EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Episode Description In this Sex with Emily hotline episode, Dr. Emily answers honest questions about sex, relationships, and pleasure. Ben struggles with intrusive thoughts about his girlfriend's sexual past—how do generational differences in sexual norms play a role, and what can he do when his mind won't stop wandering? A caller whose day-long fantasies about his wife cause premature ejaculation wonders if this is actually a problem. Emily explores when mental foreplay becomes too much of a good thing and how to approach these conversations with your partner. For finding thirds for threesomes, what's the safest way to meet like-minded people? Emily discusses the essential conversations couples need to have before inviting someone into their bedroom. Nathan worries his girlfriend only orgasms with toys despite her past relationships not requiring them. Is this about his performance, her anatomy, or something deeper about emotional connection and letting go? Finally, how do you rebuild your relationship with your own sexuality after a major life change? Emily helps a caller navigate solo pleasure during divorce when motivation is low and old fantasies no longer serve. Throughout, Emily reinforces that sexual satisfaction looks different for everyone. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:29 - Dealing with Partner's Sexual Past 5:42 - How to Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Relationship Focus 11:45 - Premature Ejaculation from All-Day Mental Arousal 17:07 - Starting Sexting in Long-Term Relationships 20:04 - Finding a Third for Threesomes 29:52 - The Field Effect 34:13 - When Emotional Connection Changes Physical Response 40:13 - Prioritizing Solo Pleasure During Divorce and Life Transitions 46:44 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Jennifer Freed reveals why true sexiness comes from daring to be authentically yourself—not trying to imitate anyone else—and how confidence means being good with yourself without waiting for approval. Then sex educator Shani Hart shares her game-changing tip for staying aroused during oral sex (hint: it involves a Magic Wand), her mission to bring quality pleasure products to underserved communities, and why she tells customers that if their partner controls their toy purchases, it's a major red flag. Dr. Freed and Emily explore the difference between sexiness and preferences, discussing how we can find attraction beyond our usual type when we recognize someone's soul. Through Shani's journey from pop-up girlfriend to certified sex educator, Emily and Shani tackle the lack of diversity in the sex toy industry and why quality pleasure products should be accessible to all communities. Shani breaks down her four essential blowjob tips—enthusiasm, wetness, communication, and technique—explaining why "it's called a job for a reason" and sharing her favorite products for enhancing pleasure. They also dive into CBD's benefits for sexual wellness, from reducing anxiety and increasing blood flow to helping rewire the brain's association between sex and pain for people with conditions like endometriosis. Shani discusses her favorite current toy (the Womanizer Duo with smart silent technology) and why she believes your own pleasure should be a priority. Timestamps: 0:28 - Intro 1:48 - Authenticity vs Performance in Relationships 3:26 - Overcoming Impostor Syndrome in Dating 5:41 - Why Hiding Your True Self Kills Intimacy 10:26 - Sexual Preferences vs What Makes Someone Sexy 13:42 - Being Present During Sex Creates New Experiences 17:22 - From Sex Shop Employee to Certified Sex Educator 20:26 - Creating Quality Sex Education in Underserved Communities 24:43 - When Partners Control Your Pleasure (Red Flags) 27:48 - Magic Wand Multi-Use Tips for Solo and Partner Play 29:33 - Four Essential Oral Sex Techniques That Actually Work 31:45 - Racism and Exclusion in the Sex Toy Industry 36:02 - CBD for Better Sex: Anxiety, Pain Relief, and Enhanced Pleasure 38:48 - Quick Fire Questions: Biggest Turn-Ons and Turnoffs

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf Episode Summary In this Sex with Emily episode, comedian Adam Ferrara reveals why he sits by the front door with his dog for exactly 15 minutes every time his wife says "I'll be right there"—and how learning each other's patterns became the secret to their successful long-term marriage. Adam breaks down the difference between reacting and responding, sharing how his Italian upbringing taught him to react emotionally while his marriage taught him to respond from choice. He explains his breakthrough moment realizing that "worry is not responsibility"—a revelation that helped him separate anxiety from actual care-taking—and discusses his journey off ADD medication in favor of meditation and therapy. Through a caller's dilemma about losing sexual attraction to her boyfriend while being tempted by someone else, Emily and Adam explore whether sexual chemistry can be built or if some relationships lack that essential foundation. They tackle the hard truth about the two-year relationship mark when initial passion fades, and provide practical tools like the "Yes, No, Maybe" list for couples working to rebuild intimacy together. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:32 - Losing Sexual Attraction After 2 Years 3:20 - Breaking Down Sexual Compatibility vs. Chemistry Issues 6:46 - The Oral Sex Double Standard Problem 8:13 - Creating vs. Fixing Sexual Connection 11:51 - Adam Ferrara on Anxiety & "Worry is Not Responsibility" 13:27 - Emily's Therapy Process: ADD, Self-Worth & Achievement 16:39 - Finding Presence Through Performance & Connection 18:25 - Marriage Communication: Learning Each Other's Patterns 22:43 - Reacting vs. Responding: Managing Emotional Impulses 25:43 - Meditation Practice: Separating Thoughts from Identity 29:24 - Practical Meditation Tips for Anxiety & ADD 31:16 - Childhood Trauma & Long-Term Anxiety Development 33:26 - Therapy Benefits: Life Tools, Not Stigma 34:28 - Five Quickie Questions

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, psychiatrist Dr. Will Siu reveals why he went from atheist to spiritual devotee in 20 minutes during his first psychedelic experience—and how that breakthrough taught him that anger is actually a mask for feeling weak. Will shares his journey from achieving external success while feeling internally miserable to discovering the profound connection between emotional healing and sexual satisfaction. He breaks down his six fundamental emotions framework and explains why "You're not getting angry because you're tough—you're getting angry because you feel weak," a revelation that changed how he approached both therapy and intimacy. Through candid stories about religious sexual shame and the universal male experience of measuring penis size with a ruler, Will demonstrates how vulnerability can actually increase attraction. The conversation tackles why less than 5% of therapy clients discuss sex directly, how working on general insecurities often improves bedroom experiences more than focusing on sex itself, and practical steps for finding partners who can hold space for authentic emotional expression. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:03 - From Harvard Success to Internal Misery 7:43 - First Psychedelic Experience 12:14 - The Six Core Emotions 15:08 - The Truth About Male Anger 18:07 - Why Women's Anger is Suppressed and Its Sexual Consequences 22:02 - Male Penis Insecurities 26:01 - The Power of Authenticity Over Vulnerability in Relationships 29:22 - Finding Examples of Healthy Relationships in Modern Culture 32:17 - Building Male Mentorship and Emotional Communities 36:05 - Quick Fire Questions

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Yes, No, Maybe Checklist: https://sexwithemily.com/swe-guides/SWE_YesNoMaybeChecklist.pdf In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily explores praise kink—the trending phenomenon where sexual arousal comes from receiving verbal affirmation and approval during intimacy. She breaks down how this differs from simply enjoying compliments and connects to deeper psychological needs for feeling worshipped, special, or desired. The episode introduces core erotic desires—the fundamental feelings we seek during sex that stem from our experiences and shape what turns us on. Whether involving feeling powerful, nurtured, transgressive, or humiliated, understanding these desires is crucial for sexual satisfaction. Through listener questions, Emily tackles complex dynamics: a man missing the intense connection with a kinky ex despite his fiancé's willingness to participate, a woman who shut down after an embarrassing bondage moment, and someone questioning fantasies about their partner with others. She normalizes these experiences while offering practical communication strategies, including her "Yes, No, Maybe?" checklist for exploring new sexual territory with partners, and emphasizing that sexual fantasies and messy moments are normal parts of intimacy. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:46 - Understanding Kinks vs Conventional Sex 5:14 - Praise Kink and Submissive Energy in the Bedroom 7:04 - How Praise Kink Helps with Body Image Issues 9:09 - Core Erotic Desires: What Really Turns You On 11:48 - Different Types of Core Desires (Worship, Humiliation, Power) 15:07 - Mining Your Fantasies to Discover Your Desires 17:07 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Fantasies 19:47 - Listener Question: Missing Kinky Ex vs Current Partner 24:42 - Listener Question: Embarrassing Moment Killed the Kink 30:34 - Listener Question: Is My Cuckolding Fantasy Healthy?

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily breaks down the dynamics of toxic relationships—why we get stuck in them, how to spot the red flags, and what it takes to step into something healthier. She explains how cycles of fighting and making up can become addictive, why perfectionism and unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacy, and the subtle ways emotional unavailability shows up through gaslighting, breadcrumbing, and avoidance. The episode also explores the deeper psychology behind repeated patterns: why we’re drawn to unavailable partners, how our own fears and defenses play into toxic dynamics, and why real change only happens when both people are willing to do the work. Listener questions and calls highlight unmet needs, long-term relationships starved of affection, and the painful realization that sometimes love isn’t enough to sustain a partnership. Alongside this, Emily offers clear strategies for breaking toxic cycles, communicating needs without blame, and deciding when it’s time to stay, seek help, or walk away. With candid stories about gaslighting, perfectionism, and emotional neglect, this episode is a raw but empowering guide to recognizing what doesn’t serve you—and finding the courage to choose relationships that do. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:04 - When High Standards Destroy Love 6:35 - Signs of Emotional Unavailability You Need to Know 11:04 - How Long Will You Stay in an Unfulfilling Relationship? 13:34 - 8 Years of Unmet Needs and One-Sided Love 20:18 - Words vs Actions 25:36 - Anniversary Disappointment After 28 Years of Marriage 30:59 - Having the Difficult Conversation Your Relationship Needs

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. Timestamps:0:00 - Introduction 0:23 - How Antidepressants Affect Your Sex Life 1:15 - Female Sexuality and Cultural Double Standards 2:30 - Wetness Myths: Arousal vs. Lubrication Explained 6:26 - When You're "Too Wet" - Solutions and Normalizing 8:17 - Understanding Arousal Beyond Physical Signs 9:06 - Kegel Exercises for Better Orgasms 13:15 - Caller April: Relationship Stress Killing Sex Drive 17:00 - Communication Red Flags in Relationships 23:40 - Prozac and Orgasm Difficulties 26:31 - Switching from Lexapro to Wellbutrin Success Story 28:40 - Why Medication Doses Differ for Women

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ This episode tackles one of the most misunderstood topics in sexuality with two leading experts: Dr. Charlie Glickman, co-author of "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure," and Dr. Hernando Chavez. Together, they bust the biggest myths surrounding anal play, from the damaging idea that learning from porn is effective (spoiler: it's like "learning to drive from watching a car chase movie") to misconceptions about sexual orientation and hygiene. The conversation transforms anal exploration from anxiety-inducing taboo into approachable pleasure education. Charlie breaks down the real anatomy behind prostate stimulation and explains why men who receive anal play often become better lovers, while Hernando addresses cultural barriers and shares how that forbidden factor can actually enhance arousal. They dive into practical preparation techniques, revolutionary lube innovations, and why starting with external play removes performance pressure. Whether dealing with complete curiosity or recovering from painful past experiences, this episode provides the shame-free guidance needed to explore backdoor pleasure safely and successfully. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:16 - Anal Play Discussion 2:57 - Why Anal Sex Isn't for Everyone 4:47 - Prostate Massage for Men: Breaking the Stigma 7:47 - How to Find and Stimulate the Prostate 11:41 - Benefits of Anal Play for Couples 15:23 - Anal Play Tips and Toy Recommendations 18:03 - Pegging Basics and Prostate Stimulation 21:22 - How to Bring Up Anal Play with Your Partner 25:58 - Discussing Anal with Your Wife 36:18 - Common Anal Sex Myths Debunked 42:08 - Personal Stories and Learning Experiences 44:27 - Preparation and Hygiene for Anal Play 47:06 - Essential Lube Tips and Product Recommendations

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this thought-provoking episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes linguist and author Amanda Montell ("Word Sl*t: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language") explore how patriarchal language controls our sex lives. They reveal why terms like "penetration" frame intimacy from a male perspective, how medical language describes vaginas as "organs that receive the penis" while penises get weapon metaphors, and why violent bedroom slang reflects power imbalances. The discussion covers language reclamation strategies, from using "vulva" instead of "vajay-jay" to how transgender communities create new sexual terminology. Dr. Emily addresses listener questions about safe sex conversations during hookups, overcoming conservative shame around oral pleasure, and breaking toxic relationship cycles. This episode shows how conscious language choices can revolutionize sexual experiences, moving from patriarchal frameworks toward more equitable intimate expression. Timestamps: 0:22 - Introduction 4:21 - Why "penetration" frames sex from a penis perspective 7:56 - Medical definitions: "the organ that receives the penis" 11:16 - The problem with "vajay-jay" 18:02 - Mission to reclaim slurs 28:15 - Safe sex conversations during hookups 31:58 - Learning to enjoy giving oral pleasure 39:24 - Breaking recurring relationship explosion patterns

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often "false evidence appearing real" - we create rules around what we're afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve. Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we're all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn't put ourselves last in our own sexual lives. 0:00 - Introduction 4:13 - Common Sexual Fears We All Face 6:43 - Period Sex Anxiety 17:50 - Fear of Rejection in the Bedroom 23:25 - Sexual Trauma & PTSD 32:38 - Dreams About Your Ex: What They Really Mean 44:01 - Body Image Fears & Sexual Perfectionism 47:23 - Becoming Your Best Sexual Partner 50:04 - Role Playing to Overcome Sexual Fears 54:05 - Closing the Orgasm Gap Together

EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reunites with the legendary Carol Queen, sexologist, author, and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco. Carol, who's been Good Vibrations' staff sexologist for over 30 years and has been speaking publicly about sexuality for 50 years, returns for an essential conversation about revitalizing routine sex, navigating physical challenges in intimacy, and finding your sexual community. This episode tackles everything from making masturbation part of your self-care routine to creative solutions for mobility challenges in the bedroom. Carol breaks down how sexual discourse has evolved from underground feminist publications to mainstream media, while emphasizing that there's no "normal" sex life everyone must follow. We explore practical techniques for spicing up routine encounters and dive into the importance of finding consensual spaces for all types of sexual expression. We take listener calls from Jess, who wants to elevate his hookup routine with temperature play and atmosphere, Tommy, who's seeking advice on approaching older women, Jake, who's looking for safe spaces to explore exhibitionist fantasies, and John, whose wife's knee problems require creative positioning solutions. Carol's decades of experience shine through as she emphasizes that variety and difference make sexuality beautiful, not something to be ashamed of or conform to arbitrary standards. 0:00 - Introduction 1:20 - Caller Question: Spicing Up Gay Male Hookups & Avoiding Boredom 7:13 - Dating Older Women: How to Start Conversations & Build Confidence 10:05 - Preventing Recurring UTIs: Practical Tips & Product Recommendations 13:45 - Interview with Sexologist Carol Queen: 50 Years of Sexual Liberation 16:15 - How Sexual Discourse Has Changed: From Underground to Mainstream 20:32 - The History of "Pegging" & Educational Porn vs Entertainment 31:14 - Sex Positions for Physical Challenges: Knee Problems & Alternatives 41:03 - Quick Fire Questions with Carol Queen

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this fun and informative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes sex educator and author Elle Chase for a summer-themed exploration of mindful sexuality, body-positive positions, and creative outdoor adventures. Plus, psychological astrologer Dr. Jennifer Freed returns to help you align your sexual energy with cosmic guidance. We dive into mindfulness techniques for sexual anxiety, including 4-count inhale, 6-count exhale breathing to calm the nervous system and 5-senses grounding exercises to stay present during intimate moments. Elle shares creative summer sex ideas from car sex nostalgia to pool noodle hacks for outdoor comfort, plus body-positive positions like "Threading the Needle" and "The OM Position" that work for all body types. The episode features listener questions from Trevor about threesome safety, Michael seeking position alternatives for plus-size couples, and Bill concerned about his wife's upcoming hysterectomy. Dr. Emily provides medical advocacy advice about getting second opinions and exploring less invasive alternatives like uterine artery embolization before major surgery. Dr. Freed's astro forecast highlights courage as this month's theme, with personalized guidance for each sign—from Aries learning to pause and attune to others' desires, to Capricorn embracing daily masturbation for stress release. We also explore alternative intimacy techniques like yoni/lingam massage and the importance of breaking the "penetration as goal" mindset for deeper pleasure exploration. 0:00 - Intro 8:27 - Sexual Liberation & Breaking Free from Negative Self-Talk 9:41 - Threesome Planning: Communication & Boundaries Guide 16:00 - Body-Positive Intimacy Tips 23:00 - Hysterectomy Alternatives: Getting Second Opinions 27:37 - Summer Sex Ideas 32:00 - Massage for Connection 37:22 - Female-Friendly Visual Content & Arousal Discussion

Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠(free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ In this enlightening episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Sarah Sloane, sex and kink educator from the Hashtag Open app, for an essential conversation about consent, sexual communication, and finding partners who truly align with your desires. This episode tackles everything from making consent conversations sexy to navigating ethical porn, kink exploration, and the realities of dating after divorce. Sarah breaks down how to make consent attractive rather than awkward, emphasizing that consent is temporary and can be withdrawn at any time. We explore the "hell yes" versus "hell no" standard for enthusiastic consent and practical ways to slow down sexual encounters for better awareness and communication. The conversation addresses how to teach consent early through body autonomy and why being honest about your boundaries actually makes you more attractive to compatible partners. We dive into listener questions from Matt, who's navigating dating after an abusive marriage with no prior dating experience, and Christi, whose 20-year marriage is strained by concerns about her husband's porn use. Sarah offers guidance on video dating as the pandemic norm, using apps like Hashtag Open for specific interests, and the importance of yes/no/maybe lists for discovering preferences without shame. Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction & Sarah’s Early Life 03:41 - Discovering Kink & Initial Curiosity 07:38 - Power Exchange & Emotional Safety in BDSM 11:59 - Consent, Boundaries & Clear Communication 16:13 - Self-Worth, Validation & Identity 20:46 - Shame, Judgment & Cultural Programming 26:17 - Healing from Trauma Through Play 31:03 - BDSM & Somatics: Embodiment Work 36:42 - Rewriting Scripts Around Pleasure & Worthiness 43:20 - Advice for Beginners & Empowered Exploration

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this empowering episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with writer, producer, and self-care advocate Tara Schuster to talk about the journey from self-abandonment to self-worth. Through laughter, honesty, and raw storytelling, they explore emotional healing, sexual empowerment, and the small rituals that create lasting change. Tara shares her background of emotional neglect and how she hit rock bottom; leading her to build a "re-parenting" plan with daily rituals like writing down wins, lighting candles, and journaling to create inner safety and structure. They discuss how unresolved emotional wounds often show up in the bedroom as self-doubt, people-pleasing, or disconnection from pleasure, and how Tara learned to stop abandoning herself in relationships by asking "Do I actually like this person?" instead of "Do they like me?" They dive into how pleasure, including sex, isn't frivolous; it's essential to well-being, and how we must unlearn shame and guilt around joy in order to thrive. Featured Resource: Yes/No/Maybe List - A sexual communication tool mentioned by Tara that helped her explore new experiences and communicate openly with a partner about desires and boundaries. This structured approach allows individuals and couples to indicate their interest levels in various sexual activities, facilitating honest conversations about preferences and limits. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Setting the Stage for Healing & Self-Worth 3:08 - Tara's Rock Bottom Moment: The Call That Changed Everything (hitting rock bottom at 25 and the decision to save her own life) 7:42 - The Desert Breakdown: When Success Isn't Enough 14:02 - The Spite Method: How Reluctant Healing Actually Works 19:19 - Body Gratitude Revolution: From Shame to Self-Celebration 22:58 - Self-Worth & Sex: Why Healing Yourself Transforms Intimacy 39:15 - Trauma-Informed Solo Practice: Safe Sexual Exploration 49:23 - The Yes/No/Maybe List: Tools for Sexual Communication

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse 10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters 18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex 24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy 27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers 31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this illuminating episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse sits down with Dr. Will Cole, a leader in functional medicine and author of Gut Feelings, to explore how emotional and physical health are deeply connected, and how addressing both is essential for a thriving sex life, better relationships, and holistic well-being. Dr. Cole explains the "shameflammation connection"; how repressed emotions like shame, guilt, and stress can cause chronic inflammation, impacting libido, energy, and connection. He breaks down this mind-body cycle where emotional stress manifests as physical illness and offers somatic tools for healing, emphasizing that nervous system regulation is crucial to breaking this loop through breathwork, stillness, and rituals that bring people back into their bodies. We dive deep into the gut-brain connection and its major role in mood, hormone balance, and sexual health. Dr. Cole reveals how processed foods, sugar, and unresolved trauma can hijack desire and performance, while discussing silent inflammation and hormone imbalances that often show up as low libido, fatigue, or anxiety. He uses advanced lab testing to find hidden causes when patients say "I don't feel like myself." The conversation addresses shame around pleasure and sexual identity, highlighting how culture often teaches us to suppress pleasure or disconnect from desire. Both Emily and Dr. Cole agree that reclaiming sensuality starts with removing shame and practicing compassionate self-awareness. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:57 - What is Functional Medicine? 8:24 - The Science Behind "Gut Feelings" 13:37 - How Emotions Become Physical Symptoms 22:27 - Foods That Don't Love You Back 32:07 - Testosterone, Estrogen & Sexual Health 39:04 - Where to Find Functional Medicine Support 46:25 - The Missing Conversation 52:18 - Self-Respect Over Obsession 54:29 - Quickfire Round

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this lively and revealing episode, Dr. Emily Morse brings together a panel of four women, including herself, Producer Madison, Jamie, and Menace's girlfriend Dana, for a raw and unfiltered roundtable about their personal sex lives, fears, fantasies, and the realities of being a woman navigating sex, relationships, and self-image. We dive into honest first-time stories that reveal a mix of regret, shame, confusion, and growth, exploring common themes like pressure to perform, lack of communication, and the cultural silence around female pleasure. The conversation covers body confidence and insecurity, including what kills confidence in the moment and the lingering impact of past partners' comments. Emily encourages reframing internalized shame and redefining sexy on your own terms. The women open up about porn and masturbation habits, discussing how shame still lingers for many, plus their fantasies and turn-ons, from roleplay and power dynamics to emotional safety and feeling desired. We explore the challenges of sexual communication and consent, reflecting on how hard it can be to say what you want during sex and the importance of having these conversations outside the bedroom. From staying silent during bad sex to dating emotionally unavailable people, the women reflect on their biggest sex regrets and what they'd do differently now. The ultimate takeaway: You're allowed to change, explore, and grow. There's no one "right" way to be sexual, and there's incredible power in women sharing their stories to break the silence together. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:38 - Meet the Team 4:10 - What Staying Friends with Exes Says About You 7:17 - Masturbation Month Recap & Four Types of Orgasms Overview 9:03 - Clitoral Orgasms 12:35 - The Tango Vibrator Review 14:54 - G-Spot Orgasms 18:02 - G-Spot Discovery Stories 21:55 - Blended Orgasms 28:17 - Multiple Orgasms 32:05 - Womanizer Review

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this special crossover episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily welcomes Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, sex educators and hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast, for a deep dive into shame-free pleasure, boundaries, kink, and creating more satisfying intimate relationships; whether you're single, coupled, monogamous, or open. We explore what "shameless sex" really means and how shame disconnects us from pleasure and authenticity. Amy and April share tools like self-inquiry, somatic practices, and sexual experimentation for healing and self-acceptance, emphasizing that communication is the gateway to better sex. They stress the importance of "owning your desires" using non-judgmental language and practicing "seductive honesty" before clothes come off. The conversation covers kink, BDSM, and open relationships, including consent, negotiation, aftercare, and how to safely explore. Amy shares insights from her open relationship about navigating jealousy and building emotional resilience. April, with years in the sex toy industry, busts common myths like "vibrators desensitize you" and "sex toys replace partners," while discussing quality materials, inclusivity, and why most toys are still designed for cis men. This episode is packed with top tips for more shameless sex: normalizing solo exploration, not judging your fantasies, exploring full-body arousal beyond genital touch, and being curious rather than performative. Whether you're questioning your desires, confidence, or worthiness in bed, this conversation offers validation and practical tools for embracing your authentic sexual self. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 6:02 - Breaking Down Sexual Shame 8:21 - Personal Stories 15:25 - How to Identify Your Sexual Needs and Desires 21:59 - Real Communication Example 28:16 - Listener Q&A 36:03 - Helping an Anxious Partner Become More Present During Sex 40:55 - Open Relationships 49:52 - Five Quickie Questions 51:00 - Where to Find Shameless Sex Podcast and Book Details

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily Morse tackles the myths, insecurities, and real-life situations that often come with high sex drives, mismatched libidos, and performance anxiety. Alongside co-host Anderson, she answers listener questions and offers heartfelt, humorous, and sex-positive advice on topics ranging from post-baby confidence to breakups and virginity. We explore whether wanting more sex is actually a problem (spoiler: it's not), how to navigate mismatched libidos without shame or labels, and why performance anxiety during first-time experiences is completely normal. Emily addresses a new mom struggling with body confidence and low libido postpartum, offering practical advice on patience, mindful touch, and rebuilding sexual energy through Kegels and self-care. This episode also dives into breakup survival, including how to live with an ex, resist "revenge sex," and create your own closure rather than expecting it from someone else. We tackle the age-old question of whether you should share your sexual history with partners (Emily's answer: probably not) and explore why "body count" doesn't determine sexual skill. Communication, presence, and adaptability do. Timestamps: Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 4:29 - Breaking Dating Patterns 10:04 - Sexual History: Should You Share Your Number? 15:11 - High Sex Drive Mismatch 22:04 - Living with Your Ex: Survival Guide 24:10 - Post-Baby Body Confidence Crisis 31:02 - The 31-Year-Old Virgin's Performance Anxiety 36:39 - Breakup Sex Fantasy: Why It's a Bad Idea 39:17 - Wrap-Up

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this essential episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily dedicates an entire show to demystifying the vagina, expanding knowledge about vulvas, vaginal health, and orgasm types. This conversation is all about understanding anatomy, pleasure pathways, and destigmatizing sexual issues that too many people face in silence. We explore the internal clitoral network and why it wasn't included in medical texts until the late 1990s, debunk myths around different types of orgasms (spoiler: they're all connected through internal clitoral structure), and address why penetration alone doesn't cause orgasms for most vulva owners. Emily answers listener questions covering everything from clitoral piercings and vaginismus to rebuilding sexual identity after cancer and chronic yeast infections. This episode includes practical product recommendations like vibrators for sensitive bodies, CBD-infused lubes, and guidance on hormone replacement therapy for vaginal health. Whether you're dealing with pain, dryness, struggling to reach climax, or just want to understand your body better, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance for reclaiming your pleasure and sexual confidence. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Your Vagina for Better Pleasure 1:44 - Caller Question: Clitoral Piercing Pain and Partner Acceptance 4:20 - Vaginismus: When Your Vagina Won't Relax for Penetration 8:44 - Endometriosis and Sexual Recovery After Cancer 16:22 - Clitoral vs G-Spot Orgasms: What's the Difference? 18:12 - Post-Menopause Orgasms and Vibrator "Addiction" Myths 23:10 - Chronic Yeast Infections: Causes and Solutions 28:21 - When Your Partner Stops Wanting Oral Sex After Baby 32:13 - Wrap-Up: Key Takeaways for Vaginal Health and Pleasure

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ It's not just your closet that needs a refresh, your love life might too. In this episode, Emily helps you declutter the emotional and relational baggage that's blocking deeper connection, better sex, and healthier self-worth. Think of it as a relationship reset: more intention, less chaos. We explore the signs your love life needs a clean-out (hint: recurring patterns, mixed signals, ghosting) and how to stop confusing chaos for chemistry. Emily guides you through rewriting your dating narrative with clarity and compassion, knowing when to break up with your "type" and try something new, and how to identify emotional unavailability in yourself and others. This episode also covers letting go of "situationships" that are keeping you stuck and creating a values-based dating filter that actually works. If you've been stuck in dating loops, confused about someone's intentions, or holding on to a relationship that's "almost" right, this episode offers the permission, and tools, you need to clear the space for real, aligned love. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 8:51 - How to Identify Toxic Relationships and Partners 19:09 - Signs It's Time to Let Go of Your Relationship 23:03 - The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse (Gottman Research) 27:17 - Trust Issues: When Relationships Can't Be Rebuilt 30:24 - When Sex Dies in Your Relationship 38:17 - Email Time: Jealous Partner Making Wild Accusations 44:40 - Sex During Separation: Good Idea or Trap? 47:02 - The Great Squirting Debate: What It Really Is 51:46 - Wrap-Up and How to Connect

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this pleasure-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily reveals creative ways to maximize your intimate experiences using two accessible, beginner-friendly sex toys: bullet vibes and vibrating penis rings. Even if you're new to toys or working with a tight budget, these versatile options can transform your solo and partnered play. Emily breaks down why these aren't just "beginner" toys, they're powerful tools that can enhance pleasure for all body types when you know the right techniques. She shares creative hacks for using bullet vibes during oral sex, explores how to introduce toys to hesitant partners, and reveals surprising ways to incorporate vibrating penis rings into solo play and partnered experiences. This episode tackles common concerns head-on, including how to overcome intimidation around sex toys, why toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and specific techniques for using these tools during penetrative sex. Emily provides detailed guidance on positions that work best with each toy, safety considerations for anal play, and her top product recommendations. Whether you're curious about expanding your toy collection or want to get more creative with what you already have, this episode offers practical wisdom for bringing more pleasure into your intimate life. Emily's approach is inclusive, body-positive, and focused on helping you discover what works best for your unique pleasure preferences. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 7:01 - Two Must-Have Beginner Toys for Everyone 11:45 - Creative Ways to Use Bullet Vibes Beyond the Basics 16:28 - Oral Sex Game-Changers with Vibrators 19:15 - Vibrating Penis Rings: Multi-Use Pleasure Tool 24:11 - Best Sex Positions for Toy Integration 28:04 - Real Questions: Frequency & Post-Baby Changes 32:24 - Safety Tips & Communication Strategies

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this grounding episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how to transform your dating experience by focusing on emotional awareness, body intelligence, and clear intentions. Whether you're navigating apps or meeting people in person, this episode offers a heart-centered approach to modern dating that prioritizes authentic connection over performance. We dive into why your dating "type" might be blocking true connection and how to get out of your head and into your body before dates. Emily shares the power of pre-date rituals and intention setting, explaining why chasing chemistry often leads us astray and how to spot green flags instead of just red ones. This conversation includes practical tips for identifying emotional safety and alignment early on, plus guidance on when to stay curious and when to walk away. Emily offers tools for cultivating real confidence that comes from within, not from external validation, and shares how to maintain your sense of self while remaining open to connection. From setting boundaries to trusting your intuition, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone who wants to date with more intention, less anxiety, and greater self-trust Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction 2:43 The Roommate Problem 4:47 Why Date Nights Matter 6:02 The 5 Arousal Types Explained 9:21 Conversation-Based Dates 12:00 Sensory Dates 17:04 Playful Dates 22:36 Physical Adventure Dates 24:53 How to Introduce Massage Into Your Relationship 29:25 Rebuilding Intimacy After Having a Baby

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ In this data-packed episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with social psychologist and Kinsey Institute researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller to break down what science actually tells us about our sexual fantasies, kinks, and casual hookups. This conversation is full of insights that will make you rethink what's "normal" in bed, and help you embrace your desires with more compassion and clarity. Dr. Lehmiller reveals the most common sexual fantasies (hint: kink is more mainstream than you think) and explains what our fantasies say about our emotional needs and life history. We explore the truth about gender differences in fantasies, how to safely explore kink and consensual non-monogamy, and research on why some people thrive with casual sex while others don't. This episode covers practical tips for talking about fantasies with your partner without shame or pressure, plus why self-awareness (not fantasy content) is the key to sexual fulfillment. Whether you're curious about exploring fantasies, navigating open relationships, or just want to understand the psychology of desire, this conversation brings research and real talk together in a way that's both validating and thought-provoking. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction & The Kink Revolution 4:07 - Fantasy vs Reality: The Threesome Gap 11:43 - Why Gay Men Have Better Threesomes  18:17 - What Gay vs Straight Men Really Have in Common  25:04 - The Kinsey Scale & Sexual Fluidity Explained  31:20 - Friends with Benefits: What Actually Works  35:00 - The Couples Vibrator Study Results  37:45 - Dutch Sex Education: What America Gets Wrong  44:13 - How to Talk to Kids About Masturbation  48:51 - Quickfire Questions: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs & Sex Advice

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, the magnetic Lizzy Jeff—rap priestess, medicine woman, and founder of Zen & Kush—joins Dr. Emily to dive into the world of cannabis and sensuality. Together, they unpack how CBD and THC can elevate sexual connection, unlock pleasure, and serve as sacred tools for healing and embodiment. Lizzy shares her personal journey with yoni oils, cannabis suppositories, and sacred self-touch, revealing how cannabis can enhance arousal, deepen orgasms, and help you stay present during intimate moments. We explore the power of mirror work, daily sensual rituals, and breath as tools for embodiment, plus how to set up a sex magic practice for manifestation. This episode covers practical guidance on strains, dosage, and product quality, while addressing common concerns like dry mouth, vaginal dryness, and staying present during sex. Lizzy's radiant energy and wisdom shine through as she explains how cannabis can be used intentionally to expand your sexual repertoire and connect with your most authentic, sensual self. Whether you're cannabis-curious, cautious, or already exploring plant medicine in the bedroom, this conversation is full of inspiration and practical tools to help you discover new dimensions of connection and pleasure. From the science of how THC and CBD affect your body to the spiritual aspects of sacred sexuality, this episode offers a holistic approach to cannabis and intimacy. Timestamps: 0:01 - Setting Intentions with Cannabis 1:06 - Meet Lizzy Jeff: Rap Priestess & Medicine Woman 4:07 - Cannabis & Sex: Personal Experiences 6:46 - "Big Pussy Energy" & Confidence 12:06 - Staying Present During Sex: Mantras & Practices 17:12 - Daily Body Connection Practices 22:14 - Handling Cannabis Side Effects 24:05 - Why Sex Is Better High & Strain Recommendations 29:48 - Quick Fire Questions 32:13 - Sex Magic: Manifesting Through Pleasure

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Join Dr. Emily as she sits down with meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to explore how mindfulness and meditation can transform your relationships and sex life. From creating space in relationships to finding authentic happiness, this conversation dives deep into practical tools for better living and loving. Light Watkins is a bestselling author, accomplished meditation teacher, and founder of the Shine Movement. He's an inspirational keynote speaker and workshop leader who has delivered wellness-themed talks around the globe. Timestamps [8:24] - Emily's personal meditation journey [10:01] - How meditation creates space between offense and reaction in relationships [14:55] - The correlation between meditation and sex [21:02] - Light's accountability hack [31:04] - Why happiness is like doing a pull-up [38:47] - How meditation changed Light's approach to sexual connection and intimacy [41:01] - Split-testing your inner voices [45:35] - The gratitude algorithm [52:52] - Quickie Questions

