255 - How Your Inner Child Shows Up in Love: The Wounds That Decide Who You Choose w/ Galit Atlas
255 - How Your Inner Child Shows Up in Love: The Wounds That Decide Who You Choose w/ Galit Atlas  
Podcast: Adult Child
Published On: Wed Nov 04 2026
Description: Everything that helped you survive childhood costs you something as an adult. Love is usually where you pay.Dr. Galit Atlas is a psychoanalyst, an NYU faculty member, and author of Emotional Inheritance and her new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love, and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy. As a kid, her closest friend was her diary, because it would never hurt her, disappoint her, or leave. This is a conversation about the six wounded inner children we carry into adulthood, and why love is where they show up the loudest.✨ What this episode explores▪️ Choosing the Safe, Empty Partner - Why the frightened child often avoids repeating chaos by choosing someone less available, and how that safety slowly turns into a relationship that feels empty.▪️ Parenting From Your Own Wounds - Why giving your kid the parent you wished you had can be a conversation with your own fantasy instead of your actual child, and what it looks like when a kid is asking for more structure.▪️ Leaving Volatile vs. Empty Relationships - Why both are hard to walk away from: in the volatile one you keep trying to convince them you’re good, and in the empty one you’re convinced you’re crazy for wanting more.▪️ Chosen Child vs. Golden Child - The difference between being picked to meet a parent’s emotional needs and being picked to make them look good, and why the threat for not delivering is usually louder than any praise.▪️ Meeting Your Needs in Secret - How guilty children learn to take care of themselves behind closed doors, like taking a nap and saying they were on a call, and why asking directly is the real work.🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:▪️ Ep 134 | Avoidant Attachment and Romantic Relationship Pitfalls for ACA’s with Dr. Sofya Vass▪️ Ep 252 | Toxic Guilt: Why You Feel Like You’re in Trouble When You Didn’t Do Anything Wrong▪️ Ep 227 | Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers: The Golden Child’s Grief w/ Taylor Pearl-----------------------⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection👉 theshitshow.mn.co🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATIONGet the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops.➡️ Join here💁‍♀️ SUPPORT THE POD☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat🛍️ Shop Shitshow Merch💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREAInstagram → @adultchildpodTikTok → @adultchildpodYouTube → @adultchildpodAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy