 – Can you be codependent with a friend? (Michelle’s raw story says yes) 29:30 – Boundaries that work: why “I” statements are your best friend 31:00 – The people-pleasing trap: when kindness costs you your peace 32:15 – Flexible or codependent? The litmus test 34:00 – How to stop saying “yes” when your gut says “no” 35:30 – Michelle’s favorite recovery tools for emotional resilience 36:45 – The power of in-person meetings, especially post-COVID 38:00 – One last reminder: you’re allowed to take up space, feel your anger, and still be sober. Michelle Farris Links 🌐 Website: counselingrecovery.com 📺 YouTube: @MichelleFarrismft 📸 Instagram: @counseling_recovery SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like you're running on fumes, forgetting everything, and wondering if everyone else got the life manual you missed? In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Christina Crowe, a Registered Psychotherapist and founder of Dig a Little Deeper, to unpack how ADHD—especially when undiagnosed—can shape our mental health, relationships, and recovery. Christina brings her clinical expertise and lived experience with ADHD to this conversation. Together, they explore questions like: Could undiagnosed ADHD be fueling your anxiety or substance use? Why is it so commonly missed in women? They also talk about how impulsivity, self-medicating, and the pressure to hold it all together affect women differently—and how to spot the signs that something deeper might be going on. You’ll walk away with a better understanding of how ADHD can show up in everyday life, why it often gets mistaken for depression or anxiety, and what tools actually work. Christina gets personal, talking about her own late-in-life diagnosis, how her son’s journey opened the door to her own, and what it’s like to finally have words (and support) for what never quite made sense before. This is Sisters in Sobriety—the support system helping women change their relationship with alcohol and rediscover themselves in the process. For more resources, journal prompts, and mocktail magic, check out our Substack. Episode Highlights [00:01:00] Christina’s career pivot: from biotech to therapy [00:03:30] How her son’s ADHD diagnosis helped her see her own [00:05:10] The “invisible” nature of ADHD symptoms [00:06:45] Why so many people with ADHD turn to substances like cocaine, cannabis, or food [00:08:30] What makes ADHD-related substance use different [00:09:50] Why it’s not that hard to diagnose ADHD—if you know what you’re looking for [00:11:30] How substance use can mask ADHD (and delay treatment) [00:12:50] Christina breaks down the fear of taking stimulants in recovery [00:14:15] The difference between addiction and dependence (and why it matters) [00:16:00] The potato chip aisle: a metaphor for cravings and impulse control [00:17:45] Real talk about impulsivity and Amazon carts [00:20:30] Why women often get missed—or misdiagnosed—for years [00:23:00] SSRIs, dopamine, and feeling “stuck” [00:25:15] Hormones and ADHD: how estrogen impacts symptoms [00:27:10] Tips for navigating the health system when you have executive dysfunction [00:30:30] How to talk to your doctor about ADHD (and what might be getting lost in translation) [00:32:15] The three-legged stool: meds, therapy, and executive function support [00:34:25] How to find a therapist who truly gets it [00:36:00] The post-diagnosis “reckoning” (aka rethinking your entire life) [00:38:00] Mindfulness for ADHD brains—yes, it can actually work (with the right approach) Christina's Links 💡 Christina Crowe – Dig A Little Deeper, Psychotherapy & Counselling SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen delve into the intersection of intimacy, sexuality, and recovery. They’re joined by the incredible Carlyle Jansen—a sex educator, registered psychotherapist, and founder of Good For Her, Toronto’s groundbreaking sexuality shop and workshop space. Carlyle is also the author of Sex Yourself and Anal Sex Basics, and she brings over two decades of experience helping individuals and couples reclaim pleasure, navigate intimacy, and communicate more effectively. Today, she helps us better understand how our sexual selves evolve in recovery, and how we can reconnect with our bodies and desires—without shame. Together, we'll explore questions many of us have: What happens to libido after quitting substances? How do we navigate physical connection when sober sex feels so unfamiliar? What do terms like “responsive desire” actually mean, and why do they matter in recovery? This conversation helps deconstruct cultural shame, normalize sexual differences, and guide the path back to pleasurable living. Carlyle offers practical techniques like mindfulness, post-intimacy debriefs, and body exploration exercises. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights [00:01:00] Meet Carlisle Jansen: therapist, author, and founder of Good For Her [00:03:00] Carlisle shares her first experiences with sex, shame, and trying to orgasm [00:04:30] How a bridal shower kickstarted her career in sex education [00:06:30] Why she opened a retail shop alongside her workshops [00:08:00] The impact of growing up in a sex-silent household [00:10:00] How family history and shame shaped her relationship with sexuality [00:12:00] From workshops to therapy: how her work evolved [00:15:00] The most common issue in her practice: mismatched libidos [00:16:30] What changes sexually during addiction recovery [00:18:00] What is sexual anorexia? And how is it different from sexual numbness? [00:20:00] Trauma’s impact on sexual function and emotional availability [00:21:30] Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the parts that show up during sex [00:23:00] Why partners need to “start over” after sobriety [00:25:30] How to rebuild trust and emotional safety during physical intimacy [00:27:30] Navigating unpleasant emotions and sexual discomfort [00:29:30] How to rethink consent and boundaries post-recovery [00:31:30] Why kissing should not be a gateway to sex—and how to communicate about it [00:34:00] Debriefing after intimacy: how to reflect and stay connected [00:36:00] How to approach sober dating with clarity and boundaries [00:40:00] The role of masturbation in recovery and reconnection [00:44:00] Sex addiction, love addiction, and how to tell if it’s compulsive or just shame [00:47:00] Why we seek validation through relationships—and how to unlearn it [00:49:00] Tips to maintain long-term sexual connection with a partner [00:52:00] Spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and how to honor your sexual blueprint [00:55:00] Pressure kills arousal: why expectation ruins the moment [01:01:00] Expanding what sex means: intimacy without intercourse [01:03:00] Closing thoughts and how to keep showing up for your evolving self Carlyle's Links Links: carlylejansen.com TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/12d2o8e9cSU?si=3DcVS-4uiexd4cdC SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the key to resilience isn’t eliminating stress—but embracing the right kind of it? This week on Sisters in Sobriety, we take on the fascinating world of cellular health, good stress, and regenerative wellness with Dr. Sharon Bergquist—a Harvard-trained physician, Yale biophysics grad, and pioneering force behind Emory’s Lifestyle Medicine and Wellness program. Dr. Bergquist is the author of the upcoming book The Stress Paradox, which challenges everything you thought you knew about aging, health, and how to build a body that thrives. In this conversation, we'll explore essential questions: What makes some stress beneficial—and how can we harness it without burning out? Why does modern comfort leave us more fragile, and how does plant-powered eating reshape the trajectory of chronic disease? They also explore what lifestyle medicine actually is, and how behavior change works from the inside out—at the cellular level. You'll come away with actionable insight into how to reframe stress, build long-term resilience, and slow aging with everyday tools like circadian fasting, thermal therapy, interval training, and plant-based nutrition. Dr. Bergquist explains the science behind dopamine recovery in sobriety, the myth of needing to do it all at once, and why stacking "good stress" needs to be a gentle. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights 00:01 – Why Dr. Bergquist fell in love with the human body 03:20 – How seeing long-term patient outcomes changed her approach 05:15 – Why standard medical care misses the root cause of disease 07:10 – The five “good stressors” that help your cells regenerate 09:50 – The difference between toxic stress and beneficial stress 12:30 – Why numbing stress with alcohol creates a dopamine deficit 14:40 – How good stress like cold exposure gives you dopamine without burnout 17:20 – Over-optimizing for comfort—and how that backfires 19:00 – Pick your discomfort: cold, heat, exercise, or emotional growth 21:15 – What stress actually does to your brain and cells 24:45 – What we’ve lost in the modern world (hint: it’s not just screen time) 26:30 – Why we must reintroduce discomfort strategically 28:00 – The link between resilience and meaning 30:30 – Can you stack stress? Not in early sobriety 33:20 – Why sobriety itself is already a stressor—and that’s OK 35:10 – When and how to add other good habits without overwhelming yourself 37:50 – The science behind a plant-powered diet 40:15 – Why it's not “plants vs meat”—and the real stats on fiber and phytochemicals 43:00 – How to start eating plant-forward without going broke or gourmet 45:10 – The secret sauce (literally) that makes veggies taste good 48:05 – Debunking the protein panic: what research really says 52:00 – Why labels like “vegan” or “carnivore” miss the point 54:30 – The real takeaway: 1 in 10 Americans get enough fruits and veggies 56:00 – What Dr. Bergquist is building at Emory—and her vision for health systems 59:00 – Making lifestyle medicine mainstream and accessible Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're diving into part two of my sober dating diary—a real-life story that involves a cute date, an unexpected trip to a cannabis shop, and a bath bomb that turned into a major wake-up call. Dating after divorce is awkward enough. But when you're sober and your date casually suggests a relaxing soak in a "CBD" bath—you learn pretty quickly who respects your boundaries and who treats your sobriety like a buzzkill. I also share: The truth about "California sober" and why it doesn't work for me How people-pleasing and old patterns can sneak back in, even after years of sobriety Why I walked away and what it taught me about owning my sobriety, unapologetically   This story is for anyone who's ever compromised a little too much to seem “chill,” or needed a reminder that you're allowed to have boundaries—and you're allowed to walk away when someone crosses them. ✨ Your sobriety isn’t just “okay”—it’s powerful, it’s valid, and it deserves to be honored. 🔔 Like, comment, and subscribe for more stories from the sober dating trenches, plus tips, real talk, and radical honesty every week. 📬 Want more? Head to sistersinsobriety.substack.com for behind-the-scenes content, journal prompts, and community support. Highlights [00:00] First dates after divorce—applying mascara for the first time in years and meeting someone who doesn’t drink [01:10] When a park stroll turns into a casual detour to a cannabis shop (um, red flag?) [01:55] What “California sober” really means—and why it’s not part of my recovery [02:50] The power of “playing the tape forward” and how it helps me avoid old traps [04:00] He says it’s just a CBD bath bomb. I ask (repeatedly) if it has THC. He says no. [05:10] Ten minutes into the tub and I’m feeling like a human gummy bear [06:00] The bold print truth: Delta-8 THC. And a sinking feeling—literally. [06:45] Why I ignored my instincts to be the “cool girl”—and what it cost me [07:45] The moment I knew I’d never see him again (and why that mattered) [08:20] Sober dating isn’t just about tolerance—it’s about respect, celebration, and self-trust   Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen turn the tables on their popular mini-series about sober dating, sex, and relationships. After hearing from past guests on what dating without alcohol looks like, the sisters are sitting down to answer the same ten questions themselves. From green flags and red flags to playlist picks and sober date ideas, they’re bringing personal reflections, and honest takes. How do you navigate dating someone who drinks when you don’t? What’s the go-to answer when someone asks why you’re not drinking? And how do you build connection without the lubrication of alcohol? Sonia and Kathleen unpack the real-life challenges and unexpected joys of dating while sober. Find out why communication and emotional regulation are the new sexy, how to set boundaries around alcohol in relationships, and how to create connection without compromising sobriety. The episode also explores cultural norms around drinking, coping strategies for first sober dates, and what "choosing each other" really means in long-term partnerships. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights [00:01:10] Sonia’s power washer as a symbol of freedom post-divorce [00:02:30] Setting the scene for the mini-series wrap-up: 10 questions revisited [00:04:00] Kathleen's first sober date: a nuanced look at alcohol vs. drug sobriety [00:05:45] Dating someone who drinks—how Kathleen navigated early discomfort [00:07:15] Caitlin’s story: being 90 days sober and her date ordering her favorite drink [00:08:45] NA beer and whether it fits into Sonia’s sober lifestyle [00:09:30] Food and body issues on early dates—what Ally Shapiro shared [00:10:25] What do you say when someone asks why you don’t drink? [00:11:15] The challenge of drinking cultures within a partner’s family [00:12:45] Green flags: emotional regulation, curiosity, and thoughtful check-ins [00:15:00] Red flags: love addiction, criticism, and white lies [00:17:50] Favorite sober date ideas: hiking, kayaking, concerts, and coffee [00:19:30] Advice for your first sober date: have a plan, tell someone, and stay present [00:21:00] How much drinking is too much in a partner? Setting comfort levels [00:22:15] Alcohol in the house—yes, no, or it depends? [00:23:15] Who do you call after a fight or a great first date? (Hint: it’s not always your sister) [00:24:30] The breakup playlist that kept them going—hello, Florence + the Machine [00:26:15] From "dicked down in Dallas" to Taylor Swift: the love life soundtrack [00:28:00] “I used to think love was a fairytale, now I know it’s a choice.” [00:30:15] Romantic love is conditional—and why that’s actually a good thing Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Sonia and Kathleen are joined by sisters Patti and Karin Clark for a conversation about breaking the cycle of intergenerational addiction and reclaiming personal identity. Patti is an award-winning author whose books blend emotional sobriety and self-reflection, and Karin is a counselor and educator with decades of experience in trauma and addiction recovery. Together, the sisters reflect on how their upbringing shaped them—and how recovery allowed them to rewrite their own stories. We talk about the roles we unconsciously play in dysfunctional families—hero, rebel, mascot—and how these survival strategies can carry into adulthood, often laying the groundwork for addiction, codependency, and emotional suppression. And we tackle some big questions: How do family dynamics influence substance use? Can breaking generational trauma actually stop the cycle? What happens to sisterhood when sobriety enters the room? Patti and Karin share personal stories of relapse and reconciliation, how their relationship as sisters evolved through recovery, and the beautiful ways their sobriety has rippled through their families. You'll hear about the grief and rage they had to walk through in order to reach forgiveness—not just for others, but for themselves. Their shared journey highlights what happens when we name the truth, do the work, and choose connection over silence. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Timestamps) [00:02:00] Patti shares a tribute to Karin’s steady presence after their mother’s death [00:03:45] Karin explains family roles and the origin of the “hero” label [00:05:00] Patti opens up about being the mascot and diffusing family tension with humor [00:07:45] A painful memory of being compared at the dinner table [00:08:30] Food as a first addiction and internalized shame [00:10:15] Karin outlines the family role model (hero, scapegoat, lost child, mascot) [00:11:00] Both sisters share how their roles shifted over time [00:13:30] Roundtable discussion: Which family role is most prone to addiction? [00:15:00] The hidden addiction behaviors that often go overlooked [00:17:30] Patti and Karin reflect on their first experiences with substances [00:20:00] Karin recalls when drinking shifted from fun to fear [00:22:00] Patti describes the subtle but powerful interventions that helped her quit [00:26:00] Tracing addiction and denial through both sides of the family tree [00:29:00] The myth of the “poor Patty and Karen” narrative within the family [00:30:15] How their sisterhood changed through recovery and ACOA work [00:33:30] Relapsing, boundaries, codependency, and coming back together [00:36:30] Karin and Patti explain the emotional dynamics of their old arguments [00:39:00] The cultural addiction of capitalism and constant productivity [00:41:30] When relapse happens: fear, enabling, and permission [00:44:00] “Safe drinking” lies we tell ourselves in the gray area [00:46:00] Did we break the cycle? Parenting, legacy, and sober modeling [00:49:00] Creating a new lineage of openness, healing, and choice [00:51:30] What does forgiveness really look like in recovery? [00:53:00] Patti explains the danger of skipping grief and going straight to forgiveness [00:54:30] Karin shares how compassion helped her process resentment [00:56:00] Forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation [00:57:30] Closing reflections on sisterhood, healing, and sharing the tools Connect with Patti Clark Website: www.patticlark.org Substack: https://patticlarkwriter.substack.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfahpJhfHNNHUqtIjR39OdQ Connect with Karin Clark Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KarinClarkCommunications Website: www.karineclark.com Email: info@karineclark.com SIS Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the wisdom you’re searching for has been with you all along? In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are joined by master transformational coach Julie Reisler to explore the quiet, powerful force of intuition—and how it can guide your recovery, self-trust, and authentic living. Julie is a TEDx speaker, host of the You-est You® Podcast, and founder of the Life Designer® Coach Academy. Julie helps people around the world reconnect with their higher self. What does it really means to become the You-est You? Why do so many of us feel disconnected from our intuition—and how do we begin to rebuild that trust, especially after life changes like divorce, addiction recovery, or hitting emotional rock bottom? Julie walks listeners through the difference between fear and intuitive guidance, how we can all access our unique “intuition language,” and the power of two-way prayer, evidence tracking, and journaling as tools for emotional healing. With practical tools and real-life examples, this conversation unpacks how to integrate mind-body-spirit wisdom, how intuition supports recovery from addictive patterns (like emotional eating), and how to make decisions that align with your true self—especially when logic tells you otherwise. Julie opens up about her own story—from childhood sensitivity and food addiction to spiritual awakening and leaving a stable corporate job to follow her inner voice. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tools, and resources to support your growth. Time-Stamped Highlights 00:01 – Meet Julie Reisler and learn about the You-est You® philosophy 00:02 – Julie’s childhood: sensitivity, imagination, and early intuition 00:04 – Growing up with a father in addiction and how that shaped her energy awareness 00:05 – The early signs of self-loathing and disconnect from intuition 00:06 – Her recovery journey begins with sugar and food addiction 00:08 – How food became a way to soothe emotions and hide shame 00:10 – The pivotal moment that changed everything (and the bag of M&Ms) 00:12 – Julie’s exposure to 12-step programs as a child 00:14 – How Overeaters Anonymous and spiritual reading reshaped her path 00:16 – Returning to school and integrating science and spirituality 00:18 – Leaving corporate life and entering Panera Bread: a surprising intuitive detour 00:21 – Following the nudges: voiceover classes and synchronicity 00:23 – The cost of disconnecting from your voice in marriage and dating 00:27 – Defining intuition: is it a voice, a knowing, or a feeling? 00:30 – How to tell the difference between fear, anxiety, and real intuition 00:33 – Building self-trust through two-way prayer and intuitive journaling 00:36 – Evidence tracking: gathering proof that your intuition has been guiding you 00:39 – When intuition contradicts logic (and why that’s OK) 00:41 – Asking for signs and using muscle testing to check your inner YES 00:44 – A real-time example of intuition: how Julie ended up at a film festival 00:45 – What to do when your intuitive knowing disrupts your plans 00:46 – Julie’s heartfelt advice for women in transition 00:47 – The megaphone to your heart—why everything you’re looking for is already within Links: Website: juliereisler.com Instagram: @juliereisler More from Sisters in Sobriety: 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are diving deep into the wild world of dating—minus the drinks. They're joined by Carleigh Ferrante, host of the Mostly Dating podcast. Carleigh talks about what it really means to date with intention, honesty, and clarity—especially when you're sober. From starting over after a long-term relationship to swiping through the chaos of dating apps, they're talking about it. Together, they explore how to spot emotional availability, navigate red flags, and decode whether your new connection is fueled by real chemistry. They ask big questions like: Can attraction grow? How can you tell if someone’s emotionally mature or just really charming? How long should you “get to know” someone before deciding to be exclusive? And what does flirting even look like when you’re sober? You'll walk away with tangible, empowering insights like how to start meaningful conversations on dating apps, how to plan sober-friendly first dates, and how to protect your peace when things don’t go as planned. Carleigh shares practical tips for setting physical and emotional boundaries, flirting without alcohol, and recognizing when someone just isn’t your person—even if nothing seems “wrong.” You'll also learn how to gauge emotional maturity versus availability and the importance of aligned values in long-term compatibility. On a personal note, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own dating experiences and reflect on what it felt like to date sober for the first time, and how vulnerability, awkwardness, and self-awareness reshaped their views on intimacy and connection. Carleigh adds her own behind-the-scenes stories from dating app disasters to moments of surprising self-growth. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-stamped Highlights [00:01:00] Carleigh Ferrante joins the show to talk all things dating [00:02:00] Sonia and Kathleen share their contrasting Bumble experiences [00:04:00] Carleigh’s go-to formula for dating app openers that actually work [00:05:00] First date ideas for sober daters that don’t involve bars [00:06:30] Where to meet people in the wild (yes, even at the Garden Center) [00:08:00] Why small talk with strangers helps your dating life [00:10:00] Sonia’s AA house call—and why she prefers women’s recovery groups [00:11:00] What to ask early on to gauge someone’s dating mindset [00:13:00] How to talk about your ex without trauma-dumping [00:16:00] Should you discuss your values on a first date? Here’s how [00:18:00] Can attraction grow—or does it have to be instant? [00:21:00] Why ‘secure’ might feel boring if you’re used to chaos [00:23:30] Emotional availability: what it looks like and how to spot it [00:25:00] The difference between emotional maturity and availability [00:27:30] Sonia’s boyfriend used to sing through hard conversations—literally [00:29:00] How to talk about the future without scaring someone off [00:31:00] Why the “getting to know you” phase should never really end [00:33:00] Dating rules vs. personal boundaries—what really matters [00:36:30] Love bombing vs. real connection: how to tell the difference [00:39:00] How dating changes when you're sober—and why that's a good thing [00:41:00] Sober dating and physical boundaries: what becomes clearer [00:43:00] Flirting without alcohol: presence, confidence, and compliments [00:47:00] How Kathleen dated for fun—and why that mindset worked [00:48:00] How to protect your peace when someone ghosts you [00:50:00] Your person won’t leave you on read—trust that [00:51:00] Signs it’s not right, even if it’s not “wrong” [00:53:00] Carleigh’s new course and how to find her content Links Carleigh's Instagram 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it really just emotional eating—or could it be addiction? In this week’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we speak with renowned expert Dr. Vera Tarman to unravel the science, psychology, and stigma surrounding sugar and flour addiction, and how we can truly recover. As the Medical Director of Renascent, one of Canada’s largest substance abuse treatment centres, Dr. Tarman brings a wealth of clinical insight—plus her own recovery from both alcohol and food addiction. She is the author of Food Junkies: Recovery from Food Addiction and cohost of the Food Junkies Podcast. What’s the real connection between alcohol and sugar? Why do so many people transfer their addictions to food when they get sober? And what do terms like “intuitive eating,” “emotional eating,” and “abstinence” actually mean in the context of recovery? Dr. Tarman also breaks down the difference between emotional eating and food addiction, outlines what recovery from food addiction really requires, and offers practical insight into why abstinence—not just moderation—is the key for many. Expect to learn about the dopamine pathways, the food-addiction spectrum, the role of ultra-processed foods, and the concept of “food serenity.” Finally, Dr. Tarman shares her deeply personal story— her own early experiences with alcohol and marijuana, and how she navigated her own recovery from binge eating and bulimia while practicing as a doctor. Her journey is vulnerable, relatable, and a reminder that healing is possible—even when it’s not linear. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-stamped Highlights 00:00 – Welcome and guest intro: Dr. Vera Tarman, addiction medicine expert and author 01:55 – Her first addiction: sugar or alcohol? 03:30 – Growing up with an alcoholic mother 04:45 – Alcohol and academic life: why she quit in med school 05:50 – Binge eating, bulimia, and how food replaced alcohol 07:00 – “You should stop drinking”—saying it to patients, but not herself 09:00 – Her “aha” moment: reading the first studies on food addiction 10:20 – How food and alcohol affect the brain’s dopamine reward system 12:45 – Is sugar addiction common in people getting sober? 15:10 – Sugar and alcohol as “sisters”—and the medical consequences 17:00 – Liver disease and non-alcoholic fatty liver: the sugar connection 19:10 – Emotional eating vs. food addiction—what’s the difference? 22:30 – Why intuitive eating may not work for everyone 27:00 – Recovery and abstinence: what does it look like? 31:45 – Is it about added sugar or natural sugar? 34:10 – Can moderation work—or do some people need full abstinence? 36:30 – What counts as a relapse with food? 39:00 – Social pressure, stigma, and birthday cake 41:00 – Why sugar is so powerful (and hard to quit) 43:00 – Recovery essentials: more than just stopping 45:10 – Individualized food plans: what worked for Dr. Tarman 47:00 – OA and the growing food addiction recovery landscape 50:00 – Finding support: why community matters 51:20 – Building food serenity and daily recovery habits 53:00 – Her message of hope: it gets easier after 10 days 55:00 – “Day 4 of my reset”—Kathleen shares her moment Dr. Vera Tarman’s Links 🌐 Website: https://www.addictionsunplugged.com 📘 Facebook Group: I’m Sweet Enough: Sugar-Free for Life Sisters In Sobriety Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Read less Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever stared at your phone wondering where all the emotionally available adults are? In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we have Daphney Poyser, the founder and CEO of Fern Connections—a values-driven, LGBTQIA+ and ally-inclusive matchmaking and dating coaching company. Daphney’s mission is help people date with intention and build meaningful relationships rooted in authenticity. Today, she’s here to help us navigate dating—especially while sober—with more clarity and confidence. We dig into the real-life challenges of dating in recovery, touching on everything from emotional prep work to the myths we carry from childhood about what love should look like. What does compatibility really mean? Is it okay to have expectations? And what does it mean to “selfishly date”—and why is that a good thing? You'll s will walk away with tools for building more conscious relationships—whether you’re using a dating app, working with a matchmaker, or stepping out into the sober dating world for the first time. You’ll also hear Daphney’s personal story—how becoming a widow in 2019 led her to pivot out of corporate America and into founding Fern Connections, a service inspired in part by her queer daughter and family members. Daphney shares her own journey of finding love again later in life, learning to set boundaries, and building a business that centers care, consent, and clarity. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights 00:02 – Meet Daphney Poyser, and how losing her husband led her to start a matchmaking company 00:04 – Why Fern Connections was created to serve the LGBTQIA+ and ally community 00:07 – Discussing sober dating and what it means to show up without numbing 00:09 – Why you shouldn’t have to dull yourself to go on a date 00:10 – The importance of emotional safety and matching clients with aligned values 00:12 – What to do when someone says they’re fine with sobriety—but turns out they’re not 00:14 – Why women should be “selfish daters” and not worry about being the “good guy” 00:16 – How to emotionally prepare for dating after long-term relationships 00:18 – Pre- and post-date journaling as a mindfulness tool 00:20 – The myth of “no expectations” and why love should be conditional 00:22 – Relationship contracts and writing down what really matters 00:24 – How childhood messages shape what we believe about marriage 00:27 – Helping clients unpack their unrealistic dating checklists 00:30 – The problem with assuming no one’s “good enough” 00:33 – Chemistry vs. compatibility—and why the spark might not mean what you think 00:35 – How unresolved trauma influences what feels familiar in dating 00:38 – Oversharing on first dates: why less is sometimes more 00:41 – Confidence rituals before dates and the power of listening 00:43 – What qualities Daphney looks for when matching clients 00:47 – Dating apps: their impact on mental health and connection 00:51 – Tips for transitioning from online to in-person dating 00:54 – Red flags to watch for, including love bombing and mirroring 00:57 – Why peaceful love may feel boring—and why it’s often the real deal Guest Links 🌐 Daphney’s Website: fernconnections.com 📸 Daphney’s Instagram: @fernconnections Sisters In Sobriety Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your sugar cravings, chronic fatigue, or lack of clarity weren’t just random symptoms—but signs of deeper imbalances that could be blocking your recovery? On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia is joined by strategist, speaker, and sober advocate Christie Dames. With over 38 years of sobriety and a career helping high-performers unlock their potential, Christie shares how her lived experience and research intersect to shed light on the brain-body connection. Today, they talk about why what you eat—and what surrounds you—matters deeply when it comes to emotional clarity, energy, and healing. How does what we eat impact our emotional sobriety? What’s the role of metabolic health in our ability to regulate mood and access clarity? And how do toxins—whether in food, electronics, or water—quietly sabotage our healing efforts? Listeners will learn about the connection between mitochondrial health and long-term sobriety, how refined sugars and processed foods derail emotional regulation, and the invisible toll environmental toxins like PFAS and EMFs take on our well-being. Christie also shares practical tools for lowering your toxic load—think organic swaps, safer tech habits, and why red light bulbs might become your new best friend. And yes, as always, we go there—into the personal stories. Christie opens up about her own path to sobriety, including her recovery from misdiagnosis, withdrawal from neuroleptic medication, and the chronic pain that shaped her understanding of emotional vs. physical hunger. From healing trauma to navigating relapse triggers, she helps us see our cravings not as flaws but as clues. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Episode Highlights: 00:01:00 — Christie introduces the idea that sugar cravings can block emotional sobriety 00:02:30 — The physical trauma that set the stage for addiction 00:03:45 — Why alcohol felt like an elixir for Christie’s fractured sense of self 00:04:55 — Mold exposure and neurological misdiagnosis compound her health issues 00:06:45 — The impact of neuroleptic drugs and a 10-year brownout 00:07:50 — Getting sober—despite still being medicated 00:08:30 — Sugar as her first addiction, and how it worked on her undernourished brain 00:10:15 — Giving up sugar: was it harder than alcohol? 00:12:45 — Why metabolic health is the key to “next-level” sobriety 00:14:20 — Understanding insulin resistance and fasting insulin 00:16:00 — What to eat: whole foods, organic, and the truth about strawberries 00:18:45 — Toxins in baby cord blood and how they impact future health 00:21:15 — Dairy and gluten: are they just food, or emotional disrupters? 00:23:00 — Why A2 dairy and goat’s milk might be different 00:25:30 — How trauma and toxicity contribute to neuroinflammation 00:27:10 — The four-day delayed reaction to food and what to watch for 00:29:00 — Emotional vs. physical hunger: how to tell the difference 00:32:50 — Learning to pause before reacting or reaching for food 00:35:00 — How shame spirals can begin with food choices 00:37:20 — Working with high performers: unlocking their hidden blocks 00:40:00 — Using intuition, presence, and somatic tools with clients 00:42:00 — PFAS: the “forever chemicals” and why they’re a major health threat 00:44:30 — EMFs and why cell phones and WiFi matter more than you think 00:46:00 — Sobriety makes you more sensitive—embrace it 00:48:10 — Creating a low-tox lifestyle that supports brain health and longevity 00:50:00 — Hacks: red lights, blue blockers, and neuro-restorative sleep habits 00:51:30 — Christie’s favorite ways to lower your toxic burden 00:52:00 — Where to connect with Christie (christiedames@protonmail.com) Links 📧 Christie’s Email Sisters In Sobriety Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we’re back with another installment of our no-filter mini-series where past guests answer 10 revealing questions about what it’s really like to date without alcohol in the picture. This time, Sonia chats with Kaitlin Henry, wellness advocate and host of the Step Zero podcast. Kaitlin busts the myth that you have to hit rock bottom before you can change—and now, she’s opening up about love after divorce, how getting sober changed her approach to relationships, and why acts of service are her love language. From awkward first sober dates to realizing that two-drink limits are non-negotiable, Kaitlin shares the red and green flags she looks for, the playlist track that sums up her love life, and her favorite sober date idea (hint: it involves a boat and no wine list). Get ready for some serious honesty, relatable stories, and a few laugh-out-loud moments. Whether you're newly sober, sober curious, or just navigating dating without defaulting to “grabbing drinks,” this one's for you. Kaitlin's Links Get In Touch With Kaitlin Her go-to song by Gracie Abrams Sisters In Sobriety Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Read less Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are taking on one of the trickiest parts of recovery: what happens at home. Their guest, Amber Hollingsworth, is a licensed professional counselor, family recovery expert, and the brain behind the YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down. With over 20 years of experience, she helps families deal with the chaos of addiction—without burning themselves out in the process. If you’ve ever tried to help a loved one and ended up feeling like the bad guy (or totally powerless), this conversation is going to hit close to home. Amber explains why the old-school intervention model often backfires, how shame and blame keep people stuck, and why the people closest to someone struggling with addiction often have more influence than they think. There’s a better way—and Amber walks us through it. From her “Invisible Intervention” method to a strength-based approach that helps people reconnect with their values, she shares real tools that actually work. You'll hear how she encourages people to stop focusing on what’s going wrong and start noticing what’s still right—and how families can become part of the solution without getting dragged down by the drama. Sonia and Kathleen also open up about their own experiences trying (and failing) to stage an intervention, what they’d do differently now, and why it's so hard to step out of the “rescuer” role when someone you love is hurting. It’s raw, it’s real, and honestly—it’s the kind of conversation that makes you rethink everything you thought you knew about helping someone get better. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Time-Stamped): 00:01:00 – How Amber got into addiction counseling (hint: not the usual story) 00:02:30 – Growing up surrounded by addiction, and not realizing it until much later 00:04:45 – Why she started Put the Shovel Down and how it became a mission 00:05:55 – Why families often have more power than they think 00:06:40 – Creating a team approach: everyone gets their own support 00:08:20 – Why one-sided therapy can sometimes make things worse 00:10:30 – Everyone has their version of the story—and why that matters 00:12:00 – The most common way families accidentally slow down recovery 00:13:30 – When traditional interventions help—and when they totally miss the mark 00:15:00 – The bargaining stage (and why no one gets to skip it) 00:17:00 – Words that trigger defensiveness—and what to say instead 00:19:00 – What went wrong in Sonia and Kathleen’s attempt to help a family member 00:21:30 – The Invisible Intervention method explained step by step 00:23:00 – Building credit and influence with your loved one 00:25:00 – Natural consequences vs. punishment: why the difference matters 00:27:30 – What really helps someone see the problem for themselves 00:30:00 – Strength-based coaching: how Amber helps people reconnect with who they are 00:32:45 – Why it’s not about calling people out—it’s about calling them back to themselves 00:34:20 – Common values people rediscover when they stop drinking 00:36:30 – How to acknowledge addiction without crushing someone with shame 00:38:10 – Why so many middle-aged women defend their nightly wine 00:41:00 – How alcohol becomes the stand-in for self-care 00:42:00 – What to say to someone who doesn’t “seem” like they have a problem 00:43:30 – Why trying moderation might actually help you quit 00:45:00 – Navigating early sobriety when everyone around you is still drinking 00:46:00 – Final takeaway: You’re not powerless—and you don’t have to lose yourself trying to help someone else Amber's Links YouTube Instagram Sisters In Sobriety Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website – Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📲 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special mini-episode of our spicy new series: The Truth About Sober Dating, Sex, and Love, we have Whitney Combs. A nationally board-certified health and wellness coach, wife, and mom of three. Whitney opens up about rediscovering intimacy without alcohol, why honesty became her ultimate non-negotiable, and how she chooses restaurants based solely on dessert and mocktails (relatable). Oh—and she’s got a concert horror story you won’t forget. If you’ve ever wondered how to navigate sober sex, sober dating apps, or what to say when someone asks, “Why don’t you drink?”—this episode is for you. Whitney’s Links • 🌐 Whitney’s Website • 📲 Whitney on Instagram • 🎵 “If We Were Vampires” – Jason Isbell Sisters in Sobriety Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website – Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📲 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Navigating family dynamics can be one of the hardest parts of recovery—especially when the relationships we’re told are “unbreakable” feel anything but safe. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Dr. Sharon Martin, psychotherapist and author of Cutting Ties with Your Parents and The Better Boundaries Workbook. With over 25 years of experience, Dr. Martin helps us unpack what it really means to set boundaries with family, the complexities of estrangement, and how these issues often resurface in sobriety. Together, we explore some big questions: How do you know when it’s time to go no-contact with a parent or family member? What’s the difference between estrangement and avoidance? How do you deal with the guilt, grief, and judgment that come up when you make that choice? And how do old family wounds start to resurface once we get sober? From emotional manipulation to the pressure to reconcile, we talk through the many layers that come with stepping away from dysfunction. Dr. Martin offers practical tools and insights for healing—whether you’ve already gone no-contact or are just beginning to question what’s healthy for you. We talk about building self-trust through small, everyday actions, reparenting yourself when you never got what you needed growing up, and what it looks like to maintain sobriety while navigating painful family dynamics. You'll also learn why grief can show up even when you never had the kind of relationship you're mourning. This episode is also deeply personal. Sonia opens up about grieving the mother-daughter connection she never experienced, and Kathleen shares what it feels like to question whether estrangement is truly healing or just a form of self-protection. It’s a thoughtful, honest, and empowering conversation—especially for anyone trying to make peace with their past while protecting their present. 