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with Jeffrey Marsh, the first openly non-binary public figure interviewed on national television, author of "How to Be You," and a Zen-trained meditation teacher who has helped millions embrace self-acceptance. This conversation goes deep into identity, authenticity, and the radical act of loving yourself exactly as you are. Jeffrey shares their journey from childhood feelings of not fitting into traditional gender roles to becoming a leading voice for non-binary visibility and self-compassion. We explore the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation, the importance of using correct pronouns as basic respect, and how Jeffrey's 20+ years of Zen practice has shaped their approach to self-love and helping others break free from shame. This episode addresses the real challenges of coming out, setting boundaries with family, and the courage it takes to live authentically in a world that often demands conformity. Jeffrey offers practical wisdom on moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance, why asking for what you need is essential for healthy relationships, and how their work helps people - especially parents - learn to support LGBTQ+ loved ones. Whether you're exploring your own identity, supporting someone in your life, or simply want to understand how to love yourself more fully, this conversation offers profound insights on breaking free from societal expectations and embracing your authentic self. Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of Sex with Emily, renowned psychiatrist and brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen joins us to explore how our "hidden dragons", the unconscious patterns from our past, are secretly controlling our happiness, relationships, and sex lives. Based on his latest book, "Your Brain is Always Listening," Dr. Amen reveals how childhood experiences, family trauma, and even ancestral patterns get written into our brains and show up in our intimate relationships. We dive deep into the most common dragons people face, including the anxious dragon, the abandoned and insignificant dragon, and the codependent dragon. Dr. Amen shares his personal journey with these patterns and explains how understanding your dragons can transform not just your mental health, but your sexual wellness too. We explore the connection between brain health and sexual function, why ADD can impact orgasms, and how negative thought patterns become "bad habits" that sabotage intimacy. This episode includes practical tools like positivity bias training, the power of rewriting your story, and specific breathing techniques that can reset your nervous system. Dr. Amen also addresses a listener's question about cheating addiction and explains how brain scans revealed the neurological patterns behind compulsive behavior. Whether you're struggling with commitment issues, sexual anxiety, or just want to understand how your brain affects your love life, this conversation offers both scientific insights and actionable strategies for creating healthier relationships. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to Hidden Dragons 01:02 - Dr. Amen's Personal Dragon Story 04:40 - The Abandoned & Insignificant Dragon 08:26 - Most Common Dragons People Face 11:07 - The Ancestral Dragon & Epigenetics 14:18 - Rewriting Your Story & Focus 16:06 - Positivity Bias Training 19:07 - Happiness as Moral Obligation 21:22 - Brain Health & Sexual Function 24:02 - Building Better Mental Habits 27:59 - Listener Q&A: Cheating Addiction 35:12 - ADD & Relationships 38:20 - ADD & Female Orgasms 40:30 - Breathing Techniques for Regulation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment. We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture. This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. Show Notes:  00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play  02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission  04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens  07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths  12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like  16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training 18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink  22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey  25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces  30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety  32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect. We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication. This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation. We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom. This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore 03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics 08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play 11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships 15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week 18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy 23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies 28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection 30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between. This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals. Key Topics Covered: How stripping transformed Joanna's confidence and sexuality The art of choose-your-own-adventure erotica Dirty talk vs. sexting: different skills for different situations Moving beyond porn-influenced sexual performance Why authentic vocalization enhances pleasure Sexual confidence and embracing your desires The psychology behind attraction to "bad boys" Creating inclusive, diverse sexual narratives Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure. Show Notes:  00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur 08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica 23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting 31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality 38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this essential bonus episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily tackles one of the most common and complicated questions in modern relationships: Does watching porn count as cheating? If you've ever felt that stomach-dropping moment when you discovered your partner's browser history, or wondered if your own porn consumption crosses a line, this episode is for you. Dr. Emily cuts straight through the confusion to reveal that there's no universal answer to this question—but if it's coming up in your relationship, there's something deeper worth exploring. The real issue isn't necessarily the porn itself, but whether this behavior is breaking trust and violating the agreements you've made with your partner. We explore why so many couples never discuss porn until someone gets hurt, how childhood conditioning around secrecy affects our adult relationships, and why the shame and silence surrounding porn often cause more damage than the porn itself. Dr. Emily also addresses when porn consumption can become genuinely problematic and offers practical guidance for having these crucial conversations. Key Topics Covered: Why there's no universal definition of cheating The difference between porn use and porn problems How secrecy and shame damage relationships more than porn Why many people never discuss boundaries until it's too late When porn consumption becomes genuinely concerning How to have honest conversations about digital boundaries Moving from assumptions to actual agreements This episode emphasizes that porn doesn't ruin relationships—it's the lack of communication, transparency, and mutual understanding that creates problems. Whether you're completely comfortable with porn or feel threatened by it, this episode provides the framework for having honest, productive conversations about digital intimacy boundaries. Remember: Communication is always sexier than making assumptions and making your partner wrong. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this essential episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Dr. Ina Park, associate professor at UCSF School of Medicine and author of "Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs." From her early days as a peer educator dressed as a giant condom at UC Berkeley to becoming a leading expert in sexual health, Dr. Park brings both humor and expertise to one of the most stigmatized topics in sexual wellness. We dive deep into the myths and realities surrounding STIs, exploring why HPV is truly "the common cold of the genitals" that nearly everyone will encounter, how herpes stigma far outweighs its actual health impact, and why people who know their status are actually safer partners than those who don't. Dr. Park shares fascinating insights about everything from The Bachelor's problematic STI testing to the connection between pubic hair grooming and infection risk. This conversation tackles the shame and fear that keep us from having honest discussions about sexual health, while providing practical advice on testing, disclosure, and maintaining healthy relationships regardless of STI status. We also explore the vaginal microbiome, why some people are more susceptible to infections, and promising new treatments on the horizon. Key Topics Covered: HPV: Why it's unavoidable and how to think about it differently Herpes disclosure and reducing transmission risk The truth about oral sex and STI transmission Pubic hair, Brazilian waxes, and infection risk Vaginal health and the microbiome Why knowing your status makes you a safer partner Breaking down STI stigma and shame Dr. Park's refreshing approach reminds us that STIs are simply part of being sexually active humans, and that knowledge, communication, and compassion are our best tools for sexual wellness. Show Notes:  00:00:00 - Dr. Park's journey from condom costume to STI expert 07:00:00 - HPV: The common cold of the genitals 14:00:00 - Herpes myths, realities, and disclosure strategies 22:00:00 - Oral sex and STI transmission risks 26:00:00 - Pubic hair grooming and infection risk 31:00:00 - Vaginal microbiome and bacterial balance 36:00:00 - Listener Q&A: Real STI concerns answered 42:00:00 - Breaking stigma and having better conversations This episode emphasizes that sexual health is part of overall wellness, and that honest, shame-free conversations about STIs can transform how we approach intimate relationships. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠ Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this throwback episode, Gwyneth Paltrow joins Dr. Emily to discuss her groundbreaking series "Sex, Love & Goop" and why she's passionate about normalizing conversations around sexual wellness. From her journey as a Gen X woman navigating shame around female pleasure to creating beautifully designed vibrators that challenge stigma, Gwyneth opens up about the evolution of her own sexuality and the importance of sexual wellness as a pillar of overall health. We explore how sexual intimacy serves as a microcosm for all our relationships, why accountability and communication are essential for fulfilling partnerships, and how Gwyneth's current marriage has allowed her to experience a new level of sexual freedom in her late forties. The conversation delves into the performative nature of sexuality many women experience, the challenge of asking for what we want, and how non-judgmental partners can create space for authentic sexual expression. Gwyneth also shares insights about perimenopause and menopause, advocating for rebranding this life stage as an exciting gateway rather than an ending. She discusses her wellness journey, including how gut health has impacted her hormone balance, and reveals her hopes that her show will inspire couples to have vulnerable conversations that deepen their intimate connections. Key Topics Covered: Breaking cultural shame around female sexual pleasure The importance of sexual wellness in overall health Creating sex-positive products and conversations Navigating sexuality through different life stages Communication and vulnerability in intimate relationships Menopause as a gateway to deeper sexuality The connection between gut health and hormones This episode emphasizes that sexual wellness deserves the same attention as other aspects of health, and that honest conversations about pleasure and intimacy can transform relationships at any age. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Netflix series and sexual healing exploration 07:00:00 - Gen X sexuality and cultural shame 14:00:00 - Creating beautiful, stigma-free sex products 21:00:00 - Evolution of personal sexuality and partnerships 28:00:00 - Menopause rebranding and sexual evolution 35:00:00 - Wellness, gut health, and hormone balance 42:00:00 - Quick-fire questions and final thoughts Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this intimate episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and body-based trauma expert, to explore how vocalizing pleasure can transform your intimate experiences. From a candid discussion about their couples massage experience in Vegas to practical advice on overcoming sexual silence, this episode reveals why making authentic sounds during sex creates deeper connection and more intense pleasure. We dive into the psychology behind sexual silence, examining how childhood conditioning, shame, and societal expectations keep us quiet when we should be expressing ourselves. Dr. Scott explains the nervous system science behind vocalization, including how making sounds stimulates the vagus nerve and helps regulate our bodies during intimate moments. We also tackle the difference between authentic pleasure sounds and performative moaning influenced by porn culture. This episode addresses common concerns like being too loud with roommates or kids in the house, offers practical exercises for gradually increasing your vocal expression, and explores how sound creates crucial feedback loops between partners. Whether you're naturally quiet or overly performative, you'll learn how to find your authentic voice of pleasure. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Vegas Massage Story: Learning from Authentic Sound 03:00:00 - Why We Stay Silent During Pleasure 06:41:00 - Men, Masturbation & the Culture of Quiet Sex 08:26:00 - Sound as Nervous System Regulation 11:07:00 - Authentic vs. Performative Vocalization 15:38:00 - The Sixth Limb: Your Voice as Extension of Your Body 18:06:00 - Shame, Control & Sexual Expression 23:10:00 - Practical Exercises: Touch for Pleasure Practice 28:14:00 - Sensory Play & Exploration 30:04:00 - Parents, Kids & Sexual Noise Concerns 33:08:00 - The 10% Challenge: Starting Small Join Dr. Emily and Dr. Scott as they share personal insights and professional expertise on breaking through sexual silence to unlock deeper pleasure and connection. This episode includes a live demonstration and practical homework to help you discover your authentic voice of pleasure. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily debunks five pervasive sex myths that may be holding you back from experiencing your best intimate life. From the "body count" obsession to orgasm pressure, we explore why these common beliefs are not only wrong but potentially harmful to your sexual confidence and relationships. We dive deep into why the number of sexual partners doesn't determine your skill as a lover, the truth about natural lubrication and arousal, and how focusing solely on orgasms can actually prevent you from having them. Dr. Emily also addresses vibrator myths, explaining why sex toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and breaks down outdated beliefs about anal play that keep people from exploring new dimensions of pleasure. Featuring listener questions from Francesca, Josh, Taylor, Melissa, and Nicole, this episode provides practical advice for navigating sexual insecurities, communication with partners, and expanding your intimate repertoire. Whether you're dealing with dryness, struggling to reach climax, or curious about introducing new elements to your sex life, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - The Body Count Myth 08:00:00 - Quality vs. Quantity in Sexual Experience 11:30:00 - The Lube Myth & Natural Lubrication 17:25:00 - Orgasm Pressure & Pleasure Focus 23:17:00 - Vibrator Addiction Myths 29:57:00 - Anal Play Misconceptions 33:02:00 - Listener Q&A: Building Sexual Confidence This episode emphasizes that great sex is about communication, presence, and understanding your own body—not conforming to arbitrary standards or myths that create unnecessary pressure and shame. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia 00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety 04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma 07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics 10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory 13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment 15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics 17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility 20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners 22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships. Timestamps: 00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions 00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication 06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks 09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs 15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive 18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues 21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life 24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues 29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex 44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy 55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues This episode is sponsored by Aria - a nightstand-worthy lubricant that turns intimacy into a luxury experience. Get 20% off at http://arialuxelife.com/emily with code SWE20. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  https://sexwithemily.com/the-ultimate-gui…aving-better-sex/

In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life. #love #relationship #divorce Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute 03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story 06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure 10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse 17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education 20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships 23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication 27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates 30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values 46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life 1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-l…-prevent-divorce/

In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure. Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure. Timestamps: 00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure 00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity 10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping 14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration 20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug 23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice 32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release 43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing 46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential 01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility. #intimacy #love #relationships Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion 00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships 05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities 08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong 10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots 13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count 15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences 18:13 - Reframing the Conversation 22:44:04 - Ditching the Question 25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities 37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to ⁠https://viia.co/EMILY⁠ and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠⁠ SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ Let’s get social: Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ X ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ TikTok ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ Threads ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ Let’s text: Sign up here ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text ⁠ Full show notes: ⁠

This episode of "Sex with Emily" dives deep into the psychology and practice of foreplay, redefining it as encompassing all forms of connection, not just physical acts preceding intercourse. We discuss the importance of arousal, highlighting physiological differences between men and women and emphasizing the brain's role as the largest sex organ. This episode features practical tips for enhancing intimacy using all five senses, incorporating various sensual aids, and exploring different forms of touch and communication. #foreplay #intimacy #sex Show Notes: 00:02:50 - Foreplay: Psychology & Importance 03:49 - Foreplay & Gender Differences 10:04:20 - Secrets to Great Sex 13:29 - Setting the Mood: Five Senses 16:22 - Enhancing Foreplay & Sensory Play 19:43 - Enhancing Intimacy & Communication 22:26 - Intimacy Beyond Penetration 25:27 - Improving Sex Life & Teasing 28:14 - Reciprocated Foreplay & Issues If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to https://viia.co/EMILY and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ Let’s get social: Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠ Let’s text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes: https://sexwithemily.com/why-great-sex-st…side-the-bedroom/

In this episode of Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily takes a deep dive into the evolving landscape of infidelity in 2025. She unpacks how cheating today goes far beyond physical acts—covering emotional connections, digital interactions like DMs, social media behaviors, and even fantasies. Dr. Emily challenges listeners to rethink old assumptions and instead foster open conversations about boundaries, values, and intimacy, drawing insights from how polyamorous relationships navigate these topics. With real-life stories, listener questions, and expert advice from holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, this episode explores the impact of porn, the gray areas of "micro-cheating," and how communication can prevent betrayal. Dr. Emily also shares strategies for healing after trust is broken, including key statistics, self-reflection practices, and tips to understand your attachment style. #relationship #dating #cheating Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Defining & Preventing Infidelity 00:03:15 - Defining Infidelity in Relationships 08:12 - Relationship Boundaries & Communication 13:41 - Marriage Insecurities & Betrayal 19:19 - Confessions of a Reformed Cheater 22:31 - Open Relationships & Cheating 25:00 - Regret, Empathy & Modern Love 35:38 - Overcoming Relationship Hurdles 38:28 - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity 45:44 - Monogamy, Polyamory & Attachment Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/wheres-the-line-…-the-digital-age/

In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido. Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples. The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships. Pamela Madsen IG: @thepamelamadsen  Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/   Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact 03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey 06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire 12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness 15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift 18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations 20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality 25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching 32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image 47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia 54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats Full show notes here: Sexwithemily.com

Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for. In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss: ● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading. ● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships. ● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy. ● The difference between intensity and intimacy. ● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection. I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know 00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve 00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns 00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals 00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark? 00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy 00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement 00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive 00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety 00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals 00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection 00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark 00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe 00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation 00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection 00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait 00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Try Dipsea Free for 30 Days! Right now, you can get a 30-day free trial PLUS 25% off your annual subscription at DipseaStories.com/SWE See the full show notes at www.sexwithemily.com

What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated. On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication. For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   .    Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   .    Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential.  So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want.  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma How to get clearer on your sexual desires About the experiences of sex workers Show Notes: Try OSEA Today! Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SWE at OSEAMalibu.com Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The surprising truth about sexual compatibility—and why mismatched libidos aren’t the end of the road. Why squirting too much can actually be a turn-off (and how to control it if it’s becoming an issue). The best way to respond when your partner’s kink catches you off guard—without killing the mood. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies How to work through ultimatums in relationships Why your sex life should evolve over time Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more.  First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why erectile challenges aren’t just about the penis—and how you can spice things up while finding solutions How to co-create fantasies with your partner for hotter, more connected sex The secret to unlocking prostate pleasure (and why so many men are missing out) Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Head to MarleySpoon.com/offer/swe and use code SWE for up to 27 FREE meals! Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention.  Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why hand play—fingering and handjobs—is the underrated pleasure tool you need to master. How to turn up the heat with expert hand techniques for both vulvas and penises. The secret to making manual stimulation feel even better than penetrative sex. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try Nutrafol Today! Head to Nutrafol.com and use code "SWE" at checkout for $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance? In this episode, you’ll learn: How to communicate boundaries and advocate for your pleasure in oral sex (without the sore throat aftermath) The best ways to introduce your partner to rimming—yes, even if they’re hesitant How to navigate mismatched libidos, strip club discomfort, and polyamory as a secondary partner Show Notes: Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Barnes & Noble Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble “The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory “Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory Polyamory in BLACK! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals.  With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection Show Notes: More John Kim: Instagram | Website | Book More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Book How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2025- Sign up for my FREE masterclass today! For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility. In this episode, you’ll learn: The secret to orgasming in any position (without wrecking your calves). How to bring back the heat after a dry spell—without the pressure. The power move that gets your partner to switch things up in bed. Show Notes: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life in 2025- Sign up for my FREE masterclass today! Try Just Thrive Probiotic Today! Go to justhrivehealth.com and use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 20% off your order! Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/EMILY to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today! Nobody does selling better than Shopify. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions.  First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop. How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms). Show Notes: To get 6 bottles of wine for $39.99, head to NakedWines.com/SWE and use code SWE for both the code AND PASSWORD.   Description automatically generatedSex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop. How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.  The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms). Show Notes: For a limited time, Nutrafol is offering $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promo code SWE. Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex, I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to turn classic sex positions into kinky, pleasure-boosting experiences. Why even small tweaks—like tempo and control—can make you kinkier than you think. The secret to better orgasms in any position (hint: clitoral stimulation is key). Show Notes: Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner. We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.” In this episode, you’ll learn: Why being single isn’t a “waiting room”—it’s a destination for confidence, self-love, and incredible orgasms. How to turn your solo pleasure game all the way up with masturbation, edging, and next-level orgasm hacks. The secrets to emotional intimacy in the bedroom (even if your partner struggles with it). Show Notes: More Dr. Megan Stubbs: Website | Instagram | Twitter (X) Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation. She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop labeling everything as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ and simply let things be what they are. It’s 2025—and time to meditate, masturbate, and manifest for a better year. In this episode, you’ll learn: How meditation can transform your relationship—See your partner clearly and stop the blame game. Why chaos is personal—and powerful—Own it, don’t let it own you. The magic of breath—Calm your mind, spark your pleasure. Show Notes: More Tal Rabinowitz & The DEN Meditation: Website | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Tal's Instagram  Head to MarleySpoon.com/OFFER/SWE and use code SWE for up to 27 FREE meals! Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right? So on today’s show, we’re going to trust, touch, and titillate our way towards arousal, with bonding hacks you can use on your next date whether it is with a long term partner or someone new. Plus, I take your questions! Ways to feel confident and sexual again after a breakup, how to have kinky sex with a partner who says they aren’t interested, how to decide if you should wait to develop a relationship with a super busy person or cut em’ loose, how to take sexy pictures with each other, and how to communicate your needs efficiently outside the bedroom so that you can reignite the spark when you’re back inside. In this episode, you’ll learn: Sexy bonding hacks that build trust, boost intimacy, and turn you on How adrenaline-fueled dates like rock climbing or karaoke make you hotter for each other The fix for mismatched kinks, low libido, and getting your sex life back on track Show Notes: Buy The Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship.  We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the spark is total BS—and what actually makes a relationship last How your dating type (romanticizer, maximizer, or hesitator) is messing with your love life The secret to making better choices in dating—so you can finally find your person Show Notes: More Logan Ury: Instagram | Twitter | Website For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   To get 6 bottles of wine for $39.99, head to NakedWines.com/SWE and use code SWE for both the code AND PASSWORD.  Buy Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Better sex starts in your gut—who knew? Microbiologist Kiran Krishnan joins me to break down the gut-sex connection, from how digestion impacts libido and orgasms to why stress and diet could be killing your pleasure. We’ll get into what “leaky gut” actually is, how it messes with your hormones, and the simple, science-backed habits that will boost your energy, balance your body, and supercharge your sex life. In this episode, you’ll learn: How your gut health affects your sex life—from libido to orgasms and even erections. Why stress wrecks your gut and lowers your desire (plus how to fix it). Five simple gut-friendly habits to boost energy, balance hormones, and have better sex. Show Notes: More Kiran Krishnan: Instagram Try Just Thrive Probiotic Today! Go to justthrivehealth.com and use promo code "SEXWITHEMILY" to save 20% at checkout. Ready for a junk-free start to 2025? Head to Thrive Market.com/swe and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift!  Buy Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn industry has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn? In this episode, you’ll learn: What really happens on a porn set, from fake orgasms to real chemistry. How porn shapes real-life sex and what actually feels good. Why ethical porn hits different with real pleasure, real connection, and no male gaze. Show Notes: More Jacky St. James: Website | Instagram | Twitter (X) More Ana Foxxx: OnlyFans | Instagram | Twitter (X) Buy Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Valentine’s Day is here, and we’re making it hot. Whether you’re single, partnered, or just here for the pleasure tips, I’m joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to talk all things intimacy, gift ideas that actually turn up the heat, and how to keep things exciting beyond February 14th. We’re covering the best sexy gifts (hello, remote-control vibes), why curiosity is the key to lasting passion, and how to avoid becoming that couple scrolling at dinner. Plus, our wildest V-Day stories—think surprise proposals, foursomes, and one very awkward TSA moment. Let’s make this Valentine’s Day one to remember. 💋 In this episode, you’ll learn: How to make Valentine’s Day sexy—whether you’re single or partnered. Why curiosity keeps intimacy alive (and how to avoid stale relationships). The hottest pleasure products to upgrade your solo or partnered play. Valentines Day Gift Guide Products: LELO Couple Play Bundle (Use code EMILY15 at LELO.com for an extra 15% off!)  Magic Wand Mini (*Visit Shop With Emily for 20% to 30% off select products.)  Morgasm CBD-Infused Arousal Gel (Use code LOVE25 for up to 40% off at Morgasm and a FREE Morgasm Travel Kit – a sleek drawstring bag that includes a 0.5 travel tube of Morgasm Original Lube!! While supplies last.) V-Health Serum (For Her) (Use code EMILY25 for 25% off sitewide on https://getvhealth.com/.) Common Confidential Intimate Blanket (*Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your first Common Confidential purchase. ) Common Confidential Massage Butter (*Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your first Common Confidential purchase.) Je Joue Massage Candle (*Visit Shop With Emily for 20% to 30% off select products. ) Hera Flex Rabbit ( Buy now with 30% off using code EMILY30 at sexwithemily.com/hera ) Find more at sexwithemily.com  Show Notes: More Dr. Scott Lyons: Instagram | Website | Podcast Buy Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner. We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to disclose an STI and still have an amazing sex life. Why shaving might increase your STI risk (and how to avoid it). Why HPV is common—and totally manageable. Show Notes: More Dr. Ina Park: Instagram | Website | Twitter (X) Buy Dr. Ina Park's Book, Strange Bedfellows, Today! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Tired of repeating the same relationship mistakes? Relationship coach Jillian Turecki joins me to break down the nine hard truths about love that will change your life. From healing heartbreak to understanding why you keep attracting the wrong people, Jillian shares how true love starts with you. We’re talking about breakups, dating struggles, and why lust isn’t love (even though it feels amazing). Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you build healthier connections and finally get the love you deserve. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to break free from toxic dating patterns. The red flags you’re probably ignoring. Why self-acceptance is the key to love. Show Notes: More Jillian Turecki: Instagram | Website | Podcast Order Jillian's Book, It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life, Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy. In this episode, you’ll learn: Dirty talk made easy with simple tips to start and spice it up without feeling awkward Sexting secrets to tease, turn on, and build anticipation like a pro Confidence in the bedroom by owning your desires and feeling empowered in and out of bed Show Notes: More Joanna Angel: Linktree | Instagram | Twitter | Book To get 6 bottles of wine for $39.99, head to NakedWines.com/SWE and use code SWE for both the code AND PASSWORD. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner.  Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). In this episode, you’ll learn: How to ask your partner for more oral sex and introduce fun tools like flavored lubes. Ways to break free from a toxic ex and open yourself to healthier relationships. Tips to explore mutual masturbation and edging for better intimacy. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex.  Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares the ways that sex is similar to meditation, the importance of following your intuition, how to foster true positive change, and the best ways to maintain a gratitude practice. In this episode, you’ll learn: How meditation enhances your sex life and keeps you present. Why managing stress is the secret to better relationships. Simple gratitude hacks to transform your mindset. Show Notes: More Light Watkins: Instagram | Twitter | YouTube | Website | Podcast | Book Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks?  Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Biggs. In this episode, she talks about the personal experiences with social media that inspired her book, why she wants to see a sex therapist, and helps me answer your sex and relationship questions. For example, if you’re in a relationship, is it ok to comment on someone else’s Instagram telling them how attractive they are? Jenny and I give it to you straight. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to navigate the tricky relationship dynamics of long-term partnerships and social media. Why laughter and authenticity are key to maintaining intimacy over the years. The surprising connections between personal vulnerability, desire, and self-discovery. Show Notes: More Jenny Mollen: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Jenny Mollen's Books For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

I’m joined by the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sophia and Sistine Stallone. Find out what really happens on the dating apps, how to spot red flags and why a bad first kiss doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. I encourage them to make time for masturbation and we discuss if watching porn is considered cheating. I also take your calls and answer a bunch of your questions. I cover prostate play, adult virginity, partner toys and what to do when your partner takes too long to orgasm. In this episode, you’ll learn: The secret to turning a bad kisser into your perfect match. How to unlock your sexual confidence through self-exploration. Game-changing tips to get what you want in the bedroom—without the awkwardness. Show Notes: More Sophia & Sistine Stallone: Unwaxed w/ Sophia & Sistine Stallone | Unwaxed Instagram | Unwaxed YouTube  | Sophia Stallone Instagram  | Sistine Stallone Instagram  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our Pleasure Planner, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspiration to create your own sex and love goals, download our free Pleasure Planner sexwithemily.com/guides. Or just click the link HERE! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to use the Sex With Emily Pleasure Planner Practical ways to communicate your desires and co-create a sex life that excites you How to set and stick to sex and pleasure goals that truly prioritize your needs Show Notes: Shop for Massage Candles at shopsexwithemily.com! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Head to thrivemarket.com/swe and get 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Start selling with Shopify today. Head to shopify.com/swe for your one-dollar-per-month trial period. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works, and looking for sex after a life after not having any, each of these people have taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story.  I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend won’t communicate openly with you about your sex life, how to be more confident rocking the cowgirl position and what to do if mismatched libidos are making you feel insecure in your relationship. In this episode, you’ll learn: How real listener stories of self-discovery and sexual growth can inspire your own journey. The keys to building confidence, communicating needs, and reigniting passion in your relationship. Actionable tips for embracing pleasure, navigating mismatched desires, and taking control of your sex life. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  Get 10% off your first order sitewide at OSEAMalibu.com with code "SWE" SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men, how to make the “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to build unshakable confidence through self-love, manifestation, and daily affirmations. Why approaching dating with curiosity (and a sense of humor) can completely change your experience. The connection between knowing your body through masturbation and feeling empowered in the bedroom. Show Notes: More Serena Kerrigan: Twitter | Instagram | Website Try VIIA Today! Head to https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

In this episode I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it!  Your questions include: What to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to embrace fantasies like cuckolding while avoiding shame and regret. What to do when your partner’s sexual style doesn’t match your needs. Sexy hacks to keep intimacy alive—even when living with parents. Show Notes: Try the LELO F1S V2! Visit lelo.com and use code “SEXWITHEMILY” at checkout for an additional 25% OFF. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies. We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to explore BDSM, from restraint play to introducing kinks. The biggest myths about BDSM and why it’s not all whips and chains. Simple ways to master consent, boundaries, and better communication. Show Notes: More Justine Cross: Instagram | Twitter | Dominatrix Website | Dungeon East | OnlyFans | Youtube Try the Je Joue HERA FLEX today! (Head to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code “EMILY30” at checkout for 30% off.) Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable?   First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: Game-changing 69 positions to maximize pleasure. Oral sex tips to elevate giving and receiving. How to relax and fully enjoy receiving pleasure. Show Notes: This episode is brought to you by: Just Thrive (Visit justthrivehealth.com and use code “SEXWITHEMILY” at checkout for 20% off your order) Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to address common causes of pain during sex Treatments for sexual health challenges Why there’s no “normal” when it comes to sexual health Show Notes: More Dr. Maria Uloko: Instagram | Twitter | MUMD Sexual Health Beverly Hills VULVAi.co: Instagram | Website  Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine? Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to break through orgasm barriers with self-pleasure tips. The essentials for navigating open relationships and threesomes. Why embracing the messiness of sex leads to better intimacy. Show Notes: Try VIIA Today! Head to https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave?  Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. In this episode, you’ll learn: How your voice can enhance intimacy and authenticity in and out of the bedroom. Why playful and respectful communication is the key to better sex. The joys of dating in your 40s, from confidence to self-awareness. Show Notes: More Lake Bell: Instagram | X Lake Bell's Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin Try the Enigma Wave Today! Visit lelo.com and use code “SEXWITHEMILY” at checkout for an additional 25% OFF any existing sales. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward. In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to navigate the crossroads of making up or breaking up—and what signs to look for in your relationship. Why communication, boundaries, and therapy are game-changers when deciding whether to stay or go. The truth about age gaps, open relationships, and the role of emotional honesty in finding real compatibility. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Ready to grow your business? Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice.  In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one! In this episode, you’ll learn: Why taking a break from dating can reset your emotional boundaries How to embrace authenticity in relationships Practical tips to avoid awkward bedroom moments Show Notes: Try VIIA Hemp! https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! More Violet Benson: @DaddyIssues_ | @VioletBenson | Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

‘Tis the season to give and receive! In this episode, I’m unwrapping the 2024 Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide to help you bring more pleasure to your loved ones—and yourself—this year. From wellness essentials to stocking stuffers and, of course, must-have sex toys, there’s something for everyone on your list (yes, even your grandparents!). I’ll share my top picks, tips for introducing a partner to toys, and why the gift of pleasure is truly the gift that keeps on giving. In this episode, you’ll learn: When and how to gift a sex toy. Tips for introducing toys into your relationship. Emily’s favorite pleasure-filled gifts for the holidays. Show Notes: Sex With Emily Holiday Gift Guide: 2024 Edition Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Episode Sponsored By: Try Popstar Volume + Taste Supplement! (Use code "EMILY" for 20% off (excl. 3-pack))  ILY Pebble Vibrator by Je Joue (Use Code "EMILY30" for 30% off your order) VIIA High Love Gummies + Vape Bundle (11/19-12/3: 25% Off Sitewide & Up to 50% Off Other Select Items & Bundles Sitewide (No Code)- After 12/3: Use code "EMILY" for 15% off) Morgasm CBD- Infused Lube & "O" Lube (11/19 - 12/2: Purchase any single tube or discounted bundle and receive a free lube with code "EMILYBF" Solaray Her Life Stages ( Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 15% off your order) Just Thrive Total Body Boost (11/23-12/3: Use code "SWE" for 25% off sitewide) Je Joue Hera Flex Rabbit Vibrator (Head to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code “EMILY30” at checkout for 30% off.) Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic (Visit lelo.com and use code “EMILY20” at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales.) Bathmate Penis Pumps( 11/25-12/4: Up to 35% off all pumps (no code); After 12/4: Use code EMILY for 10% off your order) See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his book Your Brain is Always Listening.  We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. Come along on a fascinating deep dive into how shifting your mindset can transform your brain, your relationships, and your pleasure. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to silence negative thoughts with easy daily habits to rewire your brain Why a healthy brain means better sex, from focus to pleasure How to break toxic cycles and build stronger, happier relationships Show Notes: More Dr. Daniel Amen: Website | Instagram | Amen University | Your Brain is Always Listening Take The Dragon Quiz Today! Try the Enigma Double Sonic Today! Visit lelo.com and use code “EMILY20” at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot more free. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to confidently speak up about your needs in the bedroom Why communication is the ultimate lubricant for better sex The secret to navigating relationship dilemmas—whether it’s mismatched libidos, feelings for a friend, or trying non-monogamy for the first time. Show Notes: Try The Je Joue Hera Flex Today! Head to sexwithemily.com/hera and use code "EMILY30" at checkout for 30% off.  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date. Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny can be like being drunk, and why your flaws DON’T make you a bad person. In this episode, you’ll learn:  How taking charge of your orgasms can boost your connection with partners and why having a vibrator isn’t “cheating" Explore the journey of accepting yourself fully—flaws, quirks, and all—and learn why self-confidence is the ultimate turn-on. Get real about setting boundaries in relationships, from balancing power dynamics to knowing when to wait before taking things to the next level. Show Notes: More Nikki Glaser: Website | Facebook | Twitter (X) | Instagram | The Nikki Glaser Podcast Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children). In this episode, you’ll learn: Oral sex tips to prevent discomfort How to make your wedding night intimate without penetration How to build confidence with communication Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

In this episode of Sex With Emily, my friend and somatic sexologist Dolly Josette, The Pleasure Muse, returns to help us reconnect with our bodies and unlock deeper pleasure. She shares how to pleasure yourself and communicate those desires to your partner. You’ll walk away knowing how to heal trauma in your genitals, access the prostate for an epic orgasm (for all bodies!), and deepen intimacy with yourself and your partner to enhance your life. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why embodiment is the key to unlocking deeper pleasure and connection. Why releasing stored trauma (yes, even in your genitals!) can transform your sex life and help you feel more during intimacy. How to access the prostate for mind-blowing orgasms and greater sexual fulfillment. Show Notes: More Dolly Josette: Pleasure Muse | Instagram | Nashville Relationship Reboot Retreat Try the Enigma Double Sonic Today! Visit lelo.com and use code “EMILY20” at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales. Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.) Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others. In this episode, you’ll learn: How Social Media Becomes a “Third Wheel” in Relationships The Sneaky Ways Social Media Can Undermine Your Confidence Micro-Cheating, Doomscrolling, and the Need for Digital Detox Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Ready to grow your business? Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/swe Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases. Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why open conversations about finances are just as crucial as discussing intimacy in relationships The power of the “prenup conversation” for a stronger relationship Why understanding each other’s relationship expectations can prevent major conflicts down the line Show Notes: More Laura Wasser: Instagram | Office Divorce.com: Instagram | Website | Facebook | Twitter (X) | Youtube | Tiktok Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more on todays episode.  In this episode, you’ll learn: How to get out of your own head and finally let go for a better orgasm Why pleasure is a right, not a reward Practical tips for tackling delayed orgasms and performance pressure Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How do you know if you’re bisexual? Author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused. Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Labels like bi or pan are for you to explore your identity, not to please others Communication is everything. Talk openly with your partner about desires and fantasies to strengthen intimacy Bisexuality isn’t one-size-fits-all: It’s a personal journey, and questioning your sexuality is part of it Show Notes: Try the LELO ENIGMA Wave Today! (Use code "EMILY20" at checkout for an additional 20% OFF any existing sales.) More Jen Winston: Instagram | Twitter (X)  | Greedy: Notes From A Bisexual Who Wants Too Much Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy. In this episode, you’ll learn: Tips on how to align your dates with your unique arousal style, whether it’s through touch, adventure, or conversation, to keep things fresh and fun Fun, creative date ideas—like role-playing as sexy strangers or planning a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market—that spark connection and curiosity How to break free from routine and create exciting, playful dates that build sexual tension and enhance intimacy Show Notes: Try VIIA Hemp! https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code "EMILY"! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties!  If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why your 50s are a time for empowerment, confidence, and embracing your desires. Tips for navigating bodily changes and maintaining intimacy in midlife. Understanding the impact of menopause on your body and libido, and how to adapt for a fulfilling sex life.​ Show Notes: More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | X | Website | Book Enter the Solaray giveaway now! Entries end on 10/21 at 11:59 PM PT and the winner will be chosen on 10/22. Follow @solarayvitamins and @sexwithemily on instagram Like our giveaway post on our Instagram Tag your friends in the comments – each tag gets you an entry, so go ahead and tag all your people! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today. In her book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a long term relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner. In this episode, you’ll learn: Radical confidence is built by taking action, even when you’re scared. How to escape the “purgatory of the mundane” by making small changes and stop waiting for the perfect moment. All about validating yourself—don’t rely on others for approval, celebrate your own wins. Show Notes: WIN FREE VIBRATORS! Bellesa and I are giving away *free toys* to everyone – sign up here: bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast More Lisa Bilyeu: Instagram | Youtube | Twitter | Book: Radical Confidence | Impact Theory Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try the LELO SORAYA WAVE today! (Use code "EMILY10" for an additional 10% OFF at checkout, exclusions may apply) Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one.  How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to talk to your partner about sex or trying something new How to get better at oral How to spice up your sex life How to increase your sex drive How to last longer during sex Show Notes: WIN FREE VIBRATORS! Bellesa and I are giving away *free toys* to everyone – sign up here: bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try VIIA Hemp! https://bit.ly/viiaemily and use code EMILY! Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why communication and preparation are key to a positive anal experience with your partner. Expert tips on easing into anal play without discomfort or pain. Safe and effective cleaning practices to maintain a healthy and pleasurable anal routine. Show Notes: WIN FREE VIBRATORS! Bellesa and I are giving away *free toys* to everyone - sign up here: bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast More More Dr. Evan Goldstein: Instagram  | Website | Bespoke Surgical | Future Method  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. This episode is brought to you by: Just Thrive (Visit justthrivehealth.com and use code “SEXWITHEMILY” at checkout for 20% off your order) Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram. I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to embrace your sexual fantasies without shame—they’re healthy and common. Learn how to communicate your fantasies with your partner for deeper intimacy. The difference between Fantasies and Fetishes Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. This episode is brought to you by: VIIA (Visit Viiahemp.com and use code “EMILY” at checkout for 15% off your order) Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by two guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shares the benefits of getting to know your (or your partner’s) vulva, the relationship between insecurity and porn, solutions for painful sex, and of course, squirting. Next, we have Dr. Pablo Gonzalez, who specializes in obstetrics and gynecology for the last 10 years and is the pioneer in regenerative gynecology. We talk about the company V-health and how beneficial it is for all vulva owners. In this episode, you’ll learn: The impact of aging, hormonal changes, and lifestyle factors on vaginal wellness. How the V-Health serum can improve moisture and overall sexual pleasure. The importance of taking proactive steps for your sexual wellness Show Notes: More Dr. Sherry | Website | Instagram More Dr. Pablo Gonzalez | Website | V-Health Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: V-Health (Visit getvhealth.com and use code "EMILY20" for 20% off at checkout) Try Solaray her life Stages Today! Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" to get 15% off your entire order! Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Let’s manifest our dream partners and our best sex. Because listen: if our romantic lives aren’t aligned with the people we actually are, we have an opportunity to change that.  Today, I’ll tell you how I manifested my own partner, the specific steps used to get there, and why the science behind this practice works. I’ll also answer your questions about finding the one and how manifestation can apply to your everyday dating and sex dilemmas. In this episode, you’ll learn: What is manifestation How to manifest your ideal partner Key questions to deepen connections and understand compatibility when dating. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: VIIA (Visit Viiahemp.com and use code "Emily" at checkout for 15% off your order) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones.  I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to navigate conversations about spicing up your relationship Understanding boundaries around threesomes How to handle narcissistic tendencies in relationships Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: Promescent(Visit the link for 15% off, or go to promescent.com/emily) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

On today’s show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex. I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner about having another child and what it means when you cry after sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How honest, heartfelt conversations about intimacy can reignite connection and strengthen emotional bonds with your partner. Techniques to overcome sexual conditioning and experience pleasure in new ways through mindfulness and open communication. The importance of exploring sexual fantasies with clear boundaries and how they can evolve as part of a healthy sexual journey. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: LELO (Use code “SEXWITHEMILY” for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

In today’s episode, I’ve brought my Mom back on the show to dive into a range of topics from the hilarious to the profound. We reminisced about growing up as women in an ever-changing world, trying to date and have sex! Our conversation covered the early passionate days of relationships to the mundane, finding time for sex and reviving your libido. I also had some fun quizzing my mom on modern dating slang. Her take on each word made me laugh. I think you’ll love hearing about the many stages of sex from my mom's seasoned perspective. Exploring dating terms with my mom was a fantastic way to demystify modern relationships! I asked her about breadcrumbing, DTR, red flags, situationships, ghosting, pegging, and rizz, aka…charisma.   Learning points from the episode: The evolution of relationships from passion to domesticity. The impact of menopause on intimacy. The many layers of modern dating terms. Insights into maintaining a long-term relationship.   Tune into these articles:  I Asked My Mom 5 Things About Sex, Sexuality and Aging: Here’s What She Said 8 Most Common Sexual Struggles for Couples (& How to Solve Them)   This episode is brought to you by Solaray. If you're seeking a healthier cycle or mood support, you have to check out these products. For 15% off your entire order, go to: www.solaray.com/sexwithemily  Solaray Disclaimer: The FDA has not evaluated any of these statements, and these products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Additionally, I've personally had a great experience with Solaray, but each woman’s experience is unique. The Solaray "HER LIFE STAGES" formulas shared in this episode are not intended to address every symptom or concern mentioned, but they are designed to provide powerful life-stage support.    SMARTSX: I'm thrilled to announce SmartSX, an exclusive membership that's revolutionizing the way you will approach sexual wellness. Last week, I kicked off this exciting journey, inviting you to join a community that's all about transforming your sex life. Whether you're looking to deepen connections or explore new kinks, SmartSX is your gateway to all things sexy and insightful. Embrace your pleasure potential with an open heart and mind. As a member, you'll embark on a journey to discover your unique desire style and boost your Sex IQ. You’ll gain invaluable tools for a healthier sex life through engaging discussions, expert guests, and direct interactions with me. Each month, we'll dive into themes based on my 12 Universal Truths About Sex and Pleasure, starting with 'Sexual Connection is a Skill Set.' CLICK HERE TO JOIN

So your partner is great… but you want them to bring the heat, and don’t know how to ask for it. Now what? On today’s episode, I answer calls about how to ask for exactly what you want, or conversely, don’t want. I also give advice about how to achieve orgasm without relying too heavily on porn or toys, what to do if your partner’s penis is too big for anal, what to do if YOU like giving oral but your partner isn’t as down to receive, and how to enjoy casual dating. In this episode you’ll learn: How past negative experiences can impact your current reactions to physical affection, and discover strategies to rebuild a positive relationship with touch. Understand the importance of transparent dialogue with your partner about your needs and boundaries, and how to approach these conversations constructively. Explore the challenges of casual dating and the significance of self-awareness in identifying what type of relationship dynamic suits you best. Show Notes: Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Hey, pleasure seekers! I'm super excited about today's episode. I always encourage you to discuss sex with your friends, so I've invited Amy Friedlander, my CEO and brilliant friend, to join this conversation. We're both fed up with the pleasure gap, a topic The New York Times highlighted in a recent article, "The Orgasm Gap Isn’t Going Away for Straight Women." Today, Amy and I are actively seeking ways to bridge this gap. We're sharing our sexual histories, addressing the pitfalls of faking orgasms, and talking about negative sex-pectations set by porn and extreme media portrayals. We're talking about methods to prioritize pleasure and close the orgasm gap. Tune in to be part of this change and close the gap with us! You deserve a richer, more fulfilling sex life. We're sharing our sexual histories, addressing the pitfalls of faking orgasms, and talking about negative sex-pectations set by porn and extreme media portrayals. Together, we're talking about methods to prioritize pleasure and close the orgasm gap. Tune in to be part of this change and close the gap with us! You deserve a richer, more fulfilling sex life. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the Orgasm Gap Persists: We'll unpack how inadequate sex education continues to widen this divide. The Dangers of Faking It: Discover why being authentic in expressing your sexual needs is essential for true pleasure. The Role of Media: We'll debunk harmful myths and foster a healthier dialogue around sex. Also, don't miss our discussions on whether sleeping apart can enhance your sex life and how Kegel trainers can lead to more intense orgasms. Tune into these articles: Does Sleeping Apart Help Your Sex Life? Kegel Trainers for Bigger, Badder Orgasms More: Try the LELO SILA CRUISE Today. Link here! Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE 💖 SMARTSX ANNOUNCEMENT 💖 Today, September 10th, 2024, we're thrilled to launch SmartSx, our membership platform where pleasure meets education. Join our community to transform your intimate life, whether you're deepening connections or exploring new kinks. SmartSx is your gateway to all things sexy and insightful. Embrace your pleasure potential with an open heart and mind. As a member, you'll embark on a journey to discover your unique desire style and boost your Sex IQ. You’ll also gain tools for a healthier sex life through engaging discussions, expert guests, and direct interactions with me. Each month will feature themes based on my 12 Universal Truths About Sex and Pleasure, starting with 'Sexual Connection is a Skill Set.' CLICK HERE TO JOIN

In this episode, Dr. Emily welcomes her friend and fellow Michigan native, Ophira from The AstroTwins, to discuss their new book, The Astrology Advantage, and their revolutionary I*AM system. This unique system or framework blends astrology with the Enneagram and Meyers Briggs to unlock insights into your personality-- your buttons, skills, passions, and life path. As a bonus, Ophi reads Emily's chart, revealing how the I*AM system shapes her career, sex, desire, and goals. They explore the Authority, Innovator, and Maven archetypes, offering a fresh perspective on understanding yourself through astrology. Tune in to learn how astrology influences desire and sexuality and how to align with your authentic sexual self. Get your copy of The Astrology Advantage to dig deeper into your I*AM archetype! Ophi describes the I*AM System as “an astrological personality test” and “Atomic Habits meets The Wisdom of The Enneagram.” You need this book! I could not put it down. Purchase: The Astrology Advantage More about The AstroTwins What You'll Learn: The I*AM System Explained: Discover how the Authority, Innovator, and Maven archetypes correlate with the 13 planets in astrology and your chart. Astrology Meets Enneagram: Learn how each IAM archetype connects with the 12 zodiac signs, offering a new lens to understand your personality, desires, and behavior. Sex, Shame, and Kink: Understand how your I*AM archetype influences your sexual expression and how to overcome shame or embrace kink through astrological insights. Body Confidence and Sexual Fulfillment: Explore how aligning with your archetype helps you feel more comfortable in your body as you pursue pleasure and intimacy. Sexual Authenticity: Learn how your sexual style—whether you're an Innovator, Authority, or Maven—affects how you engage with partners and express desire authentically. Also, SmartSx, my new membership, launches on September 10th. Please join me and this incredible community of open-minded pleasure-seekers! Here's a sneak peak of what you'll experience when you sign up: SmartSX is a community and app for individuals prioritizing pleasure and sexual well-being, helping members explore desires and create a fulfilling sex life. Great lovers are made, not born: Anyone can learn how to have the best sexual experiences of their lives. SmartSX members can directly interact with her and ask questions in the community. Inclusive membership: SmartSX caters to everyone—whether you're a beginner or experienced, single or partnered—focusing on understanding, giving, and receiving pleasure. Members will uncover their unique desire style, increase their Sex IQ, enhance sexual communication, and gain essential tools for a healthy sex life through discussions, special guests, and experts. Each month features a theme based on Dr. Emily's 12 Universal Truths About Sex and Pleasure, starting with Sexual Connection is a Skill Set. GET ON THE WAITLIST: CLICK HERE

Do you always have sex on the the first date? Do you always swipe right on people who aren’t good for you? What are your bad dating habits – and how can you break them? I asked you to tell me what negative dating patterns you’re trying to change, and you all delivered! On today’s show, I’m addressing your top dating problems so we can solve them together. Having sex too soon, trying to “fix” less-than-ideal partners, fear of asserting yourself, having misaligned expectations, the tendency to audition people for the role of life partner – we’re covering it all, so you can feel empowered with new partners and have an amazing time with existing partners. In this episode you’ll learn: How to Identify and Break Negative Dating Patterns The Importance of Assertiveness in Dating Strategies for Building Self-Confidence in Dating Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Shopify.com/swe The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live.

Let's explore the world of sex parties! Are you curious if this scene is for you? This episode is your go-to guide for everything about sex parties. We'll cover the various types available, from kink-centric gatherings to more relaxed swinging events. I'll guide you through finding these parties, understanding the etiquette, and what to expect when you arrive. We'll discuss how to mingle effectively and, importantly, what to wear to blend in or stand out. So join me at this podcast, Sex Party!  Don't forget to join the waitlist for SmartSX, which launches on September 10th, 2024. This incredible membership will offer you access to exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Smart SX: join our waitlist!  FetLife Feeld #Open Kinky Rabbit Club Just Thrive (code BOGOSWE) Shop With Emily! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Read this week's Articles: How to Have Vigorous Sex | How to *Actually* Dirty Talk Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

In today's episode, we’re diving into the questions you've been too shy to ask out loud—yes, those. Remember, shame has no place here, especially when it comes to your sexual curiosities and concerns. We’re all in this together, exploring the complex yet exhilarating world of sex, so let’s break down those barriers and talk openly. In this episode you’ll learn:  How do I handle rejections for sex from my partner when they masturbate daily? If their “porn” type looks different than my body type, does that mean they may not be attracted to me? Is it normal to think about someone else during sex? How do I get my partner to understand I’m not a porn star…Yes, I’ll try things, but…I’m not that kinky. I’ve never squirted. Is that normal? How can I get myself to squirt? Can too much use of a vibrator desensitize or burn my clitoris?  How can I get a clitoris orgasm by mouth without it taking hours? I don’t like to masturbate in front of my partner because it's hard for me to focus. Is something wrong with me? Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live.

Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts.  What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men. In this episode you’ll learn:  About the wide range of orgasms people can experience and why each is unique. Why libido levels vary between individuals and how this impacts sexual relationships. How pornography can shape unrealistic expectations and affect real-life sexual experiences. Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want to try Promescent's Delay Spray or Arousal Gel? Visit Promescent.com/emily for 15% off your order! Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live.

Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.) We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!). In this episode, you’ll learn: How to Improve casual sex Insights from the LGBTQ+ Community Tools for talking to your kids about sex Show Notes: More Justin Lehmiller : Website | Instagram | X | Podcast | Book Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide Try the ENIGMA™ Cruise Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

On today’s show, I’m joined by psychological astrologer and returning guest Dr. Jennifer Freed. We answer your questions on how to spot a sensual lover, useful tools for addressing low libido, how to pursue a threesome or open relationship, how to easily create intimacy in a relationship, what your Zodiac signs say (or don’t say) about compatibility with your partner, what to do if your hookup buddy wants a relationship (but you don’t), and the mind-blowing effects of EMDR therapy. We also share our top methods to build erotic tension and why focusing too much on your partner’s desire can hold you back in the bedroom. As an added bonus, we walk through ways to reach your ‘power yes’ in sex, the effects of toxic masculinity, and how to communicate as an invitation—not a confrontation. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to identify and attract a sensual lover through astrology and self-awareness. Tools and techniques to address low libido and build erotic tension in your relationship. Practical advice on navigating open relationships, threesomes, and understanding compatibility through Zodiac signs. Show Notes: More Dr. Jennifer Freed: Website | Instagram Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide EMDRIA.org: Resources for EMDR therapy SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Just like going to the gym improves your body, going to therapy improves your mind. And bonus: couple’s counseling can radically improve your relationship and your sex life. So why do some people absolutely refuse to go? On today’s show, I’m giving you the therapy low-down, so you can decide whether you should try it – or, if it’s the right call for you and your partner. I’m talking: signs it’s time to look for a therapist, pros and cons of solo therapy vs. couple’s counseling, whether sex therapy is right for you, what to expect from a typical therapy session, and how to find therapy that works for you – including budget-friendly options. Plus, I take your therapy-related questions on porn addiction, sexual trauma and what to do if you tried to improve your sex life with your partner…but they cheated anyway. In this episode, you’ll learn: The Importance of Addressing Sexual Trauma The Power of Open Communication in Relationships Seeking Professional Help is a Sign of Strength Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

If you build a sex room, they will come. That’s the idea behind the Netflix show “How to Build a Sex Room,” and on today’s episode I’ve got designer Melanie Rose here with me to discuss her real-life erotic renovations. From a rock n’ roll dungeon to a high-end sex spa, Melanie has all kinds of decor ideas you can steal: spanking benches, wall-mounted handcuffs, soundproofing wall art. All of these are client-approved sex innovations, but the show has a touching side too. You get to see all kinds of clients, from suburbanites to polycules, parents to long-distance couples, discuss their fantasies and sexual desires – some of them for the very first time. And you know I’m all about that. In this episode, you’ll learn: Insights into how Melanie Rose creates sex rooms that are both functional and sensual Practical advice on managing bodily fluids during sex How designing a personalized sex room can empower individuals and couples to explore their sexuality more freely Show Notes: More Melanie Rose: Netflix show | Instagram | Website | Pinterest Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. In this episode, you’ll learn: Discover the positive reasons to explore anal play on your own, regardless of your anatomy. Learn the truth behind common anal myths and misconceptions. Get detailed tips on toys and insertion techniques, from beginner to advanced levels. Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? Guide Try the LELO SORAYA Beads Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to get in the mood for FaceTime sex and tips to help yourself feel more comfortable on-screen Answers to listener questions, such as how to spice it up and how do you end a sexting session How to position your camera and what to actually say in the moment Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags. So on today’s show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations. In this episode, you’ll learn: Being upfront and honest in a new relationship is very important Lowering your expectations for a one night stand or a situation-ship When someone tells you who they are, believe them Show Notes: Join the Waitlist for my SmartSX Membership Community: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Breakups. They can be a painful experience. Trust me, I know. After spending time considering your partner to be such an important aspect of your life, losing them can be like a mini-death. If you have decided your relationship is over and are struggling to know what to do next, this episode is for you. I give my top tips for how to cope and answer all your questions. In this episode you’ll learn: How to cope with a breakup  Tips for giving better oral sex  Tools for communicating your needs Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Tune into this conversation with the incredible Dr. Josh Gonzalez, a board-certified urologist fellowship-trained in sexual medicine and specializing in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. Dr. Gonzalez has been featured in Vogue and is a medical contributor to Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan, among others. He is a sexual health expert who has built a following on TikTok and Instagram, where he uses social media to educate on sexual and reproductive health. He is also the co-founder of Popstar, a men’s supplement addressing semen health. I loved talking with Dr. Gonzalez. I can’t wait to share his incredible work with you. In this episode, you’ll learn: That 50 percent of infertility cases are related to male factor infertility. That’s half of the cases, but somehow, we default label infertility as a female issue. How oral contraceptive pills cause an elevation in a protein called sex hormone binding globulin in women. This is a protein you don't want large amounts of in your body, as it binds up all of your hormones. When the hormones are bound, they can't be effectively used. About the groundswell of men coming into Dr. Gonzalez’s office requesting vasectomies after the overturning of Roe v. Wade. How you can easily test your sperm with at-home collection kits. For not much money, you can freeze your sperm, too. Show Notes: More Dr. Josh Gonzalez: Instagram | Website | TikTok Try the Popstar Volume & Taste Supplement & Popstar Fertility for Men Today! Save 20% with code "EMILY" at popstarlabs.com/emily Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. In this episode you’ll learn: How to make eye contact during sex What to do about sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep) How to talk to your partner about not having much sex experience Show Notes: Try our FREE Guides Today! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want to try Promescent's Delay Spray or Arousal Gel? Visit Promescent.com/emily for 15% off your order! Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Did you know that nipple sensations for vulva-owners ignite the same parts of the brain as clitoral stimulation? Today, we’re unlocking all of the overlooked erogenous zones including nipples. ALL genders can potentially have more pleasure and orgasms through nipple play—you just need the proper tips and tricks.   We hear from a masseuse who is exploring the reality of “happy endings” as well as a couple who’s interested in perfecting the “g-spot orgasm” and closing the orgasm gap. (I like to call it the “g-area”... Find out why!) In this episode you’ll learn: How to have a nipple orgasm Ways to help with the orgasm gap How to respond to a partner who you feel may not be sexually attracted to you  Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Try the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Today! (Use code "SEXWITHEMILY" for 25% off your order, exclusions may apply.) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits. In this episode you’ll learn: How to find your fantasies and how to talk to your new partner about them  What to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it) Show Notes: The Yes! No! Maybe? List! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order More Elle Chase: Website | Instagram Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

On today’s show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what YOU want…and not just what your lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships: what to do when you’re filled with old resentment? Is there a new conversation you could have with your partner? How about when you want to open up…but your nesting partner is scared of you having new lovers? We’re venturing into uncharted sex territory today, but don’t worry—we all come out on the other side, with fresh ways forward. In this episode you’ll learn:  Steps to getting back into dating How to talk to your partner about their kinks What to do when you want your relationship to be open, but your partner doesn't How to talk to your kids about Sex and Sexual Wellness Show Notes: Try our FREE Guides Today!  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? Well folks, we are getting a kinky education today! On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But because kink is play, I’m also giving you some specific ideas for how to explore these fantasies IRL – and, bonus, I’m taking all of your kinky questions.  In this episode you’ll learn: Various sexual fantasies, including submission, domination, exhibitionism, voyeurism, and consensual non-consent The importance of excellent communication, trust, and consent when exploring fantasies How to explore fantasies practically and safely, emphasizing that kink is a form of play meant to enhance relationships and understanding Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  Shopify.com/swe Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com/live.

In today’s throwback episode, I’m taking your Sex With Emily hotline calls and answering your questions. Remember, you can always call and leave a voicemail with your question at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). In this episode you’ll learn:  What to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man) How to determine if birth control is tanking your sex drive How to communicate with a partner who won’t share their desires Show Notes: Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Try our FREE Guides Today!  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Have you found yourself fascinated with what's masculine or feminine, especially in the bedroom? On today's episode, volleyball star, Gabby Reece, redefines the modern day versions of these roles and explains why it matters in her marriage. In this episode you’ll learn:  Gabby's definition of masculine & feminine in her marriage Why younger generations may not be having as much sex Which sex toys Gabby is into Show Notes: Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! More Gabby Reece | Instagram | Website | Podcast SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Shop VIIA Today and use code "EMILY" at checkout for 15% off your order. Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Ever dated a mind reader who just gets you? …Chances are, probably not. Unfortunately for us, deep connections need deep communication skills. I mean, how can your partner know your needs if you don’t tell them? I know it’s not easy, though, and that’s why today’s throwback is all about articulating what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics and hotter sex. You’re welcome! In this episode you’ll learn: What to do if you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had How to deal with an emotionally detached partner Why you have to communicate to get the kind of touch you need in bed Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Try the LELO DOT Travel Today!  Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Volleyball legend and podcast host Gabby Reece takes the hot seat and reveals all her secrets to being a successful athlete, wife, parent and business owner with her famous surfer husband, Laird Hamilton. In this episode you’ll learn:  Sex rules to keep your man happy How to play farmer and flower to have a long lasting relationship Gabby Reece's biggest turn on, it's not what you think it might be Why being kind is better than being nice Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! More Gabby Reece | Instagram | Website | Podcast SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure that your sex life follows suit. In this throwback episode, I’m sharing my steamiest ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. If you’re ready for a Hot Girl Summer, this ep’s for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties Where to (safely) have sex in public How to navigate a friends with benefits situation Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Ever wondered how culture has molded your sexuality? My guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabury, dives deep into this topic on today’s throwback ep, revealing how societal norms have conditioned us to suppress our true desires, cheat ourselves, and live inauthentically. But here's the twist: radically authentic love and desire are within reach! All it takes is confronting the myths we've been fed and making a conscious choice to live freely. Ready to break free and embrace your true self? Tune in.  In this episode you’ll learn:  How to rethink marriage as a model for growth All about monogamy and why it’s the societal norm (and if it’s even natural…) How to replace societal conditioning with worthiness Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Dr. Shefali: Instagram | Website Podcast: Parenting & You with Dr. Shefali SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Try the LELO SONA 2 TRAVEL today and get 25% when you use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout. Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

QUESTION: If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? I say absolutely! Even if it feels like you’re navigating a minefield, and even if your own parents left you in the dark (because let’s face it, they probably did), I get it – finding the right words can be trickier than solving a Rubik’s Cube. That’s why today’s episode is your ultimate guide, packed with tools, scripts, and resources to help you tackle this touchy topic with confidence and maybe even a little humor. In a couple years, your kid will thank you! In this episode you’ll learn:  Why should you talk to your children, and teens specifically, about masturbation The truth behind masturbation myths  Specific verbiage to make these uncomfortable sex talks a little easier Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! The Communication Guide (And Other Guides) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) For a limited time, you can save 20% off sitewide at Justthrivehealth.com with promo code: SEXWITHEMILY The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Have you ever been so in love that you lost your mind? I totally get it, and so does today's guest, sex therapist, author, and host of the podcast Diagnonsense, Todd Baratz, who joined me to chat about all things relationship and why dating can be such a struggle today. In this episode you’ll learn:  How oral sex can make or break your relationship What to do when you date men who don't know how to connect emotionally Why we need to stop diagnosing everyone Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SWE  The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Did you know that the lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety and depression? How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Ever since the pandemic, many of us have been touch-starved, but now it’s time to feast. On today’s throwback show I’ll share how to satisfy your skin hunger and bring more touch and intimacy back into your life. In this episode you’ll learn: What questions to ask yourself to figure out if your relationship is where you want it to be How to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom How to get back into the dating scene Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Pleasure Planner + Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Shop Promescent for 15% off your order! Shopify.com/swe The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Why is it that vulva owners are the ones tasked with preventing pregnancy? That’s the burning question we’ve all been thinking about since 2017.  On today’s throwback show, we’re diving into this hot topic with Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the mastermind behind a viral thread and the book, Ejaculate Responsibly. Joining us is my dear friend, anthropologist, and author, Dr. Wednesday Martin, to help unpack this loaded discussion. In our post-Roe world, Gabrielle—mother of six and a devout Mormon—is fiercely advocating for the importance of women’s lives and their pleasure. Get ready for an eye-opening conversation! In this episode you’ll learn:  How society pressures vulva owners to become mothers Why MORE sex ed leads to LESS unwanted pregnancies How to talk to young penis owners about ejaculating responsibly Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Take the SWE Listener Survey Here! Gabrielle’s Viral Twitter Thread Ejaculate Responsibly SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Let's face it: sex isn't just a switch you can flip on and off. It's more like a whole playlist of tension, arousal, body exploration, playful antics, and steamy teamwork — there’s a lot more than just the main event. So, what do you do when you're ready to get it on, but your body keeps hitting snooze? In today’s show, I’ll show you my favorite tips and tricks and address even the most perplexing arousal questions.  In this episode you’ll learn: My special trick for giving oral sex with a gag reflex How to deal with vaginismus Why communication can fix (almost) every sex problem Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE  The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Imagine: You've got that special someone who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The trust is there, the connection is solid. But sometimes the fire just fizzles out when it comes to sex. I get it. When the routine starts feeling a bit too...routine, it's time to switch things up and rediscover what really gets your engine revving (and sometimes, it’s not your partner!). On today’s throwback we're diving deep into the world of sexual attraction - what it is, how it's different from romantic love, and most importantly, how to use that knowledge to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Because at the end of the day, switching it up never hurt anybody.  In this episode you’ll learn: Why sexual attraction can feel so distinctly different than long-term love What to do when you and your partner are both submissive When you should hang onto your friend with benefits – and when to let them go Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Sex and Psychology SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today’s throwback show, I talk to the one and only Shaun T, host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but, as you’ll learn in the episode it took a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. But hey, if he can do it, you can too. Trust me: if you’ve been looking for inspo to feel yourself in the bedroom, this convo is an absolute must.  In this episode you’ll learn:  How Shaun and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids Why you have to do the work to heal from trauma – and why it’s so rewarding Shaun’s genius sex and arousal hacks Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! What’s Your Arousal Type? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) This episode is brought to you by: Bathmate (Use code EMILY10 or visit the link for 10% off) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Let’s face it: casual sex often gets a bad rap. It’s thought of as just another swipe, a fleeting moment, a reflection of society’s current hookup culture, or something disposable. But hold up! It doesn't have to be that way. When you bring a little intention and mindfulness into the mix, casual sex can be the spark that reignites your erotic energy. In my opinion, the secret sauce is all about knowing yourself and being crystal clear about what you want from your casual encounters. This episode, I’ll be teaching you how to dive into casual sex with purpose and channel your inner Samantha Jones. In this episode you’ll learn:  All the different types of casual sex out there How to know if casual sex is right for you (because it isn’t for everyone!)  When it’s best to turn down a potential partner Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! 7 Myths of Non Monogamy Friends With Benefits: A Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) LOKI WAVE 2 The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I had the pleasure of talking to the “Scientific Carrie Bradshaw”, a.k.a Amy Chan, the revolutionary mind behind Renew Breakup Bootcamp, to talk about all things relationship. We chat about how her heartbreak helped in creating Breakup Bootcamp, why being present during dates is hard but necessary, and why dating outside of your comfort zone might be the key to finding the one. If you’re sick of swiping left and tolerating toxicity, this one’s for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to measure your chemistry compass  Why it’s important to date that short person (even if they aren’t exactly your type!) How to spot the “green flags” in a relationship Show Notes: Attend Dating Bootcamp!  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Eager to transform your hottest sexual fantasy into reality? Then today’s throwback Ask Emily show is for you! I'll be taking calls about fantasies and offering concrete tips on how to actualize them. However, it's essential to recognize that this journey is a blend of creativity and strategy. You must embrace your sensual desires, visualize intensely passionate — and perhaps even forbidden — scenarios, and explore what genuinely excites you! Lucky for you, I’ve given you tips on how to do just that. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery… In this episode you’ll learn:  How to go about finding a “third” if your partner’s been hinting at cuckolding The 411 on play parties (and how to stay safe if you go to one!) What to do if you’ve been craving a sexual fantasy, but your imagination’s been letting you down Show Notes: The Yes, No, Maybe List Fetlife Feeld #Open SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It’s my favorite month of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s throwback show, I’m honoring the month of self-love and giving you a brief history of the celebration, the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys and lubes for bringing you pleasure this May and all year long. In this episode you’ll learn:  What to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator Why masturbation can help you have orgasms during sex with your partner Signs that you’re masturbating too much Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE  SEX WITH EMILY VESPER SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I continue my conversation with my friend, YouTube personality, public speaker, and author Matthew Hussey. We chat about his latest book, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily No Matter What, Matthew’s texting skills, and why it’s best to follow your path and not your feelings. And if you were wondering about the texting cliffhanger from Part 1, it’s answered in today’s show. Enjoy! In this episode you’ll learn:  Why “avoiders” can be more of a red flag in relationships than liars When to make things work and when it's not worth it Why speaking your truth is sexy Show Notes: Find Your Person & Lead Your Love Life w/ Matthew Hussey Pt. 1 Matthew’s New Book: Love Life LELO Tor 3 (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

When it comes to sex, a lot of us find ourselves getting in our head about the way it “should” go down. “I should look a certain way.” “They should kiss me a certain way.” “We’ll both orgasm at the same time.” In other words, we expect things to be straight out of a movie… But here’s the real deal: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s throwback show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your senses. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, I’ve got sensory tools you can use to remove mental blocks and seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why you’re dissociating during sex and how to stop Ways to talk dirty without swearing How to bring back an MIA orgasm Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide or use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout!) Come As You Are - Dr. Emily Nagoski SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Listen in on my conversation with my friend Matthew Hussey. You may know him as the inspirational YouTube personality, author, and public speaker who has revolutionized the world of dating advice with his amazing methods. We chat about emotional journeys, what Matthew has learned in his experience as a relationship coach, and ways to take charge of your love life. If you've been in a dating slump, this is the episode for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to take charge of your love life Why reflecting on your instincts is a game changer The value of valuing yourself first Show Notes: Matthew’s New Book: Love Life More Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Youtube SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I continue my candid convo with my friend Falguni, answering all your hottest and most personal sex questions. From my experiences in threesomes to my favorite positions, no question goes unanswered. If you’ve ever wondered what the mile high club is like or how to tell your partner they could step up their sex game, tune in. Trust me, this is an episode you won’t wanna miss.   In this episode you’ll learn:  Why penetration alone might not always give you an orgasm    How to take control of your orgasm  Why communication is the most important part of your threesome Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO DOT Travel (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Happy 4/20! While direct research is still in development, there's no denying the potential benefits of cannabis for enhancing your sexual experiences. Researchers theorize that the plant can unlock a world of heightened eroticism, tranquil minds, and pain-free sex. On today’s show, I chat about ways cannabis might light up your sex life, my favorite products and delivery methods for the occasion (I’m a huge edible fan!), and how to figure out if cannabis is right for you.  In this episode you’ll learn:   How cannabis can affect sexual performance   How to decide if you should bring cannabis into the bedroom My fave product recommendations for 4/20 fun Show Notes: 6 Ways to Use Cannabis for Sex: A Guide The Journal of Cannabis Research Study SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide until 4/30/24) For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE   Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Buckle up: Today’s show is one you’ve all been waiting for…and spoiler alert, it’s all about me! I sat down with my good friend Falguni to flip the script and spill the tea on what sex with Emily is actually like (pun intended)! Tune in to hear me get up close and personal about my sexual journey, why I faked my orgasms until my 30s, and sex trends that I see making a comeback in the near future.  In this episode you’ll learn:   How I stopped having performative sex  How to push past the pleasure thieves for fulfilling sex  My go-to positions and products for the best orgasms Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today’s gut-busting episode I dive deep into the tango between your belly's bacteria and your sexual wellness. And who better to guide us through this intestinal intrigue than Tina Anderson, the gut guru and CEO of Just Thrive, the brand whose mission is to reboot your microbiome. Prepare to have your life changed as Tina spills the beans on how bacteria in your gut really calls the shots, influencing everything from your mood swings to your mojo.  Buckle up, lovers and health hackers, as we explore the steamy science that'll have you rethinking your next date night dinner.  In this episode you’ll learn: What low libido, keeping the spark alive, erectile challenges, and gut issues all have in common How hormones and the gut biome each affect each other in a bi-directional system Why the 3 pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) also impact our general health and wellness Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide at checkout!) Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It’s 2024, and there’s no denying that everybody has sexual needs. However, it can be really difficult to articulate them and share them with your partner. On today’s throwback Ask Emily show, I’m here to help you take that vital next step and get your needs fulfilled. From those who’ve never had an orgasm before to those who just want to communicate with their partners better, I’ve got you!  Just remember: for every sex problem, there is a path forward.  In this episode you’ll learn: How to communicate your sexual needs (even if your partner shuts down sex convos) Techniques to give your partner a crazy orgasm What to do if your partner desires things you might not be sure about like swinging Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Promescent.com/Emily (Use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout!) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I revisit my conversation with Dolly Josette, the PleasureMuse who turned the world of breathwork into the ultimate erotic adventure! Imagine unlocking a treasure chest of sensations and full-body orgasms you never knew you had with the work of meditation.. Dolly isn't just any guide on this journey; she's the Gandalf of sexual enlightenment, hailed by the high councils of Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines as a pioneering Sexological Bodyworker. But what truly sets her apart isn't the accolades; it's her magical ability to awaken the dormant erotic energy within women and couples, guiding them from numbness to dizzying heights of orgasmic bliss. So, if the idea of exploring the vast, uncharted territories of pleasure sounds good to you, Dolly Josette is ready to lead the way! In this episode you’ll learn:  How to hack your nervous system for better sex Why so many vulva owners are trained to numb from the waist down (and how to fix it!) How to become a great masturbator Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! More Dolly Josette - The Pleasure Muse  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Mental health and sexual desire – do you have to choose between one or the other? It's a conundrum that's more common than you think, and it's a topic that's sure to get you thinking! Antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesavers for many, but they can also leave you feeling a little, well, deflated in the bedroom department. On the other hand, if your depression goes untreated, it can be tough to get in the mood. So, how do you navigate this predicament? Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of this struggle, and you'll hear from some of our listeners who've been there.  In this episode you’ll learn: How to understand the effects your mental health has on your sex drive Sexy strategies to manage the side effects of antidepressants Alternative treatments and lifestyle changes to maximize your pleasure Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all other products) LELO DOT Travel Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It's commonly said that the brain is the most significant sexual organ in the human body. But is it possible to manipulate our brains to enhance happiness or even improve our sexual experiences? Dr. Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist and acclaimed author, has compiled the most extensive collection of brain scans globally. Through analyzing this data, he has uncovered intriguing insights: by adopting habits grounded in neuroscience, we can significantly enhance our mental well-being, elevate our mood, and indeed – enrich our sexual lives. Tune in now to discover how to take control of your mind and enjoy the benefits. In this episode you’ll learn:  The way stress hormones can interfere with our sexual hormones Techniques to shield yourself from mental "noise" The reasons why individuals who are happier generally enjoy longer lives, maintain healthier relationships, achieve greater success professionally, and experience more fulfilling sex lives Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Order Dr. Daniel Amen's New Book, Raising Mentally Strong Kids SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Sexting: it’s basically the foreplay of the 21st century - a steamy, sultry way to turn up the heat without even being in the same room. But let's be real, sending a bunch of suggestive emojis out of the blue might leave your partner scratching their head. That's why you need to master the art of sexting, and I'm here to help you do just that. In this show, I'll give you the inside scoop on how to craft the perfect sext, from the right tone to the perfect use of emojis. With my pro tips, you'll be able to turn up the heat and leave your partner begging for more. So buckle up, because we're about to take your sexting game to a whole new level! In this episode you’ll learn:  How emotional intelligence influences your sexting skills How to manage your devices so messages don’t end up in the wrong place How to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Sexting Guide Yes, No, Maybe List SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) LELO Sona 2 Travel Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Looking to connect with your partner on a whole new level? Lucky for you, today’s episode with human connection specialist Mark Groves will give you the tools to do just that. Mark uses his emotional translation skills to give accessible relationship and wellness advice to others and shares his relatable ways to be your most authentic self. From discussing a Thanksgiving dinner that changed his life to examining past toxic behavior, Mark and I dive deep into ways to become wiser in love. Get ready to get vulnerable, today’s show gets DEEP! In this episode you’ll learn:  How to break free from codependent relationships Why reflecting on past experiences is the key to better relationships Why we should all be using the word “boner again Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Pre-order Mark’s new book: LIBERATED LOVE SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) LELO F1S V3 Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

WARNING, WARNING: Your climax has exited the premises. Ever wondered why achieving orgasm can feel effortless with one partner but challenging with another? Or why squirting might occur without reaching climax? On today's throwback episode of Hotline Calls, we're delving into the topic of orgasm and its hidden secrets. Tune in for an orgasmic time.  Got a burning question? Feel free to reach out and leave a voicemail anytime at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). In this episode you’ll learn:  The difference between squirting and orgasming How to orgasm for the first time, if you never have How to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve  Show Notes: Buy tickets to my San Diego, CA Show on April 10, 2024 HERE!  Buy tickets to my Phoenix, AZ Show on April 18, 2024 HERE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure OhMiBod Sphinx OhMiBod Foxy Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Weddings: They're like a beautiful blend of tradition and flowers, but let's be real – Is married sex worth all the hype? Let's face it, folks. Married sex often gets stuck in this rut of tired old cliches. But guess what? It doesn't have to be that way!  We're so over settling for dull or non-existent intimacy as we journey through life with our partners. So, buckle up because on today's show, I'm all about shaking things up to make sex with your spouse hot again. From crafting your own set of sex vows before you take that stroll down the aisle to pleasure planning with your long-time partner, we're rewriting the playbook on honeymoon passion. Oh, and we're diving into the cultural landscape of love, sex, and relationships because times are definitely changing! In this episode you’ll learn:  How to navigate bisexuality in a straight marriage What it means if you find yourself jealous at your friend’s wedding How to bring back the spark…even when the spark was a little dim in the first place Show Notes: Buy tickets to my San Diego, CA Show on April 10, 2024 HERE!  Buy tickets to my Phoenix, AZ Show on April 18, 2024 HERE! Yes, No, Maybe Guide  Pleasure Planner  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 20% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I’m joined by Liz Moody, the best-selling author and podcast host who shares insightful tips to help transform your life in all different aspects in her new book, 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success. We discuss her personal strategies for prioritizing wellness, ways to run your home like a CEO, and how to make your ideal Sex Bill of Rights. Tune in for so many amazing tips and tricks to upgrade your life! In this episode you’ll learn:  How planning your funeral helps you live a fulfilling present life Why it's important to run your home like you’re the CEO My new term "micro intimacy” and why that will be a game changer Show Notes: Check out Liz’ New Book HERE LELO F1S V3 (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Listen up, assholes! Relationships and sex dynamics can be pleasure-filled and intimate, and also complicated and messy. Today, Producer Erica and I are reading your AITA questions and letting you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships. We answer questions like: AITA for wanting more sexual tension and intimacy in our relationship? AITA for re-evaluating a new relationship after they told me they have an STI? AITA for breaking up with my partner because they won’t go down on me? And more. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to communicate your sexual needs effectively with your partner What to do if your partner tells you they have an STI How to heighten sexual tension Show Notes: Promescent.com/Emily (Use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout!) Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I had a candid conversation with Chelsey Goodan, also known as the Teenage Girl Whisperer, about empowering teenage girls in today's society. Chelsey shares her insights from working with teenage girls for over a decade and discusses the challenges they face regarding sexuality, self-expression, and societal expectations. Join us as we explore the power of communication, empowerment, and authenticity in supporting teenage girls on their journey to self-discovery and empowerment. In this episode you’ll also learn:  Effective communication strategies The power of radical honesty and authenticity in building relationships How to break cycles of criticism, self-doubt, and judgment Show Notes: Chelsey’s Book: Underestimated Promescent.com/Emily (15% off your order!) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Ever wondered if there's a way to spice things up in the bedroom AND reignite the spark between you and your partner? Well, today I'm about to help you crack the code of the 5 Love Languages and supercharge your relationship. I'll also tackle your burning questions like what to do when you and your partner speak different love languages (more common than you’d think), how to keep the love alive in a long-distance relationship, and sex hacks based on your unique love language combo. And if that wasn't enough, I also discuss some awkward situations like accidentally critiquing your partner's penis or navigating that awkward phase when you and your partner feel like the spark is gone. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: All about the 5 Love Languages How to keep the flame burning in a long-distance relationship How to best express your desires with your partner (even if your love languages are different!) Show Notes: Je Joue Mimi Soft Talk Dirty to Me w/ Joanna Angel Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I teamed up with the brilliant developmental psychologist and host of the Raising Good Humans podcast, Dr. Aliza Pressman, for a rollercoaster ride through the wild world of parenting, sexuality, and relationships. From decoding the mysteries of "the talk" with kids to unraveling the enigma of why millennials and Gen-Zers might be having sex less often, we left no stone unturned. Join us as we dive headfirst into understanding and embracing children's gender identities and sexual orientations, all while figuring on how to be the best humans we can be.  Get ready, because this episode isn't just about parenting—it's about living your best life and loving fiercely along the way! Show Notes: 5 Principles of Parenting OUT NOW! More Dr. Aliza Pressman: Website | Instagram  Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

When you think of BDSM and kink, I’m sure leather and whips come to mind. But what if I told you that there’s much more to kink than that? Today, I’m here to sprinkle some spice and shed light on the art of BDSM and kink. First up, we'll define key terms and provide a comprehensive understanding of BDSM because let's face it, who really knows what "BDSM" stands for anyway? Then, we'll explore the psychology behind power dynamics and the core desires behind kinky practices. And last but certainly not least, we'll serve up some tantalizing tips for bringing a bit of kink into your bedroom – whether you're flying solo or have a partner in crime. So, buckle up (or should I say, buckle down?), because we're about to embark on a journey into the wild and wonderful world of kink! In this episode, you’ll learn: What BDSM and Kink are really about  The psychology behind dom/sub dynamics How to fearlessly bring kink into the bedroom Show Notes: What NOT to Say to Your Partner When Talking About Sex How to Squirt (For Real) Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides LELO Tiani Duo We-Vibe Melt Head to bathmatedirect.com/sexwithemily for an automatic 10% off your purchase! 5 BDSM Games To Spice Up Your Sex Life Tonight SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today's episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with #1 NYT Bestselling author Gabby Bernstein. As a spiritual leader and motivational speaker, Gabby shares how you can manifest the sex life you want but through a practical, less woo, lens and how to work through sexual trauma and change your core beliefs around sex. We also get into Internal Family Systems therapy and how young women today speak about sex differently than our generation. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How spirituality can enhance your sexuality How to boost your confidence (in and out of the bedroom) Tools for working through trauma See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: My appearance on the Dear Gabby podcast! More Gabby Bernstein: Website | Instagram Happy Days The Universe Has Your Back Self Help (coming 2/31/24) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

We all want to grow and become better versions of ourselves. And no where is that more true than our sex lives. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.  In this episode, you’ll learn: How to find solid friends with benefits Masturbation techniques The anatomy of the vulva! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Psychology of Your Kink How to Squirt (For Real) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Playground Lube Je Joue Mimi Je Joue Hera Magic Wand Insertion Toys Dual Stimulation Toys #Open SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

It’s the season of love - self love! That’s right, this Valentine’s Day, I’ve got all of you singles covered. In today’s Best Of episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. In this episode, you’ll learn: How often you should masturbate in a relationship How to try masturbation when you never have The magic of mutual masturbation See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Psychology of Your Kink How to Squirt (For Real) Your February Solo Sex Challenge LELO DOT (up to 50% off until the end of February, code EMILY10 for an additional 10% off) We-Vibe Touch Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Rave We-Vibe Nova Pjur Water-Based Lube Aneros Prostate Massager SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Ever wondered: Am I the asshole for watching porn without my partner knowing? Am I the asshole for feeling a little misled about our sex life before we walked down the aisle? Or how about: Am I the asshole for just feeling plain bored with our sex life? You’re not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I read your AITA questions and let you know if you’re approaching asshole territory. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to be a supportive partner to someone with sexual trauma How to get clearer on your sexual desires About the experiences of sex workers See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Give a Prostate Massage 15 Sex Toys That Make Amazing Valentine's Day Gifts VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Erika Lust porn Vice Series: Sex Before the Internet SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Orgasms are one of the most pleasure-filled parts of sex. But what’s actually happening in your body when you have one? Today, I’m breaking down the physiological process of different kinds of orgasms and explaining how to have them. I also reveal how to find your G-area and have a G-spot orgasm, what it means to have a dry orgasm, what squirting really is and how to do it. Plus, I get into your orgasm questions. In this episode, you’ll also learn: The anatomy of the clitoris, vulva, and penis so you can better stimulate them The many benefits of orgasms, for both your mental and physical health Tips for communicating with a partner if you no longer want jackhammer sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Give a Prostate Massage 15 Sex Toys That Make Amazing Valentine's Day Gifts LELO Tiani Duo (up to 50% off sitewide until the end of February) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

I’m bringing you all into a LIVE conversation I had with renowned sex educator and researcher, Dr. Emily Nagoski, during a recent event in New York! After releasing her bestselling book on sex, Come As You Are, in 2015, Emily’s own sex life took a hit. Today, we discuss how she brought her sex life back from the dead, the Pleasure Thieves, and why it’s okay to stop sex once it’s already started. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to identify your sexual brakes and accelerators About the connection between wearing socks and having more orgasms How stress impacts your sex drive desire See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) Magic Wand Micro Come Together, Dr. Emily Nagoski: Amazon | GoodReads | Bookshop More Dr. Emily Nagoski: Instagram | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Valentine’s Day is coming up, and I’m here to make sure it’s your best one yet. First, I get into some common Valentine’s Day myths and things you should never do on the sexy holiday. After that, I’ll share some creative ways you should celebrate to ensure that your Valentine’s Day is hot, intimate and of course, sexy. Plus, I share some of my listeners’ favorite Valentine’s Day moments for some hot inspiration. In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to incorporate blindfolds into sexual play Which toys can be used during penetration How to cultivate sexual desire & intimacy See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) How to Do the Kivin Method LELO Tiani Duo (up to 50% off sitewide until the end of February 2024) Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Massage Candles Le Wand Crystal Glass Dildo Cozy Earth (code “SEXWITHEMILY” for 35% off) Magic Wand Masterclass (use link for 15% off the 1st year of an annual subscription) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

On today’s Best Of episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily Hotline. We get into: how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set intentions for new relationships How cannabis can improve your orgasms and intimacy How to guide a partner during oral sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Sexiest Valentine’s Date Ideas (For Every Stage of Your Relationship) How to Do the Kivin Method The Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) EMDRIA SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with a partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration. In this episode, you’ll learn: What “spectatoring” during sex means, and how to overcome it Tips for sharing a sexual fantasy with a new partner How to navigate mismatched libidos in a long-term relationship See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean) Solaray (code 20STAGES for 20% off) We-Vibe Nova Shop Site Podcast: Hotline Calls: Why Can’t I Orgasm? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

To feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. So today, I’m taking some of my favorite Hotline calls on trust and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, and now sex feels sorta gross? What if you tell a new partner you love them, and they don’t reciprocate? Or how about being “too picky” of a dater - is it really because they’re all duds, or are there some underlying trust issues there? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to move forward after infidelity, whether you were the cheater or the cheated on Tips for feeling comfortable with new partners What to do when it feels like the “spark” is gone See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 10 Common Kinks & Fetishes (& What They Mean) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Podcast: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

I’m answering my listeners’ most personal sex and relationship questions LIVE today. Can you only orgasm with straight legs? I’ve got positions and recommendations to help you get there. Nervous that chastity play is giving your partner delayed ejaculation? I ease your worries and help you collaborate with your partner for mutually fulfilling sex. Plus, we get into other kinky calls like erotic lactation and anal sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to teach your body new ways to orgasm Common causes of vaginal pain About chastity play and penis cage safety Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Initiate Sex LELO Hugo 2 Remote (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Sometimes, in our sex lives and relationships, it can be easy to wonder: Am I the Asshole? Don’t worry, because in today’s episode, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory in your sexual situations, like: AITA for wanting oral sex every time, not just on special occasions? AITA for rejecting my partner’s advances in the middle of the night? Or how about: AITA for getting upset when my partner turns me down? It’s a juicy one. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Creative solutions for mismatched libidos What to do if you’re in a sexless relationship Tips for healthy sex conversations See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Initiate Sex Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Today I am bringing back LIVE Hotline Calls! Not only that, holistic psychologist, author, and my newest friend, Dr. Scott Lyons, joins me back on the show to help me answer your questions. From concerns about sexual compatibility to avoiding jackhammer sex, you will hear the change in these callers’ voices as we help them in real-time. In this episode, you’ll learn: Effective ways to tell your partner you want to explore sexually How to have sex talks with a partner who gets uncomfortable How to feel confident going into a date See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Magic Wand Micro Dr. Scott Lyons: Instagram | Website The Embody Lab SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Burnt out from dating? Do you feel like you’ll never meet “the one?” In today’s episode, celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman dispels common dating myths and suggests new dating pillars. Plus, she tells us which dating rules to follow (and which to disregard), the #1 expectation for men on dates with women, and how to make your online dating profile stand out. In this episode, you’ll also learn: How much chemistry really matters on a date Who should make the first move How to track your dates to be more strategic See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024 F the Fairy Tale, Damona Hoffman: Amazon | Barnes & Noble More Damona Hoffman: Instagram | TikTok | X (Twitter) | Website Dates & Mates Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Website DamonaHoffman.com/DateTracker SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

I dive into the psychology of foreplay and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. I also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner doesn’t want to explore new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay. Plus, I answer your questions! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to set the mood for hotter, more intimate sex Specific sex tips to seduce a partner The key differences between couples with ‘great’ vs. ‘bad’ sex lives See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever 5 Ways to Be a Better Lover in 2024 Podcast: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Flavored Lubes Massage Candles Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Podcast: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m answering your top asked sex questions of 2023 and taking a trip through the hottest moments of the year. It’s the last episode of 2023, and there were definitely some standout episodes you all loved the most. So I’m playing some of the highlights, from my fascinating conversation with Esther Perel to my top Hand Play tips, before answering your top questions. In this episode, you’ll learn: What squirting really is and how to do it How often the average couple has sex How to have satisfying sex on SSRIs See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have the Best NYE Kiss Ever Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel More Esther Perel: Website | Instagram | Twitter SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m always encouraging you all to set goals for yourself in your sex life and relationships, and there’s arguably no better time than in the New Year. Today, Producer Erica and I review predictions for 2024 sex and relationship trends, make some of our own predictions, and suggest some New Year’s resolutions to make 2024 your sexiest year yet. In this episode you’ll learn: About the living apart, together movement What pleasure mapping is, and how to do it What percentage of successful couples schedule sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Get to Know Your Body with “Vulva Mapping” LELO Dot SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it okay to get turned on thinking about my partner with someone else? How can we maintain intimacy amid financial stress? Is it possible to be a feminist and also want to be submissive in the bedroom? Should I be honest with my partner that I’ve never had penetrative sex before? You all ask the best questions, and I’m here to answer them in today’s juicy Hotline Call episode. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to create new fantasies, when you always have the same one How to watch porn creatively with a partner How to prioritize pleasure, even during your busiest weeks See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Opening Up: Amazon | Barnes & Noble The Ethical Slut: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Insight Timer Breathe App Where Should We Begin? Card Game SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Some sex and relationship advice is better than others. Today, Producer Erica and I review some of the most trending sex and relationship advice from TikTok this year, from “how to make them fall in love with you” and love bombing, to when you should sleep with someone or if the “bird test” will tell you whether you should stay with your partner or not. While reviewing all this advice, we’ll let you know if we agree or disagree. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to maintain sexual tension in long-term relationships How to avoid “mothering” your partner Whether it’s possible to make someone fall in love with you See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Use a Penis Pump Last-Minute Amazon Prime Panic Gifts For Lovers & Friends LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we’re diving into a topic I know you all love: sex positions! Today, I’m answering your juiciest positions questions before breaking down the top 3 sex positions, giving you the pros and cons of each one and adaptations to make them even better. Sex positions are often the first things people ask me about when looking to spice up their sex lives - so I’m giving you some options! In this episode, you’ll learn: How to feel confident on top Why pillows are the secret weapon to upleveling sex positions Pleasurable positions for curved penises and tilted uteruses See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Why You Should Try Anal (& How to Do it the Right Way)  How to Use a Penis Pump Je Joue Gift Sets (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) 6 Ways to Upgrade 69 We-Vibe Rave LELO Loki Wave SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s Hotline show, I take your calls about having sex talks like: How to relax into oral sex and give your partner tips to make you scream. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. And how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this Best Of episode, and see if your next sex talk is a little bit easier.  In this episode, you’ll also learn: All about the Kivin Method Whether age gaps really matter in relationships How to share sex toys safely See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide Sexy Stocking Stuffers & How to Use Them Why You Should Try Anal (& How to Do it the Right Way)  FirmTech (bundle the Tech Ring with a 1:1 consultation and save $230 with code EMILY) Best Of: Oral Sex Master Class Everybody Loves Oral Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Sex With Emily Vesper Vibrating Necklace SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Solo sex is an integral part of being sexually healthy. But how do you spice up your masturbation routine? And how do you get rid of shame surrounding solo sex? I get into all this and more in today’s Best Of episode, including: the health benefits of masturbation, common masturbation fantasies, and whether or not your vibrator is desensitizing your clitoris. In this episode, you’ll learn: How often the SWE community has solo sex How to practice mindful masturbation How to establish a healthy masturbation routine See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Find the G-Spot Sexy Stocking Stuffers & How to Use Them Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (45% off sitewide, code EMILY for an additional 15% off) Edging 101 & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever felt like orgasming with a partner is like solving a Rubik's cube blindfolded? Well, you're not alone. Today, Producer Erica and I dive headfirst into this problem with a few tricks up our sleeves. Next on the agenda: how to tell your loving partner you want to be humiliated in the bedroom. I give you the tools to help your partner feel more comfortable with the idea. Then we discuss the ever growing debate: is masturbating with a cam girl considered cheating? Stick around to hear my two cents. And finally, we're talking about masturbating, even when you've got a willing partner on standby. We'll weigh the pros and cons, and why solo sex deserves just as much love as partnered sex. In this episode, you’ll learn: About core erotic desires The benefits of masturbation (by yourself and with a partner) How to communicate your fantasies to a partner See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69 How to Find the G-Spot Magic Wand Micro SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From cheating to sexless marriages, we’re back with another juicy Am I the Asshole? episode. Today, Producer Erica and I let you know if you’re being an asshole in your sex life and relationships, answering questions like: AITA for wanting to leave my partner after he cheated, when I cheated first? Or AITA for not wanting my fiancé to talk about sex with my best friend? Tune in to find out and let me know what you think in my socials! In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you should practice new positions after a sex session How to navigate mismatched libidos The importance of establishing new goals for a relationship after infidelity Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69 VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all about fantasies. Specifically, the ones you, the Sex With Emily community, shared with me! From threesomes to cuckolding to CNC - consensual nonconsent, I break down each one and also answer your top fantasy questions. What if you have a hard time visualizing your desires? What if you’re nervous to try sex acts you’ve already done with previous partners? I get into all this and more. In this episode, you’ll learn: The psychology behind our top sexual fantasies How to accept your fantasies, even when they feel like the most shameful Success stories from listeners who turned their fantasies into realities See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide How to Give a Sex Gift: 6 Tips to Consider LELO Sona 2 Travel (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Holiday season is near, and the Sex With Emily 2023 Holiday Gift Guide is here! We’re all about giving and receiving here, particularly when it comes to the gift of pleasure. So how about gifting some pleasure into your loved ones’ lives (and your life!) this holiday season? Today, Producer Erica and I discuss our favorite, pleasure-filled gifts. Plus, we discuss: How do you know if someone is open to receiving a sex toy? And how do you gift one to them? Stay tuned. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: At what point in a relationship it's appropriate to gift someone a sex toy How to introduce sex toys to a new partner My top gift recommendations for your loved ones Hottest Gift Guide Ever: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever 2023 Shop With Emily Gift Guide The Giftables Collection by Plus One (30% off orders over $50, 30% off sitewide on Cyber Monday) The Rose by PlusOne VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Magic Wand Micro Je Joue Couples Collection Playground Mood Maker Je Joue Mimi OSEA Essential Hydrating Oil Brooklinen Super-Plush Bath Towels Bearaby Weighted Blanket Contigo Stainless Steel Travel Mug Sex Toys for Penises by Arcwave LELO LOKI Wave (code EMILY10 for an extra 10% off existing sales) Omala Skin Balm Candle HigherDose Red Light Face Mask Morgasm CBD Arousal Gel Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

‘Tis the season… for more sex! Today, Producer Erica and I dive into the reasons why people have more or less sex over the holidays, how to maintain intimacy when you’re staying with relatives, and my top discreet toy recs. We also get into relationship dynamics over the holidays: Should you break up before or after? Should you bring them home to meet the parents? Should you hang out with your holiday hookup? And so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: Why sex drives peak and decline over holiday breaks The best places to have sex while home for the holidays Things to notice in a partner while traveling See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever Je Joue Mimi, G-Spot Bullet Vibrator & More LELO Dot Clitoral Vibrator Womanizer Premium 2 Suction Toy SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Hotline is ringing, and we’re answering! Producer Erica and I answer all your juicy questions, from discomfort around a partner’s sexual history to how to find a third for a threesome. We also discuss prioritizing solo sex during stressful times like divorce, as well as how to manage premature ejaculation when you’ve started foreplay outside the bedroom. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to send sexy texts with confidence, even if you’ve never sexted with your partner before Suggested steps before bringing someone else into the bedroom Navigating age differences in relationships See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 2023 Holiday Gift Guide: My Top Picks for the Hottest Holidays Ever Feeld.co/Emily for 30 Days of Free Majestic Membership Promescent.com/Emily for 15% off sitewide Podcast: Sex Party 101 SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the most important pillars of sexual intelligence is embodiment. Today’s guest knows a thing or two about connecting with your body for a better life and better sex. Bestselling author and wellness educator Lauren Roxburgh, also known as “the Body Whisperer,” teaches us how to listen to our bodies, simple exercises to reduce pain and heighten orgasms, how to work with changing hormones, and so much more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: How to do a reverse kegel How posture and gait can affect our sexual performance All about fascia – the “WiFi” of our bodies! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Orgasm During Missionary VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Awaken the Power of Your Pelvic Floor - Join the Waitlist! Aligned Life Studio (code EMILY30 for 30% off your first subscription) More Lauren Roxburgh: Instagram | YouTube | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Confidence is something we all struggle with at times, particularly in our sex lives and relationships. From feeling insecure about our bodies, to not thinking we’re “good enough” in bed, messages from society, past partners, and our own shame can affect how we show up in the bedroom. In this Best Of episode, I’m giving you my top tips for boosting your sexual confidence. I also answer your questions like: how do you help a partner boost their confidence? How can you hack your brain to feel confident while naked? How can you fully let go in bed, so that you can experience maximum pleasure? And so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: Specific exercises for building body acceptance Sexual communication tips How to explore sexually, even if you feel less experienced See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Triple Stimulation Masturbation How to Orgasm During Missionary FirmTech (code Emily20 for 20% off) Feeld SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I get asked all the time: what makes great sex? Well, today’s guests would argue that the best sex is shameless sex. Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, the dynamic duo behind the Shameless Sex podcast, join me today in answering all your juicy questions. From learning to identify what you really want in bed to how to take hot vulva pics and deciding whether an open relationship is right for you, Amy and April share their top tips for becoming a better lover. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to feel more present and embodied during sex What “shameless sex” really means How to improve your sex life with old and new partners See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Triple Stimulation Masturbation Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Bathmate (code EMILY10 for 10% off sitewide) Magic Wand We-Vibe Podcast: Orgasms, Squirting & The Year of Anal Licking Pre Order Shameless Sex: Choose Your Own Pleasure Path to Unlock the Sex Life You’ve Been Waiting For Shameless Sex Podcast: Spotify | Apple Podcasts Shameless Sex Socials: Instagram | TikTok | YouTube | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies How to work through ultimatums in relationships Why your sex life should evolve over time See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. Show Notes: Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Flavored Lubes Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does dating ever feel like a second job? You’re not alone. Today, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid of the popular U Up? podcast share tips to hack your dating life so you can make genuine connections while enjoying the process. Known for reading between the lines and giving their listeners the straight-up advice they need (but may not always want to hear), Jordana and Jared help me answer all your questions, from what makes a great dating profile to how people’s definitions of “casual sex” can vary. They also help me answer your questions about hooking up with a friend, long-distance relationships, the “ick” and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: What to know before meeting up with a date in person How to create a profile that sparks genuine conversations How to combat dating app fatigue See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

([TW // mentions su*c*de] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through 47:00-48:00.) Do you (or your partner) start fights over nothing? Do stable relationships feel unsettling? Today, holistic psychologist, podcast host, and author Dr. Scott Lyons shows us how some of us may be more addicted to drama than we think. From attachment styles to toxic partners, Dr. Lyons explains how unresolved trauma can show up in ourselves and our relationships. We also talk about the desire to have rough sex, why makeup sex feels so good, how trauma lives in our bodies, and so much more. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to work through jealousy in relationships How addiction to drama affects our sexual pleasure How to identify and sit with uncomfortable emotions See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Handle Performance Anxiety 5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva Magic Wand Micro SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this Best Of episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity. In this episode, you’ll learn: The history & evolution of relationship structures Reasons people have affairs How to rebuild trust after infidelity See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel Podcast: Turn Yourself On w/ Esther Perel SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. In this Best Of episode, I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Why masturbation is important for your overall sexual wellness The truth about porn addiction How to incorporate toys into solo and partnered sex See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help Je Joue Amour, Duet & Vita (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, this episode’s for you. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions, starting with: how do you tell your partner you’ve been faking orgasms without breaking their heart? Next: is it normal to be dating for MONTHS without penetrative sex? Let’s find out, as well as how to talk about sex with a new partner before you've had it. Looking to explore anal play the right way, after years of uncomfortable attempts? Let’s do it. And finally, we dive into the world of bisexuality. Do you have to tell your partner that you’re bi? How do you incorporate your sexuality into your relationship? From communication tips to sex hacks, I’ve got you! See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Use Anal Beads Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Missionary is a tried-and-true classic. It’s the position many of us think about when we think about sex… which is also why it gets a bad rap. Haters say it’s boring and vanilla, I say it’s an underrated favorite. In today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you upgrade your missionary game from “meh” to “mind-blowing.” We'll debunk myths about missionary and dive into ways to spice it up, from subtle tweaks to full-blown transformations that’ll keep you (and your partner) coming! Struggling to reach the big O? I've got position hacks to enhance clitoral pleasure, especially for vulva owners who might not feel the stimulation they crave in typical missionary. Speaking of “typical” missionary… Who says missionary can't be kinky? I reveal some of the hottest ways to incorporate bondage, dirty talk, and even some BDSM elements to transform missionary into your new go-to position. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Magic Wand Mini Massager We-Vibe Chorus Article: Missionary Sex Position – New and Improved Podcast: High Pleasure: Cannabis + Sex SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all experience sexual highs and lows, but what do you do if your “low” is a literal low libido? And your “high” might result in a penis injury? Let’s find out. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions. Starting with anal rimming: what if your partner has expressed interest in receiving… but feels conflicted about wanting it? Next up: chastity play - it is "Lock-Tober," after all! But could wearing a penis cage set you up for long-term injury? After that, sex that’s gone from vanilla to straight-up boring. When you’ve tried everything to fix it, what now? What does it mean if your body goes numb during oral sex? Finally, you’re fresh out of a long-term relationship, and your sex drive has completely evaporated. How do you get it back? I’ve got a few ideas. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Pretzel Position Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Awkward sex: it happens! People lose their erections. Oral sex gets ouchy. Orgasms are MIA. Don’t panic -- you’re in the judgment-free zone! I’m here to help you turn these moments into erotic opportunities. First, I give general mindset tips for sex before sharing your funniest awkward sex stories. Orgasmed so hard you farted? I call that a win. Next, I take your awkward sex questions. How do you play off queefing? What do you do when you’re nervous and keep losing your erection? How about getting too wet? If it makes you self-conscious or interferes with pleasure, how do you deal? If you’ve got a small mouth, and your partner has a large penis, where do you go from there? All this and so much more in this awkward sex recovery episode. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) All Vulvas Are Beautiful SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant Playground Lube Feeld Dating App SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Master Lotus Position How To Meditate, Masturbate, Manifest Like a Pro VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Orgasms are learned skills. So says bestselling author and sex expert Susan Bratton, who teaches couples and individuals to have more collaborative, orgasmic intercourse. Today, Susan and I answer your questions about being a better lover, erasing sexual shame, and, of course… having tons of orgasms. First: how do you help a partner who never orgasms during sex? Susan and I have ideas. Next, how do you train your G-spot for internal orgasms? We give you specific techniques to train your vaginal canal, and help make the area more engorged and responsive. How about Doggy Style – can the receiving partner orgasm more easily in this position? Susan talks through the Glissando Technique to help you out. We also talk through female ejaculatory pleasure and squirting, delayed ejaculation and much (much!) more. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) BetterLover.com More Susan Bratton: Instagram | Website SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many of us follow a sex script that’s been handed to us. But is that script actually serving you? In this popular Best Of episode, I give you permission to let your favorite sexual behaviors lead the way, with tons of spicy ideas to play with. Sex isn’t just about P-in-V (penis in vagina) penetration. Yet, that’s what we often mean by “having sex.” Listen – penetration is great! But I have ideas for mutual masturbation, sensual massage, hand play, elevated oral and so much more. Play this episode, make a list of your favorites, then tailor your next sex session around your authentic desires. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Best Sex Toys According To Your Zodiac Sign Low-Lift Pleasure Hacks: 5 Everyday Items That Elevate Your Sex Enigma Wave from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) 4 Ways to Close the Orgasm Gap First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wondered how often happy couples have sex? Or the little-known key to sexual satisfaction? In today’s Sex In The News episode, I reveal new research that answers both of these questions and a surprising new finding on who says “I love you” first. First, my Producer, Erica, and I look at a study on sexual frequency and the number of times per month couples have sex. Is it this often for you? Next, we dig into research on men saying “I love you” -- do you agree with our takeaway? We then get into amazing new research on mutual masturbation and give you easy ways to try it. Finally, we explore a study on sleep health and sex. Turns out, an orgasm might be more effective than sleeping pills. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Mutual Masturbation & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What are your sexual fantasies? No matter how unique (or not) your fantasies are, they teach us something about our needs. On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re exploring fantasies and partner dynamics so we can get our needs met shame-free. First, cuckolding: when a partner, typically male, asks their partner, typically female, to have sex with another man. What if your partner wants it… but you’re not so sure? Next, living with your ex -- if you’re still not over them, how do you successfully connect with others? Later, when you’ve got a unique kink or fetish, how do you talk about it with your partner, especially if they’re freaked out? Is there any way to get that need met? Finally, when a partner says they’re not sexually attracted anymore, how do you call it quits and find the sex you deserve? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: The Lover’s Guide to Sexual Etiquette 5 Ways To Do It Doggy Style SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to "Am I The Asshole?" for sex and relationships! New to Sex With Emily, we weigh in on your AITA questions. First up: their marriage is on the rocks, but he wants a threesome. Is she the asshole for shutting it down? Next, his partner says she’s in pain during sex. Is he the asshole for not believing her? After that, she’s not into anal…but her partner really wants it. Is she the asshole for refusing? Next: mom just revealed she’s in a 24-hour BDSM relationship with dad. Is their daughter the asshole for freaking out?  I answer these questions and more today with my producer, Erica. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you and your partner sexually compatible? That’s the theme of today’s Hotline Calls show, as my Producer and I break down these couples' sex and relationship issues. First, when your partner isn’t pleasuring you as much as you’d like, does that mean they aren’t attracted? Or just nervous? Next, do you squirt during sex? It’s a goal for many, but what if it’s happening more than you’d like? How about sex drive discrepancy? When you’ve had more chemistry with past partners – and more sex – is your current partner not a fit? Or do you need to find a middle ground? Finally, what happens when your partner’s got a kink that weirds you out? We don’t yuck anyone’s yum here, but one caller needs advice on navigating brother-sister role play. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life 5 Hot, Consensual Ways to Practice Voyeurism Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating contemporary thinkers on sex and relationships. A psychotherapist and two-time bestselling author, she’s the host of the “Where Should We Begin?” podcast, which takes you inside the therapist’s office and lets you listen in on her sessions with clients. Esther is noticing some important changes in sex and relationships. Non-monogamy is becoming more common as a relationship model: why? And is it right for everyone? How about ”family-alization” – when couples start looking at each other like siblings or roommates, how do you bring the sexual spark back? Especially if you’ve never had it in the first place? Finally, how do we revive our sensual selves when we’re immersed in technology? Can we use it to turn each other on instead of numbing ourselves? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Oral Herpes? How to Keep Living Your Best Sex Life Where Should We Begin? Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Where Should We Begin? Card Game Mating in Captivity: Bookshop The State of Affairs: Bookshop More Esther Perel: Website | Instagram | Twitter SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex toys have exploded in popularity in the past few years, but there’s one situation where they still tend to be forgotten: sex itself. Using a toy with a partner can feel intimidating. That’s why I’m devoting this episode to beginner-friendly toy play, with ideas for oral sex, intercourse, and even anal play. Listen, you don’t need all the bells and whistles to get a lot out of sex toys! So I kick things off with two essential toys and all the versatile ways you can use them: bullet vibrators and penis rings. Next, I talk you through three sex positions and how to use a toy in each one: missionary, spooning, and cowgirl/cowboy. Finally, I answer all your sex toy questions, including when it’s harder to climax after giving birth -- which toy and techniques can bring your O back?  See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina 7 Signs of Sexual Compatibility Magic Wand Mini Massager SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Grand Bullet by Le Wand We-Vibe Tango X Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Touch X Clitoral Vibrator Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant We-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring Screaming O Two-O Double Pleasure Ring Hot Octopuss ATOM Plus Vibrating Cock Ring We-Vibe Chorus Wearable Vibrator Article: Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy Sex With Emily: Home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Low self-worth makes authentic sex impossible.” So says bestselling author Tara Schuster, who broke out with her runaway bestseller Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies and released the life-affirming page-turner Glow In The F*cking Dark this year. On this episode, Tara opens up about hating her body, having sex exclusively in the dark, and how she rewired her brain to love herself (and her body). Tara and I also take your listener questions, where we discuss dating burnout, sexual triggers, and solo sex as self-care. When you’ve just gotten out of a toxic relationship, how can you feel more confident when you go out in public? When dating is one long string of disappointments, what gives? And finally, how do you have exploratory sex when you don’t have a partner? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever 5 Steps to Your Happiest, Healthiest Vagina Glow In the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble Glow Getters Journal Club More Tara Schuster: Instagram | Twitter | Website EMDRIA Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Sex With Emily Hotline is open! On this episode, I’m joined by my Producer, Erica, as we talk about disappearing erections, prostate massages, and so much more. First, what do you do when your partner has health issues that cause them to lose their erections? I give one caller ideas for how to work around this issue and thoughts on what might be causing it in the first place. Next, why don’t couples fantasize together more often? A couple calls in to share their sexual fantasies, and we give you inspo on how to do the same with your partner. When your partner wants a prostate massage, how do you pull it off? I tell you what to feel for, how to apply pressure and fun toys you can use. Finally, when your partner has never had an orgasm before, how can you help? And should you? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Is My Penis Normal? How to Have Honeymoon Sex Forever TOR 3 from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Dildos on Shop With Emily Prostate Toys on Shop With Emily Plugs on Shop With Emily The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Two of your most powerful sex accessories? Your hands. Hands set the tone of your sexual energy. For example, caressing their cheek while you make out versus pinning their hands down while you have sex. And while we talk a lot about what to do with our mouths or genitals on this show, today I’m focusing on a lost art: hand play. Specifically, how to finger, give a hand job, and use your hands with sexual intention. Today, my Producer, Erica, and I first share how to penetrate a vulva with your fingers. We give you tricks to stimulate the labia and clitoris, different forms of pressure and touch, and how to find the G-spot when you finger. Next, we give the penis some love with hand job techniques and upgrades like toy play and perineum stimulation. Finally, we discuss secondary erogenous zones and answer your hand play questions. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Show Notes: Top 6 Sex Positions to Use With a Sex Toy Is My Penis Normal? 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) We-Vibe Pivot Cock Ring Dame Fin Vibrator Ohmibod Lovelife & Rev Finger Massager Le Wand Grand Bullet Vibrator The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s Hotline Calls time! And we’ve got one common theme: trust - the foundation of hot sex. Because when you trust yourself and the person you’re with, you can fully let go in bed and relax into your deepest pleasure. When oral sex gets too rough, how can you ask your partner to be more gentle and respectful? I’ve got some thoughts. When your partner doesn’t love booty play – but you definitely do – can you still ask for a rim job? Let’s say your partner goes to strip clubs, and it makes you super uncomfortable. How do you set boundaries together? Finally, when you’re the non-primary partner in a polyamorous relationship, what resources can you turn to for advice & guidance? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom Is My Penis Normal? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) System JO Flavored Lube System JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Limited Edition System JO Tri-Me Triple Pack: Neapolitan Polysecure, Jessica Fern: Bookshop | Amazon Opening Up, Tristan Taormino: Amazon | Barnes & Noble Open Deeply, Kate Loree: Bookshop | Amazon “The Challenges of Being a Secondary,” Conscious Polyamory “Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First,” Multiamory Polyamory in BLACK! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Prostate Play: The Comprehensive Guide 5 Libido-Boosting Aphrodisiacs to Try In and Out of the Bedroom VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is how an orgasm works. It’s a symphony of mind, nervous system, blood flow and muscle spasms, all syncing up to give you oh-so-wonderful sensations. But what if you’ve never had an orgasm before? Or what if you do experience them – but want them to be better? In today’s popular Best Of episode, I explain the science behind orgasms and how to make yours amazing. I tell you what to do if you’ve never had an orgasm before, give you tricks for elevating your orgasms, and even share a few unexpected erogenous zones where you can orgasm (nipplegasms, anyone?). I also take your orgasm questions including: when the sex is great, but you just can’t climax with your partner, what gives? See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks How to Train Your Vagina SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility. Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower 6 Essential Sex Toy Hacks Dual Stimulation Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69) Insertion Toys on Shop With Emily (free shipping on orders over $69) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

([TW: SA] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through: 21:25-22:00) Let’s talk friends with benefits. Somewhere between a relationship and a situationship, you’ve got FWBs... And in my view, they’re a completely valid relationship model. But let’s be honest: they’re not for everyone. Navigating the friendship part of an FWB can get murky, especially if you’re secretly hoping it will turn into a real relationship. So in this popular best-of episode, I first help you get clear on whether or not you’re a good candidate for an FWB set-up. Next, we talk about how to establish your terms going in, because trust me – before you have sex with your friends, your communication skills have to be on-point. Finally I answer all your FWB questions, including: when you’ve had the same FWB for years but crave more with them, should you speak up? Or move on to someone more committed?  See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex 8 Ways to Masturbate (Better) in the Shower VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Yes, No, Maybe List, Tips for Communication & Other Guides Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s time to debunk the toxic myths around sex and age. Does sexual satisfaction drop off as you get older? Absolutely not! In fact, the data tells us the exact opposite is true. Today, anthropologist, bestselling author and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin and I lay out the facts, which is fitting: we’re both in our fifties! If you’re not in your fifties yet, here’s what you can look forward to. It’s the decade many of us hit the reset button on our sexual desires. It’s the decade you start purely having sex for pleasure. And it’s the decade your confidence and communication get even better because you’ve honed your relationship (and career!) skills. Wednesday and I talk about why your fifties are so sexy, the signs of perimenopause and menopause and how to treat both, and our best advice for younger women. See the full Show Notes at sexwithemily.com Show Notes: The 6 Best Masturbation Toys 10 Ways to Use Lube During Sex Podcast: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All The Menopause Manifesto, Dr. Jen Gunter: Bookshop | Amazon @ABlackGirlsGuidetoMenopause Menopocalypse, Amanda Thebe: Bookshop | Amazon Womaness (code EMILY for 20% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships? Have a question? Call my Hotline 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739) or message me at sexwithemily.com/askemily. Show Notes: The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have The 6 Best Masturbation Toys SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Playground Lubes: Love Sesh | Date Night | Mini Escape | After Hours Je Joue Mimi We-Vibe Touch ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bored in bed? It happens. Sexual boredom doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship – but it is a cue that you’re ready for novelty. So save this episode because it’s an entire guide to spicing up your sex. First, I start with the when and where: how does the time of day affect your arousal? And where can you do it besides the bedroom? Next, we make your favorite sex positions more interesting and exciting with tweaks you can try right now. Finally, I give you beginner-friendly kink with sensory deprivation, temperature play and hurts-so-good pain play. Right this way to easy kink and tons of low-lift ways to play. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights The Boner Breakdown: All the Types of Erections You Can Have SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) SONA 2 Travel from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) Je Joue Massage Candles Le Wand Crystal Wand Le Wand Stainless Steel Hoop Firefly Glass Dildo System JO Flavored Lubes Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase: Bookshop | Amazon | Barnes & Noble ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your sleep affects your sex drive: we know this. The bottom line: if you know the right sleep hacks, you can have much better sex. In this fascinating Best Of episode with Dr. Michael Breus, we dive into the science of sleep and how to leverage it for sexual arousal. Starting with the four chronotypes, your body’s natural disposition to be awake or asleep, we help you figure out how to work with your body (not against it) for sexual arousal. We also discuss snoring – why it happens and how it affects your sexual connection. “I’ve saved more marriages as a sleep therapist than I ever would have as a marital therapist,” says Dr. Breus. In this episode, you’ll learn how to work with your unique circadian rhythm for better sex and communication. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex 6 Ways to Infuse Intimacy into Your Weeknights SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) Hello Again Suppositories (code EMILY25 for 25% off orders over $50) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Chronoquiz.com More Dr. Michael Breus: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk solo anal. You may be looking around right now, wondering why anal play is so trendy, and thinking to yourself: “is this actually for me?” But before you jump into the anal deep end with a partner, I’ve got a pro tip: try anal with yourself! On today’s episode, I’m talking through all the positive reasons to explore anal with yourself, no matter what genitals you’ve got. I’m also busting common anal myths and giving you step-by-step tips for exploration based on your anatomy. I’m talking all things toys and insertion for beginners to advanced anal players. Tune in for your solo anal play primer, and keep listening to hear me answer all your booty Q’s. Show Notes: Flow With It: How to Have Period Sex SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) b-Vibe Vibrating Jewel Plug b-vibe Anal Training Kit Aneros Mgx Syn Trident Prostate Massager LELO Loki Wave Prostate Massager Vibrator Lumen LED Pleasure Plug Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant Pjur Backdoor Relaxing Anal Glide Lubricant Article: Double The O, Double The Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms Yes, No, Maybe List & Other Guides Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% off + bonus play rag) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Match App: Apple App Store | Google Play Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Solo sex (aka masturbation) is legitimate self-care. Better sleep, less stress, glowing skin, heightened immunity – and let’s not forget orgasms (not that I think you would). So on today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all things solo sex and how to make it work for you. Feel embarrassed or ashamed about it? Or do you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing? I help you create a solo sex routine that matches your lifestyle and get you in the right (sexy) headspace for it. I also take your solo sex questions, including: when your partner asks you to masturbate in front of them, but you feel shy – how do you pull it off? And should you? Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free CBD Sleep Gummies Sample) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do your meals affect your sex drive? Are your hormones interfering with your pleasure? And real talk…does alcohol make it harder for you to orgasm? Dr. Will Cole hosts the podcast The Art of Being Well, and on today’s show, he explains the connection between what you eat and how you feel – both in and out of the bedroom. We discuss sex-supportive nutrients and how to fill your plate for better sex, the real deal on HRT and hormone fluctuation, shame-flammation, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered how certain foods help or hurt your sex life, this one’s for you.   Show Notes: How to Heat Up Your Temperature Play ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Emily on The Art of Being Well Podcast: Website | Apple Podcasts | Spotify Gut Feelings by Dr. Will Cole More Dr. Will Cole: Website | Telehealth Consult | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to turn ons, we’ve all got our preferences. Maybe you love a deep, sexy voice. Maybe a wicked sense of humor. But there are five sexual arousal styles that apply to most people: you can think of them as the five love languages for sexual excitement. They are: conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure. In this popular Best Of episode, I break down the five styles and how to identify your top one. I share tips for harnessing your arousal, with date ideas and behaviors to spark your sexual curiosity. I also help you understand the key difference between arousal and desire, and take your arousal questions, including: what do you do when medication is numbing your genitals? And when you’re more excited for solo sex than partnered sex – is that a problem? Show Notes: Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

([TW // mentions SA, r*pe] If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through: 21:30-22:25, 51:30-52:05.) Porn gets a bad rap – for very understandable reasons. Today, I’m breaking down the reasons why with Dr. Wednesday Martin, and also playing devil’s advocate and giving you a new way to approach it. Can you learn legit sex skills from porn viewing? In this episode, I’m going through all the reasons porn might be triggering for some, so you know how to incorporate it into your relationship or your solo sex in a healthy way. Next, I give tips for how to watch it with a partner, and identify your personal turn-ons. Finally, I talk through edu-porn, audio erotica and other contemporary porn platforms that get you aroused…and sexually educated. Show Notes: 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life LELO F1S V2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Study: Pornography does not cause violent sex crimes Make Love Not Porn (Cindy Gallop) Erika Lust Dr. Wednesday Martin on SWE: Dating Younger Men, Canceling Threesomes: Emily Tells All | It’s Open (Relationship) Season | Best of: Women, Lust & Infidelity Wednesday Squirts for the First Time with Kenneth Play & Whitney More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website (wednesdaymartin.com) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever used FaceTime for sex? Maybe you’re traveling and want to stay connected to your partner. Maybe you’re dating and want to test the waters with someone virtually before having sex IRL. Or maybe the idea just turns you on! No matter the case, today’s episode is all about FaceTime sex and how to pull it off. First, I’m talking prep steps: literally, how do you get in the mood for FaceTime sex and help yourself feel comfortable on-screen? Next, how do you position your camera and what do you actually say in the moment? Finally, I take your questions on FaceTime sex, including: how to spice it up and how do you end a sexting session? Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Get a Stronger Erection? 6 Secrets to Have the Best Oral Sex of Your Life ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz GQ Article: The Idol just gave us the worst sex scene in history Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated. On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention lately on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode. Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Get a Stronger Erection? Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Yes! No! Maybe? List Article: How to Make a Mess ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk teasing. Do you know how to build sexual tension? Maybe you’re dating and want to be a cute flirt. Or maybe you’re in a long term relationship and want to create a sexy vibe. No matter your situation, today’s episode teaches a lost art: the art of the tease. First, I talk focus and flirting: simple little hacks to put the spotlight on the other person with flavors of sexual play. Next, I talk body language: when to touch, when not to touch, and how to deploy a sexy sort of restraint – not desperation – to your interactions. Finally, I take your questions on confidence and seduction, including: how do you show interest on a date without coming on too strong? Show Notes: ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Sex With Emily: Home More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m introducing a new series today that you literally helped me create: Sexy Stories! You share your juiciest, most personal success stories with me, and I read them aloud on the show. Because sometimes the best way to learn about sex comes from other people and their experiences. First: parents who sent their kids away and tried pegging for the very first time. Hear how it went… from the husband’s perspective. Next, a married couple of 20 years have an unexpected night on the dance floor involving a chance meeting with a hot stranger – and then, their very first threesome. Finally, she orgasms for the first time during penetration, but you’ll never guess how she got there. If you have a Sexy Story you would like to share on the podcast, send it to feedback@sexwithemily.com with “Sexy Story” in the subject line! Please only include information (such as names) that you are comfortable being read aloud on the podcast. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Good Little Sub ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free 2pc High Love THC Libido Gummy Sample Pack) More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex (out now at bookstores everywhere), I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Good Little Sub ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz LELO Soraya Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) More Sex With Emily: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Remember Loveline? The call-in show hosted by Dr. Drew to get your love and dating questions answered? Well, it holds a special place in my heart because I used to co-host it! So today, in celebration of my career leading up to my new book Smart Sex (out today!), I’m inviting my dear friend Dr. Drew Pinsky onto Sex With Emily to help me answer your sex questions Loveline-style. First, what does it mean when you feel like your long-distance partner is following you to your next city? Next, a college guy wants to know: how do you find real connection amid hookup culture? Or what about moving on from a toxic sexual relationship: how do you claim your own desires, now that you’re single? All this and more with me and Dr. Drew. Show Notes: How to Make a Mess: Squirting, Face Ejaculation & Golden Showers Double the O, Double the Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) More Dr. Drew: Website | Dr.Drew.tv | Twitter | Instagram Opening Up Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships Crazy on the Inside: A Memoir of Nobody Special Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non Monogamy The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable? First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategies like mindful masturbation, to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideways 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with, and take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex.  Show Notes: How to Make a Mess: Squirting, Face Ejaculation & Golden Showers Double the O, Double the Pleasure: How to Have Blended & Multiple Orgasms ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free 2pc High Love THC Libido Gummy Sample Pack) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your 1st order) LELO SONA 2 Cruise (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Episode: Best Of: Best Blowjob Ever Episode: Best Of: Oral Sex Master Class Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How did you discover who you were as a sexual being? Are you still figuring it out? Your desires, your sexual turn-ons, your overall attitude towards sex itself? Well, today, we’re doing something a little different: I’m answering all those questions and letting you in on my sexual journey. That’s right! I’ve got author, anthropologist, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin on the show today as we turn the tables and let her ask me how my career as a sex educator got started, the first time I had legitimately good sex, and how my relationship with sex has evolved. I also share the backstory behind this podcast, why I was so curious to launch a career in sex education in the first place, and how it's all led up to my book, Smart Sex. Listen in… it’s a juicy one. Show Notes: Your Guide to Mutual Masturbation How to Train Your Vagina ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Bookshop More Dr. Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Good news: every vulva owner can learn how to squirt. But it does take practice, and on today’s Best Of show, I’ve got sex educator, author, and female ejaculation expert Deborah Sundahl here to walk us through it. First, Deborah clarifies the connection between squirting and the G-spot, and just in case you have any doubts about the G-spot’s existence, Deborah tells you how to find yours in the mirror. Next, we clarify what female ejaculate is – hint, not pee – and how this fluid builds up in your body. We also talk about the difference between squirting and orgasm, and finally, we take your top questions on how to squirt with a partner. Yes: there are step-by-step tips! Because, as I always say, the wetter, the better. Show Notes: Your Guide to Mutual Masturbation How to Train Your Vagina ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Playdrop Sex Mat (code EMILY10 for 10% OFF & a bonus play rag worth $25) Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot More Deborah Sundahl: Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Violet Benson started her now-famous Instagram account @DaddyIssues_ while working through issues of her own. On today’s podcast, she opens up about working through deep emotional struggles so she can create the sex life and relationships that truly work for her. No matter your background or life stage, I’m positive this conversation will liberate and inspire you to take the next step in your sex life. Violet, who hosts the popular podcast Almost Adulting, tells me about her decision to temporarily swear off penetrative sex, freezing her eggs, and how she quit playing games while dating. She also takes the Sex IQ quiz inspired by my upcoming book, Smart Sex! Listen to her results, then listen to both of us answer a listener question: when the sex is hot but they’ve got huge, emotional red flags, should you pursue them anyway? Show Notes: Sexy Summer Pack List: The Seven Essentials 5 Reasons to Add Anal Play to Your Masturbation Routine ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates TAKE THE FULL SEX IQ QUIZ! Email proof of pre-order purchase to smartsex@sexwithemily.com and I’ll send you a link to take the quiz SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) LELO LILY 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) More Violet Benson: @daddyissues_ | Instagram Almost Adulting Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all have fears around sex, whether we’re aware of them or not. Maybe you’re worried someone’s not going to like your body, or that if you and your partner try something new, it’ll be awkward or weird. Maybe you’re worried you’ll never have sex with anyone ever again. I’m here to tell you this: your sexual anxieties are completely normal. Listen in as my callers and I work through theirs and develop actionable solutions to take the next step. When you’re a vulva owner, and something comes out when you orgasm, are you peeing or squirting? When preparing for a threesome, how can you get over the fear that your partner won't want sex with just you anymore? When the sex has fallen off entirely, how do you start initiating again? All this and more in today's sexual anxieties episode. Show Notes: Sexy Summer Pack List: The Seven Essentials 4 Penis Problems and 4 Ways to Solve Them MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) VIIA Hemp Co’s Lowdose 2mg Delta 9 Microdosing Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free 2pc High Love THC Libido Gummy Sample Pack) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Author Elise Loehnen has thought a lot about women and desire. In her new book On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good, she breaks down the cultural forces that teach women to be desirable rather than desiring, and the shame attached to a woman wanting something: whether it’s sex, success, or a damn slice of pizza. Whether it’s lust, and the way we encourage women to police others' sexuality, or sloth, and the way women are encouraged to be their husbands' caregivers, these invisible expectations serve none of us. Instead, Elise talks about ways we can liberate ourselves in ways that improve our sex lives and beyond: how to balance masculine and feminine energies in relationships, how to shed sexual shame, and so much more. As Elise says, “Our bodies are portals; lust is the invitation to enter.” Please note that this episode includes discussions of sexual trauma. If you would like to skip these portions of the episode, please skip through:  19:35-25:13 41:36-43:03 Show Notes: 4 Penis Problems and 4 Ways to Solve Them What’s a Sexual State of the Union & Why Should You Have One? MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Yarlap Kegel Exercise Kit & System (code EMILY for $35 off) On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Bookshop  More Elise Loehnen: Podcast | Newsletter | Instagram | Website | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It can be difficult to meet new people and cultivate relationships, especially when looking for romantic partners. But don’t let that hold you back from trying: you might just need a new strategy. On today’s show, I take your calls on modern dating and how to solve the problems you’re running into. Let’s say you want to date an older woman but don’t have confidence in your communication - how do you improve your conversation game? When you’ve been single for years and fear rejection, how do you break out of romantic stagnation? Or what about breadcrumbing: when someone gives you just enough to keep you interested without outright ghosting you. How can you directly communicate without coming off as pushy? Finally, what are the signs of love bombing? One caller asks me if that’s what’s happening to her. Spoiler: yep. Show Notes: What’s a Sexual State of the Union & Why Should You Have One? MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your 1st order) Womaness.com/Emily (code EMILY for 20% off sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

All sexual fantasies have one thing in common: they trigger an arousal response inside our bodies, laced with erotic flavor. But how do you actualize your fantasy with a partner who’s wary of it? Even turned off by it? On today’s show, I’m taking your calls on this exact predicament. First up: when your partner wants you to drastically change your appearance for their pleasure, should you do it? Or when your partner wants to watch you with a third, how do you find that person? Next, if you’re not naturally dominant in bed, but your partner’s begging for it, how do you step into your power? I also get into urine fetishes (yep, like golden showers), how to introduce them to an otherwise vanilla sex life, and how to explore same-sex adventures in a hetero marriage.     Show Notes: Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) SmartMouth FetLife Kasidie Feeld Womaness.com/Emily (code EMILY for 20% off sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You shouldn't have to be an Olympic gymnast to have sex. But let’s be honest – certain positions can be hard! So inspired by the Positions chapter in my new book Smart Sex, I’m bringing back this Best Of episode. You’ll hear quick tips to make ambitious moves easier and classic moves more exciting. First, I share the most-searched sex positions in the country: can you guess America’s favorite sex move? Next, we look at the much-hyped reverse cowgirl. I give suggestions to make it feel as good and sexy as it looks. As for oral: I talk you through the Kivin Method, which stimulates vulva owners' K-points, and how to make 69 more relaxing. Finally, don’t go to the emergency room from shower sex – just listen to my tips to keep it steamy AND stable. Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Dom for Better Sex: 6 Essential Phrases Moms Deserve Pleasure Too: A Sexy Self-Care Guide MEET ME ON TOUR! Sex With Emily Book Tour: SMART SEX Event Dates PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: How to Master These Awkward Sex Positions I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When resentment builds up in a relationship, it compromises our sexual connection. We feel taken for granted, unappreciated, and unseen. Most of all, we feel emotionally unsafe, which makes it impossible to let loose and feel free in bed. So on today’s show, I talk through a study that connects the dots between a quality sex life and regular expressions of gratitude. Next, I take your calls: when long standing issues with your partner inhibit your desire, how do you break through that impasse? When your partner says you’re not meeting their sexual standards, how much of that messaging do you take in? And when you crave words of affirmation, but they just can’t seem to give them, is it time for new therapy or to respectfully end the relationship? Show Notes: How to Talk Like a Dom for Better Sex: 6 Essential Phrases Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) VUSH We Come First Couples Connection Kit (Kit is 30% off, Save an additional 10% with the code EMILYWCF) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all need to mix it up sometimes. Has your masturbation routine gone stale? Is sex with your partner too predictable? With creativity and a little teasing, absolutely everyone can spice up their sex life – and I’m here to tell you how. First, we’ll talk about planning a "sex-cation" with low-lift ideas you can try right at home. Next, when you and your partner have already tried all the new things, what’s left? I advise one caller on sexual teasing and how denying your pleasure can heighten the intensity. We also discuss ways to make your solo sex more interesting and arousing, and how to have more fun with casual sex if your current routine – even with new people! – is leaving you bored. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) LELO Tor 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex Article: The Best Masturbation Techniques to Try Tonight Quinn Audio Erotica Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wondered if there’s more to your sexuality than you ever realized? Or relationship models that challenge everything you’re used to? Men’s Health and Cosmo sex columnist Zachary Zane has been there. As a self-proclaimed “boyslut,” he’s radically open about his journey as a bisexual, polyamorous man and tells all in his forthcoming book: BOYSLUT: A Memoir and Manifesto. He shares how he came to understand his attraction to all genders, his experience living in a polycule, why it’s healthy for all of us to get used to rejection, and how bisexuality for men is gaining more visibility. He also helps me answer your questions on exploring bisexuality while in a long-term relationship, how to respond if you’re in a hetero relationship and your partner tells you they’re bisexual, and how to find casual, no strings attached sex. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto: Bookshop | Amazon More Zachary Zane: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yes, it’s true: I’m talking with my own mother today about sex. A ton of you have asked me how I got into the sex education business in the first place: now, you get to hear from the person who raised me! First, my mom and I talk about her sexual journey, coming up in a time when open communication around sex wasn’t normalized and female pleasure wasn’t valued. She also helps me your questions on sex and relationships, like how to give a partner feedback when they’re doing something that turns you off, what to do if menopause is tanking your sex drive, how to negotiate with your partner when you’ve got different definitions of cheating, and how to approach a partner who does NOT want to spice up your sex life – but you’re dying for some variety.  Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off your 1st order) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. MagBreakthrough.com/SexWithEmily (code SexWithEmily10 for 10% off) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s often someone who initiates the sex, and someone who says “yes” or “no.” These roles can work long-term, but what happens when sexual initiations become a problem? When you’re always hearing no, or when you always say no? On today’s show, I'm talking about sexual initiations and how to make this moment a better experience for all. When you’re the initiator, but want your partner to do it more often, how do you talk to them about it? We’ll also get into spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and as someone with responsive desire, I’ll share my routine for getting turned on for sex. Finally, when you and your partner are so busy that no one’s initiating, what’s the conversation you need to have? I advise a caller in this exact situation. Show Notes: The Future of Sex Tech The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) SmartMouth VUSH I Come First - Self-Connection Kit (Kit is 50% off, Save an additional 10% with the code EMILYICF) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. MagBreakthrough.com/SexWithEmily (code SexWithEmily10 for 10% off) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s holding you back from having good sex? Is it self-confidence? A problem with your partner? Are you under so much stress that it’s impossible to feel erotic and turned on? In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the 6 most common roadblocks to sex and how to move past them. I’ll talk you through how to navigate each of them and also take your questions on personal sexual roadblocks. For example, if you’re coupled, is it cheating to get on OnlyFans? What do you do if you’re not always wet for sex? And finally, what's the best way to work with a partner who’s prone to jealousy? All this and more on our roadblocks show. Show Notes: How to Use a Vibe With a Partner High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) LELO LILY 3 (code EMILY for 25% off sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s a new day in the world of cannabis and sex. So many of you have asked me for this show! While wide scale research is still thin, there are many encouraging signs that cannabis can help you unlock more sexual pleasure, whether it's erotic arousal, help with erections, less anxiety, or less pain. But I get it: cannabis isn’t legal everywhere! And it’s also not right for everyone. So on today’s mini show, I’ll be discussing the latest research on cannabis and sex, how to know if it's a good choice for you, delivery methods like edibles and drinkables, and vetted product recommendations for sexy times, both partnered and solo.  Show Notes: High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love – THC Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 20% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want.  Show Notes: How to Use a Vibe With a Partner High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a lot to be said for sex toys. For one, they stimulate nerve endings much deeper than hands alone can reach – and that’s true no matter what genitals you’ve got. But how do you incorporate toys into partnered sex? And which ones are right for your body to give you mind-blowing orgasms? On today’s episode, we’re talking all things sex toys so you can play in new and different ways. First, is it alright to always bring a vibe to partnered sex? One penis owner says “absolutely.” Speaking of penis owners, which toys are best for this crowd? I also talk about squirting with toys, how to change up your solo sex routine, and if there’s anything wrong if you can ONLY orgasm with a toy. Spoiler alert: nope!  Show Notes: The Basics of Safe Sex  Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide) Bellesa I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever used a “Yes, No, Maybe” List for sex? It’s a menu of sex acts that prioritizes consent and communication among sexual partners. It’s one of my hands-down favorite tools to explore new ideas and spice up sex lives. But how do you actually use the list and turn your choices into realities? On today’s show, I reveal my NEW and IMPROVED "Yes, No, Maybe" List, and show you how to use it individually or with a partner. I share new ideas we added to the list, like orgasm denial, bondage, and electrostimulation, as well as success stories from folks who have filled it out. Plus, we’ll talk about what to do if your answers differ from your partner's, and how a real couple worked through that sticky situation together.  Show Notes: The Basics of Safe Sex  Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide! PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Pleasure Planner, Tips for Communication & Other Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you think about anal sex, what comes to mind? Does it make you feel turned on? Nervous? Like something you want to try or do more of, but you’re not sure about the best way to approach it? On today’s show, I help you get more comfortable with anal play by answering your top questions. How can you use foreplay and communication to relax into the experience? If you’ve tried anal play before but didn’t love it, what are some toys and techniques you can use to feel more pleasure? What’s the safest way to train with an anal toy, and can you hurt yourself by having too much anal? Bottoms up, because your anal education starts now. Show Notes: I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Get to Know The Clitoris and How to Pleasure It PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO LOKI Wave Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you give incredible, life-affirming oral sex to a vulva owner? While every body is different, I’m here to tell you that these are the techniques you absolutely need. First, we’ll talk the art of the tease. I explain how to use your tongue to intensify sensations and encourage arousal. I also get into everyone’s favorite: the Kivin Method. Next, I show you how to help facilitate a G-spot orgasm by answering your top questions. For example, when you’re 100% down to give oral but your partner doesn’t like receiving, what do you do? When you’re the vulva owner and want to squirt, how do you get there? Finally, I talk overcoming insecurities when you’re the receiver, and how to make giving oral more physically comfortable. Show Notes: I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Get to Know the Clitoris (& How to Pleasure It) PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Podcast: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Article: Ask Emily: How Do I *Actually* Start Squirting? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it mean to be sexually confident? In my opinion, it comes from a sense of security in who you are, what you bring to the table, and knowing that it’s OK to ask questions. It’s not having all the answers, because let’s be honest: sex would be boring if we knew everything already. But when your self-image takes a hit, how do you recover your sexual confidence and combat performance anxiety? I’m talking to callers with precisely that question. What do you do when your partner keeps talking about how hot strangers are, even when you told them it makes you uncomfortable? What happens when you’re not maintaining your erections, and it’s causing anxiety? How about when your partner is more sexual than ever – but not towards you? All this and more in today’s sexual confidence episode. Show Notes: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In my opinion, masturbation is one of the healthiest self-care practices out there. But so many of you tell me how ashamed you feel about masturbating! Especially since the only pop culture examples you saw growing up were cringey. That changes today, as I take your calls on masturbation, taking time to explore your body, and unlocking different kinds of orgasms during solo sex. I also discuss masturbation frequency, and if there’s such a thing as too much. Speaking of frequency: is it possible for vulva owners to have multiple orgasms during solo sex? Let’s find out. I’ll answer your questions on group masturbation parties, jealousy toward your partner’s vibrator, and what to do when your partner can only orgasm through masturbation. Show Notes: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Emily x Christina Aguilera: HelloPlayground.com/Xtina CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator & Reverie (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide) OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50) LELO TOR 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show.  Show Notes: The 7 Secrets of Making Out How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SmartMouth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear. Show Notes: The 7 Secrets of Making Out How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure FetLife Feeld #Open Kinky Rabbit Club Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode. Show Notes: Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Singles’ Survival Kit 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: Where is the Clitoris? Je Joue’s New Bullet Vibrators & Endometriosis Collection (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF everything) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now.   Show Notes: 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Podcast: Everybody Loves Oral Article: 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show! Show Notes: Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Sexy Survival Kit PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Okay, What’s Really the Difference Between Kinks and Fetishes? Yes No Maybe List, Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides FirmTech Rings (code EMILY20 for 20% off sitewide) FetLife Kasidie LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a healthy balance. She’s worried her boyfriend depends on porn for arousal and isn’t attracted to her anymore: what now? He’s married and wants to watch porn with his wife, how should he broach the subject? Finally, her father was a porn addict and she’s worried her boyfriend might be too – I give her communication tips to ease the anxiety. All this and more on today’s porn show! Show Notes: How Do I Prep For Sex? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Article: So, Where’s the Porn for Women? Scarleteen XConfessions.com This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from the people right in front of you? When you’re married monogamously, but one of you starts flirting with someone else, is an open marriage the right move, or not so much? And when you’re in a heterosexual relationship, but want to explore your bisexuality, is bringing in a same-sex third a healthy fix? All this and more on today’s episode. Show Notes: How Do I Prep For Sex? PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship? What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship?  OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax. How can you still have numerous, deep orgasms? When you love anal play, but haven’t had an anal orgasm quite yet, how can you make it happen? And can all vulva-owners really have multiple orgasms? Find out all this and more on today’s orgasm show.  Show Notes: Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. Karpman PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve. Show Notes: PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SmartMouth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal without hurting yourself? Plus, how do you find friends and community when you’ve just entered the BDSM lifestyle? And how do you maximize your partner’s pleasure? All this and more on today’s pleasure points show. Show Notes: How to Have Great Sex During Perimenopause, Menopause and Beyond PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure #open FetLife OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Je Joue (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off) Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Kivin Method: 5 Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques and toys, so you can keep your pilot light lit and feel erotic all the time. Plus, I take your questions: the difference between internal and external orgasms, arousal ideas for vulva-owners, how to approach sex with a new partner when you’ve been out of the game for a while, and much more. Show Notes: Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day 5 Last-Minute, Ultra-Sexy Valentine’s Ideas PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure HigherDOSE Sauna Blanket Breathing App: Apple | Google Play Je Joue: Vita | Amour | Duet (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF) When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Bellesa TryQuinn XConfessions.com &Jane This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I’ll be answering all your questions to create amazing Valentine’s Sex, including body-positive sex positions, how to have sex when one or both of you is tired, and how to lean into your sub side when you’ve been domming for decades. Show Notes: 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent & Sexual Attractiveness PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure HiNote App Eye Of Love (code EMILY for 15% off sitewide) SmartMouth LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy? This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Next, we talk DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl, a kink that might be exactly what you’re looking for…but only with the right boundaries. Finally, I get into green flags and red flags with your partner, and how to spot toxic traits before you’re in too deep. Show Notes: 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent and Sexual Attractiveness Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Article: How to Start a DDLG Dynamic Article: The Truth About DDLG As Told by a Little Fleur Du Mal x Sex With Emily Bundle (code FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t want to open up about their sexual preferences, to growing tired of the same old routine - I offer ideas from gamifying your sexual communication to taking penetration off the table. We’ll also hear plenty of real-life success stories of couples reviving their intimacy, which I know will inspire you to do the same. If it’s better sex that you and your partner want, there’s hope on the horizon.  Show Notes: Sex Drive Boosting Workouts Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Yes No Maybe List, Mutual Masturbation Guide, & More LELO SONA 2 Cruise Lube Shooter 4-Piece Set Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to give you great oral? Or how about when you go down on your partner, but they refuse to kiss you afterwards – should you say something? And what if your penis-owning partner can’t finish…no matter how good your oral game is? I’ll also discuss how porn can distort what we think is good oral sex, so you can take what you need from the screen and leave the rest to your IRL abilities. Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 LELO TOR 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Podcast: Sex Toys for Penis Owners Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode.  Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 VUSH Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play) Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides EMDRIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show.  Show Notes: Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023 OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50 Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy? Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game-Changer EMDRIA More Dr. Amen: Instagram | TikTok | Twitter | Website Your Brain Is Always Listening by Dr. Amen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand LELO Tor 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Boston Scientific treatment options for ED PRP Injections (John Hopkins Medical) Podcast: Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward Karpman SKYN Condoms One Condoms “Find My Fit” Pjur Woman Aqua Lubricant This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Je Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical Porn Podcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell XConfessions.com TryQuinn This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure. Show Notes: When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 VUSH Empress 2 (code SWE50 for 50% off) Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides Article: How to Have More Sensual Sex Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell a New Partner About My Fantasies? Article: What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them. Show Notes: Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023 Odela Health (use this link for $50 off your 1st prescription) 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Lake Bell’s New Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin More Lake Bell: Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send off, from Emily with love.  Show Notes: Article: How to Write Your New Year’s Sex Resolutions Magic Wand Breathe App Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed Podcast: Your Sex Language w/ Dr. Jen Freed Podcast: How to Relationship Better w/ John Kim a & Vanessa Bennett Podcast: Best Blow Job Ever Podcast: Orgasms with a Capital O Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game Changer Podcast: Sex + Creativity w/ Liz Goldwyn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but after a threesome gone wrong, she’s worried he’ll leave. How can she alleviate her anxiety and share her fears? Finally, we define compersion and discuss what to do when your partner wants a threesome… but you don’t. We get into all this and more on today’s hotline show. Show Notes: Article: The Podcast Eps + Articles You Loved in 2022 Promescent Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? SWE Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & More Guides Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy.  Show Notes: Article: How to Train Your Penis VUSH (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Next Gen Vibes) Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Podcast: What’s Your Arousal Type? The 36 Questions That Lead to Love OhMiBod blueMotion Panty Vibe Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T Fleur Du Mal x SWE Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order) Je Joue Luxury Massage Candle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this and more in today’s fan favorite best of episode.  Show Notes: Emily on Call Her Daddy: How to Have an Orgasm | 104- The Roadmap to his A**hole | 96- The Orgasm Gap & Forced Sex Fantasies Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners More Alex Cooper: Instagram | Twitter Call Her Daddy: Website | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to communicate your way to better alignment. From a caller who misses the drama and excitement their sex life once had, to another whose partner’s medication has caused his desire to be depleted - I’ll break down step by step how to broach this sensitive subject. Because if left unaddressed, issues around sex can be fatal to a relationship - and working through it will only make you and your partner stronger. Show Notes: Article: Best Sexy Stocking Stuffers 2022 FirmTech Tech Ring (Emily20 for 20% off) Article: These Are the 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind working out. Bethany also shares why sex takes on a new, rich depth when we learn to connect with our movement on a daily basis. Afterwards, I’ll answer questions from listeners struggling to accept their own bodies. Because if we can’t learn to love our own bodies, how can we share them intimately with someone else? Show Notes: Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty, They Double As Art Article: Ask Emily: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Promescent More Bethany C. Meyers: Instagram | Twitter The Become Project: Website | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season. I’ll also break down the science behind them that makes them so effective. If you’re looking to create your own pleasure goals for the new year, these products are a great place to start. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty they Double as Art Book: Court of Thorns Guide: The Pleasure Planner 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Good Vibrations Je Joue (Emily30 for 30% off all products) OhMiBod bluMotion NEX1 Wearable Panty Vibrator Lelo Sona 2 Cruise B-Vibe Triplet Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager Playground Lube (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Promescent Female Arousal Gel Fleur Du Mal Sex With Emily Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off all orders) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in parenting and a lack of having a father during his own childhood. On today’s best-of show, Larry breaks down his four pillars of a good marriage (which absolutely includes sex), as well as how to talk to sons about sex, porn and masturbation. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Vush Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play) More Larry Hagner: The Dad Edge | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5,000 American singles ages 18-89 as part of Match’s annual Singles in America survey, and the results are fascinating. People dating more consciously - hookup culture is dead, and singles are prioritizing things like political awareness rather than looks. We’ll unpack their findings and why today’s singles should be more optimistic than ever about finding their match. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: Cold Weather Date Ideas 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Singles in America Study More Dr. Helen Fisher: Website More Dr. Justin Garcia: Kinsey Institute Bio | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we could tell our younger selves. I also asked for your hottest college sex stories, and you absolutely understood the assignment. All this and more on today’s best of show. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: A Submissive’s Guide to Being Dominant Promescent Delay Spray & Arousal Gel Article: Is Casual Sex Right For You? Article: 7 Books to Teach Your Kids About Queer Sex & Identity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Promescent Delay Spray & More Article: I’ve Never Had An Orgasm Article: Where is the Clitoris? Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Article: How To Respond When Your Partner Can’t Stay Hard The Yes No Maybe List & Other SWE Guides Episode: More Sex, Less Pain with Heather Jeffcoat Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together? On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays LELO HUGO (code ‘EMILY’ for 25% off all products) Article: The Kivin Method Article: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Article: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health. Show Notes: Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Episode: What’s Your Arousal Type? The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions) Article: How Do I Have Good Sex During Menopause? Hormone Intelligence by Aviva Romm, MD  Article: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection. In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want. Show Notes: Article: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated  VUSH (code ‘EMILYBFCM’ for 60% off Empress 2 OR Big O Bundle) More Tom Goss: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.  Show Notes: Article: The Different Kinds of Unconventional Couples Article: The Guide to a Successful Friends with Benefits Relationship Article: Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Playground Je Joue (use code ‘Emily30’ for 30% off) #Open Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it.  Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or your partner’s? What if your partner takes a while to orgasm during oral, but your jaw gets tired along the way? From hangups to hygiene - I answer your questions so you can amp up your oral and enhance your pleasure. Show Notes: VUSH Destination: Play (code ‘SEXWITHEMILY’ for 40% off) Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? Article: Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner.  But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and why you may need them at all. And that’s why on today’s episode, I’m myth-busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer, to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply can’t reach - if there’s a penis in your life, I’ve got the toy for it. Show Notes: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Magic Wand Playground (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Aneros Helix Trident Promescent Delay Spray Article: How Do I Buy My Boyfriend a Sex Toy? Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo / Duo Fleshlight Tenga LELO HUGO (EMILY for 25% off all products) Fun Factory NOS We-Vibe Verge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

First comes love, then comes anal. Isn’t that how the song goes? On today’s best of show, we’re talking your sexual firsts: your first dating app, oral sex experience, anal play, and so much more. I help you face your fears so you can radically expand your pleasure potential.  Up first: she’s 32 weeks pregnant and wants to keep her partner satisfied – but she’s never given him oral. Where to begin? He wants his wife to experience sex with another woman, so they can have their first threesome. But is she truly into the idea or just going along with it to please him? And last but not least - she’s got a play partner who wants to try anal, but has her reservations regarding pain and hygeine. How do you avoid a messy situation? We will unravel all this and more. Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Ask Emily: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex? 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Relationship? How to Give a Better Blowjob Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? Ask Emily: How Do We Find Someone for a Threesome? Yes, No, Maybe List: Find New Ways to Play Sex With Emily Guides How to Explore Anal Sex 8 Tips for the Best Anal Ever Easing Into Anal (Everything But Insertion) The 7 Best Positions For Butt Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sexual fantasies are not only normal, they’re a key component of your sexual health. But why are we attracted to certain fantasies? And is it normal to have certain fantasies, or no fantasies at all? On this episode, I reveal your top sex fantasies and why you have them. I also divulge your fantasy success stories and questions, from CNC to cuckolding. I give you tips for expanding your erotic imagination. Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome? Your Guide to Consensual Non-Consent Ask Emily: How to Become More Dominant In Bed Pegging 101: How to Try Strap-On Sex The Beginner’s Guide to Role-Play The 5 Best Ways to Have Sex Outside How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship? What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So what’s the hardest part about dating? Meeting people? Making conversation? Figuring out if there’s enough chemistry? How do you have dates that leave you happy, aligned and energized, rather than defeated and hopeless? On today’s best-of show, I’m here for your dating dilemmas. He’s new to dating, and nervous to talk to women – I give some talking points. She wants to have sex, but also wants it to be more than casual – I help refine her approach. He’s super honest about being polyamorous, but they think he needs to grow up – I coach him on how to find the right partners, while still being open. Because when it comes to dating, your people are out there – you just have to learn how to look.  Show Notes: Higher Dose Infrared Sauna Blanket (use code EMILY 15% off sitewide**) Got A Sex or Relationship Question? Call me. Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Relationship? How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile Is Casual Sex Right For You? What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship?  **(excluding Full Size Saunas) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re all looking for better ways to have sex. But what if I told you the thing holding you back is your own beliefs around sex and sexuality? My guest today knows a thing or two about how to realize our own sexual well-being. Author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz is a sexual wellness connoisseur. In her new book Sex, Health & Consciousness, Liz explains how to build a sexual consciousness for a radically happier, healthier life. She’ll help me answer your questions on masturbation, shame, BDSM, and how to rewire the way we think about pleasure.  Show Notes: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Pre-Order Liz’s Book: Sex, Health, and Consciousness More Liz Goldwyn: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got relationship drama? Don’t we all. On today’s Best of show, I’m helping you navigate choppy relationship waters, to get to the other side safely. First up: he just divorced, and jumped right into an ultra-serious relationship. Too soon? Next: when you’ve got a massive crush on your coworker, should you divorce your spouse and pursue your colleague instead? And if you’re not so into your partner’s bedroom style, can you teach them to be more dominant? All this and more on a particularly juicy Best Of show.  Show Notes: Article: You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives Article: What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Love Life Podcast: The Clit Notes XConfessions.com Article: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand Foria: Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo Aneros Helix Trident Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you know me, you know that my dream is to have a bottle of lube on every nightstand. But why? Enhanced pleasure is one reason. And on this episode, I’ll give you several more.  Think of this as your consumer reports on lube: I’m answering all of your lube inquiries, giving you the low-down on key ingredients, and helping you reach for the right lube at the right time. I’m also breaking down the science behind lube’s benefits, and walking you through the best options for every type of sexual occasion.   Show Notes: Article: How To Find The Best Lube For You Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order) Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations  Woo More Play Coconut Oil Pjur’s Back Door Lube Sliquid Silk System Jo Coconu OhLavinia Foria CBD Intimacy Oil GoLove CBD Intimate Lube First Response Pre-Seed Good Clean Love Biogenesis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to penis parts, do you know which ones are rich with nerve endings? Which areas need a gentle touch? And which can handle more force? On today’s Best of show, I’ll give you tips for penile pleasure from head to shaft, perineum to prostate. We also take your listener questions: when you’re in a long term relationship, who should initiate sex? If you’re not turned on by your partner of nearly a decade, what’s next? And when you’ve been masturbating for years, but discovered your entire family could hear you…how do you deal? We’ll cover all this and more.  Show Notes: Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order)  10 (Super Hot) Ways to Pleasure a Penis  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward.  And if you want your questions answered on the next Hotline Call show, please reach out! You can leave messages online at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily or by calling 559-TALK-SEX (825-5739). Just leave your name, age, where you live and how you listen to the show! (You can always change your name or choose to remain anonymous.) Show Notes: Article: How to Have Sex When You're In a Full House Use code EMILY for 15% off Higher Dose at-home wellness products Episode: Manifest Your Partner (It Worked for Me) Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you want to try a new kink? Well, you’ve come to the right podcast. On today’s Best Of show, I answer your questions and help open your mind (and body) to all things kink and BDSM - from squirting to nipple-gasms.  Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone can lead to enhanced intimacy and heightened pleasure. All you need are the right tools, compassionate communication, patience and plenty of lube. Show Notes: 6 Kink Styles (& How To Explore Them) Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Quiet quitting: the act of leaving without leaving. At a job, it’s refusing to stay late, not seeking out extra projects, and only doing exactly what your role requires. Critics call it lack of inspiration or hustle – but proponents say it’s simply setting boundaries. But can quiet quitting apply to our relationships? I’ll explain the signs to look out for and how to initiate the hard conversations you may need to have with your partner. If we can put aside our inner people pleaser, we can avoid long term resentment and articulate our needs. Show Notes: Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)  Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s train our orgasm muscle: the pelvic floor. We all have one. And like our other muscles, strengthening it can yield physical benefits. In this case, a more explosive orgasm.  On today’s show I put the spotlight on edging – a sex technique for more intense orgasms – and give you a slew of additional tips for maximizing your pleasure. Penis owners, do you use toys yet? Because I’ve got killer recommendations for you. People in relationships, ever been cheated on? I help one caller move through the process. Stuck in the friendzone? Through direct communication, we can all escape platonic purgatory. Show Notes: Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)  How to Climax Harder and Faster Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you know if you’re bisexual? In honor of Bisexuality Visibility Day, author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused. Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there.  Show Notes: Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed Jen Winston’s book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much Open by Rachel Krantz Jen Winston on Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s manifest our dream partners and our best sex. Because listen: if our romantic lives aren’t aligned with the people we actually are, we have an opportunity to change that.  Today, I’ll tell you how I manifested my own partner, the specific steps used to get there, and why the science behind this practice works. I’ll also answer your questions about finding the one and how manifestation can apply to your everyday dating and sex dilemmas.  Show Notes: 15 Types of Sexuality and Attraction To Help You Understand Your Desire Style Joe Dispenza - Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself Introducing Playground's chief sexologist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you fake orgasms? Be honest. Whether we feel pressured to end the sexual experience, or simply don’t know how to orgasm with a partner, faking it is common for every gender and orientation.  So on today’s episode, we discuss how to hold out for the real thing while also restoring your sex life. What do you do when it’s not just your orgasm that’s gone missing, but your entire sex life? Or how about when it's physical pain holding you back from having more pleasure? I’ll help callers with these questions and others as we embark on a mission to get you back to orgasming and back to a more pleasurable sex life. Show Notes: How Do I Tell My Partner I've Been Faking Orgasms? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s your sex language? We all have one. And once we’re fluent in the four types, we can expand our repertoire to more effectively please our partner – and advocate for what we want. In today’s episode, we will explore just that with psychologist and astrologer Jen Freed. Her forthcoming book “A Map to Your Soul: Using the Astrology of Fire, Earth, Air, and Water to Live Deeply and Fully” explains how these elements relate to the type of sex we want and how to create an erotic field with our partner. Dr. Freed offers a formula for alchemizing amazing sex by combining the principles of psychology and astrology, along with curious communication.  Show Notes: Is Casual Sex Right For You? Pre-order A Map to Your Soul More Jen Freed: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals.  With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration. Show Notes: More John Kim: Instagram | Twitter | Website More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Podcast Pegging 101: How to try strap-on Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To peg, or not to peg? That’s the question we’re going to push into today… and yes, pun intended. Pegging, which typically involves a penis owner being penetrated through the use of a strap-on dildo by a vulva owner, seems to be more popular than ever.  But arguably more than other forms of pleasure, strap on sex challenges the way we think about masculinity, femininity and heteronormative pleasure. Role reversal and anal play require a great deal of trust, empathy and vulnerability. But if partners can work through these challenges, the payoff can be immense. And that’s why on today’s episode, I want to explore not just the steps partners should take to responsibly explore strap on intercourse, but also how the benefits can go way beyond the bedroom. Show Notes: Do’s and Dont’s of Anal Sex How to Find The Best Lube For You Savage Love by Dan Savage Best Sex Toys for Couples Harnesses and Anal-Safe Dildos from Good Vibrations  Ask Emily: My Partner Is Friendly With Other Guys Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How can you be bold in the bedroom? I’ve got the boldness queen herself, Jen Cohen of the “Habits & Hustle” podcast, to tell us how to design the life you actually want — including, of course, your sex life. Jen explains the 10% Target Mindset, the difference between what you want and what you need when it comes to sexual partners, how to build better intimacy habits, and how to normalize failure so that you take more risks. That’s where boldness comes in: to identify what you want, and be brave enough to work for it. Show Notes: Jen Cohen TED Talk Falling Forward by Jen Cohen Website Instagram “Habits & Hustle” podcast Embodied is the New Sexy: 5 Benefits of Living A Radically Embodied Life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a sexually fluid relationship? As in, you and your partner discuss bisexuality openly…either yours, theirs, or both? What about having multiple partners? Or trying a threesome together? Are these possibilities you’d consider, or are you like: NO THANK U, NEXT!  Well on today’s best-of show, I’ve got two individuals who can tell you exactly what it’s like to be in a successful, alternative relationship. First you’ll hear from actor/model Nico Tortorella on navigating bisexuality, how sex changed once they got sober, and what it’s like for them to fall for someone outside of their primary partnership.  Next, you’ll hear from MMA fighter, fellow podcaster and Aussie fan fave Jason Ellis on how he and his fiance (now wife) conduct a radically open relationship, why he’s thrilled for another man to give her sexual pleasure, and his best recommendations for your first threesome. Come for the open minds, stay for the sex tips.  Show Notes: Where is the Clitoris? The Love Bomb w/ Nico Tortorella The Jason Ellis Show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Casual sex gets a bad rap. We associate it with hookup culture, with disposability, with mindless Tinder swipes. But it doesn’t have to be that way: when approached with an intentional, conscious mindset, casual sex can be exactly what you need to feel erotic and energized again. The key? Knowing yourself – and knowing precisely what you want to get out of your casual sex experience.  On today’s show, I parse out all the different types of casual sex out there, and offer some research that may surprise you. Next, I discuss how you know if casual sex is right for you, and when it’s best to say, “no thank you.” Finally, I coach you on how to make your casual sex encounters fulfilling, with maturity, self-awareness, and of course – an orgasm or two. Or ten.  Show Notes: 7 Myths of Non Monogamy Friends With Benefits: A Guide Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s holding you back in bed? We’ve all got our pain points: body image, not being able to tell your partner what you want, feeling embarrassed to make noise or express yourself. But I asked you how you overcame sexual insecurities, and you came back with SOLID advice. So on today’s show, along with my advice, we’re spreading the sexual confidence gospel using tips from the Sex With Emily community. First, we get into body image: how to hack your brain to feel more comfortable in your skin. Next, I talk about my favorite subject: communicating with your partner, to create a culture of sex positivity. Finally, I’ve got a particularly juicy tip to help you let go in bed and express yourself without inhibition — to hear it, just take a listen to this episode. Show Notes: Ask Emily: My Partner Watches Porn a LIttle Too Enthusiastically Feeld Fet Life First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you build a sex room, they will come. That’s the idea behind the new Netflix show “How to Build a Sex Room,” and on today’s episode I’ve got designer Melanie Rose here with me to discuss her real-life erotic renovations. From a rock n’ roll dungeon to a high-end sex spa, Melanie has all kinds of decor ideas you can steal: spanking benches, wall-mounted handcuffs, soundproofing wall art. All of these are client-approved sex innovations, but the show has a touching side too. You get to see all kinds of clients, from suburbanites to polycules, parents to long-distance couples, discuss their fantasies and sexual desires – some of them for the very first time. And you know I’m all about that.  Show Notes: For More Melanie Rose: Netflix show | Instagram | Website | Pinterest  Where is The Clitoris? Liberator Throw Blanket Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s get sexually adventurous, people. On today’s hotline calls show, you’re bringing the novelty, and I am one hundred percent here for it.  Jumping right in: can you use the same sex toy with multiple partners? Let’s find out. If you’re in your 20s and hooking up with a much older woman, is that ok? Or what if you’re all about female empowerment, except you ARE a female, and you DO want to be choked and spanked in bed? Finally: there’s a first time for everything, so should you tell a partner that you’ve never had penetration before? Or what if you’re married, and ready to experience your first open relationship – except your spouse isn’t on-board? All this and more on a particularly juicy hotline calls show. Show Notes: Shop Page  Vesper Vibrator Necklace Bellesa Sex, Porn & (Erika) Lust  No Shame, Just Sex w/ Erin Tillman  Opening Up by Tristan Taormino The Ethical Slut Open Deeply  It’s Open (Relationship) Season w/ Dr. Wednesday Martin Orgasms & Oral (No Penetration Required) First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gotta love relationship advice delivered in a thick New York accent. I’ve got Adam Ferrara on the show today, and we’re healing your emotional triggers so you can have thriving interpersonal connections. Capiche?  Adam and I talk meditation and breathwork for anxiety, the difference between responding and reacting to your partner, how to cultivate a felt sense of your emotions, and the difference between worry and responsibility. As a self-described co-dependent, Catholic Italian, Adam is as real as it gets about getting vulnerable and doing self-work, so you can experience better love, sex, and communication. We also help a caller in her 20s get more selfish in the bedroom – because when it comes to sex, selfishness can be a real virtue.  Show Notes: More Adam Ferrara: Youtube Comedy Special | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk about non-monogamy! In the nearly two decades since I’ve been doing the show, I’ve never gotten so much interest in this topic as I am right now. Which is why I’m joined today by cultural anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin, who in addition to researching non-monogamy for her books and articles, has first-hand experience opening up her own marriage.  On today’s episode, Wednesday reveals what modern sex research shows about female sexuality and long-term, monogamous relationships: a woman’s desire typically wanes between year 1 to 4. In addition, Wednesday and I discuss the difference between non-monogamy, swinging and polyamory, how to go about finding a partner outside of your primary relationship, how to set rules, and the surprising ways opening up improved her own partnership.  Show Notes: More Wednesday Martin: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Untrue by Wednesday Martin 7 Myths of Non-Monogamy Feeld Opening Up by Tristan Taormino Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement by Tammy Nelson The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships Crazy on the Inside: A Memoir of Nobody Special Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non Monogamy The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever tried anal play? Anal sex? Because if not, here’s my question to you…what’s holding you back? For most folks, the answer is fear. We’re scared it will hurt, scared that we don’t know what we’re doing, scared we’ll feel ashamed if we just so happen to love it. That’s why I’ve got two of the anal pleasure experts on the show today, to help demystify and destigmatize anal play, and help you open up yet another pathway to pleasure. Dr. Evan Goldstein and Alicia Sinclair talk to me about anal orgasms (not a myth), the importance of anal training, how to prepare hygienically, and how to strengthen the mind-booty connection for a successful, erotic anal experience.  Show Notes: Anal Play: A Beginner's Guide OR Prostate Play 101 More Evan Goldstein: Website | Instagram | Bespoke Surgical | Future Method More B-vibe: Website | Instagram Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve never talked about your sex life with your partner before, there’s a good chance they’ll push back. Why? Because most of us go into fight or flight mode when talking about sex: it’s not normalized in our culture, we get defensive, we feel like we’re being criticized. But never fear – you can create a culture of sex communication in your relationship, one talk at a time. Be the change, is what I’m saying. On today’s hotline show, I take your calls about having a sex talk. Like: telling your wife you want her to massage your prostate. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. How to relax into oral and give your partner tips to make you scream, and how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this episode, and see if your next sex talk isn’t a little bit easier.  Show Notes: Embodied is The New Sexy: 5 Benefits of Living a Radically Embodied Life  A+ Oral Sex for Vulvas Everybody Loves Oral Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?  Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you always have sex on the the first date? Do you always swipe right on people who aren’t good for you? What are your bad dating habits – and how can you break them? I asked you to tell me what negative dating patterns you’re trying to change, and you all delivered! On today’s show, I’m addressing your top dating problems so we can solve them together. Having sex too soon, trying to “fix” less-than-ideal partners, fear of asserting yourself, having misaligned expectations, the tendency to audition people for the role of life partner – we’re covering it all, so you can feel empowered with new partners and have an amazing time with existing partners.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: Tips for French Kissing  Am I Dating a Narcissist? w/ Dr Ramani How to Not Die Alone w/ Logan Ury Orgasms and Oral (No Penetration Required)  More About EMDR Therapy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to sex, why was the world set up so that vulva owners are the ones in charge of preventing a pregnancy? That’s the central question of a Twitter thread that went viral in 2018, and on today’s show I’ve got Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the author of that thread – and a forthcoming book, Ejaculate Responsibly – here to talk about it. I’m also joined by anthropologist, author, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin, to unpack this fascinating topic.  In a post-Roe world, Gabrielle is calling for a wholesale shift in the way we think about pregnancy prevention: namely, by inviting penis owners and their bodies into the conversation. On today’s show, we talk condoms and sexual pleasure, how society pressures vulva owners to become mothers, how to talk to young men about ejaculating responsibly, why MORE sex ed leads to LESS unwanted pregnancies, and why Gabrielle – mother of six and a Mormon – is passionate about arguing that women’s lives matter, and so does their pleasure.  One more thing: Can pre-ejaculate, or pre-cum, cause unwanted pregnancy? Pre-ejaculate actually does NOT contain sperm. However, any sperm remaining in the urethra from a previous ejaculation may be carried out with pre-cum which would have a chance of causing a pregnancy. The solution? Urinate before having sex to flush out any leftover sperm, and, as always, wear a condom! For more information, visit Teen Health Source. Show Notes: More Gabrielle Blair: Instagram | Twitter | Website  Gabrielle’s Viral Twitter Thread More information about her forthcoming book: Ejaculate Responsibly More Dr Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter  | Website  The Secret to Better Sex? Talking About It Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anxiety, depression and low self-worth all block our sexual pleasure. But on a more fundamental level, they block us from showing up in the world the way we’d like: as confident, happy, sexy people. That’s why I invited my own therapist, Dr. Anadel Barbour, to talk to us through healing those intrusive thoughts. If you’re ready, your internal work starts today.  On this best-of episode, Dr. Barbour and I discuss EMDR therapy, the four foundations of mindfulness, how to physically move through trauma, healing shame, and how to know if you’re in constant fight or flight. We also touch on sex and pain, and mindfulness in and out of the bedroom. If you’ve ever considered therapy but are on the fence about it, I hope this episode gives you some encouragement – because healing emotional wounds can truly transform your sex life. Show Notes: More Dr Anadel Barbour: Website | Instagram | Twitter  Sex In Sobriety by Dr Anadel Barbour More About EMDR Therapy Overcoming 4 Common Sex Fears Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ah, weddings. So ceremonial. So floral. After two years of postponements and cancellations, IRL weddings are back – but are all those newlyweds talking about their sex life? They probably should be!  Married sex is full of tired, toxic cliches that I’m personally ready to bust. We don’t have to settle for absent or boring sex as we grow old together. So on today’s episode, I’m making the case for writing your sex vows before you walk down the aisle, helping you recreate honeymoon sex if you’ve been married for ages, and giving you a lay of the land culturally-speaking on how we’re thinking about sex and relationships now. Plus, I take your questions: how to navigate bisexuality in a straight marriage, what it means if you find yourself jealous at your friend’s weddings and how to bring back the spark…when the spark was a little dim in the first place.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: Tips for French Kissing  The Yes No Maybe List The Pleasure Planner Hinge Bumble Feeld #Open FetLife Skirt Club  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What cultural or religious programming do you have around sex? Even if you didn’t grow up in a church, sexual shame is – in so many ways – the air we breathe. But here’s the reality: you didn’t put those thoughts there. Someone else did. And on today’s show with guest Erin Tillman, we’re calling out those judgmental messages, and choosing the sex messaging that actually serves us. The result? A radically more authentic, more liberated sex life. As an inclusive dating coach, Erin is no stranger to shame – and she’s heard it all from her clients. Whether it was that one rude thing a partner said that haunted you for years, or a parent that told you masturbation was dirty, shame love to hide in the shadows…and hold you back in the bedroom. So on today’s show, Erin and I talk about how we healed our own sexual shame, dropped performative sex, and got comfortable with the word “no.” You’ll also learn the difference between “no” and “not yet” when it comes to dating, how to make good choices on dating apps, and how to flip your internal shame script. Show Notes: More Erin Tillman Website | Twitter | Instagram Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s a good time to expand our definition of sex. At the end of the day, sex is play for adults: it’s where we collaborate with another person, creating a momentary world of pleasure and eroticism with them. But so often, we assume that sex equals penetration, and here’s the problem with that: not everyone orgasms during penetration. Not everyone feels erotic during penetration! So let’s make sex more interesting and exploratory, shall we? On today’s show, I’m talking up all the different types of non-penetrative sex – like mutual masturbation, sensual massage, toys, hand stuff – to help you break out of a conventional sex script, and have sex that’s more tailored to your personality and desires. Because you never have to take penetration off the table entirely…but what would happen if you took it off the table for a little while? (Hint: probably more orgasms.)  Show Notes: Prostate Play 101 Want to Try a Sex Cleanse?  Penis Problems, Solved  Shop with Emily 4 Ways to Close The Orgasm Gap First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How much do you know about your partner’s sexual language? Or your own sexual language? In this best of episode, sex educator, author and licensed therapist Jamye Waxman is here to talk about core erotic blueprints, sexual accelerators and brakes, and the sixth love language: space and freedom.  Jamye and I talk through the communication skills you need to help your sexual connection thrive, because if resentment is the relationship killer…curiosity is the relationship healer. So in this show, you’ll learn how to turn your communication style from critical to curious, as you and your partner learn who you both are as erotic beings.  Show Notes: For More Jamye Waxman: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook The Secrets to Better Sex? Talk About It More About Your Erotic Blueprint Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks?  Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, host of the hilarious “Third Wheel with Jenny Mollen” podcast, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Biggs. On this episode, she talks about the personal experiences with social media that inspired her book, why she wants to see a sex therapist, and helps me answer your sex and relationship questions. For example, if you’re in a relationship, is it ok to comment on someone else’s Instagram telling them how attractive they are? Jenny and I give it to you straight.  Show Notes: For More Jenny Mollen: Podcast | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website Her New Book: City of Likes Overcoming 4 Common Sex Fears Am I Dating a Narcissist? W/ Dr Ramani  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s my strong belief that pleasure is the antidote to fear, now and always. But when it comes to sex, we really can be our own worst enemies: what if my new partner sees me naked, and decides to jet? What if I try out some dirty talk, and my partner laughs at me? What if I approach someone cute…and they say ‘no thank you’? Fear can be crippling to our sex drive – but it can also be digested and processed. To do that, we can check the facts, we can remember that most things aren’t personal, and we can talk about our fears out loud. (Meditation helps too!) So on today’s best of episode, I’m talking to you all about YOUR sex fears: period sex, sharing a fetish with a new partner, old traumas, fear that you’ll never get over an ex, and much more to help you live YOUR most free, sexually healthy life. Show Notes: The Secret to Better Sex? Talking About It Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shaun T is host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but it was a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. On today’s show, Shaun T gives me his genius sex and arousal hacks, how he and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids, plus…his favorite kink. He also opens up about surviving childhood sexual assault, how he came to understand and accept his sexuality, and the trauma work he did to get to where he is today. Trust me: if you need an instant pick-me-up around your sex, sexuality, or your body, this is *the* conversation for you.  Show Notes: More Shaun T: Podcast | Instagram | Website | Twitter | Youtube What’s Your Arousal Type? These Are the Five Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Despite their reputation as magical, mysterious events, orgasms are way more accessible than most of us realize, once we understand the science behind them. (And OK yeah, I admit – they’re pretty magical.) As everyone’s favorite muscle spasm, the orgasm is a series of contractions from your pelvic floor muscles, which all of us have, and all of us can strengthen. But what else sets you up for orgasmic success? What if you can experience one alone, but not with a partner? What if you can orgasm in your sleep, but not in waking life? And what if you want to experience different kinds of orgasm (like anal) or, want multiples? I say: be greedy with your orgasm and listen to this best of episode, where we answer all these O questions and more.    Show Notes: 6 Kink Styles (& How to Explore Them) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you need to get in the mood for sex? Have a lively conversation? Be touched in a suggestive way? Put on something sexy…or, have your partner get dressed up for you? Today’s episode is all about arousal styles, and today, I’ll be looking at five. The science of sexual arousal is ever-evolving, but on this show I’m looking at some of the most common ways people get turned on (through conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure), helping you ID what your style is, and what behaviors you can do in the moment to get it going. Kind of like love languages, but for sex. I’m also talking about the difference between arousal and desire, and, taking your questions! How to have sex when you’re stressed, anti-depressants numbing out your vulva, and if it’s OK to be more excited for masturbation than partnered sex.  Show Notes: There Are 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You? Sex Up Your Love Language Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner  The Yes No Maybe List You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 1 You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 2 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s one of the most common questions I get: how do I initiate sex the right way? Listen: there’s no one “right” way to initiate sex. But I’ll be honest, it might take a little warm up period to get everyone ready and on the same page. That’s because sex is just as much a head game as a body one, so in this episode, we’re helping you calm your nerves before initiation, recover from failed initiations, and walk into each sexual encounter with more confidence. At the end of the day, we all crave intimacy, and we all want to please our partners – and by the end of this episode, I think you’ll feel much more clear on how to arouse your partner.    Show Notes: 6 Ways to Upgrade Your 69 She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? It’s part 2 of our “You’re Kinkier Than You Think” series…and folks, we are getting a kinky education.  On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But because kink is play, I’m also giving you some specific ideas for how to explore these fantasies IRL – and, bonus, I’m taking all of your kinky questions.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: Kink and BDSM Ideas 6 Kink Styles (& How to Explore Them)  You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 1 Coming Together w/ Celeste & Danielle Emily’s Shop Page  How to Dom with Your Text Messages  Kink & Casual Sex Justin Lehmiller The Communication Guide  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What would the world be like if we didn’t have shame about sex? Can you imagine how different your life would be, if you were told that sexual pleasure was healthy? If you were given the memo early on that masturbation was legit self-care, and that sex itself was joyful and good for you, rather than a one-way ticket to STI’s and unwanted pregnancy?   Today’s best-of show is all about being the change we want to see in the world: becoming people who are conversant and comfortable discussing sex, because this is how we evolve people. Plus, I take your calls! Why using toys during sex is the literal best, what the hell a “lube shooter” is, and how to lovingly - persuasively - ask your partner for more oral.  Show Notes: 6 Hottest Masturbation Moves Relax, It’s Just Anal w/ Dr. Hernando Chaves  Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you hear the words “BDSM” and “kink,” what comes to mind? Leather? Whips? The truth is, all of us are a little kinky – you may just not have realized it yet. That’s why today’s episode is part 1 of a two-part BDSM and kink education series, where I help demystify this world and give you fun, safe options for exploring. Dungeons optional.  First, we’re defining our terms and getting a grasp on kink and BDSM – including, what the hell “BDSM” actually means. Next, we’re taking a look at core desires to help you identify yours, and talking about the psychology of power and play. Finally, I’m giving you some entry-level ways to bring kink to the bedroom, whether you’re coupled or single…and, answering all of your kinky questions.  Show Notes: 6 Kink Styles (& How to Explore Them) Ask Emily: Kink and BDSM Ideas Coming Together w/ Celeste and Danielle The Yes No Maybe List  5 Easy Steps to Start Exploring The Communication Guide  Kink & Casual w/ Justin Lehmiller 5 BDSM Games to Spice Up Your Sex Life Tonight BDSM: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 2 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether it’s erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or a slight penis curve, it’s common to have penis questions – especially when they’re affecting your sex life. But where do you go for answers? You come right here, to this informative convo between me and urologist Dr. Edward Karpman, as well as Jeff Abraham of Promescent.    On this best-of show, we’re talking to you all about penis shockwave therapy, what to do when you can get erect (but aren’t climaxing), what to do when you take ED meds (but aren’t getting hard), and much more. Plus, I take your intimacy questions! How to get out of your head during sex, how to reduce anxiety in the run-up to intercourse, and how to effectively work with your penis as you get older.    Show Notes: Missionary Sex Position - New and Improved For more Dr. Karpman: Website | Instagram For more information about Promescent: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? Yes. You absolutely should, even if it’s awkward, even if your own parents didn’t talk about it with you. (And let’s be real: they probably didn’t.) But I get it – finding the words can be hard, especially for such a touchy subject. That’s why today’s episode is devoted entirely to giving you tools, scripts and resources to help you. First, I give you the big why: Why should you talk to your children, and teens specifically, about masturbation? I’ll give you several science-backed reasons why it’s wise to do so. Next, we’ll do some masturbation myth-busting, to help alleviate any concerns, on their part or yours, that it’s harmful or unhealthy. Great news: it’s not! And finally, I’ll walk you through how to have this conversation, with specific verbiage you can use to help put yourself and your child at ease. Don’t worry caregivers: I got you, and in this episode I’ll also answer your questions about teens and sex. Should you talk to your teen about ethical porn? What should you do if a teen daughter starts asking about sex toys? All this and more on today’s show.  Show Notes: Sex Positive Families: Website | Instagram Dr Lanae St John: Book | On Sex with Emily Shafia Zaloom: Book | On Sex with Emily Cory Silverberg: Website What should I teach my high school-aged teen about sex and sexuality? Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 1) Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 2) The Communication Guide  Big Mouth Sex Education  Good Vibrations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On any given day, how do you talk about sex? Do you bone? Screw? Make love? According to my guest Amanda Montell, author of Wordslut, Cultish, and host of the podcast “Sounds Like a Cult,” the words we use to discuss sex reveals our attitudes about sex as a whole – even shaping the way we show up in the bedroom.    In this fascinating best of episode, Amanda and I talk about sex slang and body part euphemisms, like the fact that we frequently cute-ify female genitals to make them less threatening. But before you go, “oh this is thinky academic stuff,” know this: practically-speaking, your sex life WILL improve as your communication improves. Listen in, as Amanda and I play with language to get the sex we want.  For More Amanda Montell: Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language Sounds Like a Cult Podcast | Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How exactly does masturbation help a sexual partnership? Let me count the ways… It’s Part 2 of our Masturbation Pro Tips series, and in today’s episode, we’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and: “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more.  Show Notes: How to Find the Best Lube for You Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 1) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Missionary gets a bad rap. I’ve seen it called the “comfy sweater” of sex – and can we talk about the name? Not sexy. Almost…anti-sexy. But despite its label, I don’t think that’s why missionary is considered vanilla or boring. It’s simply the default position, the one a lot of us fall into automatically – making it easier for us to tune out, phone it in, and miss out on any potential eroticism.  So on today’s episode, we’re going to make missionary more exploratory, as I address some of your common complaints. Such as: how do we make it more exciting? I’ll tell you all the reasons I love missionary, and give you technique tips to make it more surprising and fun. Next, vulva owners: are you having a hard time reaching orgasm in missionary? Of course you are: it’s not the prime position for clitoral stimulation, so I’ll offer position hacks that make it more pleasurable. Finally, is it possible to be kinky during missionary? Oh yeah: from bondage to dirty talk, we can leverage all that eye contact to turn it into the hot experience you crave.   Show Notes:  Missionary Sex Position - New and Improved The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr Evan Goldstein  Pillo by Dame Position Breakdown: Doggy Style Vs Cat Position Magic Wand Mini Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today. In her new book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a longterm relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner. Show Notes: More: Radical Confidence More Lisa: Instagram  How to Find The Best Lube for You Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So listen: is sex addiction real? We’ve all heard stories of infidelity followed by explanations of sex addiction as the reason for the behavior. But the truth is, just because someone cheats doesn’t mean they’re a sex addict.  According to therapist Marnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing, sex addiction is indeed real: it’s an intimacy disorder with both emotional and physiological symptoms. On this best of show, Marnie and I talk about the common and compulsive behaviors of sex addiction, the deep human need for love and connection, affordable treatment options, love addiction, a how-to on IMAGO therapy (a great tool for communication) and healing steps for couples.  Show Notes: More Marnie: Website | Instagram  Sex Addicts Anonymous Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Did you know that masturbation helps you sleep better? Tones your pelvic floor? And – surprise – boosts your immunity? But let’s be honest: these aren’t exactly the main reasons people masturbate. You masturbate because it’s pleasurable, but as the OG form of self-care, masturbation delivers all kinds of benefits, physically and psychologically.  That’s why today’s show kicks off a two-part masturbation series, and later in the month, we’ll look at how masturbation benefits a partnership. On today’s episode however, it’s all about YOU: common masturbation fantasies, how to mix up a stale masturbation routine, how to make your solo sex more erotic, and how to practice mindful masturbation. Plus, I take your questions! Can a vibrator desensitize your clitoris? All this and more on Part 1 of our Masturbation Pro Tips Series.  Show Notes: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundhal The Sex with Emily Shop page  Our Edging Guide  Our Yes No Maybe List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s a misconception out there, that once women become moms, their sexiest years are OVER. But as my guest Dana Myers explains, that’s nonsense – and as a mom, she can prove it. Dana is the founder of sex and beauty brand Booty Parlor, but she’s also a wife and mother to two children. On today’s throwback show, she shares secrets from her book “The Mommy Mojo Makeover” to help women rediscover their sensual self-confidence, fall back in love with their bodies, and masturbate for self-care. We also talk about resentment in a relationship (and how to fix it), and why mothers deserve a sense of sexual entitlement. Yes moms: you deserve sexual pleasure! If you want more of it – or know a mom who might – this is a can’t miss conversation.  For More Dana B Myers: Booty Parlor | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Try Dana’s pheromone fragrance & use code DANA15 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times: communication is a lubrication. But today I’ve got the receipts: previous callers who took my communication advice called back, to give us a status report! On today’s best of show, I’m letting you listen in on my callers’ sex lives after they took the brave but vulnerable step of talking to their partners. We’ve got a longtime married couple, with a husband who wants more kink in bed; a success story of treating vaginal pain; a newlywed who brought BACK the spark with his man after incorporating role play, and a mom who never had any sex guidance growing up…and is now doing things radically different with her teen daughter. All of them are living proof that better sex starts with communication, so listen now, get inspired, and let their sex-cess motivate you to have a sex talk of your own. Show Notes: Emily’s Shop Page The Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Audio porn is one of the most brilliant sex tech innovations of the past few years. It’s immersive, discreet, and super intimate – you literally feel like you’re in the room with people who are having sex. Plus…it’s a great way to ratchet up your own dirty talk or your masturbation routine.  So on today’s best of episode, I’m sharing my conversation with Caroline Spiegel, creator of Quinn: an audio erotica app that was one of the first to market. We talk about audio porn and solo sex, how to use audio erotica with a partner, and a special bonus! Caroline and I listen to some audio erotica together, including a guided masturbation clip. Plus, we take your questions like, enjoying porn as a blind individual, how to embrace a naturally sexy voice, and – wild card – can you really be allergic to semen? Find out on today’s show. More Try Quinn: Website | Apple App Store | Android App Store | Instagram | Twitter Show Notes: How Do I Explore Bisexuality While In a Relationship? The Yes No Maybe List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just like going to the gym improves your body, going to therapy improves your mind. And bonus: couple’s counseling can radically improve your relationship and your sex life. So why do some people absolutely refuse to go? On today’s show, I’m giving you the therapy low-down, so you can decide whether you should try it – or, if it’s the right call for you and your partner. I’m talking: signs it’s time to look for a therapist, pros and cons of solo therapy vs. couple’s counseling, whether sex therapy is right for you, what to expect from a typical therapy session, and how to find therapy that works for you – including budget-friendly options. Plus, I take your therapy-related questions on porn addiction, sexual trauma and what to do if you tried to improve your sex life with your partner…but they cheated anyway.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists Book: The Body Keeps The Score  Book: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone  Maximize Your Orgasm w/ Dolly Josette Ask Emily How Do You Get Your Partner to Go to Therapy  Book: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex Book: She Comes First Therapy for Black Girls Therapy for LatinX EMDRIA  Best of: Coming Together w/ Celeste and Danielle   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you’re desperate to fix your sex life with your partner, what do you do? (You call me, of course.) Maybe the sex started hot, but got real boring. Or maybe you and your crush are finally hooking up…but the sex is meh, and it’s a huge letdown. What now? On today’s Best Of hotline show, I’m sharing some of my favorite listener questions and letting you listen in as we talk through solutions. We’ve got sex-stonewalling partners. Compersion vs. cuckholding. A self-described “lazy lover.” Bisexuality, plus a squirting tutorial. Trust me, if you’ve got the right communication skills, you can talk through anything: and on this episode, I help you make those sex talks way less gnarly.  Show Notes: Our Yes No Maybe List  Emily’s Shop Page  The Magic Wand The Womanizer  Boston Scientific  New Low T Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to sex, a lot of us have a movie in our head about the way it “should” go down. I should look a certain way. They should kiss me a certain way. We should have epic orgasms. In other words, picture perfect... But here’s the real real: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you can get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your five senses. Together we can remove the mental blocks from orgasm. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, these are sensory tools you can use to seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O. Plus, I take your questions: how to talk dirty without swearing, how to bring back an MIA orgasm, how to stop disassociating during sex and much more. Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Partner I’ve Been Faking Orgasms The Fin by Dame Podcast: Where Did My Orgasm Go? Our Communication Guide  Talk Dirty to Me w/ Joanna Angel Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To create our hottest, most fulfilling sex life, there’s one critical thing we need – and no, it’s not flavored lube. We need boundaries, and the ability to express them to others. But what is a “boundary,” exactly? As a buzzword and an emerging concept, boundaries can improve every relationship, sexual or otherwise. So on today’s best-of show, sex therapist, author and my dear friend Dr. Jennifer Freed and I help you figure out what your boundaries are, how to set them with others (and follow through), and how to NOT let people steamroll over your values…especially when you’re a people pleaser.   For more Dr Jennifer Freed: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you actually want to feel during sex? On today’s best-of episode, my friends Celeste Hirshman & Danielle Harel, co-authors of Coming Together: Embracing Your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term Compatibility, help reveal your core desires – your personal, psychological motivation for having sex, and how to get that feeling in the moment. Celeste, Danielle and I talk about how sex can be a medicine for old wounds we felt growing up: whether you want to feel powerful, special, even degraded in bed – it all goes back to our personal history, and what we’re looking for when we have sex. We also talk about creating your hottest sexual movie, how to perform sexual breathing, and why – if you want sex to last in a long-term relationship – you really have to do this core desire work. It’s a can’t miss episode of sexual wisdom, whether you’re single, partnered, or simply want to know what gets you hot. For more Celeste, Danielle & Somatica Institute: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Join the Fall 2022 Somatica Sex & Relationship Coach Training To Find a Coach Near You  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it.   We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions on trust and infidelity: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity.  Show Notes: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell My Partner I Don’t Like Something?  The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation For More Information on EMDR Therapy Tips for Better Communication Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you’re ready to date. Fantastic! But are you feeling a little rusty on flirting? Making the first move? And, real talk: how’s your dating app profile?  Today’s show is your dating primer 101, so you can walk into every date knowing exactly what you want: whether it’s a long-term partner, or a just-for-the-night hookup. I’m talking how to meet people, how to make sexy conversations, how to take your best dating app pics, and what people are looking for when they’re on a date. Plus, I take your questions! How to feel more confident saying “yes” to dates, how to express your intentions around sex, when to bring sex toys into the bedroom and much more.  Show Notes: 15 Types of Sexuality and Attraction to Help You Understand Your Desire Style Friends with Benefits: A Guide Esther Perel’s Game: So Where Should We Begin? We’re Not Really Strangers Game The Gottman Institute’s Game The Magic Wand Emily’s Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to relationships across the board – from sex, to work, to friendships – do you actually know what impression you’re having on others? Especially when you first meet someone? In this best of show, I’m throwing it back to my conversation with fellow podcaster Jordan Harbinger, who gets real on social behaviors and the power of body language.  Jordan and I talk about the difference between authenticity and hustling, confidence while dating, and the shocking power of nonverbal communication. He coaches us on developing open, positive body postures, and helps all of us walk into a room with charisma and curiosity.  For More Jordan Harbinger Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is there a vulva owner in your life you’d love to treat? By giving them the best oral sex of their life? You’ve come to the right place. Whether or not you’re with someone currently, or simply want to brush up on your oral skills for the future, it’s never a bad time to sharpen your pleasure techniques. After the blow job episode I did earlier this month I promised that you’d get an oral sex show specifically for vulvas – and it’s here. In today’s episode, I’m talking you through everything you need to know to deliver A+ oral sex, specifically for vulvas. I’m teaching how to tease, how to use your tongue, how to perform the Kivin method, and how to stimulate the famous G-spot. Plus, I take your questions!  What to do if you desperately want oral but your partner isn’t too keen on giving. How to let go of potential insecurities and truly enjoy receiving. What to do when your hygiene concerns are getting in the way of pleasure, How to reduce discomfort while giving. Plus, how to give your partner pointers on what you like and tips for a squirting experience. Show Notes: The Most Common Problems for Vulvas Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Emily’s Shop Page Ask Emily: How Do I Go Down On a Vulva? The Vulva Gallery  Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Ask Emily: How Do I *Actually* Start Squirting?  Tips for Better Communication Guide The Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Breakups completely, fundamentally suck – full stop. Especially if you’re still connected to the person: you still live together, you share friends, or…you can’t stop fantasizing about them sexually. And that’s because breakups function exactly like withdrawal: this other person was a drug of sorts, and now, you can’t get your hit.  But breakups also teach us a lot about ourselves, especially if that person was annoyingly awesome in bed. So in this episode, we’re looking at the psychology of breakups, empowering ways to cope and move on, and most importantly, how to keep nurturing your sexuality while you heal. Plus, I take your questions! How to move on from a hookup partner who’s not ready for a relationship, what it means when you’re sexting with an ex, how to do the friendship custody battle after a breakup, and how to break up when you know it’s the right thing to do…but you’re terrified to do it.  Show Notes: 7 Steps to Breakup Recovery Podcast More About EMDR Therapy The Yes No Maybe List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you are someone who had substandard sex ed as a young person (all of us?), you are going to love this throwback episode with Gil Ozeri, comedian, actor, and writer for the very popular show “Big Mouth”. Growing up with adults who avoided the sex talk like the plague, Gil discusses the shame that can result...shame a lot of us still carry. That’s why “Big Mouth” (now in Season 5 on Netflix) takes the awkward experience of adolescence, demystifies it, and helps all of us get the answers we wish we’d gotten back then — while being super funny. If you’ve got a young person in your life, this episode is a must-listen.  Gil and I take a dive into our own hormonal teen years, how to make sex ed more relatable, and tips for post-baby sex…because why not? I also take your questions: how to give a better blowjob, how to make FaceTime sex hot, and how to get your sexual connection back after the spark has died. For More Gil Ozeri: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | TikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the new podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account  @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice.  In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially embarrassing moments in the bedroom. This is a good one! For More Violet: Almost Adulting Podcast Meme Instagram | Personal Instagram | Podcast Instagram Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re talking about blow jobs. It’s an oral sex masterclass, and you’re invited.On today’s episode, I’m sharing everything you need to know about oral sex on a penis. Also, I take your blow job questions: where to start as a beginner, how to enjoy receiving, what to know when pleasuring an uncircumcised penis and what to do if you’re struggling to swallow. Don’t blow off this episode. Together, we can bring your oral sex game to the next level.  Show Notes: Everybody Loves Oral 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down On a Vulva  Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method How to Give A Better BJ  Skyn Condoms  Emily’s Shop Page Breathe App Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A great sext is all about anticipation…kind of like foreplay: And as the 21st century way to talk dirty, sexting — when executed well — can be super hot. Sexting is an art form, and in this show, I give you pro tips for perfecting yours. Because let’s face it: randomly sending a bunch of squirting emojis might not be as sexy as it is confusing, for the person on the other side.  As with everything in life, good sexting comes down to emotional intelligence, so let’s talk shop. This episode is designed to help you send your best sext, and excite the person receiving your message. Plus, I take your questions! How to start flirting online, how to manage your devices so your messages don’t accidentally end up in the wrong place and how to have good phone sex in a long distance relationship. Finally, the Sex With Emily community has delivered, and I’m sharing YOUR hottest sexts. Show Notes: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Signal Messenger What’s app  Amorus App We-Vibe Toys Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let the pulsations begin, because today’s episode is a love letter to your orgasm – and all the ways we can dose your body with pleasure. First, we’re helping you understand, anatomically, just what the hell is going on with the big O. And for my never-had-an-orgasm friends we’re going to give you techniques to help you get there. Finally, we’re offering tricks to elevate your orgasm, with everything from easy hacks to long-term rituals, to achieve the deep pleasure you crave.  Plus we take all your orgasm questions! What to do when you can’t orgasm with your partner, how to break the habit of faking orgasms, how to bring back an orgasm that’s suddenly disappeared, and how to achieve the holy grail of multiple O’s.  Show Notes: Shop w/ Emily  The Womanizer We-Vibe Toys Dame Products The Edging Guide  Je Joue Kegel Ball Set Biohack Your Orgasm w/ Alisa Vitti Bellesa  Try Quinn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you cut out for friends with benefits? If you crave regular sex, but don’t have capacity for a full-on relationship, an FWB arrangement could be just what the doctor ordered. But there’s a lot you should know before diving in! For some, FWB’s can be a super satisfying way to get your needs met, without the commitment of a traditional partnership. However, just because it’s not “traditional” doesn’t mean there aren’t rules of engagement, boundaries, and lots of communication. In this episode, I help you self-assess to figure out if you’re a good candidate for FWB, explain how FWB’s are qualitatively different from casual sex and hook-ups, and hacks to live your best FWB life.  Show Notes: The Communication Guide  The Yes No Maybe List   He’s Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sexual wisdom (like all wisdom) is self-awareness plus lived experience. But I hear from people in their 20s all the time who are shockingly self-aware – they just haven’t stacked enough life experience to know how to navigate sex as it applies to them. So maybe that’s you, or maybe you're not in your 20s…but feel like you missed out on some sexual basics. If that’s you, gather ‘round, because this best-of episode is devoted to all the killer advice I wish I’d been given in my 20s.  Whether it’s figuring out what your turn-ons are, what to do when a partner constantly cheats, or how to try anal (one word: lube), I’m answering all of your ground zero sex questions today. We get into all of that, plus how to approach your first threesome, how to seek out couple’s therapy (yes: you can do it in your 20s!), and how to communicate your deepest desires in the bedroom. Show Notes: The Communication Guide  The Yes No Maybe List Coming Together by Celeste and Danielle Pjur Anal Lube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve probably heard that the brain is the largest sex organ in your body. But can you really hack your brain for happiness? Or better sex? Psychiatrist and bestselling author Dr. Daniel Amen has amassed the world’s largest database of brain scans, and studies that information to reveal something fascinating: using neuroscience-based habits, we have the power to radically improve our mental health, our mood, and yes – our sex lives.  Dr. Amen’s latest book is You, Happier, and on this episode, he reveals the lies of happiness, the stress hormones impeding your sex hormones, how to focus on micro-moments of happiness, and strategies for protecting yourself from the “noise” in your head. He also explains why happy people tend to live longer, have better relationships, be more successful in their careers…and, let’s face it, have way hotter sex. Listen now, to learn how to master your mind, and reap the rewards.  More Dr. Daniel Amen To Order You, Happier  Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Tiktok Amen Clinics Discover Your Brain Type 30 Day Happiness Challenge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk sexual tension and seduction, people. Maybe you’re single, and trying to brush up on your flirting skills. Or perhaps you’re in a long-term relationship, and frustrated that you don’t entice each other like you used to. Either way, I’m going to teach you how to build (or rebuild) sexual tension. At its core, seduction itself is about creating sexual tension, and to pull that off, we need a few things at our disposal, like confidence and radical presence. It’s a sexy sort of restraint, where your behavior is suggestive (not explicit), and your vibe is patient (not desperate). So today’s episode is all about sharpening our skills in the sexy and suggestive department. Plus, I take your questions, like how to make the first move, how to turn sexual banter into actual sex, and much, much more.  Show Notes: Chemistry, Attraction & Connection w/ Matthew Hussey How to Be a Master Dater w/ Matthew Hussey Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sexual fantasies give us a window into what we need: a type of touch, a type of power, or even a type of person. But what if you’re one of those people who’s like: “I don’t know how to fantasize, Emily?” Then look no further than sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex Elle Chase. Elle joins me to talk about cultivating your erotic daydreams, what your fantasies say about your desire style, and how to turn a common fantasy into a reality: finding a friend with benefits.   Plus, we take your questions! How to respond to a partner who desperately wants to watch you have sex with another (but you’re not so into it), what to say to a partner who thinks butts are gross, how to talk about your kink to a new partner and much more.  For More Elle Chase:  Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook Elle’s Naughty Coloring Book | Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase | Elle’s Fantasy Course  Show Notes: Tell Me What You Want by Justin Lehmiller Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski The Yes No Maybe List  We Vibe Toys Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you keep running into the same relationship (or sex) problems over and over again, what’s the one common denominator? Brace yourself…because it’s you. You’re the thing that carries over from partnership to partnership, which is why Gary Bishop, author of the crazy bestseller “Unfu*k Yourself” decided to write a new book – a tough love spin on self-help. It’s called “Love Unfu*ked: Getting Your Relationship Sh!t Together,” and I invited him to chat with me about it. In this interview, Gary and I talk about how to become aware of our destructive relationship habits, and concrete ways to manage them. He tells me the one simple change he made with his current partner that transformed their relationship, and we go deep on feeling threatened: the fight or flight response that inhibits emotional intimacy, not to mention our best sex. But we also talk about the hopeful side of radical self-awareness, and the opportunity in front of us, when we step outside of ourselves, look at our patterns, and change them – to create room for the pleasurable connections we all want.  For More Information About Gary Bishop: Website | Twitter | Instagram  Love Unfu*ked Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s show is all about exploring sexual attraction; what it means and how does it fit into romantic love. By the end of today’s episode, you’ll better understand how and why YOU may feel sexually attracted to another person and how that can sometimes be distinct from feelings associated with long-term love. Plus, I take your questions! What to do when you’re straight, but kinda wanna hook up in a non-straight way, what to do when you and your partner are both submissive (and both crave dominance), how to bring back the spark, and when you should hang onto a friend with quality benefits – and, when to let them go.  Show Notes: Sex, Drugs and The Side Effects of Birth Control w/ Ricki Lake & Abby Epstein For More Studies From Justin Lehmiller Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s talk anal play! If you’re a booty newbie, where do you begin? What feel-good nerve endings are you looking for? Should you start alone, or with a partner? And how the hell do you go shopping for butt plugs? Listen: if you’ve got backdoor questions, my guests Dr. Charlie Glickman and Dr. Hernando Chaves have answers. Today’s best-of episode is THE anal 101 primer, and if you’re not butt-curious now…you will be, in less than an hour.  Listen up for tips to stimulate the prostate (AKA the male G-spot), how to prepare hygienically,  finger techniques for prostate massage, and how anal play can add so much crazy pleasure to your sex life, no matter your gender.  Show Notes: Dr Charlie Glickman | Website Hernando Chaves | Instagram | Twitter Aneros Skyn Condoms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right? So on today’s show, we’re going to trust, touch, and titillate our way towards arousal, with bonding hacks you can use on your next date whether it is with a long term partner or someone new. Plus, I take your questions! Ways to feel confident and sexual again after a breakup, how to have kinky sex with a partner who says they aren’t interested, how to decide if you should wait to develop a relationship with a super busy person or cut em’ loose, how to take sexy pictures with each other, and how to communicate your needs efficiently outside the bedroom so that you can reignate the spark when you’re back inside. Show Notes: Serena Kerrigan’s Let’s Fucking Date Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin?   Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski The Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As much as we’d like sex to be seamlessly hot all the time, sometimes…it gets a little awkward. Too much teeth during a blowjob. An erection that won’t last. Someone farts! It happens - and when it does, it can seriously derail the mood. But does it have to? I’m of the opinion that if we know how to respond during moments like these – with compassion, collaboration, and sometimes a sense of humor – an erotic moment doesn’t have to come to an abrupt halt. So on today’s show, I’m taking the point of view of someone who didn’t “do” the awkward thing, they witnessed it. And by the end, you’ll know how to hold space, how to handle situations like these, and not shame the person on the other side – so you can keep the party going, and continue having fantastic sex.  Show Notes: What It Really Means When You Can’t Stay Hard The Vulva Gallery  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nothing makes me happier than people taking pleasure into their own hands, so my team and I have assembled the 10 MOST popular articles on SexWithEmily.com and we are dedicating this episode to the things our listeners most want to hear. Spoiler alert: you all love porn. And giving pleasure. I see what you’re interested in, I see what you’re curious about – so I consider today’s show scripted by you. It’s a deep dive into our most read articles; whether it’s preparing for a threesome, mastering awkward sex positions, or learning how to squirt.  So buckle up, because this is quite the content-filled episode. Alright, let’s dive in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you hear the phrase “self-care,” what comes to mind? Bubble baths? Booking a massage? Those things are all lovely (I’d argue essential), but I’ve got one more thing to add to your self-care routine, and I’m going to make a case for it: solo sex, AKA masturbation.  If you’re a regular listener to this show, you know how much of a solo sex advocate I am. But we’re going to go a little deeper into this topic, because there’s still a lot of shame associated with masturbation: fear of getting caught, embarrassment about our noises and facial expressions, confusion around toys and which ones are best. That’s why today’s show is your Solo Sex 101, where we create a solo sex routine that works for you, get into all the ways solo sex nourishes your mental health, and how to get into the right headspace for it. Plus, I take your questions! When masturbation feels depressing, how do you learn to love it? Or when you’re asked to masturbate in front of your partner, but feel self-conscious about it, what do you do? I tackle these questions and so many more, on our solo sextravaganza.  Show Notes: Dr Emily’s Shop Page Dame Fin  Je Joue Mimi More on Information on EMDR Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s cut right to the chase: doggy style is hot-looking, but is it hot-feeling? I can’t tell you how many questions I get about this position, mostly from people who are confused…wondering if they’re doing it wrong. You’re not! You may just need to tweak it a bit, to make it work for your body. So on today’s show, I give you my favorite doggy style hacks, because let’s be honest — no one wants a broken penis. Let’s avoid the ER, and give you the hot doggy style sex you deserve. Plus, I take your questions! Is polyamory more natural than monogamy? What should you do if you catch feelings for your friend-with-benefits? Is it really cheating if you have a no-sex kink session with an old flame? And finally — body dysmorphia of the vulva. Do you have it? Friends: let me help you love it! Don’t buy the hype, by which I mean false standards. I tell you exactly how to make your vulva a MUCH-deserved object of your affection. Show Notes: Skyn Condoms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here in the 21st century, we’re fascinated by something that was invented in the 7th century: tantra, and more specifically, tantric sex. But it’s also one of the most misunderstood practices around, starting with: it’s not just about sex! Tantra is an entire world of spirituality, intimacy, breathwork and presence, which is precisely why I have Barbara Carellas, founder of Urban Tantra, on the show with me today. A pioneer in the world of tantric healing practices, Barbara gives us the real deal on these sacred techniques – and shows us how we can use them in the modern world, for full body pleasure, higher states of consciousness, and a radically deeper connection with your partner.  Plus, I take your questions! How do you stay in the present moment during sex, and not disassociate while it’s happening – or, get so nervous that you block all the pleasure? I’ve got some thoughts on that. For More Information on Barbara: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube | Facebook Show Notes: Emily’s Shop Page Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to sex in longterm relationships, why do they start hot, then go lukewarm? Why does our eroticism go dormant, once the newness of a relationship wears off? And what are some specific strategies for bringing back the heat we desperately long for? It’s part 2 in our Best Of special on taking your sex life from stale to sexy, and I can’t wait to let you listen in on my conversations with John Wineland and Esther Perel, and a bit of wisdom from Tom Bilyeu. John is a relationship coach specializing in polarity and embodiment, and for this show, I’ve selected his most potent advice on hot sex. According to John, getting in touch with our masculine and feminine energies – regardless of gender – has the power to transform the way we show up in bed. Next, I talk to Esther Perel, well recognized couples therapist, author and fellow podcaster, who explains how a couple’s sex life loses its passion. Our partners become reliable and safe, which is great for a relationship, but according to Esther…not always great for sex. So how do we revive the mystery, the risk, and a sense of adventure with our partners? Listen for the sensual techniques she uses to help couples get back in touch with their hungry side. Finally, Impact Theory’s Tom Bilyeu dishes on desire – and why attraction for other people is not death for a relationship.  Show Notes: John Wineland | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Esther Perel | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Youtube Tom Bilyeu | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the #1 question I get as a sex educator: “our sex life is stale, how do we make it hot again?” For long-term couples, this issue is so common it’s almost a cliche. “Once you’re married, say goodbye to your sex life! Haha!”  Except, it’s not funny, right? It’s actually pretty painful, once the new relationship energy wears off, and we no longer have that magical chemical cocktail running through our veins. That’s why I am so pleased to be doing a two-part, Best Of special on this precise topic, kicking things off with sex educator Ian Kerner, author of the iconic book “She Comes First” and his latest, “So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex?” I’m also sharing advice from Drs. John and Julie Gottman of the Gottman Institute, who have led some of the most comprehensive studies on successful couples, and the key ingredients of their success. (Which includes a great sex life, of course.) I’m pulling out the best-of-the-best of their advice and techniques, so you can try them yourself, and create your own “arousal runway” to bring excitement back into your relationship and the bedroom.  Show Notes: Ian Kerner | Website | Twitter | Books The Gottman Institute | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Squirting during sex: how, exactly, does it happen? Which body part controls it? And what the hell is it made out of? For vulva owners, squirting is a thing of mystery - but it doesn’t need to be. In this special Best Of episode, I’m giving you my tips and firsthand experience with squirting as well as highlights of my conversation with sex educator Deborah Sundahl, who teaches us exactly how to squirt -- and I mean, step by step. For example: did you know, vulva owners, that you have a prostate? That’s the g-spot, despite headlines you see every few months questioning its very existence. Also: did you know that clitoral orgasms and g-spot orgasms are two different things? Finally, with time and practice, did you know that EVERY vulva owner can squirt? It’s not magic -- it’s anatomy! Plus, I take your questions on squirting, from how to start, best positions to do it, and how to communicate to your partner what you want them to do.  Show Notes: Deborah Sundahl: Website | Book Fascinator Throw Ejaculation blanket Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all heard of red flags in relationships, but let’s be honest: sometimes, they can be terribly hard to spot. Especially when you really want a relationship to work, or, if the other person is super hot. (Am I right?) That’s why I’m bringing you a special episode today, focused on all things red flags -- and green flags -- with my two favorite voices on the matter, psychologist and author Dr. Ramani, and YouTube’s (and probably the world’s) favorite dating coach, Matthew Hussey.  Dr. Ramani and I take a deep dive on narcissism, and talk through things like love bombing, devaluation, and the different types of narcissists out there -- as well as the personality types who tend to fall for them. And if you’re thinking, “I wouldn’t possibly fall for that nonsense,” think again! These folks are master manipulators, and at their core, deeply insecure. Next, Matthew Hussey walks us through our own less-than-ideal tendencies, such as: why we keep going for aloof and unavailable people, how we repeat painful patterns from our childhood, and how we ignore someone’s inconvenient truth. But Matthew also tells us what to look for when we’re dating someone new, such as curiosity, equal investment, and consistency with words and actions. If you’re dating right now, listen to this episode -- twice.  Show Notes: Dr Remani: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anything worth having takes time, whether that’s a better sex life, a deeper relationship, or an awesome relationship with your body. But staying consistent is hard: we get bored, we get rebellious, we want to cut corners. We’re human, after all! That’s why, if we want to meet goals - ANY goal - we have to create rituals. And the key to sticking with them? Identifying your “why.” So on today’s Best Of show, I’m talking to Max Lugavere, host of The Genius Life podcast, and Jennifer Cohen, host of Habits and Hustle, to give us the lowdown on sexy self improvement. Max gives me the scoop on food addiction (and its similarities to porn addiction), how daily sunlight improves our health, and how processed food short circuits our satiety signals. Jennifer tells me the three habits successful people all have in common, how to get your partner on-board for working out, and the correlation between exercise and sex drive. Get out your grocery lists and gratitude journals, because after this episode, you’ll be totally inspired to start small habits for big self-growth.  Show Notes: Max Lugavere | Website | Instagram | Facebook | Youtube Jen Cohen  | Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

