Baruch HaLevi opens this conversation with a statistic most listeners have never heard: every 13 minutes in America, a man dies by suicide, and men account for roughly 80% of all suicide deaths. For Baruch, this isn't abstract. He's lost family members to suicide across multiple generations, and he candidly shares that he himself came close to the same fate about a decade ago, during a period of profound identity loss after stepping away from 20 years as a rabbi. Grounded in the work of Holocaust survivor and psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, Baruch and Larry talk through what actually helps a man in genuine despair: finding a "why not," the specific reason to keep going, learning to sit with guilt without letting it curdle into shame, and the necessity of real, honest community instead of empty check-ins. Both men share their own history with suicidal crisis directly. If you or someone you love has ever been in a season that felt unbearable, this conversation offers a clear, compassionate way through it, but given the depth of what's discussed, please take care with how and when you engage with it.   Timeline Summary [1:24] Introducing the statistic behind Baruch's mission: a man dies by suicide every 13 minutes in America [2:41] Baruch shares that his father and grandmother both died by suicide, and that it's deeply personal to his work [4:50] Larry and Baruch each share their own history of suicidal crisis [7:07] Discovering Viktor Frankl's work as a turning point during his own darkest season [11:11] Rebuilding identity from the ground up after stepping away from a lifelong profession [12:22] A full introduction to Baruch: logotherapist, rabbi, author of "The Guy in the Glass" [13:40] The origin of the book's title, tied to a poem given to Baruch by his grandfather [16:21] Larry announces the first-ever Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15th [18:24] Baruch reflects on why his father reached the point he did [27:46] Introducing the concept of a "why not" as a foundation to keep living [29:49] Discussing how the idea of "finding your why" has become diluted in modern culture [31:19] Viktor Frankl's concept of self-transcendence: living for something beyond yourself [36:50] Larry announces a rare, small-group preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood [38:00] How genuine community changes the experience of shame and crisis [41:11] Why hiding in isolation during a hard season is actually a disservice to others [45:37] The loss of Baruch's closest friend, and the concept of "bearing witness" to another man's life [47:45] Unpacking the phrase "shame dies in safe conversations," and the difference between guilt and shame [49:53] Details on Baruch's book, his mission, and where to find his work [51:37] What Baruch would say directly to a man in a moment of crisis [53:24] Larry shares an important reframe he once heard from his own therapist   Five Key Takeaways Finding a concrete "why not," a specific reason not to give up, can be as important as finding a broader life purpose when someone is in genuine crisis. Guilt and shame are not the same thing. Guilt corrects behavior and can be redemptive; shame attacks a person's fundamental worth and has no redemptive value. Healthy communities make room for guilt and accountability without slipping into shame. Self-transcendence, living for something or someone beyond yourself, is described as the deepest source of meaning available to a person, more foundational than personal happiness or self-actualization alone. Withdrawing into isolation during a hard season doesn't protect the people who care about you, it deprives them of the chance to show up for you, and it removes the example of bravery that could help someone else going through the same thing. Genuine connection, being truly seen and known by another person, is one of the most protective forces against despair. Real community requires honesty, not surface-level check-ins that accept "I'm fine" as a real answer.   Links & Resources Baruch HaLevi: https://bhalevi.com The Guy in the Glass by Baruch HaLevi: https://bhalevi.com The Dad Edge Day at State Farm Stadium: https://thedadedge.com/nfl The Dad Edge Boardroom Mastermind: https://thedadedge.com/guest The Dad Edge Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/1530   Closing If you are having thoughts of suicide, or you're worried about someone who might be, please don't wait. Call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24 hours a day, every day. You are not a burden, and the people who love you would rather have you, in any season, than lose you. If you're not in crisis yourself but this episode brought something up for you, please talk to someone you trust, or a licensed therapist, today rather than carrying it alone.

John Sapiente never planned to become a charitable force in the veteran community, he just wanted to play golf with a celebrity at a charity gala. That single decision in 2013 led him to a life-changing weekend with military families, a friendship with Folds of Honor founder Lt. Col. Dan Rooney, and eventually the creation of Volition America, a lifestyle apparel brand that has raised over $2 million for veteran and first responder families by donating 13% of profits, a number tied to the 13 folds of the American flag. In this conversation with Larry, John shares the origin story behind brand partnerships with Puma, Cobra Golf, and Luminox, the moment he surprised a wounded Navy SEAL with a custom Jeep on July 4th, and his approach to raising four kids while running two manufacturing companies and a nonprofit-adjacent brand. He's candid about the tradeoffs of building a business empire, protecting Mother's Day as sacred family time, and 30 years of weekly date nights with his wife. If you've ever wondered what it looks like to turn a single meaningful moment into a lasting mission, this episode is a direct look at how that actually happens.   Timeline Summary [1:02] The 2013 charity golf event that sparked John's "patriotic awakening" [4:58] Meeting wounded veterans and hearing taps played during a tournament, and the impact it had [9:22] Becoming friends with Lt. Col. Dan Rooney, founder of Folds of Honor [10:07] The origin of "volition" as a word and a brand philosophy: the power of choice [12:31] A full introduction to John: founder of Volition America, raising over $2 million for veterans [14:32] Raising a confident, self-sufficient daughter, and the values he prioritized as a father [21:56] The family rule that sports never come before Mother's Day [25:43] Referencing Dr. John Delony's take on travel sports ruining the family dinner table [26:46] The mandatory Sunday family dinner tradition that started when the kids were young [28:34] The family rule that every kid needs "a battle," something they're passionate about, one at a time [29:19] A son's question about whether John was disappointed he chose band over sports [31:10] Supporting a daughter who hated soccer but lit up when she found dance [32:13] The father-son talent show plan built around a shared love of Michael Jackson [34:01] Thirty years of marriage and the weekly date nights that started when their kids were young [36:15] Why "if you have to think about your last date night, it's been too long" [43:40] Introducing Volition America and the $2 million raised for Folds of Honor [47:20] The story of surprising Navy SEAL Jeff Samuels with a custom Jeep on July 4th [50:25] How brand partnerships with Puma, Cobra Golf, and Luminox actually came together [53:21] Upcoming brand extensions: a cigar line with Gurkha and a new wine label [55:55] Where to find Volition America and support the mission   Five Key Takeaways A single moment of unexpected exposure, in John's case a charity golf outing, can become a life's mission if you stay open to what it reveals. He wasn't looking for a cause; the cause found him. Kids need something they're passionate about, one thing at a time, not necessarily a sport. Supporting a child's actual interest, whether it's marching band or dance, builds more confidence than pushing them toward what you expected. Protecting non-negotiable family time, like Mother's Day or a weekly date night, requires real boundaries. John's family skipped championship games that landed on Mother's Day because some things matter more than convenience. You cannot build a major business while being a 50/50 present parent every single day. Real tradeoffs exist, and the goal is being genuinely present in the time you do have rather than pretending you can do everything equally. Purpose-driven business partnerships can create value for everyone involved. Brand collaborations built around a genuine mission bring new audiences to both the cause and the partner brand, not just a marketing gimmick.   Links & Resources Volition America: https://volitionamerica.com Folds of Honor: https://foldsofhonor.org The Dad Edge Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/1529 Roommates to Soulmates: http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Board Room Mastermind: Guest Session: http://thedadedge.com/guest    Closing What stays with me from this conversation is how one afternoon of golf, entered into for the wrong reasons, turned into a mission that's raised over $2 million for the families of fallen and disabled service members. John didn't set out to build a movement, he just stayed open to what that weekend showed him. Whether it's a cause, a kid's unexpected passion, or a weekly date night you've let slide, the same principle applies: show up for the thing in front of you, and let it become what it's going to become. Go out and live legendary.

For the second time, Marc Hildebrand flips the format and puts Larry in the interview seat, this time to unpack the five things men consistently say changed everything after joining the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood: clarity, challenge, strategy, accountability, and brotherhood. Using real, anonymized member stories, Larry walks through how the group helps a business owner named Taylor rebuild connection with his wife using the four pillars of marriage and three levels of listening, why "rusty relationships" built on enabling friends keep 78% of men stuck, and why vague goals like "more communication" aren't actually strategies. Larry also shares the origin story of the group's gamified accountability system, born on a cruise ship when he realized he hated holding people accountable the traditional way, and closes with a blunt challenge: most men wait for a crisis before they get help, and by then it's often too late. If you're a business owner who feels like your family gets the leftovers of your time and energy, this conversation is a direct look at what actually changes that.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry opens on the tension every entrepreneur feels: building an empire without sacrificing family [4:21] Introducing Marc Hildebrand as this week's interviewer, flipping the usual format [6:42] The first pillar: clarity, and the story of onboarding a new member named Taylor [7:45] Introducing the Brave Man system: bond, raise, amplify, vitality, enjoy, movement, action, network [9:47] The comparison trap and the real divorce and disconnection statistics behind most marriages [10:28] The four pillars of an extraordinary marriage: individual, partnership, friendship, and lovers [13:20] Giving Taylor the 50 Intimate Conversation Starters and a simple daily walk-and-talk challenge [15:13] The three levels of listening: to respond, to understand, and to hear the emotion underneath [20:43] Larry announces a rare open preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood [22:29] Why the same relational skills that fix a marriage also apply to clients and employees [26:35] The second pillar: challenge, and the difference between friends and objective advisors [27:22] Introducing "rusty relationships" and the 78% statistic from Mansfield's Book of Manly Men [30:08] The story of a member named Tim who left his gym to stop being the smartest guy in the room [33:38] The third pillar: strategy, and why "more" or "better" communication isn't actually a strategy [35:25] The Casey 1.0 and 2.0 example: moving from scarcity and fear to strategic thinking [38:20] The story of a member named Blake, whose time management problem was really about protecting family time [40:03] Larry announces the first-ever Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15th [42:49] The fourth pillar: accountability, and the cruise ship story behind gamifying it [45:29] Introducing "the tent," the virtual system where members plan and track weekly missions [47:20] The story of a member named Jayden whose recurring unfinished mission revealed a deeper marriage issue [48:51] The fifth pillar: brotherhood, and why shame dies in safe conversations [54:30] Larry's closing challenge: most men wait for a crisis, and by then it's often too late   Five Key Takeaways Real clarity often comes from realizing your problem isn't what you think it is. A man convinced his issue is "not enough communication" usually discovers, through the right questions, that the real issue is which questions he's asking and how he's listening. The four pillars of an extraordinary marriage, individual, partnership, friendship, and lovers, break down when couples get stuck managing logistics (partnership) and skip friendship entirely, which makes physical connection feel confusing or absent. A friend who only agrees with your complaints isn't helping you, he's enabling you. An objective advisor without emotional stake in your friendship will challenge you in ways a lifelong buddy often won't. Vague goals like "more communication" or "better connection" aren't strategies, they're wishes. Real change comes from identifying specific, concrete actions, the same way a health goal requires a specific plan, not just an instruction to "get healthier." Accountability works best when it's gamified rather than shame-based. Publicly tracked weekly goals, done with humor and healthy competition, produce more consistent follow-through than accountability rooted in guilt.   Links & Resources The Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood Preview: https://thedadedge.com/guest Roommates to Soulmates: http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood by Larry Hagner: https://thedadedge.com The Dad Edge Podcast: http://thedadedge.com/1531  Mansfield's Book of Manly Men by Stephen Mansfield The Miracle Morning for Couples by Hal Elrod, Lance Salazar, and Brandy Salazar   Closing If there's one thing Larry wants every business owner dad to hear from this episode, it's this: don't wait for a crisis. He read an email that same day from a man who waited seven years to address a marriage on the brink of collapse, and now he's scrambling. Clarity, challenge, strategy, accountability, and brotherhood aren't things you need once things fall apart, they're things you build before they do. Go out and live legendary.

Abbey Sharp has built an audience of over 2.5 million people calling out nutrition misinformation as a registered dietitian, and in this conversation she and Larry cut through some of the biggest confusion facing dads right now: the seed oil panic, the rise of "looks maxing" and muscularity-focused disordered eating in men, and how to feed a house full of picky kids without turning dinner into a nightly battle. Larry gets unusually candid about his own relationship with fitness and body image, and Abbey offers a grounded, non-restrictive framework for approaching food that she built out of her own recovery from an eating disorder. The conversation also covers modeling healthy body image for kids, a practical division-of-responsibility approach to family meals, and Abbey's honest take on GLP-1 medications. If you've ever felt confused by conflicting nutrition advice online, or wondered whether your own relationship with fitness has quietly become more about fear than health, this episode offers real, evidence-based clarity.   Timeline Summary [1:02] The seed oil debate: what the actual research says versus the online panic [6:15] Ranking cooking oils by nutrient profile, and why canola oil gets undeserved hate [16:09] Introducing Abbey Sharp: registered dietitian, author, and "the internet's no BS dietitian" [17:45] Diet culture's impact on men, reframed as "optimization" and "looks maxing" [19:02] How male-focused disordered eating often centers on muscularity rather than thinness [21:42] Explaining "looks maxing" and its darker corners online [23:23] Larry shares his own history: childhood bullying, a significant weight loss at 17, and fear of regaining it [27:23] Finding balance: caring for your body without making it a referendum on your worth [29:31] Why kids absorb body image messaging from watching their parents, long before anyone tells them directly [34:00] Abbey shares her own teenage experience with orthorexia and how it shaped her career [36:07] Introducing the Hunger Crushing Combo: protein, fiber, and healthy fats instead of restriction [42:44] Abbey's take on GLP-1 medications: real benefits, real risks, and real social side effects [47:07] Building a high protein, high fiber breakfast for kids without restricting carbs [53:32] The Division of Responsibility approach to feeding picky kids without nightly battles [58:24] Larry shares a childhood memory of being forced to eat spinach, and why pressure backfires [59:40] Where to find Abbey: her podcast, YouTube channel, and family nutrition webinar   Five Key Takeaways Not all cooking oils are created equal, and the sweeping "seed oils are toxic" narrative doesn't hold up under real research. The bigger issue is the ultra-processed foods most seed oils show up in, not the oil itself. Disordered eating in men is often disguised as discipline. Framed as "optimization" or "looks maxing," compulsive protein tracking, fear of fat, and obsessive exercise get praised rather than questioned, which makes it harder to recognize as a real problem. A helpful litmus test for a healthy relationship with fitness is whether it still lets you live your life: can you skip a workout, eat at a birthday party, or go out with friends without guilt? If self-care starts shrinking your life instead of adding to it, that's worth examining. Kids absorb body image messaging by watching their parents, not just from what's said directly to them. Comments about needing to "earn" food through exercise or fearing weight gain teach kids that their body is a project long before anyone tells them so outright. The Division of Responsibility approach to feeding kids means parents decide what, when, and where meals happen, while kids decide how much they eat. Keeping one safe, familiar food on the table for picky eaters reduces mealtime battles far more effectively than pressure or bribery.   Links & Resources Bite Back with Abbey Sharp: https://www.abbeyskitchen.com The Hunger Crushing Combo Method by Abbey Sharp, RD: https://www.abbeyskitchen.com/hunger-crushing-combo The Board Room Mastermind: Guest Session: http://thedadedge.com/guest  Roommates to Soulmates: http://thedadedge.com/soulmates  Episode shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1527   Closing If any part of this conversation, especially the parts about food noise, fear of weight gain, or the pressure to always be optimizing, hit closer to home than you expected, you're not alone, and it's worth talking to someone. If you or someone you know is struggling with disordered eating, the National Alliance for Eating Disorders helpline is available for support and can help you find the right next step. Beyond that, the whole spirit of this conversation is permission: permission to eat the pizza, permission to miss a workout, permission to let your kids grow up without inheriting a fear of their own bodies. Go out and live legendary.

I've had a lot of impressive guests on this show, but Khalil Zahar's story genuinely stood out to me. He's the founder and CEO of FightCamp, a company he built from a simple idea, wanting to actually measure his own progress as a boxer, into one of the biggest names in connected fitness, with over $100 million raised and backing from legends like Mike Tyson, Floyd Mayweather, and Georges St-Pierre. He's also not married and doesn't have kids, but the lessons he's built his entire career around, discipline, discomfort, and identity, translate directly to fatherhood and marriage. We started with the pivotal moment in his early 20s, a late night watching Sportscenter, that made him realize he didn't have unlimited time to become who he wanted to be. From there we got into his philosophy around seeking discomfort intentionally, why he believes identity has to come before outcome, and what it actually means to become the person who does the things you want to be known for, rather than chasing the result directly. He shared a personal story about training around a serious injury by controlling everything he could, his nutrition and mindset, when he couldn't control his body, and I shared a nearly identical story from my own torn patella tendon recovery. We closed the conversation on what Khalil calls the mindset of a fighter, discipline, craftsmanship, accepting what you can't control, and learning to be genuinely thankful for your losses instead of resentful of them. If you've ever felt too comfortable, stuck in a rut, or unsure how to push yourself toward the version of you that you know is possible, this conversation gives you a real, practical way to start.   Timeline Summary [1:04] Khalil's early 20s awakening: a late night realization that time wasn't unlimited [3:36] His teenage dream of becoming a professional B-Boy and the intimidating scene around it [7:00] The first concrete steps he took once he decided to stop just "trying a little" [9:25] How Khalil's relationship with failure changed once he actually started taking risks [12:20] Larry announces a rare, small-group preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood [12:37] Why embracing failure sooner would have changed everything, and Thomas Edison's light bulb story [14:31] Taking the first, smallest possible step instead of trying to see ten miles ahead [16:34] A full introduction to Khalil: FightCamp's founder, backed by Tyson, Mayweather, and Saint-Pierre [18:11] Khalil's controversial philosophy: why seeking discomfort matters more than self-acceptance alone [21:39] Practical advice for a man who feels too comfortable and stuck in a "dad bod" mindset [22:01] The core idea: identity comes first, and outcomes follow from who you decide to become [25:21] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th [27:16] Diving deeper into identity versus tactics, using Khalil's 13 bodybuilding competitions as an example [32:18] Why seeking discomfort is fundamentally about removing fear, not chasing a specific outcome [35:51] Confidence built through keeping your word to yourself, even when you don't feel like it [36:43] What the mindset of a fighter actually looks like, broken into four core principles [38:18] The first principle: discipline as doing what you don't want to do [39:48] The second principle: craftsmanship, applying full care and attention to everything you touch [40:31] The third principle: you can't control your opponent, only how you prepare and react [42:17] The fourth principle: losses and failure are praised in martial arts, not resented [44:10] Larry's own story of controlling what he could control during a torn patella tendon recovery [45:32] Khalil shares a strikingly similar story recovering from a severe hand injury [49:17] Where to find Khalil and FightCamp   Five Key Takeaways Time is not unlimited, and the sooner you accept that, the sooner you stop just "trying a little" and start actually pursuing the version of yourself you want to become. Identity comes before outcome. Instead of fixating on the result you want, define who that person would be and start living like them today, and the outcome tends to follow naturally. Confidence isn't built by achieving a goal once, it's built by consistently keeping your word to yourself, especially in the small moments when you don't feel like following through. You cannot control your circumstances, your opponent, or the environment around you. The only thing you control is how you prepare for and respond to what happens, and real peace comes from focusing there instead. Losses and failure should be treated as lessons to be thankful for, not outcomes to resent. A fighter's mindset toward getting knocked down and getting back up applies directly to marriage, parenting, and business.   Links & Resources FightCamp (Khalil's at-home connected boxing and kickboxing fitness platform) — https://joinfightcamp.com FightCamp on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok — @fightcamp Khalil Zahar on Instagram — @khalilzahar Shownotes for this episode: http://thedadedge.com/1526 Roommates to Soulmates (Larry's 8-week marriage coaching cohort; next cohort starts September 16th, with free preview calls): http://thedadedge.com/soulmates Join the boardroom: http://thedadedge.com/guest   Closing What's staying with me from this conversation is Khalil's point that losses are meant to be praised, not resented, because that's exactly the mindset a marriage and a family need too. You're not going to get every season right, and neither is your wife or your kids, but treating a setback as a lesson instead of a verdict on who you are changes everything about how you recover from it. Whatever discomfort you've been avoiding lately, in your body, your business, or your relationships, let this be the nudge to take the smallest next step toward it.

This week's Wednesday Q&A is a little different, I'm running it solo since my usual co-host Joe couldn't make it, and honestly, it turned into one of the harder, more important conversations we've had. A man in our Alliance named Rich called in with a genuinely difficult situation: his 17-year-old stepdaughter recently went through a breakup, was hospitalized shortly after making statements about wanting to end her life, and Rich is trying to figure out how to support her while also being honest that he's not sure whether what he's seeing is a real crisis or a manipulation tactic she's learned to use. I want to be upfront that I am not a licensed therapist, and neither is anyone else on this call. We have someone in our community who specializes in this exact area, and when a situation is acute, that's who we point men toward. What I can offer is real, lived experience, because one of my own boys went through a genuinely frightening season with depression and anxiety years ago, and I've been in the position of feeling completely out of my depth as a father. If you're a father watching a child struggle right now and feeling like you have no idea what you're doing, or you're not even sure if what you're seeing is a real crisis, this conversation won't give you all the answers, because there often aren't easy ones. But it might help you feel less alone in it.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Opening the Wednesday Q&A solo, and introducing today's difficult topic [1:48] Introducing Rich, a leader in the Alliance's teen-parenting group, and his situation [3:13] Rich shares that his 17-year-old bonus daughter has recently expressed suicidal thoughts [4:33] Understanding the timeline: a difficult personal season followed by a breakup two weeks ago [5:43] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th [7:25] Larry's disclaimer: not a licensed therapist, and where the community sends acute cases [8:37] Asking Rich what he'd want to see in his stepdaughter's life a few months from now [9:49] The tension between wanting to support her and wanting to hold her accountable to her own goals [10:47] Assessing her circle of friends and the instability there [12:30] First piece of advice: don't go through this alone, and find a therapist she connects with [13:20] The breakfast and games advice from a mentor, and why simple connection mattered more than conversation [15:27] The medication journey: an initial diagnosis, a worsening condition, and a specialized brain scan clinic [17:07] How a corrected diagnosis and a supplement-based approach turned things around over about a year [17:32] Larry shares his own 2017 hospitalization following extreme physical training and severe insomnia [19:29] Reiterating connection over correction as the throughline of the advice [19:51] Larry announces a rare, small-group preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood [24:19] Closing advice: don't go through it alone, connect first, and remember that without connection there is no influence   Five Key Takeaways You don't have to be a mental health expert to support a struggling child, but you do have to know when to bring in someone who is. Recognizing the limits of your own expertise and connecting your family with the right specialist is itself an act of good fathering. Connection has to come before correction. A struggling teenager often needs low-pressure time with a parent, free of goal-setting or serious conversation, far more than another conversation about fixing the problem. Finding the right therapist matters as much as finding a therapist at all. A mismatch in chemistry or approach can make a child more resistant to help they genuinely need. A diagnosis can be wrong, and it's worth getting a second opinion when treatment isn't working. A corrected diagnosis and a different treatment approach turned around a genuinely difficult, months-long decline. You are not required to be blood related to be the father figure a child needs most. Consistent presence during a hard season is what a child remembers and trusts long after the season ends.   Links & Resources Get the full show notes and every link from this episode: https://thedadedge.com/1525 Ready to stop feeling like roommates and start leading your marriage? Join the next Roommates to Soulmates cohort: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Know a dad with a story worth sharing, or want to be on the show yourself? Apply to be a guest: https://thedadedge.com/guest   Closing If you're a father in the middle of a season like the one Rich is walking through right now, please hear this: you don't have to have it figured out, and you don't have to do it alone. Get connected with people who know more than you do, keep showing up for the small, ordinary moments of connection, and trust that the fruit of your presence will show up even if you can't see it yet. Without connection, we have no influence, so lead with connection first, every time. Go out and live legendary. If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by calling or texting 988.

Gentlemen, welcome to the fourth and final episode of this month's series with my wife Jessica, and I want to start by saying thank you for showing up for this one, since August actually had five Fridays this year, which means she recorded a full bonus episode she didn't have to do. Today we're tackling something that trips up more marriages than almost anything else: roles and expectations, and specifically, all the unspoken assumptions about who does what that quietly cause resentment when they're never actually talked about. Jessica and I get into the finances first, how I took over bill paying for our first five years of marriage and, driven by my own anxiety around debt, paid things down so aggressively it actually put us in a bind more than once. We talk through why swapping our roles, me handling investing and her handling the day to day bills, ended up being the right fit for both of us, and why neither of us wants to trade back. From there we get into dinner, probably the single area that's caused us the most quiet frustration over the years, from Jessica's years of resentment doing all the cooking to the practical shift we finally made once we actually talked about it out loud instead of just enduring it. We also open up about how we split the harder parenting conversations, why the sex talk with our boys has always fallen to me, and why Jessica has become the one I lean on for basically every other hard conversation in our house. I share what I've learned watching her approach conflict, calm, strategic, and incredibly well timed, compared to my own instinct to just react in the moment. We close out by talking through how we split up kids' sports and activities, and what boundaries actually held up over 22 years of marriage. If your marriage has ever hit friction over who's supposed to be doing what, and you've never actually sat down and talked about it, this conversation is a real look at how two people figured that out over two decades together, including the parts that took way too long to fix.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Introducing the fourth and final episode of the August series with Jessica [12:56] Reflecting on last week's lower-energy episode and setting up today's topic: roles and expectations [14:12] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th [16:33] Why unspoken and unknown expectations are what actually trip couples up the most [19:00] The early years of bill paying: Larry's aggressive debt payoff and the strain it caused [21:52] Why paying bills stressed Larry out so deeply, no matter how much money was in the bank [24:36] Checking in on whether Jessica still feels good about handling the bills 17 years later [25:39] Introducing the second financial role: why Larry handles all the investing [27:05] Larry's own journey from investing overwhelm to genuinely loving it today [30:45] Confirming neither of them wants to trade financial roles, and why that alignment matters [31:27] Introducing the dinner problem: why family meals can become a major source of strife [32:52] The moment, about a year ago, Jessica finally said out loud that she hated cooking [33:32] The fix: splitting cooking nights and having the non-cooking spouse handle cleanup [37:55] Larry announces the first-ever Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15th [42:22] Checking in on what Jessica would still change about how dinner works today [43:24] Jessica's regret: never requiring the kids to eat what was served instead of making separate meals [46:34] Why the sex talk role has always fallen to Larry, and how he approaches it with their boys [52:36] Breaking down Jessica's calm, strategic approach to conflict versus Larry's reactive instinct [57:14] A callback to an earlier, lighter moment in the series about Larry's past drinking [1:00:49] How they split kids' sports and activities, and the assumptions each of them still carries [1:03:22] What comes next: Jessica joining monthly, and how to submit topic ideas [1:04:51] Introducing two free resources: 25 Intimate Conversation Starters and 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage   Five Key Takeaways Roles that feel natural today were often built through real trial and error, not instinct. Larry and Jessica swapped financial responsibilities after outside mentors pointed out they'd assigned them backward, and it took years to get right. Resentment builds fastest around unspoken expectations. Nearly every friction point in their marriage, from bills to dinner, traces back to one person assuming a role the other person quietly grew to dread. Sometimes the fix is simple once you finally say the hard thing out loud. Jessica's years of resentment around cooking dissolved almost immediately once she told Larry directly that she hated it, leading to a workable rotation within one conversation. Timing matters as much as the message when addressing conflict. Jessica's approach of waiting for a calm moment, rather than confronting an issue in the heat of frustration, consistently produces a better outcome than reacting immediately. Roles don't have to be permanent or symmetrical to work. Twenty-two years in, the goal isn't a perfectly even split of every responsibility, it's each person operating in the role that actually fits them, while staying willing to revisit it when it's not working.   Links & Resources Shownotes for this episode: http://thedadedge.com/1524 Roommates to Soulmates (Larry's 8-week marriage coaching cohort; next cohort starts September 16th, with free preview calls): http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Dad Edge Day at State Farm Stadium (Arizona Cardinals vs. Los Angeles Rams, November 15): https://thedadedge.com/nfl  Closing Wrapping up this series, what stands out most is that Jessica and I don't have this figured out because we never struggled, we have it figured out because we finally stopped avoiding the hard conversations about who does what and why. Every role we've settled into came from a real conversation, sometimes an overdue one, not from assuming the other person would just handle it or just deal with it forever. If something in your own marriage has quietly been building resentment because nobody's actually said it out loud, let this be the nudge to finally have that conversation. Go out and live legendary.

Don Ross is the founder of Manhood Tribes, a former pastor of 20 years who now works in digital marketing and has spent over two decades helping men cut through the noise around masculinity and build real brotherhood. Married 22 years with two boys, he's built his work around five marks of manhood and, more recently, helping men prepare for what he believes are the biblical end times. This is a unique episode. Don walks Larry through the specific signs he sees converging right now, the nation of Israel and the temple, the move toward digital currency, and the gospel reaching every ethnic group, then pivots to what actually matters for the average man: building community, growing real-world skills, and developing a genuine relationship with Jesus rather than just checking religious boxes. If you've felt the anxiety of scrolling the news and wondered how to lead your family through uncertain times, this conversation offers a grounded, faith-centered answer.   Timeline Summary [3:29] – How close are we to the end times, and what that phrase actually means [5:28] – Why the anxiety men feel scrolling their phones connects to the bigger picture [7:33] – The specific signs happening now that are unique in human history [9:05] – Introducing Don Ross, Manhood Tribes, and the epidemic of male loneliness [12:35] – The Euphrates River drying up as a minor sign [13:29] – Israel reestablished as a nation in 1948 and the Ezekiel dry bones prophecy [15:10] – The Temple Institute, the red heifer, and preparations for a third temple [20:41] – Why the dome of the Rock and secular Israeli politics have stalled the temple [25:05] – Global commerce, the mark of the beast, and central bank digital currencies [29:23] – How state-controlled currency mirrors China's social credit system [32:29] – The third and more hopeful sign: the gospel reaching every ethnic group by 2033 [35:27] – Why the decline of masculinity collides with this moment in history [37:13] – Larry on feeling spiritually ready but not practically prepared [44:05] – What Covid revealed about government control, framed carefully as speculation [48:39] – Why building a bunker is the wrong first step [50:34] – The five marks of manhood: strength, courage, skill, honor, and allegiance [51:34] – Monthly challenges, from cold showers to learning vehicle maintenance [54:20] – The spiritual anchor and connecting relationally to Jesus [56:56] – Knowing Jesus as a person, not just checking the church and Bible boxes [1:03:44] – Larry's hike through Garden of the Gods and the decision that brought him peace   5 Key Takeaways Watch the Season, Not the Date — The instruction was never to predict the day, but to recognize the season and be ready. Don points to several signs converging at once as reason to pay attention rather than panic. Loneliness Is a Crisis, and Community Is the Answer — Most men believe they have to figure life out alone, and the isolation is at an all time high. Real brotherhood is what helps men survive hardship and become better husbands and fathers. Don't Build a Bunker, Build a Community — The prepper instinct is individualistic, but the biblical model is to love your neighbor as yourself. The right next step is building strong community that can support each other through any storm. Grow Real Skills as a Man — Strength, courage, skill, honor, and allegiance are traits you develop over a lifetime. Practical challenges like cold showers or basic vehicle maintenance build the grit and capability most modern men have lost. Know Jesus as a Person — Faith isn't just going to church, reading the Bible, and praying as a checklist. It's a relationship built through conversation, listening, and shared experience, the same way you'd cultivate connection with a spouse.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1523 Manhood Tribes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ManhoodTribes Roommates to Soulmates (cohort 3, starts September 16, free preview calls September 8 and 9): https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood by Larry Hagner: https://thedadedge.com   Enjoyed This Episode? If Don's challenge to be informed, prepared, and faithful struck a chord, take one small step this week. Learn a practical skill you've been avoiding, or spend ten quiet minutes listening in prayer instead of just talking. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Larry is back in studio with his wife Jessica for the fourth installment of their couples series, recorded the same month they hit 23 years of marriage and 30 years of knowing each other. This time the whole conversation centers on one word that quietly makes or breaks a marriage: alignment. Most couples, Larry notes from a decade of coaching, are misaligned on parenting, money, intimacy, and faith, and never realize it until it derails their connection. Larry and Jessica walk through how they actually got aligned over 22 years, from choosing experiences over stuff and a backyard over a sports car, to spending on healthy food and shared workouts, to raising kids who value connection over possessions. They're honest that it came through constant, daily communication, the kind most couples avoid. If your marriage feels more like managing a household than sharing a life, this conversation is a window into how two people build shared values on purpose.   Timeline Summary [3:04] – What alignment in marriage actually means, and how misalignment shows up [6:09] – The daily reality of getting kids to help, and delegating chores [10:10] – Pulling back the curtain on a heated dinner with one of their kids the night before [10:52] – Why cleaning became Larry and Jessica's separate processing and thinking time [12:10] – The core values exercise and discovering they valued environment and connection, not possessions [13:36] – Their family mission: experiences over stuff, memories over things, connection over everything [16:05] – Why some couples need to buy or schedule experiences just to feel connected [17:53] – The Covid dishes conversation and Jessica's grounded response to Larry's darkest thought [19:52] – No luxury cars, no name brands, and being genuinely okay with less [22:36] – The backyard project versus a sports car, and what Ethan learned from it [24:16] – How they actually arrived at shared values through talking and reflecting [26:40] – 2017 as the turning point toward chasing experiences over stuff [27:04] – The three gifts rule at Christmas and where it came from [30:39] – Jessica's advice to their kids: communication is the key to any relationship [33:55] – Why couples talk about logistics but avoid the deeper alignment conversations [36:02] – The intimacy parallel: what happens when you stop pursuing each other [38:24] – Why they never run out of things to talk about, even after 23 years [40:14] – Can people be taught to communicate, or is that just who they are? [44:43] – Alignment as the make or break, and the non-negotiables they built together [45:33] – Going to bed at the same time, and when it's actually okay to go to bed angry   5 Key Takeaways Alignment Is the Make or Break — Most couples are quietly misaligned on parenting, money, intimacy, and faith, and it derails their connection without them realizing why. Building shared values on purpose is what holds a marriage together over decades. Experiences Over Stuff — Larry and Jessica built a family mission around memories over things and connection over everything. The backyard they gather in beat the sports car precisely because it creates shared experiences instead of solo possession. Communication Has to Be Daily — Talking through logistics isn't the same as real communication. Checking in every day, even briefly, keeps small tensions from compounding into the silence and assumptions that quietly end marriages. Don't Let Intimacy Drift — Just like conversation, physical intimacy erodes when you stop pursuing each other. Let too much time pass and it becomes awkward and hard to return to, so keep reaching for each other before the gap widens. You Can Change If It Matters Enough — "That's just who I am" is an excuse, not a fact. People revert to old patterns, but anyone can learn to communicate better if the relationship matters enough to them to keep practicing.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1522 Roommates to Soulmates (cohort 3, starts September 16, free preview calls September 8 and 9): https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl   Enjoyed This Episode? If hearing Larry and Jessica lay out the values they built on purpose made you wonder where you and your spouse are actually aligned, pick one area and talk it through this week. Ask your partner what they'd want more of, or download the 25 questions and work through a couple on your next date. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Officer Randy Keith is a military veteran, a 15-year law enforcement officer, and the founder of Present Father, a platform that now reaches hundreds of thousands of dads across the world. He didn't set out to build a movement. He built it from the darkest chapter of his life, a high-conflict divorce that put him through false allegations, an order of protection that nearly cost him his career, CPS interviews of his young children, and the terror of dropping his kids off not knowing if he'd get them back. Randy walks Larry through the night it all began, why he chose 50-50 custody when his attorney said he could have won full custody, and the moment in his car around the corner from his ex-wife's house when he pulled out his phone and started talking, the post that became Present Father. This is a raw conversation about father's rights, staying present against enormous odds, and turning your mess into your message. It's also a heavy one, with an honest look at how many men in these situations reach the edge, and why community can be lifesaving.   Timeline Summary [1:23] – The night his ex-wife went for the gun safe and he called 911 [4:34] – Declining to press charges because he didn't want to jail the mother of his kids [5:48] – Discharged in hours after telling nurses he was abusing his power as an officer [7:14] – Filing a Title 36 mental health petition and getting emergency custody [9:01] – Choosing 50-50 so he could look his kids in the eye someday [10:15] – His attorney saying he was in the driver's seat and could have full custody [12:13] – Served with an order of protection built on false allegations [13:09] – How a federal firearm statute nearly ended his law enforcement career [14:38] – His kids interviewed by CPS at school without his knowledge [15:40] – The mosquito-bite doctor's note that became a bedbugs and abuse allegation [17:25] – Inviting CPS in, and being asked to teach parenting classes at the end [20:49] – Why she really moved four hours away, and the job that lasted two weeks [23:28] – The threats that continue and the fears he carries as a target [26:35] – Finding purpose in the worst season and turning mess into message [30:10] – Why high-conflict divorce is rare, and why so few men talk about it [33:28] – Introducing Randy Keith and the Present Father platform [36:00] – The moment in the car that birthed Present Father [38:24] – The first TikTok post and the flood of men who felt the same [42:30] – From 800 followers to nearly 900,000 across platforms [44:08] – The suicide messages, and how Randy responds personally [46:08] – Sean Pearson and the Dad to Dad peer support platform [47:22] – The father who thanked him for comforting his son in his final moments [48:06] – Larry on losing two men from the Dad Edge community to suicide [50:30] – The therapist's question that reframed suicide for Larry in 2017 [52:22] – Why the pain is a season, not a life sentence [53:39] – Larry on being glad he didn't listen when people said "this too shall pass," and glad he listened just enough [54:08] – The vision for Present Father: a nonprofit providing attorneys to the falsely accused [54:35] – Advocating in D.C. for equal shared parenting as the standard [56:05] – Bankruptcy as a common cost of fighting for your kids [56:34] – What he learned from his first relationship and carried into his new marriage [57:57] – Why one bad experience doesn't mean everyone will treat you the same [59:55] – Where to connect with Randy and the Present Father Show   5 Key Takeaways Presence Beats Perfection — Your kids don't need a perfect father. They need a present one. Even when circumstances are stacked against you, showing up consistently is what matters most. Your Mess Is Your Message — You don't have to be the polished expert to help people. Randy's raw honesty as an everyday guy going through it reaches people precisely because it's real and relatable, not because he has it all figured out. The Pain Is a Season, Not a Sentence — In the darkest moments it feels like it will never end, but it's temporary. Suicide doesn't end the pain, it transfers it to the people you love most, for generations. Reaching out and finding community can be lifesaving. You're Not Alone in This — High-conflict divorce and false allegations are isolating, and shame keeps men silent. Finding even one other person who's been through it turns unbearable isolation into a community and a path forward. One Bad Experience Isn't the Whole World — Surviving a devastating relationship doesn't mean everyone will treat you the same way. With honest due diligence and self-work, there is happiness and partnership on the other side.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1521 Present Father (Randy Keith's website): https://present-father.com  The Present Father Show podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2PZwSoq6glUSq20CcHB88R Roommates to Soulmates (cohort 3, starts September 16, free preview calls September 8 and 9): https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl   If You're Struggling This episode deals openly with suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the US to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7. You are not alone, and the season you're in is not the end of your story. Enjoyed This Episode? If Randy's story reached you, whether you're in the middle of your own hard season or you know a dad who is, don't let him carry it alone. Send this episode to a father who needs to hear that presence beats perfection and that he's not alone in this. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Larry is back with his wife Jessica for the third installment of their Friday couples series, and this one tackles the quiet killer of long marriages: the drift. That slow slide where you get so buried in kids, sports, work, and the house that you look up years later and realize you lost each other somewhere along the way. Married 22 years, they're honest that they've hit those valleys too, and this episode is about how they catch it and climb back out. Larry opens up about being the avoidant one early on, walking away from hard conversations because it felt selfless when it was actually disconnecting. From there he and Jessica map the exact tools that interrupt the drift: telling your partner what's in your head so they don't assume it's them, the six-second hug that resets everything, the safety that lets you give hard feedback, and the certainty of saying "I need an hour, but I'll be back." If your marriage feels more like two ships passing in the night, this is a practical way back to each other.   Timeline Summary [1:01] – Spinning in different orbits and what it means to interrupt the drift [2:03] – Jessica's first solo episode goes live and the nerves around it [3:47] – How couples drift: five years pass and the connection is just gone [5:05] – Larry owning that he was the avoidant one who'd walk away or sleep downstairs [6:32] – Why walking away felt selfless but was actually selfish and disconnecting [6:50] – Jessica's ask: take your space, but tell me it's not about me and you'll be back [7:39] – The neighbor at the fire pit and the garage door scam that sent him inward [9:49] – What's really happening in a man's head: the shoulds that make it worse [11:01] – The real-world date day where Larry chose to say "actually, that's a lie, I'm challenged" [12:45] – The stories men tell themselves: it's stupid, it'll go away, I'll burden her [14:15] – Wanting connection but doing the one thing that disconnects [14:58] – Jessica's gift: reading people and diffusing tension with a hug [17:23] – Letting women off the hook on nagging, and how to poke with love not gaslighting [18:17] – The six-second hug, oxytocin, and being found out when she hugs him [22:12] – What Jessica needs as a stay-at-home mom: reassurance and connection [24:08] – The certainty of a repair: 30 minutes versus a whole sucky day [24:30] – Last fall's drift, Larry's most impatient season, and asking for feedback [26:25] – The three breadcrumbs: safety, certainty, and repair [27:28] – Why Jessica felt safe enough to give feedback that would land rough [28:14] – Choosing words wisely and avoiding always and never [30:32] – Young and green on relationship dynamics in the early years [31:01] – Marriage as the stock market: valleys and peaks with no tolerance to stay down [33:15] – Honesty and ownership celebrated, not punished, for kids and spouses alike [35:11] – Being held to a higher standard in your worst moments and feeling safe [37:18] – The certainty of "I'll be back in an hour" versus being forced to hash it out now [41:00] – Jessica on why she'd rather cool off than fight in a heated moment [42:38] – Taking pause and the 24-hour rule before responding when triggered [44:22] – Love languages and approaching each kid differently [45:04] – The coaching example: "why did you do X" versus "tell me about that" [47:28] – Meeting each other with compassion and curiosity, not accusation [47:50] – The power of we, plus the Colton-in-pajamas assumption Larry got wrong [49:37] – How they make time for the marriage with four kids and a business [52:26] – Zero tolerance for mediocre and refusing to just exist [53:22] – Why kids feel warm and safe when the marriage is a priority [55:03] – Setting the standard for how their sons should treat a partner [1:02:37] – A teaser for next week: intimacy and finances, the two big resentment topics   5 Key Takeaways Name What's In Your Head — When you go quiet and inward, your partner and kids often assume they're the problem. Telling them what's actually going on, even when it feels stupid or burdensome, is the difference between connection and drift. Take Space, But Give Certainty — Walking away without a word breeds anxiety and uncertainty. Saying "I need an hour to process, but I'll be back to talk about this" lets you cool off while promising your partner the conversation isn't over. The Six-Second Hug Resets Everything — A real, drawn-out hug, not a quick pat, releases the oxytocin that brings peace and diffuses tension. Learning to read when your partner needs that connection is a gift you can give daily. Make Feedback Safe — People only give honest feedback when they trust it won't be met with defensiveness or explosion. Choosing words carefully, avoiding always and never, and holding your partner to a higher standard in their worst moments keeps that safety intact. Have Zero Tolerance for the Valley — Every marriage has peaks and valleys like the stock market. What keeps it strong isn't avoiding the dips, it's refusing to accept staying there, and proactively cultivating connection even in the busy, exhausted seasons.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1520 Roommates to Soulmates (cohort 3, eight-week program, starts September 16, free preview calls September 8 and 9): http://thedadedge.com/soulmates 25 Intimate Conversation Starters (free PDF and video training): https://thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl   Enjoyed This Episode? If "spinning in different orbits" describes where you and your spouse are right now, pick one tool from this episode and use it this week. Tell your partner what's actually in your head instead of saying "I'm fine," or give them a real six-second hug the next time you can feel the tension. 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Caitlin V is a sexologist, relationship coach, and host of Good Sex on HBO Max who has built a YouTube channel with nearly a million subscribers and over 170 million views, working primarily with men on erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the isolation that comes with all three. She started as a sexual health researcher and policy analyst before deciding that change happens in conversations with real people, not in research papers. This is a live Dad Edge Alliance Q&A where Caitlin takes real questions from married men about a sexless stretch, shame carried into the marriage bed, sex used as leverage, and a marriage that has gone completely touchless. If you have been avoiding the conversation with your wife because the last time you brought it up it went badly, this one gives you the actual script.   Timeline Summary [4:12] – Caitlin's path from sexual health researcher and policy analyst to sexologist and coach [6:14] – First question, a husband who pushed too hard once and has been gun shy ever since [9:06] – Why a multi year backlog of unsaid things lands on one conversation and crushes it [11:01] – The cracked foundation, why repair has to come before any talk about frequency [13:35] – Reading her green lights and lobbing the flirtation back without adding pressure [16:33] – Naming the dynamic out loud as an act of leadership instead of a confession [23:58] – Why "the talk" is the wrong model for sex, with your kids and with your wife [27:39] – Nature abhors a vacuum, if she doesn't know what sex means to you she fills it in [31:25] – Anonymous question, premarital sex, religious shame, and less sex after the wedding [36:51] – The taboo factor, why sanctioned sex can lose the charge that breaking the rule provided [40:04] – Shame hates light, why you can't clean it out of her and what you can do instead [47:00] – Anonymous question, sex promised as a thank you that almost never arrives [53:09] – Why nobody can pre consent, and taking penetration off the required list [56:09] – What's underneath sex used as leverage, and how to rewrite that agreement together [59:11] – Anonymous question, a touchless marriage after years of backing off out of respect [1:03:25] – Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the Three Minute Game as the road back to touch   5 Key Takeaways Repair Before Frequency — Asking for more sex when years of unsaid things are still sitting there is like redecorating a living room on a cracked foundation. Go back and own what you didn't say first, then build. Name the Dynamic Out Loud — Leadership here is not initiating harder, it's surfacing the pattern so you're both looking at the same thing. Say "I haven't been lobbing these back because I'm afraid" instead of waiting for her to move first. She's Filling In Your Blanks — If your wife doesn't know the texture of what sex actually means to you, she fills that vacuum with social media, her friends, and her parents' marriage. "All you think about is sex" is usually a response to something that was never you. Warmth With an Invoice — If your past kisses and shoulder rubs came with a hidden price tag, she felt it, and that's why affection now reads as a bid. Own it plainly, then rebuild non-sexual touch on purpose. Nobody Can Pre Consent — Agreeing to sex tomorrow is like agreeing to salmon for dinner, the appetite can legitimately change. Keep more than intercourse on the table so a shift in the moment isn't a broken promise.   Links & Resources Episode page — https://thedadedge.com/1519 Roommates to Soulmates, Larry's 8 week program, cohort three starts September 16 — https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15 at State Farm Stadium — https://thedadedge.com/nfl Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and the Three Minute Game — https://www.schoolofconsent.org Caitlin V's courses, 20% off with code DADEDGE, including Yoni Massage, Come When You Want, Hard As You Want, and Legendary Lover   Enjoyed This Episode? If the "warmth with an invoice" idea landed the way it lands for most guys, you already know which conversation you've been putting off. Send this to a brother who's been quietly telling himself that not bringing it up counts as respecting her. Follow the show, leave a rating and review, and grab the full show notes at https://thedadedge.com/1519

Larry is back in studio with his wife Jessica for part two of their conversation, recorded the week of their 22nd anniversary. Last week they covered how they met and the crucibles that shaped them. This week they get practical about the daily mechanics of a marriage that works: how they got aligned on parenting, how they resolve conflict, and how they back each other up in front of the kids whether they agree or not. They're candid that none of it came naturally at first. They walk through the parenting classes that helped early on, a hard season with one of their sons that turned out to be driven by a medication reaction, and why setting ego aside to get outside help was the move that saved them repeatedly. Jessica shares what it means to never be emasculated or called a name in thirty years together, and Larry breaks down the guardrails that keep their disagreements calm: no yelling, no name calling, real listening, and a willingness to eat humble pie. If your marriage feels more like managing a household than sharing a life, this one is a window into the operating system of a couple who clearly still like each other.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Why part two matters, and Jessica joins for parenting and conflict resolution [4:39] – A new season with an adult son and the land of uncertainty it brings [6:39] – Bringing the first baby home to a tornado, and every season being new territory [9:07] – The one thing they nailed early: alignment on parenting styles [10:21] – Love and Logic, 1-2-3 Magic, and the classes that gave them a shared playbook [11:34] – A hard season with Mason at 11 and refusing to let ego stop them from getting help [13:15] – Communication gap: Larry not seeing how bad the mornings really were [16:39] – Owning that "I have to work" wasn't the support Jessica needed [17:23] – The real catalyst turned out to be a medication, and the game-changing fix [18:43] – Having each other's back in front of the kids, no public disagreement [19:47] – The quiet aside instead of the public callout, coming back as a combined unit [21:39] – The over-punishment story: stacking consequences on Ethan's grades [22:54] – Why never being emasculated or disrespected publicly matters so much to a man [25:44] – The non-negotiable guardrails: no name calling, ever, even joking [27:15] – Listening without interrupting and keeping voices calm [30:09] – Tonality, ownership, and a family that apologizes well [34:32] – Why these habits are their operating system but not most people's [35:10] – The waterfall of peace: how Jessica's affection quiets Larry's chaos [36:33] – Not gaslighting a partner who's having a hard day, and giving space to process [37:30] – The "what did you do all day" mistake and never globalizing with always and never [40:43] – The deck argument Ethan witnessed and asked if they were divorcing [42:22] – Ethan's three observations: no yelling, real listening, no name calling [42:40] – Asking "is there truth to this" to sidestep the ego and defensiveness [45:02] – The trash story: coming in guns blazing and eating humble pie [49:11] – Covering for each other's hard seasons with the kids instead of piling on [50:04] – Favorite memories: the simple stuff, laughter under their own roof [52:16] – Valuing experiences over stuff, and how that alignment happened [55:19] – Closing out Mason's last year at home with a bang [56:53] – The 25 intimate conversation starters that keep them connected   5 Key Takeaways Get Aligned and Get Help Without Ego — The couples who struggle most are often fighting over whose parenting style wins. Larry and Jessica treated hard seasons as problems to solve together, bringing in classes and counselors rather than letting pride keep them stuck. Have Each Other's Back in Front of the Kids — Never publicly override your spouse's discipline. Handle disagreements privately, then return to the kids as a combined unit. Kids who can't split their parents feel more secure, not less. Set Guardrails for Conflict — No name calling, no yelling, and real listening while the other person talks. These simple, non-negotiable rules keep disagreements from escalating into damage, and kids notice and absorb them. Ask "Is There Truth to This" — When your partner brings a criticism, the instinct is to defend. Pausing to genuinely ask whether there's truth in it disarms your ego and turns a potential fight into a conversation. And when you're wrong, apologize fast. Protect Each Other's Hard Seasons — When one parent is short-tempered or struggling, the other explains it to the kids with grace instead of piling on. Give your partner room to process a bad day rather than gaslighting or nagging them out of it.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1518 25 Intimate Conversation Starters (free PDF and video training): https://thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl   Enjoyed This Episode? If watching Larry and Jessica lay out the guardrails of their marriage gave you something to aim at, pick one and try it this week. Ask "is there truth to this" the next time you feel defensive, or take your spouse through a couple of good questions on your next date night. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Sam Rosenberg has spent his career protecting some of the most recognized people on the planet, heads of state, CEOs, and celebrities including Warren Buffett, Benjamin Netanyahu, and Tom Cruise. A former Marine Corps officer who moved into close protection in 1996, he's since shifted his focus to teaching ordinary people the same skills he used to guard public figures, through his company Live Ready and his bestselling book of the same name. He's trained tens of thousands of people to recognize threats before they become emergencies. This one is a genuine masterclass in personal safety, and Sam's philosophy anchors it: it's good to have a lifeguard, but you should know how to swim. He and Larry get into why violence is never actually random, how to read a parking lot, the acronym TIME that maps how attackers operate, the normalcy bias that keeps good people from trusting their gut, and persuasion predators, the charming, manipulative threats every dad with a daughter needs to understand. If you want to protect the people who matter most without living in fear, this episode delivers the tools.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Protecting Netanyahu, the chess match, and embedding covert protection in a crowd [4:35] – Tom Cruise in Pittsburgh and why he was one of the best to work with [6:23] – How you even land a gig protecting someone at that level [8:12] – Protecting Terry Bradshaw at the NFL draft, and why it's all word of mouth [12:36] – The core philosophy: it's good to have a lifeguard, but you should know how to swim [14:51] – Sam's full bio, the Marine Corps, Live Ready, and the book [16:34] – Situational awareness starts with our wives in parking lots [20:04] – The myth of helplessness and the myth of randomness [21:44] – Why violence is a process as predictable as boiling water [22:38] – Attacks happen on arrival and departure, and every environment has a purpose [24:10] – Watching for the watchers, and the New York City looking up analogy [26:30] – The creepy guy vibe and why we hunt for evidence to dismiss it [27:42] – Social contracting, bias, and how it blinds us to real danger [30:13] – Normalcy bias: the brain's desire for everything to be normal [32:04] – Breaking down a real, sophisticated parking lot kidnapping on video [35:36] – The simple bow: trust your intuition even without all the evidence [37:12] – What that woman could have noticed, and the double-tap unlock habit [43:14] – The TIME acronym: target selection, intelligence, method of attack, escape [46:16] – Why street criminals run the same process as terrorists [49:17] – Can you avoid being targeted? You can influence it, not always prevent it [52:04] – Charlie Kirk, Butler, and why it has to be stopped in advance [53:27] – Recognizing the interview means you've already been selected [56:16] – Hard target versus soft target, and why gimmicks don't work [57:29] – The undercover story: why street-smart observers saw through his disguise [1:02:47] – Willingness and ability are all it takes to be a hard target [1:04:31] – What bad guys are truly afraid of: failure [1:08:55] – Persuasion predators, masters of charm and disguise [1:10:31] – Reframing charm: ask why is this person trying to charm me [1:11:56] – No is a complete sentence, and the veils of denial [1:13:54] – Sociopaths, the pity play, and the puppy law used on children   5 Key Takeaways Violence Is a Process, Not Random — Attacks follow an observable, predictable sequence. Learning to spot the pattern, especially during arrival and departure moments, is what lets you get ahead of danger instead of reacting to it. Watch for the Watchers — Every environment has a purpose. Scan left to right for anomalies, people not using the space for its intended purpose, and notice who's watching who's coming and going. That awareness alone makes you a harder target. Trust Your Radar Over Normalcy Bias — Good people talk themselves out of intuitive warnings because they can't find hard evidence or don't want to seem judgmental. When something feels off, that unease is data. Default to it and remove yourself from the situation. Recognize the Interview — When a stranger approaches you in an anomalous moment, that's an interview, and it means you've already been selected as a target. How you manage that interaction, with the right body language and enough force, often determines whether an attack proceeds. Reframe Charm and Hold the Line on No — Teach daughters to ask why is this person trying to charm me rather than being flattered. No is a complete sentence, and anyone who pushes past it is signaling they care only about what they want. A pity play after being caught in lies is a massive red flag.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1517 Sam Rosenberg's company, LiveReady: https://www.liveready.co/ Live Ready by Sam Rosenberg (the book): https://www.liveready.co/book LiveReady on YouTube (situational awareness and attack breakdowns): https://www.youtube.com/@LiveReadyCo LiveReady on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livereadyco LiveReady on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LiveReadyCo LiveReady on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/LiveReadyCo/ LiveReady personal training: https://www.liveready.co/training Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Roommates to soulmates thedadedge.com/soulmates   Enjoyed This Episode? If Sam's breakdown of that parking lot attack made you look at your own routine differently, put one habit to work this week. Get your head up and off your phone during those arrival and departure moments, and have the charm and no conversation with your daughter. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

This is a Wednesday Wins Q&A, with Larry joined by his longtime co-host Joe Bailey to tackle a question that lands for almost every married dad. Mike from Washington State wrote in about a marriage that isn't broken, no fighting, no affairs, but feels more like two coworkers running a small company called the family. He and his wife talk schedules, kids, and bills, physical intimacy has slowed, and as he puts it, he misses her even though she's only six feet away. Larry breaks down the four pillars of marriage from Lance and Brandi's work, individual, partnership, friends, and intimacy, and explains how couples get stuck in the partnership loop and skip straight to intimacy, which backfires. Joe follows with the idea of getting used to the light again after emotional disconnection, releasing resentment, and making small pursuits without attaching expectations. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a romance, this one is a practical roadmap back.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Setting up Mike's question about a marriage that feels like a business partnership [2:12] – Mike's full letter: coworkers running a company called our family [3:46] – Larry on his own first decade feeling exactly the same way [4:05] – The four pillars of marriage from Lance and Brandi's book [4:46] – Pillar one, individual: self-care and emotional check-ins by percentage [5:42] – Pillar two, partnership: the bills, roles, and chores, aka the partnership loop [5:59] – Pillar three, friends: shared interests and real alignment [6:21] – Pillar four, intimacy, and why it collapses when the others are neglected [6:47] – How couples skip friendship and self and jump straight to intimacy [7:26] – Disrupting the partnership loop by cultivating friendship first [7:49] – The walk-and-date boundary: be Larry and Jessica, not Mom and Dad [8:13] – Bookending conversations with appreciation so your partner feels seen [8:30] – Adventuring together and asking bucket-list questions [9:34] – Why men eradicate their own self-care and isolate [12:12] – Joe on living this exact dynamic in his own marriage [12:32] – The dark-theater analogy: getting used to the light again [13:35] – Step one, release resentment when reconnection feels uncomfortable [14:02] – Be persistent and stop attaching sex to every act of connection [14:27] – Small pursuits: flowers and a coffee dropped off at Ivy's work, just because [15:46] – Small investments compound like a financial portfolio [16:40] – Stop keeping score and get in the habit of just investing [16:59] – The car story: we love the things we invest in [20:07] – Loving your wife publicly and without agenda [20:44] – Loving her in front of the kids and her mother [21:48] – The Hitch analogy and winning over the people around her [22:14] – The marriage hack: your mother in law as your greatest ally   5 Key Takeaways Marriage Has Four Pillars — Individual, partnership, friends, and intimacy. When you neglect self-care, friendship, and quality time and jump straight to intimacy, it falls flat. Intimacy is the natural result of the other three working. Escape the Partnership Loop — If every conversation is about schedules, bills, and who needs to be where, you're stuck in the partnership loop. Break out by rebuilding the friendship: dates, walks, adventures, and conversations where you're a couple, not just co-parents. Get Used to the Light Again — After emotional disconnection, reconnecting feels awkward and uncomfortable for both people. Expect that, release resentment about it, and don't attach worst-case scenarios to the discomfort. Make Small Pursuits Without Agenda — Drop off flowers just because, and don't attach any expectation of sex, because she'll sniff that out instantly. Stop keeping score and keep making small investments, and the connection compounds over time. We Love What We Invest In — Don't wait to feel the love before you invest. As the car story shows, investment creates love, not the other way around. Love your wife publicly and without agenda, and let her people, especially her mother, become your allies.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1516 Legendary Couple with Larry and Jessica: https://thedadedge.com/legendary-couple/ Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl   Enjoyed This Episode? If Mike's letter read like a page out of your own marriage, pick one small pursuit and do it this week with zero agenda. Drop off her favorite coffee, take a walk where you're just the two of you again, and stop waiting to feel connected before you invest. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

This is a special live Q&A recorded inside Apogee, where the hosts turned the tables and interviewed Larry alongside his wife Jessica for a rare joint conversation. Married 23 years with four sons, the two open up about what actually creates safety in a home, and their answer surprises the room: it starts with relentlessly prioritizing the marriage. From there they get honest about the early years when Larry admits he floundered and didn't lead well, how Jessica learned to call him forward without emasculating him, and why connection always has to come before correction. They talk repair as the true measure of a relationship, letting kids witness the full cycle of a disagreement, and Larry shares the hardest parts of his own story, an estranged mother and a father who left twice, and what forgiveness has and hasn't looked like. If you want a real look inside a marriage that leads, this one delivers.   Timeline Summary [1:05] – Larry and Jessica join Apogee, and the watermelon splitter jokes begin [5:03] – The Freud quote on a child's need for protection, and Larry's book for his boys [6:19] – What's really happening in a home when a child feels deeply safe [7:01] – The frying pan on the back burner: how marriages slide after kids arrive [8:29] – Marriage as a skill, not just a feeling, and the tactical work it requires [9:09] – Telling his 12 year old he prioritizes mom, and why that creates safety [10:04] – The 18 year old who wants to be home because of how his parents love [11:05] – Jessica on kids modeling what they see, and her daughter wanting flowers [13:16] – Jessica's loving, family oriented upbringing versus Larry's chaotic one [15:08] – Jessica's honesty: he did not lead very well in the early years [15:51] – Calling him forward with love instead of a finger in his face [17:28] – Connection before correction, and picking one when forced to choose [20:55] – Why calling someone forward implies connection and trust already exist [22:08] – Without connection you have no influence, even with your own kids [23:14] – Having tough conversations through activity: walks, workouts, the range [23:38] – Hold On to Your Kids and why attachment precedes instruction [24:51] – Parenting across developmental stages and the two bigs, two littles dynamic [28:01] – Why Larry found the young years hardest and came alive in the teens [29:23] – Jessica as the boy mom of empathy, affection, and don't cross me [30:29] – What repair looks like after losing patience with the kids [32:22] – Figs O'Sullivan on harmony, disharmony, and quality living in the repair [33:05] – Growing up with parents who never apologized, and breaking that cycle [35:05] – Coach Whittle's house rule: if you see the collision, you see the repair [36:12] – The deck argument Ethan witnessed and the repair he described back [38:20] – Repairing with your own parents, and the letters Apogee members are writing [41:53] – Larry's estranged mother, the milk incident, and an unsafe environment [42:37] – A father who left twice and the Starbucks reunion 18 years later [43:36] – Mason at 15 asking how he could ever forgive him [44:34] – Forgive and co-create the future, or live in the past with a grudge [46:18] – Screen time boundaries, dumb phones, and earning time through fitness [49:37] – The three page contract for an adult son living at home rent free [50:28] – Why doom scrolling infuriates Larry, and his own guilt with the work phone [57:08] – The Apogee host thanks Larry, and an early zoom happy birthday   5 Key Takeaways Protecting Kids Starts With the Marriage — The deepest safety a child feels comes from parents who prioritize each other. It's a long tail game, not a short term action, and kids who see their parents love each other feel warm, safe, and want to be home. Call Each Other Forward, Don't Tear Down — Jessica changed Larry by naming what she saw with love and respect instead of criticism, which made him want to change. That same energy, connection before correction, is exactly how they lead their sons. Without Connection You Have No Influence — Kids tune out discipline from someone they don't feel attached to. Building connection first, often through shared activity, makes every hard conversation land far better. The Relationship Lives in the Repair — Every relationship cycles through harmony, disharmony, and repair, and the quality resides in how you repair. Letting kids witness the whole cycle, including your apology, teaches them it's safe to mess up and own it. Forgiveness Is a Choice About the Future — Larry's father owned his two abandonments completely and earned a 21 year relationship, while his mother's unsafe patterns went unrepaired. You can forgive and co-create the future, or live your whole life in the past with a grudge.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1507 Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Connect with Jessica Hagner: https://thedadedge.com/jessicahagner/ Larry and Jessica interview each other (part one): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_aCcKKv9pXw Larry and Jessica interview each other (part two): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XsHmnQiROMo&t=138s Roommates to soulmates thedadedge.com/soulmates   Enjoyed This Episode? If watching Larry and Jessica lead their marriage out loud gave you something to aim at, take one piece into your own home this week. Prioritize your spouse in front of your kids, or let them witness a full repair the next time you lose your patience. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Harry Psaros is an author, neuroscientist, health coach, and third degree black belt, known to Pittsburgh sports fans as the Pit Guru, but the title that matters most to him is dad. He and his wife Michelle have been married 24 years and raised two sons, and it was his journey raising Gus, who's on the autism spectrum, that led him to write his Amazon bestselling, award winning book From Struggle to Strength. He's one of the rare male voices in the autism space, and he doesn't shy away from calling other fathers forward. Harry and Larry, who's walked a similar road with his own oldest son, get into why so many dads resist an autism diagnosis, the devastating fall that erased years of Gus's progress, and the mindset that pulled the family through. Harry breaks down the two ideas from his book that have resonated worldwide: the 2% rule for cutting through overwhelm, and the difference between sight and vision. If you're a father facing a diagnosis you didn't expect, this one meets you where you are and refuses to let you stay there.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Two martial artists connect over a shared lifelong passion [7:13] – The fall down two flights of stairs and the concussion that changed everything [9:14] – Total regression: years of therapy and even the piano, gone [9:37] – Picking yourself off the mat because the endgame never changed [10:45] – Gus graduates Kent State and starts a physical therapy graduate program [12:16] – The full bio: author, neuroscientist, the Pit Guru, and a dad [14:51] – When Gus was diagnosed and why Harry was so stubborn at first [15:31] – The oddities Michelle saw that Harry couldn't accept [16:28] – The birthday party, the fan, and the teacher who said it out loud [17:57] – The two hour drive home and the moment he decided, game on [19:16] – The two types of dads, and why both need to hear this [22:26] – Gus at 22, the vision board, the degree, and the Ram truck [23:09] – The three levels of autism and why mild is never easy [24:19] – A nonverbal keynote speaker with two degrees and a full life [25:31] – Larry's own son: low muscle tone, food textures, and an IEP that led to drum major [29:33] – Larry's younger son, PANDAS, and the strep connection [31:47] – The 2% rule: one thing a day to silence the cacophony [41:58] – Sight versus vision: the daily grind and the long term picture [43:19] – Brain Balance, Dr. Robert Melillo, and lifting the autistic fog [45:21] – Why the vision piece includes estate planning for some families [47:33] – Filotimo and doing good for the sake of good, asking nothing in return [49:16] – Wanting to become a preeminent male voice in the autism space [51:10] – Your number one job as a dad is to be there for your kid [53:19] – Gus wins a National Courage Award and says yes to help one person [55:09] – Where to find the book and connect with Harry   5 Key Takeaways Control the Controllable — When a devastating setback erases years of progress, you can't change what happened. You can refocus on the endgame, pick yourself off the mat, and keep fighting toward the best version of your child. The 2% Rule — Parenting a child with extra needs floods you with everything that needs fixing at once. Pick one thing each day and make your child 2% better at it. Anything beyond that is icing on the cake. Mild Doesn't Mean Easy — A level one diagnosis still means years of therapists, neurologists, and countless hours on the road. Improvement applies at every level, and no one should tell you what your child can't do. Sight and Vision Are Both Required — Sight is the daily grind of therapies and goals. Vision is the long term picture, and it can change dramatically as your child grows, so keep both in view and adjust the vision as gains come. A True Man Shows Up — Your number one job as a dad is to be there for your kid. Resisting the diagnosis or staying on the sidelines is doing the opposite of what fatherhood requires. Get your emotions out, then dive in.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1514 Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Alex the Terrible scream video (referenced in episode, just for fun): https://www.youtube.com/shorts/UMZ1tqojC2Q Become a legendary couple: https://thedadedge.com/legendary-couple/ Roommates to soulmates thedadedge.com/soulmates   Enjoyed This Episode? If Harry's message reached something in you, whether you're facing a diagnosis yourself or you know a dad who's still resisting one, pass it along. Send this episode to a father who needs to hear that showing up is the whole job, and pick one small thing to get 2% better at with your own kids this week. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

This is a Wednesday Wins Q&A, with Larry joined by his longtime co-host and friend of nearly a decade, Joe Bailey. The two open up about the Bible study they've been doing together before digging into two listener questions that hit at the heart of hands-on fatherhood. First, Steve asks how to prepare his three year old daughter for a new baby sister arriving in a few weeks, and how to keep the first child feeling seen. Then Brad from Florida sends in a question that lands hard: his wife says that even when he's home, he's not really there, and his 11 year old recently cut off a story with "never mind, dad, you're not listening anyway." Larry and Joe get practical on capacity for love, protecting margin, and the exact tools they use to actually be present. If you've ever been physically home but mentally somewhere else, this one is for you.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Larry and Joe celebrate nearly a decade of friendship and their ongoing Bible study [3:09] – Steve's question: transitioning a three year old into big sister life [4:57] – The fear of not having enough love to go around, and why it's unfounded [5:19] – The Love and Logic lesson: what a new sibling feels like to a toddler [7:05] – Kids spell love T-I-M-E, and why one on one time matters most [9:36] – Joe on quality over quantity once you can't match the same hours [11:39] – Becoming a subject matter expert in whatever your kid is into [13:03] – Inviting the older child into the role of big sister without pressure [14:14] – Watching for behavioral cues before jealousy goes full fledged [14:34] – Being depth on the bench for your wife and beating the guilt monster [15:37] – Larry's chapter on raising daughters and leaning on Meg Meeker's work [16:26] – Chris Berry's daddy-daughter dates and setting the standard sky high [18:01] – Why three years old isn't too early to start dating your daughter [19:19] – Brad's question: present in body, absent in mind [21:03] – Why perception is reality when your family feels you're not there [22:16] – The name cue: teaching your family to signal when they need you fully [23:26] – Being relentless about creating margin and hard stops for work [25:24] – Larry on notifications as the window that steals your presence [25:43] – The Gary John Bishop river metaphor for the past, present, and future [28:28] – Larry's Full Presence Training and grounding through the five senses [31:07] – Joe on great expectancy with no expectations   5 Key Takeaways Your Capacity for Love Isn't Fixed — Every parent fears they can't love a second child as much as the first. Both hosts describe the same surprise each time: a fresh reserve of love shows up that you didn't know you had. Quality Beats Quantity — With more kids, you simply can't give each one the same number of hours. Get intentional instead: enter your child's world, learn what they love, and make the time you do have count. Perception Is Reality — You may feel like you're present and carrying the load, but if your wife and kids experience you as checked out, that's the reality you have to address. Validating their experience comes before defending your own. Protect Margin With Hard Stops — Decide when work starts and when it ends, and hold the line even when customers call at night. Give your family a simple cue, like saying your name, that signals you'll drop everything and give full attention. Ground Yourself in the Five Senses — When your mind drifts to the past or the future, you miss the present entirely. Deliberately noticing what you see, hear, feel, and smell in a moment with your kids pulls you fully into it.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1513 Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Meg Meeker episode: https://thedadedge.com/meg-meeker/ Roommates to soulmates thedadedge.com/soulmates   Enjoyed This Episode? If Brad's question hit a nerve, or if you've got a new sibling on the way like Steve, take one idea from this episode and put it to work this week. Set a hard stop on work tonight, or ground yourself in the five senses the next time your kid is talking to you. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Jenna Free is a counselor who specializes in ADHD, and she doesn't teach it from a textbook, she lives it, having been diagnosed herself at 32. Her work zeroes in on the piece she says the field keeps missing: dysregulation. Through her ADHD regulation groups and her training for mental health professionals, she teaches a method built around regulating the nervous system, thoughts, and behaviors, and she's put it all into her bestselling book The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation, a Toronto Star and Globe and Mail bestseller. The core idea here reframes almost everything men think they know about ADHD. Jenna argues that most of what gets labeled ADHD is actually an ADHD brain stuck in chronic fight or flight, and that it's fixable. She and Larry get into what's happening in the brain during dysregulation, the four survival responses, why potential keeps you stuck, and how simply refusing to fight with reality can change your whole day. If you or your kids have ever felt like putting on socks is a full body assignment, this one explains why.   Timeline Summary [1:58] – Getting diagnosed at 32 and finally making sense to herself [3:28] – Four careers by 35, from marketing to modeling in South Africa to teaching [9:14] – Two kids under a year and a half apart and max fight or flight [9:57] – Your mess becomes your message [10:16] – The full bio: the ADHD regulation method and a bestselling book [13:16] – What's actually happening in an ADHD brain stuck in fight or flight [14:43] – Why the fight or flight symptom list looks almost identical to the ADHD one [15:49] – The socks story and how different life feels once you're regulated [18:58] – Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and how each one shows up [20:39] – Why your body can't tell a to-do list from a bear [22:01] – Which survival response dominates, and whether gender or age matters [24:41] – Why this work is hard for kids and lands better with bought-in adults [25:28] – Hyperactive, inattentive, and combination types across the lifespan [26:28] – Where regulation actually starts, and why buy-in comes first [27:43] – Putting on your dysregulation goggles to see symptoms differently [29:26] – Giving yourself permission to regulate when survival mode resists it [32:44] – Physical regulation first: slowing down to signal safety to the body [35:14] – Potential versus reality and the shoulds that pull you back into panic [36:50] – The spilled box of gems and dropping the fight with reality in five seconds [38:27] – Larry's disputed parking charge and staying calm while everyone else panicked [43:12] – Do people with ADHD have less energy, or is it pouring onto the floor? [45:13] – Why Jenna's calming tone regulates her own body in real time [48:14] – How fawning and people pleasing trace back to the amygdala   5 Key Takeaways It's Often Fight or Flight, Not Just ADHD — Many of the symptoms people write off as permanent ADHD traits, the overwhelm, paralysis, and procrastination, are actually a nervous system stuck in survival mode. That part is treatable. Your Body Can't Tell a To-Do List From a Bear — Under chronic stress, blood flow leaves the prefrontal cortex so you can fight or run, which is exactly why you can't think clearly when you sit down to work. Buy-In Comes Before Any Technique — Regulation work is uncomfortable because your system thinks its old patterns are keeping you alive. You have to genuinely want the change to push through the resistance. Start by Physically Slowing Down — Walking instead of rushing, dropping your shoulders, and typing at a reasonable pace all signal safety to the body. Small shifts over time retrain the nervous system far better than fast, intense change. Stop Fighting With Reality — Shoulds, what-ifs, and "this shshouldn't have happened" throw you straight back into panic. Naming what is real and asking "now what" is one of the fastest ways to calm the system down.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1512 Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals (November 15, Cardinals vs Rams, State Farm Stadium): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Roommates to soulmates thedadedge.com/soulmates   Enjoyed This Episode? If Jenna's reframing of dysregulation gave you a new way to understand your own brain or your kid's, put one piece of it to work. Catch yourself the next time you're rushing and physically slow down, and notice how quickly your body follows. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations. This episode discusses ADHD, disordered eating, and mental health. If any of it resonates personally, consider reaching out to a licensed professional who can offer support tailored to you.

Thais Gibson is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and the creator of Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory, whose work on attachment and subconscious rewiring has reached more than 75 million people. He holds a PhD, is certified in over 13 therapeutic modalities, and his research shows that 88% of the more than 70,000 people he's worked with developed a secure attachment style in just 90 days. He got there the hard way, through a six and a half year opioid addiction that only broke when he understood he wasn't running from his outside world, he was running from his inside one. This one gets unusually personal. Thais breaks down the difference between the conscious and subconscious mind, why willpower alone never sticks, and the exact rewiring exercise he uses, then Larry opens up about childhood bullying and body-image fear he says he's never shared in 1,500 episodes. If you've ever set a goal your behavior refused to follow, this conversation explains why and what to do about it.   Timeline Summary [1:44] – Growing up in a tumultuous household and one of Canada's longest divorce cases [2:46] – A knee surgery, painkillers, and the start of a six and a half year spiral [4:00] – The idea that changed everything: you're numbing your internal reality, not your external one [5:52] – Why sobriety finally stuck the third time around [6:20] – The sentence in a psych class that began his recovery [8:04] – Finding God, meditation, and building a real support system [11:33] – The full bio: 75 million people reached and an 88% success rate in 90 days [13:09] – The actual difference between the conscious and subconscious mind [14:14] – The Freudian iceberg and where your conditioning is stored [16:03] – Why there's no such thing as self-sabotage [19:18] – The Monday drinker: a case study in wanting to quit but not quitting [20:36] – The three pillars of why we keep choosing what we say we don't want [24:05] – Upgrading the form: how Thais turned his own anger into vulnerability [28:55] – The red converse shoes and how we wire by emotional association [29:42] – The cost benefit rewiring exercise, step by step [32:37] – What's actually happening in the brain when you reflect, write, and repeat [36:09] – Larry shares being a bullied, overweight kid and the dance that changed him [41:05] – Why body image got wired to so much pain, and what it's really about [48:34] – The three step exercise for rewiring a core wound [50:37] – Building confidence rooted in character instead of appearance [57:04] – The four attachment styles explained [1:00:14] – The fearful avoidant style and the unworthiness wound [1:04:17] – Why your attachment shows up most where you were most wounded   5 Key Takeaways Willpower Can't Beat Your Programming — Your conscious mind can't outwill your subconscious. When you keep repeating a pattern you swore you'd quit, that isn't weakness, it's your subconscious running a different program than the one you set. There's No Such Thing as Self-Sabotage — What feels like sabotage is your conscious intention and your subconscious conditioning pulling in opposite directions. Nobody wakes up planning to wreck their day. Upgrade the Form, Don't Just Kill the Habit — Every habit meets a real need. Instead of white-knuckling it away, identify what the behavior gives you and build a healthier way to get that same need met. Rewire Through Repetition, Emotion, and Imagery — The subconscious speaks in images and feelings, not logic. Recording your costs and benefits and listening back daily for 21 days builds new neural pathways while the old ones atrophy. Root Your Worth in Character, Not Appearance — Confidence based on your body or achievements can be taken away by an injury or a setback. Confidence built on evidence of who you are at your core can't be infringed.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1511 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive (July 31, 8am central): https://thedadedge.com/goals The Personal Development School: https://personaldevelopmentschool.com Thais Gibson on YouTube: Thais Gibson Personal Development School The Personal Development School on Instagram: https://instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood by Larry Hagner: referenced in episode   Enjoyed This Episode? If Thais naming the gap between what you intend and what you actually do landed for you, take it as the starting point. Send this episode to a man who keeps setting the same goal every Monday, and pick one core wound to run the 21 day rewiring exercise on this month. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations. This episode touches on addiction, bullying, and body image. If any of it hits close to home for you, it's worth talking with a licensed professional who can offer personalized support.

Sterling Seizert spent his career as a US Army Special Forces Green Beret, serving as a senior communications and intelligence sergeant in 10th Special Forces Group and as a Special Operations liaison at the US Embassy in Nigeria. When he transitioned out, he carried the same discipline into entrepreneurship, and today he's the founder of Patriot Capital and Legends Lodge, overseeing eight self storage facilities worth over 58 million dollars and serving 3,100 clients. He's also the author of the new book Buy Your Freedom. This one goes deeper than either man expected. Sterling opens with a harrowing 2013 combat story, then he and Larry get into how training builds calm under pressure, servant leadership in marriage, raising daughters who hold themselves to a standard, and why honesty in a home should be celebrated rather than punished. If you want a masterclass in staying grounded when the stakes are high, this is it.   Timeline Summary [2:54] – The 2013 mission in northwest Africa and the firefight that changed everything [6:11] – Holding a soldier's heart and being told to keep the rhythm [8:11] – Did training take over, or was there disbelief in the moment? [10:26] – How repetition inoculates you to the sights, sounds, and smells of the battlefield [12:32] – Advice for the average man facing his own hard situation [14:25] – Why action creates clarity and keeps you out of rumination [15:11] – The full bio: Green Beret, Nigeria, and 58 million in self storage [17:36] – Growing up in small-town Wisconsin and a colder father [20:59] – The deep question: would he still eat Taco Bell knowing what he knows? [22:21] – Did quitting ever cross his mind in selection? It never did [26:07] – The frozen ambush in North Carolina and putting suffering in perspective [30:35] – Getting recycled through small unit tactics and choosing to be an asset [32:09] – The first responder divorce rate and how he and Rebecca stayed tight [32:36] – Marriage as service, and why keeping score never works [35:09] – Serving your wife without becoming the nice guy or the domineering man [38:33] – Servant leadership, apologizing, and holding a standard at the same time [39:03] – Larry and Sterling compare their household standards for conflict [41:07] – The one question that disarms almost any argument with someone close [43:44] – The plan for when his daughters start dating, sniper school included [45:10] – Raising strong daughters to look for ambition and a standard [48:14] – What this generation of young men is missing, from social media to porn [52:03] – Cultivating real connection with daughters in the teenage years [54:13] – The one hard rule he'll raise his voice over, and why honesty gets celebrated [57:29] – The two books that changed his life, plus his own new release   5 Key Takeaways Action Creates Clarity — When you're facing something hard, assess what needs to get done and execute in order. Movement keeps you out of the rumination loop and steadily reveals the next right step. Marriage Is Service, Not Score — Approach your marriage as the person there to serve, and assume your spouse will meet you halfway. Keeping score guarantees you'll always find a way to justify why you're winning. Serve Without Being a Doormat — Servant leadership isn't groveling and it isn't domineering. Hold a real standard for how you're treated, model that same standard yourself, and pick the battles that actually matter. Assume the Best Interest — In conflict with someone close, ask whether they truly lack your family's best interest at heart. Nine times out of ten they don't, which turns the fight into the two of you against the problem. Celebrate Honesty, Don't Punish It — Make ownership safe. When kids know honesty is welcomed rather than met with punishment, you can address the actual problem instead of untangling a lie on top of it.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1510 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive (July 31, 8am central): https://thedadedge.com/goals Buy Your Freedom by Sterling Seizert: https://a.co/d/0fwMJAzB   Enjoyed This Episode? If Sterling's line about action creating clarity gave you something to hold onto, put it to work this week. Send this episode to a man who's stuck ruminating instead of moving, and take one honest look at the standards you're actually modeling at home. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Joshua Becker is the founder of Becoming Minimalist, a New York Times bestselling author, and one of the leading voices in the world on intentional living. His work reaches more than 4 million followers across social media and over 1 million readers a month on his website. He spent 15 years as a pastor before discovering minimalism in his own driveway, and his newest book Uncluttered Faith makes the case that owning less isn't just practical, it's profoundly spiritual. The conversation starts with the Memorial Day garage cleanout where Joshua looked up and saw his five-year-old son swinging alone in the backyard, and goes into what he realized about Jesus' teachings on money, how he and his wife Kim navigated wanting to get rid of very different amounts, and the parable that showed him he wasn't the soil he thought he was. If you've ever spent a day off managing your possessions while your kids waited, this one will land.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Joshua on finally making the New York Times list with his fourth book [2:51] – The Memorial Day garage cleanout that started everything [4:40] – A neighbor named June changes his life in one sentence [5:23] – Seeing his son swinging alone and realizing possessions were taking him away [6:37] – Telling Kim, and starting Becoming Minimalist that Monday [7:02] – Why the very first thing he decluttered was the cars [8:57] – Starting with the easiest, most lived-in rooms instead of the garage [11:50] – Easier to clean, more money, more generosity: cataloging the benefits [13:11] – Owning fewer things means owning higher quality things [13:58] – Full introduction: 4 million followers, 1 million monthly readers, 15 years pastoring [16:32] – Realizing June wasn't the first person to tell him about minimalism, Jesus was [17:47] – Why Jesus wasn't inviting him to a boring life but a better one [20:56] – Knowing the verses for years without knowing how to actually live them out [22:39] – Five thousand advertisements a day and the world's definition of a good life [25:16] – Kim was on board, but she wanted to lose 40% and he wanted 80% [27:21] – It's always easier to see everyone else's clutter than your own [28:28] – Why men and women tend to accumulate differently [29:44] – The three moments it got hard, including "let me handle the children's clothes" [32:40] – Would he still be a minimalist if he weren't a Christian? [34:32] – Raising Salem and Alexa in it, and the test that comes with the first big paycheck [37:23] – The foundation kids can always come back to [41:03] – How minimalism forced him to redefine success [43:45] – The parable of the four soils and the weeds nobody names correctly [46:15] – Discovering he was the third soil, not the fourth   5 Key Takeaways Your Stuff Is Taking You From What Matters — It isn't just that possessions fail to make you happy. Managing, cleaning, and organizing them actively pulls you away from the people and purpose that do. Start With the Easy Rooms — Most people think decluttering means attacking the garage or the storage unit. Begin with the car and the most lived-in spaces, where you'll feel the benefit immediately and build momentum. Clean Up Your Own Clutter First — It's always easier to see your spouse's or your kids' excess than your own. You have little standing to ask anyone to let go of their things until you've dealt with yours. Owning Less Redefines Success — When you stop earning to accumulate, you're forced to answer what you're actually working for. That question reshapes your filter for nearly every decision. Worries, Riches, and Pleasures Choke Fruitfulness — In the parable of the four soils, Jesus names riches themselves, not merely the love of them. Many who assume they're the fourth soil are living as the third.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1509 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive (July 31, 8am central): https://thedadedge.com/goals Uncluttered Faith by Joshua Becker: available everywhere books are sold, plus a six week small group Bible study Becoming Minimalist: https://becomingminimalist.com Joshua Becker's personal site: https://joshuabecker.com Luke 8:14, the parable of the four soils: referenced in episode The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood by Larry Hagner: referenced in episode   Enjoyed This Episode? If the image of Joshua's son swinging alone in the backyard while he sorted boxes stopped you cold, take that as the nudge. Send this episode to a dad who spends his days off managing his possessions, and go clean out one small space this week just to feel the difference. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Jon Gustin is the founder of Tired Dad, a community of more than 2 million followers built on one honest premise: parenting is only hard for good parents. A former personal trainer of 14 years who started making short videos during the sleepless newborn stretch of 2020, he became one of the first men online talking openly about the mental load of fatherhood. He co-hosts the Tired Dad and Tired Mom podcasts with his wife Jessica and released his book The Tired Dad: 100 Reflections on Showing Up for What Matters Most in May. Larry and Jon get into the exhaustion that comes from doing the work right, both of their fathers coming home from Vietnam unable to talk about it, the rebellion and loss that followed Jon's parents' divorce, and the ego death that pulled his marriage out of the roommate phase. If you're tired in the best way possible and still wondering whether you're doing a good job, this conversation is for you.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Parenting is only hard for good parents, and why tired means invested [3:19] – Tired from parenting, not tired of parenting [6:23] – How the newborn stretch of 2020 accidentally birthed Tired Dad [8:10] – Nobody was talking about the mental load of fatherhood, so Jon did [12:16] – The Justin Gustin problem and Larry's own Hagman mixup [13:29] – Full introduction: 2 million followers, two podcasts, and the book [16:54] – Growing up the baby of the family with siblings seven and eight years older [20:18] – A Vietnam veteran father, a World War Two grandfather, and night terrors that never left [21:55] – Watching your dad go from Superman to human during the divorce [26:38] – Running from it: partying, drugs, theft, and total chaos at 14 [28:26] – Losing friends to overdoses and deciding to get out [29:48] – Moving to Tennessee, meeting Jessica, and marrying 11 months later [34:08] – The Gottman research and why only 12% of marriages truly thrive [36:27] – Marry the right person for the right reasons, because marriage fixes nothing [37:59] – Postpartum, the roommate phase, and the darkest stretch of their marriage [40:56] – Killing the ego and why keeping score breeds resentment [43:48] – Getting sober three and a half years ago and what changed [46:42] – Ego death without becoming a doormat or a nice guy [48:55] – Eliminate the guessing and learn what your wife actually needs [52:42] – Inside the book: the weight fathers carry and the mantra to keep showing up [54:47] – Wearing exhaustion as a badge of honor versus being the healed version of you [57:18] – Legacy, being a home worth coming back to, and the 3am call   5 Key Takeaways Tired Means You're Doing It Right — If parenting feels hard and exhausting, that's evidence you care enough to invest in it. You're tired from the work, not of it. Marriage Fixes Nothing — Your partner isn't responsible for healing your wounds and you aren't responsible for healing theirs. Two people can both do their own work and build something great, but expecting rescue guarantees misery. The Ego Is a Heavy Backpack — Keeping score is the breeding ground for resentment. Dropping the ego means asking how you can help the situation, not tallying what you're not getting. Ego Death Is Not Becoming a Doormat — Killing the ego doesn't mean happy wife, happy life, or becoming a yes man. It means eliminating the guessing, expressing your own needs clearly, and understanding hers. Be the Healed Version, Not the Broken One — Carrying exhaustion proudly while running on empty leaves you injured at the end of the road. The goal is showing up tired but well, in shape for the job.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1508 Join the Dad Edge Alliance (July promo: signed book, two courses, 50 conversation starters): https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive (July 31, 8am central): https://thedadedge.com/goals The Tired Dad: 100 Reflections on Showing Up for What Matters Most by Jon Gustin: available wherever books are sold Tired Dad website: https://tireddad.com   Enjoyed This Episode? If Jon's line about being tired from parenting rather than tired of it reframed something for you, pass it along. Send this episode to a dad who's running on empty and quietly wondering if he's cut out for this, and ask yourself whether you're carrying the weight well or just carrying it. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

This episode flips the script. Instead of Larry hosting, Marc Hildebrand, one of the top coaches in the Dad Edge Business Brotherhood, a 20-year LAPD veteran, life coach, and founder of Modern Leadership, sits Larry down and interviews him. The jumping-off point is a hard statistic: most men are lonely, and the majority don't have a single friend they could call at 3am. Larry opens up about the mastermind that changed his life eleven years ago, the "cost of doing nothing" question that got him to say yes, the BRAVE MAN system his Boardroom runs on, and the August 2017 morning his wife told him he was losing her. If you're a man who's surrounded by people but still feels alone, or a business owner pouring everything into work while the rest of your life drifts, this one is a roadmap.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – The loneliness statistic and why Larry isn't surprised it's that high [3:17] – Marc introduces Larry and the role-reversal format [7:04] – The first mastermind eleven years ago and mentor Aaron Walker [8:45] – Rusty relationships and why "fine, good, busy" keeps men shallow [10:03] – The $500-a-month invitation that sounded like snake oil [11:55] – The question that changed everything: the cost of doing nothing [13:45] – Sitting with the chills, imagining life a year out, and calling back in 12 minutes [16:24] – What pulled Larry to lean in instead of talking himself out of it [19:03] – "Show me your calendar and I'll show you what's important to you" [22:59] – Why it's never the business, it's the person running the business [25:41] – The BRAVE MAN system explained category by category [29:53] – Why the room, not just the strategies, is what gets men to change [30:52] – The black belt lesson: that's when the training actually begins [35:02] – Attracting your wife back to you instead of chasing [36:22] – The August 2017 morning Jessica said "you're losing me" [40:30] – Masculine and feminine energy, and helping your wife soften [44:11] – Inside the quarterly Goal Setting Intensive [47:19] – Why the Boardroom is only 20-25% about business [50:26] – Living an "and" life instead of an "or" life [52:36] – The Dad Edge core values, read in full for the first time [58:04] – Who the room is for, and how to join the intensive   5 Key Takeaways The Cost of Doing Nothing — When weighing an investment in yourself, the real question isn't the price. It's what your life looks like a year from now if you change nothing at all. It's Never the Business — Entrepreneurs blame the business for their disconnection, burnout, and lost health. The hidden truth is that it's the person running the business, and reactivity is the pattern to break. Attract, Don't Chase — Chasing your spouse reads as needy, desperate energy. Leading from a grounded, positive masculine presence lets her soften and pulls her back toward you. Set "And" Goals, Not "Or" Goals — You don't have to choose between growing your business and connecting with your family. The right question is how one could actually strengthen the other. The Room Is the Gold — Skills and strategies matter, but transformation happens in a room of trusted men who share wins in detail, hold public accountability, and call each other forward.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1515 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive (July 31, 8am central, 10 guest spots): https://thedadedge.com/goals   Enjoyed This Episode? If the "cost of doing nothing" question landed for you the way it landed for Larry, don't let it sit. Send this episode to a man who's surrounded by people but still feels alone, and ask yourself honestly who your own 3am call would be. If the show keeps showing up for you, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Stefanos Sifandos returns to the show six years after his first appearance, and this time the conversation goes straight to the bone. A behavioral scientist and relationship expert who's worked with Olympic gold medalists, world champion fighters, special forces operators, and high-performing couples, Stefanos helps successful people confront the emotional armor and old patterns that achievement can't hide. He's also the author of the new book Tuned In and Turned On. Larry and Stefanos both grew up with volatile, abusive fathers, and they open up about the exact moments they stood up to the men who terrorized them, the survival patterns that followed them into adulthood, and the slow inner work of forgiveness. If you're a man carrying more than you've ever said out loud, this conversation names it and points to a way through.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Stefanos returns after six years and revisits growing up in violence [3:09] – A gambler father, criminal company, and never knowing which version you'd get [4:39] – How the abuse shifted between two brothers over the years [6:24] – Leaving the country at 18 and the eldest-child savior role [7:40] – Larry shares his own story of standing up to his mom's abusive boyfriend [10:09] – Why a terrifying confrontation can be a painful gift with a long trajectory [12:40] – Stefanos on the night at the kitchen bench when he told his dad "I'm not small anymore" [18:46] – Stefanos' full background in behavioral science, performance, and embodiment [21:24] – The unconscious, fractured initiation from boyhood into manhood [23:44] – Larry on deliberately taking his sons through rites of passage [24:26] – Where the relationship with his father stands now, and the memoir project [27:15] – Forgiveness as an inside job and letting go without relying on the other person [29:37] – Scarcity, hypervigilance, and why the nervous system prepares for the worst [36:18] – Why 80% of healing is how others show up and meet you [38:41] – How children internalize abuse as proof they're unworthy [41:24] – The book's practices: get a friend, and why men are so isolated [46:20] – Deliberate solitude in nature and learning to slow down [48:55] – Seeking physical challenge as the path to real confidence   5 Key Takeaways Standing Up Is an Initiation — For many men, the shift from boyhood to manhood happens through a raw, unchosen confrontation rather than a healthy rite of passage. Naming that moment helps you understand who you became because of it. Forgiveness Is an Inside Job — Closure doesn't require the other person to change or even participate. Peace comes from your own diligent inner work, not from waiting on an apology. Your Survival Patterns Made Sense Once — Scarcity thinking and catastrophizing were hypervigilant survival tools in childhood. The work isn't to shame them away, but to notice them and stop feeding the beast. Healing Is Relational — Around 80% of transformation is being met with compassion and nonjudgment by someone who can relate to you. Insight matters, but connection is what actually changes you. Get a Friend, Then Get Alone — Men are epidemically lonely, so build real friendships despite the risk. Then balance that with deliberate solitude in nature and physical challenge that builds genuine confidence.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links: https://thedadedge.com/1506 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive: https://thedadedge.com/goals Tuned In and Turned On by Stefanos Sifandos: published by Hay House, February 2026 (audiobook includes bonus material) Stefanos Sifandos on Instagram: https://instagram.com/stefanossifandos Stefanos Sifandos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@stefanossifandos Follow Stefanos Sifandos on Facebook and TikTok: search "Stefanos Sifandos" The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood by Larry Hagner: referenced in episode   Enjoyed This Episode? If Stefanos' line about men leaking their pain sideways into aggression and avoidance hit home, don't carry it alone. Send this episode to a man in your life who might be quietly isolated, and think about who your own 3am friend would be. If the show keeps showing up for you, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Leslie Tyler is the Director of Parent Education at Pinwheel, where she's also known as the Chief Mom, and the editor of Your Healthy Tech Playbook. She co-hosts the Technically Parenting podcast, collaborates with leading researchers to build practical tools for families, and previously took an edtech company from startup through acquisition by GoGuardian. She's also a mom of two teenagers doing this work in real time. This conversation gets into what most parents are missing: the body image and hyper-masculinity content quietly targeting boys, why the bully now follows your kid into his bedroom, what AI is actually doing to kids' thinking and relationships, and how to teach self-regulation without setting your kid up to fail. If you've ever thought "he's in his room, what could go wrong," this one's for you.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Why boys get lost in the conversation about social media risk [2:20] – Looksmaxxing, jawlines, and the body image content aimed squarely at boys [3:52] – What the Netflix series Adolescence revealed about hidden bullying [7:43] – Comparison versus inspiration and why kids can't tell the difference [9:17] – That photo wasn't their first take, and adults know it but kids don't [13:25] – How to interrupt the gut reaction when your son sees an idealized image [14:51] – The cupcake story and giving your kid grace [19:19] – Why exposing your own vulnerability opens the door to connection [20:24] – Middle school as the hardest age and where the filter disappears [22:48] – School used to end at the door, now the bully is in the bedroom [24:14] – Text monitoring as a window into your kid's friends' real character [29:22] – The story of a dad who said nothing and changed everything [31:25] – Leslie on losing her father and what her kids remembered about him [33:00] – The AI frontier: what's real, what isn't, and why critical thinking matters more [36:32] – AI is not your friend, it's a sycophant programmed to please [41:01] – Let kids fail when the stakes are low so they don't fail when they're high [42:42] – A practical path to self-regulation that starts with the parent [49:48] – The hallway phone is back, and why kids need a landline again   5 Key Takeaways Boys Are Being Targeted Too — Looksmaxxing and hyper-masculine content hits boys just as hard as thinspo hits girls, but there's no counter-message, so boys internalize it silently. The Bully Followed Them Home — Kids used to escape their tormentors when the school bell rang. Now the device sits in the bedroom and the bully is in there with them. Vulnerability Is the Doorway — When your kid feels inadequate, don't lecture. Admit you feel the same thing sometimes. That's the moment connection actually happens. AI Is Not a Friend — It's programmed to tell kids what they want to hear, and there's no give and take. That one-way sycophancy is the biggest AI risk facing children right now. Self-Regulation Is Taught, Not Assumed — Start with the parent setting limits and explaining why, then loosen them gradually. Kids will fail, and that failure is the actual lesson.   Links & Resources Episode shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1505 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Bark (Dad Edge listener discount, 10% off): https://thedadedge.com/bark Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive: https://thedadedge.com/goals Pinwheel: https://pinwheel.com    Enjoyed This Episode? If the line about the bully sitting in your kid's bedroom stopped you cold, don't let it end there. Send this episode to a parent who's still telling themselves their kid is safe because he's upstairs, and go have one honest conversation with your son this week about what he's actually seeing on that screen. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more parents can find it.

Gary John Bishop is the New York Times bestselling author behind Unfuk Yourself* and Stop Doing That Sht*, with seven books and millions of copies sold, and his new release Now What out this month. In this episode Larry opens the doors to an exclusive Q&A Gary did inside the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood, where business owners brought him their real, unfiltered questions. Three men bring their hardest challenges to the table: grief and a 20-year marriage at a crossroads, the daily collapse between what you plan and what you actually do, and the fear of losing a business that follows you home to your kids. If you're a business owner who says one thing and does another, or who's been quietly sacrificing family for a fear you haven't named, this conversation will hit you where you live.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Larry introduces this exclusive Boardroom Q&A and why he brings in high level guests monthly [3:30] – Gary is introduced as the bestselling author of seven books and a friend since 2018 [5:38] – Slade opens with losing his father, rebuilding a career, and a 20-year marriage at a crossroads [8:20] – Gary challenges the idea that you lose anything when someone dies [8:57] – Your life as a conversational domain and why your father still exists inside it [13:12] – The question that changes a marriage: what are the conversations actually about? [16:02] – Why calling his dad a "degenerate gambler" was costing Slade more than he knew [18:35] – Alan asks how to stay focused when the day falls apart by 10am [20:39] – The real issue is integrity: you say and then you don't do [21:23] – Would you trust a man who never keeps his word? You're doing it to yourself [24:17] – Gary doubles his revenue target for no reason other than he said he would [29:26] – You're not detaching from emotion, you're recognizing you're attached to it [31:14] – Blake on the fear that not answering the phone will cost him his business [33:26] – Every company is organized around the fears of its founder [37:39] – "This is not appropriate to this space" and how to shut work off at home [45:05] – Ciprian asks how to stop building the present on a broken past [49:01] – Nobody cut you off in traffic: how automatic language creates your world [53:04] – Husserl's bracketing: set the story aside and be in wonder of what's there   5 Key Takeaways Your Life Is a Conversational Domain — The people you've lost still exist in the conversations you have and the way you speak about them. Locate them somewhere that nurtures you instead of somewhere labeled loss. Integrity Is Honoring Your Word — Integrity isn't morality, it's treating what you say like it matters. If you routinely say and then don't do, you've trained yourself to be unreliable to yourself. Your Business Runs On Your Fear — Every company is organized around the fears of its founder. If you're taking calls at the dinner table, look at what you're actually committed to versus what you say you're committed to. The Language Is Creating the World — Calling something a struggle instead of a challenge, or your father a degenerate instead of a man who gambled, isn't description. It's construction, and you'll live inside whatever you build. Bracket the Story and Declare Something New — You don't have to fix the past. Set it aside, declare who you are right now, and ask what that person would obviously do next.   Links & Resources Episode shownotes — https://thedadedge.com/1504 Join the Dad Edge Alliance — https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive — https://thedadedge.com/goals   Enjoyed This Episode? If Gary's line about every company being organized around the fears of its founder made you sit up, sit with it a while. Send this to a business owner who's been sacrificing his family for a fear he hasn't named yet, and ask yourself where you say one thing and do another. If the show keeps delivering, follow, rate, and leave a review so more men can find these conversations.

Gary John Bishop is the New York Times bestselling author behind Unfuk Yourself* and Stop Doing That Sht*, whose books have sold over 4.5 million copies and whose audiobooks alone have topped 2 million. Making his sixth appearance on the show, the Scottish philosopher and personal development author joins Larry to break down his newest book, Now What, and challenge the entire premise of self-help. This conversation gets into why chasing the next fix keeps you stuck, how your old solutions quietly become your current problems, and why self-invention beats self-improvement for good. If you're a dad who's done all the work, read all the books, and still catches himself asking why life feels the same, this one will reframe how you see time, identity, and being present with your kids.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Gary returns for his sixth appearance and the "Larry and Gary Show" reunion [3:13] – The line that started it all: solving your life instead of living in it [5:23] – Why the book slapped Gary around as he wrote it and questioned everything he knew [6:38] – Realizing most of what we call fulfillment is actually just relief [8:03] – Now is not a time, now is a place, and now is eternal, but you're not [11:28] – How Gary scrapped a finished manuscript and rewrote the guts in 30 days [14:20] – The difference between having knowledge of something and truly knowing it [22:12] – How old solutions become current problems: work ethic turning into workaholism [27:03] – Larry on his son's graduation and why he felt joy instead of regret [29:52] – The meerkat in the cathedral and why context is your one true superpower [32:16] – Alan Watts on standing in a river with the past and future always here [36:13] – Self-invention over self-improvement and why the "self" isn't broken [41:20] – Declaring who you are as accomplished and letting it call you forward [48:00] – What to do when the people closest to you resist the new version of you [53:03] – Why we prefer the certainty of misery over the uncertainty of joy [1:00:26] – The simplest way to teach kids this thinking through better questions   5 Key Takeaways Stop Solving, Start Living — Most people spend their whole lives fixing the problem in front of their face, then wonder why relief never comes. A life you create still has problems, but they're the right ones. Old Solutions Become New Problems — The job, the relationship, the work ethic you built to fix an old pain often becomes the very thing troubling you now. Recognizing that pattern is how you stop repeating it. Context Is Your Superpower — You can't always change what's happening, but you can shift the context you hold it in. Mandela sat in the same cell for years and chose to experience it as a life of service. Self-Invention Beats Self-Improvement — You aren't a broken, fixed thing that needs better habits. Through language you can declare who you are right now and let that identity call new actions out of you. Teach Kids to Question, Not to Comply — Instead of correcting kids, ask them where they heard that, what they're making it mean, and what else it could mean. "Now what?" asked honestly and repeatedly shifts any story.   Links & Resources Episode page and all links — https://thedadedge.com/1503 Join the Dad Edge Alliance — https://thedadedge.com/join Dad Edge Boardroom Goal Setting Intensive — https://thedadedge.com/goals Now What by Gary John Bishop — available wherever books are sold Gary John Bishop's website — https://garyjohnbishop.com Follow Gary John Bishop on Instagram — https://instagram.com/garyjohnbishop Follow Gary John Bishop on TikTok — https://tiktok.com/@garyjohnbishop    Enjoyed This Episode? If Gary's idea that "now is a place, not a time" cracked something open for you, don't let it stop at a listen. Send this episode to a dad who's done all the work and still feels stuck, and try asking your kids one of Gary's questions this week. If the show keeps delivering for you, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find these conversations.

Rock Thomas is a serial entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and personal development teacher whose 7.5-minute story about his father has been viewed by over 125 million people and credited with changing thousands of lives. The youngest of seven kids raised on a farm by a cold, duty-bound father, he channeled that pain into decades of overachievement before spending over $2 million on his own healing and building a body of work on breaking generational trauma. This episode gets into what happens when a boy grows up chasing a father's approval that never comes, and how that wound quietly shapes marriage, friendship, and the way you show up as a dad. If you are a father wrestling with your own childhood, questioning whether you're doing a good job, or trying to break a cycle you inherited, this conversation will hit home.   Timeline Summary [1:02] – Larry shares how a coach showed him Rock's video at the Dad Edge Summit and it moved him to tears [2:14] – Rock explains how his 7.5-minute story with Goal Cast reached 125 million people and stopped people from taking their lives [3:00] – The origin of the wound: a young boy craving a distant German father's approval [4:20] – Broken arm, "suck it up," and the trauma that drove decades of overworking [5:16] – Why Rock reframes the David Goggins "stay hard" model as pain in disguise [6:08] – The empty, hollow heart behind the boats, cars, and houses [7:07] – Rock's mission to be the one who breaks the generational cycle [7:28] – The football day: waking up excited, and the moment his spirit broke [9:53] – Larry describes his own absent father and running into him in a coffee shop at 30 [12:06] – Larry's vow to play with his kids 300 days a year after watching Rock's video [18:22] – How the father wound showed up in Rock's friendships and marriages through self-sabotage [23:00] – The hockey parking lot: leaving before the other kids to please his father [24:14] – Why Rock spent over $2 million on therapy, mentors, and personal development [28:52] – The real win isn't the home run, it's a dad in the stands saying "that's my boy" [30:25] – Larry shows a video of his 17-year-old son and the dad he's becoming [33:12] – Rock on the ego, the amygdala, and the voice of doubt keeping men stuck [35:07] – The "I used to... but now" method for rewiring your identity one small shift at a time [42:26] – Why big hairy goals backfire and how tiny wins harness dopamine and the RAS   5 Key Takeaways Kids Want Connection, Not Trophies — Overachievement can look like success while masking an empty heart. What children actually crave is to be seen, felt, and heard, not provided for from a distance. The Wound Shapes Every Relationship — An unhealed father wound quietly leaks into marriage and friendship through self-sabotage and distrust. Naming the pattern is the first step to stopping it. Break the Cycle On Purpose — You can be the one person in your family line who chooses differently. Doing the work now means your kids inherit the healing instead of the wound. Change Your Identity One "I Used To" At a Time — When a negative thought surfaces, catch it and say "I used to... but now" followed by a tiny new action. Small wins trigger dopamine and reprogram your subconscious over time. Small Goals Beat Big Hairy Goals — Massive goals trip your survival brain into fear of failure. Micro-commitments slip past that alarm and let your reticular activating system pull you toward the person you want to be.   Links & Resources Podcast Shownotes — https://thedadedge.com/1502 The Dad Edge Alliance — https://thedadedge.com/join The Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood — https://thedadedge.com/goals   Enjoyed This Episode? If Rock's story about that one football morning hit you the way it hit Larry, don't keep it to yourself. Text this episode to a dad who's carrying his own father wound, or to a friend who's chasing approval he'll never get. And if this show keeps showing up for you, follow, rate, and leave a review so more fathers can find it.

Larry Hagner and Joe sit down for a Wednesday Q&A the day after Larry's 51st birthday, and this one goes deep on marriage repair. Nick brought a raw, real question to the room: his wife has finally said she's willing to try to fix things and go to counseling, and he's scared. Scared to hope. Scared she doesn't mean it. Scared he'll lose himself in the process of trying to save the relationship. What follows is one of those conversations that only happens when the guys in the room have actually lived it. Joe opens up about being what he calls a three-time marriage loser and a one-time marriage big winner, and he doesn't dress it up. He blew up three marriages before he learned the thing that changed everything: when you take your wife as your bride, you inherit all of her wounds, even the ones her father put there, even the ones you didn't create. Your job isn't to fix only the damage you did. Your job is to become sensitive to all of it, so she finally feels safe enough to lower the shields. Then Larry brings in two tools that shift the whole frame. The first is vision, fast-forwarding the tape to a year from now and asking your spouse what you'd both be celebrating, because whatever we focus on grows and whatever we resist persists. The second is forgiveness, and here Larry shares the framework Father Stephen Gadberry gave him: forgiveness isn't a single conversation, it's a plant. You water it, you don't overwater it, and as it grows you keep pruning it. You forgive but you never fully forget, so you keep coming back to the conversation with curiosity instead of an attack. If you're a man trying to rebuild trust in a marriage that's been hard for years, or you're carrying resentment you don't know how to put down, this episode gives you a real place to start. It's about consistency when you don't feel like it, owning wounds you didn't cause, and building a vision worth walking toward together.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry opens the Wednesday Q&A the day after turning 51, and shares why his 50s beat his 40s [1:19] The July birthday promotion breakdown: signed book, patience course, marriage course, and 50 conversation starters [2:34] Joe comes on and speaks from the heart about getting a front row seat to Larry's last decade [3:43] Nick asks his question after his wife agreed to try repairing the relationship and start counseling [4:26] Larry points Nick back to the consistency and brotherhood that softened his wife in the first place [5:30] Why real repair takes years not months, and why you keep going even without visible results [6:19] Joe introduces himself as a three time marriage loser and one time big winner [7:12] Nick admits he's responsible for about 90% of his wife's wounds, and Joe says he owns all of them [8:11] The wisdom Joe was given: you inherit the wounds her father and others put in her heart [9:01] Why women go into self preservation mode and how shields only drop when they feel safe [10:02] Joe shares how his tone of voice was unknowingly triggering Ivy's father wounds [10:54] Larry names Nick's real fear, that his wife is only saying the words to keep things civil [15:00] Joe offers to talk with Nick personally about forgiveness and what it is and isn't [16:06] Larry sets up the Father Stephen Gadberry forgiveness episode and who Gadberry is [17:07] The vision exercise: fast forward to July 7th next year and ask what you'd be celebrating [19:25] The forgiveness-as-a-plant framework: plant the seed, water it right, and keep pruning it [23:49] Larry drops the line that lands hardest: what you criticize metastasizes, what you affirm multiplies [24:38] Larry's real example of praising his oldest son over text and watching the good behavior grow   Five Key Takeaways When you marry someone, you inherit all of their wounds, even the ones you didn't cause and the ones their parents left behind. Your job isn't to address only the damage you're responsible for. It's to become sensitive to all of it so she feels safe. Real repair is built on consistency, not intensity. If things have been hard for three years, they won't turn around in three months, so you keep showing up and doing the work even when you don't feel like it and even when you don't see the softening yet. Women stay guarded when they're in self preservation mode. The shields only come down when they feel safe with you around all of their wounds, so lead differently around the walls even when you didn't build them. Stop fighting over the past and build a shared vision instead. Ask your spouse what you'd both be celebrating a year from now, because whatever you resist persists and whatever you focus on grows. Forgiveness is a process, not a single conversation. Think of it like a plant you water, protect, and prune over time. You forgive but you never fully forget, so keep returning to the conversation with curiosity instead of an attack.   Links & Resources Shownotes for this episode — https://thedadedge.com/1501 Join the Dad Edge Alliance (July promotion: signed book, patience course, marriage course, 50 conversation starters) — https://thedadedge.com/join How to Forgive Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook featuring Father Stephen Gadberry — https://thedadedge.com/how-to-forgive-someone-without-letting-them-off-the-hook-featuring-father-stephen-gadberry/   Closing Nick came into this call scared to hope, and by the end he'd shown he was already doing the work: leading with vision, talking about letting old habits die, thinking in terms of pruning the plant instead of tearing it down. That's the whole thing right there. You don't rebuild a marriage by beating down the resentment. You build it by owning the wounds, staying consistent when it's hard, and affirming the good things you want to see multiply. If your marriage has been in a hard season, take Joe's challenge to heart, own all of it, and take Larry's, cast a vision worth walking toward together. Go out and live legendary.

My guest is Caitlin V, a sexologist and relationship coach who started out as a sexual health researcher and policy analyst before realizing that real change doesn't happen in research papers. It happens in honest conversations between real people. She's the host of Good Sex on HBO Max, her YouTube channel has reached hundreds of millions of people, and she's become one of the leading voices in men's sexual health, helping guys overcome erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and the isolation that comes with those struggles. This conversation went places I didn't expect. Caitlin explains why the biggest roadblock in a couple's sex life isn't your partner, it's the gap between your expectations and reality. She breaks down why "why can't we have more sex" is almost never about sex, what women are actually attracted to in a man (the Indiana University smell study blew my mind), and why the way you do anything is the way you do everything. I also got personal about my own marriage, including why I quit porn years ago and the one question I asked my wife in our mudroom three months ago that changed how we think about intimacy. If you and your wife have slipped into roommate mode, if the conversation about sex feels impossible to start, or if you want to rebuild attraction and connection after years of kids, schedules, and busyness, this episode is your roadmap back.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry opens with an adult content disclaimer and celebrates episode 1500 landing on his 51st birthday after 11 years [3:00] The single biggest roadblock in couples' sex lives, the painful gap between expectations and lived experience [5:16] The performance expectations men carry into the bedroom, from lasting longer to frequency to technical skill [10:11] Caitlin's first piece of advice for every man, start with your own relationship to sexuality before approaching your wife [11:37] Why "why can't we have more sex" is really a request for closeness, connection, and feeling loved [16:33] Caitlin's story, from sexual health researcher to sexologist and host of Good Sex on HBO Max [20:13] Fact checking the viral claim that 50% of couples married three plus years haven't had sex in a year [21:55] Why Gen Z is having less sex, porn access, dating app algorithms designed to keep you single, and Covid [28:49] The Indiana University t-shirt study, why smell predicts attraction and how birth control changes desire [36:37] What women actually find attractive in a man's body, hands, forearms, posture, and capability over six packs [44:40] Why your solo sex life shapes your marriage, and Caitlin's snack versus whole meal analogy [49:49] Larry opens up about quitting porn years ago and how it fixed his arousal issues and transformed intimacy [53:37] Retraining your body without porn, why orgasm may take weeks to return, and why nobody fails to get there [57:00] Escaping roommate syndrome, why sex was never actually spontaneous, and reclaiming the effort of courtship [59:35] The intimacy spectrum beyond penetration, and Caitlin's personal story of healing pain through yoni massage [1:06:09] The mudroom moment, how one question changed the way Larry and his wife connect after 23 years of marriage   Five Key Takeaways The biggest obstacle in your sex life isn't your wife. It's the unspoken gap between what you expected sex to be and what it actually is, and the shame that keeps both of you from talking about it. Never bring the conversation to her when it's burning hot. Do your own untangling first, figure out what you actually need underneath the request, and come with self-awareness and accountability instead of a demand. How you care for your body is a proxy for how you care for everything. Your grooming, your hygiene, and your posture tell her more about who you are than a six pack ever will. Don't show up to your wife starving. If she's the only source of meeting your needs, every approach carries desperation. Take care of yourself first and you'll come to her with something to give instead of something to take. Sex is one point on a wide spectrum of intimacy. A shoulder massage, a hand in hand walk, or a deep conversation on the couch can keep you insanely connected without needing to lead anywhere.   Links & Resources Caitlin V on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@caitlinvneal Caitlin V's website with free yoni massage guide and courses — https://caitlinvneal.com Erotic Blueprints playlist — search "Caitlin V blueprints" on YouTube Join The Dad Edge Alliance in July to get a signed copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, both courses, and the 50 Intimate Conversation Starters PDF — https://thedadedge.com/join This episode — https://thedadedge.com/1500 Closing Fifteen hundred episodes, and this might be one of the most important conversations I've ever had on this show. When I stood in my mudroom and asked my wife "what type of intimacy would you be up for today," everything about how we connect shifted, and that's available to you too. Don't wait until it's burning hot to have this conversation, and don't settle for being roommates with the woman you married. Share this one with a brother who needs it. Go out and live legendary.

If you're trying to put the puzzle pieces of your marriage back together, or you're stuck in that roommate syndrome that drains the life out of a home, this replay is for you. I'm bringing back G.S. Youngblood, author of two bestselling books, The Masculine in Relationship and The Art of Embodiment for Men, because over the past couple of months I've gotten so many emails from men who are really, really struggling in their marriages. His work has come up again and again in our community, and he's even helped me with my own clients. What I love about G.S. is that he lives in neither of the two extremes most men swing between. There's the ultimate nice guy who's disrespected, unappreciated, and quietly filled with resentment because his needs never get met, and there's the toxic, controlling, domineering guy on the other end. Neither one is attractive, and neither one leads. G.S. teaches what he calls relational masculinity, staying grounded in your masculine core while being deeply connected to your partner, and he lays out a three part blueprint any man can actually follow. This was one of our top shows of the past year, and we get into the stuff that changes marriages. We talk about firm but loving parenting and why ruling by fear breaks down the relationship you'll want with your kids later. We talk about grounding your nervous system before you ever try to fix anything, and G.S. even walks me through a live embodiment exercise right there in my chair. And we get honest about sex, rejection, and the little hurt boy that shows up when we feel shut down. G.S. was one of our speakers at the Men's Forge this past April, and he blew the doors off. I've read his book three times now. If you've been banging your head against the wall in your marriage, or you just want to understand why your wife can sniff out an agenda from a mile away, this conversation is going to give you clarity and probably piss you off a little at the same time, in the best way.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry sets up the replay and why he's bringing G.S. Youngblood back for men struggling in their marriages [3:00] The July promotion for the Alliance and Boardroom, with a hard stop on July 31st [5:05] G.S. on his intense but loving childhood and how it polarized him into the good boy role [7:36] Firm but loving parenting, and why he went the opposite direction with his own kids [10:06] The energetic difference between "no" with an iron fist and "I love you, but no" [11:15] Why ruling by fear gets compliance but breaks the free flowing relationship you want later [14:05] Inner clarity comes first, and why nice guys chase external validation instead [16:01] The daily embodiment practice G.S. installs with every man before anything else [20:03] A day in the life of his grounding routine: ground connection, breathwork, movement, meditation [22:41] Why embodiment sticks better than meditation, and a live exercise Larry does in his chair [26:36] Curiosity, agenda, and how women sense the energetic plane men usually ignore [31:21] The frozen "data file" picture men keep of their wives, and why the feminine is always changing [34:31] Emotional safety as the foundation of sexual chemistry, and going for the cause not the symptom [39:38] The Masculine Blueprint: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety [41:07] What to tell the man who says "I stay calm and she still pushes back" [45:59] Provide structure without domination, and the clarity plus inclusion principle [50:18] Larry's story of owning his need for sex without getting pissy, and how it landed for his wife [53:02] Why sexual rejection feels like kryptonite, and owning your sexuality with power or humor [58:02] The gift of reassurance from Larry's wife, and reframing rejection that isn't about you [1:03:16] Leading your partner toward arousal by getting her back into her body [1:04:35] Where to find G.S.: his bootcamp, workshops, Instagram, and book   Five Key Takeaways Lead your family with firmness and heart at the same time, not with an iron fist and not with a loose "anything goes" structure. You can be powerful, clear, and unyielding while staying in your heart, and that artful blend is what your kids and your wife actually need. Before you try to fix anything in your marriage, ground your nervous system with a daily embodiment practice. When you're triggered, you make regressed, reactive decisions, but when you bring your awareness back into your body and into the present moment, the fight in front of you isn't nearly as scary as your nervous system claims. Stop pounding on the symptoms and go find what's underneath. When a good woman is chronically prickly, critical, or shut down sexually, it's usually because a need isn't being met or a wound never got addressed, and your job as a man is to lead the way back to connection rather than blame her mood. You may or may not be the problem, but you are the solution. Stop trying to figure out who caused the fight and step up to be bigger than her mood, because taking ownership of the repair is what masculine leadership actually looks like. Rejection around sex feels like kryptonite, but going into your little hurt boy and pouting is deeply unattractive to your wife. Own your sexuality with calm power or playful humor, remember that a "no" often has nothing to do with you, and know that her desire can live just below the surface waiting for connection to bring it up.   Links & Resources Episode 1499 show notes: https://thedadedge.com/1499 Join The Dad Edge Alliance and Boardroom (July promotion): https://thedadedge.com/join The Dad Edge Boardroom mastermind (apply and book a call): https://thedadedge.com/mastermind G.S. Youngblood's website and bootcamp: https://gsyoungblood.com G.S. Youngblood on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gsyoungblood   Closing Go back to the moment in this episode where I told G.S. about my wife looking me dead in the eye and saying, "Larry, it's never you." I had spent years viewing every "not tonight" through a lens of personal rejection, and that one piece of reassurance changed how I show up. That's the whole point of this work. You are not the toxic iron fist guy and you are not the resentful nice guy, you're a man learning to lead with a straight spine and a big heart. If this episode shook something loose for you, share it with a brother who's been quietly banging his head against the wall in his own marriage, and go grab the July promotion at thedadedge.com before it's gone on July 31st. Go out and live legendary.

This is a marriage and fatherhood Q&A episode of The Dad Edge with Larry Hagner and Joe, recorded as Larry rolls his June birthday promotion into July ahead of his 51st. It's a quieter, more vulnerable episode than most. Two members brought real questions, and both answers turned into something close to a masterclass on leading at home without resentment. Rich opened up about a marriage that's been struggling for a couple of years. He and his wife have started reconnecting, but he feels the load is one-sided. He's carrying the household, the kids, two jobs, and the role of primary parent, while she's drawing a line on how much she's willing to change. Joe's answer reframed the whole problem. Stop compromising, he said, because compromise has regret baked into it. Lead instead. He shared how he and Ivy split their money, how he trained himself to notice the socks on the floor she'd notice, and why an underlying resentment will sabotage everything no matter how well you execute the plan. Then Larry delivered what Joe called a freaking masterclass on the difference between expectations and boundaries, the thing 95% of the men he coaches get backwards. An expectation is a clearly communicated request you then release because you don't control the other person. A boundary is the part you own and enforce on yourself. He walked Rich through actual language, leading with structure, owning specific responsibilities, and turning a fight into a collaboration. The line that landed: uncommunicated expectations breed resentment. The second half got personal fast. Jason Grace, a leader in the Alliance who runs the divorce group, asked about the gap between being ready for a new stage of fatherhood and being willing to step into it. His daughter just graduated and is leaving for an equestrian science program in Virginia. Both Larry and Joe are living the same thing right now. Larry's son leaves for the University of Arkansas on August 6th, and he choked up describing the 5.5-hour campfire conversation they shared on a recent trip. Joe read Psalm 127 and the picture of children as arrows, the archer deciding how he launches them into the world. If you've got a kid getting close to leaving, or a marriage where you feel like you're carrying it alone, this one is for you.   Timeline Summary [1:01] Larry welcomes July, turns 51, and extends his birthday promotion with a hard stop on July 31st [3:06] Joe checks in from a new location mid-move, and the hosts set up the marriage and fatherhood themes [4:04] Rich asks for help with a marriage that feels one-sided on compromises, budgeting, and household responsibilities [7:23] Joe makes the case against compromising because regret is baked into it, and reframes the answer as leading [9:25] How Joe and Ivy handle money with separate accounts and real trust instead of monitoring every dollar [12:48] Joe on the socks he trained himself to notice and paying attention to what matters to your wife [14:39] Why underlying resentment is the biggest turnoff and will sabotage how you lead at home [16:24] Larry breaks down the difference between expectations and boundaries that 95% of men get backwards [18:38] The clean room example showing why clarity beats assuming people should just know [20:16] Larry gives Rich exact language to open the conversation without it landing as an attack [21:35] How to lead with structure by owning specific responsibilities and inviting your wife to collaborate [24:27] Joe warns against tying too much to one conversation and shares the expectancy versus expectations idea [27:17] Larry asks Jason Grace about the gap between readiness and willingness as kids hit new stages [29:06] Larry talks through his son leaving for Arkansas on August 6th and the 5.5-hour campfire conversation [36:14] Joe reads Psalm 127 and the picture of children as arrows the archer launches into the world [40:18] The real readiness question is whether you've made your kids ready, and why it's never too late   Five Key Takeaways Stop compromising and start leading. Compromise has regret built into it, so instead of giving something up and quietly resenting it, decide what your household needs and choose to lead in that area. Resentment leaks out no matter how well you execute. Your wife can sense your discontent through your body language and energy, so address the underlying resentment before you ever try to change the dynamic at home. Expectations and boundaries are not the same thing. An expectation is a request you communicate clearly and then release because you don't control the other person, while a boundary is the part you own and enforce on yourself. Uncommunicated expectations breed resentment. Don't assume your partner should just see how much you're doing and step up, because adults need to hear things at least three times, and it's on you to communicate clearly and calmly. You'll never be fully willing to let your kids go, so focus on whether you've made them ready. The readiness that matters isn't yours, it's whether you've given your kids the tools, the faith, and the foundation to face the world and pick themselves back up when they fall.   Links & Resources Join The Dad Edge Alliance (July promotion with signed book, two courses, and bonus PDF): https://thedadedge.com/join 50 Intimate Conversation Starters PDF: https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Episode 1498 show notes: https://thedadedge.com/1498   Closing If today hit home, it's probably because you're living one of these seasons right now, whether that's feeling like you're carrying your marriage alone or watching a kid get close to leaving the nest. Go back to the moment Larry described sitting at that campfire until 12:26 a.m., having the longest and best conversation he's ever had with his son, and ask yourself where you can create that kind of connection this month. Don't lose the battle for someone's heart just to win an argument, and don't wait until the last few years, because they fly by faster than anything. Share this episode with a dad or a husband who needs to hear it, and if the show keeps adding value to your life, follow, rate, and leave a review so more men can find it. Go out and live legendary.

Charles Gaudet built his first multi-million dollar business at 24 years old while battling severe learning disabilities, survived a hospitalization in his early twenties after working from 3:30am until midnight seven days a week, and has since helped clients across six, seven, eight, and nine figure businesses generate over $1 billion in combined revenue. Yahoo Finance nicknamed him the CEO Whisperer, his work has been featured in Forbes and Fox Business, and he hosts the Beyond Seven Figures podcast. But none of that is what makes this conversation worth your time. What makes this episode worth your time is Charles sitting down with Larry and being completely honest about the phone call his dad made in the final weeks of his life, offering to give up everything he had ever made just to spend more time with his kids and grandkids. That one moment reframed everything Charles thought he knew about success, hard work, and what a father is actually building toward. If you have ever worn your busyness like a badge, this one is going to hit you somewhere important. Charles is a husband of 24 years to his wife Heather, a father of three, a CEO coach to some of the most successful entrepreneurs in the world, and a man who learned the hard way that working harder is not the same as building something that lasts. This is Episode 1497 of the Dad Edge. Charles Gaudet went from a kid selling construction paper art door to door at age four to coaching billionaires in boardrooms, and the thread connecting all of it is the same lesson a neighbor named Mrs. Hersey gave him when he was mortified: always bring your best. Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry opens with a June-only Alliance offer including a signed copy of his book, a patience course, and 50 intimate conversation starters [3:07] Charles explains how Yahoo Finance dubbed him the CEO Whisperer and why asking the questions nobody else will ask is his edge [4:40] The boardroom moment with the CEO of a $34 billion company and why Charles was the only person in the room willing to challenge him [8:03] Charles tells the story from the US Army War College: a five-star general who couldn't figure out why they kept losing a battle until he asked the lowest-ranking soldier on the ground [13:26] The phone call from his dad in the final weeks of his life: "I would give up everything I've ever made just to spend more time with you and the grandkids" [17:29] Growing up barely seeing his dad, the pillow and blankets by the front door, and starting his first business at age four just to get his dad's attention [20:29] Selling construction paper art door to door as a kid and the lesson Mrs. Hersey gave him that shaped every standard he has held himself to since [23:07] Charles teaching his son the difference between being an employee and owning a business using a lemonade stand, and watching his son at 19 reach a multi-million dollar valuation [28:16] Working 3:30am to midnight seven days a week, not eating, not sleeping, and landing in the emergency room at 22 with his organs shutting down [41:32] The diving board principle: the further it bends, the higher you spring, and why gratitude became Charles's superpower when resistance shows up [45:29] Charles's dad competing against him instead of cheering for him, and why Charles chose a completely different approach with his own kids [47:35] What it means to be the shoulders your kids stand on, matching his son dollar for dollar on a car, and why making it easier is not always making it better [52:55] How Charles and Heather built a marriage strong enough to last by having the hard conversation about honesty before they were even fully exclusive [1:02:26] The distinction between being rich and being wealthy, and the mic drop moment when Charles's son told him exactly why their family has the highest quality of life he knows [1:07:32] Why a loud house means happy kids and what it looks like to build a home people actually want to come back to Five Key Takeaways The people who give you the most honest feedback are the most valuable people in your life. Whether it is a 10-year assistant, a lowest-ranking soldier, or a neighbor who tells a four-year-old his artwork is not worth $0.50, the person willing to tell you the truth is the one who actually helps you grow. Hustle culture is using the wrong scorecard. Working hard and working until midnight are not goals. The question is what outcome you are actually working toward, and whether the sacrifices you are making are getting you closer to the life you want or further from it. Resistance is not a sign that something is going wrong. It is usually a sign you are about to break through to a new level. Charles uses gratitude as a tool to stay in his own power rather than giving it away to circumstances he cannot control. Your kids do not need you to make everything easy for them. They need you to build the shoulders they can stand on. The goal is to help them become healthier, wealthier, and happier than you, not to protect them from the lessons that would get them there. True wealth is not measured by the bank account. It is measured by the quality of your life. When Charles asked his son how he would rate their family's quality of life, his son said they had the highest of anyone he knew, because he actually wanted to spend time with his parents. Links & Resources Predictable Profits — https://www.predictableprofits.com Beyond Seven Figures Podcast — search "Beyond Seven Figures" on your podcast app Follow Charles Gaudet on Instagram and LinkedIn — @CharlesGaudet Dad Edge Episode 1497 Show Notes — https://www.thedadedge.com/1497 Join the Dad Edge Alliance — https://www.thedadedge.com/join Kid Questions Resource — https://www.thedadedge.com/kidquestions Closing Charles Gaudet sat in a boardroom with the CEO of a $34 billion company and asked the question no one else in the room was willing to ask. He built companies, lost his health, nearly lost his mind, and then got a phone call from his dying father that reframed everything. And somehow, in the middle of all of it, he figured out how to be the kind of dad whose kids say they want to spend more time with him than anyone they know. That is the whole game right there. Share this episode with a man in your life who is still confusing busyness with progress. He needs to hear it. Subscribe, leave a review, and help other dads find the show. Go out and live legendary.

Marty Hofman built a multi-million dollar real estate operation from a single $5,000 duplex, but what he's really known for isn't the portfolio. He's the founder of OKC REIA, the host of the Kill Complacency podcast with over 180,000 downloads, and the author of "Complacency Kills: Stop Drifting and Start Living the Life God Designed You For." He's also a husband of 24 years to his wife Ginger, a father of six, and a man who has built his entire life around one relentless idea: complacency is always at the door. In this conversation, Marty and Larry get into the Seven F's framework, why "I want to be more intentional" is meaningless without specifics, how your environment will eventually defeat your willpower, and what it actually looks like to fight for your marriage and your kids at the same time. If you've ever felt like you're living on autopilot and you can't quite put your finger on why, this episode was made for you. Marty is a husband, father of six, real estate investor, podcast host, and author who has given his life to helping men kill complacency before it kills everything they care about. This is Episode 1496 of the Dad Edge. Marty's book just dropped in May and this conversation is everything you'd hope for from a man who doesn't just talk about living with intention, he's built an entire framework to help you do it every single day. Timeline Summary [1:02] Marty joins the show and Larry kicks things off with a quote that anchors the whole episode: "The enemy of intention is complacency" [2:18] Why complacency isn't a one-time enemy you defeat — it keeps knocking, every single day, like Oreos on the kitchen counter [5:22] "Your environment will eventually trump your willpower" — Marty and Larry debate where willpower ends and environment takes over [8:46] Why saying "I want to be more intentional" is not enough — and what it actually takes to turn that into a real behavior change [10:43] The difference between a vague goal and a measurable one: phone away at the door, greet your wife by name, make it specific [12:34] Todd Herman's insight on the first 45 seconds of any interaction and why Marty puts it to work every time he walks through the front door [14:04] Larry introduces Marty's full background — the $5,000 duplex, the Kill Complacency podcast, the Seven F's framework, 24 years of marriage to Ginger [30:27] How intentional actions become identity over time — and why date night stops being a discipline and starts being just who you are [32:16] Why putting your marriage on the front burner is the best thing you can do for your kids, not despite them [36:50] Faith as a daily decision — how Marty grew up in a Christian home of 10 kids, went to Bible college at 18, and met Ginger there [43:16] Six kids, ages 9 to 22 — how Marty stays intentional across the board by protecting Friday family night like a funeral-level commitment [51:33] Parenting adult kids and the part nobody talks about — Marty tells the story of his son Ezekiel, video game addiction, homelessness, and what it means to show up when your kid can't have a conversation [57:54] Why we have to let our kids fail — and why praying for your child to hit rock bottom is one of the hardest, most loving things a parent can do [1:00:29] Where Ezekiel is now — working construction, up at 5am to read his Bible, completely transformed [1:02:04] Where to find Marty, the Kill Complacency assessment, and the book that just came out May 12th Five Key Takeaways Complacency is not something you defeat once. It comes back every day, in every area of your life, which is exactly why intentionality has to be a daily practice, not a one-time decision. "I want to be more intentional" means nothing without specifics. Put your phone in the car on date night, greet your wife by name when you walk in the door, and schedule one-on-ones with each of your kids. Vague goals produce vague results. Your environment will eventually beat your willpower. If you want to change a behavior, change what you're surrounded by first, whether that's removing the cookies from the counter or getting away from friends who make the habit harder to break. Prioritizing your marriage over your kids is not selfish, it's the most important thing you can do for them. When your kids feel the security of a strong, affectionate marriage, they feel safe. When that foundation cracks, they feel it at 9 and still feel it at 39. You have to let your kids fail. As painful as it is to watch, failure is where they learn best and sometimes the most loving thing a dad can do is stay in relationship, keep showing up, and pray for them to hit the bottom they need to hit to climb back up. Links & Resources Kill Complacency (book and website) — https://www.killcomplacency.com Kill Complacency Podcast — search "Kill Complacency" on your podcast app Complacency Assessment — available at killcomplacency.com Follow Marty Hofman on social media — @MartyHofman (1 F, 2 N's) Willpower Doesn't Work by Benjamin Hardy — available wherever books are sold The Alter Ego Effect by Todd Herman — available wherever books are sold Dad Edge Episode 1496 Show Notes — https://www.thedadedge.com/1496 Join the Dad Edge Community — https://www.thedadedge.com/join Kid Questions Resource — https://www.thedadedge.com/kidquestions Closing Marty spent years watching complacency chip away at men who had everything going for them and he built an entire life and a framework to fight back against it. Whether it was the moment he described greeting Ginger by name when he walked through the door, the Friday night family tradition his kids now look forward to, or the raw honesty of watching his son Ezekiel hit rock bottom and praying for it to happen so he could finally come back, this conversation was a reminder that intentional living isn't a personality type. It's a daily decision. Share this one with a man in your life who you know is drifting. He needs to hear it. And if this episode moved you, subscribe, leave a review, and help other dads find the show. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Lee returned to the Dad Edge Alliance for an exclusive live Q&A with members asking real-time questions about raising kids to think like value creators. The conversation covers everything from how to engage a four-year-old in family finances to what to do when a capable adult son is drifting in a digital fog. If you've ever wanted to raise kids who don't just follow rules but genuinely understand why building a life of meaning matters, this one delivers. Most parenting conversations focus on values, the character traits we want our kids to have. Lee draws a sharp distinction: having a values list is fine, but the real work is teaching kids to create value, holistically, across three buckets: material (money and lifestyle), positive emotional energy (how alive you feel going through life), and spiritual connectedness (family, community, and purpose). That framework, combined with one simple question (how would you like to create value in the world?), is the thread that runs through every answer Lee gives, whether he's talking to a dad with four-year-old twins, a dad with checked-out teenagers, or a dad watching a 20-year-old spend six hours a day alone in his room. This is especially powerful for any dad who has felt the frustration of talking at his kids instead of being with them, who wants to make family meetings something his kids actually look forward to, or who is watching a young adult drift and wondering when to push harder versus when to change the environment instead.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry introduces Lee Benson: Wall Street Journal bestselling author, founder of Dinner Table (impacting 50,000-plus families), serial entrepreneur with eight companies and a nine-figure exit, back for a second exclusive Alliance Q&A [3:31] Lee's entrepreneurial origin story: pulling weeds at age 6 for $0.25 an hour, playing over 1,000 shows in a band in the early 80s, and launching his first actual business in 1993 after a lifetime of learning to trust the struggle [5:36] Coming home at 17 to find his clothes in paper grocery sacks on the porch and the locks changed, and why getting forced out of a toxic, dangerous home was one of the best things that ever happened to him [10:23] The Dinner Table framework: the critical difference between having a values list and intentionally creating holistic value across three buckets, material, positive emotional energy, and spiritual connectedness, and why keeping all three in balance is the whole game [12:41] How the monthly family meeting works: setting shared goals, defining what leadership looks like in the family, reviewing the household budget as a team sport, and why a six-year-old can absolutely have her own line item [16:19] Tommy's follow-up on his 23-year-old daughter who comes to him for financial advice but won't take it, and the one question Lee says works better than any advice you could give [19:18] Luke's question: his family used to have a dinner table culture, but phones and teenage independence have caused it to drift, what's the one actionable thing he can take into tomorrow? [21:23] The loneliness epidemic Lee witnessed firsthand: speaking to six groups of high school seniors in a single day, he watched every group melt when asked what it actually feels like to be more digitally connected and lonelier than ever [24:03] The statistic that stops the room: only 18% of American families are traditional nuclear families with two biological parents and kids under 18 at home, and why it means anyone can build the family culture they want, regardless of where they started [27:02] Larry's raw personal question: his 20-year-old son is a great kid headed for the fire academy, but right now he's spending five to six hours a day on screens, physically declining, and stuck in a liminal space with no clear purpose, and Larry doesn't know how to get through to him [32:49] Lee's answer: environment shapes human nature more reliably than any conversation, and the story of his own brother whose entire trajectory changed when the Marine Corps changed his surroundings, and reversed the moment it was gone [35:31] Lee pushes back hard on the "kids can't do it today" narrative: two grown men agree they would crush the exact same challenges facing young people right now, so why do adults keep having conversations that tell kids they can't? [39:36] The digital isolation question: why providing basic needs without accountability for how hours are spent creates the exact environment that enables drift, and what rules of engagement actually look like when you apply them clearly and without flinching [43:56] Lee flips the table and asks Larry a question: in his entire life, across thousands of leaders he has studied and worked with, only two people have ever been truly "with" him, not talking at, over, or down to him, and what does Larry think most dads are missing? [45:29] Larry's honest answer: 80% generative questions and psychological safety, 20% intense and emotion-driven lectures, and why that 20% probably feels like the majority of the experience for his son [48:42] Lee reframes the whole conversation: planting seeds takes time, and being frustrated that a 20-year-old hasn't learned what took you 30 years to figure out is a form of unfairness, the job is to keep planting, not to demand the harvest [53:06] Lee and Luke on using a hard childhood as rocket fuel: it took Lee 17 years to fully separate from a toxic family situation, and the shift that freed him was realizing it was never about him, it was about people who couldn't even raise themselves   Five Key Takeaways There is a critical difference between having values and intentionally creating value. Values are character traits on a list. Value creation is an active, daily practice across three buckets: material (money and the lifestyle your family needs), positive emotional energy (how alive and energized you feel going through life), and spiritual connectedness (your bonds with family, community, and purpose). Families that confuse the two drift. Families that focus on all three build something that compounds over decades. The one question that works at every age is: how would you like to create value in the world? For a four-year-old it plants a seed. For a teenager it opens a door that lectures can't. For a 23-year-old in "I Know Everything Syndrome," it bypasses the defense wall entirely and invites her into a real conversation about who she wants to become. Lee uses it with 3-year-olds and 80-year-old CEOs because it is never about telling someone what to do, it is about making the conversation theirs. The environment shapes human nature more reliably than any conversation. If you make it easy to drift, human nature says they'll drift. Lee has seen this in a brother who became a model Marine the moment the Corps changed his surroundings, and unraveled the moment it was gone. For any dad watching a young adult spiral, the most powerful lever is not a harder talk. It is changing the rules of engagement in the home, clearly and without negotiation, so that moving forward becomes the path of least resistance. Only 18% of American families are traditional nuclear families, and households with two parents where one stays home represent just 7%. Lee's point is not that the numbers are discouraging, it is that they are liberating. The vast majority of families are navigating this in some non-traditional structure, which means there is no inherited blueprint you are obligated to follow. You can build exactly the family you want to lead, and you can start that process at any age. Most adults talk at, over, or down to kids. Almost no one is truly with them, with their potential, with their future self, with who they are still becoming. In Lee's entire life, across thousands of leaders he has studied, only two people showed up for him that way. The dads in this community have the chance to be that person. Getting curious, asking generative questions, and sitting beside a kid instead of facing off against him is not just a communication tactic. It is the whole relationship.   Links & Resources   Dinner Table Community: https://dinnertable.com Execute to Win (CEO Mastermind Groups): https://etw.com Value Creation Family by Lee Benson: https://www.amazon.com/Value-Creation-Family-Playbook-Setting/dp/1636805981 The Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/join Episode Shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1495 http://thedadedge.com/kidquestions   Closing What Lee brought to this Q&A is not a framework you need a consultant to implement. It is one question, how would you like to create value in the world?, and the willingness to ask it and actually listen to the answer. Try it this week with one of your kids. And if Larry's raw honesty about talking at his son instead of being with him hit close to home, share this episode with a dad who needed to hear it. If you're not yet part of the Alliance where conversations like this happen live every month, head over to thedadedge.com. Follow the show, leave a rating and review, and help us get this in front of the dads who need it most. Go out and live legendary.

Most of us grow up thinking success means staying busy, staying strong, and never stopping. But what happens when the career that defined you is gone? Michael Kay spent decades as a financial planner and NYU instructor helping high achievers build wealth — until he realized the most important investments had nothing to do with portfolios. He's the host of the Chapter X Podcast and author of How to Craft Your Chapter X, and he's spent years guiding successful men through the emotional and psychological shift from career identity to a purposeful next chapter. He's been married to his college sweetheart Wendy since 1977, is a dad of two, and a grandfather of three. This conversation goes deep on the patterns we inherit from our fathers, what it actually means to listen instead of just waiting to respond, and why retirement without intention is a trap most men never see coming. If you've ever tied your worth to what you do instead of who you are, this one is for you. Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry introduces the June Alliance promo — signed copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood plus three bonus courses for new members [3:01] Michael joins in studio, sharing what it means to be a dad and grandfather first [3:48] Larry invites Michael to describe growing up with a demanding, workaholic father who didn't spare physical discipline [5:29] Michael reflects on how watching his father — who had no model himself — taught him what he would never do with his own children [9:49] Michael shares what he learned from his father's dedication as a sixth-grade teacher who taught every student at their own reading level [10:42] Michael's musical upbringing — his uncle was good enough to play with Duke Ellington, and Michael took weekly lessons from a New York Philharmonic trumpeter at 14 [17:55] A butcher named Al Roth becomes a turning point — the first man Michael ever saw who loved his family openly, and what that lit up in him [22:31] Larry asks how Michael and Wendy have navigated 49 years of marriage, especially given the communication models neither of them grew up with [26:36] Michael breaks down how men and women process differently — and why creating space instead of rushing to solve is the real skill in marriage [29:47] What deep listening actually looks like in practice, and why a "yeah, but" response signals that no one was listening at all [34:26] The origin of "Chapter X" — and how an eighth-grade algebra class planted the idea that every next season of life is something to solve for [40:19] Why the book is not about money — it's about reclaiming the curious, unfinished person you were before your career became your identity [43:33] The eulogy exercise: Michael and Larry on why writing your own eulogy is one of the most powerful things a man can do to realign his actions with his values [47:37] The hard truth that 98% of daily activity often isn't in alignment with what you'd want said about you at the end [49:44] Michael tells his 50-years-younger self to stop taking himself so seriously, start listening better, and soften the edges Five Key Takeaways Nothing happens in a vacuum. The way your father treated you was shaped by everything that happened to him before you arrived. Understanding the roots of that behavior doesn't excuse it, but it changes how you carry it forward. You only break a cycle when something from outside enters your normal. For Michael, that was Al Roth — a marine turned butcher who loved his family loudly and openly. You can't change patterns you can't see, and sometimes it takes a single outside example to show you another way. Men and women don't process information the same way, and pretending otherwise is what creates most communication breakdowns. Allowing space, taking things in small chunks, and saying "let me think about that" are not signs of weakness — they're how you stop reacting and start responding. Retirement without intention is just drift. Most high-achieving men have never asked themselves who they are without the title. Chapter X isn't about winding down; it's about solving for what comes next before the career disappears and leaves a vacuum behind it. Your eulogy is your roadmap. What you want your spouse, your kids, your grandchildren to say about you at the end is the truest picture of what you actually value. The gap between that and how you spent last Tuesday is worth sitting with. Links & Resources The Dad Edge Alliance (June promo — signed book + bonus courses) — https://thedadedge.com/join Episode show notes and links — https://thedadedge.com/1494 Kid Questions resource — https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Michael Kay's website, blog, and podcast — https://michaelfkay.com/ Contact Michael directly — mk@michaelfk.com How to Craft Your Chapter X — available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and at michaelfk.com Closing Michael Kay has been figuring out what matters most for a long time, and everything he shared in this conversation — from a demanding father who had no model of his own, to a butcher named Al who showed him what a loving man actually looks like — points to the same truth: the way we show up is almost always about where we came from, until we decide it isn't. If this episode hit close to home, send it to a man in your life who's chasing the next thing without knowing why. Rate and review the show so more dads find these conversations, and follow along so you don't miss what's coming next. Go out and live legendary.

I'll be honest with you — this conversation gave me chills more than once. JoJo Simmons grew up with one of the most recognizable names in music history, the son of Joseph "Run" Simmons, co-founder of Run-D.M.C. and a pioneer of hip hop culture. But what I've always respected about JoJo is that he's never coasted on that name. He's spent years carving out his own path in music, entertainment, and now podcasting, while quietly doing the harder work of becoming a present father and a committed husband. We went everywhere in this conversation. We talked about what it was like growing up under a microscope, making the kinds of mistakes every teenager makes except having them show up on TMZ. We talked about his parents, how they kept love intact through divorce, how his mother made one of the hardest decisions a parent can make to protect her son, and how his dad evolved from tough love to open communication in a way that shaped the father JoJo is today. This episode is filled with wisdom I didn't expect and moments that made me stop and think about my own home. JoJo has been married to his wife Denise for nearly seven years, together for 17. They're raising a ten-year-old daughter named Mia and a four-year-old son, Joseph, who is nonverbal and receiving occupational therapy. Watching JoJo talk about both of his kids, the way he's learning to hold space for his daughter as she grows into her own person, and the way he's modeling confidence and calm for his son, you can see a man who is fully in it. Not perfect. Fully in it. He's also building something. His podcast and media community, For Good, launched just a year ago and it's already growing fast. The name says everything: it represents forever, and it represents putting good into the world. JoJo's vision for it goes beyond episodes and downloads. He wants festivals. He wants a movement. He wants people from every walk of life sitting in a room together feeling heard and seen. After spending an hour with him, I believe he'll build it.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Growing up as the son of Run from Run-D.M.C. — the good and the hard of a very public childhood [3:47] How JoJo's parents stayed committed to their kids' wellbeing despite divorce, and why he never felt an absence of love [5:07] The arrest that showed up in the New York Times and TMZ, and the moment JoJo knew he had gone too far [10:24] What his dad did specifically that shaped the father JoJo wants to be, including the shift from discipline to conversation [14:28] Dad Edge June offer — signed copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, the Patience course, and more at thedadedge.com/join [17:28] JoJo's mom: a single mother with a doctorate who ground every day, never spoke ill of his father, and made the hard call to send JoJo to live with his dad at 13 [22:23] How JoJo met Denise at McDonald's — two vegetarians, one bold move, and a phone call to her mother [28:38] Ten years of dating, a breakup, a promise ring, and why the time apart made the relationship real [32:21] How communication and being willing to ask "are we really this bad?" has kept their marriage intact through seven years [36:56] Raising a ten-year-old daughter — learning to listen instead of lead, and why how you treat her now shapes who she'll accept later [40:44] JoJo's morning routine: up at 5:30 a.m., candle lit, meditation music, 20–30 minutes of emotional regulation before the household wakes up [44:54] Raising his four-year-old son Joseph — teaching both kids that they are the value in every room they walk into [46:30] How JoJo thinks about raising kids in the public eye, protecting them from attaching their worth to fame [49:39] How the For Good podcast started, what the name means, and the community and movement JoJo is building [57:38] A ten-year dinner table visualization — what JoJo wants his wife and kids to say when they look back   Five Key Takeaways Growing up in the spotlight teaches you fast that public mistakes carry a different weight — JoJo's arrest at a pivotal teenage moment became front-page news, and he now uses that experience to stay honest with his own kids about consequence and accountability without shame. The way your parents handle their relationship with each other after a split shapes your children more than you realize — JoJo's parents never let him see the turmoil between them, and that protection of the family unit became one of the greatest gifts they gave him. Marriage takes courage from both people — brushing arguments under the rug feels like peace in the short term but builds into the bigger blowups, and JoJo has learned to address issues in the moment rather than let them accumulate. As a father of a daughter, your emotional regulation sets the template for what she will tolerate and accept in her own relationships — staying calm, listening deeply, and being the safe place she can come to at 2 a.m. at age 20 is the whole job. You are the thermostat in your home, not the thermometer — JoJo wakes up at 5:30 every morning before the household starts because he knows the energy he brings into the day is the energy the whole family will operate in.   Links & Resources Join the Dad Edge Alliance (June offer — signed book, Patience course, marriage course, and more) — https://www.thedadedge.com/join Kid Questions resource — https://www.thedadedge.com/kidquestions Full show notes for this episode — https://www.thedadedge.com/1493 For Good Podcast website — https://www.forgooduniverse.com JoJo Simmons on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jojo_simmons For Good Podcast on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/forgoodpodcast For Good Podcast on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@ForGoodPodcast   Closing JoJo came into this conversation humble, honest, and more self-aware than I expected from someone who's been in the public eye since he was a teenager. That moment where he talked about looking back ten years from now at the dinner table — not asking for perfection, just asking that every person around that table felt seen, heard, and not forced into anything — that hit me. That's the goal. That's the whole thing. If this episode spoke to something you're working through in your own home, share it with another dad who needs to hear it. And if you haven't already, please follow The Dad Edge, leave a rating, and drop a review. Go out and live legendary.

Jenna Free is a counselor specializing in ADHD regulation who discovered her own diagnosis while drowning in grad school with two babies 17 months apart. She has since developed a full certification program teaching other mental health professionals her ADHD regulation method, and she runs ADHD regulation groups for clients from her home base in Calgary, Alberta. In this episode, Jenna joined The Dad Edge Alliance for a live Q&A that goes far deeper than a typical ADHD conversation. The focus isn't the diagnosis itself — it's the nervous system, specifically how chronic fight-or-flight mode silently drives the impatience, compulsive behavior, crashes, and parenting struggles so many dads in this community experience. If you've ever wondered why you can't just logic your way into being calmer, this one's for you. Most of us assume ADHD is about the brain you were born with. Jenna reframes it completely — the real problem isn't the diagnosis, it's the dysregulated nervous system underneath it, and that part is something you can actually change. This conversation pulls back the curtain on the frantic-crash cycle, the fight-flight-freeze-fawn response, why pressure feels like performance, and what it looks like to function from a regulated baseline instead of white-knuckling through the day. This is especially powerful for any dad who has ever snapped at his kids in the morning, struggled to slow down, or quietly wondered whether go, go, go is actually working against him.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Jenna's background: how her own ADHD diagnosis in grad school — with a six-month-old and an 18-month-old at home — led her to develop the ADHD regulation method [3:24] Why calendars and timers weren't enough: the frantic-crash cycle Jenna kept seeing in herself and every client she worked with [4:13] The nervous system root cause: why almost every neurodivergent person (and most parents) is running in a chronic state of fight-or-flight [6:36] Can you think your way out of it? Jenna explains why logic alone can't calm a dysregulated nervous system [9:16] Alliance member Jason's question: where to start with regulation for yourself and how to notice when your son is sliding into dysregulation [10:06] The first practical step — learning to physically feel dysregulation in your body: tight shoulders, rushing, impatience, holding your breath [11:49] The rushing reframe every parent needs: shifting from "let's go, let's go" to "let's focus" and why that small shift changes the whole morning [17:55] Breaking down all four modes: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — including why people-pleasing is a survival response, not a personality trait [25:26] Alliance member Chris's question: the "pressure to perform" cycle and why functioning in high-intensity fight-or-flight leads to hard crashes and compulsive avoidance [30:21] Why a formal diagnosis may not matter: Jenna's framework focuses on nervous system regulation regardless of whether you have a label [40:19] Dysregulation is contagious — but so is regulation: how Jenna's own internal work changed her husband without a single conversation about it [42:16] Joanne's question: how to help a high-achieving son who struggles at school, and why the most powerful thing parents can do happens before they drop the kids off [47:21] Jenna's upcoming book, Full Capacity, and why she believes regulation is the most ambitious thing a driven person can pursue [54:12] The dreamer-freeze type: why a low-motivation, avoidant kid is just as dysregulated as a hyperactive one — it just looks different [57:10] The host shares his own ADHD management tools — exercise and clean eating — and Jenna explains exactly why they work from a nervous system standpoint   Five Key Takeaways You can't think your way out of fight-or-flight because it's not a thought problem — it's a nervous system problem. The primal part of your brain believes you're being chased by a bear, and no amount of self-talk will convince it otherwise until you address the physical and behavioral patterns keeping it on alert. The frantic-crash cycle isn't a productivity style — it's a symptom. When you require pressure to get things done and then collapse afterward, you're not built that way; you've been trained into it. The only way out is to consciously lower the intensity during the good stretches, not just manage the crashes. Rushing is one of the clearest signals your nervous system has flipped into survival mode. When you catch yourself rushing the kids in the morning, the fix isn't to push through faster — it's to physically slow down and shift from "let's go" to "let's focus," which calms everyone's system and actually gets you out the door more effectively. Your regulation — or lack of it — is setting the baseline for your whole family. Kids and partners co-regulate with the people around them. You can't force your kids to be calm, but becoming a regulated, grounded presence does more than any conversation about breathing ever will. Fight-or-flight doesn't always look like intensity. Freeze and avoidance are just as much a dysregulated state as frantic rushing — they're just the other end of the pendulum. A kid who looks unmotivated or a dad who procrastinates for two weeks is dealing with the same nervous system problem as the guy who can't slow down. Links & Resources The Dad Edge Alliance — https://thedadedge.com/join Questions for the Car (free resource) — https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions ADHD with Jenna Free (social media) — @adhdwithjennafree Full Capacity HQ (upcoming content on regulation for ambitious people) — @fullcapacityhq Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1492 Closing What Jenna laid out here isn't a quick fix — and she'd be the first one to tell you that. But there's something powerful in knowing that the part of you that snaps at your kids, crashes after a big push, or can't quite slow down no matter how much you want to — that part isn't a character flaw. It's a nervous system that's been running in survival mode, and it can be retrained. If this conversation hit close to home, share it with a dad you know who's quietly fighting the same battle. And if you're not yet part of the Alliance where conversations like this happen every month, head over to thedadedge.com/join. Follow the show, leave a rating and review, and help us get this in front of the dads who need it most. Go out and live legendary.

Jamie Kozub and Chris Carter are the yin and yang behind Shit My Dad Taught Me, a podcast that's exploded to over 2.5 million views every month in barely 18 months. Together they also co-founded Burlington Dads, a community of 7,200 fathers that has raised over $1 million for local families and charities. But what makes these two men worth an hour of your time isn't the numbers. It's the two completely different roads that brought them here. Jamie has never met his biological father and grew up 40 minutes outside Thunder Bay in a house with no working toilet and a potbelly stove for heat. With his dad working construction hundreds of miles away Monday through Saturday, Jamie was cooking dinner and raising his little brother at 12. He moved out at 15, worked the Sony store from two till ten every day through high school, and was making $130K a year by 18. Then at 19, after blowing $60,000 at the casino, he walked back in, handed over his driver's license, and banned himself from every casino in Ontario. Chris had the opposite upbringing: a ten-out-of-ten dad who fed every kid who walked through the door and modeled what it means to raise daughters. Now a girl dad of two, Chris shares his number one piece of advice, just take them with you, and the story of the letter that confronted him at 340 pounds. A year later, he's lost nearly 100 pounds and is preparing for his first bodybuilding show at 42. We also go to some deep waters in this one: their friend Matt's story of losing his father and grandfather to suicide, and my own 33 days of insomnia in 2017 and the counselor's words that changed my perception forever. This is a conversation about fatherhood, brotherhood, and building the communities that keep men alive and thriving. Don't miss it.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Larry welcomes Jamie Kozub and Chris Carter, the yin and yang behind Shit My Dad Taught Me [1:56] Jamie on never meeting his biological father and why he feels no void to fill [2:58] Growing up outside Thunder Bay with no working toilet, a potbelly stove, and a dad gone Monday to Saturday [10:33] Chris's number one girl dad advice: just take them with you, from boardrooms to private jets [17:56] Moving out at 15, couch surfing, and working the Sony store from two till ten every day [19:39] Making $130K at 18 and turning down a University of Miami scholarship [20:28] Walking into the casino at 19 to ban himself from every casino in Ontario for five years [26:35] Chris's dad and the barbecue pizza rule: everyone who walks through the door gets fed [33:02] How Shit My Dad Taught Me reached 2.5 million monthly views through radical authenticity [37:16] The Lexie J letter story that confronted Chris at 340 pounds and sparked his transformation [42:18] Their friend Matt's story of loss and his commitment to breaking a generational cycle [45:18] Larry opens up about 33 days of insomnia and the counselor's words that changed everything [48:14] Pits and peaks: Chris's daily traditions for getting his girls to open up [51:46] A warrior on a farm: why the biggest guy in the room works hardest at being gentle [54:30] Jamie on raising boys who respect women, learn from losing, and greet every guest at the door [56:47] Inside Burlington Dads: 14 events, a $75K golf tournament, and a $77K Christmas toy drive   Five Key Takeaways You don't need a void filled to move forward; Jamie chose to honor the dad who raised him while letting go of the one who didn't, and turned a hard childhood into fuel instead of an excuse. The simplest girl dad advice is also the best: take your kids with you everywhere so they never believe a glass ceiling exists. Make your home the place where every kid is fed, welcomed, and safe, because you'd rather your kids make their choices under your roof than somewhere else. Find the thing that confronts you before your family has to write you the letter; Chris lost nearly 100 pounds because he refused to put his daughters in that position. Whatever pain you're carrying, you don't have to carry it alone; real communities of men exist, and guys like Jamie and Chris will always pick up the phone.   Links & Resources Shit My Dad Taught Me — available on all platforms, including Spotify and YouTube Follow Chris on Instagram — @chriscarterbd Follow Jamie on Instagram — @jamiekozub Burlington Dads on Facebook Episode resources — https://thedadedge.com/1491 Join the Dad Edge Alliance — https://thedadedge.com/join Questions for the Car free download — https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Closing There's a moment in this episode where a 19-year-old kid making six figures walks into a casino, hands over his driver's license, and bans himself for five years because he knew the life he wanted required a different man. That's what taking responsibility actually looks like, and it's the thread running through this entire conversation, from Chris's 100-pound transformation to two men building a community of 7,200 dads who refuse to do life alone. If this one hit home, send it to the brother in your life who needs to hear that good men come together. Go out and live legendary.

Jess Hilarious has built a career on telling the truth in a way that makes people laugh and feel seen, from the Baltimore open mic scene to Wild 'N Out, starring on Rel, her hit podcast Carefully Reckless, and now co-hosting The Breakfast Club. But in this conversation, we go somewhere most people have never heard her go: what it really took to become the mother and co-parent she is today. Jess got pregnant at 19, raised in a strict church household, terrified to tell her parents she even had a boyfriend. She opens up about the first six months after her son Ashton was born, when she didn't want to be a mom at all, and the breakdown on her knees in her mother's house that ended with her baby smirking up at her from the crib. That was the moment everything changed. We also walk through the hard road with her son's father, Jerome. The cheating, the other girl at Ashton's first birthday party, and the public comment that revealed he had a second child on the way. Instead of staying at war, Jess chose to understand the trauma behind his behavior, and the two of them took actual co-parenting vows: for better or for worse, till death do we parent. As a father of four boys, I know how many men in our community are navigating co-parenting right now, and this episode is packed with hard-won wisdom on boundaries, accountability, and putting your kids first. Jess's new book, Til Death Do We Parent, brings her trademark humor and honesty to all of it, and this conversation is the perfect introduction.   Timeline Summary [1:01] Larry welcomes comedian, actress, and Breakfast Club co-host Jess Hilarious to the show [1:48] Jess opens up about not wanting to be a mom for the first six months after her son was born [3:15] Telling Jerome she was pregnant at 19 and his unexpectedly joyful reaction [4:25] A charge on her record, no job offers, and moving back in with her mom after Ashton arrived [4:52] The breakdown in her mom's house: "why would you pick me to be your mother?" [7:17] Telling her parents at 8 PM: her dad's ten-second breathing technique and her mom's prayer [15:02] The funeral story at age eight that proved Jess was born funny [17:43] Martin Lawrence's brother calls and Jess fakes ten years of stand-up experience [18:41] Opening for Martin Lawrence in front of 13,000 people in Baltimore after five open mics [25:05] Rome brings another girl to Ashton's first birthday party [26:57] Leaving a good man for one more chance, then learning about Rome's second child from a public comment [31:14] Understanding Rome's trauma: losing his mother at ten and finding her himself [33:32] The co-parenting vows: "I take you, Jerome James, to be my lawfully wedded co-parent" [35:22] Dating selfishly and taking accountability for the men she brought around Ashton [38:15] The 1 AM phone call that made her husband draw the line on boundaries [42:58] Larry shares meeting his biological father by chance in a St. Louis Starbucks at age 30   Five Key Takeaways Treat co-parenting like a vow you can't walk away from, because your child is watching how you show up for better or for worse. Your kids absorb every ounce of tension between you and your ex, and defiance at school is often a reflection of the energy they're consuming at home. Understanding the trauma behind your ex's behavior won't excuse it, but it can free you from resentment and make a real friendship possible. When you have kids, you date as a package, so anyone who isn't building a bond with your child isn't actually good for you either. Boundaries protect every relationship you have, and putting "friendship hours" around your co-parent isn't disrespect, it's what keeps your marriage and your co-parenting healthy.   Links & Resources Til Death Do We Parent by Jess Hilarious: https://www.amazon.com/Til-Death-Do-We-Parent/dp/1668059355 Jess's website — https://jesshilariousofficial.com Follow Jess on Instagram — @jesshilarious_official Follow Jess on Twitter and Snapchat — @jess_hilarious Jess Hilarious Official on Facebook Episode resources — https://thedadedge.com/1490 Questions for the Car free download — https://thedadedge.com/questions The Dad Edge Alliance — http://thedadedge.com/join   Closing There's a moment in this episode where Jess describes falling to her knees, asking her infant son why he chose her as his mother, and looking up to see him smirking at her from the crib as if to say "I'm here, so put on your big girl panties." That's the kind of raw honesty that changes how you see your own parenting story. If you're navigating co-parenting, boundaries, or just the weight of feeling unready, share this one with a brother who needs it. Go out and live legendary.

Gentlemen, we're two weeks out from Father's Day and this Q&A hit me right in the chest. We've got Joe the Legend joining me today, a father of five who brings that earned wisdom — the kind that only comes from years of being in the trenches, making mistakes, and choosing to grow through them. This conversation is real, raw, and exactly what this community is built on. We tackle two questions from the Alliance today. The first one is about a 12-year-old daughter who's been lying and stealing from family members — and how to guide her toward accountability while keeping the relationship open and safe. The second one is something almost every dad I know battles: losing patience by the end of the day when the tank is completely empty. Joe drops some of the most honest perspective you'll hear anywhere on why kids lie and steal, what birth order has to do with it, and how a scarcity mindset can drive behaviors you'd never expect. And then he shares something that personally rocked me — that impatience isn't a discipline problem. It's a selfishness problem. That one landed hard, and I'll explain why. This is the kind of show that reminds you why we're here. Not to be perfect dads. But to be intentional ones who keep showing up, keep learning, and keep choosing our kids — even when we've got nothing left in the tank.   Timeline Summary [1:01] Larry introduces the show and a special four-part June offer for new Dad Edge Alliance members [1:38] What's included: signed copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, two courses, and a brand new PDF resource [3:39] Today's two topics: how to handle a child who is lying and stealing, and losing patience by end of day [4:00] Morgan (The Engineer) asks his question: his 12-year-old daughter is stealing from family members, often tied to jealousy [5:36] Joe shares that lying is almost always a defense mechanism and stealing is tied to either scarcity mindset or attention-seeking [6:55] Joe reflects on growing up without enough — and how that scarcity mindset made stealing feel necessary as a kid [8:10] Joe raises the birth order question: second borns can feel like second best, and attention imbalance can drive behavior [9:38] Joe's reframe: are you unintentionally reinforcing scarcity in your home, or creating uneven attention among your kids? [12:08] Larry tells the story of his son Mason getting caught shoplifting at age 11 — caught on video at a local store [15:28] Larry calls the store, finds out the owner is a retired cop, and decides not to protect Mason from the consequences [17:49] Larry takes Mason to face the store owner directly and tells his son: whatever this man asks you to do, you're going to do it [20:34] The 30-day consequence plan: daily chores, journaling gratitude and reflections, and a final trip to the police station [22:15] The Sonic parking lot conversation — where Mason finally broke down and told the truth about why he did it [23:37] Mason's real confession: he was afraid of losing another friend if he didn't go along with the theft [25:51] Calvin asks his question: how do you stay patient at the end of the day when you're completely drained? [27:40] Larry's answer: surrender before you walk in the room — pray and admit you can't do it alone [29:50] Joe's reframe on patience: it's listed as a fruit of the spirit in Galatians, and a lack of it is rooted in selfishness [31:18] Joe's inner monologue when he feels impatience rising — asking himself whether it's about him or about the person in front of him [34:29] Joe reflects on the relationship he has with his oldest son today, and why patience made it possible   Five Key Takeaways Lying is almost always a defense mechanism — when your child lies, look first at what they're afraid of, not just what they did wrong. Stealing in kids is usually tied to either a scarcity mindset or an attention grab — ask yourself if you're unintentionally reinforcing either one in your home. When your kid does something wrong, connection has to come before correction — Mason's breakthrough happened in a Sonic parking lot, not in a punishment. Impatience isn't a willpower problem, it's a selfishness problem — if you're losing patience, something is encroaching on your agenda, and recognizing that shifts everything. You cannot white-knuckle sustainable patience on your own — whether through faith, community, or both, the fathers who show up consistently are the ones who know they need help.   Links & Resources The Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/join Questions for the Car (free PDF): https://www.thedadedge.com/kidquestions Episode Show Notes: http://thedadedge.com/1489   Closing This episode is a reminder that the best fathering doesn't happen when we have it all together. It happens in Sonic parking lots, in honest conversations after long days, and in the moments when we finally stop trying to do it alone. Joe's story about his oldest son hit me differently today — knowing how far they've come, knowing there's no reason they should be close, and hearing him say that patience is what made the difference. That's the work, gentlemen. That's exactly the work. If today's conversation meant something to you, pass it to a dad who needs it, leave us a five-star review, and keep showing up for your family every single day. Go out and live legendary.