20 TIME-STAMPED HIGHLIGHTS [00:01:00] Meet Dr. Sharon Martin and how she found this work [00:03:00] Growing up with alcoholism and how it shaped her path [00:05:00] Why trauma always finds its way into therapy [00:06:30] When a family relationship stops feeling emotionally safe [00:08:45] Estrangement isn’t a rash decision—it’s the last resort [00:10:30] Facing guilt, judgment, and societal pressure [00:12:00] Why other people’s opinions don’t always reflect reality [00:14:30] How emotional manipulation becomes normalized [00:17:30] What healthy estrangement can actually look like [00:20:00] When reconciliation is worth considering—and when it’s not [00:22:00] Why false hope and outside pressure often backfire [00:23:30] Navigating milestone events like weddings and funerals [00:25:30] Estrangement vs. avoidance—how to tell the difference [00:29:00] Grieving the family fantasy you never had [00:31:00] Why complicated grief around family is valid [00:34:00] The importance of processing feelings through movement and expression [00:35:30] Keeping your sobriety solid while navigating emotional landmines [00:37:00] Emotional wounds adult children of dysfunction carry [00:40:00] Rebuilding self-worth through small, doable commitments [00:44:00] Why early sobriety can bring childhood trauma to the surface This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Head to our Substack for extra tools, reflections, and mocktail recipes to support your journey. Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website – Kathleen does not endorse products mentioned 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Connect with Dr. Sharon Martin 📘 Cutting Ties with Your Parents – Amazon 📘 The Better Boundaries Guided Journal – Amazon 🌐 LiveWellWithSharonMartin.com 📸 Instagram 📘 Facebook 📺 YouTube Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special mini-episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen invite you to slow down for a few minutes and take an honest look at how codependency may be showing up in your life. This isn’t a diagnosis or a formal assessment—just a chance to reflect with a simple, 10-question quiz that’s designed to spark insight and self-awareness. ☁️ In this candid conversation, we ask: Do you often feel responsible for others’ emotions? Are you suppressing your needs to avoid conflict? Is it easier to give care than receive it? 💬 After the quiz, Sonia and Kathleen open up about how codependency has impacted their own relationships—from family dynamics to marriage—and how awareness has helped them move toward healthier boundaries and interdependence. 🎓 You’ll learn: What codependent patterns can look like in everyday life Why "fixing" others often leads to self-neglect How childhood dynamics can shape adult relationships Tools for recognizing when you're stepping into over-functioning mode 👀 If you’ve ever found yourself walking on eggshells, ignoring your own needs, or feeling responsible for someone else’s emotional state, this episode is for you. 📝 Want to revisit the quiz later or share it with a friend? It’s available on our Substack—along with tons of supportive content, reflections, and resources to help you change your relationship with alcohol and deepen your self-awareness. If you’ve ever felt like you’re losing yourself in relationships—always giving, fixing, or putting others first, Kathleen has created The Path Back to You is a free guide with a self-reflection quiz, five simple practices, and journaling prompts to help you reconnect with your voice, your needs, and your boundaries.✨ Links Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into a topic that often comes up after we quit drinking: codependency. With Kathleen’s clinical expertise as a couples therapist and Sonia’s real-life experiences, they’re unpacking what codependency really means—and how to spot it in yourself. What exactly is codependency—and how is it different from being loving, loyal, or just... a decent human? Is it mutual? Does it show up only in romantic relationships? Can you be codependent with your dog? In this episode, Sonia and Kathleen explore these questions and more, including the red flags, psychological roots, and surprising ways codependency might still be running the show in your sober life. Listeners will come away with a deeper understanding of the difference between support and self-sacrifice, healthy interdependence versus emotional enmeshment, and how sobriety can reveal codependent tendencies that were previously hidden behind a wine glass. The episode also explores hyper-independence as the flip side of codependency—and why swinging between extremes isn’t the goal either. As always, the episode gets personal. Sonia opens up about how she once believed caretaking was the hallmark of a good marriage, how she walked on eggshells to avoid the "Kraken" (her ex’s moods), and what changed after getting sober. Kathleen shares insights from her own marriage, her childhood patterns, and how even therapists have to work on their stuff. It’s honest, raw, and full of lightbulb moments. If you’ve ever felt like you’re losing yourself in relationships—always giving, fixing, or putting others first, Kathleen has created The Path Back to You is a free guide with a self-reflection quiz, five simple practices, and journaling prompts to help you reconnect with your voice, your needs, and your boundaries.✨ This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-stamped Highlights [00:01:00] Sonia introduces the episode and shares a recent therapy revelation. [00:02:30] Kathleen defines codependency in practical terms. [00:04:00] Why codependency isn’t just about romantic relationships. [00:06:10] The difference between caring and being codependent. [00:07:30] Sonia shares a story about her ex’s “Kraken” moods. [00:09:00] Emotional reliance and attachment patterns. [00:10:30] Codependent parenting and walking on eggshells. [00:11:30] Red flags for identifying codependency. [00:13:30] Examples of codependency outside of romance. [00:15:00] How codependency forms in childhood. [00:21:00] Why sobriety often reveals codependent patterns. [00:23:00] What happens to relationships after sobriety and boundary-setting. [00:24:00] Healthy interdependence vs. hyper-independence. [00:26:00] Are women more likely to struggle with codependency? [00:27:30] First steps for healing and reclaiming your identity. [00:28:30] Book recs: Codependent No More and Facing Codependence. [00:29:30] Reconnecting with your needs—starting with Friday night plans. [00:30:30] What changes when you stop playing the people-pleasing role. [00:32:00] Guilt, grief, and growing into a new version of yourself. [00:34:00] Do you need to explain your boundaries to others? [00:35:00] How to handle guilt when you stop overfunctioning. [00:36:00] Final thoughts and encouragement to keep doing the work. Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this mini-episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we’re diving into sober dating with psychotherapist Samantha Barnes.Sam has over two decades of experience working with children, youth, and families on their wellness journeys. and she’s currently embracing the single life with clarity, confidence, and no time for BS. We asked her 10 honest questions about dating, sex, and relationships—and she brought the wisdom. Sam talks about being blindsided by how big of a deal not drinking was to a date, why she now leads with her sobriety on the apps, and the kinds of questions that feel supportive (versus just plain judgmental). She shares the red flags she used to ignore, the green ones she seeks out, and why walking dates are where it's at. Plus: her new philosophy on love (spoiler: it’s not about giving 150%). 💬 Get ready for practical advice, honest reflection, and a reminder that your boundaries are valid—even on a first date. 👇Links To learn more about Sam's work, visit her website or follow her on social media at @sweetspotcounselling. 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parenting while staying sober isn’t for the faint of heart—but you don’t have to do it alone. On this week’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into the layered, often unspoken, realities of recovery and motherhood with the brilliant Sarah Allen Benton. Sarah is a licensed mental health counselor, addiction specialist, and the author of Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic and Parents in Recovery. She brings nearly two decades of personal sobriety and professional experience to this candid and compassionate conversation. From blackout drinking in her early 20s to running a mental health practice and parenting a teen in sobriety, Sarah shares her remarkable journey and hard-won wisdom. Sonia and Kathleen explore questions like: What does it really mean to be a “high-functioning alcoholic”? Why is parenting in recovery so uniquely challenging? How can we teach our kids about addiction and emotional health? Sarah breaks down the importance of talking openly about addiction with children, how to handle digital addiction in the age of iPads and TikTok Sarah opens up about her early drinking days, her moment of reckoning at age 27, and the slow, gray, sometimes thankless beginning of recovery. She also shares what it’s been like to raise a daughter in a sober household, how her marriage has been shaped by recovery, and why self-care is not optional—it's essential. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights: 00:01 Welcome Sarah Allen Benton and intro 00:58 Sarah’s first experience with alcohol and her early patterns 02:45 Blacking out from the beginning—what Sarah misunderstood about “normal” drinking 05:12 Being a high-functioning alcoholic in college 06:35 The illusion of control and trying to outthink addiction 09:12 The moment Sarah knew she had to stop 11:00 Building her own outpatient sobriety plan 12:30 What early sobriety felt like (hint: not pink clouds) 14:40 Writing as a tool for processing recovery 15:35 Becoming a parent in recovery and writing Parents in Recovery 17:05 Talking to kids about addiction and recovery 18:45 The stigma of being a parent in recovery 20:10 Raising toddlers vs. teens—sobriety challenges by age 22:00 Hypervigilance and screen time addiction 24:55 The science of digital hygiene and dopamine overload 26:50 Creative ways to talk to kids about brain health and family history 29:15 “The Telling”—navigating when and how to tell your kids you’re in recovery 32:00 Kids noticing changes in drunk adults—and the emotional fallout 35:30 The challenge of giving your kids real-world exposure without trauma 38:00 Why this generation is more risk-averse but more anxious 40:10 Self-care vs. soul care—and why it’s not optional for parents in recovery 42:50 Recovery as a long-term investment, not a short-term reward 44:00 Wisdom from single parents in recovery 46:30 The myth of doing it all: learning to say no without guilt 49:00 How sobriety changes marriage and dating dynamics 51:00 Love without martinis: codependency, relapse fears, and boundaries 54:00 The importance of having a recovery-affirming partner 56:00 The parallel recovery journey for spouses and family members Links Learn more about Sarah! Parents in Recovery: Navigating a Sober Family Lifestyle Parents in Recovery Facebook Group 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety and our mini-series The Truth About Sober Dating, Sex & Relationships—where we get personal with our favorite guests in 10 spicy questions. Today, we're joined by the brilliant and refreshingly honest Ali Shapiro, creator of Truce with Food, health rebel, and emotional detective. You may remember Ali from our previous episode, where we talked about creating meaning beyond food. This time, we’re diving into what it's like to date with food stuff, relationship green and red flags, and how emotional safety is the real aphrodisiac. 💡 From bracing for rejection to learning what she actually wants in a partner, Ali keeps it real about the awkwardness of first dates, being the “healthy one” in a relationship, and why her go-to sober date still involves fresh air and muddy boots. Plus: how Jason Mraz made it to her wedding playlist, and what she learned when marriage 2.0 arrived (aka, post-kids chaos). You’ll laugh, nod, and possibly reevaluate your own date night dinner order. 🔗 Links – Get in Touch with Ali Shapiro: Free breakfast experiment Truce with Food group program  📬 Stay Connected with Sisters in Sobriety: • Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community • Sisters In Sobriety Email • Sisters In Sobriety Instagram • Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast • Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if every addiction—whether it’s alcohol, sugar, or even your phone—is actually a substitute for love? In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with the wise and wonderfully candid Dr. Donna Marks. She’s a psychotherapist, addictions counselor, educator, and author with 30+ years of experience helping people find freedom from addiction by turning inward—not outward—for healing. She’s written Exit the Maze and The Healing Moment, and has created an award-winning addiction training program in Florida. Today, she joins us to unpack what addiction really is… and how self-love is the way through. We cover a lot in this episode—everything from the impact of childhood trauma to the sugar-cocaine connection (seriously, it’s wild), to whether things like medical marijuana or Ozempic are helping people heal… or just creating new problems. You’ll hear about the sneaky ways addiction hides in everyday habits, why medication isn't always the magic answer, and how to truly support your brain and body on the road to recovery. Expect real talk, powerful insights, and a whole lot of “ohhh that makes so much sense” moments. We also get personal—Dr. Marks shares her own story of relapse, healing, and radical transformation. Plus, Kathleen opens up about her sugar detox journey and navigating ADHD medication in recovery. Don’t miss Dr. Marks talking about growing up in an addicted household, what led to her own relapse, and how she reclaimed her life through love, not punishment. Her transformation is seriously inspiring. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support space helping women change their relationship with alcohol. Want more tools, prompts, and inspiration? Head over to our Substack for all the extra goodness. Highlights from the Episode: 00:02 – How Dr. Marks turned a painful upbringing into her purpose 00:06 – What caused her relapse after 23 years sober 00:08 – The problem with how doctors still treat pain—especially for people in recovery 00:10 – Why she built an addiction training program (spoiler: no one knew what to look for) 00:13 – Big Pharma, overprescribing, and how therapy sometimes misses the mark 00:17 – Kathleen’s personal update on tapering ADHD meds and cutting sugar 00:20 – That time sugar in salad dressing brought back all the cravings 00:23 – Why addiction is never really about the substance 00:25 – How childhood gaps in care create emotional holes we try to fill 00:28 – What true self-love looks like (and how to build it daily) 00:33 – Dr. Marks' take on how addiction drives most physical and mental illness 00:35 – Screen addiction, food noise, and feeling stuck in a loop 00:37 – Are drugs like Ozempic a shortcut—or just another trap? 00:39 – How trauma can actually become a doorway to growth 00:42 – What forgiveness actually looks like in healing 00:44 – The telltale sign you’ve swapped one addiction for another 00:46 – “Progress, not perfection”—why this mindset is everything 00:47 – Final takeaways on sacred self-care, flexibility, and finding peace Links to Connect with Dr. Donna Marks: 🌐 Website: drdonnamarks.com 📸 Instagram: @drdonnamarks More from Sisters in Sobriety: 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What really happens when you start dating sober? Sonia sits down with Alida Flannery, a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach, founder of Epiphany Recovery, and co-founder of the women’s sober collective SOULBRIETY. Alida opens up about navigating love and relationships without alcohol—and let’s just say, her first sober date included dogs, a hike, and thankfully, no cocktails. Alida shares what it was like re-entering the dating scene after sobriety, how she negotiated her way down from a proposed 100-date challenge. Together, Sonia and Alida talk about what it means to stay true to yourself in the dating world, and why sometimes a second drink at lunch is more telling than it seems. This episode has raw honesty that only two sober women can bring to the table. If you’ve ever wondered how to answer “Why don’t you drink?” on a date, what it means when someone orders six martinis, or how to spot love that feels like home instead of chaos, this one’s for you. Enjoyed the episode? Show us some love—like, comment, and subscribe to catch more from our Truth About Sober Dating, Sex & Relationships series. And if you’ve got your own wild sober date story or green flag moment, drop it in the comments. We want to hear all the juicy details. Links • Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community • Sisters In Sobriety Email • Sisters In Sobriety Instagram • Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast • Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Chris Janssen—board-certified coach, author of Grace Yourself: How to Show Up for the Sober Life You Want, and all-around powerhouse when it comes to helping high-achieving women let go of shame and perfectionism and finally get free. Chris doesn’t just coach people through sobriety and mindset shifts—she’s lived it. After 14 years of sobriety, she found herself drinking again. She had the perfect life on paper, a thriving coaching practice, and a head full of recovery tools… and still, alcohol crept back in. What happened next? A whole lot of hard truths, humbling lessons, and eventually—freedom. Again. In this chat, we’re getting into: • What to do when you think maybe you can drink again • Why it’s so easy to fall into the “I should be able to moderate” trap • How to tell the difference between fear and vigilance • What to do when you’re stuck in perfectionism and performance pressure • Why community is the non-negotiable (even if you're embarrassed to go back) • The truth about relapsing—and why you are never, ever starting over from zero Chris also shares some incredibly powerful coaching tools for breaking toxic patterns, reframing setbacks, and rewriting your own rules. Spoiler alert: they’re useful whether you’re on Day One or Day 3,000. This is one of those episodes that’ll stick with you—because it’s real, raw, and hopeful as hell. This is Sisters in Sobriety—the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Come hang out on our Substack for tips, community, and the kind of conversations you won’t hear anywhere else. Episode Highlights: 00:00 – Meet Chris Janssen: mindset coach, bestselling author, and secretly-struggling wine mom turned sober sage 01:30 – Chris’s first sober journey: high-functioning on the outside, suffering on the inside 05:00 – The moment everything changed: one meeting, one sentence, and a huge weight lifted 07:15 – Raising three kids in sobriety and why “no one ever saw me drunk” isn’t the whole story 09:00 – 14 years later: the move, the pandemic, the identity crisis, and the return of wine 11:10 – Trying to “think” your way through moderation (and why it never works) 13:30 – The trap of perfectionism: how losing her sober streak messed with her mind 15:00 – When sober groups don’t fit—and why it’s okay to admit they’re not for you 17:30 – The mindful drinking myth and other lies we tell ourselves 19:00 – Fear vs. vigilance: how to fast-forward the tape without spiraling 21:00 – Playing it smart, not scared: tools for staying sober without white-knuckling 23:00 – Relapse shame, pride in reverse, and why going back can be the bravest move 26:00 – Labels, stigma, and what to say when people ask why you don’t drink 30:00 – What “grace yourself” really means—and how to stop trying to control your worth 33:00 – Releasing perfectionism: write down your made-up rules and start again 35:45 – Boredom or serenity? Why stillness freaks us out 37:00 – First steps for breaking a cycle when you feel totally stuck 39:00 – Peak performance and recovery: choosing your hard and focusing forward 41:15 – How Chris wishes she’d handled her relapse 43:30 – Do you really have to go back to Day One? (Spoiler: maybe not) 45:00 – What’s next for Chris: more coaching, more writing, more realness Links & Resources: 🌐 Chris Janssen’s Website 📘 Grace Yourself (Book) 📸 Chris on Instagram 📘 Chris on Facebook 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

She’s back! 🚨 In this bite-sized bonus episode, we welcome newlywed and sober lifestyle expert Hilary Sheinbaum—the brilliant mind behind GoingDry.co and author of The Dry Challenge and Going Dry: A Workbook—for our new series The Truth About Sober Dating, Sex, and Love. We hit her with 10 juicy questions about sober dating, first-time sober sex, red (and green!) flags, her Barry's Bootcamp date strategy, and what love looks like without the booze goggles. 💪💋 If you've ever wondered what to say when someone asks, “Why don’t you drink?”, how to survive your first dry date, or what Taylor Swift song sums up your love life—this one’s for you. 💡Fun fact: Hilary met her husband because she stopped drinking. Talk about a sober love story. Links • Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community • Sisters In Sobriety Email • Sisters In Sobriety Instagram • Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast • Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wish you had a reset button for your habits—and maybe your relationship with alcohol too? On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are chatting with Silvia Subirana, a clinical psychologist and the Head of Content at MyDry30, an app that’s part sober-curious experiment, part life makeover. Silvia is here to share how MyDry30 helps people drink less (or not at all) without guilt—and how it can help you feel better in your body, your mind, and your everyday life. We’re diving into all the good stuff: Why does alcohol feel like such a default in our social lives? What’s the science behind changing habits (especially the sticky ones)? And how can tools like hypnotherapy, journaling, and movement actually help us feel more grounded and in control? If you’ve ever wondered how to quit something without it feeling like a punishment—this one’s for you. Silvia breaks it all down. We talk about how habits are wired into our brains, how our bodies often know what’s up before our minds catch on, and why adding more to your life (not just taking alcohol away) is a key part of feeling fulfilled. Plus, she shares the surprising benefits of gratitude texts, tiny daily rituals, and letting go of perfection when you're trying something new. We also get personal—Silvia opens up about her own story: a gut-health wake-up call, why she stayed alcohol-free even when she technically could go back, and how she found her way to MyDry30. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of starting over, or wondered if moderation is even for you, this conversation will feel like a warm hug and a deep exhale. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-stamped Highlights 00:00 – Meet Silvia, psychologist and content lead at MyDry30 01:30 – Silvia’s path from psychology to sobriety to building a wellness app 03:10 – The health issue that made alcohol a no-go 05:00 – Why MyDry30 never uses guilt or shame to promote change 06:50 – The app’s daily combo: movement, journaling, hypnosis (yes, really!) 08:30 – Demystifying hypnotherapy (no swinging watches here) 10:45 – Why “being in a trance” is just super-deep relaxation 12:20 – How our brains form habits (even ones we don’t want) 14:00 – Why journaling hits different than venting to a friend 15:30 – How MyDry30 handles “slip-ups” with kindness 17:00 – Shifting from “I can’t drink” to “I don’t want to” 18:30 – The power of connection: why gratitude texts matter 20:00 – Why alcohol cravings feel different from food cravings 21:30 – When your body says “enough already” louder than your mind 23:00 – Silvia’s take on healing stress through body awareness 25:00 – Breathwork and grounding: not just for yogis 26:30 – The 5-4-3-2-1 method to snap out of spirals 28:00 – If you keep starting over, you’re not broken—you’re human 29:30 – What is gray area drinking… and is it working for you? 31:00 – Moderation vs. sobriety: which path is actually harder? 32:00 – Be curious! Experimenting is better than perfection 33:30 – What’s next for MyDry30: 90-day programs, your way 34:45 – Wrapping up: it’s okay to go slow, and you’re not alone Links Check out MyDry30 https://mydry30.com https://www.instagram.com/mydry30app 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Read less Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Kaitlin Henry, wellness advocate and host of the Step Zero podcast, to bust the myth that you need to hit rock bottom before making a change. Kaitlin shares her story of choosing sobriety not from crisis but from clarity — and how her decision to quit drinking started with a juice cleanse and a broken foot. From wine-mom culture to the shame-fueled cycles we normalize, this episode is a vulnerable, powerful conversation about reclaiming your life before it falls apart. What is “gray area drinking”? How do societal messages keep women stuck in patterns that don’t serve them? How do you navigate sobriety when everyone around you still drinks? Sonia and Kaitlin dig into these questions and more — discussing sober curiosity, emotional sobriety, and how self-worth plays a central role in long-term recovery. This is an honest, eye-opening episode about the moments before you quit — and why they matter just as much. Kaitlin also shares insight into how programs like AA and Al-Anon supported her healing, the value of community in early sobriety, and how motherhood, identity, and relationships evolve on the other side of alcohol. She shares the deep inner work that came through step nine of AA, and the hard decisions she had to make — including ending her marriage — to protect her sobriety. This is a must-listen if you’ve ever felt like your story wasn’t “bad enough” to change your life. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks and resources. Highlights 00:00:00 – Sonia introduces the episode and guest Kaitlin Henry, opening the conversation around the myth of "rock bottom." 00:02:40 – Kaitlin shares how alcohol was normalized in her childhood and used as an emotional crutch. 00:05:20 – She discusses the progression from casual drinking to a pattern of dependency in her adult life. 00:08:00 – The story of her personal “rock bottom” begins with a juice cleanse and an unexpected injury. 00:10:40 – Kaitlin reflects on how breaking her foot catalyzed her decision to stop drinking for a short time. 00:13:20 – She discovers the terms “gray area drinking” and “sober curious” during her research online. 00:16:00 – Kaitlin opens up about her father’s alcohol use and how it mirrored her own issues. 00:18:41 – Her early experiences in Al-Anon and the growing realization that she, too, had a problem. 00:21:21 – Sonia and Kaitlin discuss the power of comparison and denial in identifying a drinking problem. 00:24:01 – Kaitlin details her resistance to AA and eventual surrender to deeper personal work. 00:26:41 – She finds support and connection in her first AA meeting, where she finally feels seen. 00:29:21 – Kaitlin shares how emotional release and crying became a huge part of her healing in early sobriety. 00:32:01 – A conversation about how media, pop culture, and “wine mom” culture distort what’s normal. 00:34:41 – Kaitlin talks about the social stigma of being a mom in recovery and how she shifted her narrative. 00:37:22 – Finding new, supportive friendships and making mocktails part of her sober life. 00:40:02 – She explains how sobriety gave her space to rediscover identity and purpose beyond motherhood. 00:42:42 – A reflection on her time in grad school, realizing she wanted to work with people ready to change. 00:45:22 – Kaitlin describes how she began showing her kids what sobriety and purpose can look like. 00:48:02 – She shares how her sobriety impacted her marriage and eventually led to a major fork in the road. 00:50:42 – The power of step nine, doing deep amends work, and the emotional shift that followed. Links Get In Touch With Kaitlin 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s be honest—perimenopause isn’t exactly a hot topic at dinner, and alcohol’s role in our lives (and cultures) is often more complicated than we realize. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia is diving into both with the help of Sukhi Dhillon is a dental educator, mom of two, and the voice behind OneSikhMom on social media, where she uses humor, heart, and reels to talk about everything from Sikhi and parenting to cycle-breaking, menopause, and yes—booze. She is a go-to community voice for honest conversations and cultural connection. So what’s really going on when it comes to menopause in the South Asian community? Why do so many women feel blindsided by symptoms—and alone in dealing with them? Sukhi helps us unpack questions around health literacy, how culture shapes what’s considered “private,” and why it’s so hard to get support. We also dig into alcohol—how it’s celebrated and expected in many South Asian spaces, but stigmatized differently for women. And of course, we get into that tricky question: Why do we feel like fun has to come with a drink in hand? From early onset menopause in South Asian women to the double standards around alcohol use, Sukhi sheds light on topics most people are too shy—or too uncomfortable—to bring up. She talks about the importance of culturally specific care, the role of peer pressure in adult drinking (yes, it’s still a thing), and the value of being “that person” who starts the hard conversations. If you’re curious about cycle-breaking, mental health, or talking to your kids about alcohol in a more honest way than just yelling “don’t do it!”—this is the episode for you. Sukhi also shares her own journey—how years of confusing symptoms led her to research perimenopause herself, why she started speaking out online, and the powerful messages she receives from women every day who finally feel seen. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources—and maybe pass this episode along to a friend who needs to hear it. Episode Highlights 00:01 Meet Sukhi: mom, educator, community organizer, content creator 01:50 Why she started speaking up about taboo topics in the South Asian community 03:30 The perimenopause denial phase—what she wishes she’d known sooner 04:30 Sharing symptoms publicly and the surprising response she got 06:00 Her DMs are full of important conversations (and ideas for future content) 07:00 Organizing mobile health clinics at the Gurdwara 08:30 Why reproductive health is still so hush-hush in our families 09:30 The impact of being told to “push through it” like our moms did 10:30 How menopause symptoms differ for South Asian women 11:00 The science behind early menopause—and why doctors often miss it 12:00 Traditional remedies, soy, and navigating food myths 14:00 Culture vs. religion when it comes to women's health 15:30 Alcohol as status, celebration—and coping mechanism 16:30 Aunties drinking publicly and the shift in expectations 18:00 The peer pressure to drink, even as adults 20:00 “You’re not drinking? What’s wrong with you?” 21:00 Stigma around sobriety and how it impacts recovery 22:00 The very real struggles South Asian women face in getting help 23:00 Resources that are culturally appropriate and trauma-informed 25:00 Intergenerational trauma, parenting styles, and how it all connects 27:00 How to actually talk to your kids about alcohol (without freaking out) 29:00 Why our parents didn’t prioritize self-care—and how we can 31:00 Teaching kids that emotions are not a weakness 32:00 The glamorization of drinking in pop culture and Punjabi music 34:00 Where to go for reliable South Asian health info 36:00 What Sukhi’s working on next—and how to follow along Get in touch with Sukhi YouTube Instagram TikTok Facebook Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Kathleen and Sonia sit down with Dr. Erica Matluck, a holistic doctor, mother, and the creator of Seven Senses, a holistic framework for healing and transformation. Trained as a naturopathic doctor, family nurse practitioner, Reiki Master, and multidisciplinary yoga instructor, Dr. Matluck brings over two decades of experience in both conventional and alternative medicine to her work. She integrates Eastern philosophy and ancient wisdom into her approach to wellbeing, focusing on the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of health. Her work has been featured in Harper’s Bazaar, MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Vogue, and Women’s Health. This episode dives into the mind-body connection, exploring how chakras can be a framework for healing. Dr. Matluck shares her personal journey from conventional medicine to holistic healing and explains why compartmentalization in healthcare limits our ability to thrive. How does alcohol fit into the equation? The discussion covers emotional bypassing, the root cause of disease, and how to decompartmentalize health for a more integrative approach. Listeners will learn about the chakras as bridges between the physical and metaphysical realms, the role of emotional bypassing in addiction and numbing behaviors, how to recognize energetic imbalances in the body and start self-healing practices, why conventional medicine focuses on survival but true healing goes beyond functionality, and how to reconnect with yourself after quitting alcohol. Dr. Matluck opens up about how losing her mother to cancer at a young age sparked her curiosity about alternative healing. She shares how witnessing both conventional and holistic treatments shaped her philosophy of care. From her early introduction to Reiki to working in mainstream medical institutions, she reveals how her approach evolved—ultimately leading her back to the wisdom she first discovered decades ago. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:00:00] Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety – introducing Dr. Erica Matluck [00:01:08] Erica’s background in naturopathy, nursing, Reiki, and yoga [00:01:39] Why she transitioned from conventional medicine to holistic healing [00:02:13] How losing her mother to cancer shaped her approach to healing [00:04:37] Discovering Reiki and energy work as a teenager [00:06:14] What are chakras? Erica’s unique perspective on this ancient framework [00:08:15] The chakras as bridges between the conscious and unconscious mind [00:10:41] Why compartmentalized healthcare leaves us feeling disconnected [00:14:50] How to identify energetic imbalances and blocked chakras [00:18:09] The power of breathwork in balancing your energy [00:20:00] Why modern medicine separates survival from true wellbeing [00:26:39] Alcohol and emotional bypassing: how numbing prevents true healing [00:28:49] The importance of intention in alcohol consumption [00:30:15] What happens when we remove numbing agents? Preparing for discomfort [00:32:16] Meditation and movement: tools for processing emotions without alcohol [00:34:34] Post-alcohol healing: daily strategies to reconnect with yourself [00:36:07] Common misconceptions about holistic medicine and integrative health [00:40:00] How defining “holistic” for yourself helps you find the right practitioner [00:41:15] Upcoming projects: Erica’s Substack, retreats, and courses on root cause healing [00:42:07] Closing thoughts and where to find Erica online Links & Resources: How to Connect with Erica: Dr. Erica Matluck’s Substack - https://drericamatluck.substack.com/ Seven Senses Retreat: Gnosis Mallorca - https://www.experiencesevensenses.com/gnosis-mallorca 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like you need to hit rock bottom before making a change? Think again! This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia is joined by Andrea Seydel, a happiness and resilience expert who’s here to challenge the outdated recovery narrative. Andrea is the author of Recovery Without Rock Bottom and the creator of Ready for Recovery Magazine, a fresh take on healing that’s all about building yourself up—not tearing yourself down. With a background in happiness studies and positive psychology, she’s got the science-backed tools to help you rethink recovery and reclaim your life. So, what’s on the table today? Do you really need to hit rock bottom, or is that just a myth? What are some early signs that your relationship with alcohol (or other habits) might need a reset? Why do so many recovery programs focus on what you need to quit instead of what you need to build? How can we rewire our brains to make lasting, positive changes? What’s the best way to support someone struggling with addiction without losing yourself in the process? Takeaways from this episode: Recovery isn’t just about stopping something—it’s about rediscovering yourself. You don’t have to wait until things fall apart to make a change. Boundaries aren’t about controlling others—they’re about protecting your peace. Your brain is wired for change, and small shifts can make a huge difference. Community and support matter more than willpower alone. Andrea also shares her personal story—how loving someone with addiction led her to a breaking point, and how she turned that pain into a mission to help others. Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or just looking for a little extra motivation, this episode is packed with wisdom, humor, and practical advice. This is Sisters in Sobriety—the community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Find extra tips, resources, and support on our Substack! Episode Highlights:[00:01:00] Meet Andrea Seydel and her take on recovery [00:02:09] When loving someone with addiction starts to break you [00:05:00] The myth of rock bottom (and why it’s holding people back) [00:08:10] “In-betweeners” who don’t fit the traditional recovery mold [00:12:48] Red flags: When to check in with yourself (or someone else) [00:14:42] Why values matter more than willpower [00:16:42] The science of addiction: Rewiring your brain for good [00:19:00] Tiny habits that make a huge impact [00:25:47] Playing the tape forward: Using fear vs. motivation [00:27:05] Sobriety changes everything—including what you value most [00:29:00] Setting boundaries vs. making “rules to live by” [00:35:34] Why support groups work (even if you’re not into group stuff) [00:38:40] Preventing relapse before it starts [00:41:19] Forgiveness: What it really means and who it’s for [00:44:41] Andrea’s new project, Ready for Recovery Magazine [00:46:00] Final thoughts: Recovery isn’t about being broken—it’s about taking your power back Links & Resources: Connect with Andrea: Andrea's Website Ready for Recovery Saving You Is Killing Me Sisters in Sobriety Substack – More tips, tricks, and support Sisters in Sobriety Email Sisters in Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website (Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast) Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever felt like drinking just wasn’t working for you anymore, even if nothing looked "wrong" from the outside? That’s exactly where Hadley Sorenson found herself. This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Hadley—writer, speaker, and sobriety advocate—who is on a mission to help women change their relationship with alcohol without shame, stigma, or outdated labels. Hadley gets real about her journey—how she ignored red flags for years, the pressure to keep drinking because “everyone else was,” and why she finally decided to call it quits. The conversation dives into all the big questions: How do you know when it’s time to stop? What if your drinking looks normal to everyone else? How do you navigate sobriety when your partner still drinks? And how do you shake off the idea that quitting means missing out? If you’ve ever questioned your drinking but felt like you weren’t “bad enough” to quit, this episode is for you. Hadley breaks down why “rock bottom” is a myth, shares how alcohol was messing with her mental health way more than she realized, and gives honest insight into what sobriety has actually done for her life, relationships, and running game. Spoiler alert: It’s all way better than she expected. She also talks about why she doesn’t use the label “alcoholic,” how marketing and pop culture keep women stuck in the drinking cycle, and how quitting drinking led her to write a novel (yep, it’s coming soon!). This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights• [00:01:00] Meet Hadley—writer, speaker, and a sobriety advocate with a fresh take. • [00:02:10] The slow realization that alcohol wasn’t adding anything good to her life. • [00:04:12] Ignoring red flags: blackouts, anxiety, and shame—but still drinking anyway. • [00:08:27] The myth of rock bottom—why you don’t have to wait until things fall apart. • [00:10:15] “If your pan caught fire, you wouldn’t wait for the whole house to burn down.” • [00:12:19] How alcohol becomes part of our identity (and why that’s so hard to untangle). • [00:16:03] Why Hadley doesn’t call herself an alcoholic—and why that’s totally okay. • [00:19:27] The role of alcohol marketing and why it's basically the new "big tobacco." • [00:22:16] How to stop seeing quitting as deprivation and start seeing it as freedom. • [00:27:07] Hadley’s thoughts on the “gray area” of drinking and why more voices matter. • [00:30:00] Why drinking is marketed differently to men and women—and why it matters. • [00:32:07] What happens when you quit, but your partner still drinks? (Hint: boundaries!) • [00:36:26] The surprising ways sobriety actually made Hadley’s marriage stronger. • [00:43:00] All the unexpected physical benefits of quitting alcohol. • [00:46:52] “Wait… was alcohol making my health issues worse all along?” • [00:50:06] The power of movement—why running and walking helped Hadley so much. • [00:54:08] Hadley’s next big project: a novel exploring different relationships with alcohol. Links Get in touch with Hadley: • Hadley’s Instagram • Hadley’s Website 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Alle C. Hall, an author, speaker, and writing instructor with over 35 years in recovery from bulimia, compulsive overeating, alcoholism, and sexual anorexia. Her debut novel, As Far as You Can Go Before You Have to Come Back, has earned multiple awards and is even included in the staff libraries of major treatment centers. But beyond the accolades, Alle’s story is one of resilience, creativity, and finding joy after trauma. Alle opens up about her journey through addiction, the ways trauma shaped her relationship with food, alcohol, and intimacy, and how creativity became a key part of her healing. She shares how a "geographic cure" led her to Tokyo, where she unexpectedly found a recovery community, and how she later navigated motherhood, deep depression, and even a relapse after 27 years of sobriety. Through it all, she’s built a life rooted in hope, healing, and self-expression. This conversation covers so much—why addiction often shifts between different compulsive behaviors, the importance of spirituality in recovery (even if you don’t know what that looks like for you yet), and how to navigate the shame that so often lingers after trauma. Alle also gets real about what it means to heal from sexual anorexia, how she rebuilt trust and intimacy, and why she’s passionate about helping others use writing as a tool for self-discovery. From early struggles with food and body image to finding her voice through writing, Alle’s story is full of lessons on resilience and self-compassion. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s possible to truly heal from trauma, this episode is proof that recovery is not just about survival—it’s about rediscovering joy, creativity, and a life that feels fully your own. Some of the highlights from this episode: How childhood trauma shaped her addictions and recovery journey The unexpected way she found a recovery community in Tokyo Why addiction is often just a symptom of deeper issues How Tai Chi, therapy, and DBT became crucial tools for healing The unique challenges of food addiction and learning moderation What sexual anorexia is and how she worked through it The role of spirituality in recovery—even when it feels complicated How creativity and storytelling can be powerful tools for healing This is a deep, inspiring, and sometimes funny conversation that reminds us that healing isn’t linear—but it is possible. Connect with Alle C. Hall: Instagram Website Links: 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to Sisters in Sobriety! Today, Sonia and Kathleen are here to help you navigate the journey of changing your relationship with alcohol, and we’ve got an incredible guest to guide us. Whitney Combs is a nationally board-certified health and wellness coach specializing in addiction and recovery. She began her career as a Physician Assistant before shifting her focus to holistic recovery coaching after getting sober in 2017. Whitney has since helped countless women build fulfilling lives that don’t require escape. With her extensive training and experience—both personal and professional—she brings a wealth of knowledge to today’s conversation. In this episode, we explore what it truly takes to create lasting change. How do you transition from feeling stuck in a cycle of drinking to living a life that feels nourishing and whole? What role does coaching play in recovery, and how is it different from therapy? How can you begin to trust yourself again after years of self-doubt? Whitney shares insights from her work with women in recovery, breaking down the tools that empower real transformation. Listeners will walk away with a deeper understanding of self-accountability, personal agency in recovery, and how to cultivate habits that support sobriety. Whitney shares practical strategies for identifying and dismantling triggers, building sustainable routines, and using self-reflection as a tool for growth. We also discuss the importance of mindset shifts—moving from deprivation to abundance—and how to stay committed to long-term change. Whitney also shares her own personal story—how she made the difficult decision to quit drinking, the challenges she faced in early sobriety, and how her perspective on life has evolved since then. She opens up about what worked, what didn’t, and how she continues to stay grounded in her recovery today. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights [00:03] Kicking off the episode and introducing today’s guest, Whitney Combs [05:12] How Whitney went from Physician Assistant to recovery coach [08:45] Why she stepped away from clinical medicine to take a holistic approach [12:30] Coaching vs. therapy—what’s the real difference in addiction recovery? [15:50] Why self-accountability is a game-changer in sobriety [18:20] Rebuilding self-trust after years of second-guessing yourself [21:45] Breaking free from shame and guilt—because we’ve all been there [25:10] The toughest struggles women face in early sobriety [28:05] How to create routines that support your long-term recovery [32:15] Why alcohol-free living is the ultimate act of self-care [35:40] The power of finding your community in sobriety [38:55] How Whitney helps women design lives they truly love [42:10] Spotting and managing triggers before they derail your progress [45:30] Using self-reflection to fuel growth and healing [48:05] Facing the fear of quitting drinking and embracing a new identity [51:20] Whitney’s personal experiences with socializing sober [54:40] From scarcity to abundance—rethinking what sobriety really means [57:15] How to handle setbacks with kindness (instead of self-criticism) [01:00:30] What Whitney wishes everyone understood about addiction recovery [01:03:50] Whitney’s final words of wisdom for those on the journey Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Get in Touch WIth Whitney Website: www.whitneycombs.com Instagram: @whitney.combs Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Samantha Lander, a functional diagnostic nutritionist and personal trainer who turned her life around after struggling with addiction. Now, she helps people figure out what’s really going on with their health using lab testing, nutrition, and lifestyle tweaks. Ever wonder why quitting drinking doesn’t always make you feel amazing overnight? Why do so many people in recovery crave sugar? And what’s the deal with gut health and hormones? Samantha breaks it all down, sharing insights on how alcohol messes with digestion, metabolism, and overall wellness. She also gives practical tips on balancing blood sugar, avoiding common nutrition mistakes, and getting your energy back. Samantha also opens up about her own story—how she got into addiction, the legal trouble that followed, and what finally helped her get sober. She shares what worked (and what didn’t) in her recovery and how she found her way to helping others through functional medicine. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights: [00:01:00] Meet Samantha Lander and her background in functional health [00:03:00] Samantha shares her early experiences with addiction and sobriety [00:07:00] The moment she realized she needed a change [00:12:00] Facing legal trouble and what that experience was like [00:17:00] What rehab was really like for her [00:21:00] How she got into functional medicine and nutrition [00:26:00] Why so many people in recovery struggle with sugar cravings [00:30:00] How alcohol affects gut health and hormone balance [00:35:00] The best ways to support your liver and metabolism after quitting [00:40:00] Why some people still feel sluggish even after quitting alcohol [00:44:00] Simple nutrition changes that make a big impact in recovery [00:48:00] How Samantha helps people figure out their unique health needs [00:52:00] Where to find Samantha and how to work with her Links Work with Samantha: https://linktr.ee/seefitliving  💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's our first Bravo Sobriety Hot Take! In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we dive into the sober journey of Summer House's Carl Radke. From his initial decision to quit drinking to his Cali sober lifestyle, we're breaking down what his sobriety looks like today and the challenges of navigating it in the Bravo universe. Carl has been open about his struggles with alcohol, but when Lindsay revealed he had been smoking weed and using psychedelics, many fans were surprised. What does Cali sober really mean? Is it sustainable? How does it impact relationships, especially when one partner drinks? We also explore how filming a reality show in a drinking-heavy environment can affect sobriety. We talk about the personal and emotional aspects of Carl’s sobriety. We discuss the impact of his brother's passing, how that tragedy influenced his decision to quit drinking, and the complexities of familial addiction. We’ll explore the common experience of comparing our drinking to others' and the realization that addiction manifests in different ways. Carl's journey has been filled with ups and downs, from his highly publicized breakup with Lindsay to his efforts to build a life that aligns with his sober values. How does he handle temptation? How does he navigate friendships and career moves while staying committed to his version of sobriety? His decision to open a sober-friendly sports bar is just one example of how he's reshaping the narrative around drinking culture. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights: [00:01:00] Sonia introduces the Bravo Hot Topics in Sobriety series. [00:02:00] Carl Radke's sobriety journey—what we knew vs. what we just learned. [00:03:26] The role of reality TV in his decision to get sober. [00:04:28] The heartbreaking loss of Carl’s brother and its impact on his sobriety. [00:05:49] Comparing personal drinking habits to those struggling with addiction. [00:07:40] The anger and resentment Carl felt toward his brother’s addiction. [00:09:23] Carl’s reflection on his past drinking habits and relationship struggles. [00:10:14] The importance of a supportive environment in early sobriety. [00:11:52] What does Cali sober actually mean? How does it work for Carl? [00:13:20] The controversy around Carl taking psychedelics at a music festival. [00:15:00] The challenges of sobriety in relationships—how Lindsay played a role. [00:16:37] The emotional impact of having your sobriety questioned by a partner. [00:17:48] How Summer House’s environment affects Carl’s sobriety. [00:19:20] Does he struggle with temptation on the show? [00:19:46] Carl’s new sober ventures: nonalcoholic bar and Loverboy’s NA teas. [00:20:29] The importance of creating sober-friendly spaces in drinking culture. [00:21:00] The big question: Is Cali sober sustainable for Carl long-term? [00:21:24] Wrapping up—why Carl’s journey is an important conversation. Links 💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you rediscover yourself in recovery? In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen sit down with award-winning author and speaker Patti Clark. Patti shares her deeply personal story of growing up in an alcoholic home, struggling with addiction, and ultimately finding recovery—twice. As the author of This Way Up and Recovery Road Trip, she explores how creativity, self-reflection, and community play a vital role in healing. Sonia and Kathleen guide the conversation, helping listeners unpack key insights that can support their own journeys. What role does creativity play in addiction recovery? How does travel shape self-discovery and healing? What does emotional sobriety truly mean? Patti shares her experience of getting sober, relapsing after 13 years, and finding her way back to a fulfilling life. She also dives into the importance of community, the evolution of recovery beyond traditional 12-step programs, and how addiction can manifest in different ways beyond alcohol. Listeners will gain valuable insights on the power of emotional sobriety, the impact of community in recovery, and why personal growth is an ongoing process. Patti discusses the necessity of taking pauses, embracing self-compassion, and recognizing the various ways addiction can show up in our lives. Whether you’re newly sober or years into your journey, this episode offers inspiration and practical takeaways on finding meaning and connection beyond alcohol. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights00:01 – Patti shares her upbringing in an alcoholic household and early substance use 05:16 – The moment she realized she needed to leave Alaska to save herself 06:21 – How her relationship with her husband played a role in her decision to get sober 07:53 – Patti’s first introduction to Alcoholics Anonymous and the impact of her sister’s recovery 09:46 – The pivotal moment when she was directly asked, “Are you an alcoholic?” 12:17 – How travel shaped her worldview and also contributed to her relapse 14:46 – Defining recovery: Is it abstinence, moderation, or something else? 16:42 – The importance of emotional sobriety and personal growth beyond quitting drinking 19:16 – The slow build-up to relapse after 13 years of sobriety 20:56 – The role of connection in addiction and recovery 22:27 – How Patti found her way back to sobriety and created a new community 24:08 – Learning from relapse: Why she started researching women’s experiences with it 26:58 – Writing Recovery Road Trip and weaving real stories into the book 27:50 – Addiction beyond alcohol: Why Patti identifies as an addict rather than just an alcoholic 30:06 – Recognizing the ‘whack-a-mole’ nature of addiction (shopping, screens, food, etc.) 32:07 – The limitations of traditional 12-step programs and the need for more inclusive recovery spaces 35:12 – How she’s working to build an open, all-addictions recovery group in Portugal 38:42 – The impact of social media on connection and addiction 40:33 – The importance of taking sacred pauses in recovery and daily life 42:28 – How creativity plays a key role in Patti’s recovery practice 45:33 – Navigating friendships when alcohol is no longer part of your social life 50:16 – What Patti is currently working on, including her move to Portugal and ongoing writing projects 53:43 – Final words of wisdom on reinvention and embracing sobriety as a lifelong journey Links💌 Sisters In Sobriety Substack – where the magic (and the mocktail recipes) happen 📬 Sisters In Sobriety Email 📸 Sisters In Sobriety Instagram 🌐 Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast 📸 Kathleen’s Instagram Connect with Patti ClarkWebsite: www.patticlark.org Substack: Patti Clark Writer Instagram: @patticlarkauthor Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So, what happens when you quit drinking but your partner doesn’t? Is your relationship doomed? Will they start side-eyeing your mocktails? Or will love prevail? On today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into the messy and complicated world of love in sobriety. To help us untangle it all, we’re joined by the incredible Kate Taylor! Kate is a writer who has worked for Disney and the United Nations (yes, she’s that cool), and she’s a big, bold voice in the sobriety space. After drinking a bottle of wine a night for 20 years, she’s been sober for over three years—and she shares her journey with humor and honesty on Instagram. She currently lives in Shropshire, UK, with her husband, two kids, and a massive rescue puppy (who is probably the best listener in the house). So… can your relationship survive sobriety?In this episode, we’re asking the big questions: 💡 What happens when one person quits drinking but the other keeps going? 💡 Can you really be in a happy relationship with someone who drinks when you don’t? 💡 How do you handle resentment, jealousy, and judgement 💡 And… is dating sober basically The Hunger Games? (Spoiler: kinda, yeah.) Kate gets real about what it was like to be the fun, party-loving drinker in her marriage—until she decided to stop. She shares the surprising ways her relationship changed (the good, the weird, and the "is that wine I smell?!"). Plus, we get into the emotional rollercoaster of intimacy in sobriety, setting boundaries without being a buzzkill, and what happens when your partner finally decides to take a break from drinking... but doesn’t do the emotional work. What You’ll Take Away (Besides an Urge to DM Kate ‘OMG SAME’)✨ How to set boundaries in your relationship without starting WWIII ✨ Why quitting drinking makes you way more self-aware (for better or worse) ✨ The truth about emotional vs. physical sobriety (yes, there’s a difference) ✨ Why watching your drunk friends repeat themselves for the 5th time is painful ✨ Tips for talking to your partner about sobriety without making it weird Of course, we also get into Kate’s personal story—how she went from blackout nights to the moment that made her quit drinking, and how she’s navigating a marriage where sobriety wasn’t a shared decision. And finally, the million-dollar question: Will her husband stay sober after his one-year experiment, or is Kate in for a plot twist? She’s keeping it real, and we’re here for every juicy detail. This is Sisters in Sobriety—the podcast and community helping women change their relationship with alcohol, one hilarious and heartfelt conversation at a time. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety! Meet Kate Taylor and today’s topic—when one person in a relationship stops drinking. [00:03:00] Kate’s childhood: growing up around famous writers and endless bottles of booze. [00:06:22] Drinking, blackouts, and the morning-after anxiety spiral. [00:08:00] The moment Kate knew she had to quit—drunk Kate leaves sober Kate a message. [00:14:00] How drinking shaped Kate’s marriage (hint: lots of "do you remember what you said last night?" moments). [00:19:25] The dreaded reading the room moment the morning after an argument. [00:22:42] Kate quits drinking, but her husband doesn’t—at first, it’s fine... right? [00:24:49] One year into sobriety: "So, uh, why are you still drinking?" [00:26:13] Her husband decides to take a break from drinking—how did that change their marriage? [00:28:48] Why men (especially in the UK) struggle with socializing sober. [00:32:51] The big fear: what happens if he starts drinking again? [00:36:25] How to have the conversation about drinking without making your partner defensive. [00:38:54] Writing letters instead of talking—Kate’s genius communication hack. [00:42:49] Setting boundaries vs. giving ultimatums (and why it’s not the same thing). [00:44:12] The awkward reality of sober intimacy—yes, it’s weird at first. [00:49:14] The baggage we carry from alcohol-fueled experiences and how it affects intimacy. [00:50:21] What’s next for Kate—career growth, self-discovery, and making up for lost time. [00:51:34] Kate’s honest take: Will her marriage survive if her husband starts drinking again? [00:52:31] Final thoughts from Kathleen and Sonia—relationships in sobriety, part one of many. Links & ResourcesFollow Kate: Walking the Straight Line Sisters In Sobriety Substack – Extra tips, tricks, and community support. Sisters In Sobriety Instagram – Let’s connect! Email Us – Got thoughts? We want to hear ‘em. Kathleen’s Website – Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast. Kathleen’s Instagram – Talking relationships & sobriety every day. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore the intersection of hustle culture, entrepreneurship, and sobriety with Joe Chura, Founder and President of Go Brewing. Joe’s story is about reinvention, starting from his early days working on an automobile assembly line, to co-founding and selling two successful tech companies, and finally launching a non-alcoholic brewery. He shares how his journey led him to reevaluate his relationship with alcohol, prioritize his health, and create a brand that’s redefining social drinking. What happens when high achievers find themselves burnt out and needing to reset? Joe dives into his personal and professional evolution, including the moment he realized his drinking habits were holding him back, and how he transformed his health and mindset. He also shares insights into the growing market for non-alcoholic beer and the cultural shift around social drinking. Listeners will take away valuable lessons about navigating success while maintaining personal well-being, practical strategies for reassessing alcohol consumption, and how small shifts in behavior can lead to life-changing transformations. Joe also shares the challenges and triumphs of building Go Brewing, the importance of community in the alcohol-free movement, and his perspective on mindful drinking versus total abstinence. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights[00:01:01] Joe’s journey from the Ford assembly line to selling two companies for $165 million. [00:01:50] How Joe’s struggles with health and drinking led to the creation of Go Brewing. [00:02:08] The connection between hustle culture, entrepreneurship, and sobriety. [00:04:00] The mental and physical toll of overwork and how Joe overcame burnout. [00:06:00] Why passion doesn’t always mean sustainability—finding balance in work. [00:07:52] How a 75-day challenge changed Joe’s relationship with alcohol. [00:09:12] The unexpected mental clarity and reduced anxiety that came with sobriety. [00:12:03] The proximity effect: Why alcohol cravings intensify after drinking. [00:14:12] The role of non-alcoholic beer in curbing cravings and sustaining sobriety. [00:15:57] How Joe navigated social events while cutting back on drinking. [00:17:54] Thanksgiving epiphany: Realizing he didn’t need alcohol to celebrate. [00:19:20] The growing cultural shift towards non-alcoholic social beverages. [00:23:28] Remember tomorrow: Joe’s method for making mindful drinking decisions. [00:25:00] The spectrum of drinking habits and how to determine your relationship with alcohol. [00:27:17] The lightbulb moment that led to the creation of Go Brewing. [00:32:00] The surprising reaction from the sober community when Go Brewing launched. [00:37:33] The future of non-alcoholic beer: Functional beverages and beyond. [00:40:33] Overcoming skepticism and backlash in the brewing industry. [00:43:00] The shocking moment when a band insulted the non-alcoholic community at Go Brewing. [00:50:49] Why Go Brewing has become a safe and inclusive space for all drinkers. [00:54:00] The challenges of running a brewery and why Joe insists on making everything in-house. LinksGobrewing Joe's insta - https://www.instagram.com/joechura/ Go Brewing's Insta - https://www.instagram.com/gobrewing/?hl=en Sisters In Sobriety Substack – find more tips, tricks, resources, and community. Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast. Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety! Today, Sonia and Kathleen are here to help you navigate the challenges of sobriety, and we’re joined by a powerhouse guest—Amity Cooper. Amity is an entrepreneur, mental health professional, and Lifebook facilitator, helping people rebuild their lives after rehab. From her 40-acre equine ranch in Colorad Amity’s approach is holistic, compassionate, and innovative. How do mental health and recovery intersect? What are the biggest challenges in treating mental health and addiction simultaneously? How can polyvagal exercises, mind-body alignment, and habit-building support long-term sobriety? And, what role does emerging technology like VR and AI play in the future of therapy? Amity also opens up about her personal journey from the corporate world to therapy, navigating a career crisis, and finding purpose beyond external success. She shares powerful lessons on resilience, rethinking limiting beliefs, and stepping into a purpose-driven life. If you’ve ever felt like you’re at a crossroads in sobriety, this episode will inspire you to take control and design a life you love. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights[00:00:00] Sonia & Kathleen welcome Amity to the podcast [00:01:01] Amity’s background in entrepreneurship, mental health, and recovery coaching [00:04:00] The moment of crisis that led Amity to shift her career to mental health [00:06:25] Redefining recovery as a life transition, not just addiction [00:09:00] Why addiction is often a coping mechanism for deeper issues [00:12:00] Sonia shares personal struggles with family mental health challenges [00:14:00] Breaking free from externally driven life paths [00:17:00] The biggest challenges in early recovery & how to navigate them [00:19:00] The importance of morning and evening routines for stability [00:21:30] How nature, movement, and polyvagal exercises help with grounding [00:24:00] A deep dive into the polyvagal nervous system and emotional regulation [00:29:00] The Life Book System—how to rewrite your personal narrative [00:33:00] Why most people settle for mediocrity and how to break free [00:37:00] The future of therapy—VR sessions, AI diagnostics & tech-driven support [00:43:00] How AI is revolutionizing therapy, but won’t replace human intuition [00:49:00] The barriers to mental health access and how technology can solve them [00:52:00] Kathleen’s Himalayan shawl story and why it holds deep meaning [00:54:00] Final thoughts from Amity—how to create a purpose-driven life Links & How to Work with Amity Amity’s Website - Learn more about Amity’s work Clinical Career Collective - Amity’s company supporting mental health professionals Sisters In Sobriety Substack - Find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The new year is here, and it’s the perfect time to check in with yourself and your habits. Whether you’re feeling the post-holiday burnout or just curious about how alcohol impacts your life, Dry January offers a chance to hit pause and reset. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are here to guide you through the highs, lows, and everything in between, offering tips and real talk to help you make the most of your Dry January journey—whether it's your first time or your fifth. Ever wonder why Dry January seems to be everywhere? Sonia and Kathleen dive into questions like: What makes it so popular? What physical and mental benefits can you really expect? What if you slip up mid-month? With honest reflections and practical advice, this episode will leave you feeling ready to take it one day at a time. You’ll come away with simple, effective ways to succeed—like setting realistic goals, building a support system, and swapping old habits for new ones that actually feel good. Sonia and Kathleen also dig into strategies for overcoming cravings, reframing challenges, and creating routines you’ll look forward to. Plus, they share fun and easy ways to replace your go-to drink with something delicious, because it’s not just about taking something away—it’s about adding wellness, joy, and calm back into your life. And don’t worry—this isn’t some rigid guide to perfection. Sonia shares how her tea bar (complete with hot chocolate mix!) became her nighttime favorite, while Kathleen talks about how even the strongest cravings can be a chance to show yourself some love. It’s a reminder that small wins—like finding joy in a cozy drink or celebrating with a letter to yourself—can make a big difference. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights:[00:00:00] Introduction to Dry January and its purpose [00:01:16] Sonia and Kathleen discuss the origins and rise in popularity [00:02:29] Research spotlight: the link between alcohol and health risks [00:03:34] Health Canada’s new guidelines on alcohol consumption [00:05:15] The role of the sober-curious movement and influencers [00:07:26] Benefits of Dry January: improved sleep, clear skin, mental clarity [00:10:29] How to set a personal “why” for motivation [00:12:10] The importance of planning for social triggers [00:13:36] Kathleen’s breakdown of SMART goals [00:16:25] Strategies for those feeling overwhelmed by a 31-day challenge [00:19:35] Managing cravings and identifying unexpected triggers [00:22:31] Mocktail recommendations and the joy of experimenting with alternative drinks [00:25:48] New evening rituals: small ways to relax and unwind [00:27:04] Celebrating progress without alcohol: creative reward ideas [00:29:59] Kathleen shares her “urge surfing” technique for dealing with cravings [00:32:25] Explanation of the RAIN mindfulness method [00:36:12] What to do if you slip up during Dry January [00:39:00] How to reflect on your Dry January experience [00:41:17] Deciding your next steps after January ends [00:43:40] Sonia’s insights on using Dry January as a springboard for personal growth [00:46:17] Final reflections and key takeaways from Sonia and Kathleen Links: Sisters In Sobriety Substack – find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia are joined by Ali Shapiro, a renowned health coach, speaker, and creator of the Truce with Food program. Together, they explore the profound question: How can we create meaning beyond food? Through her insights, Ali shares how food rituals can support connection and emotional nourishment without becoming the main event. Ever wonder how food habits reflect our emotional states or how blood sugar balance impacts mental clarity? Kathleen, Sonia, and Ali dive into key questions like, "How does vulnerability play a role in our eating habits?" and "What are the best ways to reframe goals for a healthier relationship with food?" Ali also unpacks the impact of societal pressures, diet culture, and the journey to self-awareness in making sustainable choices for both body and mind. Listeners will learn actionable strategies, such as Ali’s innovative breakfast experiment and tips for balancing blood sugar for improved mood and energy. This episode will also explore the importance of self-authorship in navigating food and life choices and why perfectionism can hinder rather than help your goals. On a personal note, Ali shares a moving story about vulnerability and connection, revealing how being honest about life's challenges can strengthen relationships and dissolve the loneliness that often drives unhealthy habits. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction to Ali Shapiro and her Truce with Food philosophy [00:01:30] Rituals that foster connection and balance beyond food [00:02:57] Identifying emotional clues through eating habits [00:03:40] Vulnerability as a tool for deeper connections [00:05:23] Avoiding high-stakes vulnerability traps and practicing discernment [00:06:49] The pendulum of diet culture and anti-diet culture [00:07:36] The importance of self-authorship in food choices [00:09:27] Personal anecdotes about balanced blood sugar and body quirks [00:11:03] Recognizing diet trends that don’t serve individual needs [00:12:27] New Year’s resolutions: reframing success metrics [00:13:41] Kathleen’s life-changing experience with increased protein [00:15:19] Understanding the nervous system’s role in diet needs [00:17:23] The transformative power of individualized nutrition [00:18:45] Stories of healing from common nutrition myths [00:20:30] How perfectionism affects sustainable eating habits [00:23:00] The adaptive process of setting meaningful goals [00:24:29] Truce with Food: a six-month journey to food freedom [00:27:06] Exploring blood sugar and gut health experiments [00:29:19] The balance between structure and flexibility in food choices [00:30:00] Closing reflections on personal growth and resilience Links Get In Touch With Ali: Stop the Quick Fix Cycle (Free Session!) Free Breakfast Experiment Truce with Food Group Program Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this classic episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," hosts Kathleen and Sonia bring a light-hearted touch to the serious topic of staying sober during New Year's Eve. With warmth and humor, they recount their own past holiday experiences, marked by not-so-glamorous moments of substance abuse, and compare them to their now joy-filled, sober celebrations. Kathleen and Sonia take us through the often overwhelming social pressures and emotional challenges that come with the holiday season, yet they keep the mood buoyant by sharing their favorite alternative sober celebration ideas. Whether it's hosting a cozy get-together, enjoying a lively sober event, or simply taking in the beauty of nature, they remind us that there are countless ways to make New Year's Eve special and memorable without alcohol. The duo emphasizes the shift in perspective that sobriety brings, turning New Year's Eve from a potential obstacle into an opportunity for gratitude and reflection. They sprinkle their conversation with encouraging and hopeful quotes, like Sonia's humorous take on relearning how to party sober and Kathleen's expressions of deep gratitude for the new life she has found in sobriety. Kathleen and Sonia show that sobriety doesn't mean missing out on fun—it means rediscovering joy in a more meaningful and fulfilling way. Tune in for a dose of positivity and inspiration on how to turn New Year's Eve into a celebration of new beginnings and true happiness. 00:00:00 | Celebration of download milestone! 00:02:16 | Reasons why New Year's Eve is tough to stay sober 00:04:00 | Importance of having a plan for a sober New Year's Eve 00:04:43 | Ways to reframe the idea of New Year's Eve 00:07:00 | Sonia's experience of being sober on New Year's Eve 00:08:00 | Kathleen's experience of being a messy drinker on New Year's Eve 00:09:00 | Story of Kathleen's New Year's Eve where she found herself high, cold, and stranded 00:10:00 | Reflection on the past and commitment to sobriety 00:11:00 | Conclusion and end of the transcript 00:11:48 | Risky behavior and addiction to risk-taking 00:15:21 | Shift in priorities after getting sober 00:17:15 | Drug and alcohol-free New Year's Eves 00:19:32 | New Year's Eve as a time for reset and renewal 00:20:22 | New Year's resolutions and gratitude 00:22:00 | New Year's Eve activities and possibilities 00:23:29 | New Year's Eve retreat ideas 00:25:37 | Exploring alternative plans for staying sober on New Year's 00:26:00 | Hosting a sober gathering with a friend and kids 00:27:58 | Emphasizing the freedom and possibilities of being sober 00:28:14 | Reflecting on the gratitude of being in control and sober Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ready to kick off the new year with a fresh perspective? On this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are here to help you plan your best sober year yet. From goal setting to finding balance, they’re sharing ideas to make 2024 your year of growth and intentional living—whether you’re brand new to sobriety or already a few years in. How do you set goals that stick? What’s the secret to staying motivated when things don’t go as planned? And how do you balance everything without burning out? This episode has all the tips and stories to keep you inspired and moving forward. You’ll learn simple strategies like habit stacking, breaking big goals into manageable steps, and why self-care is so much more than bubble baths. Plus, Kathleen and Sonia share how they use tools like planners and trackers to stay on course—and why progress always beats perfection. Sonia and Kathleen also open up about their own journeys, from learning to adapt when life throws curveballs to embracing the quirks that make them who they are. Their stories are full of laughs, lessons, and plenty of inspiration for anyone looking to embrace sobriety with confidence. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights [00:01:00] Sonia and Kathleen kick off the episode: planning your best sober year yet. [00:01:50] Kathleen’s 2024 goal: prioritizing physical and mental health. [00:03:14] Sonia’s funny habit-stacking method for stretching before Netflix. [00:05:45] Kathleen talks about the lessons she learned from setting unrealistic goals. [00:08:13] Breaking big goals into bite-sized, manageable pieces. [00:10:44] Celebrating small wins in creative ways—popcorn in bed, anyone? [00:12:00] Sonia looks back at years of “moderation” goals that didn’t stick. [00:14:20] Why Kathleen prefers harmony over balance in her sober life. [00:16:59] Plans for a work-life reset: Kathleen is finally taking a vacation! [00:19:00] Sonia’s non-negotiable: sleep as the ultimate self-care tool. [00:21:25] Using tech like Apple Watch and Oura Ring to track goals. [00:23:54] The protein-packed breakfast tip that’s changing Sonia’s mornings. [00:25:00] Kathleen’s story about adapting her yoga practice as a single mom. [00:29:00] Sonia reframes her narrative around sobriety and relationships. [00:31:49] Kathleen shares practical ways to flip the script on negative self-talk. [00:33:43] Byron Katie’s four questions for letting go of limiting beliefs. [00:36:00] Self-compassion as the secret to letting go of old narratives. [00:37:15] The connection between self-worth and self-care. [00:38:11] Kathleen’s quirky planner obsession and why it works for her. [00:39:00] Closing thoughts: It’s not about perfection; it’s about progress and intention. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the world of non-alcoholic sangrias during the fan-favorite "Mocktail Hour." If you've ever missed the fruity, festive allure of sangria or wondered how non-alcoholic alternatives stack up, this episode is for you! The duo kicks things off with a taste test of two sangrias: the Sangria Señorial, a Mexican soda-style sangria, and the Clever Sangria. Expect honest reviews, accidental spills, and insights into how these drinks could be enhanced or incorporated into festive settings. While one drink sparks nostalgia and creativity, the other leaves the hosts debating its place in the sangria universe. Check out our own sangria recipe on our substack! Did you enjoy the taste test? Have a favorite sangria recipe or another mocktail you'd like us to try? Share your thoughts in the comments below! Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss a sip of our Mocktail Hour. Join the conversation and explore more recipes, reviews, and sober inspiration on our Substack! Highlights [00:01:54] First Impressions of Sangria Señorial - Sonia and Kathleen taste the Sangria Señorial and share their initial thoughts [00:03:08] Discussion on the sweetness, aftertaste, calorie count, and how it might work as a base for homemade sangria. [00:04:16]Kathleen reflects on why Sangria Señorial doesn’t quite match up to traditional sangria flavors. [00:05:13] Kathleen opens the Clever Sangria, and the duo explores its citrus-forward profile and less syrupy sweetness. [00:05:45] Ideas for enhancing Clever Sangria with spices like cinnamon and clove to make it more festive and complex. [00:06:47] Kathleen shares versatile ideas for serving Clever Sangria, from summer dockside drinks to Christmas brunch. [00:07:52] Sonia and Kathleen give their ratings: Clever Sangria scores high, while Sangria Señorial falls short. [00:09:00] The hosts declare Clever Sangria the winner, while debating whether the two drinks belong in the same category.   Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are joined once again by Ali Shapiro, a health coach, speaker, and creator of the transformative Truce with Food program. Ali’s approach integrates emotional storytelling to help people heal their relationships with food, their bodies, and themselves. A returning guest, Ali also hosts the popular podcast Insatiable, where she delves into the psychology of cravings and the broader narratives around food and body image. Today, Ali, Sonia, and Kathleen tackle timely topics around food, belonging, and self-awareness during the holiday season. How do cultural narratives around food shape our holiday habits? Can traditions and modern health wisdom coexist? In this episode, Ali shares her insights on balancing enjoyment and nourishment during celebrations, navigating holiday pressures, and redefining emotional safety in family dynamics. With key questions like "What role does food play in our sense of connection?" and "How can we honor our health while participating in long-standing traditions?" this discussion offers a fresh perspective on holiday wellness. They get into actionable strategies for balancing blood sugar, managing holiday expectations, and identifying emotional triggers that lead to overeating. Key takeaways include understanding the physiological impact of food choices, the importance of timing meals to avoid cravings, and the role of belonging in emotional eating. With insights into how traditional cuisines naturally align with our seasonal needs, Ali provides a roadmap for mindful eating and resilience during this festive yet often challenging time. Ali opens up about her personal journey, including how family traditions like her grandmother’s fenugreek tea remain a source of comfort and connection. Through stories of her clients’ experiences, she illustrates the delicate balance of maintaining emotional intimacy while setting boundaries during the holidays. With heartfelt examples of how small, thoughtful shifts can transform holiday dynamics, this episode is a blend of practical advice and deep, personal reflection. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights: [00:00:00] Introduction of Ali Shapiro and her work. [00:01:13] Overview of Ali's previous episodes and themes. [00:02:00] How cultural narratives around food have shifted over the decades. [00:03:23] Discussion of body positivity and the physiological effects of sugar. [00:05:02] Strategies for avoiding extreme diets and quick fixes. [00:06:23] How food symbolizes connection and emotional belonging. [00:07:10] Ali shares her grandmother’s fenugreek tea tradition. [00:09:27] Reconciling cultural food traditions with modern health narratives. [00:11:24] The importance of meal timing and balanced blood sugar. [00:12:50] Managing holiday expectations and body image pressures. [00:15:24] How to discern personal values for the holiday season. [00:16:49] Connecting food and movement to resilience and mood. [00:19:13] Recognizing physiological feedback from food choices. [00:20:18] Differentiating “waves of belonging” and building emotional safety. [00:22:40] Client stories: Finding connection amidst family challenges. [00:24:51] Holding emotional complexity: Flexibility in relationships. [00:26:22] Reflections on the Tao Te Ching and embracing adaptability. [00:27:00] Cultivating self-authored belonging and emotional capacity. [00:28:30] The role of compassion in breaking generational patterns. [00:29:00] Closing remarks and teaser for part two. Links Get In Touch With Ali - Stop the quick fix cycle (free session!) Free breakfast experiment Truce with Food group program Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mocktail Hour is back! In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are helping you navigate the world of non-alcoholic beverages with their honest review of St. Agrestis mocktails, including the Phony Negroni and Amaro Falso. They’ll roll up their sleeves, sip, critique, and share their favorites, all while keeping things fun and relatable. Ever wondered how the Phony Negroni stacks up against its alcoholic counterpart? Or what makes Amaro Falso a wintery, herbal delight? Sonia and Kathleen dive into the flavor profiles, discuss pairings, and tease out the differences in mouthfeel and aftertaste. They’ll answer questions like: How does the bitterness compare? Can these mocktails hold their own as aperitifs or digestifs? And most importantly, are they worth a spot in your fridge? This episode is packed with insights for the sober-curious and mocktail enthusiasts alike. You’ll learn about the perfect pairings, creative additions to elevate the drinks, and whether these options are right for your next dinner party or cozy night in. Sonia and Kathleen leave no bottle uncorked, providing a thorough breakdown that’s as entertaining as it is educational. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamps: 00:00:00 – Mocktail Hour kicks off with Sonia and Kathleen’s signature honesty. 00:01:00 – Introduction to St. Agrestis Phony Negroni and its origins. 00:02:05 – First impressions: color, smell, and initial taste test. 00:03:00 – Breaking down the flavor: juniper berry notes and orange peel accents. 00:04:00 – Discussing how the Phony Negroni feels like a “sophisticated” drink. 00:05:00 – Ideal serving occasions for the Phony Negroni. 00:05:54 – Rating the Phony Negroni on a scale of 1 to 10. 00:06:00 – Introduction to St. Agrestis Amaro Falso and its unique qualities. 00:06:42 – Flavor comparison: herbal and citrus notes of Amaro Falso. 00:07:22 – Sonia experiments by adding ginger ale to Amaro Falso. 