2021, we hardly knew ya. Just kidding, we totally did, and we’ve got the FaceTime sex to prove it. All year long, we’ve been saving up the very best moments of Sex With Emily, so you can walk into 2022 more sex-wise than ever. From squirting to sex dreams, Nikki Glaser to Esther Perel, we’re doing a hot flashback of YOUR most talked-about episodes.  On this show, we’ve banked the top pieces of sex wisdom from hands-down incredible guests. Discover your dating style, locate the g-spot once and for all, and build your sexual confidence with some of the smartest (and funniest) voices out there. Before you create your New Year’s resolution list, be sure to listen to this one – because I guarantee you, their advice will elevate your 2022.  Show Notes: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner To Find Your Chronotype Female Ejaculation & The G Spot by Deborah Sundahl Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Where do men get their earliest messages about sex and intimacy? Why do they talk about banging / pounding / hitting it (like they’re at a construction site), and how does this conditioning affect your sex life – no matter your gender? Peggy Ornstein is the author of several iconic books on teens and sex, but on today’s fan favorite episode, she joins me to talk about Boys & Sex: a fascinating account of young men as they navigate hookups, porn and relationships, as told by the boys she interviewed.  In this episode, you’ll learn how even in the shadow of #MeToo, boys are still confused about having mutually fulfilling sex, while still being a “man.” Listen - when it comes to masculinity, Peggy is an expert. She explains why she doesn’t love the term “toxic masculinity.” She recognizes that men get a confusing message: be dominant, but don’t be too aggressive. Reporting from the front lines of bro culture, Peggy reveals the sex conundrum that men so often find themselves in, and ways we can all evolve to have relationships that are more interesting, more erotic, and more emotionally intelligent.  For More Information on Peggy Orenstein: Website | Instagram | Twitter Boys & Sex Girls & Sex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To get our needs met, we first have to be able to articulate our needs – and be brave enough to share them out loud. But it’s easier said than done! We get worried about what the other person will say, or we don’t have the words to express what we want, so we bury those longings and wait for a better time. Then before we know it, years have passed, and that better time never arrived. We’re sexually frustrated and resentful, because we never had the sex talk that was crucial to our happiness…until now.  On this show, we’re leaning into discomfort, so we can come out on the other side sexually satisfied. In other words: we’re learning how to have a sex talk! Even when it’s just with yourself. How do you cultivate positive self-talk, when everyone around you affirms your hotness - but your brain just doesn’t buy it? Or how about when one of you wants to have sex every day, and the other doesn’t: how do you communicate your way through mismatched desires? Finally, let’s get into improving the quality of your sex life with a partner: when the sex itself has become rote, routine, or just plain boring, how do you revive it? The first step is an open conversation, and on this episode, I’m giving you scripts and tools so you can get over those fears, and get into mutually satisfying pleasure.  Show Notes: The Sex with Emily Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Women cheat for emotional connection, men cheat for sex.” “Men are horn dogs, women are frigid.” Heard any of this before? Did you know these are factually untrue? In this fan favorite episode, cultural anthropologist and bestselling author Wednesday Martin joins me to talk about female sexuality research findings, now that more females are entering the field of sex research. Believe me when I say: her revelations will change your life. Wednesday’s book Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free was a major conversation starter. Today, we’re more open to alternative relationship models, and a huge part of that is because of Wednesday. In this conversation, she debunks the lies we’ve been told for decades about female sexuality, including: men just want to spread their seed, while women want to protect their precious eggs. Wrong! Turns out, monogamy is pretty rough on female desire. How about this one: women cheat because they crave emotional care. Nope! Sometimes, women just want sex with someone new. Finally, how did these lies get started in the first place? Wednesday walks us through the faulty science that got us here, and how accurate measures of female desire are radically changing the way we understand sex – for all genders.  For More Information About Wednesday Martin: Website | Instagram | Twitter Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust and Infidelity is Wrong Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the wide world of alternative relationship models. Opening up, threesomes, and swinging are increasingly becoming more mainstream, so naturally, we’ve got questions. Some of us do better with monogamy, but some of us thrive with a little variety - and no matter where we land on the spectrum of relationships and sex, we can always gain vocabulary to explore our desires, and act on our pleasure. So on today’s show, I take your questions on open relationships and we get into it. First, we tackle open relationships when we’re already partnered. How do you establish the ground rules? What do you do when your partner has a date but you don’t, and you feel that jealousy coming on? Next, threesomes and swinging: how do you practice safe sex in a group sex situation? Finally: when you’re the third party, what’s the best way to talk to the partner of your partner? In this case, and truly all others, the key is becoming a grade A communicator – because if there’s one thing you can count on in an alternative relationship, it’s lots and lots of talking.  Show Notes: Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may think of her as divorce attorney to the stars, and Laura Wasser is certainly that. But Laura is also a sharp thinker on marriage and communication, and is here to tell us what every couple needs to know before saying "I do." She says that couples who have the prenup conversation are actually more likely to stay together than those who don't, and that money is an even bigger conversational taboo than sex. She also tells us what it's like repping actor clients vs. musician clients, why we're seeing a celebrity-led trend of "gentle separations," and how social media has changed the game for divorce cases. Plus, I take your divorce questions! When is it time to say "I don't," and get the hell out? Or how about if you're single, and have a tendency to hook up with older, separated men -- are they just your type? Or...are there some deeper conversations you need to be having, with them, and with yourself? Let's talk dating as a divorcee: when is it OK to tell the kids you've met someone new? And finally, after being married for so long, how do you tell the difference between love and lust, when you're back on the scene? All this and more, on today's divorce show.  For More Information on Laura wasser: Website | Instagram It’s Over Easy: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In order to feel turned on, we first have to feel safe. And that’s the funny thing about trust: once it’s broken, it has a way of quietly shutting us down, so that our relationships aren’t as deep, our curiosity is blocked, and even our self-sex takes a hit. But there IS hope: trust can be healed. Neuroplasticity is a beautiful thing, and if we compassionately work on ourselves (possibly with a partner), we feel worlds better - more secure, and definitely more sexy. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take some of my favorite calls on trust, and how to repair it. What happens if your spouse cheated on you, to the point where sex feels sorta gross now? Or how about if you were the cheater, and your sex life just isn’t the same? (Two words: couples therapy.) How about this one: you’re in a partnership, and things are basically fine - but the spark has completely worn off, and you don’t know how to talk about it? Or, what if you tell a new partner you love them, they don’t reciprocate, and THEN the sex takes a nosedive? In both cases, I’ve got answers. Finally, when you’re “too picky” of a dater, is it really because they’re all duds? Or, are there some underlying trust issues there, that are keeping your sexuality safe, cool, and totally dormant? The bottom line is this: when we feel free, we feel sexy. And on today’s episode, we’re helping you radically reclaim your erotic freedom. Show Notes: Ian Kerner’s book - So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex.  Our Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sheila Kelley is a moment, a mantra, and the founder of S-Factor: a feminine movement practice that offers classes in strip, pole dance, and erotic dance. “We live from the armpits up, and get trapped away from our bodies,” Sheila says. So her passion is to free people through movement, so they can return to their bodies, and have more energy to move towards what they want. This is a gem-filled conversation that you’re going to want to pause several times, so you can take in Sheila’s explosive wisdom...and apply it immediately to your daily life. Plus, I take your questions! We’re all venturing into brave new worlds today, and need advice. What to do when you’re dating as a grown woman, with kids in their 20s - but the men you’re matching with are young adults too? Is that a problem? We discuss. Next: is it possible to get “orgasm addicted” to porn? I talk you through it. And finally, beginnings and endings: how do you begin your anal sex journey? How do you end a marriage as you knew it? As Sheila says, it’s all an incremental journey of self-investment and growth -- and by the end of this episode, you’ll have done a bit of both. Find more about Sheila Kelley here: Twitter @theSheilaKelley Instagram: @SheilaKelleyS sfactor.com Instagram @s.factor Twitter @skelleysfactor Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you’ve got a sex fantasy...and you’re ready for it to become reality. That’s great! But let me be the first to tell you: this process is part art, part science. The art? That’s your erotic self. Closing your eyes, imagining hot -- possibly taboo -- scenarios, and taking the time to discover what turns you on. But the science? That’s where we have to get tactical and think with our heads -- as well as our loins. On today’s Ask Emily show, I take your calls on fantasy and give you practical advice on how to fulfill them. Let’s say your partner has been hinting at a cuckold scenario: how do you go about finding a “third,” and how do you manage expectations for all involved? We get into it. What if you don’t have any fantasies, but you want some? Is there a way to get more creative? Yeahhh there is. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery. Show Notes: FetLife Feeld  #Open  Ok Cupid  Yea No Maybe List Book: Coming Together by Celeste And Danielle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I like to think of Lewis Howes and Lisa Bilyeu as leaders in the self-awareness world, especially when it comes to relationships. Both Lewis and Lisa are incredibly successful: she went from housewife to cofounder of a billion-dollar business, he went from picked last for dodgeball to pro athlete, New York Times bestselling author and uber successful podcaster. But here’s the thing: success is empty if you don’t learn to like yourself, and both are intimately familiar with that truth.  On today’s Best Of episode, I’m pairing these two voices to bring you the most powerful advice on self-love and fulfilling relationships. We hear from Lisa, who tells the story of radically changing her role in her relationship, and Lewis, who tells the story of radically hustling for respect (and getting it) -- only to realize he needed to learn how to respect himself. In this show, you’ll learn how to ask your partner for exactly what you need, how to break the habit of “testing” partners, how to identify the masks you wear for the world, and why sex transforms after you’ve taken the time to understand who you are - and love yourself, no hustle required.  Find Lewis Howes here: LewisHowes.com Instagram @lewishowes Twitter @lewishowes TikTok @lewishowes Find Lisa Bilyeu here: lisabilyeu.com Instagram @lisabilyeu Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s frustrating but true: sex isn’t a button that we can automatically turn on and off. In fact, “sex” is a catch-all term for arousal, body exploration, play, and erotic collaboration—not simply penetration. So what do you do when you want to get naughty, but your body isn’t on-board?  On today’s Ask Emily show, we’re taking a look at the body’s response to sex, and figuring out what to do when it shuts down. Say you’ve got a gag reflex around oral: does that mean no blowjobs? Nah - I’ve got a trick for that. How about vaginismus, when the vulva clenches so tightly at penetration, that sex is super painful? I’ve got advice! Finally, let’s talk about your partners: is it kosher to use old toys with a new lover? How do you broach the subject? And when you’re newly married, but the sex has serious problems, where do you turn? At the root of good sex is good communication, and on today’s episode, we challenge everyone to articulate their needs, and listen to their partners. Show Notes: Clean your toys with Uvee San Diego Sexual Medicine Dr. Sherry's She-ology Dilators System Jo Lubricants Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Before we’re experts at anything, we’re all humble beginners. And whether we’re learning how to date, learning how to talk about sex, or learning how to pleasure a partner, it can all seem pretty intimidating — enough to make us second-guess ourselves. “Do they just like me as a friend?” “Am I weird for wanting more lovers?” “Will I teach my child the right things about sex?” On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone’s looking for clarity in the sexual unknown, starting with: how can I tell if they’re into me? Whether it’s an office crush and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back, or you’re about to go on a date and worried you’ll be friend-zoned, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. How about if it’s a new sexual act, and you don’t know how you feel about it — or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what YOU want…and not just what your lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships: what to do when you’re filled with old resentment? Is there a new conversation you could have with your partner? How about when you want to open up…but your nesting partner is scared of you having new lovers? We’re venturing into uncharted sex territory today, but don’t worry—we all come out on the other side, with fresh ways forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone is talking about breathwork these days. But for PleasureMuse Dolly Josette, breath opens an entire world of erotic sensation -- and it’s a world you (yes, you) already possess. So if full-body orgasms sound like fun, you’ll love this conversation, because guess what? Dolly shows us how to visit that pleasure-filled world, all on our own. Dolly’s been recognized as one of today’s most innovative Sexological Bodyworkers by Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines, but more importantly, she helps women and couples navigate their sexual evolution, wake up from numbness, and live more orgasmic lives. In this episode, we cover a ton of ground, including how to hack your nervous system for better sex, how to become a great masturbator, what exactly *is* somatic sex therapy, and why so many people, especially vulva-owners, are trained to numb from the waist down. (Spoiler alert: her clients definitely aren’t numb anymore.)  Find Dolly online: pleasuremuse.com Learn about orgasm vs. climax Get Dolly's 25-minute Vulva Hug Meditation - use code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off Instagram @pleasuremuse Show Notes: Find certified sexological bodyworkers in your area at sexologicalbodyworkers.org Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trust: it’s the glue of relationships, even the more casual ones. Can I trust that this person is safe? That they aren’t going to hurt me? Can I trust myself, that I’ll know how to navigate this situation? These are the questions we all ask ourselves, even if it’s subconscious. Our bodies and brains regularly scan for danger, but when you’re wearing rose-colored glasses, sometimes the red flags just look like flags. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I take your questions on trust and safety, because as we know, safety is the precursor to hot sex. So what happens when you’re having mind-blowing sex with a partner, but catch them chatting with sex workers online? What happens when you’ve been love-bombed, by someone who isn’t what they seem? Or maybe you’ve had past relationship trauma, and don’t trust new partners to take it slow with you? We get into all of it. Finally: do you trust yourself to facilitate a hookup? Do you trust that you can help a partner heal from sex-negative messaging? These are the questions I’m exploring today, and trust ME: by the end, you’ll walk away with some great tools for sticky situations.    Show Notes: Episode: First Date First Orgasm First Threesome Find out about EMDR therapy at EMDRIA.org Book: For Yourself By Lonnie Barbach   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, Pete Davidson, and self-image. What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication. Find Menace here: What's New Podcast The Woody Show Diego Hot Sauce Instagram Twitter Show Notes: Try my free Yes, No, Maybe List We-Vibe Moxie, Bond (Cock Ring) and Touch Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Promescent: Better In Bed Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you hear the words “pelvic floor,” what comes to mind? A visit to the OB-GYN, maybe? The truth is, the pelvic floor is a hidden superstar of sexual pleasure, for vulva AND penis owners. We all have a pelvic floor, but the problem is, we don’t always know how to take care of it. That changes today because you’re about to hear from the pelvic floor expert herself, Dr. Patricia Wallace. In this episode I talk to Dr. Wallace about “living your best life in your best body,” and how focusing on the pelvic floor can unlock our feel-good potential. We discuss the intricacies of orgasm because guess what? When you strengthen the pelvic floor, your orgasm contractions get more intense, and tiny muscles you didn’t even know you had amplified your pleasure. We can also heal pain and prolapse through pelvic floor rehab, and vulva owners will find a lot of relief hearing Dr. Wallace's thoughts on aging and hormones. Turns out, you can nurture your hormonal health well into menopause, without scary side effects! Leave it to a doctor to put our minds (and our vulvas, and our penises) at ease. Find out more about Dr. Wallace here: pelvichealthwellness.com Facebook Instagram Find out more about Emsella treatments here: bodybybtl.com Facebook Instagram Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex is play, but certain sex positions feel more like work, right? Whether it’s reverse cowgirl or 69, you might feel a bit awkward...you don’t exactly know what you’re doing...you’re trying not to throw your back out. But that doesn’t mean you have to keep doing the same, safe positions over and over again! That’s why today’s show is all about helping you experiment, and making the most challenging positions feel smooth and easy -- no physics degree required. Learn how to make reverse cowgirl less confusing and more sexy, how to execute the Kivin Method on a vulva owner, how to 69 without feeling like you’re multitasking, and how to have steamy, sexy shower sex without breaking anything. Plus: we reveal the most-searched sex positions by U.S. state! Pennsylvanians love their oral, and those Texans are pretty dexterous, y’all. Show Notes: Episode: The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr. Evan Goldstein Try our free Pleasure Planner Episode: Sex Goals For The Win Article: How to Master These Awkward Sex Positions Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Je Joue Mimi  Ditto Anal Plug Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s be honest: there are certain myths about sex that are SO common, they seem like truth. Things like: what it means to be wet, what it means to be hard, and what it means if you use a vibrator a lot. But guess what? A ton of the things you and I have both heard about sex aren’t based on science - they’ve just been repeated a lot. So on today’s show, I’m debunking the top sex myths I see and hear, and giving you the actual facts. Click Here to Subscribe. What does it mean about your sexual ability if you’ve had a lot of partners - or conversely, hardly any? We talk about it. How about if you’re not getting wet during sex. Does that mean you’re not turned on? We discuss! Let’s say you use a vibrator a lot - can you get addicted to it? Or my favorite: does having an orgasm mean the sex was good? I tackle both of these. And finally, we face the truth about anal sex, because spoiler alert...it’s not just for gay men. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Dame: Practice Your Pleasure Promescent: Better In Bed Show Notes: Episode: Lube It Or Leave It Episode: Kink & Casual Sex w/ Justin Lehmiller  Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair B-Vibe: Anal Training Kit & Education Set Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who can read your mind, anticipate your needs 24/7, and fulfill them perfectly? Yeah...me neither. The truth is, deep relationships require deep communication skills, and the most important skill is this: being able to articulate what you need, sexually and otherwise. The result? Way healthier relationship dynamics. Click Here to Subscribe. So on today’s Ask Emily show, I give you communication tools to put in your back pocket, so you can improve your relationship one talk at a time. How about when you’re tired of hookups and want a relationship with real depth? Or maybe, you want more than one relationship? I talk you through ways to approach both. What about when your partner is emotionally detached, or you want your child to grow up with more positive sex messaging than you had? We get into it. Finally, we talk through getting the kind of touch you need in bed because let’s face it - sometimes pain is fun, and sometimes it’s just painful. With the right communication, you can find just the right sweet spot. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Dame: Practice Your Pleasure Show Notes: System Jo Lubricants Pjur - Sensitive Lube Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You know Gwyneth Paltrow: actor, CEO of goop, bestselling cookbook author, and cultural conversation starter. But now, Gwyneth’s got a new show on Netflix called “Sex, Love & Goop,” where she hopes to spark another conversation: how couples can save their sex lives, through touch, communication, and giving themselves permission to talk about sex in the first place. Click Here to Subscribe. In this show, I talk to Gwyneth about the healing modalities you see in the series, like sexological bodywork and vulva mapping, as well as the women who crave a different dynamic with their husbands. Gwyneth also tells me how she prioritizes her pleasure, why goop created a beautiful, “sculpture-like” vibrator, why she believes menopause needs to be rebranded, and how nutrition healed her hormones after Covid quarantine. Gwyneth’s accomplished a lot in this life - now, she wants to conquer a taboo, by making sex talks more mainstream. And on my show, that’s exactly what I like to hear. For more information about Gwyneth Paltrow, click below: goop.com Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Womaness We-Vibe Bond Good Vibrations: Your Trusted Source For Quality Toys And Accessories Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to sex, do you have a growth mindset? Whether you’re a new parent and your sex drive has tanked, or you’re trying to break free from a mental pattern that’s blocking your pleasure, we all experience sexual roadblocks. Never fear: you can have a sex reset! On today’s Ask Emily show, I’m helping you ID the obstacles to your sexuality, from trauma, to a repressive upbringing, to a disconnect with your partner. And one by one, I help you figure out solutions that open the door to self-exploration. Click Here to Subscribe. What do you do when you’re “spectator-ing” yourself during sex, and battling against mental chatter? Or you’ve got a religious past, that makes sex a bit triggering for you? In both cases, I provide mindfulness techniques that help you quiet the mind, and feel into your pleasure. What about when it’s a block with your partner, when you’re just not on the same page about your desires? I’ve got ideas to normalize sex talks, and help you communicate your needs. How about when you crave a certain type of power dynamic, but aren’t sure how to explore it? I give you ideas for approaching it safely and consensually, with a play partner. This episode is all about self-exploration, and helping you reclaim your full sex potential. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring System Jo Lubricants Show Notes We-Vibe Nova Instagram: The Holistic Psychologist Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To lots of folks, “foreplay” is shorthand for...hand stuff. But foreplay - or outercourse, as I call it - is actually way more about emotional intelligence, than anything having to do with your fingers. On today’s show, I dive into the psychology of foreplay and intimacy, a fascinating study on the difference between a good’ and ‘bad’ sex life, and how to get aroused with specific (and quite sexy) pre-game tips. Click Here to Subscribe. We also talk about what to do if foreplay and overall sex with your partner has gotten a bit stale, how to tease and arouse yourself, what to do if your partner isn’t so keen on exploring new things, and how to handle a partner who won’t reciprocate foreplay...after you give them all sorts of pre-game love. Plus, I answer your questions! I share what to do if you find yourself fantasizing about a past crush (while in a committed relationship), and give tips for how to have an orgasm… for the first time. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand We-Vibe Bond Show Notes: Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk? Download my Yes No Maybe List System Jo Lubricants Article: 6 Tips For Being A Better Kisser Foria Sex Oil  We-Vibe Bond and Moxie  b-Vibe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are wants, and then, there are needs -- sexual needs, to be precise. On today’s Ask Emily show, everyone has that one need that they’re longing to satisfy...they just don’t know how to do it. Good news: the sex expert has arrived, and I’m here to help you take that vital next step. Click Here to Subscribe. If you’ve never had an orgasm before, but desperately want to, I’ve got some ideas for that. Or if you want a hotter sex life, but your partner shuts down around sex convos, I’ve got communication tips. How about when you want to give your partner a crazy orgasm, but don’t know the right techniques? Yep, we talk about great ones. And finally, if your partner desires sexual experiences like swinging, but you aren’t sure, what in the world do you do? Answer: you listen to this episode! Because I promise, for every sex problem, there is a path forward.    For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Good Vibrations: Your Trusted Source For Quality Toys And Accessories System Jo Lubricants   Show Notes: Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Episode: The Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation Episode: Talk Dirty To Me w/ Joanna Angel  Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn Book: Curvy Girl Sex The Liberator Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Sportsheets  b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it comes to your most pressing sex issues, have you ever wondered: “ugh, is it just me?” I promise: it’s not just you! To prove it, I’m tackling your top five sex questions in this episode. From raising your libido to acing your oral, we cover a lot of ground in this one. How do you talk to your partner about sex? I teach you how to broach this conversation with compassion, and how to normalize sex talks in general. How about amping up your sex drive? There are hacks for that! Maybe you want to last longer in bed, get better at oral, or spice up your sex life. There’s a whole world of solutions for those, and I walk you through them. Whether it’s toys, technique, or just a good talk, this episode is all about finding answers, so you can have the pleasure you deserve. For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: We-Vibe Promescent: Better In Bed Womaness Show Notes: System Jo Lubricants Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring Guide: Three Ts of Communication Guide: Edging  Yes No Maybe List Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Book: She Comes First Episode: Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner Episode: Seducing the Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the holy grail of sexual connection -- a quality oral sesh. Or...is it? On this best of mashup episode, I’m sharing some top shelf advice on how to up your oral game: both giving, and receiving. Sometimes, hot oral comes down to technique, like the Kivin Method: we talk about why this is so delicious for vulva owners, and how you can execute it. But other times, good oral is more about lip service - no, not that kind, the communication kind. How do you ask for more oral from a partner who’s hesitant? How do you ask for LESS from a partner who’s a little too enthusiastic? And man oh man, what about when you desperately want to give - but your partner has some blocks around it? We get into all of it, alongside my guest Sadie Allison: sexologist, relationship expert and author, who has some A+ hacks to make your next oral sesh super sexy. For more Sadie Allison, click below: Website: www.TickleKitty.com Twitter Facebook Show Notes: Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot freer. Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe List Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