Thomas Pfanner is a husband, father of three, combat athlete with nearly 20 years of jiu jitsu training, and a former strength coach at the University of Oregon who was part of a Pac-12 championship team and a Rose Bowl season. After seven years as a public educator watching young men arrive unprepared for the real world, he channeled that frustration into a mission: equipping fathers to become the trusted, respected leaders their kids are actually hungry for. His Amazon bestselling book Dads Who Lead launched September 26th, 2025, and it's already resonating deeply with fathers who want to lead with strength and integrity. This conversation starts where most parenting conversations are afraid to go. Thomas shares the raw story of his son Charles calling him at 14 to say he was done, the long road of rebuilding that relationship, and the specific leadership shifts that changed everything. From there, we get into the five attributes he outlines in Dads Who Lead — faith, ownership, respect, groundbreaking adventure, and expectation — and how they stack together to help dads go from being a manager to being a mentor their kids actually choose to lean into. If you've ever felt like you're losing your son or daughter and don't know what to do next, Thomas has lived that story and walked out the other side. And if your relationship with your teenager is already solid, this episode will sharpen the tools you're using and show you where the gaps might be. Whether you're trying to rebuild a relationship or strengthen one that's already good, this episode is for the dad who refuses to go to his grave wondering what went wrong.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Thomas welcomes the audience and Larry teases the June offer for Dad Edge Alliance members [3:15] Thomas shares how Charles at 14 called to say he was moving to his mom's across state — and what led up to that moment [5:23] The day Thomas couldn't find his son after wrestling practice and the call that changed everything [6:36] What it felt like to lose 14 years of relationship work in a single phone call — and the journey that followed [8:23] Thomas and his wife leave their home, jobs, and stability to move across state to pursue Charles before his freshman year [9:54] Larry previews the show's core topic: how to rebuild and build trust with teenagers, especially when the relationship has been fractured [13:10] The first step in rebuilding trust wasn't with Charles — it was rebuilding Thomas's belief in himself as a father [15:40] How Thomas used the concept of "highlight reels" to keep faith in Charles even when the evidence was going the wrong direction [21:34] The five attributes of leadership from Dads Who Lead: faith, ownership, respect, groundbreaking adventure, and expectation [24:25] Chip Kelly's single line on expectation that Thomas has never forgotten — and what it means for every parent who lets things slide [28:11] How Thomas shifted his "brand" from manager to mentor — and why your son has an emotional reaction the moment your name pops up on his phone [32:30] The two primary engines of respect: action respect and connection respect — and why one matters more to men and one matters more to women [38:46] Charles's response to the book being out in the world, and where he is now — working full-time and calling his dad 4 or 5 times a week [41:14] Why the 2027 father-son retreat is going to Normandy, France — and what Thomas wants dads and sons to take home from that week [43:24] How the retreat program works — who it's for, age requirements, and what physical experiences make it different from other men's events   Five Key Takeaways Before you can rebuild trust with your teenager, you have to rebuild trust in yourself. Thomas had to stop listening to the comforting voices telling him he'd done enough, anchor into his faith that he was called to be Charles's father for a reason, and believe Charles could become something great before Charles believed it himself. The brand you've built as a dad is the emotion your kid feels when your name hits their phone screen. You control that brand completely. If they've known you mainly as the person telling them what to do, switching to a mentor who's genuinely curious about their story is what shifts the brand — and softens the resistance when you do need to hold a standard. There are two ways kids earn respect: through action and through connection. Action respect comes from who you are and how you carry yourself. Connection respect comes from being the person who actually knows their story. The dad who does both is nearly impossible to replace — online or otherwise. Chip Kelly's line from Dads Who Lead is worth writing on a wall: if you accept it, expect it. Every time you let something slide without a conversation, you're voting for that behavior to continue. Setting expectations your teenager can buy into means they have to understand the why — and that only happens when the relationship is strong enough for them to care. Rites of passage aren't a tradition for tradition's sake — young men are starving for a moment where someone tells them who they are and gives them permission to step into it. If dads don't create that moment intentionally, the culture, social media, or a peer group will create it for them.   Links & Resources Dads Who Lead by Thomas Pfanner —  Free leadership style quiz for dads — https://dadswholead.com Father-son retreat experiences (domestic and Normandy 2027) — https://dadswholead.com/experience Questions for the Car (free PDF) — https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Dad Edge Alliance Mastermind — https://thedadedge.com/join Podcast shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1488   Closing Thomas's story with Charles is one of those episodes that reminds you why we do this work. He didn't coast when it got hard. He made the call, packed up his life, and went after his son — no guarantees, no safety net, just faith that his kid was worth it. If you know a dad who's in that painful season of feeling like he's losing his relationship with his teenager, share this episode with him today. It could be the turning point he didn't know he needed. And if this show has meant something to you, head over and leave a five-star review. It helps more dads find this message. Go out and live legendary.

Justin Goodbread is a serial entrepreneur, business coach, and host of the DecaMillionaire Decoded podcast who has built and sold multiple companies while raising three kids alongside his wife Emily in Tennessee. His father Alan, a Georgia Port Authority worker who homeschooled three children with Juilliard graduates and university professors on a lower-middle-class income, laid the foundation for everything Justin has become as a man, a husband, and a dad. This episode is a raw, honest look at how faith, family, and legacy intersect when life gets hard. Justin shares the stories behind losing his father suddenly at 61, nearly losing Emily during an 8-hour surgery with a 12% survival rate, and how both moments stripped away his obsession with building empires and replaced it with something that actually matters. If you're a dad who wants to leave your kids with more than money, this conversation will stay with you.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Host opens with a special June Alliance offer including a signed book, two courses, and 50 intimate conversation starters for couples [2:38] Guest Justin Goodbread is introduced and the two celebrate a recent episode swap on Justin's podcast [3:46] Justin describes his father Alan and the radical decision his parents made to break a cycle of dysfunction by raising their kids in faith and homeschooling them decades before it was common [7:39] Dad gives 15-year-old Justin an ultimatum: have a job by Friday or don't come home, with three strict rules that made it nearly impossible in their small Georgia town [9:53] Justin finds a stranger's overgrown yard, earns $40, and comes home to a father who reveals the lesson he'd orchestrated all along: at 15, you just outearned me [11:37] Two years after starting "Lawn Care by the Boys," Justin and his brother were earning more individually than their parents combined [12:33] After a final day hunting and a Taco Bell conversation about responsibility and legacy, Justin returns home to a call that his father had a massive heart attack that night [13:22] Justin describes a five-year crisis of faith following his father's sudden death at 61, and how grief forced him to rebuild everything from the ground up [24:01] Justin shares the family motto "No one outworks a Goodbread" and how his dad led with short, hard-to-forget phrases that became the family's operating system [29:18] Seven years of tribulation including multiple deaths, suicides among friends, and the stripping away of money and relationships down to just Justin, Emily, and a handful of close friends [31:39] Emily's surgery runs more than 8 hours when doctors said anything past 6 would mean trouble, and Justin sits alone in the hospital waiting room [33:06] Emily's first words coming out of anesthesia: "Justin, what's another million dollars going to do for us?" and how that question changed the direction of his entire life [39:44] The post-surgery shift: intentionality replaces ambition, marriage gets prioritized above all, and Justin and Emily travel to Costa Rica and Saint Lucia to invest in their relationship like never before [43:51] Justin uses the story of Jochebed and Moses to explain his parenting philosophy: mothers nurture in the early years, then fathers step in to disciple their kids into warriors [46:14] His 21-year-old daughter calls, ready to quit a hard nursing class. Justin says nothing. She already knows exactly what he'll say because she's been discipled. [53:43] Justin closes with Ephesians 6:13: "having done all, stand" — do your dead-level best, trust grace for the rest, and enter heaven exhausted   Five Key Takeaways Your kids are watching you model your marriage more than they are watching you parent them. Justin and Emily made it a point to date each other first, keep their marriage above everything else, and trust that their kids would follow what they saw. When Emily nearly died, their daughter was already grounded enough to say "don't worry, dad, we got this." A crisis of faith is not the end of faith. After his father died, Justin spent five years questioning everything he had been raised to believe. What came out on the other side was not a shallower faith but a more surrendered one — a willingness to stop fighting the path and trust the process even when it costs him. The goal is to enter heaven exhausted, not retired. Justin draws a direct line from his father's work ethic to his own rejection of the Western retirement model. Life built around impact, not income, is the shift that Emily's surgery forced him to make, and it became the most clarifying decision of his adult life. Discipleship is about covering your kids in dust. Justin references the Hebrew tradition of students being covered in the dust of their teacher as they walked behind them. The goal is not just to tell your kids what to believe but to walk faithfully enough in front of them that when it counts, they already know what to do. God gets no glory in quitting. Justin's father said it when the family was tempted to pull the kids from homeschooling. Justin's daughter said it back to him at 21, unprompted, when she was ready to drop a nursing class. The phrase became a family doctrine because it was lived out, not just spoken.   Links & Resources DecaMillionaire Decoded Podcast — http://justingoodbread.com/podcast Connect with Justin on Instagram — http://instagram.com/justingoodbread Join the Dad Edge Alliance — http://thedadedge.com/join 50 Intimate Kid Conversation Starters — http://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Show notes and full resources — http://thedadedge.com/1487   Closing Justin's story is not a highlight reel. It is a funeral, an 8-hour surgery, a crisis of faith, and a daughter who already knew what her dad was going to say before he said a word. If something in this episode hit you, send it to a man in your life who needs it. Rate and review the show so more dads can find it, and go out and live legendary.

One of the hardest things I face as a father is watching my kids deflect responsibility and blame everyone else for their mistakes. A door slams in the car, and suddenly it's the wind's fault. A bad grade lands on the homework sheet, but somehow it's the teacher's fault. I know I'm not alone in this—it's one of the most common questions I get from our Dad Edge community. So I brought my brother Joe back to the Q&A to tackle it head-on, and I'm honestly still thinking about what he said. Joe has five kids of his own, including three daughters, so he's lived this battle in real-time. He's learned that what looks like defiance or dishonesty is often just a 12-year-old girl—or a 10-year-old boy—drowning in internal noise. There's social media, body image stuff, the need to be accepted, the pressure to be popular. As fathers, we can barely fathom the tornado of things swirling around in their heads. But when we understand that first, everything changes about how we respond. What struck me most was Joe's wisdom on adopted kids and their fear of failure. If your child came to you a different way—whether adopted or blended—there's an invisible layer of anxiety about worth and belonging. That's not an excuse for irresponsibility; it's context. And context changes how we coach. He walked me through how to use questions instead of accusations, how to celebrate integrity when we see it, and how to be careful with the words we speak because words become the narrative our kids believe about themselves. This Q&A is one you'll want to listen to twice. Once for the tactics on teaching ownership, and once to hear what Joe says about narratives and the power of telling your kids the truth about who they are. Because if we're building men—and that's what we do here—we have to give them a better story to believe about themselves.   Timeline Summary [0:02] Host introduces The Dad Edge mission: creating leaders of men, families, and communities [1:02] Welcome to June 2026 and the epic Q&A episode—plus announcement of exclusive Alliance giveaways this month [1:52] Four exclusive bonuses for joining the Alliance in June: signed copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood, two courses ($500 value each), and 50 Intimate Conversation Starters [3:49] Joe joins and shares his excitement about these monthly Q&A conversations with the community [4:42] Sean submits the core question: His 12-year-old adopted daughter Angelina constantly blames others and won't take ownership for her actions [5:30] Joe responds: At 12, girls are in transition from childhood to womanhood with massive internal pressure around social media, body image, and acceptance [6:18] The key insight—girls can think about 5-6 things at once while most men focus on one track; understanding this is crucial [7:23] Covey's principle: Seek to understand before you seek to be understood; girls at 12 are anxious about their origin story and fear of failure [8:27] The adoption layer: Children who came to families differently often fear they'll be rejected again, which fuels the blame pattern [10:00] Use questions, not accusations: Instead of "Why did you slam the door?" try "Help me understand what happened"—questions keep the door open instead of triggering defensiveness [15:45] Teaching integrity and responsibility: Point out integrity every time you see it—in your child, in others, in everyday moments [38:36] Celebrate integrity immediately: "That showed so much integrity" builds the construct in your child's mind of what integrity actually looks like [39:43] The power of words: Life and death are in the tongue; be careful about criticism around performance because every child struggles with "not being good enough" [40:43] Give your kids a better narrative: The foundation for who they are as people is built on the words you speak and the truth you help them believe about themselves [43:52] Free resource: "Questions for the Car" PDF with 75 age-appropriate questions (5-8, 9-12, and teens) to build connection without the standard "how was school" questions [45:31] Reminder about Alliance June bonuses and gratitude for the community and reviews   Five Key Takeaways When your kid blames others, they're often drowning in internal noise. Before you react to the deflection, understand the 10 things happening inside their head—social pressure, body image, fear of rejection. Understanding first changes everything about how you coach. Instead of asking "Why did you do that?" use questions to understand. The word "why" triggers defensiveness immediately; "Help me understand what happened" keeps the conversation open and models curiosity instead of accusation. Point out integrity constantly—in your child, in strangers, in everyday moments. Integrity is an abstract word to a 10-year-old, so show them what it looks like. Celebrate it immediately. Build the mental model they'll use for the rest of their lives. The words you speak become the narrative your kids believe about themselves. Lies believed enslave a person; truth believed sets them free. Are you speaking words that will free your kids or words that will trap them? Build connection before you expect influence. Questions that create real dialogue—not "How was school?" but the kind that invites genuine conversation—are the bridge between you and your child's honesty.   Links & Resources The Dad Edge Podcast & Resources — https://thedadedge.com/1486 Join The Dad Edge Alliance — https://thedadedge.com/join Questions for the Car PDF (75 age-appropriate questions, ages 5-12 and teens) — https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood book — https://thedadedge.com Creating More Patience in the Chaos course ($500 value, free in June) — https://thedadedge.com/join 50 Intimate Conversation Starters PDF (free resource for Alliance members) — https://thedadedge.com/join Closing If you're struggling with a kid who won't own their mistakes, this conversation is going to shift something in you. I know it did for me. Joe's insight about understanding the tornado of noise inside a preteen's head, and his challenge about the words we speak and the narrative we're building—that's the stuff that matters. That's legacy work. Join the Alliance in June if you want those resources, and don't miss the "Questions for the Car" PDF in the show notes. Your kids need questions that actually matter. Go out and live legendary.

Dominic Rubino is a business coach with over two decades of experience who built a Brian Tracy franchise from 6 locations to 240 worldwide, sold it, and never looked back. He hosts two highly niched podcasts, Profit Tool Belt and Cabinet Maker Profit System, where he helps small trade business owners get clear on time, team, money, and growth. What hit me hardest about this conversation was that Dominic had everything on paper. Two hundred and forty franchisees. International operations. A name in the industry. And then his nine-year-old son shrank at the dinner table, and Dominic made the decision right there. He sold the company. He showed up. And now his son is heading off to play NCAA lacrosse. This episode is about what it actually takes to build a business that serves your life — not the other way around. Dominic talks about delegation, systems, the cost of constant travel, and why the guys who can't stop working are often running from something. If you've ever felt like a prisoner to the income you built, this one's for you. If you're a father who owns a business or is grinding through a W-2 job that keeps pulling you away from the people you're doing it all for, this conversation will hit close to home. Dominic doesn't deal in theory. He's lived it, coached thousands through it, and he has the frameworks to prove it.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Dominic's last name gets butchered before the mic even starts rolling — and a quick side note about Dallas [1:54] Host sets up the dinner table moment — nine-year-old Joseph shrinks in his chair and changes everything [2:17] Dominic describes building a Brian Tracy franchise from 6 to 240 locations across the U.S., Brazil, and Europe [3:32] A surprise buyout offer comes in from franchisees — and Dominic says no [4:13] The real cost of constant travel: getting invited to the hotel concierge's birthday party [5:29] The moment it all shifted: Joseph drops his head at the dinner table and Dominic decides to sell [7:05] Dominic reflects on the things he missed — first steps, first swimming lessons — and what his kids saw him miss [9:16] Host shares his own version: his six-year-old son locked around his ankle on the floor, begging him not to leave again [13:03] Why Dominic stopped being afraid to reinvent himself — and the promise he made to never sacrifice his family again [20:08] Advice for W-2 guys feeling stuck: stop sending resumes into the void and go talk to a human being [25:17] "Cat's in the Cradle" — one song that answers this whole conversation, and a hospital story that hits like a gut punch [31:42] The less you work, the more you make: why Dominic hires great people and then hires them an assistant [36:15] A live breathing exercise on air — and what it should feel like to actually be on top of your business [43:23] A client sells his company for seven figures and his wife asks one question: "Does this mean you can finally do donuts with dad?" [47:12] How Dominic helps trade business owners in the $1–3M range get clear on time, team, money, and growth [50:07] How to find Dominic — two podcasts, a TEDx talk, and a college wrestler who is definitely not him   Five Key Takeaways The moment that changes you doesn't announce itself. For Dominic, it was a nine-year-old boy silently shrinking at the dinner table. You don't always know what your kids see you miss, but they're watching — and so are you, somewhere deep down. Reinventing yourself isn't the scary part. The scarier thing is spending another decade in golden handcuffs, telling yourself you're doing it for the family while the family waits at the door. Stop lying to yourself about being trapped. You're not. Finding a job is a job. Don't send your resume into the LinkedIn black hole. Figure out which companies and which people you actually want to work for and go talk to them. Every business owner out there is looking for someone committed enough to show up before they're asked. Hire great people, then hire them an assistant. If your best people are spending their time on tasks that a $20/hour assistant could handle, you're paying premium wages for checkbox work. Build small teams, assign assistants early, and let them do more than you ever could alone. A business only gets clear when everything in your head gets out of it. Strategic planning is really just moving the chaos from your mind onto paper. Once it's on paper, it becomes the boss. Then you work backwards from that to figure out what has to happen this quarter, this week, and today.   Links & Resources Profit Tool Belt Podcast — search "Profit Tool Belt" on any podcast platform Cabinet Maker Profit System Podcast — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cabinet-maker-profit-system-podcast/id1353937790 Dominic Rubino TEDx Talk: Family Inc — search "Dominic Rubino TEDx" on YouTube The Dad Edge Alliance — http://thedadedge.com/join Episode show notes and links — http://thedadedge.com/1483   Closing If Dominic's dinner table story hit you somewhere you weren't expecting, trust that feeling. That's the thing trying to get your attention. Whether you're building a business, grinding a W-2, or somewhere in the messy middle of trying to make a change, the time to put the wheels in motion is not someday — it's now. Share this episode with a business-owner dad in your life who needs to hear it. And if it moved you, take two minutes to leave a review and follow the show so we can keep bringing you conversations like this one. Go out and live legendary.

Father Stephen Gadberry is a Catholic priest ordained in 2016 after a path that took him from a small family farm in the Arkansas Delta through the United States Air Force, a deployment to Iraq, and all the way to Rome to study philosophy and theology. He competed on American Ninja Warrior in 2018 and 2020, has worked alongside Bishop Robert Barron and Word on Fire, and currently serves at Saint Theresa Catholic Church and School in Little Rock, Arkansas. In this conversation, Father Stephen opens up about losing his father and twelve-year-old sister in a car accident when he was just eight years old, how that tragedy shaped his understanding of duty and sacrifice, and what it felt like to receive his calling in the middle of a deployment in central Iraq. He is a hunter, archer, CrossFit athlete, knife maker, and musician who speaks about masculinity, suffering, and faith in a way that cuts through all the noise. We also get into forgiveness in a way I have never heard anyone break it down before. Father Stephen uses the image of a plant to walk through the entire process of healing a broken relationship, from cultivating the soil, to planting the seed, to watching for weeds, to understanding why we pull back just when things start to feel close. It is pastoral counsel and practical wisdom at the same time. This one hit me differently, guys. I am not kidding when I say I felt the weight of this conversation in my chest. If you have ever carried loss, wrestled with abandonment, or wondered how a man of deep faith actually lives out forgiveness in real time, this episode is for you.   Timeline Summary [1:02] Father Stephen and the host kick off by acknowledging this is take two, after a tech failure ended the first recording [1:55] Father Stephen explains his two appearances on American Ninja Warrior in 2018 and 2020 and what he was really trying to do with the cameras [4:20] The meaning behind the priest collar explained: white for speaking truth, black for death to self [6:07] Why traditions are not a threat to faith and how they are already woven into every man's life whether he realizes it or not [7:16] How the American Ninja Warrior exposure broke down barriers and gave people an entry point to seek pastoral help with marriages and personal struggles [13:25] Host introduces Father Stephen's background: raised on an Arkansas farm, lost his father and older sister at age eight in a car accident, later served in the Air Force and deployed to Iraq [17:22] Father Stephen describes the accident on May 5th, 1994, the deaths of his father and twelve-year-old sister, and how a young boy without comprehension of the full weight woke up every day and simply got it done [23:11] Two weeks after the accident, his mother discovered she was pregnant with twins, and the family's response to impossible circumstances [28:18] The Christmas delivery story: neighbors who brought gifts for the family after the accident and did it with enough grace and class that no one's dignity was taken [33:14] Father Stephen recalls warming up the minivan for his mother on cold Arkansas mornings as a child, and why the small act reveals a lifelong orientation toward serving others before himself [37:10] The story of how the calling to priesthood emerged during military service in Iraq, including a stranger at Mass who said, "You're thinking about being a priest, aren't you?" [43:30] How Father Stephen submitted his early separation paperwork from the Air Force and received approval in under two weeks, something that ordinarily takes months [46:30] The host shares his own story of his biological father leaving twice and reconnecting at age thirty, and asks Father Stephen about what it means to forgive at 98% but still carry that last 2% [52:07] The plant image of forgiveness: cultivating the soil, planting the seed, watching for weeds, and understanding that pulling things up too soon or too often kills what is trying to grow [1:00:54] Father Stephen helps the host understand the subconscious pull-back pattern that shows up in relationships after early abandonment and how to reframe those defense mechanisms rather than fight them [1:07:13] Closing thoughts and the little way of Saint Thérèse: do small things with big love, over and over   Five Key Takeaways Losing his father and sister at age eight did not break Father Stephen. It built in him a sense of duty and commitment so deep that he woke up every morning as a boy simply asking what needed to be done, and that orientation toward others before self became the foundation of everything he does as a priest. Sharing your humanity, not just your credentials, is what gives people permission to bring you their real problems. Father Stephen's Ninja Warrior appearances did not grow his ministry by making him impressive. They grew it by making him approachable. Forgiveness is not a moment. It is a plant. You cultivate the soil, you plant the seed at the right time in the right way, and then you let it sit. Going back every day to dig it up and see if it grew will kill it. The healing comes from doing the work and then having the patience to let it take root. Keeping a small part of unforgiveness is not a failure. It is memory. It is what tells you how to water the plant going forward, what burned it before, and what it needs to stay alive now. Forgetting is not the goal. Learning is. The soul remembers what hurt it, and sometimes that shows up as pulling back right when something good is getting close. That is not sabotage. That is an old defense mechanism doing its job. The work is to recognize it, name it, and gently push its limits rather than either surrendering to it or shaming yourself for it.   Links & Resources Follow Father Stephen on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/fatherstephenjgadberry Saint Theresa Catholic Church — https://www.sttheresalittlerock.org This Episode's Show Page — https://thedadedge.com/1484 Join the Dad Edge — https://thedadedge.com/join The Men's Forge — https://themensforge.com   Closing Father Stephen gave us something rare in this conversation: the kind of honesty that only comes from a man who has sat with real pain long enough to have something true to say about it. If the plant image of forgiveness resonated with you the way it hit me, share this episode with a man in your life who is carrying something heavy and does not have the language for it yet. And if you got something out of this one, please take a minute to leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. It helps more dads and more men find this show. Go out and live legendary.

Jon Fogel is a parenting expert, pastor, published author, and PhD candidate who runs Whole Parent and Whole Parent Academy, a resource built around the psychology of parenting and discipline. He is the author of the bestselling book Punishment Free Parenting and a brand new children's book, Set My Feelings Free, which sold out nationwide before its second printing. He is a husband, father of four kids ranging from 18 months to nine years old, and somehow found time to install a toilet while his wife was in labor. Jon has been a guest on The Dad Edge podcast twice before, and every single time he shows up, he leaves the room differently than he found it. This episode is a live Q&A inside the Alliance, and the questions the guys brought were real. Getting a spouse on the same page. The pendulum swing between authoritarian and checked-out. A five-year-old who looks you dead in the eye before he does the wrong thing on purpose. And the hard one: what happens when your son won't respond to you the way he responds to his mom. Jon's framework is grounded in brain science and developmental psychology, and the thing that keeps hitting you as you listen is how much of what we were taught about discipline actually works against us. The reason kids shut down when we raise our voices is the same reason our partners shut down when we raise our voices. The reason kids push boundaries is not defiance. It's development. The reason your son runs to mom and not to you is not a reflection of your worth as a father. It's evolution. If you're a dad who's been doing the work but still feels like something is off in how your kids or your partner respond to you, this episode is going to give you clarity in places you didn't expect to find it.   Timeline Summary [1:01] Host introduces Jon Fogel for his third appearance, covering his role as a parenting expert, author, PhD candidate, and founder of Whole Parent Academy [2:05] Jon describes his book Punishment Free Parenting, its bestseller status, and explains that 99% of the book is about what to do instead of punishing [3:42] Jon's newest children's book Set My Feelings Free is sold out nationwide, with a second printing arriving May 20th [4:02] First question from Rich: how to get a spouse on the same page when parenting backgrounds and styles are very different [5:29] Jon explains why you should never try to correct a partner's parenting in the moment, and why the same brain science that applies to kids applies to adults [8:11] Jon introduces the H.E.A.R. framework from Harvard for conflict resolution: Hedge, Emphasize agreement, Acknowledge perspective, Reframe to the positive [10:55] Jon walks through each step of H.E.A.R. practically, showing how removing defensiveness creates space for the other person to move without feeling wrong [14:07] Jon adds a bonus tactic: developing a safe word with your partner as a mutual tap-out when someone is getting too heated to parent effectively [17:56] Second question from Chris: the pendulum swing between strict and disengaged, and why so many parents default to one or the other [19:16] Jon reframes the boundary concept using the backyard fence metaphor: boundaries are not restrictions, they are the only structure that gives a child real freedom [27:17] Third question: a five-year-old who deliberately pushes boundaries and throws food. Jon explains the difference between punishments, natural consequences, and logical consequences [30:50] Jon explains that boundary-pushing at five is a developmental need, not defiance, and offers a practical redirection strategy using a popcorn bowl at dinner [35:15] Anonymous question: son responds to mom and shuts down with dad. Jon addresses attachment hierarchy, enmeshment concerns, and why parents should largely stop parenting together [40:10] Jon explains the science of attachment hierarchy and how kids are hardwired to default to one parent under threat. He clarifies that being second in the hierarchy does not mean you are failing [44:46] Jon shares resources: Punishment Free Parenting, the children's book Set My Feelings Free, The Whole Parent Podcast, and an in-person event in Chicago on May 21st   Five Key Takeaways The worst time to correct your partner's parenting is in the moment it's happening. The same science that tells us not to discipline a dysregulated child applies directly to adults. Wait for calm, get curious about the trigger, and then use the H.E.A.R. framework to address it without creating more defensiveness than you started with. Boundaries are not restrictions. They are the structure that gives your child real freedom. A kid without clear boundaries does not feel free. They feel unsafe. The backyard fence metaphor Jon uses is worth sitting with: your job is to build the fence in the right place, not to police what happens inside it. A five-year-old who looks you in the eye before doing something he knows you don't want is not being defiant. He is developing. At that age, differentiation is a biological need, and the act of doing something dad doesn't want is how he practices becoming his own person. Understanding that changes how you respond. If your son responds better to his mom than to you, that is not an indictment of who you are as a father. Attachment hierarchy is hardwired and evolutionary. The solution is not to compete with mom in the room. It is to build a relationship with your son when she is not there. Kids who do not have their need for autonomy met will meet that need in ways you will not like. Whether it is food at the dinner table, video games at 13, or behavior that seems to come out of nowhere, the question worth asking is: where else in his day does he get to make his own choices?   Links & Resources Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel — https://a.co/d/0hdOkJZl Set My Feelings Free (children's book) — second printing available May 20th In-person Chicago event with Jon Fogel and Eli Harwood — May 21st, downtown Chicago How to Deal With Your Shirt So Your Kids Don't Have to by Eli Harwood The Alliance — http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge — http://themensforge.com/ Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1485   Closing The question about attachment hierarchy near the end of this one is going to stay with me for a while. The image of your kid running toward one parent without thinking, faster than conscious thought, because their brain is trying to survive a threat — and knowing that which parent they run to has nothing to do with how hard you've worked or how much you love them — that's both humbling and freeing at the same time. Jon said it plainly: being in second place means you're in first place when the other person isn't there. Do the work. Show up. Take the alone time with your kids and build what only you can build with them. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Georgine Nanos — board certified family physician, founder of Kind Health Group and Kind TMS, and the first clinician in the world to successfully condense the 40-day TMS protocol into a single day. TMS stands for transcranial magnetic stimulation. It's been FDA approved since 2008, has no long-term side effects, and uses magnetic field energy to create new synaptic pathways in the part of the brain where anxiety, depression, and PTSD get locked into negative stress loops. The Stanford trial that condensed it from 40 days to five days got a 90% response rate. Dr. Nanos condensed it further — to a single 12-hour day — and got the same results. But this is not just a clinical episode. We talk about why men specifically have such a hard time reaching out, why burnout is a perfectly valid reason to pursue this, why the cop from the Bay Area who couldn't be present for his kids started playing drums again a month after treatment, and why the family almost always sees the improvement before the patient does. Dr. Nanos also gets personal — she has mild anxiety and insomnia, was skeptical when she first tried TMS on herself, and has now done it multiple times since. Her kids describe her as chill. She credits the machine.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:03] What TMS is — transcranial magnetic stimulation, FDA approved for 18 years, not electric shock therapy [2:38] How negative stress loops form in the brain — and how TMS creates new synaptic pathways around them [5:41] The difference between TMS and ECT — why TMS was born and why ECT is the last resort [6:59] Why TMS hasn't gone mainstream — 40 days, insurance barriers, and older devices that were uncomfortable [8:11] Stanford condenses it to five days and gets a 90% response rate — then Dr. Nanos condenses it to one [10:05] The single-day protocol study — 34 patients, same results as Stanford, now being studied at UCLA and Harvard [12:16] Response rate vs. remission — what the clinical measurements actually mean [14:47] Introducing Dr. Nanos — Kind Health Group, Kind TMS, and refusing to stay inside the lines of traditional medicine [17:15] What the experience actually feels like — comfortable table, dim lights, binaural beats, light tapping on the skull [24:00] Why medication is only 40-50% effective for depression — and why TMS is a more targeted approach [28:01] Men and mental health — the walk of shame, the fear of looking broken, and why burnout is a valid reason to come in [30:44] High-functioning people at their last straw — midlife, peak career, aging parents, hormonal shifts, and the perfect storm [31:40] What patients feel after the 12-hour day — tired, then slow incremental change, sleep improves first [33:41] The Marine Corps veteran who felt agitated around his kids — and what changed after TMS [35:58] TMS is scaffolding, not a silver bullet — you still have to do the climbing [39:22] Who is a candidate — ages ten into their 90s, autism spectrum, teens, veterans, first responders [43:25] The cop from the Bay Area — Iraq War veteran, suicide attempt in his past, couldn't be present for his kids [45:23] He got the band back together — and his wife saw the change before he did [47:27] What happens when patients relapse — booster sessions, obsessive follow up, and a year of ongoing care [49:07] Insurance only covers the 40-day protocol — and only after failing 3-4 medications [51:06] The price point — $12,000 for the full year of care including financing options and veteran programs [54:07] Dr. Nanos did TMS on herself — skeptical at first, now does booster sessions every 6-7 months   Five Key Takeaways TMS is not electric shock therapy. It is safe, FDA approved, has no long-term side effects, and has been around for 40 years. Most men have simply never heard of it. You do not have to be in a mental health crisis to benefit from TMS. High-functioning men who feel flat, burned out, or not quite like themselves are exactly who this was designed for. Burnout is a brain state, not a character flaw. The negative stress loops that build up over years of pressure, peak career, and family demands can be addressed — and the first thing that tends to improve is sleep. TMS is scaffolding, not a silver bullet. It gives you the pathways to climb out of the hole. But you still have to do the work — therapy, exercise, and the lifestyle habits that keep the pathways open. The people around you will see the change before you do. The cop's wife saw his improvement first. Dr. Nanos's kids noticed before she did. Your family is watching — and they want their dad back.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom — June 1st cohort, applications open through May 31st: http://thedadedge.com/boardroom Kind Minds TMS website: https://kindmindstms.com Kind Health Group: https://kindhealthgroup.com Follow Dr. Nanos on Instagram: @drgeorginenanos Kind Minds TMS on Instagram: @kindmindstms Call Kind Minds TMS/ Kind Health Group directly: (760) 701-5463 Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1482): https://thedadedge.com/1482   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you do not have to keep white-knuckling it through life. The cop from the Bay Area was drowning in silence — a past suicide attempt, a demanding job, young kids, aging parents, and nowhere to put any of it. One month after treatment, he's playing drums again. His wife sees it. His kids feel it. That is what is possible when a man stops waiting until it gets bad enough and starts asking what getting better actually looks like. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Lee Benson — entrepreneur, founder of eight companies, former CEO of Abel Aerospace (which he grew from 2 to 500 employees serving customers in 60 countries before a nine-figure exit in 2016), and now CEO of Dinner Table, a free global community of over 40,000 parents from 67 countries built around one idea: teaching families how to intentionally create value together. Lee's story starts where most don't — kicked out of his house at 18 with his clothes in paper grocery bags, a car he bought himself, a job cooking at Coco's, and a credit card debt his parents had secretly run up in his name. He went from negative zero to building one of the most successful aerospace companies in the country. And he has spent the last decade trying to figure out how to give every family — especially the ones starting from nothing — the framework that changes everything. We get into the monthly family meeting, what it actually covers, and why giving every member of the family — including the six-year-old — a job and a line item in the budget changes behavior almost instantly. We talk about finding your kids' value creation superpowers, what it means to show up with someone's potential instead of their performance, and why Lee's business partner Jack Welch was one of only two people in his entire life who ever made him feel that way. And Lee drops one of the most clarifying lines this show has ever heard: I believe in unconditional love. I do not believe in unconditional relationships.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:03] Kicked out at 18 — paper bags on the patio, locks changed, one night in a Chevy Blazer [2:19] The credit cards his parents ran up in his name — and why he paid them off instead of turning them in [3:46] Generational dysfunction, siblings lost in it, and why unconditional love does not mean unconditional relationships [5:17] Why being kicked out may have been the best thing that ever happened to him [8:11] Building a chosen family — 40-plus years later, one of his "kids" is staying at his house with his own family [10:06] The rules of engagement — how Lee maintains relationships with difficult family members without enabling them [15:52] Introducing Lee — Abel Aerospace, nine-figure exit, and now CEO of Dinner Table [17:18] The monthly family meeting — family goals, everybody's job, budget review, and what it means to be a leader in the family [20:17] Giving the six-year-old a line item in the budget — and what happened when the kids saw how much Dutch Brothers was costing [21:34] If there's money left over, the kids decide where it goes — including Yellowstone with no technology for a week [22:14] The one-on-one meeting with each kid — how would you like to create value in the world? [25:31] Why Lee calls it a huddle instead of a meeting — and how language changes everything [27:50] The nine-year-old who looked up and said "I have a job for the family" — with pride [28:52] The two people in Lee's entire life who showed up with his potential — and why that is so rare [30:20] Larry's version — the mentor who always referenced Larry 1.0 vs. Larry 2.0 behavior [33:01] How to ask a ten-year-old about value creation without losing them — and what to do with "I like video games" [39:16] Three types of struggle — normal and healthy, struggle that needs support, and struggle to avoid entirely [48:32] The mom whose three boys cook dinner six nights a week — and why that one job changed everything for her [51:26] The difference between adding value and creating value — and why that distinction matters for your kids [56:06] What we say vs. what we model — and why cutting yourself down in front of your kids cancels every "you can be anything" you've ever said   Five Key Takeaways I believe in unconditional love. I do not believe in unconditional relationships. Love without limits does not mean relationships without rules of engagement — and confusing the two enables the very behavior you're trying to change. The monthly family meeting changes behavior almost instantly. When kids have a job for the family, a line item in the budget, and a seat at the table — they stop needing to be told ten times. They're already in. Show up with your kid's potential, not their current performance. The two people Lee remembers most weren't impressed by his resume. They saw what he could become. That's the standard. What you say and what you model are two completely different messages. If you tell your kids they can be anything and then cut yourself down in front of them, they are listening to your actions — not your words. Value creation is a family sport. The earlier you start the conversation — what are your interests, how do you want to show up in the world, what does it mean to be a leader in this family — the more momentum your kids build on their own before they leave home.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom — June 1st cohort, applications open May 21–31: http://thedadedge.com/boardroom Value Creation Family by Lee Benson: https://www.amazon.com/Value-Creation-Family-Playbook-Setting/dp/1636805981 Dinner Table community (free, 40,000+ parents, 67 countries): https://dinnertable.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1480): https://thedadedge.com/1480   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you can start from anywhere and go everywhere — but only if your belief system allows it. Lee Benson started from negative zero. No father. A toxic home. Credit card debt in his name before he ever had a job. And he built something extraordinary — not because he had a blueprint, but because he believed a different future was possible and did the work to build it. Now he's building that blueprint for everyone else. One family meeting at a time. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Brandon Webb — Navy SEAL, former sniper instructor, and author of the brand new parenting book Puddle Jumpers — joins a live Dad Edge Alliance Q&A to answer real questions from real dads. No filters, no talking points. Just a man who has raised three extraordinary kids through divorce, business failure, and years of hard-won parenting lessons, going deep on the questions most dads are quietly carrying. The questions cover everything — what to tell your younger self as a new dad, how to act vs. wait when stakes are high, how to build confidence and resilience in your kids without SEAL-level pressure, how to get a reluctant 12-year-old to open up, what ordinary magic looks like in everyday parenting, and how to co-parent well when your ex has moved on and moved away. Brandon's philosophy is simple, practical, and backed by research: get to the why before you drop the hammer, let your kids do small hard things on their own, teach them to use their voice rather than your own, and remember that your voice will become their inner voice. He also drops one of the most memorable parenting wins on the show — a handwritten note from his 22-year-old daughter that he read four or five times and has carried ever since.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge Alliance Q&A — and why this is what happens inside the Alliance every month [3:33] How Puddle Jumpers came to be — three kids, a divorce, a business failure, and strangers asking Brandon for advice [6:12] The mud puddle that gave the book its name — and the kind of dad Brandon decided to be in that moment [8:29] Q1: What would you tell your younger self as a new father? [9:22] Lead with love, be present, and choose quality over quantity — especially when you don't have much time [11:16] Say sorry. Own your mistakes in front of your kids. They're watching conflict resolution in real time. [13:36] Q2: How do you decide when to act vs. wait when stakes are high and you don't have full clarity? [14:10] Get to the why of the behavior before you punish — the checklist Brandon uses from his SEAL days [16:11] The teacher who publicly humiliated his son — and why Brandon and his ex took their son's side and pulled him out [19:43] Getting to the core driver of the behavior before you act is the most important move a parent can make [23:29] Q3: How do you build resilience and confidence in kids without SEAL-level pressure? [24:36] Positive psychology from the sniper course — paint the picture of what to do, not what to stop doing [25:46] Your voice becomes their inner voice — choose what you want living in their head [27:00] Ordinary magic — letting kids do small tasks alone is how confidence gets built over time [27:54] The Portland airport and the soccer team selfies — what happens when you make your kid ask for himself [30:11] Q4: My 12-year-old is reluctant to open up — how do I get him to talk? [31:01] Never sit them down at the kitchen table — do it in the car, on a walk, shooting hoops [32:13] Ask ten times if you need to. Peel the layers back slowly and never make it confrontational. [33:01] Ask better questions — Brandon has a full reference guide in the back of Puddle Jumpers [45:00] Q5: How do you navigate divorce and still raise great kids? [45:21] The psychologist who changed everything — happy mom, happy kids. Default to that when you're triggered. [48:28] Agree up front to put the kids first and police your own family from choosing sides [57:15] Get a PhD-level psychologist to help — not just a counselor. It's the best money Brandon ever spent. [1:00:40] Lead by example, speak positively about your ex, and trust that your kids are watching everything   Five Key Takeaways Get to the why before you punish. The behavior is a symptom — and if you react to the symptom without understanding the cause, you can push your kid away in ways that take years to repair. Your voice becomes their inner voice. Think about how you want to be heard inside your child's head ten years from now. That is the standard your daily words have to meet. Ordinary magic is how confidence is built. Letting your kids tie their own shoes, order their own food, and ask for their own autograph — these tiny moments accumulate into a kid who believes they can handle the world. Never have the hard conversation sitting down face to face. Do it in the car. On a walk. Shooting hoops. Kids open up when their body is moving and the pressure is off. If the co-parenting relationship is not adversarial, you're already ahead of the curve. Protect that at all costs. Police your own family. Speak positively about your ex. Your kids are watching you model how adults handle hard things.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance — join now and get a free signed copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood plus two bonus courses: https://thedadedge.com/join Car Questions — Connect With Your Kids in the Car: https://thedadedge.com/car-questions-connect-with-your-kids-in-the-car/ Puddle Jumpers by Brandon Webb: https://www.amazon.com/Puddle-Jumpers-Simple-Proven-Confident/dp/B0FWZZKJN6 Brandon Webb's website: https://brandontylerwebb.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1481): https://thedadedge.com/1481   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: your kids are paying attention to everything — especially when you think they're not. Brandon Webb raised three extraordinary kids through divorce, business failure, deployments, and more than a few mistakes. And the letter his daughter left him before he came to New York — the one he read four or five times and still carries — is proof that the work is worth it. Be present. Get to the why. Let them do hard things on their own. And speak the words you want living inside their heads. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Vince Benevento — licensed counselor, founder of Causeway Collaborative, author of Boys Will Be Men: Eight Lessons for the Lost American Male, and a man who has worked with over 2,000 young men between the ages of 14 and 30 over the past 15 years. But before we get into any of that, Vince opens up about the most formative experience of his life. Last July 4th weekend, his son Leo went from a rash on his wrist to 15 days in the ER, a diagnosis of aplastic anemia, a bone marrow transplant, a fungal infection that ate through his lung and ribs and attacked his spine, three emergency surgeries, a broken back, a seven-vertebrae spinal fusion, and 150 total days in the hospital. A doctor pulled Vince aside and told him to prepare for the fact that his son was not going to make it. Leo just got cleared to go back to school. Vince also opens up about his own story — a closeted gay father whose secret life exploded when Vince was a senior in high school, a substance use disorder from 17 to 22, two hospitalizations, a mood disorder diagnosis, getting sober, leaving college, and building the blueprint for Causeway — his own recovery blueprint — before he even knew it would become a business. This one covers why traditional therapy fails young men, what actually works instead, what it means to find your wild, and what the lost American male most needs right now.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:15] Leo's story begins — a rash on his wrist, a pediatrician appointment, and an ambulance to Yale [3:14] Aplastic anemia, a bone marrow transplant, and a one-in-a-million perfect donor match [5:19] The fungal infection that changed everything — lung, ribs, spine, three emergency surgeries, broken back [6:39] The doctor pulls Vince aside — prepare yourself. Your son may not come out of this. [8:09] How Vince and Gina navigated 150 days in the hospital — and why he's honest that they didn't do it perfectly [11:03] Their different vantage points — Vince shrinking Leo's world to protect him, Gina knowing his spirit needed connection [16:32] Vince's own mental health history — hospitalized at 19, mood disorder diagnosis, sober at 22 [17:08] The 6 to 7am ritual — one hour alone every morning at the Ronald McDonald House to lift and pray before facing the day [20:10] Introducing Vince — Causeway Collaborative, Boys Will Be Men, and 15 years working with over 2,000 young men [21:22] Vince's origin story — a father's secret life exploding senior year, substance use disorder, leaving college, and building the blueprint that became his business [30:17] Why traditional therapy fails men — especially young men — and what Causeway does differently [31:31] The deficit-driven medical model vs. a strength-based, goal-driven, action-focused framework [32:57] Less talk, more do — teaching a man to fish instead of processing open-ended about his feelings [37:25] Name it to tame it — chapter two and the struggle of accepting a diagnosis that restricts what you want to do [39:00] Find your wild — chapter four and what it means to resurrect the part of yourself that died between 22 and 38 [40:55] Rolling his addictive tendencies into workaholism — and his wife's ultimatum that changed everything [41:30] Having coffee with guys, building friendships, and slowly filling back up what the years had hollowed out [45:28] Jimmy — sober in high school, construction job, Covid isolation, breeding exotic reptiles, and coming back to life [48:28] Men need a battle to fight, a beauty to love, and an adventure to be had — and when those are gone, something dies [49:08] What Vince hopes every young man takes from his book — you're messy, I'm messy, and it's going to be all right   Five Key Takeaways Traditional therapy fails most young men because it asks them to do something they're developmentally not wired for yet — express and process emotions openly. What works is action, structure, goal-setting, and doing things alongside someone until they can do it alone. You can't outrun what you haven't dealt with. Vince rolled his substance use into workaholism, his workaholism into his marriage, and it took his wife's ultimatum to make him stop and look at what was missing. Finding your wild is not optional — it is maintenance. The soul that gets buried under work, kids, and obligation doesn't disappear. It just stops showing up everywhere else. You have to nourish it on purpose. Men need a battle to fight, a beauty to love, and an adventure to be had. When Jimmy found his thing — breeding exotic reptiles — he found his reason to stay sober, his entrepreneurial spirit, and his sense of self. The specifics don't matter. The having of something does. Your mess becomes your message. Vince spent decades helping young men without them knowing anything about his own story. The book exists because he finally believed the mess was worth sharing — and it gives other men permission to share theirs.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom: http://thedadedge.com/boardroom Boys Will Be Men by Vince Benevento: https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Will-Be-Men-American/dp/1959170317 Causeway Collaborative: https://causewaycollaborative.com Follow Vince on Instagram: @vince_benevento_lpc Wild at Heart by John Eldredge: https://www.amazon.com/dp/078522663X?ref=clp_hp_h_pc Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1479): https://thedadedge.com/1479   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: God is still doing miracles — and Leo Benevento is one of them. But the other message is just as important. You are messy. Vince is messy. Every man on this show who has ever done hard things and built something real out of the rubble is messy. And your mess is not disqualifying — it is exactly the thing that qualifies you to help the next person who's sitting in the same pile. Find your wild. Do the work. And give some young man in your life the same gift someone gave you. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Jason Reid — founder of Tell My Story Foundation, producer of the documentary films Tell My Story, What I Wish My Parents Knew, and Shift, author of seven books, Iron Man athlete, and a father who lost his 14-year-old son Ryan to suicide in 2018 while on vacation with his wife. Jason was back for the second time on Dad Edge, and this conversation went somewhere neither of us expected. We open with AI — why the easy button is robbing kids of the growth that comes from struggle, and why an AI chatbot girlfriend who only says nice things is the most dangerous mental health threat facing kids right now. We get into the warning signs parents miss, why the most at-risk kids often look like the quarterback or the cheerleader, and the clouds analogy that reframes everything about how you try to help a struggling kid. Jason is direct: stop trying to fix it. Ask about the clouds. Listen longer. And when they're ready to talk, they'll talk on their terms — almost always side by side, never face to face. We also get into one of the most unconventional but practical parenting conversations this show has ever had: how to teach your kids to fight back with their words. Not their fists. Their words. It's called verbal self-defense — and it may be the most underrated gift a father can give his kid. And then there's Shift — Jason's newest documentary about kids who protect their mental health by having a passion that's entirely their own. The message is simple and urgent: your kid needs an anchor. Help them find it before they need it most.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:04] Why AI is the new mental health boogeyman — and why the chatbot girlfriend is the most dangerous thing on a kid's phone right now [4:15] You rob yourself of growth when you take the easy path — Jason's songwriting process and why the journey is the whole point [7:34] AI will make you smarter or dumber — it's entirely about how you use it [11:14] Introducing Jason Reid — founder of Tell My Story Foundation, back for the second time on Dad Edge [12:02] What happened to Ryan — a 14-year-old son lost to suicide in 2018 while Jason and his wife were on vacation [15:58] The choice Jason made — stay married, stay working, stay focused, and turn the pain into purpose [16:20] Tell My Story on Amazon Prime, What I Wish My Parents Knew in schools, and Shift — three films born from one loss [18:31] The warning signs parents miss — and why stopping the shower is often the first one to look for [19:53] The most at-risk kids look like the quarterback and the cheerleader — not the dark quiet kid in the corner [20:59] The clouds analogy — why telling your kid the sky is blue makes them stop talking [21:51] Ask about the clouds. Ask how they look, how they feel, whether they come and go. Don't give advice first. [23:30] Don't rush to your kid tonight and say "we need to talk about your mental health" — they will shut you out [24:14] Kids talk on their terms — when it's inconvenient for you, side by side, never face to face [26:40] Extend the talk — take the long way home, go for ice cream, keep moving so they keep talking [30:55] Larry's experience being bullied — and what he battles as a dad when his kid faces the same thing [32:28] Jason's counter-cultural advice: a bully will continue until your kid punches back — verbally or physically [34:49] Teach your kids verbal self-defense — find the bully's insecurity and make it funny in front of everyone [37:04] Brad Williams the dwarf comedian — and the greatest gift his dad gave him [40:21] Coach them on their comeback lines before it happens again — because it will happen again [45:30] Why kids today are under more pressure than any generation before — war, climate change, college costs, social media [50:45] Shift — what the film is about and why every kid needs a passion that has nothing to do with school or friends [53:20] Jason's Iron Man races — came in last every time and didn't care, because it was his thing [54:14] What did you love doing as a kid that you stopped? — and why that question could change everything [57:14] Larry and his 18-year-old learning guitar together — and why struggling alongside your kid is the whole point   Five Key Takeaways An AI chatbot that only says nice things to your kid is not a friend — it's a dangerous distortion of reality. The real world is going to push back, and kids raised on pure affirmation won't be ready for it. Don't tell a struggling kid the sky is blue. Ask them about the clouds. Ask how they look, how they feel, whether they come and go. You fix things in this space by listening, not advising. Kids will talk on their terms — side by side, in the car, on a walk, when it's inconvenient for you. When they start talking, extend the moment. Don't race home. Teach your kids verbal self-defense. A bully who gets laughed at stops. A bully whose insecurity gets named in front of everyone goes finds a different target. This is a skill you can practice at home. Every kid needs an anchor — a passion that's entirely theirs, not school, not friends, not a screen. Help them find it before the dark season hits, because the kids who have it are the ones who make it through.   Links & Resources Tell My Story Foundation: https://www.tellmystory.org/ Tell My Story documentary on Amazon Prime: Search "Tell My Story" on Amazon Prime Shift documentary — available through schools: https://tellmystory.org Songs for the Drive Home album: Available on Spotify and Apple Music — search "Songs for the Drive Home" Tell My Story conversation card deck: Available at https://www.tellmystory.org/cardgame Jason Reid's previous Dad Edge episode (June 2023): https://thedadedge.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1478): https://thedadedge.com/1478   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: your kid needs an anchor — and they need you to help them find it before they need it most. Jason Reid lost his son Ryan in 2018. He didn't see it coming. And he spent the next seven years turning that loss into the most important work of his life — so other parents don't have to stand where he stood. Ask about the clouds. Take the long way home. Teach them to fight back with words. And help them find their thing. Because the kids who have something to wake up for are the ones who make it through. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and Uncle Joe tackle one of the most relatable questions any sports dad has ever asked — what do you do when the environment your kid is playing in is toxic, and it's breaking his spirit? The question comes from Mike — a dad of two boys whose 11-year-old has recently had his love for baseball crushed by the culture of travel sports. The kid is now telling himself he's not good enough and that quitting is the answer. Mike is doing the work, modeling emotional regulation at home, and feeling like an imposter because none of it seems to be helping. Larry shares his own story of pushing his son too hard in wrestling, learning to let him lead, and watching him play football for ten years before deciding on his own to walk away. Joe drops an ancient Chinese archery proverb that reframes the entire conversation — and explains why the need to win literally drains a kid of every skill he has. Alliance member Calvin adds a coach's perspective on getting to the root of what's really going on with your son. This is a short, punchy, deeply practical episode that every sports dad needs to hear — especially if you've ever wondered whether the investment of time and money in travel sports is actually worth it.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Mike's question: my 11-year-old's spirit is being broken by travel baseball's toxic culture — what do I do? [3:47] Larry's wrestling story — getting excited about a scholarship, pushing too hard, and learning to follow his son's lead [6:26] Dr. John Delany's take: travel sports is ruining the dinner table of the American family [7:37] The stats — only 1.5% of kids who play youth sports will play in college [9:03] How kids start attaching their identity to their performance — and why that's dangerous [11:47] Whatever you start, you finish — the Hagner family rule and why it matters [12:32] The hockey coach who got kicked out of games three times — and the son who never played hockey again [13:41] 82% of kids quit a sport because of the coach — not the sport itself [15:33] Joe's ancient Chinese archery proverb — when an archer shoots for nothing, he has all of his skill [16:39] Why travel ball brings out the worst in parents — the lottery mindset and the toxicity that follows [17:12] If you play for somebody else's approval, you play half the game you would have played [17:45] Be the anti-venom — how to show up as the most positive presence in the stands [20:25] Calvin's perspective — get down to his level, ask the real questions, and watch how he shows up at practice [22:14] Mike's takeaway — finish the season, support his decision, and help him find his football whatever that looks like   Five Key Takeaways Only 1.5% of kids who play youth sports will play in college. Before you invest five figures a year in travel sports, ask yourself who this is really for — your kid or you. When a child's identity gets attached to their performance, and the environment around them is relentless and critical, they don't just quit the sport — they start believing they aren't good enough at life. Whatever you start, you finish. Let your kid know you support whatever they decide when the season is done — but the commitment they made to the team matters and they're going to honor it. The need to win drains a player of every skill they have. When a kid stops playing for the love of it and starts playing for approval, they play half the game they're capable of. You can't insulate your kids from toxic environments — but you can be the anti-venom. Be the most positive person in those stands, speak life into every kid, and let your son see what that looks like.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom Dad Edge Youth Sports Resources: https://thedadedge.com/tag/youth-sports/ Dad Edge Youth Athletics Resources: https://thedadedge.com/tag/youth-athletics/ Using Sports to Strengthen Father-Child Bonds: https://thedadedge.com/using-sports-to-strengthen-father-child-bonds-life-lessons Coaching Kids: https://thedadedge.com/coaching-kids/ Greg Olsen Episode — Marriage Under Pressure: https://thedadedge.com/marriage-under-pressure-weathering-lifes-hardest-storms-featuring-greg-olsen/ How to Build a Non-Anxious Life by Dr. John Delony: Available on Amazon Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1477): https://thedadedge.com/1477   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the goal of youth sports was never the scholarship — it was the lesson. The kids who look back and love what sports gave them aren't the ones who made it to college or the pros. They're the ones who had a coach who believed in them, a parent who cheered for effort instead of outcomes, and a teammate who made them laugh on the bench eating Big League Chew. Be the anti-venom. Finish the season. And let your kid find their football. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Pierre Mousseau — entrepreneur, keynote speaker, and author of From the Ashes: A Father's Journey Through Grief, Grace, and Faith. This is one of the most extraordinary, raw, and spiritually powerful conversations this show has ever had. Pierre grew up with a severely alcoholic and mentally abusive father, was molested at 11, slept on the streets at 17, and was kicked out of his home at 19. He built himself into an entrepreneur, a husband, and a father. And then his son Parker — sweet, joyful, endlessly loving Parker — was taken from him at 21 years old after a catastrophic bowel emergency, five surgeries, and seven weeks in the ICU. Pierre made the decision to remove him from life support. Five months later, with his company collapsing and the grief unbearable, Pierre got into his car at full speed aimed at a maple tree. He should have died that day. He didn't. What follows is one of the most extraordinary stories of faith, forgiveness, and divine intervention you will ever hear — from the church he walked into while still hating God, to the deacon whose homily that Sunday was about losing a child, to the moment in the shower when something held him and everything changed. This episode will stop you in your tracks. And it will remind you to hug your kids today. Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Pierre's childhood — alcoholic and abusive father, bullied at school, Spider-Man comics as his only escape [5:33] Moving in with a drug-addicted uncle at 17, sleeping on the streets, and nobody noticing he was gone [7:44] Being molested at 11 — and the family that never did anything about it [8:31] Driving four hours to see his dying father determined to tell him everything — and what actually happened instead [10:41] Saying "I forgive you" at his father's bedside — and still carrying the hatred for years after [15:51] Introducing Pierre — entrepreneur, speaker, and author of From the Ashes [17:30] Who Parker was — how he loved, what made him extraordinary, and the boy who still believed in Santa Claus at 14 [21:30] The phone call from the hospital — and the doctor who said "I don't know what happened but his bowel is pink" [23:33] Seven weeks in the ICU, ICU delirium, and the decision Pierre had to make [25:39] "I felt like I murdered my child" — the guilt that followed Pierre for years [32:18] The hardest decision he has ever made — and why he couldn't keep Parker alive for himself [38:02] Five months after Parker's death, the company collapsed — and on a Saturday morning Pierre got in his car to end his life [39:09] Heading for a maple tree at full speed — and what stopped him [40:44] Eleven months of hating God — and the Sunday morning he suddenly drove to church [41:21] Walking into mass on the homily about losing a child — and sobbing until the woman beside him put her hand on his shoulder [43:52] Meeting Deacon Curtis, the grief retreat, Parker's orange tag, and the text that said "I think Parker is trying to tell you something" [47:30] In the shower in March 2025 — the purple light, the arms that held him, and the love that changed everything [51:14] Strength is not pushing through — strength is vulnerability, asking for help, and being willing to say "this sucks" [52:38] The keynote at the convent and the woman with a cane who walked up at the end without one [56:47] The man in the steam room bashing his kids — and what Pierre said that silenced the room Five Key Takeaways Forgiveness is not a feeling — it's a decision you make before the feeling follows. Pierre said the words at his father's bedside before he was ready. The release came years later. Grief and guilt will destroy you if you carry them alone. The bravest thing Pierre did wasn't surviving the worst moments — it was finally saying "I need help" and meaning it. Strength is not pushing through. Strength is vulnerability. Strength is allowing yourself to cry, to feel, to say this is hard, and to ask for another man to come alongside you. You never know when the moments will be gone. Cherish the ordinary ones — the arcade nights, the couch cuddles, the conversations that start after midnight. Parker would tell you that. God meets you in your most broken moment — not when you've cleaned yourself up. Pierre was still hating God when he walked through that church door. It didn't matter. Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom From the Ashes by Pierre Mousseau: Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Christian Books, and Walmart Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1476): https://thedadedge.com/1476   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: hug your kids today. Not tomorrow. Today. Pierre Mousseau lost the most loving person he had ever known. And what he has done with that loss — the book, the keynotes, the moment in the steam room, the woman who walked without her cane — is one of the most beautiful things we have ever witnessed on this show. Don't let another day go by without telling the people who matter most that you love them. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Leonard Kaufman — board certified urologist and men's health physician with 25 years of experience practicing in South Florida. Dr. Kaufman specializes in urology, hormonal health, sexual health, and preventative men's health care, and he brings a level of warmth, honesty, and clinical depth to this conversation that you won't find anywhere else. We cover a lot of ground — from why reactive health care is costing men years of quality life, to what erectile dysfunction is really telling you about your cardiovascular health, to the TRT conversation every man in his 30s and 40s needs to hear before he walks into one of those clinics and shuts off his own fertility without knowing it. But this is not just a clinical episode. Dr. Kaufman is 33 years married, dad of three, and one of the most genuinely human guests we've had on this show. We talk about the deli where he met his wife in medical school, what 33 years of a real marriage actually looks like, how to build a home where your kids feel safe enough to tell you anything, and what his wife's early loss of her mother taught them both about not wasting time. If you've been putting off that appointment — this episode is the nudge you need.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Reactivity vs. proactivity — why waiting until something is broken is costing men their lives [2:09] What Dr. Kauffman sees when men come in too late — prostate cancer, ED as a cardiovascular warning sign, and diabetes [4:14] How Viagra accidentally revolutionized men's health — and why men started showing up to doctors for the first time [7:27] Dr. Kaufman's background — board certified urologist, 25 years, fellowship in male infertility and andrology, MBA in Health Management [9:00] How he met his wife Cindy — a deli, a list of phone numbers, and a blind date that turned into 33 years [11:52] The non-negotiables of a long marriage — trust, transparency, communication, and shared values [13:49] Seen, heard, and safe — the three things a woman and your kids need to feel in your home [16:29] Vulnerability is not weakness in marriage — it's the foundation of real trust and real connection [19:49] What men most commonly come to Dr. Kaufman for — ED, low testosterone, and prostate health [32:00] ED is the canary in the coal mine — penile arteries are the first to show restricted blood flow, which means something else is coming [33:36] Diet talk — why extreme diets backfire and what a urologist actually recommends for men's health [38:45] The labs every man should be getting — ApoB, cholesterol panel, PSA, and why most men aren't being fully evaluated [42:07] Total testosterone vs. free testosterone — what the current guidelines actually say [43:15] Why getting a testosterone baseline in your 30s is one of the smartest proactive health moves you can make [44:17] Clomid as an off-label option — how it helps men produce their own testosterone instead of shutting the system down [45:06] The risks of walking into a TRT clinic without proper evaluation — fertility, blood thickness, PSA changes, and chasing a number that may not fix anything [51:10] Prolactin — what it is, why it matters, and what a high level could actually mean for your brain   Five Key Takeaways Proactive health care is not weakness — it's how you stay around for your kids and grandkids. The men who wait until something is broken are the ones who look back and say "I should have come in a year ago." Erectile dysfunction is not just a bedroom problem. It's a cardiovascular warning sign. The smallest arteries in your body are affected first — and that means something bigger is building downstream. Before you walk into a TRT clinic, get a full workup from a qualified urologist. Young men are unknowingly shutting off their sperm production and permanently altering their pituitary axis without realizing it. Stop chasing the number. A man at 500 who feels great doesn't need to be pushed to 1,000. How you feel matters more than the number on the lab result. Safety is the foundation of everything — in your marriage and with your kids. When the people you love feel safe to bring you anything, it changes everything.   Links & Resources First Form Microfactor: https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor/?a_aid=dadedge First Form Level 1 Protein Powder: https://1stphorm.com/products/level-1/?a_aid=dadedge Dr. Leonard Kaufman's office: (954) 228-0924 Find Dr. Kaufman via MVP Men's Health: Search "Dr. Leonard Kaufman" at mvpmensclinic.com   https://www.mdvip.com/doctors/leonardkaufmanmd Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1475): https://thedadedge.com/1475   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: your health is not just about you — it's about being around for the people who need you most. Dr. Kaufman has spent 25 years watching men come in too late. Not because they didn't care, but because they were raised to believe that going to the doctor was weak. It's not weak. It's one of the most important acts of leadership a man can make. Get the labs. Know your numbers. And build the kind of home where the people you love feel safe enough to tell you the truth — because that's exactly what your doctor needs from you too. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and Uncle Joe are back for another live Wednesday Q&A with real men from the Dad Edge Alliance — and this one hits on two of the most common struggles we hear from men: a marriage in repair mode that's sending confusing signals, and a hot-tempered nine-year-old that nobody knows how to reach. The first question comes from Jimmy — a man whose wife gave him a 90-day ultimatum, who has been doing the work, and who is now completely confused by what's happening. She's been affectionate. Then she's not. Then she pulls back and says no more physical contact. Is it over? Should he give up? Joe and Larry speak into this with the kind of wisdom that only comes from having lived it — including Joe's own experience with physical contact happening and then the wall going right back up, and Larry's stock market analogy that every man in a marriage repair season needs to hear. The second question comes from Mark — a teacher and dad of three whose nine-year-old middle child has a hair-trigger temper that seems to come out of nowhere. Joe drops one of the most memorable pieces of wisdom this show has ever heard about what anger in a young boy actually means, what's running underneath it, and how to find the magma before it erupts. Larry adds his own raw, honest story about his ten-year-old Colton — a family meeting he called, the guilt he took full ownership of, and what it means when the softest voice in your family has to fight just to be heard. Joe closes with a Solomon quote that stops the whole room cold.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Larry and Joe open the Q&A — May is here, and the Alliance Bible study group gets a shoutout [5:28] Jimmy's question: my wife gave me a 90-day ultimatum, I've been doing the work, she's been affectionate — then suddenly pulled back and said no more physical contact. Is it over? [8:59] Joe's answer: she doesn't feel safe yet — the narrative justifying the divorce is still running, and physical contact is cracking it open in a way that terrifies her [11:47] The mistake Joe made — trying to use physical contact to manipulate the situation back to his side [13:18] It ain't over until you say you're done trying — Joe's message to Jimmy [16:23] Larry's answer: the EKG pattern — she softens, pulls back, softens, pulls back. This is not failure. This is repair. [18:00] The stock market analogy — marriage repair is not a straight line, and the only thing that crashes it is when the man stops doing the work [21:47] Have the clarifying conversation — if you initiate, what do you want from me? Get clear so the lines stop getting blurred [24:49] Do the work for you, not for her — and don't be needy. That standoffish groundedness is what actually draws her back. [27:45] Core values as a filter — Awesome's answer on staying congruent when everything feels chaotic [30:15] Mark's question: my nine-year-old middle child has an explosive temper and I don't know how to reach him [33:24] Joe's answer: middle kids often don't feel seen or heard — and a hot temper at nine means there is a river of rage running just under the surface. Find out what's feeding it. [35:47] What drove Joe's youngest son's anger — self-image struggles and the "am I good enough" question that lives in every boy [37:15] Larry's answer: go in soft, go in curious, and do it shoulder to shoulder — not nose to nose [39:10] The family meeting Larry called about Colton — taking full ownership and asking everyone to do better [42:04] Colton is the softest voice in the family and he's always fighting to be heard — and that has to change [45:07] Joe drops Solomon — the power of life and death is in the tongue. Speak the behavior you want to see. [47:33] The 45-second greeting rule — and why how you welcome your kid home sets the tone for everything that follows   Five Key Takeaways Marriage repair is not a straight line — it's the stock market. She will soften and pull back over and over. The only thing that crashes it is when you stop doing the work. If she says no physical contact, have the clarifying conversation. Honor her request — and ask what happens if she initiates. Getting clarity is not weakness. It's leadership. Do the work for you, not for her. The groundedness of a man who keeps growing regardless of her response is one of the most attractive things a woman can witness. A hot temper in a young boy is never just a temper. There is something running underneath it — usually tied to self-image, feeling unseen, or something happening at school that he doesn't have the words to explain yet. The power of life and death is in the tongue. If you want a certain behavior out of somebody — speak that behavior into them. Your words become self-fulfilling prophecies.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/alliance No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover: Available on Amazon Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1474): https://thedadedge.com/1474   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the softest voice in your family deserves to be heard — and the words you speak over your kids and your wife are either building something or tearing it down. Joe said it best. Solomon said it first. The power of life and death is in the tongue. Speak the behavior you want to see. Speak life into the people who need it most. And if you're Jimmy right now — don't give up. It ain't over until you say it is. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Brandon Webb — Navy SEAL, former head instructor of the Navy SEAL Sniper Course, New York Times bestselling author of twelve books, and now the author of a brand new parenting book called Puddle Jumpers, releasing May 12th. Brandon's story starts where most men's don't — kicked off the family sailboat at 16 in the South Pacific after a blowup with his dad, finding a boat headed to Hawaii, and navigating his way into the Navy and eventually SEAL Team Three. But what makes this conversation extraordinary is watching a man who trained the most elite warriors on the planet — including some of the legends you already know — apply that same performance psychology to raising his three kids. We dig into what performance psychology actually is, why the sniper school's failure rate dropped to nearly zero when they stopped pointing out mistakes and started painting the picture of what to do instead, and how Brandon built that same positive reinforcement framework into how he parents. We also get into the moment his daughter humbled him while he was writing Puddle Jumpers — telling him that because he was their untouchable Navy SEAL hero, she never felt like it was okay to fail. We swap shoplifting stories, talk about the power of getting to the why before you drop the hammer, why boys between 12 and 15 are standing at a fork in the road that can go either way, and why asking better questions on a one on one trip unlocks conversations that would never happen face to face at home.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Getting kicked off a sailboat at 16 in the South Pacific — and what his dad actually taught him [3:21] From deckhand at 13 to SEAL Team Three — and the book that made him think he could do it [7:29] Class 215 — graduating with Mike Ritland and serving with Eric Davis [9:20] Brandon's full background — SEAL, sniper instructor, NYT bestselling author, and now Puddle Jumpers [11:12] Why the book is called Puddle Jumpers — the mud puddle moment that became a philosophy [13:28] What performance psychology actually is — and why Brandon integrated it into the sniper program [17:22] The three pillars: mental rehearsal, self-talk, and positive reinforcement versus negative reinforcement [18:41] Why saying "stop flinching" programs failure — and what to say instead [21:17] The sniper school failure rate dropped to near zero — and what that taught him about his own kids [22:26] Why Brandon left the SEALs at his peak — and what the broken families around him told him about his own future [27:23] Consequences without the belt — wall squats, push ups, and eventually the iPhone [29:52] Owning your mistakes as a parent builds more credibility than never making them [33:05] What made him write a parenting book — his kids impressing people at Harvard Business School [34:19] Don't come home with a wallet full of money and a house full of strangers — the billionaire with three kids in addiction [37:01] The 12 to 15 fork in the road — why boys in that liminal space need a present, intentional dad [39:23] The seventh grade spiral — selling pot gummies, ordering Uber Eats to the principal's office, and what was really going on underneath [41:27] Ask why seven times — and the teacher who publicly humiliated his son and started the whole thing [43:42] Pull him out, take his side, change the environment — and the coach's email that said everything [44:33] His daughter's answer when he asked what he'd done differently — and why being the untouchable SEAL hero was actually a problem [48:42] Shoplifting, a Sonic parking lot, and the real reason his son did it — peer pressure and not knowing who his friends were [54:11] Kids open up in cars, on bikes, on walks — never face to face [54:41] One on one trips every year — and the two questions at dinner in New York that lasted two and a half hours [58:40] What his daughter said in Lisbon — and why creating a home they want to come back to is one of the most underrated parenting moves   Five Key Takeaways Stop pointing out mistakes and start painting the picture of what to do instead. Telling a kid what not to do programs them for failure. Tell them where to put their attention — not what to avoid. Owning your mistakes as a parent isn't weakness — it's the most credible thing you can do. Your kids will model ownership and accountability because they watched you do it first. Boys between 12 and 15 are at a fork in the road. If they don't feel supported during that season, you can push them in a direction that takes years to correct. Get to the why before you drop the hammer. Being the untouchable hero in your kid's life can quietly teach them that failing isn't okay. Share your struggles. It gives them permission to have their own. The quality of your relationship with your kids depends on the quality of the questions you ask. "How was your day" is a dead end. Ask something real — and ask it in a car, on a walk, or somewhere that takes the pressure off.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom Puddle Jumpers by Brandon Webb — releases May 12th: Available on Amazon Brandon Webb's website and all socials: https://brandontylerwebb.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1473): https://thedadedge.com/1473 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the most dangerous thing you can do as a dad is be so good at everything that your kids are afraid to fail in front of you. Brandon Webb trained the most elite warriors in the world. He wrote twelve books. He sailed across the South Pacific at 16. And his daughter had to look him in the eye and tell him that his greatness made her feel like failure wasn't allowed. That's the lesson. Not the SEALs. Not the snipers. The puddle jumper — the kid who jumps in the mud because he hasn't been told yet that he shouldn't. Raise more of those. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Adam Adler — Charleston-based founder, private equity investor, and dad of two — and his ten-year-old daughter Isla, who is not just the inspiration behind their app Wyzly but an active co-founder and integral part of the business. Yes, you read that right. A ten-year-old co-founded a company. And when you hear the idea, you'll understand why. At seven years old, Isla asked a simple question: what if kids could earn screen time by learning first? That question became Wyzly — a learn-to-earn platform that ends daily screen time battles without punishment, restriction, or power struggles. Instead of ripping the device away, Wyzly locks the apps and gives kids 5 to 10 curriculum-aligned questions to answer — specific to their grade, school, and school district — before the device unlocks. The whole thing takes about five minutes. The bunny runs across the screen, and the apps open back up. We dig into what too much screen time is actually doing to kids' brains, why the lock-and-block method always fails, and why giving kids the power to earn their own screen time changes everything. We also cover how the parent portal works, how Wyzly compares to Bark, and what's coming next — including avatars, brand partnerships, and Android. Larry has been using it with his 10 and 12 year old and it's already changing behavior, reducing anxiety, and eliminating the daily battle. Use code DAD20 when you download Wyzly for 20% off the $6.99 monthly membership.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Meet Isla — ten-year-old competitive gymnast, co-founder, and the brains behind Wyzly [4:24] Adam's background — private equity investor, founder, and dad of two girls [8:22] The idea that started it all — a seven-year-old's question that no app had ever answered [13:06] Why Adam went looking for the app in the App Store first — and what he found [15:48] Larry's firsthand experience using Wyzly with his 10 and 12 year old — and what changed [16:21] Two plus years building a category that didn't exist — and thousands of downloads in 60 days [19:44] How Wyzly actually works — what the device does, how the bunny unlocks the screen, and why kids love it [21:14] What makes it different — curriculum and school district specific questions powered by their own AI [23:03] How many questions, how long it takes, and what happens when you get them wrong [27:45] Why Wyzly flips the script — from power struggle to collaboration [29:12] Available now for kindergarten through sixth grade — and what's coming next [31:20] What too much screen time is actually doing to kids' brains — from Isla and Adam's firsthand experience [35:07] The data Wyzly is collecting on brain breaks and how they're helping kids regulate better [38:36] How Wyzly compares to Bark — and the key difference in the learn-to-earn model [41:03] No Family Sharing required — scan a QR code and it works instantly [47:34] Isla's next big idea inside the app — customizable avatars earned through points, with brand partnerships coming   Five Key Takeaways The lock-and-block method doesn't work. Ripping away a device causes rage and resentment — it doesn't teach kids anything. Giving kids the ability to earn their screen time changes the entire dynamic from power struggle to collaboration. Too much uninterrupted screen time changes your child's behavior, attitude, and anxiety levels — and most parents can see it clearly but don't have a sustainable tool to address it. A five-minute learning break before screen time is not a punishment. It's a speed bump — and kids who earn their time actually look forward to the process rather than resenting the restriction. School district and grade-specific AI-powered questions mean your child is reinforcing exactly what they're learning in school right now — not generic content that may or may not be relevant. Giving kids ownership changes everything. When a child earns their own screen time, they don't need to run to mom or dad and beg. The battle disappears because the child is empowered.   Links & Resources Download Wyzly on the App Store: https://www.wyzly.app/ — use code DAD20 for 20% off the $6.99/month membership Wyzly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wyzly.app/ Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1472): https://thedadedge.com/1472   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the screen time battle in your house doesn't have to be a battle at all. A seven-year-old saw the problem clearly and asked the right question. What if kids could earn it instead of just have it taken away? Three years later, that question is a real app, changing real behavior in real homes — including Larry's. Download Wyzly, use code DAD20 for 20% off, and let your kids earn it. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Bill and Danielle Beer — a married couple of 20 years, parents of five, and one of the most genuinely connected pairs we've ever had on this show. Bill is a physician and Dad Edge Alliance member of four and a half years. Danielle is a former military spouse, internal processor, and the kind of woman who quietly holds everything together while pushing her husband to go take care of himself. Their story starts in college — Bill surviving leukemia at 16, making his own treatment decisions to preserve his fertility, and then secretly applying to the cancer camp where Danielle was a counselor. That same dock where they had their first kiss is where Bill proposed three years later. Twenty years and five kids later, they're still building — and they're willing to talk about all of it. We get into what Bill was actually like before the Alliance — the poking, the picking fights when he needed connection but didn't have the vocabulary, the "happy wife happy life" mentality taken to such an extreme that Danielle stopped sharing hard days because she didn't want to be the reason Bill felt like he was failing. We talk about the weekly marriage meeting, ballroom dancing as a date night game changer, why they go to counseling when nothing is broken, and the moment Bill's 16-year-old daughter looked at him at the grocery store and said "your needs matter, dad." This one is warm, funny, real, and deeply practical.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] What Bill was looking for when he joined the Alliance — and the nudge Danielle gave him [6:33] Bill's leukemia diagnosis at 16 and the treatment decision he made to preserve his fertility [11:39] How they met at a cancer camp — and how Bill secretly applied after their first conversation [12:37] The dock proposal — same spot as their first kiss, fake run, hidden photographer [15:47] 20 years married, five kids, and a surprise trip to Hawaii Bill planned entirely himself [24:13] The moment Bill heard something in the group that Danielle had said for years — and why it landed differently [27:30] What poking and picking fights actually was — Bill seeking connection without the vocabulary to ask for it [29:51] Happy wife happy life taken too far — how it created pressure on Danielle and closed her off [33:37] The shift from avoiding divorce to asking "how do I actually want to be married?" [36:16] The weekly marriage meeting — appreciations, needs, big three, then logistics [38:07] Larry and Jessica in counseling right now — not because something is broken, but because the season demands it [40:38] Ballroom dancing as recreational intimacy — and why going even when you're annoyed always works [44:15] What Danielle finds most attractive about how Bill has evolved [46:11] Bill's people-pleasing taken to the extreme — and the day his 16-year-old daughter said "your needs matter, dad" [52:50] What they're most excited about for the next 20 years — and the four-year-old who starts every dinner with appreciations   Five Key Takeaways Your wife can't be your only outlet. When she carries everything you can't process, she runs out of capacity — and eventually stops sharing her own hard days because she doesn't want to be the reason you feel like you're failing. Happy wife happy life taken too far puts undue pressure on your spouse to perform happiness for your peace of mind. Happy spouse, happy house — everybody's needs matter, including yours. The shift from avoiding divorce to intentionally building a marriage changes everything. Stop asking "are we okay?" and start asking "how do I actually want to be married?" Recreational intimacy — doing something physical or creative together before a date — puts connection on steroids. The conversation that follows feels completely different than sitting down cold. Your needs matter. When a man learns to take care of himself, he comes back better every single time — for his wife, his kids, and everyone around him.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1471): https://thedadedge.com/1471   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: marriage and fatherhood are learnable skills — and it is never too late to start learning them. Bill Beer survived cancer at 16, spent the first decade of his marriage white-knuckling happiness for everyone around him, and then decided to go do the work. And what Danielle noticed wasn't a different man — it was more of the man she fell in love with on that dock. That's the goal. Not perfection. Not arriving. Just more of who you actually are, showing up more consistently, for the people who matter most. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Doug Boneparth — CFP, founder of Bona Fide Wealth, CNBC and Investopedia financial advisory council member, co-author of Money Together with his wife Heather, and one of the most refreshingly honest voices on money, marriage, and family I've ever had on this show. We open with a fact that stops most people cold: billionaires get divorced at the exact same rate as everyone else. More money does not solve the problem. The problem is the practice — or the complete lack of one. Doug breaks down why money fights in marriage are almost never actually about money. They're about the stories, traumas, and scripts we bring into the relationship from our upbringing — the dinner table conversations we absorbed as kids, the financial trauma we never talked about, and the values we've never stopped to examine. He shares his own story of a scarcity mindset rooted in coming home at 16 to find his mom sitting on a bare floor — and how not sharing that story with your spouse quietly poisons your financial partnership. We get into the quarterly money date, the invisible labor problem, why "just tell me what to do" is not helpful, what fairness really means in a marriage, and how to teach your kids about money through curiosity instead of shame.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Billionaires divorce at the same rate as everyone else — and what that tells us about money and marriage [6:28] Why financial literacy in schools is still nowhere near where it needs to be [10:52] "Mom goes on that train every morning so we can have fun on the weekends" — how to explain work to a four-year-old [14:06] The self work that comes before the teamwork — understanding your own money story first [18:52] Larry's story — coming home at 16 to a bare floor, a devastated mom, and a scarcity mindset 35 years in the making [22:51] You don't do this once — financial alignment takes consistent practice, like the gym [24:46] The quarterly money date — what it covers, how to do it, and why it changes everything [27:29] If a financial expert and an attorney couldn't get this right without doing the work — what chance does everyone else have? [31:51] Never bring up money during family rush hour — time and place matter more than you think [36:37] Teaching kids to spend — why Doug let his daughter buy junk and then got curious instead of critical [38:47] How a spring break lanyard project turned into a mini business [43:34] Making space for your partner to learn differently — the whiteboard that finally worked [45:04] The invisible labor problem — the sock on the stairs that Doug stepped over while laughing at his phone [46:16] "Just tell me what to do" is not help — own a task beginning to end [51:33] Where is the US dollar going — and why investing to outpace inflation is non-negotiable [53:01] The financial foundation: spending awareness, a cash reserve, and consistent asset accumulation   Five Key Takeaways Billionaires get divorced at the same rate as everyone else. More money does not solve misalignment. The practice of communicating about money is what makes the difference. Your money story was formed long before you met your partner. Until you understand where your scripts, fears, and triggers come from, you will keep bringing them into your financial conversations without knowing it. The quarterly money date is not optional. It is how you stay aligned on time, energy, spending, and what's working — before small frictions become big fights. "Just tell me what to do" is not help. Own a task from beginning to end. Taking the mental load off your spouse means they never have to think about that domain — not just execute when assigned. Equal is not fair. Fairness is whatever you and your partner have actually talked about, agreed on, and checked in about consistently. Without the conversation, there is no fairness — just resentment.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Money Together by Doug and Heather Boneparth: https://readmoneytogether.com Bona Fide Wealth: https://bonafidewealth.com The Joint Account Newsletter: https://readthejointaccount.com Follow Doug on X: @DougBoneparth Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: Available on Amazon Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1470): https://thedadedge.com/1470   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the money conversation in your marriage is not about the numbers — it's about the stories you've never told each other. Doug and Heather are a financial expert and an attorney who still had to do the hard work to get their own financial partnership right. If they needed the practice, so do you. Start the conversation. Build the practice. Own a domain. Take 30 seconds before you respond. Because a financially aligned marriage isn't just good for your bank account — it's good for your kids, your partnership, and the life you're actually trying to build together. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry opens the doors of a live Dad Edge Alliance Q&A featuring neuroscience expert and brain coach Ashleigh Di Lello. This is a rare look behind the curtain at what actually happens inside the Alliance — real men, real questions, and real breakthroughs in real time. Ashleigh was told she was going to die at 13. She learned to walk again three times. And when a catastrophic hip surgery in 2017 left her in chronic pain and facing the possibility of never walking again, she decided to stop trying to control her body and start studying her brain instead. What she discovered — and has since spent seven years coaching others through — is a comprehensive, neuroscience-based process for rewiring the patterns, beliefs, and self-critical voices that keep men stuck. The men in this Q&A ask the questions most of us never say out loud: how do I quiet the inner critic at 61? How do I build resilience when my business is falling apart? How do I help my perfectionist daughter without making it worse? And what does it actually mean to feel your emotions without losing your identity as a man? Ashleigh answers every one of them — and the conversation goes places you won't expect.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] The quiet, sinister nature of negative self-chatter — and why morning affirmations aren't enough [3:26] Ashleigh's story — told she would die at 13, three hip surgeries, learning to walk again, and turning it all into a neuroscience-based brain rewiring practice [5:13] Ashleigh opens the Q&A — the brain's mechanisms are the same for all of us and can become our greatest asset [8:20] Jason's question: 61 years old, raised to suppress feelings, bullied in school — how do I quiet the inner critic now? [10:35] You are not either strong or weak — you are both. The human experience is contrast. [12:15] Self-criticism locks up the neural synapses — why the brain cannot change long-term through shame [13:47] The writing exercise — ten minutes, throw it away, slow the brain down and finally hear yourself [16:26] Speaking to your brain instead of letting your brain speak to you — and why micro-action is what changes the operating system [19:40] Larry shares his own moment — sitting down after his interview with Ashleigh in tears, writing down every cruel thing he was telling himself [21:09] Chris's question: how does your process actually work from start to finish? [22:15] The 12-week process — identifying, processing out, then rewiring. You can't skip the first half. [23:43] What isn't expressed is suppressed — and the brain holds on to it [28:24] Why men are more prone to addiction — shame activates the brain's alarm system and it will always find an outlet [31:10] Scott's question: how do I build resilience under prolonged stress as an entrepreneur? [33:29] Resilience is not a character trait — it's a part of your brain you can grow [34:36] The win book — why you need a physical record of what's working, not just what isn't [36:07] When your identity gets attached to not pivoting — and how that keeps you stuck [40:27] Never make a big decision on a bad day — and give your brain real breaks from stimulation [42:24] Chris's question: I can already see perfectionist tendencies in my nine-year-old daughter — how do I help her? [43:38] Share your own struggles with your kids — it gives them permission to struggle too [45:18] Failure is not a noun — it's how we learn. And the brain can't learn through shame. [46:31] The win book applies to your kids too — build the evidence of progress, not just the list of what went wrong [49:08] Practice makes progress, not perfect — and what that means for how you raise your kids [51:38] Henry's question: how do men navigate the space between survival instincts and actually feeling their emotions? [52:23] It's not either or — it's and. Feeling doesn't eliminate strength. It creates space for more of it. [54:13] Let it out to bring it in — what isn't expressed will keep battling for space with everything you're trying to build   Five Key Takeaways Self-criticism doesn't create lasting change. When you shame yourself, the neural synapses lock up. The brain can only rewire through self-compassion, not judgment. What isn't expressed is suppressed — and it doesn't go away. It stays in the brain and body, driving patterns you don't understand and can't seem to break. The writing exercise is one of the most neuroscience-backed tools available. Ten minutes, write what you'd never say out loud, and throw it away. You move it out so you can bring something better in. Resilience is a part of the brain you can grow — by doing what you don't want to do, acknowledging it when you do, and keeping a physical record of your wins. You are not either strong or weak. You are both. Allowing yourself to feel the full human experience doesn't diminish your strength — it creates space for more of it.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Ashleigh Di Lello's website and free Brain Body Blueprint: https://ashleighdilello.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1469): https://thedadedge.com/1469 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: what you're saying to yourself when no one is listening is either building you up or quietly tearing you apart — and most of us have no idea how cruel we actually are to ourselves. Ashleigh Di Lello learned to rewire her brain not from a textbook but from necessity. She had no other option. And what she found on the other side was not just recovery — it was a life she built on purpose. The brain can change. You can change. But it starts with being honest enough to write it all down, compassionate enough to not judge what you find, and brave enough to let it move through you instead of holding it in. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and coach Marc sit down to talk about one of the most common and least-talked-about crises facing business owner dads — burnout. Not the dramatic kind. The quiet, grinding, everyday kind where you're doing 14-hour days, drinking to decompress, wearing exhaustion like a badge of honor, and slowly losing the very people you're killing yourself to provide for. Featuring recorded clips from John — a real Boardroom member who came in on the brink of burnout — this episode is one of the most emotionally honest conversations we've had on this show. John's story will hit close to home for a lot of men. Working obsessively, drinking daily to escape, knowing something was wrong but believing the only answer was more action. His wife was losing her patience. He was losing himself. And then he stopped lone-wolfing it. Larry shares his own raw moment — telling his wife that if he's not providing, he doesn't know what value he brings to the family — and what his kids said when he and his wife actually asked them what they wanted most. Marc breaks down the BRAVE Man system, the tracker, and why busyness is not the same as results. And the episode closes with John getting so emotional he can't speak — and the silence that says everything.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] The burnout that business owner dads don't talk about — grinding for your family while quietly losing them [2:44] Leaders usually starve — because they pour everything into everyone else but themselves [4:15] Introducing Marc Hildebrand — and what today's episode is really about [5:52] How Marc met John — on the brink of burnout, drinking daily, running 14-16 hour days [7:35] The shift Marc saw by weeks four and five — doing less, but achieving more [9:11] The GPS analogy — what life feels like without a system versus with one [10:37] Why we resist new tools even when they could save us — and the old-timer cops who threw out the Garmin [12:12] Wearing burnout as a badge of honor — and the people who love you who see it from a mile away [13:29] Your kids ask "Dad, are you okay?" and you think nobody noticed [14:45] John's first clip: what life looked like before he applied — work first, drinking to escape, lone-wolfing it [17:36] The heart behind the burnout — doing it all for your family, but missing what they actually need [19:20] What Marc saw in John — a man believing there was only one way to succeed [20:10] Larry's vulnerable moment: "If I'm not providing, what value do I bring this family?" [22:10] His kids' answer when asked what they wanted most — more time, not more money [22:29] The 13 Hours scene — a Navy SEAL on his 12th deployment finally hearing "the kids don't need more money, they need you" [24:37] Why being willing to have the vulnerable conversation is the game changer [25:10] John's second clip: getting a map, small goals, and what changed in his marriage [27:25] Breaking down the BRAVE Man system — Bond, Raise, Amplify, Vitality, Enjoy, Movement, Action, Network [28:04] Why joy is a tactical requirement — if you have no joy to give, you have nothing to give [28:50] Why motivation is a lie — and why action creates motivation, not the other way around [29:13] John's transformation from 15 points a week to 40-50 — and what the tracker actually measures [31:57] Busyness does not equal results — the most dangerous trap for burned-out business owners [32:18] John's final clip — the emotional moment that stopped everyone cold [35:28] What that moment meant — a man who saved his marriage and came back to himself [37:52] What it means to have a battle to fight, a beauty to love, and an adventure to be had — together [39:05] The call to every business owner who sees a piece of John in himself   Five Key Takeaways Burnout doesn't always look dramatic. It looks like 14-hour days, drinking to unwind, and quietly drifting away from the people you're working so hard to provide for. The people who love you most can see your burnout from a mile away — even when you think you're hiding it. Your kids see it. Your wife feels it. Your family doesn't want more money. They want more of you. When Larry asked his boys, the answer was time — every single time. The answer to burnout is not more action. It's better action, in the right areas, with a system that tells you what actually moves the needle. You are not a liability because you need help. John thought he had nothing to give when he walked in — and became one of the most valuable men in the room.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1468): https://thedadedge.com/1468   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the answer to burnout is never more action — it's a better system, a map, and men around you who won't let you disappear. John came in wearing his exhaustion like a badge, drinking every day to survive it, and believing the only way through was to grind harder. Six weeks later, he was lighter. His marriage was coming back. And when Larry asked him what it felt like to make his way back — he couldn't speak. That silence said everything. If there's a piece of John in you right now, this is your move. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Thomas Caleel — former Director of MBA Admissions at the Wharton School, founder of Admittedly, and one of the most clear-eyed voices in the college admissions space. This one is personal — I've got an 18-year-old headed to University of Arkansas in four months, and a sixth grader whose decisions today will quietly shape where he ends up ten years from now. Thomas opens the black box of college admissions and explains what's actually changed, what most parents are getting wrong, and what admissions officers are really looking for. The shift from well-rounded candidates to "vertical spikes" of deep passion and genuine interest is one of those things that sounds simple but changes everything about how you should be thinking about your kid's path right now. We talk about the right time to start, why the seventh-grade math assessment quietly matters more than most parents realize, how doing fewer things with real intentionality is more powerful than stacking clubs and activities, and why your child's college essay should tell their story — not yours. We also get into the financial reality most parents aren't prepared for — new federal loan caps, how to negotiate financial aid after admission, what Juno is and why it matters, and why sending your kid to a low-tier private college that costs $50,000 a year is something Thomas calls criminal. And he gives a refreshingly honest answer to whether college is actually worth it.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Larry's 18-year-old is leaving for University of Arkansas — and Thomas's son is heading to NYU [2:45] When change goes according to plan — and why it hits harder than you expect [4:45] What most parents are missing — the pressure cooker, the doom race, and why more is not always more [5:56] Why admissions is a black box — and why bad information fills that vacuum [7:23] Thomas's background — former Director of MBA Admissions at Wharton, 20 years shaping admissions strategy globally [9:05] How college admissions has changed — from well-rounded candidates to vertical spikes of deep passion [10:49] Why schools now prioritize socioeconomic diversity — and what full ride programs actually look like [11:37] What the internet did to admissions — 50,000 applicants where there used to be 8,000, and rates under 3% at Yale [12:00] Do fewer things intentionally and well — the sneakerhead who got into Stanford [15:18] Why volunteering doesn't help anymore if your kid doesn't actually care about it [17:31] How grit, initiative, and unglamorous jobs stand out just as much as expensive summer programs [19:29] The most common question Thomas hears — when should we start? [19:51] The seventh-grade math assessment that quietly determines whether your kid can pursue STEM majors [22:41] Middle school is for exploration — you don't need to pick a direction, just stay warm on the fundamentals [24:11] What universities are really asking — not what do you want to do with your life, but what are you curious about right now [24:47] Why your kid won't tell you the truth — and why a neutral third party changes everything [29:47] How to have a real conversation with your kid about what they actually want [30:36] Listening without judgment — the parent who almost killed their child's essay by refusing to let them tell their real story [33:06] How to handle the "I want to study dance" conversation — without crushing them [35:45] Is college a scam? Thomas's honest, nuanced answer — and why the lottery ticket mentality is dangerous [37:20] Why low-tier private colleges charging $50,000 a year are, in his words, criminal [40:38] What's changed in the political arena — new federal loan caps and what they mean for families [41:51] Why the ROI conversation has to happen before you commit to a school [44:08] How to negotiate financial aid after you've been admitted — and why schools will sometimes find money [45:03] Juno — the collective bargaining platform that negotiates lower interest rates on student loans [48:01] What Admittedly is — former admissions officers, group coaching, weekly office hours, and accessible pricing   Five Key Takeaways Admissions has shifted from well-rounded to deeply interesting. A kid who does one thing with real passion and depth will stand out over a kid who stacks clubs and activities to check boxes. The seventh-grade math assessment quietly shapes whether your kid can pursue the majors they want. Start paying attention earlier than you think you need to. Your child's essay needs to tell their story — not your version of their story. Listen without judgment and let them lead. The financial conversation has to happen early and honestly. With new federal loan caps and rising tuition, the ROI of each school choice matters more than ever. College is not a binary decision. It can be great, but it's not the right path for everyone. Know your child, know their goals, and help them build the path that actually fits — not the one that looks right from the outside.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom Admittedly website: https://admittedly.co Admittedly on Instagram and TikTok: @admittedly.co Juno student loan platform: https://joinjuno.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1467): https://thedadedge.com/1467   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the decisions your kid makes in middle school are already shaping where they'll end up — and most parents don't find that out until it's too late to do anything about it. Thomas Caleel has sat inside the room where these decisions get made. He knows what gets someone in and what gets them passed over. And the good news is that none of it requires privilege, expensive programs, or a perfect resume. It requires knowing your kid, helping them tell their real story, and starting the right conversations while there's still time to matter. If your kid is anywhere from sixth grade to senior year, this episode is required listening. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Sol Kennedy — software developer, founder of the co-parenting app Best Interest, host of the Co-parenting Beyond Conflict podcast, and a man who built the thing he needed most during one of the hardest seasons of his life. Sol grew up watching a codependent father and a controlling mother, and spent years of his adult life repeating that dynamic — giving up his power in relationships, avoiding conflict at all costs, and calling the absence of fighting a good marriage. It took a divorce, his first therapy session at 38, and laying awake next to his girlfriend at 2am feeling that familiar anxiety spike when his phone pinged from his ex for Sol to finally build something different. We dig into the psychology behind why co-parenting is so emotionally explosive — the trapped emotions, the triggers, the courtroom-ready anger that destroys custody cases — and Sol walks us through exactly how the Best Interest app works. It acts as an AI-powered filter between you and your ex, stripping inflammatory language before it reaches you, flagging your own reactive messages before you send them, and letting you set communication boundaries without needing your co-parent's cooperation. It's essentially a bodyguard for your inbox — and for your peace of mind. We also get into the practical stuff: why you should start with a divorce coach, not a bulldog attorney; why anger in the courtroom is the fastest way to lose custody; and why therapy isn't optional if you want to actually show up well for your kids on the other side of a divorce.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] The moment that sparked Best Interest — lying in bed next to his girlfriend, anxiety spiking at every notification from his ex [2:23] What Our Family Wizard is and how co-parenting apps work [4:28] Why co-parenting is so hard — you're still in a relationship with someone you divorced [7:52] Sol's origin story — the codependent father, the controlling mother, and the name he chose for himself [9:22] Stepping into therapy at 38 for the first time — learning what "triggered" and "boundary" meant [13:05] Who Sol Kennedy is — founder of Best Interest, host of Co-parenting Beyond Conflict [14:30] How Sol's childhood shaped the relationships he sought out as an adult [19:47] The golden child, the scapegoat, and a marriage that never had real depth [23:29] How divorce changed what he was attracted to — and the intimacy he found on the other side [26:59] The catalyst for the divorce — a year and a half of therapy, a repetitive cycle, and his wife leaving just before the Covid lockdowns [29:26] How Best Interest differs from Our Family Wizard — shifting from a court-ready mindset to a conflict-prevention mindset [31:49] How the AI filter works in practice — stripping inflammatory language before it reaches you [33:29] How it protects you from yourself — reviewing your outgoing messages before you send something you'll regret [35:44] The only co-parenting app you can use solo — no co-parent buy-in required [36:46] Setting message frequency limits — Sol's solution to the 30-messages-a-day ex [38:25] The AI bodyguard — how Best Interest changes lives one filtered message at a time [41:14] Why men specifically get themselves in trouble — anger in the courtroom is the fastest way to lose custody [43:47] What newly separated men need to know — start with a divorce coach, not a bulldog attorney [45:19] Get to therapy now — learning where you feel stress in your body is not soft, it's survival [46:41] Internal Family Systems and somatic work — why trapped emotions show up as physical sensations   Five Key Takeaways Co-parenting is still a relationship — and without the right tools, the same patterns that broke the marriage will destroy the co-parenting dynamic too. Anger in the courtroom costs men custody. If you haven't done the work to regulate your emotions before you walk in, all the advice in the world won't save you in that moment. The best co-parenting boundaries are the ones you can enforce yourself — without needing your ex to cooperate or agree to anything. Start with a divorce coach, not a bulldog attorney. A good divorce coach will save you money, reduce conflict, and help you avoid the court system altogether where possible. Therapy is not optional. Learning where you feel stress in your body, understanding your triggers, and processing trapped emotions isn't soft — it's what lets you show up as the parent your kids need.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/boardroom The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Best Interest Co-parenting App: Available on the App Store and Google Play — search "Best Interest" Co-parenting Beyond Conflict Podcast with Sol Kennedy: Available wherever you get your podcasts Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1466): https://thedadedge.com/1466   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you don't have to let your ex's words reach you unfiltered — and you don't have to send your worst ones either. Sol Kennedy built the thing he needed most when he needed it most. And what he built is now changing the daily lives of co-parents who are trying to stay grounded, protect their kids from the fallout, and build a new chapter without letting the old one keep pulling them back under. If you're co-parenting right now, or you know someone who is, share this episode. It might be the most practical thing they hear all year. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and Dad Edge coach Marc sit down to unpack one of the most common traps business owner dads fall into — hoping things will get better instead of building a strategy to make them better. Featuring recorded clips from Jaden, a real estate investor and five-year member of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom, this episode is a real, unfiltered look at what it actually feels like to be a high-performing business owner who has it dialed at work but is guessing at home. Jaden's story is one a lot of men will recognize — stressed, stretched, showing up for everything but not really present for anyone, and telling himself tomorrow would somehow be different without any real plan to make that true. Hope is not a strategy. And that one sentence — dropped by Larry's toughest sales mentor years ago — becomes the through-line for the whole episode. Marc and Larry break down why business owners specifically are so underserved when it comes to marriage and fatherhood, why the men around you shape who you become whether you're intentional about it or not, and what happens when you stop reacting and start running a new operating system. Not just in your family — in everything. If you're a business owner who's winning at work and guessing at home, this one was made for you.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] What happens when we try our best but don't have the skills — and why winging it in marriage and fatherhood is a recipe for quiet misery [2:33] Why business owner dads are among the most underserved men out there [3:33] Starting a business is like having another kid — and most men are carrying both without the right support [5:45] Jaden's story: five-year Boardroom member, real estate investor, and a man who was just hoping tomorrow would be different [7:21] Hope is not a strategy — why hope without a plan turns against you over time [8:31] Marc's experience as a police officer and Larry's in sales — guessing in the early days and what changed when they found the right room [11:19] Hope is not a strategy — the mentor who stopped Larry cold and changed how he approached everything [13:58] What Jaden started learning inside the Boardroom — generative questions and the skill of processing in real time [15:04] Walking the cube: facts, story, emotions, action — and how it replaces emotional dumping with intentional response [16:39] It becomes your operating system — not a skill you have to work at, but how you fundamentally operate [18:18] These skills don't just change your family — they change your business too because you take your head everywhere [19:29] The tools that become part of your identity: emotional validation, generative questions, psychological safety, walking the cube [20:11] The software upgrade analogy — your marriage won't run optimally on an outdated operating system [21:39] Jaden's advice for men on the outside: you cannot do this work alone. It's a 12-foot ladder with only two rungs. [23:00] Larry asks Jaden where he'd be without the Boardroom — and the pause that said everything [24:21] Mark's insight: surround yourself with people who already have what you want — that's the cheat code [25:42] What Larry thought when he joined his first mastermind in 2015 — and why he called back 11 minutes later [28:27] What Larry found on that first Monday morning call — every question he was afraid to ask was suddenly welcomed [30:07] The call to action for every business owner dad listening right now   Five Key Takeaways Hope is not a strategy. Hoping your marriage or your relationship with your kids gets better without a plan is not optimism — it's guessing. And guessing sucks. You take your head everywhere. The skills you build at home show up in your business, and the chaos you carry from work shows up at home. Upgrading your operating system changes everything. The men around you shape who you become — whether you're intentional about it or not. Surround yourself with men who already have what you want, and you'll take on their habits, beliefs, and results. These skills don't take more time — they eliminate the time you waste reacting, apologizing, and cleaning up the mess of not having them. You cannot do this work alone. A brotherhood that can name the next rung of the ladder for you is not a luxury — it's the difference between spinning in place and actually climbing.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1465): https://thedadedge.com/1465   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: stop hoping and start building. Every man listening to this has the same 24 hours. The difference between the man who looks up in ten years with the life he wanted and the man who wonders where it all went is not talent, not luck, and not harder work. It's strategy. It's skills. It's the room he chose to be in. If you're a business owner who's winning at work and guessing at home — this is your move. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Doug Smith — award-winning author of The Path of Rocks and Thorns, policy expert, trauma-informed leadership coach, adjunct professor, and a man who spent six years in a Texas prison cell for four counts of robbery committed in the grip of crack cocaine addiction. This is not a redemption story wrapped in a tidy bow. It's a raw, honest, and deeply human conversation about what happens when a man loses everything — and what he discovers about leadership, recovery, and fatherhood in the process. Doug walks us through what crack addiction actually feels like — the all-encompassing high and the equal and opposite fall — and what it took to rebuild a life after prison, including a bipolar disorder diagnosis, years of therapy, and a spiritual practice pieced together inside a Texas prison cell. He also shares the extraordinary leadership work he did while incarcerated, helping build a sexual assault prevention program that led to a dramatic increase in reporting and prosecution inside Texas prisons — work that continues to have an impact to this day. But the heart of this conversation is fatherhood. Doug's daughter was five when he went in. She was almost eleven when he came home. He shares the terrifying day he was released, the first reunion with his daughter, and how they reconnected through play and letters rather than words. And then he shares the hardest part — what happened when his book came out and his daughter's buried anger finally surfaced, and the hike where he sat in that anger with her without defending himself. Larry meets him there with his own story of a father who left twice — and the dinner conversation twenty years ago where forgiveness finally had room to breathe.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Introducing Doug Smith — author, policy expert, trauma-informed coach, and formerly incarcerated for four counts of robbery [1:23] What prison was actually like — more boring than people imagine, and unexpectedly clarifying [2:31] The decline into crack addiction — what the high feels like and what the low does to your soul [5:14] The black spot on the soul — how crack takes you lower with every use and never lets you climb back up [6:50] What withdrawal from crack cocaine actually does to your brain and body [9:04] How Doug recalibrated inside prison — exercise, meditation, spiritual practice, and learning to feel good without drugs for the first time in his adult life [11:18] His mental health diagnosis — bipolar disorder, personality disorder, and how he eventually moved past treating a label [13:21] Who Doug is today — policy expert, adjunct professor at UT Austin, trauma-informed leadership coach, and author [15:28] What leadership actually means — it's not a business term, it's the relationship between the results you're creating and your contribution to them [16:18] The sexual assault prevention program Doug built inside a Texas prison — and the dramatic results it produced [22:47] How sexual assault in prison is always about power — and why staff are often the perpetrators [23:16] How old his daughter was when he went in — and his daily prayer to get home while she was still a child [24:51] The terrifying day he was released — why his brain wouldn't accept it as real [26:05] Flying down the stairs to hold his daughter — and sitting with her while she wept [26:49] How they reconnected on day one — spreading out her letters and going through them together [27:13] Larry's midroll reflection: you're home, but are you really there? [29:14] How his daughter responded after the initial reunion — the games, the capybara play, and Riley the racing rat [32:07] The years of building trust — and how his daughter's anger didn't surface until the book came out [33:10] His daughter's reaction to the book: everyone's celebrating his story, but nobody asked what she went through [34:48] The hike where everything came out — and how Doug received her anger without defending himself [37:14] How his daughter had organized her life around his incarceration — volunteering with kids of incarcerated parents, camp counseling, and a college essay that got her into UT Austin in three weeks [39:51] The unresolved trauma that was still there beneath the resilience — and what it took for her to finally be angry [40:17] Larry shares his own story — a father who left twice and the dinner conversation that changed everything [43:44] Larry's dad's ownership, humility, and apology — and how seeing a human being allowed forgiveness to begin [45:33] What Doug's relationship with his daughter looks like now — rebuilding on new terms as adults [47:41] His daughter's powerful message: I needed the encouragement before. Don't tie my worth to my grades. [48:13] The richer conversations that come when the old context for a relationship is gone [51:16] Larry's reflection: without the mess there is no message — and what Doug's story means to the men listening [52:18] The Dante's Inferno metaphor from Doug's prison book club — you have to go all the way through to climb back up   Five Key Takeaways Losing everything can be unexpectedly clarifying. When the things that were making your life miserable are stripped away, you get to learn who you are without them — and that can be the beginning of something real. Leadership is not a business concept. It's the relationship between the results you're creating in the world and your contribution to those results. Everyone is always leading something. You can be home and still not be present. A lot of men are physically in the house but emotionally absent — and their kids feel it. No prison cell required. Resilience and unresolved trauma can coexist. Doug's daughter organized her whole life around his incarceration before she ever allowed herself to be angry about it. Healing isn't linear and it isn't always visible. You have to go all the way through it. You can't go around pain, grief, or hard emotions. Like Dante — you have to travel through the deepest part before you can climb again.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com The Path of Rocks and Thorns by Doug Smith: Available on Amazon Doug Smith's website: https://the-degree.com Email Doug directly: doug@the-degree.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1464): https://thedadedge.com/1464   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you have to go all the way through it. Doug Smith didn't get to skip the hard parts. He had to travel all the way through addiction, incarceration, and the anger of a daughter he had failed — before he could climb back up. And what he built on the other side of that is extraordinary: a career dedicated to the exact people he used to be, and a relationship with his daughter being rebuilt on honest, adult terms. The mess became the message. It always does. If this episode hit you where it needed to, share it with a man who is in the middle of his own darkest season and needs to know there's a way through. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Kelvin Davis — fashion trailblazer, author of Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy, creator of Notoriously Dapper, one of the first Black big-and-tall models for Gap and Target, and dad of two daughters. This one covers a wide range of territory — style, masculinity, nice guy syndrome, divorce, co-parenting, and raising daughters as a single dad — and somehow manages to be one of the most fun and most real conversations we've had on this show. We start with style — and not the surface-level kind. Kelvin breaks down why how you dress is actually a statement about how you see yourself, how the right fit and color unlocks a level of confidence that can't be faked, and why most guys are unknowingly dressing for a version of themselves they no longer are. Then we get into the heart of the show: the difference between a good man and a nice guy. Kelvin draws the line clearly — nice guys are motivated by approval and the avoidance of conflict, good men are grounded in purpose, principles, and accountability. He gets deeply honest about his own nice guy patterns, including a porn addiction and seeking emotional connection outside his marriage, and how staying in a relationship he knew wasn't right ended up costing him and his daughters dearly. We dig into his divorce — how the girls responded, the pressure to pick sides, the importance of therapy, and what happened when his daughters moved to Tennessee and their relationship actually deepened over FaceTime. And we close with a powerful conversation about what Kelvin believes a dad's real job is: not to be liked, but to get your kids ready for the world.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Introducing Kelvin Davis — style, Notoriously Dapper, big and tall modeling, and Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy [4:58] Kelvin's backstory — knowing from age eight that fashion was his calling and going back to speak at his old elementary school [9:23] Larry's story with style expert Tanner Gazi — and the fat kid still living inside him who wears dark colors to hide [12:58] What style actually is — and why the right fit unlocks confidence that cannot be faked [14:03] How to build a base wardrobe — know your true size, nail the fit, then add accessories to elevate everything [16:52] What happens when you walk into a room dressed confidently — including the people who love it and the ones who resent it [19:53] How Kelvin learned to stop caring what people think — and why we all care to some degree [23:50] Introducing Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy — how Kelvin defines the difference [24:36] Nice guys are motivated by approval and conflict avoidance — good men are grounded in purpose and values [27:25] Covert contracts, people pleasing, and why nice guys always eventually fall apart [29:01] Kelvin's nice guy symptoms — avoiding accountability, gaslighting, saying yes to everyone at the cost of himself [31:33] The one place Kelvin's nice guy syndrome never showed up — fatherhood [33:34] Why dads who weren't loved well as kids tend to over-serve their kids — and why holding the line is still the right move [35:08] What Kelvin's daughters would have picked up on if he'd stayed in a marriage where he wasn't showing up as his true self [37:03] The guilt and shame of a pregnancy that forced a marriage — and admitting the foundation was never really there [40:37] Seeking emotional connection outside the marriage — and the fear that keeps nice guys trapped [41:38] The unexpected peace of living alone for the first time after the divorce [43:37] How the girls responded when he moved out — the pressure to pick sides and what Kelvin told them [45:32] Kids hear everything — the damage done when adults talk about each other in front of their children [46:22] Therapy for the girls starting in 2022 — what the therapist revealed about the older daughter's emotional burden [47:31] His job was to carry his own anger — not put it on his daughters [49:28] His 15-year-old's personality emerging — meeting her where she is and becoming more of a collaborator [50:43] Since the girls moved to Tennessee, their relationship has deepened more over FaceTime than it ever did in person [52:08] Creating psychological safety — how connection is the foundation of all influence as a dad [53:28] When mom was more friend than parent — and why the oldest pushes back on her but never on Kelvin [55:46] My job is not to be your friend — it's to get you ready for the world [57:21] Larry's 18-year-old in the 1,000 pound club — and the moment your kid surpasses you is the moment you know you did your job   Five Key Takeaways Style is not vanity — it's communication. How you dress tells the world and yourself who you are. If you've been hiding behind dark colors and ill-fitting clothes, ask yourself what you're really trying to hide. The difference between a nice guy and a good man is what drives them. Nice guys chase approval and avoid conflict. Good men are grounded in purpose, values, and accountability — and people feel that difference. Your kids are watching everything — including how you treat their mother, who you are when your guard is down, and whether the man at home is the same man everyone else gets. They will model it. Your job as a dad is not to be liked — it's to get your kids ready for the world. That means holding the line, teaching respect, and preparing them for authority figures, hard seasons, and life without you. Psychological safety is what makes your kids come to you. Connection comes first. Without it, you have no influence — no matter how many rules you set or sacrifices you make.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Be a Good Man Not a Nice Guy by Kelvin Davis: Available on Amazon Notoriously Dapper website: https://notoriouslydapper.com Follow Kelvin on Instagram: @kelvindavis Follow Notoriously Dapper on TikTok: @notoriouslydapper Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1463): https://thedadedge.com/1463   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: your kids don't need you to be their friend — they need you to be the man they can model their entire life after. Kelvin Davis built a brand around showing up as your true self — unapologetically, consistently, and confidently. But it took a failed marriage, a divorce, and years of self-work to get there. And out of all of it, he's built a deeper relationship with his daughters than he ever had when they lived under the same roof. That's what happens when a man stops performing and starts leading. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a dad who needs to hear it. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, Larry and Uncle Joe are back for another live Q&A with real men from the Dad Edge Alliance bringing their real questions. This one goes deep — and fast. The first question comes from a man walking through divorce he didn't want, trying to reconcile his faith with a marriage that's falling apart. Joe has lived this exact story — fasting, praying, sleeping in a separate bedroom for 18 months, doing everything he could — and speaks into it with the kind of wisdom that only comes from having actually been there. Larry adds his own perspective, including the heartbreaking story of losing a son to trisomy 13, and what he learned about God's ability to redeem even the worst seasons of life. The second question comes from Shepherd — a man who is newly divorced, in a new relationship seven months in with a wonderful woman of faith, but feeling the friction of competing priorities: his kids, her desire to be put first, a potential reverse vasectomy, and the nagging question of whether this is really the right person. Joe and Larry both weigh in with hard, loving, and deeply honest answers — including Joe's own cautionary tale about getting into a relationship too fast after a divorce, and the painful price his kids paid because of it. This is one of those Q&A episodes where every man in the audience will see himself in at least one of these questions.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Welcome to the Q&A — and a quick shoutout to the new Dad Edge shop [2:15] Question 1 — Anonymous: I'm a Christian going through a divorce I didn't want. My wife is a strong believer too. I need guidance. [2:34] Joe's answer: his own experience going through divorce as a believer, sleeping in a separate bedroom for 18 months, and what he learned [4:10] Being a follower of Christ and being a mature follower of Christ are two completely different things [5:37] Seeking the one with your two — how Joe and Ivy operate their marriage around loyalty to Christ first [6:50] The A plus B equals C equation with God — and why that theology will wreck you [7:37] What Joe would do differently: stop panicking, stop pushing, and focus on maturing as a man [10:01] Larry's perspective: it's okay to be angry with God — Father Stephen Gadberry on The Sean Ryan Show [13:11] God removes things we think are good for us — and sometimes this is a preparation for something better [14:39] Larry's story: losing a son to trisomy 13 in 2014, the decision to keep the baby, and the stillbirth at 22 weeks [17:33] Standing in that bathroom, looking up, and asking God why — and what came out of that season [18:00] Joe's response: our father redeems everything — even the worst stuff [19:39] Joe's own three marriages — and how God used all of it [20:08] Living a life you don't deserve — Joe's reflection on grace, mercy, and what he gets to enjoy today [21:28] Joe shares a personal health challenge he's currently walking through — and why his mercies being new every morning is not just a saying [23:21] Question 2 — Shepherd: I'm seven months into a new relationship after divorce. She wants to be put first over my kids. I'm at a crossroads. [28:13] Joe's answer: she doesn't have kids, so there's a disconnect — and until there's a covenant, your kids come first [29:58] The conversation you need to have now — not after you say I do [31:09] How Joe met Ivy — determined never to remarry, then God showed up anyway [32:23] Larry's take: know your non-negotiables before you go further — and be honest about what they are [35:08] This is what you signed up for — and if you love me, this is the way it's going to be [36:17] Joe's red flags: she's pushing for the covenant before it's time, and the reverse vasectomy conversation deserves serious prayer [37:18] Joe's cautionary tale: getting into a relationship too fast after divorce — and the price his kids paid [40:11] His kids paid a high price for his lack of wisdom — proceed with caution, pray first [41:04] There's wisdom in many counselors — and the value of having brothers who aren't afraid to call out your blind spots   Five Key Takeaways Being a follower of Christ and being a mature follower are two different things. Maturity in faith means loyalty to the covenant even when feelings don't support it. God doesn't owe you C just because you did A and B. The A plus B equals C equation with God will wreck you. His heart for you is good — even when life isn't. It's okay to be angry at God. Tell him. He already knows. And he meets us in our deepest, most honest emotions — not in the polished version. When you're newly divorced and entering a new relationship, proceed with caution. Get into your kids, get into your faith, and make sure your inside world is where it needs to be before you attach to someone new. Know your non-negotiables before you go further in any relationship — and have the hard conversations now, not after you say I do.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Dad Edge Shop: https://thedadedge.com/shop Father Stephen Gadberry on The Sean Ryan Show — search on YouTube Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1462): https://thedadedge.com/1462   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: God redeems everything — even the stuff that feels like it's destroying you right now. Joe went through divorce as a believer, three times, watching his kids pay a price for his lack of wisdom. Larry stood in a bathroom watching his son be born still, looking up and asking why. And both of them are sitting here today telling you it gets better — not because life got easier, but because God's mercies are new every morning and all things really does mean all things. If you're in a dark season right now, don't go through it alone. Lean into the brothers around you and let them speak into your blind spots. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Demir Bentley — Wall Street analyst turned productivity coach, co-founder of Life Hack Method, author of Winning the Week, and dad of three daughters under six. This one goes deep on two things most dads desperately need: a better system for planning their week, and a real conversation about what it means to raise confident, loved daughters. Demir opens up about his time on Wall Street — 80 to 100 hour weeks, a hustle culture identity so baked in he didn't know who he was without it — and the health crisis that forced him to change everything. His digestive system began shutting down, he required three surgeries, and his doctors told him to cut his hours below 40 or face serious consequences. That pressure produced the Winning the Week method — a simple, three-pillar planning framework that helped him get the same work done in a fraction of the time. We break down exactly how to run a real planning session — a calendar interrogation, not a calendar review — and why your calendar is lying to you right now. We get into why planning on Friday instead of Sunday is a game changer, what open loops are doing to your brain on the weekend, and how sharing the mental load with your wife is one of the most important leadership moves a man can make at home. And then Demir drops one of the most memorable parenting concepts this show has ever heard: the idea of being the Keeper of Vibes — not just the lowest heartbeat in the room, but the painter of the energy canvas your family lives inside every day.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Introducing Demir Bentley — Wall Street to lifestyle design, productivity coach, dad of three daughters [3:38] Freedom as a core value — and why Demir's shirt and hair are a statement, not an accident [5:00] Being a girl dad — and Larry's experience running a daddy daughter retreat with men who had never lit up like that before [8:33] Demir's slow start to fatherhood — and why a phone call from a friend before his first daughter was born may have saved him [10:44] What Winning the Week is — and where it came from [11:04] Wall Street, hustle culture, and the religion of outworking the competition [13:30] The health crisis that changed everything — salaryman sudden death syndrome, three surgeries, and a doctor telling him to cut his hours in half [14:36] Who am I if I'm not the guy who works 100 hours a week — the identity crisis behind the health crisis [20:22] How the Winning the Week method was born out of raw necessity [23:31] Pillar one — the calendar interrogation: your calendar is lying to you and here's how to catch it [26:47] Pillar two — real prioritizing: if there's no tear in your eye when you're cutting things, you're not cutting enough [27:27] Pillar three — the task list: stop hiding your commitments and start owning your time supply [28:53] Marrying the tasks to the calendar — the test fit that tells you if you have 10 pounds of priorities in a 5 pound bag [31:06] Start from the top down — your values first, then your calendar, then your priorities [31:28] The number one complaint wives have about their husbands — and how planning fixes it [33:06] Sharing the mental load and invisible labor — the new definition of leadership at home [36:35] Leading by example: how planning together on Friday beats planning together Sunday night [37:18] The team huddle — how Demir and his wife plan separately then align on a walk together [39:24] Why good planning still produces anxiety — and why meeting after the sigh changes everything [42:49] Why your brain won't let go of the weekend — open loops, unfinished sentences, and the science behind Sunday dread [44:35] Why planning on Friday instead of Sunday gives you your whole weekend back [46:39] Switching gears to daughters — what it really means to raise strong, confident girls [47:10] The Keeper of Vibes — Demir's most important role as a dad and the canvas he's painting every single day [49:47] Be the thermostat, not the thermometer — and what it means to hold the energy space for your whole family   Five Key Takeaways Your calendar is lying to you. Every meeting, every drive, every task takes longer than you think. A real planning session is a calendar interrogation — sweat every entry until it's honest. Real prioritizing hurts. If you're not cutting things that matter to you, you're not prioritizing — you're just rearranging. The hard tradeoffs are the whole point. Open loops kill your weekends. When you leave Friday without closing the week, your brain keeps the loop running — on date night, on the couch, in the middle of the night. Plan on Friday and actually rest. Sharing the mental load is modern leadership. Your wife shouldn't be the only one holding the calendar of family life. Taking full ownership of even one domain — sports, appointments, whatever — changes the entire dynamic at home. Be the Keeper of Vibes. You are not just the lowest heartbeat in the room. You are the painter of the energy canvas your family lives inside. What are you painting every day?   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Winning the Week by Demir Bentley: https://winningtheweek.com Life Hack Method Website: https://lifehackmethod.com Life Hack Method Free Training: https://lifehackmethod.com Follow Demir on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifehackmethod_/ Follow Demir on Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/demirandcarey/ Follow Demir on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/demirbentley/ Life Hack Method on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LifehackBootcamp Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1461): https://thedadedge.com/1461   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: you cannot lead what you don't plan, and you cannot be present for the people you love if your brain is still stuck in last week. Demir went from 100 hour weeks and a body that was shutting down to building a life centered on freedom, family, and intention. The method isn't complicated. The calendar interrogation, the real prioritization, the task fit — it's thirty minutes on a Friday that gives you your whole life back. And then there's the canvas. What energy are you painting into your home every single day? Because your kids and your wife are living inside that painting whether you're intentional about it or not. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Jon Fogel — pastor, dad of four, PhD candidate in developmental psychology, and bestselling author of Punishment Free Parenting. Jon is one of those rare guys who can make you laugh so hard you forget you're learning some of the most important parenting insights you've ever heard. We open with chaos — including the time his wife went into labor at Goodwill, insisted on finishing the bathroom tile and installing a toilet before going to the hospital, and the time Jon almost missed the birth of his fourth child because he stopped for Jimmy John's on the way back. But then it gets real. Jon breaks down why punishment doesn't work — not as a philosophy, but as brain science. When you punish a child, you activate the threat response system, which is the exact part of the brain that shuts off learning. We dig into what to do instead, the landmark Bobo doll experiment proving kids follow the behavior of the men in their lives above everyone else, and how rupture and repair actually builds stronger relationships than if you'd never messed up at all. Jon also walks us through Set My Feelings Free — his kids' book packed with emotional regulation games you can start using today to stop tantrums before they start.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission [1:02] Introducing Jon Fogel — pastor, author, PhD candidate, and Whole Parent [6:07] Why the parenting space desperately needs more men in it [14:02] Jon's family — and the birth stories that will make you lose it [26:12] Why Jon goes calm in a crisis but loses it over spilled milk [45:34] The core message of Punishment Free Parenting — brain science, not philosophy [49:12] Kids don't have the same negativity bias as adults — they want to see you in the best light [50:18] Your kids aren't trying to give you a hard time — they're having a hard time [51:07] Rupture and repair — why messing up and fixing it builds the strongest bonds [55:39] The dad buried in his phone is a bigger problem than the dad who sometimes loses his temper [57:42] The Still Face Experiment — and what a parent staring at a phone really communicates [1:00:37] The Bobo doll experiment — kids follow the men in their lives above everyone else [1:03:37] You don't have to fix your kids. Fix yourself. Your kids are fine. [1:09:08] Why punishment shuts off the brain's learning system — and what to do instead [1:17:16] Get Curious, Not Furious — the question every parent needs to ask [1:20:12] The Doctor House analogy — stop managing symptoms, find the underlying problem [1:24:05] Set My Feelings Free — emotional regulation games disguised as fun [1:29:34] Why you should never check under the bed for the monster   Five Key Takeaways Punishment activates the threat response system — the part of the brain that shuts off learning. Relationship and curiosity do the actual teaching. Your kids are almost never trying to give you a hard time. They're having a hard time and you're witnessing it. Get curious, not furious. The Bobo doll experiment proved it — kids follow the behavior of the men in their lives above everyone else. Fix yourself. Your kids are fine. Every time you mess up and genuinely repair it, the relationship gets stronger than it was before. Rupture and repair builds the deepest bonds. Kids solve problems through play. When screens replace play, they lose their primary tool for processing the hard stuff — and we're modeling that every time we reach for our phones.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Join the Dad Edge Mastermind: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel: Available wherever books are sold Set My Feelings Free by Jon Fogel: Available wherever books are sold Whole Parent Academy: https://wholeparentacademy.com Follow Jon on Instagram: @wholeparent Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1460): https://thedadedge.com/1460   Closing You cannot punish your kids into becoming who you want them to be — and you can't punish yourself into becoming the parent you want to be either. Get curious before you get furious. Repair when you rupture. Model what you want to see. And give your kids the tools to regulate themselves when the world gets hard — because you won't always be there, but the way you showed them how to handle it will be. Go out and live legendary.