00:08:20 – Describing Amaro Falso as a wintery, moody drink. 00:09:00 – Aesthetic appeal: the elegant design of the St. Agrestis bottles. 00:09:28 – Rating the Amaro Falso and who might enjoy it. 00:10:14 – Comparing aftertastes and complexity between the two drinks. 00:10:40 – Sonia reflects on mocktails mimicking alcoholic beverages. 00:11:00 – Kathleen shares how the Phony Negroni evokes gin nostalgia. 00:11:20 – Head-to-head verdict: Phony Negroni wins as a pre-dinner favorite. 00:11:40 – Amaro Falso as a digestif: best for post-dinner sipping. 00:12:00 – Plans to explore more of St. Agrestis’ non-alcoholic offerings. 00:12:12 – Closing thoughts and a thank-you to listeners. Links St Agrestis Beverages  Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram 4o Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The holiday season is upon us, and while it can be a time of joy and celebration, it often presents unique challenges for those navigating sobriety. In this week's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are here to help you tackle these hurdles head-on. From grief and estrangement to social pressures, they’re sharing heartfelt insights and actionable strategies to help you find peace and joy in a potentially stressful season. What makes the holidays so difficult for those on a sobriety journey? Is it the abundance of alcohol at every gathering? The intricate family dynamics? Or the emotional weight of grief and estrangement? Sonia and Kathleen dive deep into these questions, exploring everything from setting boundaries and managing triggers to the emotional labor that often falls on one person in a family. This episode is packed with insights and real-life examples to help you feel supported and prepared. Sonia and Kathleen talk about recognizing and managing emotional triggers, practicing gratitude to combat feelings of isolation, and creating new traditions to honor lost loved ones while finding moments of joy. They'll also discuss the importance of self-compassion, realistic expectations, and setting healthy boundaries to protect your peace during this busy time. Personal stories take center stage as Sonia and Kathleen share their experiences with estrangement, grief, and the holiday blues. From Kathleen’s first Christmas after her father’s passing to Sonia’s reflections on navigating family estrangement, these heartfelt anecdotes provide a relatable and comforting perspective for anyone feeling overwhelmed or alone during the holidays. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights [00:02:00] Sonia shares her love for Christmas and the traditions in Toronto. [00:03:10] Kathleen discusses the pressures and emotional triggers of the season. [00:03:52] Sonia opens up about grief, estrangement, and loneliness during the holidays. [00:05:30] Kathleen reflects on navigating the holidays after losing her father. [00:07:00] Honoring loved ones through traditions and memories. [00:08:48] Tips on avoiding perfectionism and setting realistic expectations. [00:10:12] Sonia explains how journaling and therapy help with estrangement. [00:12:05] Practical advice for setting boundaries during family gatherings. [00:15:00] Comparing estrangement stories to highlight shared struggles. [00:16:28] Kathleen shares her annual photo album tradition for year-end reflection. [00:18:55] How gratitude can transform holiday experiences. [00:20:25] Sonia recounts a tough holiday experience after her divorce. [00:23:30] Strategies for reconnecting or avoiding estranged family members. [00:25:43] Balancing hope and acceptance in family relationships. [00:28:09] Redefining family and creating values-driven holiday traditions. [00:30:10] Coping with holiday triggers and reframing difficult memories. [00:32:00] How to handle grief waves and their unpredictability. [00:34:25] Writing letters as a first step to reconnect with family. [00:37:15] Using humor and realistic expectations to navigate tough situations. [00:40:00] Lessons on navigating sobriety and growth through shared challenges. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Grief and sobriety—two paths that often intertwine yet feel isolating. In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore how grief transforms when faced with the raw clarity of sobriety. Together, they share personal insights and practical advice to help you navigate the complex emotions of loss while staying grounded in recovery. How does grief feel when faced without substances? What misconceptions about grief might be holding you back? How can we better support others who are grieving in sobriety? From understanding anticipatory grief to exploring the nuances of conflicting emotions, Sonia and Kathleen tackle it all in today’s heartfelt discussion. They talk about: The myth of the "5 stages of grief" and why grief is non-linear. Recognizing and navigating anticipatory grief and cumulative grief. Practical self-care practices to stay emotionally healthy during grief, especially while sober. Why outward mourning and ongoing grief should be normalized. Sonia reflects on the surprising lessons from her divorce and how it continues to shape her sobriety journey. Kathleen opens up about the loss of her father, sharing moments of vulnerability and growth, including how she honors his memory through continuing bonds. Together, they reveal the healing power of connection, honesty, and allowing grief its space. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights [00:01:00] Sonia and Kathleen introduce the topic of grief and sobriety. [00:02:02] "What does grief feel like when sober?" Sonia shares her thoughts on sitting with raw emotions. [00:03:31] Exploring what grief looks like versus societal expectations. [00:06:13] Sonia discusses the mindset shift of “the only way out is through.” [00:08:41] Kathleen opens up about the anticipatory grief she felt before her father’s passing. [00:10:54] Types of grief in sobriety: divorce, loss of identity, and cumulative grief. [00:13:00] Misconceptions about grief: Can you grieve someone still alive? [00:17:03] Kathleen’s strategies for emotional self-care during her grief journey. [00:20:03] Continuing bonds: How Kathleen honors her father’s memory. [00:21:12] Sonia reflects on grieving her old life and navigating uncertainty post-divorce. [00:25:13] "You don’t control life as much as you think," Kathleen shares hard-earned wisdom. [00:28:38] Sonia on self-imposed grief milestones and the challenges of “re-litigation.” [00:30:00] The spectrum of what is “normal” in grieving. [00:32:42] Healthy vs. unhealthy grieving: The role of substances and emotional numbing. [00:34:14] The stigma of mourning in Western cultures and its emotional impact. [00:36:00] Supporting someone grieving while sober: showing presence and offering practical help. [00:38:00] Sonia and Kathleen discuss holding space without pushing for "moving on." [00:39:24] The power of directly asking someone what support they need during grief. [00:41:00] Sonia and Kathleen reflect on lessons learned from grief and how to show up for others. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website (Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast) Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia sits down with Bella Ferguson, a certified This Naked Mind coach and co-host of the Not Drinking Alcohol podcast. Bella shares how she went from working in high-pressure corporate law, where "work hard, play hard" was the mantra, to embracing a sober lifestyle. Spoiler alert: she’s thriving, and she’s here to inspire anyone who feels stuck in the "mommy wine" spiral or corporate happy hour grind. In this episode, Sonia and Bella chat about the pressures of professional drinking culture, why “mommy wine time” isn’t as harmless as it seems, and how to start rethinking your relationship with alcohol. Is sobriety possible in environments where alcohol feels like the glue that holds everything together? And how do you deal with the awkward moments of being the only sober person at the party? You’ll hear Bella's tips for navigating social situations, finding joy in alcohol-free living, and tackling the emotional baggage that often comes with drinking. Learn how she rebuilt her confidence, discovered tools for emotional sobriety, and why regulating your nervous system is a total game changer. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance sobriety with career, parenting, and friendships, Bella's got the answers. We also dive into Bella’s personal story, including her rock-bottom moment and how she rebuilt her life from the ground up. From dodging awkward small talk with wine-loving moms to rediscovering her passion and purpose, Bella keeps it real about the ups and downs of sobriety—and why it’s so worth it. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women rethink their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights: [00:01:00] Bella introduces herself and why she ditched the lawyer life. [00:02:13] The “work hard, play hard” drinking culture in corporate law. [00:03:56] How gender roles impact drinking expectations at work. [00:05:35] Why workplace drinking is more than a “work hard” problem. [00:08:51] Juggling kids, stress, and a wine bottle—Bella’s experience with mommy wine culture. [00:12:00] Bella’s wake-up call in the hospital that changed everything. [00:14:18] What happens to your marriage when drinking takes over. [00:17:39] The awkwardness of setting post-rehab boundaries with your partner. [00:21:25] Emotional sobriety: why white-knuckling it isn’t enough. [00:24:03] Helping clients figure out if moderation or quitting is right for them. [00:28:00] Core fears and beliefs that keep people stuck in drinking cycles. [00:32:15] How Bella’s friendships evolved after she chose sobriety. [00:36:00] Bella’s go-to self-care tips (hint: popcorn and trail runs are involved). [00:40:27] Why connecting with others is the secret weapon against isolation. [00:42:08] How ditching alcohol changed Bella’s career and life purpose. [00:45:00] Staying aligned with your values to keep sobriety on track. [00:46:28] What’s next for Bella: alcohol-free challenges and courses. Links Connect With Bella!  https://isabellaferguson.com.au Your Alcohol Revolution Online Programs: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/TheAlcoholRevolutionAlcoholFreeOnlineProgramOverview Free Do I have a Drinking Problem 3 Day Video Series: https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/doIhaveadrinkingproblemwithisabellaferguson Your Alcohol Revolution LIVE Program (next in February 2025): https://resources.isabellaferguson.com.au/alcoholfreedomchallenge Instagram: @alcoholandstresswithisabella Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website (Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast) Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety is all about navigating the ups, downs, and surprising discoveries of early sobriety! Sonia is joined by Courtney Andersen, the founder of Sober Vibes and a seasoned sober life coach who’s been alcohol-free for over a decade. Courtney’s also the author of Sober Vibes: A Guide to Thriving in Your First 90 Days Without Alcohol, a no-nonsense roadmap for getting through those crucial early months. She’s here to share real-life tips and laughs, making the road to sobriety feel a little less intimidating. In this episode, they dive into questions like: What can you do when the “witching hour” hits and cravings come knocking? How can you tell if moderation isn’t cutting it? And what are the realistic expectations for those tough first 90 days? Courtney offers her refreshingly honest take on some key concepts of early sobriety: managing withdrawal, building a support network, and learning to talk to yourself kindly (yep, that’s a big one!). She’ll break down how to replace old habits with new, feel-good routines that keep you steady—and maybe even make you excited about a new way of life. Things get personal as Courtney opens up about her rock-bottom moment, her “aha” pact with the universe, and her journey from feeling lost to finding purpose. If you’re looking for motivation to start or stick with sobriety, Courtney’s story is full of the grit, humor, and hope that will keep you moving forward. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights 00:01:15 - A quick look at Courtney’s new book, Sober Vibes, and how it guides readers through the first 90 days. 00:02:34 - Courtney shares her “I have to quit” moment and what drove her to finally make the change. 00:03:00 - Falling in love with the bar scene and the “fun” side of drinking. 00:04:50 - Panic attacks and anxiety kick in as the fun fades. 00:06:50 - Courtney’s funny (and frustrating!) attempts at “moderation rules” for drinking. 00:09:13 - The sneaky ways emotional dependency shows up when trying to quit. 00:10:58 - The endless cycle of bargaining and why it’s exhausting. 00:12:40 - Courtney’s rock-bottom night (and a lost cat!) that finally pushed her to quit for good. 00:15:35 - Sonia and Courtney chat about how rock-bottom looks different for everyone. 00:16:30 - What those first 90 days really feel like and why they’re so tough. 00:17:45 - Withdrawal symptoms and the importance of checking in with a doctor. 00:20:15 - How having a support network can help you feel less alone. 00:21:45 - Redefining routines and how small changes can make a big difference. 00:24:00 - Courtney’s “Friday night lights” TV binge for those hard weekend nights. 00:26:22 - Easy tips for handling cravings and setting boundaries with friends. 00:29:00 - Courtney’s “60-minute rule” for social events and getting home before triggers hit. 00:31:50 - How journaling and reflection can help keep your sober mindset strong. 00:33:00 - Simple, do-anywhere tools for getting through intense cravings. 00:36:30 - How exercise and fresh air can be secret weapons for staying sober. 00:37:04 - The underrated power of a good night’s sleep. 00:40:00 - What to expect as cravings start to fade and you build a new normal. 00:45:00 - Why staying present is the best way to approach your sobriety journey. Links Connect With Courtney Here!  Website- https://www.courtneyrecovered.com IG-  https://www.instagram.com/sober.vibes Book- https://www.courtneyrecovered.com/sober-vibes-pre-order Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kathleen and Sonia bring you a fascinating chat with Ali Shapiro –  health coach, speaker, and creator of Truce with Food. Together, they dig into the highs, lows, and everything in between when it comes to cravings, food, and the ways alcohol plays into it all. In this episode, they tackle questions we all ask ourselves: Why do I crave sugar after a long day? What’s really behind that urge to snack? and How can I start eating in a way that feels right for me? Ali shares practical insights on how to understand cravings, balance blood sugar, and build a healthier relationship with food that doesn’t feel like a battle. Listeners will get practical tips about blood sugar balance, ways to know the difference between “I need this” and “I want this,” and how to make food choices that feel natural. Ali also talks about her own journey with food, revealing how a health challenge as a kid shaped her approach to nutrition today. Whether you're struggling with cravings or just looking to feel more in tune with your body, there’s something here for you. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Time-Stamped Highlights [00:01:00] Meet Ali Shapiro and her unique take on food and cravings [00:01:10] How blood sugar and alcohol mess with our cravings [00:02:00] Why emotional cravings happen and how to spot them [00:03:12] The never-ending cycle of caffeine and exhaustion [00:04:15] What’s the difference between wanting a snack and needing one? [00:05:23] Ali’s thoughts on why “intuitive eating” isn’t always so intuitive [00:06:54] Getting real about our emotional ties to food [00:07:52] Food as a way to connect with others – why it matters [00:08:10] Kathleen shares how food helped her through a hard time [00:09:19] How meals can help us slow down and feel more grounded [00:10:12] Finding balance when it comes to emotional eating [00:11:23] Ali’s “three types of hunger” approach – it’s not just about food! [00:12:42] How blood sugar balance can reduce cravings [00:13:56] Ali’s breakfast experiment – try it for yourself! [00:15:27] Peptides and insulin – breaking down what it all means [00:17:04] Why strength training is a midlife game-changer [00:18:29] Understanding how hormones impact our cravings [00:20:15] Building muscle to support a healthy weight [00:21:59] Busting the myth of calorie-counting diets [00:24:48] Separating health and weight without judgment [00:28:55] Ali’s Truce with Food program – what it’s all about [00:34:43] A sneak peek at Ali’s thoughts on gut health Links Get In Touch With Ali -  Free breakfast experiment Truce with Food group program Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore the nuanced connections between food, emotional well-being, and self-worth with special guest Ali Shapiro, a health coach, speaker, and creator of the Truce with Food program. Ali brings a unique perspective to our understanding of food and body image, diving deep into how they shape—and often complicate—our personal stories Ali breaks down big questions: How does food influence our sense of safety and belonging? What role does diet culture play in our self-worth? And how can we begin to reclaim our autonomy over our eating choices? Listeners will find Ali’s candid discussion on media messaging and societal expectations especially valuable, with practical advice on setting personal standards that nurture self-respect and belonging. Throughout the episode, Ali addresses key concepts like body image, emotional eating, and the hidden impact of attachment chemicals on our relationship with food. Listeners will also hear about “self-authoring” our values—moving away from discipline and control and toward devotion to personal well-being. This episode covers functional medicine insights and tangible tools for aligning with our internal sense of self-worth. Ali also opens up about her own personal story, reflecting on her early experiences with body image struggles and loneliness that many can relate to. Through her honesty, she shares how those moments shaped her journey to find true belonging, and how each of us can start unearthing our food and body stories to reclaim joy and freedom in our lives. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights [00:00:00] Introduction to Ali Shapiro and her background [00:01:13] Functional medicine and cognitive behavioral approach [00:02:00] The intersection of food and sobriety [00:04:45] Unearthing the stories we tell ourselves about food and body [00:06:35] The willpower and discipline myth in dieting [00:07:57] The concept of food as safety and belonging [00:10:04] Kathleen shares her earliest food memory [00:12:45] Food as a source of comfort for loneliness [00:13:39] Attachment chemicals released by food [00:17:14] Media’s impact on body image and self-worth [00:21:40] Transitioning to self-authority in adulthood [00:23:14] Self-worth and evolving the sense of belonging [00:26:32] Kathleen discusses finding a supportive partner [00:28:20] Building a community that aligns with self-worth [00:30:53] The lasting impact of family messages on body image [00:31:42] Moving from discipline to devotion in self-care [00:33:32] Foods and drinks that impact blood sugar levels [00:34:00] Outro and preview of part two with Ali Shapiro Links Get In Touch With Ali -  Free breakfast experiment Truce with Food group program Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive deep into topics of self-sabotage, overcoming limiting beliefs, and perfectionism with returning guest Lorina Christine, a transformational coach, mentor, and podcast host. Today, Sonia and Kathleen are here to help you gain insights into managing high-achieving tendencies while embracing imperfection for lasting self-growth. Lorina Christine brings her expertise on EFT tapping, emotional healing, and mindfulness practices such as breathwork and movement. The conversation delves into how perfectionism often masks fear of failure and how we can reframe this mindset to move forward. Key questions explored include: What are the root causes of perfectionism and self-sabotage? How can EFT tapping be used to release limiting beliefs and foster emotional healing? What daily practices can we use to realign our goals with our deeper purpose? Listeners will walk away with valuable tools, like EFT tapping, to manage stress and anxiety, shift from a fear-based mindset, and gain self-confidence. Lorina also shares how incorporating self-compassion, movement, and breathwork can bring about transformation in everyday life. Whether you're dealing with self-sabotage, fear of failure, or just need a little encouragement to break through limiting beliefs, this episode is packed with actionable takeaways. On a more personal note, Lorina opens up about her own journey from rebellion against societal expectations to becoming a high achiever in her entrepreneurial life. She discusses the challenges she faced growing up with a narcissistic step-parent and how that shaped her path. Get ready to hear Lorina's heartfelt story and learn from her experiences of overcoming obstacles to achieve personal and professional growth. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: 00:01:17 – Overview of Lorina’s work and EFT tapping 00:02:00 – Perfectionism as a form of self-sabotage 00:02:32 – Lorina’s personal story of rebelling against societal expectations 00:03:23 – High achieving tendencies in entrepreneurship 00:04:45 – Root causes of perfectionism 00:05:50 – Strategies Lorina uses to manage high achieving tendencies 00:07:25 – Messy action vs. perfectionism 00:08:30 – Difference between fear of failure and perfectionism 00:09:55 – Importance of embracing imperfection 00:13:10 – How to identify and break self-sabotaging patterns 00:15:00 – Lorina discusses the role of self-concept in personal growth 00:16:30 – EFT tapping explained 00:17:50 – Lorina leads a live EFT tapping session 00:21:40 – Discussion of shifting energy with EFT 00:25:30 – The importance of acknowledging limiting beliefs 00:27:00 – How EFT works alongside other practices like breathwork and movement 00:32:00 – Lorina discusses emotional regulation and the impact of EFT 00:36:00 – How tapping can bring immediate relief and long-term results 00:40:00 – The healing power of dance and movement 00:44:00 – Lorina challenges Sonia to a self-love dance routine 00:48:00 – Shifting mindset from “I have to” to “I get to” 00:52:00 – Closing remarks and what’s next for Lorina Christine Links: Follow Lorina Christine on Instagram: @Lorina.Christine Listen to Lorina’s podcast: Unleash Your Radiance for more wellness, entrepreneurship, and mindset content Sisters In Sobriety Substack – find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Timothy Gordon, MSW, RSW, a social worker and expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), to help you dig deep into how ACT can support recovery and mental health. Together, they’re here to help you understand how ACT can help you live a fuller, more present life, especially when facing tough emotions and the challenges of addiction. Tim Gordon isn’t just your average therapist—he’s an ACT trainer, international presenter, and co-author of several therapy books, including The ACT Approach and The ACT Deck. He’s passionate about using therapy to help people move through trauma, attachment issues, and addiction to live more meaningful lives. Tim’s warm, down-to-earth style will make it easy to follow along, even if you're new to the world of therapy. In this episode, you’ll hear Sonia and Kathleen chat with Tim about the basics of ACT, focusing on how it helps people break free from negative patterns and take action in their lives. They dig into key questions like: What is psychological flexibility, and how can it help with recovery? How can you stop running from your emotions and start dealing with them in a healthier way? This episode covers all that and more, so you’ll walk away with a better understanding of how ACT works in everyday life. Tim also shares practical tips and personal stories about how ACT helped him in his own life, from overcoming his own doubts to finding balance as a father and therapist. Whether you’re in recovery or simply looking for better ways to handle life’s ups and downs, this conversation will leave you with a fresh perspective on how to navigate the hard stuff without feeling stuck. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. For more support, tips, and resources, be sure to check out our Substack. Time-stamped Highlights: [00:00] – Welcoming today’s guest, Timothy Gordon, and introducing the topic of ACT [00:01] – Tim’s background and how he got into social work and ACT [00:03] – Why ACT is different from other therapies and why it matters in recovery [00:06] – Understanding psychological flexibility and how it can change your life [00:09] – The role of trauma and attachment in addiction [00:12] – How ACT helps you show up for your emotions instead of avoiding them [00:16] – Breaking negative cycles and finding new ways to cope [00:19] – Tim shares a personal story about overcoming doubts with ACT [00:22] – Practical tools for being present and mindful in everyday life [00:25] – The power of accepting your emotions and using them to grow [00:28] – Tim explains how small changes can make a big difference in recovery [00:30] – How to be more mindful and break free from old habits [00:33] – Finding connection and meaning in relationships and life [00:36] – Addressing loneliness and disconnection in today’s fast-paced world [00:38] – Tim talks about his new projects and balancing work with fatherhood [00:41] – Why secure attachment is so important for recovery and well-being [00:44] – Closing thoughts on how ACT can transform your recovery journey Links: Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen sit down with Megan Gluth-Bohan, a powerhouse CEO. Megan has built an impressive career, but what really makes her story special is how her personal journey to sobriety has shaped both her leadership style and her life. She’s here to chat about everything from navigating alcohol in a high-powered career to learning how to take care of herself along the way. In this episode, Megan opens up about the challenges of being a high-functioning woman dealing with alcohol and the constant struggle of people-pleasing. We’ll dive into what it really means to take care of yourself as a leader, and Megan will share some practical, down-to-earth tips on balancing work, sobriety, and self-care. You'll walk away with insights into why self-care isn’t all spa days and yoga retreats (though, those are nice too), how to handle social situations when you don’t drink, and how learning to trust your gut can be a game-changer. Plus, Megan’s journey will inspire you to think about what’s next for your own personal growth. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Episode Highlights (Time-stamped) [00:01:00] Megan introduces herself and discusses her role as CEO of Catalynt Solutions. [00:03:00] How her struggles with alcohol impacted her career and personal life. [00:06:00] High-functioning alcoholism in business – is it really a thing? [00:08:30] Megan’s “farmer’s market” moment and the disconnect between who she wanted to be and who she was. [00:10:00] Megan’s early days in AA and how she got started on her sobriety journey. [00:12:30] Balancing early sobriety with a demanding career. [00:14:20] People-pleasing, perfectionism, and setting boundaries. [00:16:45] The fine line between being accommodating and abandoning yourself. [00:18:00] How self-abandonment impacts personal growth and decision-making. [00:22:50] People-pleasing and sobriety – Megan’s strategies for staying true to herself. [00:26:00] Handling social situations related to alcohol and recovering out loud. [00:27:30] Self-care as a leader and why it’s more than just a buzzword. [00:29:50] Megan’s definition of self-care and small, everyday habits that keep her grounded. [00:31:10] Sonia and Kathleen share their own simple self-care routines. [00:34:30] Alcohol as perceived self-care – and how that mindset has shifted for Megan. [00:36:00] Encouraging self-care at work and creating a supportive environment for her team. [00:39:00] Why caring for employees leads to better business results. [00:41:00] Redefining success – Megan’s take on balancing professional success and personal fulfillment. [00:43:00] How to stay motivated, even when things get tough. [00:45:00] The role of mindfulness and intuition in making leadership decisions. [00:47:30] Megan’s mantra in sobriety: "Life on life’s terms." Megan Gluth-Bohan's Social Links LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Facebook Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia sit down with Caroline Beidler, MSW, to discuss the powerful intersection of trauma, addiction, and recovery. Caroline believes that transformation is possible and healing is a choice. Her own experience in addiction, mental health, and trauma recovery has inspired her to help other women find recovery in its many forms. Caroline is the founder of the global storytelling platform, Circle of Chairs, which reaches thousands of people weekly through her newsletter. In just three short years, she has built an international community of recovery supporters and organizes an annual global event on International Women’s Day, gathering thousands of advocates from around the world. With nearly two decades of leadership experience in social work and ministry, Caroline brings deep insight and compassion to the conversation about trauma and recovery. In this episode, Kathleen and Caroline dive into key questions surrounding trauma and recovery: How can trauma shape addiction and mental health struggles? What does it take to break intergenerational cycles of trauma? Caroline shares her personal journey, offering insights into how trauma manifests in daily life and how healing is possible through vulnerability, community, and faith. They also discuss how women can navigate grief and loss while maintaining sobriety and building supportive, trauma-informed recovery systems. Listeners will gain an understanding of trauma-informed recovery, the role of storytelling in processing trauma, and practical tools for addressing deep-rooted family dynamics. Caroline’s experience leading a global research initiative on family recovery adds a fresh perspective on the importance of healing trauma within family systems. By sharing her expertise, Caroline offers listeners tangible steps to embrace their own recovery journey, cultivate resilience, and transform pain into growth. In the personal story segment, Caroline opens up about her own path through addiction and trauma recovery, sharing how these experiences shaped her life and calling. From battling shame and perfectionism to learning how to show up authentically in her recovery, her story is both relatable and inspiring. She also reflects on her work as a consultant, helping nonprofit organizations, governments, and communities build recovery-focused initiatives that foster long-lasting change. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources.  Highlights: [03:00] Caroline introduces herself and shares her background in social work and recovery advocacy. [05:15] Discussion about Caroline’s book Downstairs Church and how it explores the intersection of faith, addiction, and trauma. [07:32] Caroline explains the concept of “grit” in trauma recovery. [09:45] The role of trauma in addiction and how it can lead to substance use as a coping mechanism. [12:00] How trauma manifests in everyday life for those in recovery. [14:20] Caroline shares her personal experience with intergenerational trauma. [16:15] The importance of addressing trauma to maintain long-term sobriety. [18:30] Caroline explains what radical vulnerability looks like in recovery. [20:45] How faith plays a role in trauma healing and addiction recovery. [23:10] Navigating grief and loss while maintaining sobriety. [25:35] Caroline discusses her work with Bright Story Shine and its mission to share recovery stories. [28:00] The importance of storytelling in processing trauma and addiction recovery. [30:12] How perfectionism and self-sabotage impact sobriety and healing. [32:25] Caroline shares insights on how to begin breaking cycles of family trauma. [34:50] The role of community in trauma-informed recovery programs. [37:05] Caroline reflects on how trauma and addiction affect relationships and family dynamics. [39:20] How women can embrace authenticity and break free from societal expectations in recovery. [41:45] Caroline talks about the International Women’s Day Global Recovery Event and the importance of women in recovery spaces. [44:00] Practical tips for building resilience and addressing shame in recovery. [46:25] Caroline’s final thoughts on finding hope and healing through trauma recovery. Links Connect with Caroline https://www.carolinebeidler.com/ https://carolinebeidler.substack.com/ Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey there! Welcome to our Sober Dating Series—Swipe Smart! In this episode, we’re talking about Five Ways to Tell if Your Match is Sober Friendly Before the First Date. Dating can be tricky, especially when you're navigating the world of sobriety. But don't worry, we've got you covered! Whether you're tired of swiping on profiles that treat whiskey like a personality trait or you're unsure how to spot someone who's truly respectful of your sober lifestyle, this episode is packed with valuable tips to help you filter through potential matches. We'll guide you through: Spotting red flags in their bio (hint: if they talk about alcohol like it's a hobby, swipe left). Understanding what their relationship with alcohol might be, based on key phrases like "sometimes" vs. "hard yes." Decoding their photos—because if every picture includes a drink, you might be dating a cocktail, not a person. Recognizing date ideas that scream "I love alcohol!" (like a vineyard tour) vs. ones that align with your sober values. Trusting your gut when something feels off—it’s your secret superpower in sober dating. This episode is a must-watch for anyone who’s navigating the dating scene without alcohol and looking to find a match who truly respects their lifestyle. We’re here to help you swipe smarter, so you can find love that doesn’t require liquid courage!   If you found these tips helpful, make sure to like, comment with your favorite dating tip, and subscribe to our channel for more episodes in our Sober Dating Series! And don't forget to share this episode with someone who’s navigating the sober dating world too! Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Erin Gilmour, the founder of Rose Psychotherapy, is back with us for another insightful episode of Sisters in Sobriety! Erin is not only a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) and Certified Canadian Addiction Counsellor (CCAC), but she’s also someone who truly gets it—thanks to her own recovery journey. Known for her compassionate, down-to-earth style, Erin specializes in helping people navigate addictions and eating disorders. She’s also a fierce advocate for marginalized communities, bringing attention to the bigger picture of systemic issues in mental health. In this episode, we dive into some serious stuff: What exactly are co-occurring disorders? How can anxiety or depression make recovery from substance use that much harder? And most importantly, how can we tackle both at the same time? Erin breaks it all down with her wealth of experience, sharing practical advice on what really works when you're dealing with more than one challenge in recovery. You'll walk away with a better understanding of how mental health and substance use are interconnected, and why it’s so important to get to the root cause of both. Erin also talks about simple, but effective strategies for managing those tough moments. Plus, you'll learn why focusing on compassion and support can be a total game-changer for recovery. On a more personal note, Erin shares what it’s like to deal with anxiety and depression while staying sober. Her honesty will hit home for anyone who’s felt overwhelmed on their own journey. She offers real-life tips for finding a balance and being kind to yourself through it all. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the supportive community that helps women transform their relationship with alcohol. Be sure to check out our Substack for bonus tips, resources, and support! Highlights: [00:00:00] Meet Erin Gilmour—back for round two! [00:01:15] Erin’s approach to helping people with co-occurring disorders [00:03:00] What are co-occurring disorders, and why are they so tricky? [00:05:08] How to spot co-occurring disorders in therapy [00:06:50] Why mental health and addiction often go hand in hand [00:07:53] Treating multiple disorders—what makes it complicated? [00:10:50] Figuring out which issue to tackle first in recovery [00:12:44] How anxiety and substance use fuel each other [00:14:29] Why alcohol and anxiety don’t mix well (spoiler: it gets worse over time!) [00:17:50] The frustrating cycle of self-medicating with substances [00:19:00] Mapping out your triggers—getting practical in therapy [00:21:40] How Erin helps clients manage both addiction and anxiety [00:24:00] Social anxiety in recovery—navigating tough situations like AA meetings [00:26:50] Coping with anxiety in early sobriety (without reaching for a drink) [00:28:30] The relationship between depression and substance use—what comes first? [00:30:00] Why it’s hard to separate depression from substance use [00:32:50] The connection between untreated depression and relapse [00:36:00] Practical steps for managing depression in sobriety [00:38:00] Why medication can be key in treating co-occurring disorders [00:41:00] Eating disorders and addiction—how common is the overlap? [00:44:01] How to approach both eating disorders and substance use in therapy [00:46:30] How body image issues can make recovery even harder [00:49:00] Eating disorders and control—how they tie into addiction [00:52:30] Food addiction—myth or reality? Erin’s take Links: Contact Erin at www.rosepsychotherapy.ca Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this heartfelt and powerful episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia opens up about her personal battle with anxiety, depression, and how quitting drinking ultimately saved her life. As we recognize September as Suicide Prevention Month, Sonia’s story will resonate with anyone who has struggled in silence. Her message is one of hope, courage, and the vital importance of mental health support. Whether you're on your own sobriety journey or supporting someone else, this episode has something for you. We dive deep into questions like: What role does alcohol play in our mental health? How can we recognize the signs of burnout and anxiety even when life appears “perfect” on the outside? How do we begin to make changes when we feel stuck? This episode brings valuable insights and answers to these important topics. Sonia talks about tools for overcoming cravings, understanding the connection between alcohol and mental health, and learning to find joy in life again. Sonia explains how her panic attacks, depression, and suicidal thoughts shifted with medication and quitting alcohol, offering educational takeaways for anyone questioning their relationship with drinking.  In this deeply personal episode, Sonia shares the highs and lows of her journey, from reaching her breaking point to finding light and strength in sobriety. Her candid storytelling is both raw and inspiring, showing us that recovery is possible, even when it feels out of reach. Don't miss this intimate glimpse into her life, which could be just the encouragement you need to take the next step in your own journey. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:00:00] Sonia introduces the episode and discusses the significance of Suicide Prevention Month. [00:01:00] Sonia shares her personal story of struggle, despite outward success. [00:02:32] Describing how drinking and work became intertwined in her life. [00:03:00] A detailed description of Sonia's anxiety and panic attacks. [00:03:43] Sonia discusses the lack of support from her now ex-husband. [00:04:27] The emotional toll of chronic hangovers and feeling hopeless. [00:04:53] The first steps Sonia took toward getting help for depression and suicidal thoughts. [00:05:16] Sonia reflects on her journey to quit drinking and the challenges of sobriety. [00:05:39] How quitting alcohol significantly impacted her mental health. [00:06:09] Sonia talks about coping with early sobriety and alcohol cravings. [00:06:37] The small actions that helped Sonia find joy again. [00:07:00] Sonia explains how her life transformed after quitting drinking. [00:08:10] Reflecting on the importance of self-compassion in recovery. [00:08:45] The role of community and support in her healing journey. [00:09:15] Sonia’s advice on getting through the rough days without alcohol. [00:09:40] Understanding the connection between alcohol and depression. [00:10:12] The importance of mental health awareness in sobriety. [00:10:45] How sobriety helped Sonia reconnect with herself and others. [00:11:20] Encouraging words for listeners who are feeling stuck or hopeless. [00:12:00] The impact of small, sustainable changes on long-term recovery. Links: Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community. Sisters In Sobriety Email. Sisters In Sobriety Instagram. Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast. Kathleen’s Instagram. Like, comment, and subscribe to join our community of women committed to changing their relationship with alcohol! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen welcome the remarkable Lorina Christine, a motivational speaker, mentor, and coach dedicated to helping people break free from limiting beliefs, manifest abundance, and step into their true purpose. Through her personal transformation and journey in sobriety, Lorina has empowered countless individuals to embrace alignment and authenticity, breaking free from the shackles of perfectionism, self-sabotage, and the Good Girl Act. The discussion covers key aspects of Lorina’s journey, delving into questions such as: How did growing up around alcohol influence her relationship with it? What role did manifesting play in her recovery process? And how can others begin their journey toward abundance and self-alignment? Lorina also breaks down her approach to shadow work, the law of assumption, and the healing power of mindfulness practices like breathwork, movement, and meditation. Listeners will take away actionable insights on identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs, setting boundaries, and building self-worth. Lorina emphasizes the importance of journaling, tapping into emotional freedom techniques, and how manifesting from an abundant state—rather than one of lack—can radically transform your reality. These valuable tools and perspectives can help listeners realign with their true purpose and live more empowered, joy-filled lives. Toward the end of the episode, Lorina shares deeply personal stories, including her pivotal moment of realizing that alcohol no longer served her and how that led to greater self-confidence, creativity, and, ultimately, a more fulfilled life. She touches on the importance of embodying wellness holistically and the joy found in living alcohol-free.  