No one goes to relationship school, so Dr. John & Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to find out what makes relationships work. As today’s guests (and partners for over 30 years), the Gottmans talk about their iconic research, including the myth of compatibility, the four behaviors that tank a relationship, and what is UP with pheromones and attraction. Yep: we’re talking t-shirt smell test. We’re also taking a research-based approach to conflict, and finding out how curiosity and conversation can help you navigate it. Finally, we discuss the Gottmans’ book Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love and take your Instagram questions about vulnerability, attraction, and how to stay sexually connected -- even when you’re exhausted. For more information about Drs John and Julie Gottman, visit: gottman.com Show Notes: Book: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach App: Gottman Card Decks For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/askemily. For more sexy fun, including blogs, photos, videos or to stream this show, visit sexwithemily.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Comedians are paid to be funny, but on today’s throwback show, four of my four guests are getting real about sex - while, of course, being hilarious. Dean McDermott talks chemistry, porn versus Fleshlights, and how he and wife Tori Spelling keep things sexy with five (five!) kids. Nicky Paris is trying to bring down his walls around intimacy, and avoid having his head pushed down for oral. I applaud both. Margaret Cho deems herself a lifelong submissive, and talks about the contours of sexuality and BDSM, all while being bisexual and radically open to different ages. Finally, Adam Ferrara joins me to discuss negative self-talk, effective tools he uses in his marriage, and helps me answer your calls on everything from sexual compatibility to bedroom communication. Come for the laughs, stay for the sex. For more information about Dean McDermott, visit: Instagram Twitter For more information about Nicky Paris, visit: Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about Margaret Cho, visit: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For more information about Adam Ferrara, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine? Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challenges. Show Notes: We-Vibe Rave Je Joue Uma  Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation Audio Erotica: Dipsea and Quinn Book: The Body Knows The Score Episode: It’s All In Your Head w/ Dr. Anadel Barbour Womaness For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most of us think of arousal and desire as spontaneous, even a little mysterious. But on today’s show, I’m joined by the incredible Pamela Madsen, founder of Back to the Body, and sex & intimacy coach Court Vox, who myth-bust that assumption entirely. When you’re ready to go from erotically numb to erotically alive, they know exactly how to get the sexual energy going again. In this episode, they talk about low libido (and its likely culprit: high boredom), how to create a new relationship with your body, and how the right touch can unleash both deep desire...and deep healing. Pamela and Court also talk to us about their retreats (two words: pleasure demos), plus: we answer your questions! We talk to you about how to feel more confident in the bedroom, whether it’s ok to pleasure a partner when you yourself never orgasm, and how to have your best curvy girl sex. For more information about Pamela Madsen, MS, CSB, visit: http://backtothebody.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Attention: the orgasm has left the building. What does it mean when you can orgasm with one partner, but not another? Or when you can squirt, but not climax? How do we create those delicious sensations, without getting too up in our head about it? On today’s Hotline Calls show, we’re talking all about orgasm and how to unlock it. I answer your questions on how to orgasm for the first time (at any age), what to do when you’re unable to orgasm with a new partner, how overall health affects your ability to climax, and how to create masturbation routines that support the orgasms you deserve. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Je Joue Mimi Soft Episode: Best Of: Sexually Fit w/ Mind Pump b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms. Episode: Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair Dame Pom is great for exploration. Eva for a couples toy We-Vibe Nova II for internal and external pleasure Pjur Lube   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you suddenly feeling a little...kinkier? According to my guest, social psychologist, and Kinsey Institute researcher Justin Lehmiller, a lot of us are ready to sex-periment right now. Justin shares fascinating sex research from the COVID era, the sex communication practices heterosexual individuals can learn from the LGBTQ+ community, and how to make casual sex better for women. (Spoiler alert: emphasize her pleasure.) We also unpack the Kinsey Scale and why sexuality is so freaking fluid, why threesomes are such a popular fantasy, and what our porn preferences reveal (and don’t reveal) about us. Finally, we talk about sex education as it’s practiced in The Netherlands, and give you some incredibly useful tools for talking to your kids about sex (because it’s really important!). For more information about Dr. Justin Lehmiller, click below: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you want sex on the daily, but as for your partner? Not really. Not to worry! Today’s hotline calls episode takes a look at mismatched sex drives, and what might actually be behind them. We’re also diving into penis size, pleasure, and communication. There are so many ways to enjoy a penis - but first, ya gotta talk about what you BOTH want. We’re also tackling a case of sexsomnia (aka having sex in your sleep), and how to make eye contact during sex (when you’re awake). If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes:Episode: First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome Find an EMDR therapist: EMDRIA.org For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s throwback show, I’m joined by Sal, Adam, and Justin from the Mind Pump health and wellness show. We discuss how your mindset can get you into the best shape, common misconceptions about fitness training and testosterone, ways to naturally boost your libido, and the difference between self-image and body image. Plus, we explore how your physical health impacts your sex life, and the guys dive into the fascinating relationship between libido and physical activity. Trust me when I say the bedroom and the weight room are more connected than you think!  I also answer your questions about how to confidently have sex on top, what it means if you feel physically “off” after masturbating and why we should send some love to an often-overlooked erogenous zone.  For more Mind Pump, visit: mindpumpfree.com New Book The Resistance Training Revolution: The No-Cardio Way to Burn Fat and Age-Proof Your Body―in Only 60 Minutes a Week YouTube Instagram Facebook Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Promescent: Better In Bed Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Esther Perel is one of the most fascinating thinkers today on issues of desire, sex, and relationships. As an author and psychotherapist, she helps therapy patients (and the general public) understand the complexities of love and desire with provocative questions. How do you turn yourself on? How do you balance your need for safety and security, and on the other hand, your need for adventure and novelty? Can you want what you already have? As the author of the iconic “Mating In Captivity” and another bestseller, “The State of Affairs,” Esther is reshaping society’s views of sexuality and eroticism -- and arguably, healing them. In today’s episode, we talk about the difference between sexual and emotional needs, how you can calibrate your expectations of marriage, and why people in happy relationships still cheat. We also discuss her new game “Where Should We Begin,” answer a listener’s question about how to handle anxiety in relationships, and her number one piece of advice for having better sex. For more Esther Perel, visit estherperel.com Show Notes: The Pleasure Planner For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you remember the sex you had in college? Or maybe you’re just now embarking on this exciting adventure and have no idea what to expect? While college is an *amazing* time for independence and exploration, it also comes with uncharted territory and first-time sexual dilemmas. Today, I’m breaking down everything you need to know about sex in college. I’m sharing what I wish I knew before my first year and some of YOUR hottest college hookup stories. Plus I answer your questions about how to make one night stands more pleasurable, how to know if it’s time to break up with your long term partner for new sexual experiences, what to do if your asexual identity or virginity makes it harder for you to connect with potential partners and how to find partners who value more than just casual hookups. I also talk to certified health coach Katrina Wright about how she has transcended during her time at college into a healthier relationship with herself and her romantic partners. Show Notes: Magic Wand System Jo Lubricants Sex Tips I Wish I knew In My 20s Ask Emily: How Do I Get More Comfortable w/ Dirty Talk Je Joue Mimi Soft Dame - Eva For more information about Katrina Wright, visit: thesculptyou.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you curious about anal play, but don’t know where to get started? It’s Anal August, so we’ve invited certified sex educator and B-Vibe CEO Alicia Sinclair on the show to break down all things booty. In today’s episode, we talk about how to experiment with beginner butt play, avoiding common anal mistakes, progressing your anal play (from analingus to penetration), and the best products for anal training and butt orgasms—yup, they’re real. Plus, we answer your questions about the best ways to prep and unwind after engaging in any sort of butt stuff, how to actually find your prostate, how to let go of shame and replace it with glorious anal pleasure. Show Notes: Woo More Play Article: Anal Massage: Master the Best Anal Foreplay Techniques OHNUT Pjur Lube Aneros Alicia's last appearance on Sex w/ Emily: Snug Plugs, Butt Hugs, & b-Vibes with Alicia Sinclair For more information about Alicia Sinclair, visit: bvibe.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How has culture shaped your sexuality? According to my guest Dr. Shefali Tsabury, culture has conditioned us to suppress, cheat, and lie to ourselves. But radically authentic love and desire IS possible if we’re willing to confront common myths and make the conscious decision to live free. In this fascinating conversation, Dr. Shefali talks about how to rethink marriage as a model for growth, whether monogamy is natural (or not), and how to replace societal conditioning with something more wild, interesting, and frankly pretty sexy: worthiness. For more information about Dr. Shefali, visit: DrShefali.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So your partner is great… but you want them to bring the heat, and don’t know how to ask for it. Now what? On today’s episode, I answer calls about how to ask for exactly what you want, or conversely, don’t want. I also give advice about how to achieve orgasm without relying too heavily on porn or toys, what to do if your partner’s penis is too big for anal, what to do if YOU like giving oral but your partner isn’t as down to receive, and how to enjoy casual dating. If you’d like to ask me a question, you can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: O Nut Yes, No, Maybe List b-Vibe - Anal Kit For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies. We also answer your questions about: techniques for restraining your partner (fun!), the importance of communicating your fantasies, and how to explore dom/sub dynamics. For more information about Justine Cross, visit: losangelesdominatrix.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I am answering all of your pressing calls from the Sex with Emily hotline! We get into some great topics like how to start enjoying receiving oral sex, ways to spice up your honeymoon sex without actual penetration, and what to do if you aren’t getting as wet as you used to during sex. Plus, new methods for giving oral sex to prevent discomfort and how to decide if it’s worth staying in your relationship after seven years (and three children). You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Massage Candles at Good Vibrations b-Vibe Beginner Anal Kit  Fin by Dame System Jo Lubricants Bellesa The Netflix of Porn Audio Erotica: Quinn Yes, No, Maybe List For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s part two with one of the world’s most sought-after dating and relationship experts, Matthew Hussey. We continue the conversation and dive into how to build chemistry (and how that differs from connection), signs that someone is actually invested in you, ways to foster attraction without losing a sense of yourself, and the drawbacks of what Matthew calls ‘the one day wager.’ We also discuss the importance of consistency in your actions and words, the difference between healthy romance and love bombing, common red flags (and why they so often get ignored), when you should first sleep with someone, and whether or not Matthew Hussey believes in ‘the one.’ Missed part one of my interview with Matthew? Listen to it here. For more Matthew Hussey visit MHChallenge.com Matthew's 9 Texts YouTube Instagram Twitter For more information about or to purchase the products mentioned in this podcast, click below: Foria: Premium CBD Products Magic Wand: The World's Best Selling Massage Wand b-Vibe: Premium anal play products for next-level butt-gasms.   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this show, I’m joined by relationship and life coach, author, and YouTube personality Matthew Hussey. We discuss whether or not “casual dating” actually exists, why rejection is actually a GOOD thing, how dating apps have changed the dating world (and how to actually meet people IRL), and the root cause of problematic dating patterns. Plus, Matthew shares his exclusive three layers of confidence and tools to build your self-esteem. After all, who doesn’t find confidence in hot AF? We also talk about how we can use relationships to learn about ourselves, why it's important to feel embodied while dating, how much you should invest in a potential partner, why falling in love quickly can be a red flag, and the importance of therapy and mentorship. P.S.Make sure you subscribe to hear Friday’s part two of this interview. Things get even juicier... For more Matthew Hussey visit matthewhussey.com howtogettheguy.com YouTube Instagram Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I’m joined by psychological astrologer and returning guest Dr. Jennifer Freed. We answer your questions on how to spot a sensual lover, useful tools for addressing low libido, how to pursue a threesome or open relationship, how to easily create intimacy in a relationship, what your Zodiac signs say (or don’t say) about compatibility with your partner, what to do if your hookup buddy wants a relationship (but you don’t), and the mind-blowing effects of EMDR therapy. We also share our top methods to build erotic tension and why focusing too much on your partner’s desire can hold you back in the bedroom. As an added bonus, we walk through ways to reach your ‘power yes’ in sex, the effects of toxic masculinity, and how to communicate as an invitation—not a confrontation. Show Notes: Episode: Sex Up Your Love Language EMDRIA.org: Resources for EMDR therapy  Yes, No, Maybe List For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever had sex with an ex? Or tried to be friends with your ex? On today’s show, I am joined by MY real-life ex-boyfriend and opening up about our past, including our favorite (sexual) memories. We discuss the evolution of our relationship from falling in love, to why we broke up (“the ass is always greener”). For the first time, we talk about what we both learned from the relationship and our regrets. We share practical advice for how to become friends with your ex based on our experience. Hint: you have to want the same thing. Plus, I answer your questions! I discuss ways to hook up and date someone new after a breakup, tools to initiate a difficult conversation, and how to heal insecurities and heartache after separating from your partner. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone wants to feel loved. But what if there was a way to give love, that could also lead to hotter, more connected sex? On today’s show, I share how to crack the code on the 5 Love languages to amp up the connection in all of your important relationships. Plus, I answer your questions like: what to do if you have a different love language than your partner (which is more common than you think), how to show love in a long distance relationship and specific ways to express yourself sexually based on you and your partner’s love languages. Then I answer your questions about what to do if you accidentally give your partner feedback on his penis when he didn’t ask and what to do when you are no longer sexually attracted to your girlfriend. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: More Information on The Love Languages Je Joue Mimi Soft  Bellesa  Yes No Maybe List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I’m throwing it back to a question on everyone’s mind: how to have multiple orgasms. Yes, it is possible! I share in-depth tips for how you can prep your body and mind to make this goal a reality. Plus, I discuss how to make initiating sex an equal playing field while in a dom/sub relationship, ways to transition your sexting relationship into real life, what to do after getting caught having sex in public (by your parents!) and how to get your needs met when your partner is sexually selfish. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Show Notes: Magic Wand Womanizer  Je Joue  Uma  Mimi  Ami kegel set  Dame Kip B-vibe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s Best of episode, I’m explaining how to spot red flags when you’re dating someone new, healthy ways to address conflict, and actionable tips to amp up a low sex drive. I also take your calls about getting past jealousy in an open relationship, what to do when you want more sex than your partner, and how squirting can happen even without an orgasm. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Show Notes: Episode Bedroom Goals & Relationship Roles with Lisa Bilyeu For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s Ask Emily show, I answer your sex and relationship questions. I cover what to do if you’re questioning your sexuality while married with kids, how to initiate your first threesome, when (if ever) you should tell your partner how many people you’ve slept with, and ways to get more comfortable while giving oral sex. I also talk about what to do if the porn you watch makes you feel guilty, how to approach exploring a fetish without shame, what to do if you disagree with your partner about having another child and what it means when you cry after sex. Show Notes: Yes No Maybe List Fetlife #Open Feeld   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s throwback show, I’m discussing the ins and outs of a fantasy that has become a lot more popular: cuckolding or “hot wifery”. I share tips to bring up your fantasy with your partner, why people enjoy it, how you can navigate FFM and MMF threesomes, and what to consider before you dive into your next sexual fantasy. I also take your calls and answer questions like how to get over the jitters when you want to go to the strip club with your husband for the first time, and what to do when your partner has extreme separation anxiety when you leave town and why writing your own erotica can be incredibly hot (and even help with initiating sex). For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men during quarantine, how to make the post-pandemic “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what. Find Serena here: serenakerrigan.com Instagram Facebook Twitter For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party, and how porn has shaped her sex life on and off-screen. We also answer your questions like: is porn scripted or spontaneous and is it normal to get jealous when your partner watches porn?   Find Jacky St. James here: jackystjames.com Instagram Twitter Find Ana Foxxx here: OnlyFans Instagram Twitter   Show Notes: Bellesa  Erika Lust For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We get into how to handle it when your partner wants to have sex with someone else and stay in your relationship, what it means when you fantasize about your ex, how soon is too soon to start dating someone new after a breakup, and ways to avoid ghosting. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you!   Show notes: Yes No Maybe List Pleasure Planner Episode: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Episode: Am I Normal w/ Dr. Maria Uloko For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the #1, most-common fantasy: threesomes. I explore why threesomes can be hot and lay out some ground rules for making a threesome work. We talk about everything you should discuss with your partner before adding a third into the mix and the importance of aftercare (what happens after your threesome). I also share my personal threesome experiences, both the satisfying one and the one that didn’t go as planned. I describe what steps you can take to try and maximize everyone’s pleasure while indulging in this fantasy. Plus, I answer your questions about the hottest moves to try when penetration is off the table, what to do when you’ve gotten too involved with your neighbor’s 19-year-old son, and how to get the most out of masturbation using CBD, ethical porn, and fantasy. Show Notes: FetLife Feeld #open For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Who is ready for a hotter, wetter summer? Today, I’m joined by squirting expert, author, and educator Deborah Sundahl, a pioneer in female ejaculation and G-spot (or g-area) anatomy. Deborah and I discuss the difference between squirting and having an orgasm, a step-by-step guide to tapping into your squirting potential, where the G-spot (aka female prostate) is located and how to find it, and the best sex position to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm. We answer your top questions about how to squirt and what ejaculate consists of, and the best ways to make sure you and your partner can relax and experience all the pleasure and release of a full-body orgasm. Find Deborah Sundahl here: https://deborahsundahl.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Summer is heating up and I’m here to make sure your sex life follows suit. In this episode, I’m sharing ideas on how to experiment with hot (and cold) sensation play, the perks of hotel sex, and my personal sex toy picks for travel. Can’t get away this year? No worries, I’ve got sex tips for bringing the vacation into your bedroom. I also answer your questions, like how to set boundaries for your bachelor/bachelorette parties, where to (safely) have sex in public, how to navigate a friends-with-benefits relationship, and what to do with penis anxiety if your partner plays with a toy bigger than you. Show Notes: Yes No Maybe List Je Joue Mimi Soft Vibrator Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator Emily’s Vesper Vibrating Necklace Je Joue Mio Penis Ring b-Vibe System Jo Lubricants Foria: Premium CBD Products Dame Hands-Free Eva Dame Finger Vibe  Episode: Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex w/ Dr. Ian Kerner Bellesa Ethical Porn Feeld Dating FetLife #Open For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s porn preferences look nothing like you, how to be dominant in the bedroom and toy recs to amplify oral sex on a vulva.   Show Notes: Bellesa - Ethical Porn Yes No Maybe List Je Joue Uma G-Spot Vibrator Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator Glass Dildos at Good Vibrations For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I’m taking more of your most pressing questions from the Sex With Emily hotline. We’re covering what to do if you can’t stop fantasizing about women (but you’re in a healthy relationship with a man), if your birth control is tanking your sex drive, why bisexual men are often shamed, how to bring back intimacy after a baby, and what to do if your partner won’t share their sexual desires. Inspired to ask for my opinion? Call and leave a voicemail with your question! You can reach me at 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739). Can’t wait to hear from you! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I am joined by activist, author, and queer commentator Jeffrey Marsh to discuss all things gender. Regardless of how you identify, Jeffrey’s radical self-acceptance will help you to gain a new perspective, have a different understanding of yourself and allow you to stop any negative self-talk. Jeffrey breaks down the difference between confidence self-acceptance, how fearlessly demanding respect from others frees you up to fully be yourself, and their experience as the first openly non-binary person on television. We share the basics of gender pronouns, the difference between being trans and non-binary, how gender differs from sexual orientation, and how parents can support their children regardless of their identity. We also dive into Jeffrey’s book How to Be You, what happens during meditation and self-care journeys, and why learning to ask for what you need is crucial for healthy relationships. For more information about Jeffrey Marsh (they/them), visit: http://jeffreymarsh.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s Best of episode, I am joined by renowned biological anthropologist and author of Anatomy of Love, Dr. Helen Fisher. We discuss whether love at first sight is possible, how our personality traits shape our attraction to others and the way our biology influences who we love. We dive into the parts of your brain responsible for your sex drive, romantic love, and deep attachment. Dr. Fisher also shares findings from studies she has done with Match to answer the question: why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? We also explore the best age to marry, why orgasms create connection, the importance of space in a relationship and why casual sex is not really so casual (hint: catching feelings is real). You can take Dr. Fisher’s personality test to learn about how your personality impacts who you love and how you bond. Take Dr. Fisher’s Personality Test here: https://theanatomyoflove.com/relationship-quizzes/helen-fishers-personality-test/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it!  Your questions include: what to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible. You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (559-825-5739).   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com   Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe List https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Article: How To Have Sex in a Full House https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-have-sex-when-youre-in-a-full-house/ Logan Ury Episode: https://sexwithemily.com/how-to-not-die-alone-w-logan-ury/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Social media is becoming the “third'' partner in so many of our relationships, but it’s not the threesome most of us are craving. Sure, it’s a great way to connect, but it can take a major toll on our sex lives. Today’s episode gets into the good, bad, and questionable impacts of social media. I answer your top questions like, what does it mean if my partner follows a bunch of Instagram models? If my partner is paying for Only Fans, does it count as cheating? And is it okay to check my partner's phone? (We surveyed our listeners and you might be surprised how many of you have snooped.) Also, how does all the endless scrolling affect your confidence? I offer advice on how to manage the relationship with your phone, so you can stop the “compare and despair” mindset and build stronger relationships with yourself and others. A special thanks to our interns, Maria and Erica, who helped produce this episode. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares the ways that sex is similar to meditation, the importance of following your intuition, how to foster true positive change, and the best ways to maintain a gratitude practice. For more information about Light Watkins, visit: https://www.lightwatkins.com/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s show, I’m honoring a month of self-love by giving you a brief history of the celebration (no, I didn’t make it up), the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys for bringing you pleasure all year long. Plus, I’m answering your questions like what to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator, why masturbation may be your key to success if you keep orgasm blocking yourself in the bedroom, signs that you’re masturbating too much and how to get rid of religious shame surrounding masturbation.   Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/   The Psychology and Shame of Masturbation: https://sexwithemily.com/psychology-and-shame-of-masturbation/   Je Joue Mimi Clitoral Vibe, G-Spot Vibe, Bullet Vibe, & Mio Penis Ring: http://www.sexwithemily.com/jejoue   Magic Wand: http://bit.ly/2UqVf38   Tenga Egg Masturbators: http://bit.ly/2hNwnDe   Foria Lube: https://bit.ly/3rJFggP     For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit https://sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Nikki Glaser, comedian, and host of The Nikki Glaser Podcast. We discuss how to take oral sex to the next level, why a great orgasm can lead to an intense connection, and the power of tapping into a person’s “energy” on a date. Nikki also shares her go-to sex toys, favorite types of porn, experience with squirting, and personal journey with mental health and body acceptance. We also dive into the hidden pleasure of canceled plans, why feeling horny can be like being drunk, and why your flaws DON’T make you a bad person. Show Notes: Pat Allen - Getting To I Do Kink.com Bellesa For more information about Nikki Glaser, visit: nikkiglaser.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date ritual, and ideas for being with a new partner. We also answer your questions about what to do if you feel insecure about the number of people you have slept with, how to increase emotional intimacy in the bedroom and what to do if you feel you’re in a “dry spell.” Show Notes: Yes No Maybe List For more information about Dr. Megan Stubbs, visit: sexologistmegan.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m joined by board-certified urologist Dr. Edward Karpman to talk about virtually every penis topic there is and explore how overcoming your penis challenges can boost your sex life. He even shares some cautionary tales about penis fractures when your partner is on top. We discuss the most common penis challenges (low testosterone, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction) and ways to work through them, how to get your brain on board when you’re dealing with performance anxiety, and how a penis implant actually works. Dr. Karpman also breaks down the pivotal role testosterone plays in your sex life, how his patients think about their penis size and the benefits and drawbacks of pills that treat erectile dysfunction. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I’m joined by the fabulous and entertaining hosts of The LadyGang; Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jac Vanek. We set intentions together and give recipes for feeling sexy after the pandemic, ways to give a killer bj (without it feeling like well, a job), and the different kinds of desire. Plus, I share the best ways to clean your sex toys, my most common listener questions, and what happens when TSA pulls your bag full of vibrators. I also answer your questions about alleviating pain during sex, how to let your partner know you have been faking your orgasms, and what’s actually happening when you squirt. Show Notes: UVee Home Play Strokers Magic Wand System Jo Flavored Lube For more information about LadyGang, visit: theladygang.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Anal sex isn’t as taboo as it once was but many people are still too shy to explore it. Today, I’m talking with nationally renowned anal surgeon and expert Dr. Evan Goldstein, about all things anal. From how to clean up before backdoor play (did you know you can be too clean?), to tips to enhance pleasure and the wide variety of things to try while you’re back there, we’ve got you covered. I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips Dr. Evan gives tips on how to relax, toys that can help, and which lubes are best for every act imaginable. We also break down lube shooters, how to minimize the risk of exposing yourself to STIs and what to consider whether you’re a top or a bottom. for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners.   For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s Best Of roundup, I break down attitudes about oral sex, the oral double standard, the evolutionary significance of oral sex, how to overcome vibrator intimidation, tips for alleviating delayed ejaculation, ways to combat sexual insecurities, and what to do when you’ve given up on having an orgasm (hint: don’t give up). I also discuss how to address mismatched libidos in a relationship, tips for getting ready for anal play, how feeling pressure to initiate and perform can affect the quality of your sex life, and the best ways to approach potential partners. Show notes: FAQ: How Can I Get Better at Oral Sex? 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Renowned clinical sex therapist and best-selling author, Ian Kerner Ph.D. joins me today to talk about sex scripts, why fantasies are important for a relationship, the dynamics of kink, porn as “homework” and how to get into a flow state during sex. Dr. Kerner is the author of the legendary book She Comes First, “the thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman” and he just released a new book So, Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. We cover a lot in this interview including what has changed in his last 20+ years as a practicing sex therapist. Hint: erectile dysfunction in younger men is real. Dr. Kerner (“the man who made oral sex into an art form”) walks us through his latest book and explains how you can decode and rewrite your relationship’s sex script and bring your erotic self into the bedroom to transform your sex life. We discuss the importance of psychological arousal, what happens to your body during the honeymoon phase, when to challenge the monogamy script, what to do when there is a “desire discrepancy” in a relationship and so much more. “When it comes to sex and relationship problems, many of us are leading lives of quiet desperation. Sometimes you can be lying in bed next to someone and feel a million miles apart. Talking about sex and relationships is hard, but self-silencing can be even harder in the long run.” – Dr. Kerner Show Notes: Ian's New Book: So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex Getting Cliterate w/ Dr. Ian Kerner Rosemary Basson Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. The Kinsey Institute For more information about Ian Kerner, visit: IanKerner.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy 4/20! I’m joined by badass medicine woman, spiritual mentor, and rap priestess Lizzy Jeff to break down how cannabis can elevate your bedroom experiences. We discuss how to use THC and CBD for sex, the importance of getting high with intention, the necessity for healing sexual experiences, and why high sex is hot AF. We also share how to find the best strains and doses for users of all experience levels, the importance of quality cannabis, our OWN relationships to weed+sex, and how “sex magick” can transform your life. Plus, we answer your questions about whether or not marijuana can improve orgasms, cottonmouth (not fun for oral), and how to shift your energy out of your head and into your body. For more information about Lizzy Jeff, visit: lizzyjeff.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How well do you know the vulva and vagina? In this episode, I’m joined by four guests to break down all things V. We’re talking about how to take care of your vulva, the importance of strengthening your pelvic floor, WTF is up with menopause, and so much more. My first guest is OB/GYN, author of the She-Ology book series, and an expert in all things women’s sexual health, Dr. Sherry Ross. She shares the benefits of getting to know your (or your partner’s) vulva, the relationship between insecurity and porn, solutions for painful sex, and of course, squirting. Next, we have MaryEllen Reider, from Yarlap, who joins me to talk about the importance of the pelvic floor muscles. Did you know that stronger pelvic floor muscles can make stronger orgasms? It’s true! Finally, the founder of Tabu, Natalie Waltz, and her mother, Ouhoud Dabbas help me demystify menopause and discuss how masturbation can help increase your libido. For more information about Dr. Sherry, visit: drsherry.com For more information about MaryEllen Reider & Yarlap, visit: yarlap.com For more information about Natalie Waltz & Ouhoud Dabbas, visit: heytabu.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The brain is the largest and most important sex organ. So on today’s Best Of, I’m joined by one of the world experts on optimal brain performance, Jim Kwik. We talk about how to sharpen and focus your memory (no more forgetting your anniversary), specific steps to activate a healthy brain, and the best foods to give your brain a boost. You’ll be able to follow along as we walk through very specific, impactful, and easy to learn exercises you can use right away –– because a big, healthy brain is always sexy. For more on Jim Kwik visit jimkwik.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner. We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention, what to know about how your personal grooming can impact transmission and a surprising discovery about The Bachelor’s casting process. Finally, we answer your questions about transmission through oral sex, when it’s possible to get intimate without a condom and why having an STI isn’t a death sentence for your relationships. Let’s ditch the shame and bring on the sex. For more information about Dr. Ina Park, visit: inapark.net For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After a year of social distancing, many of us have forgotten how to flirt and date IRL. The good news: with a little practice, you’ll be stronger and sexier than ever before. In this episode, I cover the lessons we’ve learned from a year of isolation and digital dating and I also take a look at what might be in store for us in the year ahead. I walk you through how to regain confidence, uplevel your flirting skills, and important questions to ask yourself before jumping back out there. I also answer questions about what to know when considering a “friend with benefits” arrangement, how to prepare for sex after a dry spell, getting back with an ex, and dating post-divorce. Show Notes: Love Language quiz For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the euphoric bliss from an orgasm was captured in other moments of your daily life? Whether you’re eating a meal or spending time outside, prioritizing sensuality helps you start to experience what today’s guests like to call “orgasmic living.” I’m joined by the creators of Afrosexology, Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo who join me to discuss the power of this life-changing concept. Their mission is to empower, educate and explore Black sexuality and self-improvement through sexual liberation. We discuss their journey into creating Afrosexology, the importance of embodiment, the power of centering pleasure and being intentional in the present moment. We also demystify different aspects of kink, polyamory, and compersion, so that you can see if any of these are things you’d want to add to your sex life. Plus, we answer your questions about prioritizing your pleasure as much as your partner’s and feeling more connected during and after sexual experiences. For more information about Dalychia Saah & Rafaella Fiallo , visit: afrosexology.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million times: there should be a bottle of lube (or more) on every nightstand. I mean, seriously just a few drops can transform your sex and amplify the amount of pleasure. But, it can be difficult to know what kind of lube is best suited for you and your needs. On today’s show, I break down the best lubes for masturbation, anal, penetrative, and oral sex. I share the results of our Better Sex Survey sponsored by Pjur Lube. I cover products that are safe for a vagina’s PH and some household items that are better kept in the kitchen than inside of you. I also discuss what your wetness really means, the transformation lube can have with discomfort during sex, how sex increases intimacy between you and your partner, and how penis size can change with an erection. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ahh, the honeymoon phase. You know that euphoric period of time at the beginning of a relationship where your partner seems perfect and you can’t keep your hands off one another? Fast forward a few months (or sometimes years) and that initial spark begins to fade and those feel-good chemicals start to wear off. What then? Today, I share why the honeymoon phase is so intoxicating, why our feelings change over time, and how to strengthen your relationship so that it survives the initial fading of happy hormones. I answer your questions about what to do when your partner asks you to be in a threesome but it’s not your fantasy, how to communicate to your partner that their Instagram habits make you uncomfortable, and what to do when you feel like you have become more friends than lovers with your significant other. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark’ may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you’re not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex can get stale but today I focus on ways to keep it fresh. In this Best Of episode, I share some sex hacks that bring back spontaneity in easy and creative ways. I share new uses for pillows, ideas for games you can play anywhere, and tricks to make doggy-style even better. I answer your questions about how to know if you should end a long-distance relationship, why prostate orgasms feel so good, and what to do if your partner’s porn habits lead to problems in the bedroom. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s your biggest fantasy? It might be watching your partner with someone else, group sex, or sex in a public place. All answers are welcome because there’s no shame in your fantasy game! In this episode, I discuss the psychology behind your fantasies, how to bring them up with a partner and why having a rich fantasy life is an important part of your overall sexual health. Then I reveal the top fantasies you shared with me on Instagram. I also answer your questions including, what to do if you fantasize about a best friend, how to be a third in a threesome, and explore latex, panty, and foot fetishes. Show Notes: Podcast with Justin Lehmiller Dating apps: Craigslist, Feeld, OkCupid, FetLife, Adult Friend Finder, #Open Yes, No, Maybe List Tips For Better Communication Free Guide For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How have you been feeding your skin hunger? Quarantine has caused many of us to experience a “starvation diet” of physical touch and now it’s to feast. The lack of physical touch can exacerbate anxiety or depression, on today’s show I’ll share how you can find more touch and intimacy in your daily life. I also answer questions about how to get back out there and date while newly sober, how to bring the excitement back in a sexless relationship, and how to introduce new techniques (and toys) into the bedroom. Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe list Pleasure Planner Frequently Asked Sex Questions Womanizer For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if being happy was a moral obligation, like voting and recycling? Would you take steps to be happier? Today, I’m joined by brain health expert, and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Daniel Amen to talk about how our thinking patterns shape our lives in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss the ways stress affects your sexual performance, give tips to combat your automatic negative thoughts (ANTS), and discuss his new book Your Brain is Always Listening. We answer a question from a habitual cheater on how to break the cycle and discuss how Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) can get in the way of your orgasm. I also answer your Rapid Fire questions covering everything from tips for hotter shower sex to bring up your kink to a partner. Show notes: Find out which dragons you have here: KnowYourDragons.com Order Dr. Amen’s latest book Your Brain Is Always Listening here: YourBrainIsAlwaysListening.com For more information about Dr. Daniel Amen, visit: danielamenmd.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your masturbation class is in session. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the health benefits of self-pleasure and how it helps you not only reduce stress but elevate your mood. It's also a gateway to understanding your body, boosting your self-esteem, and giving you some serious pleasure. I answer your questions about how to try masturbation when you never have, which sex toys to use, and the magic of mutual masturbation. I get into the tricky relationship between shame and fantasy and discuss how often you should masturbate in a relationship—it’s probably more than you think! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Sex With Emily best of, I’m joined by sex and intimacy coach John Wineland to discuss the driving force behind attraction, sexual connection, and desire. We discuss the polarity of masculine and feminine energy, what symbolic aspects of anal make it so hot, how to build attraction from the inside out, and give tools to enhance connection. We also get into your questions like why the urge to have an affair can be so strong, how to know if there is enough sexual chemistry to pursue a second date, and what to do to bring sex back into your long-term relationship. For more information about John Wineland, visit: johnwineland.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Setting boundaries within your relationships is not only necessary—it’s hot AF. In today’s episode, psychological astrologer, therapist, and sex educator Dr. Jennifer Freed joins me to discuss how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. We discuss the definition and different types of boundaries (including sexual and financial), what makes them important, how they affect our sex life, and why they might be difficult for some folks to create.We also dive into your email questions like how to avoid drama when you’re the third in a threesome relationship, how to let someone know you’re not into them without ghosting, if talking to escorts is considered cheating, and what to do if your partner is more interested in meeting their sexual desires than yours.For more information about Dr. Jennifer Freed, visit: jenniferfreed.comFor even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you remember your first time? It could be your first date, first threesome, first orgasm, or your first time experimenting with a new position. No matter what it is, any “first” experience can feel intimidating, but I’m here to help eliminate any fear that might be holding you back. I answer questions about how to navigate first-time experiences: having sex, getting on a dating app, performing oral sex, trying anal play, and other adventures. Whether it’s your first time or you want to expand your sexual repertoire, this episode will encourage you to try something new and sexy. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever want to know what really goes down in your girlfriend’s group chat? Today you’ll find out when I’m joined by Chelsea, Glynn, and Sade, the hosts of the popular much talked about Black Girls Texting. We explore sex dreams, what it’s like to have a threesome with your best friend, and the art of sending nudes. We answer questions and discuss cultural stereotypes, manscaping, pre-gaming sex, and the power of setting sexual intentions. For more information about Black Girls Texting (Chelsea, Glynn, Sade), visit: blackgirlstexting.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Breakups! They can be painful. Losing a partner can feel like a mini-death, especially if you’ve spent time planning a future together. In this episode, I give my top tips for how to cope with a breakup and reground yourself. If you are struggling to move on after a breakup, following even one of these steps will help you recover. I also answer your questions with tips for giving better oral sex, sexy gift recommendations for long-distance relationships, and communication tools for expressing your emotional and sexual needs. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder why you’re not having more sex? Well, wonder no more. This episode identifies the 6 most common roadblocks to sex. Whether you’re too stressed to get too turned on or too self-conscious to get naked, we all have barriers that hold us back from sex and pleasure. In this episode, I’m sharing specific tips so you can overcome the most common sexual barriers. I also answer your questions including what to do if your wetness level is inconsistent during sex, the relationship between OnlyFans and cheating, how to handle a jealous partner, and what to do if your partner has a fetish but lockdown has made it more challenging. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works and looking for sex after a life of not having any, each of these people has taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. I also answer questions about what to do if your boyfriend won’t communicate openly with you about your sex life, how to be more confident rocking the cowgirl position, and what to do if mismatched libidos are making you feel insecure in your relationship. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

V-Day is right around the corner! Whether you’re living your best single life or you have a special someone, I want to set you up to have a sexy, love-filled day. In this episode, I’m sharing some of my hot tips for creating the ideal date night—regardless of who it’s with. I cover everything from toy recommendations to thoughtful personal gifts you can give yourself or a loved one. I also answer questions about how to prep for anal sex, how to get back into dating in your 40s, and why wetness doesn’t always equal arousal. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our new Pleasure planner with my teammate Amanda, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspiration to create your own sex and love goals, download our free Pleasure Planner sexwithemily.com/downloads For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy. I also answer questions about what to do when you’re ghosted after a first date, how to get more foreplay when your partner just wants to dive right into sex, and lots of Rapid Fire questions. If you’d like to ask me a question about sex or relationships, email me at feedback@sexwithemily.com. For more information about Joanna Angel, visit: joannaangel.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, I’m throwing it back to one of my most favored episodes and giving you a crash course in all things anal, the not-so-surprising sex trend of the decade. I also give my some tips on going deeper into tantric sex, why it’s best not to share your sex number with your partner, and how Kegel exercises affect your penis. Plus, I discuss the age-old debate of love vs. lust, and how to know the difference. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You know how I’m always recommending therapy to callers? Well, today I’m joined by my therapist, Dr. Anadel Barbour. She is a licensed EMDR, marriage and family therapist and she has a Ph.D. in human sexuality. We talk about coping with a partner’s anxiety, fantasizing about your ex, and how to deal when your partner leaves you for another woman. I answer your calls about finding a quality friend with benefits and what to do if porn is impacting your sex with a partner. We end with my new Rapid Fire Segment where I answer as many of your questions as possible. Did I answer yours? Tune in to find out. Don’t forget to send in your questions! Email me at feedback@sexwithemily.com and follow me on Instagram @SexwithEmily. For more information about Dr. Anadel Barbour, visit: anadelbarbour.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all felt the ache of jealousy creeping into our relationships—but where does it come from and how can you handle it so it doesn’t destroy your relationship? A little bit of jealousy is normal, but when it turns into anger and possessiveness, you have to learn to acknowledge and work with it. Today, I’m explaining how jealousy works, what you can learn from it, and how to deal with the insecurities so it doesn’t corrode your relationships. I’m also answering questions about how to help your partner out of their sexual shell, dating after divorce, how often you can have anal sex, and so much more. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m joined by the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sophia and Sistine Stallone. Find out what really happens on the dating apps, how to spot red flags, and why a bad first kiss doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker. I encourage them to make time for masturbation and we discuss if watching porn is considered cheating. I take your calls and answer a bunch of your Instagram questions in our new Rapid Fire segment. I cover prostate play, adult virginity, partner toys, and what to do when your partner takes too long to orgasm. For more information about Sophia & Sistine Stallone, visit: Unwaxed Podcast For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we’re talking about my second-favorite bedroom activity: sleep. I’m putting on my PJs, setting my phone to ‘Do Not Disturb’, and sitting down with sleep expert Dr. Michael Breus. He tells me how to figure out what kind of sleeper you are, what that says about your sex drive, and how you can take advantage of your body’s natural rhythm to optimize your day. We also take calls helping people figure out their sleep schedule, what medications work best for sleep, and best practices to deal with sleep apnea. After all, better sleep=better sex, so it’s something we should ALL prioritize. For more information about Dr. Michael Breus, visit: thesleepdoctor.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You don’t know what you don’t know, especially when it comes to sex. I get so many questions from my listeners in their 20s, so I thought it’d be fun to showcase some of their insightful questions in one podcast, specifically the ones I wish I knew at their age. Anal sex, cheating, miscommunication in the bedroom, pain during sex, moving past shame, advice for starting an open relationship, and so much more all in this episode! For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation. She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop labeling everything as ‘bad’ or ‘good’ and simply let things be what they are. It’s 2021—and time to meditate, masturbate, and manifest for a better year. For more information about Tal Rabinowitz, visit: denanywhere.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let’s take off the metaphorical clothes and reveal our authentic selves, people. Today, we’re putting the spotlight on our deepest insecurities so we fully participate in loving ourselves. Whether you’re worried about your weight or your penis, the more we try to hide our fears, the bigger they get. To make it easier for you to share YOUR fears, my team gets real and lays it all out in the open. Turns out, a lot of us are fighting the same demons. We talk about our journeys with body image, weight, balding, period sex, and more. Then, I walk through how to work on each unique insecurity so you can learn to like (and maybe even love) those things about yourself. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

2020 might not have been our sexiest year, but today’s episode will set you up for 12 months of sex-cess. Let’s say goodbye to the year of breakups and endless “doomsterbating” and hello to courtship, communication, and more orgasms. Hear my sex and love predictions for 2021 and a step-by-step guide to plan a healthier year ahead. I break down how to create intentions that will work all year long. I love answering as many of your questions as possible, so let me know what you think about our new Rapid Fire segment. Let’s ring in this new year with a bang. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we’re throwing it back to my interview with Nikki Boyer, host of the limited podcast series “Dying for Sex.” We’re talking about how you can explore and discover new pleasure even when things seem grim. She tells me how during times of uncertainty, a sexual awakening can do wonders for your self-esteem. While you can’t really go out and date right now, get inspired to open your mind to new sexual possibilities. Plus, I answer your questions about self-discovery, keeping a long-distance relationship alive, and using lube vs lotion. For more information about Nikki Boyer, visit: dyingforsexpodcast.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, comedian Adam Ferrara shares how to completely overhaul communication in a long-term relationship. He shares his coping strategies for ADD, why worry isn’t a “responsibility” and blows up the common belief around achievements making us happy (hint: it doesn’t). We also help a caller figure out how to talk to her boyfriend about their passionless sex life—with the right approach, it’s nearly always possible to bring back the magic. For more information about Adam Ferrara, visit: adamferrara.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Content Warning: This episode mentions abuse, rape, and murder. Tana Amen is the VP of Amen Clinics and New York Times best-selling author whose latest book “The Relentless Courage Of A Scared Child” explores how she overcame perfectionism, dating the wrong people, an eating disorder, and many incidences of childhood trauma. Tana shares how revealing her long-hidden secrets freed her up to be her authentic self. For more information about Tana Amen, visit: https://tanaamen.com/ For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

‘Tis the season of giving but what if you don’t know how to receive? Receiving can be difficult for many, especially with gifts of oral pleasure. If you have trouble relaxing while someone goes down on you, you’re not alone. To help ease any “receiving anxiety,” I walk you through specific steps you can take to fully enjoy all the gifts coming down your chimney tonight. We also talk to a caller who is more experienced than her partner. Finally, we go over some of the best gifts that our callers have ever received. Surprisingly, they aren’t all pleasure related. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, I am joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Psychology who’s on a mission to demystify and dismantle the toxic influence of narcissism on all of our lives.We talk about all things narcissism, including the telltale signs of a narcissistic personality, what to do if you suspect your partner may be one, and how to break the cycle if you keep finding yourself attracting individuals with this personality. Plus, she details manipulation tactics used by narcissists (including the infamous Jeffrey Epstein) and explains popular buzzwords like ‘love-bombing’ and ‘trauma bonding.’For more information about Dr. Ramani, visit: doctor-ramani.comFor even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I am joined by Alex Cooper from the Call Her Daddy podcast. Alex shares the details of her sexual journey from boring sex in high school to the evolved sex she’s having now. We explore what she’s learned from dating the wrong guys and compare notes about how hosting a podcast affects our lives. We also get into Alex’s masturbation routine, cheating, her disastrous first anal experience, and she gets specific on why her new partner is so good at giving oral. Check out Alex Cooper's podcast Call Her Daddy For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Looking for a great sex toy for the holidays? I got you.Whether you’re buying your first toy, looking to explore more erogenous zones (there are SOOO many) or want to know how to introduce a toy in the bedroom, this episode will help with the next step on your way to more pleasure.I get, it can be overwhelming, so hear my recommendations to make sure you find the vibe for you.Be sure you check out our 2020 gift guide at sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all know someone who’s cheated or we’ve cheated ourselves but why do we do it? Is it really about sex or are there other things at play? Therapist and psychological astrologer, Dr. Jennifer Freed, and I discuss the ways we experience betrayal and how to move past it. Listen to learn how to break the habit of dating the wrong people and avoiding those pesky attachment issues. Trigger warning: This episode references sexual abuse. For more information about Jen Freed, visit: jenniferfreed.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Who doesn’t love a success story? In today’s episode, a few return callers share the steps they took to take their sex life to the next level. If you want your partner to be more dominant, use toys with more ease or hear an efficient way to talk to your teen about sex, these SWE listeners made it happen. Since sexual desires are constantly changing, never stop communicating, exploring, and prioritizing pleasure. For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You know how I always say “research is me-search”? My guest, psychiatrist and psychedelics expert Dr. Will Siu, shares how he reframed his religious upbringing, released anger and went even deeper with therapeutic psychedelics. Will also shares how to get past some common insecurities—like penis size. For more information about Will Siu, visit: WillSiuMD.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I made a MasterClass! I am so honored for the opportunity to partner with MasterClass on this career milestone. Go behind the scenes into how I created the class and funneled decades of my work into simple steps you can take today to release all the shame, communicate your needs, and prioritize your pleasure. We cover why your sex life gets better the more you talk about it, and I reveal my sexual superpowers. Watch my class now on MasterClass.com/emilymorse For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Phil with a special appearance from his wife Robin McGraw. We talk about his new show That Animal Rescue Show, tips for dealing with isolation, and how his daytime television show is operating under social distancing limitations. Plus, together they give their advice on how to make relationships stronger based on their almost 50 years together! Before that, we’re talking all about breakups: when to know if it’s time to call it quits, how to move on from an ex, how you can overcome feelings of insecurity, and how to spot red flags. Plus, some quick lube tips for anyone looking to slip it in. For more information about Dr. Phil, visit: drphil.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.