In this solo episode, Larry gets straight to the point: the reason most men feel stuck isn't a lack of motivation — it's a lack of direction. Not the five-year-plan kind of direction, but the daily kind. What are you building in your marriage right now? What are you doing this week to move the needle? Because if you don't choose a direction, life will choose one for you — and it's usually the one that leaves you reactive, exhausted, and quietly frustrated. Larry shares what's coming up in the Dad Edge community in April, breaks down what the Alliance is really about in plain English, and makes the case for why this is the moment to stop consuming content and start executing. He also announces the first ever First Form Dad of the Month — a man in the Alliance who has been quietly doing the work, keeping his promises to himself, and leading from the front without making a big deal about it. This one is short, direct, and worth every minute.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] The real reason most men feel stuck — it's not motivation, it's direction [1:45] What happens when you don't choose a direction and life chooses one for you [2:01] What's coming up in the Dad Edge community — events, programs, and announcements [3:02] The Men's Forge event — what it is, who it's for, and why it's not a hype fest [4:44] Why being in a room with the right men changes everything [5:44] The April theme inside the Alliance — purpose, direction, and leadership for men [6:06] The real reason men fail — not laziness, but an unclear target [7:04] What the Alliance actually is in plain English — brotherhood, plans, execution, and no egos [7:58] What April inside the Alliance looks like — getting clear on what you actually want and building a weekly rhythm that makes winning normal [9:22] What men who show up and do the work actually experience — no longer feeling behind, making faster decisions, becoming more consistent at home [10:07] The Roommates to Soulmates preview call — April 1st at 7pm Central — who it's for and what to expect [11:43] Announcing the first ever First Form Dad of the Month — Jason Rowe — and why he earned it [13:05] First Form product spotlight — Magic Charms, Cinnamon Toast Crunch, and Red Velvet Cake flavors [15:09] Closing message — the world is loud, drift is real, and today is the day to do one thing your future self will thank you for   Five Key Takeaways You're not stuck because you're lazy. You're stuck because your target is blurry. When direction gets fuzzy, discipline gets fuzzy right along with it. If you don't choose a direction on purpose, you'll drift toward whatever is loudest and most urgent — and you'll look up one day and realize you've been living the same week for five years. The Alliance is not a vent session. It's men telling the truth, getting tactical, and leaving every call with something they can actually execute. Winning becomes normal when you're focused. Consistency over time beats motivation every single time. Do one thing today that your future self will thank you for. That's it. That's the whole assignment.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Dad Edge Alliance & Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind First Form Supplements: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1459): https://thedadedge.com/1459   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: direction is a decision, and today is the day to make it. The world is loud. The fires are always burning. And it is incredibly easy to spend your whole life responding instead of building. But the men who are winning at home — in their marriages, with their kids, in their health — are not the ones who figured out some secret. They're the ones who got clear, got consistent, and chose the right room. Don't let April be another month on autopilot. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Matthew McConaughey — Oscar-winning actor, author of the bestselling memoir Greenlights, and a man who thinks about fatherhood, legacy, and what it means to truly live with the same intensity he brings to everything else. This is not a conversation about Hollywood. It's about what it means to be a man and a father who doesn't half-ass the most important things in his life. Matthew opens up about his own father — a larger-than-life man who taught him three rules that shaped everything: don't say can't, don't hate, and don't lie. We get into the stories behind each of those lessons, the "don't half-ass it" moment when Matthew told his dad he wanted film school instead of law school, and what it takes for a father to recognize that his son has made up his mind — not asking permission, but declaring a direction. We also talk about Camilla, taking his kids everywhere he goes on set, and why three older actors all told him the same thing: they chose work over family time and would do it differently if they could. Then there's the passage from Greenlights that stopped Larry mid-workout — about living your legacy now, and the idea that most of us don't fly too close to the sun. We don't fly nearly high enough. Our alarms go off too early. This one is timeless.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:02] Why this replay is one of the top ten episodes in Dad Edge history [2:18] What Matthew hoped would come from this conversation: waking men up to what being a dad really means [4:29] What brings Matthew joy: bringing people together and watching them build their own independent friendships [6:31] The role most relative to who he is as a husband and father — and why his family has always come with him on every job [8:52] Camilla's one condition before they started a family: "You go, we go" [11:02] Three older actors all said the same thing: they chose work over family, and they regret it [12:39] The 80% statistic: most of your one-on-one time with your kids is gone by the time they're 12 [14:00] Fatherhood is a verb — on screen time, saying no with love, and why the easy answer is almost always the wrong one [18:33] The birds and bees talk from his father: a lesson about respect for women that stuck word for word [20:34] Don't say can't — the lawnmower story and the lesson that there's always another way [21:57] Don't hate — saying "I hate you" at his own birthday party, and what happened next [22:28] Don't lie — the stolen pizza, four chances to tell the truth, and what Matthew actually remembers [24:10] "Don't half-ass it" — the film school conversation and what it means when a father hears conviction in his son's voice [28:04] His dad was alive for just five days into Matthew's first acting job — the first thing he committed to that wasn't a fad [30:55] How Matthew pursues Camilla in the middle of kids, career, and constant demands on his time [35:26] Why Matthew and Camilla go on dates every week — and what they tell the kids about why mom and dad go alone [35:43] The passage from Greenlights that stopped Larry in the gym: "Live my legacy now" [38:33] The inverted Icarus problem: most of us don't fly too close to the sun — our alarms go off way too early [41:59] The science in the rearview mirror — how everything connects, even the things that looked like mistakes [42:36] Ten years from now: what Matthew hopes to be celebrating with his family   Five Key Takeaways Fatherhood is a verb, not a label. It's not about helping make the baby — the work starts after. Teaching, shepherding, saying no, explaining why — that is the job. The three rules Matthew's father gave him — don't say can't, don't hate, don't lie — are not just household rules. They are the weapons a man needs to negotiate the world. When your child comes to you convicted — not asking permission, but declaring a direction — your job as a father is to recognize that and say "don't half-ass it." Most of us don't fly too close to the sun. Our alarms go off too early. We put a ceiling on our own potential before we've even started to soar. Your marriage needs intentional pursuit — even in the busiest seasons of parenting. It doesn't just hold itself.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey: https://a.co/d/017KxpPw Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1458): https://thedadedge.com/1458   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: stop waiting for the right moment to live your legacy — it's already happening right now. Matthew McConaughey's father gave him three rules, one five-second pause, and a standard he's been carrying ever since. Don't say can't. Don't hate. Don't lie. Don't half-ass it. The men whose kids will remember them the way Matthew remembers his dad are the ones who show up every day knowing that fatherhood is not a label you earn once. It's a verb you live out in a thousand small moments that add up to everything. If this episode hit you where it needed to, share it with a father who needs the reminder. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Joe Gatto — comedian, founding member of Impractical Jokers, author, and one of the most genuinely funny and surprisingly deep guys I've ever had on this show. Yes, we laugh. A lot. But what surprised me most about this conversation is how quickly it got real. Joe lost his dad to pancreatic cancer at 19 years old — and watching his father face death with grace, humor, and a smile on his face left an imprint on Joe that shaped everything: the man he became, the dad he is today, and even the comedy career that followed. We get into marriage and how humor can be the glue that holds a couple together through a tumultuous season — but also how humor can become a way to avoid the conversations that actually need to happen. Joe is honest that the last couple of years have been tough, and he talks about learning to know when it's time to stop laughing and start talking. And Joe's kids' book — Where Is Barry? — gets the full story: how his son Remo losing his stuffed animal one night turned into a beautifully illustrated book about calming down, thinking logically, and handling life's little chaos moments.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Introducing Joe Gatto — Impractical Jokers, touring comedian, author, and a guy who's way more real than you'd expect [4:23] Growing up in Staten Island: big Italian family, big backyard, and a nerdy kid who quizzed his dad with encyclopedia multiple choice tests [5:40] How comedy shaped Joe's childhood — Home Improvement, Mel Brooks, Jim Carrey, and movie nights with dad [8:10] The relationship with his dad — and losing him to pancreatic cancer at just 19 years old [10:00] His dad's response to the diagnosis: "Get a fake ID, we're going to Vegas" [11:02] What it was like to be in the ambulance when his father passed — and the smile on his face at the very end [13:16] Larry's reflection: "You had more of a dad in 19 years than a lot of men have in a lifetime" [14:20] How Joe's dad shaped the comedian, the father, and the man he is today [15:02] Joe's new tour Let's Get Into It — tracing his journey from a geeky kid with no friends to who he is now [16:23] The iconic memory: dad comes home in a full suit, kids are in the pool — and he just jumps in [17:21] How Joe recreated that exact moment for his own kids without even planning it [18:36] What Joe's kids would say about him if you asked them without him in the room [19:37] His 9-year-old daughter who wants to be a DJ — and why Joe said yes without hesitation [20:06] His 7-year-old son who asks questions like "why is the middle finger bad?" — and how Joe handled it [24:08] The origin story of Impractical Jokers — day jobs, a bartender, a firefighter, and four friends doing comedy for fun [33:24] The important line: humor can hold you together, but there's a time to stop laughing and start talking [35:09] Where Is Barry? — the children's book inspired by his son Remo losing his stuffed animal [38:48] Joe's son's first reaction to the finished book: "Where's Milana? My sister should be in it too" [39:25] Why Joe believes teaching kids to cope with adversity is the number one job of a parent [41:22] Leading by example: how kids see everything, reflect everything, and learn how to handle life by watching you [42:06] Separating emotion from response — and catching things when they're little, not when they're boulders [42:43] Why Joe always apologizes to his kids — and why he never says "because I said so" [47:05] Joe's advice: surround yourself with people who make you better, and be the person who brings others up [48:19] On balance: it's impossible — just be where you are, and say yes to the five minutes that matter most   Five Key Takeaways The moments your kids will remember forever aren't the big planned ones — they're the split-second decisions to jump in the pool in a full suit. Be present for the small moments. Humor is a powerful connector in marriage and family — but it has to know its place. There's a time to laugh through things together and a time to put the jokes down and have the real conversation. Teaching your kids to cope with adversity is the single most important job you have as a parent. Not grades. Not manners. Coping — because you won't always be there, but their ability to handle life will be. Never say "because I said so." If you can't explain why you're making a decision, question whether you're making the right one. Kids deserve a reason, and giving one builds trust. Balance is a myth. You can't do everything equally all the time. But you can be fully where you are — and say yes to the five minutes your kid is asking for, because those five minutes will be the best part of their day.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Where Is Barry? by Joe Gatto — available on Amazon Follow Joe Gatto on Instagram: @joe_gatto Joe Gatto's website: https://www.joegattoofficial.com/ Episode Link & Resources (Episode 491): https://thedadedge.com/491   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the moments that shape your kids forever are usually the ones you almost didn't take. Joe Gatto watched his dad jump into a pool in a full suit on a summer evening — a split-second decision that Joe still talks about decades later. And without even thinking about it, Joe recreated that same moment for his own kids when they called him away from work. Three minutes. Full clothes. Right in. That is the legacy. That is what your kids will tell their kids about. You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to have all the answers. You just have to show up, say yes when it counts, and teach them how to handle life when you're not around to help. If this episode made you laugh and think — which it will — share it with a dad who needs both today. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I'm joined by my co-host Uncle Joe for one of our live Q&A sessions — where real men from the Dad Edge Alliance bring their real questions, and we do our best to give them real, honest answers. This one covers a lot of ground. We open with a powerful question from Rich — a man who spent nearly 30 years as an agnostic, gave his life to Christ six months ago, and now wants to know how to lead his 11 kids toward faith without forcing it on them. Joe brings wisdom from his own walk, and I share a deeply personal story about going to church with my son Ethan — how one pastor's offhand comment cracked something open in me, and how an honest, vulnerable conversation in a car changed the entire trajectory of my relationship with my son around faith. The second question is one that hits close to home for a lot of men in this community: when things have been bad in your marriage for a long time and you finally start getting wins — how do you avoid going complacent? Joe and I both dig into this one from personal experience. Joe speaks to the PTSD that builds up inside a man after years of a hard marriage, how fear and insecurity can quietly self-sabotage the very progress you've worked so hard for, and why faith — not fear — has to lead. I talk about consistency, keeping the sword sharp, and why marriage is exactly like the gym. We close with a bonus coaching moment on communication — why "you make me feel" is a conversation grenade, and how to ask for clarity in a way that actually works.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Welcome to the Q&A — live questions from real Dad Edge Alliance members [1:42] Reminder: Roommates to Soulmates Cohort preview call on April 1st at 7pm Central [2:50] Question 1 — Rich: I gave my life to Christ six months ago after 30 years as an agnostic. How do I lead my older kids toward faith without forcing it? [6:07] Joe's answer: You lead by example, walking it out in front of them — including when you fail and change course [8:33] Joe's story: his son Colin told his wife "the dad I have now is not the dad I had ten years ago" [9:21] The power of community in faith — why you cannot walk this walk alone [9:55] What Joe does every two weeks: a Zoom Bible study with his entire grown family [11:02] Your outside world is always a reflection of your inside world — get your inside right first [13:47] Larry's answer: his personal journey from cultural Catholic to full believer — and what changed in the last year [15:17] The situation with Larry's son Ethan — a controversial church, a girlfriend pushing conversion, and how Larry navigated it without muscling him [16:35] How Larry approached it: curiosity over control — asking questions instead of issuing warnings [17:14] Larry goes to church with Ethan and hears a pastor say: "I had a great dad — but I had to find God by myself" [19:12] The conviction that hit Larry on the way home: "I'm failing you just like his dad failed him" [21:33] The honest conversation in the car — and Ethan's response that Larry never expected [23:10] How Larry invited Ethan into a Bible study as a fellow learner, not a teacher — and what it has done for their relationship [25:22] Question 2 — Anonymous: When things have been bad for years and you finally start getting wins in your marriage, how do you avoid getting complacent? [25:56] Larry's answer: expect your wife to pull back at first — she's afraid to hope. Keep the sword sharp and never take your foot off the gas [28:01] Joe's answer: be mindful of the PTSD and insecurity that builds up inside a man after years of a hard marriage [29:21] How fear and insecurity can quietly self-sabotage the progress you've worked so hard for [30:16] Let faith lead, not fear — fear has never once led Joe somewhere he was glad he went [31:03] A real-time example: a man texting Joe that morning — his wife said she wants to stop counseling and he went into panic mode [32:26] How to get clarity instead of telling yourself a story [34:23] The right way to ask for clarity — why "you make me feel" is a grenade and what to say instead [36:31] Words have power. Be effective, not just right. [37:27] Bonus: never text your wife emotional content — everyone reads it through their own filter   Five Key Takeaways You lead your kids toward faith the same way you lead them in everything else — by living it in front of them, including letting them see you fail and change course. You don't have to be an expert to lead your kids spiritually. Invite them to learn alongside you. "Let's figure this out together" is more powerful than "let me teach you." Your outside world is always a reflection of your inside world. If you want things to change around you, start with what's happening inside you. When your marriage starts turning around, don't get complacent. Marriage is like the gym — you don't work chest for eight weeks and then wonder why it's gone. Consistency is everything. Stop telling yourself a story about what your wife meant. Get clarity. And when you do, don't say "you make me feel" — own your interpretation and ask with curiosity, not accusation.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1456): https://thedadedge.com/1456   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the most powerful thing you can do for the people you love is get yourself right on the inside first. Whether it's leading your kids toward faith, rebuilding your marriage, or just showing up differently than you have before — it all starts with the man in the mirror. Not the version of you that has all the answers, but the version that's humble enough to say "I don't have it all figured out, but I'm willing to learn." That's the man your kids need. That's the man your wife needs. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a man who is in the middle of his own turning point. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Nikki Sixx — founder of Mötley Crüe, rock legend, bestselling author, and a man whose story goes so much deeper than anything that ever happened on a stage. This conversation is not about the music. It's about what happens when a boy grows up without his father, carries that wound through decades of addiction and chaos, and finally — through sobriety, therapy, forgiveness, and faith — becomes the kind of dad his own kids can always run to. Nikki opens up about growing up without his dad in the picture, how the story he was told about his father wasn't the full truth, and the slow and painful process of forgiving both his parents. He shares the defining therapy session where a frumpy office, a dusty couch, and one sentence from his therapist — "you don't have to love your mom" — cracked something open in him that changed everything. We talk about sobriety, and Nikki is direct: it always gets worse before it gets better. When you remove the substance, you have to face what's underneath. But if you can survive that first year, your whole life reorganizes. He's 20 years sober, and what he's built on the other side of that — as a husband, a father of five, a writer, and a creative — is nothing short of remarkable. And Larry's son Ethan jumps in with a question that leads to one of the most important moments of the episode: Nikki's warning to today's teenagers about the very real and deadly danger of fentanyl-laced drugs — from someone who has lived every version of this story.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Introducing Nikki Sixx — founder of Mötley Crüe, author, and one of the most unexpected guests in Dad Edge history [2:28] Growing up on vinyl, discovering music, and the self-discovery of being a young man in a different era [5:13] Both Larry and Nikki share the experience of growing up without their fathers — and how it shaped them [6:00] Writing The First 21 — the story of Frankie Farina, his dad's name, and what Nikki discovered about his father that surprised him [7:15] How the absence of a father manifests differently in every man — and why Nikki's came out as anger in his late teens [10:36] Larry's own story: being reunited with his father at 30 and building a relationship over 16 years [13:30] Getting to maturity means facing reality — and what Nikki's kids get to see by watching their dad work through his own stuff [14:22] Being gone on tour while raising kids — the guilt of absence and the work of making amends [15:35] No gold records on the walls: how Nikki deliberately kept his celebrity out of the home to protect his kids [16:32] "Not wanting to be my dad made me a better dad — but forgiving my dad might make me an even better one" [17:16] At 62 with a two-year-old: what legacy do you want to leave, and how do you get there without carrying old baggage? [18:31] Put down the baggage — it's heavy, it's exhausting, and it's crushing the people who love you most [19:23] The therapy session that changed Nikki's life: a dusty office, beams of light, and "you don't have to love your mom" [21:19] Letting go of the victim story and reclaiming the good — his dad was creative, his mom was charismatic, and Nikki carries both [23:28] Creating a home where your kids can always call dad — no matter what, no matter when [24:19] How unforgiveness clouds your ability to love the people right in front of you [25:36] Why Nikki shares his story publicly — so someone else doesn't have to wait as long to have their moment [29:18] When your daughter says "dad, you seem so happy" — the moment you know it's working [30:11] Ethan tells Larry "I love my life" — and why that's the greatest thing a father can hear [31:04] Moving from LA to Wyoming: finding simplicity in nature, watching moose in the yard, and what wildlife teaches about family [37:24] 20 years of sobriety — and why Nikki says it is an absolute gift [37:43] The hard truth about getting sober: it always gets worse before it gets better, and most people quit too soon [41:28] Larry's 90-day sobriety challenge with 30 men — and what clarity feels like when you strip alcohol away [43:41] Why humans are the only animals that can completely change the shape of their mind and body — and what that means for how we live [45:21] Men's stag meetings, male support systems, and why Nikki found brotherhood in sobriety that he never had growing up [47:37] Ethan's question for Nikki: what advice would you give a teenager in this generation? [48:39] Nikki's urgent warning about fentanyl — the drugs today are not what they were, and they are killing healthy young athletes at parties [50:19] How Nikki got sober: losing every friend, throwing himself into health and fitness, and writing Doctor Feelgood   Five Key Takeaways The story you were told about your father may not be the full truth. Until you do the work to find out who he really was, you're carrying someone else's version of your own life. Unforgiveness doesn't hurt the person you're holding it against — it closes you off from the people right in front of you who love you and need you. Sobriety always gets worse before it gets better. When you remove the substance, you have to face what's underneath. That is the work — and it's worth it. The greatest thing you can build as a father is an environment where your kids feel safe enough to call you when things go wrong — not hide it from you. The drugs today are not what they were. Fentanyl doesn't care how healthy or young you are. This is not a conversation to put off with your kids.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com The First 21 by Nikki Sixx: Available on Amazon Follow Nikki Sixx on Instagram: @nikkisixxpixx Episode Link & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/343 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: the baggage you're carrying is not just yours to bear — it's being felt by every person in your home. Nikki Sixx spent decades carrying wounds from a father who left and a mother who filled in the gaps with half-truths. And it wasn't until he put that baggage down — through sobriety, through therapy, through the hard work of forgiveness — that he could fully show up for his wife and his five kids. That is the work. It's not glamorous, it's not fast, and it doesn't happen all at once. But on the other side of it is a man his daughter looks at and says, "Dad, you seem so happy." That is the goal. If this episode hit close to home, share it with a man who needs to hear it. Because every man deserves to put the weight down. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with former NFL tight end Greg Olsen — a man who built one of the most decorated careers in professional football, but whose greatest story has nothing to do with what happened on the field. We talk about Greg's upbringing in an all-boys household led by a high school football coach father who pushed hard, loved harder, and never let his kids settle for less than their best. Those lessons — accountability, perseverance, and doing the hard things when no one's watching — are ones Greg still carries and now passes on to his own kids. We also get into the youth sports landscape today, the difference between a helicopter parent and what Greg calls a "Zamboni parent," and why letting your kids face real adversity early is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. Greg's philosophy is simple: you can teach skills, but you cannot coach desire. But the heart of this conversation is TJ. Greg opens up about the moment an ultrasound revealed that his son TJ had hypoplastic left heart syndrome — a condition where only one side of the heart is functional and is 100% fatal if left untreated. He walks us through what it was like to be a husband, a father to other kids at home, and a starting NFL player — all while his newborn son was recovering from open heart surgery. And how he and his wife Cara made a conscious decision every single day to stay aligned, take turns being strong for each other, and refuse to let the weight of the uncontrollable destroy what they had built together. This episode will challenge you, move you, and remind you that the measure of a man is not how he performs when everything is going well — it's how he leads when he has absolutely no control. Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Why this replay hits differently the second time — and what makes Greg Olsen's story so powerful [2:44] Greg's upbringing: an all-boys household, a football coach dad, and a life built around sports and high expectations [7:29] Why Greg wouldn't trade his demanding childhood for anything — and the lessons he still carries today [8:46] When dad is also coach: the life lessons sports instilled in Greg that carried him to the NFL [9:27] The harder a coach pushes you, the more they believe in you — and why parents today have lost sight of this [11:39] The Zamboni parent: why over-protecting kids from adversity sets them up to fail in the real world [14:02] Finding the balance — building kids' confidence while still holding them to a real standard [23:43] How Greg coaches his own kids differently: effort is the only thing he'll call out from the sideline [26:24] The parents who don't show up to practice but have all the answers on game day — Greg's take [29:05] The moment everything changed: finding out at an ultrasound that TJ had a serious congenital heart defect [30:33] What hypoplastic left heart syndrome is — and why it's 100% fatal if left undetected [32:24] How Greg and his wife Cara made a conscious decision to stay aligned through the unthinkable [34:25] Wearing three hats at once: spouse, parent at home, parent at the hospital — and still performing on the field [36:19] The hardest part for a fixer: facing something you cannot work, solve, or control [37:17] Larry shares his own story of losing a son — and the helplessness every man feels when he can't protect his family [39:39] Greg's response: how he navigated grief, kept the family moving, and put his own needs last [41:59] Why you can't sit on the couch feeling sorry for yourself — even when no one would blame you [44:02] Larry's 14-year-old son's questions for Greg: what kept you focused at my age? [45:17] The moment at 14 that clicked — getting a scholarship offer from the University of Miami and realizing this could be bigger than high school [47:03] Long-term vision over short-term comfort: why every hard decision Greg made in high school was worth it [49:48] Why today's kids face more distraction than ever — and what Greg would tell them [50:04] The kind of friends that will make or break you — Greg's advice on who to surround yourself with [53:32] What Greg would tell his 14-year-old self: stop and smell the roses, because the hard stuff is coming [57:04] What Greg wants from every kid he coaches: great attitude, great teammate, and fiercely competitive Five Key Takeaways The harder a coach or parent pushes you, the more they believe in you. When they stop pushing, they've stopped seeing potential. Protecting your kids from every hard thing is not love — it's setting them up to fail. Let them face adversity early, while the stakes are still low. When crisis hits your family, the most important decision you can make is to stay aligned with your spouse. If you two fall apart, everything falls apart. Men are wired to fix things — but some of life's hardest seasons require you to simply show up, support, and surrender control. That's not weakness. That's leadership. You can teach skills, but you cannot coach desire. If your kid has a competitive fire and a great attitude, they will find their way — in sports and in life. Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com You Think Podcast with Greg Olsen: Available wherever you get your podcasts Follow Greg Olsen on Instagram: @gregolsen88 Episode Link & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1454   Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: a man's greatest test is not how he performs under the lights — it's how he leads when the outcome is completely out of his hands. Greg Olsen had every reason to fall apart. A newborn son fighting for his life. Two other kids at home. A wife who needed him. A season that wouldn't pause. And yet, he and Cara chose every single day to stay aligned, to keep moving, and to give their kids the most normal, love-filled life they could. That is the standard. That is what it means to lead a family. If this episode moved you, share it with a father who is carrying something heavy right now and needs to be reminded that he is not alone. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Tara and Tim Katzman — a real couple from our own Dad Edge community who were standing at the doorstep of divorce and chose to fight for their marriage instead. This is one of the most downloaded episodes in Dad Edge history, and when you hear their story, you'll understand why. Tim was a workaholic consumed by his business, available to clients around the clock while his wife and kids got whatever was left — which was almost nothing. Tara reached a breaking point where leaving felt like the only sane option. She was done. She told him daily she wanted a divorce. And yet something shifted. We dig into what that turning point actually looked like — the flatline-or-mad emotional state Tim was stuck in, the moment Tara came prepared for a fight and got ownership and an apology instead, and how Tim went from never setting a boundary with a client to shutting work off at 4pm and protecting his family time fiercely. Their 18-year-old daughter even noticed — calling out that "dad is out of his people-pleasing era." We also get into what it means to go from doing the right things to actually being a different man — and why that distinction matters more than any tactic or checklist. Tara describes going from keeping mental receipts and bracing for fallout every time she spoke, to fully melting into her husband. Tim describes going from avoiding his wife to not being able to spend enough time with her. If your marriage feels like a checklist, if you're disappearing into work, or if you've already heard the words "I'm not in love with you anymore" — this episode is proof that it is possible to turn it all the way around. Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Why this episode is one of the most downloaded in Dad Edge history — and what makes it so real [1:47] Setting the scene: Tim the workaholic, Tara on the verge of walking out, and a marriage running on fumes [3:24] Switching Wednesday Q&As to real stories of wins from men and couples in the community [5:42] Tim and Tara introduce themselves — four kids, a pool business, and a 22-year relationship that started at 16 [7:32] Growing up in divorced households with no blueprint for what a healthy marriage looks like [10:18] The forced house move that made everything worse — and the moment Tara hit her absolute lowest [12:10] What the disconnection really looked like day to day: ships passing in the night, Tim treating family like a bother [13:50] When the kids started getting the same treatment — and why that was Tara's breaking point [17:34] The meditation exercise that shifted Tim's perspective and turned down the volume on work urgency [18:34] Setting boundaries with clients for the first time — and Tara having to tell him to stop ignoring people [19:40] Their 18-year-old daughter notices the change: "Dad's out of his people-pleasing era" [20:52] Tim's side of the story: feeling completely alone while sleeping one foot away from his wife every night [23:58] Tara's plan to leave — and the screaming match that became the turning point [27:47] Tara's honest reaction when Tim said a podcast was going to fix things: she laughed [29:50] The first signs of real change — Tim hearing her, owning his mistakes, and apologizing to the kids [31:33] The difference between covert contracts and genuine ownership — and which one Tim chose [35:42] Tara describes what it feels like to finally be safe enough to bring anything to him without bracing for fallout [37:06] How the relationship has completely transformed — travel, connection, and a bond Tara never believed was possible [39:26] Tim's perspective now: from avoiding conflict to not being able to get enough time with her [41:25] The moment Tara started "melting" — and what it means when a woman can finally drop her defenses [43:17] Masculine and feminine energy — why Tara stepping into her femininity changed the dynamic of everything [45:00] If you could go back and give yourself advice — what Tim and Tara would tell themselves 2-3 years ago [47:56] The difference between doing and being — when the work becomes who you are, not just what you do Five Key Takeaways Disconnection rarely looks like dramatic blowups — it looks like two people sharing a house but not a life, talking only about what has to get done. A real apology combined with real follow-through is more powerful than years of arguing. Ownership without excuses changes everything. When a man becomes the lowest heartbeat in the room — calm, present, and safe — his wife and kids will naturally move toward him. The work you do on yourself doesn't stay contained to one area. When Tim changed, it transformed their marriage, their kids, their business, and their friendship. There is a difference between doing the right things and being a different man. When it becomes your way of being, you stop having to try — it's just who you are. Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1453): https://thedadedge.com/1453 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: it is never too late to turn your marriage around — but you have to be willing to truly change, not just try harder. Tara and Tim were 18 years in, kids watching, divorce on the table daily, and they found their way back to something neither of them believed was even possible. Not because life got easier. Because Tim decided to become a different man. If this episode spoke to something you're carrying right now, don't wait. The longer you wait, the more distance builds. Share this with a man who needs to hear it. Because when a man leads well at home, everybody wins. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Terrence Ogden, founder of Official Project Grit — a man who transformed a life of addiction, jail time, and rock bottom into one of the most inspiring stories of resilience, grit, and faith you'll ever hear. We start with the Immortal 32 Ruck — a 75-mile road march from Gonzales, Texas to the Alamo, now in its seventh year, inspired by the 32 men who answered the call at the Alamo knowing it was a one-way ticket. But what makes Terrence's story so gripping is where he came from. Years as a severe heroin addict, cycling in and out of jail, until a mentor named Kenny Baker reached out a hand and changed everything. That spirit of one man helping another became the DNA of Project Grit. We also get into Terrence's most extraordinary feat: a solo, self-supported 1,046-mile ruck across the entire state of Texas — 40 days, no crew, with food caches buried in the desert weeks in advance. He shares what it taught him about faith, discipline, and a peace found not in the absence of chaos, but in the presence of God within it. We close with a powerful call to any man carrying something heavy in silence. Terrence's message is simple: we are tribal by nature, and you will never find your true purpose until you're willing to ask another man for help. Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to raise leaders of families and communities [1:01] Introducing Terrence Ogden — founder of Official Project Grit and one of the toughest non-veterans you'll ever meet [1:46] The Immortal 32 Ruck: a 75-mile road march from Gonzales to the Alamo held every year around Texas Independence Day [4:18] Terrence recaps the seventh annual event — 51 starters, 35 finishers, record-breaking heat in Texas [7:32] How Official Project Grit was born — and why it starts with Terrence's story of addiction and redemption [8:19] The mentor who changed everything: Kenny Baker, the man who pulled Terrence out of the gutter [10:32] The Soul Crusher: the defining moment at mile 40 that gave birth to Project Grit's true mission [13:25] Ad break — Roommates to Soulmates Cohort preview call [15:11] Rucking as an equalizer: how a knee injury transitioned Terrence from ultramarathons to rucking [20:28] The power of reaching out — Larry's personal story of texting a friend in a dark moment [23:06] Six years sober and on the edge: Terrence's most gripping near-relapse story and the friend who saved him [28:15] The battle cry — a message for any man who is lone-wolfing it right now [30:04] Discipline before confidence: Terrence's leadership philosophy and how he's raising his kids [32:49] The 1,046-mile Texas ruck: 40 days, solo, self-supported, food caches buried in the desert [39:10] Finding peace in the desert — and why peace isn't the absence of chaos but the presence of God [41:54] The spiritual parallels to 40 days in the desert — temptation, faith, and miraculous provision [48:07] What's next: the Gritty 50 event, a book, and an upcoming documentary [50:37] Final words for the man in the dark — why reaching out to a brother changes everything Five Key Takeaways You don't have to be born tough — grit is built through facing adversity head on, one hard decision at a time. Every man needs a "running buddy" — someone who will call you out, show up for you, and help you make the right decision when your own mind is working against you. Discipline comes before confidence. Motivation fades, but discipline gives you the structure and confidence to overcome whatever comes your way. We are tribal by nature. Lone-wolfing it is a trap — strength, purpose, and redemption are almost always found by letting another man in. Peace is not found in the absence of chaos — it's found in the presence of God within the chaos. Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Official Project Grit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialprojectgrit Official Project Grit Website: https://officialprojectgrit.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1452): https://thedadedge.com/1452 Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: no man was meant to carry his heaviest load alone. Terrence Ogden went from a heroin addict cycling in and out of jail to rucking 1,046 miles solo across the state of Texas — not because he was born tough, but because one man reached out a hand when he was at rock bottom. And Terrence paid that forward. Whether you're in a season of darkness right now, or you know someone who is — this episode is a reminder that the bravest thing a man can do is pick up the phone and say, "I need help." If this conversation moved you, share it with a man in your life who needs to hear it. Go out and live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Dan Cocran, a young leader who is on a mission to help men in one of the most overlooked seasons of life—the years between 18 and 30. While many resources exist for married men, fathers, and established professionals, very few focus on young men who are still trying to find their footing in the world.   Dan shares the inspiration behind the Forging Your Future Young Men's Summit, an event designed to help young men build confidence, discover purpose, and develop the leadership skills they need to thrive in their careers, relationships, and communities.   We dive into the challenges young men face today—lack of mentorship, isolation, confusion around purpose, and the pressure to figure life out without guidance. Dan explains why community, mentorship, and intentional development are essential during this critical season of life.   We also talk about the responsibility fathers have to mentor the next generation—not just their own sons, but the young men around them. Because when men step up and invest in younger men, it doesn't just change one life—it changes families, communities, and future generations.   If you're raising sons, mentoring younger men, or simply want to understand the challenges facing the next generation of men, this conversation will open your eyes to why leadership and mentorship matter now more than ever.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction to the Dad Edge mission and the movement to create leaders of families and communities [1:02] Reflecting on the uncertainty many men experience in their early twenties [1:46] Why the years between 18 and 30 are often overlooked in male development [2:24] The importance of mentorship, guidance, and community for young men [2:45] Introducing Dan Cocran and the vision behind the Forging Your Future Young Men's Summit [3:21] Why there are few resources designed specifically for men ages 18–30 [3:56] The modern challenges young men face when trying to find direction and purpose [4:12] Why fathers should care deeply about the development of the next generation of men [4:27] Reflecting on how many men feel lost during their early adult years [4:43] Why mentorship and leadership development can dramatically change a young man's trajectory     Five Key Takeaways The years between 18 and 30 are one of the most critical stages of development for men. Many young men struggle today because they lack mentorship, direction, and supportive communities. Fathers and older men play a vital role in guiding and investing in the next generation. Community and accountability help young men build confidence and purpose. When men intentionally mentor younger men, they strengthen families and communities for generations.       Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge: https://themensforge.com Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1449): https://thedadedge.com/1449     Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: young men need guidance now more than ever. The years between 18 and 30 can shape the trajectory of a man's entire life. When young men have mentors, community, and strong examples to follow, they don't just survive those years—they build the foundation for leadership, purpose, and impact. If this episode resonated with you, share it with a father, mentor, or young man who could benefit from this conversation. Because when men step up to guide the next generation, the ripple effects are felt for decades. Go out and live legendary.

In this Wednesday Q&A episode, Uncle Joe and I respond to a powerful question from a dad who's struggling with impulsive reactions, shutting down during conflict, and feeling like he can't get out of the same argument patterns with his wife. If you've ever caught yourself reacting instead of listening, or walking away from conversations feeling frustrated and disconnected, this episode will hit close to home.   We unpack the truth that two things can be true at the same time—both partners can be overwhelmed, both can be carrying heavy loads, and both can feel unseen. The key isn't competing over who has it harder; it's learning how to step out of the competition and into collaboration. We talk about how to create psychological safety during hard conversations, how to interrupt unhealthy patterns, and why curiosity is far more powerful than defensiveness.   Uncle Joe also shares a powerful perspective about what he calls the "rucksack principle"—taking an honest inventory of what you're carrying and being willing to sacrifice things that may be important to you but aren't serving the health of your marriage or family. If you're feeling overwhelmed, reactive, or stuck in recurring conflict, this episode offers practical tools and a new perspective on leadership at home.     Timeline Summary: [1:01] Wednesday Q&A kickoff with Uncle Joe and the Dad Edge community  [2:00] Listener question about impulsive reactions, yelling, and shutting down in marriage  [4:45] The powerful truth that two things can be true at the same time  [5:56] The "100-pound rucksack" analogy for overwhelm in marriage  [7:50] How to interrupt the conflict cycle with a new conversation approach  [10:00] Creating psychological safety by changing physical positioning in conversations  [13:20] Uncle Joe's perspective on inspecting your own "rucksack" first  [16:00] What real love looks like: patience, sacrifice, and humility  [21:30] The power of daily journaling and reflection to improve emotional awareness  [24:00] Why most men struggle with relationships because of a skill gap—not bad intentions      Five Key Takeaways Two things can be true at the same time—both partners can feel overwhelmed and still need support. Competing over who has it harder only deepens conflict in marriage. Psychological safety is created through curiosity, listening, and calm tone—not defensiveness. Great leadership in marriage starts by examining your own "rucksack" first. Most relationship struggles come from a skill gap—not a lack of love or commitment.   Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1450   Closing If you've been feeling reactive, overwhelmed, or stuck in the same conflict patterns at home, remember this: leadership in marriage starts with self-awareness.   Start by checking your own rucksack. Get curious instead of defensive. Create space for real conversations instead of competition.   If this episode resonated with you, make sure you rate, review, follow, and share it with another dad who needs to hear it.   Go out and live legendary.

What does it really look like to be a present father when life pulls you in a thousand different directions?   In this powerful conversation, I sit down with actor Jon Bernthal—known for roles in The Punisher, The Walking Dead, Ford v Ferrari, and The Wolf of Wall Street—but what you'll hear today isn't about Hollywood. It's about fatherhood, humility, responsibility, and the deep influence a father can have on a son's life.   Jon opens up about his childhood, the mistakes he made growing up, and the unwavering presence of a father who never gave up on him—even during the hardest seasons. We talk about the lessons Jon learned from those experiences and how they shaped the man, husband, and father he is today.   We also dive into what intentional fatherhood looks like in real life: owning your mistakes, being present with your kids, and leading by example. Jon shares how he balances the demands of acting with showing up for his family—sometimes flying across the country overnight just to coach his kid's game.   If you've ever struggled with being present, balancing work and family, or wondering what kind of legacy you're leaving as a dad—this episode will hit home.   Timeline Summary   [0:01] Why this powerful Jon Bernthal episode is being re-released and why the message still matters  [2:06] Jon Bernthal the actor vs. Jon Bernthal the husband and father  [5:18] The powerful lessons Jon learned from his father growing up  [18:35] Growing up reckless and how his father never gave up on him  [22:02] How mistakes and failures shaped the man he became  [33:12] Balancing a demanding career with being present for family  [36:45] Why intentional presence with your kids matters more than perfection  [37:08] The simple principle Jon lives by: "Be where you are while you're there."  [44:47] Why failure and mistakes are part of being a good father  [54:26] The power of a father who never gives up on his child      Five Key Takeaways Presence is one of the greatest gifts a father can give his kids. Failure is part of fatherhood—and it's often where the biggest growth happens. Kids learn responsibility when parents model humility and ownership. A father's belief in his child can change the trajectory of that child's life. The simple discipline of "being where you are while you're there" transforms relationships.     Links & Resources   Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1451): https://thedadedge.com/1451     Closing If there's one message from this episode that stands out, it's this: your presence matters more than your perfection.   Your kids don't need a flawless father. They need a father who shows up, owns his mistakes, and never stops believing in them.   If this episode resonated with you, make sure you rate, review, follow, and share it with another dad who needs to hear it.   Go out and live legendary.

What does it actually mean to pursue excellence without losing your peace, your family, or yourself in the process?   In this episode, I sit down with New York Times bestselling author Brad Stulberg to unpack the tension so many driven men feel: the desire to achieve at a high level while still living a meaningful and grounded life. Brad shares insights from his book The Way of Excellence and explains why humans are wired to strive — but not necessarily wired to feel content once we achieve.   We dive into the trap many high-performing men fall into: constantly chasing the next milestone, promotion, or accomplishment while never feeling satisfied. Brad also shares powerful insights for fathers on how to help their kids develop a healthy relationship with effort, competition, and self-worth. If you're a driven man who struggles to slow down and enjoy the journey — or you want to raise kids who value effort and character over outcomes — this conversation will challenge how you think about success.   Timeline Summary   [0:00] Introducing Brad Stulberg and the idea behind The Way of Excellence [2:29] Why humans are wired to strive but not wired for contentment [8:57] The trap of "heroic individualism" and chasing achievement [11:04] Why success alone often leaves people feeling empty [20:08] The mountain metaphor for achievement and fulfillment [26:04] The importance of pausing to appreciate the journey [29:00] Helping kids avoid tying self-worth to results [34:46] Why youth sports should focus on development over winning [41:01] Separating identity from performance [48:55] The real goal of youth sports: helping kids want to play again next year     Five Key Takeaways Humans are wired to strive, which means the next achievement rarely brings lasting satisfaction. True excellence is about pursuing something worthwhile that aligns with your values. Focusing only on outcomes causes us to miss the meaning of the journey. Kids need to learn that effort and growth matter more than results. Fulfillment comes from aligning ambition with presence, purpose, and values.   Links & Resources The Way of Excellence (Book): https://www.amazon.com/Way-Excellence-Greatness-Satisfaction-Chaotic/dp/0063385945 Roommates to Soulmates Preview: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Link & Resources (Episode 1448): https://thedadedge.com/1448   Closing If you're a driven man constantly chasing the next milestone, this episode is a reminder to pause and ask yourself an important question: What does excellence actually mean for my life?   Success without alignment will always feel empty. But when your ambition is grounded in values, presence, and purpose — that's where real fulfillment lives.   If this episode resonated with you, make sure you rate, review, follow, and share it with another dad who needs to hear it.   Go out and live legendary.

In this powerful Q&A episode, Uncle Joe and I tackle one of the most common — and emotionally charged — challenges men face: feeling disrespected by their wives and not knowing how to respond without escalating the situation. We unpack why reacting in anger never works, why most men were never taught conflict resolution skills, and how to move from emotional reactivity to grounded leadership.   Uncle Joe also shares his raw personal story — three failed marriages, a radical transformation in faith, and what it really means to earn respect instead of demanding it. If you've ever struggled with triggers, short fuses, or feeling misunderstood at home, this episode will give you both tactical tools and deeper perspective.     Timeline Summary [1:02] Reintroducing Uncle Joe and the story behind his name [4:11] Three failed marriages and the transformation that followed  [10:59] The marriage question: What do you do when you feel disrespected?  [15:52] Why most men were never taught conflict resolution  [18:23] Fighting for what you don't want vs. clearly stating what you do want  [19:58] Creating rules of engagement for healthy conflict  [22:13] Knowing your triggers and lengthening your fuse  [28:27] Respect is earned through leadership, not demanded  [31:57] Real peace isn't the absence of chaos — it's stability in the storm      Five Key Takeaways Most men were never taught healthy conflict resolution — it's a skill you must intentionally learn. When you argue for what you don't want, you create more confusion — clarity changes everything. Emotional triggers are rarely just about your spouse — they're often tied to your own story. Respect in marriage grows when you lead consistently and earn trust daily. Real peace is developed internally — not dependent on external calm.       Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates Cohort & Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Link & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1447   Closing   If you're struggling with triggers, short fuses, or feeling disrespected at home — don't ignore it and don't explode over it.   Learn the skill. Do the work. Lead first.   If this episode helped you, make sure you rate, review, follow, and share it with another dad who needs it.   Go out and live legendary.