Highlights: [00:00:00] - Introduction to Lorina Christine and her work in personal transformation. [00:02:00] - Lorina shares how growing up in a family where alcohol was the norm influenced her drinking habits. [00:03:58] - Lorina discusses her “sober curious” journey that started in January 2021. [00:06:00] - Reflecting on the impact of her first year of sobriety and how her mindset shifted. [00:09:00] - Lorina explains how moving to Scotland gave her a fresh start in forming healthier social habits. [00:12:00] - Lorina shares her experiences with setting boundaries and building a wellness-focused community in Edinburgh. [00:13:45] - Lorina discusses the significant reduction in anxiety after quitting alcohol—one of her biggest takeaways. [00:17:00] - Diving into manifestation: How sobriety improved Lorina’s self-worth and helped her become more magnetic. [00:19:45] - Dealing with limiting beliefs and how shadow work and journaling helped Lorina heal during her sobriety journey. [00:23:00] - Lorina shares the milestones in her sobriety journey and how they built her confidence and reinforced her decision to quit drinking. [00:27:30] - Signs you are out of alignment with your purpose and how alcohol can be used as an escape mechanism. [00:31:45] - The concept of cosmic wake-up calls and how ignoring misalignment leads to personal upheavals. [00:35:00] - The importance of self-alignment and how to recognize the signs that you're out of alignment with your true self. [00:37:30] - Lorina’s personal story: Leaving a corporate job to embark on a transformational journey abroad. [00:41:00] - The power of the law of assumption and its role in manifesting the life you want. [00:45:15] - Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT) as a tool for overcoming limiting beliefs and boosting confidence. [00:49:00] - Lorina explains the connection between identity and habits and how identifying as a non-drinker transformed her life. [00:53:45] - The role of feminine and masculine energy in manifestation and the importance of creativity and intuition. [00:58:30] - Lorina’s insights on the Good Girl Act and how it hinders personal growth and manifestation. [01:02:45] - Lorina shares her final thoughts on how women can overcome societal conditioning and step into their power. Links: Follow Lorina Christine on Instagram: @Lorina.Christine Listen to Lorina’s podcast: Unleash Your Radiance for more wellness, entrepreneurship, and mindset content. Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Sonia in this episode of our Dating Sober series as she shares a heartfelt and ironically amusing diary entry about her adventures as a single sober girl. Hear about her journey with a guy named T, who seemed perfect at first but revealed some red flags regarding drinking. Sonia offers relatable advice on maintaining your boundaries, trusting your gut, and the importance of prioritizing self-respect in relationships. From handling dates at bars to recognizing when a partner isn't the right fit, Sonia's story is both educational and entertaining. This episode celebrates the empowering choice of putting yourself first. Cheers to that! HIghlights:  00:00 Introduction to Sober Dating Series 01:25 The Unicorn Date: Meeting T 02:03 Brunch and Red Flags 03:17 Weekend Getaway: The Turning Point 04:32 The Final Straw: Jazz Bar Incident 05:41 Reflection and Breakup 06:31 Self-Care and Moving On Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This classic episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" is part of our new Dating Sober Series! Join Sonia and Kathleen as they share laughs, wisdom, and a few awkward moments they’ve faced while navigating the dating world alcohol-free. They promise to make you smile and maybe blush, as they help you explore the joys and jitters of sober dating. What does dating look like when you're sober? Can you find true love without liquid courage? How do you handle a date at a bar? We're chatting about all this and more, sprinkling in some juicy stories and practical advice. You'll walk away with a fresh perspective on sober dating, armed with tips on how to enjoy authentic connections, communicate your needs, and why sobriety might just be your secret weapon in love. We’re breaking down the myths and celebrating the perks of clear-headed courting. And, because we love a good story, Sonia shares hilariously enlightening tales from her own dating adventures. It’s a reminder that the most memorable moments often come from the most unexpected situations and that sharing these moments with others can shift our outlook, encourage us to embrace vulnerability, celebrate spontaneity, and find beauty in the chaos of life.  This is Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to place for changing your relationship with alcohol into something you love even more than your favorite rom-com. Don’t forget to check out our substack for all the tips, tricks, and tales you need to navigate sobriety with a smile! Highlights [00:02:00] Discussion on the opportunity sobriety provides for genuine relationships. [00:02:44] The positive impacts of sobriety on deepening relationships. [00:03:32] Comparison of sober dating to dating under the influence. [00:06:26] Advice on preparing for dating and establishing non-negotiables. [00:10:45] Sonia recounts dating experiences post-divorce and sober. [00:12:35] Discussion on setting boundaries in dating while sober. [00:14:02] Navigating early dating conversations about sobriety. [00:18:16] Setting and respecting boundaries with partners who drink. [00:20:02] Evaluating a partner's drinking habits in relation to personal comfort. [00:22:13] Identifying red flags in dating that could threaten sobriety. [00:24:20] Kathleen shares her experience of entering a new relationship sober. [00:27:05] Finding sober-friendly date activities. [00:28:22] Managing social situations involving alcohol with a new partner. [00:29:51] How sobriety impacts emotional vulnerability in relationships. [00:30:37] Characteristics of a healthy, supportive relationship for someone in recovery. [00:32:00] Dealing with rejection related to sobriety in the dating scene. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we're joined by Hilary Sheinbaum, the brains behind GoingDry.co and author of The Dry Challenge: How to Lose the Booze for Dry January, Sober October, and Any Other Alcohol-Free Month. Hilary’s been a sober-curious advocate since 2017, and she’s all about helping people have a great time without alcohol. She’s back with a new workbook, Going Dry: A Workbook: A Practical Guide to Drinking Less and Living More, which just launched on September 3rd, 2024. Hilary opens up about how her life took a turn after her first Dry January in 2017 and how that experiment led to a whole new career. We dig into what it’s like to organize non-alcoholic events, how to navigate social settings without a drink in hand, and her tips for making dry months fun, not restrictive. We also touch on questions like: What’s the deal with non-alcoholic cocktails? How can going dry improve your life (hello, better sleep and glowing skin)? And how do you keep your social life intact without alcohol? This episode is packed with practical advice for anyone curious about cutting back on drinking. Hilary shares her go-to non-alcoholic drinks, her experiences hosting dry events, and why it’s okay to slip up and start again. You’ll learn about how to swap out your favorite drinks for non-alcoholic options, build better social habits, and make dry months something to look forward to—not dread! Hilary also lets us in on some personal stories, from her days interviewing celebs on the red carpet to throwing spin classes with non-alcoholic happy hours. You’ll hear how giving up alcohol for just one month totally changed her life and what she’s learned along the way. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the community that helps women rethink their relationship with alcohol. Be sure to check out our Substack for more tips, resources, and support. Highlights: [00:00:00] - Introduction to Hilary Sheinbaum and her journey into the sober-curious movement. [00:01:16] - GoingDry.co’s mission to create fun, alcohol-free experiences through non-alcoholic parties and events. [00:02:05] - Hilary shares her first experience with Dry January in 2017, which led to lasting changes in her career and life. [00:04:43] - Hilary’s bet with a friend to stay alcohol-free for January and how it became a life-changing experiment. [00:05:28] - Transitioning from a red carpet reporter covering celebrity events to embracing a sober-curious lifestyle. [00:06:23] - Discussion on how non-alcoholic beverages have evolved, especially in comparison to their alcoholic counterparts. [00:07:21] - The surprising benefits Hilary experienced from Dry January, including better sleep and reduced anxiety. [00:08:39] - Hilary talks about how her skin improved and the financial savings that come with cutting back on alcohol. [00:09:36] - How Hilary’s friendships and relationships evolved after going dry, including weeding out connections based solely on drinking. [00:10:27] - Hilary’s approach to drinking less while still socializing, without using alcohol as a crutch. [00:12:00] - The creation of GoingDry.co and how it turned into a platform for organizing non-alcoholic events and experiences. [00:14:54] - Hilary’s mission to make non-alcoholic options available at bars and restaurants, and the importance of inclusive menus. [00:16:01] - Hilary opens up about the challenges she faced when first starting her dry journey, including the awkward questions from others. [00:18:32] - Partnering with upscale hotels like Four Seasons and Fairmont to offer curated non-alcoholic beverage options. [00:19:57] - How non-alcoholic pop-up events differ from regular ones—hint: no one gets belligerent! [00:22:58] - Hilary explains her process for curating non-alcoholic menus for venues, from mocktails to beers and wines. [00:24:00] - The growing popularity of non-alcoholic beers and why Athletic Brewing Co. is leading the charge. [00:26:41] - Funny stories from Hilary’s non-alcoholic cocktail classes, including a participant accidentally taking a shot of non-alcoholic gin. [00:33:00] - Hilary’s favorite non-alcoholic drinks, including Free Spirits and her “French 89” mocktail. [00:43:00] - Teasing Hilary’s new workbook, Going Dry, and how it’s designed to help readers reflect on their sober-curious journey. Links: Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join us on Sisters in Sobriety as we chat with the incredibly talented Derick Santiago, also known as the Mocktail Wiz. Derick’s passion for creating delicious, alcohol-free drinks has inspired many to rethink what a good drink can be. In this episode, he shares his journey to sobriety, his love for mixology, and his latest creations—a book called The Mocktail Club and the Make It a Mocktail Recipe Deck. These projects are all about making it easy and fun to enjoy tasty mocktails. Throughout the episode, we’ll touch on how the culture of social drinking is changing and how mocktails are playing a big part in that shift. We’ll ask Derick about the common myths around mocktails and how he’s helping to debunk them. If you’ve ever wondered how to make a mocktail that’s just as satisfying as the real thing, this episode is for you. Derick also shares some practical tips on setting up your own mocktail bar at home. From choosing the right mixers to getting creative with garnishes, he’s got plenty of ideas to help you craft your perfect drink. Plus, we’ll dive into some of the health benefits of mocktails and how they can be a great alternative for those looking to cut down on alcohol. But it’s not all about the drinks—Derick opens up about his personal journey, including how losing his parents and dealing with work stress pushed him to quit drinking and eventually become the Mocktail Wiz. His story is both inspiring and relatable, offering hope and motivation for anyone looking to make a positive change in their life. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Don’t forget to check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights [00:00:54] - Introduction to Derick Santiago, also known as the Mocktail Wiz, and his innovative approach to non-alcoholic beverages. [00:01:50] - Derick shares his background, growing up in the Philippines, and how alcohol was never a significant part of his life. [00:04:31] - Derick describes his first experience with happy hours in the U.S. and how he learned to "train" for them. [00:06:03] - The turning point: how losing his mom in 2020 led to an increase in his alcohol consumption. [00:10:07] - Discovering This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and how it resonated with Derick’s own experiences with alcohol. [00:12:11] - Derick's first mocktail creation and how it helped him navigate early sobriety. [00:12:34] - The birth of the "Mocktail Wiz" brand on Instagram and how it gained popularity. [00:14:37] - Derick’s go-to non-alcoholic drinks when out at bars, including his preference for spicy margaritas and virgin mojitos. [00:19:00] - The growing acceptance of mocktails in social settings and how people are using them to moderate their alcohol intake. [00:22:08] - Common misconceptions about mocktails, including the idea that they are just boring, sugary drinks. [00:25:27] - Essential tools and equipment for setting up a mocktail bar at home, from shakers to mason jars. [00:28:05] - The versatility of ginger beer as a mixer and how it can mimic the burn of alcohol in mocktails. [00:32:48] - Derick’s favorite non-alcoholic spirit alternatives, including Ritual’s rum and Free Spirits' tequila. [00:34:45] - Tips for creating low-sugar or sugar-free mocktails using ingredients like monk fruit sweetener. [00:36:39] - Derick’s creative process behind developing new mocktail recipes, including his use of over-steeped tea as a base. [00:38:25] - The importance of presentation in mocktails, from the type of glass to the garnishes used. [00:41:02] - An overview of Derick’s book, The Mocktail Club, and the Make It a Mocktail Recipe Deck, and how they make creating mocktails accessible and fun. [00:46:00] - Derick’s favorite recipes from his book and deck, including the Fiery Squad and Holiday Punch. [00:47:11] - Upcoming trends in the mocktail world, with a focus on original, non-alcoholic elixirs and beverages that don’t try to mimic alcohol. [00:50:23] - Derick’s current project: a Filipino flavor mocktail series on Instagram, showcasing unique ingredients like banana and jackfruit. Links Derick's Deck and Book Derick's Instagram Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we delve into the transformative journey of embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle with Karolina Rzadkowolska, an alcohol-free empowerment expert and the founder of Euphoric Alcohol-Free. Through her programs, she’s worked with thousands of clients to change their drinking habits and unleash a new level of health, happiness, and drive to go after their biggest dreams. She is the bestselling author of the book, Euphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident You (HarperCollins). Throughout the episode, we explore essential questions like: What does it truly mean to live alcohol-free? How can removing alcohol from your life unlock deeper levels of purpose and fulfillment? Karolina sheds light on the emotional, psychological, and physical shifts that occur when one chooses to live without alcohol, and how this decision can catalyze a powerful transformation in other areas of life. If you've ever wondered about the benefits of taking a break from alcohol or how to start an alcohol-free journey, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice. Listeners will walk away with a deep understanding of the concepts of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and emotional freedom techniques (EFT) as they relate to changing alcohol beliefs. Karolina explains how these tools can help reprogram the subconscious mind, remove limiting beliefs, and foster a new identity that aligns with your true self. The episode also covers the importance of creativity and purpose in sustaining an alcohol-free lifestyle, highlighting how finding and pursuing your passions can be a game-changer in this journey. In the personal story segment, Karolina opens up about her pivotal moments, including the contrast she felt between her former drinking life and her alcohol-free lifestyle during a vacation in Hawaii. She shares the joys and challenges of this transformation, illustrating how her identity and perception of herself evolved. Karolina's story is a testament to the profound shifts that can occur when one chooses to live authentically and without alcohol. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:00] - Introduction of Karolina Rzadkowolska, her role in the alcohol-free movement, and her certifications as a mindset coach and NLP practitioner. [00:02:00] - Karolina shares her turning point that led her to embrace an alcohol-free lifestyle, starting with her participation in Dry January. [00:03:00] - The realization Karolina had about the contrast between her weekends involving alcohol and the rest of her healthy lifestyle. [00:04:30] - Discussion on how alcohol-free living helped Karolina discover her true purpose and fulfillment in life. [00:06:00] - Karolina describes the mental energy drain and frustration that came from her previous drinking habits. [00:07:30] - Karolina talks about the mindset shift that allowed her to view being alcohol-free as a "power move" and a status symbol. [00:09:00] - The identity transformation Karolina experienced as she stepped into her alcohol-free life and how it enabled her to pursue her dreams. [00:10:30] - Karolina's insight on how society glamorizes alcohol and the importance of questioning these beliefs. [00:12:00] - Karolina shares a transformative experience during her first alcohol-free vacation in Hawaii, where she fully embraced the natural world. [00:14:00] - The contrast between her alcohol-free experience in Hawaii and the behavior of those still entrenched in alcohol culture. [00:16:30] - Karolina's reflection on how society is "duped" into believing that alcohol is essential for fun, relaxation, and social acceptance. [00:18:00] - The importance of finding a community that supports alcohol-free living and how Karolina's work with Euphoric Alcohol Free provides that support. [00:20:00] - Karolina explains the concept of "parts integration" in NLP and how it helps reconcile conflicting desires within ourselves. [00:22:00] - Discussion on the role of subconscious beliefs in maintaining alcohol habits and how to reprogram them for lasting change. [00:24:30] - Karolina highlights the significance of discovering and pursuing passions as a way to sustain an alcohol-free lifestyle. [00:27:00] - The story of a client who used NLP and other techniques to transform her identity and achieve her dreams, such as becoming an author. [00:30:00] - Karolina describes how her certification program helps women become successful alcohol-free life coaches and entrepreneurs. [00:33:00] - The connection between living alcohol-free and tapping into the legacy of our ancestors to fulfill our deepest purposes. [00:36:00] - The role of creativity in finding joy and fulfillment without alcohol, and why it’s essential to explore new activities. [00:39:00] - Final thoughts on the importance of community in the alcohol-free journey and what’s next for Euphoric Alcohol Free, including in-person events and a new book project. Links: More about Karolina- www.euphoricbook.com/gift www.euphoricaf.com www.instagram.com/euphoric.af  More Sisters In Sobriety- Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen sit down with a special guest, Charles LeVoir, the inspiring host of The Way Out, a sobriety and recovery podcast. Charles has been a ray of hope in the recovery community, sharing countless stories that resonate with those on their own journeys. Today, Sonia and Kathleen dive deep into the challenges and triumphs of sobriety, with Charles offering his wisdom and experiences to help guide listeners through their own paths to recovery. The episode touches on some of the most pressing issues in sobriety, such as navigating social pressures, overcoming emotional hurdles, and dealing with the psychological struggles that come with long-term recovery. Questions like “How do you stay committed to sobriety when social pressures feel overwhelming?” and “What strategies can help manage triggers that might lead to relapse?” are explored in detail. Charles opens up about his own journey, sharing insights on how to maintain friendships, handle professional situations, and find strength in vulnerability. Listeners will walk away with practical advice on recovering out loud, the importance of community in sobriety, and how to navigate the complexities of maintaining relationships while staying true to their recovery journey. Key concepts such as the power of surrender, the benefits of engaging with a recovery community, and strategies for handling triggers and emotional challenges are all covered, providing valuable takeaways for anyone on their sobriety path. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights [00:00:00] - Sonia welcomes listeners to Sisters in Sobriety and introduces Charles Labore, host of The Way Out, a sobriety and recovery podcast. [00:01:20] - Kathleen outlines the key challenges of sobriety, including social pressures and emotional hurdles. [00:02:02] - Charles begins sharing his background and what led him to start The Way Out podcast. [00:03:26] - Charles talks about his moment of surrender in a treatment counselor's office, which marked a turning point in his recovery journey. [00:04:49] - Charles explains how he started listening to recovery stories and felt the need to share them through his podcast. [00:07:00] - Charles reflects on how hosting his podcast has been one of the greatest gifts in his recovery journey. [00:09:28] - Charles discusses the challenges of recovering out loud, particularly in professional settings. [00:11:07] - Charles shares a practical tip: always have a club soda in hand at social events to avoid questions about drinking. [00:13:00] - Sonia shares her own experience of the difficulty in recovering out loud and asks Charles for advice. [00:18:00] - Charles and Sonia discuss the challenges of dating sober and how to be upfront about sobriety with new acquaintances. [00:20:56] - Charles talks about the importance of loving people from afar if their presence threatens one's sobriety. [00:22:39] - Sonia opens up about her triggers during the summer and asks Charles for strategies to stay committed to sobriety. [00:24:00] - Charles advocates for finding sober events and recovery meetings, especially during triggering times like holidays. [00:27:00] - Charles explains how EMDR therapy helped him process traumatic experiences and unlocked his recovery. [00:30:56] - Charles discusses the importance of self-forgiveness and taking responsibility for one's own actions in recovery. [00:34:00] - Charles shares a story about making amends and how spiritual actions can have physical consequences. [00:38:00] - Charles emphasizes the need to actively seek connection with others in recovery to combat isolation. [00:42:30] - Sonia reflects on the importance of routines and habits in recovery, and how they helped her avoid isolation. [00:48:00] - Charles shares the importance of being honest about triggers and the power of reaching out for support. [00:52:00] - Charles encourages those considering sobriety to "run the experiment" and see the benefits of a sober life Links Want more Charlie?  The Way Out Podcast Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this exciting episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen dive into the buzzy topic of using psychedelics in addiction recovery. From psilocybin to ketamine, these substances are being explored for their potential to help break the cycle of addiction. Today's guest, Michelle Hudasko, is here to share her unique journey from working with new moms to becoming a certified ketamine-assisted psychotherapist. Get ready for an engaging chat as Sonia and Kathleen ask all the burning questions: How can psychedelics help with addiction? What makes someone a good fit for this kind of therapy? How does ketamine work to treat conditions like depression and PTSD? You'll find out the answers to these questions and more as we unpack the potential and the science behind these therapies. Listeners will walk away with a better understanding of the benefits of psychedelics, the importance of having the right support, and what to expect from these treatments. Michelle breaks down the different ways psychedelics can be administered and how therapists create a safe and supportive environment for their clients. This episode is packed with insights and information for anyone curious about this innovative approach to mental health and recovery. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:06] - Kathleen discusses the potential of psychedelics like psilocybin and ayahuasca for addiction treatment. [00:01:24] - Michelle introduces ketamine and its use in controlled therapeutic settings for treating depression, PTSD, and addiction. [00:01:55] - Guest introduction: Michelle Hodesco, a therapist with experience in perinatal psychotherapy and a certification in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. [00:02:51] - Michelle shares her personal journey and how she became interested in psychedelic therapies. [00:03:40] - Discussion on the historical and cultural significance of psychedelics. [00:04:29] - Michelle talks about the potential of psychedelics for treatment-resistant depression and acute PTSD. [00:05:01] - Addressing skepticism and resistance towards psychedelic therapy. [00:06:34] - Explanation of who might be excluded from psychedelic therapy. [00:07:23] - Misconceptions about psychedelic therapy and its medical model versus sacred, ritualistic use. [00:09:00] - The role of psychedelics in addiction treatment and their neuroplastic effects. [00:10:57] - The importance of setting and guidance in psychedelic therapy. [00:12:07] - Criteria for being a suitable candidate for psychedelic therapy. [00:16:00] - Handling challenging experiences during psychedelic sessions. [00:18:04] - Potential for substance abuse or dependency on psychedelics. [00:20:20] - The process and benefits of microdosing psychedelics. [00:22:00] - Differences between psilocybin and ketamine in terms of their impact on mental health. [00:26:05] - Psychological preparations needed for a safe and effective treatment session. [00:30:35] - Description of a typical psychedelic therapy session, including administration methods and the importance of music. [00:35:00] - The role of the therapist during a psychedelic session, focusing on holding space and providing support. [00:38:19] - Discussion on the concept of "bad trips" and reframing them as challenging but meaningful experiences. [00:41:00] - Strategies for handling breakthroughs and insights during and after psychedelic sessions. [00:43:00] - Frequency and scheduling of follow-up and integration sessions post-psychedelic treatment. [00:45:00] - Collaboration between psychedelic therapists and primary therapists for comprehensive care. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, hosts Sonia and Kathleen chat with Erin Gilmour, the founder of Rose Psychotherapy. Erin is a Registered Psychotherapist (RP) and Certified Canadian Addiction Counsellor (CCAC), known for her warm, down-to-earth approach to therapy. Specializing in helping individuals with addictions and eating disorders, Erin brings a wealth of knowledge and personal experience to the table. Her own recovery journey informs her empathetic and understanding approach, and she is also a strong advocate for marginalized communities, addressing systemic issues in her practice. Today, Sonia and Kathleen will be diving into the fascinating Internal Family Systems (IFS) model with Erin. Erin will explain the IFS model in simple terms. Imagine that inside each of us, there are different "parts" or aspects of our personality that influence how we think, feel, and behave. For example, there might be a part of you that gets really critical when you make a mistake, and another part that just wants to comfort you with a treat. IFS helps us recognize these parts and understand their roles. Here are a few key parts: Managers: These parts try to keep us in control and avoid pain. They might be the inner critic that pushes us to do better or the planner that keeps us organized. Firefighters: These parts jump in to distract us from pain. They might urge us to eat, drink, or binge-watch TV when we're feeling stressed. Exiles: These are the hurt parts of us that hold pain and trauma. They often get pushed aside or "exiled" because the other parts want to protect us from feeling that pain. By understanding these parts and learning to work with them, we can start to heal and make healthier choices. Erin will also talk about why being kind to ourselves is so important and how mindfulness can help us stay grounded This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:10] - Introduction to Erin Gilmour: Erin's background in providing compassionate, evidence-based therapy for mental health issues, including addiction, using the IFS model. [00:02:10] - Erin’s Journey: Erin shares her personal story and what led her to become a psychotherapist. [00:03:50] - Founding Rose Psychotherapy: Erin discusses the motivation and challenges behind starting her own practice. [00:06:34] - Explanation of IFS: Erin gives an overview of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. [00:07:35] - Parts of the Self: Introduction to the concept of different “parts” within us, such as managers, firefighters, and exiles. [00:10:00] - Managers and Firefighters: Erin explains the roles of managers and firefighters in our internal system. [00:13:00] - Exiles: Discussion on exiles, the parts of us that hold pain and trauma. [00:14:30] - No Bad Parts: Emphasizing that there are no bad parts, only parts trying to help in their own ways. [00:16:20] - Practical Examples: Erin gives practical examples of how these parts might manifest in daily life. [00:18:50] - Introducing IFS to Clients: How Erin introduces the concept of IFS to her clients in a relatable way. [00:21:40] - Working with Protectors: The process of working with managers and firefighters before addressing exiles. [00:25:00] - Addiction and IFS: How the IFS model specifically addresses addiction and helps in recovery. [00:27:30] - Healing Exiles: The gentle process of working with and healing exiled parts. [00:31:00] - Self-Compassion: The importance of self-compassion in the healing process. [00:34:00] - Integrating Mindfulness: How mindfulness practices complement the IFS model in therapy. [00:37:15] - Client Success Stories: Erin shares success stories from her practice where IFS made a significant impact. [00:40:00] - Continuing IFS Outside Therapy: Practical tips for clients to continue working with their parts outside of therapy sessions. [00:42:30] - IFS Tools: Introduction to IFS journaling activities, meditations, and parts mapping exercises. [00:44:10] - Overcoming Misconceptions: Addressing common misconceptions about IFS and how it’s different from other therapeutic models. [00:45:00] - Closing Thoughts: Final thoughts from Erin on the power of IFS in addiction recovery and overall mental health. Links Contact Erin at www.rosepsychotherapy.ca Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are excited to bring you an insightful discussion with Derek Brown, a renowned author, NASM certified wellness coach, and founder of Positive Damage. Derek is known for his inspiring journey from being one of America's top bartenders to becoming a leading advocate for mindful drinking and inclusive spaces. Today, Derek shares his personal story and insights on how we can all foster a healthier relationship with alcohol. We delve into Derek's fascinating transition from a celebrated bartender to a mindful drinking advocate. Key questions we explore include: What led Derek to change his relationship with alcohol? How can we incorporate mindful drinking into our daily lives? What are some practical tips for social situations where alcohol is prevalent? These discussions not only provide valuable insights but also help optimize your approach to alcohol and social wellness. Listeners will walk away with a deeper understanding of mindful drinking, including key concepts such as intrinsic goal alignment, the RATE (Replace, Avoid, Temper, Elicit help) strategy, and practical steps to make healthier choices in social settings. Derek also sheds light on the evolving landscape of no and low alcohol cocktails, offering tips for creating sophisticated, non-alcoholic drinks at home. In 2022, Brown published his second book, Mindful Mixology: A Comprehensive Guide to No- and Low-Alcohol Cocktails.  This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:00:00] - Introduction of Derek Brown, renowned author, NASM certified wellness coach, and founder of Positive Damage. [00:01:13] - Derek's impressive background: from top bartender to advocate for no and low alcohol cocktails. [00:01:54] - Derek shares his personal journey from bartending to mindful drinking advocacy. [00:02:18] - Early life experiences with alcohol, including family struggles and personal challenges. [00:03:01] - Describing the intense lifestyle of bartending and its impact on his relationship with alcohol. [00:04:16] - Decision to change his relationship with alcohol and seek therapy and wellness coaching. [00:04:57] - Explanation of Derek's unique approach to mindful drinking and its personal significance. [00:05:15] - Addressing the concept of mindful drinking and how it differs from traditional sobriety. [00:07:25] - Challenges faced during his journey to mindful drinking, including social and career obstacles. [00:08:49] - The importance of finding better coping mechanisms and improving mental health. [00:09:34] - The process of facing personal problems without the aid of alcohol. [00:10:25] - Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and its relevance to mindful drinking. [00:12:00] - Defining mindful drinking and its connection to personal goals and values. [00:13:56] - Practical steps for incorporating mindful drinking into daily life, such as journaling and setting goals. [00:14:50] - The RATE acronym: Replace, Avoid, Temper, Elicit help, and how it aids mindful drinking. [00:15:51] - Social challenges of mindful drinking and tips for navigating social situations. [00:18:00] - Derek's views on the evolving culture of drinking, especially among different age groups. [00:22:09] - Addressing misconceptions about alcohol's health benefits and the shift in societal attitudes. [00:23:50] - Strategies for managing stigma and embarrassment when choosing not to drink. [00:26:32] - Positive responses from the bar and restaurant industry to Derek's work and advocacy. Derek's Links Website: positivedamageinc.com Substack: https://positivedamage.substack.com Instagram/Threads: @positivedamageinc Linkedin: Derek Brown Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to another episode of "Sisters in Sobriety." Today, Sonia and Kathleen tackle the highs and lows of the early sobriety journey. They'll break down the "pink cloud" phase and share tips on handling sobriety fatigue, making sure you're well-prepared for the ride ahead. In this chat, Sonia and Kathleen discuss the pink cloud—those early days of sobriety when everything feels amazing. They’ll answer questions like: What is the pink cloud? How long does it last? Why do we experience sobriety fatigue? And how can we deal with it? These insights will help you stay balanced and motivated. You’ll learn about the temporary nature of the pink cloud, how to stay grounded, and practical strategies to overcome sobriety fatigue. Topics include the physical and mental perks of early sobriety, the challenges of long-term recovery, and the importance of self-care, mindfulness, and support networks. The episode also features personal stories, including Sonia's struggles with sobriety fatigue and Kathleen's reflections on her early sobriety.  This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Highlights:   [00:02:08] What the pink cloud is and why it matters.  [00:02:29] Introduction to sobriety fatigue.  [00:04:00] Sonia’s first sober high.  [00:05:00] Understanding the temporary pink cloud.  [00:06:53] Kathleen’s personal experience with early sobriety and fatigue.  [00:09:00] How the pink cloud affects mental health and relationships.  [00:10:30] Staying grounded during the pink cloud phase.  [00:11:18] Feelings during the pink cloud.  [00:12:46] How long the pink cloud lasts.  [00:13:25] Why the pink cloud can be misleading.  [00:14:24] Staying motivated after the pink cloud.  [00:15:33] Navigating relationships while on the pink cloud.  [00:18:13] Common setbacks after the pink cloud.  [00:19:18] Managing expectations during early sobriety.  [00:20:51] Prepping for the end of the pink cloud.  [00:22:26] Sonia’s experience with sobriety fatigue and how she copes. [00:24:00] Kathleen talks about the value of gratitude in sobriety. [00:26:09] Recognizing symptoms of sobriety fatigue. [00:27:31] Effective strategies for dealing with sobriety fatigue. [00:28:13] Importance of mindfulness and self-care. [00:29:00] Impact of sobriety fatigue on mental health. [00:31:12] Role of therapy and counseling in recovery. [00:32:45] The significance of self-compassion in overcoming fatigue. [00:34:44] How support groups like Everbloom can help. [00:35:39] How family and friends can support during sobriety fatigue. [00:36:43] Turning challenges into growth opportunities. [00:37:51] Maintaining a balanced perspective on sobriety. [00:38:57] Final reflections and takeaways from the discussion. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Sonia in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety as she sits down with Jon Kostas, an inspiring advocate for addiction recovery and a trailblazer in the field of psychedelic-assisted therapy (PAT) for alcohol use disorder. Jon’s journey from struggling with alcoholism to finding a path to sobriety through PAT is nothing short of transformative. His mission? To make this life-changing treatment accessible to everyone who needs it. Jon Kostas made history as the first person to complete a clinical trial at New York University studying psilocybin-assisted therapy for alcohol use disorder. He credits this therapy with curing his stubborn alcoholism and saving his life. Now, he’s on a mission to spread the word and help others through his organization, the Apollo Pact, which raises awareness and promotes psychedelic research by working with researchers and Congress. Sonia and Jon dive into some fascinating topics: What drove Jon to try psilocybin therapy after other treatments failed? How does this unique therapy work, and what sets it apart from traditional methods? What are the potential benefits and risks? This episode sheds light on the exciting world of psychedelic therapy and its promise for addiction recovery. Get ready to learn about the science behind psilocybin therapy and its potential to treat a range of mental health issues. Jon breaks down the rigorous clinical trial process, why medical supervision is crucial, and how advocacy plays a key role in advancing this groundbreaking research. Keywords like "psilocybin-assisted therapy," "psychedelic research," and "addiction recovery" will pop up throughout, making complex ideas easy to understand. Jon’s personal story is incredibly relatable. He opens up about his battles with alcohol, the many recovery attempts that didn’t stick, and how psilocybin therapy turned his life around. His journey from hopelessness to hope will resonate with anyone facing similar struggles. As he shares his current advocacy efforts, Jon paints a hopeful picture of the future of addiction treatment. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. *Jon was interviewed by Anderson Cooper for 60 Minutes, Harry Smith for NBC’s TODAY Show, Nightly News with Lester Holt, Sunday TODAY with Willie Geist, and Michael Pollan for How to Change Your Mind. He has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Fox, CBS, NBC, CNN, TIME Magazine, New York Post, Washington Post, U.S. News & World Report, among other national outlets. Highlights: [00:01:14] - Introduction of Jon Kostas, his journey from alcoholism to recovery through psychedelic-assisted therapy. [00:02:00] - Jon discusses the founding of the Apollo Pact and its mission to change addiction treatment. [00:02:37] - Jon shares a bit about his early life and what led him to begin his recovery journey. [00:04:00] - Jon describes his first experience with AA meetings and how it resonated with him. [00:07:00] - Sonia asks Jon if he continued drinking after his first AA meeting, and Jon explains his struggle with maintaining sobriety. [00:08:50] - Jon talks about his experience with numerous treatment attempts and the frustration of treatment-resistant alcoholism. [00:11:00] - Discussion about the perception of alcoholism as a disease and how it impacts patients. [00:12:30] - Jon shares his thoughts on the guilt and moral hangovers associated with drinking. [00:16:00] - Jon explains his initial fear and hesitation about entering the psilocybin-assisted therapy trial. [00:19:00] - Description of the screening and preparation process for the psilocybin sessions. [00:21:00] - Jon describes the setup and environment of his first psilocybin therapy session. [00:24:00] - Jon shares the transformative experience during his first psilocybin session and the realization of its impact. [00:26:00] - Jon discusses the symbolism he experienced during his sessions, such as seeing a liquor bottle disintegrate. [00:28:00] - Insights into the peacefulness Jon felt during a death experience in one of his sessions. [00:30:00] - Jon talks about the difference between psilocybin therapy and other treatments like ketamine. [00:32:00] - Explanation of the legal status of psilocybin and the importance of clinical trials for approval. [00:34:00] - Jon emphasizes the need for proper medical supervision and the safety of psilocybin treatment. [00:36:20] - Discussion about the potential for FDA approval and making psilocybin treatment more accessible. [00:38:00] - Jon talks about the advocacy work of the Apollo Pact and its role in advancing psychedelic research. [00:44:00] - Jon reflects on how his understanding of recovery has evolved and the importance of new treatment approaches. Links: Find Out More About Jon's Work Here - www.apollopact.org Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Kathleen and Sonia tackle a fear many in recovery face: wondering if all the fun ends when you choose sobriety. Spoiler alert—it doesn't! They dive into how life without alcohol can be more vibrant and full of genuine joy, with the sparkle just beginning. Kathleen and Sonia chat about how our ideas of fun change in sobriety, what it means to truly thrive, and how to find joy in the little things. They bust some myths about fun in sobriety and share their own experiences. Keywords: sobriety, joy, recovery, genuine connection, vibrant life. Listeners will pick up tips on discovering the "sparkle of sobriety," redefining what fun means, and making authentic connections. Kathleen and Sonia discuss how to handle social events without drinking, deal with FOMO, and find activities that genuinely interest you.  In the personal story segment, Sonia and Kathleen share how their ideas of fun have evolved since getting sober. They recount memorable, joyful moments and talk about the ups and downs of finding new ways to enjoy life. These stories are relatable and inspiring for anyone on the sober journey. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:00:55] - Sonia and Kathleen introduce the episode and discuss the common fear of losing fun in sobriety. [00:01:26] - Sonia shares Mary Carr’s quote about finding true sparkle in sobriety, setting the tone for the episode. [00:02:14] - Kathleen explains how sobriety can lead to a vibrant life with genuine joy. [00:02:31] - Sonia encourages listeners to grab their favorite non-alcoholic drink and get comfortable. [00:03:00] - Kathleen describes how her definition of fun has evolved since becoming sober. [00:03:46] - Sonia talks about the clarity and awe that comes with sobriety, sharing her experience with a memorable sunset. [00:05:01] - Kathleen shares how feeling physically amazing was a turning point for seeing joy in sobriety. [00:06:16] - Sonia recounts her sober trip to Italy and how it changed her perspective on fun and vacations. [00:08:15] - Sonia reflects on how her wild and crazy persona was shaped by alcohol and her fear of losing it. [00:09:51] - Sonia discusses finding real, authentic fun by leaning into things and people she loves. [00:11:01] - Kathleen talks about how sobriety can boost self-confidence and improve social interactions. [00:12:13] - Sonia explains how sobriety helps uncover the true self hidden under the influence of alcohol. [00:13:25] - Kathleen emphasizes the importance of aligning fun activities with personal values. [00:14:12] - Sonia debunks the myth that alcohol reveals our true selves, sharing her negative experiences. [00:16:20] - Kathleen describes how sobriety allows for a deeper connection with passions and interests. [00:17:12] - Sonia suggests looking back to childhood for inspiration on fun activities in sobriety. [00:19:13] - Kathleen shares how her social life changed drastically after getting sober. [00:21:35] - Sonia talks about finding joy in spontaneous moments with family, like making a lemon pie with her niece. [00:23:47] - Kathleen describes her ideal fun weekend now, focusing on nature and exploring new things. [00:25:34] - Sonia and Kathleen discuss creating new traditions for holidays and celebrations to maintain sobriety and have fun. Links: Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," host Sonia Kahlon is joined by the inspiring Valerie Mason-John, also known as Vimalasara. Valerie is a renowned author and public speaker whose work in the field of addiction and recovery has made a profound impact. Today, Sonia explores Valerie's unique approach to addiction recovery, which blends mindfulness, compassion, and holistic practices. They will be discussing Valerie’s journey, their groundbreaking methodologies, and how these can help listeners on their own sobriety journeys. Valerie Mason-John (Vimalasara) is the author of several acclaimed books, including "Eight Step Recovery: Using the Buddha’s Teachings to Overcome Addiction" and "Detox Your Heart: Meditations for Emotional Trauma." They are also a public speaker and co-founder of the international Mindfulness-Based Addiction Recovery (MBAR) program. With their extensive background in both addiction recovery and Buddhism, Valerie offers a unique perspective that combines practical strategies with spiritual insights. Their latest book, "First Aid Kit for the Mind: Breaking the Cycle of Habitual Behaviors," continues to provide valuable tools for those seeking recovery. Throughout the episode, listeners will delve into key questions such as: What are the primary triggers for addictive behaviors? How can mindfulness and meditation be integrated into recovery practices? What role does self-compassion play in overcoming addiction? By addressing these questions, the episode provides valuable insights and practical strategies for listeners on their sobriety journey. Educational takeaways from this episode include understanding the habit loop of addiction, the importance of creating a personalized recovery plan, and techniques for managing cravings and triggers. Listeners will also learn about the benefits of meditation and mindfulness, and how these practices can support long-term recovery and emotional well-being. In the personal story segment, Valerie shares their journey from struggling with addiction to becoming a leader in the recovery community. Their candid account of overcoming challenges and finding empowerment through mindfulness and compassion is both moving and motivational. Valerie also discusses how their Buddhist practice has shaped their approach to addiction and recovery, providing deeper insights into the spiritual aspects of their journey. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:00] - Introduction to Valerie Mason-John, also known as Vimalasara, author and public speaker with a profound impact on the field of addiction and recovery. [00:02:00] - Valerie's early life and initial struggles with addiction, including sugar and shoe cleaner. [00:04:00] - Valerie discussing the challenges of disordered eating and their journey with bulimia and anorexia. [00:06:00] - The turning point in Valerie's life when they realized the need to seek recovery. [00:07:30] - Valerie’s experience working with women in rehab and the influence of the Petrasca cycle of change. [00:09:00] - The beginning of Valerie’s sobriety journey and the role of meditation and mindfulness. [00:10:20] - Valerie’s one-woman show and how it influenced their recovery from disordered eating. [00:11:00] - The role of specialized treatment in Valerie’s recovery from disordered eating. [00:12:30] - Valerie discussing the importance of mindfulness and meditation in their recovery. [00:13:30] - How Buddhist teachings, particularly the Four Noble Truths, shaped Valerie's approach to recovery. [00:15:00] - Valerie explaining the concept of “going for refuge” in Buddhism and its impact on their recovery. [00:17:00] - The significance of letting go in the context of recovery and stopping addictive behaviors. [00:19:00] - The story of Angulimala and its relevance to addiction recovery. [00:22:00] - The difference between stopping a thought and spiritual bypassing in recovery. [00:23:30] - Valerie's perspective on self-love and compassion as critical components of recovery. [00:25:00] - The importance of addressing childhood conditioning and trauma in the recovery process. [00:27:00] - Valerie distinguishing between mindfulness and meditation and their interconnection. [00:30:00] - The realization that the biggest addiction was their own thinking and how to manage stinking thinking. [00:34:00] - The practice of recognizing thoughts without a thinker and understanding that thoughts are not facts. [00:40:00] - Valerie explaining the concept of coming home to the body and its significance in recover Links: First Aid Kit for the Mind Book Valerie Mason-John's Website Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the unique challenges and joys of vacationing while maintaining sobriety. They share their personal journeys and practical tips to help you navigate your next getaway with confidence and ease. Whether you're planning a family visit, a beach retreat, or a solo adventure, this episode is packed with insights to support your sober travel experience. In this episode, Sonia and Kathleen tackle the big questions that come with sober vacationing. How do you handle unexpected triggers? What strategies can you use to maintain your routine? And how do you navigate cultural differences around alcohol consumption? These discussions are crucial for anyone in recovery, ensuring you're well-prepared and supported on your trip. You'll walk away with practical tips for packing, creating a supportive itinerary, and developing strategies for social situations involving alcohol. The hosts cover essential topics like managing anxiety, setting boundaries, and finding joy in new experiences, all while staying true to your sobriety.  Sonia shares her transformative experience of a trip to Italy booked before her sobriety journey, offering candid insights on navigating wine tours and social pressures. Kathleen recounts her enriching, sober trip to Hawaii, highlighting how sobriety opened up new opportunities for connection and self-care. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: 0:00 - Introduction: Navigating Sobriety on Vacation 6:30 - The Unique Challenges of Vacationing Sober 8:45 - Planning Ahead: Why It’s Crucial 10:20 - Strategies for Managing Triggers 12:15 - Importance of Maintaining Routine 14:05 - How to Handle Social Situations with Alcohol 16:10 - Tips for Navigating Airports and Flights Sober 18:50 - Kathleen’s Experience with FOMO on Vacation 21:00 - Sonia’s Story: Sober Trip to Italy 24:30 - Kathleen’s Story: Sober Trip to Hawaii 26:45 - Cultural Differences Around Alcohol Consumption 29:20 - How to Communicate Sobriety to Friends and Family 32:15 - Creating a Supportive Travel Itinerary 34:00 - Finding Joy in New, Alcohol-Free Experiences 36:10 - Practical Tips for Packing and Preparing 38:00 - Mocktail Hour: Favorite Non-Alcoholic Beverages 40:25 - Personal Story: Sonia’s Struggles and Triumphs 42:00 - Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sisters In Sobriety Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Sisters in Sobriety, we explore the transformative power of art therapy in addiction recovery. Joining us is Sarah Smith who will guide us through the fascinating intersections of creativity and healing. Sarah is a passionate artist and non-traditional art therapist, owning Soul-Full Art Therapy where she helps individuals explore the wellness benefits of the creative process. Sarah is a member of the Canadian Art Therapy Association (CATA) and has chosen to maintain her focus on art for wellness rather than merging with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO). She facilitates art workshops at Sweet Spot Family Counselling and offers private sessions for individuals seeking a creative outlet for wellness. Her serv In this episode, we dive deep into the role of art as a therapeutic tool. Key questions we'll explore include: How can art therapy support individuals in their recovery journey? Do you need to be artistically talented to benefit from art therapy? What are some practical ways to incorporate art therapy techniques at home? These discussions will highlight keywords such as "art therapy," "addiction recovery," and "creative healing."   Listeners will gain insight into several key concepts, including the importance of open-mindedness in art therapy, how art therapy can complement other forms of therapy like mindfulness and physical exercise, and the cognitive and emotional benefits of engaging in creative processes. We'll also discuss practical art therapy exercises like art journaling, and how to identify and interpret personal symbols in your artwork.  Our guest, Sarah, shares her compelling personal story about her journey with art therapy. You'll hear about a transformative moment in her own art therapy experience, where she discovered hidden themes in her work that led to profound personal insights. This segment underscores the deep emotional connections that art can reveal and how it can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and healing. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:00:00] - Sonia introduces the self-paced seven-day reset program designed to help reset your relationship with alcohol. [00:01:34] - Kathleen shares her initial hesitation about art therapy due to perceived lack of artistic talent. [00:01:55] - Sarah explains that no artistic talent is needed; an open mind is what counts in art therapy. [00:02:19] - Sarah describes starting with collage and art journaling for those who feel intimidated by drawing. [00:02:56] - Sarah recounts her personal story about discovering a recurring heart theme in her artwork during art therapy school. [00:04:00] - Sarah reflects on how she realized she wasn't paying attention to her own needs, leading to an emotional breakthrough. [00:05:02] - Discussion about the importance of a non-judgmental, supportive environment in art therapy. [00:06:06] - Sarah emphasizes that there is no judgment in art therapy and encourages self-expression without self-criticism. [00:07:13] - Sarah explains the benefits of focusing on the process and feelings rather than the final product in art therapy. [00:09:16] - Kathleen suggests using art therapy techniques in couples therapy and mindfulness practices. [00:10:00] - Sarah talks about the art therapist's role in helping clients interpret and understand their artwork. [00:11:00] - Sarah shares a story about a boy who stopped speaking and how art therapy helped uncover and address his trauma. [00:12:33] - Kathleen recalls her childhood trauma and how it influenced her drawings, highlighting the subconscious power of art. [00:14:00] - Sarah discusses the use of repetitive and grounding activities, like mandala drawing, to manage overwhelming emotions. [00:15:22] - Sarah identifies common challenges clients face when starting art therapy, such as apprehension about their artistic skills. [00:16:56] - Sarah shares her experience working with dementia patients and how art therapy helps them express themselves. [00:18:46] - Sonia and Sarah discuss the cognitive and emotional benefits of art therapy, such as improved mood and emotional expression. [00:20:31] - Sarah provides practical advice for starting an art journal at home, emphasizing the importance of just starting and letting the process unfold. [00:25:00] - Kathleen and Sarah talk about the holistic benefits of art therapy in conjunction with other therapeutic modalities, emphasizing the mind-body-soul connection. 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In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen explore the powerful role of art in healing, wellness, and recovery from alcohol use disorder. Joined by Sarah Smith, the compassionate owner of Soulful Art Therapy, the discussion delves into how art therapy can transform lives, providing a unique and effective outlet for emotional expression and long-term sobriety. Today, Sonia and Kathleen will guide you through the fascinating world of art therapy, sharing insights and stories of transformation. Sarah is a passionate artist and non-traditional art therapist, owning Soul-Full Art Therapy where she helps individuals explore the wellness benefits of the creative process. Sarah is a member of the Canadian Art Therapy Association (CATA) and has chosen to maintain her focus on art for wellness rather than merging with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO). She facilitates art workshops at Sweet Spot Family Counselling and offers private sessions for individuals seeking a creative outlet for wellness. Her services are not a replacement for therapy and are not covered by insurance, serving instead as a tool for healing and recreation. This episode unpacks the multifaceted role of art as therapy in the recovery process. Key questions addressed include: How can engaging in creative processes provide a powerful outlet for emotions? What are the unique benefits of art therapy compared to traditional talk therapy? How does art therapy support long-term sobriety and emotional well-being? Through these discussions, listeners will gain a comprehensive understanding of how art therapy can be a vital tool in their recovery journey.  Listeners will learn about the core concepts of art therapy, including its ability to foster self-awareness, emotional expression, and healing. The episode highlights how art therapy can address common misconceptions and explains how the creative process can help individuals regain a sense of control and manage their emotions effectively. Sarah shares practical insights and examples of art therapy in action, demonstrating its therapeutic impact and the potential for profound personal transformation. Sarah shares a touching story from her practice about a man who initially resisted art therapy but ultimately experienced a significant emotional breakthrough. This powerful narrative illustrates the deep impact art therapy can have, revealing underlying emotions and facilitating healing in unexpected ways. Through Sarah’s compassionate guidance, this story serves as a testament to the transformative power of art in recovery. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:00] - Introduction of guest Sarah Smith, owner of Soulful Art Therapy, and her work in guiding people on their wellness journeys through art. [00:01:34] - Kathleen discusses the role of art as therapy in recovery, exploring its benefits in providing an outlet for emotions and supporting long-term sobriety. [00:02:03] - Sarah introduces her sidekick, Louie the dog, who might be heard snoring during the episode. [00:02:31] - Sarah shares her background, how she became an art therapist, and her journey from being an artist to discovering art therapy. [00:04:10] - Sarah explains why she chose to practice art for wellness rather than merging with the College of Psychotherapists. [00:04:38] - Sarah defines art therapy and explains how it differs from other forms of therapy. [00:05:30] - Discussion on common misconceptions about art therapy, such as it being child's play or requiring artistic skill. [00:07:00] - Kathleen and Sarah discuss the judgment people face in school art classes and how it impacts their willingness to engage in art therapy. [00:08:12] - Sarah explains how art therapy can help people in addiction recovery by providing a sense of control and a healthy outlet for emotions. [00:09:13] - Sarah talks about the unique elements of art therapy that make it effective for those dealing with addiction, such as self-expression and emotional release. [00:10:13] - The importance of the process and how art holds the space for individuals, helping to lighten their emotional load. [00:11:00] - Sonia shares her experience with photography as a form of art therapy during her sobriety journey. [00:12:59] - Sarah explains the various art mediums used in art therapy and how they are chosen based on individual needs. [00:15:00] - Discussion on how the process of creating art, rather than the finished piece, is essential in art therapy. [00:17:06] - Sarah describes the typical process of an art therapy session, including grounding exercises and personalized art directives [00:20:09] - Sarah explains that the art therapy process for those in recovery is the same but tailored to individual needs, addressing physical, emotional, and mental aspects. [00:21:00] - Discussion on how creating art helps people process their emotions by shrinking them to a manageable size. [00:22:00] - Sarah shares a powerful story about an inpatient unit participant who found emotional release and self-discovery through art therapy. [00:29:00] - Sarah discusses how art therapy addresses trauma and severe anxiety, commonly associated with addiction, by providing a healthy escape and emotional management. 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In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen continue their insightful discussion on mindfulness and its vital role in the recovery process. Today, they delve deeper into practical mindfulness techniques and guide listeners through a mindful meditation practice designed to foster grounding and mindful decision-making. Expect a comprehensive exploration of mindfulness, addressing key questions such as: How can mindfulness be effectively integrated into daily life? What are common challenges in starting a mindfulness practice? How can group settings enhance the practice of mindfulness in recovery? These questions set the stage for a rich discussion filled with practical advice and personal experiences. Kathleen and will educate listeners on several mindfulness concepts, including the "SOBER" meditation technique, urge surfing, and grounding exercises. She will also discuss the importance of starting small and gradually building a mindfulness routine. Key terms such as "mindfulness," "grounding techniques," and "urge surfing" will be thoroughly explored. Sonia shares how the guided meditation has transformed her understanding of mindfulness. She discusses the challenges she faced with traditional silent meditation and how Kathleen's guidance has provided the support she needed to stay focused and present. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:13] - Kathleen begins guiding listeners through a meditation practice. [00:02:43] - Kathleen introduces the SOBER meditation technique. [00:03:02] - The first step: Stop, pause, and take a deep breath. [00:03:25] - The second step: Observe thoughts and feelings without judgment. [00:04:19] - Observing physical sensations and surroundings. [00:05:00] - The third step: Breathe deeply and slowly to calm the mind. [00:05:14] - The fourth step: Expand awareness to include all observations. [00:06:00] - The fifth step: Respond mindfully to the situation or set an intention. [00:07:08] - Sonia shares how guided meditation was helpful for her. [00:08:21] - Kathleen addresses common misconceptions about mindfulness. [00:09:15] - Discussing the benefits of group mindfulness sessions in recovery. [00:10:25] - Kathleen explains common challenges when starting mindfulness practices in sobriety. [00:11:43] - Kathleen emphasizes starting small with mindfulness practices. [00:12:10] - Techniques like urge surfing are explained. [00:13:26] - Discussing the importance of grounding techniques. [00:14:22] - Best practices for mindfulness when feeling overwhelmed or in a crisis. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia tackles the timely topic of staying sober while on vacation. She dives deep into how to keep your recovery journey strong, even when you are sipping mocktails poolside. Whether you're facing social gatherings, airport temptations, or hotel happy hours, Sonia will help you pack your bags with tools and confidence for your next trip. Throughout this episode, she'll answer some key questions like: How can you handle social events that often involve alcohol? What strategies can you employ to stay strong in airports and hotels where alcohol is readily available? How do you communicate your sobriety needs to travel companions? With practical advice and relatable insights, this episode is packed with tips on how to manage common triggers and stay sober during your travels. Listeners will learn how to identify and avoid triggers in various vacation settings, the importance of planning and setting boundaries with travel companions, and engaging in sober-friendly activities. Sonia emphasizes the benefits of staying engaged in activities that do not involve alcohol, helping you to appreciate your vacation spot better and maintain your sobriety. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights:  [00:01:15] - Listener Question: Jill from Houston asks about staying sober at an all-inclusive resort. [00:01:38] - Temptations on Vacation: Discussion on the various temptations one might face while on vacation. [00:02:00] - Common Triggers: Exploring common settings where triggers for drinking might appear. [00:02:20] - Social Gatherings: Tips on managing social gatherings that involve alcohol. [00:02:41] - Airports: How to handle the stress and accessibility of alcohol in airports. [00:03:00] - Hotels: Managing the availability of alcohol in hotels and during happy hours. [00:03:04] - Planning Ahead: Importance of having a plan for social situations where alcohol is present. [00:03:21] - Sober-Friendly Destinations: Choosing vacation spots that support sobriety. [00:03:39] - Travel Companions: The importance of traveling with supportive people. [00:04:01] - Engaging in Sober Activities: Planning activities that don't involve alcohol to stay engaged. [00:04:21] - Mental Preparation: Preparing mentally for the presence of alcohol in airports. [00:04:35] - Alternative Relaxation Spots: Finding quieter zones in airports to avoid bars and lounges. [00:04:57] - Alcohol-Free Accommodations: Requesting alcohol-free rooms in hotels. [00:05:16] - Avoiding Happy Hour: Planning activities during happy hour times to avoid temptation. [00:05:39] - Communicating Sobriety: Tips on explaining your sobriety to travel companions. [00:06:14] - Setting Boundaries: Importance of setting and maintaining boundaries with companions. [00:07:00] - Sober Activities: Ideas for engaging in sober activities while on vacation. [00:08:00] - Overcoming FOMO: Strategies to handle the fear of missing out when others are drinking. [00:10:25] - Enhanced Engagement: Benefits of engaging fully with your environment while staying sober. [00:11:51] - Playing the Tape Forward: A technique to visualize the consequences of drinking. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen explore the transformative power of mindfulness in the recovery journey. They will delve into how mindfulness can help manage stress, recognize triggers, and cultivate a sense of peace and stability, all of which are crucial for long-term sobriety. Join the discussion as Sonia and Kathleen unpack the concept of mindfulness. What does mindfulness really mean? How can it be integrated into daily life and recovery efforts? They will answer these questions and more, providing valuable insights into emotional regulation, improving focus, and fostering a deeper connection with your inner self.  Listeners will learn about the key principles of mindfulness and its significant impact on both physical and mental health. The episode will cover how mindfulness helps in recognizing triggers, managing stressors, and creating a calming effect. Non-judgmental awareness, present moment focus, and mindfulness techniques for managing cravings and emotional triggers will be discussed.  Kathleen shares her personal journey with mindfulness, from her initial intimidation to integrating it into her daily life through yoga and meditation. Her story highlights how mindfulness has helped her manage ADHD, anxiety, and depression, providing a relatable and inspiring example of its benefits. Tune in to hear more about how mindfulness has transformed her life and can potentially transform yours too. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our Substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:06] - Kathleen talks about the importance of mindfulness and her excitement for the topic. [00:01:33] - Sonia shares a personal story about running for the first time in years and the impact on her physically. [00:02:07] - Discussion on the concept of mindfulness and its relevance in a fast-paced world. [00:02:27] - Kathleen outlines the key principles of mindfulness and its benefits in recovery. [00:03:00] - Kathleen introduces Jon Kabat-Zinn and his definition of mindfulness. [00:04:14] - Sonia shares her initial struggles with understanding and practicing mindfulness. [00:05:02] - Kathleen defines mindfulness in her own words as being fully present in the here and now. [00:05:21] - Kathleen talks about integrating mindfulness into her life through yoga. [00:06:47] - Kathleen shares her experience with meditation during her yoga teacher training in Mexico. [00:08:00] - Discussion on how mindfulness helps manage stress and recognize triggers in recovery. [00:08:46] - Kathleen explains the physical and mental benefits of mindfulness for those recovering from addiction. [00:10:07] - Sonia and Kathleen discuss the impact of mindfulness on anxiety and how it helps manage emotional triggers. [00:11:36] - Kathleen explains how mindfulness allows for mindful choices rather than impulsive reactions to triggers. [00:12:47] - Kathleen describes the process of observing cravings and urges like waves, emphasizing the temporary nature of these feelings. [00:14:41] - Sonia talks about her personal experience with cravings and how they typically last about 20 minutes. [00:16:38] - Discussion on the stages of recovery where mindfulness is especially beneficial, particularly in early sobriety. [00:18:59] - Kathleen shares how mindfulness reduces symptoms of anxiety and depression by focusing on the present moment. [00:19:58] - Sonia and Kathleen discuss integrating mindfulness with other forms of therapy and treatment. [00:25:25] - Kathleen talks about her participation in a mindfulness-based cognitive therapy group and the positive impact of mindfulness research. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen explore the multifaceted world of recovery support, diving deep into the roles of one-on-one coaching, sober companions, and group support systems. They are joined by Alida Flannery. Alida is the Founder of Epiphany Recovery Inc., an organization that provides Recovery Coaching, Companioning, and Case Management services to individuals who are struggling with substance use and disordered eating. She is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach and Companion, who completed her Intervention training with Earl Hightower in 2018, and has previously worked for several in-patient treatment centres across Canada. Alida is the Co-Founder of SOULBRIETY, a sober collective for women offering retreats, events, and group workshops to those who are sober-curious, sober-exploring and sober-serious. She also works with Amazing Grace Canada, a charity whose mission is to bring recovery to families and communities affected by addiction in developing nations. Throughout the episode, listeners will hear a broad discussion on the different paths to successful recovery. Key questions include: What is the role of a sober companion in the recovery process? How does one tailor recovery support to meet individual needs? What are some common misconceptions about sober companionship? These questions are dissected, offering a thorough understanding of the nuances involved in each recovery pathway. Listeners will gain valuable knowledge on the educational aspects of recovery support, such as the importance of a safe transition from rehab to home, the challenges of maintaining sobriety in a familiar environment, and the need for personalized recovery plans. Alida shares her own experiences and stories from her work as a sober companion. She reveals the small yet significant victories in recovery, such as a client successfully setting boundaries or enjoying a sober weekend with family. These stories underscore the emotional and transformative journey of recovery, making the episode relatable and inspiring. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:01:08] – Alida explains the public perception of sober companionship, mentioning its association with the rich and famous. [00:01:27] – Alida describes the role of a sober companion, providing support throughout the day. [00:02:00] – Alida talks about the challenges of returning home from rehab and the importance of having a sober companion during this transition. [00:03:06] – Discussion on the need to navigate interpersonal relationships and daily challenges after rehab. [00:03:45] – Alida elaborates on providing support for those who can't leave their lives for extended treatment, such as single parents. [00:04:22] – Kathleen asks how Alida tailors her companionship to individual clients, and Alida explains her intuitive approach. [00:05:18] – Alida talks about receiving briefings from families or treatment centers and the importance of the right fit for effective companionship. [00:07:06] – Alida emphasizes observing and understanding the client's daily routines and interpersonal interactions. [00:08:00] – Kathleen inquires about common misconceptions of sober companionship, and Alida addresses these. [00:09:34] – Alida clarifies her role as a motivator, cheerleader, problem solver, and advocate, not a housekeeper or chef. [00:10:17] – Discussion on the importance of the recovery doing the work themselves for successful outcomes. [00:12:08] – Alida shares her personal commitment to protecting her own recovery fiercely. [00:13:14] – Sonia asks Alida to describe a typical day as a sober companion, and Alida explains the variability in her daily routines. [00:15:17] – Alida highlights the importance of establishing a new recovery routine and lifestyle at home. [00:17:49] – Alida discusses the challenge of rewiring daily activities that were previously associated with substance use. [00:19:22] – Establishing a daily routine involving making the bed, nourishing oneself, and incorporating activities like prayer, meditation, and journaling. [00:20:00] – Alida reflects on the transformational moments and small victories that signify successful recovery. [00:24:41] – Closing remarks by Kathleen, expressing gratitude to Alida and inviting her for future discussions. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen are excited to welcome Alida Flannery, a passionate advocate for sobriety and the founder of Epiphany Recovery. Alida brings her unique experience as both a sober companion and recovery coach to the conversation, sharing her inspiring journey from addiction to aiding others on their paths to sobriety. Stay tuned as Sonia and Kathleen delve into Alida's multifaceted approach to recovery. Alida is the Founder of Epiphany Recovery Inc., an organization that provides Recovery Coaching, Companioning, and Case Management services to individuals who are struggling with substance use and disordered eating. She is a Certified Addiction Recovery Coach and Companion, who completed her Intervention training with Earl Hightower in 2018, and has previously worked for several in-patient treatment centres across Canada. Alida is the Co-Founder of SOULBRIETY, a sober collective for women offering retreats, events, and group workshops to those who are sober-curious, sober-exploring and sober-serious. She also works with Amazing Grace Canada, a charity whose mission is to bring recovery to families and communities affected by addiction in developing nations. This episode will explore various paths to recovery, including one-on-one coaching, sober companionship, and the benefits of group support. Alida will address key questions like: What are the unique challenges and benefits of each recovery approach? How can someone determine the best recovery path for their individual needs? These discussions will be enriched with Alida's personal insights and experiences, providing a comprehensive look at addiction recovery. Listeners can expect to gain a deeper understanding of the recovery process, including practical strategies for managing triggers and maintaining sobriety in real-world scenarios. Alida will discuss the importance of creating a supportive environment and how tailored recovery plans can significantly enhance the success of one's sobriety journey.  This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights [00:03:10] - Alida's role as a sober companion is explained, highlighting her commitment to 24/7 support for her clients. [00:04:18] - Alida joins the conversation, expressing her gratitude for being part of the podcast. [00:04:33] - Alida shares her personal journey with addiction and the impact of hitting a profound emotional and physical bottom. [00:06:44] - Discussion about the pivotal moments that lead to seeking change and the universal nature of pain in the journey to recovery. [00:07:26] - Alida speaks about the challenges she faced in recovery, particularly the overhaul of her lifestyle centered around substance use. [00:08:39] - The concept of 'rewiring behaviors' in sobriety is explored, discussing the difficulties of adapting to a sober life. [00:10:05] - The personal story continues with Alida discussing how recovery coaching and sober companionship work in practical scenarios. [00:11:57] - Alida discusses the inspiration behind starting Epiphany Recovery, linking her experiences in the corporate and philanthropic worlds. [00:13:49] - Alida recounts her early experiences as a COVID coach during the pandemic, aiding clients in isolation. [00:15:20] - Sonia and Alida discuss the integration of personal recovery experiences into coaching methods, stressing authenticity and relatability. [00:17:15] - The conversation shifts to the importance of not using personal sobriety metrics as a standard for others' recovery. [00:18:12] - Alida and Kathleen discuss misconceptions about addiction, like not having a DUI meaning you don't have a problem. [00:20:11] - The discussion touches on the personal lows and the concept of 'slipping faster than lowering standards' in addiction. [00:22:04] - Alida explains the brain science behind addiction, particularly how substances affect the prefrontal cortex and decision-making. [00:23:32] - How Alida's approach to recovery has evolved over time, emphasizing a need to stay informed about new methods and therapies. [00:25:19] - Closing thoughts on resilience in recovery, discussing whether it's something that can be taught or needs to be embodied and lived. Links Get In Touch With Alida https://www.epiphanyrecovery.com/ https://www.soulbriety.ca/ info@epiphanyrecovery.com Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we're addressing a common concern among our listeners—navigating the temptations of summer while maintaining sobriety. This episode is dedicated to answering questions from you, our listeners, about dealing with the triggers that come with warm weather and social gatherings. Understanding and Managing Triggers Our listener SP from Houston shares her anxiety about summer being a trigger to drink. We start by acknowledging that feeling anxious about seasonal changes is normal and discusses strategies for managing these feelings. Sonia emphasizes the importance of recognizing triggers and preparing mentally, akin to packing sunscreen to protect your skin, to maintain sobriety during challenging situations. Proactive Planning for Social Events Sonia shares practical tips for planning ahead when attending social gatherings. Suggestions include: Bringing a tasty non-alcoholic drink or a sober-friendly friend to help navigate through drinking pressures. Setting personal boundaries and declining invitations that might jeopardize your recovery. Establishing a support plan with your sober circle to stay strong during tougher times. Setting Boundaries Understanding when to say no and how to communicate your needs is crucial. The episode covers how to set boundaries effectively: Being honest with yourself and others about your limits. Offering alternatives to typical alcohol-centered activities. Preparing responses for uncomfortable situations to ease pressure. Establishing New Traditions Sonia encourages listeners to create new, sober-friendly traditions that focus on connection and fun without alcohol. Some ideas include: Morning hikes, sober picnics, group workouts, craft nights, and exploring new recipes. Hosting game or movie nights where the focus remains on fun, not drinks. Keeping Non-Alcoholic Options Handy The importance of having non-alcoholic beverages available is discussed, with suggestions on how to incorporate them into various social settings effectively. Feeling nervous about seasonal changes is normal but manageable with the right tools and support. She encourages all listeners to embrace the summer with confidence, knowing they are equipped to enjoy it sober and strong. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen take a deep dive into the world of self-soothing and its crucial role in maintaining sobriety. Self-soothing isn't just about keeping calm; it's a vital skill for balancing emotions and preventing relapse, which can be a tricky path to navigate. Join them as they unpack strategies and personal stories, providing you with tools and insights to bolster your recovery journey. Throughout the episode, Sonia and Kathleen will explore essential questions that touch the core of self-soothing: What exactly does it mean to self-soothe? Why is it so important, especially during recovery? How can you transition from harmful old habits to beneficial new routines that genuinely support your well-being? They'll also tackle the nitty-gritty challenges many face, like finding the focus to meditate amidst chaos or discovering hobbies that genuinely soothe rather than inadvertently stress you out. Listeners can look forward to gaining a richer understanding of emotional regulation, the transformative power of mindfulness, and how to craft a personalized toolkit of strategies for tough times. Whether you’re just starting your sober journey or you’re a seasoned veteran, this discussion is packed with insights on fostering resilience and emotional autonomy. Join us at "Sisters in Sobriety," where we mix honest talks with hearty laughter, all while supporting each other in redefining our relationship with alcohol. Don’t forget to check out our substack for a treasure trove of supportive advice and to connect with a community that roots for you every step of the way. Come for the strategies, stay for the stories, and leave feeling empowered! Highlights: 03:19 - Discussion of common pitfalls when trying to meditate and how social media can be a distraction. 00:03:44 - Sonia and Kathleen address significant questions on beginning the self-soothing process. 00:04:12 - Kathleen describes various self-soothing techniques and emphasizes the importance of finding what uniquely works for each individual. 00:05:31 - Sonia relates self-soothing to the concept of infants learning to calm themselves, drawing parallels to adults in recovery. 00:06:09 - Exploration of how self-soothing helps manage triggers and stressors without resorting to alcohol. 00:07:00 - Sonia explains the emotional, mental, and physical aspects of self-soothing. 00:08:11 - Sonia shares a personal story about recognizing the need for self-soothing in challenging moments. 00:10:05 - Discussion on the transformation from using substances as self-soothing to finding healthier alternatives. 00:14:06 - The hosts delve into how the journey of self-soothing began with their sobriety. 00:15:00 - Sonia shares insights into the early difficult days of sobriety and finding things that calmed her mind. 00:17:20 - Kathleen discusses misconceptions about self-soothing and emphasizes its immediate and practical benefits. 00:18:35 - Kathleen explains the RAIN technique for emotional awareness and self-soothing. 00:20:36 - Discussion of specific triggers for self-soothing and personal responses to emotional challenges. 00:22:31 - Advice on recognizing the need for self-soothing and developing mindful awareness throughout daily activities. 00:25:20 - Kathleen clarifies that successful self-soothing is about managing, not suppressing, emotions. 00:28:01 - Sonia shares how self-soothing techniques helped prevent potential relapses during her divorce. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today's episode, Sonia and Kathleen delve into the vital topic of protecting your peace. As life throws its many challenges at us, finding and maintaining inner tranquility is more crucial than ever, especially when it comes to sustaining sobriety and mental health. Join them as they explore strategies to safeguard your emotional and mental balance, ensuring you stay strong and serene no matter what life brings your way! Ever wonder how to keep your cool when life gets tricky? Or how to say 'no' without feeling guilty? Sonia and Kathleen have got you covered! They’ll be unpacking how to set boundaries that stick, ways to dodge life’s curveballs, and the secrets to building your personal calm zone. It's all about finding peace in the chaos and making sure it stays that way. Today’s takeaway is all about real-life strategies: learning how to recognize when you’re stressed before it’s too late, setting up your personal boundaries like a pro, and mastering the art of 'me time.' By the end of the episode, you’ll have a toolkit full of ideas for maintaining your emotional balance that you can start using right away. And because everyone loves a good story, Sonia and Kathleen will share their own experiences with keeping peace at the forefront. They'll tell tales of personal trials and triumphs, bringing to life the strategies discussed and showing that if they can do it, so can you! This is Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to community for transforming your relationship with alcohol. Don't forget to check out our substack for more handy tips and heartfelt advice. Highlights [00:02:01] Explanation of what "protecting your peace" means in the context of maintaining emotional and mental balance. [00:02:19] Kathleen talks about the importance of setting boundaries for peace protection. [00:03:01] Kathleen explains protecting peace in simple terms and how to filter experiences. [00:04:24] Sonia relates protecting peace to both physical environment and emotional stability. [00:05:14] Kathleen shares a personal anecdote about changing job environments to protect her mental health. [00:06:07] Sonia and Kathleen discuss the role of self-awareness in avoiding emotional spirals. [00:07:51] A detailed account of how Sonia has learned to handle family disagreements without spiraling. [00:10:30] Sonia and Kathleen delve into how gossip can affect personal peace and discuss strategies to avoid it. [00:12:44] Celebration of Sonia's seventh sobriety anniversary and its emotional significance. [00:14:26] Sonia recounts a poignant memory tied to a breakup and how seasonal changes can trigger emotional responses. [00:16:30] Discussion on the impact of social media on emotional well-being and how to manage exposure. [00:19:00] Sonia talks about the physical symptoms she experiences when her peace is disturbed, particularly by family dynamics. [00:20:21] First-time disagreement story shared by Sonia, focusing on maintaining peace during confrontations. [00:22:10] Kathleen emphasizes that healthy conflict is possible and shares insights from her professional experience as a couples therapist. [00:23:27] The complexities of family relationships and how they challenge personal peace discussed by Kathleen. [00:25:13] Kathleen explains her need to step back from family drama to protect her peace, ensuring it wasn't perceived as abandonment. [00:27:31] Strategies for managing unexpected changes and maintaining stability during uncertain times. [00:33:13] Sonia and Kathleen discuss essential self-care practices and rituals that help maintain their peace. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia delve into the critical connection between anger management and recovery. They are joined by Gill Tietz, an educator, who sheds light on how anger can act as a major hurdle on the path to recovery, its origins, and the practical steps to navigate it. This discussion promises to enlighten listeners on dealing with anger in healthy ways, especially within the context of overcoming addiction. The episode is an insightful discussion on the prevalence of anger among individuals struggling with addiction, exploring why anger is often a secondary emotion masking deeper issues such as shame, pain, or humiliation. Gill emphasizes the importance of recognizing anger's roots and provides practical advice for managing it effectively. Listeners will be intrigued by the exploration of questions like how prevalent is anger in those dealing with addiction, in what forms does it manifest, and why is it considered a significant trigger for relapse? Listeners can expect to walk away with valuable knowledge on identifying and managing anger, understanding its impact on recovery, and learning coping strategies to navigate through the emotions underlying anger. The conversation will cover key concepts such as the importance of acknowledging anger as a secondary emotion, the role of empathy and humor in anger management, and the crucial steps towards recognizing and managing one's anger in the journey of recovery. The discussion also highlights the significance of self-esteem work in addressing the root causes of anger. Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast and a chemistry professor with a specialization in biochemistry, brings her personal experience and scientific expertise to the table. Having started her podcast to share how she overcame her struggle with alcohol using her scientific background, Gill offers a perspective that is educational, empowering, and deeply personal.  This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources to aid in your journey. Get In Touch With Gill! Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered Highlights [00:02:42] Gill explains anger as a secondary emotion, hinting at deeper, more uncomfortable feelings that lead to anger. [00:04:03] The conversation touches on the ironic behavior of 'drinking at people' as a misguided attempt to manage anger. [00:04:48] The first steps towards recognizing and managing anger in recovery are outlined by Gill, emphasizing awareness and coping skills. [00:07:26] Gill shares unique anger management techniques, including the use of humor to diffuse anger. [00:10:16] A shift in demeanor, from tension to calmness, is highlighted as a visible sign of progress in managing anger. [00:13:32] The role of family and friends in supporting loved ones through their anger is discussed, with validation and humor being key. [00:15:38] The episode delves into how anger can act as a barrier to seeking help and acknowledging addiction issues. [00:18:29] Forgiveness's place in managing anger and facilitating recovery is pondered, emphasizing the difficulty but necessity of the process. [00:20:35] Gill defines crisis intervention within the context of addiction recovery, painting a vivid picture of the aim and process. [00:23:24] Real-life applications of crisis intervention strategies are shared, illustrating the importance of staying calm and regulated. [00:26:47] A family's intervention experience is recounted, showcasing the power of calmness and brevity in communication. [00:31:04] Triggers that might precipitate a crisis needing intervention are explored, with unmet basic needs being a common theme. [00:34:06] Gill teases potential projects, including refining her anger management program and the idea of writing a book. [00:36:15] How to sign up for Gill’s upcoming anger management course is shared, pointing listeners to useful resources. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen get into the intricacies of sobriety with the insightful Gillian Tietz from the Sober Powered Podcast. This conversation sheds light on the nuanced relationship between biochemistry, personal experiences, and alcohol use disorder, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding and relatable perspectives on sobriety. The episode teases out broad discussions on prevalent myths surrounding willpower in addiction, the significant roles of anger management and crisis intervention in recovery, and the biochemical effects of alcohol on the brain. These topics promise to unravel misconceptions and offer new insights into the journey toward sobriety. Listeners can expect to walk away with key educational takeaways on how alcohol affects the brain, contributing to the challenge of quitting drinking. With Gill's background in biochemistry and her own journey to sobriety, she brings a unique blend of expertise and personal insight, making complex scientific concepts accessible to all. The discussion aims to empower listeners with knowledge on the underlying causes of addiction and the brain's ability to recover, highlighting the importance of support and community in the path to sobriety. Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast and a chemistry professor with a specialization in biochemistry, brings her personal experience and scientific expertise to the table. Having started her podcast to share how she overcame her struggle with alcohol using her scientific background, Gill offers a perspective that is educational, empowering, and deeply personal.  This is "Sisters in Sobriety," the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources to aid in your journey. Get In Touch With Gill! Podcast: https://www.soberpowered.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered Highlights [00:02:16] Gill's mission to demystify alcohol's effects on the brain explained. [00:03:33] Gill shares her personal journey to sobriety, highlighting her late start to drinking. [00:04:56] The role of grad school in intensifying Gill's drinking habits. [00:07:57] Discussion on the early consequences of Gill's drinking and her initial denial. [00:09:00] Sonia and Kathleen relate their experiences with alcohol in academic and professional settings. [00:10:09] Gill confronts the reality of her increasing tolerance and its implications. [00:11:34] Examination of willpower in the context of addiction and the myths surrounding it. [00:14:32] Exploring the vulnerabilities and factors that predispose individuals to addiction. [00:17:00] How drinking affects brain adaptability and decision-making processes. [00:19:11] Gill discusses the critical phase of brain development in teens and its susceptibility to alcohol. [00:20:26] Long-term effects of alcohol on brain function and recovery challenges. [00:23:58] The importance of time and lifestyle changes in recalibrating the brain's reward system. [00:25:14] Discussion on activities that may aid in the brain's healing process. [00:28:41] Clarification on the concept of cycles of detox and its impact on addiction recovery. [00:32:35] Gill's stance on moderation versus abstinence for people with a history of problem drinking. [00:34:36] Comparison of the brain's response to drugs and alcohol, and the similarities in addiction mechanisms. [00:35:23] The concept of behavioral addictions and the challenges they pose in recovery. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to another Q&A episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," where your host, Sonia, delves into the complex emotions and questions surrounding the journey to sobriety. Today's focus is on a common concern among individuals in recovery: the fear of replacing one addiction with another, such as substituting alcohol with excessive running, Netflix binge-watching, or indulging in ice cream. Insights: Healthy vs. Unhealthy Activities: It's essential to evaluate new activities based on their impact on your life. Are they adding value, or are they becoming a new form of avoidance or compulsion? Evaluating New Habits: Sonia provides actionable steps for assessing whether a new activity, like running, is beneficial or potentially problematic. Key considerations include examining your motivations, assessing the activity's impact on your life, ensuring balance, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking support when needed. The Power of Choice and Change: The episode challenges the notion of "once an addict, always an addict," highlighting the importance of recognizing the human capacity for growth, change, and adaptation. Healthy coping mechanisms, when integrated mindfully, promote well-being and recovery. This episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" offers a compassionate and thoughtful exploration of how individuals in recovery can navigate the process of replacing old habits with new, healthier ones. By emphasizing the importance of understanding one's motivations, seeking balance, and embracing a holistic approach to recovery, Sonia provides valuable guidance for anyone looking to build a more fulfilling and sober life. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen dive into the world of friendships through the lens of sobriety. They tackle how navigating sobriety not only changes us but also shines a light on our friendships, encouraging us to think deeply about who we choose to spend our time with. This episode is all about finding the joy in discovering and nurturing relationships that truly reflect our sober selves. Get ready to explore the highs and lows of friendship in sobriety, from the tough goodbyes to the joy of making new connections that really get it. Sonia and Kathleen will touch on important questions like how sobriety can reshape our friendships, what it means for our social lives, and how to create a circle that supports our sober journey. Listeners will learn about the key ingredients of friendships that flourish in sobriety, including tips on how to spot the ones worth holding onto, setting healthy boundaries, and how to make new friends who share your love for a sober lifestyle. This episode is packed with advice for anyone looking to enrich their social life in a way that aligns with their sobriety. You won’t want to miss Sonia and Kathleen share their own friendship adventures in sobriety. Their stories showcase the beautiful, sometimes messy journey of building deep, meaningful connections in sobriety. Join us at Sisters in Sobriety, your go-to spot for making sobriety feel like the ultimate friendship adventure. Don't forget to swing by our substack for all the best sobriety tips, tricks, and tales. We’re all about helping you find your tribe and keep your sobriety journey fun and fulfilling. Highlights: [00:01:59] The conversation shifts to how sobriety transforms friendships and the need to reevaluate relationships. [00:02:17] Kathleen emphasizes the journey of peeling back layers of oneself in recovery and its impact on friendships. [00:03:18] The hosts discuss the importance of understanding how sobriety reshapes personal connections. [00:04:08] Sonia delves into how sobriety can deepen some friendships while leading to the end of others. [00:05:08] A discussion on the isolation and loneliness that can accompany sobriety, and how to navigate these feelings. [00:06:19] Kathleen shares her personal story of how her friendships changed dramatically after she stopped drinking and using drugs. [00:07:28] Sonia talks about her initial isolation in sobriety and how she gradually built a new social circle. [00:09:49] The hosts explore normal feelings about changing friendships post-sobriety and how to deal with them. [00:11:18] Kathleen gives advice on how to discuss sobriety with friends who still drink. [00:12:56] Sonia reflects on the importance of finding a sober community to combat feelings of isolation. [00:14:12] A candid conversation about when and how to let go of friendships that challenge sobriety. [00:16:19] Discussion on recognizing signs that a friendship may not be conducive to recovery. [00:17:29] The impact of social media on sobriety and friendships, exploring both the positive aspects and potential triggers. [00:19:09] How to approach a friend you believe may have a drinking problem. [00:21:07] Kathleen recounts how her social circle and partying habits changed after she became sober. [00:23:36] Sonia provides tips on building new, healthy friendships in recovery. [00:25:20] The significance of having sober friends and the positive impact they can have on one’s recovery journey. [00:27:15] A discussion on navigating social situations and gatherings as a sober individual. [00:30:34] Closing thoughts on how sobriety can improve the quality and depth of friendships, even with those who aren't in recovery. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Sonia and Kathleen on a lively journey into the world of breaking free from the cycles of alcohol use in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, by shining a light on the patterns that can ensnare us and offering hope for breaking free. The episode poses crucial questions that resonate with many: What are the cycles of drinking that keep us trapped in a loop of consumption and abstinence? How can we identify and confront our triggers to break free from these patterns? And crucially, what steps can we take towards lasting change, moving beyond mere recognition of the problem to actively reshaping our relationship with alcohol?  Join us as we explore the power of mindfulness, habit change, and the support of community in reclaiming our lives from the grip of alcohol. They're here to chat, share, and dive deep into how we can spot those sneaky habits that keep us in a loop and how to jump off that not-so-merry-go-round for good.  Listeners will leave this episode armed with key insights into cycle breaking, trigger identification, and the development of healthy coping mechanisms. The episode demystifies the process of changing ingrained behaviors, offering practical advice on creating a supportive environment for recovery. Through an understanding of habit loops and the importance of small, consistent changes, the episode illuminates the path toward a life unburdened by alcohol. In this episode is Sonia’s personal story, a raw and real look at the journey through the lens of someone who’s walked the path.  Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety, where we're all about making changes, finding joy, and supporting each other in the journey away from alcohol. Don’t forget to swing by our substack for more tips, stories, and a little extra sunshine for your day. See you there! Highlights: [00:01:44] - Discussion on the importance of recognizing and confronting unhealthy patterns of drinking. [00:02:12] - The concept of mindfulness in confronting triggers and making lasting habit changes is introduced. [00:03:10] - Kathleen explains the cycle of drinking: from initial overuse to attempts at moderation, and the frustrating return to old habits. [00:04:30] - Sonia dives into what "cycle breaking" means and the steps involved in actively changing one's relationship with alcohol. [00:07:29] - Sonia shares her personal story of daily cycles of anxiety, drinking, and the temporary relief it brought, highlighting the challenges of breaking free. [00:10:11] - Strategies for becoming more mindful of alcohol consumption, including the importance of tracking drinking habits. [00:13:40] - Kathleen shares techniques for managing cravings and urges to drink through distraction and delay tactics. [00:17:08] - Sonia reflects on the process of acknowledging triggers and the role of honest self-reflection in cycle breaking. [00:20:08] - Discussion on the significance of understanding the root causes of one’s drinking patterns and whether delving into the past is essential for recovery. [00:23:25] - The therapeutic journey of connecting past experiences to current behaviors and how therapy can aid in uncovering and addressing these connections. [00:27:57] - Kathleen recounts how her triggers and cycles evolved over time, illustrating the complexity of addiction. [00:31:29] - Sonia discusses the importance of not panicking in response to emotional triggers as a step towards breaking the cycle. [00:33:32] - The role of routine and structure in supporting recovery efforts, including the concept of habit stacking, is explored. [00:37:54] - The importance of forgiveness, both of oneself and others, in the recovery journey and how it can impact cycle breaking. [00:38:11] - How to build and leverage a support system for breaking cycles, including the different forms that support can take. [00:40:13] - Sonia highlights the "delay and distract" technique as a memorable takeaway for managing cravings. [00:41:05] - Kathleen emphasizes the value of small, manageable steps in the process of changing habits and breaking cycles. [00:42:00] - Closing remarks, summarizing the episode's key messages and encouraging listeners to seek support and resources available through Sisters in Sobriety. [Throughout] - The episode is punctuated by relatable anecdotes, practical advice, and supportive dialogue that underscores the theme of community and mutual support in the journey to sobriety. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - ALL THE CONTENT YOU CRAVE! Find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to another Q&A episode where we delve into the complexities of relapse, or as some prefer, a return to use or a slip. Patricia shares her recent experience of drinking after a period of sobriety, grappling with feelings of guilt, shame, and disappointment. This moment opens a door to discussing the importance of acknowledging these emotions as part of many people's journeys, emphasizing the necessity of self-compassion and the avoidance of self-judgment.  Insights: Acknowledgment Without Judgment: We explore the significance of acknowledging a slip as a fact rather than a moral failing. This approach helps us heal and grow by observing our experiences without harsh self-criticism, much like observing clouds in the sky - they pass without defining the sky. Reflect, Learn, and Adapt: We delve into the importance of reflection to understand triggers and stressors that led to the slip. This insight acts as a roadmap for fortifying recovery strategies and making necessary adjustments to our plans, coping mechanisms, and environments. Reaffirming Your 'Why': Rediscovering the reasons behind choosing sobriety can reignite motivation. This segment emphasizes reconnecting with one's 'why' to refuel determination and remember the life one is striving to build. This episode underscores that recovery is a journey marked by moments of vulnerability, learning, and growth. Patricia's story and the insights shared illuminate the path forward, reminding us that we are not defined by our slips but by our resilience and the compassionate strides we take towards sobriety. In embracing this journey with empathy and support, we move closer to becoming the best versions of ourselves, together. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - ALL THE CONTENT YOU CRAVE! Find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode of Sisters in Sobriety, we're diving into the transformative journey of balancing nutrition and sobriety with our special guest, Dr. Brooke Scheller, a pioneer in the field of clinical nutrition with a focus on sobriety. Sonia and Kathleen are here to guide you through an enlightening discussion on how to harness the power of functional foods to not only manage alcohol consumption but to thrive in your recovery journey. Throughout the episode, we'll be exploring pivotal questions: How can nutrition profoundly impact your sobriety? What are the myths surrounding alcohol consumption and health? And how can the intentional inclusion of functional foods in our diet support not just our physical well-being, but our emotional and psychological recovery as well? These questions will uncover the interconnectedness of diet, health, and sobriety, shedding light on common misconceptions and empowering you with knowledge. This conversation is not just about abstaining from alcohol; it's about nurturing the body and mind to foster a resilient, sustainable sober lifestyle. Listeners will walk away with a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the effects of alcohol on nutrient absorption, the importance of a balanced diet in managing cravings, and the role of specific functional foods in enhancing overall well-being. This educational journey is designed to inspire and inform, helping you make informed decisions about your health and recovery. Dr. Scheller shares her personal story, providing a candid look at her own challenges and triumphs in the realm of nutrition and sobriety. This intimate narrative promises to resonate with many, offering hope and practical strategies for those navigating their own paths to wellness. *Dr. Brooke Scheller, Doctor of Clinical Nutrition, stands at the forefront of a transformative movement in health and wellness. As the esteemed founder of Functional Sobriety and the author of "How to Eat to Change How You Drink," Dr. Scheller has dedicated her career to revolutionizing the approach to alcohol recovery and holistic well-being. This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources. Highlights: [00:02:06] Dr. Scheller's unique approach to combining nutrition with sobriety efforts is outlined, highlighting the importance of diet in managing alcohol consumption. [00:02:49] Brooke shares her personal motivation for writing her book and diving deep into the relationship between eating habits and drinking behavior. [00:03:30] Discussion on the struggle with alcohol and the realization of its impact on mental health and professional integrity. [00:04:16] Brooke's journey from research on substance use disorders to personal sobriety, highlighting the role of nutrition and supplements. [00:06:32] Exploration of high-functioning alcoholism and the difficult decision to quit drinking, shedding light on the complex dynamics of success and substance dependence. [00:10:19] Debunking common misconceptions about alcohol's impact on health, emphasizing the widespread physiological effects beyond liver damage. [00:14:03] Discussion on persistent myths about alcohol, including the misleading belief in moderate drinking benefits for health. [00:16:38] Challenging the notion of "everything in moderation," especially in the context of alcohol consumption and its universal harm. [00:20:44] Insights into the various types and effects of alcohol, debunking the myth of "healthier" alcoholic beverages. [00:22:17] The connection between alcohol consumption and nutrient depletion, and its profound effects on the body's functions. [00:25:27] The psychological and physiological repercussions of using alcohol as a stress relief tool, emphasizing its counterproductive nature. [00:29:23] Highlighting the statistic that 95% of alcoholics may suffer from low blood sugar, exploring its implications for cravings and recovery. [00:32:54] The critical role of the gut microbiome in overall health and how alcohol adversely affects it, underlining the need for dietary intervention in sobriety. [00:37:49] Introduction of the concept of "functional foods" and their significance in supporting sobriety and physical well-being. [00:41:18] Explanation of drinking archetypes (social, stress, habitual drinkers) to help listeners identify their patterns and find tailored nutrition advice. [00:45:29] How functional foods directly influence mood, decision-making, and, by extension, alcohol consumption habits. [00:48:19] Brooke offers practical tips for integrating functional foods into one's diet without feeling overwhelmed, advocating for incremental changes. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - ALL THE CONTENT YOU CRAVE! 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This episode, delves into the innovative realm of medically assisted treatment for alcohol use disorder with guest, Jonathan Hunt Glassman, the visionary behind OAR Health. This episode promises to enlighten listeners about the scientific and personal dimensions of recovery, offering a new perspective on the role of medication in the path to sobriety. The conversation aims to address common curiosities surrounding recovery options beyond traditional methods. It explores naltrexone, a medication used in treating alcohol use disorder, examining its place within a holistic approach to recovery. The episode poses critical questions about integrating medically assisted treatment with therapy and lifestyle changes, underscoring the importance of personalized recovery plans. Listeners can expect to gain valuable insights into combining naltrexone with psychotherapy and other support mechanisms to create a comprehensive treatment strategy. The episode highlights the significance of tailoring recovery efforts to fit individual needs and preferences, emphasizing the diversity of effective recovery paths. Featuring compelling narratives of individuals who have experienced significant transformations through medically assisted treatment, the episode showcases the profound impact of incorporating medication into the recovery process. These stories not only provide educational value but also offer inspiration, demonstrating the multifaceted nature of recovery and the potential for renewal and change. *Jonathan Hunt-Glassman is the CEO of Oar Health, which makes it private and convenient for people who want to drink less or quit to get access to safe, effective medication proven to help. Jonathan founded Oar to help others get access to the same medication that helped him take back control over alcohol after struggling with alcohol misuse for most of his adult life.  Sisters in Sobriety serves as a supportive community for women seeking to alter their relationship with alcohol. The podcast encourages its audience to visit their substack for additional resources, tips, and stories that foster hope and encouragement on the journey toward sobriety. Highlights: [00:02:37] - Introduction of Jonathan Hunt Glassman, founder of OAR, and discussion on naltrexone. [00:03:09] - Exploring the impact of naltrexone on redefining recovery pathways. [00:03:28] - Jonathan shares his personal journey and the inspiration behind starting OAR. [00:04:59] - Discussion on the historical approach to treating alcohol dependence and the evolution towards medication-assisted treatments. [00:07:42] - The shift in understanding addiction as a chronic brain disease and its treatment implications. [00:10:14] - Exploring the diversity of recovery goals beyond abstinence. [00:11:53] - Detailed explanation of how naltrexone works and its benefits. [00:14:21] - Addressing the under-prescription of naltrexone and exploring reasons behind it. [00:17:18] - Introduction to the Sinclair Method and its application in ORR's treatment plans. [00:19:33] - A typical initial treatment plan at ORR, combining naltrexone with psychosocial support. [00:22:25] - The ongoing support and resources provided by OAR post-initial treatment. [00:24:28] - Addressing common side effects of naltrexone and how to manage them. [00:26:16] - Jonathan's approach to defining and managing relapse or return to use among patients. [00:30:13] - Strategies for addressing the stigma and public perception challenges of medically assisted treatment. [00:32:12] - Advice for individuals hesitant about changing their relationship with alcohol. [00:34:25] - The synergy between naltrexone and psychotherapy or holistic approaches in treatment. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - ALL THE CONTENT YOU CRAVE! Find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Q&A session, we'll talk about reconciling past behaviors influenced by alcohol, and the path to healing without shame or guilt. We'll discuss the importance of moving forward, offering heartfelt advice on apologizing, rebuilding trust, and self-kindness throughout recovery. Topics discussed are: Understanding Apologies in Recovery: Learn how to apologize for past mistakes while respecting your sobriety journey. We explore how sincerity, accountability, and acknowledging the impact of your actions can pave the way for meaningful amends.  Rebuilding Trust: Hear inspiring stories from individuals who have successfully rebuilt trust in their relationships post-sobriety. From Alex's commitment to open communication and therapy to Anne's heartfelt letters and engagement in family activities, these stories highlight the power of consistent behavior change and transparency in mending relationships. Managing Guilt and Shame: Discover effective techniques for dealing with guilt over past actions. The episode covers the importance of apologies, self-forgiveness, mindfulness,  and engaging in peer support to navigate these challenging emotions Thank you for joining another episode of "Sisters in Sobriety." Remember, you're not alone on this journey. The path to recovery is paved with challenges, but with the right support and dedication to healing, it's possible to rebuild trust, manage guilt, and move forward with integrity and kindness. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen are joined by Samantha Barnes, a Registered Psychotherapist with over two decades of experience. Samantha brings an invaluable perspective on guiding families through the tribulations of addiction. Their conversation illuminates the profound effects of addiction on family dynamics, highlighting the pathways to recovery and the indispensable role of communication and support. Samantha shares insights into how addiction reshapes relationships within the family, especially impacting children, and offers strategies for families to navigate these challenging times. The discussion reveals how addiction influences children’s roles within the family, fostering environments of secrecy and instability, which can significantly affect their self-esteem and ability to form healthy relationships. Listeners will discover the critical importance of self-care in recovery, learning that taking care of oneself is not an act of selfishness but a foundation for being able to support others. Samantha stresses the significance of supportive environments and provides practical advice for building strong family connections despite the hurdles posed by addiction. Key concepts include viewing addiction as a disease, the necessity of honest conversations about addiction with children, and expanding the definition of self-care to include reaching out for support and prioritizing one’s well-being. The episode also addresses the complexities surrounding "mommy wine culture," challenging the normalization of alcohol use as a coping mechanism for parenting stress. Samantha emphasizes the need for redefining self-care and seeking genuine support systems that respect individual needs in the journey toward sobriety. Furthermore, they delve into the importance of having open, age-appropriate conversations about alcohol and drug use with children and teenagers, highlighting the value of early discussions to foster a safe and understanding family environment. Samantha’s advice underscores the significance of creating a non-judgmental space where family members can express their emotions and struggles freely. Join them for an enlightening episode filled with empathy, guidance, and a deep dive into the challenges and triumphs of overcoming addiction within the family. Don’t forget to check out our substack for additional resources, tips, and support on your journey to change your relationship with alcohol. *Samantha Barnes is a Registered Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor with over two decades of experience working with children, youth, and families on their wellness journeys. She leads a small group practice based in Barrie, Ontario, dedicated to supporting both local families and those across Ontario through virtual services. Her practice offers individual, couples, and family counseling, in addition to hosting a variety of workshops and events tailored for children and parents. To learn more about her work or to get in touch, visit her website at www.sweetspotcounselling.com or follow her on social media at @sweetspotcounselling. Highlights: [00:02:36] Discussion on addiction's impact on family dynamics begins. [00:04:34] Samantha explains the ripple effect of changing a family dynamic. [00:06:00] Insights into the specific effects of addiction on children. [00:07:28] Sonia addresses the misconception about "functional" alcoholism. [00:08:21] Challenges kids face in forming healthy relationships. [00:10:34] The impact of addiction on children's self-esteem. [00:14:16] Exploring the nuances of sobriety and parenting responsibilities. [00:18:07] Importance of self-care in the journey of sobriety. [00:22:35] Recommendations for managing stress and triggers. [00:26:19] Advice on building supportive environments for sobriety. [00:27:17] Discussing how to talk to children about addiction and recovery. [00:33:41] Importance of open conversation about drugs and alcohol with teenagers. [00:37:14] Explaining addiction as a disease to children. [00:40:37] Discussion on the "mommy wine culture." [00:44:23] Finding new activities and communities in sobriety. [00:46:13] Final advice from Samantha on not giving up in finding supportive spaces. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - ALL THE CONTENT YOU CRAVE! Find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this insightful Q&A episode, we delve into a commonly asked question regarding the desire to cultivate a more mindful relationship with alcohol without fully committing to sobriety. We understand that the journey towards altering one's drinking habits is deeply personal and not a one-size-fits-all. This episode is especially tailored for individuals identifying as "gray area drinkers" who are looking to redefine their relationship with alcohol through moderation rather than abstinence. We explore what it means to be mindful about alcohol consumption and how it differs from total abstinence, addressing the significant, often overlooked segment of our community seeking moderation. We offer actionable tips and strategies to help you navigate moderation. This episode is a must-listen for anyone contemplating moderation or seeking to maintain a mindful relationship with alcohol. Whether you're taking your first steps towards moderation or looking for ways to sustain it, you'll find valuable insights and support in our community's shared experiences and strategies. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen delve into the pivotal role of celebrating sobriety milestones, emphasizing how each milestone, whether it's the first day sober or decades of sobriety, symbolizes a significant victory in the journey of recovery. They explore the varied meanings of sobriety milestones, how these commemorations serve as markers of personal growth, healing, and self-discovery, and the impact of milestones on mental health and overall well-being. Listeners will gain insight into the importance of recognizing and honoring their own milestones, understanding that these are not merely about the absence of alcohol but are reflective of the hard work, resilience, and transformation experienced along the way. Sonia and Kathleen also share their personal stories, highlighting how milestones have shaped their own sobriety journeys, offering listeners a blend of practical advice, encouragement, and inspiration. Expect to walk away with a new appreciation for your journey and practical tips for celebrating your own milestones. They remind us that sobriety isn't just a series of dates but a deeply personal journey filled with growth, learning, and plenty of memorable moments."Sisters in Sobriety" invites its audience to reflect on their own milestones and the profound journey of sobriety. Join them on their Substack for additional resources, tips, and stories that support women in changing their relationship with alcohol. Highlights: [00:02:27] Discussion on the essence of sobriety being more about personal growth than just abstaining from alcohol. [00:03:32] Sonia explains the importance of celebrating sobriety milestones as acknowledgments of progress and healing. [00:04:07] Kathleen adds the psychological benefits of recognizing sobriety milestones, emphasizing their positive impact on mental health. [00:05:28] Variability in the significance of sobriety milestones among different individuals is explored. [00:06:32] Kathleen discusses personal milestones beyond conventional dates, focusing on life seasons and personal development. [00:07:26] Personal significance of sobriety milestones and their impact on Kathleen's journey. [00:08:14] Sonia shares her unique approach to sobriety and divorce milestones, highlighting personal growth. [00:09:13] The initial challenges and fears associated with early sobriety milestones. [00:10:37] Sonia's recount of her first major milestones in sobriety and their personal significance. [00:12:34] Creative ways to celebrate sobriety milestones that resonate with individual journeys. [00:14:18] Addressing the challenges of feeling unworthy of celebration during difficult times in recovery. [00:15:47] The role of sharing sobriety milestones in building community and inspiring others. [00:16:53] Kathleen shares her preference for non-tangible milestones and reflects on significant life changes. [00:19:05] Discussion on setting personal goals within the context of sobriety and recovery. [00:21:31] Sonia talks about non-traditional milestones that are personally significant in recovery. [00:22:33] The importance of gratitude in celebrating sobriety milestones and its overall role in a fulfilling life. [00:23:34] Sonia reflects on how her perspective on celebrating milestones has evolved with her sobriety journey. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - ALL THE CONTENT YOU CRAVE! Find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special Q&A episode, we tackle the pivotal question: "Now what?" After laying the foundation for a sober life, many find themselves searching for what comes next. We delve into practical strategies for breathing new life into the sobriety journey. Our host shares actionable advice on overcoming the feeling of stagnation by discovering new hobbies and interests that align with a sober lifestyle. We explore how to create fulfilling routines, the benefits of engaging with supportive communities, and the joy of rediscovering old passions through a fresh perspective. This episode serves as a roadmap for anyone looking to enrich their recovery with meaningful activities and connections, encouraging listeners to embrace the possibilities that sobriety offers. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special Q&A episode, we delve into strategies for handling urges to drink during high-stress periods, categorizing approaches into immediate, need-help-now tactics and long-term, resilience-building strategies. We’ll highlight creating a personalized emergency plan with activities, support contacts, mindfulness and grounding exercises, physical activities, creative engagement, comfort kits, and self-reminders of sobriety's benefits. Additionally, we’ll discuss establishing healthy routines, identifying triggers, practicing self-compassion, and seeking professional help as part of long-term recovery support. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, join Sonia and Kathleen as they discuss the intersection of art and sobriety. Discover how creativity becomes a sanctuary, offering solace and self-expression to those navigating the complexities of recovery. With their warm and insightful guidance, they'll show you how art can transform the recovery experience, making it more vibrant and fulfilling. Dive deep into the heart of this episode as we explore pivotal questions: How can art aid in healing and recovery? What makes creative expression a powerful tool for emotional and psychological well-being? How do individuals find their unique artistic voice in their sobriety journey? Sonia and Kathleen tease out these inquiries, shedding light on the profound impact creativity has on the path to wellness. Listeners will walk away with valuable insights into key concepts such as the therapeutic benefits of engaging in art, the role of creative activities in developing resilience and coping strategies, and how art therapy can be integrated into recovery programs. This episode is rich with educational takeaways, emphasizing the accessibility of art as a healing tool, regardless of one’s artistic skill level. The personal story segment is a highlight, featuring Sonia’s own journey with art as a pivotal element of her recovery. Listeners will find inspiration and perhaps see reflections of their own experiences. T This is Sisters in Sobriety, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Check out our substack for extra tips, tricks, and resources, where we continue the conversation, offering more depth, encouragement, and companionship on your journey to a healthier relationship with alcohol through the power of creativity and shared experiences. Highlights: [00:03:32] Kathleen's insights on how art intersects with sobriety. [00:05:17] Sonia's perspective on art as a medium for emotional expression. [00:07:19] Personal impact of art on Sonia's recovery journey discussed. [00:08:28] Kathleen shares her own creative outlets and their therapeutic effects. [00:10:04] Sonia shares her realization of the newfound time and possibilities post-sobriety. [00:12:14] Exploration of various artistic pursuits Sonia engaged in during her recovery. [00:13:24] Encouragement for listeners to find their artistic pursuits. [00:14:50] Discussion on the importance of exploring creativity regardless of skill level. [00:18:15] Sonia delves into her personal evolution through photography and writing. [00:20:33] Kathleen talks about the psychological and emotional benefits of creative activities. [00:23:34] Explanation of formal art therapy sessions and their benefits. [00:25:49] How art and creativity foster a sense of community in recovery. [00:27:02] Reflecting on the episode's takeaways about creativity and brain chemistry. [00:21:40] Discussion on art as a stress relief and mindfulness practice. [00:24:39] Sonia on finding new aspects of her identity through art during recovery. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today's episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen are diving into the world of work and sobriety, chatting about how our jobs and careers can play a big role in our journey towards a sober life. They're here to share laughs, stories, and tips on keeping your sobriety on track amidst deadlines and work functions. Get ready to ponder some juicy questions: Can our careers really affect our sobriety? How do you dodge the wine at work events? And what's the best way to deal with stress without reaching for a drink? Sonia and Kathleen have got some thoughts! You'll walk away with some handy advice on setting boundaries at work, finding supportive buddies in the office, and mastering the art of self-care to keep the stress (and the booze) at bay. Diving deeper into their personal stories, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own sobriety and work-life journeys, sharing the highs, lows, and all the moments in between. They discuss how their careers impacted their sobriety, from the pressures of work events filled with alcohol to the challenges of maintaining balance in high-stress environments. And...join us for our exciting MOCKTAIL SEGMENT, where we'll indulge in tasting and reviewing two delightful mocktails, offering a refreshing twist on your favorite beverages without the alcohol. This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your go-to place for making sobriety and work-life not just manageable, but enjoyable. Don't forget to check out our substack for more tips, guidance, and sobriety support! Highlights  [00:01:48] Discussion on work and sobriety as part of one's identity. [00:02:46] The challenge of balancing professional life with sobriety. [00:03:41] Work cultures that value partying as a challenge. [00:04:35] The empowerment found in navigating work stress soberly. [00:06:27] Kathleen shares her experience balancing professional life and sobriety. [00:07:39] Sonia discusses her stressors and triggers related to work and sobriety. [00:10:14] Sonia's story of selling her business and its impact on her sobriety. [00:11:32] Discussion on baseline mental health and workplace stress. [00:13:48] Sonia and Kathleen talk about workplace triggers and coping mechanisms. [00:17:38] Insight into Kathleen’s experience in corporate socializing and sobriety. [00:19:56] Managing professional relationships previously intertwined with alcohol. [00:22:18] Strategies for navigating work events where alcohol is present. [00:23:27] Disclosing a substance use disorder in the workplace. [00:27:28] Introduction to tasting mocktails segment. [00:28:50] Tasting and review of Gruvi Dry Secco. [00:31:06] Tasting and review of Gruvi Bubbly Rosé. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special Q&A episode, we delve into the complexities of maintaining sobriety while managing personal relationships. Through listener-submitted questions, Sonia offers insights into how sobriety can reshape dynamics, emphasizing the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, finding shared activities, and seeking external support. These practical tips aim to assist individuals and their partners in navigating the journey of sobriety together, fostering understanding and strengthening connections. This episode is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to balance their sobriety with healthy, supportive relationships. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This special Q&A episode of "Sisters in Sobriety" focuses on navigating social situations while maintaining sobriety. Sonia, answers listener questions about handling events like work happy hours and bachelorette parties without alcohol. Key advice includes mental preparation, having non-alcoholic drinks handy, setting time limits, having a support system, and practicing self-care. Sonia emphasizes the importance of staying true to one's recovery goals and celebrating personal victories in sobriety. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to an uplifting episode of "Sisters in Sobriety"! Your hosts, Sonia and Kathleen, are here to sprinkle some fun and wisdom into the discussion of sobriety and relationships. They're bringing their own brand of humor and heartfelt advice to help you navigate the world of love and friendship without alcohol. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is all about finding joy and connection in sober living. Today, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into some of the big questions that come up when alcohol is no longer the third wheel in your relationships. How does becoming sober change your dating life? What happens to friendships when you're the only one not drinking? They'll tackle these questions with a mix of personal stories and listener experiences, making sure to keep the conversation light-hearted yet insightful. Get ready to walk away with some tangible advice and a fresh perspective on sober socializing. Our hosts will share their top tips for navigating social gatherings alcohol-free, maintaining meaningful connections, and even enhancing relationships with honesty and vulnerability. It's all about embracing the positives that come with a sober lifestyle and how it can lead to deeper, more authentic relationships. In our personal story segment, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own journeys through sobriety and how it's impacted their romantic and platonic relationships. They'll share the laughs, the awkward moments, and the heartwarming realizations they've had along the way. It's a candid look at the ups and downs of navigating love and friendship while staying true to your sober self. This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your friendly neighborhood podcast for keeping life fun and fulfilling in sobriety. For more stories, laughs, and tips, be sure to check out our substack.  Highlights [1:19] Sonia shares her personal struggles with relationships and sobriety. [1:44] Discussion on how sobriety changes relationship dynamics. [2:20] Kathleen highlights the positive impacts of sobriety on relationships. [00:03:10] Kathleen, as a couple's therapist, discusses the significant impact of substance abuse on relationships. [00:04:11] Sonia reflects on the alignment of behavior with values in sober relationships. [00:05:10] Examination of how different types of drinkers impact their relationships. [00:06:08] Sonia's personal experience of alcohol's role in her early relationship. [00:07:17] Kathleen shares how her drug use affected her past relationships. [00:08:24] Discussion on how socializing changes post-sobriety. [00:09:33] Challenges of being in social situations where others are drinking. [00:10:47] Importance of communication in adjusting to a partner's sobriety. [00:11:38] Discussion on how sobriety impacts communication in conflicts. [00:12:42] Insights into how sobriety affects intimacy in relationships. [00:14:12] Exploring personal growth in sobriety within a relationship. [00:15:11] The role of self-awareness in understanding the impact of sobriety on relationships. [00:16:57] Sonia's experience with personal growth and sobriety during the pandemic. [00:18:29] How creative outlets like photography and writing helped Sonia in her sobriety journey. [00:19:45] Sonia's ex-partner's reaction to her sobriety and the end of their relationship. [00:20:31] Strategies for finding new sober-friendly activities as a couple. [00:21:19] Effective communication strategies for couples in sobriety. [00:23:31] Steps to rebuild trust in a relationship affected by addiction. [00:25:16] Coping with feelings of betrayal in a relationship with a recovering addict. [00:26:52] Preparing for and handling potential relapses in a partner's recovery. [00:29:51] Addressing challenges with intimacy and trust rebuilding in sober relationships. [31:03]: Supporting a partner through addiction and sobriety, and the potential for sobriety to bring partners closer. Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Get ready for a heart-to-heart on something we all think about but rarely chat about – our personal values! In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," your hosts Sonia and Kathleen are here to be your guides in a lively discussion. They'll help us uncover how our values can change and grow, especially through the ups and downs of sobriety. It's all about finding what truly matters to you and how it can light up your life in the most unexpected ways. So, what's on the table today? We're diving into all things values – those little nuggets that steer our lives. Ever wondered how our values shape who we are, especially when life throws us a curveball like sobriety? How do we even figure out what our true values are, and what happens when they clash with what others expect of us? Sonia and Kathleen are ready to tackle these big questions with a mix of humor and heart. In today's chat, you're not just listening; you're taking away some real gems to think about. We're breaking down how to spot your core values and why they're the secret sauce to making choices that really feel right. There's a little bit of soul-searching, a sprinkle of psychology, and a whole lot of real talk about how our values shift and grow, especially through the journey of recovery. Sonia opens up about her own rollercoaster ride – from chasing what she thought she should value to discovering what truly makes her heart sing. She recounts her journey from adopting externally imposed values, such as success and financial achievement, to discovering and embracing her true values during her sobriety journey.  It's a story many of us can relate to, full of twists, turns, and those lightbulb moments that change everything. Join Sisters in Sobriety on Substack for exclusive access to practical worksheets, insightful tips and tricks, and a supportive community 00:02:00 | Importance of listening to one's body and slowing down 00:03:00 | Taking steps to minimize stress and prioritize self-care 00:05:00 | Importance of defining personal values 00:06:00 | Definition of values as guiding principles 00:08:00 | Practical ways to define values through reflection and introspection 00:09:00 | Using a peak experience exercise to identify values 00:10:00 | Utilizing worksheets to explore and choose values 00:11:00 | Benefits of having defined values as a guiding force 00:12:00 | Personal values as a north star for decision making and life direction 00:12:41 | Freedom and courage as core values 00:13:18 | The changing meaning of courage 00:14:00 | James Baldwin quote: "Nothing can be changed until it is faced" 00:15:00 | Reflection on values before sobriety 00:16:00 | The emptiness of pursuing values without a why 00:17:00 | Struggling with values and feeling unfulfilled 00:18:00 | The shift in values after getting sober 00:19:00 | Embracing values that don't align with ourselves 00:20:00 | Reasons for adopting values from others 00:21:00 | The impact of cultural, societal, and familial values 00:22:00 | The value of money and its impact on self-worth 00:23:00 | Reflecting on past luxury vacations 00:24:00 | The importance of time and meaningful gestures 00:24:13 | Giving time vs. giving money 00:26:00 | Changing values in relationships 00:26:36 | Reflecting on past values 00:27:22 | How values affected relationships 00:28:00 | Sobriety as a catalyst for value shift 00:29:00 | Divorce as a reflection of values 00:30:00 | Aligning values with authentic self 00:31:00 | Techniques to define values 00:32:00 | Shifting values over time 00:33:00 | Reflecting on inherited values Links Sisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and community Sisters In Sobriety Email  Sonia's EverBlume Website Sonia’s EverBlume Instagram Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the importance of self-compassion in sobriety and everyday life. They explore the concept of self-compassion, its role in personal growth, and practical tips for implementing self-compassion practices. The conversation highlights the need to treat oneself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, and how self-compassion can lead to healthier relationships and boundaries. The episode emphasizes the power of self-compassion in overcoming setbacks and embracing one's humanity. In today's discussion, we tackle essential questions: How do we define self-compassion in the context of recovery? What makes it different from self-indulgence or self-pity? Sonia and Kathleen explore these themes, delving into the psychology behind self-compassion and its impact on healing and growth. They discuss how self-compassion can be a transformative tool in the recovery journey, helping individuals to overcome setbacks and build resilience. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the balance between self-compassion and accountability, the role of mindfulness in recognizing self-critical thoughts, and strategies for nurturing a compassionate inner voice. These insights are grounded in real-life experiences and psychological principles, providing listeners with practical and empathetic approaches to integrating self-compassion into their recovery process. Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-compassion in their sobriety journey and the challenges and victories in practicing self-kindness. By the end of the episode, listeners will have a richer understanding of self-compassion's role in recovery, equipped with strategies and insights to apply in their own journey toward healing and growth.   This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.  Highlights: 00:03:45 | Definition of self-compassion and its importance in sobriety 00:05:11 | The struggle of practicing self-compassion 00:06:00 | Reflecting on the definition of self-compassion 00:07:00 | Viewing mistakes as learning opportunities 00:08:00 | Implementing self-compassion and self-care 00:09:00 | Importance of forgiveness and understanding in self-compassion 00:09:52 | Overcoming self-loathing and trying again 00:10:06 | Personal meaning of self-compassion 00:09:55 | Questioning the point of trying again after making mistakes 00:10:30 | Differentiating between self-pity and self-compassion 00:11:13 | Allowing oneself to feel emotions without self-criticism 00:12:00 | Taking responsibility without placing blame 00:14:41 | Recognizing the significance of self-compassion in life 00:16:00 | Understanding accountability in relationships 00:19:10 | Setting boundaries based on self-compassion 00:20:02 | Identifying and enforcing hard no's in relationships 00:20:54 | The importance of self-compassion in relationships 00:21:48 | The role of mindfulness in self-compassion 00:22:46 | Practical tips for cultivating self-compassion 00:25:00 | The significance of self-compassion in sobriety 00:30:00 | The challenge of practicing self-compassion 00:32:00 | Understanding the humanness and collective nature of self-compassion 00:32:20 | None of us are perfect, showing compassion to ourselves Links: Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Website Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Instagram Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Email  Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to "Sisters in Sobriety," where hosts Sonia and Kathleen dive into the vital topic of self-care, especially in the context of sobriety. Your hosts Sonia and Kathleen explore the essential theme of self-care in sobriety. In today’s episode, they will guide you, our dear listeners, through understanding and implementing self-care practices that nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. In this episode, they delve into pressing questions. They take self-care beyond the conventional ideas of relaxation. What role does self-care play in the journey of sobriety? And how can self-care practices evolve and adapt to life’s changes? You'll learn about the critical aspects of self-care, including the importance of setting boundaries, the challenge of finding joy in activities outside of alcohol, and the significance of community and support in maintaining sobriety. Get ready for a personal story segment, where Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-care. They discuss how their self-care practices have evolved over the years, especially in relation to their sobriety journey. This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 0:01:24 | Definition of self-care as caring for mental, emotional, and physical health 00:03:00 | Importance of self-care in recovery and creating a safe environment 00:03:26 | Importance of self-care tools and routines for sobriety 00:05:01 | Implementing self-care through setting boundaries and removing toxic people 00:05:56 | Self-care as treating oneself with love and nurturing 00:06:39 | Reparenting oneself and talking to oneself with kindness and compassion 00:07:00 | Challenging negative self-talk and body image issues 00:09:44 | Self-care practice of looking in the mirror and expressing self-love 00:09:58 | Kathleen reflects on her journey of self-care and sobriety. 00:13:23 | Sonia shares her self-care journey and the importance of being authentic. 00:15:00 | Sonia discusses the importance of listening to her inner voice. 00:17:00 | Kathleen explains how therapy is a form of self-care. 00:18:52 | Sonia acknowledges that self-care doesn't always feel amazing. 00:19:34 | Kathleen discusses the emotional impact of therapy sessions. 00:20:47 | Setting boundaries in self-care. 00:23:00 | Importance of "doing nothing" as self-care. 00:24:00 | Struggles with prioritizing rest and relaxation. 00:27:00 | Evolution of self-care routine over the past years. 00:29:00 | Finding connection in the sober community. 00:30:00 | Importance of sober community in sobriety journey. 00:31:00 | Challenges of having a spouse or friends who drink. 00:32:00 | Setting clear boundaries around alcohol and prioritizing sobriety. 00:33:45 | Developing a support network and expressing gratitude for support. 00:36:26 | Self-care doesn't always feel good in the moment. Links: Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Website Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Instagram Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Email  Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen dive into the often unexpected twists and turns that accompany the journey of sobriety. They'll guide you through understanding the far-reaching impacts of choosing a sober lifestyle, revealing both the challenges and triumphs that come with this significant life change. This episode poses critical questions: What changes, both anticipated and surprising, occur when one adopts a sober lifestyle? How does sobriety affect relationships, personal values, and daily routines? The conversation delves into these aspects, exploring how sobriety can reshape one's life, identity, and interactions with others. You will gain insights into the complex interplay between sobriety and personal development. The episode highlights how sobriety can lead to a deeper understanding of one’s values, the importance of coping mechanisms, and the impact of sobriety on physical and mental health. These educational takeaways provide a comprehensive view of the transformative journey of sobriety. Sonia shares her personal story of sobriety, detailing how it led to significant changes in her relationships and self-perception. This segment provides a heartfelt glimpse into the realities of navigating life's changes while maintaining sobriety, offering listeners both inspiration and relatable experiences. This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. 00:00:00 | Introduction to the podcast and topic of discussion 00:00:12 | Discussion about Christmas celebrations 00:01:51 | Importance of being organized and sticking to routines 00:02:33 | Conversation about expectations people have of sobriety 00:04:00 | Introduction to the challenges and unexpected changes in sobriety 00:05:00 | Detrimental effects of high expectations on sobriety 00:06:00 | Advice for those considering sobriety and managing expectations 00:08:00 | Importance of ongoing effort and seeking support in recovery 00:09:00 | Discussion about the reality of sobriety compared to expectations 00:10:00 | Personal experiences and surprises in sobriety revealed 00:10:37 | Disappointment with using alcohol to numb emotions during divorce 00:11:21 | Realization that sobriety is an ongoing process 00:11:50 | Unexpected loss of friends due to sobriety 00:12:47 | Underestimation of shame and emotional impact of sobriety 00:16:10 | Physical benefits of sobriety, such as increased energy and better sleep 00:17:21 | Positive surprises of sobriety, including more free time and discovering new hobbies 00:19:27 | Transformation of relationships, health, and daily routine through sobriety 00:21:34 | Need for therapy and treatment of anxiety and depression 00:21:55 | Whole world opening up through the process of transformation 00:21:55 | Transformation process and its impact on relationships, health, and routine 00:23:30 | Self-medicating mental health issues and addiction 00:25:22 | Physical improvements after quitting alcohol 00:26:28 | Possibility of transferring addiction to other areas 00:28:00 | Addressing underlying issues and having support to prevent addiction transfer 00:30:00 | Importance of daily routine and habits for relief 00:32:19 | Mixed impact of sobriety on relationships 00:33:00 | Shift in values as a result of clarity 00:33:24 | Desire to help others get sober and embrace second chances 00:34:34 | Transformation and growth in sobriety 00:35:20 | Lifestyle incompatibility led to growing apart and abrupt separation for Sonia 00:36:12 | Experiencing pain and feeling alienated by partner's new lifestyle 00:38:00 | Importance of valuing and supporting sobriety in relationships 00:38:59 | Changes in values and the impact on relationships in sobriety 00:39:46 | Difficulty reconciling personal growth with partner's choices 00:40:52 | Negative effects on relationships due to lifestyle differences and emotional changes 00:42:53 | Challenges in relationships due to different priorities and codependency 00:44:00 | Realization that sobriety reveals true values and identity [00:45:28] | Fear of sharing narrative about husband leaving due to sobriety [00:45:45] | Reframing the reason for the marriage ending [00:46:10] | Values were revealed and not in alignment [00:46:29] | Acceptance became easier after realizing the misalignment in values Links: Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Website Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Instagram Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Email  Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode, we dive into the timely topic of “Dry January” - a month dedicated to abstaining from alcohol. Kathleen will share her inspiring journey, emphasizing how a period of abstinence from drugs was the catalyst for her sobriety, and the unique challenges that alcohol presented due to its social acceptance. Sonia will explore the various drinking patterns and the importance of recognizing when alcohol may be more than just a casual habit. We'll unpack the importance of medical advice, seeking further abstinence, and finding the right support systems. Kathleen reminds us to do our research and reflects on her all-or-nothing approach to life's indulgences, sharing how an eight-week cleanse from substances dramatically shifted her perspective. We will chat about the benefits that come with a break from booze: the joys of waking up clear-headed, the potential for weight loss, and the overall boost to your health and relationships. But it's not all smooth sailing, as we'll also talk about the potential for a pendulum swing back to binge drinking. We don't just theorize. We are also putting our taste buds to the test with a couple of mocktail reviews. Will the complex flavor profile of the St. James 101 bitter aperitif spritz win the day, or will the fruity notes of the Hiyo peach mango drink with natural nootropics and adaptogens come out on top? Kathleen and I have our opinions, and we're excited to sip and share. So, grab your favorite non-alcoholic beverage, and let's explore the ins and outs of Dry January together. Maybe you'll be inspired to join the movement or simply gain a deeper understanding of your own relationship with alcohol. And as always, we welcome your stories and insights. Be sure to find us on social media and let's continue the conversation. Ready? Let's get into it! 0:01:48 | Explanation of dry January and its benefits 0:03:20 | Tips and strategies for starting dry January 0:05:12 | Importance of reflection and goal-setting for dry January 0:06:14 | Questions to ask oneself during dry January 0:07:10 | Personal experiences with periods of abstinence 0:08:02 | Challenges and triggers for going back to drinking 0:09:44 | Factors influencing the decision to drink or be abstinent 0:12:06 | Possible outcomes of dry January: positive and negative [0:12:47] | Epic return to drinking after abstinence discussed [0:14:08] | Positive effects of abstinence: improved sleep, weight loss, better skin, improved relationships [0:15:32] | Different experiences during dry January: some find it easy, others struggle [0:16:09] | Kathleen's experience with abstinence from drugs and alcohol [0:18:00] | Can't go a month without drinking: possible problematic drinking [0:19:20] | Various unhealthy patterns of drinking discussed [0:19:40] | Recommendations for those concerned about their relationship with alcohol [0:22:23] | Reflection and mindfulness during abstinence [0:23:24] | Discussion on the potential of dry January as a gateway to sobriety 0:25:14 | Kathleen describes the Sir James 101 Spritz beverage 0:25:36 | Kathleen and Sonia discuss the complexity and refreshing nature of the drink. 0:26:13 | They agree that the drink would be suitable for ordering at a bar. 0:27:14 | Kathleen rates the likelihood of recommending the drink as 8 or 9 out of 10. 0:28:23 | They try the Hiyo peach mango drink and discuss its taste and ingredients. 0:30:00 | Kathleen mentions the marketing of the drink towards people living a sober lifestyle. 0:31:23 | Sonia rates the likelihood of recommending the drink between 5 and 8 out of 10. 0:32:09 | Kathleen expresses that she would not consider the Hiyo peach mango drink a mocktail. 0:32:16 | They conclude that the Sir James 101 Spritz is the winner. Links: EverBlume Website EverBlume Instagram EverBlume Email - info@joineverblume.com Sonia’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey there, lovely listeners! It's that time of the year again, and Sonia and Kathleen are here to chat about the glitter and tinsel of the holiday season, all while keeping our glasses alcohol-free. They’re sharing our own stories and tips on how to stay sober and joyful during this festive time. The holidays can be a jolly jumble of joy and stress, right? From the aroma of mulled cider to the clinking of glasses, we're surrounded by cheerful temptations. But fear not, they’ve got some tricks up our sleeves to stay on the merry path of sobriety. They'll delve into those sneaky triggers, like the endless parties, the sometimes overwhelming family gatherings, and even those off-hand comments from Uncle Joe about why you're not having a drink. Mindfulness is our holiday mantra. They're talking about staying present and savoring each moment, whether it's the twinkle of Christmas lights or the laughter of friends, all without that extra glass of eggnog. And let's not forget about those surprise triggers that pop up like unannounced carolers. They've both been there and will share how they learned to navigate these situations with grace and a good sense of humor. Setting boundaries is like wrapping yourself in a cozy blanket. They discuss why it's okay to say no to certain events or to step away for a bit of quiet time. It's all about taking care of you. Lastly, they chat about creating new traditions that don't center around alcohol. From festive mocktails to winter walks, there are so many ways to celebrate that keep the spirit high and the spirits low. As a special treat they have a review of two alcohol-free bellinis - Cipriani White Peach Bellini and Mingle Blackberry Hibiscus Bellini! Join them as they laugh, share, and sip a mocktail or two!  Let's make this holiday season one filled with warmth, connection, and sober celebrations! This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.  Highlights: 0:30 | Reasons why the holiday season can be difficult for those avoiding alcohol 3:14 | How mindfulness can help with triggers 4:47 | Unexpected triggers during the holidays 5:58 | Kathleen's struggles during her first sober holiday 8:54 | Sonia's struggles during her first sober holiday 10:37 | Sonia's epic drunken Christmas fail in 2007 12:18 | Triggers for binge drinking during the holidays 13:36 | Coping mechanisms and setting boundaries to avoid binging 16:37 | How to stay sober when you’re having a tough year 17:26 | Importance of showing up and using your tools for sobriety 20:00 | Creating new traditions during holidays 21:17 | Seeking support wherever you can get it 23:32 | Alcohol-free alternatives  25:00 | The need to address isolation and seek support if feeling isolated. 25:23 | Having a plan before entering difficult situations is crucial. 25:50 | The importance of having a plan to stay sober on New Year's Eve. 26:00 |  A review of 2 Christmas Bellinis! Links: EverBlume Website EverBlume Instagram EverBlume Email - info@joineverblume.com Sonia’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast* Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At the heart of every sobriety journey, there is a support community. Be it friends, family, or regular community groups… We all get by with a little help! So in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen discuss what true support looks like in sobriety, and how to find it. As with everything else in sobriety, support is personal; there is no one size fits all solution. So today, Kathleen and Sonia will cover key questions to help you identify your needs: can friends and family be your main support system? What should you do if they’re not helping? What’s the difference between AA and other support communities? Is it normal to feel really uncomfortable in a group setting? And perhaps most importantly: what are the signs that you have found your people? Throughout this episode, you will hear about different types of support systems, from in-person groups, to online communities. You will learn how accountability and story-telling can help your recovery, and understand better the difference between coaching and therapy. Last but not least, your hosts will be sharing the fourth and final chapter of their personal story of growth, family and sobriety. Previously, Sonia and Kathleen have told you about their youth, how they became sober, and supported each other through thick and thin. Now, they share how divorce and grief can still lead to a perfect moment, made of undying strength, new life trajectories, and a whole lot of family love. You will hear it at every turn: it takes a village to stay sober in a very non-sober world. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Highlights: What does a sobriety support system look like? (2:05) Finding support through big life transitions (3:48) How Kathleen became a life coach and psychotherapist (5:20) When Sonia’s sobriety broke her marriage (6:23) How Sonia’s system helped her maintain sobriety during her divorce (7:33) “I was with her every step of the way”: support seen from the other side (8:44) Hearing people’s stories to find motivation (10:07) Sobriety support comes in many shapes and sizes (11:24) Understanding the different types of sobriety groups (12:40) What’s the difference between therapy and coaching? (13:47) Signs that a group is right for you (16:55) How Sonia got the idea of EverBlume (19:05) Becoming a recovery coach and kicking business into action! (20:36) What EverBlume looks like today (22:18) Back to present time: “You stick together, you get stronger” (23:12) How to recognise that you need additional support (24:53) Accountability as a tool in recovery (27:58) A slip doesn’t mean you are back to square one (29:20) The role of friends and family in sobriety support (30:35) What your close circle should not do (33:36) Kathleen and Sonia’s personal takeaways (35:00) Links: EverBlume Website EverBlume Instagram Sonia’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Website Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve heard of early sobriety, you’ve felt the very real changes of physical sobriety… But have you come across “emotional sobriety” yet? No? Well this is your chance to learn! Welcome back to Sisters in Sobriety, the podcast that talks about sobriety, addiction and everything in between. In this new episode, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the somewhat elusive, yet life-transforming concept of “emotional sobriety”. And if you’re not sure what that means; worry not! Today, Sonia and Kathleen help you figure out what emotional sobriety might look like for you. They also give you the tools you need to reframe your emotional mindset, acquire better coping mechanisms… And make your white-knuckling days feel like a distant nightmare! As they discuss their own experiences with emotional sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia will also wonder: Do you have to be emotionally sober all the time? What happens if you’re not? How can you change your approach to sobriety with new routines, and mindful practices? What are the signs that you might be losing your balance in sobriety? And how can you turn the hard times into the stuff that keeps you going? As they walk you through these delicate questions, Kathleen and Sonia also share a new chapter in their personal story of growth, as sisters-in-law and sisters in sobriety! Today, they tell you how they came together as a family, and stood side by side, through the good times and the bad. Brace yourself for an episode rich with emotions, and life-long lessons. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.  Highlights: Defining “emotional sobriety” (1:46) Emotional sobriety as a very personal thing (3:25) Sonia’s first steps towards emotional sobriety (6:28) From “white knuckling it” to finding support in recovery (7:45) When Kathleen becomes a mom…  (9:24) …And Sonia, an auntie (again!) (10:32) Sonia’s first sober vacation: learning to trust yourself again (12:12) Kathleen and Sonia become family (13:50) Learning to practice emotional sobriety (15:57) Kathleen’s day-to-day meditation tips (18:14) “Turning pain into purpose” (20:36) A fateful holiday to Hawaii (22:14) The end of a marriage (26:00) Navigating significant relationships through a divorce (28:33) When relapse feels like grief (29:36) Being “dry drunk”: how emotional sobriety plays into relapse (31:31) Signs you might not be emotionally sober (32:35) How to encourage someone to work on their emotional sobriety? (36:03) “One minute at a time” (38:20) Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (40:14)  Links: EverBlume Website EverBlume Instagram EverBlume Email Sonia’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Website Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia talk about early sobriety, a chapter of your journey that will come with many changes! From new physical sensations, to heightened senses, early sobriety is a time for reset, and stripping your mental health to the bones. So today, your hosts help you navigate this period of vulnerability and sober reinvention. For both Sonia and Kathleen, early sobriety was synonymous with vivid new emotional experiences and personal reckonings. So they’ll set out to answer the questions you might be pondering yourself: is quitting alcohol a “once and for all” kind of business? Or is moderate drinking an option? How to minimize situations that trigger cravings? How to continue socializing without drinking? What happens if you slip? Do you have to call that “relapse”? And during this transition, what does a good support system look like? Let Kathleen and Sonia walk you through your first steps into sobriety, as you get acquainted with a whole new alcohol-free life! Throughout the episode, you’ll hear about healthier coping mechanisms, sober routines, mindfulness techniques, goal-setting and sobriety support networks. This week, you will also hear the second chapter of Kathleen and Sonia's personal story of growth! Last episode, they told you about their early adult years, and Kathleen’s life-changing “rehab” experience. Today, join them again on their journey of family and sobriety, as they tell you how they met! Spoiler alert: Sonia’s brother had something to do with it. But there was still a long way to become family. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.  Highlights: Defining early sobriety (1:30) Kathleen’s first dry date (4:53) Sonia on her brother’s sobriety (7:01) When Kathleen meets Sonia (9:04) A whirlwind romance (10:52) Understanding the goal of early sobriety (12:19) What a healthier lifestyle looks like (15:12) Why the “all or nothing” method does not work (16:25) The ins and outs of seeking professional help (18:00) “Triggers are everything” - how to renew your social environments (20:11) When Kathleen’s engagement wreaks havoc (22:09) Drinking to cope with family feuds (24:18) How to host a sober wedding (24:59) Connecting as a family: when Kathleen gets pregnant (26:06) Sonia’s early thoughts on sobriety (29:03) What to do on a hard day (30:13) Why a slip carries valuable information (32:39) The role of self-compassion in a slip (33:56) Boundaries and a support system: your barrier against a slip (35:32) Personal takes on milestones and anniversaries (36:50) Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (38:34)   Links: EverBlume Website EverBlume Instagram Sonia’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Website Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Sisters in Sobriety! In this very first episode, meet your hosts, Kathleen and Sonia, as they bring you to the start of your sobriety journey and discuss the big question: what does it mean to quit drinking?  Quitting is the first step of many to embrace sobriety! It is your first moment of recognition and empowerment; to let go of what is holding you back, and start building a healthier life, without alcohol. Today, your hosts cover the questions that everyone in the sober community grapples with: what does quitting mean, actually? Is it a once-and-for-all decision? What kind of drinking is considered “problematic”? How can you tell if someone is struggling with their alcohol consumption? And is an intervention a good idea? (Spoiler alert: maybe not!) In this episode, Kathleen and Sonia also unveil their personal story of growth! Step back in time, to hear their unique tale of family and sobriety. Today, your hosts look back on their early years, reflecting on how they built their own consumption habits in childhood and young adulthood. Between their student life at the University of Toronto, blooming careers fueled by the “work hard play hard” method, and a fateful yoga retreat in Mexico… There is a lot to tell.  Stay tuned for insights into what grey area drinking is, how habit-stacking works, what constitutes a healthy sober environment, and how you can test out sobriety on your own terms! Because in the end, what matters is that you get there, “whatever it takes” as Sonia would say. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.  Highlights: What does it mean to “quit” drinking? (00:59) Sonia’s early experiences with self-medicating (03:08) How Kathleen grew up as an only child (04:40) Using alcohol to socialize as a student (06:01) Spotting the signs of an alcohol use disorder (08:02) The importance of being honest with yourself (10:11) Why drinking doesn’t work (11:40) Unpacking the concept of “habit stacking” (12:55) How environment impacts your drinking and cravings (15:22) When dental school tamped down Sonia’s drinking (18:52) Kathleen’s corporate career and associated parties (20:56) Sonia’s slow descent into drinking (22:40) A sober awakening: when Kathleen’s life took a turn (24:38) The benefits of rehab (27:30) Defining the concept of “grey area drinking” (29:03) How to talk to a loved one about their drinking? (31:12) Values as a roadmap to sobriety (33:26) Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (35:46) Understanding that your life can improve so much (37:10) Links: EverBlume Website EverBlume Instagram EverBlume Email Sonia’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Website Kathleen’s LinkedIn Kathleen’s Instagram Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You know that sinking feeling when you wake up with a hangover and think: “I’m never doing this again”? We’ve all been there. But what happens when you follow through? Sonia Kahlon and Kathleen Killen will tell you, because they did it! They went from sisters-in-law, to Sisters in Sobriety. In this podcast, Sonia and Kathleen invite you into their world, as they navigate the ups and downs of sobriety, explore stories of personal growth and share their journey of wellness and recovery. Get ready for some real, honest conversations about sobriety, addiction, and everything in between.  Wherever you are on your sobriety journey, join them! And enjoy a weekly dose of vulnerability, mutual support... And much needed comic relief. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/sisters-in-sobriety/donations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.