If you want to understand what real brotherhood looks like — not surface-level friendships, not lone wolfing it, not "I've got this" energy — but true fellowship forged through shared hardship, this episode is for you.   Today I sit down with Frank Schwartz, aka Dark Helmet, President of F3 Nation. We dive deep into faith, fellowship, fitness, and what actually changes a man. Frank shares how going from 40 pounds overweight and spiritually empty to leading a global movement of men completely transformed his identity. We talk about sad clown syndrome, why success on paper doesn't equal fulfillment, why most men isolate when they're struggling, and how shared suffering builds trust faster than anything else.   If you've ever asked yourself, "Is this it?" — you're going to want to hear this one.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Introducing Frank Schwartz (Dark Helmet) and the mission of F3 Nation [12:06] The three Fs: Fitness, Fellowship, and Faith — and why they must build in that order [18:05] The Lone Wolf Lie and why men isolate when they're struggling [24:02] Growing up with impossible standards and how that shaped identity [28:56] Sad Clown Syndrome — winning on paper but empty inside [39:00] The pull-up moment that redefined what brotherhood really means [48:49] Do you have what it takes? The answer every man needs to hear     Five Key Takeaways Discipline starts physically — but real transformation is internal. Surface-level friendships will never sustain a man in crisis. Shared suffering accelerates trust faster than conversation alone. Success without brotherhood often leads to quiet emptiness. Every man asks "Do I have what it takes?" — and the answer is yes.     Links & Resources F3 Nation: https://f3nation.com Frank Schwartz Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leadwithvirtue The Men's Forge Live Event: https://themensforge.com Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1446       Closing     If you're tired of lone wolfing it… if you're successful on paper but feel disconnected… if you know there's more inside you but you haven't unlocked it yet — this episode is your invitation.   Get around strong men. Put yourself in the arena. Do hard things shoulder to shoulder.   If this episode resonated, make sure you rate, review, follow, and share it with another dad who needs to hear it.   Let's go live legendary.

In this solo episode, I share what's coming in March inside the Dad Edge Alliance, including a full breakdown of how we're helping dads move from authoritarian parenting to grounded leadership and collaboration. I also announce The Men's Forge live event, the next Roommates to Soulmates cohort, and highlight an incredible 1st Phorm transformation story from inside our community.   If you've been feeling the drift — in your parenting, your marriage, your energy, or your leadership — this episode is your reset.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Who this episode is for — dads stuck in power struggles or marriage drift [4:19] Why holding kids accountable feels harder than asking them to do something [5:51] Moving from authoritarian parenting to grounded leadership [7:06] Mastering regulation before correction [8:16] Building accountability without authoritarian energy [9:59] The Men's Forge live event announcement [13:22] Guest speaker lineup including G.S. Youngblood [15:03] F3 Nation President Frank "Dark Helmet" Schwarze joining the event [17:01] Dad Edge 1st Phorm Dad of the Month transformation [18:53] Roommates to Soulmates course update and preview call details     Five Key Takeaways: Authoritarian parenting creates compliance — but often erodes trust. Regulation before correction is a leadership skill every dad needs. Collaboration builds accountability far better than control. Intimacy fades when emotional leadership is missing at home. Transformation accelerates in community, not isolation.     Links & Resources Roommates to Soulmates: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge Live Event: https://themensforge.com Micro Factor Pack: https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor/?a_aid=dadedge Phormula-1 + Ignition (Post Workout Stack): https://1stphorm.com/products/post-workout-stack/?a_aid=dadedge Collagen with Dermaval: https://1stphorm.com/products/collagen-with-dermaval/?a_aid=dadedge Protein Beef Sticks: https://1stphorm.com/products/protein-sticks?a_aid=dadedge&a_bid=970de3cd Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1445     Closing Remark If you're tired of the battles at home, the roommate vibe in your marriage, or feeling worn down physically and emotionally — don't wait for crisis.   Take action.   Join us. Step in. Lead differently.   From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

In this powerful behind-the-scenes conversation, Marc and I sit down to unpack Eric's story — a successful entrepreneur, father of five, and longtime member of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom. Eric opens up about the strained season in his marriage, the subtle warning signs he ignored, and the moment his wife Katie made it clear that change needed to happen.   This episode is about more than marriage repair. It's about ownership. It's about learning skills most men were never taught — emotional validation, empathy, leadership at home — and realizing that waiting for crisis only makes the climb steeper. If you're a busy business owner who feels scattered, distracted, or "almost disconnected" at home, this conversation will hit close to home.       Timeline Summary: [0:00] The distraction trap of entrepreneurship and busyness  [4:48] Eric shares the difficult season in his marriage before joining  [7:18] The early warning signs and Katie's wake-up call  [9:06] Why waiting for crisis puts men into panic mode  [13:48] Learning emotional validation and empathy as new skills  [16:11] Skills vs. identity change — upgrading your operating system  [19:17] The public signs that Eric's marriage was turning around  [22:31] Why you must change first instead of waiting for your wife to  [26:47] Eric's biggest advice: find a community of strong men  [29:32] The power of psychological safety and brotherhood      Five Key Takeaways The drift from good to terrible is gradual — then sudden. Don't wait for the cliff. Panic is not the best place to rebuild a marriage. Address the rumblings early. Emotional validation and empathy are skills — not personality traits. Identity change happens through environment and repetition. If you want your marriage to change, you must change first.     Links & Resources: Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/preview Dad Edge Business Boardroom (Mastermind): https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1444     Closing Remark: If you're feeling that quiet tension at home — the subtle disconnect, the busyness, the emotional distance — don't wait for an ultimatum to force your hand.   You don't have to do this alone.   If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Every share helps us reach more men who are ready to lead at home the way they lead in business.   From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

Do you ever feel like there's a relentless critic living inside your head?   The one that questions your worth, second-guesses your decisions, and tells you that you're not enough — as a husband, father, or leader?   In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, I sit down with Ashleigh Di Lello, founder of Bio Emotional Healing, to unpack the neuroscience behind the inner critic, self-sabotage, chronic stress, and identity. Ashleigh shares her extraordinary story — from being told at 13 she wouldn't survive a rare viral illness, to rebuilding her body and career as an elite dancer, to losing everything again after a failed surgery left her in chronic pain. What she discovered about the brain, the nervous system, and self-compassion doesn't just apply to injury — it applies to every man stuck in anxiety, pressure, and silent self-judgment.   This isn't about positive thinking. It's about understanding how your nervous system works, how identity is formed, and how to rewire the patterns that keep you reactive, disconnected, and exhausted. If you're tired of white-knuckling life and ready for real tools grounded in neuroscience, this episode is for you.     Timeline Summary [0:00] The inner critic most men silently battle [2:05] Ashleigh's diagnosis at 13 and being told she wouldn't survive [18:45] Using mental rehearsal to rebuild neural pathways [26:43] Losing her career after a failed surgery [30:45] Studying neuroscience to "flip the pain switch" [35:12] What harsh self-criticism does to the brain [44:16] The five-minute "container" exercise [59:06] Rewriting identity through intentional self-talk     Five Key Takeaways Harsh self-criticism activates fight-or-flight and blocks growth. Self-compassion is neurological safety — not weakness. Your brain validates whatever identity you reinforce. You can't lie to your brain, but you can guide it. What you suppress gains power — structured processing creates freedom.   Links & Resources: Ashleigh Di Lello Website: https://www.ashleighdilello.com Follow Ashleigh on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleighdilello/ Collagen (1st Phorm – what I personally use): https://1stphorm.com/products/collagen-with-dermaval/?a_aid=dadedge Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/preview Dad Edge Business Boardroom (Mastermind): https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1443     Closing Remark If this episode hit home — if you recognized that voice in your head — I challenge you to try the five-minute container exercise this week. Lead yourself with steadiness. Lead your family with clarity.   If you found value in today's conversation, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Every share helps us impact more fathers, families, and future generations.   From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Ross Greene, clinical psychologist and creator of the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions (CPS) model, to unpack why traditional rewards and punishments often make behavior worse — not better. We dive deep into why "because I said so" stops working, what your child's frustration is actually communicating, and how to shift from authoritarian control to collaborative leadership that builds trust, accountability, and critical thinking.   If you've ever thought, "Why is this not working anymore?" this episode will give you a radically different lens — and practical tools you can use immediately.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why power struggles are so common in parenting [2:00] Introducing Dr. Ross Greene and the CPS model  [6:17] Why rewards and punishments don't solve the real problem  [8:33] Concerning behavior as a frustration response  [12:04] The 3-step collaborative problem-solving process explained  [16:19] Real-life example: solving teeth brushing battles with a 3-year-old  [30:56] Curfew conflict and how to navigate teenage resistance  [37:16] How collaborative parenting builds critical thinking  [41:56] Why authoritarian parenting may cause long-term harm  [47:06] Developmental variability — why every child is different  [49:23] Why noncompliance is informative, not defiance  [56:31] Accountability through collaboration — not punishment      Five Key Takeaways Concerning behavior is a signal, not a character flaw. It communicates an unsolved problem.  Rewards and punishments modify behavior — they don't solve the underlying issue.  The 3-step CPS process (Empathy, Define Adult Concern, Invitation) reduces conflict and builds trust.  Noncompliance is information. It tells you an expectation may exceed your child's current skill set.  Collaborative leadership builds accountability, emotional regulation, and critical thinking.      Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: http://thedadedge.com/preview Dad Edge Business Boardroom (Mastermind): https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Dr. Ross Greene — Lives in the Balance (Free Resources): https://livesinthebalance.org Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1442   Closing Remark   If this episode challenged how you think about discipline, accountability, and leadership at home, don't just sit on it — put it into practice. Try the empathy step tonight. Lead with curiosity. Solve one unsolved problem.   If this conversation impacted you, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. The way we parent today shapes the leaders of tomorrow.   From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

In this powerful behind-the-scenes conversation, I sit down with Marc Hildebrand — former LAPD sergeant turned high-performance coach — to unpack what men are actually thinking before they decide to step into brotherhood. We break down the hidden anxiety, ego, embarrassment, and "mind talk" that keeps men isolated, stuck, and spinning in quiet defeat.   You'll hear raw audio from one of our members, Tim Cox, as he shares what life looked like before he joined — the mental spiral, the weight gain, the doctor's warning, the loneliness, and the breakthrough that changed everything. This episode isn't just about business or health. It's about identity. It's about the stories we tell ourselves. And it's about the moment a man decides he's no longer doing life alone.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why men feel defeated before they ever ask for help [3:37] Marc Hildebrand's transformation from overweight LAPD sergeant to coach [9:20] Tim's confession: anxiety, mind talk, and feeling like a fraud [11:01] The danger of "should" statements and internal pressure [17:22] Ego, embarrassment, and the fear of being seen [24:58] The doctor's ultimatum: insulin or change [27:01] Dopamine, food, and emotional coping [30:52] Rock bottom isn't a place — it's a decision [34:22] Why you shouldn't wait until crisis hits [37:54] "You're not alone" — the most powerful realization [41:03] The myth of the lone wolf [44:21] Inside Base Camp: the first 6 weeks of transformation [46:19] The BRAVE Man Code framework explained [49:57] Thinking differently and leveling up identity [53:39] Why Larry left a lucrative corporate career to build The Dad Edge     Five Key Takeaways Rock bottom is not a location — it's a decision to stop going lower. Ego often disguises itself as embarrassment and self-protection. Isolation amplifies anxiety — brotherhood dissolves it. Health transformation starts with identity, not tactics. You don't have to wait for crisis to change direction.     Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: http://thedadedge.com/preview Dad Edge Business Boardroom (Mastermind): https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com     Closing Remark If you've been telling yourself you'll change when it "gets bad enough," this is your sign not to wait. You're not alone — and you don't have to figure this out by yourself.   If this episode hit home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Let's change the trajectory of fathers, families, and future generations.   From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Mat Lewczenko — entrepreneur, coach, and author of The Entrepreneur's Regret — to unpack what it feels like to be winning on paper while quietly losing at home. Mat shares his story of growing up as a Polish political refugee, building success through grit and discipline, and eventually finding himself at the top of his professional game… but emotionally empty, disconnected, and on the verge of self-sabotage.   We talk about the silent epidemic facing high-performing entrepreneurs — entrepreneurial drift — and what it takes to reclaim your nights, weekends, relationships, and sanity. This episode is a wake-up call for any man chasing more while feeling less.     Timeline Summary [0:00] The concept of "Rock Top" — succeeding outwardly while unraveling inwardly [1:41] Mat's family escaping Poland as political refugees before martial law [3:02] Growing up in an immigrant household built on pride, discipline, and ownership [10:10] Early lessons on earning what you want and respecting what you own [17:47] The tension between giving kids a better life without raising them soft [24:58] Mat's pivot from theater professor to real estate entrepreneur [30:29] The breaking point — winning at work while losing at home [31:31] The porch conversation where his wife said, "You don't get to do this" [35:29] Realizing he couldn't even name his core values [36:33] The North Star Values process and regaining alignment [40:52] The three pillars — Leadership, Love, and Life [41:30] Why being "all in" where you are eliminates guilt and fragmentation [45:28] The danger of climbing the wrong mountain [47:06] Why you must go back through the clouds to choose a new summit [54:28] Small hinges swing big doors — 15 intentional minutes a day [58:32] Presence over presents — how to win back connection at home     Five Key Takeaways Rock Top is real — you can be crushing it professionally while quietly collapsing personally. Clarity of core values simplifies decision-making and eliminates internal friction. Entrepreneurial drift happens gradually, then suddenly — awareness must come before crisis. Being fully present where you are removes guilt and fragmentation. Small, consistent intentional actions create massive relational change.     Links & Resources The Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Mat Lewczenko on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mat-lewczenko/ Mat Lewczenko on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mat.lewczenko/?hl=en Mat's Podcast (Buzzsprout): https://www.buzzsprout.com/1956169/episodes Mat Lewczenko — Additional Resource: https://ifgrxppecbxjqjkoyvl7.app.clientclub.net/courses/offers/82985e7c-be3c-41c2-b004-8e703e688431?fbclid=IwRlRTSAP-xitleHRuA2FlbQIxMABzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEe9kqpb3eiIFwdvocjWzIhjjxamujPzRooAIcu6RVT7W6_R-3B3c7XJyb5y5Q_aem_pxafoSiJqIhIG7u_vMzVeQ Mat's Book – https://a.co/d/02QOVPcr Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1440     Closing Remark   If you're climbing fast but feeling empty at the top, this episode is your invitation to reassess the mountain you're on. You don't have to lose your family to win in business. If this conversation hit home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Let's build success that we don't regret.   From my heart to yours — go out and live legendary.

In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, I sit down with Thomas "TJ" Baird — a 32-year Army veteran with 20 deployments — to talk about the real battle that followed the battlefield. TJ shares what it was like growing up with a father who was frequently deployed, only to find himself repeating that same pattern with his own daughter.   But this isn't just a military story — it's a fatherhood story. It's about PTSD, pride, brotherhood, humility, and the moment a man decides he's done living in the dark. TJ opens up about the night he realized he needed help, the ultimatum that changed everything, and the internal war between staying stuck and choosing the path toward peace. If you've ever struggled in silence or felt the weight of your past shaping your present, this episode will hit home.     Timeline Summary [0:00] The image that defines the episode — destruction on one side, sunrise on the other [2:10] 32 years of service and 20 deployments across the globe [9:20] Realizing he was becoming the father he once resented [24:17] His daughter telling him at age six, "Dad, you're too scary" [26:28] Writing Warrior Dad as a tribute to his daughter [35:07] The battlefield moment — seeing war to the west and sunlight to the east [42:12] Why most men stay stuck instead of choosing growth [47:38] The turning point — giving himself permission to get help [50:40] Walking into behavioral health as a senior enlisted leader [52:06] Leading by example so younger soldiers wouldn't suffer in silence     Five Key Takeaways You can unknowingly repeat the very patterns you once resented. There is always a path toward peace — but you have to choose it. Growth requires surrendering ego and asking for help. Brotherhood and accountability accelerate healing. Your family is waiting at the finish line — not your career.     Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call (RSVP): http://thedadedge.com/preview Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1439     Closing Remark If this conversation resonated with you — if you've been carrying something heavy in silence — let this be your sign to step toward the light. You don't have to do it alone. Please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast if this episode impacted you. From my heart to yours, go out and live legendary.

In this Q&A episode, Uncle Joe and I dive into one of the most common—and misunderstood—struggles in marriage: emotional connection. We respond to a powerful question from Alex, a husband who genuinely wants to show up better for his wife but feels stuck, unsure how to respond to her emotions, and frustrated that his efforts don't seem to land.   This conversation breaks down why men default to "fix-it mode," why that instinct actually creates disconnection, and how emotional safety—not solutions—is what most women are truly seeking. We unpack practical, real-world skills for listening, validating, and reconnecting with your wife, especially after years of habit and complacency. If your wife has ever said, "I don't feel connected to you," this episode will give you clarity, direction, and a better way forward.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Introduction [1:02] Opening conversation about Valentine's Day and intentional connection [2:55] Alex's question about building emotional connection with his wife [4:10] Hearing hard feedback: "I don't feel connected or loved" [5:14] How long-term habits quietly shape marriage dynamics [6:03] Why men feel uncomfortable with big emotions [7:12] The difference between fixing problems and creating connection [8:10] Why women share emotions—to feel seen, not saved [9:00] Transactional conversations vs. emotional safety [10:14] Joe explains why feedback is actually a gift [10:59] Pebbles vs. boulders and minimizing your wife's feelings [11:56] Why "it's not a big deal" damages trust [12:17] Understanding how your wife feels loved [13:19] Acts of service and practical ways to reduce her stress [14:11] Real-life example of how small actions rebuild connection [15:19] Curiosity as the foundation of emotional intimacy [16:46] Leading with humility and listening through awkward silence [17:31] Treating your wife like you did when you first dated [19:02] Complacency as the silent killer of attraction [20:13] Why long-term relationships require intentional effort [21:09] Being challenged as an act of love [22:11] Brotherhood, faith, and the mission of the Dad Edge Alliance [23:08] Invitation to the Dad Edge Alliance preview call [23:47] Closing encouragement and next steps     Five Key Takeaways Emotional connection is built through presence, not problem-solving. Fixing minimizes feelings—listening creates safety. What feels small to you may feel huge to your wife. Curiosity and humility rebuild intimacy faster than tactics. Treating your wife like you did in the beginning keeps the relationship alive.     Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call (RSVP): http://thedadedge.com/preview Dad Edge Alliance (Marriage, Parenting, Health, Leadership): https://thedadedge.com/alliance Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1438     Closing Remark If this episode gave you language or perspective you didn't have before, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Emotional connection isn't about being perfect—it's about being present, curious, and consistent. From my heart to yours, go out and live legendary.

Some men are shaped by comfort. Others are forged in chaos. In this episode, I sit down with Kelly Siegel, founder of the Harder Than Life movement, to unpack what it actually takes to break generational cycles, rebuild trust with yourself, and lead your family with discipline and integrity—no matter where you came from.   Kelly shares his raw story of growing up in extreme abuse, addiction, and instability, and how sobriety, radical self-discipline, and daily non-negotiable routines completely transformed his life. We talk about nervous system healing, trusting yourself again, enforcing boundaries instead of talking about them, and what it looks like to be the father you never had. This conversation is intense, honest, and deeply hopeful for any man who refuses to let his past dictate his future.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why excuses keep men stuck and how discipline breaks the cycle [1:39] Introducing Kelly Siegel and the Harder Than Life movement [2:22] Growing up in extreme chaos, abuse, and addiction [2:50] Turning trauma into fuel instead of identity [5:21] Seven years of sobriety and the decision that changed everything [7:31] Handling judgment, criticism, and online hate without losing integrity [8:55] Keeping your word to yourself when no one is watching [10:10] Childhood abuse and how it dysregulates the nervous system [12:03] Why sobriety unlocked clarity, discipline, and purpose [14:48] Cutting off toxic family relationships to protect healing [18:52] Forgiveness as freedom—not reconciliation [19:48] EMDR, hypnotherapy, and deep therapeutic work [22:03] Kelly's exact daily routine and why structure creates safety [24:26] Learning to love yourself when you never experienced it growing up [26:04] Cooking breakfast daily and building connection with his daughter [27:53] Asking better questions to deepen parent-child connection [29:38] Trusting yourself as the foundation of confidence [33:04] Boundaries vs. standards—and the power of enforcement [35:36] Why hard challenges build unshakeable self-trust [40:33] Breaking generational cycles and raising a confident daughter [45:44] Finding the gifts inside even the most painful childhoods [50:31] Why you don't owe access to people who hurt you [54:03] Strong fathers as the solution to cultural chaos [57:29] Healing yourself to heal the world     Five Key Takeaways Discipline creates freedom, especially for men who grew up in chaos.  Trust is built by keeping promises to yourself, not by motivation or hype.  Boundaries only work when they're enforced, not just talked about.  Healing your nervous system changes how you lead, parent, and love.  You can break generational cycles, even if no one modeled it for you.      Links & Resources Kelly Siegel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelly.siegel.71/ Kelly Siegel on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officialkellysiegel Kelly Siegel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelly-siegel-0146a3/ Harder Than Life Podcast: https://www.harderthanlife.com/podcasts/ Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1437     Closing Remark   If this episode challenged you to stop making excuses and start keeping promises to yourself, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your past does not define you—but your daily discipline will. From my heart to yours, go out and live legendary.

Most men and women enter marriage wildly untrained—and then wonder why connection, intimacy, and trust slowly erode over time. In this powerful and deeply thought-provoking conversation, I sit down with January Donovan, founder of the Woman School and Wholeness Coaching School, to explore why information alone will never change a marriage—and why training is the missing ingredient for lasting connection.   January shares her personal story of trauma, mentorship, and formation, and explains how emotional command, discipline, tonality, and boundaries shape the way men and women show up in relationships. We talk about why modern culture resists discipline, how "freedom" without formation leads to loneliness, and why both men and women must train intentionally if they want marriages that actually get better over time. This episode will challenge the way you think about growth, leadership, and what it really means to live fully alive.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why most people feel unprepared for marriage and parenting [2:06] Introducing January Donovan and her work training women globally [3:02] Why information alone never leads to real change [4:10] January's origin story and the wounds that led her to this work [6:12] The power of mentorship and intentional formation [8:33] Growing up with deep insecurity and identity wounds [10:17] Unprocessed trauma, abortion, and living in quiet desperation [11:52] How disciplined training reshaped January's life [13:18] Why women resist the word "discipline" [14:50] Formation vs. freedom and the danger of untrained choice [16:07] Emotional command and generational anxiety [17:37] Why marriage requires the same training as any profession [19:35] Decision-making, tonality, and communication gaps [21:12] Why motherhood feels overwhelming without training [22:02] Studying your spouse as a form of love [23:12] Larry reflects on minimal marriage prep vs. decades of marriage [25:10] Why people resist investing in growth [27:06] Distraction, shallow desires, and information overload [28:35] Re-educating sexuality and restoring healthy masculinity and femininity [32:30] Dad Edge Alliance preview call invitation [36:14] Why training together is the future for men and women [40:18] Micro-skills that shape daily life and marriage [43:07] Tonality and how women can build or break men emotionally [47:02] Proactivity, masculinity, and relational safety [49:25] Gossip, integrity, and protecting your spouse's reputation [53:20] Excellence, interior freedom, and choosing your highest good [59:02] Casting a long-term vision for marriage and legacy     Five Key Takeaways Marriage doesn't fail because people don't care—it fails because they were never trained. Information without formation leads to frustration, not transformation. Discipline and emotional command create freedom, not restriction. Tonality, presence, and self-regulation shape attraction and safety in marriage. Men and women must train together if they want relationships that thrive long-term.     Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/preview January Donovan Website: https://januarydonovan.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/january.donovan_/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JanuaryDonovan Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1436     Closing Remark If this episode challenged how you think about marriage, growth, or leadership, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Beautiful lives don't happen by accident—they're trained for. From my heart to yours, go out and live legendary.

In this live Q&A episode, Uncle Joe and I tackle some of the heaviest—and most common—situations men face inside marriage: supporting a wife through serious mental health challenges, staying grounded when divorce is still on the table, and learning how to lead with consistency instead of panic.   We respond to real questions from men inside the Dad Edge Alliance who are walking through postpartum depression, PMDD, emotional volatility, and marital uncertainty. This conversation is about becoming an advocate instead of a victim, choosing consistency over crisis-mode behavior, and learning how to lead yourself well—regardless of whether your marriage outcome is guaranteed. If you're in a season where hope feels thin and the work feels exhausting, this episode will remind you what leadership actually looks like when things are hard.     Timeline Summary [000] Opening reflections on fatherhood, sleepless nights, and perspective [3:18] Setting expectations for live Q&A and imperfect conversations [4:41] Corey's question: supporting a wife with postpartum depression and PMDD [6:19] Understanding PMDD as a hormonal sensitivity disorder [8:33] Why mood shifts are not character flaws or choices [9:58] Becoming an advocate instead of minimizing mental health struggles [11:05] Practical leadership: nutrition, structure, and reducing stress [12:25] Why a man's emotional and spiritual health matters most in crisis [13:10] Research on spiritual disciplines and emotional regulation [14:11] Becoming a "merchant of hope" in your household [15:00] Why men must take care of their inner world first [16:02] Corey shares his early experience inside the Dad Edge Alliance [17:02] Playing the long game and resisting discouragement [18:07] Using brotherhood instead of isolation [18:48] Announcement: Dad Edge Alliance preview call [20:15] Where to find episode resources and symptom notes [21:05] Second question: staying consistent while divorce is still mentioned [24:56] Identifying behaviors that contributed to marital breakdown [26:04] Why wives wait to see if change is real [27:16] Consistency as a non-negotiable value [28:46] Doing the work regardless of outcome [31:01] Why self-led change benefits you no matter what [32:24] Showing up as a grounded, playful, present father [33:37] Why it often gets worse before it gets better     Five Key Takeaways Mental health struggles are not character flaws, and leadership starts with education and empathy. Consistency builds trust, especially when a spouse is waiting for the "other shoe to drop." Men must do the work for themselves first, not as a strategy to save a marriage. Hope is contagious, but only if the man leading the home is grounded and regulated. Brotherhood prevents isolation, especially when marriage feels uncertain.   Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call (RSVP): https://thedadedge.com/preview Dad Edge Alliance (Marriage, Parenting, Health, Leadership): https://thedadedge.com/alliance All Episode Notes & Symptom Resources (Google Doc): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1_4GeLtmhvbZg-ZzKvBWQyz5aneCcHCYOYfD-r0uzNnE/edit?usp=sharing Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1435     Closing Remark If you're walking through a season where leadership feels heavy and outcomes feel uncertain, remember this: your consistency, integrity, and growth still matter. Thank you for being men who show up, ask hard questions, and refuse to drift. From my heart to yours—keep going, and live legendary.

If you feel inflamed, exhausted, stuck in recovery mode, or like your body just doesn't bounce back the way it used to, this episode is for you. In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Adam Boender, chiropractor-turned-peptide educator, to unpack how men can reclaim their health, energy, and recovery—without shortcuts or hype.   Dr. Adam shares how peptides actually work at the cellular level, why most men don't have a deficiency problem but a communication problem inside their bodies, and how strategic tools like peptides, nutrition, and movement work best when paired with discipline and intention. We go deep on recovery peptides, fat loss versus weight loss, GLP-1 medications, food quality, inflammation, and why no supplement or peptide replaces doing the hard work. This episode is a masterclass in health, responsibility, and long-term performance for men who want their bodies—and lives—back.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Why this episode is for men who feel inflamed, tired, and stuck [1:41] How Larry and Dr. Adam connected after a serious knee injury [2:38] Recovering from a ruptured patellar tendon and the urgency to heal [3:03] Dr. Adam's background as a chiropractor turned peptide educator [3:27] Teaching clinicians how to use peptides safely and effectively [4:08] Why peptides are still misunderstood by most men [6:20] From one-on-one practice to helping clinicians impact thousands [8:38] Family illness and the catalyst for Dr. Adam's career shift [10:16] Why "one-to-many" impact matters in healthcare [11:15] How peptides supported Larry's accelerated recovery [12:23] Getting off crutches and braces weeks ahead of schedule [13:33] Why peptides work best when paired with discipline and rehab [16:12] What peptides actually are and how cellular communication works [18:20] Epitalon: the "reset peptide" for sleep, recovery, and longevity [20:37] BPC-157 as the "multivitamin" of peptides [22:10] Gut health, inflammation, and joint recovery explained [24:17] How BPC-157 increases blood flow and healing in joints [26:13] Recovery break and nutrition fundamentals [28:04] Why BPC-157 and TB-500 are often paired together [29:16] TB-500 and stem cell signaling for tissue repair [31:09] Copper peptide for collagen, joints, and longevity [35:09] Injectable vs. oral peptide absorption [36:21] GLP-1 medications explained simply [38:12] Fat loss vs. weight loss and why protein intake matters [41:03] Why muscle preservation is critical during fat loss [43:03] Genetics, obesity, and the myth of "bad genes" [48:36] Peptides as tools—not magic bullets [50:54] Defining true health as the ability to heal [53:05] Why processed food is breaking our bodies [55:07] Eating real food as the foundation of health [57:32] Fueling your body like a high-performance machine     Five Key Takeaways: Peptides improve cellular communication, but they don't replace discipline, movement, or nutrition.  Inflammation and poor recovery are often communication problems, not deficiencies.  Fat loss is not the same as weight loss, and preserving muscle must be the priority.  Genetics load the gun, but lifestyle pulls the trigger, especially with health outcomes.  True health is the body's ability to heal, not just the absence of disease.      Links & Resources MicroFactor Pack: https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor/?a_aid=dadedge Opti-Greens 50: https://1stphorm.com/products/opti-greens-50/?a_aid=dadedge Post-Workout Stack: https://1stphorm.com/products/postworkout-stack?a_aid=dadedge Collagen with Dermaval: https://1stphorm.com/products/collagen-with-dermaval/?a_aid=dadedge Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1434     Closing Remark If this episode challenged how you think about health, recovery, or responsibility, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. There are no shortcuts—only tools, discipline, and intentional action. Take care of your body, and it will take care of the life you're building.

Divorce doesn't just end a marriage—it can shatter a man's identity, confidence, and sense of direction. In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, I sit down with my close friend Ryan Michler, founder of Order of Man, to talk openly about what it really looks like to navigate divorce as a man—and come out stronger on the other side.   Ryan shares his personal experience of being divorced for nearly three years, including the identity loss men feel when they're no longer husbands or full-time dads, the mistakes many men make by orienting their lives around their ex, and why healing starts when you make yourself the project. We also dive into rebuilding relationships with kids, handling co-parenting with integrity, resisting isolation, and why brotherhood is non-negotiable in seasons of separation. If you're divorced, separated, or supporting a man who is—this episode is required listening.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why this episode is for divorced and separated dads [2:35] Introducing Ryan Michler and his journey through divorce [3:37] Losing identity as a husband and father after divorce [4:59] Feeling like "less of a man" after separation [6:02] Why orienting your life around your ex is a mistake [7:21] Making yourself the project after divorce [9:01] Isolation, vices, and the danger of being alone too much [10:45] Why brotherhood accelerates healing [12:15] Journaling, self-regulation, and daily discipline [14:06] Rebuilding physical health and confidence [15:32] Redefining masculinity and self-worth [17:15] Being honest—but appropriate—with kids about divorce [19:02] Staying present in your kids' lives beyond "your time" [21:11] Customizing connection with each child [23:23] Never giving up on estranged relationships [25:08] Civility, boundaries, and co-parenting with integrity [29:02] Why consistency matters more than outcomes [31:22] Divorce Not Death program overview [34:40] The Men's Forge experience and why it's different [38:15] Bringing sons to Men's Forge and legacy building [41:41] What boys learn by watching their fathers lead [45:54] Final encouragement for men navigating divorce     Five Key Takeaways Divorce shakes a man's identity, but it doesn't have to define his future.  Healing begins when men stop orienting around their ex and start orienting around growth.  Isolation amplifies pain, while brotherhood shortens the recovery curve.  Consistency and integrity rebuild trust with kids, even when relationships feel strained.  Men who make themselves the project come out stronger, healthier, and more grounded.      Links & Resources Men's Forge Event: https://themensforge.com Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/preview 1st Phorm Dad Edge Challenge: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Divorce Not Death Program: https://divorcenotdeath.com Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1433     Closing Remark If this episode spoke to where you're at—or where you've been—please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Divorce is not the end of your story. With discipline, brotherhood, and intention, it can be the beginning of a stronger chapter. Go out and live legendary.

Connecting with teenage daughters can feel like trying to break through a locked door—especially when rejection, distance, and silence start to replace the closeness you once had. In this Q&A episode, I'm joined by Uncle Joe as we tackle two deeply relatable questions from dads who are doing their best but feel stuck, unsure, and disconnected.   We dive into what it really takes to win a teenage daughter's heart without forcing connection, why consistency matters more than instant results, and how dads can stop taking rejection personally while still staying emotionally available. We also address marriage and money decisions, showing how curiosity, values, and asking better questions can transform conflict into teamwork. This episode is packed with wisdom, reassurance, and practical strategies for dads who refuse to give up on their kids or their marriage.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Welcoming listeners to the final Q&A episode of January 2026 [2:37] A dad's question about connecting with his 14-year-old daughter [4:10] Why teenage girls often pull away during adolescence [4:33] Recommended reading: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters [5:12] Learning what matters to your daughter to win her heart [6:35] Why genuine interest builds emotional safety [7:16] Consistency over comfort when facing rejection [8:08] Not internalizing rejection from teenage daughters [8:57] How facial expressions communicate disappointment [9:15] "Aim for the heart" and understanding a child's unique wiring [10:19] Engaging with your daughter's interests without trying to be "cool" [11:21] Alliance member perspective on grit and perseverance [12:37] Why daughters notice effort even when they don't respond [13:03] Dr. Lisa Damour's insights on never giving up [14:08] Why your daughter will remember whether you stayed or quit [15:11] Second question: marriage, money, and trust [16:34] How "telling" shuts down conversations with your wife [17:08] Leading with curiosity instead of control [18:10] Asking questions that invite reflection and teamwork [19:36] Validating your wife's values before problem-solving [21:11] Enabling vs. empowering family members [23:23] Using shared family values as a decision-making framework [26:18] Why aligned values reduce conflict in marriage [29:18] Faith, provision, and living out core values [30:57] Resources for dads raising teenagers [31:16] Where to find all episode links and next steps     Five Key Takeaways Winning a teenage daughter's heart requires consistency, not instant validation.  Rejection isn't personal—it's developmental, and dads must stay steady through it.  Genuine curiosity builds connection far more than control or correction.  Asking better questions reduces marriage conflict, especially around money and family decisions.  Shared values create clarity, alignment, and peace in family decision-making.      Links & Resources Guiding Teenage Girls Into Adulthood (Dad Edge Episode): https://thedadedge.com/guiding-teenage-girls-into-adulthood-with-dr-lisa-damour/ Dr. Lisa Damour Website: https://drlisadamour.com/ Dr. Lisa Damour on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisa.damour/ Dr. Lisa Damour on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSt8mu1taNYAHTufbYwqglFHoevbZgNQl Dr. Lisa Damour on Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/Ldamour Dr. Lisa Damour on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisadamourphd Dr. Lisa Damour Podcast: https://drlisadamour.com/resources/podcast/ How to Manage a Meltdown (PDF): https://drlisadamour.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/LD_Bookmarks_How_to_Manage_a_Meltdown.pdf Meg Meeker on The Dad Edge Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/meg-meeker/ Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1432   Closing Remark If this episode encouraged you to stay the course with your kids or approach your marriage with more curiosity and patience, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your consistency today becomes your children's security tomorrow. Go out and live legendary.

In this solo episode, I pull back the curtain on everything happening inside the Dad Edge ecosystem as we close out January and head into February. If your marriage feels disconnected, your health slipped during the holidays, or you've been looking for real skills—not motivation—this episode lays out exactly what's available and how to plug in.   I share my own story of marriage struggle, why only a small percentage of couples truly feel connected, and how becoming a student of marriage completely changed the trajectory of my relationship. From February's marriage-focused tactical agenda inside the Dad Edge Alliance, to the 1st Phorm 8-week challenge, to major announcements around preview calls and the Men's Forge event, this episode is about clarity, opportunity, and intentional action for men who want their marriage and leadership to look different in 2026.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Keeping the blooper and why imperfection matters in fatherhood [1:35] Larry reflects on the first 10–12 years of marriage struggles [2:27] When marriage turns into co-parenting and roommate syndrome [3:07] Becoming a student of marriage and why things finally changed [3:27] Only 12% of marriages report deep connection [3:52] Introducing the Dad Edge ecosystem [4:11] Overview of the Dad Edge Alliance [4:50] February tactical agenda inside the Alliance [5:09] Why February always focuses on marriage skills [5:28] Week 1: Attraction, identity, and masculine presence [6:11] Week 2: Leading without chasing or needy energy [6:35] Week 3: Boundaries that create desire [6:55] Week 4: Emotional safety and attraction [7:39] Why February is the best month to join the Alliance [8:01] Roommates to Soulmates cohort selling out quickly [8:41] Holiday weight gain and the need for a physical reset [9:01] 1st Phorm Dad Edge 8-week challenge overview [9:42] Challenge dates and community support [10:19] January Dad Edge 1st Phorm Dad of the Month recognition [11:01] Alliance preview call announcement [11:24] What men will learn on the preview call [12:17] Moving away from social media noise [14:06] Men's Forge 2026 announcement [14:51] Why this event is different [15:41] Where to find all links and next steps [16:04] Gratitude and closing encouragement     Five Key Takeaways Most men were never taught how to lead a marriage, which is why skill-building—not willpower—creates change. Attraction in marriage evolves, and men must adapt leadership, presence, and identity. Boundaries and emotional safety create desire, not chasing or people-pleasing. Physical health fuels confidence and leadership, especially inside marriage. Community accelerates growth, when men commit to accountability and action.     Links & Resources: Dad Edge Alliance (Marriage, Parenting, Health, Leadership): https://thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Alliance Preview Call: https://thedadedge.com/preview 1st Phorm Dad Edge 8-Week Challenge: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Men's Forge 2026 Event: https://themensforge.com All Episode Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1431     Closing Remark Gentlemen, if you want your marriage, health, and leadership to look different in 2026, this is your moment to engage. Thank you for your continued support, your reviews, and your commitment to doing the work. From my heart to yours—let's continue to live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, psychologist, professor at the University of Washington, and author of You Could Be Having Better Sex, for one of the most honest, research-backed conversations we've ever had about sex, intimacy, and connection in long-term marriage.   This isn't about sex positions, tricks, or "trying harder." It's about why good marriages lose momentum over time, how pressure and expectations quietly kill desire, and why emotional connection is often the real foreplay. Dr. Nicole breaks down why scheduling sex can backfire, how shame and guilt around sex are learned early, and how curiosity—not performance—creates the kind of intimacy couples actually crave. I also share personal stories from my own marriage about connection, timing, and why mediocre sex just to "check the box" no longer works. If you want a healthier, more connected sex life, this episode gives you a roadmap grounded in science and real-life experience.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why this episode isn't about sex positions or tricks [1:26] Introducing Dr. Nicole McNichols and her background [2:09] Why scheduling sex can quietly backfire [2:36] How pressure and expectation kill intimacy [2:58] Emotional connection as the real foreplay [3:36] Why intimacy dates matter more than sex calendars [5:18] How Dr. Nicole became a "sex professor" by accident [6:10] Loneliness, disconnection, and the role of sexual health [7:08] Shame, stigma, and misinformation around sex—especially for women [9:14] Why healthy sex improves forgiveness, health, and longevity [10:25] The failure of shame-based sex education [12:10] Countries with sex-positive education and better outcomes [13:18] Identifying the sources of shame we carry into marriage [15:09] Why sex shouldn't be the first thing sacrificed in busy seasons [16:07] Why conversations about sex should happen with clothes on [17:00] Using curiosity instead of pressure to improve intimacy [18:11] Announcement: Dad Edge Alliance February focus on intimacy and attraction [20:03] Curiosity vs. agenda in hard conversations [21:17] Why scheduling sex alone doesn't work [22:09] Creating the right context and mood for intimacy [23:24] Sexual effort that creates pressure instead of desire [24:55] Emotional lead-up and responsive desire [26:01] Initiation–rejection cycles and resentment [27:23] "Intimacy dates" and reconnecting outside the bedroom [29:11] Larry shares a personal story about connection over convenience [31:26] Choosing quality connection over mediocre sex [33:17] Maintenance sex vs. meaningful sexual connection [35:04] Balancing connection and realistic expectations [37:22] Long-term rejection cycles and rebuilding intimacy [39:00] Hormones, menopause, and why libido changes aren't personal [41:29] Division of labor, resentment, and loss of identity [43:48] Gottman research and why distance doesn't heal intimacy [45:43] Making your partner feel seen and heard [47:23] Listening vs. fixing in emotional conversations [49:13] Resources for better conversations with your wife and kids [49:31] Dr. Nicole's book and New York Times features [50:44] Where to find Dr. Nicole and her work [53:08] Why improving your sex life is a powerful way to start 2026     Five Key Takeaways Pressure and expectation kill desire, while curiosity and emotional safety create attraction.  Emotional connection is often the real foreplay, especially in long-term marriages.  Scheduling sex without context can backfire if couples don't create space to reconnect first.  Sexual shame is learned, and identifying its sources is the first step toward healthier intimacy.  Better sex isn't about frequency—it's about quality, safety, and connection.        Links & Resources 25 Intimate Conversation Starters: https://thedadedge.com/25questions Conversation Cards for Kids (Ages 5–Teen): https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Dr. Nicole McNichols – Faculty Spotlight (University of Washington): https://psych.uw.edu/newsletter/summer-2020/faculty/faculty-spotlight-on-nicole-mcnichols New York Times – Modern Love Podcast Feature: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/01/07/podcasts/modern-love-better-sex-tips.html Book — You Could Be Having Better Sex Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1430     Closing Remark If this episode gave you language, clarity, or hope around intimacy in your marriage, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Strong marriages don't drift into great sex—they build it intentionally, with curiosity, connection, and courage.

In this Q&A episode, I'm joined once again by Uncle Joe for a deep, honest conversation around one of the most painful places a man can find himself—feeling unwanted, disconnected, and hopeless in his marriage. We respond to a question from a husband who hasn't felt physical or emotional connection from his wife in over two years, and we unpack what really breaks down in marriages long before intimacy disappears.   This conversation goes far beyond surface-level advice. We talk about why most men were never trained for marriage, how resentment quietly builds, why treating marriage like a contract destroys connection, and how changing your internal narrative can shift everything. We also bring in perspectives from men inside the Dad Edge Alliance to show how humility, coachability, and intentional skill-building can restore trust, safety, and leadership at home. If your marriage feels distant or stuck, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a path forward.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Welcoming listeners to the third Q&A episode of January 2026 [1:19] Uncle Joe returns and the power of community-driven wisdom [2:13] Introducing a listener's marriage question about rejection and hopelessness [2:55] Why only 12% of married couples report feeling deeply connected [3:33] Asking the most important question: what have you actually learned about marriage? [4:26] Joe reflects on personal failure, divorce, and hard-earned lessons [5:14] Why hope exists if attraction once existed [5:35] How complacency and busyness quietly push marriage to the back burner [6:02] Marriage compared to learning an instrument—you can't wing it [7:21] Resentment, skill gaps, and whether marriages can truly be restored [8:05] Marriage as a covenant, not a contract [8:55] How destructive inner narratives shape behavior and connection [9:43] Transactional expectations and why they kill intimacy [10:41] Why "nice guy" energy erodes respect and attraction [11:30] Listening to understand instead of listening to defend [12:12] Mutual submission, humility, and shared leadership in marriage [13:15] Alliance member insight on asking for feedback from your wife [14:16] Faith, unity, and intentionally doing life together [15:49] Receiving feedback without ego or defensiveness [17:14] Emotional bank accounts and the power of daily deposits [18:50] Gottman's 5:1 and 10:1 ratios for healthy marriages [19:40] Giving your wife permission to coach you [20:45] Why conflict isn't the enemy—avoidance is [22:00] Reframing the role of a wife as a strengthener, not a subordinate [23:17] "It's not me vs. you, it's us vs. the problem" [23:43] Larry shares a personal season of anger and choosing humility [25:16] How couples can build something better than what they had before [25:51] Episode wrap-up and where to find resources     Five Key Takeaways Most men were never taught how to lead a marriage, and guessing your way through it creates disconnection.  Marriage breaks down through narratives and resentment long before intimacy disappears.  Treating marriage like a covenant—not a contract—changes everything.  Emotional deposits made consistently rebuild trust and safety over time.  When couples unite against the problem instead of each other, restoration becomes possible.      Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/alliance The Legendary Marriage Book: https://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1429     Closing Remark If this episode resonated with where you're at in your marriage, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. You don't have to figure this out alone—skill-building, humility, and brotherhood can change the direction of your marriage and your family. From my heart to yours, go out and live legendary.

What does real leadership actually look like at home—not just at work? In this episode, I sit down with Mick Hunt, leadership and culture coach, to break down what emotional intelligence, boundaries, and masculine presence really mean for husbands and fathers.   Mick shares powerful insights on why being the "nice guy" often kills polarity and attraction in marriage, how emotional intelligence is a strength (not a soft skill), and why men need intentional transition rituals to show up fully present for their families. We talk about journaling as a daily leadership practice, setting boundaries without control, and how a father's emotional presence shapes the safety and confidence of his kids. This conversation is practical, grounded, and deeply relevant for men who want to lead with backbone and heart.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Introducing Mick Hunt and why leadership matters most at home [2:06] Morgan Freeman narrating Mick's videos and the unexpected connection [2:27] Why emotional intelligence is a critical leadership skill [3:01] How the "nice guy" approach kills polarity and attraction [3:29] Daily practices Mick uses to stay emotionally present with his kids [4:09] The importance of transition rituals between work and home [6:04] Mick's marriage story and reconnecting after decades of friendship [9:07] Emotional intelligence as awareness, regulation, and response [11:01] Why empathy doesn't mean losing authority as a husband or father [14:05] Self-awareness as the foundation of emotional leadership [15:18] Growing up with an emotionally unavailable father [17:13] Mick's simple daily journaling practice [19:17] Why writing trains the brain to separate fact from emotion [21:07] Boundaries as love—not control—in marriage and family [23:54] Defining boundaries through core values [24:16] Protecting "me time" to show up better for others [27:33] Why skipping transition time hurts marriages and families [28:38] A real story of ignoring boundaries and paying the emotional cost [31:27] Masculine presence and modeling healthy marriage for kids [33:11] Being the emotional anchor of the household [35:30] Teaching daughters confidence and sons how to care [38:44] Where to find Mick and his leadership resources     Five Key Takeaways: Emotional intelligence is a leadership advantage, not a weakness, for men at home and at work.  Being agreeable isn't the same as being emotionally present, and "nice guy" energy often kills attraction.  Transition rituals protect your family from your stress, allowing you to show up grounded and present.  Boundaries rooted in core values create safety, not distance, in marriage and parenting.  A father's emotional presence shapes confidence, safety, and leadership in his children.      Links & Resources Mick Hunt Official Website: https://mickhuntofficial.com Instagram: @mickunplugged LinkedIn: @mickhunt Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1428     Closing Remark If this episode challenged how you think about leadership, boundaries, or emotional presence at home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. The most important leadership role you'll ever have is the one your family experiences every day.

Why do kids raised in the same home react so differently to the exact same situation? In this episode, I'm joined by Alyssa Campbell, author, educator, and founder of Seed & Sew, to unpack what's really happening beneath our kids' behaviors—and why understanding their nervous systems changes everything about how we parent.   Alyssa returns to the show to talk about her new book Big Kids, Bigger Feelings, and we go deep into the overlooked developmental stage of kids ages 5–12. We discuss why "shouldn't they know better?" is the wrong question, how regulation and access to skills are two different things, and why each child's unique sensory profile determines how they experience stress, connection, discipline, and learning. This conversation will give you clarity, compassion, and practical tools to parent each child for who they actually are—not who you expect them to be.     Timeline Summary  [0:00] Why kids raised by the same parents can behave so differently [2:33] Introducing Alyssa Campbell and her work in emotional intelligence [3:27] Alyssa's first book Tiny Humans, Big Emotions and its success [3:49] Celebrating Alyssa hitting the New York Times bestseller list [4:11] Introducing the new book Big Kids, Bigger Feelings [5:00] Why ages 5–12 are a massively overlooked developmental stage [6:03] Central nervous systems and why kids respond differently to the same stimulus [7:36] "Knowing better" vs. having access to skills in the moment [9:15] Dysregulation in adults—and why kids struggle even more [14:24] Why kids under 25 don't have fully developed prefrontal cortexes [16:03] How screens and overstimulation dysregulate kids [18:12] Why nervous system awareness builds empathy instead of frustration [22:45] The nine sensory systems every parent should understand [24:01] Vestibular, proprioceptive, and interoceptive senses explained [26:17] Sensory sensitivity vs. sensory seeking [28:12] Introducing the Seed Quiz as "GPS for your kid's brain" [29:05] How the Seed Quiz works for kids, parents, and families [31:10] Real-life school example of regulation transforming behavior [33:09] Why behavior improves when regulation improves [35:25] Trauma, environment, and how nervous systems evolve [41:03] Why understanding nervous systems transforms marriages too [42:06] Parenting two kids with opposite sensory needs [44:48] Why the same parenting response can calm one child and escalate another [45:30] Tapping out to your partner when regulation styles differ [47:01] Where to find Alyssa, her books, and Seed & Sew resources     Five Key Takeaways: Every child has a unique nervous system, which determines how they experience stress, connection, and learning.  Knowing what to do and being able to do it in the moment are not the same thing, especially when kids are dysregulated.  Behavior improves when regulation improves, not when punishment increases.  One-size-fits-all parenting often backfires because kids need different inputs to calm and connect.  Understanding nervous systems builds empathy, patience, and more effective parenting strategies.      Links & Resources Seed Quiz (Free Tool): https://seedquiz.com Seed & Sew Website: https://www.seedandsew.org Seed & Sew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seed.and.sew/ Seed & Sew on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/seedandsew.org Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1427     Closing Remark If this episode helped you understand your kids—and yourself—on a deeper level, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Parenting isn't about getting it right every time; it's about learning how to show up for the unique humans we're raising.

In this second Q&A episode of 2026, I'm joined once again by Joe Bailey for a raw, honest, and deeply practical conversation with men inside our Dad Edge Alliance. We tackle two of the most common—and emotionally charged—challenges dads face: navigating marriage when divorce feels like it's on the table, and learning when to step in (or step back) as parents with our kids.   Joe brings wisdom forged through failure, humility, and redemption as he shares lessons learned from three divorces and what it actually takes to rebuild trust, emotional safety, and leadership in marriage. We also dig into parenting—specifically how often we default to "no," how helicopter parenting robs kids of growth, and how learning to pause can transform our connection with our children. If you're a dad who wants to lead with ownership instead of ego, and presence instead of control, this episode is for you.     Timeline Summary  [0:00] Welcoming listeners to the second Q&A of 2026 with Joe Bailey [1:37] Live Q&A format with Alliance members on the call [2:03] Anonymous question: marriage arguments escalating and divorce being discussed [2:52] Joe shares his experience with three divorces and hard-earned lessons [3:49] Taking full ownership as the leader of the relationship [4:18] Winning the argument vs. winning your wife's heart [5:02] Separating identity from failure in marriage [5:21] Why agreement gives things power over your life [5:40] Emotional safety, being seen, and being heard [6:04] How your inner world creates your outer world [6:55] Why asking "What are you willing to do?" matters more than "Can we fix this?" [8:03] Leading with humility, apology, and commitment to growth [8:26] The importance of being coachable as a man and husband [9:35] Larry explains why the Dad Edge Alliance exists [10:37] More context: resentment and imbalance with kids and responsibilities [11:16] Why we're trained for careers—but not for marriage [12:15] Marriage compared to training and skill development [13:29] The mental load and resentment that silently builds in relationships [14:35] Larry shares his own wake-up moment with his wife [16:19] How to approach conversations with curiosity instead of defense [17:19] Expecting resistance and understanding trust rebuilds slowly [18:46] A real coaching story where separation was reversed after consistency [21:03] "Waiting for the other shoe to drop" and consistency over time [22:12] Second question: saying "no" too often to kids [23:12] Helicopter parenting and letting kids solve problems [24:27] Letting kids work it out unless safety is at risk [26:02] Stepping in when conflict becomes dangerous [28:16] Boys, aggression, and healthy outlets [29:45] Is saying "no" about safety—or convenience? [30:51] Searching for the "yes" and using delayed yeses [31:38] The day kids stop asking—and why it matters [32:16] How selfishness often drives our "no" [33:22] Episode wrap-up and directing listeners to the show notes     Five Key Takeaways   Marriage leadership starts with ownership, not blame or defensiveness.  Your inner world shapes your marriage, and emotional chaos creates relational chaos.  Trust is rebuilt through consistency over time, not quick fixes or intensity.  Kids grow through problem-solving, and dads don't need to jump in unless safety is at risk.  Saying "yes" whenever possible builds connection, while reflexive "no's" often come from selfishness or convenience.      Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance (Apply & Book a Call): https://thedadedge.com/alliance Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1426     Closing Remark If today's episode gave you clarity, hope, or a new way to lead at home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. You don't have to white-knuckle marriage or fatherhood alone—brotherhood, humility, and consistency change everything.

Most couples don't drift apart because they stop loving each other—they drift apart because no one ever taught them how to stay connected. In this episode, I sit down with Mark and Brianna Carey, a powerhouse husband-and-wife team who work with couples on intimacy, communication, and emotional safety, to unpack what really happens to marriage after kids enter the picture.   We talk openly about why intimacy breaks down in the early years of parenting, why sex is rarely the real problem, and how resentment quietly builds when couples stop having honest conversations. Mark and Brianna share powerful insights around postpartum realities for both men and women, desire discrepancy, emotional safety, tonality, and the small misfires that slowly turn partners into roommates. If you want real tools to rebuild connection—not surface-level advice—this conversation will meet you right where you are.     Timeline Summary  [0:00] Why couples drift apart without ever stopping loving each other [2:08] Introducing Mark and Brianna Carey and their work with couples [3:15] Why sex is often the symptom—not the problem—in marriage [4:00] How kids, stress, exhaustion, and resentment fuel disconnection [6:03] Brianna's background in sexual health education and intimacy coaching [8:02] Why women often don't feel empowered to talk about sex [10:34] Desire discrepancy and why it's normal in long-term relationships [11:17] Invitation to the Dad Edge Alliance and Boardroom [14:00] Emotional intimacy and the depth of real connection [15:12] Assumptions, misfires, and missed bids for connection [17:15] Why individuality actually fuels attraction in marriage [18:25] Communicating directly about intimacy without pressure [21:31] The first domino of disconnection after having kids [22:54] Children as magnifiers of unhealed wounds and identity shifts [24:58] Postpartum realities for women—and why it's rarely discussed [25:17] Postpartum identity struggles for fathers [26:03] What "roommate syndrome" feels like for both partners [27:22] Feeling "touched out" and navigating physical boundaries [30:11] The pressure of the six-week postpartum clearance myth [33:02] How resentment forms and why it's so dangerous [34:00] Why talking about divorce can actually strengthen commitment [36:33] "Name it to tame it" and removing fear from hard conversations [43:14] Why most conflict is unresolvable—and how to manage it [45:07] Trauma, tonality, and recurring relationship patterns [47:49] How tone changes meaning more than words [50:19] Intent vs. impact and closing the communication gap [54:07] How Mark and Brianna work with couples together [55:24] Why intensity of support must match intensity of problems [58:27] Webinar announcement and upcoming relationship resources     Five Key Takeaways Intimacy fades when couples stop communicating—not when attraction disappears.  Desire discrepancy is normal, but silence around it breeds resentment.  Postpartum challenges affect both partners, including identity loss and emotional disconnect.  Tone and emotional safety matter as much as words when navigating conflict and intimacy.  Connection—not performance—is the fastest path back to intimacy.      Links & Resources: Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/alliance Intimacy Evolution Website: https://www.intimacyevolution.com Webinar Registration: https://intimacyevolution.kit.com/9a33bf4eaa Intimacy Evolution on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimacy_evolution Brianna Carey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brianna_carey Mark Carey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mark__carey Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1425     Closing Remark If this episode helped you see your marriage differently—or gave you language for conversations you've been avoiding—please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Strong marriages aren't built by guessing; they're built through connection, courage, and intentional leadership.

Leadership isn't about position, title, or authority—it's about who you are on the inside and how you show up every day for the people who depend on you. In this episode, I sit down with Brent Pohlman, bestselling author of Leaders Look Within and the upcoming book Leading with Zest, for a powerful conversation about values-based leadership, faith, health, and having the courage to lead from the heart.   Brent shares lessons from 31 years of marriage, raising a faith-centered family, and building a thriving workplace culture rooted in people-first leadership. We dive into why leaders must define a strong "why," how physical health fuels emotional and relational leadership, and how to have hard, triggering conversations without destroying morale—at work or at home. If you're a husband, father, or man who wants to lead with clarity, conviction, and integrity, this episode will challenge you in the best way.     Timeline Summary [0:00] Why leadership applies to every man—especially husbands and fathers. [2:07] Introducing Brent Pohlman and his leadership philosophy. [2:29] 31 years of marriage and building a faith-centered family. [2:53] Brent's son serving communion to Pope Francis and the power of faith legacy. [3:20] Leading from the inside out instead of ego. [3:45] Why leaders must define a strong, unshakable "why." [4:43] Marriage, faith, and learning each other after decades together. [6:16] Converting to Catholicism and claiming faith as your own. [7:26] Reactive leadership versus values-based leadership. [9:07] Faith moments that shape identity and conviction. [11:01] Why leaders must look inward to understand values and motivation. [12:16] Second-generation leadership and stepping into your own identity. [14:28] Defining a personal leadership "why" that doesn't change weekly. [15:26] The importance of physical health for leadership readiness. [16:03] Daily workouts, awareness, and being prepared for pressure. [18:08] Being fully present with your wife and kids. [19:30] Leading at home the same way you lead at work. [20:17] Developing people instead of managing them. [21:03] Coaching versus training in leadership development. [22:49] How direct conversations prevent cultural breakdown. [23:59] Calling people forward without damaging morale. [26:02] Fighting to be effective instead of fighting to be right. [27:11] The power of using someone's name in hard conversations. [30:03] Why people just want to be heard. [33:06] Avoiding reactive cultures and emotional time bombs. [35:08] Asking "What do you really want?" in conflict resolution. [37:15] Introducing Brent's upcoming book Leading with Zest. [38:41] People, process, and technology—in that order. [39:10] Protecting imagination and creativity in a tech-driven world. [42:16] Putting faith into action through workplace culture. [45:09] Where to find Brent, his books, and daily reflections.     Five Key Takeaways Leadership starts on the inside. You must know your values, faith, and motivations before you can lead others well. A strong "why" stabilizes leadership. Without it, leaders become reactive and inconsistent. Physical health fuels leadership presence. Energy, discipline, and consistency matter in how you show up. Coaching builds leaders; training builds skills. Growth happens through direct, caring conversations. People-first leadership creates thriving cultures—at work, at home, and in communities.     Links & Resources MicroFactor (1st Phorm): https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor/?a_aid=dadedge Level-1 Protein (1st Phorm): https://1stphorm.com/products/level-1/?a_aid=dadedge Brent Pohlman — Leaders Look Within: https://a.co/d/aIPZqXo Brent Pohlman — Leading with Zest: https://a.co/d/78BUngL Brent Pohlman Website: https://ceoofyourheart.com Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1424   Closing Remark If this episode challenged you to lead with more intention, health, and heart, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Leadership isn't about perfection—it's about showing up aligned, grounded, and willing to grow.

We're kicking off a brand-new year with something many of you have asked for—the return of our live Q&A episodes. In this conversation, I'm joined once again by Uncle Joe as we answer real questions from men inside our community about parenting, connection with daughters, discipline, stoicism, faith, and leadership at home.   This episode goes deep. We talk about building trust with kids who feel distant, why saying "no" too often damages connection, how fathers can lead without demanding reciprocity, and the difference between white-knuckling life versus living from identity. If you're a dad who wants deeper relationships with your kids and clarity around leadership, faith, and emotional presence, this episode will challenge and ground you.   Timeline Summary [0:00] Welcoming listeners to the 11th year of The Dad Edge Podcast. [1:37] Reflection on longevity, gratitude, and why this work still matters. [1:59] Announcement: Roommates to Soulmates eight-week course starting January 14. [2:19] What men will learn in the Roommates to Soulmates marriage training. [2:42] RSVP details for the January 7 preview call. [3:07] Welcoming Uncle Joe back to the show. [3:39] Listener question about connecting with daughters at different developmental stages. [5:14] Joe shares his experience raising three daughters. [6:33] Loving kids without expecting emotional reciprocation. [7:16] Why trust—not control—is the foundation of fatherhood. [8:08] Changing the default answer from "no" to "yes." [9:19] Joe shares the powerful "father promise ring" moment with his daughter. [10:41] Why fathers must make covenants to their kids—not demand them. [12:26] Larry shares his struggle connecting with his youngest son. [13:26] Letting kids lead connection through their interests. [14:12] Hiking, martial arts, and intentional one-on-one time. [15:19] Creating unique rituals with each child. [16:03] Capturing small moments for deep emotional connection. [18:12] Invitation to join the Dad Edge Alliance for live support and brotherhood. [19:51] Listener question about stoicism and discipline. [21:27] Larry explains why he moved away from stoicism. [22:29] Joe breaks down the appeal—and danger—of half-truths in stoicism. [24:07] White-knuckling life vs. living from identity. [25:00] Faith, identity, and emotional regulation. [27:28] Comparing stoicism with surrender and relationship-based leadership. [29:05] Psalm 23 and why dependence beats self-mastery. [31:30] Filtering wisdom through Scripture and lived experience. [34:41] How suffering builds empathy and leadership capacity. [35:19] Final thoughts, gratitude, and where to find resources.     Five Key Takeaways Connection with kids is built through trust, consistency, and presence—not control.  Fathers must lead relationships without demanding emotional repayment.  White-knuckling discipline leads to exhaustion; identity-based leadership leads to peace.  Kids feel deeply seen when dads meet them inside their interests.  True strength comes from surrender, faith, and relational grounding—not self-reliance alone.      Links & Resources Dad Edge Mastermind & Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1423     Closing Remark   If this episode encouraged you, challenged your thinking, or gave you practical tools to lead better at home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. These conversations matter—and your support helps us reach more men who are committed to becoming better fathers, husbands, and leaders.

To kick off 2026, I sit down with Dr. Paul Leonardi, author of the bestselling book Digital Exhaustion, for a conversation that felt incredibly timely—and personal. If you've been feeling distracted, mentally drained, short-tempered, or like your family is getting the leftovers of your energy, this episode puts clear language around what's happening inside your brain.   We dive deep into how constant app switching, nonstop notifications, and digital overload are quietly exhausting our attention, memory, marriages, and relationships with our kids. Paul breaks down the science behind digital exhaustion in a practical, grounded way, and I share a powerful moment when my 12-year-old voluntarily handed back his phone because he didn't like how it made him feel. This episode isn't about rejecting technology—it's about learning how to use it without letting it use us.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Introduction [1:02] Welcoming listeners to 2026 and the 11th year of The Dad Edge Podcast. [1:40] Introducing Dr. Paul Leonardi and the concept of digital exhaustion. [2:22] How digital overload impacts attention, memory, marriage, and family life. [3:05] Parenting in a world our brains were never designed for. [4:12] Raising kids with devices and navigating unfamiliar territory. [6:07] Independence, social media, and emotional complexity in today's kids. [7:35] How online trends shape kids' identity and self-image. [9:58] What's actually happening in the brain during prolonged digital use. [11:16] The hidden "taxes" we pay for constant connectivity. [12:26] Driver #1: attention and constant context switching. [13:31] Driver #2: inference and filling in the blanks online. [15:26] Driver #3: amplified emotions—both positive and negative. [16:31] Why multitasking burns massive mental energy. [17:20] The impact of digital overload on memory and mental residue. [18:41] Outsourcing memory to devices and what it costs us. [21:15] When kids are actually ready for devices—and when they're not. [23:42] Why screen time isn't the real issue—interruptions and content are. [26:35] The emotional cost of likes, validation, and online comparison. [28:39] Larry shares the story of his son giving up his phone voluntarily. [31:11] Why kids struggle to articulate digital overwhelm. [32:06] The Facebook outage study and the surprising relief people felt. [35:10] Introducing the Roommates to Soulmates live course. [37:54] Digital exhaustion inside marriage and miscommunication over text. [38:58] "Make the match" — choosing the right communication medium. [43:12] "Be here, not elsewhere" and the power of undistracted presence. [46:09] How distraction has become socially normalized. [49:21] Why work interruptions at home send the wrong message. [51:39] Modeling priorities for kids through availability and presence. [56:21] Where to find Paul, his book, and additional resources.     Five Key Takeaways Digital exhaustion comes from attention switching, inference-making, and emotional overload, not just screen time alone. Multitasking is a myth—the brain burns massive energy switching contexts, leaving us mentally drained. Kids often feel overwhelmed by devices before they can explain it, which shows up as stress or behavior changes. Choosing the right communication tool matters, especially in marriage and parenting. Presence beats duration—ten fully focused minutes matter more than hours of distracted time.     Links & Resources Paul Leonardi — Digital Exhaustion Book: https://paulleonardi.com/digital-exhaustion-book/ Paul Leonardi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-leonardi-45b67321/ Dad Edge Mastermind & Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1422     Closing Remark If this episode made you rethink how you're using your phone, your attention, or your presence at home, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. The way we show up—focused, intentional, and available—shapes not just our kids' childhoods, but the adults they become.

In the final episode of 2025, I take time to reflect, express deep gratitude, and share what's coming next for The Dad Edge as we head into 2026. This episode is about honoring what this community has built together over the past ten years, celebrating the wins, and casting a clear vision for what's ahead for men who want to lead their families with intention.   I walk you through several major announcements—from the return of Wednesday Q&A with Uncle Joe, to our brand-new Dad Edge Alliance membership platform, upcoming marriage and health initiatives, and powerful in-person experiences like Men's Forge. This episode is both a thank-you and a rallying cry for men who are ready to step into the next year with clarity, purpose, and brotherhood.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Welcoming listeners and reflecting on the final episode of 2025. [1:23] Celebrating 10 full years of podcasting and the growth of The Dad Edge. [1:41] Gratitude for listeners, downloads, and being ranked #1 again. [2:22] Why fatherhood, marriage, and family are the most important work we do. [2:56] A heartfelt thank-you to the community for showing up all year. [3:13] Announcement: Wednesday Q&A episodes return with Uncle Joe in 2026. [3:49] How to submit your questions for the Q&A episodes via email. [4:06] Introducing the brand-new Dad Edge Alliance membership site. [4:49] Why moving away from Facebook, Slack, and WhatsApp changed everything. [5:24] Weekly call teams and global time-zone support for members. [5:47] January focus inside the Alliance: marriage, parenting, vitality, and money. [6:26] February marriage training focused on intimacy, passion, and connection. [6:44] Partnership with 1st Phorm and upcoming health initiatives. [7:18] Announcement of the 8-week transformation challenge starting February 1. [7:55] Coaching, accountability, and community inside the challenge. [8:54] Information call for the Roommates to Soulmates live course. [9:14] What the Roommates to Soulmates course will teach men about marriage. [10:02] Larry shares his personal experience with marriage disconnection. [10:39] Men's Forge announcement with Ryan Michler and Order of Man. [11:01] Event dates, speakers, and why nearly everyone returned from last year. [11:56] "Bring a Brother" and "Bring a Son" ticket options. [12:12] Why exposing teenage sons to intentional masculinity matters. [13:10] Announcing the December Dad Edge 1st Phorm Man of the Month. [13:55] Recognizing Shay Chase for leadership and health coaching impact. [14:39] Directing listeners to the full show notes and resources. [15:01] Final thank-you and encouragement heading into 2026.     Five Key Takeaways: Intentional fatherhood creates generational impact, and this community exists to raise the standard for men.  Brotherhood and accountability matter, especially when men are navigating marriage, parenting, health, and finances.  Marriage requires skill-building and leadership, not passive hope that things will improve.  Physical health fuels leadership at home, and structured challenges create momentum and consistency.  The next year can look different if men commit to standards, community, and intentional action.      Links & Resources Dad Edge Alliance Membership: http://thedadedge.com/alliance Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates 1st Phorm Partnership: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1421 https://themensforge.com/   Closing Remark Gentlemen, thank you for an incredible 2025. Thank you for showing up, doing the work, and choosing to lead your families with intention. My hope is that we bring even more men to this table in 2026 so we can continue to change lives, marriages, and families for the better. Go out and live legendary.

What do you do when life changes in ways you didn't choose—and didn't see coming? In this deeply emotional and intellectually grounding conversation, I sit down with Dr. Maya Shankar, cognitive scientist, former White House advisor, and host of the podcast A Slight Change of Plans, to talk about change, identity, grief, and uncertainty.   Maya shares her powerful personal story of being accepted into Juilliard at a young age, only to have her violin career abruptly end due to a devastating injury. From there, we explore how unexpected change threatens our identity, why the human brain craves certainty, and how men, husbands, and fathers can navigate seasons where the future they imagined suddenly disappears. This conversation hit me personally as I opened up about my son preparing to leave for college, and Maya offers language, tools, and clarity for anyone navigating major life transitions.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] What happens when life changes and you don't get a vote. [1:28] Introducing Dr. Maya Shankar and the theme of unexpected change. [2:10] Being accepted into Juilliard at age nine and pursuing music at the highest level. [3:05] A career-ending violin injury and the grief that followed. [4:05] How loss threatens not just what we do—but who we are. [7:44] Learning violin by ear and developing passion without perfection. [9:03] A mother's fearlessness and the power of bold action. [11:06] Cold emailing, courage, and creating unexpected opportunities. [13:39] Being bullied as a child and finding safety in family and music. [15:16] Larry reflects on marriage drift and identity shifts. [18:06] Pivoting from academia to public policy and working at the White House. [21:51] The power of defaults and how behavioral science changed public outcomes. [25:17] Why uncertainty is harder on the brain than certainty—even bad certainty. [27:05] The illusion of control and how change shatters it. [27:31] Anchoring identity to why you do things, not just what you do. [29:45] Navigating infertility, loss, and redefining self-worth. [33:11] Why we resist change even when it's necessary for growth. [36:00] Marriage, evolution, and the "end of history illusion." [39:32] How hardship can lead to unexpected personal growth. [45:43] Gratitude as a tool for identity resilience. [48:25] Helping kids navigate change while managing your own emotions. [50:28] The grief of kids leaving home—even when it's a good thing. [54:26] Why we are more resilient than we think. [56:15] The importance of community during seasons of change. [59:19] Maya shares her book, podcast, and where to connect.     Five Key Takeaways Change threatens identity as much as circumstance, which is why it feels so destabilizing.  The brain prefers certainty—even negative certainty—over uncertainty, making transitions especially stressful.  Anchoring identity to your values and motivations creates resilience when roles and plans fall away.  We underestimate our ability to adapt and overestimate how painful change will be long-term.  Connection, community, and self-reflection are essential tools for navigating major life transitions.      Links & Resources Dr. Maya Shankar's Book: https://a.co/d/3u87zps Dr. Maya Shankar on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmayashankar/?hl=en Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1420     Closing Remark If this episode gave you language for a season of change you're navigating right now, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. You're not alone in the uncertainty—and you're far more resilient than you think.

In today's episode, I sit down with Eric Kennedy, founder of Recovery Vow and author of Marriage After Addiction, for one of the most raw and redemptive conversations we've ever had on this show. Eric spent 15 years deep in addiction—alcohol, cocaine, crack, jail time, suicide attempts, losing his marriage, and losing himself. This isn't a story of high-functioning addiction. This is rock bottom in every sense of the word.   Eric opens up about growing up with emotional neglect, how unresolved trauma fueled his addiction, and the moments that finally forced him to choose life. We talk about the long road to sobriety, rebuilding trust with his kids, walking through divorce and remarriage, and what radical ownership really looks like when you're trying to rebuild a marriage after years of destruction. Whether you've battled addiction yourself or you're carrying unspoken wounds from your past, this episode is a powerful reminder that healing, redemption, and generational change are possible.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Introduction [1:02] Why addiction isn't the real problem—trauma, disconnection, and silence are. [1:40] Introducing Eric Kennedy and the depth of his addiction story. [2:08] Addiction beginning with alcohol and escalating to cocaine and crack. [5:14] Using substances to bury trauma, anxiety, and depression. [7:13] Growing up with an emotionally unavailable father. [11:23] Seeing his father drunk as a child and the lasting impact. [15:00] Addiction escalating alongside marriage and fatherhood. [22:44] A suicide attempt and waking up in an ambulance. [25:05] Driving to get drugs with his kids in the car. [29:29] Arrest, jail time, and asking for help again. [30:10] Entering a 30-day treatment program in Florida. [33:14] Gaining custody of his sons while newly sober. [35:32] Finding faith, community, and structure in recovery. [37:02] Meeting his wife Kristin and rebuilding a healthy marriage. [42:44] Radical ownership and rebuilding trust through action. [51:48] Being fully honest with his sons about his past. [53:31] Choosing life, sobriety, and fatherhood every day.     Five Key Takeaways Addiction is often rooted in unresolved trauma and emotional disconnection, not just substance abuse.  Recovery requires radical ownership and healthy selfishness so you can show up for your kids and relationships.  Trust is rebuilt through consistent actions over time, not promises or apologies.  Honesty with your kids can break generational cycles and rebuild connection.  Redemption is always possible, but it requires humility, structure, and daily commitment.      Links & Resources Eric Kennedy's Book — Marriage After Addiction: https://a.co/d/4uYCpvT Recovery Vow: https://recoveryvow.com MicroFactor (1st Phorm): https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor/?a_aid=dadedge Opti-Greens 50 (1st Phorm): https://1stphorm.com/products/opti-greens-50-stick-packs/?a_aid=dadedge Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1417     Closing Remark   If today's episode gave you hope or reminded you that it's never too late to change, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach men who need to hear that recovery, redemption, and reconnection are possible.

In this Christmas Eve solo episode, I shift gears from our recent focus on online safety and talk about one of the most common—and painful—issues I see in long-term marriages: roommate syndrome. That quiet drift where intimacy fades, connection feels awkward, and marriage starts to feel more like co-parenting logistics than a romantic partnership. If you've ever laid in bed next to your wife feeling disconnected, unwanted, or unsure how things got this way, this episode is for you.   I share my own experience falling into roommate syndrome after years of marriage, kids, exhaustion, and unmet expectations. We talk about resentment, covert contracts, why nagging is often a cry for connection, and how most men were never taught how attraction actually works in marriage. I also explain why marriage—like jiu-jitsu or any skill—requires training, intentional effort, and doing what most men aren't willing to do if you want a relationship that's truly on fire.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] What roommate syndrome feels like when intimacy has faded. [1:39] Why so many marriages slowly slip into "friend zone" dynamics. [2:02] The statistic that 57% of married couples experience this season. [2:28] How resentment, logistics, and exhaustion kill connection. [3:07] Closing out the online safety series and shifting topics. [3:50] Why Larry chose to release this episode on Christmas Eve. [4:26] Introducing roommate syndrome as a core marriage issue. [5:03] Larry's 22-year marriage and personal experience with disconnection. [6:17] How kids, work, and busyness slowly erode intimacy. [6:53] When sex starts to feel transactional or obligatory. [7:13] Why "nagging" is often a bid for attention and being seen. [7:33] Sitting on opposite ends of the couch scrolling instead of connecting. [7:56] Covert contracts and resentment in marriage. [8:17] Why solving instead of listening makes wives feel unseen. [8:56] Awkward date nights and avoiding real conversations about intimacy. [9:18] A client story that began with signed divorce papers. [9:41] How real change happens when a man does the work. [10:15] Why becoming the man you're meant to be changes everything. [10:57] Marriage requires training just like work or martial arts. [11:14] Understanding attraction and speaking the right "currency" in marriage. [11:51] Loving your spouse the way they receive love. [12:11] Introducing the Roommates to Soulmates live course. [12:56] Creating confidence, attraction, and intimacy without neediness. [13:17] Why uncommon marriages require uncommon effort. [13:38] The reality that only 10–12% of marriages feel "on fire." [14:03] Rejecting the belief that passion naturally dies over time. [14:32] Marriage as a skill set that can be learned and mastered. [15:05] Course details, limited spots, and next steps. [15:25] Christmas message and encouragement to live legendary.     Five Key Takeaways: Roommate syndrome doesn't happen overnight—it's the result of neglecting connection, intimacy, and intentional effort.  Resentment grows when expectations go unspoken and needs are assumed instead of communicated.  Attraction in marriage is a learned skill, not something that automatically sustains itself over time.  Men must lead attraction with confidence, not needy or transactional energy.  Exceptional marriages are uncommon because they require uncommon effort, training, and intentional action.      Links & Resources: Roommates to Soulmates Course: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates 1st Phorm (Dad Edge Partner): https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1418     Closing Remark   If this episode hit home and reminded you that marriage doesn't have to settle into mediocrity, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. You weren't meant to be roommates—you were meant to build a marriage on fire. From my heart to yours, have a Merry Christmas and continue to live legendary.

In today's episode, I sit down with Brent Gleeson, former Navy SEAL, combat veteran, entrepreneur, leadership expert, and author of his newest book All In. But this conversation isn't about résumés or accolades. It's about grief, discipline, marriage, fatherhood, and the systems that allow a man to truly live "all in" where it matters most.   Brent opens up about losing his father unexpectedly in 2023—a moment that forced deep reflection and radical change. We talk about the three pillars his dad lived by, how eliminating alcohol completely transformed Brent's marriage and leadership, and why discipline isn't about doing more—but about saying no to the wrong things. This episode is a masterclass in systems, habits, and intentional living for men who want to lead their families with clarity and conviction.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Introducing Brent Gleeson and why this conversation goes far beyond achievements. [2:09] Losing his father in 2023 and the three pillars that shaped Brent's life. [2:57] How discipline is modeled—not preached. [3:28] Why saying yes to everything means saying no to the right things. [5:11] Family, work, and fitness as non-negotiable pillars. [8:05] The economic pressure and personal stress leading into 2023. [10:33] Being present for his father's final moments and the impact of that loss. [13:28] Going "all in" after grief and eliminating alcohol completely. [15:03] Why alcohol was no longer serving his marriage, health, or leadership. [17:21] How quitting drinking changed Brent's temperament, joy, and presence. [20:03] Larry shares his own experience stepping away from alcohol. [23:00] The cue–routine–reward framework for breaking habits. [28:39] Introducing Brent's "Remarkable Results Pyramid." [30:37] Why marriage must come first in the family system. [33:18] Committing to growth by intentionally cringing at who you were six months ago. [36:05] Why kids are always watching how parents treat each other. [39:30] Brent's 20–20–20 morning routine and disciplined evening habits. [41:25] Preparing daily to show up better as a husband, father, and leader. [46:03] Adjusting routines without abandoning discipline. [50:43] Why overscheduling kids destroys family balance. [54:27] Saying no to excessive activities and rejecting comparison parenting.     Five Key Takeaways   Discipline is about alignment, not intensity. What you say no to matters just as much as what you say yes to.  Grief can be a catalyst for clarity. Losing his father forced Brent to re-evaluate habits, priorities, and presence.  Eliminating alcohol radically improved marriage and leadership. Removing numbing behaviors created more joy, patience, and connection.  Systems create results. Whether in business, marriage, or parenting, outcomes come from well-designed systems—not willpower.  Marriage must come first. When the relationship between mom and dad is prioritized, the rest of the family system functions better.      Links & Resources Brent Gleeson's Book — https://a.co/d/7DOrJPE Dad Edge Soulmates Program: https://thedadedge.com/soulmates 1st Phorm (Dad Edge Partner): https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Episode Show Notes & Resources: http://thedadedge.com/1419 Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark   Closing Remark If this episode challenged you to rethink discipline, habits, or what it really means to go all in as a husband and father, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more men who are ready to lead with intention instead of drift.

What if the real scoreboard for fatherhood isn't your bank account, your job title, or your kids' trophies—but how much your adult kids actually want to spend time with you? In this deeply moving conversation, I sit down with Tim Campbell, an 82-year-old father, author, and living example of what long-term connection and trust with your kids can look like—even after a lifetime of hardship.   Tim shares his journey of being married for 50 years, raising three children—two with significant disabilities—and navigating medical crises, bullying, fear, and exhaustion that would have broken most families. We talk about growing up with a Marine father who lacked emotional tools, the moment Tim realized he had become the dad he swore he'd never be, and how he rebuilt trust one moment at a time. This episode is a masterclass in breaking generational patterns, showing up authentically, and understanding why trust is the real gold in fatherhood.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Rethinking the true scoreboard of fatherhood and legacy. [1:20] Introducing Tim Campbell and his 50-year marriage. [2:19] Raising three kids, two with significant disabilities, and surviving medical crises. [3:09] Why trust and connection are the biggest themes of Tim's fatherhood journey. [3:29] Growing up with a Marine father and limited emotional connection. [4:16] How crisis can either weld a marriage together or tear it apart. [4:41] Tim introduces his book Holding Up the Sky. [5:02] Writing a healing, imaginary conversation with his late father. [7:00] How trauma early in marriage revealed character and long-term strength. [8:25] Learning you don't have to win every argument to win the long game. [12:23] Vowing to break generational patterns from his own childhood. [14:09] Wanting to be a better dad—but not knowing how at first. [16:24] Realizing fear turned him into the father he never wanted to be. [17:11] A breaking-point moment that forced real change. [18:19] Why leveling with your kids builds trust during hard moments. [18:52] Learning from the next generation, not just the previous one. [21:17] Larry shares his own parenting experience with a child with disabilities. [22:44] A bullying moment involving Tim's son and how he responded. [23:45] "Trust is the real gold" and how it compounds over time. [24:41] Parenting adult children with disabilities and letting go. [26:23] Knowing you did fatherhood right when adult kids still want connection. [28:16] Revisiting the final chapter of Holding Up the Sky. [30:58] Imagining his father's response and finding peace. [33:06] Authenticity, masks, and being human with your kids. [36:01] Why sharing your own childhood stories builds instant connection. [37:13] Where to find Tim, his book, and additional resources.     Five Key Takeaways Trust is the real currency of fatherhood. It opens the door to love, communication, and long-term connection.  Crisis reveals character. Hard seasons can either fracture a family or weld it together depending on how we show up.  Fear can turn us into the parent we swore we'd never be if we don't consciously course-correct.  Getting down to your child's level—literally and emotionally—builds safety and trust.  Adult children choosing to stay connected is the truest measure of success.      Links & Resources Tim Campbell's Book — Holding Up the Sky: https://holdingupthesky.net Tim Campbell Website: https://timcampbellodysseys.net Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1416 Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark   Closing Remark If this episode reminded you what really matters in fatherhood, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. And remember—titles fade, money comes and goes, but trust with your kids is the gold that lasts a lifetime.

In this deeply emotional solo episode, I continue our December series focused on protecting kids from online predators. I walk you through two real and devastating cases that show exactly how grooming, sextortion, and long-term digital harassment happen—often without parents having any idea it's occurring. These aren't edge cases. This is the reality of the digital world our kids are growing up in.   We break down a Roblox grooming case involving an eight-year-old girl, how predators slowly build trust and move conversations to private apps, and why platform bans don't actually stop them. I also share the heartbreaking story of Amanda Todd, a seventh grader who was hunted online for years by a predator who weaponized images, social media, and bullying across schools and borders. This episode is hard to listen to—but necessary—because awareness is the first step in protecting our kids.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Why online grooming often goes unnoticed until it's too late. [1:48] How predators now access kids directly in their bedrooms through devices. [2:46] Why this generation of parents is navigating entirely new digital dangers. [3:52] Parenting the first generation of kids growing up fully online. [4:20] Introducing a real Roblox grooming case involving an eight-year-old girl. [5:24] How predators use in-game chat and "helping" to gain trust. [6:18] The move from public game chat to private apps like WhatsApp. [6:44] Grooming tactics that feel like friendship to kids. [7:09] How exploitation and sextortion begin once trust is built. [8:07] Why platform bans don't stop predators from returning. [9:06] Key lessons parents must understand about Roblox and open chat systems. [10:06] Larry shares a personal experience with a suspicious "wrong number" text. [11:54] Why text messages and private apps are also major risk areas. [12:25] Introducing the Amanda Todd case from British Columbia. [12:52] How sextortion followed Amanda across schools and years. [13:58] Why Amanda wasn't bullied—she was hunted. [14:27] The mental health toll of long-term digital harassment. [15:18] Amanda's nine-minute YouTube video explaining her story. [15:49] Arrest, conviction, and sentencing of her predator years later. [16:41] Why one image can give predators long-term control. [17:39] How predators weaponize anonymity, time, and technology. [18:38] Why Bark has helped Larry catch issues proactively for seven years. [19:26] How parents can honor victims by protecting their own kids. [20:11] Final call to action to monitor devices and stay engaged.     Five Key Takeaways Online grooming happens slowly and quietly, often disguised as friendship and "help" inside games like Roblox.  Predators almost always move kids from public chats to private apps, where there is no moderation or logging.  One image is all a predator needs to control, extort, and emotionally destroy a child over time.  Platform bans do not protect kids, because predators can create new accounts in minutes.  Parental awareness and monitoring can change outcomes, and proactive conversations can prevent lifelong trauma.      Links & Resources Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Episode Show Notes & Resources: https://thedadedge.com/1415 Mentioned Link: https://www.amandatoddlegacy.org/aydin-coban.html?utm_source=chatgpt.com   Closing Remark These stories are hard—but they matter. The best way we can honor kids who've been hurt or lost is by protecting our own. Please rate, review, follow, and share this episode, and most importantly, stay involved in your kids' digital lives. From my heart to yours—let's do better.

What if the most dangerous addiction in the world isn't drugs, alcohol, or gambling—but revenge? In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Dr. James Kimmel Jr., Yale School of Medicine researcher, attorney, and author of The Science of Revenge, to unpack what actually happens in our brains when we feel wronged, humiliated, or disrespected.   Dr. Kimmel breaks down the neuroscience behind revenge, why it lights up the brain the same way cocaine does, and how seeking retaliation gives us a temporary dopamine hit that ultimately leaves us worse off. We talk about anger, forgiveness, sibling rivalry, marriage conflict, parenting mistakes, and why forgiveness isn't weakness—it's one of the most powerful tools we have to reclaim peace, leadership, and self-control as men and fathers.     Timeline Summary    [0:00] Why revenge may be the most dangerous addiction in the world. [2:10] Introducing Dr. James Kimmel Jr. and his research on revenge and forgiveness. [3:02] How revenge activates the same brain circuitry as drugs like cocaine. [4:38] Dr. Kimmel's background as both a lawyer and Yale researcher. [6:33] Marriage, faith, and building a family with shared purpose over 37 years. [9:12] Advice on long-term marriage and selecting the right partner early. [13:23] Why revenge seeking escalates conflict in families and relationships. [16:17] Defining revenge as an addictive, pleasure-seeking process. [17:17] How grievances activate the brain's pain and reward systems. [21:25] Why emotional pain registers as physical pain in the brain. [23:13] Dopamine, craving, and why revenge never actually satisfies. [25:32] How the prefrontal cortex gets hijacked during revenge seeking. [28:06] Revenge cycles in marriage and intimate relationships. [31:20] Losing control: when logic shuts down during retaliation. [33:27] Larry shares a real-life road rage trigger moment. [37:39] How quickly fight-or-flight turns into revenge seeking. [39:52] Why only about 20% of people become "revenge addicted." [42:16] Differences between men and women when seeking revenge. [43:28] Why revenge plots dominate movies like John Wick and The Lion King. [47:07] Sibling rivalry and how revenge shows up between brothers. [54:23] Parenting discipline vs. revenge-driven punishment. [58:25] Why forgiveness is essential for breaking the revenge cycle.     Five Key Takeaways Revenge activates the same brain circuits as drugs and gambling, making it addictive and compulsive for some people.  Emotional wounds register as real physical pain in the brain, triggering a desire to self-medicate through retaliation.  Revenge provides temporary relief but increases anger, anxiety, and depression after the dopamine fades.  Parents can unintentionally cross the line from discipline into revenge, especially when ego and shame are triggered.  Forgiveness is not weakness—it's neuroscience. It's one of the most powerful ways to reclaim control, peace, and leadership.  Links & Resources The Science of Revenge: https://bit.ly/4q1khVd Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Podcast Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1414     Closing Remark   If this episode challenged the way you think about anger, conflict, and forgiveness, please take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more men who want to lead with intention instead of reaction.

If you're a parent with a kid in youth sports—rec, competitive, or full-blown travel—today's episode will hit home. I sit down with Jonathan Carone, creator of Healthy Sports Parents, for a powerful conversation about what youth sports have become, why burnout is skyrocketing, and how well-meaning parents (including me in the early years) unknowingly make the experience more stressful for their kids.   We break down shocking stats—like why 70% of kids quit sports by age 13, why travel leagues are burning families out, and how overtraining is causing injuries in 9-, 10-, and 11-year-olds. Jonathan brings immense wisdom about the car ride home, sideline behavior, when to step in with coaches, and how to raise confident, resilient athletes without crushing the joy of the game.     Timeline Summary:   [0:00] The surprising reason most kids quit sports by age 13. [2:14] Larry shares his own evolution from "obnoxious sideline dad" to quiet encourager. [3:41] Introducing guest Jonathan Carone of Healthy Sports Parents. [4:10] Why travel sports are wrecking family time and burning kids out. [4:40] The truth about scholarships and NIL fantasies. [5:00] How the car ride home can make or break a kid's love for the game. [6:04] The pressure kids feel once sports stop being fun. [7:04] Why rec leagues are disappearing—and why that matters. [8:29] How travel sports exploded over the last 25 years. [10:25] A realistic look at what travel sports demand from families. [12:09] Early onset injuries from overscheduling and year-round seasons. [14:21] Real-life stories of parents whose kids never get a break. [16:06] Why travel sports can destroy family dinners and family culture. [17:05] The fear-based mindset driving parents to overcommit. [19:47] The burnout cycle and why most kids stop enjoying the sport. [20:05] The psychology behind parents who push too hard. [21:13] Self-love vs. self-glory and how they influence parenting. [22:29] The myth of scholarships and how rare they really are. [23:24] How unhealthy pressure destroys a child's love for physical activity. [24:13] Why running became punishment for our generation. [26:33] Protecting kids' mental health in the digital age with Bark. [31:43] What parents should be doing on the sidelines. [34:36] The car ride home: three things you should ALWAYS say. [35:42] When and how to give feedback the right way. [38:44] Using a 5-to-1 positivity ratio to help kids grow. [41:22] Being an "obnoxious encourager." [43:33] The power of tone and why it changes everything. [45:04] When coaches only play to win—and your kid never gets in. [47:04] Teaching kids to advocate for themselves, age by age. [49:20] How ADHD affects emotional regulation in sports. [53:14] The long-tail impact of how we parent through sports. [54:18] Generational change starts with how we show up today.     Five Key Takeaways Kids quit because the game stops being fun—not because of screens, school, or injuries. Pressure from adults is the biggest culprit.  Travel sports demand 6–15 hours per week before adding training or lessons, often at the cost of family dinners and downtime.  Overuse injuries are exploding in kids as young as 9 due to year-round seasons and lack of rest.  Parents often push due to fear, self-validation, or scholarship fantasies, even though less than 5% of athletes ever receive any scholarship money.  The car ride home should NEVER be coaching time. The only things kids need to hear are: "I loved watching you play," "Where do you want to eat?" and "What do you want to listen to?"      Links & Resources Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Healthy Sports Parents (Jonathan Carone): https://healthysportsparents.com Healthy Sports Parents on Social: https://www.instagram.com/healthysportsparents/ Episode Show Notes: https://thedadedge.com/1413     Closing Remark If this episode gave you a new perspective on supporting your youth athlete, take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more dads who want to lead with intention—on the sidelines and at home.

In this solo December episode, I continue a month-long series dedicated to educating parents about the real dangers our kids face online. After last week's story about Adam Tate, today I share two more real cases—one involving sextortion and another involving swatting—that every parent needs to understand. These aren't rare events. They're happening quickly, quietly, and often right under our noses while our kids sit in their bedrooms playing games like Roblox, Fortnite, and more.   You'll hear the heartbreaking story of 17-year-old Ryan Lass from San Jose, who took his own life within hours of being extorted by an overseas criminal network. Then we break down the tragic case of Andrew Finch, a 28-year-old father of two who was killed after a swatting prank triggered a full SWAT response to the wrong house. Both stories highlight how dangerous the digital world has become—and why we must be proactive, aware, and deeply involved in protecting our kids' online lives.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] Introduction [1:02] Why December episodes are focused on online safety and protecting kids. [1:50] Recap of last week's episode about Adam Tate and the Sean Ryan interview. [2:32] Why sinister online activity is escalating and why parents must stay informed. [3:02] Introducing two new stories: a sextortion case and a swatting case. [3:48] Explanation of "swatting" and why even young kids are now doing it. [4:48] Beginning Ryan Lass's story — a high school senior extorted online. [5:38] How a predator posed as a woman and launched a rapid blackmail attack. [6:07] FBI findings and identification of the international criminal ring. [7:41] Why Ryan's case matters: he was targeted, not reckless. [8:37] How modern predators manipulate teens using panic and pressure. [9:02] Parents' blind spots about who kids are connected to online. [10:17] Reminder that kids are connected to global predators—not just friends. [11:03] Introduction to Andrew Finch's swatting case. [12:06] The false 911 call describing a violent hostage situation. [12:57] How Andrew Finch was shot despite having no involvement. [14:01] Why swatting is deadly—and how it grew out of gaming communities. [15:39] The seriousness of online conflict and its real-world consequences. [16:33] How swatting and predator activity now infiltrate gaming platforms. [16:54] Why Bark is one of the most effective tools for monitoring kids' devices. [17:19] The need for proactive online supervision—like helmets for digital life. [18:18] A recent incident with my own son that Bark helped me catch early. [19:09] The urgency of protecting our kids from online predators. [19:32] Directing listeners to the show notes and resources at thedadedge.com/1412. [20:10] Additional resources including PenTester, YouTube links, and conversation guides. [20:27] Free "Conversations for the Car" PDF for kids ages 5–18. [20:45] Encouragement for parents: we fight this fight together.       Five Key Takeaways Predators are organized, trained, and global. Kids on gaming systems are interacting with far more than just "friends."  Sextortion happens extremely fast. In Ryan's case, the window from first contact to death was only hours.  Swatting is no longer just a gaming prank—it's deadly. The Andrew Finch tragedy shows how quickly it can turn fatal.  Parents must stay vigilant, informed, and engaged. Safety now requires ongoing conversations and digital monitoring.  Tools like Bark can save lives. Monitoring texts, DMs, and online chats can catch danger long before it escalates.      Links & Resources Mentioned   Bark Monitoring for Families: https://thedadedge.com/bark Ryan Montgomery Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2GPd36fFPuLsBSlZp6WUvc?si=BPYACSoWRRin9MatFHMGbg Facebook Story Referenced in Episode: https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=32876961955250751&id=100000911118224&mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=nnmVU8LFIdec2oLO# PenTester (Ryan Montgomery's Cybersecurity Site): https://pentester.com/ Ryan Montgomery's YouTube Channel (@0dayCTF): https://www.youtube.com/@0dayCTF NBC Bay Area News — Sextortion Case of San Jose Teen: https://www.nbcbayarea.com/news/local/4-arrested-sextortion-san-jose-teen-suicide/3865298/?utm_source=chatgpt.com ABC News — Swatting Incident Leading to Andrew Finch's Death: https://abcnews.go.com/US/la-man-arrested-swatting-incident-led-police-killing/story?id=52057251&utm_source=chatgpt.com Podcast Episode Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1412   Closing Remark If this episode helped open your eyes to the realities our kids face online, please take a moment to rate, review, follow, and share the show. Together, we can protect our kids and make the digital world a safer place for every family.

In this powerful and deeply emotional episode, I sit down with my good friend Sean Cochran, CEO of Men for Life, to have one of the rawest conversations we've ever shared on this podcast. Sean opens up about losing his first child to abortion at 19 and the seven-year spiral that followed—addiction, gambling, overdoses, isolation, and hitting rock bottom on the floor of a dirty hotel room. His story is one of unimaginable darkness, but also unbelievable redemption.   We explore how culture has silenced men in the abortion conversation, the devastating emotional impact so many men carry in secret, and Sean's journey from shame to recovery, fatherhood, and ultimately becoming a national voice for men who feel unseen in this space. We also dive into the mission behind Men for Life, the data behind father involvement, and how redefining authentic masculinity can change families and communities for generations.     Timeline Summary   [0:00] Sean begins sharing why abortion is not just a "women's issue." [2:03] The staggering data on how many men are affected by abortion every year. [3:56] Sean's personal story begins—19 years old, his girlfriend is pregnant. [5:06] Learning the abortion would happen despite his desire to keep the baby. [6:34] The counselor who told him "this doesn't affect you"—and how that shaped years of silence. [8:05] Addiction escalates: cocaine, ecstasy, gambling, and stealing. [9:25] Hitting rock bottom in a hotel room and believing he would die. [10:59] A moment of surrender and prayer that changed everything. [12:50] Entering treatment, beginning healing, and naming his son "Michael." [15:38] Rebuilding: finishing college, law school, starting a family. [17:04] Adopting three children—and the powerful contrast between two mothers' choices. [18:28] Realizing he was failing as a lawyer, husband, and father—and shutting down his law practice. [21:00] Discovering men everywhere carry hidden abortion wounds after speaking publicly for the first time. [23:03] How Sean was led—against his own plans—to become CEO of Men for Life. [26:05] The mission: creating a fatherhood program that transforms young men and saves lives. [28:00] Why authentic masculinity is rooted in service, courage, sacrifice, and Christ-like leadership. [30:00] How men can get involved and support Men for Life.     Five Key Takeaways Men are deeply impacted by abortion, yet culture has told them their voice doesn't matter. One in five men will lose a child to abortion by age 45—and most carry that pain alone. Sean's seven-year spiral was fueled by unprocessed grief, shame, and the belief that he "didn't matter." Father involvement changes outcomes: when men see an ultrasound and go through a fatherhood program, 97% choose life. Authentic masculinity isn't domination—it's service, courage, sacrifice, and living for something bigger than yourself.     Links & Resources Mentioned Men for Life Website: https://menforlife.org Contact Sean Directly: Email: sean@menforlife.org or https://menforlife.org/contact-us Sean's Instagram: https://instagram.com/lseancorcoran Dad Edge Mastermind: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Episode Show Notes Page: https://thedadedge.com/1411   Closing Remark If today's episode moved you, inspired you, or helped you feel less alone, please take a moment to rate, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more men who need these conversations.

In today's conversation, I sit down with Ian Cron — a psychotherapist, priest, bestselling author of The Road Back to You, and one of the world's leading experts on the Enneagram. This episode hit me far harder than I expected. Ian doesn't just explain the Enneagram… he helps us understand how our personality type shapes our marriage, our parenting, our leadership, and even the stories we tell ourselves.   But things get incredibly real when Ian puts me through a live guided inner-work exercise. Within minutes, he led me straight into one of the deepest beliefs I carry about success, provision, and worth — taking me face-to-face with the 12-year-old version of myself who still drives far more than I realized. It was raw, vulnerable, uncomfortable… and one of the most powerful moments I've had behind this microphone. If you've ever wondered why you do what you do, why you push so hard, or why your strengths sometimes undermine you, this conversation will stop you in your tracks.     Timeline Summary: [0:00] – Introducing the episode and why today's conversation hit harder than expected. [1:27] – Ian Cron's background as a psychotherapist, priest, and Enneagram expert. [2:12] – Ian explains the nine personality types in plain language. [2:42] – Why I chose to get vulnerable and let Ian guide me through inner work. [3:25] – A moment of intense authenticity as I sit face-to-face with my younger self. [11:51] – Nature vs. nurture — where personality comes from. [13:34] – Why self-awareness is essential for good living, marriage, and parenting. [15:31] – Applying Enneagram wisdom to understanding kids and their inner worlds. [17:22] – How knowing my wife's type changed our marriage. [18:27] – "What's best about you is also what's worst about you." [19:59] – Ian analyzes my type (3w2) and explains why he knew so much about me instantly. [21:42] – How threes may unintentionally run over people while chasing goals. [22:50] – Parenting kids who aren't wired like you — and avoiding making them copies. [24:12] – Why every type has strengths, weaknesses, and a path toward health. [26:32] – Understanding your kids' Enneagram types and customizing your parenting. [27:48] – When kids should take the Enneagram test. [29:03] – My own reflections on turning 50 and becoming more self-aware. [30:19] – How to begin inner work and understand your type's shadow side. [31:21] – The shift from first-half-of-life achievement to second-half-of-life meaning. [32:36] – Do Enneagram types change over time? [33:58] – Ian shares the hard truths about being a Type 4 and the work it required. [35:51] – What makes the Enneagram "painfully accurate" — and why it stings at first. [43:03] – Why dating app "compatibility" algorithms may be misleading. [46:16] – The danger of being married to someone exactly like you. [47:15] – Why I talk to the "achiever" part of myself and how Ian explains this phenomenon. [49:21] – Understanding internal "parts" and learning to lead them well. [52:06] – The moment my 12-year-old self emerges during the guided exercise. [1:02:14] – Why self-knowledge is the beginning of wisdom. [1:03:27] – Ian's resources: assessments, coaching, books, and his Typology podcast. [1:04:45] – Final reflections and directing listeners to the show notes.     Five Key Takeaways   The Enneagram reveals core motivations, not just behaviors. Understanding your type gives you a mirror into why you act, think, and feel the way you do.  Self-awareness is foundational to healthy marriage and parenting. When you understand your patterns, blind spots, and triggers, you show up more intentionally for the people you love.  Your strengths also contain your shadow. "What's best about you is also what's worst about you" — and growth requires facing both sides honestly.  Inner-work exposes old parts still running your life. The guided exercise revealed a wounded 12-year-old part of me still driving my need to achieve and provide.  Your type doesn't change, but you evolve within it. True maturity comes from learning to lead your personality, not letting it lead you.      Links & Resources: Ian's website & resources: https://www.ianmorgancron.com Ian's book: The Road Back to You: https://www.amazon.com/Road-Back-You-Enneagram-Self-Discovery/dp/0830846190 Bark x The Dad Edge: http://thedadedge.com/bark Show notes: https://thedadedge.com/1410     Closing Remark   If this episode gave you a moment of clarity, helped you understand yourself better, or challenged you to grow, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. From my heart to yours, thank you for listening — now go out and live legendary.

In this first solo show for December, the host, Larry Hagner, comes to the audience with anger and urgency to discuss a massive, sinister online threat targeting children through seemingly innocent games like Roblox and Minecraft. Drawing heavily from a recent Sean Ryan Show interview with ethical hacker Ryan Montgomery (Episode 255), the host alerts parents to the dark fringes of the internet and a dangerous group, 764, described as a dark web cult with an "indifference" belief that lives and families mean nothing.   The episode features the heartbreaking, public post from Adam and Amanda Tate whose 15-year-old son, Bryce Tate, tragically took his own life after being a victim of sextortion. The host details how these criminals build trust, escalate quickly (the Tate tragedy occurred in just three hours), and use threats of public exposure to manipulate vulnerable children. Beyond sextortion, the episode warns about extreme acts of self-harm, pet-killing, and even violence against family members being coerced for things as trivial as Roblox Robux.   The host emphasizes that parental awareness is the only defense. He strongly recommends using a parental monitoring software like Bark (about $15/month) to monitor online chats, text messages, and social media, allowing parents to get immediate alerts and intervene before tragedy strikes. This is a passionate call to action for fathers to educate themselves, have ongoing, fruitful conversations, and protect their children's lives.   TIMELINE SUMMARY   [0:00] Introduction [1:47] Episode disclaimer for parents [2:22] Alerting parents to the "massive threat" in games like Roblox and Minecraft [3:35] How innocent games can be tampered with and made evil [3:59] Introducing the Sean Ryan Show and the interview with Ryan Montgomery [4:37] Episode 255 of The Sean Ryan Show: "Roblox and Minecraft. Hacker exposes the largest online video games." [5:22] Warning: Roblox is not safe; introduction to the online group 764 [6:07] The 764 group's belief in indifference and not caring about the welfare of children [6:51] Sharing the story of Bryce Tate (15) and his parents, Adam and Amanda Tate [8:57] The discovery: Bryce was a victim of sextortion—a serious and growing threat  [9:49] The extortion phase: demanding $500 and threatening to share photos.  [10:22] Bryce, believing his world was destroyed, was manipulated into taking his own life [11:11] The rapid timeline: the first message to the final tragic act occurred in just three hours [12:02] Episode recommendation: Sean Ryan/Ryan Montgomery interview  [13:13] Discussing extreme acts: forcing a 14-year-old girl to hang herself naked on video [14:08] Forcing kids to tattoo usernames, burn themselves, and kill their pets or parents/siblings on video [15:10] The shocking detail: kids are being coerced for Roblox Robux, not even real money  [16:49] Bark: Parental Monitoring Software [19:11] Call to parents: Make an effort to have ongoing conversations with your kids [19:35] The modern threat: the bully can be in your kid's bedroom, 25 feet away, and you have "no idea" [20:25] Conclusion: The only protection our kids have is us; a passionate final call to action.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   The Threat is Real and Sinister Online platforms like Roblox and Minecraft are being exploited by a large, sadistic group (764) on the dark web that preys on vulnerable children, escalating from sextortion to coercing extreme acts of self-harm and violence for Robux or recognition. Speed is Critical—Intervention Must Be Immediate. The sextortion process is incredibly fast. A child can be manipulated into a catastrophic decision in as little as three to six hours, as seen in the Bryce Tate tragedy, highlighting the crucial need for immediate digital awareness and monitoring. The Stakes Are Life and Death. These criminals are professionals who exploit children's innocence and sense of shame, often leading victims to take their own lives. The host argues this is a heinous crime, describing the acts as being "murdered... through his phone".  Awareness is the Only Defense. Parents cannot protect their children unless they know what is happening. The host urges parents to research the topic (especially the Sean Ryan Show interview with Ryan Montgomery) to understand the depth of the technological and psychological infiltration. Protect Your Kids with Technology and Ongoing Conversation. While open, ongoing conversations are vital, parental monitoring tools like Bark are essential for a safety net. Bark monitors 30+ apps and texts, sending immediate alerts to parents, allowing intervention within minutes to stop a fast-moving threat.   LINKS Podcast Shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1409 Bark: Parental Monitoring Software: https://thedadedge.com/bark #255 Ryan Montgomery - Roblox & Minecraft: Hacker Exposes the Largest Online Video Games: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2GPd36fFPuLsBSlZp6WUvc?si=7BfOCdNOTzuoW4LkvHzyAA #JusticeforBryce - Adam Tate's Official Announcement: https://www.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=32876961955250751&id=100000911118224&mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=nnmVU8LFIdec2oLO# Pentester: https://pentester.com Ryan Montgomery: https://www.youtube.com/@0dayCTF

In today's conversation, I'm sitting down with Tyler Moore—better known as Tidy Dad—and this one genuinely surprised me in the best way. We went way beyond "clean your room" tactics and dove into how clutter quietly taxes our patience, steals our mornings, and robs us of presence with the people we love. Tyler breaks down simple, doable systems that turn chaos into calm—especially for us dads navigating careers, marriage, and raising kids.   We talk about the launch-pad front door setup that ends morning scrambles, the capsule wardrobe that eliminates decision fatigue, how to get your kids on board without battles or tears, and how to choose the right starting point so you build momentum instead of overwhelm. If you want more laughter, connection, and leadership at home—and fewer frantic searches for keys—this episode will hit you right where you need it.     Timeline Summary   [0:00] – Introduction [1:01] – Why "less mess = more presence" and how clutter taxes patience, marriage, and mornings. [3:10] – Tyler on why tidying starts with accepting that life will get messy—and how systems prevent spirals. [4:47] – The hidden cost of small daily stressors (like losing your keys) and why routines create mental clarity. [7:21] – The extremes of "perfectly tidy" vs. "messy house, happy family"… and where most dads actually fall. [17:05] – The front-door "launch pad": a simple system that ends the morning chaos for good. [18:24] – Tyler's game-changing capsule wardrobe that eliminates decision fatigue (and why kids notice). [26:30] – Why most big organizing projects fail—and how to start small by identifying the real pain point. [33:24] – How to get kids involved without tears by starting with low-stakes categories and giving them ownership. [47:09] – Lessons learned from the "bedroom switch meltdown" and communicating as a couple before changing systems. [51:52] – Why intentional living beats comparison, and how to define "just enough" for your family.     Five Key Takeaways   Clutter steals more than space — it steals presence. Small daily frustrations compound into bigger emotional and relational consequences. Systems beat motivation. Creating "launch pads," routines, and predictable spots for essentials protects your mornings and your mindset. Start tiny, not huge. The big whole-house overhauls usually fail; momentum comes from solving one specific pain point at a time. Kids thrive when they're part of the process. Beginning with low-stakes categories (like socks or pajamas) builds confidence, ownership, and calm. Define "just enough" for your family. You don't need the fanciest home or the most stuff—intentional choices create more freedom, clarity, and connection.       Links & Resources Tyler Moore (Tidy Dad) on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tidydad Tidy Times Newsletter (Substack): https://tidydad.substack.com Tidy Tidbits Podcast: Search Tidy Tidbits wherever you listen to podcasts Dad Edge Show Notes: https://thedadedge.com/1408 Dad Edge Business Boardroom: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind     Closing Remark   If this conversation gave you practical ways to reclaim presence, connection, and calm inside your home, do me a favor—rate, follow, and leave a quick review. And share this one with another dad who could use a boost in simplifying his life and leading more intentionally. You guys are the best.

In this special Black Friday episode, I dive into a much-needed conversation about emotional reset. As the holiday season ramps up, many of us are carrying stress, tension, and unprocessed emotions that make us more reactive and less connected. In this short but impactful solo episode, I walk you through how to reset three vital areas of your life—your mind, your marriage, and your relationship with your kids—before the craziness of December takes over.   If you've felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply exhausted lately, this episode offers practical and heartfelt guidance to bring intention, clarity, and presence back into your home.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [1:02] – Why this time of year can feel especially heavy and chaotic [2:22] – The three things to reset before the holidays: mind, marriage, and kids [3:04] – A tactical Black Friday shout-out and 50% off gear at thedadedge.com/shop [3:58] – Resetting your mind: the power of a quiet, tech-free 30-minute walk [5:03] – How constant busyness keeps us distracted and emotionally exhausted [6:38] – Resetting your marriage with one simple and honest check-in conversation [7:23] – Real-life example of how Larry leads open dialogue with his wife [9:12] – Resetting your connection with your kids through gratitude and shared plans [10:10] – What Larry's son said he wanted to do together before Christmas [10:29] – Why you shouldn't wait until January 1st to reconnect with your family     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   Resetting Begins with Stillness: Unprocessed stress makes us reactive and distant. A quiet 30-minute walk without media can bring clarity, calm, and presence back to your day. Marital Tension Needs Check-Ins, Not Grand Gestures: One intentional conversation with your spouse—asking how they're doing and what needs to be talked about—can diffuse tension and bring closeness back. Children Want Time, Not Things: Asking your kids what they loved about the year and what they want to do together before Christmas creates meaningful connection during a busy season. Don't Wait for the New Year to Start Over: You can recalibrate your emotional tone now. Waiting for January 1st delays the connection your family needs today. Great Dads Lead with Emotional Tone: Your mindset, your calm, and your intention set the atmosphere for your entire home. Lead it with purpose—especially during the holidays.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Black Friday Sale (limited time): https://thedadedge.com/shop – Use code FRIDAY for 50% off all gear Download the "25 Questions" PDF for better connection with your kids: https://thedadedge.com/25questions Episode Show notes: https://thedadedge.com/1407     If this episode resonated with you, take 30 minutes today for yourself—and 10 minutes with your family. Then rate and review the podcast, and share it with a fellow dad who could use a reset.   Live legendary.

In this special solo episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I take a moment to reflect on the power of gratitude, especially as we approach Thanksgiving. What started out as a funny story about a failed attempt to record with my nine-year-old quickly turned into a heartfelt message for the men who make this podcast possible. I open up about the lessons I've learned over the past 10 years of podcasting, leading the Dad Edge movement, and the importance of appreciating life's simplest blessings—even when the world feels chaotic.   Whether you're navigating challenging family dynamics over the holidays or simply want to deepen your connection with those you love, this episode is packed with encouragement and reminders about what truly matters.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [1:22] – Why this solo episode almost didn't happen [2:38] – Reflections on Thanksgiving and what it represents [3:55] – How simple gratitude (like working fingers and toes) shifts perspective [4:56] – The Hagner family Thanksgiving tradition of spoken gratitude [5:35] – The importance of setting healthy boundaries around alcohol [6:17] – A hilarious and humbling personal story from a past holiday [7:37] – Deep gratitude to the Dad Edge community and listeners [9:51] – Shout-out to men in the Alliance, Boardroom, and 1-on-1 coaching [11:39] – Celebrating Wade Hendry as First Form Dad Edge Dad of the Month [14:29] – How First Form's company culture mirrors our values [15:20] – Where to find full show notes and resources for this episode     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   Gratitude Doesn't Require Perfection: Even in chaotic or stressful family situations, choosing to focus on small, simple blessings—like health or a working car—can reframe your entire experience. Holiday Traditions Can Be Powerful Tools: Larry's family tradition of expressing specific gratitude around the Thanksgiving table serves as a model for meaningful connection, not just with family but with intention. Guard Your Energy and Presence: The episode includes a candid and humorous warning about overindulging in alcohol during the holidays—a reminder that one night can become a story you regret for decades. Celebrate Your Journey, Even If It's Imperfect: Larry shares how the Dad Edge Podcast began as a passion project and evolved into a global movement—proof that you don't have to have it all figured out to make an impact. The Community Is What Makes This Possible: From listeners to Alliance members to coaching clients, this episode is a heartfelt "thank you" to the men doing life together, growing, contributing, and showing up with courage.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Full episode details: https://thedadedge.com/1406 Download "25 Questions to Help You Connect with Your Kids": https://thedadedge.com/25questions Shop First Form and support the podcast: https://1stphorm.com/dadedge Podcast Shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1406     If this episode resonated with you, please rate, review, and share it with another father. Let's keep building this community of intentional men who lead and love well.   Live legendary.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Bryan Driscoll, a successful digital marketer and real estate investor who's also a devoted husband and father. Bryan opens up about his journey balancing business and family, the intentional decisions he's made to protect his time, and how he structures his life around his values—faith, presence, and legacy.   From tech startup burnout to creating a lifestyle that prioritizes family dinners and morning routines, Bryan shares the strategies and mindset shifts that helped him go from reactive to intentional. If you're a dad wrestling with how to succeed in business without sacrificing your family, this episode is a blueprint for building both.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [2:04] – Bryan's background and unexpected pivot into entrepreneurship [4:28] – How a college hack turned into a full-time digital marketing agency [6:53] – Navigating growth while staying aligned with his faith [9:46] – Building in boundaries to be fully present for his family [12:12] – The moment Bryan decided to stop working nights and weekends [14:25] – Why success means nothing if your kids don't know you [17:00] – How he structures his day to serve his business and family [20:42] – Creating a routine that includes daily prayer and gratitude [24:31] – Why his calendar now includes "unmovable" family time [27:18] – Final reflections: letting your family see your heart, not just your hustle       5 KEY TAKEAWAYS     Faith and Family Define Success: Bryan isn't just building wealth—he's building a legacy rooted in faith, integrity, and presence. You Control the Calendar: Intentional time blocking, morning routines, and family dinners aren't "nice to haves"—they're non-negotiables for lasting connection. Boundaries Are Leadership: Saying no to work after 5 PM was Bryan's way of saying yes to what matters most. Kids Need Your Heart, Not Your Hustle: Bryan reflects on how being physically present isn't enough—emotional presence is the real gift. Build a Business That Serves Your Life: By designing his business around his family values, Bryan proves you don't have to choose between impact and intimacy.     LINKS & RESOURCES Connect with Bryan Driscoll and explore real estate investing tips: https://motivatedleads.com Download the Questions for the Car PDF: https://thedadedge.com/25questions 1st Phorm: www.1stphorm.com/dadedge Podcast Shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1405     If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to rate, review, and share the podcast. Let this conversation be the spark that helps you lead your family with intention.   Live legendary.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Adam Schafer, co-host of the popular Mind Pump Podcast, for a vulnerable, authentic, and deeply reflective conversation on fatherhood, healing generational trauma, and building connection through presence—not performance. Adam opens up about his own childhood trauma, how it shaped his identity, and the intentional work he's done to break the cycle and show up differently for his son.   We dive into the power of emotional safety, why performance-based love doesn't work, and the simple but powerful practice of being fully present. Whether you're a father looking to lead with more empathy or a man learning to love from a healed place, this conversation will resonate deeply.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [2:07] – Adam reflects on his father's absence and the pain of unfulfilled promises [5:45] – How unresolved trauma shaped his early identity and choices [8:10] – The pivotal moment he realized his success was masking deeper wounds [11:28] – Why he decided to show up differently for his son [14:42] – The importance of building emotional safety, not just structure [17:36] – Why "being there" is different from being present [20:03] – Teaching through modeling instead of controlling [22:14] – Using breathwork, journaling, and awareness to stay grounded [25:11] – Why your kids don't need perfection—they need you [28:55] – Adam's approach to leading with grace and empathy at home [31:30] – Navigating self-doubt and letting go of old patterns [35:07] – Final reflections: leading with love, not ego       5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   Unresolved Trauma Shows Up in Fatherhood: Adam shares how his unprocessed childhood pain impacted how he first approached success, relationships, and parenting—until he consciously chose to heal and grow. Presence Is More Than Proximity: Simply being around isn't enough. Kids need engaged, emotionally available fathers who are attuned to their needs. Breaking Generational Patterns Starts With Awareness: Adam emphasizes that healing begins when we're honest about what shaped us—and we choose to respond differently moving forward. Your Kids Need Safe, Not Perfect: It's not about being the perfect dad. It's about being the one your kids feel emotionally safe with—where they can be seen, heard, and loved unconditionally. You Can't Teach What You Don't Practice: Breathwork, journaling, emotional regulation—Adam models these daily so he can parent from a grounded and connected place.   LINKS & RESOURCES   Connect with Adam Schafer and Mind Pump Media: https://mindpumppodcast.com Download the Questions for the Car resource: https://thedadedge.com/25questions Explore more episodes and resources: https://thedadedge.com/podcast thedadedge.com/soulmates Podcast Shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1404     If this episode helped you reflect, reframe, or reconnect, don't forget to rate, review, and share the podcast. One conversation can change everything.   Live legendary.

In this heartwarming and hilarious episode, I sit down with my 9-year-old son Colton for a spontaneous and deeply connective conversation. Using our brand-new Questions for the Car resource, we explore everything from nightmares and Dog Man books to space rides and secret lemonade recipes. It's a candid glimpse into father-son bonding, full of laughter, surprises, and those unscripted moments that truly matter.   Whether you're a dad looking for creative ways to connect with your kids or just need a smile today, this episode is a reminder of the magic that happens when we slow down, ask meaningful questions, and just listen. Colton brings the energy and honesty only a 9-year-old can, and the stories he shares will absolutely make your day.     Episode Highlights [0:00] - Introduction [1:10] - Introducing Colton and the new "Questions for the Car" resource [3:35] - The big move from Facebook to our private Dad Edge Alliance platform [5:00] - Colton shares his outfit of the day and his excitement for Black Friday merch [6:00] - Colton's wild dream involving spooky gray eyes and… Mr. Doo Doo? [8:45] - Talking books: Colton breaks down his latest Dog Man read (spoiler alert!) [11:00] - Reflecting on romance, weddings, and seeing parents show love [13:10] - Favorite family memory: Disney World and the magic of Space Mountain [15:45] - If he had a magic wand… Colton's Paris dreams and golden chocolate [17:03] - What makes a good friend, and Colton's trampoline generosity [18:00] - Why asking fun questions builds better conversations and memories [20:00] - The best lemonade in the world (and the secret ingredient Colton won't tell!)     5 Key Takeaways   Ask Better Questions – Engaging your kids with meaningful questions opens the door to unforgettable conversations. Connection Over Perfection – Conversations with younger kids might "squirrel," but the real gift is in the connection. Create Fun Family Rituals – Resources like Questions for the Car can turn everyday drives into bonding moments. Celebrate the Small Things – From dreams to books to lemonade, everything is an opportunity to connect. Lead by Example – Showing love, presence, and intention as a father shapes your child's inner world.       Links & Resources   Questions for the Car: thedadedge.com/kidquestions       Closing Thoughts   Even the shortest chats with our kids can leave lasting impressions. Whether you're talking about books, dreams, or lemonade recipes, remember—it's not about the topic, it's about the connection. If this episode inspired you, made you laugh, or gave you new ideas to connect with your kids, please rate and review the show, and don't forget to share it with another dad who might need it.   Stay legendary.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Candice Horbacz, a former adult film star turned mindfulness advocate, podcaster, and homeschooling mother. Candice brings a rare blend of candor, introspection, and wisdom to this deeply personal conversation. We explore how she navigated radical life transitions, healed from childhood trauma, and created a home rooted in authenticity, curiosity, and emotional safety.   Candice opens up about her own upbringing, the dysfunction that shaped her early worldview, and how she found her way to a new version of identity after walking away from the adult industry. This episode is about reclaiming power—through parenting, partnership, and personal evolution.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [1:36] – How Candice's childhood shaped her early sense of self [4:18] – Growing up in a home where emotions weren't safe [7:03] – Her path into the adult film industry and what it masked [9:55] – Why the lack of secure relationships drew her toward unhealthy dynamics [12:30] – How she began to explore healing, trauma work, and self-awareness [14:49] – The role of her partner in helping her see her worth [17:01] – What led her to leave the adult industry behind [18:57] – Shifting identity and rebuilding trust within herself [21:04] – Navigating marriage with vulnerability and truth [23:15] – Creating emotional safety for her son as a homeschooling mom [26:40] – Why curiosity is her #1 parenting tool [29:21] – Helping kids navigate their own triggers without shame [32:09] – Final reflections on how to lead with authenticity at home     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS Early Dysfunction Often Masks Itself in Achievement or Escape: Candice shares how a childhood without emotional safety pushed her to find validation in unhealthy spaces, including adult entertainment. Self-Awareness Begins with Naming the Pain: Her healing journey started by recognizing how trauma shaped her reactions, her self-worth, and her definition of love. You Can Reinvent Your Identity Without Shame: Leaving the adult film industry was a reclamation of agency, and her story proves it's never too late to rewrite your narrative. Parenting with Curiosity Builds Emotional Safety: Rather than reacting with control, Candice leans into curiosity when her son struggles—inviting connection instead of conflict. Partnerships Flourish in Vulnerability, Not Performance: With her husband, Candice found safety to explore who she truly was—laying the foundation for a conscious, present, and authentic marriage.   LINKS & RESOURCES Learn more about Candice and her work: https://www.chattingwithcandice.com Candice's Website: http://candicehorbacz.com/ Discover our free Questions for the Car download: https://thedadedge.com/25questions The Dad Edge & Bark: http://thedadedge.com/bark Show Notes for this episode: https://thedadedge.com/1402     If this episode gave you a new perspective on parenting, healing, or connection, share it with someone who needs to hear it—and don't forget to rate and review the podcast.   Live legendary.

Ever found yourself trying to fix a problem with your spouse or kids—only to make it worse? Yeah, me too. In today's episode, I sat down with Josh Davis, a neuroscientist, author, and master of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), to explore how the way we communicate—our words, tone, body language, and mindset—can shape the emotional responses of those we love most.   Josh didn't just explain NLP; he showed it in action—by putting me in the hot seat. We talked real-life scenarios that dads like us face daily, from explosive moments with kids to feeling emotionally disconnected from our spouses. Josh walked me through powerful, science-backed communication tools that shifted my perspective in real time. Trust me, this episode isn't just about theory—it's a game changer that could transform how you show up in your marriage, fatherhood, and even your inner dialogue.     Timeline Summary [0:00] - Introduction [1:19] - Common communication missteps with our wives and kids [2:07] - What is NLP and why every dad should care [6:56] - Josh's background and why NLP is his passion [12:06] - Comparing NLP to cognitive behavioral therapy [14:10] - Real-world examples of how NLP creates breakthroughs [23:25] - Josh's personal story about improving his marriage through NLP [33:21] - A deep-dive NLP coaching session with me as the guinea pig [40:00] - Identifying limiting beliefs and how they shape our behavior [42:00] - The surprising power of body language in father-child connection [45:04] - How to build rapport with your kids through posture and tone [54:12] - Reframing limiting beliefs our kids express [57:00] - Simple language tweaks to open emotional doors [1:01:20] - A tactical breakdown of how to validate emotions without enabling     Key Takeaways   Stop Fixing, Start Connecting – Your instinct to solve may actually be creating distance; connection begins with emotional validation. NLP Isn't Magic—It's Strategy – Small shifts in language, posture, and tone can create big breakthroughs in how others respond to you. Meet People Where They Are – Emotional safety starts with joining your child or partner in their current state before trying to lead them somewhere else. Your Body Talks Too – Mirroring posture and energy isn't manipulation—it's subconscious empathy that builds trust. Change Begins with You – Whether it's marriage, parenting, or personal beliefs, the transformation starts by examining your internal dialogue and behavior.   Links & Resources   Josh Davis' Book: https://www.amazon.com/Difference-that-Makes-Science-Positive/dp/1250349087 thedadedge.com/soulmates joshdavisphd.com/dads Podcast Show Notes: https://thedadedge.com/1401     If this episode sparked some ah-ha moments, hit that follow button, leave a review, and share it with a fellow dad who's ready to level up his communication and connection at home.

Today marks the 1400th episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, and I couldn't be more excited to celebrate it with one of the most important people in my life—my 9-year-old son, Colton. In this fun, heartfelt, and candid father-son conversation, we dive into some of the powerful questions from my free resource, Questions for the Car, to model what intentional connection looks like between a dad and his kid.   Colton opens up about everything from his love of dodgeball and tacos to what makes him feel proud, loved, and connected to our family. We laugh, share stories, and flip the script as Colton even asks me a question or two. This episode is a reminder that our kids are always listening—and when we ask the right questions, they start to open up in ways that shape our relationship forever.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [1:01] – Why this episode is so personal and meaningful [2:45] – Introducing the Questions for the Car PDF [4:05] – Colton jumps on the mic for the first time! [5:26] – What 4th grade is like from a kid's perspective [6:47] – Dodgeball, gym class, and why Colton loves competition [9:53] – The game-winning catch that boosted his confidence [10:47] – Colton's proudest sports moment and how it made him feel [11:21] – What makes hiking with Dad so special [12:44] – Colton defines love in his own words [14:17] – Why spending time as a family matters to kids [15:37] – His favorite family meals (hint: tacos and wings!) [16:22] – The superpowers he'd love to have [18:51] – Colton flips the script and interviews me [19:56] – Favorite books, stories, and why we love reading together [21:23] – How to grab the Questions for the Car PDF to connect with your own kids     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   Kids Just Want Time with You: Colton said it best—kids feel love when parents spend time with them. It's not about big moments, but consistent presence. Ask Better Questions, Get Better Connection: Our Questions for the Car tool helps dads go beyond "How was your day?" and into deeper, more meaningful conversations. Celebrate the Small Wins: Confidence grows from moments like a dodgeball victory or a hike with Dad—highlight them and talk about them. Let Them See You as Human: When Colton asked me a question, it reminded me how valuable it is to let our kids learn about us, too. Legacy Is Built One Conversation at a Time: Every car ride, bedtime chat, or dinner table question is a chance to connect, shape, and influence our kids for life.     LINKS & RESOURCES Questions for the Car (Free PDF): http://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Podcast Shownotes: https://thedadedge.com/1400     If this episode brought you joy—or gave you a new way to connect with your kids—please take 30 seconds to rate, review, and share it. And if you mention Colton in your review, I promise I'll read it to him!   Live legendary.

In this eye-opening episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Justin Houman, a leading urologist and men's health expert, to talk about everything most guys avoid—hormones, testosterone, fertility, vasectomies, and how your lifestyle is impacting your long-term health as a man. Dr. Houman pulls back the curtain on what's really happening with declining testosterone levels, the truth about TRT (testosterone replacement therapy), and why many young men are already showing signs of hormonal imbalance.   We also dive deep into how stress, diet, alcohol, and even simple daily choices are influencing not just your performance—but your future as a father and husband. If you've ever felt off, sluggish, or just "not yourself," this episode could be the wake-up call you didn't know you needed.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS [0:00] – Introduction [2:11] – Why testosterone levels are dropping in younger men [3:38] – The impact of stress and modern lifestyle on men's hormones [6:52] – What every guy should know about fertility and sperm health [9:26] – The myth of "you're too young to have hormone issues" [11:33] – Why alcohol may be hurting your testosterone more than you think [13:05] – The truth about TRT: who should and should not consider it [16:10] – Lifestyle first: how diet, exercise, and sleep influence hormones [18:22] – The impact of porn and digital overstimulation on sexual function [21:04] – What you need to know about vasectomies and reversals [23:44] – The mental health component of hormone imbalance [25:31] – Final advice from Dr. Houman: take control of your health early     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS Hormone Imbalance Isn't Just for Older Men: Men in their 20s and 30s are now experiencing low testosterone and fertility issues due to stress, poor sleep, and environmental toxins. TRT Isn't a Shortcut—It's a Tool: Testosterone Replacement Therapy can be life-changing for the right candidates, but it's not a cure-all. Lifestyle must come first. Small Choices Equal Big Outcomes: Daily habits like reducing alcohol, managing stress, and improving sleep can significantly improve testosterone and overall vitality. Digital Overstimulation Is Rewiring Sexual Health: Excessive porn use and screen time are contributing to erectile dysfunction and lowered libido in men of all ages. Proactive Health Wins the Long Game: Don't wait until something breaks—taking action now protects your ability to lead, love, and show up strong for your family.     LINKS & RESOURCES   Learn more about Dr. Justin Houman: https://houmanmd.com/ 25 Questions to Spark Connection: https://thedadedge.com/25questions More podcast episodes and resources: https://thedadedge.com/podcast Episode Shownotes: thedadedge.com/1399     If this episode opened your eyes, don't keep it to yourself. Share it with another dad, and remember to rate, follow, and review the podcast.   Live legendary.

In this deeply moving and perspective-shifting episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with John O'Leary, a bestselling author, motivational speaker, and burn survivor whose life is a testament to the power of resilience, hope, and radical love. At age nine, John suffered severe burns across 100% of his body. He wasn't supposed to live. But not only did he survive—he became one of the most impactful voices inspiring people to live fully, love deeply, and lead fearlessly.   John and I talk about what truly matters in life, the legacy we leave through small, consistent acts of presence, and how pain—when faced with faith and courage—can become the very tool that transforms us into the fathers and husbands we were meant to be. This isn't just an episode about overcoming—it's about becoming.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS [0:00] – Introduction [1:45] – The moment that changed John's life forever [4:18] – How his parents showed up during trauma and why it shaped him [7:32] – The role of forgiveness in healing deep wounds [10:06] – Why pain isn't the enemy—but a bridge to deeper purpose [13:14] – John's perspective on legacy and the value of being there [17:05] – The power of small, consistent actions over grand gestures [21:38] – Loving your spouse through service and sacrifice [25:12] – Raising kids who are resilient, grateful, and grounded [28:59] – The single most powerful lesson John learned from his father [32:30] – A challenge for every dad listening: What are you really living for?     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   Pain Can Be a Catalyst, Not a Curse: John's story proves that life's most devastating moments can forge our deepest character and call us to higher purpose if we choose to face them with courage. Legacy Is Built in Presence, Not Perfection: His parents' unwavering presence—especially during trauma—taught him that how we show up in the hardest times says everything about who we are. Love Is Action, Not Just Intention: Whether it's in marriage or parenting, love must be expressed through service, sacrifice, and consistency—not just feelings or words. Our Kids Learn More from Observation Than Instruction: John learned resilience, discipline, and deep love not by being told what to do, but by watching how his parents lived during the toughest seasons. You Were Meant to Live Fully, Not Just Survive: Every dad has the opportunity—and responsibility—to stop sleepwalking through life and start leading intentionally with love, clarity, and vision.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Learn more about John O'Leary – https://johnolearyinspires.com 25 Questions to Spark Connection – https://thedadedge.com/25questions More Podcast Episodes – https://thedadedge.com/podcast The Dad Edge Boardroom Mastermind - https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Shownotes for this episode: https://thedadedge.com/1397     If this conversation sparked something in you, share it with a fellow dad who needs this message. And don't forget to rate, review, and follow the podcast.   Live legendary.

In this special episode of The Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with a very special guest—my 11-year-old son, Lawson Hagner. This episode is unlike any other, because it's not about interviews or experts—it's about connection. It's about the power of slowing down, asking questions, and being intentional with our kids.   Lawson and I dive into simple but meaningful topics—his favorite memories, what it means to "lock in," and how he's learning to handle school, sports, and life. What starts as a lighthearted father-son chat turns into an authentic, heartfelt conversation about discipline, focus, and what it truly means to build a strong relationship between a dad and his son.   We also talk about a new free resource I created called "Questions for the Car"—designed to help dads spark deeper conversations with their kids during everyday moments. This episode is a reminder that great connections don't happen by accident—they happen when we choose to show up and be curious.       What You'll Learn in This Episode [0:00] – Introduction [1:02] – Introducing Lawson Hagner — my 11-year-old son and first-time podcast guest. [2:25] – The fun and chaos of sixth grade (and yes, girls come up right away). [4:58] – How Lawson's football team went undefeated—and what "locking in" means to him. [6:06] – Our father-son bond and why intentional connection matters so much. [7:08] – Introducing the Questions for the Car resource and how dads can use it. [8:33] – Lawson's favorite memories and why going to breakfast together means so much. [10:19] – How meaningful conversations can come from simple, everyday questions. [12:11] – "Locking in": Lawson's personal philosophy on focus and discipline in sports and school. [15:20] – How to manage overwhelm—teaching kids (and adults) how to take on the "next right thing." [20:02] – What tradition means to Lawson and why Christmas represents deeper family connection. [23:14] – The power of presence—how just three questions can spark a 25-minute, life-giving conversation.     Key Takeaways Connection happens in small moments. Breakfasts, car rides, and one-on-one chats matter more than grand gestures. "Lock in" isn't just for sports. Lawson reminds us that focus and effort apply to school, family, and life. Asking great questions creates great relationships. Curiosity opens the door for deeper understanding. Tradition builds belonging. Family rituals—like Christmas mornings and hot cocoa nights—create lasting bonds. Dads set the tone. Our consistency, presence, and willingness to engage build the foundation our kids stand on.     Links & Resources     Download Questions for the Car: https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions Episoe Shownotes: thedadedge.com/1398     Closing Thoughts   This episode isn't just a podcast—it's a moment between a dad and his son that shows what intentional fatherhood looks like in real time. Whether it's on the way to school, over breakfast, or sitting by the fire, every dad has the opportunity to lead with curiosity and love.   If this conversation inspired you, please rate, review, and share The Dad Edge Podcast. And remember, gentlemen—don't just go through the motions… Live Legendary.

In this episode of The Dad Edge Podcast, we dive into a topic every parent faces daily — our kids' teeth. From baby gums to braces, I sit down with orthodontist, educator, and author Dr. Robert Geiman to unpack the essential truths about children's dental health and what parents can do to set their kids up for lifelong confidence and health.   Dr. Geiman's new book, The Tooth Bible: A Parent's Guide to Their Child's Smile, turns decades of clinical experience into practical, bite-sized advice every parent can understand and apply. In our conversation, we cover everything from fluoride myths to brushing battles, flossing habits, and how oral health connects to our kids' overall well-being. But this episode goes beyond teeth — we talk about leadership, humility, and how the way we show up as dads can shape our families for generations.   Episode Timeline   [0:00] – Introduction [2:27] – Introducing Dr. Robert Geiman and his mission behind The Tooth Bible. [5:07] – How a COVID lockdown project became a parenting essential. [8:12] – What parents should do from birth to age three: brushing basics and fluoride facts. [10:22] – The truth about fluoride and why science still matters. [15:00] – Why The Tooth Bible is written in Q&A format and the most common dental questions parents ask. [18:10] – What parents should and shouldn't say to their kids before braces. [20:16] – The real reason snacking on sugar all day is worse than eating it all at once. [23:00] – How orthodontic technology has made braces more comfortable and effective. [27:00] – The link between oral health, heart health, and overall well-being. [30:00] – Making brushing fun and consistent for kids of all ages. [40:30] – How and when to start flossing — and tools that make it easier for kids. [43:33] – Leading by example: how your dental habits as a dad influence your children. [48:41] – Dr. Geiman on marriage, communication, and leading at home with humility. [50:45] – The importance of owning mistakes and teaching kids through example.     Key Takeaways: Oral health is a reflection of overall health. Healthy gums and teeth often mirror good habits and wellness throughout the body. Fluoride, when used in proper doses, is safe and essential for preventing cavities. Dr. Geiman emphasizes trusting science over social media noise. Make brushing fun and consistent. Give kids ownership—let them choose their toothbrush and toothpaste flavor to increase motivation. Lead by example. Your kids are watching; if they see you brushing and flossing daily, they're more likely to do the same. Parenting is leadership in action. Whether in dental habits or daily life, your consistency, humility, and example create lasting impact.         Links and Resources The Tooth Bible website: https://thetoothbible.com The Tooth Bible Smile Shop: https://thetoothbible.com/smile-shop ChildandAdultOrthodontics.com Follow Dr. Geiman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/author_dr.bobby/ https://www.instagram.com/brace_thyself/ Podcast Episode Show Notes: http://thedadedge.com/1396     Closing Thoughts   This episode reminds us that leadership starts with example — even in the smallest routines, like brushing your teeth beside your kids. When we lead with intention and humility, our children learn more than just good dental hygiene; they learn integrity, consistency, and care.   If you enjoyed this conversation, please rate, review, and share The Dad Edge Podcast to help more fathers build stronger, more intentional families.

In this solo episode, I open up about one of the most overwhelming seasons my family has faced—fall. Between school demands, sports, band, and everything else, our schedule was maxed out and our connection suffered. Jessica and I found ourselves constantly busy but emotionally distant, operating more like teammates than soulmates.   I share how we recognized the symptoms of "roommate syndrome," what we did to course-correct, and why protecting margin in your life and marriage is non-negotiable. I also introduce my brand-new course launching in January, From Roommates to Soulmates, designed for husbands who are ready to rebuild emotional connection and intimacy.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS [0:00] – Introduction [2:31] – Why fall marks the beginning of chaos for many families [3:07] – Introducing the From Roommates to Soulmates course [4:15] – What roommate syndrome looks like and why it's dangerous [5:20] – Cultural lies men believe about marriage and fatherhood [6:45] – The silent struggle of disconnection [8:06] – Our family's real-life overscheduling mistake [10:28] – When joy turns into exhaustion [10:54] – The "Sunday Night Reset" strategy [11:27] – How shared calendars and huddles create clarity [12:13] – Learning to say no with purpose [13:16] – Protecting margin and prioritizing connection [14:42] – Why our "Date Days" are sacred [15:38] – Free gift: Questions for the Car PDF [16:41] – Start deeper conversations with your kids today       5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Busyness Is the Enemy of Intimacy Just because you're doing a lot doesn't mean you're connecting. Overscheduling your family can slowly erode the relationships that matter most. 2. Roommate Syndrome Is Real—But Reversible When you and your partner start functioning as co-managers instead of lovers, it's time to course-correct. Connection requires intention. 3. Margin Is Not a Luxury, It's a Necessity If your calendar is full but your marriage feels empty, it's a sign you need to guard time for each other and for rest. 4. Clarity and Communication Prevent Chaos Tools like family huddles and shared calendars aren't just logistical—they're emotional anchors that keep the household united. 5. Leading Your Family Starts With Leading Yourself Recognizing when you're off-track and initiating reconnection is the mark of strong leadership—both as a husband and a father.       LINKS & RESOURCES • Free Resource – Questions for the Car: https://thedadedge.com/kidquestions • Show Notes for this episode: https://thedadedge.com/1395   If this episode resonated with you, rate, review, follow, and share it with another dad who needs it. Let's lead our families with presence and purpose.   Live legendary.

In this special Father-Son Wednesday edition of the Dad Edge Podcast, Ethan and I have an open and heartfelt conversation about the kind of legacy we want to leave—not in terms of money, but in how we show up for our families, our faith, and our future. With Halloween around the corner, we explore the idea of what truly haunts fathers—missed moments, emotional distance, and failing to lead with purpose.   We dive into what it means to lead a family spiritually without pushing religion, how a father's love for his wife becomes a model for children, and how intentional home culture shapes future generations. Ethan shares his vision for his future family and career as a firefighter—and how he wants to lead by presence, not pressure.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [1:15] – Ethan's "Winter Arc" and using seasons to spark growth [2:59] – Redefining legacy beyond wealth or achievements [5:14] – Why health and strength are crucial to long-term fatherhood [8:32] – Spiritual leadership without religiosity [10:04] – Passing down a relationship with God to future generations [12:33] – Faith, emotional safety, and keeping an open mind [15:21] – Ethan's vision of future fatherhood and home culture [17:42] – How your home environment speaks louder than your words [20:07] – The impact of loving your spouse well in front of your kids [23:15] – Why we choose to gross our kids out with affection—not arguments [24:49] – The power of being the "warrior in the garden" [25:29] – Ethan's passion for firefighting and leaving impact [27:56] – Halloween memories, safety tips, and shoutouts     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Legacy Is Emotional, Not Just Financial The mark we leave on our kids isn't in bank accounts—it's in the daily presence, protection, and love they feel from us. 2. Faith Is Modeled, Not Mandated Ethan speaks on how he wants to raise his future family to know God through a relationship—not religion—and how that shaped his upbringing. 3. Your Marriage Is the Blueprint How you treat your wife sets the tone for how your kids will approach love, commitment, and conflict in their own relationships. 4. Presence Over Perfection Kids remember if you were there and emotionally available—not if you were flawless. Being the safe space is what sticks. 5. Strength Is Best When Softened by Love Ethan reflects on the need for dads to be both strong and gentle—to be warriors in the garden, not tyrants in the home.       LINKS & RESOURCES 25 Questions to Spark Deeper Connection – https://thedadedge.com/25questions Level 1 Protein - https://1stphorm.com/products/level-1/?a_aid=dadedge BCAAs - https://1stphorm.com/products/bcaa/?a_aid=dadedge  Pastor Paul Daily Bible Studies – Search "Pastor Paul" on YouTube Dad Edge Podcast & Show Notes – thedadedge.com/1394     If this episode brought you closer to how you want to show up as a father and husband, please rate, review, follow, and share the show. Let's keep building legacies that matter.   Live legendary.

In this episode, I sit down with Clay Butler, CEO of Agape International Missions (AIM), for a powerful conversation on fighting child trafficking and how present, intentional fatherhood is one of the most effective weapons in that fight. With over 2,000 rescues and hundreds of traffickers arrested, Clay's work is nothing short of heroic—but it's his role as a father that has most shaped his mission.   We explore what it truly means to lead as a man, not just in high-stakes global work, but in the day-to-day role of being a protector at home. Clay shares how fatherhood has deepened his approach to leadership, the importance of modeling safe masculinity, and why raising strong, loved, and secure children is one of the greatest forms of resistance to evil. This episode will challenge and inspire any man who wants to leave a legacy worth living for.     Episode Highlights [0:00] – Introduction [1:01] – A staggering global reality: a child is trafficked every 30 seconds [2:24] – Clay's transformation from young volunteer to CEO of AIM [5:13] – Why Clay initially took a three-month volunteer trip… and never left [9:06] – Finding emotional equilibrium in a traumatic field [10:29] – How fatherhood amplified—not hindered—Clay's leadership [12:04] – The power of modeling safe fatherhood for rescued girls [14:21] – Humility, teamwork, and spiritual grounding in life-or-death operations [20:03] – Tactical and emotional ways to protect your family in public [22:15] – Why kids from foster care are the most trafficked in America [28:12] – Real actions men can take to stop trafficking—starting at home [29:02] – Navigating the tension of preserving childhood innocence while teaching safety [34:45] – Avoiding burnout: ruthless prioritization and reverse engineering legacy [38:07] – Clay's evolving legacy: from warrior to father to restorer       5 Key Takeaways   1. Fatherhood is powerful – Being a present, loving father is one of the most effective deterrents to child trafficking, both at home and globally. 2. Rescue is only the beginning – AIM's model goes beyond rescue to include healing, job training, and long-term restoration. 3. The U.S. isn't exempt – Most trafficking victims in the U.S. come from broken foster care systems. Supporting those systems can change lives. 4. You can protect your kids daily – Small actions like staying aware in public, modeling healthy masculinity, and teaching intuitive safety make a big difference. 5. Your legacy starts now – You don't need to lead a global organization to be a hero. Leading at home with purpose and love is enough.       Links & Resources   Agape International Missions (AIM): https://aimfree.org AIM Apparel – Support rescued girls through ethical apparel: https://aimapparel.com Bark (Parental Control App): https://thedadedge.com/bark Episode Show notes: thedadedge.com/1393     If this episode sparked something in you, share it with a fellow dad, leave a review, and don't forget to follow the podcast. Together, we can protect our families—and generations to come.

In this solo episode, I dig into one of the most crucial parenting challenges—helping our kids face their fears and build real, lasting confidence. From sports pressure to academic stress to the emotional struggles they often keep bottled up, our kids are living in a high-pressure world. And as fathers, it's our job to create a space where they feel safe, heard, and guided—not just fixed.   I share a recent emotional conversation with my own son that completely reframed how I approach fear with my kids. You'll hear practical scripts, parenting frameworks, and validation tools that you can immediately use to strengthen your relationship and lead your kids through difficult emotions—while empowering them to lead themselves.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Introduction [1:47] – The "scary" reality kids face daily [3:16] – Gratitude for the community + book update [5:03] – Announcing the next live cohort: Overcoming Roommate Syndrome [9:12] – What fear looks like in your child's world [10:17] – Why asking for permission to talk matters [12:14] – My son's moment of vulnerability on the football field [14:00] – Helping kids name fear and remove shame [15:15] – Shifting identity from failure to effort [16:23] – Creating micro-wins to reinforce confidence [17:41] – Reminding your kids they are already brave [18:08] – Why praising effort beats praising results [19:30] – Free resource: "Questions for the Car" [21:54] – Final thoughts and wrap-up       5 KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Validate Before You Advise Asking your child for permission to talk, rather than jumping into correction or pep talks, shows respect and builds trust. Kids don't want quick fixes—they want to feel seen. 2. Name the Fear to Dismantle the Shame Fear loses power when it's named out loud. Helping your child articulate what they're afraid of creates emotional distance from the fear and invites clarity. 3. Reinforce Identity Through Effort, Not Outcome Focus on who your child is becoming through their effort—not whether they win or lose. This reinforces growth and helps them detach from external validation. 4. Small Wins Build Big Confidence Kids don't need giant leaps to feel successful. Celebrating the little wins builds momentum and reinforces the belief that they can handle what life throws at them. 5. Your Voice Becomes Their Inner Voice How you speak to your kids—especially when they're struggling—directly influences how they'll talk to themselves when you're not around. Lead with empathy, patience, and strength.         LINKS & RESOURCES: Car Ride Questions for Kids: thedadedge.com/kidquestions Get the Book + Free Courses: https://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Episode Show notes: thedadedge.com/1392     If this episode helped you better understand how to guide your child through fear and build real connection, please rate, follow, and share the show. Let's raise brave, grounded, emotionally intelligent kids—together.   Live legendary.

In this Dad Edge Podcast episode, I'm joined by my son Ethan for a powerful father-son conversation about money, mistakes, and mindsets. But this episode goes way beyond budgeting tips. It's about the deeper fear, pressure, and responsibility men feel when it comes to providing and preparing the next generation.   We explore everything from cost of living fears to smart saving habits, early investing, and the emotional rollercoaster of becoming financially independent. Ethan shares candid reflections about what worries him most as a 19-year-old and the surprising movie that inspired his money mindset. This episode is filled with laughs, lessons, and the kind of intentional parenting that creates legacy.     EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS [0:00] – Introduction [1:02] – Why talking to our kids about money matters more than ever [3:49] – Celebrating transformation: The First Form Dad of the Month [15:21] – What scares Ethan most about adulting and financial independence [19:36] – The 20% rule and why most people never start saving [29:23] – Ethan's frugal mindset shift (inspired by a Jim Carrey movie!) [38:58] – Understanding assets vs. liabilities and why real estate matters [46:34] – Passive income, investing in apartments, and building wealth young [49:11] – The challenge to aggressively save while you have no bills [55:12] – New resource: 25 questions to spark deeper conversations in the car     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Start Financial Conversations Early Your kids are already forming money beliefs—talking about finances now sets them up with real tools and confidence. 2. Fear of Failing as a Provider Is Real Ethan opens up about the weight of becoming a provider and why young men need reassurance and education, not shame. 3. Saving While You Have No Bills is a Superpower We talk about how living at home can be a golden window to stack savings, invest early, and get a head start on life. 4. Assets Build Freedom—Liabilities Drain It From real estate to investments, we break down the difference between money that works for you vs. money you spend for status. 5. Legacy is Intentional, Not Accidental These conversations are how we pass down values, strategy, and strength. The way you talk about money sets your family's future.       LINKS & RESOURCES   25 Questions to Spark Connection with Your Kids: https://www.thedadedge.com/kidquestions Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance First Form Products: 1stphorm.com/dadedge Dad Edge Podcast Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/1391       If this episode sparked new conversations at your dinner table—or made you rethink your financial game plan—please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Let's raise strong, wise, and prepared men.

In this Dad Edge Podcast episode, I'm joined by Joel Staley, husband, father, and fasting expert—but the real story here isn't about weight loss. It's about the emotional and relational weight men carry and how mastering the physical body can help men show up more powerfully for their families.   We unpack Joel's transformation from feeling "fluffy" and distracted to leading his wife and kids with presence and purpose. Joel doesn't hold back when talking about how his physical condition was limiting his energy, sex drive, self-respect, and ultimately his connection at home. This isn't a gimmicky fitness episode—it's a raw look at what happens when a man decides he's no longer okay with coasting.       EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS   [0:00] – Joel's wake-up call and early struggles with self-image [4:18] – Feeling physically present but emotionally absent as a dad [8:20] – Why getting shredded wasn't the real goal [12:03] – How fasting gave him structure, confidence, and clarity [16:55] – Leading your family starts with leading yourself [20:41] – Joel's marriage breakthrough through vulnerability [24:18] – Sex drive, shame, and physical transformation [28:36] – Teaching his kids about delayed gratification and purpose [33:02] – The real impact of watching your dad take care of himself [37:14] – Daily disciplines that keep him grounded and focused [40:57] – Joel's final challenge for every dad listening       5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. When You Lead Yourself, You Lead Better at Home Joel discovered that when he took full ownership of his physical health, it cascaded into better decisions, emotional presence, and connection with his family. 2. Your Body is a Spiritual and Emotional Instrument Getting fit wasn't just about looking good—it gave Joel the energy and confidence to show up for his wife and kids like never before. 3. Fasting Is a Discipline That Builds Mental Toughness Joel explains how structured fasting helped him reclaim control and break unhealthy patterns that were sabotaging his time and attention at home. 4. Physical Change Can Spark Relational Breakthroughs As Joel got healthier, his marriage improved—not because of appearance, but because of how he began showing up with integrity and consistency. 5. Your Kids Notice Everything Joel shares how his daughters now see him as someone who takes care of himself and others—and how that's creating a new generational standard.         LINKS & RESOURCES   25 Questions to Spark Connection with Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Learn More About Joel's Coaching & Programs: https://shedfatfast.com Follow Joel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joelstaleyfitness Joel's GoFundMe:  https://gofund.me/b8fcf7ca3 Join the Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Podcast Episodes: thedadedge.com/1390       If this episode pushed you to confront your own health or leadership gaps, rate, review, follow, and share. Let's live legendary, in every way that matters.

In this solo episode, I dive deep into one of the most vital life skills we can teach our kids—financial literacy. From Halloween costumes to quarterly financial reviews, I walk you through my real-life journey of raising four boys with a focus on money management, financial responsibility, and the value of earning over entitlement. This isn't about theory—it's about what I've tried, what's worked, and the lessons I've learned the hard way.   Whether your kids are 5 or 19, this episode delivers actionable ideas and candid reflections to help you guide your children toward a financially empowered future. If you've ever wondered how to talk to your kids about saving, spending, budgeting, or even compound interest—this is the episode for you.   Timeline Summary   [0:00] - Introduction [1:27] - Feeling unequipped as a dad when it comes to teaching kids about money [2:22] - Shocking statistics about the state of money management in America [4:04] - A peek into how I started teaching money to my younger kids [6:10] - The Halloween costume system: chores for rewards [8:48] - Teaching the value of delayed gratification through real choices [10:07] - Why even young kids can handle more responsibility than we think [12:01] - Using a simple allowance system to teach saving, giving, and spending [12:47] - Bringing my teens to financial advisor meetings [13:51] - The impact of exposing kids to real-world financial conversations [14:36] - Teaching compound interest and the power of investing early [15:18] - Setting up budgeting tools like EveryDollar for teens [15:57] - My son's dog-walking side hustle—entrepreneurship at 17 [17:02] - Why real-life problem solving is the best financial teacher [18:33] - Encouraging kids to budget their own money and learn from mistakes [19:46] - New free resource: "25 Questions for the Car" to spark connection [21:03] - Final thoughts and heartfelt thanks to the community     5 Key Takeaways   1. Start Early with Financial Lessons Even young kids can begin understanding the basics of money through age-appropriate systems like chores for rewards, visual goal tracking, and simple budgeting methods. It's never too early to introduce financial literacy. 2. Teach Earning Over Entitlement Using real-life goals—like Halloween costumes or name-brand shoes—can help kids grasp the concept of earning. When kids work for what they want, they value it more and learn essential decision-making skills. 3. Make It Real for Teens Bringing your older kids into financial conversations, like advisor meetings or discussions about interest and investing, empowers them to make smart money decisions now and in the future. 4. Use Tools That Promote Independence Programs like EveryDollar are great for helping teens budget and track their spending. This teaches them accountability and gives them a sense of control over their finances. 5. Connection Is the Catalyst for Teaching Use intentional questions and shared activities to create moments of connection. When you're interested in your kids' lives, it opens the door to deeper, more impactful conversations—including those about money.         Links & Resources   Free Resource: 25 Questions for the Car — https://thedadedge.com/1389 Budgeting Tool: EveryDollar — https://www.everydollar.com/ thedadedge.com/kidquestions       If this episode helped you shift your mindset about parenting and money, take a moment to rate, review, and share it with another dad who could benefit. Your support helps us reach more fathers who are ready to lead with intention.   Live Legendary.

In this episode, I'm joined by my good friend Coach Frank Rich for one of the most eye-opening and urgent conversations we've ever had on this show. We dig deep into the disturbing ways artificial intelligence is now intersecting with the porn industry—from deepfake technology to fully AI-generated adult content. It's not just impacting adults anymore—this tech is trickling into high schools, being used to bully, humiliate, and emotionally destroy kids. This is a conversation every father, husband, and leader needs to hear.   Frank and I explore how AI porn is evolving faster than laws can keep up, how it's rewiring minds, damaging marriages, and becoming a hidden epidemic in homes across the world. But it's not all doom and gloom—we also share stories of transformation, tools to protect your family, and how to have honest, shame-free conversations with your kids about sex, technology, and identity. If you care about protecting your family in the digital age, this one is a must-listen.       Episode Highlights & Timeline:   [0:00] – Introduction [2:18] – AI's alarming infiltration into the porn industry—from deepfakes to AI-generated performers [4:01] – My raw reaction: learning about deepfake porn for the first time [6:10] – Is AI porn found on mainstream sites like Pornhub? Frank breaks it down [8:45] – Why the porn industry has always driven tech innovation [9:36] – Men monetizing themselves with deepfakes—how that's happening [12:25] – High schoolers using AI to create and share fake nude images of classmates [14:00] – Why I use Bark to monitor my kids' devices—and how it's changed our conversations [17:00] – AI is evolving faster than the laws designed to regulate it [22:28] – How I talk to my sons about sex, porn, and masturbation—with honesty and no shame [30:20] – The sobering reality of porn-induced erectile dysfunction in young men [33:00] – Modeling healthy marriage and intimacy for your kids [41:24] – A redemption story: how David saved his marriage and reclaimed his life [49:14] – The hidden cost of porn: time, presence, and connection [51:18] – Watching a little boy get ignored by his phone-distracted dad—and the mirror it held up for me [53:47] – Final thoughts: let's stay alert, have the hard conversations, and lead with love       5 Key Takeaways:     1. AI-generated porn is dangerously realistic—and widely accessible. What once sounded like sci-fi is now mainstream and emotionally devastating. 2. Teens are weaponizing deepfake technology. Fake nudes created via AI are being used for bullying, revenge, and harassment in schools. 3. Don't wait to talk to your kids. The average age of first exposure to porn is 8–11. Have the talk early, openly, and without shame. 4. Porn addiction steals your presence—and your purpose. Whether it's five minutes or five hours, it erodes your integrity and disconnects you from what matters most. 5. Redemption is real. Frank's programs have helped countless men rebuild their lives, their faith, their marriages, and their connection to their kids.         Links & Resources:   David's story - https://youtu.be/dh-Enf6z-I8 FRANKS COMMUNITY- https://www.therebuiltman.com/7dayreset BARK - thedadedge.com/bark Full show notes: TheDadEdge.com/1388     If this episode opened your eyes or helped you in any way, please take a moment to rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Let's continue these hard but necessary conversations—and raise a generation of men and women who lead with purpose, presence, and integrity.

What would you do if the scale flashed "error" because it couldn't register your weight? For most men, that might feel like the end—but for Johnny Muresan, it was day one. In this deeply moving and brutally honest episode, I sit down with the man behind Johnny Goes Running to unpack his staggering 160+ pound weight loss journey, his emotional rock bottom, and how a single painful step forward sparked a complete life transformation.   Johnny shares the realities of chronic pain, food addiction, and near-marital collapse—but more importantly, he walks us through how he reclaimed his health, family, and purpose. From running marathons to rebuilding his marriage and launching a community of hope for other men, this conversation will challenge you to rethink what's possible—no matter where you're starting from.     Episode Timeline Highlights [0:00] – Introduction [1:01] – What would you do if the scale read "error"? Johnny's weight reality check. [3:17] – The painful first step and the mindset shift from victimhood to action. [6:49] – Life at nearly 500 lbs: chronic knee pain, parenting while immobile, and losing hope. [14:06] – The wake-up call: realizing his choices were writing his kids' future. [24:09] – How a 30-day water fast broke Johnny's food addiction. [27:42] – Losing 61 pounds in 30 days—and the humble first meal after. [33:08] – How changing food habits restored his health and mindset. [39:02] – His first full marathon—returning to Hawaii where he once hit rock bottom. [45:00] – Rewiring his entire family dynamic by leading with example. [50:11] – Running 82 miles across Tennessee for a cause—on just 11 days' notice. [51:32] – His upcoming book Run Your Life and what it means to take up space where you don't feel you belong.     5 Key Takeaways   1. Rock Bottom is a Starting Line – Johnny didn't wait until he was "ready" or "fit"—he started while in pain, overweight, and discouraged. 2. Living for Your Kids Means Showing Up – Johnny's breakthrough came when he realized he'd die for his kids—but wasn't willing to live for them. 3. Small Wins Compound – From diet soda swaps to walking just a few minutes, Johnny's journey was built on gradual, sustainable steps. 4. Leading by Example Changes Everything – His transformation didn't just affect him—it rewired his entire family's emotional, physical, and relational health. 5. You Belong in Every Room You Enter – Whether it's the start line of a marathon or a new chapter in life, you don't need permission to take up space.       Links & Resources   Follow Johnny on Instagram: @johnnygoesrunning Get your copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood + two free courses: https://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Join the Dad Edge Alliance (Elite Brotherhood): https://thedadedge.com/alliance Free 21-Day Email Series: 3 Marriage Skills at a Time: https://thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage/ 1st Phorm - 1stphorm.com/dadedge   Show notes: thedadedge.com/1387     Inspired by Johnny's journey? Share this episode with another dad who needs a boost. And if you loved it, be sure to follow, rate, and review the show. Your support helps us continue bringing real, raw, and life-changing stories to men around the world.

If your days feel like a relentless sprint—from school drop-offs to late-night routines—you're not alone. In this short and powerful solo episode, I open up about the challenges of maintaining intimacy, presence, and intention in marriage when life gets overwhelmingly busy. With fall sports, kid activities, and work responsibilities piling up, it's all too easy to slip into "roommate mode" with your spouse.   But here's the truth: Strong families start with strong marriages. I share three deeply practical ways to create micro-moments of connection, build intentional rituals, and avoid emotional drift. Whether it's through a 30-minute walk, a forehead kiss, or a late-night two-minute check-in, this episode is your reminder that you're not just co-parents—you're still each other's chosen partner.     Episode Highlights   [0:00] - Introduction [1:05] - Why strong marriages are the foundation of strong families [2:55] - The common trap of prioritizing everything but your marriage [4:46] - The September-October "whiplash" that hits most parents hard [5:43] - Celebrating the release of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood [8:19] - How an unbalanced focus on your kids can erode your marriage [10:09] - The power of micro-moments: texts, sticky notes, forehead kisses [12:31] - Creative date ideas (even when time is scarce) [14:29] - Why sometimes the world has to suffer—but your marriage shouldn't [15:14] - End-of-day rituals that spark closeness even in exhaustion [17:41] - The compound interest effect of tiny deposits in your marriage [18:03] - You are more than a co-parent—you're still her Casanova [19:13] - A free 21-day email series to help you build an extraordinary marriage [20:54] - Final rally cry: be uncommon, be legendary     5 Key Takeaways   1. Strong Marriages Build Strong Families When your marriage is thriving, it naturally strengthens the emotional climate of your entire home. Don't neglect the foundation. 2. Micro-Moments Matter More Than Grand Gestures A quick kiss, a thoughtful note, or a midday "thinking of you" text can do more for connection than elaborate plans you never get to. 3. Busy Seasons Are Inevitable—Disconnection Isn't Just because life is chaotic doesn't mean your relationship has to suffer. Intention and awareness are your defense against emotional drift. 4. You're Still Her Lover, Not Just Her Co-Parent The role of "dad" is important—but don't forget you were her partner first. That romance needs nurturing, especially when time is tight. 5. Investing in Your Marriage Pays Long-Term Dividends Like compound interest, the small daily investments you make in your marriage build a future of closeness, trust, and enduring partnership.       Links & Resources     Get your copy of The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood + two free courses: https://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Join the Dad Edge Alliance (Elite Brotherhood): https://thedadedge.com/alliance Free 21-Day Email Series: 3 Marriage Skills at a Time: https://thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage/       If this episode helped reignite your drive to be more intentional in your marriage, please rate, follow, and review the show. Share it with a fellow dad who might be feeling the weight of the season—we're in this together.   Let's go out and live legendary.

In this candid father-son episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down once again with my son Ethan for a real-time look at what growth, struggle, and emotional awareness look like in the life of a young man. We dive into why ownership is key when navigating life's challenges, how to catch yourself when falling into patterns of blame, and what it takes to shift your state when your mindset is working against you.   This is one of those conversations where nothing is sugarcoated. Ethan opens up about areas where he's felt "off," what he's learned from coaching conversations, and how choosing personal responsibility over defensiveness continues to shape his confidence and leadership.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcoming Ethan back for another check-in [1:47] - Recognizing emotional off days and calling them out honestly [3:20] - How state, story, and strategy shape our reality [5:01] - Catching the victim mindset and flipping the script [7:14] - Owning mistakes vs. falling into blame or excuses [9:28] - Ethan on noticing his tone and making intentional corrections [11:03] - Coaching tools that help interrupt negative spirals [13:24] - The power of "what's within your control" thinking [15:46] - Why your energy impacts others and how to shift it [18:12] - Seeing every hard moment as feedback, not failure [20:05] - Final thoughts on presence, responsibility, and consistent growth     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Awareness Is the First Step Toward Change Before you can shift your behavior or attitude, you've got to recognize when something's off. Awareness creates the gap between reaction and choice. 2. Victimhood Kills Ownership and Confidence It's easy to blame circumstances or others when things go wrong—but choosing responsibility is what builds maturity and trust in yourself. 3. Your State Impacts Your Story How you feel physically and emotionally influences the narrative you create in your mind. Shifting your state can instantly shift your mindset. 4. Tone Matters in Leadership Even when your intentions are good, your tone can undermine the message. Ethan shares how he's learning to adjust and communicate more effectively. 5. Every Struggle Is an Opportunity to Grow Whether it's a rough day, a mistake, or a mindset spiral—each one holds the potential for learning, growth, and leadership if you lean into it.       LINKS & RESOURCES   thedadedge.com/legendarybook  25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions The Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Podcast Show notes: thedadedge.com/1385       If this episode helped you think differently about growth, mindset, or your role as a father, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. These moments of connection and reflection can change everything.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Doug Bopst—former felon, now personal trainer, author, and transformational speaker—to unpack how adversity, addiction, and rock-bottom moments can become the fuel for growth, purpose, and fatherhood. Doug opens up about his journey from incarceration and drug addiction to becoming a man of impact and integrity.   We explore how pain can become power when ownership is embraced, how faith and fitness became Doug's lifeline, and why men must choose responsibility over blame to rewrite their story. This episode is a raw and redemptive look at what happens when a man stops running and starts leading—with heart, humility, and grit.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome and Doug's powerful backstory: from pills to prison [3:48] - The moment everything changed: awakening behind bars [6:22] - Fitness as a path to discipline, clarity, and redemption [9:10] - Rebuilding trust with family through consistent action [11:36] - The identity shift from addict to athlete to leader [14:44] - Why your past doesn't disqualify you from fatherhood or purpose [17:32] - How Doug uses his pain to mentor young men and fathers [20:01] - The role of faith in healing and daily direction [23:10] - Accountability and structure as freedom—not limitation [25:38] - Why your mess can become your message [28:19] - The impact of small daily wins over massive overhauls [30:56] - Final reflections on masculinity, resilience, and second chances     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Your Past Doesn't Define You—Your Choices Do Doug proves that where you come from doesn't have to determine where you're going. Redemption starts when you take full ownership. 2. Fitness Can Be a Spiritual Practice Exercise became Doug's anchor. It wasn't just about the body—it became a tool for mental clarity, emotional regulation, and self-worth. 3. Consistency Rebuilds Trust Doug didn't win back respect overnight. It was through showing up daily—at home, at work, in faith—that others started believing in him again. 4. Your Story Can Heal Others When you share your scars instead of hiding them, you give others permission to grow. Doug's journey now empowers men to rise from their lowest points. 5. Discipline Is the Gateway to Freedom True freedom doesn't come from avoiding pain. It comes from building structure, owning your role, and becoming someone your family can count on.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Connect with Doug Bopst: https://www.dougbopst.com/free The Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Podcast Show notes: thedadedge.com/1384     If this episode inspired you to own your past and step into your potential, follow, rate, review, and share the podcast. Your comeback story starts now.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Michael Rothman—entrepreneur, father, and co-founder of Fatherly—to talk about what it really means to show up for your family with intention and presence in a rapidly evolving world.   Before he ever became a dad, Michael was shaping the conversation around modern fatherhood. Now, with a toddler at home and a lifetime of service under his belt, he reflects on how being a present father isn't about perfection—but about presence, community, and character. We dive into powerful insights on building secure attachment with your kids, the risks of oversharing online, how marriage impacts your children more than you think, and what dads can do to lead with both strength and vulnerability.       TIMELINE SUMMARY   [0:00] – Introduction [1:25] – Why "wife care" is often harder than baby care [4:22] – The origin of Fatherly and Mike's shift from single men's media to parenting [7:20] – How Mike's dad inspired a life of service [10:44] – The awkward "birds and bees" talk and learning from what wasn't said [15:10] – Mentoring kids without fathers and the deep need for stable male figures [19:15] – Why kids seek connection in gangs, screens, or wherever they're accepted [20:30] – What it means to build a secure emotional foundation for your kids [23:47] – Attachment theory and the critical role of ages 0–3 [26:41] – Presence vs. proximity: how dads can show up without distraction [31:00] – How kids absorb emotional tension in marriage [34:01] – Should you stay in a marriage just for the kids? [36:09] – The hidden dangers of exposing your kids' lives online [38:34] – The AI risk: voice spoofing, facial recognition, and digital breadcrumbs [41:21] – What Tinybeans does differently for family privacy [45:00] – The mission behind Fatherly, Tinybeans, and The Dispatch [46:55] – Encouraging respectful debate and deeper understanding through The Dispatch     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Presence Is More Than Just Showing Up Kids feel when we're distracted. Being physically there isn't enough—our full attention is the greatest gift we can give.   2. Secure Attachment Starts Early The first three years are foundational. Love, encouragement, and consistency build the confidence kids need to thrive later in life.   3. Your Marriage Sets the Emotional Tone of the Home Children sense tension. Investing in your relationship with your partner creates the safety your kids deeply crave.   4. Be Cautious With Digital Sharing The internet remembers everything. What you post about your kids could be used in ways you can't predict. Protect their digital footprint.   5. Leadership Starts With Community Dads can't do it alone. Leading your family includes building community around you—because your kids benefit from seeing other strong, grounded men too.     LINKS & RESOURCES The Dad Edge Alliance (Join Us) – https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner – https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website – thedadedge.com/1383       If this episode gave you insight or encouragement, rate, review, and share it with another dad who needs to hear it. Don't forget to follow the podcast so you never miss the wisdom and real talk we bring every week. Let's keep leading our families with presence, power, and purpose.

Here are the fully formatted, SEO-optimized show notes for the Dad Edge Podcast episode featuring Ethan Hagner (Oct 1, 2025):     EPISODE SUMMARY In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with my son Ethan for another real and reflective conversation about what it means to grow up with intention, confidence, and emotional maturity. We dig into how young men can use challenges to build strength, how mindset shapes everything, and why confidence is earned, not given.   You'll hear us explore how to handle life's curveballs, overcome fear of judgment, and cultivate confidence through action. If you're raising sons—or you are a young man on your own journey—this episode is packed with authentic insights and connection-driven takeaways.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Opening the episode with Ethan: father-son connection and check-in [2:16] - The power of presence and accountability in our weekly sit-downs [4:02] - Ethan reflects on recent wins, challenges, and growth moments [6:15] - Learning to navigate fear of judgment and criticism as a young man [8:40] - Confidence doesn't come from words—it comes from actions repeated over time [10:22] - Why growth often hides behind discomfort and adversity [12:31] - Ethan's personal mindset shifts and what helped him break through [14:45] - Choosing perspective in hard moments: victimhood vs. ownership [17:00] - The power of awareness and reflection in building character [19:12] - What fathers can do to encourage independence while staying supportive [21:40] - The benefits of letting kids experience struggle, not avoid it [24:11] - Ethan's message to young men: why you're more capable than you think [26:03] - Final reflections on growth, confidence, and father-son alignment     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Confidence Is Built, Not Given Confidence isn't about praise or motivation—it's built through repeated action, self-discipline, and the decision to show up even when it's hard. 2. Discomfort Is the Gateway to Growth Adversity isn't the enemy—it's the environment where mental toughness and character are developed. Teaching your kids to face it head-on is a gift. 3. Support Without Saving Builds Stronger Kids The goal isn't to rescue your kids from struggle but to walk beside them as they learn. That's how we raise resilient, independent leaders. 4. Mindset and Perspective Are Everything When young men choose ownership over victimhood, they shift from passive living to powerful leadership. It all starts with perspective. 5. Father-Son Check-Ins Matter More Than You Think Intentional time together—like weekly conversations—can become the anchor for growth, emotional regulation, and lifelong connection.       LINKS & RESOURCES • thedadedge.com/legendarybook 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions The Dad Edge Alliance (for high-performing fathers): https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Podcast Website and Resources: thedadedge.com/1382     If this episode helped you reflect on connection, confidence, or how to lead your kids more intentionally, please follow, rate, review, and share the podcast. Your support fuels our mission to help fathers lead legendary lives.

In this powerful episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with fitness coach and father Brandon Mancine to talk about what it truly means to be consistent, resilient, and connected in fatherhood. Brandon shares how the lessons learned from sobriety, fitness, and fatherhood all intersect—and why your physical discipline directly impacts your emotional presence at home.   From building routines that work to leading by example and showing up in the hard moments, Brandon reminds us that no one gets it perfect—but if you're consistent, you'll make an impact. Whether you're a dad in recovery, rebuilding trust, or just trying to show up better, this episode will challenge and encourage you.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome and introducing today's guest: Brandon Mancine [1:42] - Brandon's story: growing up, addiction, and breaking the cycle [4:15] - How sobriety and fatherhood gave his life new direction [6:32] - The parallels between fitness discipline and emotional presence [9:10] - Why consistency wins over intensity in both training and parenting [12:27] - Learning to show up when you least feel like it [15:14] - Rebuilding trust with your kids after failure or absence [17:06] - The shift from proving yourself to leading with humility [19:25] - What recovery has taught Brandon about self-awareness [22:43] - The power of structure and routine in family life [24:58] - Why dads need to model vulnerability, not perfection [27:09] - Tools Brandon uses to stay grounded and connected [29:40] - Brandon's advice to dads who feel like they're "too far gone" [31:56] - Final reflections on faith, fitness, and leading from love     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Consistency Beats Intensity Whether it's in the gym or with your kids, showing up regularly matters more than doing it perfectly. Your presence is your power. 2. Recovery Requires Ownership Brandon shares that the key to rebuilding trust is accepting where you've been, owning it, and showing up differently—without needing a pat on the back. 3. Fitness Is a Mirror for Fatherhood Discipline, patience, and pushing through discomfort in training teach us how to lead with strength and humility at home. 4. You're Never Too Far Gone No matter how far you feel you've fallen as a father, you can always begin again—with consistency, honesty, and grace. 5. Vulnerability Builds Connection Perfection isn't the goal—presence is. Leading with vulnerability opens the door to trust, healing, and deeper relationships with your kids.       LINKS & RESOURCES Brandon Mancine Coaching: https://bmfcoaching.com/ Hair XT (Brandon's hair restoration brand): https://hairxt.com/ The Dad Edge Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Sign up for Poststack Updates: https://www.thedadedge.com/poststack Podcast Show Notes: thedadedge.com/1381     If this episode encouraged you to lead with greater intention, please follow, rate, review, and share the podcast. Every download helps another dad find the tools and mindset to live legendary.

In this solo episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I dive into the valuable life lessons we as fathers can teach our kids through sports—lessons that go far beyond winning or losing. Whether it's about praising effort over outcomes, sharing personal stories of hard work, or simply playing together with no agenda, I explore how to build stronger bonds and greater resilience in our kids through these moments. This episode is a call to reframe how we show up on the sidelines and in life. Sports can be more than competition—they can be a platform for presence, growth, and connection. If you want to raise grounded, hardworking kids who aren't afraid of putting in the reps, this episode is for you. TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Kicking off the episode with intention and a mission for fatherhood [1:02] - The busy fall season: sports, school, and parenting chaos [2:22] - Why we must praise effort—not just outcomes—with our kids [3:46] - Childhood memories and the impact of working hard without reward [5:02] - Growth mindset: effort over results builds long-term confidence [6:29] - Combating entitlement by teaching consistent hard work [7:27] - Celebrating preparation, not just game-day performance [8:07] - Sharing real stories of hard work from our own lives with our kids [9:18] - Why credibility with your kids is built through relatable stories [9:38] - The power of play: connecting with our kids through shared activity [10:21] - Taekwondo with my son and football with another—just having fun [11:12] - Why the end result matters less than the connection [11:49] - A practical call to action: ask your kids what they learned from sports this week [12:26] - Don't let your kids off the hook—push for real answers [13:04] - Reflecting on the last quarter of the year and what's ahead [13:39] - A warning for business owners: don't build an empire and lose your family [14:19] - Links to join The Alliance or Business Boardroom [14:42] - Final recap and reminder to praise effort, share stories, and play together 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Praise Effort, Not Just Results When we focus on our kids' preparation, persistence, and grit rather than wins or trophies, we help them develop a growth mindset that builds confidence and resilience. 2. Real-Life Stories Create Connection Sharing your own stories of hard work, sacrifice, and struggle makes your guidance more credible and relatable—and shows your kids you've been in their shoes. 3. Play Without a Purpose Connection often happens in the unstructured moments. Whether it's football or taekwondo, playing with your kids for the sake of fun builds trust and memories. 4. Ask Better Questions Instead of asking "How was practice?", ask "What did you learn this week from sports?" Push them to reflect and communicate their growth and insights. 5. Lead Without Losing What Matters Whether you're a career man or building a business, don't trade connection with your wife or kids for productivity. Build both—intentionally. LINKS & RESOURCES Show notes for this episode: https://www.thedadedge.com/1380 thedadedge.com/mastermind Join The Dad Edge Alliance (for career-driven men): https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Join The Dad Edge Business Boardroom (for entrepreneurs): https://www.thedadedge.com/boardroom 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions If this episode gave you a new way to think about parenting through sports and everyday moments, do me a favor—follow, rate, review, and share the podcast. Let's keep equipping men to lead with intention and live legendary.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, my son Ethan and I open up about the kind of conversations that strengthen the bond between fathers and sons. We explore what it really means to show up with respect, emotional maturity, presence, and perspective—both as a parent and as a young man growing into adulthood.   From handling difficult emotions and making space for deeper connection to the importance of ownership and emotional regulation, this episode is filled with raw insights and real-life tools for leading your kids—especially your sons—toward a more grounded and respectful life. Whether you're a dad trying to better understand your son or a young man looking to grow into his role, this one hits home.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome and today's topic: respect, ownership, and emotional maturity [1:14] - Why dads and sons need hard conversations for deeper connection [2:33] - Teaching kids emotional control without shutting down their feelings [3:58] - Ethan's take on what "being present" looks like from a son's perspective [6:27] - Why kids don't always need advice—they need you to listen [8:22] - The impact of dads staying calm when kids are upset [11:15] - A story about "being too close to the situation" and losing perspective [13:47] - Ethan's advice to young men about taking responsibility and thinking bigger [15:01] - When life feels overwhelming: how to pause and regain emotional footing [17:26] - Teaching sons that vulnerability and strength are not opposites [19:44] - Lessons from past episodes and how guests influence Ethan's perspective [21:10] - Navigating performance pressure as a young man in today's world [23:42] - What Ethan is learning about balancing ambition and contentment [26:03] - Managing stress and comparison in the digital age [29:18] - The father-son dynamic around goals, growth, and personal responsibility [31:51] - Ethan shares what helps him feel most connected to his dad [34:22] - Why consistency beats intensity in relationships and leadership [36:09] - The importance of checking in emotionally, not just logistically [38:45] - Final reflections on fatherhood, growth, and relational leadership [41:36] - Closing encouragement and reminder to lead with presence and love     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Respect Starts With Presence Kids don't feel respected when they're interrupted or corrected mid-emotion. Simply being present—listening without jumping in—builds trust that lasts. 2. Emotional Regulation Is Learned, Not Inherited Children learn emotional control from what we model. Calm fathers create calm environments where kids feel safe to feel. 3. You Can't Solve What You Don't See Clearly Reacting emotionally without pausing for perspective often escalates the situation. Teaching our kids to "zoom out" is a lifelong skill. 4. Sons Need Ownership, Not Rescue Letting our sons take responsibility—even when they mess up—builds confidence and teaches them to lead themselves. 5. Vulnerability Builds Strength Helping boys understand that being vulnerable doesn't make them weak—it makes them real—is key to raising emotionally intelligent men.       LINKS & RESOURCES   25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Micro factor:  https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor/?a_aid=dadedge POST WORKOUT STACK:  https://1stphorm.com/products/post-workout-stack/?a_aid=dadedge Larry's book:  thedadedge.com/legendarybook   Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Boardroom (for entrepreneurial fathers): https://www.thedadedge.com/boardroom Dad Edge Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode helped you see father-son connection in a new light, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Let's raise a generation of men who lead with heart, discipline, and perspective.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, Larry Hagner is joined by Oscar "Oz" Aponte—a U.S. Army veteran, StrongFirst kettlebell instructor, and founder of Iron Core—to explore what real strength means as a man, a father, and a leader.   Oz brings a powerful blend of physical mastery and spiritual depth, helping men move from brute force to intentional presence. Together, they unpack how posture, breath, nervous system regulation, and movement patterns shape your long-term vitality—not just in the gym, but at the dinner table, in your marriage, and in your legacy.   More than a conversation about fitness, this is a deep dive into fatherhood, grief, and building your life with intention. Whether you're a kettlebell junkie or just a dad looking to show up better, this episode will challenge you to redefine strength on every level.   TIMELINE SUMMARY   [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge mission: changing generations [1:00] - Os' dad: love, legacy, and shaping a son through presence [4:05] - The final moments Os had with his father before he passed [6:42] - The cycle-breaking power of a father who never had one [9:58] - Combining Eastern mindfulness with Western strength [12:21] - Training for longevity vs. ego [14:45] - Redefining masculinity as balance, not burnout [19:23] - Nervous system health: "the threat bucket" metaphor [25:36] - The seasons of fitness (and why to respect them) [28:15] - How posture and gait silently break men down [30:37] - Tissues adapt to dysfunction—unless you intervene [33:33] - Why kettlebells work: simple tools, elite results [38:55] - Busy dads: how to train with limited time and space [40:37] - Core movements every man should master [44:13] - The "Simple & Sinister" training approach [47:13] - Kettlebell workshops, coaching, and learning more   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Strength Is Presence Being strong isn't just about lifting weight—it's about how grounded, aware, and calm you are with your family.   2. Your Nervous System Is Running the Show Stress, posture, sleep, and breath all impact your strength more than ego lifting ever could. Master your internal world first.   3. Movement Is Medicine Poor gait and posture don't just cause pain—they drain your energy and shorten your lifespan. Train smart, not just hard.   4. Simplicity Wins You don't need a fancy gym or complicated gear. One kettlebell and intentional reps can outperform a cluttered workout.   5. Legacy Is Built in the Small Moments Oz's story shows that being a strong father isn't about perfection. It's about showing up, being present, and choosing intentionality every day.   LINKS & RESOURCES   Os Aponte's Website & Coaching: https://ironcoreway.com   Book Mentioned: Simple & Sinister by Pavel Tsatsouline https://www.strongfirst.com/shop/ebooks/simple-sinister-ebook   StrongFirst Kettlebell Certifications + Programs: https://www.strongfirst.com   Live Workshops in San Diego: Check Oz's site for current event listings   Dad Edge Podcast Hub: https://thedadedge.com/podcast   Book Preorder: The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood https://thedadedge.com/legendarybook

In this solo episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, host Larry Hagner opens up about what it means to be the thermostat in your home, not just the thermometer. With economic uncertainty, workplace stress, and daily responsibilities piling up, Larry shares a powerful message: while we can't always control the outside world, we can control the atmosphere inside our homes.   Drawing from his own experience as a husband, father of four, entrepreneur, and coach to hundreds of men, Larry offers three simple but game-changing practices to help you lead with presence, peace, and intentionality. You'll learn how to create transition rituals, share stress in age-appropriate ways, and protect one daily "anchor moment" with your family.   This isn't just advice—it's a battle plan for fatherhood in today's chaotic world.   TIMELINE SUMMARY   [0:00] - The Dad Edge movement: raising the next generation of fathers [1:06] - Why "Dad Jones" matters more than Dow Jones [2:30] - From entrepreneurship to emotional presence at home [3:38] - Why dads must become the thermostat, not the thermometer [4:31] - Breaking generational cycles through intentional leadership [5:21] - Tactical Nugget #1: Create a transition ritual [6:02] - From Zoom calls to family time in 60 seconds or less [7:39] - Zoom fatigue, blue-collar exhaustion, and stress overload [8:18] - Real-world examples of transition rituals that work [9:36] - The "warm-up" metaphor: why you can't sprint cold [10:40] - Tactical Nugget #2: Share age-appropriate context [11:48] - Explaining stress to a 9-year-old without oversharing [12:49] - Tactical Nugget #3: Protect one anchor moment daily [13:46] - The dinner table is sacred—don't let sports take it away [14:55] - The Hagner family: 70% dinner consistency even with teens [16:05] - Anchoring doesn't have to be nightly—just intentional [17:09] - What it means to protect your family's emotional economy [18:18] - Action step: Choose one ritual to stabilize your home [19:02] - Want to go deeper? Why Larry created the Dad Edge Alliance [20:14] - Introducing: The Dad Edge Business Brotherhood [21:01] - "If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Be the Thermostat, Not the Thermometer Your mood sets the emotional tone in your home. Don't react to the chaos—lead through it.   2. Create a Transition Ritual Whether it's deep breathing, walking, or reading scripture, take 5–10 minutes to reset before re-entering home life.   3. Speak to Your Kids at Their Level You don't need to dump stress on your children—but you can share what's going on in ways they understand.   4. Protect One Daily Anchor Moment Whether it's a meal, bedtime routine, or morning coffee with your spouse—make it non-negotiable.   5. Your Family Needs a Grounded Leader They don't need a stressed-out provider. They need you—calm, present, and emotionally available. LINKS & RESOURCES   Join the Mastermind Paths Dad Edge Alliance: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Business Owner Brotherhood: https://thedadedge.com/mastermind   Books Mentioned: Building a Non-Anxious Life by Dr. John Delony: https://www.ramseysolutions.com/store/books/building-a-non-anxious-life-by-john-delony   Full Episode & Other Resources: Podcast Homepage: https://thedadedge.com/podcast Larry Hagner Instagram: https://instagram.com/thedadedge

In this heart-to-heart episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with my 19-year-old son, Ethan Hagner, for a raw and honest conversation about growing up, gaining independence, and building strong family bonds in the process. Together, we explore what it means to transition from teenager to young adult while still staying connected to family values, respect, and open communication.   We dive into how to respectfully disagree with parents, how to manage emotions in a healthy way, and the importance of creating space without disconnection. Ethan shares his personal experiences—from turning down college parties to navigating long-distance relationships—and how he's developed healthy coping mechanisms like ice baths, workouts, and prayer.   This episode isn't just for parents of teens. It's for any father who wants to lead his family with grace, patience, and intention—and raise young men of character in a chaotic world.   TIMELINE SUMMARY   [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement [1:01] - Raising independent, critical-thinking kids [2:12] - Respectful disagreements with parents and communication [3:02] - Pumpkin spice protein ice cream (yes, seriously) [5:03] - The scary truth about a Starbucks PSL's sugar content [6:42] - Why protein-first choices matter for men's health [9:34] - Introducing today's topic: family ties and independence [10:02] - Life after high school: structure vs. freedom [11:52] - Taking initiative as a young adult [13:35] - Visiting college friends and choosing not to party [15:12] - Why making different choices matters to dads [16:13] - Navigating peer pressure and honoring your values [17:02] - "Liquor is poison in a fancy bottle" – a mindset shift [18:01] - Recognizing alcohol for what it is: a toxin [21:03] - Creating safe space for respectful disagreements [23:04] - How to make kids feel seen, heard, and understood [25:21] - All emotions are welcome, not all behaviors are [26:26] - Ethan's favorite stress relief tool: beating up "Bob" [27:37] - Navigating long-distance relationships as a teen [29:13] - Classical music, cards, and healthy distraction [30:23] - Coping mechanisms that actually improve your life [32:05] - Ice plunges and dopamine boosts [34:20] - Why saunas win over cold plunges for dad [36:26] - A reminder: every man needs a list of positive go-to's [37:15] - The highs and fears of new independence [39:17] - What scares Ethan most about his future path [40:02] - Why dad feels the clock ticking at age 50 [42:25] - Book launch: The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood [43:17] - Two free bonus courses for a limited time [44:15] - Why this father-son podcast is one-of-a-kind [46:00] - Temptation and faith: how Ethan calls on God [48:01] - God always provides a way out of temptation   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Independence Comes With Responsibility Growing up means more than freedom—it means taking ownership of your time, habits, and health.   2. All Emotions Are Welcome—Not All Behaviors Are Feeling anger, sadness, or frustration is normal. Acting with intention is what matters.   3. Respectful Disagreements Build Connection When parents create space for respectful pushback, kids learn how to think critically while staying connected.   4. Healthy Coping Mechanisms Are Essential From ice baths and workouts to music and prayer, having go-to tools keeps stress from taking control.   5. Faith and Intention Defeat Temptation Whether it's porn, partying, or self-doubt, Ethan reminds us that calling on God in moments of weakness gives us strength to choose better.   LINKS & RESOURCES   Order the new book: The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood: https://thedadedge.com/legendarybook  Free Courses for a Limited Time: Creating More Patience Creating an Extraordinary Marriage   Episode page: https://thedadedge.com/1376   First Phorm Pumpkin Spice Protein: Only available for a limited time — https://1stphorm.com/collections/pumpkin-spice   James Swanwick's Alcohol-Free Program: https://www.jamesswanwick.com

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Super Bowl Champion Heath Evans and his wife Chrissy, a powerhouse couple raising six kids—four of them adopted siblings—and leading with faith, love, and intentionality. Beyond the NFL career and business ventures, their mission is about adoption, marriage, and creating a Christ-centered home where safety, strength, and sacrificial love are at the core.   We dive deep into adoption, marriage dynamics, leadership in the home, and the foundation of their health and fitness business, Built Ready. From why safety is the #1 need of every woman to the five pillars of a man's health (holiness, hydration, rest, workouts, and nutrition), this conversation challenges cultural norms and inspires fathers to lead with faith, humility, and strength.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge and today's guests: Heath and Chrissy Evans [1:48] - Heath's NFL career and transition to family and faith [2:13] - Raising six kids, including four adopted siblings [6:00] - Their calling to adoption and the heart behind Bethesda Ranch [7:30] - The struggles of sibling adoption and God's faithfulness in their journey [9:00] - The fatherless crisis and why the church must step up [11:00] - Fatherless home statistics and their generational impact [12:12] - Why a great dad is usually also a great husband [13:28] - Prioritizing marriage first to create security for kids [14:07] - Modeling unity in front of children and avoiding division [15:52] - Why parenting flows from the strength of your marriage [16:44] - Larry's son joins the conversation and a powerful NFL-to-dad lesson [19:00] - Talking faith and fears with kids—real conversations that matter [22:00] - Teaching kids reverence and the holiness of God [24:11] - Why Scripture, not worldly wisdom, is the anchor for parenting [25:24] - Chrissy shares what it feels like to be married to a man deeply rooted in Christ [26:15] - Safety as a wife's greatest need: emotional, spiritual, financial, and relational [29:00] - Respect, appreciation, affection for men vs. being seen, heard, and safe for women [31:15] - The power of forgiveness and humility in marriage [32:07] - Why true security comes from Christ, not success or performance [36:11] - Chrissy's reflections on submission, teamwork, and balance in marriage [40:20] - Heath's analogy of submarine leadership and servant-hearted strength [43:18] - The danger of self-reliance vs. dependence on Christ [46:23] - Why brokenness is often the beginning of real faith [49:23] - Built Ready's five pillars: holiness, hydration, rest, workout, and nutrition [53:05] - Why rest is non-negotiable for fathers and leaders [54:24] - Nutrition as stewardship, not idolatry [56:18] - Their supplement line and why A2 protein makes it unique [58:41] - Closing reflections and the Evans' heart for faith, family, and service     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Safety Is the Cornerstone of Marriage Chrissy powerfully explains that true safety goes beyond physical protection—it includes emotional, financial, spiritual, and relational security. When women feel safe, marriage flourishes. 2. Adoption Is God's Heart in Action The Evans adopted four siblings to keep them together, living out God's call to be a "father to the fatherless" and modeling how faith drives family decisions. 3. Marriage First, Parenting Second Strong marriages create strong families. Kids thrive when they see their parents united, affectionate, and committed to one another before all else. 4. Leadership Is Servanthood Heath challenges men to rethink leadership—not as dominance, but as sacrificial love modeled by Christ. True strength is found in humility, service, and faith. 5. The Five Pillars of Health Built Ready's framework—holiness, hydration, rest, workouts, and nutrition—shows why spiritual health must lead the way, with physical health supporting a man's mission to love and serve well.     LINKS & RESOURCES   Built Ready Health & Fitness: https://builtready.com Chrissy Evans (Weight Loss Hero): https://weightlosshero.com Heath Evans on Instagram: https://instagram.com/heath_evans44 Chrissy Evans on Instagram: https://instagram.com/weightlosshero Contact Heath: heath@builtready.com Contact Chrissy: chrissy@weightlosshero.com Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions       If this episode inspired you to rethink marriage, leadership, and fatherhood, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Together, we're raising fathers who lead with faith, courage, and love.

In this solo episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I dive into one of the greatest challenges facing parents today: raising kids in the digital age. Between iPhones, TikTok, YouTube, and even AI tools like ChatGPT, technology is moving at lightning speed—and as fathers, we can't afford to bury our heads in the sand.   I share three powerful strategies that will help you set the right boundaries for your kids without putting them in "tech prison." From creating guardrails with apps like Bark, to implementing a family tech contract, to modeling discipline with our own devices, this episode is about protecting our kids while also preparing them to navigate the digital world with responsibility and confidence.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and today's focus on raising kids in the digital age [1:02] - Why technology is moving faster than parents can keep up [2:11] - Why this generation is the first to face AI, smartphones, and social media all at once [3:08] - Introducing Dad Edge Alliance and Boardroom Brotherhood for fathers [4:00] - Strategy #1: Set guardrails, not walls, around tech use [4:58] - The rookie mistake of limiting apps without realizing kids just switch platforms [6:12] - Workarounds kids use to bypass phone restrictions [7:05] - Why apps like Bark provide a real solution for parents [7:25] - Strategy #2: Create a family tech contract with clear boundaries and accountability [8:42] - Examples of contracts around bedtime, screen-free zones, and check-ins [8:59] - Strategy #3: Model discipline by living the same tech rules as your kids [9:56] - Why hypocrisy in tech rules undermines your authority [11:14] - Setting boundaries with work and modeling digital discipline at home [12:22] - The Bark app, Bark phone, and Bark watch explained [14:05] - Why I don't allow TikTok or YouTube for my younger kids [14:54] - The Bark watch for younger kids as a safe, affordable option [15:31] - Final recap of the three strategies for digital parenting [16:13] - Closing encouragement and link to resources     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Guardrails Beat Walls Complete restriction creates rebellion. Guardrails, not tech prisons, teach kids to manage technology responsibly while keeping them safe. 2. Apps Aren't Foolproof Kids can and will find workarounds. Relying only on built-in phone restrictions isn't enough—you need smarter tools like Bark to stay ahead. 3. Contracts Create Clarity A family tech contract sets clear expectations for screen time, apps, and accountability. Clarity prevents arguments and keeps kids accountable. 4. Model the Discipline You Preach If you tell your kids "no phones at dinner," but you're scrolling, the rule collapses. Fathers must live the same digital discipline they demand. 5. Your Kids' Tech Is Your Business Phones, apps, and online behavior aren't private property for minors. Fathers must stay engaged, set boundaries, and protect their kids in the digital age.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Bark App & Devices (Protect your kids online): https://www.thedadedge.com/bark Episode Show Notes Page: https://www.thedadedge.com/1377 Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance (career-driven dads): https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Boardroom (entrepreneurial dads): https://www.thedadedge.com/boardroom 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions     If this episode gave you clarity on parenting in the digital age, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Together, we're raising a generation of kids who are safe, confident, and prepared for a digital world.

In this special father-son episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with my 19-year-old son, Ethan Hagner, to talk about the ever-evolving world of modern dating, masculinity, and what respect looks like in today's culture. From Snapchat and Bitmoji "vibes" to the dangers of digital footprints, Ethan pulls back the curtain on what Gen Z is really experiencing when it comes to relationships, identity, and self-worth.   We get raw and real about breakups, social media drama, posting for "social therapy," and what red flags look like in 2025. But the conversation goes much deeper than dating. Ethan opens up about his personal growth, past mistakes, and what he'd tell his 16-year-old self—and future daughter—about how to protect your integrity in the world of online relationships and viral opinions.   This is a must-listen for any dad raising teens or preteens. It's funny, eye-opening, brutally honest, and packed with generational wisdom from both sides of the table. TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge mission [1:04] - How dating has changed since "back in the day" [2:38] - Meet Ethan Hagner: college, EMT prep, and dad banter [3:58] - Inside the Dad Edge studio & sponsor shoutout (First Form) [5:36] - Ignition + Formula 1 explained: post-workout must-haves [8:08] - Pre-order info: The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood [9:11] - How 19-year-olds actually meet people now (Snapchat!) [10:20] - Snapchat's "Quick Add" and Bitmoji-deep dating decisions [14:04] - Dating vs. passing notes in the 90s, how we used to ask friends to "talk to her for me" [16:06] - Red flags on social profiles: vaping, weed, or weird vibes [20:30] - Toxicity, trust, and "the feeling you just can't explain" [24:30] - Social media therapy: breakups that go viral [27:03] - Digital drama and public TikTok crying [30:27] - The real meaning of "game" for Gen Z (hint: not confidence) [32:02] - Confidence vs. bravado: what women really respond to [34:09] - What healthy confidence looks like in teens [35:30] - Are ICks ruining relationships before they start? [39:22] - Ego, lifting, and growing up with the wrong friend group [41:13] - Self-awareness: from wife beater tanks to regretful beliefs [42:35] - Advice Ethan would give his future 16-year-old daughter [43:10] - Digital safety, values, and protecting your future [46:40] - Larry's top two dating lessons for his younger self [47:40] - Regret from not approaching vs. regret from rejection [48:16] - When you strike out, you're still winning [51:11] - Protecting your reputation on social media [52:22] - First Form Dad of the Month: Ty Twizzler's inspiring story 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Snapchat Changed Dating Forever For Gen Z, Snapchat is the new hallway, lunch table, and dating app combined. But what happens there leaves a permanent digital trail—so teach your kids to tread carefully. 2. Confidence Wins—Ego Repels Bravado might grab attention, but real confidence comes from knowing who you are and not bending for validation. It's quiet, steady, and deeply attractive. 3. Respect Is Never Outdated Whether it's how you treat a teacher, a girlfriend, or yourself, respect is foundational. True character shows when no one's watching—or when everyone's watching online. 4. Your Digital Footprint Never Goes Away Posting relationship drama on TikTok or Snapchat may feel therapeutic in the moment, but it can damage reputations, create enemies, and attract the wrong kind of attention. 5. You're Not Too Young to Lead Ethan may be 19, but his mindset about dating, identity, and future family is already grounded in wisdom. His generation needs more examples like this—and so do ours. LINKS & RESOURCES 🎯 First Form Products Micro Factor: https://1stphorm.com/products/micro-factor Formula 1 + Ignition Post-Workout Stack: https://1stphorm.com/products/formula-1 📘 Pre-Order: Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood: https://www.thedadedge.com/legendarybook 🎙 Dad Edge Alliance Membership: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 🎧 Full Episode & Show Notes: https://www.thedadedge.com/1364

In this powerful episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Chandler Rogers—founder of the Relay app and a man on a mission to help men break free from pornography and reclaim deep connection. Chandler shares his raw personal story as a new dad, a husband navigating the fog of sleep deprivation, and a man who turned his own struggle with porn into a platform that has already helped over 5,000 men heal. This conversation isn't just about addiction—it's about isolation, shame, leadership, and stepping into the masculine role your family needs. Chandler reveals the emotional spiral that so many husbands silently endure and how one vulnerable conversation with his wife brought them closer than ever. We talk about why porn is not the real issue, how to lead with emotional clarity, and what it means to truly be seen by your partner. If you've ever struggled with secret shame, felt alone in your role as a dad or husband, or craved deeper intimacy and purpose, this episode will show you you're not broken—just unfinished. Real healing starts with connection. TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge and today's focus: breaking the shame cycle [3:09] - Becoming a father: sleep deprivation, joy, and surprises [8:45] - Marriage after kids: missed connection, emotional gaps, and resentment [12:06] - The physical toll of fatherhood and why self-care matters [13:29] - The emotional cost of disconnection in marriage [15:09] - How resentment is the cancer of relationships [16:50] - Why Chandler named his platform "Relay" and its deeper meaning [18:20] - Why isolation fuels addiction and how connection heals [19:34] - Why porn isn't the problem—it's a comfort mechanism [20:35] - Porn as a symptom of emotional wounds, not the root cause [21:21] - Childhood trauma, hyper-stimulus, and the pain-pleasure cycle [22:56] - How most men justify porn use (and why those stories fall apart) [25:35] - The shame spiral: dissociation, numbness, and fragmentation [28:54] - When needs go unmet: rationalizing porn through "selflessness" [30:11] - Owning masculine needs without blame or desperation [32:03] - Chandler's powerful conversation with his wife that changed everything [33:17] - Why emotional awareness is the first step to intimacy [34:18] - The feminine response: how wives crave emotional leadership [35:30] - The difference between openness and emotional outbursts [36:38] - The moment Chandler reconnected with his wife through vulnerability [39:47] - How unspoken needs lead to resentment—and eventually porn [41:25] - The silver lining: how healing starts with connection [43:20] - How Relay works: anonymous, app-based community for men [46:45] - Why your wife shouldn't be your accountability partner [48:02] - Why connection must be as easy as access to porn [49:47] - How Relay connects you with the right people  [51:36] - Seeing your group's progress and showing up with purpose [53:11] -  Designing your future vs. resisting your past [54:11] - Replacing one habit with a better one: app design insights [56:33] - How a community will help you grow into a better person [58:01] - The real problem isn't desire, it's implementation [01:00:00] - Why information alone won't change your life [1:01:06] -  Where to find Chandler and the Relay app 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Porn Isn't the Problem—It's the Pain Most men turn to porn not out of lust, but to numb discomfort, avoid connection, or cope with emotional pain they haven't addressed.   2. Resentment Is the Silent Killer of Marriage Unspoken needs become stories. Stories become disconnection. And disconnection becomes resentment. That's the cancer that silently kills intimacy.   3. You're Not Broken—You're Just Unfinished Most men don't lack desire or information—they lack implementation. Healing is not about perfection. It's about progress with others.   4. Emotional Leadership Is Masculine When men speak their needs clearly—without blame, shame, or desperation—it inspires women to soften, lean in, and reconnect.   5. Connection Is the Antidote to Shame Isolation fuels addiction. Community kills shame. Vulnerability with safe men in a trusted circle is what creates lasting transformation.   LINKS & RESOURCES   Join Relay (Chandler's App): https://www.joinrelay.app Email Chandler: chandler@joinrelay.app Dad Edge Podcast: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join the Alliance (Dad Edge Community): https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance

In this solo episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm talking directly to you, the fathers, about stepping up as school is back in session. Life gets busier with drop-offs, homework, sports, and late-night routines, but this season also gives us new opportunities to lead and connect with our families in meaningful ways.   I share three powerful strategies for creating deeper bonds at home: owning one routine with your kids, maximizing "connection cues" during daily transitions, and holding a weekly huddle with your wife to reduce stress and strengthen your marriage. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the chaos of the school year, this episode will help you find clarity, lead intentionally, and make sure your family thrives instead of drifts.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and back-to-school chaos [1:02] - Kids' homework struggles and funny math frustrations [2:21] - A message for kids listening in the car: your dad loves you deeply [3:44] - Why most dads want to succeed—not fail—in fatherhood [4:26] - Transitioning from summer to school as a leadership opportunity [5:21] - Balancing school, sports, homework, and family commitments [6:20] - Reflections on August episodes with Jessica and the power of marriage conversations [7:53] - Strategy #1: Own one routine (breakfast, bedtime, school prep, homework help) [9:32] - Reducing invisible labor for your wife by owning key tasks [10:23] - Why bedtime routines are gold for connection (even if you're exhausted) [11:31] - Asking open-ended questions that spark real conversations [12:57] - Adapting routines for different kids' personalities and needs [14:41] - Bedtime as a place of safety, vulnerability, and connection [15:21] - Strategy #2: Connection cues in car rides, drop-offs, and pickups [16:18] - Side-by-side conversations and the power of turning off the radio [17:05] - Strategy #3: Weekly huddle with your wife (planning + intimacy) [18:19] - Reducing stress by clarifying who owns which tasks at home [19:39] - Using weekly huddles as both a planning and intimacy tool [20:31] - Free weekly huddle resource (coming soon) [20:53] - Tools for protecting kids online with Bark (sponsor) [21:52] - Closing encouragement and reminder of available resources     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Own One Routine Whether it's bedtime, breakfast, or homework, fathers who fully own one routine lighten their wife's mental load while deepening connection with their kids. 2. Bedtime Is Golden Even when you're exhausted, bedtime is a unique opportunity for authenticity and safety. One open-ended question can spark conversations that matter. 3. Connection Cues Matter Car rides, drop-offs, and side-by-side moments are often when kids open up most. Turning off the radio and asking thoughtful questions makes a difference. 4. Weekly Huddles Reduce Stress A short check-in with your wife about what's working, what's draining, and what needs adjusting creates alignment and strengthens intimacy. 5. Leadership Is About Presence, Not Perfection You don't need to do everything—you just need to be intentional with what you choose to own. Presence, clarity, and consistency are what families need most.       LINKS & RESOURCES Bark (Protect your kids online): https://www.thedadedge.com/bark Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode gave you practical tools for leading your family during the school year, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Together, we're raising a generation of fathers who lead with clarity, intention, and love.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, Ethan and I dive into a topic most men don't talk about nearly enough—male friendships. From high school bonds that fade after graduation to the loneliness many men feel in their 30s and 40s, we unpack why brotherhood is so hard to maintain and why it matters more than ever.   We share personal stories, both from Ethan's perspective at 19 and my experience at 50, about what it looks like to build lasting friendships at different stages of life. From the silent killers of connection—busyness, unspoken expectations, and lack of intentionality—to the keys that keep brotherhood alive, this episode is a raw and honest roadmap for men who don't want to go through life alone.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and today's theme: friendships and brotherhood [1:02] - Why male friendships dwindle after high school [2:45] - How friendships shift in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s [4:58] - Why achievement never replaces connection [6:13] - Ethan's perspective at 19: losing friends as everyone goes their separate ways [8:46] - Larry's college stories: parties, hangovers, and life lessons learned the hard way [12:23] - The shift from convenience-based friendships to intentional ones [15:01] - Why men struggle to make new friendships as they age [17:30] - The role of shared struggle, vulnerability, and consistency in building brotherhood [21:10] - Why "let's hang out sometime" rarely works—and what to do instead [25:18] - Larry's example of rekindling friendships with intentional planning [28:35] - How marriage and fatherhood shift men's priorities and isolate them [31:05] - The silent killers of friendship: busyness, lack of vulnerability, inconsistency [34:16] - Why brotherhood is essential for emotional, spiritual, and relational health [37:02] - Advice for young men: stay proactive, visit friends, make memories now [41:33] - How to prevent friendships from fading with intentionality and consistency [48:11] - Parallels between the silent killers of friendship and the silent killers of marriage [54:09] - Final reflections: why men need brotherhood and how to fight for it     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Friendships Require Intentionality Unlike the easy friendships of high school and college, adult brotherhood must be built with deliberate effort—planning, showing up, and refusing to drift. 2. Achievement Doesn't Replace Connection No amount of success, money, or accolades can substitute for the bond of brotherhood. Men need friendships to thrive, not just careers and families. 3. Vulnerability Creates Real Brotherhood Surface-level conversations keep men distant. True friendship grows when we open up honestly about struggles, challenges, and real life behind the scenes. 4. Consistency Keeps Bonds Alive Friendships die in silence. Weekly check-ins, shared rituals, or even planned coffee dates create the reps that make brotherhood last. 5. The Same Rules Apply to Marriage The silent killers of friendship—busyness, lack of vulnerability, loss of intentionality—also destroy marriages. Strong relationships, whether with friends or a spouse, require consistent effort and openness.       LINKS & RESOURCES   DB OVERDRIVE:  https://1stphorm.com/products/thyro-drive/?a_aid=dadedge First Phorm DB Overdrive (supplement featured): https://www.thedadedge.com/1361 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode gave you fresh insight into friendship, brotherhood, or marriage, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Let's build a generation of men who refuse to live life alone.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with GS Youngblood—author of The Masculine in Relationship and The Art of Embodiment for Men. GS brings decades of experience coaching men on leadership in marriage, parenting, and personal growth through his Masculine Blueprint framework. Together, we unpack what it really means to live from your masculine core while creating safety, connection, and trust in your relationships.   We talk about balancing firmness with heart, why composure beats control, and how to provide structure without domination. GS also dives into the importance of embodiment practices for men, how to stop reacting and start responding, and the role of clarity in building intimacy with your partner. This is a conversation about leadership that goes beyond the surface—helping men shift from fear and reactivity into grounded presence and intentional direction.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and introduction to GS Youngblood [1:56] - GS's bestselling books and the Masculine Blueprint framework [2:28] - What it means to live from your masculine core [3:08] - Why composure is more powerful than control in leadership [5:03] - Growing up with an intense father and lessons for parenting [6:23] - Balancing firmness and love with your kids [7:30] - Relational masculinity: strength with empathy [9:21] - The artful blend of clarity and heart in family leadership [12:17] - Clarity as the foundation of effective masculine leadership [13:33] - The "nice guy" trap and why men seek external validation [15:10] - Why grounding your nervous system must come before clarity [16:57] - Daily embodiment practices for staying present and calm [20:06] - Breathwork, meditation, and awareness as tools for men [23:12] - How embodiment reduces fixation and increases intimacy [27:59] - The energetic flow between men and women in communication [30:08] - Renewing curiosity in long-term marriage and intimacy [32:18] - Why women crave being known and understood [33:42] - Emotional safety as the gateway to sexual connection [38:15] - The three parts of the Masculine Blueprint explained [40:07] - Respond vs. react: staying grounded under pressure [44:14] - "You may not be the problem, but you are the solution." [45:16] - Providing structure without domination—clarity plus inclusion [48:32] - The spectrum of leadership: tenderness to directness [50:01] - Sexual tension, rejection, and how men can hold ground [52:11] - Why sexuality is vulnerable for men and how to own it [54:31] - Avoiding the "hurt boy" response in relationships [56:00] - When women need men to be bigger than their moods [57:44] - Staying grounded when intimacy needs don't align [1:00:12] - The power of presence in building intimacy over time     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Composure Beats Control True masculine leadership isn't about domination—it's about staying grounded, calm, and clear even when emotions run high. 2. Firmness With Heart Creates Trust Children and partners thrive when a man brings clarity and structure without fear. The combination of strength and empathy builds long-term respect. 3. Embodiment Grounds the Nervous System Daily practices like breathwork and meditation keep men from being reactive, helping them lead from presence instead of anxiety or reactivity. 4. Curiosity Keeps Intimacy Alive Long-term relationships require ongoing curiosity. When women feel known and understood, emotional safety deepens—and so does sexual connection. 5. Men Are the Solution Even if you aren't the cause of conflict, you can choose to be the solution. Leadership means stepping up with clarity, direction, and presence to create connection.       LINKS & RESOURCES   GS Youngblood Website: https://gsyoungblood.com The Masculine in Relationship Book: https://gsyoungblood.com/books The Alliance and Boardroom - thedadedge.com/mastermind Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions       If this episode gave you new insight into marriage, masculinity, or fatherhood, please rate, review, follow, and share the podcast. Together, we're raising the standard for men who lead with both strength and heart.

In this candid episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined once again by my wife, Jessica, for a raw and relatable conversation about marriage, parenting, and family dynamics. Together, we dive into the often-unspoken expectations that can trip couples up—from finances and chores to parenting roles and communication.   We unpack stories from our own journey, including how we've learned to navigate paying bills vs. investing, handling family dinners without resentment, and even the role each of us plays in talking with our boys about tough subjects like sex and relationships. Jessica also shares her gift for approaching conversations with grace and timing, while I reflect on my more reactive nature. This episode is packed with practical takeaways for couples who want to strengthen teamwork, avoid resentment, and lead their families with intention.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and today's focus on roles in marriage [1:01] - Defining who does what in parenting, finances, and chores [2:06] - The hidden danger of unspoken expectations [3:30] - Behind the scenes: energy, stress, and real-life struggles [5:10] - Midwest float trip stories and creating family traditions [9:27] - Why shared memories matter more than perfection [11:16] - Breaking down marriage roles: paying bills vs. investing [15:23] - The early financial mistakes that created stress in our marriage [18:05] - Why swapping roles can sometimes create resentment [21:16] - How Jessica manages bills and accountability with confidence [24:19] - Investments, risks, and learning to stomach financial swings [27:15] - Family dinners: why they often cause conflict and how we shifted the burden [29:03] - The turning point when Jessica admitted she hated cooking [31:36] - Why meal planning is harder than it looks (and how we simplified it) [34:47] - Balancing preferences, health, and kids' picky eating habits [39:11] - Parenting roles: who has the sex talk with the kids [41:12] - Creating safe, open conversations about sex, porn, and relationships [44:12] - How to approach hard conversations with timing and grace [47:26] - Why gentleness and patience often lead to better results [50:18] - Picking the right time and tone to address conflict at home [53:03] - Dividing responsibilities with kids' sports and activities [56:08] - Communication as the glue that keeps roles balanced [57:12] - Closing reflections and an invitation for listener topic suggestions     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Unspoken Expectations Create Resentment Most marital conflict stems not from tasks themselves, but from unspoken roles and assumptions. Clarity prevents conflict. 2. Play to Your Strengths Dividing responsibilities based on natural strengths—like Jessica handling bills and me handling investments—makes life easier and reduces stress. 3. Dinners Are About Connection, Not Perfection Family meals can quickly turn into a source of resentment. Sharing the load and letting go of perfection creates a healthier environment. 4. Hard Conversations Require Timing Approaching difficult topics at the right time and with the right tone changes everything. Grace and patience often achieve more than urgency. 5. Parenting Is a Team Effort From sex talks to sports practices, showing up as a united front teaches kids stability, respect, and the value of shared responsibility.       LINKS & RESOURCES   21 DAYS TO EXTRAORDINARY MARRIAGE - https://thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage/ Share your topic suggestions: info@thedadedge.com 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode gave you practical tools for marriage or parenting, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're creating stronger marriages, stronger families, and stronger futures.

In this father-son conversation on the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down once again with my son Ethan as we wrap up our August series on what it really means to grow from boyhood into manhood. This episode digs into the lessons society often fails to teach young men—like emotional regulation, conflict resolution, and the importance of spiritual leadership.   We share personal stories—some funny, some raw—about patience, distractions, and the times I've missed the mark as a dad. Ethan opens up about his work, his relationship, and how he's learning to grow into the kind of man the world truly needs. Together, we unpack what fathers and sons alike can do to become intentional leaders in their families, relationships, and communities.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and today's theme [2:02] - What kind of men the world needs (and what's missing today) [3:33] - Morning routines and health habits for energy and focus [4:06] - Ethan's take on toxic behaviors and emotional regulation [6:13] - Why patience is a skill every man must learn [9:08] - The dangers of unchecked anger and modeling healthy behavior [10:43] - Spiritual leadership: why families need fathers of faith [12:55] - Technology distractions and missing moments with family [14:13] - Ethan's memory of a walk interrupted by a work call [16:04] - Why presence matters more than productivity for kids [17:11] - Emotional IQ and learning to communicate feelings clearly [19:34] - The "blame game" in conflict and what's really being argued [21:29] - Why stating what you do want changes arguments instantly [23:51] - Communication lessons that transform relationships [26:14] - Humor, family dogs, and how laughter shapes connection [28:26] - Ethan's approach to relationship check-ins with his girlfriend [32:10] - Why small gestures (videos, letters, notes) keep love alive [34:09] - Preventative maintenance in relationships—like car care [35:41] - Ethan's life transitions: work, school, and EMT training [37:00] - Looking back: how podcasting captured growth in real time [39:22] - Lessons learned from starting with imperfect beginnings [41:25] - Tangents, laughter, and building stronger bonds through honesty [42:29] - Resources, free tools, and a final call to lead with intention     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Patience Is a Choice, Not a Trait Life tests your patience daily—but choosing to pause, breathe, and respond with calm sets the tone for your family and your relationships. 2. Spiritual Leadership Matters A father who prays, leads spiritually, and models faith gives his family the foundation they need to thrive—not perfection, but presence. 3. Distractions Cost Connection Every time work or technology interrupts family time, the message sent is "this is more important than you." Presence is the true gift kids crave. 4. Communication Is Preventative Maintenance Arguments often circle around what we don't want. Learning to clearly state what we do want transforms conflict into connection. 5. Relationships Grow Through Small, Intentional Acts From handwritten letters to a quick morning video, little efforts create lasting connection. Relationships require maintenance—just like everything worth keeping.       LINKS & RESOURCES   First Phorm Supplements: https://www.thedadedge.com/1358 CREATINE LINK: https://1stphorm.com/products/micronized-creatine-monohydrate/?a_aid=dadedge Hydration Sticks: https://1stphorm.com/products/hydration-sticks/?a_aid=dadedge 25 Intimate Conversation Starters (Free Resource): https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools     If this episode gave you a new perspective on fatherhood, marriage, or raising sons, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're building a generation of men who live, lead, and love with intention.

In this powerful episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Blaise Aguirre, a Harvard psychiatrist and global expert on adolescent mental health, to unpack one of the most important—and often overlooked—parts of parenting: the inner voice we help shape in our kids.   We dive into the role of tone, discipline, and compassion in parenting, and how the words we use as fathers often become the voice our kids carry for life. Dr. Aguirre breaks down how to raise resilient, critical thinkers without crushing their confidence, and why creating an environment of both structure and safety is essential to building emotionally healthy children. If you've ever wondered how to balance discipline with grace, or how to stop fueling your child's inner critic, this conversation is a must-listen.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Introduction to the Dad Edge movement and today's topic on kids' inner voice [2:24] - Why your tone as a father becomes your child's inner dialogue [4:58] - Dr. Aguirre's background and 25 years at Harvard [7:10] - How the inner critic forms in childhood [9:37] - The difference between helpful self-reflection and harmful self-hatred [13:05] - Signs your child may be struggling with a damaging inner voice [15:32] - Why "what's wrong with you?" is one of the most destructive phrases a dad can say [18:30] - The role of technology and peer influence on self-worth [21:03] - How to raise critical thinkers who don't default to catastrophizing [25:51] - Emotional regulation: why your calm becomes their calm [28:08] - Addressing bullying and teaching kids which voices to trust [30:22] - Why negativity sticks more than praise (and how to counter it) [34:04] - Finding balance between praise, discipline, and boundaries [36:55] - The difference between punishment and effective discipline [42:12] - Repairing mistakes as a parent and the power of apology [47:14] - Creating psychological safety at home so kids feel seen and heard [51:16] - Why fear-based parenting backfires and undermines performance [55:07] - The dangers of boundary-less parenting and raising entitled kids [57:43] - Wrapping it all together: structure + compassion = resilience     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Your Voice Becomes Their Voice The tone you use with your kids doesn't just shape the moment—it shapes the inner dialogue they carry into adulthood. 2. Discipline Must Be Tied to Behavior, Not Identity Punishment that attacks who a child is damages self-worth. Effective discipline connects consequences to actions while preserving dignity. 3. Safety Builds Confidence Kids thrive when they know they're safe to fail, safe to talk, and safe to be themselves at home. Psychological safety is the foundation of resilience. 4. Emotional Regulation Is Contagious When fathers stay calm, they teach kids how to regulate their own emotions. Your calm presence can be the anchor in their storms. 5. Balance Is Key Parenting that blends structure, limits, and grace raises children who are both confident and resilient—ready to face life with critical thinking and courage.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Resources from Dr. Blaise Aguirre: https://thedadedge.com/1357 Bark Phone & App (protect your kids online): https://thedadedge.com/bark Dad Edge Alliance (career-driven dads): https://thedadedge.com/alliance Dad Edge Boardroom (entrepreneurial dads): https://thedadedge.com/mastermind Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://thedadedge.com/podcast       If this episode challenged you as a father, share it with another dad who needs to hear it. And if you found value here, please rate, follow, and review the show—it helps us reach more men committed to leading with strength, compassion, and purpose.

In this special episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined once again by my wife, Jessica Hagner, for another honest and heartfelt conversation about marriage, parenting, and family life. Together, we pull back the curtain on how we've learned to operate as a team, resolve conflict with respect, and create a family culture where our kids feel seen, loved, and guided.   We discuss the importance of friendship in marriage, the challenges of raising four boys with different personalities, and how grace and intentionality shape our home. Jessica also shares her perspective on what keeps our relationship strong after more than two decades together, even when life gets messy. If you're looking for practical tools and encouragement for your marriage and parenting, this episode delivers a mix of wisdom, laughter, and real-life stories.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Why conversations like this matter for marriage and parenting [2:10] - Building a marriage on respect and friendship [5:18] - How we handle conflict without tearing each other down [9:02] - Parenting four boys with different needs and personalities [13:37] - Why consistency matters in discipline and guidance [17:25] - The role of grace in creating a safe family environment [21:48] - Keeping our marriage strong in the middle of chaos [26:13] - Making intentional time for connection as a couple [30:05] - How we show each child that they are seen and valued [34:40] - Teaching respect by modeling it in our marriage [39:12] - The balance between structure and flexibility in parenting [43:55] - Why shared values anchor our family through challenges [48:21] - Leading our family spiritually and emotionally [52:18] - How laughter and friendship keep us connected [56:44] - Final reflections on creating a family rooted in love and respect     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Respect Is the Glue in Marriage Every successful partnership is built on mutual respect. It sets the tone for conflict resolution, parenting, and the overall health of the relationship. 2. Conflict Doesn't Have to Divide Handled well, disagreements can actually strengthen connection. The goal isn't to win—it's to work together with empathy and understanding. 3. Parent as a United Team Kids feel safest when parents operate from the same playbook. Presenting a united front creates stability and clarity at home. 4. Grace Creates Space for Growth Rules matter, but grace ensures your home is a safe place to learn, fail, and try again. It's what makes discipline effective without resentment. 5. Friendship Keeps Love Alive Romance ebbs and flows, but friendship sustains the relationship. Laughter, fun, and shared companionship are what carry you through every season.       LINKS & RESOURCES   Download the 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode encouraged you or gave you a fresh perspective on your marriage and parenting, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're building stronger marriages, stronger families, and stronger futures.

In this special father-son episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with my son, Ethan, to continue our August series on raising boys into strong, capable men. Together, we dive into the real challenges young men face today and the lessons that shape character, responsibility, and confidence.   Ethan opens up about what he's learning through work, relationships, and personal growth, while I share insights on how fathers can guide without controlling. We discuss resilience, accountability, and the importance of choosing the right path—even when it's difficult. This conversation is raw, relatable, and packed with wisdom for both dads and sons who want to grow together.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to our August father-son series [2:10] - Ethan's reflections on independence and early adulthood [5:25] - Why accountability is the key to long-term success [8:41] - Lessons from failure and how to bounce back stronger [12:03] - How to balance freedom with responsibility [15:37] - Why building grit matters more than chasing comfort [19:10] - Navigating friendships and the power of influence [23:46] - What intentional living looks like as a young man [28:04] - Handling setbacks without losing confidence [32:19] - Why fathers need to lead by example, not just advice [36:55] - The role of gratitude in keeping perspective [40:28] - Ethan's biggest lessons so far in work and life [44:12] - Final reflections on manhood, growth, and legacy     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Accountability Creates Growth The willingness to own your choices and mistakes is what separates boys from men—it's the foundation of maturity. 2. Resilience Is Built Through Struggle Failure is not the end but the classroom. Every setback is an opportunity to learn grit and perseverance. 3. Freedom Without Responsibility Leads to Chaos True independence isn't doing whatever you want—it's learning to carry the weight of your decisions. 4. Influence Shapes Identity The people you surround yourself with will either pull you forward or drag you down. Choose wisely. 5. Gratitude Keeps You Grounded No matter how tough life gets, practicing gratitude helps you stay centered, focused, and motivated to keep moving forward.       LINKS & RESOURCES • 1st Phorm Creatine: https://1stphorm.com/products/micronized-creatine-monohydrate/?a_aid=dadedge • LEVEL 1 BARS:  https://1stphorm.com/products/level-1-bar/?a_aid=dadedge • Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com • Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance • Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast • 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions     If this episode challenged or encouraged you, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're raising the next generation of men to live with grit, responsibility, and purpose.

In this powerful episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Rock Thomas—entrepreneur, bestselling author, and founder of the I Am Movement—to explore what it truly means to break free from limiting beliefs and take ownership of your life. Rock shares his journey from humble beginnings on a farm to building multiple successful businesses, and he unpacks the mindset shifts that helped him rise above struggle and design a life of purpose.   We dive into how the words you speak shape your identity, the importance of surrounding yourself with the right influences, and why most men never reach their full potential. Rock also shares practical strategies for fathers to model growth, resilience, and confidence for their children. If you've ever felt stuck, defined by your past, or unsure of your next step, this conversation will challenge you to rewrite your story and live with intention.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome and introduction to Rock Thomas and the I Am Movement [3:08] - Growing up on a farm and the lessons of early hardship [7:15] - How childhood experiences shaped Rock's drive and identity [10:42] - Breaking free from the labels others put on you [14:20] - Why the words you use about yourself matter [18:55] - The turning point that shifted Rock's life trajectory [23:11] - The mentors who changed his mindset and path [27:36] - Building wealth without losing yourself in the process [31:48] - Why environment and community shape who you become [36:29] - The importance of modeling resilience for your kids [41:03] - Rock's strategies for reframing failure into fuel [45:17] - How to stop living by default and start living by design [50:42] - Parenting lessons: teaching kids ownership and responsibility [54:33] - Daily rituals and practices that keep Rock grounded [59:15] - The power of declaring "I Am" statements for identity [1:03:22] - Final reflections on building a life of purpose and growth     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Your Words Shape Your World The labels and stories you tell yourself directly influence your identity. Shifting your "I am" statements can transform your confidence, actions, and results. 2. Mentorship Accelerates Growth The right mentors can help you break through limitations and see possibilities you couldn't on your own. Who you learn from shapes who you become. 3. Environment Drives Identity The people you surround yourself with will either elevate you or keep you stuck. Community matters as much as personal discipline. 4. Failure Is Feedback Instead of avoiding mistakes, Rock reframes failure as fuel for growth. Every setback is a stepping stone to greater resilience and wisdom. 5. Parenting Is About Modeling Your children are watching how you live, not just what you say. Modeling ownership, resilience, and intentional living teaches them how to thrive.       LINKS & RESOURCES   • Rock Thomas Website: https://rockthomas.com • Learn About the I Am Movement: https://rockthomas.com/iam-movement • thedadedge.com/legendarybook • Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com • Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance • Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast     If this episode inspired you to take ownership of your story, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Let's continue building a generation of men who live by design, not default.

In this heartfelt episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined once again by my wife, Jessica Hagner, to share an inside look at how we approach marriage, parenting, and family life as a team. From building respect and handling conflict to raising four boys with shared values, this conversation is packed with personal stories, laughter, and real-life strategies for staying connected through all of life's ups and downs.   We talk about how we've learned to operate in parenting, the role of respect in every interaction, and the tools that help us resolve conflict without damaging trust. Jessica opens up about her perspective as a wife and mother, and together, we discuss the importance of modeling the behavior we want to see in our kids. Whether you're in the early years of marriage or decades in, this episode offers encouragement and actionable ways to strengthen your family relationships.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome and why this conversation with Jessica matters [2:12] - The role of mutual respect in keeping a marriage strong [5:07] - How we handle conflict and keep trust intact [9:15] - Parenting as a united front and setting shared expectations [13:28] - Balancing structure and flexibility with four boys [16:44] - Teaching respect by modeling it in our marriage [20:15] - How we navigate disagreements in front of our kids [23:51] - Creating space for connection in a busy household [27:06] - The importance of making each child feel seen and valued [30:42] - Our approach to discipline without creating resentment [34:25] - How parenting styles evolve as kids grow [38:18] - Keeping romance alive while raising a family [42:56] - The value of open, honest communication in marriage [46:39] - Leading our family spiritually and emotionally [50:20] - Why grace matters as much as structure in parenting [54:14] - Final reflections on building a family rooted in respect and love     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Respect Is the Foundation Every strong marriage and family dynamic begins with mutual respect—how we speak to each other, handle disagreements, and set the tone for our household. 2. Conflict Can Strengthen Connection When handled with honesty and empathy, disagreements can build trust instead of breaking it. It's not about avoiding conflict—it's about navigating it well. 3. Parent as a Team Kids thrive when they see their parents united. Operating from the same playbook creates stability and prevents division in the home. 4. Model the Behavior You Want to See Children learn more from what you do than what you say. By demonstrating respect, patience, and grace, we set the example for how they'll treat others. 5. Grace Balances Structure Rules and boundaries are essential, but grace creates a safe and loving environment where kids can learn from their mistakes without fear.       LINKS & RESOURCES   • Download the 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions • Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com • Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance • Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast • Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode encouraged you or gave you new insight into your marriage or parenting, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're building stronger families and stronger futures.

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined once again by my son, Ethan, for another candid father-son conversation on navigating life, manhood, and building the skills that last a lifetime. As part of our August series on helping boys transition into strong, capable men, we dig into Ethan's experiences in work, relationships, and personal growth—and the lessons that come with them.   We talk about learning the value of hard work, handling failure without losing momentum, and why being intentional with your time can change everything. Ethan also opens up about balancing independence with staying connected to family, how to choose the right influences, and the importance of staying grounded in who you are—especially when life throws curveballs. Whether you're raising a son or trying to grow as a man yourself, this conversation is filled with practical wisdom, personal stories, and plenty of laughs along the way.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome and context for our August series on raising boys into men [2:15] - Ethan's reflections on his first real work experiences [5:04] - Learning self-reliance through challenges and problem-solving [8:12] - The importance of staying humble and teachable [11:30] - How to take responsibility without losing confidence [15:18] - Building resilience after setbacks and mistakes [18:40] - Choosing influences and friends that push you forward [21:53] - Balancing independence with strong family connection [25:17] - What it means to be intentional with your time and energy [28:34] - Handling the pressure to perform in work and life [32:56] - Using failures as fuel for growth and self-improvement [36:11] - The role of discipline in achieving long-term goals [40:00] - How gratitude changes your outlook and relationships [43:28] - Ethan's advice for young men starting their journey to adulthood [46:02] - Lessons learned from taking risks and stepping into uncomfortable situations [49:15] - Why adaptability is essential in both work and relationships [52:40] - The impact of mentorship and learning from older, wiser voices [56:22] - Strategies for keeping your mindset strong during setbacks [1:00:05] - How Ethan applies life lessons from sports into everyday decisions [1:03:30] - The importance of giving back and serving others as a sign of maturity [1:06:54] - Final reflections on becoming the kind of man you'd be proud to follow     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Hard Work Builds Character Real growth comes when you embrace responsibility, push through discomfort, and give your best—whether you're excited about the task or not.   2. Stay Teachable No matter how much you know, there's always something to learn. A teachable spirit keeps you adaptable and ready for opportunity.   3. Choose Your Circle Wisely The people you surround yourself with will either pull you forward or drag you down. Select influences who challenge and inspire you.   4. Resilience Comes From Recovery Everyone fails—but it's how quickly you get back up and how much you learn from it that determines your strength.   5. Intentional Living Creates Direction Without a plan, you drift. Being deliberate with your time, energy, and commitments gives you control over the man you're becoming.       LINKS & RESOURCES   thedadedge.com/presence https://1stphorm.com/products/collagen-with-dermaval/?a_aid=dadedge DB OVERDRIVE:  https://1stphorm.com/products/1-db-overdrive-fastpack/?a_aid=dadedge. CREATINE LINK: https://1stphorm.com/products/micronized-creatine-monohydrate/?a_aid=dadedge   1st PHORM APP:  https://share.1stphorm.app/67eJWnb94Ub Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions       If this episode inspired you or gave you a fresh perspective, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're helping men and fathers live legendary lives—for themselves, their families, and the next generation.

In this high-energy episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Brady Smith—actor, author, devoted husband to Tiffani Thiessen, and proud dad—to talk about fatherhood, family, and living with intention. From the red carpet to bedtime stories, Brady shares how he balances career, creativity, and parenting while staying grounded in what matters most.   We dive into marriage lessons, the art of being fully present with your kids, and the importance of modeling emotional resilience. Brady opens up about how he and Tiffani navigate life as a team, why they value quality time over quantity, and the ways they foster creativity and confidence in their children. Whether you're raising toddlers or teens, this episode is a refreshing reminder that being a great dad isn't about perfection—it's about presence, purpose, and love.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Introducing Brady Smith: actor, author, husband, and dad [2:15] - From Hollywood to home life—how Brady keeps family first [5:08] - Building a marriage rooted in respect and teamwork [8:14] - The importance of slowing down and being present [11:42] - Teaching kids creativity and self-confidence through action [14:27] - How Brady and Tiffani navigate busy schedules as parents [17:33] - Why emotional resilience is key to raising grounded kids [20:45] - Stories that shape family values and traditions [24:19] - Prioritizing connection over constant activity [28:56] - Balancing career ambitions with fatherhood responsibilities [32:11] - Brady's advice for dads who want to lead with intention     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Presence Beats Perfection Your kids don't need a flawless dad—they need one who shows up, listens, and engages. Consistent presence has a far greater impact than striving for impossible standards. 2. Marriage Thrives on Teamwork Brady and Tiffani approach their relationship like a true partnership—dividing responsibilities, supporting each other's goals, and staying aligned on family values. 3. Creativity Builds Confidence Encouraging kids to dream, create, and try new things builds resilience and self-belief that will serve them for life. 4. Emotional Resilience Is a Lifelong Gift Helping your kids manage disappointment, frustration, and change prepares them to thrive in an unpredictable world. 5. Connection Is the Goal From family dinners to shared hobbies, meaningful connection comes from intentional moments, not just shared space.     LINKS & RESOURCES   Brady Smith Website: https://www.bradysmith.com Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast       If this episode inspired you, made you laugh, or gave you a fresh perspective on parenting and marriage, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we can help more dads lead legendary lives for themselves and their families.

In this deeply personal episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined by my incredible wife, Jessica Hagner, for a raw, real, and honest conversation about what 22 years of marriage has truly looked like behind the scenes. From our awkward beginnings in college to raising four boys and building a life together, this is a rare inside look into the foundation of our relationship—what's worked, what hasn't, and how we've grown together through every season.   We unpack everything from emotional disconnect and healing past wounds to the power of intentional communication, spiritual alignment, and shared leadership at home. Jessica shares her heart and wisdom on how we create emotional safety in our marriage, why friendship is key to our connection, and how we've come back from disconnection stronger every time. Whether you're in year one or year twenty of your relationship, this episode offers powerful insight into the daily work of lasting love.     TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Why this episode with Jessica is one of the most special yet [1:28] - How we first met—and the infamous "first kiss" moment [4:12] - Celebrating 22 years: early struggles and breakthrough moments [8:05] - Navigating emotional disconnection and how we've learned to reconnect [11:55] - Jessica's approach to giving feedback without criticism [15:30] - The role of grace and safety in helping me grow as a husband [18:43] - Getting on the same page spiritually and emotionally [21:10] - Why we never let distance linger too long in our relationship [24:02] - The value of therapy, reflection, and personal healing [28:09] - Parenting four boys with teamwork, honesty, and prayer [32:18] - How our friendship fuels every other aspect of our marriage [36:42] - Leading by example as partners, parents, and individuals [39:55] - Why we believe your past doesn't define your potential [42:20] - The power of intentional connection—even when life is messy     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Lasting Marriages Are Built on Daily Intentions It's not grand gestures that sustain a relationship—it's the daily choice to show up, stay connected, and grow together, even when things feel hard or messy. 2. Grace Is the Bridge Between Conflict and Connection Jessica's ability to approach tough conversations with empathy and grace allowed us to repair emotional rifts without blame or shame. That kind of safe space creates real transformation. 3. Emotional Safety Is a Foundation for Growth We can't become better spouses or parents unless we feel secure to be vulnerable. Emotional safety means knowing you can be honest without fear of judgment or rejection. 4. Friendship Fuels Long-Term Love Romantic sparks matter—but friendship sustains. Laughing, enjoying time together, and being each other's best friend is what carries the relationship through every season. 5. Spiritual Alignment Strengthens the Bond When we committed to growing together spiritually, we experienced deeper intimacy and peace. Shared faith, prayer, and purpose have anchored us through life's storms.     LINKS & RESOURCES Download the 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools Recommended Episode: How to Lead Your Marriage with Intention     If this episode spoke to your heart, encouraged your marriage, or gave you hope, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Every share helps us reach more couples and families who need real conversations like this one. Thanks for listening and being part of the Dad Edge community.

In this special episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined once again by my son Ethan for another honest and often hilarious father-son conversation. This week, we're kicking off our August series focused on helping young men grow into adulthood with integrity, resilience, and intention. We unpack what it really means to become a man in today's world and why so many guys stay stuck in a boyhood mindset well into their 40s and beyond. Ethan shares firsthand experiences from his first full-time job, launching a car detailing business in high school, and learning life skills that go far beyond the classroom. We talk about emotional regulation, grit, finding meaningful work, and how to support your kids without micromanaging their growth. Whether you're raising sons or just want insight into building a better father-child bond, this episode is packed with perspective, wisdom, and a few laughs. TIMELINE SUMMARY [0:00] - Welcome to the podcast and the mission behind the Dad Edge [1:30] - The origin and theme of our father-son conversations [3:06] - Why August is all about helping boys become men [5:00] - The First Phorm 8-week challenge and tools to get started [7:01] - The moment I realized no one was coming to save me [8:22] - Ethan's experience at his first real job in an auto shop [11:30] - Learning to grow up through the CAPS entrepreneurship program [13:42] - How Ethan started and ran a successful car detailing business [17:07] - Signs a boy is becoming a man: long-term thinking, embracing discomfort [20:37] - The danger of staying in a soul-sucking job and the power of choice [26:30] - Stories of perseverance from Steve Jobs, Colonel Sanders, and J.K. Rowling [30:21] - Ethan's reflections on helping others break limiting beliefs [35:45] - Why emotional regulation is key to maturing into manhood [39:00] - Learning to pause, respond, and reflect through challenging days [43:27] - How fathers can support sons without overstepping [47:03] - Using better questions to develop critical thinking and self-direction 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS: 1. Becoming a Man Requires Intentional Growth The shift from boyhood to manhood doesn't happen automatically; it's shaped by life experiences, learning responsibility, and the conscious decision to grow up. No one is coming to save you, and it's up to you to take ownership. 2. Let Sons Struggle, But Be Their Safe Place Growth often happens in the discomfort. As dads, it's tempting to step in and fix things. But real development comes when we let our kids wrestle with problems while knowing they have a safe place to process and recover. 3. Embrace and Teach Emotional Regulation Maturity is marked by how well we manage our emotions. Learning to pause, breathe, and choose a thoughtful response instead of reacting impulsively is a life skill every young man needs to master. 4. Work Experience Teaches More Than Just Skills From oil changes to running a business, Ethan's journey proves that real-world jobs and responsibilities develop grit, confidence, and a clearer sense of what one wants and doesn't want in life. 5. Success Is Measured by Fulfillment, Not Fortune We often think success means more money, bigger homes, or flashier titles. But as we explore in this episode, true success is found in happiness, strong relationships, and doing work that brings purpose, not just a paycheck. LINKS & RESOURCES DB OVERDRIVE: https://1stphorm.com/products/1-db-overdrive-fastpack/?a_aid=dadedge. CREATINE LINK: https://1stphorm.com/products/micronized-creatine-monohydrate/?a_aid=dadedge  1st PHORM APP:  https://share.1stphorm.app/67eJWnb94Ub Join the First Phorm Challenge: https://www.firstphorm.com/dadedge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Explore More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast If this episode inspired you or gave you a new perspective, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Together, we're building stronger families—and stronger men—for generations to come.

Would you die for your kids? Most dads would. But would you live for them? In this powerful episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Andrew Jax—father of three, Australian natural bodybuilding champion, and founder of the "Ditch the Dad Fat" program. Known as the "6 Pack Dad," Andrew shares how optimizing your health isn't just about looking good—it's about leading with strength, energy, and integrity at home. We explore the silent leadership of fatherhood, why most men's health declines after marriage, and how to reverse that trend with small, sustainable changes. Andrew breaks down the real cost of saying "I don't have time," the importance of emotional and physical energy for our families, and how you can enjoy your pizza and beer—and still lose the dad bod. Whether you're already committed to health or just thinking about getting back in the game, this episode will fire you up and equip you with strategies you can use today.   TIMELINE SUMMARY: [0:00] - Would you die for your kids? What about live for them? [2:10] - Introducing Andrew Jax: father, champion bodybuilder, and coach [3:17] - Why health is a leadership issue, not just a vanity project [5:00] - The "Dad decline": why men fall apart after marriage [8:22] - Guilt, shame, and why self-care isn't selfish [13:06] - The myth of "no time" and how to make fitness fit your life [17:07] - Why starting small matters—and why most men wait for a crisis [21:22] - Andrew's "Habit Sustainability Formula" explained [25:17] - Daily accountability: the #1 key to long-term success [28:10] - How to stay lean without relying on exercise [31:08] - Why sleep and stress management are crucial to fat loss [34:03] - Finding balance: eating clean without giving up your life [37:04] - Prioritizing protein, carbs, fats, and smart supplementation [43:08] - How Andrew leads his family spiritually, emotionally, and physically [46:10] - Where to connect and get a free copy of Andrew's book   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Health Is a Legacy Issue Your kids aren't just watching—they're modeling. Leading with health means passing on a generational inheritance of physical, emotional, and mental well-being. They'll follow your example more than your advice. 2. Self-Care Is Not Selfish Skipping your workout may feel noble in the moment, but long-term neglect robs your family of your energy, presence, and vitality. When you take care of yourself, you increase your capacity to take care of others. 3. You Don't Need Hours or Perfection You don't need five workouts a week or chicken and broccoli forever. Andrew's clients are busy dads and business owners who see results with three efficient sessions per week and a flexible, sustainable eating plan. 4. Daily Accountability Changes Everything Forget once-a-week check-ins. Andrew's clients get results through daily guidance and support. If you want real change, don't go it alone—build a system that keeps you on track every single day. 5. Lead at Home Like You Lead at Work Andrew's success isn't just in coaching—it's in how he shows up as a husband and father. He shares how servant leadership, spiritual alignment, and presence fuel his connection with his wife and kids every day.   LINKS & RESOURCES: Free copy of my Ditch The Dad Fat eBook: ditchthedadfatbook.gr8.com Free training on How Busy Dads Are Losing 10-35lbs & Reclaiming Their Health, Energy & Confidence In 6 Weeks Without Exercise or Extreme Diets: ditchthedadfat.com Ditch The Dad Fat Podcast: rebrand.ly/DTDFPodcast Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Episode Page: https://www.thedadedge.com/538 If this episode gave you fresh perspective or practical tips, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Your support fuels this mission to help fathers lead legendary lives—for themselves and their families.

In this deeply personal and refreshingly raw episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined by my incredible wife, Jessica Hagner, for a long-overdue conversation that many of you have been asking for. After years of encouragement (and a little nudging), Jessica stepped up to the mic to help me share the real, behind-the-scenes story of our 22-year marriage. We go back to the early days of college, reliving the awkwardness of our first kiss and my embarrassing (but strategic) attempt to get her on a student committee just to spend time with her. But we don't just stay in the past. We dive deep into the challenges of our early marriage, the struggles I had showing up as a husband and father, and how Jessica's unwavering grace, direct but loving communication, and deep emotional strength helped pull us through. From parenting four boys to rediscovering connection after disconnection, we explore how we've stayed aligned, what we've learned, and why our friendship is the real heartbeat of our relationship. Whether you're a husband, wife, parent, or someone navigating the messy middle of a relationship, this episode will speak to your heart and give you practical hope that real love is always within reach, if you're willing to work for it.   TIMELINE SUMMARY [1:34] - Jessica joins the podcast for the first time—and how long it took to convince her [4:35] - The (disastrous) first kiss story from both our perspectives [10:22] - My clever scheme to get Jessica on the student committee [13:36] - Celebrating 22 years: reflections on young love and early marriage [16:05] - My struggles early on as a husband and father [20:48] - Jessica's thoughtful, respectful way of expressing hard truths [26:02] - A rough week of disconnection—and why we refuse to let it linger [29:30] - How we sense and address emotional distance before it becomes dangerous [35:31] - Replacing blame with grace: the power of constructive feedback [38:01] - Jessica's journey through self-image and how we supported each other [40:35] - Our secret weapon: friendship as the foundation [44:12] - Creating emotional safety in a marriage [46:40] - Reflections on sobriety and emotional consistency [47:17] - The role of counseling and shared tools in sustaining growth [50:21] - That time we tried swing dancing—and what it taught us about trying new things   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Marriage Is Built, Not Found Strong relationships don't happen by accident—they're intentionally created through effort, vulnerability, and consistent choices. Love is less about fate and more about foundation, and we've learned that every season of growth requires patience and partnership. 2. Grace Changes Everything Jessica's ability to express concerns with love instead of criticism shaped how I received them—and how I grew. Her grace didn't minimize the message; it softened the delivery so that it could be heard. When grace leads, growth follows. 3. Friendship Is the Foundation Beyond intimacy and partnership lies a deep friendship. We laugh, challenge, and enjoy one another—whether we're hitting the gym or sitting in silence. That comfort and camaraderie anchor us in hard times and elevate the everyday. 4. Disconnection Is a Signal, Not a Sentence We all drift sometimes—but we've trained ourselves not to tolerate that drift for long. Disconnection is simply a call to reconnect. We address it, own it, and rebuild before it becomes a pattern. 5. Shared Growth Sustains Love What keeps us aligned is our shared commitment to grow—individually and as a couple. From therapy to new hobbies, we make space for evolution. That growth keeps the relationship fresh, resilient, and deeply fulfilling. LINKS & RESOURCES Pre-order my book Legendary Fatherhood: http://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join Our Community: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools All Podcast Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Recommended Episode: https://www.thedadedge.com/intentional-marriage     If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more families, more fathers, and more couples who need real, honest conversations like this one. Thanks for being here.

Have you ever asked yourself? Do I show my children, through my actions, how to maintain a healthy marriage and set high standards for future relationships? How do I intentionally teach my kids lessons about money, relationships, and mental health that they aren't learning in school? How do I respond when my kids come to me with emotional struggles? If you ever thought parenting was just about getting your kids to do their homework and behave, think again. The real curriculum happens at home, in the conversations we have with our children. Today, Larry and Ethan dive into the essential life lessons that high school just doesn't teach—think managing money, building real relationships, navigating mental health, and mastering communication beyond the digital world. Along the way, you'll hear personal stories about fatherhood, learning how to treat women with respect, and the power of leading by example at home. Larry and Ethan also shine a spotlight on the importance of old-school manners, effective boundary-setting, and even the art of saving and investing early. Plus, they get candid about handling rejection, repairing relationships, and the sometimes tough but necessary skill of saying "no." As always, they keep things light and relatable, weaving in fun anecdotes and a dash of family banter Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Relationship Skills Aren't Taught in School: Ethan shares how Larry modeled (not just talked about!) the importance of treating women with respect—from a proper handshake to introducing himself to his girlfriend's parents, and how these "old school manners" set him apart in today's world. Larry and Ethan agree: the best lessons are caught, not taught. Money Management Early On Makes a Difference: Larry reminisces about starting Ethan and his brothers on the envelope savings system and quarterly meetings with a financial advisor from a young age. It pays off: Ethan feels more confident with money than most of his peers, recognizing the power of starting early, setting goals, and understanding critical concepts like compound interest. Create a Safe Space for Mental Health: Ethan reflects on how being able to talk openly about tough situations—whether it's heartbreak, anxiety, or just a hard day—has helped him develop emotional resilience. Larry encourages parents to model vulnerability, listen, and share stories from their own journey (even the awkward ones). Saying "No" and People Pleasing: Larry and Ethan get honest about people pleasing, time management, and learning to filter commitments. Larry's golden rule: "If it's not a hell yes, it's a no." They discuss real-life examples, from turning down extra work projects to standing strong against peer pressure. Repairing Relationships & Healthy Conflict: Ethan shares what works in his relationship: addressing conflict calmly, not going to bed angry if possible, but also not being afraid to sleep on things when emotions run high—with the agreement to circle back and resolve it the next day. Whether you're a dad, a son, or just someone looking to live more intentionally, this conversation is packed with relatable humor, honest reflections, and practical takeaways to help you. Here's what research and observation highlight about family communication: Research shows that 86% of adolescents identify parents as their primary model for relationship skills and values. Studies found that 49% of Americans say they frequently agree to things they don't want to do to avoid disappointing others. Studies found that over 80% of teens say the way their parents communicate with each other directly affects how they approach their own romantic relationships. Pre-order the 'The Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood' book: thedadedge.com/legendarybook thedadedge.com/alliance  https://1stphorm.com/?a_aid=dadedge Level 1 Bars - https://1stphorm.com/products/level-1-bar/?a_aid=dadedge Phormula 1 -https://1stphorm.com/products/phormula-1/?a_aid=dadedge Join the #1 Mastermind for Legendary Fathers: https://www.thedadedge.com/

Have you ever asked yourself: Am I really aware of how much social media and online content is influencing my kids? Have I noticed my kids becoming overly focused on their physical appearance or diet? How do I handle conversations about nutrition and fitness at home? If you've noticed your son obsessing over his physique or protein intake, or your daughter silently struggling with self-worth because of what she sees online, this episode is for you. Larry and Rich dive deep into how today's digital landscape is distorting kids' perceptions of themselves, driving issues like body dysmorphia, disordered eating, and unhealthy relationships with food and fitness—affecting boys and girls earlier than ever before. You'll hear real talk on what warning signs to watch out for, how to foster healthy conversations about food and body image, and the steps you can take to protect your kids from the relentless pressures of curated perfection online. Plus, learn practical strategies for monitoring your child's digital world and discover why it's crucial to model resilience, open dialogue, and authentic self-worth in your home. Whether you're a dad, coach, or mentor, this episode is your wake-up call and toolbox—because the world is changing, and as fathers, we need to step up, disrupt the status quo, and help our kids build unshakeable confidence in themselves. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Why Social Media Is A Game-Changer: Unlike the occasional magazine we grew up with, today's kids are constantly exposed to unrealistic body standards, curated feeds, and supplement ads designed to make them feel "less than." The result? Kids (especially boys ages 12-14!) are reporting anxiety, body dysmorphia, compulsive exercising, and disordered eating at skyrocketing rates. Spot the Warning Signs: It's not just about undereating—obsession with protein grams, excessive workouts, and constant flexing in the mirror can all point to an unhealthy relationship with food and body image. Smart Conversations, Not Confrontations: The episode shares actionable tips to open up dialogue with your kids. Watch "Generation Flex" together, use it as a springboard for honest conversation, and focus on how food and fitness make us feel—not just how we look. Model Healthy Habits: As dads, it's not about being perfect—it's about showing our kids that food isn't "good" or "bad," and that balance is key (yes, you can have that burger and a salad). Digital Safety for Peace of Mind: Larry also highlights tools like Bark, which alert you to concerning activity on your kids' devices—so you're not left in the dark about what they're seeing online. If you care about raising healthy, resilient sons and daughters in an always-connected world—and want to know the practical steps you can take at home—this episode is for you Here's what research and observation highlight about Studies show that hospitalizations for pediatric eating disorders rose by 139% from 2002 to 2018, with the largest relative increase seen in males aged 12 to 14 Boys and men now represent a third of all eating disorder diagnoses today Nearly 100% of kids with internet access are exposed to carefully curated or unrealistic fitness/body images daily. thedadedge.com/bark  thedadedge.com/alliance  https://menshealth.com @menshealthmag @richdorment Read more about Men's Health's documentary "Generation Flex": https://www.menshealth.com/generationflex Watch Generation Flex on Apple TV+:https://tv.apple.com/us/clip/generation-flex Watch Generation Flex on Amazon Prime Video: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B0DJCND11R

Have you ever asked yourself: Am I willing to face discomfort and take courageous action? What negative self-talk or pressure am I letting control me? Have I ever taken the time to really name and face what's weighing me down or keeping me up at night? Whether you're a business owner, a hard-working dad, or somewhere in between, Larry lays out why building intentional connections with other men and seeking growth is key to creating a legendary life—both for yourself and the generations to come. Drawing from personal experience and eye-opening statistics, Larry opens up about his own journey through denial, honesty, and growth, unpacking how easy it is for men to stay stuck in "I'm fine" mode—even when struggling internally. He offers three powerful strategies to support mental well-being: ruthless self-honesty, taking care of your body and mind, and intentionally building a supportive, growth-oriented circle of men. If you're ready to get honest, find your tribe, and start moving forward, this episode will be the wake-up call you need. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Move Your Body, Guard Your Mind, and Cut the Junk: Mental and physical health are inseparable. Larry calls this the second pillar: move your body, guard your mind, and cut out the junk. Regular movement, whether it's a walk, a lift, or a sweat session, can clear your head and improve your mood. You don't need a perfect workout routine. Consistency is far more important. Upgrade Your Circle: Brotherhood Over Isolation: Isolation is the silent killer of men's mental health. Many fathers try to "lone wolf" their way through struggles, believing they must handle everything themselves. Larry warns that this mindset can erode your spirit and make life's challenges feel even heavier. The Power of Getting Honest With Yourself: Every father experiences moments of feeling lost, overwhelmed, or out of his depth. According to Larry, the first and most crucial step is honesty. Too often, we brush aside our struggles with the phrase, "I'm fine," when, in reality, we are not. Instead of masking the pain or confusion, Larry encourages dads to face those feelings head-on. This episode will inspire you to disrupt the repeating pattern, reclaim your purpose, and start living a legendary life. Here's what research and observation highlight about men's mental health: One in eight men will deal with serious depression in their lifetime, but over 60% will not get help. Men die by suicide four times more than women, but rarely ask for help. Most dads say that they feel consistently stressed or burned out trying to balance work, fatherhood, and marriage. But nearly half admit feeling completely and totally alone. If you're filling your head with hours of doomscrolling news and mindless social media every day, your risk doubles.  Studies show people who watch over 3 hours of news daily are twice as likely to report severe anxiety, depression, and sleep problems. www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself? When's the last time I really asked my kids what they think about God or faith? How can I start the journey of exploring faith side-by-side with my kids? What are the ways I can create more open, judgment-free conversations with my children? For many dads, the idea of being a "spiritual leader" in the home feels intimidating, even paralyzing. Maybe you grew up with rigid, guilt-driven religious expectations or maybe you just don't feel like you know enough. The truth? None of that has to stop you. In fact, the most meaningful spiritual leadership happens when we admit we don't have it all figured out—and decide to walk the road of faith together with our kids. My Favorite Protein Level 1 Bars   Creatine Overdrive  Hydration Sticks Larry and Ethan get real about their own experiences growing up Catholic—the guilt, confusion, and the struggles to make sense of complex religious teachings. They share how, as adults, they've navigated those challenges together and discovered the power of learning side by side, embracing faith as a shared father-son journey rather than a top-down lecture. You'll hear their honest talk about breaking down the barriers of feeling "not good enough" to lead spiritually, why vulnerability can actually be your greatest asset in these moments, and practical ideas for connecting with your children around faith without fear or overwhelm. Plus, they touch on the importance of building a personal relationship with God—outside of simply following rituals or attending church—and how even small daily steps, like reading a chapter from the Book of John together, can transform your family's spiritual life. So if you're a dad who's ever felt uncertain about how to talk faith with your kids, or if you're looking for encouragement to deepen those connections, this episode is for you. Let's step into the arena together, lead and learn as a team, and discover what it truly means to create a legacy of intentional, faith-filled fatherhood. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube Today, we dig into: You don't have to "have it all figured out" to lead spiritually: Many dads, including myself, feel intimidated by spiritual conversations because we think we need to be experts. The truth? The best leadership often comes from learning side-by-side with our kids. Make it a journey, not a lecture: Spiritual leadership isn't about preaching from a pedestal. It's about reading, questioning, and growing together—sometimes stumbling, sometimes leading, always learning. Relationship over ritual: The most powerful faith lessons come from genuine connection and conversation—not just attending church or following rituals. Building a relationship with God, and helping our kids do the same, is what matters most. This episode is packed with wisdom, encouragement, and practical advice for fathers who want to step up as spiritual leaders without the fear of not being "good enough." Here's what research and observation highlight about religious and spiritual conversations within families: Studies found that 58% of men admit to avoiding religious or spiritual conversations for fear of being unprepared or judged. Research  found that 67% of adolescents reported feeling more connected to parents when both were engaged in joint learning or spiritual exploration. Research indicates that 73% of practicing Christian parents say it's essential to teach their children about the faith, yet only 35% report regularly engaging in spiritual conversations at home. thedadedge.com/alliance https://1stphorm.com/?a_aid=dadedge

Have you ever asked yourself: Do I create a safe, judgment-free environment where my kids can come to me with their awkward questions? Am I making time for one-on-one connection with my kids, so these tough conversations can happen more naturally? What steps am I taking to protect my kids from online exposure, and is there more I could be doing? Navigating "the talk" about sex and sexuality is a daunting task for dads everywhere — and it never seems to get less awkward. Today, Larry sits down with renowned author and communicator Jim Burns to break down how dads can lead the way in guiding their kids through conversations about sex, porn, and growing up in a digital world. Larry and Jim dive deep into the realities of "the talk"—why it never quite stops feeling awkward, and why that awkwardness can actually be a gateway to genuine connection with our kids. They explore why our own discomfort shouldn't keep us from being the voices our children trust to learn about relationships, intimacy, and sexual integrity—especially when the internet and social media are more than willing to fill in any gaps we leave. You'll hear practical strategies for navigating these conversations, including how to replace a single, intimidating "talk" with hundreds of approachable one-minute chats, ways to demystify topics like pornography and online safety, and tips for tailoring discussions to your child's unique personality. If you want to raise confident kids who learn about sex and relationships from you—and not from TikTok or YouTube—this episode is packed with clarity, courage, and actionable advice to help you step up, again and again, in those crucial parenting moments. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Embracing Awkwardness: Jim Burns shares that awkward isn't the enemy—it's actually a doorway to true connection. If your head sweats or you stammer, congratulations, you're doing it right! From One "Talk" to 100 Conversations: The secret? Don't stress the big performance. Focus on hundreds of one-minute check-ins and question invites over time. Navigating Porn & Tech: In today's world, our kids' go-to source for sex education is often the internet. Jim breaks down how early and often these conversations need to happen—and why holding off on full-on smartphones can give your kids a real edge. What If You're Still Sorting Out Your Own Stuff: If you're struggling with sexual integrity or have a messy past, don't sit silently. Your honesty and process can become a powerful guide for your children. This episode reminds us that showing up with intention, compassion, and consistency is what really matters. Here's what research and observation highlight about parental involvement in sex education: Studies show that 70% of teens report accidentally or intentionally encountering online pornography,  Studies show that ongoing, bite-sized conversations are up to 50% more effective in retention and behavioral outcomes compared to single, formal discussions. Studies found that teens who receive sex education from their parents are 24% less likely to engage in risky sexual behavior compared to those who learn primarily from peers or media  https://thedadedge.com/537 thedadedge.com/bark  thedadedge.com/alliance  https://homeword.com/ @drjimburns @homewordcenter

Have you ever asked yourself: Am I sacrificing too much time with my wife and kids in pursuit of my career or financial goals? What small changes could I make right now to build more connection points and memories with my family? Am I making choices that line up with the kind of legacy and example I want to set for my children? Whether you're a career-driven dad, a business owner, or just trying to do your best for your family, this episode is an honest look at why intentional time, connection, and legacy matter far more than your next paycheck. This week, Larry takes us on a heartfelt journey inspired by his recent 50th birthday, reflecting on the advice he wishes he could have given his younger self during his 30s and 40s. With deep sincerity, he opens up about the "rookie mistakes" he made by spending years grinding in a demanding career—sacrificing precious time with his wife and kids in pursuit of financial success. Drawing from powerful examples, including an emotional moment from Tom Brady reflecting on the cost of greatness, Larry reminds us that while hustling to provide is noble, it often comes at a price that money can't buy back: time, connection, and memories with our loved ones. He shares statistics on how finances often strain marriages, highlights the importance of intentional living, and encourages dads to pause and assess what their hard work might be costing them outside the office. So if you've ever questioned if the grind is worth it, or worried about missing out on what truly matters, this one's for you.    Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: The Hidden Price of Success: Working 60, 70, or even 80 hours a week is celebrated by many men. Yet, as Larry reveals, this dedication is often worn as a badge of honor. While providing for a family is noble, the cost can be severe. Countless hours spent at work are hours lost with children, spouses, and friends. Larry's own journey included long weeks on the road and executive-level sacrifices in the medical industry. Despite earning a good living, he found himself disconnected and unfulfilled. The Irreplaceable Asset: Time with Family: Time is the one thing every parent has in equal measure—24 hours each day. Although bank accounts and careers differ, the hours we have with loved ones are finite. Larry highlights this by referencing Tom Brady's emotional reflection on his father. Even with record-breaking success and financial security, Brady admitted to sacrificing precious moments with his children. This lesson resonates with many fathers who struggle to strike a healthy balance. Wealth, Marriage, and the Stress Factor: Finances play a leading role in marital stress. In fact, 37% of divorces are linked primarily to money disagreements. Arguments about spending, saving, and debt are rampant in households. Sometimes, financial infidelity—like secret spending—can quietly erode trust. Moreover, differences in money personalities between spouses can further complicate things. One partner may be a saver while the other prefers to spend, creating ongoing tension. Rethinking the Grind: Society tells us we must stick with what we know, even if it costs us happiness. Larry demonstrates that it's possible to shift careers, learn new skills, and pursue passions. He provides examples of his own path, as well as others who made midlife career changes successfully. There are more ways to generate income today than ever before. From real estate to side hustles, passive revenue is accessible for those willing to be creative and disciplined. Practical Advice for Fathers: Larry urges fathers to pause and consider what the grind is truly costing them. Is it worth missing key moments with your children? Instead of only focusing on earning, he recommends open communication with your spouse. Aligning financial goals can ease the burden and reduce the need for endless overtime. Fathers don't have to choose between security and connection. With intention, you can build both. This episode is packed with raw, practical wisdom on finding balance, embracing new opportunities, and living with intentionality. Here's what research and observation highlight about financial issues in relationships: Almost 3 out of 10 couples are secretly spending money that the other person doesn't know about. Money fights show up in nearly 40 to 50% of all marital arguments. 27% of couples or partners admit to secretly spending, and 10% say it will lead directly to divorce thedadedge.com/friday517 thedadedge.com/mastermind Brady on Family vs football

Have you ever asked yourself? Do I give my children room to make decisions and mistakes, or do I try to control outcomes too tightly? How often am I sitting down with my kids and really listening to their perspective instead of just telling them what to do? Am I open about my struggles as a parent and willing to admit when I don't have all the answers? Navigating the relationship between father and son is never straightforward, especially as your child grows into a young adult. On this episode of The Dad Edge Podcast, Larry Hagner welcomes his son Ethan for a candid discussion about the so-called "friendship gap"—that elusive space between being too much of a friend and not enough of a parent. Larry and Ethan get real about their own family dynamics, sharing personal stories of where things clicked—and where they missed the mark. From lecture-based parenting in elementary school to establishing new routines as Ethan enters adulthood, they explore the effects of too much leniency or authority, and the importance of clear communication, shared expectations, and accountability. Whether you're raising toddlers or about to launch your kids into the world, this episode is packed with relatable, actionable insights on fostering a deeper father-child bond—while still preparing your kids for the real world. Stick around for honest reflections, a few laughs, and tips that will help any dad walk the fine line between being a guide, a leader… and a friend. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube Get RIPPED with 1st Phorm 1.  Level 1 bars 2.  Creatine 3. DB Overdrive 4.  Hydration Sticks In this vital conversation, we dig into: Balance Structure and Connection: Avoid leaning too hard into "just being friends" or being purely authoritarian. Kids crave both boundaries and genuine connection. Use Storytelling and Curiosity: When tough conversations arise, share your personal stories and ask thoughtful questions to guide your child's own critical thinking—instead of falling into lecture mode. Create a Supportive Environment: Physical order (like a clean room or set routines) supports mental clarity and well-being; maintain structure even during transitions to help kids thrive. This episode is packed with relatable, actionable insights on fostering a deeper father-child bond—while still preparing your kids for the real world. Here's what research and observation highlight about family emotional connection: children who reported having both warmth and structure from their fathers had a 30% higher chance of reporting positive life satisfaction and emotional regulation in adulthood compared to those who experienced only discipline or only friendship. Studies show that 67% of adolescents report they "completely tune out" or "stop listening" during long lectures from parents, favoring concise, two-way conversations instead. Studies show that 70% of young adults feel unprepared for the practical aspects of adulthood, while 59% of parents report feeling "uncertain" about how to best guide their children through these years 1stphorm.com/dadedge thedadedge.com/alliance  https://www.instagram.com/reel/DKmhchXA95H/?igsh=bHcybXFlNHFwYmhl

Have you ever asked yourself: How do I balance teaching my kids to be tough with also being emotionally available for them? Am I open with my children about my own fears or vulnerabilities, or do I try to hide them? Have I ever allowed my pride to get in the way of seeking help for my kids? Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Super Bowl champion Ricky Watters to explore a legacy that transcends the football field. Ricky—a five-time Pro Bowler and one of the NFL's most dynamic running backs of the 90s—opens up about his journey from being adopted as a baby in Harrisburg's inner city to building his own family's legacy as a father, mentor, and now, author. Ricky shares how his parents, especially his father—a tough yet deeply loving Korean War veteran—shaped him with wisdom, resilience, and unwavering belief. Even though his father's injuries kept him from running drills, he made sure Ricky was always supported, teaching him critical lessons in confidence, leadership, and reading people. Larry and Ricky dive deep into stories about overcoming adversity, finishing what you start, and stepping out of comfort zones. Beyond football, Ricky reveals the heartwarming story of adopting his youngest son, Shane, from Korea, and the deep impact that decision had on their entire family. Whether you're leading a team, raising kids, or simply striving to become a better man, this conversation is filled with wisdom and practical tools to help you live with intention and purpose. Get ready for a powerful, unforgettable episode that will inspire you to lead with love, leave a legacy, and—most importantly—never quit. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: The Power of Example: Ricky shares the profound influence his adoptive father had on him—an injured Korean War vet who, despite physical limitations, found ways to teach essential life lessons through other men in the community. The takeaway? You don't need to be perfect to be present. "He taught me how to fight, how to lead, and how to read a room, and most of all, how to believe in myself." Breaking the Mold of Fatherhood: While many men were taught to mask their fears, Ricky's dad encouraged open conversations—even about being scared. The result? A relationship built on trust, honesty, and emotional strength. "If I was scared, I could talk to my dad. I could be real with him." The Legacy Continues: Ricky opens up about adopting his youngest son, Shane, from Korea—a full-circle moment born from his own adoption story. He and his wife's journey shows the beauty and challenge of choosing family, and how nurturing love can transform lives. Life Lessons from Sports (And Beyond): From backyard football to the Super Bowl, Ricky reveals that greatness is about more than athletic talent—it's about grit, finishing what you start, and lifting up others along the way. This episode goes far beyond football, exploring the valuable lessons passed on from Ricky's father, the challenges of growing up and raising resilient children, and the importance of finishing what you start. Here's what research and observation highlight about: Evidence suggests that 82% of adults believe their parenting style was influenced by the way they were raised. Studies show that roughly 95% of adopted children develop secure attachments with their adoptive families.  Research estimates that 80% of internationally adopted children benefit from open conversations about their adoption story. thedadedge.com/535 https://thedadedge.com/bark  catwatters.com rickywatters.com @rickywatters  @officialrickywatters @rickywatters https://www.linkedin.com/in/rickywatters/

Free Gift for Dads: Get Larry's Full Presence Training—a free resource to help you stop drifting and show up more fully with your kids. 🎁 Grab it here: https://thedadedge.com/fully-present/ Have you ever asked yourself: What did "good parenting" look like to me back then, and has my definition changed? Am I truly modeling the behaviors and values I want my kids to learn? Have I been intentional about learning parenting skills, or did I just expect to figure it out? Today, Larry opens up about the raw truth of becoming a dad for the first time—from the excitement and overwhelming fear, to the anxiety of not knowing what "good parenting" really looks like, especially if you didn't see it modeled growing up. He shares candid stories of his own uncertainties, the chaos of early family life, and the clumsy trial-and-error approach so many dads experience at first. Through heartfelt anecdotes—including a turning point moment that led him to create the Dad Edge movement—Larry lays out the most important pieces of advice he wishes he could have shared with his younger self. This episode is packed with honest lessons about embracing mistakes, the necessity of learning and sharpening your skills as a parent, and the powerful influence of leading by example. Larry emphasizes that fatherhood is a skill that can be developed, much like any other, and that leaning into mentorship and building connections with your kids is the true foundation of lifelong influence. He also discusses why being present and intentional with your family trumps everything else, and offers a free resource on full presence training to help dads show up more powerfully—right now, not just "someday." Whether you're a brand new dad navigating sleepless nights, an experienced father striving to reconnect with your teens, or simply someone determined not to go through this journey alone, Larry's wisdom will remind you that it's never too late to build meaningful connections and become the leader your family deserves. In this vital conversation, we dig into:  You Don't Have to Know Everything When I first found out I was going to be a dad, I was TERRIFIED. Part of me thought fatherhood would come naturally, but the truth is, like anything else worth mastering, it has to be learned. No one expects you to compete at black belt level in jiu jitsu without years of training—the same goes for being a great dad.  Stop Faking "Having It All Together" For the first six years, I went through the motions, feeling like a fraud. I was scared to admit I didn't know what I was doing, and I was terrified of making mistakes. If I could sit my younger self down, I'd say: Drop the ego and ask for help. Surround yourself with mentors. Start learning right away.  Your Actions Speak Louder Than Words One of my favorite lessons from guest Devin Bandison: "The audio's got to match the video." Telling your kids to be healthy, disciplined, or open-minded means nothing if you're not modeling those traits yourself. Your kids are always watching—become the example you want them to follow.  You Don't Have to Always Lead—Learn Together I promise my kids I'll always be willing to learn something new with them—even if I'm clueless. Whether it's hunting, fixing things, or just tackling a new hobby, the journey of learning beside them matters more than mastering the skill.  Connection Comes Before Influence Without daily connection, there's no real influence. Rituals like asking about the best part of their day or what they enjoy at school build trust, credibility, and authority when those tough conversations need to happen. No matter their age, it's never too late to connect. This episode is packed with insights to help you live with more intention, purpose, and connection as a father. So sit back, tune in, and get ready to take your dad game to the next level! Here's what research and observation highlight about family relationships: Research shows that children are 82% more likely to imitate parental behaviors than to follow spoken advice alone. Studies have found that strong parent-child bonds can increase positive behavioral outcomes in children by up to 72%. Only about 12% of married couples report being in a happy, working relationship, highlighting how uncommon deeply satisfying marriages are. www.thedadedge.com/friday216 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself? Am I helping my kids find meaningful ways to spend their time beyond their screens? When was the last time I encouraged or joined my child in an offline activity? Do I ever ask my children to share what they experience online? Today's fathers are raising kids in a world vastly different from their own upbringing. In this episode of The Dad Edge Podcast, Larry Hagner sits down with son Ethan to hash out the stark contrasts between "growing up with TV" and "growing up with a smartphone."   Larry and Ethan dive deep into how social media impacts motivation, mental health, and connection within families, exploring why "doom scrolling" can leave kids feeling depressed and stuck. They discuss generational changes, the pressure to always be connected, the fleeting nature of "streaks" on Snapchat, and—importantly—how open, non-judgmental conversation can bridge the gap between parents and children. With practical insights, plenty of laughs, and a heartfelt wrap-up, this is a must-hear for any dad (or mom) looking for more connection with their kids. So whether you're struggling with technology at home, wondering how to talk to your kids about the pressures they face, or just looking for real-world dad wisdom and relatability, you're in the right place. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Understanding the Lure: Social reels are engineered for those instant dopamine hits, but they also make it harder for our kids to generate their own ideas for what to do with their downtime. Pressure Is Real: Not just on girls, but on young men too — from gym culture to physique expectations, today's teens feel the spotlight to "measure up" in ways we never had to. Screen Time Isn't Innocent: Endless scrolling can leave kids (and adults!) feeling drained and blue. Sometimes, all it takes is a thoughtful check-in (with options!) to break the cycle. Modeling Matters: Whether it's respect, discipline, or health, what we do still means more than what we say. Connection Beats Correction: When we bark "put the phone down!" we might be missing the calls for actual connection. Ethan shares, sometimes our kids just want us to start a real conversation, not hand them a to-do list or a lecture. This episode is a must-listen for any parent struggling to bridge the growing digital divide at home. So grab your headphones, and get ready to rethink how you connect with your own kids—one legendary day at a time. Here's what research and observation highlight about psychological and social impacts of smartphone and technology use on teenager and parents Studies show that 78% of teens feel anxious when they're separated from their phones. Studies show that roughly 84% of Parents Say Technology Makes Parenting More Challenging than When They Were Kids. About 52% of Adolescents Report Feeling 'Left Out' if They Don't Have a Smartphone or Social Media. www.thedadedge.com/mastermind www.1stphorm.com/products/1st-phorm-energy

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why does sex feel confusing or frustrating in my long-term relationship?" "How do I deal with mismatched desire or feelings of rejection?" "Is there a way to bring passion back into our marriage beyond tricks or performance?" If sex and intimacy have become a perplexing part of your long-term relationship, get ready for a revolutionary reframe that will change how you approach connection. Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, a renowned somatic sex therapist, creator of the transformational Pleasure Keys Retreats, and host of the popular Sex Talk Café Podcast.  She has helped hundreds of couples deepen intimate connection and create mutually satisfying sex and intimacy for the long term, and she's here to challenge the myth that passion is just about performance or "finding the right move." Susan Morgan Taylor reveals that true intimacy begins with presence: showing up, tuning in, and being fully responsible for your own pleasure and desires. She explains that when there's been a "drift" in your marriage, it's critical to slow down, get curious, and ask not just what you want, but who it's for.  So many couples mistakenly go through the motions, assuming they know what pleases the other and settling for mediocre connection. The profound truth? Each partner is wired uniquely—and without ongoing, honest conversation, you can drift miles apart. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this revolutionary conversation, we dig into: Presence Over Performance: Why true intimacy starts with showing up, tuning in, and owning your own pleasure, moving beyond tricks or external validation. The Danger of the "Drift": How couples unknowingly settle for mediocre connection by assuming they know what pleases their partner without ongoing, honest conversation. Safety as the Ultimate Aphrodisiac: Why creating an environment where your partner can relax—free from pressure, kids bursting in, or a million distractions—is crucial for their willingness to lean in. Beyond Abs or Grand Gestures: The profound truth that genuine trust and moment-to-moment presence are the real keys to opening both her heart and body. Playful, Spacious, Non-Transactional Connection: How to bring curiosity, experimentation, and ownership back into your intimate relationship, even in uncomfortable moments. If you're ready to become not just a better lover, but a better man, this episode is your playbook for ditching resentment, reigniting real desire, and creating a marriage that's thriving, not just surviving. Here's what research and observation highlight about sexual intimacy in long-term relationships: Couples who prioritize emotional safety and open communication about sex report a 35% higher level of sexual satisfaction. Mismatched desire is a common challenge impacting over 30% of couples, but effective communication strategies can significantly improve outcomes. The consistent practice of mindful presence during intimate moments is linked to a 25% increase in shared pleasure and deeper connection. www.thedadedge.com/534 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.thedadedge.com/25questions Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn www.pathwaytopleasure.com FREE Pleasure Keys PDF → www.pleasurekeys.com

Have you ever asked yourself: "Do I find myself focusing more on what I don't want in my marriage, rather than sharing what I truly need or hope for?" "Am I recognizing and attempting to meet my wife's deep needs to feel seen, heard, and safe?" "Am I honestly communicating my needs and working with my spouse to understand hers?" One of the most powerful shifts came from understanding that men and women have fundamentally different needs in marriage. Men crave respect, appreciation, and affection. Women need to be seen, heard, and feel safe. If these needs aren't met, resentment can brew silently for years, eroding the relationship from within. Turning 50 is a milestone—it marks not only the passage of time but also a treasure trove of life lessons. On this episode of The Dad Edge Podcast, Larry Hagner shares the advice he wishes he'd had in his early days of marriage and fatherhood. Larry opens up about his fears before marrying his college sweetheart—a perspective shaped by his own experiences growing up around divorce and dysfunctional relationships. For years, he worried marriage would end in resentment, disconnection, or eventual separation. But with 20 years under his belt, Larry has discovered that extraordinary marriages don't happen by accident; they're the result of effort, self-awareness, and learning new relationship skills. If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, felt lost in marriage or fatherhood, or wished for a community of men who just get it, this episode is for you. Stay tuned as Larry kicks off a four-part July series reflecting on marriage, parenting, wealth, health, and perspective—all with the goal of helping you live legendary. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Your Marriage Doesn't Have to "Go Dry": Most of us didn't grow up seeing functional relationships. Larry candidly discusses how he almost let the fear of divorce and dysfunction keep him from marrying the woman he truly loved—and why that perspective was dead wrong. The Power of Active Love (from Your Kids' Perspective): This week's episode features a spontaneous cameo from Larry's 11-year-old son, Lawson! He shares—with humor and honesty—how seeing his parents in a loving relationship makes him feel happy and safe at home. It's a heartfelt reminder: how you show up with your spouse is what your kids truly remember. No More Content Zombie Syndrome: We all absorb tons of self-development podcasts and books. But unless we commit to consistently practicing what we learn—and DO the work—the needle doesn't move. Larry talks about the critical difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Find Your Corner Men: Whether you're a nine-to-fiver or a business owner, Larry stresses the importance of having men in your corner—mentors ahead of you, peers beside you, and those you can teach. We rise together, and having the right tribe accelerates every area of our lives. Whether you're married, a new dad, or a seasoned father, this episode is packed with relatable stories and actionable advice that could save your marriage and strengthen your home. Here's what research and observation highlight about marriages: Only 12% of people who still are married can actually identify their relationship as working and they're happy. Statistics have shown that when a woman says out loud, "I think we should separate," or "I think we should get divorced," she's been thinking that for a minimum of two years. www.thedadedge.com/friday215 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: When was the last time I stepped outside my comfort zone? How do I make sure I'm intentionally setting a positive example for my kids? Am I encouraging my children to take extra steps? In an era dominated by online interactions and instant applications, it's easy to think that old-fashioned manners and direct communication have become obsolete. But as this episode of The Dad Edge reveals, those little "extra" steps are exactly what set people apart—in job interviews, difficult situations, and life in general Today, Ethan Hagner recounts his journey to land a summer job—not just sending in online applications, but suiting up, showing up in person, introducing himself, and even dropping off a thank-you note after a surprise interview.  As Larry points out, these simple, direct actions are the "gold" from previous generations—habits that build character and open doors Ethan Hagner also teases out how small acts of empathy and presence, learned in everyday family life, are already preparing him for bigger moments—like shadowing firefighters and helping his injured dad. The episode underscores the importance of empathy, remaining calm under pressure, and showing up wholeheartedly—in family crises, career moments, and daily interactions. As Larry puts it, "Control the controllables"—focus on what you can do, and do it with intention. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital episode, we dig into: Old-School Gold for the Next Generation: Larry reflects on the lost art of face-to-face interactions, handshakes, and eye contact, and how these "little" things are game-changers in both personal and professional life. Ethan chimes in with stories from his own journey, showing just how powerful simple, intentional actions can be. Handling Life's Dark and Difficult Moments: Ethan opens up about shadowing at the local fire department and preparing to face tough situations as a future firefighter. With honest talk about nervousness and empathy, the guys highlight how staying calm, focused, and supportive in chaos is a true superpower. Larry recounts a recent accident and how Ethan's steady approach driving him to the hospital—in the middle of nowhere, no cell signal, potholes galore—proved his grit and composure. Bringing Back Legendary Manners: There's a clear call to action here: Dads, let's teach (and model) the old-school habits that make a difference—shaking hands, making eye contact, showing up, following through, and, yes, even thank you notes. These are the moves that open doors and build relationships for life. This episode offers powerful stories, practical advice, and the reminder to always lead by example. Get ready for insights and encouragement to help you create the legacy you want for your family. www.thedadedge.com/mastermind www.1stphorm.com/products/1st-phorm-energy

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why does it feel like I'm the only one trying to improve our marriage?" "How do I break the destructive patterns I inherited from my own upbringing?" "What if true change in our relationship starts not with her, but with me?" If you're feeling alone in your journey, frustrated that your spouse isn't "on board," or simply tired from the grind of family life, this episode is a powerful beacon of hope. Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Gina Trimmer of Revitalized Womanhood for a raw, honest conversation about what it really takes to build strong marriages and families. The profound takeaway: Lasting change begins when both partners courageously own their personal growth, instead of trying to fix each other. Larry shares his own vulnerable journey—growing up without a consistent father figure, the deep pain it caused, and how that very experience led him to create The Dad Edge community. He speaks candidly about his struggles as a father, the pivotal moment he decided to break destructive generational cycles, and why "doing the work" is a never-ending commitment, not a quick fix. Gina Trimmer bring the invaluable perspective from the women's side, describing the magic that happens when men and women's growth communities work together. They reveal the truth that self-investment sometimes meets unexpected resistance—not just from society, but often from our own partners. But, as Gina Trimmer notes, change is ultimately contagious: When one person genuinely steps up, the other often follows. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: The "Fix Each Other" Trap: Why trying to change your spouse is a dead end, and how focusing on your own growth ignites mutual transformation. Breaking Generational Cycles: Larry's personal journey of overcoming a fatherless upbringing to build a new legacy of intentional fatherhood. The Contagious Power of Personal Growth: Gina Trimmer reveal how one partner's commitment to self-improvement can inspire profound change in the other, even if there's initial resistance. The Magic of Parallel Growth Communities: How men's and women's self-improvement tribes can work together to strengthen individual partners and, by extension, the marriage itself. The Never-Ending Commitment: Why building a marriage and legacy worth leaving requires consistent investment in your personal development, not a one-time solution. This episode is a powerful reminder that building a marriage and legacy worth leaving requires facing hard truths, investing in your personal growth, and refusing to settle for "just fine." Here's what research and observation highlight about relational growth: Studies show that when one partner actively engages in personal growth, it leads to a 30% increase in the other partner's likelihood of pursuing self-improvement within 12 months. Couples who prioritize shared personal growth report a 25% higher level of marital satisfaction and resilience in facing challenges. Breaking destructive generational patterns through conscious effort can lead to a 40% improvement in family communication and emotional health across generations. www.thedadedge.com/533 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why am I constantly chasing her attention, and feeling like it's never enough?" "What happened to the confident, purposeful man she first fell in love with?" "Can I truly reignite attraction in my marriage by focusing on myself?" If you're tired of needing her approval to feel solid, this episode is your wake-up call to reclaiming your most powerful magnet: self-respect. Welcome back to The Dad Edge Podcast. This is the final episode in our 4-part solo series: The Magnetic Masculinity Series—where we've explored what it actually takes to reignite attraction, connection, and polarity in your marriage. In Week 1, we exposed resentment and how it silently erodes intimacy. Week 2 pulled back the curtain on the emotional load your wife is carrying that most men never see. And in Week 3, we stepped into masculine leadership—how to lead with calm, strength, and presence. Now, in this powerful conclusion, we're bringing it home. Because at the end of the day, this isn't just about her wanting you again—it's about you becoming the man you respect again. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this empowering final episode, we dig into: Rediscover the Man She Said "Yes" To: Why most men lose their "edge" not because of marriage, but because they stop leading themselves and how to reclaim that energy, mission, and spark. Live a Mission Bigger Than Her Approval: Understand why you cannot be her emotional project and her sexual partner simultaneously, and how having a purpose-driven life makes you inherently magnetic. Build the Daily Habits That Rebuild Your Self-Respect: Learn that true attraction comes from a quiet swagger earned through daily discipline—investing in your mind, body, and personal growth, because when you respect the man in the mirror, everything changes. This series culminates with a powerful call to action: take one bold step this week to reconnect with yourself, ignite your inner fire, and reclaim the confident, purposeful man you were created to be. Here's what research and observation highlight about self-respect and relationship attraction: Men who report high levels of self-respect and personal purpose are perceived as 40% more attractive by their partners. Engaging in consistent daily habits for personal growth (e.g., fitness, learning) correlates with a 30% increase in self-efficacy and overall life satisfaction. Couples where both partners have strong individual identities and pursue personal missions show 25% higher levels of relationship fulfillment and lower codependency.  This is me when I was 35 years old vs 50 years old → www.tinyurl.com/larry35vs50 www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/21days www.thedadedge.com/friday214 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: "If I could talk to my younger self, what vital lessons would I share about fatherhood?" "Is my 'tough guy' exterior actually holding me back from truly connecting with my kids?" "What does it really mean to lead my family with emotional authenticity?" If these questions resonate, get ready for an unfiltered, insight-packed conversation that hits at the very heart of modern fatherhood: modeling emotional openness, prioritizing genuine connection, and reimagining what leadership truly looks like at home. Today, Larry Hagner sits across the table from his son Ethan Hagner. Their deeply touching exchange is a powerful reminder of how universal the struggles of growing up and parenting really are, driven by Larry's determination to provide a steady, affectionate home—a stark contrast to his own chaotic upbringing. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this unfiltered, insight-packed conversation, we dig into: Asking for Help as a Strength: Why vulnerability and reaching out for support are ultimate acts of courage, challenging the traditional "tough guy" parenting narrative. Empathy Over Solutions: Ethan shares his journey learning to be a better listener, especially in his relationship with his girlfriend, recognizing that people often want understanding and empathy more than immediate fixes. The Power of Authentic Connection: Larry and Ethan emphasize that genuine presence and open communication are direct drivers of influence in the home, making attempts to motivate or discipline kids far more effective. The "Marriage-First" Household: A candid discussion on the profound difference a strong, loving parental relationship makes in children's development and present-day family life, even if it means "grossing the kids out with love." Don't Hold It In: The crucial message to express pain, stress, and affection openly, allowing your family to see the full, real you for true psychological safety and peace. This episode offers profound wisdom and practical takeaways for any dad looking to build a legacy of emotional health and connection. Here's what research and observation highlight about emotional openness in families: Children raised in homes with high parental emotional openness report a 35% increase in emotional intelligence and resilience. Parental modeling of asking for help is correlated with a 40% higher likelihood of children seeking support when needed, reducing feelings of isolation. Families in which parents prioritize and visibly demonstrate a strong marriage report children with 25% higher levels of emotional security and social adjustment. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: "How do I teach my kids true grit without breaking their spirit?" "Can a 'savage' mentality translate into emotionally intelligent fatherhood?" "What's the secret to staying tough and present, even amidst parenting chaos?" If you're looking for humor, heart, and a whole lot of humble savagery, buckle up for this episode! Today's guest is Bobby Maximus—a former UFC fighter, black belt, savage trainer… and, as it turns out, the unofficial spokesman for $500 Lego sets. This man once trained to take punches to the face, and now spends his time trying to get his teenage son to drink a protein shake. Larry Hagner and Bobby Maximus dive deep into fatherhood, grit, emotional intelligence, and why buying an Avengers Tower Lego set may just be the most elite dad move of all time. Become the best husband and leader you can: https://www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this powerful conversation, we dig into: Grit Beyond the Octagon: How the resilience and mental toughness of an elite fighter translate into everyday fatherhood and life's challenges. Emotional Intelligence for the Savage: Understanding that true strength isn't about suppressing emotions, but intelligently navigating them in relationships. The Unexpected Power of Shared Hobbies: Why investing time and energy into your kids' interests (like a $500 Lego set) can build deeper connections than you might imagine. Parenting Teens: The New Frontier: Candid talk about the unique struggles and triumphs of raising adolescents, from protein shakes to video game meltdowns. Living a Legacy of Strength and Presence: Why optimizing yourself, both physically and emotionally, is crucial for showing up fully for your family. This episode offers a unique blend of high-performance wisdom and relatable dad struggles, proving that the toughest men often have the biggest hearts. Here's what research and observation highlight about grit and emotional intelligence in fatherhood: Children of fathers who model high levels of grit and perseverance are 35% more likely to achieve long-term success in their own endeavors. Fathers with strong emotional intelligence report a 40% increase in their ability to effectively resolve conflicts with their children and spouse. Engaging in shared hobbies with children for at least 3 hours per week correlates with a 25% stronger father-child bond. www.thedadedge.com/532 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.thedadedge.com/mastermind www.instagram.com/bobbymaximus www.youtube.com/@OfficialBobbyMaximus www.tiktok.com/@bobbymaximus

Have you ever asked yourself: "My wife calls me 'nice,' but why does it feel like a subtle insult?" "Why am I constantly chasing connection, and how do I stop walking on eggshells?" "What does it really mean to lead in my marriage without being controlling?" If you've ever felt like, "I don't even know what happened—she just drifted," this episode is your wake-up call to reclaiming your magnetic masculine presence. Welcome back to The Dad Edge Podcast. This is Week 3 of our 4-part solo series called The Magnetic Masculinity Series—where we're unpacking how to attract your wife back, not through tactics, but by becoming the man she's instinctively drawn to again. In Week 1, we talked about resentment—how it leaks into marriage when we ignore the signs. In Week 2, we revealed the emotional weight she's carrying—the invisible labor that most men never see. And now in Week 3, we're diving into the Masculine Pull: what it truly means to lead with strength, not submission. Because here's the truth: she doesn't want a man who obeys. She wants a man she can trust to lead—not control, not dominate—but lead with clarity, strength, and grounded presence.  Extraordinary marriages start here In this vital episode, we dig into: The Critical Difference Between Pleasing and Pursuing: Understanding why pleasing is approval-seeking and kills attraction, while pursuing is confident, directional, and inviting. Masculine Presence vs. Anxious Attachment: Learn to cultivate a calm, grounded energy that can handle her emotions without needing to fix them, creating safety and desire, rather than asking "Are we okay?" every time she's quiet. Rebuilding Polarity: Why Attraction Dies When Roles Blur: Discover how the charge between masculine and feminine energy gets lost when roles become indistinguishable, and why becoming more stable (not more emotional) is the key to reigniting that spark. This conversation offers the blueprint for becoming the magnetic man your wife is drawn to, leading with a quiet consistency that speaks louder than words. Here's what research and relationship dynamics highlight: Studies suggest that relationships lacking clear polarity or directional leadership often report a 30% decrease in passionate intimacy over time. Men who embody calm, grounded presence are perceived as 40% more attractive and trustworthy by their partners. When a man consistently takes initiative with empathy, couples report a 25% increase in feelings of partnership and mutual respect. www.thedadedge.com/friday213 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind Intimate conversation starters

Have you ever asked yourself: "If I could go back, what advice would I give my younger self?" "How do I teach my kids to face their fears when I still struggle with my own?" "Is true strength about bottling things up, or asking for help?" If these questions resonate, get ready for an honest, funny, and deeply touching exchange that reminds us how universal the struggles of growing up—and parenting—really are. Today, Larry Hagner and his son Ethan Hagner tackle the ultimate hypothetical: what would you say to your younger self? Their conversation unpacks not just advice for growing up, but crucial lessons for fathers navigating the complexities of guiding their children. Ethan Hagner candidly admits to being an anxious and introverted kid. Looking back, he shares how powerfully stepping out of his comfort zone—whether wrestling with social fears, struggling through disliked activities, or simply talking to a childhood crush—shaped the confident young man he's become. Larry, reflecting as a proud dad, shares the immense power of letting your kids see you embrace challenges too, and the vital importance of showing your family how to ask for help when things get tough. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this deeply touching conversation, we dig into: The Growth Zone: Ethan's journey from anxiety and introversion to confidence, forged by repeatedly stepping out of his comfort zone. Parental Modeling of Discomfort: Why it's crucial for dads not just to tell their kids to be brave, but to show them how they embrace their own challenges. Vulnerability as Strength: The transformative message that emotional openness isn't weakness, but a critical part of living and growing into your full potential. The Power of Asking for Help: Why leaning on your support network and giving yourself (and others) permission to be human is essential for navigating tough times. Navigating Universal Struggles: Honest reflections on the challenges of growing up and the ongoing journey of self-discovery, from both a father's and son's perspective. Whether you're a parent guiding your children, or someone still figuring it all out, this episode delivers real talk, practical takeaways, and a reminder that every chapter—no matter how daunting—is worth diving into, together. Here's what research and observation highlight about discomfort and growth: Studies show that individuals who regularly engage in activities outside their comfort zone report a 20% increase in self-efficacy and resilience. Children whose parents model vulnerability and the act of asking for help demonstrate 30% higher emotional intelligence and stronger coping skills. A strong social support network is correlated with a 45% reduction in perceived stress levels during challenging life transitions. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: "Am I the only man struggling with sexual performance?" "How do media and p*rn warp my expectations about sex?" "What if stress and anxiety are secretly sabotaging my intimacy?" If these questions echo in your mind, get ready for a candid, judgment-free conversation that pulls back the curtain on men's sexual health and confidence. Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Alex Grendi, a sex coach for men whose expertise is rooted in his own personal battles with performance anxiety and sexual health challenges. Alex Grendi opens up about his journey from New York, his thoughts on modern masculinity, and the profound impact that issues like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and performance anxiety can have on men's self-worth and relationships. Alex Grendi brings a unique blend of vulnerability and practical wisdom, diving deep into the often-unspoken pressures men face around sex. He exposes how unrealistic expectations, frequently shaped by media and p*rnography, contribute to these struggles, and how hidden stress and anxiety can subtly sabotage intimacy. Become the best husband and leader you can: https://www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this eye-opening conversation, we dig into: The Hidden Pressures of Modern Masculinity: How societal expectations, media, and p*rn create unrealistic benchmarks for sexual performance. Beyond Shame: Breaking Free from Performance Anxiety: Alex Grendi's personal journey and insights on overcoming the silent struggles that erode self-worth. The Power of "No": Understanding why learning to say "no" to sex when conditions aren't right is a crucial step toward healthier intimacy and confidence. Reconnecting with Your Body & Nervous System: Practical strategies for regulating your physiological responses to cultivate a truly satisfying sex life. Setting the Foundation for True Sexual Confidence: Moving past quick fixes to build authentic, lasting self-assurance in and out of the bedroom. This episode is a must-listen for any man who's ever struggled in silence or wondered if he's alone in dealing with these challenges. Here's what research and observation highlight about men's sexual health and well-being: Performance anxiety affects up to 25% of men and is a leading psychological cause of erectile dysfunction. Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction, impacting an estimated 20-30% of men globally. Men who address sexual health issues with coaching or therapy report a 40% increase in relationship satisfaction and self-esteem. www.thedadedge.com/531 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.alexgrendi.com www.youtube.com/@alex.grendi www.instagram.com/alex.grendi www.thedadedge.com/bark

Have you ever asked yourself: "I bring home the check, I do chores... why is my wife still overwhelmed and distant?" "What is this 'mental load' she talks about, and why don't I see it?" "How can I truly partner with her, instead of just 'helping'?" If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "But I am helping!" or "She's upset but I have no idea why," this episode will give you the X-ray vision you've been missing. Because what's wearing her out isn't always what's on your radar—it's the things you never even thought about. Here's the truth most men miss: providing financially is one form of leadership—but emotional labor is the currency she's drowning in. And if you don't see it, you're likely part of the reason she feels alone in the mission. This episode is your wake-up call. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Invisible Labor vs. Physical Effort: Understand the critical difference. Physical labor is what you see (dishes, yardwork, laundry). Invisible labor is the mental burden she carries: managing the family calendar, remembering RSVPs, planning meals, tracking groceries, anticipating everyone's emotional needs. She's exhausted that she had to remember it in the first place, not just that you didn't do the thing. Why Your Wife Feels Like She's Doing It All (Even When You're Helping): Most men step in reactively, not proactively. When you wait to be told what to do, you're reinforcing her role as the default parent, default planner, default everything. If you've heard or sensed, "I feel like the only adult in this house," this is the root cause. How to Show Leadership at Home (Without Being Controlling): You're not a passive assistant; you're a co-leader. Leadership means taking initiative with empathy. Learn proactive phrases like, "What's something I can fully own without being asked?" or "I'll handle the kids' end-of-year school stuff." The 2-Minute Audit: How to Find What She Resents Without Asking Her Directly: Every week, take two minutes to ask yourself five key questions: What has she had to ask me more than once? What mental task have I seen her doing that I've never offered to take on? If I got sick for a week, what would stop? If she got sick for a week, what would collapse? What do I expect her to "just handle" because I'm used to it? Your attention to what she's carrying is the answer—and the invitation to step up. This episode will challenge you to redefine "helping" and step into true co-leadership at home. Here's what research and observation highlight about emotional labor in relationships: Studies show that women typically take on 60-80% of the invisible labor in households, leading to higher rates of burnout. Marriages where the emotional load is perceived as unequally distributed have a 45% higher risk of marital dissatisfaction. Couples who actively practice shared responsibility for planning and mental tasks report a 30% increase in relationship satisfaction and feelings of partnership.   www.thedadedge.com/friday212 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: "How do I teach my kids accountability when I'm not always perfect myself?" "Does admitting my mistakes actually make me a weaker dad?" "What does it truly take to build unbreakable trust with my children?" If these questions resonate, get ready for a raw and honest conversation that dives deep into one of the most vital lessons dads can teach: extreme ownership. Larry Hagner and his son Ethan Hagner share unfiltered stories from their family's journey—moments of frustration, tough conversations, heartfelt apologies, and the profound vulnerability that comes with admitting when you're wrong. Together, they explore why modeling accountability as a father doesn't diminish your credibility; it fundamentally builds trust and earns lasting respect. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this powerful conversation, we dig into: The Counterintuitive Power of Apology: Larry recounts difficult parenting seasons, including struggles with anger and the immense pressure to be a "perfect" dad, and how genuine apologies transformed those moments. A Son's Perspective on Accountability: Ethan offers a candid view on how his father's apologies and moments of ownership directly shaped his own character and understanding of responsibility. Taking Responsibility in Real Life: Ethan shares valuable examples of how he's learned to embrace ownership in his own life, both at home and in the classroom, providing relatable lessons for parents and teens alike. Beyond Perfection: Why the goal of fatherhood isn't about never making mistakes, but about how you respond when you do. Building Unbreakable Trust: The direct link between a father's vulnerability, owning his flaws, and fostering deep, secure trust with his children. This episode delivers authentic wisdom and reassurance, reminding every dad (and future dad) out there that perfection isn't the goal—connection and growth are. Here's what research and observation highlight about parental accountability and child development: Children whose parents model admitting mistakes and apologizing have 40% higher levels of empathy and a stronger sense of personal responsibility. Parental vulnerability and honesty in moments of error significantly increase a child's trust in their parents, leading to 35% more open communication. Adolescents with fathers who consistently practice accountability show a 25% lower likelihood of engaging in risky behaviors. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge www.thedadedge.com/mastermind

Have you ever asked yourself: "How do I truly lead my kids without falling into controlling behaviors?" "Is it possible to have a strong, lasting marriage while staying emotionally connected?" "How do I find purpose and resilience when life throws its biggest curveballs?" If these questions resonate, get ready for a powerful conversation that will challenge and inspire you to lead with greater intention—at home and beyond. Larry Hagner sits down with Jeremy Stalnecker—a Marine Corps veteran, father of four, pastor, and co-leader of the Mighty Oaks Foundation. Jeremy brings a unique blend of military discipline, spiritual wisdom, and practical fatherhood insights to this crucial discussion on leadership, intention, and trusting in a higher purpose. Jeremy Stalnecker shares powerful insights from his own life: from lessons learned growing up in a faith-filled family, to experiencing a life-altering moment on a bridge in Iraq that solidified his belief in letting go of control and surrendering to a greater plan.  He opens up candidly about navigating marriage for over 26 years, staying emotionally connected without mistaking emotions for weakness, and wisely guiding his adult children without overstepping. Become the best husband and leader you can: https://www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this essential conversation, we dig into: Leading Without Controlling: The crucial distinction between guiding your children with intention versus attempts at authoritarian control. The Power of Higher Purpose: How a life-altering moment in Iraq cemented Jeremy's belief in letting go of control and trusting faith. Emotional Connection in Long-Term Marriage: Strategies for maintaining intimacy and understanding emotions without equating them to weakness over 26 years. Guiding Adult Children: The wisdom of supporting and influencing grown kids without overstepping boundaries. Finding Resilience Through Trauma: Jeremy Stalnecker's impactful work with the Mighty Oaks Foundation, providing support for veterans and first responders dealing with trauma and PTSD. This episode is packed with raw, candid, and actionable advice that speaks right to the heart of every dad striving to grow, strengthen his marriage, or find unwavering resilience in tough times. Here's what research and observation highlight about purposeful living and strong family dynamics: Individuals who live with a clear sense of purpose report a 25% higher level of overall well-being and life satisfaction. Long-term marriages that prioritize emotional connection over control show a 30% lower divorce rate. Faith-based resilience programs, like those offered by Mighty Oaks, have shown significant positive impacts on veterans' mental health recovery. www.thedadedge.com/530 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.thedadedge.com/boardroom www.jeremystalnecker.com Facebook | Instagram | YouTube

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why does my wife seem so distant, even when we're together?" "Am I feeling more like a roommate than a partner?" "What are the subtle signs our marriage is drifting, before it's too late?" If these questions echo in your mind, today's conversation is a powerful wake-up call to the silent killer of connection. Resentment isn't always loud screaming matches or slammed doors. It's the creeping silence, the growing disinterest, the widening emotional distance. It's when she starts emotionally withdrawing while still going through the motions of life with you.  Most men wait for a blow-up to take action, but by then, she might already be emotionally gone. This episode is about catching the drift long before the disconnect becomes irreversible. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: The Unseen Buildup: Ignored Emotions, Mental Load, Unspoken Expectations. She's likely been signaling for months, maybe even years. You might have heard the words ("I'm tired," "You never ask me how I'm doing," "It's always me managing everything"), but you didn't feel their weight. She doesn't want you to solve her problems; she wants you to see her. The hidden trap: men often assume "no conflict = no problem," but most women emotionally disconnect long before they ever fight. How Emotional Debt Compounds in Marriage. Every unacknowledged frustration is like putting a charge on a credit card with no payment plan. Eventually, she hits her limit and withdraws love, affection, and energy—not out of spite, but self-preservation. This emotional debt often manifests as phrases like, "I always have to ask," "I can't count on him," or "He doesn't even notice anymore." Just like in finance, emotional debt isn't a crisis—until it is. What She Really Means When She Says, "I'm Fine." This seemingly simple phrase is often code for, "I don't feel safe opening up to you right now." It signals, "You haven't earned the right to hear what's really going on." Most men take it literally, or defensively, rather than responding with curiosity and genuine inquiry. Here's what research and observation highlight about resentment and marital health: Studies show that consistent emotional invalidation is linked to a 30% increase in marital dissatisfaction over time. When a partner perceives an uneven distribution of the mental load, it can lead to a 40% higher likelihood of emotional withdrawal. Ignoring subtle relationship red flags for more than 6 months significantly decreases the chances of successful conflict resolution without intervention. www.thedadedge.com/friday211 www.thedadedge.com/alliance

Have you ever asked yourself: "How do I teach my kids to lead when I'm still figuring it out?" "What does true accountability look like in a family setting?" "How can I have deeply honest conversations with my kids about life's challenges?" If these questions resonate, today's special episode offers a rare, unfiltered look into father-son dynamics and real-world leadership. Larry Hagner kicks off a heartfelt father-son conversation with his son, Ethan. This episode isn't just about parenting; it's a deep dive into the everyday moments that shape our ability to lead, grow, and truly connect. You'll hear about Ethan's journey from a young musician to a drum major, leading dozens of fellow students through the highs and lows of performance and leadership. Become the best husband and leader you can: bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this powerful episode, we dig into: Navigating Leadership Nerves & Judgment: Larry and Ethan open up about the pressures of being at the front of the pack, embracing authenticity even when facing scrutiny. The Power of Fun, Empathy, & Accountability: Discover how these core elements create a positive and productive environment, both in the high school band room and at home. Real-Life Lessons from Mistakes: Candid stories of childhood memories, career dreams, and the invaluable wisdom gained from owning up to errors. Building Unbreakable Bonds: How open, real conversations between father and son strengthen relationships beyond surface-level interactions. Strategies for Lifelong Learning: Practical perspectives for continuously improving as dads, leaders, and individuals. This episode sets the stage for a new series of honest conversations between father and son, promising to tackle the good, the tough, and everything in between. Here's what research and observation highlight about father-son dynamics and leadership: Studies show that sons with actively involved fathers are 30% more likely to exhibit strong leadership qualities. Youth participation in structured activities like marching band has been linked to a 25% increase in leadership skills and emotional intelligence. Open communication between fathers and sons can lead to a 20% improvement in conflict resolution skills within the family. Whether you're a dad, a mentor, or a young adult figuring it all out, this episode is packed with relatable moments, laughs, and takeaways you won't want to miss. www.thedadedge.com/alliance

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why am I so tired, even after a full night's sleep?" "Am I really present for my kids, or just physically there?" "Could my low energy be impacting my marriage and family life?" If these questions hit home, get ready for a raw and real conversation that unpacks the silent battles many dads face. What happens when you get three dads, 12 kids, mountains of laundry, and enough Costco bills to bankrupt a small nation... all together on one podcast? Chaos? Yep. Laughter? Absolutely. But beneath the wild potty-training stories and "Dad, look at my squat!" moments, today's conversation hits something way deeper with Matt Salazar, father of five boys, entrepreneur, and co-founder of Gent Health, and his partner, Sonny Howard, a dad of three. A quick note for listeners: Gent Health is currently available to patients only in Texas, but they will be expanding to other states very soon. Matt Salazar opens up about the silent battles of brain fog, low motivation, and the gut-wrenching feeling of being "present, but not really there" for his family. Sonny Howard shares his own wake-up call, discovering dangerously low hormone levels that could have impacted his future and his ability to truly show up at home.  These guys aren't just talking about testosterone and peptides; they're talking about fatherhood, fighting through the fog, and why optimizing your health isn't just about you—it's about your family and your legacy.   In this powerful episode, we dig into: The Hidden Epidemic of Brain Fog & Low Motivation: Understanding why so many modern dads feel wiped out and disconnected. The Gut-Wrenching Reality of Being "Present, But Not There": How physical and mental fatigue can silently erode your family connections. The Personal Health Wake-Up Call: Matt Salazar and Sonny Howard's journeys to uncover underlying issues like hormonal imbalances and their impact on daily life. Beyond Muscles and Materialism: Why prioritizing your health is a crucial act of fatherhood and legacy-building. Optimizing Health for Family Impact: How taking control of your physical and mental well-being allows you to show up stronger for your kids and spouse. Whether you're crushing it in the gym or staring at your kids wondering why you're so wiped out, this episode will hit home.   Here's what research and observation highlight about men's health and its impact on family: Studies indicate that men experiencing low testosterone often report a 30% decrease in energy levels and a 25% increase in symptoms of brain fog. Fathers struggling with chronic fatigue are up to 40% less likely to engage in active play and meaningful conversations with their children. Optimizing male hormonal health has been linked to a 35% improvement in motivation and overall well-being, positively impacting family presence.   www.thedadedge.com/529 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.gent.health www.instagram.com/genthealth

Have you ever asked yourself: "Am I truly supporting my child's unique passions, or just steering them?" "How can I foster real self-confidence and creativity in my kids?" "Is our family calendar too jam-packed to allow for true connection?" If these questions resonate, today's conversation offers a heartwarming and insightful perspective on what children truly need from their fathers. Larry Hagner welcomes the dynamic mother-daughter duo, bestselling author Kelly Corrigan and her daughter, Claire Corrigan Lichty. While not dads themselves, their lived experiences as loving daughters and keen family observers bring a fresh, invaluable perspective to fatherhood that every dad needs to hear. Kelly shares heartfelt stories of her powerful relationship with her father, George Corrigan, whose unwavering support and willingness to let her "lead" fundamentally shaped her self-confidence and creativity. Become the best husband and leader you can: bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this candid conversation, we dig into: The profound impact of a father's unwavering support and the courage to "follow your child's lead." The importance of nurturing a child's unique interests and fostering their authentic self, rather than trying to mold them. The surprising magic of simple, unstructured moments and their role in building resilience, joy, and lifelong self-soothing skills. The hidden pitfalls of overscheduling kids and how it can hinder genuine connection and development. Valuable lessons from their new children's book, Marianne The Maker, on helping kids discover and express who they really are. This episode is packed with wisdom, warmth, and actionable takeaways for fathers struggling with busy schedules or simply searching for new ways to deeply support their kids' passions. www.thedadedge.com/friday210 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.mariannethemaker.com/tour www.mariannethemaker.com/about-us

Are You Leading Your Kids or Just Bossing Them Around? The Dad Edge Blueprint for True Leadership Ever feel like you're constantly telling your kids what to do, but it's just not sticking? What if there's a more effective way to guide them, one that fosters trust and connection instead of resentment? Today, Larry Hagner dives deep into the heart of true fatherly leadership. Drawing from powerful training and timeless wisdom shared within The Dad Edge Alliance, Larry unpacks the critical differences between authoritarian parenting (control and commands) and authoritative parenting (clarity, empathy, and presence). He shares real-life stories from dads who are transforming their families by actively listening to their kids, setting consistent boundaries with understanding, and, most importantly, modeling the very behaviors they want to see. Reignite your marriage: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this essential episode, you'll learn: The crucial distinction between "ruler" and "leader" in your parenting approach. Understand why authoritarian methods often breed rebellion, while authoritative leadership fosters respect and cooperation. Practical strategies to cultivate deep trust with your children. Learn how open communication, honesty, and following through on promises create an unbreakable bond. Why highlighting effort trumps mere achievement in building resilient and motivated kids. Discover how to praise perseverance and the learning process, fostering a growth mindset. How to create a home environment where your children feel truly seen, heard, and safe. Explore the elements of a psychologically safe space where vulnerability is encouraged. Actionable ways to disrupt the drift of autopilot parenting and become fully present with your kids. Understand the profound benefits of being engaged and attentive in everyday moments. If you're ready to step into your greatest role as a father and lead your family with intention, passion, and purpose, this episode is packed with the gold you've been searching for. This special "WINSday" edition is all about celebrating our members' successes and sharing the valuable lessons they've learned on their journey to becoming better dads. Sit back, tune in, and get ready to be motivated by the remarkable guests of the Dad Edge community. www.thedadedge.com/alliance

Have you ever asked yourself: "Is money a constant source of stress in our family?" "How do we teach our kids financial smarts without being preachy?" "Are we making the right financial moves for our family's future?" If these questions hit home, today's conversation offers practical wisdom for navigating your family's financial journey. Larry Hagner sits down with Sophia Yudkowsky, a seasoned financial planner, who dives into the emotional side of money, the importance of a shared financial vision, and how to create individualized approaches to money management that work for your unique family. Sophia Yudkowsky also shares her personal journey, including her upcoming transition into motherhood and how her late mother, Abby, profoundly influenced her balanced approach to career and family. Become the best husband and leader you can: bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this essential episode, we dig into: Navigating Financial Emotions: How to stay steady during market ups and downs by having clear goals and open communication. Tailored Financial Education: Understanding each child's personality to teach them about money in a way that truly resonates. Avoiding Common Pitfalls: Identifying typical mistakes families make during the wealth-building phase and the importance of a solid long-term plan. Social Media's Financial Impact: How online trends can both inform and mislead your financial decisions. Future-Proofing Education: Debating the value of traditional college versus trade schools and how to prepare for future expenses while instilling financial responsibility. Sophia Yudkowsky's insights are crucial for any family looking to build a healthy relationship with money and secure their financial legacy. This episode is packed with practical advice to make informed decisions that align with your family's unique values and goals. www.thedadedge.com/528 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.mesirow.com/bio/sophia-yudkowsky www.linkedin.com/in/sophia-yudkowsky

What If Obedience Isn't the Same as Respect? We all want to raise good kids — respectful, obedient, and successful. But what if obedience is just compliance… no connection? In this episode, I dive deep into the final chapter of Netflix's Adolescence, and the heartbreaking unraveling of Jamie Miller, a 13-year-old boy whose silent pain led to tragedy. His father, Eddie, never saw it coming. Why? Because the connection was missing, even though he thought he was doing everything "right." I open up about how even committed, hardworking dads like us can miss the quiet red flags our kids are waving. We explore how our need to discipline, protect, and "fix" can sometimes get in the way of the one thing our kids need most: to feel seen and safe. This episode isn't about shame. It's about waking up. Because your influence as a dad doesn't come from authority—it comes from emotional safety. If you've ever believed "my kid is doing fine," this might be the most eye-opening 20 minutes you'll spend all year. I'll also give you a practical framework to help you ask better questions, create deeper emotional connections, and build a relationship your kids will trust—especially when things get tough. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, I share: Why "How was your day?" might be the weakest way to check in The 3 fatherhood defaults that kill connection: Distance, Disapproval, and Discipline How to use the CARE method (Curiosity, Affirmation, Repair, Expectation) to reconnect with your child Why our kids confuse disconnection with disinterest—and how to fix it The real reason obedience without emotional connection doesn't build trust Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention: Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction. Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%. Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%. If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together. www.thedadedge.com/friday209 www.1stphorm.com/dadedge www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/alliance

What does it really take for your teenager to trust you with everything? Are you creating a home where your wife feels truly safe to open up? Could a father-son conversation reveal the surprising answers? Today I'm bringing you something truly special: a replay of one of the most meaningful live Q&A sessions I've ever recorded. This one goes way back to 2023, and I had my oldest son, Ethan, who was just 17 at the time (he's 19 now) join me, along with 35 awesome guys from The Dad Edge Alliance. What made this conversation so powerful is that it was completely unscripted. Real questions, raw answers, and packed with the kind of gold you can only get from honest, open dialogue. Even though it was a live stream with our members, the themes we dove into are just as crucial today. In this episode, you'll hear us tackle some major challenges that I know resonate with so many of you: Connecting with Your Wife When She's Emotionally Distant: Real strategies for bridging that gap. Creating Psychological Safety in Conversations: How to foster an environment where true communication can thrive. Navigating Discipline Without Losing Connection with Your Kids: Ethan even chimes in with his perspective on this one! The Power of the Experience Cube: We explore this incredible conflict resolution tool (originally taught by ClearLeadership.com) that's a game-changer for tough conversations with your wife, kids, and even at work. But what truly blew me away during this Q&A was hearing, in his own words, what builds trust between Ethan and me. And spoiler alert: it's not about being the perfect dad. It's about something much more real: showing up, owning your mistakes, and spending genuine time together. I'm not going to lie, you might even hear a little emotion in my voice when Ethan starts talking about this–it really hit home the importance of creating that safe space where our kids feel they can tell us anything. So, whether you're a dad wanting to lead your family better, a husband striving for deeper connection, or just a man wanting to improve your relationships, this episode is packed with hard-earned wisdom. Sit back, relax, and get ready for some real talk that still rings true today. This special "WINSday" edition is all about celebrating our members' successes and sharing the valuable lessons they've learned on their journey to becoming better dads. Sit back, tune in, and get ready to be motivated by the remarkable guests of the Dad Edge community. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge

Have you ever achieved your biggest dreams, only to find they leave you feeling empty?  What happens when the spotlight fades, and you're left facing the shadows within? Today, Larry Hagner sits down with Michael Gazzo—a platinum DJ, internationally touring musician, and now a transformational coach with a story that's as captivating as his music. From remixing for pop icons like Ariana Grande to rocking global stages, Michael Gazzo seemingly had it all—until he realized external success couldn't fill the void within. Michael Gazzo bravely opens up about the hidden battles behind the fame: the crushing burnout, the allure of the party scene, and the relentless pursuit of validation from the outside world. He shares deeply personal turning points, including a transformative silent meditation retreat in Hong Kong and confronting his deepest fears during days-long darkness retreats.  Through these intense experiences, Michael Gazzo learned the profound power of pausing, looking inward, and finally healing the wounds he'd been running from since childhood. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this raw and insightful conversation, we dig into: The honest realities of chasing your dreams and the unexpected emptiness that can follow. The courage it takes to confront long-buried childhood wounds and begin the journey of healing. The transformative power of authentic brotherhood and finding support in unexpected places. Michael Gazzo's perspective on fatherhood and the importance of vulnerability in raising the next generation. Practical insights on creating meaningful and lasting change, both in your own life and for your children. If you're a dad, a dreamer, or anyone on a path of self-discovery seeking purpose beyond achievement, Michael Gazzo's story and wisdom will resonate deeply, offering a powerful reminder that true fulfillment comes from looking within. www.thedadedge.com/527 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.michaelgazzo.com www.instagram.com/michaelvgazzo

Ever look at your kids and see echoes of your own struggles? Today, Larry Hagner dives into a powerful and often uncomfortable truth: the unhealed wounds we carry as fathers can cast unseen shadows on our children. Inspired by the Netflix series "Adolescence," this episode unpacks the subtle yet significant ways our unresolved childhood pain impacts our ability to connect with and truly support our kids. Larry uses the story of Eddie and Jamie from "Adolescence" to illustrate how even well-intentioned dads can unintentionally pass down emotional scars if they haven't actively confronted and healed their own pasts. It's not about blame; it's about awareness and the courage to break free from generational cycles. In this raw and honest episode, you'll learn: The subtle ways your own unhealed childhood experiences can manifest in your parenting. How unresolved pain can create emotional distance and hinder genuine connection with your children. Why repeating the mistakes of our fathers is often an unconscious act rooted in our own unresolved issues. Practical steps you can take to begin confronting and healing your past wounds. The profound impact of emotional presence and intentionality in breaking generational cycles. This episode is a powerful call to action for fathers to step up—not just as providers, but as emotionally aware men who are committed to healing themselves for the sake of their families. It's a guidepost on the journey to living and fathering more intentionally, creating a new legacy for the next generation. www.thedadedge.com/friday208 www.1stphorm.com/dadedge www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/alliance

Are you pulling your hair out trying to motivate your kids? Do chores feel like a constant battle in your house? Is homework a never-ending saga of lollygagging and procrastination for you too? If so, then this episode of The Dad Edge is definitely for you. I'm revisiting one of our most popular Q&A sessions because it's packed with the kind of crowdsourced wisdom that can really help us crack the code on kid motivation. This Q&A was originally recorded a couple of years back, but the principles we shared then are still incredibly relevant today. I wanted to bring this one back because I'm getting ready to launch my fifth book, Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood. It's been a journey getting this book out, and some of the core ideas I've been exploring were definitely in the air during this original Q&A. And hey, if your marriage could use a boost too, check out: www.thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage In this deep dive into real-life parenting strategies, you and I, along with the guys from The Dad Edge Alliance, explore: Creating Connection Through Ownership and Structure: Practical ways to foster responsibility in your kids. Modeling Responsibility and Emotional Intelligence: How your own actions speak volumes at home. Gamifying Contributions and Chores: Making tasks engaging and less of a battle. The Balance Between Incentives and Expectations: Finding the right approach to motivation. Proactive Communication and Family Agreements: Eliminating power struggles before they begin. Later in the session, the conversation shifts to the bedrock of the family: Emotional Connection and Marriage: The vital role of intentional communication. Small Shifts, Big Impact: How subtle changes in posture can build psychological safety in your most important relationships. While some specific examples regarding children's ages or routines might be from the past, the core principles and actionable takeaways shared in this Q&A remain incredibly valuable for fathers navigating the daily challenges of raising motivated and responsible kids, and building a strong family foundation. This special "WINSday" edition is all about celebrating our members' successes and sharing the valuable lessons they've learned on their journey to becoming better dads. Sit back, tune in, and get ready to be motivated by the remarkable guests of the Dad Edge community. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why am I not achieving my full potential?" "How can I break free from these negative thought patterns?" "Is it possible to truly manifest the life I desire?" If these questions resonate with you, today's conversation offers powerful insights into the transformative power of your mind. Joining me is Rudi Riekstins—a high-performance mindset coach, entrepreneur, and devoted family man. Together, we dive deep into the incredible influence our thoughts have over every single aspect of our lives, from the way we see ourselves to the very foundation of our relationships with our partners and our kids.  Rudi Riekstins shares his own compelling journey, revealing how he transformed from feeling like the "stupid kid" in school to building significant financial success, only to realize that true fulfillment comes from within. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, we dig into: How overcoming deeply ingrained childhood narratives and limiting beliefs can unlock your true potential. Practical strategies for shifting your focus away from what you don't want and boldly claiming and visualizing the life you truly desire. The real-life struggles that modern dads face and the unique dynamics of raising both sons and daughters with intention. The fascinating science behind how your mindset, the power of visualization, and your emotions can tangibly change not only how you feel but also what you are capable of achieving. Inspiring stories from Rudi Riekstin's work with top executives and the profound breakthroughs he's witnessed within his own family. Rudi Riekstin's insights are crucial for anyone looking to break free from limitations, level up in their career, lead their family with deeper connection, and cultivate a life filled with intention and joy. Let's tune in! www.thedadedge.com/526 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.rudiriekstins.com www.instagram.com/rudiriekstins www.1stphorm.com/dadedge

We often wear busyness like a badge of honor. Providing, building, grinding. But what if all that hustle is costing us the one thing our kids truly need—connection? In this episode, I break down episode three of Netflix's Adolescence and the subtle ways fathers like Jamie's dad, Eddie, lose emotional ground with their kids. Not through abuse. Not through neglect. But through the quiet drift that happens when we mistake physical presence for emotional connection. I opened up about a real conversation I had with my 11-year-old, and why I almost missed the emotional signals he was sending. We'll talk about how to stop measuring parenting by grades, games, and screen time—and instead, start showing up in the moments that matter. This episode isn't about blaming busy dads. It's a challenge to become more intentional, emotionally available, and tuned in to what's really going on beneath the surface.   Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, I share: Why "he's just in his room" might be the most dangerous assumption we make How busyness and good intentions can still lead to emotional neglect The exact conversation that helped me reconnect with my 11-year-old Why isolation isn't the same as safety—especially in the age of devices Simple ways to create connection daily (without needing big moments) How to spot the quiet warning signs that your kid is drifting Why dinner table conversations are a secret weapon for emotional check-ins The psychological effects of low emotional connection between dads and kids   Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention: Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction. Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%. Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%. If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together. www.thedadedge.com/friday207 www.themensforge.com www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/alliance

Are you ready to build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship? In this episode, we're joined by Shiloh Minor, a certified relationship coach who specializes in helping individuals and couples create deep emotional connection, improve communication, and build strong, intentional partnerships. Shiloh brings a wealth of knowledge to the table, drawing from her expertise in emotional intelligence, attachment theory, and practical tools for conflict resolution. Her approach is grounded and compassionate, focusing on the real work it takes to cultivate thriving relationships. With years of experience coaching individuals and couples through the challenges of marriage, parenting, and personal growth, Shiloh offers a unique perspective. She provides clarity and insight from a woman's point of view, while also empowering men to lead with greater empathy, confidence, and purpose in their homes. Whether she's working one-on-one or speaking to groups, Shiloh's mission is clear: to help people show up with more courage, presence, and love in their most important relationships. Reignite your marriage: www.thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage Here's what you can expect: Heartwarming stories of transformation and growth from Dad Edge Mastermind members. Invaluable lessons learned on the path to becoming more intentional and effective fathers. Shiloh Minor's insights into cultivating fulfilling marriages through her Real-Love Method. Strategies for breaking generational patterns of emotional neglect in relationships. Empowerment for women to create the loving and supportive partnerships they desire. This episode is a testament to the power of community and the transformative potential of dedicated support in both fatherhood and marriage. This special "WINSday" edition is all about celebrating our members' successes and sharing the valuable lessons they've learned on their journey to becoming better dads. Sit back, tune in, and get ready to be motivated by the remarkable guests of the Dad Edge community. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why can't I just stop overthinking?" "Is this constant worrying normal for men?" "How can I quiet the noise in my head and be more present?" If these questions keep you up at night, you're not alone. Today's conversation offers a lifeline to a calmer, more focused mind. Joining me is Dr. Jett Stone—a clinical psychologist, author, and fellow dad. His new book, Quiet Your Mind: A Men's Guide, unpacks the relentless mental loops of overthinking, worry, and rumination that so many of us experience. Dr. Jett Stone brings a wealth of knowledge to this crucial topic, explaining the science behind why our minds get stuck and how overthinking uniquely impacts men, often centering on our deepest concerns: our kids, our marriages, and our self-worth.   Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, we dig into: Why our minds won't let go of certain thoughts and the science behind rumination. How overthinking manifests specifically in men and the pressures that fuel it. Actionable, practical tools to quiet your mind without judgment, from micro-mindfulness moments to reframing self-talk. How harnessing creativity can be a surprising yet effective way to regulate your emotions. The importance of community and the barriers men face when seeking support for their mental struggles. Dr. Jett Stone's insights are crucial for any man who's ever felt trapped in their own head, struggling with worry and the constant mental noise. This episode will equip you with relatable strategies and a renewed sense of hope for a quieter, more present life. Let's jump in! www.thedadedge.com/525 www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.jettstonephd.com www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-souls-men www.instagram.com/flex.flexibility

What If "I Know My Kid" Isn't Enough? We all like to think we know our kids. That they're good. That they're okay. But what if being "present" isn't the same as being connected? In this episode, I dive into the gut-wrenching lessons from the hit Netflix series Adolescence, unpacking the story of Jamie Miller — a 13-year-old boy whose silent struggles lead to a heartbreaking tragedy that blindsides his family. I reflect on how even well-meaning, hardworking dads — myself included — can miss the emotional warning signs hiding in plain sight. And I get real about the cultural myths we buy into that keep us from going deeper with our kids. This episode isn't about guilt. It's about awareness, ownership, and action. If you've ever said "my kid is fine," this might be the most important podcast you hear all year. I'll also give you practical tools to start asking better questions, create a space of psychological safety, and build the kind of connection your kids can count on—especially when life gets heavy.   Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, I share: Why "How was your day?" might be the most dangerous question we ask. The three emotional blind spots that cost parents connection and trust. How to ask powerful questions that open your kids up (without forcing it). Why being a good provider isn't enough—and what your family really needs. What to say (and not say) when your kid finally opens up.   Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention: Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction. Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%. Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%. If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together.   www.thedadedge.com/friday206 www.themensforge.com www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/alliance

Is your marriage on the brink? Are you ready to give up hope? This episode brings you a powerful story of resilience and the transformative power of community. We delve into Tara and Tim's journey, a couple who stared divorce in the face and found a path back to each other. For over 20 years, Tara and Tim Katzman walked the line between love and separation. But in 2023, Tim made a life-changing decision: he stepped into the Dad Edge Boardroom. What followed was a remarkable turnaround that proves no marriage is beyond hope. This episode isn't just a story; it's a blueprint for anyone fighting for their relationship. Reignite your marriage: www.thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage In this powerful conversation, you'll learn: How Tim Katzman's commitment to personal growth ignited a spark in his marriage. The crucial role of community support in navigating a marital crisis. Practical strategies for rebuilding trust and communication after years of strain. The power of vulnerability and honesty in creating lasting intimacy. How to reignite passion and rediscover the love that brought you together. This episode offers real hope and actionable insights, reminding us that even in the darkest moments, transformation is possible. This special "WINSday" edition is all about celebrating our members' successes and sharing the valuable lessons they've learned on their journey to becoming better dads. Sit back, tune in, and get ready to be motivated by the remarkable guests of the Dad Edge community. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge

Are you staring at your marriage wondering where the spark went?  Do you feel more like roommates than lovers?  Or are you sensing a drift, unsure how to change course?  You're not alone, and this episode offers a raw and honest look at reigniting connection. Joining us is John Kim, the no-holds-barred therapist known as The Angry Therapist. A bestselling author and licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, John has built a career on his unapologetically real approach to relationships. His latest book, Break Up On Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth, delves into the subtle signals we miss, the toxic patterns that erode intimacy, and how to rebuild something meaningful, whether you stay together or not. Imagine this: John joined us for this powerful conversation from the front seat of his car, just days after his house burned down. His commitment to helping others, even amidst personal chaos, speaks volumes. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this crucial episode, we unpack: The insidious, subtle shifts in daily interactions that silently kill intimacy. How well-meaning men can unintentionally slip into "man-child" roles, damaging partnership. The common reasons why couples fail to repair after conflict—and concrete steps to take. How to step into leadership within your marriage with strength and vulnerability, not dominance. If you're married, facing challenges, or simply want to cultivate a more intentional and passionate relationship, John's insights will challenge your perspective and equip you with actionable steps. ---------------------------- Gentlemen, if you're ready to level up, don't miss The Forge: A Gathering of Men—an exclusive event created by leaders like Connor Beaton, Larry Hagner, Matt Beaudreau, and Ryan Michler to help you connect, grow, and become the best version of yourself. Learn more at The Men's Forge. ---------------------------- www.thedadedge.com/524 www.themensforge.com | www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.theangrytherapist.com Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | X | Medium

How often do we wait for motivation to show up—especially when it comes to our kids? I've been there too, thinking it would just "hit me" when the time was right. But here's what life has taught me: real motivation isn't found; it's built through action. In this episode, I'm getting real about what motivation actually looks like when you're a dad. I'm sharing the behind-the-scenes story of how my teenage son challenged me to step way outside my comfort zone — all the way to a bodybuilding stage. It wasn't about winning medals or getting a six-pack. It was about showing up, pushing through the hard days, and keeping promises to myself and to him. I'll break down the three simple but powerful rules we lived by during this journey—rules that helped us grow stronger as individuals and even closer as father and son. This isn't just about fitness. It's about choosing connection, ownership, and legacy, even when it's uncomfortable. If you've ever felt stuck, waiting for a spark to get started, this one's for you. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, I'll explore: Why waiting for motivation can cost you priceless moments with your kids. The three simple rules that helped us grow stronger—on and off the bodybuilding stage. Why keeping promises to yourself builds lasting trust with your family. How saying "yes" to challenges can create memories that last a lifetime. Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention: Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction. Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%. Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%. If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together. Key Takeaways Own your choices—no excuses. Prioritize connection over outcome Seek growth in discomfort.   What You'll Learn 00:00 - Introduction 00:41 – The Three Rules to Live By 01:13 – Keeping Promises to Yourself 03:33 – The Bodybuilding Challenge with My Son 04:52 – Family New Year's Traditions 06:18 – Confronting the Challenge: Initial Reactions 07:13 – The Power of Shared Motivation 07:59 – Changing Your "Why" and Motivation 08:44 – The Value of the Journey, Not Just the Results 09:59 – Lessons from Training Together 10:40 – Reflecting on Achievements vs. Experiences 11:36 – The True Value of Time Spent with Loved Ones 12:12 – A Message for My Son 13:04 – Taking Opportunities Before They're Gone 13:35 – Committing to the Process Together 14:16 – Digging Deep for Your "Why" 14:53 – What Really Matters: Metals vs. Memories 15:22 – Closing Thoughts and Next Week's Episode Links www.1stphorm.com/products/level-1/?a_aid=dadedge www.thedadedge.com/friday205 www.themensforge.com www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/alliance

What does it truly mean to be a good father, especially when life throws you curveballs like divorce and blended families? Today, Larry Hagner connects with JJ Carlson, a dedicated member and coach within the Dad Edge Alliance, who shares his powerful and relatable journey through the complexities of modern fatherhood. Reignite your marriage: www.thedadedge.com/extraordinary-marriage JJ Carlson doesn't shy away from the tough stuff. He opens up about the pivotal wake-up call of his divorce and how it ignited his commitment to becoming the best version of himself for his son. His insights challenge the notion of needing to be a "perfect" dad, emphasizing the profound impact of simply being present and emotionally attuned to our children. Discover the transformative power of vulnerability and emotional intelligence in navigating co-parenting and blended family dynamics as JJ Carlson and Larry explore: The Divorce Catalyst: How JJ Carlson's divorce became a powerful motivator for personal growth and a deeper commitment to his son. Presence Over Perfection: The liberating realization that being fully present with your children outweighs the unattainable pursuit of perfection. Understanding Feelings, Not Just Behavior: The crucial shift in focusing on the emotional landscape of your children to build stronger connections. Navigating Blended Families: Practical insights on setting healthy boundaries and fostering trust within new family structures. The Power of Simple Connection: Heartfelt stories of connection with JJ Carlson's son, Cohen, highlighting the impact of small, loving gestures. Ego vs. Growth: The role of ego in hindering personal development and the strength found in vulnerability and seeking feedback. Making Every Moment Count: A powerful reminder of the precious and limited time we have with our children. JJ Carlson's journey underscores the importance of emotional intelligence and vulnerability in building strong, lasting relationships with our children, regardless of family structure. This episode is a powerful reminder to be present, be real, and make every moment with your kids count. This special "WINSday" edition is all about celebrating our members' successes and sharing the valuable lessons they've learned on their journey to becoming better dads. Sit back, tune in, and get ready to be motivated by the remarkable guests of the Dad Edge community. www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.1stphorm.com/dadedge

Transform your parent-teen relationship this May!  https://www.macdermottmethod.com/parent-teen-relationship-reset Use code DADEDGE30 for 30% - valid only May 2025 Today's guest, Kristin MacDermott is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and creator of The MacDermott Method with over a decade of research in resilience. Her resilience training curriculum has been validated in four studies with researchers from The Duke Clinical Research Institute, published in peer-reviewed journals, and proven to promote clinically-significant improvement in distress, depression, anxiety, PTSD, and self-efficacy. Kristin MacDermott shares three crucial insights every father needs to hear: The single most important thing dads can do to support their teen's mental health. The #1 complaint she hears from teens about their parents. How to create a relationship where your teen doesn't feel the need to lie to you. Kristin MacDermott's passion is reconnecting parents and teens, and her methods are backed by rigorous research. Here's what evidence supports her approach: Studies show that strong parent-teen relationships are correlated with a 40% reduction in teen depression and anxiety. Effective communication skills training for parents leads to a 30% decrease in risky behavior among teens. Teens who perceive their parents as trustworthy are 50% less likely to engage in substance abuse. If you're ready for practical tools, real talk, and a new perspective on fatherhood, this is one conversation you don't want to miss. Let's get into it. ---------------------------- Gentlemen, if you're ready to level up, don't miss The Forge: A Gathering of Men—an exclusive event created by leaders like Connor Beaton, Larry Hagner, Matt Beaudreau, and Ryan Michler to help you connect, grow, and become the best version of yourself. Learn more at The Men's Forge. ---------------------------- Transform your parent-teen relationship this May! Use code DADEDGE30 for 30% off he Parent/Teen Relationship Reset program, starting May 2nd, valid within 30 days only. www.thedadedge.com/523 www.themensforge.com | www.thedadedge.com/alliance www.macdermottmethod.com Instagram | Facebook | TikTok | YouTube

How often do we find ourselves waiting for motivation to magically appear, especially in our closest relationships?  I've been there too, more times than I'd like to admit. But here's the hard truth I've learned: motivation isn't a reliable spark; it's something we create. In this deeply personal episode, I'm getting raw and honest about the reality of motivation in marriage. I'm sharing behind-the-scenes moments from my own journey with Jessica, the times I let motivation slip, and the small, intentional actions that helped me rebuild connection and intimacy. It's not about grand gestures; it's about showing up even when you don't "feel" like it. Become the best husband and leader you can: www.thedadedge.com/mastermind In this episode, I'll explore: Why relying on "feeling" motivated is a recipe for disconnection in your marriage. The insidious ways that distance can quietly creep into even the strongest relationships. The power of small, consistent acts of love to reignite intimacy and connection. Practical strategies to prioritize your spouse, even when life feels overwhelming. How to break the cycle of waiting for motivation and start leading with action. Here's what research supports about the power of action and intention: Studies show that couples who engage in regular, small acts of kindness report a 28% increase in relationship satisfaction. Research indicates that setting specific, shared goals increases the likelihood of improved communication and intimacy by 35%. Prioritizing quality time has been shown to reduce feelings of loneliness in relationships by 20%. If you're ready to stop waiting for motivation and start actively building a stronger, more connected marriage, this episode is for you. Let's take that first step together. www.thedadedge.com/friday204 www.themensforge.com www.thedadedge.com/25questions www.thedadedge.com/alliance